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- Watch for some tips on how to handle the terrible twos from a mom of 5! www.cloudmom.com
Hi everybody. Hope your day is going great! Answering a question from a TH-cam viewer today Crystal Overbaugh: "How do you handle the terrible twos?" Crystal, as I explain in today's video, my joke about 2 year old tantrums is that they become 3 year old tantrums, and then 4 year old tantrums, and so on, right up until college. A lot to look forward to right? Ha ha!
Seriously, this is a classic phrase that describes when a toddler starts having tantrums and fits. And when this first happened to me, it was so shocking. All of a sudden, my easy going child would be laying down on the floor and kicking and screaming and I was like "What are you doing? Acting? Is this SNL?"
As I explain in today's video, the terrible twos is a term that was coined to describe toddler tantrums back in the 1950's. This was likely due to so many families at the time trying to live up to a picture perfect image, and when children stopped behaving like compliant babies, moms did not know what to do!
What experts say is really happening is that the child has gotten more mobile and is testing limits, so we parents have to say "NO" a lot. Meanwhile, children lack the language to articulate their feelings, which is frustrating for them so they tend to scream and have fits and tantrums. The question for us is what can we do?
In today's video, I describe what I've learned and what's worked for me. To start, praise the good behavior. Second, wait out the fits and don't react. For more details and tips, watch. Oh, and please weigh in. How do you handle it when your kid starts to act like a crazy person?
Thanks for watching!
xo Melissa
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It stresses me out that some people don’t understand when your outside and your kid has a tantrums are soo fast to judge
I agree i hate those ppl that stare at u cause ur kids having a tantrum and talk about u like they dont understand mind ur own bussnies some ppl are so rude and judgy
Right !!!!
It takes up so much energy! My will soon turn 2 and in the last week he got angry various times every day. I have earned so many bad looks 😔 These looks make these times even more difficult and lonely because being a mom to an angry child is difficult enough without the judging looks
Those people don't have kids, or have Nanny's. Have 4 nieces/nephews I always felt bad for parents during a public tantrum
You are SO RIGHT! I use to be one of those judge mental people! Looking back I wish I could have slapped myself. My first son never had tantrums. But lord gave me my 2nd son who’s 2 ½ today and he’s full of tantrums all the time. So now I FULLY and completely understand all those mothers and kids who were screaming and everything I ever judged. I can not believe it. For me, I just had no idea the meaning of tantrum. My first son never had them. He listened all the time and it was great. My 2nd. There’s no talking there’s no reasoning there’s nothing. Guess it’s payback. Lol god bless all the mothers out there doing their best.
My child is in her terrible twos and it’s driving me nuts 😭
i think im going to fall apart. im a tough Cookie but i cried in the car today because I'm so tired of the screaming.
+Allyssa Knowles I feel you!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Same here.....
+Allyssa Knowles Hang in there, dear! We've all been there!! xxx
im in your situation too dear its not easy goodluck dear i 'm hoping it wouldn't last forever
just pretend they are your drunk friends acting out lol
Allyssa sushi I'm struggling too. The screaming is aggravating and never ending.
It's ruining my life! I have never been under so much stress and depression in my whole life.
thatjustmakesfarts I totally feel your pain.. my oldest 2 did not have terrible two ..i am usually very strong but it's depressing to my soul.. I think about adoption lol
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I feel the same way. I can't go on anymore.
Same here❤ I can't do it anymore
same here. I feel like my brain is going to explode and i'm losing my mind. i haven't cried more in my life since having my son (turned 2 in october) my daughter was 12 when he was born and she is a quiet, introvert like myself. Everything about my son is loud. He breaks things (sounds childish, i know) but things i've had for years, that he finds or gets to end up broke... even a rock (stupid i know!) but he broke a friggin rock! so im here on youtube trying to find some helpful videos/advise. I'm tired of yelling at my little guy.
I witnessed a small miracle today. After a horrible couple of days when my 2 year old didn't have a single meal at the table, just accepting milk and little snacks while he was in his stroller, followed by a morning full of tantrums from the moment he insisted on getting up at 5.30, he woke up from his nap today all cuddly and happy .... and the moment I wanted to dress him he started throwing fits again. I was so exhausted I couldn't even feel angry anymore. So I was just like, listen, I can't deal with this anymore. Will you come over here and put on your pants? No? Then your bike is gone until tomorrow. How about now? No? Now your firetruck is gone. And now? No? Then your scooter is gone too. I stayed really calm because I was so tired. After about 15 minutes he came over to me and asked to get dressed. 10 minutes later he sat down at the table quietly for a meal. And he didn't even seem defeated or sad, it felt more like he was relieved. He asked about his firetruck and his bike when we came back from the playground and accepted that he'll only get them back the next day. He sat down for dinner and tried to explain to me in his few words that he didn't like how the pasta tasted so I offered him a banana instead. He asked for his yoghurt and when I reminded him he'd thrown it against the wall in the morning he explained to me that he had been sad. What a difference... it's like we went from open war to a constructive dialogue! I hope the miracle continues :-)
Tucker,Fearn and Bentley’s Angel Forever obviously you don’t have kids 🙄 so how about you take that bs way over there 👉🏽 and sit down
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I’m really happy to hear that. I’m in the middle of the battle. I’ll try that
The next time your child act like a terrible twos!! Just pretend they are your drunk friends throwing a tantrum.
I’m a nanny for 11 years and I use the same method of letting the child calm down on their own and than have a conversation after. Works really well!
Not too many guys here huh ? Weird okay well I’m a dad and I have a two year old, he really throws some bad tantrums and never stays still when I’m changing him , kids are awsome and we need more help videos so parents can not become insane
I cried in the bathroom today after my 2 year old screamed for an hour in protest. Nap time was not happening. I'm also 6 months pregnant emotional, still getting massive headaches, exhausted and nauseous. 😩
I feel you and my son not two just yet and he stays up from 10 pm to 6 am and I am 8 months pregnant it kills me and I find my self crying more
Girl I cry all the time too... my toddler turned two in August and I swear all Hell broke loose! I can't wait until he's older..
Mine turned 2 year old last July and he is very stubborn. He dares telling me no mami no and he goes still and does what he wants to do, but what scares me most is the running and fleeing in the public areas. I am just scared that someone might go away with him one day. I don't know how to stop that
I just have to say thank you for this . My son is a week away from turning 2 and I’ve just felt like I’m doing everything wrong . I’m like I must be doing everything wrong, I’m like what the heck is wrong with my child I didn’t raise you like this . I’m glad I’m not alone 😊
I'm SO glad that you made this video!! I have a little 2 year old sister and this video was useful because I am always babysitting her and she tends to have tantrums....
I'm a first time parent and I'm going through this and this is the hardest and toughest moment of my life. I feel like my two year old son doesn't love me. Being a parent in the hardest thing. I completely agree with you. When my son throws a fit in public I feel like everyone is judging me and my wife and thinking what terrible parents we are. People just stare at us and I just want the earth to open up and swallow me.
Has it gotten any better ?
What you need to do, is to own up your child's tantrum and focus on your reaction being calm then switch to gently walking with your child outside if possible and wait out on your child's tantrum. Let the child now why you walked out in a calm manner and speak to your son to let him know that is not ok to act like that. Go back in the mall and act like nothing happened that it won't reinforce that type of behavior on your son. Hope it helps
Please tell me it got better? I am experiencing this exact thing and feeling the exact same way. I even said that I wanted to jump into the ocean and let it swallow me. Just too much!
I’m in the same boat, this is our first child and she’s just so much at once. I look after her whilst I work from home, my wife works too. I feel like I’ve developed eyes in the back of my head. Im always dreading her tantrums, it gives me anxiety knowing any minute now she’s going to explode. I let her scream it out, but it’s just so hard to deal with.
@@sarahbhattan-pomeroy8762 yes and no, we had our son tested and he was diagnosed with ADHD and while we understand the reason for the fits and tantrums now we are struggling with finding a non stimulant non addicting medicine that will help him function and live as close to a normal life as possible. So it’s a lot of trial and error.
I’m so Glad to have come across this video.. These tips will definitely help. Yes I agree disciplining the child immediately during the tantrums has never helped me either. It’s really hard to wait it out sometimes though..
Im in that stage now thank you for making me feel better im not the only one lol. I just hope people wouldn’t judge that much. Literary they make you feel like a terrible parent and that your child is the worst one just makes me wanna cry and give up at times.
I use to be one of those people who would judge. And now that I have my nephew in my life I completely understand and have compassion for every parent out there.
Great video. Thanks for the advise. My son is turning 2 in a week and he has started throwing tantrums every day for the past couple of weeks. So embarrassing and it makes me so anxious because you feel like everyone is judging you.... But I felt much better knowing that I'm not the only one :)
I feel the exact same way my son going to be 2 year old soon and he been throwing tantrums and when im in public i feel like everyone looking and judging but i usually just dont pay attention to other ppl and ignore it and remove my child to somewhere private and have them calm down but sometimes i wanna cry to
This video is very helpful. Thanks for uploading!
Thanks for watching!
Hey CloudMom, great video and great advice. As mother ourselves, sometimes waiting out the tantrum is difficult because time may be a factor, for us we found that there are times where we need to take control of the situation by physically removing the child from the situation. For example, in the store and you may not have time to wait for it to run its course, so you remove the child from the situation. Then this will send the message to the child that tantrum is not going to get them what they want. So totally agree on what you say about not giving in!
Thank you for this
loved this video. I'm close to crying every time he has a tantrum now he is just never sweet! he can be so picky and its so frustrating for both of us
my little girl turned 3 and is stubborn, her mom and grandpa give and act like I am evil.
I ignore her into she levels out, she has to sit in a shopping cart or highchair so she does not run off. that is like tackling an octopus with family over shoulder saying let her walk, but they get mad running after her.
Spank her what are you doing
Benjamin Powers hahaha *tear
Spanking does not work with mine and he us same case as your daughter. Don't know what to do!!!😢
Rubayna82 time outs
@@acvz1145 nah man you don't gotta hit your toddler for everything
omg! I think my 21 month7 old is starting her terrible twos now. In fact I just had a meltdown earlier. Good to know that I am not the only one, that I am still "normal"
I am here because my son just threw the most massive tantrum I've ever seen ANY child throw while we were shopping for furniture. It lasted 20 minutes while the retail guy was trying to help. He just stood next to me staring. I held him while he fought me because he wanted to run off and play. I just left and didn't buy anything because he would not calm down.. I was so helpless and cried the whole way home. I feel so under prepared and lost, like I'm doing something wrong... idk what to do.
Same 😩😩😩
Perfect advice!
hello Melissa loved your vid, my mother has told me as for my newphew makes so many tantrums at times giving them a disciplinarian tone with your voice helps well as telling them like "please calm down because what you being young should not be acting like that" it usually works for me after like 5-7 minutes into the tantrum. hopefully I can hear from you soon, because I also have a request for kids catching on other kids bad behaviors and habits. thank you.
I have a bag of distractions for anytime we are out shopping but I have to rush in & out of stores in the AM because if it's near nap time it's so embarrassing to be in public, items within his reach will start flying in every direction.
I have 1year 8 months twins and their tantrums are truly driving me crazy
I totally agree with everything you said.
I try to defer the situation into a positive experience. Mine's 2.5 and starting to throw fits here and there.
Appears out of nowhere and disappear as fast as it comes. I try to guide the energy into something else to burn it out and get her out of it. Works a lot but not always.
I like the positive feedback tip. Don't try to exert authority... etc. Watch the video for more details.
#toddler
Try not to give in!
Thank you I’m so into this
I have no children, and I am not fond of them, but every time a kid is tantruming in line, behind me, I look at them and say, "I feel your pain, kid," then I look at the mother as though she is a victim. Everyone loses, ya know?
Very good info
My 3-year-old daughter has always had and still has tantrum episodes every single day. It’s humiliating. Bedtime is so stressful EVERY DAY! And this is not the only time she is out of control. I have tried it all; routine, stories, positive reinforcement, games, etc., still, nothing works. We can't figure it out...we would appreciate your input... I'm all ears!!! Thanks!!!
Thank you so much!
Thank you for this video. I am a bit overwhelmed by my son's fits. He screams and cries when I tell him no then he throws things. I usually tell him to go to time out of course he doesn't listen to me. It's weird because when it's just me and him, he's an angel I have no problems from him. When his brother, my 4 year old is around he's behaves like a totally different child. I am going to try what you suggested.
Omgg LOVE THIS THANK YOU
my mother in law keeps reminding me time out dosnt work, I have no idea what to do, I keep hideing in the bathroom to cry
me too. i get panic attacks n temper shots which make me dizzy. this is dangerous. I'm
Timeout does work to my daughter. But if it is not to you, maybe you can redirect or distract your kid to other things. Use your whole body to makw them laugh too 😂 it works. Trust me
I broke down in the swim school swimming pool today.. I got my self hard thoughts back. It's become way to much for me. Dr's and a therapist needed.
Great video, and you're absolutely right - they are losing it because they can't verbalize what's on their mind. Now, the extra cookie thing has no resolution. But for the things that are resolvable, I've had some luck with simple communication. I found out that kids learn sign language very easily, so I worked with her to identify what it was that she actually was having a problem with. It's a work in progress, but when she needs help she'll let me know with the sign for help and if she wants floor time she'll grab my finger and take me to where she is playing. It's been great because sometimes she is getting frustrated with something and I can totally tell that a tantrum is imminent and so I ask her "Do you need help?" and I do the sign. She calms down right away and nods her head yes. That's the other thing, Yes/No communication is so important so you can ask basic questions. I have twin two year old girls, one of whom is susceptible to tantrums, and this helps a lot especially since twins typically learn to speak a little later than singletons.
oh. and adding to the whole tone of voice slowly calm it down and tell them its not okay to do that my nephew's caught up to amazingly and the transformation is awesome. good luck!
My advice is for all the people in public places witnessing a tantrum who try to interfere...well intended or otherwise...do NOT butt in and offer candy to shut the kid up, you are NOT helping the mom or the kid. MYOB and move on as long as there is no evidence of abuse or negligence.
Yes bc somexs it does fuel the tantrum. Like u magically want to help w/ ur very few moments of ? A magical presence? U may throw a baby off... in ur strangernessness. But Somexs my baby's fighting sleep or just simply being dramatic for no real reason. For wever reason. She "gets mad" for me to letting her "shop" w/ me somexs & gets madder for me not letting her drop every item she shopped for. For me to pick up. Although it does amuse me walking into places w/ baby jams on blast. And the public just puts up w/ it. All like, " _dont pick ur nose it's not nice,,,_ 🤟" also, it looks "irresponsible" but yes, I'm fully aware of my baby playing w/ & chewing paper. It's either that or she's squealing... But when she's in a mood, she's not gonna want to deal w/ a stranger on top of that too. She's a baby. I think she pretty much does acknowledge the attention she gets. But imagine how overwhelming that must feel. Even for adults, overwhelmed by too much attention. Let alone a munchkin. Somexs ppl treat baby's like their wild animals in an exhibit or they're a toy or something. As if they didn't really actually come from their Actual parent.
My son is 2 1/2 and he’s in the “No” and “hitting phase” he’s highly intelligent and knows exactly what he’s saying for most of the use of the words. I can’t stand it when he gets bossy about “no” because he will then tell his father and I to “Stop it! Now! Don’t do that.” It’s becoming overwhelming and I don’t know what else to do. We give him choices and when it comes to discipline it’s either a smack on the ass or time out. What should I do?
The first time my son had a TT in the store, I almost collapsed. As I approached him to get him to calm down an older lady stepped up to me and told me to walk away. It was the hardest thing I ever did. In retrospect I realized that what she said made sense because me walking away removed the audience he had. He did it again at another time and I dealt with it the same way. Never happened again. He'll be 19 in two weeks.
I purchased door hangers and he and I decided to use red for angry, green happy, yellow need my space and blue for sad and this allowed us to talk about his feelings in a no judgment zone.
Yes! One on twins would be great! Even though you don't have twins you are so knowledgeable I'm sure you could still offer lots of great ideas! Struggling with my 18 month old twins running away from me...actually more just the boy twin!
Omfg this is happening to me now. Any tips?
My cousin and her husband were having difficult times with their twins. They consulted an organization for parents with twins. They were able to really regain control of behaviour and balance in their lives. The advice and support that they got really helped.
Thank you for your advice, my daughter is 2 years 4 months and she flips out if her food "breaks" (I.e her banana snaps into two pieces) it happens if she's playing, eating you name it, I'll try what you said and let you know how it pans out! Again thanks for taking the time to make this video, dads need help too
Sure! Thanks so much for watching! Hope it helps!!
My child doesn't burn out during her fits. She's strong willed and it will go on for hours. I'm at the end of my patience. I feel helpless.
Brittany Newland lord you’re not the only one. I tell myself no more kids !! And she’s the only one ! She’s 2 1/2 and I’m having a hard time communicating with her. All she wants to do is wine about everything. She can say words but not sentences.. which irritates me bc it’s hard to tell what she wants. It’s stressful
This is how I feel too my two year screams to the top of her lungs for as long as possible ..I don't whoop my two year old I never would but I will Jack her ass up and pinch her! When it's really bad (Black moma mode) -___- ugh so frustrating
thank you so much this really help me
Yay! Glad it helped!!
Your video was spot-on
Thank you Jason!
So my 2 year old just had a baby tantrum and was was strong willed in her efforts. I tried distracting her but it didn't work. Then we took her for a walk and it calmed her down so far... saying No and correcting behaviour like throwing self and things on the floor, is when I tell her she can't do that because its embarrassing... especially in public for me the parent. It takes patience not to lose your cool also. Letting them 'burn it out is not too clever as it will drive you up a wall and set a pattern of behaviour that is undesirable. So the walk and a change in activity or setting worked this time.
Hi what do you do when they hit themselves. My 2 year old started banging his head on the wall or pokes his face with his thumb when he has a tantrum.
My terrible two driving me nuts he is fine when he is and then suddenly he turns to crying and angry at everyone smacking..
My 2 are going through the horrible 4s & 5s
Excellent
By the time he calm down, he throw up food and have to feed again and again.. it keep happening from last 1 year for me. Another problem😢
6 months getting better, OMG i thought it would stop in days lol NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO lol
I found being stern with my toddler and validate their feeling after they are done . By validation i mean say "i know your upset but ..." And explain in little paraphrases the consequences might be
Great video..here is the issue with I think all of the YT videos on this subject- not any of them actually show a a real life scenario where a toddle is completely losing it and how to address it
Agreed. My situation is a bit different from all of these comments and i have no idea how to truly handle it. Im just winging it and praying i do a good job.
what she throws a fit about literally everything all the time? then what do you do? Letting them freak out all the time about everything isnt right either because then they think its ok to do.
Brandon Rivers not true. If if they throw a fit and give in they will learn that’s what they have to do. Eventually it will stop. If I ignore my son he stop. He knows that’s not how he gets attention from me. I literally just walk away. I let him calm himself down unless he has a genuine reason to be upset.
Adults have trouble controlling their emotions or expressing their feelings all the time, you can't expect a baby to do it.
I will definitely have to try this out with my 2 1/2 year old son. I have a little different situation, as I have a split family and my son is with me one week and at the other's parents house the next etc. Tantrums are NOT easy especially when it goes from when he wakes up to when he goes to bed and even some times through the night. Not getting sleep when those nights do happen, make me and my fiance very irritated and edgy and unsure how to help him. It seems that he is going back to a baby phase, with sucking his thumb, drinking a bottle at night, crying more then talking... frustrating. If you have any advice it is more then welcomed!
I totally understand what you are goin thru and definitely can relate. My son is sspon to be three its definitely getting better because he can now talk more and communicate what hes feeling. Main thing is you need to be PATIENT, I know its hard I been there, it was to the point i thought something was wrong with my son but as he grew it got better. Theres still though days but for the most part i just has to do with all the ENERGY they have and keeping themoccupied with activities appropriate for his age. Hang in there it geys better!!
How about chucking and wasting food?, my two year old nephew will throw and won't have it 24/7 or if he wants something to eat than we would make it and he will change his mind and won't have the food we've made for him. I'm needing urgent help with my two year old nephew because we have no idea what to do in that situation or any situation. Please respond, I beg.
My child throws or breaks things during an unsupervised tantrum, so walking away or ignoring is not really a possibility.
And I thought I was the only mom that was going through the embarrassments in public and people's looks 😒I've been trying to ignore my daughter when she has them tantrums but she drags them tantrums way long they feel like it is never going to end.
Um with you
Mine is being like this for 3 days now. I’m so done with this....
What about the little ones who get so upset that they end up vomiting all over themselves? I did read that this is normal in some children but it's alarming for parents and makes you want to give in even more. My husband swears he does it on purpose for more attention but he's only 20 months! We have witnessed him sticking his fingers far into his mouth (too induce vomiting?) while tantruming.
Stacey W. My son is 23 months and he does the same. When I’m outside I also feel like giving in because I’m afraid he will vomit and make everything worse. When he is sitting in his car seat and he knows he can’t get out that’s when he vomits more so we can get him out. My whole family is so alarmed that they are afraid of his tantrums and vomiting afterwards.
My son does the same thing, he stick his finger inside his mouth so he could vomit and it dosent stop there he intentionaly bump his head every where! I dont want to spoil him but i dont know how to stop him
yall need baby therapists or something!
Stacey W. What did everyone end up doing?
My daughter does the same.This is driving me insame.
We’re first time parents, and currently going through it with our little girl
You have all the resources you need on this channel. Thank you for the comment.
My daughter s first tantrum occurred at the age of 5 it lasted10 seconds. What was I doing wrong?
Sometimes my daughter drives me crazy but I knew she is just a kid and cant control her feelings. So i just let her gone mad first then when she slows down, i'll make a joke. If she kinda smile or chuckle, then i'll go to her and give a hug. It works. She calms afterward.
I am only a Nanny, and I must say that it can get a little bit frightening and confusing. Especially if we go back to the 50’s when we were expected to have a Movie Star scenes in public (exemplary behavior) Also, if parents expect their child to be happy at all times. I find strongly useful, to just stop what I am doing and observe their behavior/tantrum trying not to be sarcastic or judgmental about their emotional state of mind. Then when a little bit calm, approach them kindly to confirm our sincere concern about how they are feeling. I usually offer a hug and try to make him feel understood and acknowledged. It really works, keeping in mind that the whole process is not for quick fixes, but for long term relationships of the self with others. I could almost say that it is a way to test our sincere care, empathy towards them and love for what we are doing. Sometimes being an ordinary person versus super fancy and chic, is the way to be. If we don’t look super fancy in public because our children require our attention from the public, so be it. At the end of the day is our children who will rest with us at night and will wake up in the morning to cheer us up. The public will remain behind doors and curtains that in the same way represent warmth and safety to a loving Family. The world might spin up at amazing speed, but our love endures forever.
Thanks for sharing, I appreciate your insight! :)
The only thing worse than the terrible twos is a camera that won't focus 😅 good video though our son is nearly 2 and it's starting 🥲🥲
My 2 year old throughs her tantrum and she doesn't stop and she screams bloody murder i just cant no more
My baby loves messin up my room idk what to do anymore she’s 2
My son is 2 and I have never heard or seen the things my son does it’s truly unexplainable we have everything baby proofed and it feels like it’s for nothing because he teaches himself to either open it or break it he doesn’t listen to me at all he takes apart the vacuum cleaner he’ll break picture frames climb over the baby gate he even tries to climb into the kitchen sink or on top of the stove .if he’s left a lone in the tub for a minute while I’m grabbing his towel and setting out his clothes he’ll take our liquid body wash and dump out the whole body in the tub or on the floor .he throws things at the tv the list can go on and on when I try to put a stop to these bad behaviors the head banging will start kicking slapping screaming.HELP what do I do
She just cried for a half hour because I said no more juice before dinner 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
I feel you mama...How is she now?
Mine hates naps Soo much that she will hit her face just to stay up
Hi cloudMom, does your elder child help in calming down the younger one?
I HATE to be this person, but after working for DHS Child Division for 3 years; I would also be vigilant. While the phrase "Typical behavior" is thrown around by experts, it can mask other outside issues. I don't want to spark fear in any parent, but check out your Daycare centers (they could be put numbered by the kids and your child could be exposed to hitting or shouting), baby sitters, and see a doctor just to be safe (one mom mistook a horrid UTI for Terrible Two's. The child was in ER bleeding....Dr called us stating "neglect". It was a sad scene). Again, 99% of the time it really is "Terrible Twos", but that 1% could be something else. Don't be paranoid, must vigilant.
My child throws a tantrum and sometimes in public it is really embarrassing but i usually just ignore him and try not to give in and its really hard
It is definitely difficult not to give in, but it's worth it in the end! Obviously use common sense when resisting, but you're doing a great job, mamma!
I’m having terrible ones.
It has bee our experience that terrible two's can start from as early as 6 months and go all the way up to terrible teens. The earlier you start addressing the behaviour the better. Sometimes we think kids grow out of the behaviours but if it's not addressed kids grow into the behaviour.
My baby's been sticking her fingers in holes in the walls long before terrible twos. My too fast too furious. She be like pewwww
Try it with two kids...one 5 and autistic, second 2 and terrible two fits him 110%.my wife and me both working, swapping each other at the doors, so no days off for us. Small fella would cry and scream when its not in his way. Worse thing to do is to give them attention while its happening. If he is acting badly towards us he is going for time out for 2 minutes. I let him calm down and continue with whatever im doing. He goes quiet second he realised he have no attention. Kids are great actors, not a single tear on his face, just pushing the boundaries
My 2 year old whos about to be 3 throws tantrums if she cant get what she wants. I just let her kick and scream on the floor and dont look at her or talk to her. They do it for attention. My only problem is when i tell her to stop or no she keeps doing it and i keep her from doing whatever it is then she throws her tantrum. Ugh.
Hi dear, I have another issue with my 2 year old which is being playful all the time and doesn't make difference between home and public areas. I don't know how I can make him listen to me and stays by my side instead of running all around the supermarket per example and me running after him trying to catch him. Please please please any ideas that would help are highly appreciated, specially I am 8 months pregnant and can't run much considering my condition. Thanks a lot
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Thanks a lot dear.
I will no pay no attention but if I am out I will just pick them up and take them on the car and take about 15 minutes till they calm down and tell them there will not play no game or no TV or no out side the next day
Thats what i did today my child was at the park throwing a tantrum cause he wanted to play in the bathroom smh so i took him to the car to calm down not in public and he did calm down
Who else is a kid here😂
What do u do when u tell ur child no and theu dont listen when ur out in public so u pick them up and they kick and pull ur hair ?
Ive had same problems at home and in public. Only thing you can do it not react and quickly but calmly take them outside of the store maybe to the car or something to get them out of the situation and change the scenery so hopefully they will start to calm down and go from there.
Yes!! Help!
Please ...keep in the back of your mind that these toddles are cuting teeth, esp molars from 13 months to about 3 years old. It is a non stop pain and it makes them miserable. They don't understand why they are hurting and will act out.
With that said... the first time you coddle or give attention to the screaming and fits you are screwed. NEVER give attention to their fits, tell them fine you scream and cry while I go do??? make up something that sounds sort of fun. You could even get one of their toys and start playing with it away from where they are screaming but where they can see you. I use to get a coloring book with crayons and color. Also as far as going to the store I never had a problem because I would say on the road there several times that big girls do not cry in the store and I will not put up with crying in the store. When pulling into the parking lot I would say see we are at the store and repeat the big girl speech and even walking up to the store repeat it and when putting her in the cart I would repeat it. I only had 1 problem in the store in 2 years, and none after. But I used a very stern voice and it meant I mean business which she picked up on quite early. You must develope 2 distinct mom tones, one regular and one stern tone that means mom is not playing around and you had better listen or you will get in serious trouble. If you give in 1 time you are screwed also, they will remember that what ever they did worked and will continue to use it. At all cost you must be consistent every single time.
you make some really good points. using different tones with your children will definitely allow them to get used to hearing that in all aspects of life. It's so important that we help our kids in all aspects of life and keep a balance! You are so right!
My grandnephew is 18months and while I don’t have biological kids, I’ve raised a lot. However, my grandnephew is something else I’ve never seen in my life. It’s not just tantrums but he simply does not listen. No, seems to work on other kids when repeated, but no means please be as determined as you can be to my grandnephew…. Send help 🥴🥴🥴
We find that instead of saying "no" it's better to ask for what it is you want them to do. For example, if he is jumping on the couch and instead of saying no, say " sit on the couch" and literally go over and place him to sit on the couch. Then just rinse and repeat until he gets it. But be mindful it will take some time.
My son just threw the worst tantrum he has ever!!! I had to get up and leave the store I was so humiliated 😡😭😭😭😭 is this going to continue for ever 😢
I feel for my sis
I stay at home mines well instead of dealing with her nasty tantrum and screaming. I'll just stay home
Cool.
Some advise I got was to not use props such as favourite teddy or blanket to help them calm down after tantrum. Fine for bed time to make them feel safe and cosy. But they need to learn to regulate their emotion and behaviour with out the prop. I just sit down few feet away from my toddler, once she can think strait again, she will come over for a cuddle and we can talk about it.
the idea of letting them calm down and then come to you is a very good one!
My 2 year old will scream for hours if I let her. She'll pull her hair out and scratch her stomach and face BAD. Also I live in a small apartment with 2 other kids. What do I do?? She freaks out all day everyday 😭 but as soon as I give her a cookie/tablet POOF she's ok again 😑
Lol...you are speaking about my daughter.I swear I will go crazy!😑😓🤦
Not that difficult. Just wait it out till the burns out who cares. Best attitude is just letting it happen and continuing on with what ever you are doing. If they don't get a reaction they will calm down quicker.
My wife gets mad at me because I'm too much of a sucker for my daughter, whenever she throws a tantrum I comfort her and I know it's going to come back and bite me in the a** later on. I spoil her a ton because she's my (our) only child and anytime I'm late coming home from work I pick her up a toy and my wife also gets mad at me for that because lately she always expects a toy and its compounding her tantrums. I guess I have a lot to learn about raising a child.
my son is 2, when he gets mad bc i’m not giving him a snack or his toys “hit” him 🫠 he cries and screams and i tell him to calm down and tell me what happened and he just tells me “no” and i tell him he can’t be acting that way when he doesn’t get what he wants and during me telling him that he just screams “no” to me, i ask him if he’s okay and he said “no” i asked him if he wants to lay down he said “no” no matter what it’s no and screams and cries i just want to pull my brain out 😭 he’s in the process rn of potty training & he does really good with pee , poop is something else. yesterday he pooped on the bathroom floor right next to the toilet 😂🥲and to add he spread it on the floor like peanut on bread 🤪😄
I'm so thankful I saw this video! Just yesterday for Mother's Day my son turned into Godzilla so I cut Mother's Day short. Went home and cried of frustration. Im gonna try your way and hopefully it works.
Good luck!!
Until college holy fukn dandee
I'm sorry
I never believed in hell until I had this kid, horrible tantrums and the worst she's loud as F****
Oh no!!!!!!!!! My daughter is 18mos 😐😑😣
My kid You can't handle her. She is 11 but still throws tantrums. It's just not tolerable to a mom. I have a great idea of punishment that when a kid is behaving bad you must tell them to bend the knees and stand holding your ears in front of the house. Do you know she got suspended from the school for the 5th time. If I tell her to do your punishments , she shouts. Today I was crying in my room when told her to bend her knees and hold your ears and stand in the terrace. I thought in the terrace when everyone will see and she will have a shame and not do tantrums, but who is she? She doesn't care also. She got whiteTC from one school for her extremely bad behaviour of cutting her friends hair. Everyone in the neighborhood comes to my home and tells me about her. Can anyone tell me some good punishments?pls