Sleep Training Tips: How I Got My Baby to Sleep Through The Night | Susan Yara
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- My best sleep training tips! In this video, I rounded up my top tips and shared what I did while sleep training Nikash. Sleep training was hard but so worth it! If you have any sleep training tips comment them below.
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Susan Yara how old is your son in this video?
Susan Yara thank you! What crib mattress do you guys like for infant to toddler? Thanks!!!
Thanks for sharing your tips! Do you still feed in the night or do you just wait until morning?
Hey my baby is 4 month old she use to take feeder while sleeping she js not sleeping without bottle what should i do
Susan Yara what white noise machine do you use?
Every Momma to her own! But, I was totally against this method of sleep training until I started having emotional outbursts and breakdowns at work due sleep deprivation. Recently started using this method on my 8 month old and my only regret is that I didn't do it sooner!! Her response has been phenomenal. Sleeping right through the night now.
Yes! I was soooo against sleep training. I thought it was wrong. Until I had a baby that would ONLY sleep on my chest for 4.5 months. He refused to even sleep beside me. He’d scream and scream if I tried that. I was beyond lost and didn’t know what to do. He was getting so big and heavy that he would wiggle all night and neither one of us was sleeping well. I finally caved and said I would give sleep training a try. Best decision I ever made! I didn’t night wean yet though. He just puts himself to sleep in his crib. He’s 9 months now and still wakes quite frequently. Plus I’m pregnant with our second so before I get huge and it’s hard to roll in and out of bed, we’re going to start night weaning. I will sure miss those sleepy cuddles though.
Yes!! I did the same thing. This is helping me and my baby so much. He sleeps better. ❤
“Don’t go anywhere at all. Stay inside. Commit at least 48 - 72 hours” Easy. - April 2020.
Lol
Or July 2021
September 2021😴😴😴need my sleep back and baby needs to sleep to grow!!
Or January 2022 🙈
2024 and still able to do this. 😅
"Over-dedicated" moms have to understand that sleep is not a luxury, it is a must for mom and baby and you have to do whatever you can to be able to get quality rest for both.
Exactly! I was the over dedicated mom for my first. I went through 3 years of hell co sleeping and both of us never sleeping because I thought it was wrong to let him cry in a crib alone. With my second we were falling into a similar pattern until I slapped myself across the face and sleep trained him at 18 months. Only took a couple days and my only regret was that I hadn’t done it sooner! And I agree with Susan coming into the room to check on him only made it worse. Now pregnant with my 3rd you better believe I’ve learnt my lessons and will b sleep training around 6 months. Hallelujah sleep 🙌
Couldn’t agree more 🤗 When I try to explain to my in laws we can’t go somewhere coz of my sons naps or if I complain about being tired. They always say welcome to parenting. Umm no we both need sleep and I won’t except anything less.
Truer words have never been spoken. There are no medals for dedication being given to parents who haven't slept since early 2000s cause they refuse to sleep train their children
MoreKaylaRoberts I am in the exact same situation with my second child. I am desperate for a good night sleep. (He is 20 month old) do you mind answering a couple question please? Did you get a baby monitor? I am afraid his leg or arm will get stuck in the railing. Also did you keep walking in every 10 minutes to check on him? Did you leave the light on or made sure it was pitch black? He has always had a night light so I don’t want to freak him out. Sorry for all the questions.. I read your comment and I am in the same situation right now and have so many questions lol
Many attentions are for the baby and not for the mom. You r right, sleep is not a luxury, is our primary need!
Honestly- before I was a mom I always believed in sleep training/ cry it out as I know how fundamentally important proper sleep is for both mom and baby. But now that I’m a mom (babe is 7 weeks) I can’t IMAGINE letting her cry for even 10 min let alone 45 min to an hour. And right now I’m averaging 3 hours of sleep a night (I exclusively pump..every 3 hours) but the idea of leaving her to cry by herself is just so devastating to me. But I get why people do it, I used to be in that camp!!
I'm in the exact same boat!
Same. 2 months old already. I’m absolutely shattered, there is no way she will go to sleep on her own in bed, only after hanging on me for hours using me as a dummy... can not imagine her being crying even for 5 mins.no way
I was the opposite. I grew with my mom constantly criticizing CIO and other sleep training methods, so I naturally was judge mental towards moms that did it. Now I’ve done it with both my kids lmao 😆
Well 7 weeks is too young to sleep train... so yea ofc you couldn't even think of it
Came here to say thank you. My son used to put himself to sleep and then he began having separation anxiety and we had to rock him every 45 minutes. It got unsustainable. Last week we watched your video with Natalie and this one and took the advice and he's had 9 nights sleeping through the night. He wakes up but puts himself back to sleep. It's incredible. Thank you
Same here. My baby used to be such a good sleeper. Used to do have 2 solid 2-hour naps and 12 hours straight at night up until she turned 5 months. She now has separation anxiety and will wake up every two hours, crying wanting to breastfeed. I know I can't do this method of letting her cry for 1 hour even only once, so I am lost.
@@Sadiyatou how did it end up workin out for ya mama!?
@@SadiyatouI’m very curious to know how you handled it 4 years ago. Did you end up using the method or you found another one?
You changed our lives! Our lives were miserable and we used your tips when my baby was 5 months old. In less than a week of hard work he started sleeping better and now, with 6 months he sleeps from 6:30pm to 6:30am. Thank you very much!!!
Everardo Ferreira how does he nap
@@Mspowell30 around 1h in the morning, around 10am and 30min in the afternoon, around 4pm.
Everardo Ferreira I’m at day 2 night... he slept better the first night. However I’ve just put him down for the second night and he is still crying bloody hell. Was day 2 super easy for you or difficult?
Thank you so very much for this video! I'm a single mom who is also working as a teacher full time from home now, and my LO was co-sleeping with me and nursing through the night. The major problem was finding a night diaper that would hold up to all his night time feeding. But by following this method, he's sleeping almost through the night(7:30-11pm when he fusses but falls back to sleep within 5 min or so, all the way til 6:30am!); and weened from night feedings. I could never afford a sleep consultant on my own; so thank you so much for sharing. It's been so good for us!
Omg all the mom shaming comments > major eye roll! Every mom has their own way of parenting! As long as you love your baby and care for their well being - that’s all that matters!
My daughter was a CIO baby, and she is the most sweet, Independent, CONFIDENT little 8 year old! I now have a 4 month old baby and plan to follow this sleep training once he gets to 6 months! No one is saying to neglect your baby! It’s a TRAINING method and trust me, from experience, it does WONDERS to finally have this down! The baby is happy & parents are happy!
Susan, I appreciate your posts!
Amen!
My baby sister started sleeping through most of the night at 3 months cause my mom did a very soft version of this method. Playing with her after feeding made the biggest impact on her sleep and later around 6 months crying it out did no harm to her. She is a lovely teenager who gets straight A’s and was a lovely child. Besides crying actually can help strengthen a babies lungs which is what her pediatrician let us know.
My 4 month old is up every 20 mins! I’m going crazy
So true - both baby & parents are important.
Thing is if baby cries on & off for couple of nights but learns to sleep better himself & throughout the night surely that is better for the baby.
Please read the continuum concept. Then see if you still view emotional neglect as lightly as you currently do
I just want to say thank you! We are on day 2 of sleep training, he is still waking up a couple times although he is soothing him self back to sleep within in 30mins, the naps during the day I follow the same guidelines and within 10mins & no crying he's asleep in the cot. He has always co slept since he was a newborn and comfort fed every 2hrs.
My daughter just had her first night of sleep training. We used your videos for guidance. It took him an hour but he finally fell asleep!!!!!!!! Hopefully, this is the start of great sleep for all of them!
An hour of crying😭?? Oh god i tried it few days back but baby was continuing crying for 3 minutes then i gave up
Stuck in lockdown, quite easy to follow the 'stay inside' advice haha
I’m so glad I watched your video! I decided to not do the “go into the room and check on baby intervals” because as you said she would get all wound up again. Baby girl is still sleeping and it’s past 8am! I put her down at 9p and she cried and slept on and off till 11p, but then not a single peep after! She did SO good! Granted it was the first night, but hopefully this routine will hold 😄
IT WORKED!
Thanks so much for the tips!
I watched both of your videos months ago, but my son naturally slept through the night after we stopped his night (bottle) feedings. Then, we went on VACATION (he was 7 months) and he has been waking up throughout the night ever since. I would give him his pacifier and he would go back to sleep. However, he is 8.5 months and for the past two weeks he has been crying every two hours and is fully awake. I couldn't take it anymore and I did not have energy to read the books on my shelf. I re-watched your videos and tried it last night. Instead of rocking him to sleep like I usually do, I put him in his bed at 9 pm and he cried until he fell asleep at 9:30 pm. He fussed for two minutes at 10:20 pm, but fell back asleep on his own. I slept for the first time in weeks! He stirred at 6:40 am and put his wubbanub in his mouth before I fully opened the door. It has only been one night, so I can't claim victory yet. But I am so thankful for one night of SLEEP. - Side note, my husband came home late so that he did not have to hear him crying smh
I am two minutes into this video and you just described my life exactly right now. Have been on the fence about sleeping training and this video has helped me so much 💕
So I’m a first time Mom & was struggling with my 7month old sleeping at night. She relied on me to nurse her back to sleep every awakening. After watching this video I tried it & SHE SLEPT ALL NIGHT THROUGH. I then tried it with her nap, like mentioned in her nap sleep training video & she’s currently sleeping in her crib for her nap as well!!! I just wanted to say THANK YOU SO MUCH
Hi Everyone! I had an overwhelming amount of messages regarding our nap schedule and training so I'll upload a new video about that soon!
Susan Yara my 1yo always sleeps around 2-3 am. I know this is not normal. Any tips?
Susan Yara I tried your method. It was the first time in months he slept for 3.5 hrs at a stretch. His last feed was 7.45 pm and he slept by 930 pm. He slept till 630 am, however this time he was just about to fall asleep but he saw me as we sleep in same room. Started uncontrollably crying. Was it because he was hungry?
I want to discuss sleep and general “transitioning” for my second baby coming in the fall.
With my 1st, I coslept and breastfed for 2 years. I liked having her near me because I wanted to encourage that instinct and bonding especially after she was literally part of my body for 9 months... However, I struggled with knowing when to “transition” to the next phase and I found each transition was SO agonizing for all of us.
Examples:
> when to transition from being with mom (co-sleeping or bassinet for example), to say a CRIB + if baby is right next to mom in whatever capacity and they dry or wake are you grab right away or put arm on them right away doesn’t this make them dependent on you for that instant response (not saying it’s bad) just posing question of - does it make that later transition of them self soothing etc more difficult when you suddenly aren’t responding and what does this all look like. I mean at 3am I wasn’t into letting my 1st scream and scream when she woke so that my hard working husband would then also wake up.
> when and HOW to cut off night BREASTMILK so that it’s easier and HOW/ what to do to get them to sleep and no longer be dependent on those night feedings? I felt like there was yelling and arguing because my 1st was a toddler when I finally took the milk away at night(2yrs). I couldn’t handle not getting any sleep after 2 years of giving my first my all. 🥹
Things I have been told so far:
> I have learned/heard that not letting a baby fall asleep ON you if you’re breastfeeding so they don’t associate “I only sleep if I am on mommy” is a good place to start
> putting them in a crib when they are tired but not yet asleep so they “fall” asleep in their physical space (crib)
> that using crib for naps right away when they are a newborn will more easily develop the habit as opposed to car sleeping more than a crib or a side sleeper more than a crib..
> keeping a lot of noise so they can sleep deep in noise as opposed to being a 👻 when they are asleep. My first is such a light sleeper and we never made a peep!
Sorry this is long winded. I don’t even know what my exact questions are. I just need a better flow and plan to be confident in this second time around that May have worked for several others. So please help! I am more open minded than I used to be! Any little nuance you can share I’d love to hear!!
I don’t know if I can help you, because I haven’t been able to breastfeed my baby. But I did put her to sleep in the crib or pram
(more in the pram than in the crib for the first 2 to 3 months). After 3 months old she was sleeping better in her crib, so the crib it was. She’s 5 months now and my problem is more about her waking up too early sometimes (not everyday)and I try to give her a pacifier to make her go back to sleep, otherwise she’ll be making a lot of noises, not necessarily crying, and my husband and I won’t be able to get back to sleep.
Trying to be more straightforward:
Newborns (up to 3 months old) can’t really follow a routine, but you can try without expecting that they will respond to it yet.
After 3 months old you can start a very strict routine. I followed this one: wake up at 7, awake for 1 hour, then 2 hour nap, and repeat.
Their bedtime must be between 7 and 8 pm (see what works best for your baby)
Try a dream feeding at 10 or 11 pm (depending on the bedtime you are using).
However, what aap recommends is that you don’t sleep train your baby before 5 months old. Although every situation is different, so ask your pediatrician, as she says in the video.
And you can’t sleep train a newborn because according to aap again, you mustn’t let them cry. Every time they cry, you must respond because letting the baby cry at this stage causes the baby to be too stressed and may result in a trauma. After 3 months old you should still respond, but it doesn’t have to be so straight away.
That’s probably why aap recommends sleep training after 5 months old.
I hope I have helped you somehow,
Congratulations on your baby coming soon!
Oh, and I forgot. You can try a pacifier as soon as you have got to a smooth breastfeeding path. The one from nano Bebe are really good, they are supposed to be used by breastfed babies. Besides that, aap says that pacifiers are useful to prevent sids.
Also, awake times, amount of naps in a day, duration of these naps, change as they grow. You can Google sleep schedule for each month/stage just to help you figure out if your baby need a change, since every baby is different you can understand if your baby is “asking” for a change because she’s almost x months old, for example.
Wow, there are so many different opinions on this comment string...I know that all the mamas here care very much about raising well rounded and well rooted children. That's the goal! Sleep training is a personal decision and certainly isn't evil nor the answer to a happy life. You are not a bad mama if you choose to sleep train or not sleep train. Mamas, we can share our experiences on this without getting down on other mamas can't we? You are not going to win a medal on being the best at "one upping" one another. Let's build one another up...after all, isn't being a hardworking caring sacrificial parent hard enough.
Let the hills we die on be about life or death issues-sleep training is not one of them.
Beautifully put. I agree 100%. Thank you for saying it better than I would have! LOL
So well said!! Thank you
You are simply amazing for this.. Seriously 😘
This must be one of the best answers I’ve seen regarding this topic
Loved this video for various reasons mentioned below:
1. Details which was provided starting from thier experience.
2. How they started their first day of sleep training - best advice "Have a glass of wine bcz it's not going to be easy on the first day" this was 💯 true. It took 30mins for our daughter to sleep on day 1.
3. The technique which they followed "Cry out loud" I think this is the most difficult but efficient way based on personal experience too.
4. Sharing the tips of their sleep trainer. What mistakes they made "Do's & dont's" This was the highlight & really useful as we couldn't hire one.
We exactly followed each and every point and it worked like a magic 🙌 I highly recommend this video to all the struggling parents out there 👍
Below is our 9months old daughter's stats:
Day1: She cried for 30mins straight and then slept for 7hours continuesly
Day2: Cried for 30mins and slept for 10.5hrs continuesly
Day3: Slept in 15mins & slept for 10.5hrs
Day4: Slept in 5mins & slept for 11hrs
That is how we won 🙏 We all did together 🍻😉
Thankfully,
Happy parents & Fan of you Susan👍
How annoying that everyone feels the need to force their parenting style onto others. Every mommy Is different. Every baby is different!!!! She isnt telling you to do this with your baby, shes just sharing what worked for her.
Absolutely! If you don't like her tips then don't use them.
@@nanit06 How about trying to educate other mothers who are desperately searching for help that not sleeping through the night is completely normal and healthy for infants and there are risks associated with sleep training? It's not pushing your views - just putting information out there so that people can make an informed decision.
Sure every baby is different!
Thats why I would suggest everybody to try this tinyurl.com/bbSleepMiracle its a system that suggests different methods to different types of babies. Check it, its worth it!
Exactly... :)
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Your video has helped me gain the courage to sleep train my 6.5 month old. I tried MANY times previously and failed miserably. So big thank you’s!!!
I have watched ALOT of sleep training videos and this was by far the most helpful. Thanks so much!
But what was the actual sleep training strategy? Keep the room dark ok obviously, do a night routine also obviously, get a white noise machine again obvious, what was the sleep training? This is just all basic sleep tips and cry it out method.
This is SUCH good advice. We hired a sleep consultant too, and what a difference sleep makes for everyone. The neatest thing is seeing your baby so much happier too.
This was so helpful!! My baby is 10 months old and he is still co-sleeping and nursing at night. I've really been struggling and know we need a change. I know it's going to be hard, but it's going to be worth it. Thank you!
Hi, did you try this? And if yes, did it work for you? Thanks
We thought about trying this a few months ago when our baby was about 5 months old. I wasn’t ready. But after 2 more months of getting up 2 and 3 times a night to rock my baby to sleep only to have to take him back to our bed after an hour of crying was exhausting to say the least. Finally I’d had enough and didn’t wait for a weekend. I counted on our baby crying for an hour or more, but he went right to sleep on the first night. He woke up once and cried for about 20 min. After that no more crying. I slept for 5 hours straight. This was the most consecutive sleep I had gotten since baby was born. Thank you!! I think I watched this 3 times just to make sure I wasn’t going to hurt my babe. Thank you!!!
The advice that I have received and that worked without all this unnecessary pain is sleep training from the day the baby is born...or one week later. Keep the baby as much as possible in a light full of normal activity room during the day and in a more dark and very quite room at night. The more they stay awake during the day the better they will sleep at night.
that didn't worked for us. Lack of sleep during the day caused my baby to be overtired which worked against us at nights. Extremely hard to put her to sleep at night.
So helpful, baby is sleeping through the night by the second day!
I'm so glad to hear that!
This is basically the way Richard Ferber, author of Solving Your Babies Sleep Problems teaches except he recommends going in check on them and say it’s ok but not to go in right away and don’t pick them up as you said. My son was a little monster at night waking like every hour. We created that monster by feeding him each time he woke up. This technique works!! It’s not easy to hear them cry but it’s worth it in the end
My 9mo has been cosleeping and waking up to nurse or soothe on my boob every 2 hours (sometimes more especially as morning comes around) and it has been exhausting! I finally decided it was time to sleep train, so tonight is the first night committing to it and I will probably rewatch this video every night while she cries to give myself encouragement 😂 I also got her a weighted sleep sack, so hopefully everything will help her sleep better and longer!
How is it going, I'm contemplating doing this with my 8 month old
@@ga5241 it went SO well! The first night she only cried about 15 min and then slept. She woke to feed once but then slept the whole rest of the night! The nights following have mostly been the same, some nights she slept the whole night, but she consistently fell asleep within 10min of me putting her down. It only took a few nights for her to really know the night time routine and for us to have a pattern: she fusses when I get the sleep sack out and when I first put her in the crib, but once I leave the room she mostly plays with her stuffy (sometimes she is fussy or cries) she normally always falls asleep within a few minutes (the longest she has gone was about 30min and she was on and off fussy) she wakes up around 11:30pm and 4:00am to nurse (times vary) and she wakes up roughly 7:00-7:30ish 😂 but it’s been so nice to have time for myself in the evenings and to get better sleep at night!!
@@ga5241 the weighted sleep sack has been AMAZING because it stops her from just getting up and crawling around the crib and it keeps her warm because the nursery gets cold at night. I put it on her for naps too. She just knows that’s what she sleeps in. Also, the weight on her helps her not startle wake. I got mine from Dreamland Baby
I will try this with our baby for sure. He is 9 months old but sleeps roughly 2 hours intervals and some times even less and to make things worst he sleeps with us. I totally felt identified when you said: "we don't function as normal humans anymore" because that is what is happening to us. Will give it a try and will let you know what happened! Thanks for the great video
Starting this tonight with my 10 month old. Getting very anxious but by the end of the video you gave me HOPE!! Here we go...wish us luck!
how did it go?
Hello susan
These are quite good tips....
I am lucky enough because after suffering too much in his first 1.5 months i started to sleep train him. Now he is 4 month and he is doing great....
This what I say to my sweet baby since he was about 6-7 months old- “lie down, go to sleep. Sweet dreams. I love you” and he does and not fuss about it. He just do it and falls asleep pretty quickly
So easy! And lucky for us.
Adelaide is week up for baby Ashley and thy to sleep
😅 does not work to all babies
Thank you for the awesome video Susan! My daughter is 4 months now and I am extremely sleep deprived and super motivated to do this sleep training! Just a quick question - what time was the last feed of the day after which Nikash was trained to sleep through the night? Thank you for the video - it's actually the first time I've come across some actual tips that I can put into practice! xx
I really agree with what you said about not going into the room to check up on the baby while he's crying. I tried this method and it only made the baby cry even more vigorously
I know a lot of people that were and are against this way of sleep training and sticking to a routine when my husband and I did it. They probably think I'm uptight with a stick up my a$$ and scapegoat me (because God forbid my husband support me), even those with kids. But hey, my husband and I run on the same blueprint, we have better sleep, and our little family functions better. Thank you for doing a video like this despite the negativity around it.
I'm going to start this second week in November with my 8 month old. Praying it works
I’ve been looking up videos on sleep training my 9 month old daughter and THIS is by farrrrrr thee BEST one I’ve seen at this point. THANK YOU! Thank you 🙏🏽 Thank You!
Thank you for the video! My baby is 8 months old, he used to be light sleeper during 4-6am and needed to taken out of his crib and sleep next to adult. I followed your tip except I did went in the room to check on him at 5am every 15mins. It improved a lot from the second day, and by a week, he slept longer and deeper than he used to!
Out of all the sleep training videos out there, I found your’s the most useful! thank you for sharing your tips and actual experience
This was so helpful, I was struggling and have been as the same boat as you. I followed your advice with a little mix of my own practice. It’s have been only 2 days my 6 months old already starting to sleep on her own and her night time have got even better. I only have to wake up 1 times to feed and and she fall right back to sleep right after, compared to for the past 3 months that’s she have been using me as pacifier 😢, I was lucky if I got 1-2 hour of sleep per night of all those past 3 months. Thank goodness your advice helped me big time! ❤😇
Thank you for sharing your tips. Omg the first night our baby cried for 45 minutes and the second day he went down in 4 minutes. Again thank you for your knowledge, I was going a little crazy not sleeping anymore.
Sleep is a developmental milestone.
Agreed!
You cry for 45mins. Actually let me put you in a room with out anyone you know and love , and cry as hard as you can for 45mins. If in 45 mins I walked in and said start writing a 100 word essay now. You could not do it. 5 to 10 min(10 is pushing it) is all you should let your child cry. What’s done is done obviously. But when your child is 2, 3, or 4 and will not leave your side or will interrupt your conversations for attention..... well at least you slept well.
No it isn't
@@laurenstewart1933 it is actually, for (newborns)
@@saeidkh1227 Actually it isn't technically a milestone, although it is important.
We were pretty lucky with our first son. Sleep training was pretty easy but it was the second one who left us sleep deprived. He had separation anxiety & he wouldn't let me out of his sight. We tried everything that miraculously worked with others but not with mine lol. Anyway, last attempt to all methods was music. Nursery Rhymes, Lullabies, Ambient music put him to sleep and kept him to sleep.
I started sleep training at 4 weeks because my baby wouldn't sleep in his cosleeper at all at night. Best thing I have done. He sleeps very well during the day and night. He is now 13 weeks. I only have to put him in the bed awake with a pacifier and he goes to sleep himself.
*Edit I didn't let him cry. I would hold him until he is 70% aslee and lay him down. If he cried I would hold him again until he was quiet and 70% asleep. And over time he learned to sleep
Do you use white noise?
@@leogal4eva yes I still do. He is now over one year old. He is a good sleeper still.
@@leogal4eva did you feed him trough the night?
This is great advice. I would add though, that if your newborn baby is a super aware baby, and is already used to falling asleep nursing and won't go to bed drowsy (like mine was), you might have to let your baby do some crying, BUT if this is the case, in my opinion, it's best to hire a sleep consultant to walk you through this process, as training a newborn is so completely different than a 3 month old or older.
Thank you so much for this video.this is the one that stuck with me,that I made a change by..my son just turned one and since I watched this lol 6times I dove in were on our 3rd day and he SLEPT THREW THE WHOLE NIGHT LAST NIGHT! And he's doing well with the change.. waiting on my noise machine to come in the mail to add to the routine .sure there is sum crying but there was crying in the rocking for two hours too so win!! He don't cry long.betime at 12 or 1 is dropping down...I feel great and he wakes up with a smile!! Thank you for the motivation!!!💙💙💙💙
I just came back to say I used your sleep training tips! My boy is almost 8 months old & it worked amazing!! Thank you for your tips! ♥️♥️
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When I was sleep training my baby to sleep in her bed on a schedule I used the cry it out method but I stayed by the door and timed my baby crying for 2 minutes and then went into the room to let her know that I was there. Then I would go back out of the room and wait again for 2 minutes by her door and then I went back in if she was crying to check on her and let her know I was there and left the room. I continued that until she went to sleep but I didn't let her cry for more than 2-5 minutes without letting her know I was there.
Thank you so much for making this video! My son is 11 weeks old and I was wondering when I should start sleep training. Definitely gonna try this when he's about 4-6 months old.
Gigi Y me too...mine will be 4months in 2.5 weeks... I'll be starting then x
When i started sleep training i did most of these. I still pick him up in the middle of the night... I got to start letting him cry himself back to sleep. When i first started i found picking him up and rocking him for 30 seconds and then laying him back down helped a lot! And then by the 3rd night i didnt have to do that anymore bc he'd go to sleep within 20 minutes of me laying him down
That training experience was exactly the same (seriously same times crying) with my first born and she’s been an amazing sleeper ever since (3yo now). My second is 5 months and still suffering the 4month sleep regression so I can’t wait til he turns 6 months old to sleep train him too! We are waking every 10-15 minutes these nights 😫
Good its been 2 years im sure u must be sleeping well now😊
Thanks for the helpful tips! Did you have to follow a strict daytime nap routine during the sleep training period to supplement the nighttime routine in order to make it work? Is it okay to let my baby naps on her own schedule during the day during sleep training? Can you elaborate a little bit more on what you and your husband did during daytime while sleep training? Thanks a lot again.
Hi there! We stuck with a strict nap schedule while we sleep trained that way it wouldn't be confusing for our baby.
Thank you so so much for this video! I sleep with my little one in my bed and I'm freaking out that he is not used to his crib and I'm afraid I'll fail. I'm at the 5 month mark, extremely exhausted and ready to start sleep training, I just had not found a video of someone who slept with the baby in their bed! You just made my day.
Glad to hear that! They get used to it. I promise!
My son has also been sleeping through the night from 7 to 7 since 6 months as well and when he wakes up he usually plays in his crib for 1-2 hours... I didn't do the CIO quite this way but I have to agree that consistency is KEY!
What did you do to make him sleep this way?
Started sleep training tonight with all the tips I learned from this video .. I wish she would of answered the question “when your baby stands in the crib how do you put him back down” 😩😩😩
But actually it worked 😱🤗 baby boy successful put himself to sleep we just didn’t know what to do because he was falling asleep while standing but when my husband went in to lay him down he freaked out even harder 😩
Loving your videos! They're so informative and organized. I have a 7 month old baby and I find your content so helpful and relatable.
I'm so glad to hear that!
Thanks so much for sharing your approach with getting your little one to sleep well. Thrilled that it was such a game changer for your family and that you're all well rested xx
You are a super nice, smart and beautiful mom, your house looks amazing and the info is very, very helpful. God bless you and thank you!
I already planned my baby's sleep schedule especially at night since birth because i know that at night my husband is very sensitive to sound especially when he cry during the first week we went home. Although my baby sometimes wake up because he's thirsty but since i always wake up to go to loo so i can check on him once or two times just to check whether he's thirsty or need diaper change. Most of the tips i found are really true because i already tried it even before i watch this vlog but it is also true that every baby is different so just spend time with your baby so you know how to train him, that's what i did.
I just want to tell you that this video saved me and with this information my LO is sleeping through the night. Honestly the first night she slept 12 hours and hasn’t changed every since
Good for you, Regina! And I'm sure you baby is happier for it as well.
Thank you for making this video. I co sleep and feed to sleep and I am not ready yet at 5 months but at least I know how to manage it when ready.
My baby is 7mnths and she either nurses or gets a bottle to sleep.
She naps when she feels like it twice a day. When I put her in the crib or down anywhere for sleep when shes tired she cries rubs her wyes and scratches her head until she wakes herself up.
Im ready to switch up that routine so i can sleep through the night and so I can ensure shes not overtired. This video was helpful I can def be more consistent with my days especially since we are still self quarantining
The reason baby stops crying after a few times is that he is giving up and understanding that no matter how loud he cries no one is gonna come. There’s a research showing that the amount of stress hormones (cortisol) in sleep training is equal when the baby doesn’t cry anymore as if he would still be crying. basically he is stressed but gave up on crying cause no one comes.
Parents should do what they think is best for them and THEIR baby , but research the hell of it before doing it, it’s your baby we’re talking about here. You have no idea how it can effect he’s future, personality, confident etc.
Amen to that!
Absolutely, but some NN to do it that way
Agreed! We were never breastfed but my mom practiced co sleeping until we all reached 2 yrs. She never did the Crying method either but more of the fading method.
That research is outdated and not peer reviewed meaning it’s not relatable. Human beings are not so fragile in their physical or mental wellbeing that they’d be permanently affected by a couple hours of crying. We wouldn’t have made it this far if stress affected us like that.
Agree
I take care of so many families that could use this information. Thank you so much!
So many questions! This method was recommended by my pediatrician. When starting, do you compeltley stop all night feeds? One big problem we have is my 6 mo old is still feeding frequently.
It'd be nice to get an answer to this question
Great video!! Would love to hear how you go about the daytime naps. Especially when bub wakes after a sleep cycle and cries because he can't self soothe himself back to sleep. Xx
S Green I’m going through this right now 😂😂😂
What would you do about the night-time diaper change?
Get nighttime diaper it soaks a lot and keeps dry
My babe is 3 months and we have been doing a bedtime routine since probably 1 month old with some tweaks especially as bedtime moved up a couple of hours. It definitely makes for a better night sleep when we put her down drowsy but not asleep. She does not wake up until her 2 am feed, if put down asleep then we wakes at 11 pm and again at 2 am, then every hour after...grrr. So for naps, I also put her down this way and have her wear the Merlin Sleep suit which allows her to self soothe...along with her binky :). So far this is working. I wont be thinking to sleep train until all night feeds are dropped but I love seeing that this worked for you. I have been at this point wanting to sleep train so many times bc of hourly wake ups too. :)
Hi Susan. I have doing this training to my 5 month baby, and she has made tremendous progress, being able to sleep all by herself. The only thing to notice is that she still wakes up once every night, around 1am, and cries a lot for at least 20-40 mins. I suspect it is hunger, bit I dont know if it is counterproductive to feed her in the middle of the night. I appreciate your comments! Thanks.
To anyone reading this now, babies are typically still needing night feeds if they are under 6months at least. This baby was waking due to hunger and not being tended to. CIO is only for when you know they don’t have a need that needs to be met I.e. hunger, diaper change, too cold, too hot etc. I had someone tell me that they let their baby cry for an hour before they realized he pooped. He had a diaper rash. Not ok. Please research before taking advice form mommy bloggers
so what sleep training means is just simply making ur baby cry himself to sleep.
i have read in an article that if you let ur baby cry and not attend to him for like morethan 10mins, and he just cry it out. he will have "trust" issues when he grows up. makes sense in reference to the first stage of the psychosocial development milestone , trust vs mistrust.
Those you read about was junk
I let my children cry it out and they are strong confident adults 🤔🤔.
I have 4 children. First two I let them CIO. They have clingy trust issues. My second two, I didn’t because I followed my intuition. My second two are incredibly independent and have great confidence. CIO is horrible. I go based off personal experiences 🤷♀️.
You are absolutely right!!!
So what was it, a week or two days?
Could u also talk about his naps during the day?
Yeah , that too
Yes if you have time what was different about naps?
Dj James no difference during the day just have a schedule during the day, have a routine (preferably the same one you do when you put him down to sleep at night) of putting them down and then leave the room. Sound machines are magic. Make sure you have one that lasts more than an hour. Otherwise they might wake up when it shuts off.
Don’t ask her ask her sleep trainer
This video and many of the comments are very disturbing and heartbreaking to me.
Let me start off by saying that I am not here to condemn or shame anyone. But I actually study infant sleep and brain development, so I feel qualified to comment and clear some things up.
Cry it out is one of the cruelest things you could do to your baby. The levels of stress and fear they experience is in these situations is gut wrenching. Especially in infants this young. Many still require feeds throughout the night and comfort and reassurence because of the growth spurts their brains experience at that age.
And culture plays into all of this heavily. I feel like ppl in the US have absolutely unrealistic expectations when it comes to infants and their sleep. They try to fix what isn't broken. And that is mostly due to the absence of proper parental leave and the inability to deal with the lack of sleep. So I do sympathise. However, and this is SO SO important:
Your babies do not learn to self soothe this way. Their systems shut down due to being overwhelmed with stress. And they don't start sleeping through the night. They will still wake frequently (as do adults btw). They simply give up asking for food or comfort because they know they won't get it.
I also don't understand these archaic, rigoros ways of sleep training. You can absolutely go in and be with your baby to give them comfort. Be it that you lay your hand on their back or hum a lullaby or whatever. Will it take longer than cry it out? Absolutely. But your baby will be way less terrified and traumatised that way. You can still help your baby learn to fall asleep without an aid like the boob, bottle whatever.
(Eventhough white noise and blackout curtains are an aid too. We have done black out curtains btw and have come to regret it because whenever we travel, we struggle to find hotel rooms that you can darken properly and our kids have a hard time going to sleep when it's too light out or staying asleep)
All of that said, I urge any parent to really look into this before doing the most cruel form of sleep training there is, because there are much more gentler ways of going about this)
I need Susan as a friend.
Hey Susan. Do you need to limit your baby's day time sleeping time in terms of helping him sleep longer at night time ? How many hours should be the maximum for daytime sleeping? Cheers. 😀
This video was so helpful!! I needed to hear exactly how it went from day 1-3. To help know what to expect
Thank you for posting this video. We just started sleep training and I feel so hopeless watching and listening my baby cry. This video has helped and will encourage me to keep hanging on until this process is over! Thank you! Will you post a napping video? Do you do the same routine for naps like you do at night?
Hi! Thanks so much for the video! So you sleep trained for naps at the same time you did bedtime? Also, how did you know your baby isn't hungry overnight when you initially sleep train? Like, did you night wean the same time that you sleep trained? I breastfeed on demand (but currently by 4 month baby gets up like 3-4 x a night). Thanks!
OMG there is no way I could ever let me baby cry for an hour. How heartbreaking :( I know this method works for so many mamas but it's just so not for me. My max is 5 minutes.
You have to trust your gut and do what's right for you. I totally respect that.
Lindsay Satmary I felt the same way...until it took my now 5 year old until the age of 4 to sleep in his own bed through the night. Never again! Next time crying and sleep training is my way to go!
Nadiya Nanoha mom shaming is not cool. I'm glad you have time and mental stability to work around your babys schedule but not everybody does. Your baby will not remember having to cry a little longer but they will develope good life long sleep habits.
Let your baby cry as long as you would like to cry and be left alone and not comforted. I know people don't want to get overtired by tending to a baby who has woken up. I agree with you except ( for me ) even 5mins is a long time.
Jessica Bryant mom shaming? How about a difference of technique
Anyone who reads this comment i wanted tp say u need to try this method it helps my baby girl a lot... She sleeps with me and wakes every hour cuz she need nursing but after this video i tried and first night is soo hard she cried for 20 min and goes to sleep and wakes up at night cries 10 min nd slept and wakes in the morning..second day is much better she cries for a min only and slept... So i encouraged u to try this method.... Know i sleep all night thank God
Oh my gosh Susan this is the pep talk I needed!!! I'm doing this tonight for night one. So hard!
How did it go?!
What do you do when your child stands up in the crib?!
Hi, thank you for making this video...I was curious if the sleep trainer had any information on pacifiers, do you eliminate the pacifier for sleep training?
Omg this video was by far the most helpful one I’ve watched on this topic!!! I’m doing this
Tonight!!!! Thanks!
I can't with these comments. To each is own 💁
SUPER HELPFUL! AMAZING TIPS! I will recommend this video to other mommies. Thanks!!!
I wish it were that easy for us! Did the exact same thing with a whole different outcome 🥲
My question is: how do you go from bed sharing and feeding on demand at night to sleeping through the night without any feed? Did you have to wean him before sleep training?
You changed our life with this video
I CANNOT BELIEVE PARENTS HAVE DONE THIS THINKING IT'S A SCIENTIFIC METHOD.
"To put the baby to sleep, you shouldn’t hold, sing to, rock, or caress them. Simply put the baby to sleep without touching them, say goodbye to them with a few words, and turn off the light when you leave the room."
The same author has announced NOW that studies have shown babies under 6 months old, breastfed CANNOT sleep through the night, they are hungry and need their mother.
Cry is the only thing babies have to call for help and someone published a book saying you should not respond to the basic instinct of holding your baby crying for their mom. MILLIONS of copies were sold.. I see this method recommended and taught by TH-cam moms every day.
Now, these babies are adults and you start to see the consequences of this "method".
I cannot listen to my son cry and get so worked up he can't even breathe. I'm going to try a routine instead and napping. I love the concept but I think technique is crucial and different for everyone.
Hi your videos are so amazing and straight from the heart . I have a question though, so what if the baby is hungry . My baby wakes up twice, has little milk and goes back to sleep . So should I just stop feeding him when he wakes up ,? He is 4 months old
what I realized watching another baby sleep video is that a lot of the advice can be rephrased - clap your hands three times, hop five times on the left leg, do the cry it out. you get what I'm saying ?
Hi, thank you for this amazing video! I must try this out on my 7 mths old baby who wakes up for feeds every two hours. Am I understanding correctly that with this method there are no feedings allowed at night?
Thank you so much for sharing! You have definitely helped my family out. However, now I am curious about the day time naps.
I posted a naps video! :)
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Do you have a video describing how to do the naps throughout the day with sleep training for nighttime?
I second that. Would like to understand how to handle naps during the day so that sleep training at night works more efficiently.
Thanks for sharing these tips. Quick question: what if the baby gets hungry during the night and wants feeding? Xx
Hanifah Akhtar feed them. It’s about self soothing. Genuine hunger is still possible before 8-9mo
Thank you for your videos! Would you be willing to share what camera/lights/mics you use? The quality of. your videos are remarkable. Thank you for all your advice.
Loved this! I sleep trained my baby a month ago. However, he still wakes up 1-2 times in the middle of the night...but he always puts himself back to sleep within 5 minutes. Is this normal, or am I doing something wrong?
This is normal! I'm finding they'll go through lots of different phases.
I'm so glad you made this video. Our current situation sounds a lot like yours was. I used to co sleep to and it was great for about the same amount if time. My baby has been sleeping in her crib for about a month but she wakes up every hour or two and needs me to put her back to sleep. Its exhausting
So I'm gonna give this a try!!
Did you give it a try? What happened? Update please. I’m going through the same thing.
Thanks for sharing your experience with us. Great tips! Blessings to you and your family