You Want A Filipina Wife? Be Careful What You Wish For Cause You Just Might Get It!
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- You want a Filipina wife? Be careful what you wish for cause you just might get it! Thanks for watching.
Disclaimer: This vlog is not bashing Filipino women but talking about the dangers of microwave relationships.
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Avoid marriage...and you will be worth more to her alive than.....😳
Not sure if you just joking but … man there’s so much truth to that!!!!
When you don't marry her, she will trim the fat of the meat to keep you healthy and living longer. Sex is available when you need it without nagging.
You are 100 percent correct! I married a woman of a different culture. After the honeymoon period wore off, I started seeing parts of her culture that I couldn’t deal with. I ended up divorced. I tell guys, marrying a woman from a different culture is twice as hard as marrying someone from your own culture. They get mad at me because they don’t know yet. Great video!!
That's a you problem. You should have waited at least 3yrs before marrying her.
there's no magic time period of waiting. Someone can change at year 5. I get your point of taking more time to vet though lol
@@cjack202003
its just you. Plenty of successful happy Fil-Am couples here in my small town of 250,00 people. I'm friends with at least a dozen couples. Now MAYBE it helps that they are all Christians and this is a fellowship group, but they've all been together for years, decades even.
@@Electrichead64 he is talking about the "culture" that he couldn't deal with. I get where he's coming from. Even after 30 years, dealing with the cultural differences are still a challenge.
The correct phrase is "Opposites attract but they dont last".
I heard it as "opposites attract and then attack".
I meet my Philippine wife back in 2000. We got married in 2003. We're still married in 2024. The road was very bumpy. However, I wouldn't exchange her for a mountain of gold! 🇵🇭
Filipina women are definitely not easy or submissive until you prove to them that you meet their standards for them to submit to you. In my opinion the man has to be no push over, not a simp, in good shape and in good health and can take care of them, that's what I've learned, yes it's blind crippled and crazy but that comes with a price. Guys get in shape, get cha money right, and treat these females like they just average no matter if she is a 10 and you will be on the road to success, been with my filipina fiance for almost 5 years now, life is great.
Real shit! Say it louder for the people in the back! 🗣️🗣️🗣️
Every thing sir Calvin told me i been living it.
I have thought about this. I'm 51 and been on my own for quite a while. I sometimes wonder if its best I rent just by the hour. But if I would meet a nice Filipina, I will keep this message in mind and take my time and get to know the girl-don't jump into anything. Thanks Calvin.
It's important to keep your emotions in check and see how the girl your with reacts to different situations. These girls can be really be on their best behaviour and when you least expect it, the beast emerges.
Been with my woman for 3 years this man is absolutely correct on what he’s saying. Get to know the woman Filipino women can be difficult to deal especially the younger ones. Our money can’t buy love as time goes on.
I'm not trying to argue.I'm just making a statement. I have never.
Been with a woman that I have much in common with. I like hunting fishing and sports watching. Nope not a single girlfriend liked any of those things. I don't like romance movies. I like to read books in my spare.Ti've never read a book with a woman. I've only been with women who had opposite interest in me the same for all my friends.
Filipino logic and real logic are not even close to being the same. Filipinos will never, never, ever admit that they are wrong.
This.
Hey, that's true in the US, too.
Filipinos do not use logic, they think the way they want to. Well I guess it's their turf, they can think the way they want to. It ain't the west.
Great point!
You are absolutely right, especially if they come from law enforcement, Air forces, military. Trust me, sometimes it is like they have a PHD in ignorance. Sweet/sour is the best description.😒
Christian Filipina is a great example. None of the women pay for access to you but you must pay to get their info. And half of them are separated? So this is a Christian site and the women want a relationship and they are still married? 😮
Why would anyone want to get married
Facts
I agree but a lot of guys are desperate and delusional.
"We don't operate on commom sense when we get over here." You hit the first pitch over the fence brotherman.
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Im a westerner and I have lived in the middle east for over 15 years and worked with Filipinas and had Filipina girlfriends. Now they are completely different outside of their country when back in Philippines they are totally different. I'm not too old yet middle aged and I would never move to Philippines unless you travel there first for a few holidays and go to different areas, and if your in your 60s and you think some 20 or 30 year old girl will fall in love with you think again, its all about the money! I know the girls have even told me all about it and laugh about it. It's like anywhere else if your nice and you meet a nice 1 then congratulations!! To stay away from the culture you need to have a bit of money and live near a place where there are westerners living nearby local bars or holiday spots - good luck living in a remote area that will drive you nuts! Sometimes you will tell them things and it will make you crazy that they dont understand or get it - they see things from a totally different point of view in some way strange
Straight up knowledge. Uncle Calvin dropping gems. A message like this needs to be listened to several times until understood.
Well you have done your best to warn them. Fellas you need to go slow!! Seen many a guy get emotionally damaged and financially ruined by thinking what's the worst that can happen. Believe me. It can be a train wreck!! Never rush. Slow dance.
I suspect that “opposites attract” originally meant masculine and feminine, not cultures.
That's awesome advice if you're dating in the state's as well. Also, I have been saying to the other vloggers that they should do videos from a male philippineoes perspective.
Gents, as a man that was married to a Filipina for 5 years, let me give you a bit of advice. If your girl tries to give you the tampo treatment, embrace it. Live your life like its a break from her and she will turn her tune quick. Now if your dating and she tries that, just laugh about it and start talking to other girls. Again that will change her tune, she'll eventually realize that those tactics will back fire on her and push you towards other women that may be more cooperative. Never take that bs haha and dont let the troupe of "its their culture" to trap you in a situation like dealing with a tampo woman lol NEXT!!!
It's funny. No matter the culture, emotional manipulation will always used as a test. You gave solid advice!
I don't want a micro-wave relationship... I want an Easy Bake Oven....lol
Easy bake!? Wow that takes me back....
Either way, the food is hot on the outside but cold in the middle.
If you are a foreigner and you can learn to speak at least some of her language, 80% of the communication problems and confrontations between you and her are eliminated.
The only problem is if as a foreigner you use their language against them they will turn against you. Mainly because they dont really have a comeback.
Limited intelligence
They are pretty, but the culture differences can kill you.
I have got use to the lying, that does not bother me as much now as it did five years ago.
This is a very truthful honest
Video
What kind of lies did you experience?
@@thebeachoflife The kind when their mouths were moving.
@@maximusindicusoblivious180 thats a bit vague. I was hoping @marvindockery-lo9cw would clarify his comments
@@thebeachoflife Oops, sorry for the generalization and butting in on a open forum but I have never in all of my years known of one kind of lie to distinguish it self from another kind of lie.
Calvin I started watching these videos out of curiosity. Quite interesting and informative from you and others. I'm 73 now....10 yrs ago I got screwed over after 19 years of marriage. Personally I don't need "any" woman bad enough to go through the drama anymore. Wish you the best.
Was the woman who screwed you over Filipina or american?
@@imveryhungry112 No...American..."ALL" women are capable of doing that. As men are also capable of doing that to women....Sad...but true
@@RonMeadows-ri1ec :(
Sorry to hear this. Did she switch up on you on was she playing the long game?
You’re nailing it Calvin! You’re on a roll man. “Pants on fire” Another classic line!!
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Gotta take em off quick...😂
@paulbunyan9436 🤣🤣🤣
You are so right Calvin, I've learned to wait out the representive with all women especially a foreign woman, that's why I had to cook that thang in the oven for 2 years and meet her family before I made my decision to marry my filipina fiance, after 4 and a half years together now we finally about to get married, I seen all that come to the surface and shut all that nonsense down quick fast, that's why not being a simp up front, taking your time, and knowing what you have in your relationship is the winning recipe, I'm living proof, took me 3 Filipinas to find a good one
Women are women all over the world. Doesn't matter if they're from the West or from the East. Or and doesn't matter what country they from. Women are women. That's just pop that a lot of men don't realize.
And just like anywhere else. Women in the Philippines can use you and play games. Also, alakazad, the Philippines, as it becomes more modern, the women become more. Independent, just like the West, no different.
💯 People forget that we're all human haha
@@I_Need_Travel-mw3st That's my friend fax. Actually, I'll leave him go one step further. Eventually, the next generation of men who can't get women in the West who want to travel to these other countries. It's gonna be harder to get a woman in those countries as well. You didn't get to the point where you don't even travel to get a woman to be a waste of time. That's just my 2 cents.
Thanks, Calvin, for your honest, candid, realistic, and truthful discussions about Filipina women. It's frustrating in the USA that most men believe that all Asian women are subservient, submissive doormats who want nothing in life but to be a man's personal slave. I believe this stereotype is untrue, unfair and is insulting to all Asian women. Yet western men cling to this false stereotype. I hope you don't grow weary telling the truth. Your commentaries are balanced regarding the good and the bad about living in the Philippines.
Calvin, you are so right. I am a brother, my Filipina and I had a lot of learning to do about each other. We had some major misunderstandings in the beginning. I think that made us stronger. However, after almost two years together, I know we make a great match because we come from very similar traditional upbringings, we have a lot in common, and we are both 40+.
Question: how do you bring your Filipina girlfriend to the States to live with you as your permanent girlfriend, without marrying her?
There is no visa for a permanent girlfriends in the United States. You'd have to be legally married. However, she can get a work or visit visa but it's not permanent.
Try to win an argument when they are arguing in Bisaya,,and they will repeatedly say they are right till she wears you down,,then there is the dreaded TAMPO,,lol. Great topic!
WTH 😅 you must have a really opinionated woman
Men go there thinking their money will knock doors down and its true to a point but there are certain doors that cant be opened mainly because of western old boys club mentality.
On point as usual calvin.
It's true your money talks and bullshyte walks but don't make the mistake because your spending your cash on them that they like you, you will be disappointed.
Your telling us what we don't want to hear but your telling us the truth and thanks for that!!!! You're the only truthful channel on the Philippines Thanks again!!!!!
Let The Sunshine In!!!
When searching for a Filipino wife be sure she is working at SM, Factory, Call Center, or other professional job. She must be attractive and down to earth. Promise to make her secure in "her" country and the states. Tell her she is the most important person on the planet. I follow her in her country, and she follows me in mine. She is free to make any choices and remain friends. She is on tap 24/7. Amen. Haters go to h...
She can sell street foods or have used clothes laid down on a blanket for all I care, as long as she is kind and has a good character.
The people disappearing speaks to me. As a 74 year old 100% disabled US veteran I have a concern of having a target on my back, because of the widow pension after 1 year of marriage or the wartime veteran pension. I feel I need to evaluate if there is a family member who would think my potential wife is an easier touch for money than me.
Hey Calvin, thanks for the wisdom and I am listening, 62, just joined a site, and I know a little about the culture. I just can't swallow sending her family a monthly check, even if it's just $50, I would resent it because it is the principle of the thing, in America, when you bring a kid into the world you are responsible to the kid, but they have it backwards, the kid owes the parents. Now, we all love our parents and will help them out, but their system is essentially involuntary servitude controlled through family shaming. And, in the foreigner case, he is the sap that has to pay. I can't do it. So, I dont need to be married, I will just get a girlfriend. Thanks for you insight. You are helping bro. I say in my profile that I require a prenuptial and it has slowed traffic for me, but why talk to girls that won't sign, that is just a waste of time cuz I aint risking my life savings for nobody.
Thank you. Your experience is valid in any country lol. Appreciate you man
You're skivvies are on fire Sunshine! Keep it going!
Good morning from Cincinnati,,lol,,yea they can be a handful😊
Hey Calvin, are you really doing so well over there with the devil's that you don't know than with the devil's that you do know? No offense, just curious. I know what it's like to have a child that you love, so I guess I just answered my own question.
Honestly I am. There would be no reason for me to front. This is right out of my dreams.
@@calroach1 I'm glad to hear that my brother, much happiness to you.
Marrying a Filipina that means you are marrying the whole family. Family members asking financial help is quite exhausting.
Calvin, when you said you have children and you have to make it work, your words hit like a truck.if after hearing that and everything else you said, they don't listen, they are beyond help!
Excellent lecture!
Why marry when you have so many beautiful young ladies for entertainment, available. With the age gap that we, men, prefer, love is allusive. One can always hire a"wife" at a later age for less than 700.00 dollars a month to make life a little easier, before death. It is that simple but most of us want it all and now, which is sheer greediness and stupidity.
I agree our first few years of marriage was amazing, then came reality we are different, and the next few years was learning and trying to figure each other out and we did and it was hard, but we made it and now after 10 years of marriage, it's back amazing again and wonderful, marriage is hard but even harder when you marry someone of a different culture be patient understanding compromising loving and you can make it don't let anyone tell you any different, it's between you and your spouse
Well, that was a reality check! No right answer, in the great debate whether to rent them, or buy one, lol. After 3 failed tries, i do know only 1 option is guaranteed peaceful
Like he said, get to know the Filipina or any woman first before marrying them, think with your big head not with your little head!
Not just careful honest. As you said it's mutual exploitation. The guy is dating and trying to marry a hot college age girl.she is trying to improve her entire families economic situation and hopefully have cute babies.
Then the old man gets over there once he gets the girl he gets bored and starts drinking to much.
The culture shock of going from the rat race on steroids to permanent vacation.
The advice you give Cal isn't exclusive to the Philippines. But they are lessons you learn faster in the Philippines.
I am listening your words are not falling on deaf ears my G big facts
Man i love that you one of the few here that tell like it is
That's why for me.. I only want a partner, not a wife
I'm not flocking over there. I don't want to go to the Philippines. I'm happy right where I am in the West. There's plenty of good women here.
Lol I did 😂❤it’s a wild adventure- but worth it😂❤!!!
I fell in love with a photograph- then I fell in love with the person. ❤ after 15 years and 10 years marriage I love her more now than I thought I could.
Sense it’s not as common as we think it is🙄
Most of the men who go to the Philippines and place like that looking for those women that appear young and some of them do look young for their age. A lot of them are in their 20s and 30s, but the lot of men who leave the West are meant that usually can't get women in the West or they have bad relationships so they think when I go to a federal country, it'll be better not necessarily.
I married a bar girl, it was fine until I got her back to the US. I did notice Red Flags but wanted the relationship to work. It didn't, we were divorced 3 years later. Her new boyfriend paid for her divorce. 2 things that I'll never get used to about Filipinas is SUPERSTITIONS and PROCRASTINATION. The boogey man is behind every corner and do it tomorrow attitude.
In the Philippines, “ Later” means never.
Straight facts! Nothing follows.
Hello Calvin , it's me California world travler, and butchster 1, I changed my name again. Great video . I love your honesty.. take care..
Who 🤣 thanks
If you are only seeking beauty to impress others, not intersted in the culture. not having a true relationship with family .then you have already lost. This is essential in any relationship world wide. you have to let her hand go sometimes and learn to adapt and embrance your environment. Most western men can't do this..But, some of us can adapt and be successful
Attractive only lasts so long. Being a pain in the ass lasts forever. Yes I have been married before. 😜
WORDS OF WISDOM.
I plan to visit but no time soon unless I get deployed there temporarily but I’m hearing you preach trust me I’ve had that in the back of my head definitely thought about I’m currently in Hawaii rn and I’m loving the jungle / island life probably not as bad of an culture shock here as like the PH is … definitely when I do arrive me personally taking my time and vetting the Filipina 1000%👍🏽
Preach bro !!
Great video brother, The shadow of the gate on Calvin's face is a representation of the Matrix (prison)!
Very observant.😮
FACTS
Some women can be very manipulative. There are about 2 women I met who were really good. Most of the rest were probably as bad as I used to be. Don't be so quick to believe a woman (or a man). Take time to learn of time. Eventually, they will show their true selves. Don't ruin a money-making opportunity for a woman (in most cases).
“OPPOSITES ATTRACK BUT LATER THEY ATTACK! IF THEY WORK THROUGH IT THEN THEY ARE FAR STRONGER THAN ANYTHING ELSE!” That is the EXACT statement that you guys are BUTCHERING 😂🤣🤪🤭❤️🙏
Nope. Sorry. Wrong again.
Calvin, the issue with learning from a Filipino directly is that his issues with his Pinay will be very different from MY issues with mine. She is not expecting him to pay for and support her family like they do with us and we’re dealing with them in different levels. For instance he doesn’t deal with issues of culture and traditions like we have to. They don’t experience vendors plotting with their Pinays to charge you more for items or try and keep the change (since we don’t need it), or even hit on your girl right in front of you since we don’t speak the language. These are things I have experienced my self. Apples to apples - I need to talk to people like me … other foreigners really.
quote ,,the \friend /\lover/\adopted family /will all plot the higher price behind your back\\in Cuba AND Mexico,, apparently Philippines is no different .the dogs will try to steal your woman to gain \\your//house and possessions
@@mapleleaf7530damn that makes me want to stay with the women in the states.
Thank you Calvin..... You are our seeing eye dog.... lead the way....
I have actually been taking my time. Many days I am thankful for the patience. I have also spoken with her about couples counseling which she agrees with on the surface.
"Microwave relationships," lol.
Knowledge, understanding, wisdom and patience are key ❤
Yes, you are going to run into cultural issues. One example is communucation. Yes, most flipinos speak English, but the brand of English is different from westerners. We tend to enjoy a good banter with a little bit of sacracisim. Now if you apply this way of humour to your pinay, she may be offended, because many Filipinos can take things literally and be sensistive.
This is what I like about your content. You have experience, and you're still learning. I don't hear half of some things you talk about on any other channel. Keep doing what you do.
You just always nail Calvin. So right again. People stop pretending Calvin is just guessing at all this. He is not. Pay attention and due your due diligence.
Once again proffessor you boots on the ground intelligent, candid philosophy is a lifesaving message that will actually save many lives if listened to and taken seriously. Im glad that i have taken the time out to listen to you, become a subscriber, and reflect on not only yiu
But the comments of your intellegent followers and subscribers.
Salute to you, my brotha!
What's up brother!
Be careful what you ask for😊
Thanks Calvin
Hello Roger?
I washed your entire video so what do you suggest for the new person coming over
Take your time and choose wisely. There are good women here but we get in trouble by rushing.
I watched the whole video so what is your suggestion for new people coming over
Communication hardest part in a new or older relationship language barriers' they get dose bleed english seems culture of her family take priority over time. KIds care care of older parents
Marrying people you just met is crazy to me. I don't even trust the marriage thing based what I've seen throughout my life.
I understand The Culture Shock & haven't been there yet. However, when you said get advice from The Filipino Men what do you mean by that Cal?
I remember asking you years ago if you have Filipino friends and you Said no. So how do you get advice from Filipino Men in what way?
A listener whose Mission is Too Learn.
100% Thanks
Wait!! What happened to the "unspoken agreement"?
The unspoken agreement is in the beginning. It gets the party started. It has nothing to do with the culture shock.
@@calroach1can you add a few things to the “culture shock” category? We’ve heard about tampo and supporting her family. What other culture quirks or differences that we would run into?
Thank you sir ❤
Another great one, Calvin!
But being 80 marrying a 20 year old ain't such a bad way to leave.
All that would be remedied if you don't get married. Why are all these guys so anxious about getting married. I just don't get it STAY SINGLE AND LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE 🤨
Because they can never find a woman in America that has not been ‘Americanized’. So they leave the country and go to ‘any’ Eastern country and the females are so desirable. They want to get married because they actually believe they can bring her to America without her becoming ‘Americanized’ 😪
Big talk Bro Guys need to be careful.
FACTS….. nothing but…..FACTS SIR!
I know it takes a minute to understand everything and culture difference you don’t want to rush into it
Ya , the woman here are easy. 🤣😂🤣😂🤣 NO
Talk about saying a lot without saying anything at all. You just said th same thing over and over again but with different words. You said you’ve been through it so you are warning us. Been through what? Tell us. You didn’t tell us. I suppose you brought it up in a different video but you brought it up in this one so tell us in this one.
A lot of wisdom in this video, thank you Calvin.
you are right about all and i only have about maybe 1 year total experience there in total
Great information. You are doing us a service!
Calvin, you should run a counseling service. You really have a good grip on the human condition and psychology. Personally, when I get to the Philippines, my target demographic for a woman is mid 40s - mid 50s. I want someone that I would at least have a chance to relate to. As always, a great video.
Still keeping it real!
Telling it like it is
Calvin is confessing to what he is going through.
Absolutely. I made it to the other side. I've been through it three times. That's the point of the vlog. I don't make this stuff up 🤔
Guess I just got lucky. Everyone around me seems to be losing.
Where are you on the U? Are you in the honeymoon stage or did you work through to the other side?
@@calroach1 I think we are still in the honeymoon phase. It certainly feels like it. Not a hour goes by where I dont think to myself how much I just absolutely love my wife. 5 years married, 2 kids, and living in the US. Oh but we were quick. I met her online and we chat every day for hours for a month before I met her. We already knew our personalities gelled and our goals were aligned. It so happened that I was sitting on cancelled plane tickets that needed to be rebooked from failed previous girlfriends and so I was able to move fast. Flew over there, we spent 2 weeks together, flew back, filled for K1. 5.5 months later, visa in hand. RIGHT before COVID. We got so lucky. Went over to get her, flew her back .. business class, got up the next day went to the courthouse and got married.
Happy ever since.
@@calroach1 5 years later, 2 kids, and living in the US. She will be a citizen next month. It should have been earlier, but COVID delays and the demands of my job slowed the process down a little bit.
Still feels like honeymoon phase.
The "work" was done with the bad girls in the Philippines I dated before I met her.
So much so that when it came to meeting my wife, I knew so instinctively that she was the right one for me and a good pure girl that it was like a gift from God for all the troubles I went through before.
@calroach1 But I broke all the rules with her. We met online a month before we met.
I flew over. She met me at the airport. Met the family, spent a few days together on Mabini, went home. Took me about a month to get the paperwork together, filed K1. 5.5 months later, VISA in hand. Flew over to pick her up, flew us back business class. Got up the next morning and went down to the courthouse and got married.
But thats the thing I dont think you and most people dont understand, even though you are a seasoned veteran of the Philippines.
There ARE no rules. Anything can happen in the Philippines. Wonderous things. Horrible things. Unspeakable things like nice, sweet bar girls who are still with their baby daddy who is being cucked by foreigners every night because hes too little of a man himself to support his own family. And he knows it.
Everything BAD about Filipinas CAN be true -- all in one package. Everything GOOD about Filipinas can also be true -- all in one package.
The trick is finding a good one.
The right girl is green lights all the way. Not just "feels like green lights", but actuall green lights. Like you have to have that divine knowledge. You have to Grok.
Im lucky in that Im more experienced than most. I actually work around Filipinos and Filipinas on a regular basis because I work on a ship. So I knew .. that there was more to the Philippines than Subic Bay, and Angeles City.
@Electrichead64 you're still in the honeymoon stage or you're not being totally honest. But I tip my hat to you.