10 Signs Your Relationship Could Be In Trouble In The Philippines
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 2 ต.ค. 2024
- 10 signs your relationship could be in trouble in the Philippines.Thanks for watching.
Disclaimer: This vlog is not about Filipinos but about narcissists. Narcissists come in all shapes, sizes, colors & nationalities.
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Thank you for trying to put an end to these "Do Filipinas like black men", videos. It's about who you are as a man and how you treat the people you meet over there.
Filipinas want any kind of man with money . Guys want to be special. Passport bros tend think they are special. I guess I was a Passport bro back in the eighties and nineties when I spent time in PH. A lot of Filipinas are race neutral. Guys leave that foolishness in the USA.
Those brothas annoy the crap outta me...
So many stupid videos on these stupid comments. I appreciate your comments. Especially the young guys who create these crazy videos.
I know many black American women, who don't like black men! Just move on guys, not every woman will like every man!!!!
They’re afraid of losing that money flow.
Dude, you’re calling that shit like you’re here. The no appreciation, destroying my friendships with other foreigners, keeps asking for more and more with no end to her requests for money and then take the hi-road saying I hurt her feelings and offend her family when I call her in her shit. I think we just broke off but … I get the feeling she’ll be calling back …
A simp attacked me in another video because I stated that a filipina's constant pressuring to spend more was not a good thing. He actually said that NOT giving your gf/wife everything she wanted was abuse, and meant you were either poor or stingy. I simply said that giving in to constant spending requests creates an entitlement attitude. A lot of simps are militant about their simping hahaha
@user-zu5tv7zt6v That sounds like a classic Flipino attitude that they and the whole family are entitled to your money. Have seen it so many times.
I live by the Golden Rule: He who has the gold makes the rules. I spent a lifetime busting ass to get what I have. No, I will not give it away to guys going to the chicken fights and sitting around drinking Red Horse instead of working.😂😂😂
gold diggers are low lifes and always return
Definitely don't be a ATM....
Word of advice don't answer that call brother run for the hills 🤣
Hi Calvin:
Today I was listening to a local radio program where therapists advise callers about improving/saving their relationships. One caller was a man in his seventies desperate to save his 18 year marriage to a Filipina wife. His wife is 30 years younger than him and she intends to divorce him after he brought her to the USA. The husband is suffering from health problems. She has already found another man she wants to be with. Unfortunately, the therapists didn't think there was any hope of saving his marriage. You are helping men who believe they will find "paradise 💓" in the Philippines face reality and avoid mistakes.
Taking the girl to the US is usually a big mistake.
i dont think she came to u.s with intent to divorce him after 18 years it was prob not big age gap when any women desides to leave she plan for a long time when it right for her often they will find some else then drop bomb a filipina no differnt. If she says she not happy your days are numbered she can throw you under bus philippines also
Sunshine Shoulder is saying the Truth 100%. I observed the same narcissist personality trait of my ex fiancee in 2012 ÷14. I hope all these guys running to The Philippines keep their eyes wide open. Filipinas with this kind of personality trait are quite prevalent in The Philippines, I am glad I walked away.
I was in a relationship with a seriously f'd up, narcissistic American woman who messed with my mind big time, always using her wealth to try to convince me to be with her. This continued after I left and started dating my current lady, who is a filipina. Living with the American narcissist lasted 4 months. Now, I am with a beautiful filipina that is, poor, uneducated, etc, but is full of love and treats me as a man should be treated
narrisist a filipina not excempt they dont like to forgive their rarley wrong it her way or the highway she might put her family before you
Calvin, it is tough over there. I remember leaving my condo at night. I saw a 7-year-old boy sleeping on cardboard. I tried to put some pesos in his pocket and he jumped up like I was robbing him. It is hard over there for some. I love the people over there because, with so much against them, they are always happy and cheerful.
Man, you really stirred up some thought with me on your list. Your really on it and you described it perfectly. One thing that really irks me is the giving at party and events me and my wife have. I seldom get a thank you when the people leave. I take it personal and am reminded its cultural. I don’t buy it. I call it common sense and human decency. It lacks a lot times and I hate witnessing it.
It’s not cultural. There is an underlying contempt and jealousy. That’s why they treat you this way and don’t say thank you. They want to BE you and are envious. So, they come and eat your food but not in joy or good faith, but in wastefulness and malice. Fleecing you is their right, for the injustice they suffered at the hands of fate, by being.. poorer than you. What a dynamic.
Yea man i love the way you bring it raw and real
Funny thing I noticed about Narcissist women is that they will always tell you how much you don't deserve someone as good as them and threaten to leave doubt they know damn well they aren't going anywhere.... but yet when you choose to walk away they can't let you go and it often destroys them because they lose control of the relationship.
IF they threat to leave make sure you show them the door.
You are so right about a narcissist. They do make it all about themselves. I can never do anything right. I am damned if I do and damned if I don't. Unfortunately for me, I am married to one.
Umm, yeah it's a tricky situation one you have given everything and made a nice stable home. For me I almost feel bullied by my wife, she doesn't like anything I do,say or whatever. But I am 66 and don't want to start again, in fact I can't afford to! I feel trapped and very lonely. Where I live in Cebu I don't have anyone I can talk to around me.
@@orangebuddha-gm8ku Don't live a life of misery and loneliness with a toxic partner. Your mental health and feelings matters. Sorry to hear this. I hope you find your happiness and inner peace.
Reach out to me if you need someone to talk to. Here's my email calroach1@gmail.com thanks.
@@orangebuddha-gm8kuYes, it's a form of bullying in a lot of cases, constant nagging, etc. Some say it is a form of 'financial abuse." Stand strong brother, and keep saying NO!
@orangebuddha-gm8ku you bought it on yourself...why you married her? You already divorced in the states 😅😅😅😅once an idiot always an idiot
Oh yeah, the biggest Golden nugget is the gratitude that she shows you on a daily basis. One thing is for sure is she better know your worth to her and where she came from. And oh yeah my fiance definitely don't like Calvin lol 😂
🤣🤣🤣 I'm doing my job 💪🏾
@calroach1 indeed you are, and she can't stand it lol 😂 I just laugh and continue on my way
Is she a narrisist if she dont give you a choice what country to live in ? My filipina dont like high cost of living, cold it not optional with her i move philippines or she will go without me you do what they say or it over
Bro Calvin,
Great Topic, Geat Delivery. Why to keep it 100...Stay Strong 💪
Hi Calvin believe me what I'll tell you It is Not because they don't like you they like you or your ????
You want to know why all foreigners girls they don't like her man hang around when she's going to hang around with her friends bc. she's afraid you to find out her secrets and you'll learn something else that she doesn't want you to learn or know about it's not because she's afraid to lose you but she's not honest with you and she got a lot to hide behind your back..man open your eyes to look at her in every corner. If you met with any girls whose don't like you to have the locals friends or get close to her friends or her people she du trusted in you but she's not trust in her peoples because what she had hidden behind your back she's dishonest girl and she wants to control you to live and to be in her own way..Run man run for your life..this not just happened with Philippines but with Thais woman Laos Cambodia Vietnam too..
All too true. It makes living difficult; you're never right, and the narcissist will undermine all external relations you have so that you become dependent on them for everything.
You always cover the most important topics, Calvin, but I think this one was one of the most important. Thank you.
Cal,you are right on with this video
Just found your channel today, I already watched 4 videos and I already thing you should have a lot more followers man. You're dope keep it up!
Its all true
they suddenly screams at u when u show ur. money out.
Oh, she takes care of herself
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Oh, and she never gives out
And she never gives in
She just changes her mind 🎵
She’s always a woman, to me….
Another good discussion Calvin. I'm back in PI in a week. I'm looking to explore more.
Calvin, I hope someday I could meet you...Everything you say is exactly what I'm experienced. It's really amazing that you can describe this exactly how I been through.
Thanks. It's because I've been through it 😅
Thanks. It's because I've been through it 😅
15:21 😂 lol been missing some good livestreams lately. 😊 I'll catch up and rejoin the livestreams eventually, keep the videos coming Calvin.
You nailed this one Cal! Hammer on the nail.
My ex-asawa had a few of these traits. Divorced 5 years already, still recovering psychologically--that is, I now have the PTSD. Would add that the initial hypersexuality also comes with BPD partners. Also, that these are not all unique to Filipinas.
Would agree also that States life is relatively shallow compared to RP life. Miss it in some ways.
Calvin, you need to talk about this subject more because you really cannot cover it in a short video. You see, when you meet a stranger in a strange culture most men do not know that the narcissist is looking for you. You are a target. The chances of meeting a narcissist female is elevated and you are very vulnerable. This is because you are not on your turf. She has the upper hand. She speaks the language. She knows what is going on. She has her support network. You do not. If she can hook you when you first get to the Philippines she can easily isolate you. She can control the relationship. Before you know it you will be in knee deep and in some serious trouble that you don't have any idea how to get out of. Yes, there are solutions but you can be assured they will be expensive. Be careful!
Yup. As they say.......The more things change , the more they stay the same.
That personality is like a bull in a china shop. They don't care about the damage they cause.
When you encounter that person, turn and run. You can't change them and they can't change themselves. Run.
I know from experience that no matter what you do for a narcissist. Enough is never enough and absolutely no empathy nor appreciation. You eventually get PTSD from the way you are treated.
Made this mistake too. It's all about them and their sense of entitlement. It's due to the pressure of sending money home and much more. Never saw as much narcissism as I did there.
We are last and we must except that. Family first.
I dodges a bullet after my crazy experience with my in Cebu.2012 to 2014. I just walked away and over these years I have learnt and observed how Filipinas perceived us Foreign Men. As much I like the people and love their country getting into another relationship there again is an absolute no no.
@@henrymcmiller2527That's what I observed and simply why I walked away almost 10 years ago.
@@Rodderz1So I heard about Thai so I never even bother dating any Thai ladies Lol 😅
@@Rodderz1 Nope I don't live in Philippines, i live and work in Europe.
I had 7 year long distance relationship.
Visit in person and met 2 years after.
Went back to California 30 days later. Visit every year or year and a half. Married on 4th year. I went back to California came back the 7th year and been together every since. 1 child and another on the way. Life is cool.
Bro sometime i have to wonder if all this women's now a day's it seems like they all have PTSD no it's no joke ever were u go now At first it's all cool, but then boom u have to say WFT ❤❤
I've had this experience with my last 2 ex's, somehow they would get control of my facebook and know about who and what I was texting on messenger. I had no privacy. So far my current gf doesn't do that.
I live here now for about 3 months and I would like to buy you lunch but I don't know how to contact you here. If you see Jane, ask her about the American named Rick renting one of her new apartments a little past Seaoil gas station near her restaurant the Nipa Hut Canteen and Algers Community.
Good afternoon Brother,,,continued blessings and so appreciate you sharing GAME 🎉
The narcissists will slowly drive your friends and family away.
Thank You Brother Calvin my 1st relationship I was in was this type.
I was coming out of a divorce and thought was it But it was not.
Keep the content coming
I have been here in the Philippines now since November
This is my 9th trip here.
God Bless You And Your Wonderful Family I would love to go back to St. Carlos and meet you I hope to see you soon Robert Thomas Houston Texas
No appreciation or gratitude with the pinay girlfriend and her family. You got it spot on
Do not expect retaliation from a narcissist when you see their true colors. Count on it!
Always appreciate your messages
Ran into that during my short stay.
your right about all and your not kidding most western men have no clue what there going to see in person in the philipines every american should go to the province and look around
ABSOLUTELY RIGHT
Great video cal 👍
💯Truth!
Thanks again Calvin for a great video!
There is another factor you are missing, Calvin. An Adventist minister friend of mine mentioned that at least 25% of the Filipinas suffered from sexual abuse as a child. That was my ex-Filipina wife. She was a nightmare from the moment she landed in Dallas until she moved out 20 years later.
CALVIN POINTS OUT.. a huge point,,, A \\\poor// westerner has at least welfare and free schooling... try to Imagine ,,no money ,,no real education,,, communal living, abject poverty ,,incest, many people drink to ease the pain ,,, subject a child to this for years,,, many many issues haunt these people for the rest of there life...personally saw all of this and more in a relationship ,,,, not in the Philippines,,,
Thanks Cal..
Hi Calvin!❤
Hello
The real nitty gritty!!!
Thank you.
Thanks!!
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Calvin, I have been watching your videos.
I know a guy that is getting ready to move to the Philippines in the next couple of years But he's a narcissistic liar. It was all abouthe calls. His fiancé doesn't know him but Birds of a feather flocks together
We like you Mr Shoulders. More and more make sense. Sucks when ya got a kid there. 🫡💯. Oh I forgot…don’t do anything StoooPid 😂