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I think this is the first channel I've encountered in which a lady and her partner have learned lessons through life experience, and sincerely want to help others from their own learnings. Her partner's channel is also humble in content, and valuable from a personal development perspective. For the first time in a very, very long time, I'm impressed with the content I'm watching on TH-cam. Her and her partner are very sincere.
Bravo both!
Please continue to create content, I think you're on the right track. 😊👍
I appreciate the advice. If I could give some back it would be that you're attractive naturally and there is no need to inject your lips or any other part of your body. Us men really like natural girls and you have natural beauty. Have a good day.
You're not showing your fake breast. That's new.
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The most Alpha thing you can do is to be yourself. If she likes you good if not it's her loss
This is the most pathetic advice I have ever heard. “Be yourself” is the most trite expression and does no work to solve the problem of you being awkward and a loser
Clearly losers should not be themselves. They should be faking it until they make it. At least that way, they will be trying to turn into what they want. But nope, people like you think they should accept the old cocoon they were born in and make no attempt to break out of it or portray yourself as better. That is what is truly concerning
What do I do if my current self (charisma) is trash?
How do I improve it?
No. You should be the best version of yourself.
@@Makish... this is the best version of that advice
Totally agree I have to think like that for my own sanity
Overthinking is never a good thing. The mindset is: is SHE good enough for me? Will SHE benefit me? Not the other way around
A confident guy NEVER listens or takes dating advice from a woman.
First meet up should be for coffee....Maybe a drink at a bar/patio setting where no food is involved.
After that first meet up, if the woman doesn't text you, message or call you later that day or night you DO NOT initiate the conversation until the following day....And not first thing in the morning. Maybe near noon/lunch time and keep it simple....Hey, just wanted to say i enjoyed spending time with you yesterday/last night and you taking time out of your day to meet up. Let's do it again soon. If she doesn't respond back in text or a call, move on to the next one. Doesn't get simpler than that.
She's dishing out massive volumes of truth that I haven't seen any female dating coach do in a while
She comes off stupid as fuck. She wants men to do everything. What kind of loser man cares about a girl this much?
LMAO!! Keep simping.
Female dating coaches are the worst.
They only show you what women want, not what makes you attractive.
Such a beta thing to say 🤦
@@benjaming.2218 truth is always alpha - never any less
Here a hack to this from a guys point of view: always be chatting up a few girls at the same time (even it’s on a dating app). This will give you a “nothing to lose” mindset. If it doesn’t work out, no big deal! Onto the next girl. This will motivate you to be your honest self and relax.
It's a common problem, even for me, but accepting it and being it helped me get over it. If I'm nervous and anxious, I speak to it and admit that I am. If she's OK with me being that, then she accepts me for who I am. If she isn't OK with me being that, she's not the one. Thanks for sharing the great content!
You're a king, dude. Right on.
Then NO ONE will be the one. If u land a chick, it will be a masculine energy chick that loves to emasculate guys for fun to show off to other women how dominant she is. How she's got u wrapped around her finger. She puts up with ur worse un-improved self, and you're so thankful for that, u feel almost obligated to her 🙄🔥 if a chick accepts your low self like that, she's looking for an ego boost at YOUR expense. Like attracts like man. If ur low u attract low chicks. That never works in the end. You will ALWAYS end up losing feeling worse than you were before you met her.
The creating a future in your head with the chick before the date even happens was spot on
Yes. Getting over invested too soon is a potential pit trap.
It’s common for guys to do that
@@BMuscle desperate guys do that the ones she is on about that they do like just want to go out and fuck her then not see her again
2 hours before the date, go do a 30 minute workout. Eases the stress and makes you feel good.
I wish I did this on the first date I ever had in 2021. In hindsight, I thought of doing this after we hung out. I think it would’ve made a big difference.
Yah but it’s not going to make you look bigger or anything if you think working out one time is ganna make you look swole
@stinkyfish8357 lol, never implied it would. It's meant to deal with stress or anxiety over the date. Get that good feeling over a decent workout. Less stress involved in the date. Works for me at least. A good day at the gym always makes me feel better.
@@wraith9112 a good run could have a similar effect
I'm 40 years old and very guilty of trying too hard of making good first impressions instead of just mellowing out.
Same
A small tip for improving your videos, add chapters. If provides focus and allows for viewers to know what to expect and when it comes to tips like this video offers it allows viewers to come back to your video and practice specific techniques (steps identified in the video).. also structure your videos to keep sponsorships to the end, you will lose attention very quickly when you drop sponsorships in the beginning in the video, limit your ads to the beginning and the end of the video and don't cut to ads in the middle of your videos, people will quickly switch when that happens because it breaks the flow.
What you’ve been saying here is super helpful, I really appreciate it.
It's awesome to see Julia coming into her own. So far I like what she's putting out and how she explains it. Keep it up the great content. It's be cool to see both you and David killing it in the same space.
It's so hard being a guy today cause we have to be extremely careful on what we say but if it's the other way a desirable women get away with saying almost anything & get away with it
No. No you don’t. Just say whatever tf is on your mind. Saying things to try and impress or please her takes away from being your authentic self. Stop caring so much what she will think.
@@dmck_24 lol, and his the tell is it hard to talk to women? You just lack confident and game..
I agree, all of the pressure is on the guy to lead the whole interaction, it can be stressful. In the past I have said things to be flirty or to tease and it came off meaner than intended and she ended up ghosting.
@@dmck_24 practice talking to everyone, cashiers, etc. this way you get practice and get out of your own head so when you see a girl it`s easier. you can learn cues of when to start and end a conversation, good eye contact, etc.
Thanks Julia for the tips! I just asked the girl I've hooked up some days ago the question about where she wants to wake up if she could pick any location. The answer really surprised me. I was expecting her to say like Bali or a hotel near Central Park or whatever, but she blushed and eventually said that she wants to wake up next to me, wherever it may be. It of course fired up the conversation and the whole vibe of the date became more intimate, etc.
Thanks for the advice! I'm definitely going to try this. Probably one of my biggest downfalls is overthinking. I like your loosen up with comedy idea.
Thank you, this is what men need to hear from a woman. I'm older at 54, but I learned this over time. Unfortunately I know that there are some women who are looking for male followers, but this is some good solid advice. About #5, some men try to decide between kiss or no kiss, and out of "respect" choose not too, unless they see a sign, from the woman, showing its ok. Without that sign, they will choose no. I would like to see a video addressed towards women to show a man it's OK, she is ready. That one little act can possibly change the biggest part towards relationships. Providing that women stop chasing after Chads and Tyrones, and start looking at the 95% of good men out there that they ignore completely. You know, the ones that WILL treat a woman right and "respect" them.
They don't want that they love the drama and being treated like trash good men are boring ugly and beneath them because they are a boss bitch who deserves a millionaire playboy with muscles and they are all perfect 10's even when they look like the back end of a horse or fat as fuck themselves
Just be calm, cool, collected while on date with her and she will notice your confidence, plain and simple
Julia crushing it with the multiple camera angles, perfect lighting and of course great advice
Thank you for uploading and always keeping it real. We love and appreciate you Julia 💎❤️
Simp
The real solution (male here) is to get to know as many women as you can. It's a headache, but lots of options is the cure.
Very good advice I think. Your instruction to have some questions ready that are NOT interview questions but designed to create conversation is spot on.
My top question for this is: Tell me of an experience you had that was scary, mysterious, dangerous, weird to the max. This question will generate adrenaline and create conversation.
Have a few whoppers of your own ready to get started. Saw a UFO, saw or was in a wild vehicle crash, supernatural anything, extreme weather events, extreme close calls with danger, about any extraordinary OMG, adrenaline generating moment. This has worked to give energetic life to early dating conversations for me many times.
Needed this. I got a date with a really pretty girl on Monday, so wish me luck guys. Will update this on Monday straight after the date
Good luck brother, you got this!
HOW DID IT GO
Generally if a guy asks me out and I say yes then I want him to be the guy that asked me out. Not someone acting like my husband or someone too afraid to say hi. I just want the exact same guy who asked me out, because I liked him to go on a date with 🙂. As for creating a future in your head, the best thing you can do is create a future in your head that is focused on you. What are you going to do? Where are you going to go? You can talk about it on our date 🙂. There can be a girl in that future but never your date, that’s too much pressure! Just be yourself. And if she doesn’t like you then it’s really her loss and try again with someone else.
This is advice is actually is consistent with what a more confident friend told me whenever I approached with the so-called ''Nice Guy'' approach and ended up empty-handed. His exact words were ''You need to change your approach''. I figured it out soon after.
Thank you. And I absolutely love the background music, pretty entrancing and hypnotic.
What did you figured out?
@@alexbob5209 That being a nice guy and a simp gets you nowhere with women. I didn't know that before.
I don’t think most people realize just how hard it is to find a good woman that you’re attracted to these days.
@Ellie ET That gets old after a while and in the end you’re all alone.
It's much harder these days, but not impossible. Don't give up.
Smile, make eye contact, don't say anything wierd and Most Of All , don't get hung up on one girl . If she doesn't like you , there's more
Some guys are so aggressive they go into a date jealous and wanting to control a woman which is not good. He doesn't own her.
Don’t forget that us men have power too, just because you found someone to go on a date with you doesn’t mean she’s automatically the one , have some standards for her, if still have fun in the moment and just let things move at there own speed.
watching a comedy series is an excellent idea, thanks 🙏
"Does this sound familiar? You're texting this girl you find extremely attractive . . ."
Nope. Can't say I am familiar with that scenario.
As someone that has met 100s of women this is fantastic advice.
Good job Julia 😁😁 I enjoy u and David these days
I wanna focus on my weaknesses in dating because I want to make improvements where I seem to struggle. Maybe I need to keep the conversation going. I feel it’s almost like a job interview to see if you’re qualified. So it seems women interview you and in the next couple months they have to decide whether to move forward. I’m just being myself because I want her to like me for who I am.
What do you mean in a couple of months?
Because she's not feeling it man. She's taking the lead too much. If a woman is into you, you'll KNOW it. Everything runs smooth. Easy mode. I think u need to experience what it FEEEEEELS like when a chick has high interest. Even if it's a not so good looking "big" one. You're just observing behavior is all. Nothing more. Next when you're interacting with a chick YOU are interested in, you can look for similarities and similar feeling inside. Is she responding roughly the same as that other chick was.
If she's into u talking and getting along is VERY easy. If it's like pulling teeth, one word responses, unsure etc she isn't into u man. Don't take it personally. Women's moods always change minute by minute hour by hour. Don't be some emotional entertainer either.. it's not ur job to "fix" whatever mood she's in 🤞🙄 women look for that too. Don't be that "make it better" guy ..
Well, generally speaking Julia, that is so true what you have told.
Also you have to be relaxed as well. Or how it's told: Go with the flow.
And when I said relaxed, I don't literally mean to be relaxed of course. I mean more like having balanced things such as: being serious, and joking as well. Estimate when is the time to use the mentioned things as well.
Also one thing I can ad. And that is that gentleman is always confident persons as well (believe it or not).
I'm always giving support to women, although I'm a gentleman 😉🙂🧐🤓😎.
As a confident guy who has no problems approaching or talking with girls, 6.4 ft Tall , no thanks, i will never ask any woman out.
I will let her ask me out and she would do the sex move, otherwise = goodbye.
I had a former student of mine that was like that, I schooled him and now he's more confident and improves himself.
You have to be ready to lose her if you want to keep her. That's my experience anyway and it's been proven to me over and over again
She hit it spot on w/ the "no expectations" part. I'm NOT a believer in that confidence is the zenith attractor to attract women. If Steve Buscemi was super alpha confident - and not famous - he'd still get rejected 99% of the time...depending on his targets (that's another key factor, is your targets. I hate to use that phrase/mindset, but you know what I mean). But I AM a believer in basically "not caring" (not in the arrogant way), or yes, setting no expectations, which allows you to "be yourself" and therefore come off as "confident". Which, let's face it, humans in general like. And bear in mind, I also don't mean the obnoxious and insufferable type of confidence. Like the guy who needs to show he's so confident that he just talks trash to anyone or runs in traffic, etc. Confidence isn't some magic attractor to women. Humans in general don't like other nervous or anxious humans (though maybe we tolerate it based on who the person is - family, S/O, etc). So it makes sense a woman won't like that either, unless they find a certain type of nervousness cute or quirky. So the trick is to simply not care about the results and just yeah, try to have fun like she said.
Her specific steps, ehh...YMMV. For #1, Instead of comedies, just watch or do whatever loosens your mind up and relaxes you. For #2, being well-presented is important, but make sure it's still "you". Don't wear something outside of your comfort zone (both actual physical comfort and mental comfort), just to come off as something you're not. #3, the icebreaker questions are kinda cringe, but probably work better on the typical generic sorority barhopping chick, sure, if that's what you're targeting (and don't forget to ask yourself "should this be my target?"). But Ms Sheltered Homebody may just be like "uhh, I'm not sure" and the convo goes nowhere. The how's and why's to follow up on the "interview mode" questions are great and need to flow naturally. #4 and #5 are cool, but a first date kiss is definitely YMMV, even if the vibe feels good. But again, probably okay for generic bargoer types you think you want to date.
A wise man, my german teacher during highschool, once told us: "When you want to loosen up for the coming oral final exams, drink one glass of wine. One! Not more, not less." :D
Whole heartedly make use of this tipp every hour or so. :P
I really agree with that relax mood, makes the girl relaxed all the time
Don't go to bars. Do outdoor things where you can walk and talk. One way to stop caring is remember if she doesn't like you another woman will come along who will like you.
That sounds great and everything and it's good advice but it's nothing like being in a small town.
Im at the point now where im like why get dressed up and put cologne on only to have them say " i had a nice time but..." so ive just given up
Don’t go on a “first date” , figure out a quick 30 to 40 minute situation where it’s you and her ( coffee etc) and leave it at that. Setting up a dinner etc. the first time you meet up puts way too much pressure on the situation
And if she’s very attractive, just know you’re not the only one vying for her attention- but you must come off as a guy who doesn’t care what the outcome is, and you must come off as someone who doesn’t have a lot of time , you’re busy, your time TO YOU is valuable , and you’re not gonna waste it just flippantly scheduling a “date” .
Never give her “power” , and always be willing to move on - ALWAYS be willing to forfeit it all - and don’t share any sense of caring what the outcome is
Thank you for providing these important tips appreciated 👍
Discovering if both people are compatible is far more important than a getting second date.
It's just as likely it's not going to work out because the guy decides...NO.
One way to avoid projecting is to stay in the moment. Focus on what's happening right now, right in front of you. Don't let your mind wander off into dreamy eyed babies and picket fences, avoid all distractions where possible. Don't ever take her on a first date where she knows everyone.
I met a woman several years ago at college and she was way too materialistic and when I stopped returning her messages she set my car on fire so I learned never wear flashy jewelry on a first date
Just keep it simple and live a successful lifestyle with your love one. 🤝
Hey Julia, great video, also having Timestamps in the video would be great 🙌
Imagine having an attention span so short that you need time stamps for a 7 minute video. Clearly the advice in this video is meant for people with a mind worth a shit, I’m not sure you have it in you
@@marcusmcgraw3519 timestamps are helpful for revisiting the video too. I revisit some vids where there was particular advice I wanted to hear again, timestamps help navigate to that. No need to put the homie down when he was just giving some valid feedback.
@@marcusmcgraw3519 bro torched him
1:28 how to stop overthinking
If a brother isn’t confident this just makes him feel insecure.
What do mean?
Don't tell her what you feel about her. At least not until she tells you first !!!
First, great video, greetings to David and yourself Julia. :) Always great advice. Thanks Jon
thanks for making this video the last advice I herd was never go for a kiss after 1st date wait till you can save that you love the girl which takes a few dates
Relieve any pressure by being in the moment. Don't even consider "the future." Just expect to have a good time in your moment with your dream date. Enjoy!
damn even the 1st minute of the video helped a lot. Thak you!!
Hey,
Thanks 👍
Exactly, what I needed...
Kissing on a first date is a no-no. For me, it shows desperation and neediness. One should always take their time on the first date. Kissing comes later.
But in terms of the other points, they're all useful and good to know. 😊
having sex&showering is the best anxious relief exist that removes all your neediness before the date and being relaxed is the best thing to do on a date
Take her to do something you like so if she sucks as a date you can at least enjoy your time anyway. Dinners, movies, clubs, etc are terrible choices. I choose to take them fishing on the river in a canoe. If the conversation is dull I just tell her to stop talking because she’s scaring the fish. You can also learn a lot about them out there by how much or little help she offers out on the water. Does she expect you to do everything, does she complain constantly, or does she jump right in and display signs of being a potential partner.
In a hypothetical situation, what would you do if a woman said, "You have to wait 90 days to have sex woth me."? Personally I get it. It's her body her choice. However in a hypothetical situation, I dont want to have to pay full price for her emotional baggage with other men. It almost makes me feel like she doesn't see me as attractive to begin with.
Tell her you can wait and to call you in 90 days. Walk away. Meanwhile get to working other options.
I'm no Chad, but I always went my own way and was never desperate for a woman. I let them introduce themselves to me and had my share. Chasing a woman never worked for me. Trying to impress them is a waste of time. These dating videos are all about the man doing all the work. It's BS
Great video. 3:10...Tricky way of throwing in an advertisement !
I kept wondering when she'd back out, and what excuse that she was going to come out with. I got to the point where I was expecting her to back out of being with me. Paradoxically when I wasn't interested in being with someone I got more interest from women than when I was interested.
True story: back in the day, I dated this girl whom I was really straight to the point and some would say "aggressive" with: I kissed her when I wanted, I said whatever I wanted, was aggressively playful with her, and I didn't give f*ck. In the moment, she may have felt uncomfortable but ran into her again years later and she admitted to me that she didn't know how much she liked it until it was all over. She's dated other men at this point and she said none of them compared to me; she used me as a means to measure other men going forward.
Men, just don't think too much about it. Just be in the moment. And if it doesn't work out, then it doesn't work out, no biggie.
I asked her instagram, but then I found out she rejected my request, and after a few attempts, she blocked me.
what does it mean? Sorry for asking dumb question, I really fall in love with her, I turned blind eyes
Stop approaching women, they don't understand guys and they don't know what they want, the truth of life brother
How about the special person who you’re going out on lunch and or dinner dates who wants to meet you at the specific restaurant ? and never said… pick me up at my house
Your background music on point…I kinda want to write to it haha
when the date is confusing, try a second date. if she agrees, sex or at least a kiss is warranted. if you want to find out during the first date, make a smart move, like inviting her to somewhere that takes more than an hour, if she agrees she's into it, go for the kiss champ! last thing, if you wanna be different, learn how to fail in style, since taking a win is already a piece of cake.
The questions you ask if she decided she doesn't like you it doesn't matter what you try to pull out of your back pocket
We think like that because we not trying to waste our time....
Should you kiss on a first date? I feel like leaning is kinda awkward but also asking is kinda awkward too 🤷🏾♂️
Depends on the situation how the vibes between you 2 are... But you never ask if you may kiss her just let it happen.👌
@@kwintos88 If I'm waiting to happen then it won't happen
Always go for the kiss on the first date. If there are no signs during the date, then go for it at the end. If you don’t go for it, she’s going to assume that you’re not confident, or just want to be friends.
Have high expectations of your dates. She should show up looking her best and with a great attitude. Ready for a great date! Listen for positive language and respectful behaviors. Conversations should flow easily with a valuable woman. Enjoy!
So much insight, love her videos
Even if you ask good questions, women don’t answer well. A lot of them aren’t good company on dates. They’ll put in no effort. I’ve had dates where made with and I’ve slept with women even though the date was boring. Then there were good dates where I didn’t get a kiss. Dating is the worst haha
lol. funny and interesting how that happens.
Yeah, I remember a friend of of mine that was a woman was telling me about how a date she went on was boring. So I asked her what did she do to make it interesting. She had nothing to say. Haha
Women expect the guy to be a one man show for 4 - 5 hours. They just show up. On top of that the guy paid for her dinner. She didn’t even appreciate it.
One thing is risky you touch her leg you touch her arm this is gambling ofr it's in your Advantage or you can get in trouble touching her especially If it's the first date it's really feeling is it possible or not
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Guys be scared of women. Thinking about her more than themselves. Getting out of who they are for a woman. I burp and all that around women. Idgaf. And the prettier she is the easier it is.
Women expect to much from us guys
I told her to her face. I asked if she was married? She said no.
So, the next time i told her..i didn't ask her.
I told her.. that i was going to steal you from here.
!!! She looked around as if I might me a stalker! I assured her i was not.
Nor would I be.!
Guilty as charged. Lost out on best woman I ever met...
Great points impressive work
As a man, and im sure same for women, her level of attractiveness will play out how we interact. Funny how some women you can end up in bed the first night meeting, and others, they will text you later or the next day telling you, had a great time etc your a very nice guy but just dont feel a connection. And its weird because the ones i end up sleeping with are the good looking attractive ones. Maybe the average plain women think im higher status above thier league or something. Im 59
The most Alpha thing you can do is not need anyone else's approval, especially attractive women. In not even sure why this woman is giving advice that is obvious, all men know what she is saying.
00.25 and 1.59.....that's Julia's real voice 😳
“…never do this around woman.”
Great English
says dont over think, weather it's being nervous or reading int o her too much like can she be my wife, have good time & open expectations.
I don't like modern comedy.
add on edge cIothes
says have some back pocket question - where would you want to wake up to make something open and adventurous.
ask like what you do but why or how... make date moving.
move to break touch barrier but put effort.
she goes into her story mode.
I guess SR solves that cause I don’t do that anymore 👑 💪😤
Woman are making it way to difficult that's why we overthink lol
When women overthink, they blame you. They say you made them overthink. When we overthink, they try to use it against us
All you have to do is play their game in reverse. Tell her that she prompted you to overthink by being needy and overly sensitive, that she would 100% do the same thing in reverse and blame me for every bit of it, and that she’s not gonna have her cake and eat it too if she ever wants to see you again. That’ll put her in her fucking place REAL quick
The advice is okay if you are a beta male....if the man is looking for a second and a third date he should be mysterious....so it gets the female thinking about him non stop....it helps to also be a Sigma male.
A young woman who believes she is an expert on male psychology. It some Gooden for a guy is some general advice, but the way to get to a peticular mindset is a bit sketchy. 😅
How dare you want something to work out. You should think it probably won't
Too much work for nothing and headache. Women are never pleased and will be comparing you to other men especially on the first date when she sees other men who may be more confident, wealthy, well-built, and better dressed than you. That is the main competition on the first date and how you pass the first shit tests. That is how she is judging you on the first dates. I rather rent an escort.
When a girl is really into you , youll know. She'll give you that look.. All you have to do is read her mind. No problem. 😐
Don't you think kissing on a first date is a bit too much of a rush. I don't kiss until far later like until I start feeling some sort of an attachment to that person which could be a month or two of being around them at least.
Great words of advise. ❤
Confident men do what they think they should do to achiev3 their goal.