Men say that women don’t wanna be approached because it’s true! If you haven’t noticed, in today’s society women treat men like utter shit! And it’s easy for you to say “who cares if you get rejected” because you’re a woman yourself! Of course We care if we get rejected, because rejection hurts. I’m sorry but you really pissed me off with this video
… and even if she does give you her number, that doesn’t necessarily mean anything either… I mean, yes that’s a good sign but it doesn’t mean that she’s gonna respond when you call/text her and even if she does there’s a possibility that she’ll lose interest and stop contacting you and responding to you
As someone who has no problem approaching women, who is attractive, in great shape, 6’3, and makes plenty of money. I can say I get shut down all the time and usually all women have a bitchy atttiude at first. The reason is women used to appreciate when men would approach them because it was their only source of male attention, now they get it constantly from apps and social media so they value it far less. I have literally watched the shift happen since i was in my early 20s to now being in my mid 30s. The overall attitude women have towards men approaching is negative unless she specifically wants you to at that very moment which if you’re waiting around for that you’re never gonna talk to any. Just go for it you’ll get shot down but just think it’s not the first won’t be the last. I’m not saying just play the numbers game rather if you truly do want to talk to girl just go for it don’t think too much and know that if you get rejected everyone does even those 6ft jacked 6fig earning guys you always hear about.
I too am 6’ 3” and told good-looking, but am 61, a bit overweight, and nowhere near 6-figure$. No matter, I work on my thoughts/words and mind state (meditation and yoga). Regardless of how old a man is women are drawn to confidence and genuineness. Never be false.
@@yonitznkc Women are not drawn to that. Women say women are drawn to that. As for "never be false," women fall for pick-up artists and players all the time, especially the more attractive women.
Met my ex wife on an approach in NYC. We had our daughter so all the bs was worth it. Dont worry about rejection. We all get rejected but all it takes is one yes and u will feel better about yourself
All you can do is that you must have confidence in you and go talk to the girl you like in public. And if your girl is one instagram girl, you can say to her you prefer live interaction, not the virtual one. Doing like this you present to her like a value men with his boundaries from scratch. Thank you for this amazing content! I am a follower.
Actually, I've just recently watched a Tod V infield video breakdown where one of the students tried "Hi, I'm not from here, can you tell me where X is?" approach and it failed. And he explained that it almost never works, because if you stop a woman and ask her about direction, and she shows you where to go but you keep standing there and try to start a conversation, she immediately senses that you have an agenda. Her defense mechanisms fire up and she will almost always walk away. Makes sense, logically speaking.
how to approach any girl (WITHOUT BEING CREEPY!) tip: Your Mindset tip: Your Body Language tip: Ask a question 1. look at it as practice 2. How you present yourself 3. Ask for her number on a high note
Mke pleasant communication. - Get to the main idea, what I / YOU have in mind - Don't put pressure on yourself or on the girl / lady friend. That way, things will begain to work out / well, more or less, but will!
In otler words what you are saying " i dont have the balls/confidence to talk to women in person" or " i dont want to put in the work into my dating life" My bad for sounding harsh, but thats what you are saying. Truely ugly people are actually fairly rare, MOST guys have what it takes to be attractive to a good chunck of women they just need to put in the work. Handsome men dont magicaly wake up that way they put in the work everyday.
@XMckingwillX how you gonna be confident approaching a girl, if you ain't got anything to be confident about in the first place, and if you seriously think looks don't play a part, then you're just coping, we all know women are just as shallow when it comes to this
@@kc270352 Its clear you didnt read my what I wrote. 1. I NEVER said looks dont count I said 90% have what it takes to be attractive they need to put in the WORK. Attractive men put in work everyday to be attractive. For example MOST men can gain an attractive body but MOST MEN DONT GO TO THE GYM !! Bruh 32% percent of men in the US are Obese losing weight is an easy way to become more attractive. There more obese men then women so how can we say women are shallow with looks?? 2. Its clear you dont think very highly of yourself and you believe you are inherently unworthy of getting a girl hence why you are disqulifying yourself before even trying. Please dont project that onto half the speices by calling them "shallow" Let me tell you YOU ARE WORTHY YOU JUST NEED TO WORK AT IT.
The answer is simple. You must work on yourself and continously grow, not for 'girls' , but for you in general. For example going to the gym or gym at home. It is about what you do in general, that gives you confidence. And girls are human too, they are anxious or nervous too.
Courage - to have courage to talk to / with a girl. Search out, what kind of a girl / woman she is, and get the courage, to agree with her, on common things! Lter o, you'll get the hang of it.
Being on the autism spectrum, cold-approach is a no-go for me. When I was younger and had less life experience I tried it a few times, and was taunted with insults more often than not. So don’t blow sunshine up my @$$ me and tell me “what’s the worst that can happen” unless you’ve been through what I’ve been through, or that “it’s just practice”. Mostly through professional networking I have slowly and painstakingly built a social circle of people who get me and give me a little help every now and then. The key here is “social proof”. People buy on the approval of others, and women in particular want what other women want. The successes I’ve had are based on that principle. If you’re NT and can develop some skill at cold-approach, fine. But it isn’t for everybody
I think that is really fair to say that most men don't approach women not nearly as much as they used to is not about approach anxiety it is fear of the consequences of what could happen after you do approach a women for a date or her phone number. Many times when you do approach a women for a date, 1) She will get angry and mad and yell at you and insult calling you all kinds of things like a disgusting jerk, or a creep or a good for nothing bum. 2) She will freak out, cry wolf and call someone of authority to come over to lay the wood down on you by having you thrown out on your ear and onto the street for even so much as trying to talk to a girl, or in a worse case scenario she will call the cops to file a legal complaint against you, and trust me you don't want to get in any kind of legal problems of a sexual nature that land you in your local county jail or detention facility or 3) and this is becoming more and more common nowadays(ie the now infamous Gym videos) and that is to secretly video record your approaching her ( or even glancing or looking at her for no more just a few seconds) and then posting the recording on a social media website and publicly labeling you a sexual creep or a sexual predator just so that she can play the victim card and get some attention by obtaining sympathy clout on social media websites. That is why men are not approaching women anymore like they used to is for fear of what could happen and many men have come to the conclusion (and rightfully so) that the juice is just not worth the squeeze. Far too many modern women today in western countries like the United States are now just too broken and twisted to bother with anymore. The overwhelming vast majority of them are damaged goods. th-cam.com/video/YJrTcH7C93w/w-d-xo.html
Also this lady full of crap. you don't ask a fish how to catch a fish. Let me say this, work on yourself as a man and get better that will help alot. But if a girl doesn't find you remotely, even in the smallest of details attractive she will be like "ewww why is this germ talking to me" cold approach only works if you semi attractive. And if you super good looking she will even approach you. Sometimes if a girl pity you and she see you a simp a cold approach may also work but generally it's about looks. People cap on that confidence is key but if you look like Jay Z and making a salary of 60000 its a hell no and that is fact. This girl is full of crap selling men lies about just go up. In today's era you wasting your time. Let the woman come to you. If she really wants you she will come to you. I've seen women walk up to dudes they were attracted to and the only thing they didn't do was strip naked in front them. Stop chasing and work on yourself guys.
Just last month, I was walking my dog at a park that I go to literally everyday. I have a rescue husky, and he’s easily distracted and very reactive. I apparently encountered this girl(who I didn’t even recognize cuz I wasn’t interested in her in the slightest), and I simply let her pass me on the trail while my dog was probably reacting or distracted by something. That’s right, I wasn’t even attempting to approach this girl or anything. The encounter was so insignificant to me, because I pass people everyday, and let them pass me, that I didn’t recognize her at all. One of my friends sent me a link to this girls Facebook post that was about me being a creep like two days after the encounter. This girl was describing me to a T and calling me a predator, blah, blah, just for letting her pass me and my dog on the trail. She was saying that I started to follow her, and then took off running by the trees. I run my dog at this park regularly. So much so that I know quite a few people at this park, and the regulars know me as well. This post got over a hundred shares, with several people talking about me and how they recognize me, etc. But then, people who know me there, and follow my dog and I on tik tok, started to chime in, and let’s just say this girl lost, and it was clear she just wanted attention. She wasnt expecting the backlash or to be scrutinized for her false accusations. She blocked me and disabled the comments. It’s still ridiculous how she just about ruined an innocent guys reputation when she wasn’t victimized in any way, and since I’m a regular there, many people who saw the post knew exactly who I was. Ironic how she did more harm to me than I ever did to her, but also funny how she made a fool of herself. And this was without any sort of approach whatsoever. I can’t imagine some of the other innocent people who get their reputations ruined over innocent approaches that go bad. It’s actually scary and sad.
I will admit, I sometimes still feel like an incel despite having a girlfriend, probably because I feel that my 20s were a waste, didn't have a serious relationship until the beginning of my 30s. It causes me to envy and resent couples out there younger than me, people who got to experience having a serious long-term relationship before I did and yes I know people will always say comparison is the thief of joy or don't compare yourself to others. But I believe it's always has been and always will be part of the human psyche, been that way since the beginning of time to feel upset and depressed when you feel you are not part of the norm. Because of that I feel like a forever permanent incel for all time, even when I did manage to get a girlfriend. So yeah even while I did have a girlfriend, I still felt like an incel. I don't see myself ever getting over this, it will be a pain and wound for the rest of my life. And I'm not afraid to admit that there have been times over the years I have hated being born male, because I know I'm not the only guy in the world that has this mindset, that men have to do everything in dating and relationships and seduction. Yes I know tons of people say what's the point of being angry and depressed over what didn't happen in the past or not? Well I'm entitled and I have a right to my mindset, I believe it's always been part of human nature or just the human psyche to always be sad and depressed or angry and resentful over good things that they wish happened to them in the past but didn't. I know I'm not afraid to admit I have had these thoughts, and I'm sure other guys have thought this way, we feel that if we had been born a woman, we would not have been single that long. Probably because women just have to exist and they are guaranteed attention and options from Men, that requires no skill or no social dynamics, no game or no seduction. Guys, men, have to know or learn all of these skills, behaviors, talk a certain way, behave a certain way, act a certain way, walk and stand a certain way, breathe a certain way, have a certain lifestyle, because leading or taking the lead is something that is behavior based, skill based, think a certain way, and many more things, that i either don't know or forgot. Women just have to exist and breathe and they are guaranteed attention, options, that doesn't require any learning or skill development, it mind boggles me and makes me annoyed when people say women need skills to succeed in dating. One person I remember I heard said that women need game as well which I thought was the stupidest thing I ever heard. So ya I still feel like an incel for all time despite managing to get a girlfriend eventually, and I still get irritated and annoyed whenever people and society say that men have it better than women do in the human mating game.
As I understand you well... I agree with you 100%! This constructed world is so strange that in a large part of the world it is the man who has to act, fight for a woman, make the first move. As you say, a guy has to adapt to some extent, learn a lot of things, and even if he does and has experience, there is never a guarantee that he will find a girlfriend. It's no problem for a boy to make the first move. But it should work both ways. And no - guys don't have it better. It's easier for women, because they don't have to do anything, and every day someone can approach them, write and they will have attention and interest. Because of this, they don't have to try, because if not this one, then another. It doesn't help guys. We would have to go to South Korea, because there girls often make the first move and look for guys. Unfortunately, in most countries it is customary that it is the boy who makes the first move. And if you start too late and you have no experience, you have a problem. I'm younger than you, but I started late. I regret it because I made a lot of mistakes before and more could have been done about it. I know it puts me in a bad light and people may laugh at me, but I'm honest. In conclusion, I don't know what the world will look like in this matter, but unfortunately it's not easy for a boy to find a girlfriend now and it may be so in the future. All the best to you and be glad you have a girlfriend now. You did it and it's a big success. I wish you luck :)
I feel the same way. Men have a huge laundry list of things to do or not do to attract women. Be confident, but not loud and obnoxious, dress right, don't call or text too much, show you like her but give her space, be funny, be successful, be a leader and plan out everything, Pay for everything, send flowers, never forget b days, Valentines Day, her birthday, give her support, be spontaneous, surprise her, buy her little gifts for no reason ,be funny, prove you're high value , win over her friends, don't be needy, have a life away from her, be in shape, have passion, keep the conversation going, and on and on. No wonder lots of men turn to prostitutes.
@nobodysperfect06, if you'd like to have someone listen to your feelings, I'd be happy to do so. I feel your pain but don't think it's a necessary truth nor belief
Sooooo true!!! I've always saying that in the acquintanceship with a new girl you can't lost. You already don't know this beauty, so if she rejects you - OK, she won't be yours as previous, BUT if she accept you WON. You can only win in this situation! Go out and get to know some new girls fellas! Like in everything - practice is your best teacher.😉 The girls that say they don't like guys who meet many girls - they're not honest with you. They just don't like you. Every girl likes guys with experience (yeah in every aspect) :D
I guess it's a perfect deconstruction of any aspect of the approach seen from all sides in a very wise, emotionally caring way. Congratulations and my admiration for how well and simple you set so many situations with little nuances. - You help making a better and healthier world. Thanks for your good commitment that I've witness along several of your videos.
I think that the first mindset you should work is your own mindset, as a man. I mean you must approach her with this in your mind: I am a man that women want, I am a prize and if she does not see that, well it is her loss. And it is not a big deal that you are nervous, you can be honest and say something like I don't normally hit on girls like this, but I think you are pretty and I wanted to say hy! Not to mention that if she likes you too, she is nervous too.
This approaching issue is more of a number's game. Of course there are girls in this world who consider that approaching in public is creepy, but not all girls are the same. You cannot think this is the absolute truth.
As a girl I have never actually found it creepy. It’s usually unwanted, but I think most girls know it’s part of life and a lot of girls approach as well. Timing is everything though. Try to be the least disruptive you can to what she is doing. Always leave her an exit, back off if she seems uncomfortable and I would also say don’t approach in her workplace. Even if you work with her, wait for a social. Getting hit on at work is the worst thing and it’s risky for you too. Other than that I think it’s fine, plenty of other men do it why not you.
@@nobodysperfect06 have never be approached. Maybe if you’re good looking and appear to have money I guess. Being moral, and honest doesn’t seem to do it. Of course she’ll say the good looking, guys with money have good morals as well.
Her "approach" is making herself available to you, like being in close proximity or trying to ask questions about some other unrelated stuff. She hopes you are a mind reader, so when she smiles nicely and asks for directions (as example) you will immediately guess she wants you to put on the moves. It also gives her an easy plausible deniability in case the conversation goes wrong, because she didn't say nothing while you were the one to pop the question.
Also, I’ve asked numerous girls out on the street and had a great conversation and then when it came time for me to ask for the number, they get all scared and weirded out. It’s kind of weird of them.
Simple? - I used my technique, it works like a charm? Woops, I'm late to meat with some one/ Oh, so we continue this topics, can I get your number? And it was so to, not just a dirty gag. Yet it worked / works! Try it, my friend?
i think its really easy to say "guys are making it complicated" as a women who are never expected to be or have been in that position. That would be like me saying giving birth is not that hard ladies just be cool have good body language be well groomed! like you know what I mean?
she just capping to get money. Why doesn't she go wear a fat suit like lizo and approach good looknig men and see what happens. Point blank if you not attractive no amount of confidence will help you. There has to be some level of attractiveness for cold approach to work for both men and women. The difference is men will give an average alirght girl a chance regardless as long as she doesnt look like lizzo. Women on the other hand unless you got money would not even waste their spit on an average guy. This same girl won't give an average looking dude time of the day. She just spewing garbage.Looking to get simps wallet.
Or, consider what I might say to a random person who happens to come into my office: Me: “This case is set for trial next Thursday. It’s time to make your big debut.” Them: “But I don’t know how to try a case.” Me: “There’s nothing to it. Just get up in front of the jury and be yourself.”
Thanks Julia! Great advice under 10 minutes. I also love your short videos on TH-cam! It’s not so easy to practice but hey, what’s the worst that can happen? Thanks again for your effort!
if you get the "I have a boyfriend" response, you may also try this: just say, "oh nice! Well, he's a fortunate man." it makes her feel good, even if it's not true, and you got to end the interaction with a positive, kind statement. you may just walk away from that smiling to yourself! it's nice to be kind.
Even if things do end on a high note and she does give you her number, that doesn’t necessarily mean anything either. Because there’s a strong possibility that she won’t ever answer you if you call/text her and even if she does that, there’s also the strong possibility that she might lose interest and stop talking to you. The truth is you can’t get to overly excited no matter what
I once tried that and she replied… “what makes you think it’s a he?” Then I learned not to approach women unless I had a strong feeling they were conservative.
Yeah, not to mention the fact that the phrase I have a boyfriend can or cannot be real. Maybe, she is testing you to see how you react. By saying Ok, he must be a fortunate men you demonstrate to her you are calm and collected
I like the compliment the video uses. Girls these days get more than enough compliments online and from their friends-to the point they over value themselves often so saying he's a fortunate man, especially when you don't even know her or him is a little strong
@@nsasupporter7557Well, that depends on you to keep her hooked. It is not about you being excited, it is about making her realize you are the one she needs. That way, she will call you .
One of the best questions to ask two girls talking at a bar is whether or not they are sisters. They love it! If they aren't, they'll often say "No, what would make you think that?" and you can just be like "I dunno, I just get this vibe. (come up with X random reason) What are your names?" If they are, their eyes will light up and be like "How'd you know?" and you can proceed by saying something like "I know people. So what brings you guys here?" Women are social creatures..
You are wrong. Just use your eyes and look around ugly guys are with hot chicks all the time, take another look, they are not even well dressed quite often. Women look for only 2things - 1st you need to be a fkin man, 2nd- you need to take action.
Just be open to her, I mean, be cautiously honest? If agirl / women does't appreciate that, drop her? They wan't honesty, but in tht case, they , they are not! Forget about her?! Another girl / women may like your hondesty so much, they even may ask from you, ooh, where were you till now, your just the kind of a guy I like, honest, what is usually dependably & responsible! = You both will become a win / win!
I can go and talk but those relationships were not that good. I prefer meeting online. Big pool and can narrow down to what you like. You are not dating looks, but character. Hard to guess the character from looking at the person. But it is flattering to women if guys come talk to her. I am sure she will have something to chat with her friends about it.
That whole Starbucks question, followed by interrupting her answer to tell her that you thought she's really cute followed by going for the number or "take it as a compliment" is all beastly Dave's school! :))
I ask girls numbers all the time. It gets easier with time. I don’t even care if I get the number, I’m more excited about just asking 😅 that’s the win for me!
If you have no value as a man it dosnt matter how much practice you do it’s always going to be a rejection or at best short retentions. Get your shit together and you’ll be confidence to get and keep. For many that’s not an option cause it takes works. Welcome to how to be a man good luck. Btw getting your shit together does not mean one thing like money.
You left out the laundrymat. "how do I wash this?". Ask her something about what she is good at. Check her out. Is she wearing scrubs or another type of uniform, then ask her where she works, is she an RN, she replies she's a CNA, "oh, yeah, cardiology?" she replies "no, I am a surgical assistant". You are in. If she's wearing business clothes in an airport, "what do you do?", she says she sells ISP circuits to corporations, I respond " really, I am a Network Engineer". The bottom line, establish a rapport.
Thank you for this wisdom and advice. The piece about approaching with a question and making your intentions clear is super helpful. I definitely aspire to and want to work toward that level of confidence. Thanks again!
Is it okay to approach girls on the street when you are diivorced and have a kid? I have no trouble talking to girls but being recently divorced , i find myself hesitating to talk to girls. I feel they might be disappointed when they find out that I already have a kid
It's a hard topic for me. Everything seems to be simple, just follow a few tips, remember a few things, and it still ends in failure. I also see that my friends, but also the rest of the guys lose, even if they look good and have experience. I honestly have never seen a boy walk up on the street or in a public place and get a yes answer. I am fighting, gaining experience and looking for a girlfriend, but so far without success. Recently, I had a situation when I approached a girl on the bus and here we managed to talk and even arrange a date. Exception. Still, it's hard to find someone. I don't have a problem with a boy making the first move, but I wonder why they don't. This should work both ways. Even if the boy likes them, they can still say no. So many people are lonely, even if they are looking for their other half. Sad (I'm speaking in general, not just about myself)...
Hello! Partially you are right. But the whole Point of getting a girlfriend is basically finding a new person. There are a lot of girls în every town and no single girl is similar to another. If you get rejected by one, say ok and turn to the next one. Eventually after 3 or 4 rejections you will meet a girl who will positively answer you.
Not to mention even if you get rejected you will gain her respect as a man for you.I think this is far more important than being a 'nice player'. And you always can ask if she has a friend who might be interested in you
@@kosminsjones9322 I understand you and respect your opinion. I am calm about this and used to defeat. But honestly I never asked a girl if she had any friend who would be interested in me hahaha But that's a good idea :)
There is this girl i like from work but she es very very shy , her girfriend which is my teanmate said to me that she thinks im cute , what is the best strategy ??? She works from home almost the entire week , should i go directly to talk to her if i saw her or should i ask her phone number to her friend ??? What u recommend ???
You defenitely need to talk to her in person. You could organize a hang out with your work mates and convince your teammate to ask her friend to come, or you can just find an excuse to talk to her when she isn't working at home (like during a coffe break or sum like that)
Also, how do you know if she’s taking or not. A lot of times a girl will just be standing there alone, but she might have a guy who’s not with her at the moment. I don’t wanna get caught, trying to hit on somebody with her boyfriend there or her husband. How do you make sure?
It happened to me a year ago when i traveled to Amsterdam and i was in one of the markets in the city, then i saw a cute dutch girl that were waiting in the line to get her food, i started to talk to her and then her boyfriend appeared but luckily he was a good guy who also shook my hand
It's like handling a gun for the first time, always assume it's loaded. Always assume she has a man, whether it's her hubby, boyfriend or phuck buddy almost every girl has at least one of those...
Finally, it takes balls and confidence to talk to a girl approach her, etc. and just because you have two or three seconds of crickets all of a sudden a girl can just dismiss her you and say that guys not confident. That’s just terrible of course is going to be crickets after a certain amount of time you don’t even know the person but you had enough balls to go up to her. This is the problem with their mindset.
I don't have a problem talking to girls. They are usually friendly, and some even give you their number etc. But then, when you want to establish a date or anything similar, if you are not jacked and look very attractive as a guy, you have very small chances.They just like to have someone to waste their time, you know like a chat buddy. I know this cause I was both, looking relatively good and also was in a phase where I was a bit fat and guess what: When I was looking good, all I had to do is just look at a girl or stay within her range and they would stick to me like flies to sh!t, even if I was talking nonsense. Even girls with boyfriends would look at me with interest and some even tried to leave their boyfriend the day they met me. ( No bragging intended) On the other hand, when I was a bit overweight, no amount of talking nice, watching out for my tone, etc. would make a difference. I mean look at your own boyfriend and now imagine him being 20 kg overweight. Just saying, women want to have it all these days, to the point that I am not even trying anymore, cause some things I can't even change, but they expect them as a standard. The best example is: after I started balding, in my 30's, I've lost more than half of the chicks, that would normally like me, just because I don't have a Ken haircut. And recently even some guys that look super dope have some girlfriends that are weird as f, that I personally would not even date. Basically the standards for women just sky rocketed and it's mostly stupid men, who boost their egos by selling themselves short out of desperation of not being alone. Recently I even saw multiple guys, with super dope cars and everything, riding around with some fat chick on the right side and I'm like: That is the level that I have to get to, just to get an ugly chick like that, oh hell no. I know this probably sounds pessimistic to some people, but I am just telling it how it is and what I've personally experienced.
But how do you do all this when there’s people standing around close by. I get very shy to talk to somebody when there’s people close and they can hear the conversation. How do you go about doing that?
"Practice it! on everyone when you talk to strangers, especially with individuals of the opposite gender. That's what I read in one of those "dating" books. Present yourself, tell something to them, ask them anything outside of "hard topics", be nice, ...
"Hi, I'm John. I'm looking for a woman who is worth my time and effort. Are you a responsible adult with values who would be an asset raising a family? No? Okay. Thanks. Nice meeting you. Goodbye."
Yeah, I always have that feeling of self-sabotaging like it's yourself basically cockblocking yourself. And approaching girls I had that feeling that I should wear a nametag that says, "Hi, my name is (insert name here) and I'm not creepy or etc." Still some very cool tips.
Me: "Do you know where the nearest Starbucks is?" Her: "Have you heard of Google?" Most girls don't care to talk to guys unless they're attractive tbh.
I find it impossible to even strike up a conversation with a woman at work, let alone just approaching some random woman on the street. Anyway she will be staring at her phone with the usual 'Fuck Off' demeanor about her. So why bother.
Do NOT approach women you work with unless she has shown some kind of prior interest in you. Reason is that most employers these days have a zero tolerance policy on anything negatively sexual related in the workplace so ALL she would have to do is tell someone she feels uncomfortable around you & your done. Is your career worth it?
Guys If you want girls to hit on you go to Italy this boss girls will approach you and the best thing you don't have to worry about getting rejected because the girls doing the game dress good look handsome wear good cologne
call a cap on this one! the risk of being accused of harassment is much to high to approach women these days. if you you`re not a triple 6 the risk is even higher.
Girl: “I prefer meeting guys in person”. Guy approaches girl in person. Girl: “Well, what’s your Instagram” or “you can have my Instagram” Make this make sense 🤦♂️
I can explain this for you. Basically, when a girl gives you either her Instagram, Discord or Snapchat, it could be one of two situations. The first situation is that she is not comfortable giving out her phone number and she wants to get to know you as a person. The second situation is that she just wants to boost her followers on social media and treats you as a fan. She could also put you in the friend zone. These are just my thoughts.
It’s not a contradiction. It’s just we don’t want any guy to approach. We want the right guys to approach. They get phone numbers or a date. Giving a guy social media is a polite way to get out when he’s nice but you’re not feeling it. Or as someone else said if she’s trying for followers or something.
I do like this girl but unfortunately she’s partially wrong. I have asked numerous girls and even told them stories about my approaching, and they think it’s actually odd and creepy that I approach girls at a market or anywhere in public. They prefer to all go on dating apps.
Yeah it has to be natural. Even something simple like you and a girl reaching for the same item can be a natural conversation starter. But the idea that you essentially “sniped” out a girl and went up to her is a little uncalibrated, and can definitely give off creeper vibes. A bar is one thing, but not a store.
@@alvinugochukwu2329 has to be a dozen times . All different places, the market, clothing, store, etc. but I made sure we were talking about something related or an item not just randomly walking right up to them.
I’m telling you guys, work in sales. Women come up to me all the time because they’re interested in what I’m selling. This way you can practice conversation with girls without the shame of having to walk into the battlefield and possibly get rejected. It makes it so much easier when they are the ones going up to you, and you can tease them a little from there and start flirting.
Yeah I don't think it's a good idea to ask a girl a question you don't actually care to be answered, and I _especially_ don't think it's a good idea to admit that you were making her answer a throwaway question. I would ask something more pertinent to her, like whether she comes to this particular place a lot.
@@Cortesevasive Lol at "there are no rules" after giving me a laundry list of what to do and what not to do. Okay if this approach of being craaazy unpredictable woohoo! works for you, more power to you. Let us know about all the women who swooned over all the out of the box things you said.
Not convinced by the anecdote. Even if so, getting a number is not difficult. What is difficult is having the girl respond later and making it past a first date. Girls give out numbers just because they are too frightened to say no and is no indication of their level of attraction to you.
ok we are living in a time where approaching ladies could actually get a guy in trouble.if the lady thinks the guy looks great usually no problem but if not she will either treat him like a joke or act like the guy is creepy.if its a situation where they will see each other after that in a social setting she might start saying he is stalking her or some nonsense like that hurting his repetation in the eyes of others.this happens all the time.just go to a night club and sit back and watch.u will be suprised how modern ladies act.
You are wrong. Just use your eyes and look around ugly guys are with hot chicks all the time, take another look, they are not even well dressed quite often. Women look for only 2things - 1st you need to be a fkin man, 2nd- you need to take action.
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Men say that women don’t wanna be approached because it’s true!
If you haven’t noticed, in today’s society women treat men like utter shit! And it’s easy for you to say “who cares if you get rejected” because you’re a woman yourself! Of course We care if we get rejected, because rejection hurts. I’m sorry but you really pissed me off with this video
… and even if she does give you her number, that doesn’t necessarily mean anything either… I mean, yes that’s a good sign but it doesn’t mean that she’s gonna respond when you call/text her and even if she does there’s a possibility that she’ll lose interest and stop contacting you and responding to you
Ça. I have your email address please l have some questions.
Dude thats all this chick does is piss people off..just know shes à Austin reject..
Only fans acount please
How to approach any girl without being creepy :
- Be Tall
- Be handsome
- Use tactical soap
im only one of those things women are so picky
Not quite my friend? majorly, it's the attitude , the attitude, what leads to the psychology power.
can you be poor?
@@alfredbenedek3398yeah all these things help but when you’re proper ugly nothing will help 😂
As someone who has no problem approaching women, who is attractive, in great shape, 6’3, and makes plenty of money. I can say I get shut down all the time and usually all women have a bitchy atttiude at first. The reason is women used to appreciate when men would approach them because it was their only source of male attention, now they get it constantly from apps and social media so they value it far less. I have literally watched the shift happen since i was in my early 20s to now being in my mid 30s. The overall attitude women have towards men approaching is negative unless she specifically wants you to at that very moment which if you’re waiting around for that you’re never gonna talk to any. Just go for it you’ll get shot down but just think it’s not the first won’t be the last. I’m not saying just play the numbers game rather if you truly do want to talk to girl just go for it don’t think too much and know that if you get rejected everyone does even those 6ft jacked 6fig earning guys you always hear about.
Preach
Great, helpful post here. I thought life would be just smooth sailin at 6'3, goodlooking, fit and rich.
Exactly!
I too am 6’ 3” and told good-looking, but am 61, a bit overweight, and nowhere near 6-figure$. No matter, I work on my thoughts/words and mind state (meditation and yoga). Regardless of how old a man is women are drawn to confidence and genuineness. Never be false.
@@yonitznkc Women are not drawn to that. Women say women are drawn to that. As for "never be false," women fall for pick-up artists and players all the time, especially the more attractive women.
me: where is the nearest Starbucks?
her: you ain't got Google maps? 😂
sure I have Google Maps but I just wanted to meet you!
Met my ex wife on an approach in NYC. We had our daughter so all the bs was worth it. Dont worry about rejection. We all get rejected but all it takes is one yes and u will feel better about yourself
All you can do is that you must have confidence in you and go talk to the girl you like in public. And if your girl is one instagram girl, you can say to her you prefer live interaction, not the virtual one. Doing like this you present to her like a value men with his boundaries from scratch. Thank you for this amazing content! I am a follower.
Actually, I've just recently watched a Tod V infield video breakdown where one of the students tried "Hi, I'm not from here, can you tell me where X is?" approach and it failed. And he explained that it almost never works, because if you stop a woman and ask her about direction, and she shows you where to go but you keep standing there and try to start a conversation, she immediately senses that you have an agenda. Her defense mechanisms fire up and she will almost always walk away. Makes sense, logically speaking.
how to approach any girl (WITHOUT BEING CREEPY!)
tip: Your Mindset
tip: Your Body Language
tip: Ask a question
1. look at it as practice
2. How you present yourself
3. Ask for her number on a high note
Mke pleasant communication. - Get to the main idea, what I / YOU have in mind - Don't put pressure on yourself or on the girl / lady friend. That way, things will begain to work out / well, more or less, but will!
As a man have to say thank you for helping us to understand the women world more!
just don't be ugly, its as simple as that 👍
In otler words what you are saying " i dont have the balls/confidence to talk to women in person" or " i dont want to put in the work into my dating life"
My bad for sounding harsh, but thats what you are saying.
Truely ugly people are actually fairly rare, MOST guys have what it takes to be attractive to a good chunck of women they just need to put in the work.
Handsome men dont magicaly wake up that way they put in the work everyday.
@@xMckingwill Agreed! It's better to say "Don't be an asshole" than not to be ugly. I like your response to this jerk. 😂
@XMckingwillX how you gonna be confident approaching a girl, if you ain't got anything to be confident about in the first place, and if you seriously think looks don't play a part, then you're just coping, we all know women are just as shallow when it comes to this
@@kc270352
Its clear you didnt read my what I wrote.
1. I NEVER said looks dont count I said 90% have what it takes to be attractive they need to put in the WORK. Attractive men put in work everyday to be attractive.
For example MOST men can gain an attractive body but MOST MEN DONT GO TO THE GYM !! Bruh 32% percent of men in the US are Obese losing weight is an easy way to become more attractive. There more obese men then women so how can we say women are shallow with looks??
2. Its clear you dont think very highly of yourself and you believe you are inherently unworthy of getting a girl hence why you are disqulifying yourself before even trying. Please dont project that onto half the speices by calling them "shallow"
Let me tell you YOU ARE WORTHY YOU JUST NEED TO WORK AT IT.
@@TheWMBWLifefacts being ugly doesn’t really matter I seen guys with not the best looks get girls all the time.
If I could go back in my 20’s, I wouldn’t take approaching women so seriously. She is right. You have to go through this and look at it as practice
Just as a joke; = just practice these often instead for too long? = Or you may stay, as a bachellor forever?
Just a random comment to support your channel.
Your thoughts are very sound.
Probably, what we all need now!
Keep it up!
I never liked these advices from dating gurus. That being said, this piece of advice was by far the most humble and sincere. Thank you!
how the hell you gonna be confident approaching a girl, if you haven't got anything to be confident about in the first place lmao
I think you know the answer brudder
@@rudalph5923 yeah work on urself
The answer is simple. You must work on yourself and continously grow, not for 'girls' , but for you in general. For example going to the gym or gym at home. It is about what you do in general, that gives you confidence. And girls are human too, they are anxious or nervous too.
Welcome to the team
Courage - to have courage to talk to / with a girl. Search out, what kind of a girl / woman she is, and get the courage, to agree with her, on common things! Lter o, you'll get the hang of it.
Being on the autism spectrum, cold-approach is a no-go for me. When I was younger and had less life experience I tried it a few times, and was taunted with insults more often than not. So don’t blow sunshine up my @$$ me and tell me “what’s the worst that can happen” unless you’ve been through what I’ve been through, or that “it’s just practice”.
Mostly through professional networking I have slowly and painstakingly built a social circle of people who get me and give me a little help every now and then. The key here is “social proof”. People buy on the approval of others, and women in particular want what other women want. The successes I’ve had are based on that principle.
If you’re NT and can develop some skill at cold-approach, fine. But it isn’t for everybody
*Autistic high five* Being on the spectrum sucks when it comes to dating. -__-.
So true I have high functioning autism and I've never had a girlfriend I tri to approach and get told to get lost
If she finds you under her league you will always be creepy, no matter how smooth you are.
I think that is really fair to say that most men don't approach women not nearly as much as they used to is not about approach anxiety it is fear of the consequences of what could happen after you do approach a women for a date or her phone number. Many times when you do approach a women for a date, 1) She will get angry and mad and yell at you and insult calling you all kinds of things like a disgusting jerk, or a creep or a good for nothing bum. 2) She will freak out, cry wolf and call someone of authority to come over to lay the wood down on you by having you thrown out on your ear and onto the street for even so much as trying to talk to a girl, or in a worse case scenario she will call the cops to file a legal complaint against you, and trust me you don't want to get in any kind of legal problems of a sexual nature that land you in your local county jail or detention facility or 3) and this is becoming more and more common nowadays(ie the now infamous Gym videos) and that is to secretly video record your approaching her ( or even glancing or looking at her for no more just a few seconds) and then posting the recording on a social media website and publicly labeling you a sexual creep or a sexual predator just so that she can play the victim card and get some attention by obtaining sympathy clout on social media websites. That is why men are not approaching women anymore like they used to is for fear of what could happen and many men have come to the conclusion (and rightfully so) that the juice is just not worth the squeeze. Far too many modern women today in western countries like the United States are now just too broken and twisted to bother with anymore. The overwhelming vast majority of them are damaged goods.
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Also this lady full of crap. you don't ask a fish how to catch a fish. Let me say this, work on yourself as a man and get better that will help alot. But if a girl doesn't find you remotely, even in the smallest of details attractive she will be like "ewww why is this germ talking to me" cold approach only works if you semi attractive. And if you super good looking she will even approach you. Sometimes if a girl pity you and she see you a simp a cold approach may also work but generally it's about looks. People cap on that confidence is key but if you look like Jay Z and making a salary of 60000 its a hell no and that is fact. This girl is full of crap selling men lies about just go up. In today's era you wasting your time. Let the woman come to you. If she really wants you she will come to you. I've seen women walk up to dudes they were attracted to and the only thing they didn't do was strip naked in front them. Stop chasing and work on yourself guys.
Just last month, I was walking my dog at a park that I go to literally everyday. I have a rescue husky, and he’s easily distracted and very reactive. I apparently encountered this girl(who I didn’t even recognize cuz I wasn’t interested in her in the slightest), and I simply let her pass me on the trail while my dog was probably reacting or distracted by something. That’s right, I wasn’t even attempting to approach this girl or anything. The encounter was so insignificant to me, because I pass people everyday, and let them pass me, that I didn’t recognize her at all. One of my friends sent me a link to this girls Facebook post that was about me being a creep like two days after the encounter. This girl was describing me to a T and calling me a predator, blah, blah, just for letting her pass me and my dog on the trail. She was saying that I started to follow her, and then took off running by the trees. I run my dog at this park regularly. So much so that I know quite a few people at this park, and the regulars know me as well. This post got over a hundred shares, with several people talking about me and how they recognize me, etc. But then, people who know me there, and follow my dog and I on tik tok, started to chime in, and let’s just say this girl lost, and it was clear she just wanted attention. She wasnt expecting the backlash or to be scrutinized for her false accusations. She blocked me and disabled the comments. It’s still ridiculous how she just about ruined an innocent guys reputation when she wasn’t victimized in any way, and since I’m a regular there, many people who saw the post knew exactly who I was. Ironic how she did more harm to me than I ever did to her, but also funny how she made a fool of herself. And this was without any sort of approach whatsoever. I can’t imagine some of the other innocent people who get their reputations ruined over innocent approaches that go bad. It’s actually scary and sad.
Use paragraphs, thanks.
I will admit, I sometimes still feel like an incel despite having a girlfriend, probably because I feel that my 20s were a waste, didn't have a serious relationship until the beginning of my 30s.
It causes me to envy and resent couples out there younger than me, people who got to experience having a serious long-term relationship before I did and yes I know people will always say comparison is the thief of joy or don't compare yourself to others.
But I believe it's always has been and always will be part of the human psyche, been that way since the beginning of time to feel upset and depressed when you feel you are not part of the norm.
Because of that I feel like a forever permanent incel for all time, even when I did manage to get a girlfriend.
So yeah even while I did have a girlfriend, I still felt like an incel.
I don't see myself ever getting over this, it will be a pain and wound for the rest of my life.
And I'm not afraid to admit that there have been times over the years I have hated being born male, because I know I'm not the only guy in the world that has this mindset, that men have to do everything in dating and relationships and seduction.
Yes I know tons of people say what's the point of being angry and depressed over what didn't happen in the past or not?
Well I'm entitled and I have a right to my mindset, I believe it's always been part of human nature or just the human psyche to always be sad and depressed or angry and resentful over good things that they wish happened to them in the past but didn't.
I know I'm not afraid to admit I have had these thoughts, and I'm sure other guys have thought this way, we feel that if we had been born a woman, we would not have been single that long.
Probably because women just have to exist and they are guaranteed attention and options from Men, that requires no skill or no social dynamics, no game or no seduction.
Guys, men, have to know or learn all of these skills, behaviors, talk a certain way, behave a certain way, act a certain way, walk and stand a certain way, breathe a certain way, have a certain lifestyle, because leading or taking the lead is something that is behavior based, skill based, think a certain way, and many more things, that i either don't know or forgot.
Women just have to exist and breathe and they are guaranteed attention, options, that doesn't require any learning or skill development, it mind boggles me and makes me annoyed when people say women need skills to succeed in dating.
One person I remember I heard said that women need game as well which I thought was the stupidest thing I ever heard.
So ya I still feel like an incel for all time despite managing to get a girlfriend eventually, and I still get irritated and annoyed whenever people and society say that men have it better than women do in the human mating game.
As I understand you well... I agree with you 100%! This constructed world is so strange that in a large part of the world it is the man who has to act, fight for a woman, make the first move. As you say, a guy has to adapt to some extent, learn a lot of things, and even if he does and has experience, there is never a guarantee that he will find a girlfriend. It's no problem for a boy to make the first move. But it should work both ways. And no - guys don't have it better. It's easier for women, because they don't have to do anything, and every day someone can approach them, write and they will have attention and interest. Because of this, they don't have to try, because if not this one, then another. It doesn't help guys. We would have to go to South Korea, because there girls often make the first move and look for guys. Unfortunately, in most countries it is customary that it is the boy who makes the first move. And if you start too late and you have no experience, you have a problem. I'm younger than you, but I started late. I regret it because I made a lot of mistakes before and more could have been done about it. I know it puts me in a bad light and people may laugh at me, but I'm honest. In conclusion, I don't know what the world will look like in this matter, but unfortunately it's not easy for a boy to find a girlfriend now and it may be so in the future. All the best to you and be glad you have a girlfriend now. You did it and it's a big success. I wish you luck :)
I feel the same way. Men have a huge laundry list of things to do or not do to attract women. Be confident, but not loud and obnoxious, dress right, don't call or text too much, show you like her but give her space, be funny, be successful, be a leader and plan out everything, Pay for everything, send flowers, never forget b days, Valentines Day, her birthday, give her support, be spontaneous, surprise her, buy her little gifts for no reason ,be funny, prove you're high value , win over her friends, don't be needy, have a life away from her, be in shape, have passion, keep the conversation going, and on and on. No wonder lots of men turn to prostitutes.
@@przemekg543How Old are you I’m 18.
@nobodysperfect06, if you'd like to have someone listen to your feelings, I'd be happy to do so. I feel your pain but don't think it's a necessary truth nor belief
I feel the same way, man. Like, what's wrong with me? I resent couples also, and it seems couples are everywhere, and everyone has someone except me.
Sooooo true!!! I've always saying that in the acquintanceship with a new girl you can't lost. You already don't know this beauty, so if she rejects you - OK, she won't be yours as previous, BUT if she accept you WON. You can only win in this situation! Go out and get to know some new girls fellas! Like in everything - practice is your best teacher.😉
The girls that say they don't like guys who meet many girls - they're not honest with you. They just don't like you. Every girl likes guys with experience (yeah in every aspect) :D
I guess it's a perfect deconstruction of any aspect of the approach seen from all sides in a very wise, emotionally caring way. Congratulations and my admiration for how well and simple you set so many situations with little nuances. - You help making a better and healthier world. Thanks for your good commitment that I've witness along several of your videos.
I think that the first mindset you should work is your own mindset, as a man. I mean you must approach her with this in your mind: I am a man that women want, I am a prize and if she does not see that, well it is her loss. And it is not a big deal that you are nervous, you can be honest and say something like I don't normally hit on girls like this, but I think you are pretty and I wanted to say hy! Not to mention that if she likes you too, she is nervous too.
This approaching issue is more of a number's game. Of course there are girls in this world who consider that approaching in public is creepy, but not all girls are the same. You cannot think this is the absolute truth.
Plastic surgery in da face on 💯
Every girl is like a fingerprint none of them are alike I agree with you
The male voice you use sounds like the demon from evil dead rise 🤣
Ya it does, haha! 😅🤣😂
As a girl I have never actually found it creepy. It’s usually unwanted, but I think most girls know it’s part of life and a lot of girls approach as well. Timing is everything though. Try to be the least disruptive you can to what she is doing. Always leave her an exit, back off if she seems uncomfortable and I would also say don’t approach in her workplace. Even if you work with her, wait for a social. Getting hit on at work is the worst thing and it’s risky for you too. Other than that I think it’s fine, plenty of other men do it why not you.
A lot of girls approach as well? Oh Please that normally doesn't happen
@@nobodysperfect06 have never be approached. Maybe if you’re good looking and appear to have money I guess. Being moral, and honest doesn’t seem to do it. Of course she’ll say the good looking, guys with money have good morals as well.
@@reubination Or maybe not. Women won't see your morals at that first encounter. That'll come later; perhaps during first-date conversation.
@@nobodysperfect06 never happened to me. And never will.
Her "approach" is making herself available to you, like being in close proximity or trying to ask questions about some other unrelated stuff. She hopes you are a mind reader, so when she smiles nicely and asks for directions (as example) you will immediately guess she wants you to put on the moves. It also gives her an easy plausible deniability in case the conversation goes wrong, because she didn't say nothing while you were the one to pop the question.
I like the morphed voice!
If you look at dating like a batting average and you ask out 10 girls and 3 say yes. Your hitting 300, which is pretty damn good.
Also, I’ve asked numerous girls out on the street and had a great conversation and then when it came time for me to ask for the number, they get all scared and weirded out. It’s kind of weird of them.
You probably dodged a bullet.
Simple? - I used my technique, it works like a charm? Woops, I'm late to meat with some one/ Oh, so we continue this topics, can I get your number? And it was so to, not just a dirty gag. Yet it worked / works! Try it, my friend?
it's because they like free attention without giving anything back, the moment you ask for something back, you are labeled as a creep
Me personally , I have problems speaking in public & have real bad stage fright ! But practice makes perfect !
i think its really easy to say "guys are making it complicated" as a women who are never expected to be or have been in that position. That would be like me saying giving birth is not that hard ladies just be cool have good body language be well groomed! like you know what I mean?
she just capping to get money. Why doesn't she go wear a fat suit like lizo and approach good looknig men and see what happens. Point blank if you not attractive no amount of confidence will help you. There has to be some level of attractiveness for cold approach to work for both men and women. The difference is men will give an average alirght girl a chance regardless as long as she doesnt look like lizzo. Women on the other hand unless you got money would not even waste their spit on an average guy. This same girl won't give an average looking dude time of the day. She just spewing garbage.Looking to get simps wallet.
Or, consider what I might say to a random person who happens to come into my office:
Me: “This case is set for trial next Thursday. It’s time to make your big debut.”
Them: “But I don’t know how to try a case.”
Me: “There’s nothing to it. Just get up in front of the jury and be yourself.”
Thanks Julia! Great advice under 10 minutes. I also love your short videos on TH-cam! It’s not so easy to practice but hey, what’s the worst that can happen? Thanks again for your effort!
Julia will privately call you to say thanks
Cause your comment change her life forever
Thank you Julia, for you explaned the approach style, even with an example. Very good one too.
if you get the "I have a boyfriend" response, you may also try this: just say, "oh nice! Well, he's a fortunate man." it makes her feel good, even if it's not true, and you got to end the interaction with a positive, kind statement. you may just walk away from that smiling to yourself! it's nice to be kind.
Even if things do end on a high note and she does give you her number, that doesn’t necessarily mean anything either. Because there’s a strong possibility that she won’t ever answer you if you call/text her and even if she does that, there’s also the strong possibility that she might lose interest and stop talking to you. The truth is you can’t get to overly excited no matter what
I once tried that and she replied… “what makes you think it’s a he?” Then I learned not to approach women unless I had a strong feeling they were conservative.
Yeah, not to mention the fact that the phrase I have a boyfriend can or cannot be real. Maybe, she is testing you to see how you react. By saying Ok, he must be a fortunate men you demonstrate to her you are calm and collected
I like the compliment the video uses. Girls these days get more than enough compliments online and from their friends-to the point they over value themselves often so saying he's a fortunate man, especially when you don't even know her or him is a little strong
@@nsasupporter7557Well, that depends on you to keep her hooked. It is not about you being excited, it is about making her realize you are the one she needs. That way, she will call you .
One of the best questions to ask two girls talking at a bar is whether or not they are sisters. They love it! If they aren't, they'll often say "No, what would make you think that?" and you can just be like "I dunno, I just get this vibe. (come up with X random reason) What are your names?" If they are, their eyes will light up and be like "How'd you know?" and you can proceed by saying something like "I know people. So what brings you guys here?" Women are social creatures..
Great advice practice makes perfect. Confidence Confidence
Hell yea. Much appreciated
The thumbnail alone disqualifies everything in this video.
Its about looks - its not about practice. Yaaawn, lets have some honesty, ladies!
You are wrong. Just use your eyes and look around ugly guys are with hot chicks all the time, take another look, they are not even well dressed quite often. Women look for only 2things - 1st you need to be a fkin man, 2nd- you need to take action.
Cool, I will see her again at curt now.
jokes aside, great vid Julia.
I really like the voices, it's comedy gold
Does the Starbucks question really work when there is Google Maps?
From all the told here, we can briefly say one thing what is most important here.
And that is work on your confidence (it will pay off one day).
Just be open to her, I mean, be cautiously honest? If agirl / women does't appreciate that, drop her? They wan't honesty, but in tht case, they , they are not! Forget about her?! Another girl / women may like your hondesty so much, they even may ask from you, ooh, where were you till now, your just the kind of a guy I like, honest, what is usually dependably & responsible! = You both will become a win / win!
@@alfredbenedek3398 Yes, I agree, cause both sides wants a win / win combination, which is a jackpot.
I can go and talk but those relationships were not that good. I prefer meeting online. Big pool and can narrow down to what you like. You are not dating looks, but character. Hard to guess the character from looking at the person. But it is flattering to women if guys come talk to her. I am sure she will have something to chat with her friends about it.
Step 1: Look good
That whole Starbucks question, followed by interrupting her answer to tell her that you thought she's really cute followed by going for the number or "take it as a compliment" is all beastly Dave's school! :))
I ask girls numbers all the time. It gets easier with time. I don’t even care if I get the number, I’m more excited about just asking 😅 that’s the win for me!
If you have no value as a man it dosnt matter how much practice you do it’s always going to be a rejection or at best short retentions. Get your shit together and you’ll be confidence to get and keep. For many that’s not an option cause it takes works. Welcome to how to be a man good luck. Btw getting your shit together does not mean one thing like money.
You don’t need to look good to be confident, just be confident it’s within
If you look good, you feel good, therefore you’re confident
Thanks jx flr breaking down how easy it really is
Venturing a diamond blade on a tile saw
Thanks julia you the best
2:07 LOL. Yeah, cause women have the courage to do so....
Think about all the responsibilities that come after your successful first date.
Presentation is so important. Leave her some personal space. Don't be in her face and be forceful and arrogant.
You left out the laundrymat. "how do I wash this?". Ask her something about what she is good at. Check her out. Is she wearing scrubs or another type of uniform, then ask her where she works, is she an RN, she replies she's a CNA, "oh, yeah, cardiology?" she replies "no, I am a surgical assistant". You are in. If she's wearing business clothes in an airport, "what do you do?", she says she sells ISP circuits to corporations, I respond " really, I am a Network Engineer". The bottom line, establish a rapport.
Thank you for this wisdom and advice. The piece about approaching with a question and making your intentions clear is super helpful. I definitely aspire to and want to work toward that level of confidence. Thanks again!
You’re tha boss!!!
Don’t say hang out.. say go out on a date, No conversation
Is it okay to approach girls on the street when you are diivorced and have a kid? I have no trouble talking to girls but being recently divorced , i find myself hesitating to talk to girls. I feel they might be disappointed when they find out that I already have a kid
Hey can you make a video wen girls in a group and a boy wanne talk to 1 girl + how to go to a group of girls
It's a hard topic for me. Everything seems to be simple, just follow a few tips, remember a few things, and it still ends in failure. I also see that my friends, but also the rest of the guys lose, even if they look good and have experience. I honestly have never seen a boy walk up on the street or in a public place and get a yes answer. I am fighting, gaining experience and looking for a girlfriend, but so far without success. Recently, I had a situation when I approached a girl on the bus and here we managed to talk and even arrange a date. Exception. Still, it's hard to find someone. I don't have a problem with a boy making the first move, but I wonder why they don't. This should work both ways. Even if the boy likes them, they can still say no. So many people are lonely, even if they are looking for their other half. Sad (I'm speaking in general, not just about myself)...
Hello! Partially you are right. But the whole Point of getting a girlfriend is basically finding a new person. There are a lot of girls în every town and no single girl is similar to another. If you get rejected by one, say ok and turn to the next one. Eventually after 3 or 4 rejections you will meet a girl who will positively answer you.
Not to mention even if you get rejected you will gain her respect as a man for you.I think this is far more important than being a 'nice player'. And you always can ask if she has a friend who might be interested in you
@@kosminsjones9322 I understand you and respect your opinion. I am calm about this and used to defeat. But honestly I never asked a girl if she had any friend who would be interested in me hahaha But that's a good idea :)
IN VERY SHORT, THANK YOU FOR YOUR POINTERS. = I CAN SAY THUS MUCH, YOU DEFINETALLY DO KNOW, WHAT YOUR TALKING ABOUT. =
2:00 most guys can't approach
Thats why they jealous who approach.
So you can approach you are better than who dosen't.
She offering a pill to wake up from the matrix.
Women get mad when you don't approache theme they just want the power just ignore theme your going win at the game trust me.
There is this girl i like from work but she es very very shy , her girfriend which is my teanmate said to me that she thinks im cute , what is the best strategy ??? She works from home almost the entire week , should i go directly to talk to her if i saw her or should i ask her phone number to her friend ??? What u recommend ???
You defenitely need to talk to her in person. You could organize a hang out with your work mates and convince your teammate to ask her friend to come, or you can just find an excuse to talk to her when she isn't working at home (like during a coffe break or sum like that)
Easy...just be handsome. Hotter girl never needs to check
But what if you're not "hot?"
Then get hot. Get your looks on point first if you're cold approaching.
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You can't change the way your face is structured.
@@jerseymatt848But you can change the way you dress, your hair, your body and so on. Stop focusing on things you can't change.
For me, it was what to say if she said no, I would always be afraid of looking like a weirdo with nothing to say.
Also, how do you know if she’s taking or not. A lot of times a girl will just be standing there alone, but she might have a guy who’s not with her at the moment. I don’t wanna get caught, trying to hit on somebody with her boyfriend there or her husband. How do you make sure?
It happened to me a year ago when i traveled to Amsterdam and i was in one of the markets in the city, then i saw a cute dutch girl that were waiting in the line to get her food, i started to talk to her and then her boyfriend appeared but luckily he was a good guy who also shook my hand
@@itay92w that’s my main concern
Usually there's always a guy nearby ready to pounce the minute they see another going anywhere near 'their girl' 😁
@@notenoughholidays absolutely. And that’s my biggest fear.
It's like handling a gun for the first time, always assume it's loaded. Always assume she has a man, whether it's her hubby, boyfriend or phuck buddy almost every girl has at least one of those...
Finally, it takes balls and confidence to talk to a girl approach her, etc. and just because you have two or three seconds of crickets all of a sudden a girl can just dismiss her you and say that guys not confident. That’s just terrible of course is going to be crickets after a certain amount of time you don’t even know the person but you had enough balls to go up to her. This is the problem with their mindset.
I don't have a problem talking to girls. They are usually friendly, and some even give you their number etc. But then, when you want to establish a date or anything similar, if you are not jacked and look very attractive as a guy, you have very small chances.They just like to have someone to waste their time, you know like a chat buddy. I know this cause I was both, looking relatively good and also was in a phase where I was a bit fat and guess what: When I was looking good, all I had to do is just look at a girl or stay within her range and they would stick to me like flies to sh!t, even if I was talking nonsense. Even girls with boyfriends would look at me with interest and some even tried to leave their boyfriend the day they met me. ( No bragging intended) On the other hand, when I was a bit overweight, no amount of talking nice, watching out for my tone, etc. would make a difference. I mean look at your own boyfriend and now imagine him being 20 kg overweight. Just saying, women want to have it all these days, to the point that I am not even trying anymore, cause some things I can't even change, but they expect them as a standard. The best example is: after I started balding, in my 30's, I've lost more than half of the chicks, that would normally like me, just because I don't have a Ken haircut. And recently even some guys that look super dope have some girlfriends that are weird as f, that I personally would not even date. Basically the standards for women just sky rocketed and it's mostly stupid men, who boost their egos by selling themselves short out of desperation of not being alone. Recently I even saw multiple guys, with super dope cars and everything, riding around with some fat chick on the right side and I'm like: That is the level that I have to get to, just to get an ugly chick like that, oh hell no. I know this probably sounds pessimistic to some people, but I am just telling it how it is and what I've personally experienced.
Good advise big sister
But how do you do all this when there’s people standing around close by. I get very shy to talk to somebody when there’s people close and they can hear the conversation. How do you go about doing that?
This is a tutorial on how to approach run-of-the-mill Bimbos (yes with a capital B).
Then how are you supposed to reach out to em or whatever? What message are you and your husband trying to send??
"Practice it! on everyone when you talk to strangers, especially with individuals of the opposite gender. That's what I read in one of those "dating" books.
Present yourself, tell something to them, ask them anything outside of "hard topics", be nice, ...
(1) Pull up in a Lamborghini.
(2) Look like you lift weights 5 hours a day.
"Hi, I'm John. I'm looking for a woman who is worth my time and effort. Are you a responsible adult with values who would be an asset raising a family? No? Okay. Thanks. Nice meeting you. Goodbye."
Yeah, I always have that feeling of self-sabotaging like it's yourself basically cockblocking yourself. And approaching girls I had that feeling that I should wear a nametag that says, "Hi, my name is (insert name here) and I'm not creepy or etc." Still some very cool tips.
Me: "Do you know where the nearest Starbucks is?"
Her: "Have you heard of Google?"
Most girls don't care to talk to guys unless they're attractive tbh.
very nice❤
3:50 Ted Bundy 101
No dating apps!? Well that was a waste of money lol.
I find it impossible to even strike up a conversation with a woman at work, let alone just approaching some random woman on the street. Anyway she will be staring at her phone with the usual 'Fuck Off' demeanor about her. So why bother.
Do NOT approach women you work with unless she has shown some kind of prior interest in you. Reason is that most employers these days have a zero tolerance policy on anything negatively sexual related in the workplace so ALL she would have to do is tell someone she feels uncomfortable around you & your done. Is your career worth it?
@@vinewood8295 thx yep very aware of that, no definitely not worth it
What about if your in line to the movies?
Guys If you want girls to hit on you go to Italy this boss girls will approach you and the best thing you don't have to worry about getting rejected because the girls doing the game dress good look handsome wear good cologne
You look awesome
What's the point listening to these tips if they never work?
call a cap on this one!
the risk of being accused of harassment is much to high to approach women these days.
if you you`re not a triple 6 the risk is even higher.
what about in th gym, how can you approach without being creepy? also the girl Isee every day?
Girl: “I prefer meeting guys in person”.
Guy approaches girl in person.
Girl: “Well, what’s your Instagram” or “you can have my Instagram”
Make this make sense 🤦♂️
I can explain this for you. Basically, when a girl gives you either her Instagram, Discord or Snapchat, it could be one of two situations. The first situation is that she is not comfortable giving out her phone number and she wants to get to know you as a person. The second situation is that she just wants to boost her followers on social media and treats you as a fan. She could also put you in the friend zone. These are just my thoughts.
@@alvinugochukwu2329 I know this already; I’m just pointing out the contradiction in words vs the actions.
@@gerardlead9321 Oh! I see. Never mind, then. 😅
@@alvinugochukwu2329 Followers, Validation and for the guy to drool or stalk their Instagram.
It’s not a contradiction. It’s just we don’t want any guy to approach. We want the right guys to approach. They get phone numbers or a date. Giving a guy social media is a polite way to get out when he’s nice but you’re not feeling it. Or as someone else said if she’s trying for followers or something.
I do like this girl but unfortunately she’s partially wrong. I have asked numerous girls and even told them stories about my approaching, and they think it’s actually odd and creepy that I approach girls at a market or anywhere in public. They prefer to all go on dating apps.
Yeah it has to be natural. Even something simple like you and a girl reaching for the same item can be a natural conversation starter. But the idea that you essentially “sniped” out a girl and went up to her is a little uncalibrated, and can definitely give off creeper vibes. A bar is one thing, but not a store.
@@nickp6498 I agree, Nick. I guess my theory is it friends don’t want to set up each other than there’s no other way to do it.
How often did you approach women at the stores if you don't mind me asking?
@@alvinugochukwu2329 has to be a dozen times . All different places, the market, clothing, store, etc. but I made sure we were talking about something related or an item not just randomly walking right up to them.
I’m telling you guys, work in sales. Women come up to me all the time because they’re interested in what I’m selling. This way you can practice conversation with girls without the shame of having to walk into the battlefield and possibly get rejected. It makes it so much easier when they are the ones going up to you, and you can tease them a little from there and start flirting.
But if you approach a girl whilst being creepy and it works - she’s a keeper. 😂
Yeah I don't think it's a good idea to ask a girl a question you don't actually care to be answered, and I _especially_ don't think it's a good idea to admit that you were making her answer a throwaway question. I would ask something more pertinent to her, like whether she comes to this particular place a lot.
@@Cortesevasive Asking a throwaway question IS beating around the bush.
@@Cortesevasive Lol at "there are no rules" after giving me a laundry list of what to do and what not to do.
Okay if this approach of being craaazy unpredictable woohoo! works for you, more power to you. Let us know about all the women who swooned over all the out of the box things you said.
Dont do that. You have to be patience, play the game it doesnt matter the number. Enjoy
Sorry my english second language
Great video. Quick tip, don’t audio engineer the man’s voice.
Not convinced by the anecdote. Even if so, getting a number is not difficult. What is difficult is having the girl respond later and making it past a first date. Girls give out numbers just because they are too frightened to say no and is no indication of their level of attraction to you.
So you can get a first date, but later she looses interest ?.
Can you tell more, I think I could help you with the basic things.
Pro tip: be handsome.😂 Make sure you make 6 figures, are 6 ft tall and have a 6-pack. If not, enjoy your freedom.
In most cultures around the world that behavior is not acceptable
ok we are living in a time where approaching ladies could actually get a guy in trouble.if the lady thinks the guy looks great usually no problem but if not she will either treat him like a joke or act like the guy is creepy.if its a situation where they will see each other after that in a social setting she might start saying he is stalking her or some nonsense like that hurting his repetation in the eyes of others.this happens all the time.just go to a night club and sit back and watch.u will be suprised how modern ladies act.
Step #1: Be handsome. Otherwise you're automatically "creepy". There is no step #2.
You are wrong. Just use your eyes and look around ugly guys are with hot chicks all the time, take another look, they are not even well dressed quite often. Women look for only 2things - 1st you need to be a fkin man, 2nd- you need to take action.
if the first guy needed help with women, we are all doomed
How to approach wemen: step 1 be handsome, step 2 do not be ugly