This is human behavior 101. Sorry to say that men that are decent in the eyes of the dating market aren’t experiencing dating trouble. Every neckbeard is a “decent” guy, right? Being “decent” is a fallback term for the guys that can’t figure it out. Like just being nice was ever enough to make it in this world. Lol. You’re supposed to be nice and decent. The world is interested in what you bring beyond the basics.
Here are 4 harsh truths i've learned from MY OWN experience . 1. If you're unattractive - you're creepy no matter how you approach women 2. If you are not hitting the gym , you most likely won't be going on dates with women who do 3. Hygiene matters more than you think ! Shave , trim , shower , keep your haircut fresh , smell nice , dress nice and keep your home as clean as possible 4. Women love playing games , the sooner you let her know you're not interested in participating - the better . Either you win a great woman or you've dodged a bullet.
No 2 I found to be untrue. Having a nice body certainly does make a fair difference and if you're really out of shape, it's going to work against you but having a "dad bod" is perfectly fine. Women are more into men having a "strong mind" than a strong body. No gym at all will turn her off but you don't have to pump it 5 days a week. Women more want you to be healthy than shapely. Its the other way around for men.
Watching this video and just laugh at all the narcissism from this woman. If today's girl wants to be taken seriously, they ought to think less of themselves and stop creating noise for the sake of noise! Single, happy and financially free. Who needs an expensive habit anyway?!?
the less hotter arent necessarily better. Most of them are a handfull either way. It's about leverage and even barely average girls most likely have more than most guys. Your best shot is to have options yourself or at least somewhat believable pretend like you do --> they will treat you better. Told a girl who tried to walk all over me in a situationship that I was seeing another one and cancelled a date with her (the other girl didnt exist). She became much more compromising after that even started looking for comitment (which she denied me earlier). Fight poison with poison I guess...
@@nateo200The very most people are willing to abuse their powers. Some more than others but to some degree everyone. If you are treated like a star you will treat others like a fan. Not even necessarily in relationships: You look on your phone, 2 messages, one from your buddy which you know has always time for you and one from a buddy who is rarely around and it will take a while till you would see him again. To whom will you say yes and with which one will you reschedule?
Mate, not all women are like this. You've just got to find an adult. Unfortunately, a lot of men and women just don't grow up. The behaviours she describes are true of kiddies not adults.
All you have to do is scale up... when you do, you'll attract women at your level. If you attract or fall for modern women, is because of your view, mindset, and energy ... these type of women sense these things. So it's best to have high standards... modern women can't ha dle that ... but they also have an opportunity to change as well.
Absolutely. So many women are just totally toxic. Once you realize how many will not blink an eye and kill their own child in the womb, you understand how evil they can be. It's not sugar and spice...add to it the crazed vindictiveness and ruthlessness, yeah...you're better off single.
Don't put them on a pedestal or put up with their BS. Instead, treat them like they're you're bratty kid sister. Love them when they need it, put them in their place when they deserve it, value their support, but be sure to lead and make the decisions yourself.
I can confirm this is true. When I treated them like younger siblings, somehow they would always draw near to me. But the ones I put on a pedestal always move away from me.
Turning 30 next week. I’ve reframed my mindset and now I embrace rejection. Either she’s honest in her rejection and she just isn’t a good fit, or she’s dishonest (flakes, no shows, lies about meeting up, catfishing, etc) and shows that she’s beneath me anyways More time to spend on making myself better, or spending on my career, hobbies, fitness, friends, and family. Men: demand better
I did the same thing but in my late twenties. Worked on myself, advanced in my career which I love and worked out 5x a week at the health club. Also golfed a lot. Just recently got back into dating. It’s hasn’t been too bad haven’t been flaked on yet lol. But yeah I’ve definitely witnessed my fair share of rejection as well, it’s just part of life my dude. Ain’t going to click with everyone you meet. I’m 32 now. Just embrace good connection and go into things without any expectations. Biggest thing at 30 is most men just stop caring what people think entirely. Make your own decisions and stick by them.
@@Jorgejimenez-xc8sp Unique? No. Just most have insanely high standards and don’t understand give and take. Men need to be providers and protectors. Women need to be beautiful and nurturing.
@@brooklynbud1138 that’s true my dude. Most girls I have dated in the past year have not offered a lot in regards to what you mention. They want the world but don’t want to reciprocate that in any way. For example I own a house and it becomes very easy to tell when a women is using me to try to get out of let’s say her parents place. Fact is men need to always look for their self interest and protect their assets. Some not all Women are out to get a man’s assets.
Same i just turned 31 last month and my life feels so peaceful not texting girls or trying to chase them all the time for to get laid or find a relationship, shit was stressful as hell and now i dont even care anymore just focusing on my life and the gym
And this is why most men like myself & my friends don't date no more, who needs the headache & drama of babysitting a grown woman? Men need peace, which is why we now go it alone, so much easier.
To be completely blunt and honest, you just described how little children behave and react towards their parents. So logically, the answer to dating and women in general is to treat and respond to them the same way a mature adult would discipline and respond to an immature child.
Never EVER be just 'friends' with any single women you're attracted to. That's what members of the same sex are for. In the back of your mind, you'll always be wondering or contemplating taking things further, only to become angry and resentful when she finds someone other than you. You'll be wondering why you weren't picked and someone else was. Just ask her straight out:- do you want to hang out and see where things lead? If she says no, thank her for her candacy, and keep moving. Don't be embarrassed. You simply had to know. You had to have certainty and closure. Everyone gets knock backs. It's nothing to be ashamed of, and isn't something only YOU experience. Just short cut away from mind games, useless signals, etc and get an answer so you can adjust accordingly. But DON'T have them as friends. They can't give you anything of value.
@@Anthony-vm1wb There are exceptions of course:- women you're related to, women who are the wives of friends, women who are too old for you, or women you just aren't attracted to for whatever reason , maybe they're a lesbian, or look like one, so yeah, you can be friends. But other than that, just avoid.
Nope. Having at least one highly attractive female friend is the ultimate cheat code for getting with many other highly attractive women. If you don't know why that is I feel bad for y'all.
Exactly. There is no rational logic in constant testing, searching for boundaries, trying to break something that works - the behaviour will instead be interpreted as an unresolved childhood or bad past relationship trauma. A strong independent adult shouldn't act like that. If there is an issue, work it out. And ultimately if a person is not happy in a relationship or does not trust the other person, and there is nothing to work with, end it.
That’s your problem right there. You view women as “independent” adults. For the most part they are not. Adults ? To a certain degree yeah. Independent ? For most of them not in the slightest! If you ever become a father, observe how your child as it develops along the way, will test you from time to time to try and find out what its boundaries are and where it stands in the family hierarchy and generally in life. Grown women basically do the exact same thing. Some more so, some less so. You cannot stop it from happening completely as that is just the way they are wired. In other words wishing and thinking it shouldn’t be so is the wrong way to go about it. The only choice and therefore question that remains is how YOU AS THE MAN responds to these tests. It all starts and ends with men. Remember it is our kind that was the first born. Eve was created to be Adams help mate and not the other way around. There is a natural order, a hierarchy for everything in life.
@@jermaineayivoh8263 "...observe how your child as it develops along the way, will test you...Grown women basically do the exact same thing" - You just described a narcissist which IS a forever non-adult , a toddler inside an aging body. A narcissist can be anyone regardless of age/gender/geography etc and provides dysfunctional relations only.
tip for relationships - girls will tell you their problems to just vent. they dont want you to actually solve them they just want you to listen or pretend to listen and pretend to care. Men will try to solve the problem and start going over the steps to fix it and then the girl will just get mad over it and the guy will be annoyed/mad that she is "asking for advice" and not be willing to receive it. But this is because they are emotional communicators. Men dont do this. Men dont tell another guy issues their car is having and expect the other guy to just tell them how they understand it must be tough but keep their head up it will get better. No men expect the other guy to brain storm with them what it might be and how to fix it.
When a woman 'tests' you with a hypothetical, ask her why she's picking a fight. It bounces her intention right back to her... Stay strong, brothers...
If your the nice guy, you run the risk of being walked over by everyone. But then again, being a nice guy shows you genuine people who are worth surrounding yourself with, who is trust worthy.
@@brooklynbud1138 very closely related, but I take your point, and this is what your saying. From first impressions the nice guy and good guy are the same. The good guy is willing to walk away when he/she is being taken for granted as the nice guy carries on getting trodden on. The hard part is defining which straw has broken the camels back! If I put myself on the observer side, both look similar and also the con artiste can deliberately show the same traits. The con artiste tends to be suave and sophisticated in the look of good/nice guy and is more likely to catch us all unawares and thus creating a bad name for the "nice guy" but perfectly understandable (painting people with the same brush is a defence mechanism afterall)
Yes. Girls are like that. All true. its taken me over 40 years to finally get it. Be stern but don't be a dick. Be direct but don't be disrespectful. Be confident but don't be arrogant. I've failed in relationships on numerous occasions and could never figure out why? I always treated them nice...too nice. I would rather walk away from all of that than be hanging on to hope in the friendzone with women. Friendzone is for simps, chumps, and desperados. Not for me, nor should it be for you.
My dating life is basically nonexistent because of my expectations and boundaries. I prefer to keep looking for women who are true Christians instead of just saying they are, non promiscuous, faithful, not a drunken partier, kind, loyal, and mature enough time be a wife and mother. These boundaries right here automatically disqualify like 99% of women today, but I won’t compromise my Beliefs to be with a woman even if it means loneliness and singleness. I had a lot of women walk away from me or even shame me for this, but they respected me for not compromising on my Beliefs.
I get exactly what you mean except the whole religion aspect which is irrelevant for me, but unfortunately you only have 2 options and of course you will have to learn to compromise or exchange one thing for another for me it's youthfulness, loyalty fertile and Submissive in bedroom. Where can I get that? From a 17-20 chick that I can mold to my wants and needs, after that like you said too far gone and promiscuity elavate. Your 2 options are younger and moldeable or overseas in a more Traditional country where women don't have the financially independence they have here so they depend on a Man. That's the only way if not you will be alone forever.
@@calumbest5570 I hear you. Even though I desire to be married one day, If God wants me to be married one day it will happen if not then I can say I lived a meaningful and fulfilling life. All I can do is have faith, work on myself, and fulfill my purpose in the meantime.
As you are now, so I was. I got used to being alone and reveled in it! Then one day I met a good Christian woman who actually lived the Bible and had a sense of morality. I married her and am still married over 44 years later.
@@johnjohnjman The Lord always provides for His people as long as we fully trust in Him and have faith. Otherwise we limit God’s power to bless us and help us in our lives with doubt and fear. Praying to God for a wife of godly character is a good gift from God Himself. “Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.” James 1:17
A girl decides within 30-seconds of meeting you if she will ever sleep with you. It is normal for a woman to be evil and insane. A man who is in the friend zone thinking he will some day be promoted to something better by "being there for her" is acting insane. It is NOT normal for a man to be an insane weak beta simp; stop doing it fellas show some respect for yourself.
And if, and I mean if, he is ever promoted, it is because she was rejected by the ones she truly thought she wanted to be with, and you are in for a hard road, because you are simply looked at as an also ran, and her contempt for you will do nothing but grow from then forward. You'll be a reminded to her, in her mind, that she had to settle.
and this is why we are at a point in history why there are so many single women into their 40s ... guys have learned these things and simply aren't willing nor want to deal with this nonsense anymore
This signifies how exhausting relationships with most women are for men. I used to be driving silently and my girl would randomly turn to me and ask "what are you thinking of right now!" (always trying to peer deeply into my psyche). It wasn't as if I wasn't communicative. She always wanted to know my every thought then intrusively judge them.
I had a girl keep doing this every night when trying to go to sleep. Got to the point where I had a list of fake things ready to go. Bc she didn’t believe me when I’d say “nothing, I’m zone out to fall asleep.” We lasted 2 months.
The problem is right here, Cluster B disorders are marked by inappropriate, volatile emotionality and often unpredictable behavior. The disorders in Cluster B are antisocial personality disorder, borderline personality disorder, histrionic personality disorder, and narcissistic personality disorder. This is where they have evolved DUE to social media. AKA. I'm truly special and YOU OWE ME, That's the nut men are trying to crack. So it's known by men now. So men have tapped out, or became pipe them not wife them.
You hit the nail on the head. The problem is there are a bunch of cluster b personality problem children out there. Social media does not teach you in any way how to communicate, it only increases immature, anti social behavior. Heck, we even elected someone to the presidency with severe narcisstic personality do in 2016. Look at his behavior. Personally, I decided not to play the games any more. It’s exhausting and demeaning. What’s sad is the number of men and women who haven’t worked through their issues. It’s hard work, but needs to be done if there is any chance of a healthy relationship. And if I am to have a relationship, it has to be a healthy one. As a therapist once said, “you can’t expect a healthy person to be in a relationship with you if you’re unhealthy. Why would they want to.”
FEELING USED I had a date with a woman early of 2022. We were talking for about two weeks on a free dating website before the date. She and I thought it was going well. She even said that she feels really good about this, and I did too. So, we made a date to go out for dinner. We met at the restaurant, and everything was great, and it seemed like we were talking more than we were eating. I was thinking it might be a future relationship. When the dinner check came, she just stared at me and didn’t offer to pay half or even anything at all. After dinner, she abruptly left, and I felt used as if she was doing this for a free meal. If a Woman dates 6 different Guys in two weeks just for dinner, that’s 6 meals that she doesn’t have to pay for if she does it this way. See what I’m getting at?
@@nokia3210fuck I was a gentleman (always am - the Women are the ones to call the shots, not me). That's my side of the story (that's the way I saw it). I really don’t mind paying if I ask, but I saw right through her after seeing her back on that website as a “new” member with no friends.
If you want a relationship, FIRST, know what you want. If what you want is disproportionately superficial then it’s not going end well. It’s ok to want attractive but if you don’t also seek out the mental, emotional, and healthy then eventually you will be disappointed and / or hurt. So, take your time and don’t rush. Make sure that who and what comprises a partner meets what you want from a relationship. You will likely have to say no to many people before you find the one that is right for you. Oh, it’s ok to enjoy a person even if they aren’t the one but the longer you continue going down a relationship path the higher the potential emotional outburst at the moment you decide to discontinue the pursuit of something long term. This is why you need to know what you want before you start - so you can expeditiously look deeper.
Concerning No.1, no, it is the men who fall in love, get romantic, and so on, not the women. the women just leave the men. They even leave a man and they don't even tell him! They are heartless in this way.
Thank you for pointing out these four truths and giving us the explanations behind them. As you alluded to in the first truth, Women Make Emotional Decisions, these truths are hard for men to comprehend simply by their illogical nature. Some men understand these truths--and women's nature--instinctually and, if so, women are not that hard to figure out. But for those men that don't understand these truths, women's nature is (as Winston Churchill said about Russia) a Riddle wrapped in a Mystery inside an Enigma. Women's tests (Truth #3) are especially difficult because they can be so varied, so unexpected, and delivered so abruptly.
If the woman is not meeting your expectations gentleman please by all means let that woman go, because you're not getting nowhere. There are plenty of single women out there just be patient and don't put up with no crap.
My dudes. Do yourself a favor. If you have a female friend that you like and she hasn’t dated you in 6 months or more. Change your mind and go ahead and use her to get more girls yourself. Take her to the club or bars or out in general and use her as a wing woman to hit on other women. She will do one of two things. She will decide she wants you or she will help you find a new woman. Just by being with you when you’re out.
FEELING USED I had a date with a woman early of 2022. We were talking for about two weeks on a free dating website before the date. She and I thought it was going well. She even said that she feels really good about this, and I did too. So, we made a date to go out for dinner. We met at the restaurant, and everything was great, and it seemed like we were talking more than we were eating. I was thinking it might be a future relationship. When the dinner check came, she just stared at me and didn’t offer to pay half or even anything at all. After dinner, she abruptly left, and I felt used as if she was doing this for a free meal. I really don’t mind paying if I ask, but I saw right through her after seeing her back on that website as a “new” member with no friends. If a Woman dates 6 different Guys in two weeks just for dinner, that’s 6 meals that she doesn’t have to pay for if she does it this way. See what I’m getting at?
Your biggest mistake is to take any woman on a dinner on a first date. That is a huge red flag that the woman is using you to get a free meal. Just invite for a coffee or a visit to a museum or art gallery. Not saying you shouldn't invite a woman to a dinner, sure, after you both establish a relationship, go ahead and enjoy each others conversation. On any first date, always pay attention to the conversation, this is key to assess if you wish to commit to a future relationship. If she talks bad about her previous boyfriends, walk away. You don't need a drama queen in your life.
@@laurencechen1111 I think the technical term for those is "priming dates." They're screening tools for possible "seduction dates," which are the ones that could include dinner or something costlier.
your mistake is feeding any woman at any time...if you do, the last time you saw her is with the least poundage she will have while in your world of experience...
Never do a first meeting date spending anything more than a large coke beverage. Assess her of that to determine if she's worth a date. If she mentions anything about friends cut her off or be her friend while looking for a gf with and understanding that it's 50 50 while being friends.
Something else to point out about shit testing, on a positive note, is, if she's testing you, it's because she's interested. She's not going to test you if she's not interested. It also gives you an opportunity to allay her doubts or concerns and to prove your superiority over other men to her. So take her testing as a W. And knowing how to pass the tests gives you an advantage. And remember, she _wants_ you to pass her tests. If she didn't, she wouldn't be testing you, she'd just kick you to the curb. And here's another thing - you can piss and moan and pitch a fit about it and end up on the curb because it's not going to change no matter how much you cry about it, or you can suck it up, man up, and pass her tests.
@@wavesbnice1 Yes, and? If you are going to get involved with someone who could literally kill you, you're going to just blindly trust your judgement to blindly trust them not to without trying to ascertain you can trust them not to? That's the whole male-female dynamic - women seek safety and someone they can trust to provide that. So yes, anyone should question their judgment in allowing someone to be that for them. And her ex is an ex for a reason. Don't you think it would be wise to make sure you aren't repeating that mistake? Let's put some current context on that for illustration. Consider the "me too" thing that women are weaponizing that against men unjustly. Are you going to blindly trust a women to not "me too" you? Do you think you might like to shit test her to ascertain if you can trust her in that way?
I would also add that you will get this in the more-traditional Asian countries as well. Agree it indicates interest, and it also might indicate previous heartbreak and fears of that repeating. As long as they're doing that sparingly. It's long been a truism with women that seemingly unrelated issues can get twisted into questions of whether you love them or not.
The key is being self sufficient. I make the bread so I say where it is spent and what it is spent on. Every transaction goes through me. That’s usually the first line. And it’s always my house. Once those two things are settled the relationship either works out or the girl isn’t about the boundaries. Regardless of how hot a women may be never not follow your boundaries
Women want strength in a man, so testing weeds out the ones who will fall apart easily, and a man who sets boundaries and insists that the respect he gives a woman be returned will never have a woman walk all over him. I learned the hard way but I know guys my age who still haven't caught on.
All very very valid points. Some of which I learnt the hard way especially setting boundaries, cos of want the relationship to work so badly, cos years invested. I must add the goal post have shifted in the last decade. With the rise and popularity of social media, came the rise if narcissim to levels u wouldn't be able to fathom. Set those boundaries and don't be ashamed to work away, once u feel they are being violated. Its not worth the pain and trauma in the end. U don't owe anyone anything. Not ur job to make someone else happy in life.
Julia, good job on coming up in your own videos and making meaningful content. I think there are things that are better said from women than men and vice versa which makes the tag team with you and your husband incredibly helpful to my growth in understanding the role of men and what my partner needs from me in my relationship. I want to congratulate all you’ve both accomplished and keep expanding.
The problem with these videos is, guys learn these way too late in the game. Why? Because when you are young, you don’t believe the people giving this advice. I’m 50. I know what I’m talking about
I can speak to 3 from experience with women that I am related to. There is always endless tests and scenarios that they will run you through to make sure that you "act the correct way" or "Do the right thing." Through out most of my life these test and scenarios never happen. They are just paranoia or insecurities that she has in her head. Never been able to comfort them out of it.
Nothing new for me, been rejected numerous times (more than 100) to due a potential partner over-expecting things, being impatient, not clarifying what they want, and putting too much on the past (I get it), and I grew up in a female dominated household (only son with 4 older sisters and a mother) and I'm closing in on being 30. A lot of things my family didn't tell me that I had to learn on my own, but knowing it's modern times, with technology, flaking on dates, and high standards. P.S. good luck 🫡 to the divorce rate, when coming to a room and sign legal papers to divorce (I've heard a lot have divorced), and praise the single life. Like marriage (for some, in opinion) it's almost like a chore, including treating it like luxury (marriage and relationships)
Why the f* you need to date? Tell me. Do you know anything about divorce laws. I suggest you visit any lawyer about. Ask him about divorces. Or better yet, ask divorced man about. They know everything.
All the tips you've listed are true to the core. I came to the realization that women who deliberately test men are very insecure, I have no time for mind games because life is way too short, hence, those types of women are not worth my time. The moment I did that, I found the woman of my dreams who doesn't test me or do any of the aforementioned things you've listed. She appreciates me for who I am and I appreciate her for who she is, as it should be. Anyway, you provide very good content. You just earned a new subscriber! 😎
A big problem is that a woman will decide you are the guy she needs to be with - and that is temporary - she eventually finds a new guy that she needs to be with.
The other reason guys don't set boundaries is that it requires them to maintain the line themselves, which requires hard work, which requires commitment.
The concept of the weaker nice guy getting the girl after years of rejection (and while she hops from dude to dude). Is one of three themes for Hallmark shows.
That they're emotionally stunted, manipulative, self serving an (have 0 partner loyalty). Never co habitat with a women, will end in you being devalued by the love bombing siren.
This shit is so real. I was married for 20 years. And now I'm back single. My marriage was all about simple open communication, a fair degree of equality, love, kindness, respect. etc. And man, have I had a lot to learn now that I've started dating again. It's just endless games. Being who I was when I was married has led me to being walked all over. Being kind, decent, accommodating - huge mistakes. The point is to be strong, powerful, and to take no shit. I've made the mistake of believing that a girl means the words that come out her mouth. But so much of it is just a test of my power - of my resolve. It's a beautiful thing to fall for a woman. But the beautiful ones in particular will use your devotion to crush you. It's utterly dysfunctional. And this stupid liberal decadent world is partly to blame. But this is the way it is. To you younger men out there: don't ever forget that nice guys finish last. And the point is not to be a monster. Never give up your values. But know what you are in for. And know who you have to be.
Nah treat her like sht, hit up other women, and they want you more. Reassure her, she gets bored, it's not all insecure emotions and rollercoasters and she leaves.
I was married for 32 years before my wife died. After a year, I tried dating again, and learned all these truths about women the hard way. I think I'm going to stay single. The juice is not worth the squeeze.
The one aspect of women that I learned too late is that they're all toxic, vindictive and cruel, but at least I'm glad that none of them actually want a decent man in their lives.
We failed young men and raised them completely wrong for almost 2 full generations. Young men need to be taught the truth of how dating and the real world actually work, not the progressive fairy tale. The reality is very harsh for young men and they need to be ready for that. They need to know they won’t have any value in society until they earn it, no one is going to care about their struggles or feelings, and women won’t respect you or be attracted to you if you can’t out compete other men. This lie of “just embrace your femininity and be a nice guy things will be fine” is what caused the rise of things like mgtow and incels. It’s a symptom of reality smacking these men in the face being completely different than the world view they were sold which causes resentment.
And Women say men are immature. I ended it with a woman I was dating last November because she kept shit testing me. I ain’t got time for the games or test, whatever you want to call them.
Rule 0: never give a woman anything of value for free. Ex. inviting a woman on an expensive first date is a road to defeat. If you are just an average guy, you fund her a free meal in a fancy restaurant, if you are Chad (or Tyrone) - you can easily omit this stage and go straight to the bedroom. Testing (called sh*t-testing) has a drawback for a woman and actually works for a high value man. A woman can easily loose interest from such a man after several stupid tests, a man can easily get rid of a girl, that essentially annoys him. A high value man has stiff boundaries, that he never compromises in any circumstances. I understand, that if woman makes a man to leave his frame, she feels some kind of satisfaction and subconsciously looses the interest towards the man. From the other side, a man that is totally immune to what his crotch says to his head is simultaneously a high value male (if he is good-looking - we call him a sigma) and almost immune to manipulation by a woman. Men are very simple creatures, the only thing, that can pull them down is inability to control their sex drive. If a man can control it - he won everything in this life. And probably won even the life after life too.
I’m 42, and left my abusive wife. No kids. I would like to date someone who is 32-36, but they don’t even have me in their bumble or tinder filters because I’m 42 and 5’8”. My ex wife looked like a porn star but she was just too abusive chasing me with knives and hitting me in the head with candlesticks so I had to leave. For 15 years I thought I was like really hot shit but no other hot girls even look at me. I have no idea what to do
Just noticed there’s a guy who is 30 and putting these rules into play. He is very lucky as I was closer to 40 when I got most of this information from TH-cam. Nobody tells you this crap but it’s very real. Only thing I ever heard was, “You’re too honest or too nice.” Of course I ignored this because you really can’t be either of those things; I believed men and women were really the same. Yes I believed the movies where men won the girls over until I saw a few videos around 10 years ago. Yeah it wasn’t my imagination when my date didn’t seem interested from the beginning (free meal). But absolutely the toughest pill to swallow was the video that spelled out emotions over logic. I ferociously defended my belief that all women’s behavior could be explained with logic. Honestly I nearly drove myself to insanity (or did I get there). When I saw that video about how girls live their love lives like movies and don’t want to know how it ends, I literally wanted to jump off a cliff! To this day I’m still not great at “shit tests.” So I keep watching the videos!
Truths about guys that women need to learn 1. Men are human beings too 2. Not all men need sex 3. Men have feelings too 4. Men are not your personal ATM cards 5. Men need respect too
Well it is true there. Movies and real life, are one big difference. Important thing is not to lose yourself if we realize if there is a bad relationship (that goes for men, and women). These are major truth that someone should of told us way before. One of my professors from faculty told one thing: It's easy to be a general after a battle. Let's see you in the role of generals during the battle and you make some crucial and most important decisions to solve those dilemmas and problems."
Do not voice all your boundaries, or they will be manipulated. When one or more of your invisible boundaries are crossed, you know her true values, and you end the relationship. No negotiation.
It's a universal fact that feminism has taught women that any boundaries set by a man equals a man trying to control her. It is a toxic belief that has destroyed countless relationships.
Apart from the fourth point (which later falls in the "women testing men" nonetheless, lol), these "harsh truths" are just the foundation of a horrible, toxic relationship. And as I see from the media, this is the most common kind of "romantic" relationship people have. Why would you care about a person that doesn't reason, takes advantage of your emotions, tests you endlessly and then behave like it's just normal 'cause "women do it". No, to all the people (guys, girls, non binary, don't care) who are struggling finding a relationship: stop seeing love and relationships as a trade. Stop living in this capitalistic state of mind in which you have to make yourself "lovable". "I have to go to the gym, to train, to change my look, use makeup"... no you don't! Be yourself! Do what you want. You know what's the best way to find love? Find some hobbies and surround yourself of people that like what YOU like. And here it is, you'll automatically find someone with common interests, probably similar background and that most surely will like you for who you are and not for who you became to be "likeble". Especially if you are a man, don't live love as you are the one that you have to "give". You deserve to receive, too. But if you go on with this mentality of changing your look and behaviour to put yourself into the "love market"... Geez, it makes me sad even thinking about it! I mean, it's a good thing to change to become a better version of yourself, but that change has to become from YOUR needs, not from the need to "offer" a better product. Love is not a trade. If you start a relationship from that perspective, you'll probably fail. Maybe you'll find someone, but do you really love them? Or do you love the fact you found someone? And do they love you? Or do they love the image you created for the "market"? I don't say that everything I wrote is gold, but... I've been in a happy relationship for nine years, so... maybe think about it. Peace.
I've known #1 since I was a kid growin up with 3 sisters lmao. & "...it can seem really irrational" - There is ONLY ration&logic, OR emotion. Girls making decisions from emotions is quite literally the definition of irrational. On #3: there's no probably about it. You DEFINITELY shouldn't do this. Sit tf down with your thoughts and get past the emotion driven 💩 actually think on those thoughts - then come sit down and TALK to us. Not at us. & a couple boundaries that are really making a comeback: Don't go running your mouth starting 💩 then expect the guy to jump in to defend you.. it's a fight you started. Don't be in a relationship running around with booty shorts that only half cover the butt and a top that just barely covers the top. It's advertisement that you're single.. and again don't be expecting the guy to leap to your defense - you started whatever comes. Many women, even the hardcore feminzais - want a guy that will protect them, even if they try to deny it because they're super strongz independentz womenz.. It's a biological matter. Thing is guys who are actually willing to be that protector - don't want the girl going and jumping in an arena she knows jack 💩 about & starting fights. Of course everytime I say "you" in this - its "the girl", not YOU lol
Women in general are hard to understand. I've been single 30 years encounting. I"ve never once been in a relationship, i've never once taken a woman on a date. i've basically given up on trying. yes i have tried and all I get from women when I try to ask them out, they tell me i'm ugly AF and not attractive enough to date them, so dating this day and age in my opinion is simply not worth it.
Don’t worry bro, we don’t need them anyway. They do need us however and I’ve heard magic happens whenever they turn 35+. Suddenly they are far more open to the variety of options😂 But even then, **** them.
I don't want to understand where they're coming from I've been through that energy draining second guessing their emotions stuff before. Life is less complicated and easier when you're single IMHO.
Women string men along that’s their stick. Guys don’t, I’ve known several guy friends if mine that have let women go because she wants more than he wants and let’s her go, women unfortunately are heartless in this area , sorry but it’s the truth , I’m not a woman hater and I have two loving daughters but women are heartless in this area and it’s soooo wrong
If women would learn one thing about men, it is to stop dropping subtle hints and then get upset when we don't pick up on them. Come out and say what you want. We men are not mind readers. If all women would understand this, world peace would break out.
I have watched your videos for a while, and it seems to me that you’re specifically talking about emotionally unhealthy women. A healthy woman will not take advantage of a weak man and will not test him endlessly as you say. When she realises that he’s got no boundaries and he’s unable to stand up for himself she will simply walk away. Women that do these things are the ones who probably have some kind of personality disorder (like narcissists or psychopaths). So in this regard your video is a bit misleading. Healthy women DO NOT have these characteristics.
She speaks the truth, guys. Women hate weak men. Test you. However, as a woman, do not do a stupid test on a guy who is very confident and has higher goals in life. These guys will have no problem leaving you instantly. To give you an example. Her: "I am not so sure about us. Maybe it's better to break up." Him: Ok then, bye," leaving her, without entering into any discussion. (That's, of course, not the reaction she expected). Result: You will never get him back. That's a done deal. Cause strong guys will not tolerate such a test. They have too much self-respect, and they do not prioritize you. I always warn them from the beginning. Do not play games, or I will walk away. Some women still try. Then I reply, "Remember what I told you in the beginning, when we started to date?" Them: "No, no, no, pls No, crying their eyes out while I leave and block them forever. Like I said, ladies, be very careful with strong, successful guys, crossing their boundaries, playing games, or doing stupid shit tests.
Great info! Thanks! You have a good insight into men and women. I feel some people out here want to hear this additionally: 1) everyone makes decisions on emotions - even the “logical” decisions are for the purpose of satisfying an emotion. *All* decisions are made by emotions. 2) Men also pray on weak women. No different. 3) Men also test women. Even constantly. 4) “Women need boundaries,” well, no, they don’t :) a girl who doesn’t make responsible decisions is on the same level as a man who doesn’t make responsible decisions. I still like the video…it’s great…ty for making it:)
“Number 3: women always test men…” Then she goes on to say “we probably shouldn’t do this…” Ummm, no. You should NOT do this. No “probably” here, chick.
"Women will test you, and thats something you need to be aware of". No. That's something, they need to be aware of. A quality man, the kind, women want to be with, will not tolerate this. A dumb test is an insult to him, and he will give a stern warning, and if this happens a second time, ditch her on the spot. This is a tip for women. The tip for men is "become the sort of man, who is competent, reliable and strong, who doesnt need to be tested".
Most of this is certainly true but there are exceptions. One of the more powerful things that I stated doing in my later years was making sure that I had options. In my 20s I was a one woman man and I was proud of being so loyal. Then I started adding on other women even if my label was friend. This always pissed my actual girlfriends off. I eventually found out why. Many of these women that friend a man will indeed end up doing something with him. The friend is around when the woman is in need. Perfect right? Yep it happened to me. The friend might also be there when a woman wants to cut loose. How about being around when she is pissed at her actual boyfriend or breaks up? So my point is being in the right place at the right time can lead to a score. So if you are in the friendzone, have other women or an actual girlfriend. Play your cards right and you can certainly get lucky.
These are the reasons why so many women are single. Decent men are tired of their games.
Underrated truth bomb
And the passport movement gets bigger.
This is human behavior 101. Sorry to say that men that are decent in the eyes of the dating market aren’t experiencing dating trouble. Every neckbeard is a “decent” guy, right? Being “decent” is a fallback term for the guys that can’t figure it out. Like just being nice was ever enough to make it in this world. Lol. You’re supposed to be nice and decent. The world is interested in what you bring beyond the basics.
Yep, and in the end, they end up alone for it. I feel no sympathy for them.
Right
Here are 4 harsh truths i've learned from MY OWN experience .
1. If you're unattractive - you're creepy no matter how you approach women
2. If you are not hitting the gym , you most likely won't be going on dates with women who do
3. Hygiene matters more than you think ! Shave , trim , shower , keep your haircut fresh , smell nice , dress nice and keep your home as clean as possible
4. Women love playing games , the sooner you let her know you're not interested in participating - the better . Either you win a great woman or you've dodged a bullet.
Yes, you are right, good advice. 😁
No 2 I found to be untrue. Having a nice body certainly does make a fair difference and if you're really out of shape, it's going to work against you but having a "dad bod" is perfectly fine. Women are more into men having a "strong mind" than a strong body.
No gym at all will turn her off but you don't have to pump it 5 days a week. Women more want you to be healthy than shapely. Its the other way around for men.
I can agree with that.
Facts
100% agreed. Especially #4. I hate shit tests girls play with guys and I don't put up with that shit. That gets shut down.
1. Women make decisions based on their emotions
2. Women take advantage of weak men
3. Women will test men endlessly
4. Women need boundaries
Exactly. This is my experience with women. It's like they become a totally different person when they are emotional and don't even realize it.
Watching this video and just laugh at all the narcissism from this woman. If today's girl wants to be taken seriously, they ought to think less of themselves and stop creating noise for the sake of noise! Single, happy and financially free. Who needs an expensive habit anyway?!?
1) women are stupid
2) women assume theyre the man
3) even mike tysons wife tried
4) treat em like the dogs they are
Absolutely correct. TY for being so honest.
kids they are kids looool
Male translation: Date a hot girl, odds are you'll be managing the emotional maturity of a 3 year old. Treat accordingly.
I love your choice of words. Couldnt have said it better
Yeah....it ain't worth it. I've dated so many smoking hot girls only to wonder WTF I just got myself into.
the less hotter arent necessarily better. Most of them are a handfull either way. It's about leverage and even barely average girls most likely have more than most guys. Your best shot is to have options yourself or at least somewhat believable pretend like you do --> they will treat you better.
Told a girl who tried to walk all over me in a situationship that I was seeing another one and cancelled a date with her (the other girl didnt exist). She became much more compromising after that even started looking for comitment (which she denied me earlier). Fight poison with poison I guess...
@@pingu6028 A little manipulative but a nice reminder no? A healthy girl will know if the man she is with has options and not try things IMO.
@@nateo200The very most people are willing to abuse their powers. Some more than others but to some degree everyone. If you are treated like a star you will treat others like a fan. Not even necessarily in relationships: You look on your phone, 2 messages, one from your buddy which you know has always time for you and one from a buddy who is rarely around and it will take a while till you would see him again. To whom will you say yes and with which one will you reschedule?
The more I watch these videos, the more I realize that modern relationships are garbage. I think I'll be alone
Mate, not all women are like this. You've just got to find an adult. Unfortunately, a lot of men and women just don't grow up. The behaviours she describes are true of kiddies not adults.
All you have to do is scale up... when you do, you'll attract women at your level. If you attract or fall for modern women, is because of your view, mindset, and energy ... these type of women sense these things. So it's best to have high standards... modern women can't ha dle that ... but they also have an opportunity to change as well.
It is all like a mine, keep mining for a great woman, one day you will find a gem!
@@fraycontreras3715🧢
Absolutely. So many women are just totally toxic. Once you realize how many will not blink an eye and kill their own child in the womb, you understand how evil they can be. It's not sugar and spice...add to it the crazed vindictiveness and ruthlessness, yeah...you're better off single.
what you are witnessing is a woman telling you how childish they are, treat them as children. They most certainly not your equal
Don't put them on a pedestal or put up with their BS. Instead, treat them like they're you're bratty kid sister. Love them when they need it, put them in their place when they deserve it, value their support, but be sure to lead and make the decisions yourself.
You sound angry. You are talking about "they",but it's probably just one that pissed you off right? Don't blame all women.....
I can confirm this is true. When I treated them like younger siblings, somehow they would always draw near to me. But the ones I put on a pedestal always move away from me.
Treat them worse than children, like sht. They like it.
FACTS
Turning 30 next week. I’ve reframed my mindset and now I embrace rejection. Either she’s honest in her rejection and she just isn’t a good fit, or she’s dishonest (flakes, no shows, lies about meeting up, catfishing, etc) and shows that she’s beneath me anyways
More time to spend on making myself better, or spending on my career, hobbies, fitness, friends, and family. Men: demand better
I did the same thing but in my late twenties. Worked on myself, advanced in my career which I love and worked out 5x a week at the health club. Also golfed a lot. Just recently got back into dating. It’s hasn’t been too bad haven’t been flaked on yet lol. But yeah I’ve definitely witnessed my fair share of rejection as well, it’s just part of life my dude. Ain’t going to click with everyone you meet. I’m 32 now.
Just embrace good connection and go into things without any expectations. Biggest thing at 30 is most men just stop caring what people think entirely. Make your own decisions and stick by them.
Women,,women, women.. very unique creatures…
@@Jorgejimenez-xc8sp Unique? No. Just most have insanely high standards and don’t understand give and take. Men need to be providers and protectors. Women need to be beautiful and nurturing.
@@brooklynbud1138 that’s true my dude. Most girls I have dated in the past year have not offered a lot in regards to what you mention. They want the world but don’t want to reciprocate that in any way. For example I own a house and it becomes very easy to tell when a women is using me to try to get out of let’s say her parents place.
Fact is men need to always look for their self interest and protect their assets. Some not all
Women are out to get a man’s assets.
God bless you!!! Keep it up
If the girl that you are into are friendzoning you.
Dont walk but run away from her and block her on all social media ASAP.
Hey dear how are you doing ?
Something i have learnt over time. She must Love you & be more obsessed with you then you with her for the relationship to work.
Hey dear how are you doin?
im 33 and i don’t care anymore. everyone is trouble
Same i just turned 31 last month and my life feels so peaceful not texting girls or trying to chase them all the time for to get laid or find a relationship, shit was stressful as hell and now i dont even care anymore just focusing on my life and the gym
@@ChadsYT yeah im just doing me. im really tired of worrying about those things.
Treat them like garbage. They are attracted to it.
Just hire a H00KER and pay for play.
The worst you treat her the better she treats you.
And this is why most men like myself & my friends don't date no more, who needs the headache & drama of babysitting a grown woman? Men need peace, which is why we now go it alone, so much easier.
date a hot single mom lately? you will get the privilege of babysitting...period...
To be completely blunt and honest, you just described how little children behave and react towards their parents. So logically, the answer to dating and women in general is to treat and respond to them the same way a mature adult would discipline and respond to an immature child.
100%
Ew I don't wanna date children!
This. It's almost like the sex that births and raises children are somewhat childlike themselves. Who would have thought.
Women are children.
We are designed to date inferior, younger women. We are not equal to them we are better. @@FlashySenap
Never EVER be just 'friends' with any single women you're attracted to. That's what members of the same sex are for.
In the back of your mind, you'll always be wondering or contemplating taking things further, only to become angry and resentful when she finds someone other than you. You'll be wondering why you weren't picked and someone else was.
Just ask her straight out:- do you want to hang out and see where things lead? If she says no, thank her for her candacy, and keep moving. Don't be embarrassed. You simply had to know. You had to have certainty and closure. Everyone gets knock backs. It's nothing to be ashamed of, and isn't something only YOU experience.
Just short cut away from mind games, useless signals, etc and get an answer so you can adjust accordingly. But DON'T have them as friends. They can't give you anything of value.
You can be friends with women as long as you know it will NEVER go any further. Take the I have a chance out of the equation you’ll be ok.
@@Anthony-vm1wb
There are exceptions of course:- women you're related to, women who are the wives of friends, women who are too old for you, or women you just aren't attracted to for whatever reason , maybe they're a lesbian, or look like one, so yeah, you can be friends. But other than that, just avoid.
Never.💪
Nope. Having at least one highly attractive female friend is the ultimate cheat code for getting with many other highly attractive women. If you don't know why that is I feel bad for y'all.
and they are intent on using you, "they will take advantage of you!!!"
Exactly. There is no rational logic in constant testing, searching for boundaries, trying to break something that works - the behaviour will instead be interpreted as an unresolved childhood or bad past relationship trauma. A strong independent adult shouldn't act like that. If there is an issue, work it out. And ultimately if a person is not happy in a relationship or does not trust the other person, and there is nothing to work with, end it.
Moreover these constant testing is a really really creepy mindset close to the Nazi's one
That’s your problem right there. You view women as “independent” adults. For the most part they are not. Adults ? To a certain degree yeah. Independent ? For most of them not in the slightest!
If you ever become a father, observe how your child as it develops along the way, will test you from time to time to try and find out what its boundaries are and where it stands in the family hierarchy and generally in life.
Grown women basically do the exact same thing. Some more so, some less so. You cannot stop it from happening completely as that is just the way they are wired. In other words wishing and thinking it shouldn’t be so is the wrong way to go about it.
The only choice and therefore question that remains is how YOU AS THE MAN responds to these tests.
It all starts and ends with men.
Remember it is our kind that was the first born. Eve was created to be Adams help mate and not the other way around. There is a natural order, a hierarchy for everything in life.
@@jermaineayivoh8263 "...observe how your child as it develops along the way, will test you...Grown women basically do the exact same thing" - You just described a narcissist which IS a forever non-adult , a toddler inside an aging body. A narcissist can be anyone regardless of age/gender/geography etc and provides dysfunctional relations only.
Women with narcissistic or borderline personality disorder give healthy women a bad rap. You really have to watch out for borderlines and narcs.
@@nateo200 exactly. As do the male version.
tip for relationships - girls will tell you their problems to just vent. they dont want you to actually solve them they just want you to listen or pretend to listen and pretend to care. Men will try to solve the problem and start going over the steps to fix it and then the girl will just get mad over it and the guy will be annoyed/mad that she is "asking for advice" and not be willing to receive it. But this is because they are emotional communicators. Men dont do this. Men dont tell another guy issues their car is having and expect the other guy to just tell them how they understand it must be tough but keep their head up it will get better. No men expect the other guy to brain storm with them what it might be and how to fix it.
Rule No. 5: it's okay to take her back after breaking a boundry as long as she takes you back....to the back of her throat.
Hey dear how are you doing ?
When a woman 'tests' you with a hypothetical, ask her why she's picking a fight. It bounces her intention right back to her...
Stay strong, brothers...
In the distant past I once asked a woman - are you testing me?
Holy deer in the headlights!
If your the nice guy, you run the risk of being walked over by everyone. But then again, being a nice guy shows you genuine people who are worth surrounding yourself with, who is trust worthy.
Don’t be a “nice guy”, be a “good guy.” Good guys don’t let selfish, evil people take advantage of themselves
@@brooklynbud1138 very closely related, but I take your point, and this is what your saying. From first impressions the nice guy and good guy are the same. The good guy is willing to walk away when he/she is being taken for granted as the nice guy carries on getting trodden on. The hard part is defining which straw has broken the camels back! If I put myself on the observer side, both look similar and also the con artiste can deliberately show the same traits. The con artiste tends to be suave and sophisticated in the look of good/nice guy and is more likely to catch us all unawares and thus creating a bad name for the "nice guy" but perfectly understandable (painting people with the same brush is a defence mechanism afterall)
This is why nice guys finish last.. it’s like they feel absolutely hypnotized to do something for someone to feel validated.
Yes. Girls are like that. All true. its taken me over 40 years to finally get it. Be stern but don't be a dick. Be direct but don't be disrespectful. Be confident but don't be arrogant. I've failed in relationships on numerous occasions and could never figure out why? I always treated them nice...too nice. I would rather walk away from all of that than be hanging on to hope in the friendzone with women. Friendzone is for simps, chumps, and desperados. Not for me, nor should it be for you.
Hey dear how are you doing ?
Just be a real man... Don't compromise yourself, your integrity, or your values as a man.
My dating life is basically nonexistent because of my expectations and boundaries. I prefer to keep looking for women who are true Christians instead of just saying they are, non promiscuous, faithful, not a drunken partier, kind, loyal, and mature enough time be a wife and mother. These boundaries right here automatically disqualify like 99% of women today, but I won’t compromise my Beliefs to be with a woman even if it means loneliness and singleness. I had a lot of women walk away from me or even shame me for this, but they respected me for not compromising on my Beliefs.
I get exactly what you mean except the whole religion aspect which is irrelevant for me, but unfortunately you only have 2 options and of course you will have to learn to compromise or exchange one thing for another for me it's youthfulness, loyalty fertile and Submissive in bedroom. Where can I get that? From a 17-20 chick that I can mold to my wants and needs, after that like you said too far gone and promiscuity elavate. Your 2 options are younger and moldeable or overseas in a more Traditional country where women don't have the financially independence they have here so they depend on a Man. That's the only way if not you will be alone forever.
@@calumbest5570 I hear you. Even though I desire to be married one day, If God wants me to be married one day it will happen if not then I can say I lived a meaningful and fulfilling life. All I can do is have faith, work on myself, and fulfill my purpose in the meantime.
Wow, this is uncanny, but I'm in the same boat too. Hopefully the Lord is willing to provide
As you are now, so I was. I got used to being alone and reveled in it! Then one day I met a good Christian woman who actually lived the Bible and had a sense of morality. I married her and am still married over 44 years later.
@@johnjohnjman The Lord always provides for His people as long as we fully trust in Him and have faith. Otherwise we limit God’s power to bless us and help us in our lives with doubt and fear. Praying to God for a wife of godly character is a good gift from God Himself. “Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.” James 1:17
A girl decides within 30-seconds of meeting you if she will ever sleep with you. It is normal for a woman to be evil and insane. A man who is in the friend zone thinking he will some day be promoted to something better by "being there for her" is acting insane. It is NOT normal for a man to be an insane weak beta simp; stop doing it fellas show some respect for yourself.
And if, and I mean if, he is ever promoted, it is because she was rejected by the ones she truly thought she wanted to be with, and you are in for a hard road, because you are simply looked at as an also ran, and her contempt for you will do nothing but grow from then forward. You'll be a reminded to her, in her mind, that she had to settle.
"It is normal for a woman to be evil and insane." This might be the single dumbest thing I'll read online all week. Thank you.
Less than 30 seconds
If they say they like you but not in that way. You have saved a lot of time. Move on.
and this is why we are at a point in history why there are so many single women into their 40s ... guys have learned these things and simply aren't willing nor want to deal with this nonsense anymore
This signifies how exhausting relationships with most women are for men. I used to be driving silently and my girl would randomly turn to me and ask "what are you thinking of right now!" (always trying to peer deeply into my psyche). It wasn't as if I wasn't communicative. She always wanted to know my every thought then intrusively judge them.
I had a girl keep doing this every night when trying to go to sleep. Got to the point where I had a list of fake things ready to go. Bc she didn’t believe me when I’d say “nothing, I’m zone out to fall asleep.”
We lasted 2 months.
@@scott2228 Yes!! The night time questions were there too. Plus she’d talk to me while I was sleeping. It was creepy man.
True, it always strikes me how women need to own total every cells of the man!
Nothing frightens then more than peaceful silence when they are constantly prattling on about trivial nonsense
Listening to this, it basically sounds like she’s admitting that women are just POS at heart.
The problem is right here, Cluster B disorders are marked by inappropriate, volatile emotionality and often unpredictable behavior. The disorders in Cluster B are antisocial personality disorder, borderline personality disorder, histrionic personality disorder, and narcissistic personality disorder. This is where they have evolved DUE to social media. AKA. I'm truly special and YOU OWE ME, That's the nut men are trying to crack. So it's known by men now. So men have tapped out, or became pipe them not wife them.
You hit the nail on the head. The problem is there are a bunch of cluster b personality problem children out there. Social media does not teach you in any way how to communicate, it only increases immature, anti social behavior. Heck, we even elected someone to the presidency with severe narcisstic personality do in 2016. Look at his behavior.
Personally, I decided not to play the games any more. It’s exhausting and demeaning. What’s sad is the number of men and women who haven’t worked through their issues. It’s hard work, but needs to be done if there is any chance of a healthy relationship. And if I am to have a relationship, it has to be a healthy one. As a therapist once said, “you can’t expect a healthy person to be in a relationship with you if you’re unhealthy. Why would they want to.”
this should have more upvotes, I agree social media has increased what you described above
FEELING USED
I had a date with a woman early of 2022. We were talking for about two weeks on a free dating website before the date. She and I thought it was going well. She even said that she feels really good about this, and I did too. So, we made a date to go out for dinner.
We met at the restaurant, and everything was great, and it seemed like we were talking more than we were eating. I was thinking it might be a future relationship.
When the dinner check came, she just stared at me and didn’t offer to pay half or even anything at all.
After dinner, she abruptly left, and I felt used as if she was doing this for a free meal.
If a Woman dates 6 different Guys in two weeks just for dinner, that’s 6 meals that she doesn’t have to pay for if she does it this way.
See what I’m getting at?
Hey dear how are you doing ?
Guilty!
Nobody talks for 2 weeks just for a free meal.
She probably was a traditional girl and expected you to be a gentleman.
@@nokia3210fuck I was a gentleman (always am - the Women are the ones to call the shots, not me). That's my side of the story (that's the way I saw it). I really don’t mind paying if I ask, but I saw right through her after seeing her back on that website as a “new” member with no friends.
That's why do not take them to eat out. Only have fun and adventure without spending much
Makes me feel a lot better about setting boundaries because I always have. Thanks for your honesty.
If you want a relationship, FIRST, know what you want. If what you want is disproportionately superficial then it’s not going end well. It’s ok to want attractive but if you don’t also seek out the mental, emotional, and healthy then eventually you will be disappointed and / or hurt.
So, take your time and don’t rush. Make sure that who and what comprises a partner meets what you want from a relationship. You will likely have to say no to many people before you find the one that is right for you.
Oh, it’s ok to enjoy a person even if they aren’t the one but the longer you continue going down a relationship path the higher the potential emotional outburst at the moment you decide to discontinue the pursuit of something long term. This is why you need to know what you want before you start - so you can expeditiously look deeper.
Concerning No.1, no, it is the men who fall in love, get romantic, and so on, not the women. the women just leave the men. They even leave a man and they don't even tell him! They are heartless in this way.
Hey dear how are you doing ?
Thank you for pointing out these four truths and giving us the explanations behind them. As you alluded to in the first truth, Women Make Emotional Decisions, these truths are hard for men to comprehend simply by their illogical nature. Some men understand these truths--and women's nature--instinctually and, if so, women are not that hard to figure out. But for those men that don't understand these truths, women's nature is (as Winston Churchill said about Russia) a Riddle wrapped in a Mystery inside an Enigma.
Women's tests (Truth #3) are especially difficult because they can be so varied, so unexpected, and delivered so abruptly.
Put simply women just stand at the finish line and side with the winners - regardless of how they won
If the woman is not meeting your expectations gentleman please by all means let that woman go, because you're not getting nowhere. There are plenty of single women out there just be patient and don't put up with no crap.
My dudes. Do yourself a favor. If you have a female friend that you like and she hasn’t dated you in 6 months or more. Change your mind and go ahead and use her to get more girls yourself. Take her to the club or bars or out in general and use her as a wing woman to hit on other women. She will do one of two things. She will decide she wants you or she will help you find a new woman. Just by being with you when you’re out.
FEELING USED
I had a date with a woman early of 2022. We were talking for about two weeks on a free dating website before the date. She and I thought it was going well. She even said that she feels really good about this, and I did too. So, we made a date to go out for dinner.
We met at the restaurant, and everything was great, and it seemed like we were talking more than we were eating. I was thinking it might be a future relationship.
When the dinner check came, she just stared at me and didn’t offer to pay half or even anything at all.
After dinner, she abruptly left, and I felt used as if she was doing this for a free meal.
I really don’t mind paying if I ask, but I saw right through her after seeing her back on that website as a “new” member with no friends.
If a Woman dates 6 different Guys in two weeks just for dinner, that’s 6 meals that she doesn’t have to pay for if she does it this way.
See what I’m getting at?
Your biggest mistake is to take any woman on a dinner on a first date. That is a huge red flag that the woman is using you to get a free meal. Just invite for a coffee or a visit to a museum or art gallery. Not saying you shouldn't invite a woman to a dinner, sure, after you both establish a relationship, go ahead and enjoy each others conversation. On any first date, always pay attention to the conversation, this is key to assess if you wish to commit to a future relationship. If she talks bad about her previous boyfriends, walk away. You don't need a drama queen in your life.
@@laurencechen1111 Thanks. Great advice. I was also told about an ice cream date.
@@laurencechen1111 I think the technical term for those is "priming dates." They're screening tools for possible "seduction dates," which are the ones that could include dinner or something costlier.
your mistake is feeding any woman at any time...if you do, the last time you saw her is with the least poundage she will have while in your world of experience...
Never do a first meeting date spending anything more than a large coke beverage.
Assess her of that to determine if she's worth a date.
If she mentions anything about friends cut her off or be her friend while looking for a gf with and understanding that it's 50 50 while being friends.
Something else to point out about shit testing, on a positive note, is, if she's testing you, it's because she's interested. She's not going to test you if she's not interested. It also gives you an opportunity to allay her doubts or concerns and to prove your superiority over other men to her. So take her testing as a W. And knowing how to pass the tests gives you an advantage. And remember, she _wants_ you to pass her tests. If she didn't, she wouldn't be testing you, she'd just kick you to the curb.
And here's another thing - you can piss and moan and pitch a fit about it and end up on the curb because it's not going to change no matter how much you cry about it, or you can suck it up, man up, and pass her tests.
She tests you bcuz she doesn't trust her judgment and as issues.... she tests you to see if you have qualities like her ex
@@wavesbnice1 Yes, and? If you are going to get involved with someone who could literally kill you, you're going to just blindly trust your judgement to blindly trust them not to without trying to ascertain you can trust them not to? That's the whole male-female dynamic - women seek safety and someone they can trust to provide that. So yes, anyone should question their judgment in allowing someone to be that for them.
And her ex is an ex for a reason. Don't you think it would be wise to make sure you aren't repeating that mistake?
Let's put some current context on that for illustration. Consider the "me too" thing that women are weaponizing that against men unjustly. Are you going to blindly trust a women to not "me too" you? Do you think you might like to shit test her to ascertain if you can trust her in that way?
@@robertmiller6444 Can you give an example of shit testing, and how to pass the test? (Honest question, I'd like to learn.)
I would also add that you will get this in the more-traditional Asian countries as well. Agree it indicates interest, and it also might indicate previous heartbreak and fears of that repeating. As long as they're doing that sparingly. It's long been a truism with women that seemingly unrelated issues can get twisted into questions of whether you love them or not.
The key is being self sufficient. I make the bread so I say where it is spent and what it is spent on. Every transaction goes through me. That’s usually the first line. And it’s always my house. Once those two things are settled the relationship either works out or the girl isn’t about the boundaries. Regardless of how hot a women may be never not follow your boundaries
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😂😂😂 good luck with that bread 🥖
Women want strength in a man, so testing weeds out the ones who will fall apart easily, and a man who sets boundaries and insists that the respect he gives a woman be returned will never have a woman walk all over him. I learned the hard way but I know guys my age who still haven't caught on.
All very very valid points. Some of which I learnt the hard way especially setting boundaries, cos of want the relationship to work so badly, cos years invested. I must add the goal post have shifted in the last decade. With the rise and popularity of social media, came the rise if narcissim to levels u wouldn't be able to fathom. Set those boundaries and don't be ashamed to work away, once u feel they are being violated. Its not worth the pain and trauma in the end. U don't owe anyone anything. Not ur job to make someone else happy in life.
Julia, good job on coming up in your own videos and making meaningful content. I think there are things that are better said from women than men and vice versa which makes the tag team with you and your husband incredibly helpful to my growth in understanding the role of men and what my partner needs from me in my relationship. I want to congratulate all you’ve both accomplished and keep expanding.
The problem with these videos is, guys learn these way too late in the game. Why? Because when you are young, you don’t believe the people giving this advice. I’m 50. I know what I’m talking about
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I respect you!🤝🏼 I feel that you have good values. And you're not afraid to talk about controversial subjects (ex. boundaries).
I can speak to 3 from experience with women that I am related to. There is always endless tests and scenarios that they will run you through to make sure that you "act the correct way" or "Do the right thing." Through out most of my life these test and scenarios never happen. They are just paranoia or insecurities that she has in her head. Never been able to comfort them out of it.
They can't help it, they are wired for it.
@@Thinker1985so..time for evolution
men, work on yourselves.
your time and resources are precious.
treasure and guard them with your intelligence.
Nothing new for me, been rejected numerous times (more than 100) to due a potential partner over-expecting things, being impatient, not clarifying what they want, and putting too much on the past (I get it), and I grew up in a female dominated household (only son with 4 older sisters and a mother) and I'm closing in on being 30. A lot of things my family didn't tell me that I had to learn on my own, but knowing it's modern times, with technology, flaking on dates, and high standards. P.S. good luck 🫡 to the divorce rate, when coming to a room and sign legal papers to divorce (I've heard a lot have divorced), and praise the single life. Like marriage (for some, in opinion) it's almost like a chore, including treating it like luxury (marriage and relationships)
Why the f* you need to date? Tell me. Do you know anything about divorce laws. I suggest you visit any lawyer about. Ask him about divorces. Or better yet, ask divorced man about. They know everything.
All the tips you've listed are true to the core. I came to the realization that women who deliberately test men are very insecure, I have no time for mind games because life is way too short, hence, those types of women are not worth my time. The moment I did that, I found the woman of my dreams who doesn't test me or do any of the aforementioned things you've listed. She appreciates me for who I am and I appreciate her for who she is, as it should be.
Anyway, you provide very good content. You just earned a new subscriber! 😎
Same.
Last time I put boundaries in a relationship, she ended up leaving the relationship much quicker.
You failed to make her love you enough from the beginning.
She wasn't taking you seriously.
@pathfinder011 she did say that she loved me, but who knows. Maybe she wasn't in love enough, or maybe she started to love me less later on.
Narcs don't like boundaries.
C'est la vis. You dodged a bullet.
You dodged a bullet
A big problem is that a woman will decide you are the guy she needs to be with - and that is temporary - she eventually finds a new guy that she needs to be with.
Set boundaries only if you are looking something serious
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I don't take and neither recommend men to take advice from women, but she is 💯 correct.
#5....most of them are nuts.
You could get in a lot of trouble saying women think emotionally, guys are logical. But it is true. Men and women are sooo different.🤔
In a nutshell treat women like crap. Got it
Noo just lookout for yourself and dont get hurt emotionally. Alot of these women are emotionally damaged so they might hurt you.
The other reason guys don't set boundaries is that it requires them to maintain the line themselves, which requires hard work, which requires commitment.
You can either love women or you can understand women but, once you understand women you'll know there is nothing there to love
Your video demonstrates very clearly the superficiality, narcissism and hypocrisy of most women.
My Dad used to say "I love your Mother , but you will never understand women" . True Dat
The concept of the weaker nice guy getting the girl after years of rejection (and while she hops from dude to dude). Is one of three themes for Hallmark shows.
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"Forrest Gump," too
#3 so gud. Check them early, often, and just as relentlessly as they try to test you. Respond to them in kind. They will respect you more for it.
That they're emotionally stunted, manipulative, self serving an (have 0 partner loyalty). Never co habitat with a women, will end in you being devalued by the love bombing siren.
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This shit is so real. I was married for 20 years. And now I'm back single. My marriage was all about simple open communication, a fair degree of equality, love, kindness, respect. etc. And man, have I had a lot to learn now that I've started dating again. It's just endless games. Being who I was when I was married has led me to being walked all over. Being kind, decent, accommodating - huge mistakes. The point is to be strong, powerful, and to take no shit. I've made the mistake of believing that a girl means the words that come out her mouth. But so much of it is just a test of my power - of my resolve. It's a beautiful thing to fall for a woman. But the beautiful ones in particular will use your devotion to crush you. It's utterly dysfunctional. And this stupid liberal decadent world is partly to blame. But this is the way it is. To you younger men out there: don't ever forget that nice guys finish last. And the point is not to be a monster. Never give up your values. But know what you are in for. And know who you have to be.
Girls/women don't date friends. If you're friends first, forget about it.
She’s so right especially about the constant testing! Lol you just have to always reassure the girl that she didn’t make any mistake choosing you etc.
Nah treat her like sht, hit up other women, and they want you more. Reassure her, she gets bored, it's not all insecure emotions and rollercoasters and she leaves.
Testing is just a term for silly game playing
Lol Chad and Tyrone "reassure" their women by inviting them to threesomes and orgies 😂😂😂
I was married for 32 years before my wife died. After a year, I tried dating again, and learned all these truths about women the hard way. I think I'm going to stay single. The juice is not worth the squeeze.
Wow! A woman who tells the Truth about their nature!
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"Wait a Minute! #4 'Insecure Women Need To Set Their Own BOUNDARIES!"
give this girl a medal, she deserves it! :D
#2 - completely agree that Hollywood has perpetuated this
Stressful af 😂😂😂 this why brother’s should focus on God and themselves first and the right one will come along
The one aspect of women that I learned too late is that they're all toxic, vindictive and cruel, but at least I'm glad that none of them actually want a decent man in their lives.
We failed young men and raised them completely wrong for almost 2 full generations. Young men need to be taught the truth of how dating and the real world actually work, not the progressive fairy tale.
The reality is very harsh for young men and they need to be ready for that. They need to know they won’t have any value in society until they earn it, no one is going to care about their struggles or feelings, and women won’t respect you or be attracted to you if you can’t out compete other men.
This lie of “just embrace your femininity and be a nice guy things will be fine” is what caused the rise of things like mgtow and incels. It’s a symptom of reality smacking these men in the face being completely different than the world view they were sold which causes resentment.
And this is exactly why 66% of single men have quit dating. Signed, 6'1", 6 figures, over 6" , and completely sick of women
And Women say men are immature. I ended it with a woman I was dating last November because she kept shit testing me. I ain’t got time for the games or test, whatever you want to call them.
Hey dear how are you doing ?
What were the tests, what did she do/say?
@@LarryKippings hey Larry how are you
Rule 0: never give a woman anything of value for free. Ex. inviting a woman on an expensive first date is a road to defeat. If you are just an average guy, you fund her a free meal in a fancy restaurant, if you are Chad (or Tyrone) - you can easily omit this stage and go straight to the bedroom.
Testing (called sh*t-testing) has a drawback for a woman and actually works for a high value man. A woman can easily loose interest from such a man after several stupid tests, a man can easily get rid of a girl, that essentially annoys him. A high value man has stiff boundaries, that he never compromises in any circumstances. I understand, that if woman makes a man to leave his frame, she feels some kind of satisfaction and subconsciously looses the interest towards the man. From the other side, a man that is totally immune to what his crotch says to his head is simultaneously a high value male (if he is good-looking - we call him a sigma) and almost immune to manipulation by a woman.
Men are very simple creatures, the only thing, that can pull them down is inability to control their sex drive. If a man can control it - he won everything in this life. And probably won even the life after life too.
I’m 42, and left my abusive wife. No kids. I would like to date someone who is 32-36, but they don’t even have me in their bumble or tinder filters because I’m 42 and 5’8”. My ex wife looked like a porn star but she was just too abusive chasing me with knives and hitting me in the head with candlesticks so I had to leave. For 15 years I thought I was like really hot shit but no other hot girls even look at me. I have no idea what to do
Hey dear how are you doin?
Give southeast Asia a try.
Go to the Phillipines
Best Video I've seen about women's nature, spelled out with 100% accuracy!
Just noticed there’s a guy who is 30 and putting these rules into play. He is very lucky as I was closer to 40 when I got most of this information from TH-cam. Nobody tells you this crap but it’s very real. Only thing I ever heard was, “You’re too honest or too nice.” Of course I ignored this because you really can’t be either of those things; I believed men and women were really the same. Yes I believed the movies where men won the girls over until I saw a few videos around 10 years ago. Yeah it wasn’t my imagination when my date didn’t seem interested from the beginning (free meal). But absolutely the toughest pill to swallow was the video that spelled out emotions over logic. I ferociously defended my belief that all women’s behavior could be explained with logic. Honestly I nearly drove myself to insanity (or did I get there). When I saw that video about how girls live their love lives like movies and don’t want to know how it ends, I literally wanted to jump off a cliff! To this day I’m still not great at “shit tests.” So I keep watching the videos!
Truths about guys that women need to learn
1. Men are human beings too
2. Not all men need sex
3. Men have feelings too
4. Men are not your personal ATM cards
5. Men need respect too
Well it is true there. Movies and real life, are one big difference. Important thing is not to lose yourself if we realize if there is a bad relationship (that goes for men, and women). These are major truth that someone should of told us way before.
One of my professors from faculty told one thing: It's easy to be a general after a battle. Let's see you in the role of generals during the battle and you make some crucial and most important decisions to solve those dilemmas and problems."
Do not voice all your boundaries, or they will be manipulated. When one or more of your invisible boundaries are crossed, you know her true values, and you end the relationship. No negotiation.
💥 Every time I hear those "truths" I am glad I decide to live happy single life. Am I only one? 🤔
Well, good for you, the important is, if you are really happy
yet you're on the dating advice channels, trying to prove to everyone how happy you're being...single
😂😂too late for me. 😂
But I think, honestly, outside of u.s. is more affordable have dates etc
It's a universal fact that feminism has taught women that any boundaries set by a man equals a man trying to control her. It is a toxic belief that has destroyed countless relationships.
I am lucky, I learned all of these early. It made me not want to date anyone in the modern world.
Guys, if you have to worry about these things when you're in relationship with woman, its time go.
Apart from the fourth point (which later falls in the "women testing men" nonetheless, lol), these "harsh truths" are just the foundation of a horrible, toxic relationship. And as I see from the media, this is the most common kind of "romantic" relationship people have. Why would you care about a person that doesn't reason, takes advantage of your emotions, tests you endlessly and then behave like it's just normal 'cause "women do it".
No, to all the people (guys, girls, non binary, don't care) who are struggling finding a relationship: stop seeing love and relationships as a trade. Stop living in this capitalistic state of mind in which you have to make yourself "lovable". "I have to go to the gym, to train, to change my look, use makeup"... no you don't! Be yourself! Do what you want. You know what's the best way to find love? Find some hobbies and surround yourself of people that like what YOU like. And here it is, you'll automatically find someone with common interests, probably similar background and that most surely will like you for who you are and not for who you became to be "likeble". Especially if you are a man, don't live love as you are the one that you have to "give". You deserve to receive, too. But if you go on with this mentality of changing your look and behaviour to put yourself into the "love market"... Geez, it makes me sad even thinking about it! I mean, it's a good thing to change to become a better version of yourself, but that change has to become from YOUR needs, not from the need to "offer" a better product.
Love is not a trade. If you start a relationship from that perspective, you'll probably fail. Maybe you'll find someone, but do you really love them? Or do you love the fact you found someone? And do they love you? Or do they love the image you created for the "market"? I don't say that everything I wrote is gold, but... I've been in a happy relationship for nine years, so... maybe think about it. Peace.
I’m very glad I figured this all out when I was young.
I've known #1 since I was a kid growin up with 3 sisters lmao.
& "...it can seem really irrational" - There is ONLY ration&logic, OR emotion. Girls making decisions from emotions is quite literally the definition of irrational.
On #3: there's no probably about it. You DEFINITELY shouldn't do this. Sit tf down with your thoughts and get past the emotion driven 💩 actually think on those thoughts - then come sit down and TALK to us. Not at us.
& a couple boundaries that are really making a comeback:
Don't go running your mouth starting 💩 then expect the guy to jump in to defend you.. it's a fight you started.
Don't be in a relationship running around with booty shorts that only half cover the butt and a top that just barely covers the top. It's advertisement that you're single.. and again don't be expecting the guy to leap to your defense - you started whatever comes. Many women, even the hardcore feminzais - want a guy that will protect them, even if they try to deny it because they're super strongz independentz womenz.. It's a biological matter. Thing is guys who are actually willing to be that protector - don't want the girl going and jumping in an arena she knows jack 💩 about & starting fights.
Of course everytime I say "you" in this - its "the girl", not YOU lol
It's always great with honesty. You can kind of see why men appear cold to women in light of those factors that you described in your videos.
Women in general are hard to understand. I've been single 30 years encounting. I"ve never once been in a relationship, i've never once taken a woman on a date. i've basically given up on trying. yes i have tried and all I get from women when I try to ask them out, they tell me i'm ugly AF and not attractive enough to date them, so dating this day and age in my opinion is simply not worth it.
Don’t worry bro, we don’t need them anyway. They do need us however and I’ve heard magic happens whenever they turn 35+. Suddenly they are far more open to the variety of options😂
But even then, **** them.
Bro You have no idea how lucky you are God saved you from jezebels.
If you feel corny just hire a H00KER and pay for play. seriously modern WOMEN aren't relationship materials.
I don't want to understand where they're coming from I've been through that energy draining second guessing their emotions stuff before. Life is less complicated and easier when you're single IMHO.
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Women string men along that’s their stick. Guys don’t, I’ve known several guy friends if mine that have let women go because she wants more than he wants and let’s her go, women unfortunately are heartless in this area , sorry but it’s the truth , I’m not a woman hater and I have two loving daughters but women are heartless in this area and it’s soooo wrong
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If women would learn one thing about men, it is to stop dropping subtle hints and then get upset when we don't pick up on them. Come out and say what you want. We men are not mind readers. If all women would understand this, world peace would break out.
I have watched your videos for a while, and it seems to me that you’re specifically talking about emotionally unhealthy women. A healthy woman will not take advantage of a weak man and will not test him endlessly as you say. When she realises that he’s got no boundaries and he’s unable to stand up for himself she will simply walk away. Women that do these things are the ones who probably have some kind of personality disorder (like narcissists or psychopaths). So in this regard your video is a bit misleading. Healthy women DO NOT have these characteristics.
exactly
Keep telling yourself that. If you want a women this is the behavior you have to deal with.
Don't like it stay single.
She speaks the truth, guys. Women hate weak men. Test you. However, as a woman, do not do a stupid test on a guy who is very confident and has higher goals in life. These guys will have no problem leaving you instantly. To give you an example. Her: "I am not so sure about us. Maybe it's better to break up." Him: Ok then, bye," leaving her, without entering into any discussion. (That's, of course, not the reaction she expected). Result: You will never get him back. That's a done deal. Cause strong guys will not tolerate such a test. They have too much self-respect, and they do not prioritize you. I always warn them from the beginning. Do not play games, or I will walk away. Some women still try. Then I reply, "Remember what I told you in the beginning, when we started to date?" Them: "No, no, no, pls No, crying their eyes out while I leave and block them forever. Like I said, ladies, be very careful with strong, successful guys, crossing their boundaries, playing games, or doing stupid shit tests.
I need to hire Julia as a life coach\ psychologist to rebuild myself
Never take advice from women you chump.
Nah bro search up ejay madden
I agree with you 500%. There is nothing wrong with any party setting boundaries because anyone can agree, or disagree
I not understand. Please tell me
Great info! Thanks! You have a good insight into men and women. I feel some people out here want to hear this additionally:
1) everyone makes decisions on emotions - even the “logical” decisions are for the purpose of satisfying an emotion. *All* decisions are made by emotions.
2) Men also pray on weak women. No different.
3) Men also test women. Even constantly.
4) “Women need boundaries,” well, no, they don’t :) a girl who doesn’t make responsible decisions is on the same level as a man who doesn’t make responsible decisions.
I still like the video…it’s great…ty for making it:)
“Number 3: women always test men…” Then she goes on to say “we probably shouldn’t do this…” Ummm, no. You should NOT do this. No “probably” here, chick.
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"Women will test you, and thats something you need to be aware of".
No. That's something, they need to be aware of. A quality man, the kind, women want to be with, will not tolerate this. A dumb test is an insult to him, and he will give a stern warning, and if this happens a second time, ditch her on the spot.
This is a tip for women. The tip for men is "become the sort of man, who is competent, reliable and strong, who doesnt need to be tested".
My ex had no idea what boundaries were and saw it as controlling, but she was also a lying, narcissist... so glad to be out of that.
Just learn to play guitar and sing and you won't have to worry about most of this. lol
Most of this is certainly true but there are exceptions. One of the more powerful things that I stated doing in my later years was making sure that I had options. In my 20s I was a one woman man and I was proud of being so loyal. Then I started adding on other women even if my label was friend. This always pissed my actual girlfriends off. I eventually found out why. Many of these women that friend a man will indeed end up doing something with him.
The friend is around when the woman is in need. Perfect right? Yep it happened to me. The friend might also be there when a woman wants to cut loose. How about being around when she is pissed at her actual boyfriend or breaks up? So my point is being in the right place at the right time can lead to a score. So if you are in the friendzone, have other women or an actual girlfriend. Play your cards right and you can certainly get lucky.
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