Who are these adults who could go to sleep in a big flat cold empty bed with no pillows, no sheet/duvet for comfort, just laying there with nothing? Genuine question because I couldn’t so I don’t know why we would expect a baby to fall asleep with zero comforts lol.
Exactly. I’m still confused about parents who sleep all cuddled together and expect the baby to be ok sleeping alone. I mean cuddling is top tier comfort
This just seems sick and seems to induce trauma in the nervous system...might have immediate results...but what is the long-term effect? When she addresses the criticism, she looks to the side & doesn't address it: I don't know how you would know how a baby is feeling.... I'm not sure that this is the truth...
I totally agree! How crazy to say a baby is to be left with not even a swaddle for comfort! Does she go to bed at night with no blanket or pillow for comfort? I can't imagine treating my baby this way!
This video is a blessing. My 5 month baby just put herself to sleep tonight for the 1st time. Gave her a bath, fed her (was falling asleep so I woke her), held her for 5 mins and put her in bed. I decided on a 10 min interval for check ups. She fell asleep after 15 mins of crying so didn't need to go in for a 2nd check up (1st check up I just placed my hand on her chest for less than 30 secs)
I know this video was a long time coming! Apologies-it was so long, it took a while to edit it. Hope it helps answer some of your questions and know you can always reach out to Natalie for help. ❤️
I have a question, If you are sleep training the first few days and your baby wakes in the night after 4 hours of sleep and she cries for 20 min should you go in? should you let it just go because going in makes it worse and for how long? shes cried for close to an hour before. help! I understand the rest of sleep training but that part I need help on
Jen Corin It’s hard to say exactly what to do without knowing what else is going on as far as sleep training is concerned. If baby is healthy and safe, I would allow her to fall asleep on her own after physically checking in to make sure she’s okay.
Hi Susan my baby boy is 1 year old and I want to train him to sleep on his own crib me n my husband tried a lot but unfortunately we are failed badly. My baby cry badly 15 to 20 mons constantly. What to do. I am so worried about him
Susan Yara the video is great. Thanks for uploading and answering so many relevant questions. Suggestion: next time dont need the music. The sound of your voices is fine
Thank you so much for this... my son is 8 months old and I haven't slept through night ever. I'm at a dark point... we have to room share due to our home reno not being done yet and I wanted to wait til we were in there but don't think I can make it another night. This was an answer for me... now the hard part. I have to implement. Deep breath.
@@Babysleeptrainer thank You! Implemented tips from you and my son has been doing so well overall. Nights were better within a few days and naps took a bit longer almost 2 weeks but are better now too. This has been a game changer for me! Thank you again so much!! 💗🌈😂
Hmm, there’s a lot of research from paediatricians, sleep specialists, biologists, psychologists etc that prove how damaging CIO is. Just because they’re infants doesn’t mean they can’t become psychologically damaged. Being and crying for mum is instinctual. Really disappointed by how far we have come from gentle parenting.
Till babies are two years old they meant to wake up once or twice. I don’t understand what’s the need of sleep train. Isn’t sleep mean to be a natural necessity... no baby will stay up forever, when they are tired enough they will sleep. I am a mom too, not responding to a babies need is scary to me, I want my child to be emotionally stable adult oneday, if it takes cosleeping, boob to sleep, waking up few times a night, I’d rather put up with that hard work than training em to sleep... I thought as mom attending child’s need is the norm... do not understand how many moms are in to sleep training these days...
Yes yes yes Its all about mummies havibg their full 8 hours sleep, time to make up and socialise so baby is well behaved. Noone asks the baby whats his/her bare needs are (to feel safe comforted anf supported)
Thank you Natalie! I've been researching so much about sleep training and this is the first time I saw a video that answered all my questions at once. I will start sleep training now with much more confidence xx
@@Babysleeptrainer I'm giving you and Susan's videos all the credit: my baby is 17 weeks old and she is sleep trained after only 3 days! I followed a strict nap schedule and let her cry out at night and she is currently sleeping about 3h during the day and sleeping from 6pm to 6am without waking up! Guys that have a baby unable to sleep unassisted: it is possible! Thank you and Susan once again!
Please do research, cry it out is EXTREMELY detrimental to your child's physical and psychological health. As adults we search for sleeping partners, what on earth makes you think that children should be OK with sleeping on their own? Also, frequent waking is a natural defense against SIDS. The Western world has shaped us to believe that meeting our baby's needs means we're "spoiling" them. Look up save bedsharing practices if you're truly interested in safe, gentle sleep for you and your family.
It seems to me that her method and what she teaches is not making your baby sleep through the entire night without waking but for them to being able to fall back asleep or just go to sleep on their own. Or just be able to figure out what comforts them without needing you to do it for them, like her ex about them being able to put the binki into their mouth on their own for comfort. I’m a FTM due any day now and have been watching tons of videos and reading articles trying to see what would I would like to try. if you have resources or articles you like on why I wouldn’t want to try the cry it out method I would love to read them!
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Very interesting. I’ve never been on board w the CIO because I just don’t feel good about it. It goes against my gut, but this info is very interesting. Thank you for sharing I like to see things from different opinions and she’s well educated on the topic which is highly respectable
I think a mother's gut instinct is always right! Since you are open to different opinions you should read this: www.google.com/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/moral-landscapes/201112/dangers-crying-it-out%3famp Just food for thought ;)
I sleep trained my baby at 6 months he’s now 8 months. I used this video and others to get an idea of what I needed to do. I looked at the prices of the program and was shocked with how much it cost. It’s sad to know that some families are struggling and can’t afford something like this. So I would suggest getting the book by Richard Ferber solve your child’s sleep problems
I’m surprised no one asked about naps. My baby is sleep trained (followed the Pantley method). He didn’t cry at all at night, but any time it’s nap time he resists so much😪😅
The method outlined in my online program will address exactly how to get baby to fall asleep for naps 100% independently. Also, take a look at this: www.babysleeptrainer.com/when-to-start-nap-training/
Co sleeping isn’t bad as people make it seem like. If you’re a calm sleeper, go ahead and do it. I hardly move in my sleep and it was very convenient for me especially since I work a lot and do not want to be getting out the bed through out the night. I’ve done this with both of my kids up until 4/5 months old.
Thank you for posting this. I just shared a video based on research demonstrating that sleep deprivation is associated with postpartum depression so sleep training can be a preventative measure we take to improve our mental health.
That makes sense my baby is now 4 months and suddenly stopped sleeping in big chunks. I was coping fine, but now I’m struggling hence why I’m researching what I can do and when I can do it.
Hi thanks for the video. I researched about the topic and found out that sleep training should be done before 8 months and after 15 months for the cosleeping babies because this is the age that they have separation anxiety. So if a baby is between 8 and 15 and cosleep, just putting them in the crib and leave the room is problematic because of that reason. I have bought Natalie’s book but I did not found a specific section for this.
What exactly makes one a baby sleep “expert” ? All these sleep trainers seem to have no real credentials? Where are the studies being done on these methods and the affects on babies? Not sure how any of these women are experts in anything
Natalie should be stripped of her sleep certification (doubt she has a real one anyway since science from this generation doesn't support CIO for basic and logical reasoning), and Susan stop trying to make yourself feel better by trying to defend CIO when the science doesn't back you up AT ALL.
It is surprising that no questions are about nap. I think naps are very tricky. E.g., when babies are upset and ask for attention and help at night, and if you stick to the rule, he would finally fall asleep. But for nap, sometimes it means the nap is over. And the day time routine is messed up. And if they fall back into the habit of short nap, it takes much much more effort to go back to a good napper.
Thanks! I ordered your book and it is on the way. My baby is able to fall asleep both daytime and nighttime in his crib, with me putting a hand on his chest, or patting if necessary, and singing a specific song. But I am considering going forward to wean these minimum assistances. Can I do this by also following your sleep training method? I am concerned if I move forwards and it gets worse instead....
Best video.. 👌🏼I watched this when I had just given birth and used info at that stage. Our daughter is now 4 months and I have been able to go back to this video over and over.. thank you 😊 💓
Of course no one knows that a baby feels that they have been abandoned but there are studies that show that baby is under deep distress. Please do some research before letting your baby cry it out. Here is a good article to start with: www.google.com/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/moral-landscapes/201112/dangers-crying-it-out%3famp
Thank you for this video. This is my second night sleep training my 4 month old. I have no idea what I'm doing and I was just letting him cry it out and checking on him, but the tips Natalie gave helped me have a better understanding of how to do it more efficiently. AWESOME!
CIO can harm baby and mother's bond. When the baby cries it is communicating, its the caregivers role to attend to the cry so the baby knows he/she is not alone and being cared for. CIO increases their cortisol level for days after the occurrence. They pass out from crying due to the high level of stress and basically their brain shuts down because they realize no one is coming to help them. In addition, while the baby is crying it out, the mothers cortisol level spikes, but evens off after the baby stops. Thats where the bond is harmed - mommy and baby are no longer in sync.
@@lilylebowsky5908 or maybe that sleep is a necessity not a luxury for both baby and mother and every mother should do whatever feels right for them in order to be the best version of themselves for their children! Not a zombie absent version 😊
I am so disturbed by how many people in these comments are on board with this. It's funny how people think their baby and themselves should be a walking spreadsheet. This is just sick. The ends don't justify the means. 4months? Are you kidding me? babies are so small and delicate....this really angers me....
This video is awesome and has some super useful info. I currently have a 7 week old newborn and a 2 year old and it addressed alot of questions I had!! I love that you guys even take about the transition from cribs to a bed. Thank you Susan and Natalie ❤️❤️
Hey Susan and Natalie! I loved your video. I’m having my baby soon, and I know I’m going to be coming back to this video in the future. Thank your very much!!!! My Instagram is angelitajurado.
Thank you Both sooooo much for this video!!! 90% agree with everything. Definitely will use some new tricks that I learned in this video. I just wish sleep trainer would speak more slowly… definitely will look to buy for her book . All of mamas and dads need all the tips and tricks to help our little ones and us to have find happiness and sleep , some me time or go back to mom and dad time :)
@susanyara I just had my daughter month ago at first she did great through the night only waking up once or twice where now we have found out she has an allergy to dairy and soy which is making sleep harder and harder for her as she is uncomfortable and I’m changing my diet so I am still able to breastfeed her for as long as possible! I would love to try the @kytebaby sleep bag hoping it could help this mama and baby get some much needed rest! My Instagram handle is, @mama.maiuri
Great info, perfect timing. My little guy is almost 5 1/2 months old and were doing the timed check ins. 5, 10, 15 mins. The first 4ish nights were ROUGH but now he sleeps through the night and mom and dad get sleep again! Naps are a challenge for us now because hes used to sleeping on somebody.
This is great. My 4 month old sleeps from 7 to 4, wakes up for a feed then goes back to sleep for 2 more hours. It’s working out for me thank god because that’s when I wake up to pray
I have a three year old he sleeps perfectly! We have a baby on the way and I swear I’ve forgotten everything about getting infants to sleep. @madisonics
Every baby is different as well. But if you ever need help I have a Newborn sleep program as well as a the Sleep training program: www.babysleeptrainer.com/my-program/
Wow, this woman is stressing even me out! Has she heart of all the scientific data that shows how the baby brain gets severely DAMAGED from this kind of sleep training. All anxiety and problems that it will bring on later on in the childs life. PLEASE read " What Every Parent Needs To Know" before damaging your baby with this CRAP! PS - Both of these ladies can use some counceling or a HUG!
It's true that we don't exactly know how this method affects children in their after life.. I think it's dangerous and it's only beneficial for parent's calm. My baby is 3,5 month old and we can't let it cry for more than some seconds!
@@lestattsia9365 You're doing everything right to not let your child cry more than normal! Prolonged crying has been proven to harm the brain. The stress hormones rise too high for a childs brain system and they can't calm themselves even if they want to. They just shut down. There is a research that shows that this leads to early depression even in little children. They stop seeking interaction and become numb. Babies need love, support and care, just as we adults do :)
Thank you so much for this video! But can anyone answer this question for me?? If my baby is supposed to sleep for an hour but wakes up and cries after 20 minutes of napping, do you keep them crying in the crib till 1 hour hits or do you just get them because 20 min is all they can do for a nap? Thank you in advance to anyone who can answer this for me! 💖🙏
I knew Natalie's name sounded so familiar and then I went through old emails from 7 1/2 years ago or so when the family I was nannying for with sleep training their baby and they used Natalie Willis as their sleep trainer. That is so cool to me.
I have been sleep training my 4 month girl for 2 weeks without success. The sleep at night is not bad but she really struggles with naps. Do you have any advice?
You are my sleep training guru Susan. No doubt. And you helped me my husband and helped me help friends So much. I’m so excited for this video even though my baby is sleep trained lol 😂 so I can help others and you doing this has helped so many who can’t afford sleep training specialist and I hope you realize what a great service that is and how great your guest is for sharing the tips and tricks. Love you!
Great info here-thank you so much. I had a hard time listening because I felt the conversation was competing with the music too much. Maybe lower the music volume you play along with your vids?
oh, come on, that coach is full of stupid nonsense. like she says, no matter what you do, one day these kids will have to learn and cry on untill getting used to. you dont need any "trainning" for that, it is just a logic sleeping development.
A lot of this advice is great. However, you have to get a kid out of a crib if they are out of diapers. The sleep consultant left that totally out of the equation.
I just started to teach on my own, without following any method to teach my baby to sleep. She turned 1 year old and she was still waking up every hour or 2. She wouldn’t sleep but with a bottle in her mouth, she almost never cared for pacifiers, and i am pregnant on the 8th month, so exhausting, sleep deprived for so long , i can’t carry her in my arms either.
I am so sorry you have been sleep deprived do so long, that is SO hard! Especially when pregnant! Check out my programs! www.babysleeptrainer.com/my-program/
I happened upon this video by mistake and I just want to say I disagree with the statement of "every sleep training is some form of cry it out. I was able to get my 3 month old to sleep thru the night without crying at all. I had a later sleep training time because she was born small and the pediatrician didn't want me allowing her to sleep thru the night without waking her to feed. I essentially just weaned her off of waking thru the night and was fine. Used to put her down at 7, wake at 11, 3 and 7am. And then cut it down by one feeding each couple of days. No fighting and now she sleeps 10-11hrs a night. I stopped watching afterward because of how strongly I felt about that statement. I dont want others to feel that that's their only option.
I'm so glad to hear that Sleep training is a choice. I nurse my 16 week old to sleep and debating if I need to sleep train because everyone has been telling me you have to. I'm still on the fence about it but this video was very helpful! Thank you.
The background music makes it very difficult for people who are hard of hearing to hear Natalie's answers. Major spelling errors by grown-ass adults are "annoying".
You mention white noise a few times and I’ve heard a lot of sleep consultants suggest it recently, but I don’t understand how that is not considered a sleep prop or assistance.
Thanks, this is very helpful. Just one thing struck me as very dangerous, that is advising that it is okay to let a baby under 12 months old to sleep on his stomach. According to doctors, SIDS makes up about 80% of sudden and unexpected infant deaths (SUIDs), and is often linked to babies sleeping on their side or stomach. Maybe this should have been mentioned as a reason why not to let the baby sleep in that position?
Yay! I’ve been waiting for this video! I sleep trained my daughter at 6.5 months using the Ferber Method but she had a regression at 8 months then everything went out the window. She’s now 15 months and I need sleep! Super helpful!
Hey, I am so late to this party …. Just in case: dropping one feed per week overnight - any advice on which to start with? We have an 8 month old who feeds every 3 hours, so line 7 pm, 10 pm, 1 or 2, then 4 or 5. In what order should we drop them?
Thank you so much for this video! My baby just turn 6 months and we have been working for about 1 month to sleep train and already watched your previous videos. I found that this one was really informative and gave me confidence! 🤞For the contest 💤 @gabrielle_biz
What do I do if after my son goes to sleep after all the process of the training but he only sleeps for 30 minutes and then is back up? He just turned 5 months old yesterday.
Thankyou. This is very useful. Just a bit of constructive feedback. I think the background music made it very hard for me to understand what she is saying (on low volume) because of the background music. Also she speaks little fast I find it hard to follow. Apart from that thanks a lot for your time and efforts xx
I wish this video had no background music so distracting
I think if the music was more subtle and at a lower volume it wouldn't be so bad.
I know I've restarted it like 3 times bc I keep getting distracted lol and she's talking so fast I can't focus 🤣
Agreed!
Who are these adults who could go to sleep in a big flat cold empty bed with no pillows, no sheet/duvet for comfort, just laying there with nothing? Genuine question because I couldn’t so I don’t know why we would expect a baby to fall asleep with zero comforts lol.
Exactly. I’m still confused about parents who sleep all cuddled together and expect the baby to be ok sleeping alone. I mean cuddling is top tier comfort
Seriously pull this vid. It's a disgrace and embarrassing.
This just seems sick and seems to induce trauma in the nervous system...might have immediate results...but what is the long-term effect? When she addresses the criticism, she looks to the side & doesn't address it: I don't know how you would know how a baby is feeling.... I'm not sure that this is the truth...
I totally agree! How crazy to say a baby is to be left with not even a swaddle for comfort! Does she go to bed at night with no blanket or pillow for comfort? I can't imagine treating my baby this way!
This video is a blessing. My 5 month baby just put herself to sleep tonight for the 1st time. Gave her a bath, fed her (was falling asleep so I woke her), held her for 5 mins and put her in bed. I decided on a 10 min interval for check ups. She fell asleep after 15 mins of crying so didn't need to go in for a 2nd check up (1st check up I just placed my hand on her chest for less than 30 secs)
I know this video was a long time coming! Apologies-it was so long, it took a while to edit it. Hope it helps answer some of your questions and know you can always reach out to Natalie for help. ❤️
I have a question, If you are sleep training the first few days and your baby wakes in the night after 4 hours of sleep and she cries for 20 min should you go in? should you let it just go because going in makes it worse and for how long? shes cried for close to an hour before. help! I understand the rest of sleep training but that part I need help on
Jen Corin It’s hard to say exactly what to do without knowing what else is going on as far as sleep training is concerned. If baby is healthy and safe, I would allow her to fall asleep on her own after physically checking in to make sure she’s okay.
Susan Yara if baby wakes up middle of the night how do you know if baby if hungry or just woke up and needs to self sooth to sleep?
Hi Susan my baby boy is 1 year old and I want to train him to sleep on his own crib me n my husband tried a lot but unfortunately we are failed badly. My baby cry badly 15 to 20 mons constantly. What to do. I am so worried about him
Susan Yara the video is great. Thanks for uploading and answering so many relevant questions. Suggestion: next time dont need the music. The sound of your voices is fine
For better understanding: watch this video in a Playback Speed of 0.75 🥰
Thanks for this importar information!
Listing questions and the time slots for answers was the best decision. Thank you
For sure. It would be cool if the time stamps were clickable, but beggars can't be choosers 🤷
Thank you so much for this... my son is 8 months old and I haven't slept through night ever. I'm at a dark point... we have to room share due to our home reno not being done yet and I wanted to wait til we were in there but don't think I can make it another night. This was an answer for me... now the hard part. I have to implement. Deep breath.
Christina Thorsen you’ve got this, mama! Sleep is so worth it!
@@Babysleeptrainer thank You! Implemented tips from you and my son has been doing so well overall. Nights were better within a few days and naps took a bit longer almost 2 weeks but are better now too. This has been a game changer for me! Thank you again so much!! 💗🌈😂
@christina hey love can you be more in dept with how u sleep trained your baby when room sharing ?
Hmm, there’s a lot of research from paediatricians, sleep specialists, biologists, psychologists etc that prove how damaging CIO is. Just because they’re infants doesn’t mean they can’t become psychologically damaged. Being and crying for mum is instinctual. Really disappointed by how far we have come from gentle parenting.
catherine zavaglia thank you!! Sade bedsharing, gentle & attachment parents here and this just breaks my heart! 😢
Till babies are two years old they meant to wake up once or twice. I don’t understand what’s the need of sleep train. Isn’t sleep mean to be a natural necessity... no baby will stay up forever, when they are tired enough they will sleep. I am a mom too, not responding to a babies need is scary to me, I want my child to be emotionally stable adult oneday, if it takes cosleeping, boob to sleep, waking up few times a night, I’d rather put up with that hard work than training em to sleep... I thought as mom attending child’s need is the norm... do not understand how many moms are in to sleep training these days...
Yes yes yes
Its all about mummies havibg their full 8 hours sleep, time to make up and socialise so baby is well behaved. Noone asks the baby whats his/her bare needs are (to feel safe comforted anf supported)
This video came at the most perfect time. I’m ready to start getting some sleep. Thank you!
How did it go?
So, how did it go?
Thank you Natalie! I've been researching so much about sleep training and this is the first time I saw a video that answered all my questions at once. I will start sleep training now with much more confidence xx
Bárbara Silva that’s great! I’m happy you have found what will work for you!
@@Babysleeptrainer I'm giving you and Susan's videos all the credit: my baby is 17 weeks old and she is sleep trained after only 3 days! I followed a strict nap schedule and let her cry out at night and she is currently sleeping about 3h during the day and sleeping from 6pm to 6am without waking up! Guys that have a baby unable to sleep unassisted: it is possible! Thank you and Susan once again!
Thanks for sharing. Lots of good info. She talks too fast though. A little bit of pause helps with her points to be more comprehensible
Just watched this and I immediately purchased her book. She makes it so simple / straight to the point.
Please do research, cry it out is EXTREMELY detrimental to your child's physical and psychological health. As adults we search for sleeping partners, what on earth makes you think that children should be OK with sleeping on their own? Also, frequent waking is a natural defense against SIDS. The Western world has shaped us to believe that meeting our baby's needs means we're "spoiling" them. Look up save bedsharing practices if you're truly interested in safe, gentle sleep for you and your family.
It seems to me that her method and what she teaches is not making your baby sleep through the entire night without waking but for them to being able to fall back asleep or just go to sleep on their own. Or just be able to figure out what comforts them without needing you to do it for them, like her ex about them being able to put the binki into their mouth on their own for comfort. I’m a FTM due any day now and have been watching tons of videos and reading articles trying to see what would I would like to try. if you have resources or articles you like on why I wouldn’t want to try the cry it out method I would love to read them!
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Rapid extinction sleep training sounds like the cruelest thing I’ve ever heard of
This was so interesting! Natalie is so knowledgeable! I can’t believe how much info she provided us, thank you!!
Thank you :)
Very interesting. I’ve never been on board w the CIO because I just don’t feel good about it. It goes against my gut, but this info is very interesting. Thank you for sharing I like to see things from different opinions and she’s well educated on the topic which is highly respectable
I think a mother's gut instinct is always right! Since you are open to different opinions you should read this: www.google.com/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/moral-landscapes/201112/dangers-crying-it-out%3famp
Just food for thought ;)
So what do you do before 16 weeks!? I’m drowning 😭😩😭
I sleep trained my baby at 6 months he’s now 8 months. I used this video and others to get an idea of what I needed to do. I looked at the prices of the program and was shocked with how much it cost. It’s sad to know that some families are struggling and can’t afford something like this. So I would suggest getting the book by Richard Ferber solve your child’s sleep problems
I’m surprised no one asked about naps. My baby is sleep trained (followed the Pantley method). He didn’t cry at all at night, but any time it’s nap time he resists so much😪😅
Ugh me too I need nap advice!
The method outlined in my online program will address exactly how to get baby to fall asleep for naps 100% independently. Also, take a look at this: www.babysleeptrainer.com/when-to-start-nap-training/
Co sleeping isn’t bad as people make it seem like. If you’re a calm sleeper, go ahead and do it. I hardly move in my sleep and it was very convenient for me especially since I work a lot and do not want to be getting out the bed through out the night. I’ve done this with both of my kids up until 4/5 months old.
Loveeedddd all the information, every question I ever had was answered ❤️
guys please wait till your baby is 12 months old at least, so it won’t harm and effect child developmemt
Thank you for posting this. I just shared a video based on research demonstrating that sleep deprivation is associated with postpartum depression so sleep training can be a preventative measure we take to improve our mental health.
www.drjen4kids.com/soap%20box/sleep%20stuff.htm
That makes sense my baby is now 4 months and suddenly stopped sleeping in big chunks. I was coping fine, but now I’m struggling hence why I’m researching what I can do and when I can do it.
Hi thanks for the video. I researched about the topic and found out that sleep training should be done before 8 months and after 15 months for the cosleeping babies because this is the age that they have separation anxiety. So if a baby is between 8 and 15 and cosleep, just putting them in the crib and leave the room is problematic because of that reason. I have bought Natalie’s book but I did not found a specific section for this.
I love how blunt she is! This was SO helpful!!! 🙌🏽
I just need to know if she has children
What exactly makes one a baby sleep “expert” ? All these sleep trainers seem to have no real credentials? Where are the studies being done on these methods and the affects on babies? Not sure how any of these women are experts in anything
Helpful video! Background music was distracting though
Natalie should be stripped of her sleep certification (doubt she has a real one anyway since science from this generation doesn't support CIO for basic and logical reasoning), and Susan stop trying to make yourself feel better by trying to defend CIO when the science doesn't back you up AT ALL.
Yes
community.babycenter.com/400_my-baby-only-falls-asleep-when-i-breastfeed-her-how-can-i-ch_500400_0.bc
Great read on breastfeeding and cosleeping
Letting a baby cry themself to sleep is not good for them.
I wish she would stop promoting her course every 2 seconds
Started Monday night and my baby slept through the night last night (Wendsday) THANK YOU. 💜
How old was your baby when you did this?
It is surprising that no questions are about nap. I think naps are very tricky. E.g., when babies are upset and ask for attention and help at night, and if you stick to the rule, he would finally fall asleep. But for nap, sometimes it means the nap is over. And the day time routine is messed up. And if they fall back into the habit of short nap, it takes much much more effort to go back to a good napper.
ABSOULTEY!! Nap training is usually much harder than night training, and nap training is addressed in a lot of detail in my program.
also: www.babysleeptrainer.com/when-to-start-nap-training/
:)
Thanks! I ordered your book and it is on the way. My baby is able to fall asleep both daytime and nighttime in his crib, with me putting a hand on his chest, or patting if necessary, and singing a specific song. But I am considering going forward to wean these minimum assistances. Can I do this by also following your sleep training method? I am concerned if I move forwards and it gets worse instead....
I used Natalie's program and it literally changed our lives. We love her!
andiecandie awe, thank you!
That's great! How old is your child now and how is he or she growing emotionally?
Best video.. 👌🏼I watched this when I had just given birth and used info at that stage. Our daughter is now 4 months and I have been able to go back to this video over and over.. thank you 😊 💓
Of course no one knows that a baby feels that they have been abandoned but there are studies that show that baby is under deep distress. Please do some research before letting your baby cry it out.
Here is a good article to start with:
www.google.com/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/moral-landscapes/201112/dangers-crying-it-out%3famp
Wow she is so insightful, life changing! I am a nurse practitioner and learned so much from her. Thank you for doing this video!
Thank you for this video. This is my second night sleep training my 4 month old. I have no idea what I'm doing and I was just letting him cry it out and checking on him, but the tips Natalie gave helped me have a better understanding of how to do it more efficiently. AWESOME!
Great video. I'd be lost without sleep sacks. Entered your giveaway on Instagram @richele_scott
Natalie reminds me of Mel C from spice girls 😁
CIO can harm baby and mother's bond. When the baby cries it is communicating, its the caregivers role to attend to the cry so the baby knows he/she is not alone and being cared for. CIO increases their cortisol level for days after the occurrence. They pass out from crying due to the high level of stress and basically their brain shuts down because they realize no one is coming to help them. In addition, while the baby is crying it out, the mothers cortisol level spikes, but evens off after the baby stops. Thats where the bond is harmed - mommy and baby are no longer in sync.
This is TRULY heart breaking yet most of youtube is covered with let babies cry so you can still have a life like before you had a baby.
@@lilylebowsky5908 or maybe that sleep is a necessity not a luxury for both baby and mother and every mother should do whatever feels right for them in order to be the best version of themselves for their children! Not a zombie absent version 😊
I am so disturbed by how many people in these comments are on board with this. It's funny how people think their baby and themselves should be a walking spreadsheet. This is just sick. The ends don't justify the means. 4months? Are you kidding me? babies are so small and delicate....this really angers me....
This video is awesome and has some super useful info. I currently have a 7 week old newborn and a 2 year old and it addressed alot of questions I had!! I love that you guys even take about the transition from cribs to a bed. Thank you Susan and Natalie ❤️❤️
But letting baby cry for prolonged amount of times it raises their cortisol level. Increasing their anxiety and it rewires their brain...
This was AMAZINGLY helpful!!! Did you train nights and naps at the same time?
Hey Susan and Natalie! I loved your video. I’m having my baby soon, and I know I’m going to be coming back to this video in the future. Thank your very much!!!! My Instagram is angelitajurado.
Congratulations on your new baby! Check out my Newborn Program for tips to help LO! www.babysleeptrainer.com/purchase-newborn-program/
my freakin wife always think its bad for the baby to.let it cry...(w/c i do.) its always like that here in the philippines!!!!
It is
community.babycenter.com/400_my-baby-only-falls-asleep-when-i-breastfeed-her-how-can-i-ch_500400_0.bc
Great read on breastfeeding and cosleeping
Lily Lebowsky no it’s not lol. Sleep deprivation on the other hand is extremely bad
Muzak a tad too loud .esp if its a convo no music if even necessarimy imo :) new fan of ur channel
Oh my god Natalie, breathe! Could you speak any faster?
What about diapers change in the middle of the night? What do you do?
Please let me know what lipstick you are wearing. You look beautiful! I don't have children BUT always love your videos. :)
Thank you Both sooooo much for this video!!! 90% agree with everything. Definitely will use some new tricks that I learned in this video. I just wish sleep trainer would speak more slowly… definitely will look to buy for her book . All of mamas and dads need all the tips and tricks to help our little ones and us to have find happiness and sleep , some me time or go back to mom and dad time :)
@susanyara I just had my daughter month ago at first she did great through the night only waking up once or twice where now we have found out she has an allergy to dairy and soy which is making sleep harder and harder for her as she is uncomfortable and I’m changing my diet so I am still able to breastfeed her for as long as possible! I would love to try the @kytebaby sleep bag hoping it could help this mama and baby get some much needed rest!
My Instagram handle is, @mama.maiuri
I hope I am able to find this video again once I have my own baby one day... :)
My 5-month old usually gets gassy from crying too much. How do I prevent that while sleep training my baby? Thanks!
Great info, perfect timing. My little guy is almost 5 1/2 months old and were doing the timed check ins. 5, 10, 15 mins. The first 4ish nights were ROUGH but now he sleeps through the night and mom and dad get sleep again! Naps are a challenge for us now because hes used to sleeping on somebody.
Loved the time stamp info in the description!!! Thanks for the video
Great video! Wish you answered questions about naps though!!
www.babysleeptrainer.com/when-to-start-nap-training/ :)
This is great. My 4 month old sleeps from 7 to 4, wakes up for a feed then goes back to sleep for 2 more hours. It’s working out for me thank god because that’s when I wake up to pray
Masha Allaah abayo Shamsa
This video had a lot of helpful tips. I need help with naps for sure. I am also entering the Kyte Baby giveaway @rachaface10
Take a look at this, it might help: www.babysleeptrainer.com/when-to-start-nap-training/
I have a three year old he sleeps perfectly! We have a baby on the way and I swear I’ve forgotten everything about getting infants to sleep.
@madisonics
Every baby is different as well. But if you ever need help I have a Newborn sleep program as well as a the Sleep training program: www.babysleeptrainer.com/my-program/
Wow, this woman is stressing even me out! Has she heart of all the scientific data that shows how the baby brain gets severely DAMAGED from this kind of sleep training. All anxiety and problems that it will bring on later on in the childs life. PLEASE read " What Every Parent Needs To Know" before damaging your baby with this CRAP!
PS - Both of these ladies can use some counceling or a HUG!
It's true that we don't exactly know how this method affects children in their after life.. I think it's dangerous and it's only beneficial for parent's calm. My baby is 3,5 month old and we can't let it cry for more than some seconds!
@@lestattsia9365 You're doing everything right to not let your child cry more than normal! Prolonged crying has been proven to harm the brain. The stress hormones rise too high for a childs brain system and they can't calm themselves even if they want to. They just shut down. There is a research that shows that this leads to early depression even in little children. They stop seeking interaction and become numb. Babies need love, support and care, just as we adults do :)
Ummm..what about parents of multiples? I have twins so how do you handle that component?
Thank you so much for this video! But can anyone answer this question for me??
If my baby is supposed to sleep for an hour but wakes up and cries after 20 minutes of napping, do you keep them crying in the crib till 1 hour hits or do you just get them because 20 min is all they can do for a nap? Thank you in advance to anyone who can answer this for me! 💖🙏
I knew Natalie's name sounded so familiar and then I went through old emails from 7 1/2 years ago or so when the family I was nannying for with sleep training their baby and they used Natalie Willis as their sleep trainer. That is so cool to me.
Remove the dang music!!!
I have been sleep training my 4 month girl for 2 weeks without success. The sleep at night is not bad but she really struggles with naps. Do you have any advice?
You are my sleep training guru Susan. No doubt. And you helped me my husband and helped me help friends
So much. I’m so excited for this video even though my baby is sleep trained lol 😂 so I can help others and you doing this has helped so many who can’t afford sleep training specialist and I hope you realize what a great service that is and how great your guest is for sharing the tips and tricks. Love you!
It is so helpful bcz I hardly hear about co sleep training tips IG id : py.navyasri
Great info here-thank you so much. I had a hard time listening because I felt the conversation was competing with the music too much. Maybe lower the music volume you play along with your vids?
oh, come on, that coach is full of stupid nonsense. like she says, no matter what you do, one day these kids will have to learn and cry on untill getting used to. you dont need any "trainning" for that, it is just a logic sleeping development.
A lot of this advice is great. However, you have to get a kid out of a crib if they are out of diapers. The sleep consultant left that totally out of the equation.
I just started to teach on my own, without following any method to teach my baby to sleep. She turned 1 year old and she was still waking up every hour or 2. She wouldn’t sleep but with a bottle in her mouth, she almost never cared for pacifiers, and i am pregnant on the 8th month, so exhausting, sleep deprived for so long , i can’t carry her in my arms either.
I am so sorry you have been sleep deprived do so long, that is SO hard! Especially when pregnant! Check out my programs! www.babysleeptrainer.com/my-program/
I happened upon this video by mistake and I just want to say I disagree with the statement of "every sleep training is some form of cry it out. I was able to get my 3 month old to sleep thru the night without crying at all. I had a later sleep training time because she was born small and the pediatrician didn't want me allowing her to sleep thru the night without waking her to feed. I essentially just weaned her off of waking thru the night and was fine. Used to put her down at 7, wake at 11, 3 and 7am. And then cut it down by one feeding each couple of days. No fighting and now she sleeps 10-11hrs a night. I stopped watching afterward because of how strongly I felt about that statement. I dont want others to feel that that's their only option.
What if the baby poops during the night? Is it ok to "allow" them to wake to change their diaper?
I started sleep training today but she is crying for all most 1 hour anyone please give me an advice on what tom do
Shoutout to moms that co-slept and sleep trained late because of survival mode.
This was sooooo helpful! I’m going to begin sleep training my son next month (he’ll be 6 months) and you’ve made me feel so much better! 💕
I'm so glad to hear that Sleep training is a choice. I nurse my 16 week old to sleep and debating if I need to sleep train because everyone has been telling me you have to. I'm still on the fence about it but this video was very helpful! Thank you.
ookii03 I only sleep trained because I was starting to not sleep at all and it was affecting me. Only do it if you want. It’s definitely a choice!
Been waiting for this video!!
The video is very helpful but the backgrowned music is annoying
The background music makes it very difficult for people who are hard of hearing to hear Natalie's answers. Major spelling errors by grown-ass adults are "annoying".
Why the music is so loud? Barely hear you guys.
You mention white noise a few times and I’ve heard a lot of sleep consultants suggest it recently, but I don’t understand how that is not considered a sleep prop or assistance.
Leah She actually said it was a sleep prop, but one that was acceptable to use in this case.
@emilycons5
Such great information!!! Moms can never have too much info that can help their babies sleep better!!
YAY!!!! NATALIE!!! SHE'S THE BEST!!!
I cant event watch the full video bc of the bg music what a disaster
I wish I had this video for when i was sleep training my boys. Hoping some of these tips will still help with my older son! ❤️ @iccjl
Thanks, this is very helpful. Just one thing struck me as very dangerous, that is advising that it is okay to let a baby under 12 months old to sleep on his stomach. According to doctors, SIDS makes up about 80% of sudden and unexpected infant deaths (SUIDs), and is often linked to babies sleeping on their side or stomach. Maybe this should have been mentioned as a reason why not to let the baby sleep in that position?
Yay! I’ve been waiting for this video! I sleep trained my daughter at 6.5 months using the Ferber Method but she had a regression at 8 months then everything went out the window. She’s now 15 months and I need sleep! Super helpful!
You DO need sleep! check out my programs! www.babysleeptrainer.com/my-program/
Thank you so much! Such a great video with so much good information. How not to watch it all!
Wtf
Hey, I am so late to this party …. Just in case: dropping one feed per week overnight - any advice on which to start with? We have an 8 month old who feeds every 3 hours, so line 7 pm, 10 pm, 1 or 2, then 4 or 5. In what order should we drop them?
Im sorry but The music is so annoying I can barely hear.
I just found your TH-cam channel. Thank you for the sleep training video.
Thank you so much for this video! My baby just turn 6 months and we have been working for about 1 month to sleep train and already watched your previous videos. I found that this one was really informative and gave me confidence!
🤞For the contest 💤 @gabrielle_biz
I'm glad you feel more confident! If you find yourself needing help check out my programs: www.babysleeptrainer.com/my-program/
What do I do if after my son goes to sleep after all the process of the training but he only sleeps for 30 minutes and then is back up? He just turned 5 months old yesterday.
Thankyou. This is very useful. Just a bit of constructive feedback. I think the background music made it very hard for me to understand what she is saying (on low volume) because of the background music. Also she speaks little fast I find it hard to follow. Apart from that thanks a lot for your time and efforts xx
Sorry but the background music is so disturbing .... we cannot hear properly what you guys are saying ! Don’t put so loud next video please ! 🙂