Being an older person, I was sorely lacking in knowledge on this instrument or synthesizer. I looked it up, and was surprised to learn it's price! It looks challenging and fun. I'm inclined to agree with you.
About the zombie apocalypse, my gf and I actually talked about this and it ended up with her getting a tank, and me traveling to her because she lives near a military base.
The ‘forgot-my-wallet’ shit-test he talks about would rule out people who live in poverty... I’ve been so broke on many occasions that a cup of coffee for myself was out of the question, let alone for anyone else. Here in Australia, our coffees are way more expensive the $1.50, too...
He's buying only the basic coffee. $1.50 only buys the basic bogstandard Tim Horton's swill, that everyone I know complains about but we all pay for anyway. If you want anything that tastes better, $2 or $3 is the usual range (or go to McDonald's who usually has better coffee for cheaper. At least In Canada, anyway.) But he reminds me of a very specific stereotype of a Canadian man. I suspect he dislikes anything sweet, and thinks flavour weakens character, except in meat and beer. I could be wildly wrong. I'm just comparing his visual aesthetic and philosophies to various men I've known that are so similar I suspect they could be a hivemind. Not all men, but this one sort of performative masculinity type. But you are 100% on the poverty thing. The way he tossed off "valet" as part of one of his tests. Neither myself nor anyone I've ever dated has ever used a valet service, because even on the rare occasion we find ourselves in a location where its offered, none of us would ever have the spare cash for it. But if he does indeed match the stereotype, he believes poverty is a character flaw anyway, and that us poor people are beneath his consideration.
Consider that if you are honest pre-date about financial standing, this won't become an issue (or if it does, you're are not the one failing the test 😉) because they will be aware that you simply don't have it, and thus will not be likely to ask. As for the "casual mention of valet," this doesn't necessarily speak to a superiority complex. It easily could, yes... or it could mean that he is the type to save up for an occasional splurge date. And since it is quite common to suddenly begin "seriously considering where this is going" right around the time you realize that it's been almost a year of casual dating and now there's an anniversary and some celebration must be had but it's a milestone and time to decide if this is more than casual and now you're bugging out so just make a fancy reservation and surprise them and everything will be fine, it is not unreasonable to see how this would be the perfect occasion to start watching for the little things that might turn into deal breakers. About the coffee, I really think he *was* trying to emphasize asking for the cheapest possible cup as the smallest possible gesture, but I was slightly put out by the usage of coffee as a tool for stereotyping someone, as experience has taught me that there are *zero* exterior indicators of how (or if) a person will drink coffee. Personally, I'm a straightforward medium black type, my grandmother and auntie like theirs ALL THE WAY black, my mother likes a dash of milk and no sweetener, my brother likes a dash of milk and lots of sugar, my sister-in-law doesn't drink coffee and when anyone brings us an order "blind", none of us get the right cup. That was coffee bit was meant to be humorous, but was instead long-winded and weak. But I typed it, so there it is 😬
@@rd6203 As I said, I could be wildly wrong. It's just a suspicion based upon everything he said and how he acted. I know plenty of awesome people who like their coffee black or only with a little cream, but if you want anything along the lines of mocha or cappuccino at rhe Timmy's it's upwards of $3 for the smallest size. You are probably right on the smallest possible gesture aspect. But I'll admit even after your reasonable explanation, I find the valet comment still a little odd. The only places I know of in my part of Canada that offer valet service are very high-end restaurants (like a hundred or two per meal type) or very high-end malls that are expecting $500 ish shopping sprees. I guess hotels might as well, but I guess I wouldn't know. I feel comfortable standing by my comment on his superiority complex. He radiates it. If nothing else, the rating of women into "high class" and "low class" is enough to convince me he has a superiority complex. Everything else is just extra gravy.
@@miscalotastuff733 last time I was in a Timmy's it was around 1.50 for the smallest plain coffee. That was in Toronto, pre-pandemic (and probably a year or so before hand. I couldn't and still can't afford to buy coffee most days even at those prices.) So I could be wildly wrong on that too.
It’s funny to me how openness is still defined differently by both genders-and yet the females are more consistently yawping about how men could benefit from more openness. Funny, huh
My wife of 34 years apparently missed the memo on hypergamy, when we met she had a degree in chemistry, worked in a Nuclear Power plant and made four times what I did in the Coast Guard. So theres that. I stayed home to raise the children and keep house, because that made sense.
@@hanzbrixx yes exception does negate rules. If you're saying 100% of men cheat and you see 20% don't that would remove the word ALL. And make it SOME. Which wouldn't be arule. I'm sorry for your paranoia
Apparently my long term girlfriend did too cause when she met me I was fresh out of rehab without a dime to my name, even though she has a very prestigious degree from Foster's School of Business up here in Seattle with a corporate gig in finance making 6 figures a year. We gotta get our ladies with the program, I guess!!! 😂😂😂
If you date men, they test you constantly. They make dating seem like a job interview. It sucks. I just want to have fun and get to know someone, but most straight men make it into a job interview. I hate dating men my own age. I did notice younger men do t do this as much and it’s been nicer.
If I'm on a date and she says, "I'd love to check out this art gallery." I would say, "Last time I went to an art gallery, it wasn't my thing. But I'd love to go and you can show me what you like about it and maybe I will, too."
That’s a good response. Always be open to trying something that the other person enjoys (though if it’s something physical and you’re not comfortable, you have all the right to say no and have them respect that)
Can we take a minute to appreciate the fact that he uses language that is distinctly video game like. Data points and leveling up sound like I’m in Skyrim with the skill tree. Relationship 100
The part of my brain that tends to get stuck on small points too much is fascinated by his zombie apocalypse idea. Because the way he says it - and repeats it - he doesn't look for the woman to cover his back, he expects her to reload his magazines and pass them to him, while he's shooting. He has three guns, but his expectation is still that she assists him by doing the reproductive work of maintaining a supply of loaded magazines, instead of wanting her to be a good shot and pick up a gun herself.
As a Former US Marine, I will say that an a-gunner and a gunner is more efficient than two shooters. Especially once we get into the world of automatics, however that is beyond the scope here. We go into a combat situation pre loaded sure, if a fight decides to go on for an extremely prolonged period of time where we need to reload magazines, then it does become a situation where one person drops back and reloads magazines until the barrel needs to cool off, and then they switch, either who is doing what or rifles. as the a-gunner you are also responsible for directing fire and keeping a 360 field of view since the gunner is necessarily looking through a sight and has limited vision. I can see how this may seem like the other person is a shoe shiner or whatever to someone untrained in battlefield combat, it is not the case though. From my perspective, it is a statement of two people working in harmony to get something done.
@@Senrabekim As someone untrained in battlefield combat - in a military context and tactical combat, I can absolutely see that. Division of tasks is usually more efficient, and doing so situationally, in a well-trained unit... yeah, totally. That works on some basic premises, though: All members of a military unit have at least somewhat equivalent training, and at least as far as a-gunner/gunner is concerned - as you've basically said yourself - different team members can take each role or may even switch roles, depending on the situation. It's a tactical decision. And as you already wrote: It takes a fight over a prolonged period of time to even need battlefield reloading of magazines (plus a supply of ammo to put in). If you can/want to see it as a metaphor for "two people working in harmony to get something done" - great! Power to you. It's probably only understood that way by (former) military people, though, if even all of them. Furthermore, I kinda doubt he means it that way: He's not talking about prolonged combat, not about spotting, watching the other persons back - let alone maintaining a 360 field of view. And I doubt he'd agree for her to get equivalent training, or that he would reload magazines for her, if - for whatever reason - she was in a better position to be the gunner. From everything else he says, his vision is simple: He shoots, she reloads the magazines. On principle, because those are the roles. And if it's based on a fixed role, we have to ask if it's really two people working in harmony to get something done, or someone viewing another person as basically an assistance system to himself.
There is just something about your demeanor and voice that makes me so much calmer and happier. So glad I stumbled on this channel, I could seriously listen to you talk about a toaster for 2 hours and be fine with it.
Agreed, she also reminds me a lot of a girl I met in Leeds, makes it comforting to listen to her videos and she brings a few topics I have gained passive curiosity for up in an interesting way.
I'm a male who's female partner is currently in medical school and is perfectly fine with me becoming a stay at home dad should we have kids. It's pretty rare to find a woman (or person for that matter) who doesn't have their own career going in my generation (same age as Emma) in the US because it's literally the only way you can make ends meet. So not sure where all these women are jumping from partner to partner for a living. In my experience you're about as likely to find a man "dating up" in terms of socio-economic status as women these days. Ironic as well that the same sorts of people complaining about the supposed economic dependence of women are also the most vocally opposed to their entry into the workforce.
Bro I swear. These men just desperately cling onto a hero fantasy where they think men are still the providers and women can't do without them. It pleases their ego
I would definitely fail the small favor test -- not because I have any objection to doing favors for a friend (I enjoy helping others out) but because he was phrasing it more as an order than a request. Just toss the ticket at her and say, "I'm swamped, do me this favor" is a hard no. I'm not a servant or an employee to be given orders, and for all he knows I may be swamped too. He wants a favor, ask for it without assuming my time is freely available for his use: "I'm swamped, can you do me this favor?", then give me the ticket if I say "yes". But what do I know about being a quality woman? I'm just three owls in a raincoat.
I really admire the way you approach this kind of content. You’ve got a level of respect and friendliness I aspire to have in the face of hate and fear.
Not even just the apocalyptic themed fantasies either. This dude would probably flip his lid if the person he dates forgot to shave their legs or something, he would probably see it as a grave offense to his honor LOL
@@jimmyjimjim3054 Except that isn't what he said at all. Dude wanted a gal who would stay with him and "reload (his) magazines and be handing them to (him)" rather than going to her family. Like he literally, in the clips shown in this video, explained that he wanted a woman who was going to value his masculinity and what not, nothing do do with if she's reliable or not.
@@jimmyjimjim3054 how is abandoning lone sister with kids being any reliable? He wants his private maid that will forget any connections, even blood ones, cuz he is big mach boy that decides where and why she can go. And that idiot din't think that "I'm going to help my sister" means "as she won't be able to survive. You can, have guns, are physically ok so you'll be a great help if we get there together 'cause it's obvious to me we are going together".
@@jimmyjimjim3054 * wants information on whether girlfriend is reliable when there’s trouble. Proceeds to ask about one of the most inapplicable to reality fantasy scenarios possible * Lmao sure, Jan
I like the fact that she isn't super judgemental. I'm a judgemental dude who's taking steps to be less judgmental, and one of the first steps is to notice when you have a judgemental thought (don't judge yourself for it, just notice). The beautiful thing about that is that you start to also notice when other people do it, and I started realizing that a good 90% of the videos I watch are judgemental (which, watching/listening to videos is something I do from the morning till I sleep everyday). It's wonderful to watch a video and not hear someone projecting in every other sentence (which I'm purposely judging another TH-camr in my mind rn for doing lol), or judging the people in the video for everything. It was super sweet to see a video where someone respectfully disagreed with someone else, whilst also giving credit where credit is due. It sets a fantastic example for people everywhere of all ages. Anywho, toodle-oo, have a grand ol' day...oo 😁🤙 Edit: Oh, and thank you for reading my written ramblings-oo
If anything, your partner wanting to check on their family during a zombie outbreak speaks to the confidence they have in your ability to hold down the fort
Because that is all men have. Through most of time the legacy of a woman has been her children, for a man it is his place in society. This is still true today. Go to a party (not an office party), but like a parent-school gathering. Women (mothers) introduce and define themselves in terms of their children, especially when talking to other women. But not men. Men introduce and define themselves in terms of their careers, the company they work for. If they are retired (as I am) it is what one use to do. This is how men form the social norms for the conversation. Two highly educated men will find out about where they went to college, grad school. A highly educated man and a non-educated man, the conversation will more likely be popular sport.
@@glencmac Thats untrue and sexist lmao. I'll say this though, average people who do the career small talk just lack any hobbies or interesting things to talk about haha
Haha, same. I'm the kind to either freeze or run around like a headless chicken when something unexpected happens, so I would be dead very quick. :P So I just hope it never happens :D Alternatively since I'm introverted and work from home it could happen without me even realizing it :D
I never intentionally tested people I was interested in or was dating, but I did always pay attention to the red flags that came up during relationships. Emma: "..I'm gonna start cocoa buttering my beard..." Me: (Stunned Silence)
Man... I'm not terribly experienced at dating (I only dated one young lady, and we're now married). But I'm pretty sure that if I found out my partner was actually doing or saying things because they were testing me, and not as an organic expression of themselves, I'd probably have a hard time trusting them or taking them seriously afterward. Shouldn't you always be yourself when getting to know somebody? Isn't that the whole point? Am I wrong about that?
I guess his ex was friends with Colin Robinson lol. Also it’s a pretty common thing to go do things with your partner that’s not your favorite and vice versa. As long as one person in the relationship constantly asking and “forcing“ the other person to do things they aren’t interested in. Going to an art gallery a couple times a year isn’t the worst just like going to car shows once and a while with a partner isn’t the worst.
I agree to some extent. Relationships involve compromise and its important to keep an open mind toward trying new things, even if they don't sound like something you'll enjoy. Who knows, it might surprise you. To be honest though, I wouldn't want to spend a bunch of money and/or time doing something I already know I don't like and will only bore me. I also wouldn't want my partner to do it. If they don't like something, I want them to tell me. I want us both to have fun and I can always do that thing with someone else or by myself. The person saying no, should understand if the other one breaks the date because of the timing of the event. If I want to go to something special and this is the only weekend it's going on. If my partner doesn't want to go, I'm going to go and we can do something maybe next week. They should have the right to do the same.
Like saying no to a movie you don't find interesting is fine but dinner date with friends I would say go to. Its important to get along with your partners friends and family to an extent, you don't have to be besties but knowing them and being polite to them should be a goal.
I have a legit way for all men out there affraid of a gold digger: date a women that earns as much money as you do. Problem solved. I am so confused why it is okay for old men to want a beautiful and young wife but at the same time want to keep all of their money for themselfs.
@@Kirsanov Yes. Money usually lasts longer. So we get told from a young age to not settle for less we are preceived to be worth. Why would you believe than we would settle for less? And if you don't like it feel free to get someone as rich as you are:) The world has a lot of people to offer so feel free to choose as you like! I sure did;)
Lets not forget about that nasty'ol Gender Wage Gap getting in the way of solving the problem of Female "gold diggers" LOL This dude is just absolutely pathetic
@Rach They also have fragile egos and can't live up to their own inflated image of what an aka real man is, and they're terrified of being found out as a fraud. It's not so much as sad but stupid.
I don't think I've ever dated a "rich" guy. I always dated or fell in love with guys who I vibe with. I am married and my husband definitely isn't rich, in fact he's out of work with an injury and I'm the breadwinner right now. So how are all women hypergamus?
Because we like men rich in personality. Or at least that’s what I like to think. (I mean, I don’t think I’d fall into the ‘we’ cause I’m not exactly attracted towards men, but I’d still prefer men with rich personality for platonic relationships as well.)
Because historically the only way for a woman to gain power and status was to marry a man of higher power and status. Now, however, that applies far less because women are allowed to gain status themselves.
My mom was a supermodel in the 70s and 80s….. she was on the cover of Vogue, Redbook, Women’s Day, Elle…. by this dudes standard, an absolute top-tier chick…. …..My dad was a carpenter lol Quintessentially non-hypergamous. They raised 3 kids, and They’re now in their 70s and still together… and they’re awesome. Universal Hypergamy is a dumb idea.
I'm sorry, I am 100 mices in a human suit. Most of the mice are high quality, btw. Also my plan for a zombie apocalypse is to die as quick as possible. Maybe that's the low quality mice part of me 🤷♀️ (Ok, I do have an alternative plan w/a friend, which involves the History of armies).
i wonder if there's some reason many women believe they need to "marry up".....like if there was some societal system in place that historically denied women land ownership, or business ownership, or equal pay in the workforce, or upward corporate mobility..........
Women have been the majority of voters for 100 years, so they decide every election. But, as a woman, you still look to men to fix all your problems and take all the blame for your own choices.
except there is nothing stopping woman from high earning or upward mobility in 2021. The wage gap is a literal myth because it doesn't take into account the types of jobs people have
@@demodiums7216 Something tells me you actually don’t want women succeeded. Someone who’s first response to a woman is “I have it worse than you” is not a good guy
Honestly, with the door unlocking bit...I had a guy do that to me on a date, but tested me concerning straws in fast food places. He would take a girl inside a fast food place to eat and grab the food to carry it to the table. He would ask the girl if she wouldn't mind getting the drinks. If she brings back straws and ketchup for both people, they earn some early respect. I made the mistake of getting drinks and packets of salt and ketchup, but I only got a straw for me ( this is in 2002 before folks got really angry about straws impact on wildlife). He didn't know I had dated a man before him that got his manhood insulted when I brought him a straw ( that guy thought only women should use straws. REAL men drink straight from the cup). So moral to story people have a variety of reasons for having specific actions, and you shouldn't judge folks until you know why they do things.
@@kirstenv-g4459 Or - why me thinking of weaker family members instead of fully geared, strong man I trust is bad? I mean... shouldn't in be HIS job to follow me and help me safe my precious sister, if we go with gendered stereotypes? I mean... if I said I'm going to my sister's I'd assume it's obvious it means "I'm going so you're going with me so we help them together". Especially that being... at least 3 adults and some kids that are small so will fit in tighter spots is kinda better that just two adults. Guns can be moved, their probably big house cannot.
So this could be my slight autistic traits popping up, but I legit didn't know the whole "zombie apocalypse" thing was about that?!😅 I just thought it was a fun way for guys and girls to talk about zombies lol. I didn't know some people (like this guy)actually place some type of genuine merit in this totally fake scenario🤣🤣🤣 like calm down it's not that serious bro
I wouldn’t want to be with anyone that’d say they wouldn’t help protect their family, if y’all are married then you’re a part of that family hun. I dated a single dad for a while and I told him that if he ever felt he needed to choose between me or his kids, that I expected him to choose his kids. Cause I would never respect or love a man who abandons his family for any reason.
@@BunsBooks right? Especially when we talk about three groups - kids, elderly, mentally/physically disabled. Cuz if that family is another big dude with guns then sure we don't risk long trip, he'll probably find his own pack of ppl. But if you dare to say you don't take your lone sister with 3 kids (let usremind that in this dude idea of bad sister was alone with vulnerable people) or your one-legged 80-year old mother then die alone bastard. Or if you'll put my feeling before our kids wellbeing (which CAN be a very important thing since I'm on emotional swing thanks to disorder) then you never see those kids again. If you preffer romantic date over dhelping your big brother cuz he lost his inlaw and is in bad shape, get lost. I'm not interested in some narcissist that thinks only about himself and his "obedient maid/courtisan". Unless there are some family issues, then he's justified he don't feel like helping uncle who abused him or anything.
Perhaps hypergamy comes from men treating women like a commodity and women then realizing well if I’m going to be selling myself as a commodity then I better be getting something out of it. Not saying that is necessarily true, just a thought.
Tbh I also think maybe some of these women come from money and they are all dating each other so they value certain things differently than I do and most everyone I know . So it is confusing like they are talking about a social strata alien to me.
I think some of it is some women don’t want to have to pick up the tab for another child, which is essentially what getting into a relationship with someone broke can feel like. And women already on average make less then men in the same age bracket, so settling for someone who makes less is a lowering an already pretty low bar in many cases.
Yeah it's weird how these manosphere guys are angry about hypergamy but they also want women to stay at home and not work or make money. Don't they realize they can't have it both ways? How are women not supposed to look for financial security in a husband if they aren't able to secure it themselves first?
@@princesseuphemia1007 yeah they can have both ways... my mom for example, worked and took care of the house. that was her domain... and she protected it fiercely!
@@princesseuphemia1007 I am not conservative and so I believe that women should have the ability to work outside of the home in whatever occupations suit their fancies, but if we narrow this to a conservative perspective in the manosphere, the following is the response. Hypergamy is not simply that a single person searches for the best value partner he/she can find but that this process continues despite giving the appearance of commitment and loyalty. So, if a woman just chose the richest man in the room the first time and stayed loyal to him, she would have financial security. The problem is that many women are financially rewarded for leaving committed relationships which provides rational incentives for continuing to be hypergamous and feigning loyalty.
I’m curious to know as to what guys like this do on dates. The whole point to dating is to see if you have common interests with someone. No test required. I think the reason these guys end up getting hurt the way they do is because they don’t take the time to actually get to know someone. They become so enamored with a person that they will actually feign interest in things they really don’t like. Of course, don’t get me wrong; I’ve been hurt by women. I’ve been lied to, and I’ve been betrayed. My last relationship was one of the most excruciatingly painful experiences ever, and I’ve had my heart broken before; just not like that. However; what am I suppose to do; never trust a woman again? I think that would make every relationship miserable.
@Michael Quaid First off, don't call me sweetheart. It makes it incredibly obvious that you're supremely insecure and desperately trying to mask it with condescension. Second, age is not the same thing as experience or intelligence. I'm not asking for your birthday, I'm asking for concrete proof.
@Michael Quaid I’m 45, and I can assure that I’ve had fair share of experiences; the good and bad. However; to Ava’s point; there is no such thing as an alpha are beta male. There is also nothing wrong with being PC. Sure, some people can take it too far, but that door swings both ways. Just as there are people who take PC culture too far; there are people who become flat-out disrespectful towards others in their protest of it, and sometimes they don’t even realize it.
@@ava_marie_v "And you need to stop believing in a study about wolves that was debunked by the researcher who wrote it." I think you're overestimating the extent of the debunking. The study was irrelevent to wolves because wolves don't live like humans do. That's essentially what has been "debunked"...the larger concept of dominance hierarchies was never something exclusive to wolves, it was never something exclusively based on that one study and it certainly has not been debunked. I don't argue that gender has been debunked because Money's experiment showed gender was not strictly a social construct so please don't argue the entire concept of dominance hierarchies has been debunked because wolves don't interact with wolves they aren't related to very much.
As a femme gay man, I'm interested to see where I fall on the test. Will update with results at the end. I definitely test men regularly, but usually it's for play, not for real. Having watched the whole video now, I am either a high quality woman, or a snake in a sweater.
Our son loves snakes. Several years ago, he was lucky enough to find a woman who also loves snakes. They are still happily cohabiting and are now saving money toward a house. On the other hand, I'm surprised to find out that I'm a "hypergamist". (This is Peter's wife speaking.) Peter was neither wealthy nor well-educated when we met, although he's very intelligent. We've been together for nearly 40 years. Both of us have been the sole support of the family at one time or another. I don't make him go to potluck dinners with my old hippie friends and he doesn't expect me to watch horror movies with him. It works. By the way, we recently went to my parents' 70th anniversary party. Someone asked them if they had any advice for staying married that long. My Dad blew us all away by answering: "Pick the right one and love her every day." By the way, I think my honorary DIL would be quite capable of blowing away zombies.
But where's the compromise? We're currently on vacation. There are some things I wanted to do and some things my husband wanted to do, so we compromised. We did all the things together. Not joined at the hip, but together. If I got bored, I roamed off and left him to enjoy his venture, and vice versa. Sometimes it's about trying new things and also contributing to each others happiness.
This was what I was thinking too! You can't have a real long-term relationship always telling your partner "no, I'm not interested in that, go do it by yourself."
Fully agree that compromise is essential. I think what he's talking about, though, is boundary setting, and finding out if the potential partner is a boundary-pusher, which is always a huge red flag.
These vids are made by intelligent men who have been divorce raped, and see the "family law" courts for what they are... Dangerous and hostile towards men and fathers. We are now waking up and through communicating with each other, learning to protect ourselves and unplugging from the societal programming.
@@jimmyjimjim3054 imo that’s bullshit, because there are steps and laws in place to help/protect men/fathers. the issue is there are loads of dudes who love to play the victim, and when they get pressed on the issue, they can’t back any shit up. i’ve seen it from both sides.
@@iamslf "steps and laws in place to help/protect men/fathers" That's the biggest bunch of bullshit i've heard in a long time. Ask any man whose been through a contested divorce and he'll set you straight. Look at Brad Pitt's ( i use him as an example only because we all know who hi is) divorce. He had to sue to get 50% with HIS, i repeat, HIS kids. And that was considered a MAJOR upset. The rest of us men who don't have his recourses don't stand a chance. Now that men are communicating through platforms like TH-cam, we are not getting married even close to the rates we were before. I didn't and will not. It's just not worth the risk.
@@jimmyjimjim3054 , i’m going to entertain your viewpoint because we can go back and forth forever with this argument. so, let’s say the laws are shit towards dudes, and because of this, we have to be assholes to every potential partner we meet. is that what you’re implying? because you know, that doesn’t solve anything. here’s a thought, how about a guy works towards solidifying a relationship, instead of this preemptive bs. not saying all females are good, or all dudes are bad, but this ain’t the way chief. it’s almost akin to certain females demanding their potential partner being a certain way, and then wonder why they can’t hold down or even start a relationship. relationships are about giving and taking, you have to work together...and tests definitely won’t help bolster anything.
@@iamslf No, i don't mean that. I'm never disrespectful or mean towards women. Until the courts are balanced and see the importance of fathers to their children i advise younger men not to get married. its too risky with an over 50% divorce rate initiated by wives 80% of the time. They're waking up and seeing marriage for the bad deal it is. The falling marriage rates show this. Great talk! Thanks!!!!!
The scenario that struck me the most about Coconut-Beard Guy is the ridiculous Zombie Apocalypse example. 1. Maybe she is a superior shot to him so why is she relegated to loading his mags? 2. Why couldn't they do both, i.e. protect her family together? Compromise probably isn't in his lexicon.
There is a difference between going into these "tests" with the goal of testing your partner, and observing behaviour that emerges naturally in various circumstances. Regardless of how benign these tests are, the mindset is toxic. Communication is important, and more useful. I am actually forty five rabbits in a trenchcoat.
This guy's views are entirely generational: I'm in my early 40s and would remember having to reach over to unlock the driver's side. If you tried that with someone in their early 30s, might not be the same thing.
the guy’s viewpoints are trash. if you have to set tests/ground rules when dating, then you’re already going into it with a biased/toxic mental. all the ppl i know with set expectations for relationship either can’t get one started, or they always end up in bad ones.
Perhaps it is also an american thing? I'm in my 40s but even with keys if you unlocked one door it automatically unlocked all other doors so I wouldn't even think that I had to unlock a door for the driver seperately. :D
Yeah, I'm over thirty and been key tested plenty of times. Never considered it a test, just a lot of us have manual locks or busted handles or whatever, so it's just a sensible habit, no matter who is driving
All of these stereotypes and tests just seem like a long winded justification as to why they are single. Like, are they just trying to make themselves feel better for being single? I can’t understand why people are like this..
@Blackpillrevolution No. He does not show his gf because many people would pile in and start bothering her. His gf has nothing to do with his videos show why should he show her?
I definitely did not married for money, I laughed so hard comparing his 'all women are looking for a rich guy' to my situation 😂 Also, if all women are like that (his words) why bother testing? Happy belated birthday!
Lol yeah I make so much more than my partner. My last boyfriend was loaded, and it caused tension sometimes because he could buy his way out of anything and it really started to bother me. I just want a decent guy who makes me laugh.
@@k3upikachu I grew up poor and I can definitely see that being an issue. I dated two guys from wealthier families than mine (def not on purpose 😂), and I always ended up baffled by their frivolous habits at some point. Not to mention the subtle power dynamics to be welcomed into a family that gives you pricier gifts than you could ever afford and the life experiences that differs when you're not as privileged and the partner just doesn't get it.
Right? I went from $14k debt to $66k debt the day I got married. We got married because we love each other. Still don't regret it. Took us almost 10 years to get out of debt, but we got there
Your confusion about testing is because Emma is misinterpreting what Richard means when he says 'hypergamy' and refers to all women being 'hypergamous'. Emma looks at the textbook dictionary definition which is only about wealth/status. There is actually more to it in the 'red pill' space than that.
It's this type of guy who's gonna expect his wife to pop out kids and prioritize staying home to raise them and run the home, yet he wants her to be A-okay with a prenup and basically contracting that she shouldn't be due anything for all her labor as a SAHM wife and mother should they ever split up.
I dont know he didnt hit me as the really bad type and more so just someone who was hurt and paranoid like Emma said. There are some deeply misogynistic guys who are like that but he just seems like an old fashioned ass.
Sounds like projection to me. He seemed to believe in equaiity. Why can't men advocate for their interests without having the most uncharitable interpretations lobbed at them?
Great video, just pointing out a thing he said that wasn't commented on "don't get involved with a girl who has daddy issues." Ah yes, as if I chose to have PTSD from my father and continue to deal with all the after effects of trauma well after I've removed him from my life. I just... that's such an awful thing to suggest. The last thing people who have suffered abuse need is to be told "you're broken, and unworthy of love." That might sound hyperbolic, but it's a message that gets sent to people with all kinds of mental illnesses. But thankfully, I have a wonderful partner who has given me the space to cope with all my feelings, while also calling me out on my bullshit haha. But yeah, just a message to anyone who has "daddy issues" or "money issues" is that: YOU ARE WORTHY OF LOVE AND HAPPINESS!! Thanks for coming to my ted talk, lol
I'm an autistic man who (probably) has cptsd from his school life (try being an openly autistic anime fan in school, I dare you), and this has made me very happy.
The advice to not get involved with a partner who has parental issues is not about such a person not deserving love but an acknowledgment that a relationship with a person who has baggage is going to be more fraught than a relationship with a person who doesn't. I would say it's no different than telling young ship captains not to take their boats out in stormy waters; it doesn't mean that the ship will necessarily veer off course or capsize in the storm, but that it is harder to navigate through the storm and a greener captain should probably not take the risk if a calmer day is just on the horizon.
Men get so triggered when women want money from them as if they don't only want these women for sex like bruh sorry to break it to you but transactions work both ways.
You have a point that genders are different and they get different rewards from relationships. Otherwise onlyfans “content creators” would be 99% women. But her buying a $1.50 coffee after you spent $80.00 on dinner shows that they are capable of reciprocating at least a little. For a women it would be, you shouldn’t be with a dude who just uses you for their own selfish sexual gratification and won’t reciprocate even 5% towards yours.
@@1984a-g9f I do believe that relationships should be equal. It's not my place to decide whether the couple wants to split everything in half or one of them provides sex whilst the other provides money. My point is that women are expected to just give themselves to their man whenever he wants to have sex and she's expected to look after the house and children and do chores even when both of them work (not always but I see this dynamic more often than not tbh) so it only stands to reason that women want something in return for their sacrifices. If a relationship is truly equal then it doesn't matter who pays or whatever but equality isn't as easy to find especially when these gender norms are still in place and girls gotta do whatever they can to survive.
Syrollesse Literally where are these things expected of women?? Really it’s hard for you to find a weak, effeminate, and relatively low income guy? If you want equality it’s right there. Through a stone you’ll hit one, they are everywhere and no one is dating them. You aren’t attracted to that type of man don’t blame it on societal norms, please. If you were attracted to them you wouldn’t care one once what society says. It boggles my mind the same people that say “gay is born that way”, blame females being attracted to protector/provider types has nothing to do with biology. Even though the vast majority of women in virtually ever culture ever have been and are attracted to men who are protector/provider. Marriage is disappearing because there is no need for relationships that are equal. If both people bring the exact same traits to the table there is no attraction, because it’s redundant and doesn’t benefit either party enough to make the negatives of a relationship with another person worth it. If a relationship is 100% transactional that is prostitution, and I’m sure you defend sex work to but as a guy it’s not a good idea if you start believing a stripper tells you she likes you every time you patronize her joint. This why this test works and you are illustrating. Relationships are not going to be balance but hear attitude or rationalizes from a chick you’re with that you have been spending money on for weeks complain when you need her to spot you $2 is a giant red flag.
The dude says "No, I dont want to go with you to that art show, go with someone else", but also expects the poor person he's with to drop and go with him at the drop of a hat without being "bitchy" or whatever. Compromise isn't really in his vocab, hey... It's no wonder the guy is divorced.
I would suggest that not being open to new experiences doesn't qualify anyone as a high quality person. OK, maybe you went to an art gallery before and didn't like it. Maybe a different gallery with different exhibits might be interesting?
I think there are studies showing that, in terms of what people value in friendships, for women it is more often sharing interests and giving emotional support whereas for men its more about social status. So hearing him say women only form relationships for personal gain is a bit ironic. Or maybe not, since both things probably share some roots in toxic masculinity.
What dyou mean, you think there are studies? are there or are there not? No offense, but basing so much of an opinion or worldview on thinking there are studies without actually knowing them is a bit wobbly :)
@@ievolution-9651 There are. The oldest study is in like 1988 I'm pretty sure. I don't know how many newer ones there are but generally the consensus is that women tend to prefer face to face intimate friendships with more contact whereas men prefer physical friendships where they can do activities and their friendships require less maintenance. The margin isn't that big though.
@@ievolution-9651 I said think, because I was pretty sure but I am no expert in the field and was to lazy to do the research for a youtube-comment. But here is the paper: Hall, J. A. (2011). Sex differences in friendship expectations: A meta-analysis. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 28(6), 723-747 I also don't base my worldview on this. I just thought it might be interesting to consider when talking such general statements as "all women are only interested in status/money".
@Michael Quaid I don't know most women and I am not an expert in psychology or social studies, so I can't really argue with you there. But I can say that it is not true for most of the women I personally know. So I am sorry that you made a different experience but I don't see any reason to change my believes in this.
When you perpetuate a society with very distinct binary gender rolls, where women are expected to be dependent on men for social and economic stability, then complain about the women in that circle being overly concerned with the amount of value you, as a man, bring to the table in the relationship, you might want to pull back and try to get some perspective.
@@parrotshootist3004 and the previously mentioned mindset has existed for far longer. Yes progress has been made but old habits are hard to break, especially ones that became so throughly ingrained that the ideals became normalized. That's part of why it is hard for some to realize aspects of misogyny, because for a lot of people misogynistic views are the norm.
I actually really like the apocalypse question, not as a any kind of test; however seems like a fun get to know a new date and good for a laugh question. Gonna remember that one.
Man, most of his points could be simplified to don't make a relationship serious unless you feel you can communicate honestly and feel well supported. Like... that's normal. How did he take that and make it awful?
My favorite way to test prospective partners is to, like, talk to them 🤷♀️. Married seven years, so, clearly it’s not a good way to conduct oneself, lol
If the zombie apocalypse hits, my partner (soon to be husband) would not be a "protector". He's a diabetic, and a softy, his chosen class is mage. I, however, would barbarian the shit out of it, it'd be the best stress relief I've had in years.
Also, my partner loves art galleries and things- as do I, but I'm much more likely to invite him to a rock concert or a huge ass meal. Long story short, I am clearly an alpha male, and my partner is a high quality woman who respects my masculinity. He will be very pleased.
My husband and I joke about this sort of stuff all the time! I am diabled and cannot do some things--like mow the lawn--but if I can climb into it or get under it, I can usually fix it. I am extremely handy. He can mow the lawn, but when it comes to anything else stereotypically "manly," he is not the one you want. His one brother, who is a Jordon Peterson worshipper, likes to call him a Beta and tell him how to "be a man." Funny thing is that the Alpha was with his wife for three years. The Beta has been with me for twelve years and is exceptionally happy.
It's funny, but also sad, when women think they can physically compete or fight against men. One more example of spoiled privilege going to their heads, like children who think they're adults.
@@customsongmaker it's funny, but also sad, when men have silly misplaced opinions. It's like a childlike privilege where they think they get rewards for stating an opinion, even when it's not actually relevant and they lack the basic reading comprehension to understand what was actually being said in the comments.
when I was a younger I used to watch pick up artist stuff, cause I was awkward and thought that was a good place to find advise on how to interact with girls. when I think back to it I fell so deep in to this toxic negative thoughts of women in general. its surprising to me how quick I fell in to that pit of incel thoughts, I'm so glad I got help to get out of that thought process. I feel like a lot of this guys videos have the same underlying messages from those pick up artists just more under the surface and more insidious. its more like a introductory view in to that mind set
I'm glad that you got out of it. It sounds like an insidious spiral that feeds itself. I'm sorry that you were in the place that put you in that headspace. I think we're all awkward but there is no work around, you gotta go through. I hope that you can help others, maybe start your own TH-cam channel. It might be awkward at first, but that's probably okay. XOXO
'Throwing some bucks at her' oh? You mean.. doing a fun activity? A fun activity together with a fun companion? These fun activities can be balanced between two working people, you know. Fun commentary! Your voice comes through very nicely!!
@@siddhantkumar1028 that's some bullshit stereotyping right there. You date someone because you have mutual interests. You participate in these interests during things called 'dates'.
@@pinkyhc4130 Do you like biking at 100mph down a freeway or do you like to watch compilations of rafales and apaches. Or do you like playing COD all night. As I said, most women won't want this. Stereotypes exist for a reason. Saying black people are victims of racism today is also stereotyping and it might not be true for every black person. But I'm pretty sure you agree with that statement. So please drop the act. You know what I'm saying is true.
@@siddhantkumar1028 I don't like those things, but I'm also not dating you thank goodness. My partner plays paintball. I sculpt and make paintings. We don't do these things as dates. We go do the things we have in common on dates, like table top games, movies we enjoy, restaurants we enjoy. I don't force him to sit through musicals, he doesn't force me to go to fight night. I still think you are wrong and needlessly argumentative.
It's literally never occurred to me to "test" my potential partners, the whole concept is gross and deceptive! How can you expect to have a healthy relationship built on trust when you start a relationship like this? If you want to know if someone is a good fit just have an open and honest conversation about your wants and needs, it's really not that hard! Also, you can tell by the way he talks he really doesn't see women as people, I wonder if that has anything to do with the breakdown of his previous relationships and if he's just blaming them for not putting up with his ridiculous shit!
I think his ideology is extreme, unsophisticated, and I basically don't agree with the premise. That being said, I think the problem with just "having an open conversation" is the ability of certain people with personality disorders to be extremely charming and mask their darker and more manipulative tendencies. If you just kind of go in "open and honest and trusting" in early dating, these type of duplicitous people can easily fly under your radar. However, one thing that will almost always suss out one such person is telling them "no." Controlling and manipulative people don't like it when people assert boundaries and say no and will start pulling out a bag of tricks to push past a boundary you've asserted. Straightforward, nice, and honest people will basically have a "you do you" attitude and be relatively okay with you saying no.
@@DJHastingsFeverPitch I'm sorry but these tests aren't going to work. Like assuming I'm a reasonable person, and I'm dating a guy, if that guy tests me by saying no to a tiny reasonable request then I'm likely to judge him as being uncaring because he's not even willing to do this one tiny request I've asked of him! It's manipulative in and of itself which is ironic considering that's what you're trying to avoid, and I wouldn't appreciate someone messing with me like that. There's no need to add to the stigma that people with personality disorders already face, not everyone person with a personality disorder is abusive and not every person who is abusive has a personality disorder. As someone with autism/ADHD, people tend to misinterpret my lack of social skills as "red flags" for narcissism etc, and if they'd just ASKED ME what my thought process was, instead of jumping to conclusions, then they'd understand. This is why I think communication should always be the first priority in any relationship. Misunderstandings/miscommunications happen a lot more than people are willing to admit, most people are just looking for someone to blame rather than addressing the real issue. These tests are a lot more likely to catch out neurodivergent people than abusive people. People who are actually good at manipulation are not going to get caught out by these tests because they actually understand how people think! Which is how they get away with it. I could go into more detail into how it won't work but I think this post is long enough lol...
It sounds like the plot for a dating sim. Level up by choosing higher quality partners. Apply tests to avoid partners who will lower your dating fitness. Increase your dating appeal by engaging in character building activities like going to the gym, eating healthy, studying worldly events, refining your sense of humor, and moving to higher status jobs. Gain bonus points for acts of kindness and charity.
I was aware of this guy, he actually has a bronze mold of his own chest&abs muscles hanging in his living room, you can see it in many of his old vlogs. That's the level of narcissism we're dealing with here.
@@safala I wish I were kidding. Initially I thought it was a sculpture, which would have been fair enough (I have seen stranger decorations), but when I discovered it was a mold of his own body I just laughed.
@@Ghost_Of_SAS And do you know the reason behind it? Do you even know what happened to Rich's body in his childhood, because if you do then you sure wouldn't be bitching about him.
With the "no" test, as a lady, the expectation from men is generally that I will take an interest in their hobbies, but they do not have to do the same with mine, which is not really okay. Especially the flat "no, I'm not doing that". Can you tell me what you ARE willing to do that I like instead of just saying "no"?
Yeah my Grandparents were married for over 50yrs, they had things they loved doing together plus their own hobbies & they would work together to accommodate each other getting time for each. A Marriage should be a Partnership not dominated by one.
Meaning of hypergamy for these guys = if women prefer a stable guy as opposed to a broke guy who can't even take care of themselves. It's like if you have minimum financial expectation from a guy then you're a gold digger or hYpeRgAmoUs. Also they completely ignore the fact that often women have lots of struggle to get a job. Just check labour data during pandemic. It's women who lost most of the jobs. In my country, only 20% women are/were in workforce (before pandemic). There's an active culture to prevent and discourage women from getting higher education and jobs especially high paying jobs (Because men don't want to marry someone who earns more than them, so parents of a girl is afraid she won't get married if she gets a high paying job). So of course women would prefer men who can sustain not only both of them but can give their children better future. But still guys in my culture complain about hypergamy. If I'm not being able to earn, and you're broke, why should I waste my life and my future children s life marrying you? It's very very unrealistic expectation. Your personality will not put food on the table or pay the bills. EDIT: I'm not talking from a western perspective because I don't know how it is in different western countries for women, economically. However I do think, even though love should be the necessary condition for marriage, it is not a sufficient one.
@gonootropics Tbf, nobody is alike in all ways. Some men may prefer a career woman over a homemaker type. It's all in the personality of the people involved.
@gonootropics Then that man doesn't want a wife. He wants to be a child again with his mother. Or a maid, which is essentially a mother role, only that one comes with a paycheck.
@gonootropics Some women simply aren't interested in that sort of life. It's not a "complex," dude. 😄 If you want a servant, go hire one. Don't marry someone and expect them to do whatever you say. This isn't the 1800s, you know. Damn, that's a yikesy attitude. I feel sorry for any women who crosses your path, no matter how attractive they are. An equal partnership based on respect, trust and love. That's what I look for because that's what I intend to give and deserve no less.
@gonootropics Wow. Ok, I know that "tradwives" are a thing and what have you, but again, not everyone wants that life, or what you evidently deem a "high value man." Hell, I'm demi-pan, so I don't even care what somebody's gender is or what they look like, so long as they're a decent person. I don't have "lists" or "tests." I just accept people as they are, provided they're not toxic in some way. Btw, I'm a career woman and a mom. How do you like that?
I'm just curious how he would react if someone tried these same tests on him. I kind of get the impression he wouldn't be very happy. I never thought about whether a person I hung out with was raising or lowering my social status. It was more their personality and whether I got along with them well. He seems to be very concerned about his social standing.
His Prenup reasoning is basically a barely sanded down way of claiming that all women are gold diggers. His world view doesn't seem to allow for the existence of a woman who is financially successful & entirely self-sufficient yet also actively interested in finding a partner and don't mind dating men who aren't as financially successful. IMO, men of that mindset often also get jealous or feel inadequate if they ever do date or end up in a relationship with a woman who makes more than him & who doesn't rely on their male partner for financial support.
yes, and as long as there are plenty of women who play this type of role (which there are a clear abundance of) then within this narrow framework he isn't that bad.
I want to make my own living thank you. That way if the shit hits the fan I can help financially. I dont want my husband dying from a heart attack from overwork.
What I find funny as well is that he expects her to take on a supportive role for him (zombie apocalypse test) but she shouldn't expect him to support her financially. Isn't that kind of the tradeoff that made traditional relationships work (well, kind of work)? I don't see why I should support someone who doesn't support me back in some other way.
@Michael Quaid if over 90% of all women ALWAYS date UP than the place they would date to isn't really UP, except if all or 90% of women were in low classes and could only date up. That's a ridiculous high number except if you're u take the whole world in account where there are a lot of countries in which women are always lower class because they can't earn or won anything (of importance for independence) anyway. I mean what are you looking for in a partner? Do you always look at their bank account or do you look at if they like you, if you feel welcome, if you have fun and if you enjoy your time with them? What makes you think that women, in a society in which they are as financially stable as men, don't have same criterias? But I guess I'll be one of those 3 people (there will be more. If there aren't than I'll be concerned on where you live) who would say fuck you when you think I'm only looking for financial stability through a partner when I already told you I like you for you and that's why I wanted to date you. There have to be trust on both sides in a relationship and yes you can get hurt that's what's happening in relationships. Most of them don't end well. I do highly recommend to make a marriage contract. Because I think you can decide the best outcome for both of you when you still feel the most for each other. I would never wanna drag an awful conflict any longer than necessary and for me such a contract is a sign of trust and not distrust. Because you allow your partner to protect what's important to them openly and while you agree that it is ok.
So, finished watching the video and I agree with the test but not the explanations, I guess?? I agree with the vibe but not the gendered stuff cause as you said, it’s not gendered.
@@markettechniques Assumption, not projection. Neither of us knows enough about this commenter to determine whether they are projecting their faults or not or even if they have said faults, so you assumed the same thing about them as they did about the men who make videos like this, which indicates a hasty generalization( on their part) as well, but I don't doubt that they're not that far off, as many similar videos and blogs I've seen do seem to be largely exposing toxic attitudes of the authors, though I'm sure that is not the intention.
Exactly.. your worth isn't determined by some arrested developed MGTOW male claiming to be alpha but cowers in the corner like some beta bam bam because some woman had the gall to dump his misogynistic a@@. Notice he didn't mention anything about finding a "high quality" woman. Let's face it, ANY high-value, High-Quality woman wouldn't waste her time with this dude or wouldn't take him as a serious prospect. He's a POS wrapping himself in gold foil with a label and trying to pass himself off as Godiva or even Hershey's. Sooner or later the stench is gonna tell you that ain't chocolate in any form.. it's just cheap a@@ sh-t.
I’m curious as to what his logic is in getting upset at women for looking around for friends and relationships that will “up their average” while also saying that if a woman hangs out with “low quality” people, then she’s automatically considered low quality because she’s “the average of her 5 friends”
@@customsongmaker I'm not "blaming" anyone. I'm just noticing, perhaps wrongly, that there's an undercurrent of emotional pain that shapes his view of the world. For what it's worth, as mentioned in the video his views regarding gender relations aren't actually bad in any meaningful way (I actually quite like his channel). Most of the "tests" apply to both genders. Having empathy for someone's pain isn't "Victim Blaming".
@@tiptoes9847 no, people with unresolved issues should resolve their issues. But child molesters don't get hundreds of likes by saying "Who molested you LMAO". Abusive women do get hundreds of likes by saying "Who hurt you" which includes abuse in early life. Or are you saying it doesn't hurt to be abused at a young age?
My biggest concern with this guy is that he basically is discounting anyone with a disability or long term health condition. I met my wife about 15 years ago, and she is the most perfect person for me - our interests and weirdness matches perfectly. But had I used his "tests" she would have failed most, because she is significantly disabled. For that matter, I probably would have failed a while chunk of them because i was in a pretty bad place at the time. While I agree that some of the things he said may be helpful, I do think that his generalisations and assumptions are unhealthy at best. The whole narrative here seems to ignore that we are all broken people and that sometimes we can find perfection in another person despite our imperfections. What is most important is to spend time getting to know the other person, understand them, build trust. And totally, if they want to share something they enjoy with you, like a museum, give it a go and learn why it makes them happy.
And how has that been working out the last several decades; 'getting to know someone' just before about half of the marriages end in divorce in about five years, with the guy losing half his stuff?
Why in the world would a guy want to start out a marriage as basically being a nurse or social worker for someone else, the wife? And what happens if the guy wants to have kids and the wife is already having health problems and can't? Why is there ZERO thought or consideration to what a guy is looking for?
@@visaman Really? This is not some kind of personal preference or something; we are discussing what works verse what simply does NOT work. we have had DECADES of results and the results are clear and: DO. NOT. WORK. The ONLY reason I would ever tell any guy to follow such advice would be because I wanted to send him down a path to ruin.
Constantly putting people through secret tests seems sociopathic to me. Does this guy not possess the empathy required to understand people so he needs to reduce people into easily understandable categories through asinine tests?
@@ultraboombean Seeing how someone reacts to situations is different than putting them through tests. I can see what type a person someone is by how they treat a server. I do not need to pretend to leave my wallet at home to test them.
In my experience, keeping score on how a person (partner or otherwise) reacts to situations is not a good road to go down. Set your boundaries and communicate them to the people in your life. It’s not hard to understand when someone isn’t their best self in the moment (honestly forgetting to unlock the door using the video’s example) and someone who gives zero fuggs about your boundaries.
You're right. To purposely put yourself and your partner in situations under false pretenses is a very shitty thing to do. You don't want to date someone who is grading you. If you want to know how someone would be in the situation you ask them and communicate your concerns and thoughts like a normal ass human.
@@elphabarichardson607 It's about speeding up the process of finding a viable and worthwhile mate. You can't judge someone from one action in one situation. These "tests" should only happen if there's any doubt about a particular quality or virtue.
Having been broke, sometimes a surprise expense is frightening to people, and you don't know that it is or isn't unless they've disclosed their finances. Further, being an introvert, a surprise extension to social time, even with people whose company I've enjoyed, will put me off when I'm expecting to return home and enjoy some alone time. His coffee test is crap, and so is he. Edit: I'm operating under the assumption that tests are being issued early on, granted, but it all feels so.....Seinfeld.
27:15 - Well yeah. Bitchiness is a female quality. "But I know men who are bitchy" - so? I know women with height bigger than me, but it still true that man are higher than women. We're talking about average and statistics - exceptions do not undermine the rule, duh.
The people, mostly men, who believe in these gender roles so deeply, but then complain about them kinda confuses me. You want independent or dependent woman then? Can't have both, my guy...
Most 'independent women' are really not independent; someone else is suppling all kinds of resources or money for their lifestyle but we all pretend they are independent.
Where does he or anyone complain about her being dependent!? This test really must work because it sure is triggering to some of you who can’t give 2% back in a relationship. It’s a cup of coffee after he probably spent hundreds on her. Varied dependency is totally fine. I’ll pay 90% of the time out, you cook 90% of the time in as a example. That’s a healthy relationship 100% transactional is not a real relationship, it’s like thinking the stripper really likes you when she says she’s happy to see you.
@@1984a-g9f Just curious.. When you say, you'll pay 90% while out and she cooks 90%...are you both working in that scenario? Because there are aspects. If one is staying home full time, then it would be fine to have that dynamic. But if you both work, then it kinda... Becomes weird for one to always pay while other always cooks which is extra work (unless one loves to cook like hell and other spend the money).there are so many aspects... And it's never just about the money. Such men kinda twist the whole gender roles thing depending when/how it suits them. Which was my point.
Cinty Wee All this is dating scenarios. Once you are married then it’s ridiculously to look at my money vs your money because pragmatically it’s our money. Plus no way anyone should ever get married to an unreciprocal partner that’s solely 100% transactional that’s digging your own misery for certain. But also no one marries for equality or even does serious relationships. This is why the single not in a relationship rate keeps rising to never before seen levels. It’s above 50% for the first time ever. Yin is necessary to attract Yang and Yang is necessary to attract Yin. ☯️ Although there is a reason for the little spot of the opposite in the other, that’s about as much similarity is necessary for maximum attraction, and it is necessary.
As a demisexual, it's always so wild to be reminded that the notion of "hypergamy" is a thing some people believe. I could never, ever be with a partner who didn't click with me on very deep emotional levels. Money and social standing have never once played into my dating decisions.
Same. As someone who is panromantic-ish (not completely gender blind, but I am more affected by personality before anything), I find marrying/ dating for money/ status a weird concept.
@@safala I'm skeptical about it though. Why was I able to have a one nighter with someone who I don't even know? How would these women even build an emotional bond with me if I they don't even know me?
Reload my weapons for me? Why wouldn't I want a partner who's just as good at fighting zombies as me? Reloading someone else's weapon isn't efficient; we can both reload our own rifles and double our firepower together. Feminism!
Not to mention, one can be covering the other while they are reloading. If all she is doing is reloading and handing the mag to him, the time he takes to attach the mag is time they are vulnerable.
A Japanese princess married a commoner, willingly giving up the perks of her birth for that of a lower station in life. That alone, deflates this man's claim.
His advice isn't necessarily bad, some of these things are generally good things to look out for in a partner, though I wouldn't actively look for them/test my partner...
17:12 Unfortunately, this is a perfect example of how toxic masculinity perpetuates itself. One guy gets hurt, becomes defensive, then immediately links that pain to a stereotype he's heard before about women, but used to ignore, and then generalizes it to an entire gender. He then moves to 'protect' other men from experiencing that pain by 'warning' them about those stereotypes, and using his situation as evidence of that stereotype's accuracy. I think the fact that they feel like they are protecting other men is why they don't see this as inherently toxic, and that makes it so much easier to perpetuate the cycle.
That's a long way to say "not all women". We all know and agree not all women. He's right 90% of the time. He's not continuing a cycle. He's ending the cycle. When she falls the test, over the side with her.
''Dust off the purse'' Sir, how do you think I pay for my groceries and stuff?! As if that one coffee is the only thing I was paying for in a while x) Edit: also, it's such a self-centered pov he has for someone who keeps testing if women are self-centered. He says shit like ''it was a waste of time'' and ''they have to prioritize me over their family'', as if loving someone had an end goal and not just enjoying someone for who they are, no matter how long you're with them. Someone saying ''it's a waste of my time'' regarding being in a relationship that doesn't end up in marriage is a red flag to me cause I value the time spent with the people no matter what?! Like, there's no expiration date to a person and you shouldn't judge them on your personal gain - especially when you're so paranoid about them using you for personal gain 🤷♀️
Women get a large benifit on dates. You just get to sit there and be given stuff because you breathe oxygen. That's the harsh truth. How much money did guys spend on you? Gifts flowers gas food drinks?
@@fjparasite1172 Oh goodness, I don't know who hurt you but please, don't go about life with that grim of a lense cause you'll just make other people miserable thinking like that 🙄 We're in 2021, not our problem if you're too insecure to handle splitting the bill when you go on a date with a woman. If all you can see in relationships is transactions, you have a serious problem that only therapy and a good look at yourself can fix.
@@ragdollrose2687 i'm not saying all women demand thousands. But from a male point of view imagine spending let's say 600 bucks on the wrong guy that you saw a future with but is a complete jerk. There was a lady that went on a date with a complete stranger and her bill was 200 bucks. And she was shocked that he would not pay.
@@fjparasite1172 That's not a gender issue, that's a greed issue mate. I've been broke my whole life and I'm still the one giving gifts or lots of time to the people I love, and the imbalance is even more obvious with the guys I dated. A shitty person will be a shitty person and need to reassess their values. Don't go out with greedy people if you don't want to date greedy people. We keep that ridiculous idea alive by giving it weight with the way we behave, it's not the biggest cycle to break to not perpetuate this expectation.
The marry up to increase your social status level makes him sound like the grumpy, old, woman of high birth in a Jane Austin novel. He'll be using the term "upstart" next
Ya know, before this video, i thought i was an asexual man. But now, after watching, i realize the truth. I am several million bees in a human skin. Thank you for this revelation lol
Okay. The “zombie apocalypse” test is a bullshit test. Ladies; if a guy EVER pulls that bullshit test on you; you counter with what I’m gonna call the “Grizzly Bear” test. It’s easy for a guy to think he’s a badass in an unrealistic scenario like a zombie apocalypse. However; in a real world situation; it becomes a question that he shouldn’t be able to answer. Here’s the “Grizzly Bear” rest. Ask your man if two of you came across grizzly bear while hiking one day if he would distract the bear so you could get away. If he says yes; he’s lying. Natural instinct is to save oneself. That’s not to say he wouldn’t save you, but he can’t say with 100% certainty that he would. Btw; if a man saves you from a grizzly bear; I don’t care if he’s quadriplegic afterwards; you should love that guy until the end of time.
Side side note: it's best to step to the side, don't look at the bear, be quiet, and try to relax if it's an actual grizzly. A black bear usually can be scared away if you are loud and big (wave arms or raise coat whatever to look big.) Please talk to your local ranger about bear safety.
The Zombie apocalypse test is also kind of ableist: plenty of people requiring medication every day wouldn't have many options, and if it's earlier in the relationship... that might not be something the other person is comfortable disclosing.
Just tested my bf with the "Grizzly Bear" method and he said he would distract the bear and beat it with only a knife. He"s delusional. Im moving out soon.
This video is awesome because it reminded me that I need to pick up my dry cleaning. I would shit test my woman to see if she can be trusted to pick it up for me, but I'm not that paranoid and I live less than a kilometer from my dry cleaner and my woman is in Shanghai right now.
The fact that this video starts with a cold open to Emma playing "Seven Nation Army" on an Otamatone shows that she is, in fact, a high-quality woman.
"The otomatone test" is really the only test you need
. Thank you. I knew I know that tune but it would be kept me up all night figuring out what it was. You saved my night now I can sleep. 😌😌😌😌😌😌😌
Being an older person, I was sorely lacking in knowledge on this instrument or synthesizer. I looked it up, and was surprised to learn it's price! It looks challenging and fun. I'm inclined to agree with you.
Most gallery art is by men anyway
I didn't even realize that was the song lmao
its truly amazing how so many people project their insecurities through outward expression of what they dislike.fear, or hate.
About the zombie apocalypse, my gf and I actually talked about this and it ended up with her getting a tank, and me traveling to her because she lives near a military base.
The ‘forgot-my-wallet’ shit-test he talks about would rule out people who live in poverty... I’ve been so broke on many occasions that a cup of coffee for myself was out of the question, let alone for anyone else. Here in Australia, our coffees are way more expensive the $1.50, too...
He's buying only the basic coffee. $1.50 only buys the basic bogstandard Tim Horton's swill, that everyone I know complains about but we all pay for anyway. If you want anything that tastes better, $2 or $3 is the usual range (or go to McDonald's who usually has better coffee for cheaper. At least In Canada, anyway.) But he reminds me of a very specific stereotype of a Canadian man. I suspect he dislikes anything sweet, and thinks flavour weakens character, except in meat and beer. I could be wildly wrong. I'm just comparing his visual aesthetic and philosophies to various men I've known that are so similar I suspect they could be a hivemind. Not all men, but this one sort of performative masculinity type.
But you are 100% on the poverty thing. The way he tossed off "valet" as part of one of his tests. Neither myself nor anyone I've ever dated has ever used a valet service, because even on the rare occasion we find ourselves in a location where its offered, none of us would ever have the spare cash for it. But if he does indeed match the stereotype, he believes poverty is a character flaw anyway, and that us poor people are beneath his consideration.
Consider that if you are honest pre-date about financial standing, this won't become an issue (or if it does, you're are not the one failing the test 😉) because they will be aware that you simply don't have it, and thus will not be likely to ask.
As for the "casual mention of valet," this doesn't necessarily speak to a superiority complex. It easily could, yes... or it could mean that he is the type to save up for an occasional splurge date. And since it is quite common to suddenly begin "seriously considering where this is going" right around the time you realize that it's been almost a year of casual dating and now there's an anniversary and some celebration must be had but it's a milestone and time to decide if this is more than casual and now you're bugging out so just make a fancy reservation and surprise them and everything will be fine, it is not unreasonable to see how this would be the perfect occasion to start watching for the little things that might turn into deal breakers.
About the coffee, I really think he *was* trying to emphasize asking for the cheapest possible cup as the smallest possible gesture, but I was slightly put out by the usage of coffee as a tool for stereotyping someone, as experience has taught me that there are *zero* exterior indicators of how (or if) a person will drink coffee. Personally, I'm a straightforward medium black type, my grandmother and auntie like theirs ALL THE WAY black, my mother likes a dash of milk and no sweetener, my brother likes a dash of milk and lots of sugar, my sister-in-law doesn't drink coffee and when anyone brings us an order "blind", none of us get the right cup.
That was coffee bit was meant to be humorous, but was instead long-winded and weak. But I typed it, so there it is 😬
1.50 for coffee where. Around me the cheepest is 3 bucks.
@@rd6203 As I said, I could be wildly wrong. It's just a suspicion based upon everything he said and how he acted. I know plenty of awesome people who like their coffee black or only with a little cream, but if you want anything along the lines of mocha or cappuccino at rhe Timmy's it's upwards of $3 for the smallest size. You are probably right on the smallest possible gesture aspect. But I'll admit even after your reasonable explanation, I find the valet comment still a little odd. The only places I know of in my part of Canada that offer valet service are very high-end restaurants (like a hundred or two per meal type) or very high-end malls that are expecting $500 ish shopping sprees. I guess hotels might as well, but I guess I wouldn't know. I feel comfortable standing by my comment on his superiority complex. He radiates it. If nothing else, the rating of women into "high class" and "low class" is enough to convince me he has a superiority complex. Everything else is just extra gravy.
@@miscalotastuff733 last time I was in a Timmy's it was around 1.50 for the smallest plain coffee. That was in Toronto, pre-pandemic (and probably a year or so before hand. I couldn't and still can't afford to buy coffee most days even at those prices.) So I could be wildly wrong on that too.
It’s funny to me how openness is still defined differently by both genders-and yet the females are more consistently yawping about how men could benefit from more openness. Funny, huh
Confirmed - never getting married again 🥲
Remember all of this springs from the guy who whined that there's a ladies night, cheap drinks and apps for the ladies, but not a men's night.
My wife of 34 years apparently missed the memo on hypergamy, when we met she had a degree in chemistry, worked in a Nuclear Power plant and made four times what I did in the Coast Guard. So theres that. I stayed home to raise the children and keep house, because that made sense.
The exception doesn't negate the rule. So....there isn't that.
@@hanzbrixx um yeah it totally can
Same with me. And it worked out fine.
@@hanzbrixx yes exception does negate rules. If you're saying 100% of men cheat and you see 20% don't that would remove the word ALL.
And make it SOME. Which wouldn't be arule. I'm sorry for your paranoia
Apparently my long term girlfriend did too cause when she met me I was fresh out of rehab without a dime to my name, even though she has a very prestigious degree from Foster's School of Business up here in Seattle with a corporate gig in finance making 6 figures a year. We gotta get our ladies with the program, I guess!!! 😂😂😂
Here's s dating tip. Don't date people who are trying to test you. That's really manipulative.
If you date men, they test you constantly. They make dating seem like a job interview. It sucks. I just want to have fun and get to know someone, but most straight men make it into a job interview. I hate dating men my own age. I did notice younger men do t do this as much and it’s been nicer.
@@JDMimeTHEFIRST i feel its the same with females both sides seem to do it.
@@nightmarerex2035You just called women "females" 💀💀💀
@@nightmarerex2035 "females" apes ?
You're always being tested. Both sides do it.
The only "test" I have is based on a quote I seen once, "If they treat you nice, but yell at the waiter, they aren't a good person."
If I'm on a date and she says, "I'd love to check out this art gallery." I would say, "Last time I went to an art gallery, it wasn't my thing. But I'd love to go and you can show me what you like about it and maybe I will, too."
❤❤❤
"Never been to one I enjoyed but I'd like to change that."
I would do the same for a gun show, truck rally, sports game and/or whatever else men do. Shyt, I'll even - drumroll - watch sports.
That’s a good response. Always be open to trying something that the other person enjoys (though if it’s something physical and you’re not comfortable, you have all the right to say no and have them respect that)
Can we take a minute to appreciate the fact that he uses language that is distinctly video game like. Data points and leveling up sound like I’m in Skyrim with the skill tree.
Relationship 100
If only we used a necklace of Mara?? And she said yep lets marry.
Loving the Skyrim references! xD
I'll give you leveling up but data points is an academic term.
He thinks that being in a relationship is a side quest in the game of life, and you are the NPC
I am a grown ass woman who loves video games, and if a guy used video game terms around me, It'd be an instant 1up for me. :)
The part of my brain that tends to get stuck on small points too much is fascinated by his zombie apocalypse idea. Because the way he says it - and repeats it - he doesn't look for the woman to cover his back, he expects her to reload his magazines and pass them to him, while he's shooting. He has three guns, but his expectation is still that she assists him by doing the reproductive work of maintaining a supply of loaded magazines, instead of wanting her to be a good shot and pick up a gun herself.
Bingo!
THIS!!!
Even in his masculine apocalyptic fantasies women are just shoe-shiners….. gosh.
This is why you need a 4 person crew: 3 shooting and 1 reloader
As a Former US Marine, I will say that an a-gunner and a gunner is more efficient than two shooters. Especially once we get into the world of automatics, however that is beyond the scope here. We go into a combat situation pre loaded sure, if a fight decides to go on for an extremely prolonged period of time where we need to reload magazines, then it does become a situation where one person drops back and reloads magazines until the barrel needs to cool off, and then they switch, either who is doing what or rifles. as the a-gunner you are also responsible for directing fire and keeping a 360 field of view since the gunner is necessarily looking through a sight and has limited vision.
I can see how this may seem like the other person is a shoe shiner or whatever to someone untrained in battlefield combat, it is not the case though. From my perspective, it is a statement of two people working in harmony to get something done.
@@Senrabekim
As someone untrained in battlefield combat - in a military context and tactical combat, I can absolutely see that. Division of tasks is usually more efficient, and doing so situationally, in a well-trained unit... yeah, totally. That works on some basic premises, though: All members of a military unit have at least somewhat equivalent training, and at least as far as a-gunner/gunner is concerned - as you've basically said yourself - different team members can take each role or may even switch roles, depending on the situation. It's a tactical decision.
And as you already wrote: It takes a fight over a prolonged period of time to even need battlefield reloading of magazines (plus a supply of ammo to put in).
If you can/want to see it as a metaphor for "two people working in harmony to get something done" - great! Power to you.
It's probably only understood that way by (former) military people, though, if even all of them.
Furthermore, I kinda doubt he means it that way: He's not talking about prolonged combat, not about spotting, watching the other persons back - let alone maintaining a 360 field of view. And I doubt he'd agree for her to get equivalent training, or that he would reload magazines for her, if - for whatever reason - she was in a better position to be the gunner.
From everything else he says, his vision is simple: He shoots, she reloads the magazines. On principle, because those are the roles. And if it's based on a fixed role, we have to ask if it's really two people working in harmony to get something done, or someone viewing another person as basically an assistance system to himself.
There is just something about your demeanor and voice that makes me so much calmer and happier. So glad I stumbled on this channel, I could seriously listen to you talk about a toaster for 2 hours and be fine with it.
Agreed, she also reminds me a lot of a girl I met in Leeds, makes it comforting to listen to her videos and she brings a few topics I have gained passive curiosity for up in an interesting way.
I'm a male who's female partner is currently in medical school and is perfectly fine with me becoming a stay at home dad should we have kids. It's pretty rare to find a woman (or person for that matter) who doesn't have their own career going in my generation (same age as Emma) in the US because it's literally the only way you can make ends meet. So not sure where all these women are jumping from partner to partner for a living. In my experience you're about as likely to find a man "dating up" in terms of socio-economic status as women these days. Ironic as well that the same sorts of people complaining about the supposed economic dependence of women are also the most vocally opposed to their entry into the workforce.
You are the sum average of the 5 people you hang around most. You hang around men who seek women to live off of.
@@hanzbrixx I'm not sure how you got that from my comment but sweet 👍
Yeah, why are they against women’s body autonomy and equal pay (which we still don’t have), if they think we’re too “needy”
Hanz brixx us hurt by every man whose woman isn't matching his paranoid ideas throughout this comment section lol.
Bro I swear. These men just desperately cling onto a hero fantasy where they think men are still the providers and women can't do without them. It pleases their ego
I would definitely fail the small favor test -- not because I have any objection to doing favors for a friend (I enjoy helping others out) but because he was phrasing it more as an order than a request. Just toss the ticket at her and say, "I'm swamped, do me this favor" is a hard no. I'm not a servant or an employee to be given orders, and for all he knows I may be swamped too. He wants a favor, ask for it without assuming my time is freely available for his use: "I'm swamped, can you do me this favor?", then give me the ticket if I say "yes". But what do I know about being a quality woman? I'm just three owls in a raincoat.
I really admire the way you approach this kind of content. You’ve got a level of respect and friendliness I aspire to have in the face of hate and fear.
Well, the algorithm got something right recommending your channel to me.
good morning to us, yanno what I mean?
Same
Me too! Loving her channel ❤
Same, I got another one recommended and now I'm watching loads of them
Same. I've been loving this channel!
“If your chick doesn’t play into your apocalypse male power fantasy, then dump her.” - this guy
Not even just the apocalyptic themed fantasies either. This dude would probably flip his lid if the person he dates forgot to shave their legs or something, he would probably see it as a grave offense to his honor LOL
You're a dummy. What he's asking is will she be reliable when there is trouble.
@@jimmyjimjim3054 Except that isn't what he said at all. Dude wanted a gal who would stay with him and "reload (his) magazines and be handing them to (him)" rather than going to her family. Like he literally, in the clips shown in this video, explained that he wanted a woman who was going to value his masculinity and what not, nothing do do with if she's reliable or not.
@@jimmyjimjim3054 how is abandoning lone sister with kids being any reliable? He wants his private maid that will forget any connections, even blood ones, cuz he is big mach boy that decides where and why she can go. And that idiot din't think that "I'm going to help my sister" means "as she won't be able to survive. You can, have guns, are physically ok so you'll be a great help if we get there together 'cause it's obvious to me we are going together".
@@jimmyjimjim3054 * wants information on whether girlfriend is reliable when there’s trouble. Proceeds to ask about one of the most inapplicable to reality fantasy scenarios possible *
Lmao sure, Jan
I like the fact that she isn't super judgemental. I'm a judgemental dude who's taking steps to be less judgmental, and one of the first steps is to notice when you have a judgemental thought (don't judge yourself for it, just notice). The beautiful thing about that is that you start to also notice when other people do it, and I started realizing that a good 90% of the videos I watch are judgemental (which, watching/listening to videos is something I do from the morning till I sleep everyday). It's wonderful to watch a video and not hear someone projecting in every other sentence (which I'm purposely judging another TH-camr in my mind rn for doing lol), or judging the people in the video for everything. It was super sweet to see a video where someone respectfully disagreed with someone else, whilst also giving credit where credit is due. It sets a fantastic example for people everywhere of all ages. Anywho, toodle-oo, have a grand ol' day...oo 😁🤙
Edit: Oh, and thank you for reading my written ramblings-oo
If anything, your partner wanting to check on their family during a zombie outbreak speaks to the confidence they have in your ability to hold down the fort
So if a zombie apocalypse goes down this guy is STILL gonna be concerned about his place in society as a man? Why?
Because that is all men have. Through most of time the legacy of a woman has been her children, for a man it is his place in society. This is still true today. Go to a party (not an office party), but like a parent-school gathering. Women (mothers) introduce and define themselves in terms of their children, especially when talking to other women. But not men. Men introduce and define themselves in terms of their careers, the company they work for. If they are retired (as I am) it is what one use to do. This is how men form the social norms for the conversation. Two highly educated men will find out about where they went to college, grad school. A highly educated man and a non-educated man, the conversation will more likely be popular sport.
@@glencmac That sounds so sad and restrictive…. :(
@@glencmac Thats untrue and sexist lmao. I'll say this though, average people who do the career small talk just lack any hobbies or interesting things to talk about haha
„To err is human. To arrr is pirate.“. I’m so glad I woke up today!
I am like...if the zombie apocalypse hits I will be happily deceased.
Haha, same. I'm the kind to either freeze or run around like a headless chicken when something unexpected happens, so I would be dead very quick. :P So I just hope it never happens :D Alternatively since I'm introverted and work from home it could happen without me even realizing it :D
Yeah I’m not about living my life constantly running from zombies, lol. I would rather be dead.
thisss
I'm disabled so I just wouldn't make it lol
Same! I don’t want to live in that kind of situation, so I’m letting the zombies or aliens eat me.
I never intentionally tested people I was interested in or was dating, but I did always pay attention to the red flags that came up during relationships.
Emma: "..I'm gonna start cocoa buttering my beard..."
Me: (Stunned Silence)
Man... I'm not terribly experienced at dating (I only dated one young lady, and we're now married). But I'm pretty sure that if I found out my partner was actually doing or saying things because they were testing me, and not as an organic expression of themselves, I'd probably have a hard time trusting them or taking them seriously afterward.
Shouldn't you always be yourself when getting to know somebody? Isn't that the whole point? Am I wrong about that?
I guess his ex was friends with Colin Robinson lol. Also it’s a pretty common thing to go do things with your partner that’s not your favorite and vice versa. As long as one person in the relationship constantly asking and “forcing“ the other person to do things they aren’t interested in. Going to an art gallery a couple times a year isn’t the worst just like going to car shows once and a while with a partner isn’t the worst.
I agree to some extent. Relationships involve compromise and its important to keep an open mind toward trying new things, even if they don't sound like something you'll enjoy. Who knows, it might surprise you. To be honest though, I wouldn't want to spend a bunch of money and/or time doing something I already know I don't like and will only bore me. I also wouldn't want my partner to do it. If they don't like something, I want them to tell me. I want us both to have fun and I can always do that thing with someone else or by myself. The person saying no, should understand if the other one breaks the date because of the timing of the event. If I want to go to something special and this is the only weekend it's going on. If my partner doesn't want to go, I'm going to go and we can do something maybe next week. They should have the right to do the same.
@@bubbakittle6999 ☝
Like saying no to a movie you don't find interesting is fine but dinner date with friends I would say go to. Its important to get along with your partners friends and family to an extent, you don't have to be besties but knowing them and being polite to them should be a goal.
You also don't have to do things together if you don't want to.
I have a legit way for all men out there affraid of a gold digger: date a women that earns as much money as you do. Problem solved.
I am so confused why it is okay for old men to want a beautiful and young wife but at the same time want to keep all of their money for themselfs.
Because youth and beauty aren't the same as money lol
@@Kirsanov Yes. Money usually lasts longer. So we get told from a young age to not settle for less we are preceived to be worth. Why would you believe than we would settle for less?
And if you don't like it feel free to get someone as rich as you are:) The world has a lot of people to offer so feel free to choose as you like! I sure did;)
@Digicraftmon the Crystal Gem daughter lol
Lets not forget about that nasty'ol Gender Wage Gap getting in the way of solving the problem of Female "gold diggers" LOL
This dude is just absolutely pathetic
@Rach They also have fragile egos and can't live up to their own inflated image of what an aka real man is, and they're terrified of being found out as a fraud. It's not so much as sad but stupid.
I don't think I've ever dated a "rich" guy. I always dated or fell in love with guys who I vibe with. I am married and my husband definitely isn't rich, in fact he's out of work with an injury and I'm the breadwinner right now. So how are all women hypergamus?
Because we like men rich in personality. Or at least that’s what I like to think.
(I mean, I don’t think I’d fall into the ‘we’ cause I’m not exactly attracted towards men, but I’d still prefer men with rich personality for platonic relationships as well.)
Because historically the only way for a woman to gain power and status was to marry a man of higher power and status. Now, however, that applies far less because women are allowed to gain status themselves.
Same! I can’t imagine being with someone just for money. It just isn’t possible. I can’t fake it.
99% women are hypergamus
@@kevenfromsales6830 You need to either pull the article where that statistic is given or you need to stop pulling random statistic out of your ass.
My mom was a supermodel in the 70s and 80s….. she was on the cover of Vogue, Redbook, Women’s Day, Elle…. by this dudes standard, an absolute top-tier chick….
…..My dad was a carpenter lol
Quintessentially non-hypergamous.
They raised 3 kids, and They’re now in their 70s and still together… and they’re awesome.
Universal Hypergamy is a dumb idea.
What age she meet your dad. I bet over 30
I'm sorry, I am 100 mices in a human suit. Most of the mice are high quality, btw.
Also my plan for a zombie apocalypse is to die as quick as possible. Maybe that's the low quality mice part of me 🤷♀️
(Ok, I do have an alternative plan w/a friend, which involves the History of armies).
Yeah
Zombie apocalypse, I'd feed myself to the zombies before it got on the news
"Mices"? You Gollum or something?
i wonder if there's some reason many women believe they need to "marry up".....like if there was some societal system in place that historically denied women land ownership, or business ownership, or equal pay in the workforce, or upward corporate mobility..........
@Michael Quaid I DID pay for a man (then a boy) on our first (and only date) It was true - tight with money - tight with love...
Women have been the majority of voters for 100 years, so they decide every election. But, as a woman, you still look to men to fix all your problems and take all the blame for your own choices.
except there is nothing stopping woman from high earning or upward mobility in 2021. The wage gap is a literal myth because it doesn't take into account the types of jobs people have
@@demodiums7216 Something tells me you actually don’t want women succeeded. Someone who’s first response to a woman is “I have it worse than you” is not a good guy
@@somesortofdeliciousbiscuit3704 "it's a coaster" :D :D :D
Eyes opened. I'm a nearly 55 year old man, and apparently I've never been aware of the man-o-sphere. Now should I be proud or embarrassed?
You should be proud
Honestly, with the door unlocking bit...I had a guy do that to me on a date, but tested me concerning straws in fast food places. He would take a girl inside a fast food place to eat and grab the food to carry it to the table. He would ask the girl if she wouldn't mind getting the drinks. If she brings back straws and ketchup for both people, they earn some early respect. I made the mistake of getting drinks and packets of salt and ketchup, but I only got a straw for me ( this is in 2002 before folks got really angry about straws impact on wildlife). He didn't know I had dated a man before him that got his manhood insulted when I brought him a straw ( that guy thought only women should use straws. REAL men drink straight from the cup). So moral to story people have a variety of reasons for having specific actions, and you shouldn't judge folks until you know why they do things.
Isn't that zombie test a masked "you value me or your family more?" in his examples...
Right, what if my sister has the more advantageous location and a better stocked shed?
@@kirstenv-g4459 Or - why me thinking of weaker family members instead of fully geared, strong man I trust is bad? I mean... shouldn't in be HIS job to follow me and help me safe my precious sister, if we go with gendered stereotypes? I mean... if I said I'm going to my sister's I'd assume it's obvious it means "I'm going so you're going with me so we help them together". Especially that being... at least 3 adults and some kids that are small so will fit in tighter spots is kinda better that just two adults. Guns can be moved, their probably big house cannot.
So this could be my slight autistic traits popping up, but I legit didn't know the whole "zombie apocalypse" thing was about that?!😅 I just thought it was a fun way for guys and girls to talk about zombies lol. I didn't know some people (like this guy)actually place some type of genuine merit in this totally fake scenario🤣🤣🤣 like calm down it's not that serious bro
I wouldn’t want to be with anyone that’d say they wouldn’t help protect their family, if y’all are married then you’re a part of that family hun. I dated a single dad for a while and I told him that if he ever felt he needed to choose between me or his kids, that I expected him to choose his kids. Cause I would never respect or love a man who abandons his family for any reason.
@@BunsBooks right? Especially when we talk about three groups - kids, elderly, mentally/physically disabled. Cuz if that family is another big dude with guns then sure we don't risk long trip, he'll probably find his own pack of ppl. But if you dare to say you don't take your lone sister with 3 kids (let usremind that in this dude idea of bad sister was alone with vulnerable people) or your one-legged 80-year old mother then die alone bastard. Or if you'll put my feeling before our kids wellbeing (which CAN be a very important thing since I'm on emotional swing thanks to disorder) then you never see those kids again. If you preffer romantic date over dhelping your big brother cuz he lost his inlaw and is in bad shape, get lost. I'm not interested in some narcissist that thinks only about himself and his "obedient maid/courtisan". Unless there are some family issues, then he's justified he don't feel like helping uncle who abused him or anything.
Perhaps hypergamy comes from men treating women like a commodity and women then realizing well if I’m going to be selling myself as a commodity then I better be getting something out of it. Not saying that is necessarily true, just a thought.
Tbh I also think maybe some of these women come from money and they are all dating each other so they value certain things differently than I do and most everyone I know . So it is confusing like they are talking about a social strata alien to me.
I think some of it is some women don’t want to have to pick up the tab for another child, which is essentially what getting into a relationship with someone broke can feel like. And women already on average make less then men in the same age bracket, so settling for someone who makes less is a lowering an already pretty low bar in many cases.
Yeah it's weird how these manosphere guys are angry about hypergamy but they also want women to stay at home and not work or make money. Don't they realize they can't have it both ways? How are women not supposed to look for financial security in a husband if they aren't able to secure it themselves first?
@@princesseuphemia1007 yeah they can have both ways... my mom for example, worked and took care of the house. that was her domain... and she protected it fiercely!
@@princesseuphemia1007 I am not conservative and so I believe that women should have the ability to work outside of the home in whatever occupations suit their fancies, but if we narrow this to a conservative perspective in the manosphere, the following is the response. Hypergamy is not simply that a single person searches for the best value partner he/she can find but that this process continues despite giving the appearance of commitment and loyalty. So, if a woman just chose the richest man in the room the first time and stayed loyal to him, she would have financial security. The problem is that many women are financially rewarded for leaving committed relationships which provides rational incentives for continuing to be hypergamous and feigning loyalty.
I’m curious to know as to what guys like this do on dates. The whole point to dating is to see if you have common interests with someone. No test required. I think the reason these guys end up getting hurt the way they do is because they don’t take the time to actually get to know someone. They become so enamored with a person that they will actually feign interest in things they really don’t like.
Of course, don’t get me wrong; I’ve been hurt by women. I’ve been lied to, and I’ve been betrayed. My last relationship was one of the most excruciatingly painful experiences ever, and I’ve had my heart broken before; just not like that. However; what am I suppose to do; never trust a woman again? I think that would make every relationship miserable.
@Michael Quaid And you need to stop believing in a study about wolves that was debunked by the researcher who wrote it.
@Michael Quaid First off, don't call me sweetheart. It makes it incredibly obvious that you're supremely insecure and desperately trying to mask it with condescension. Second, age is not the same thing as experience or intelligence. I'm not asking for your birthday, I'm asking for concrete proof.
@Michael Quaid I’m 45, and I can assure that I’ve had fair share of experiences; the good and bad. However; to Ava’s point; there is no such thing as an alpha are beta male. There is also nothing wrong with being PC. Sure, some people can take it too far, but that door swings both ways. Just as there are people who take PC culture too far; there are people who become flat-out disrespectful towards others in their protest of it, and sometimes they don’t even realize it.
@Michael Quaid but Carlin also agreed with Political Correctness to a degree.
@@ava_marie_v "And you need to stop believing in a study about wolves that was debunked by the researcher who wrote it."
I think you're overestimating the extent of the debunking. The study was irrelevent to wolves because wolves don't live like humans do. That's essentially what has been "debunked"...the larger concept of dominance hierarchies was never something exclusive to wolves, it was never something exclusively based on that one study and it certainly has not been debunked.
I don't argue that gender has been debunked because Money's experiment showed gender was not strictly a social construct so please don't argue the entire concept of dominance hierarchies has been debunked because wolves don't interact with wolves they aren't related to very much.
As a femme gay man, I'm interested to see where I fall on the test. Will update with results at the end. I definitely test men regularly, but usually it's for play, not for real.
Having watched the whole video now, I am either a high quality woman, or a snake in a sweater.
Win win either way!
Unless you don't like snakes. Or sweaters. Or snakes in sweaters.
But other than that, its a win
Our son loves snakes. Several years ago, he was lucky enough to find a woman who also loves snakes. They are still happily cohabiting and are now saving money toward a house. On the other hand, I'm surprised to find out that I'm a "hypergamist". (This is Peter's wife speaking.) Peter was neither wealthy nor well-educated when we met, although he's very intelligent. We've been together for nearly 40 years. Both of us have been the sole support of the family at one time or another. I don't make him go to potluck dinners with my old hippie friends and he doesn't expect me to watch horror movies with him. It works. By the way, we recently went to my parents' 70th anniversary party. Someone asked them if they had any advice for staying married that long. My Dad blew us all away by answering: "Pick the right one and love her every day." By the way, I think my honorary DIL would be quite capable of blowing away zombies.
His videos on single mums make me mad. Actually most of his videos make me mad. Lol
Mad or not, what he says is true. I've done it.
@@arnolda.lampel6087 😂
How come?
A woman without a child is automatically a better option than a woman with a child, strictly on that premise.
He needs to go, imo. Almost Craig/onion's grossness levels.
@@MmmKayHuuNay What he says is the truth. And now more and more men are realizing it. Stay away from single mothers.
But where's the compromise? We're currently on vacation. There are some things I wanted to do and some things my husband wanted to do, so we compromised. We did all the things together. Not joined at the hip, but together. If I got bored, I roamed off and left him to enjoy his venture, and vice versa. Sometimes it's about trying new things and also contributing to each others happiness.
This was what I was thinking too! You can't have a real long-term relationship always telling your partner "no, I'm not interested in that, go do it by yourself."
Fully agree that compromise is essential. I think what he's talking about, though, is boundary setting, and finding out if the potential partner is a boundary-pusher, which is always a huge red flag.
ever notice how these types of videos are either made by single men, or their significant other isn’t around? 🤔 makes you think.
These vids are made by intelligent men who have been divorce raped, and see the "family law" courts for what they are... Dangerous and hostile towards men and fathers. We are now waking up and through communicating with each other, learning to protect ourselves and unplugging from the societal programming.
@@jimmyjimjim3054 imo that’s bullshit, because there are steps and laws in place to help/protect men/fathers. the issue is there are loads of dudes who love to play the victim, and when they get pressed on the issue, they can’t back any shit up. i’ve seen it from both sides.
@@iamslf "steps and laws in place to help/protect men/fathers" That's the biggest bunch of bullshit i've heard in a long time. Ask any man whose been through a contested divorce and he'll set you straight. Look at Brad Pitt's ( i use him as an example only because we all know who hi is) divorce. He had to sue to get 50% with HIS, i repeat, HIS kids. And that was considered a MAJOR upset. The rest of us men who don't have his recourses don't stand a chance. Now that men are communicating through platforms like TH-cam, we are not getting married even close to the rates we were before. I didn't and will not. It's just not worth the risk.
@@jimmyjimjim3054 , i’m going to entertain your viewpoint because we can go back and forth forever with this argument.
so, let’s say the laws are shit towards dudes, and because of this, we have to be assholes to every potential partner we meet. is that what you’re implying? because you know, that doesn’t solve anything. here’s a thought, how about a guy works towards solidifying a relationship, instead of this preemptive bs. not saying all females are good, or all dudes are bad, but this ain’t the way chief.
it’s almost akin to certain females demanding their potential partner being a certain way, and then wonder why they can’t hold down or even start a relationship. relationships are about giving and taking, you have to work together...and tests definitely won’t help bolster anything.
@@iamslf No, i don't mean that. I'm never disrespectful or mean towards women. Until the courts are balanced and see the importance of fathers to their children i advise younger men not to get married. its too risky with an over 50% divorce rate initiated by wives 80% of the time. They're waking up and seeing marriage for the bad deal it is. The falling marriage rates show this.
Great talk! Thanks!!!!!
The scenario that struck me the most about Coconut-Beard Guy is the ridiculous Zombie Apocalypse example.
1. Maybe she is a superior shot to him so why is she relegated to loading his mags?
2. Why couldn't they do both, i.e. protect her family together?
Compromise probably isn't in his lexicon.
There is a difference between going into these "tests" with the goal of testing your partner, and observing behaviour that emerges naturally in various circumstances. Regardless of how benign these tests are, the mindset is toxic. Communication is important, and more useful.
I am actually forty five rabbits in a trenchcoat.
He talks about women like they're a whole other species. Calling them "chicks" doesn't help.
At least the second word he uses is "women" and not "females". I for one find "chicks" way less appalling than "females".
Well women are different than men and thats good
Peep peep!
@@pnx1412 I would love to see him trolling weirdos like you by calling women "people with uteruses" lol
@@kevenfromsales6830 I'm a man with a uterus
This guy's views are entirely generational: I'm in my early 40s and would remember having to reach over to unlock the driver's side. If you tried that with someone in their early 30s, might not be the same thing.
I'm in my early 30's. I've only recently gotten a vehicle with a fob. The car I grew up with didn't have power locks.
I agree with this. A lot of women nowadays pay for themselves on dates up to that point so no need to test
the guy’s viewpoints are trash. if you have to set tests/ground rules when dating, then you’re already going into it with a biased/toxic mental. all the ppl i know with set expectations for relationship either can’t get one started, or they always end up in bad ones.
Perhaps it is also an american thing? I'm in my 40s but even with keys if you unlocked one door it automatically unlocked all other doors so I wouldn't even think that I had to unlock a door for the driver seperately. :D
Yeah, I'm over thirty and been key tested plenty of times. Never considered it a test, just a lot of us have manual locks or busted handles or whatever, so it's just a sensible habit, no matter who is driving
All of these stereotypes and tests just seem like a long winded justification as to why they are single. Like, are they just trying to make themselves feel better for being single? I can’t understand why people are like this..
Shaming and guilting is the first tactic in a baseless argument thanks for playing into the stereotype 😀😃😄
He wants to be single, dummy. He's had enough of all the BS that women bring to the table.
@Blackpillrevolution No. He does not show his gf because many people would pile in and start bothering her. His gf has nothing to do with his videos show why should he show her?
the burning building test : if the house is on fire can i carry you out or are you too heavy to budge.?
I definitely did not married for money, I laughed so hard comparing his 'all women are looking for a rich guy' to my situation 😂 Also, if all women are like that (his words) why bother testing?
Happy belated birthday!
Lol yeah I make so much more than my partner. My last boyfriend was loaded, and it caused tension sometimes because he could buy his way out of anything and it really started to bother me. I just want a decent guy who makes me laugh.
"If all women are like that why bother testing" haaaa yes
@@k3upikachu I grew up poor and I can definitely see that being an issue. I dated two guys from wealthier families than mine (def not on purpose 😂), and I always ended up baffled by their frivolous habits at some point. Not to mention the subtle power dynamics to be welcomed into a family that gives you pricier gifts than you could ever afford and the life experiences that differs when you're not as privileged and the partner just doesn't get it.
Right? I went from $14k debt to $66k debt the day I got married. We got married because we love each other. Still don't regret it. Took us almost 10 years to get out of debt, but we got there
Your confusion about testing is because Emma is misinterpreting what Richard means when he says 'hypergamy' and refers to all women being 'hypergamous'. Emma looks at the textbook dictionary definition which is only about wealth/status. There is actually more to it in the 'red pill' space than that.
It's this type of guy who's gonna expect his wife to pop out kids and prioritize staying home to raise them and run the home, yet he wants her to be A-okay with a prenup and basically contracting that she shouldn't be due anything for all her labor as a SAHM wife and mother should they ever split up.
I dont know he didnt hit me as the really bad type and more so just someone who was hurt and paranoid like Emma said. There are some deeply misogynistic guys who are like that but he just seems like an old fashioned ass.
Sounds like projection to me. He seemed to believe in equaiity. Why can't men advocate for their interests without having the most uncharitable interpretations lobbed at them?
He pays 100% of bills bruh. Like come on
@@kevenfromsales6830 she works too, it's just not paid. What would he pay a housekeeper? They charge money.
@@-xphobia old fashion? Back in the day men gave the salaries to their wives.
Almost clicked off when you said that this guy isn’t always in a car, but thank you for being honest. It kept me here.
In the polyamorous there's the term New Relationship Energy (NRE) and you should not make important decisions under NRE is what everyone says.
He does a live call in on mondays, go on and discuss with him!
Great video, just pointing out a thing he said that wasn't commented on "don't get involved with a girl who has daddy issues." Ah yes, as if I chose to have PTSD from my father and continue to deal with all the after effects of trauma well after I've removed him from my life. I just... that's such an awful thing to suggest. The last thing people who have suffered abuse need is to be told "you're broken, and unworthy of love." That might sound hyperbolic, but it's a message that gets sent to people with all kinds of mental illnesses. But thankfully, I have a wonderful partner who has given me the space to cope with all my feelings, while also calling me out on my bullshit haha. But yeah, just a message to anyone who has "daddy issues" or "money issues" is that: YOU ARE WORTHY OF LOVE AND HAPPINESS!! Thanks for coming to my ted talk, lol
Exactly.
I'm an autistic man who (probably) has cptsd from his school life (try being an openly autistic anime fan in school, I dare you), and this has made me very happy.
I love you three. You're all valid. 💜
@@tiptoes9847 Thank you
The advice to not get involved with a partner who has parental issues is not about such a person not deserving love but an acknowledgment that a relationship with a person who has baggage is going to be more fraught than a relationship with a person who doesn't. I would say it's no different than telling young ship captains not to take their boats out in stormy waters; it doesn't mean that the ship will necessarily veer off course or capsize in the storm, but that it is harder to navigate through the storm and a greener captain should probably not take the risk if a calmer day is just on the horizon.
Manosphere advice is astrology for lonely angry dudes.
omg, this should be on a t-shirt :D
come on whamen
Men get so triggered when women want money from them as if they don't only want these women for sex like bruh sorry to break it to you but transactions work both ways.
That's not how healthy relationships work.
Who hurt you.
@@icravedeath.1200 I'm simply stating that men can't complain women want only his money when all they want is her body lmao
You have a point that genders are different and they get different rewards from relationships.
Otherwise onlyfans “content creators” would be 99% women.
But her buying a $1.50 coffee after you spent $80.00 on dinner shows that they are capable of reciprocating at least a little.
For a women it would be,
you shouldn’t be with a dude who just uses you for their own selfish sexual gratification and won’t reciprocate even 5% towards yours.
@@1984a-g9f I do believe that relationships should be equal. It's not my place to decide whether the couple wants to split everything in half or one of them provides sex whilst the other provides money. My point is that women are expected to just give themselves to their man whenever he wants to have sex and she's expected to look after the house and children and do chores even when both of them work (not always but I see this dynamic more often than not tbh) so it only stands to reason that women want something in return for their sacrifices. If a relationship is truly equal then it doesn't matter who pays or whatever but equality isn't as easy to find especially when these gender norms are still in place and girls gotta do whatever they can to survive.
Syrollesse
Literally where are these things expected of women??
Really it’s hard for you to find a weak, effeminate, and relatively low income guy?
If you want equality it’s right there.
Through a stone you’ll hit one, they are everywhere and no one is dating them.
You aren’t attracted to that type of man don’t blame it on societal norms, please.
If you were attracted to them you wouldn’t care one once what society says.
It boggles my mind the same people that say “gay is born that way”,
blame females being attracted to protector/provider types has nothing to do with biology.
Even though the vast majority of women in virtually ever culture ever have been and are attracted to men who are protector/provider.
Marriage is disappearing because there is no need for relationships that are equal.
If both people bring the exact same traits to the table there is no attraction, because it’s redundant and doesn’t benefit either party enough to make the negatives of a relationship with another person worth it.
If a relationship is 100% transactional that is prostitution, and I’m sure you defend sex work to but as a guy it’s not a good idea if you start believing a stripper tells you she likes you every time you patronize her joint.
This why this test works and you are illustrating.
Relationships are not going to be balance but hear attitude or rationalizes from a chick you’re with that you have been spending money on for weeks complain when you need her to spot you $2 is a giant red flag.
The dude says "No, I dont want to go with you to that art show, go with someone else", but also expects the poor person he's with to drop and go with him at the drop of a hat without being "bitchy" or whatever.
Compromise isn't really in his vocab, hey... It's no wonder the guy is divorced.
I would suggest that not being open to new experiences doesn't qualify anyone as a high quality person. OK, maybe you went to an art gallery before and didn't like it. Maybe a different gallery with different exhibits might be interesting?
Lol a couple of my friends have already told me if the apocalypse happens they are snatching me up...
For my leather armor making.. 😂😂😂
Meanwhile they'll continue to sleep with other people, taking for granted that you will still be single if they ever need to use you.
OP i would also snatch you! Leather armor is super efficient against omnivore bites! :D
@@customsongmaker meanwhile you will still continue crying yourself to sleep. Alone.
@@junkabella6324 I'll add you to the list :P
@@BrownCoatCaptn I know flint knapping and woodworking! I can provide too :D
I think there are studies showing that, in terms of what people value in friendships, for women it is more often sharing interests and giving emotional support whereas for men its more about social status. So hearing him say women only form relationships for personal gain is a bit ironic. Or maybe not, since both things probably share some roots in toxic masculinity.
Projection is a hell of drug (I mean the manospheroids are the ones doing the projecting)
What dyou mean, you think there are studies? are there or are there not? No offense, but basing so much of an opinion or worldview on thinking there are studies without actually knowing them is a bit wobbly :)
@@ievolution-9651 There are. The oldest study is in like 1988 I'm pretty sure. I don't know how many newer ones there are but generally the consensus is that women tend to prefer face to face intimate friendships with more contact whereas men prefer physical friendships where they can do activities and their friendships require less maintenance. The margin isn't that big though.
@@ievolution-9651 I said think, because I was pretty sure but I am no expert in the field and was to lazy to do the research for a youtube-comment. But here is the paper:
Hall, J. A. (2011). Sex differences in friendship expectations: A meta-analysis. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 28(6), 723-747
I also don't base my worldview on this. I just thought it might be interesting to consider when talking such general statements as "all women are only interested in status/money".
@Michael Quaid I don't know most women and I am not an expert in psychology or social studies, so I can't really argue with you there. But I can say that it is not true for most of the women I personally know. So I am sorry that you made a different experience but I don't see any reason to change my believes in this.
When you perpetuate a society with very distinct binary gender rolls, where women are expected to be dependent on men for social and economic stability, then complain about the women in that circle being overly concerned with the amount of value you, as a man, bring to the table in the relationship, you might want to pull back and try to get some perspective.
Literally what I came to say!
Except that is not our society now, it's evolved post human now.
@@parrotshootist3004 on the surface, but that mindset hasn't gone away.
@@somebeing803 that's been the point of the last 200 years and coming decade.
@@parrotshootist3004 and the previously mentioned mindset has existed for far longer. Yes progress has been made but old habits are hard to break, especially ones that became so throughly ingrained that the ideals became normalized. That's part of why it is hard for some to realize aspects of misogyny, because for a lot of people misogynistic views are the norm.
I actually really like the apocalypse question, not as a any kind of test; however seems like a fun get to know a new date and good for a laugh question. Gonna remember that one.
Man, most of his points could be simplified to don't make a relationship serious unless you feel you can communicate honestly and feel well supported. Like... that's normal. How did he take that and make it awful?
My favorite way to test prospective partners is to, like, talk to them 🤷♀️. Married seven years, so, clearly it’s not a good way to conduct oneself, lol
If the zombie apocalypse hits, my partner (soon to be husband) would not be a "protector". He's a diabetic, and a softy, his chosen class is mage. I, however, would barbarian the shit out of it, it'd be the best stress relief I've had in years.
Also, my partner loves art galleries and things- as do I, but I'm much more likely to invite him to a rock concert or a huge ass meal.
Long story short, I am clearly an alpha male, and my partner is a high quality woman who respects my masculinity. He will be very pleased.
My husband and I joke about this sort of stuff all the time! I am diabled and cannot do some things--like mow the lawn--but if I can climb into it or get under it, I can usually fix it. I am extremely handy. He can mow the lawn, but when it comes to anything else stereotypically "manly," he is not the one you want. His one brother, who is a Jordon Peterson worshipper, likes to call him a Beta and tell him how to "be a man." Funny thing is that the Alpha was with his wife for three years. The Beta has been with me for twelve years and is exceptionally happy.
This comment gave me life🤣🤣🤣🤣
It's funny, but also sad, when women think they can physically compete or fight against men. One more example of spoiled privilege going to their heads, like children who think they're adults.
@@customsongmaker it's funny, but also sad, when men have silly misplaced opinions. It's like a childlike privilege where they think they get rewards for stating an opinion, even when it's not actually relevant and they lack the basic reading comprehension to understand what was actually being said in the comments.
I'm a stay at home dad. The way his view of relationships is so adversarial makes me sad.
If I only wanted to increase my social average, I probably wouldn't even hang out with men 🤷♀️
why is this not the top comment? :D
@@iamandreavodickova 🙏
when I was a younger I used to watch pick up artist stuff, cause I was awkward and thought that was a good place to find advise on how to interact with girls. when I think back to it I fell so deep in to this toxic negative thoughts of women in general. its surprising to me how quick I fell in to that pit of incel thoughts, I'm so glad I got help to get out of that thought process. I feel like a lot of this guys videos have the same underlying messages from those pick up artists just more under the surface and more insidious. its more like a introductory view in to that mind set
I'm glad that you got out of it. It sounds like an insidious spiral that feeds itself. I'm sorry that you were in the place that put you in that headspace. I think we're all awkward but there is no work around, you gotta go through. I hope that you can help others, maybe start your own TH-cam channel. It might be awkward at first, but that's probably okay. XOXO
I'm glad you got out too :)
good on you for realising that
You are a truly remarkable man for digging yourself up from that pit! Well done :)
Ooo I sort of did a hyperjammy ! I kept dating and having short term relationships until I found the person I liked the best... does that count?!
And now I’m the hyperjammiest bc my partner of 13 years, lucky for some 🤞🏼 is THE BEST 🥰
Yay for hyperjammies! :D
'Throwing some bucks at her' oh? You mean.. doing a fun activity? A fun activity together with a fun companion? These fun activities can be balanced between two working people, you know.
Fun commentary! Your voice comes through very nicely!!
Most activities that are fun for most women aren't fun for most men. That's the best way I can put it
@@siddhantkumar1028 that's some bullshit stereotyping right there. You date someone because you have mutual interests. You participate in these interests during things called 'dates'.
@@pinkyhc4130 Do you like biking at 100mph down a freeway or do you like to watch compilations of rafales and apaches. Or do you like playing COD all night. As I said, most women won't want this. Stereotypes exist for a reason. Saying black people are victims of racism today is also stereotyping and it might not be true for every black person. But I'm pretty sure you agree with that statement. So please drop the act. You know what I'm saying is true.
@@siddhantkumar1028 I don't like those things, but I'm also not dating you thank goodness.
My partner plays paintball. I sculpt and make paintings. We don't do these things as dates. We go do the things we have in common on dates, like table top games, movies we enjoy, restaurants we enjoy. I don't force him to sit through musicals, he doesn't force me to go to fight night.
I still think you are wrong and needlessly argumentative.
It's literally never occurred to me to "test" my potential partners, the whole concept is gross and deceptive! How can you expect to have a healthy relationship built on trust when you start a relationship like this? If you want to know if someone is a good fit just have an open and honest conversation about your wants and needs, it's really not that hard!
Also, you can tell by the way he talks he really doesn't see women as people, I wonder if that has anything to do with the breakdown of his previous relationships and if he's just blaming them for not putting up with his ridiculous shit!
I think his ideology is extreme, unsophisticated, and I basically don't agree with the premise. That being said, I think the problem with just "having an open conversation" is the ability of certain people with personality disorders to be extremely charming and mask their darker and more manipulative tendencies. If you just kind of go in "open and honest and trusting" in early dating, these type of duplicitous people can easily fly under your radar. However, one thing that will almost always suss out one such person is telling them "no." Controlling and manipulative people don't like it when people assert boundaries and say no and will start pulling out a bag of tricks to push past a boundary you've asserted. Straightforward, nice, and honest people will basically have a "you do you" attitude and be relatively okay with you saying no.
@@DJHastingsFeverPitch I'm sorry but these tests aren't going to work. Like assuming I'm a reasonable person, and I'm dating a guy, if that guy tests me by saying no to a tiny reasonable request then I'm likely to judge him as being uncaring because he's not even willing to do this one tiny request I've asked of him! It's manipulative in and of itself which is ironic considering that's what you're trying to avoid, and I wouldn't appreciate someone messing with me like that.
There's no need to add to the stigma that people with personality disorders already face, not everyone person with a personality disorder is abusive and not every person who is abusive has a personality disorder.
As someone with autism/ADHD, people tend to misinterpret my lack of social skills as "red flags" for narcissism etc, and if they'd just ASKED ME what my thought process was, instead of jumping to conclusions, then they'd understand. This is why I think communication should always be the first priority in any relationship. Misunderstandings/miscommunications happen a lot more than people are willing to admit, most people are just looking for someone to blame rather than addressing the real issue.
These tests are a lot more likely to catch out neurodivergent people than abusive people. People who are actually good at manipulation are not going to get caught out by these tests because they actually understand how people think! Which is how they get away with it.
I could go into more detail into how it won't work but I think this post is long enough lol...
Oh I do this all the time. To be frank a bit of time with me is a test. Ask any of my various former partners
It sounds like the plot for a dating sim.
Level up by choosing higher quality partners. Apply tests to avoid partners who will lower your dating fitness. Increase your dating appeal by engaging in character building activities like going to the gym, eating healthy, studying worldly events, refining your sense of humor, and moving to higher status jobs. Gain bonus points for acts of kindness and charity.
That's basically it. To him, it's a game.
I was aware of this guy, he actually has a bronze mold of his own chest&abs muscles hanging in his living room, you can see it in many of his old vlogs. That's the level of narcissism we're dealing with here.
You’ve got to be kidding me.
Oh my word.
@@safala I wish I were kidding. Initially I thought it was a sculpture, which would have been fair enough (I have seen stranger decorations), but when I discovered it was a mold of his own body I just laughed.
That's Canada for you. Even the narcissists are polite about it.
@@Ghost_Of_SAS And do you know the reason behind it? Do you even know what happened to Rich's body in his childhood, because if you do then you sure wouldn't be bitching about him.
With the "no" test, as a lady, the expectation from men is generally that I will take an interest in their hobbies, but they do not have to do the same with mine, which is not really okay.
Especially the flat "no, I'm not doing that". Can you tell me what you ARE willing to do that I like instead of just saying "no"?
Not everyone likes having pillow fights and changing diapers Tricia.
(Plz don't hurt me, issa joke.)
@@cdogthehedgehog6923 I'm very happy to have pillow fights with the women I like in their underwear, but only for the Intellectual Conversation 😂
Yeah my Grandparents were married for over 50yrs, they had things they loved doing together plus their own hobbies & they would work together to accommodate each other getting time for each. A Marriage should be a Partnership not dominated by one.
yeah like, at least open the conversation don't just say a flat out no. goes for everyone in all relationships really
Meaning of hypergamy for these guys = if women prefer a stable guy as opposed to a broke guy who can't even take care of themselves. It's like if you have minimum financial expectation from a guy then you're a gold digger or hYpeRgAmoUs. Also they completely ignore the fact that often women have lots of struggle to get a job. Just check labour data during pandemic. It's women who lost most of the jobs. In my country, only 20% women are/were in workforce (before pandemic). There's an active culture to prevent and discourage women from getting higher education and jobs especially high paying jobs (Because men don't want to marry someone who earns more than them, so parents of a girl is afraid she won't get married if she gets a high paying job). So of course women would prefer men who can sustain not only both of them but can give their children better future. But still guys in my culture complain about hypergamy. If I'm not being able to earn, and you're broke, why should I waste my life and my future children s life marrying you? It's very very unrealistic expectation. Your personality will not put food on the table or pay the bills.
EDIT: I'm not talking from a western perspective because I don't know how it is in different western countries for women, economically. However I do think, even though love should be the necessary condition for marriage, it is not a sufficient one.
Out of curiosity, where are you from? 🙂 Different cultural norms are intriguing to me.
@gonootropics Tbf, nobody is alike in all ways. Some men may prefer a career woman over a homemaker type. It's all in the personality of the people involved.
@gonootropics Then that man doesn't want a wife. He wants to be a child again with his mother. Or a maid, which is essentially a mother role, only that one comes with a paycheck.
@gonootropics Some women simply aren't interested in that sort of life. It's not a "complex," dude. 😄 If you want a servant, go hire one. Don't marry someone and expect them to do whatever you say. This isn't the 1800s, you know. Damn, that's a yikesy attitude. I feel sorry for any women who crosses your path, no matter how attractive they are.
An equal partnership based on respect, trust and love. That's what I look for because that's what I intend to give and deserve no less.
@gonootropics Wow. Ok, I know that "tradwives" are a thing and what have you, but again, not everyone wants that life, or what you evidently deem a "high value man." Hell, I'm demi-pan, so I don't even care what somebody's gender is or what they look like, so long as they're a decent person. I don't have "lists" or "tests." I just accept people as they are, provided they're not toxic in some way.
Btw, I'm a career woman and a mom. How do you like that?
I'm just curious how he would react if someone tried these same tests on him. I kind of get the impression he wouldn't be very happy. I never thought about whether a person I hung out with was raising or lowering my social status. It was more their personality and whether I got along with them well. He seems to be very concerned about his social standing.
His Prenup reasoning is basically a barely sanded down way of claiming that all women are gold diggers. His world view doesn't seem to allow for the existence of a woman who is financially successful & entirely self-sufficient yet also actively interested in finding a partner and don't mind dating men who aren't as financially successful. IMO, men of that mindset often also get jealous or feel inadequate if they ever do date or end up in a relationship with a woman who makes more than him & who doesn't rely on their male partner for financial support.
yes, and as long as there are plenty of women who play this type of role (which there are a clear abundance of) then within this narrow framework he isn't that bad.
I want to make my own living thank you. That way if the shit hits the fan I can help financially. I dont want my husband dying from a heart attack from overwork.
Men like this are just angry when women win on any side of the economic latter
What I find funny as well is that he expects her to take on a supportive role for him (zombie apocalypse test) but she shouldn't expect him to support her financially. Isn't that kind of the tradeoff that made traditional relationships work (well, kind of work)? I don't see why I should support someone who doesn't support me back in some other way.
@Michael Quaid if over 90% of all women ALWAYS date UP than the place they would date to isn't really UP, except if all or 90% of women were in low classes and could only date up. That's a ridiculous high number except if you're u take the whole world in account where there are a lot of countries in which women are always lower class because they can't earn or won anything (of importance for independence) anyway.
I mean what are you looking for in a partner? Do you always look at their bank account or do you look at if they like you, if you feel welcome, if you have fun and if you enjoy your time with them?
What makes you think that women, in a society in which they are as financially stable as men, don't have same criterias?
But I guess I'll be one of those 3 people (there will be more. If there aren't than I'll be concerned on where you live) who would say fuck you when you think I'm only looking for financial stability through a partner when I already told you I like you for you and that's why I wanted to date you.
There have to be trust on both sides in a relationship and yes you can get hurt that's what's happening in relationships. Most of them don't end well. I do highly recommend to make a marriage contract. Because I think you can decide the best outcome for both of you when you still feel the most for each other. I would never wanna drag an awful conflict any longer than necessary and for me such a contract is a sign of trust and not distrust. Because you allow your partner to protect what's important to them openly and while you agree that it is ok.
I haven’t seen the video yet but I definitely consider us high-quality women.
So, finished watching the video and I agree with the test but not the explanations, I guess?? I agree with the vibe but not the gendered stuff cause as you said, it’s not gendered.
These videos are just a way for males to declare their own (low) quality.
@@crhu319 projecting much haha. One of the first tactics used in a baseless argument thanks for playing into the stereotype.
@@markettechniques Assumption, not projection. Neither of us knows enough about this commenter to determine whether they are projecting their faults or not or even if they have said faults, so you assumed the same thing about them as they did about the men who make videos like this, which indicates a hasty generalization( on their part) as well, but I don't doubt that they're not that far off, as many similar videos and blogs I've seen do seem to be largely exposing toxic attitudes of the authors, though I'm sure that is not the intention.
Exactly.. your worth isn't determined by some arrested developed MGTOW male claiming to be alpha but cowers in the corner like some beta bam bam because some woman had the gall to dump his misogynistic a@@. Notice he didn't mention anything about finding a "high quality" woman. Let's face it, ANY high-value, High-Quality woman wouldn't waste her time with this dude or wouldn't take him as a serious prospect. He's a POS wrapping himself in gold foil with a label and trying to pass himself off as Godiva or even Hershey's. Sooner or later the stench is gonna tell you that ain't chocolate in any form.. it's just cheap a@@ sh-t.
My test is “If a guy has a you tube channel where he is talking in a car with sunglasses on, dump him.”
I’m curious as to what his logic is in getting upset at women for looking around for friends and relationships that will “up their average” while also saying that if a woman hangs out with “low quality” people, then she’s automatically considered low quality because she’s “the average of her 5 friends”
You captured my impression on Entrepreneurs In Cars. My first reaction on hearing him was “Who hurt you?”.
So you automatically assume that a woman abused him, but you blame the victim.
@@customsongmaker I'm not "blaming" anyone. I'm just noticing, perhaps wrongly, that there's an undercurrent of emotional pain that shapes his view of the world. For what it's worth, as mentioned in the video his views regarding gender relations aren't actually bad in any meaningful way (I actually quite like his channel). Most of the "tests" apply to both genders. Having empathy for someone's pain isn't "Victim Blaming".
@@BriceFernandes - when someone gets hurt by an abusive person, why do you want to shame and publicly humiliate the victim?
@@customsongmaker You mean, just like people who shame women who have ''daddy issues''? Alright then.
@@tiptoes9847 no, people with unresolved issues should resolve their issues. But child molesters don't get hundreds of likes by saying "Who molested you LMAO". Abusive women do get hundreds of likes by saying "Who hurt you" which includes abuse in early life. Or are you saying it doesn't hurt to be abused at a young age?
She isn’t a high quality woman if she can’t recreate the Meryl/Johnny scene from the end of MGS4 with you.
Instantly marry her if she can
No! It’s knowing the opening dialogue from meatloaf “took the words right out of my mouth”.
My biggest concern with this guy is that he basically is discounting anyone with a disability or long term health condition. I met my wife about 15 years ago, and she is the most perfect person for me - our interests and weirdness matches perfectly. But had I used his "tests" she would have failed most, because she is significantly disabled. For that matter, I probably would have failed a while chunk of them because i was in a pretty bad place at the time. While I agree that some of the things he said may be helpful, I do think that his generalisations and assumptions are unhealthy at best. The whole narrative here seems to ignore that we are all broken people and that sometimes we can find perfection in another person despite our imperfections. What is most important is to spend time getting to know the other person, understand them, build trust. And totally, if they want to share something they enjoy with you, like a museum, give it a go and learn why it makes them happy.
And how has that been working out the last several decades; 'getting to know someone' just before about half of the marriages end in divorce in about five years, with the guy losing half his stuff?
Why in the world would a guy want to start out a marriage as basically being a nurse or social worker for someone else, the wife? And what happens if the guy wants to have kids and the wife is already having health problems and can't? Why is there ZERO thought or consideration to what a guy is looking for?
@@thecompetentman5384 Different strokes for different folks.
@@visaman Really? This is not some kind of personal preference or something; we are discussing what works verse what simply does NOT work. we have had DECADES of results and the results are clear and: DO. NOT. WORK.
The ONLY reason I would ever tell any guy to follow such advice would be because I wanted to send him down a path to ruin.
@@thecompetentman5384 You are assuming alot here ... having longterm health issues and being disabled can reference a huge variety of situations.
Constantly putting people through secret tests seems sociopathic to me. Does this guy not possess the empathy required to understand people so he needs to reduce people into easily understandable categories through asinine tests?
Eh it makes sense to do things to see how someone reacts so you can figure out their values and end it before it wastes your time
@@ultraboombean Seeing how someone reacts to situations is different than putting them through tests. I can see what type a person someone is by how they treat a server. I do not need to pretend to leave my wallet at home to test them.
In my experience, keeping score on how a person (partner or otherwise) reacts to situations is not a good road to go down. Set your boundaries and communicate them to the people in your life. It’s not hard to understand when someone isn’t their best self in the moment (honestly forgetting to unlock the door using the video’s example) and someone who gives zero fuggs about your boundaries.
You're right. To purposely put yourself and your partner in situations under false pretenses is a very shitty thing to do. You don't want to date someone who is grading you.
If you want to know how someone would be in the situation you ask them and communicate your concerns and thoughts like a normal ass human.
@@elphabarichardson607 It's about speeding up the process of finding a viable and worthwhile mate. You can't judge someone from one action in one situation. These "tests" should only happen if there's any doubt about a particular quality or virtue.
Having been broke, sometimes a surprise expense is frightening to people, and you don't know that it is or isn't unless they've disclosed their finances. Further, being an introvert, a surprise extension to social time, even with people whose company I've enjoyed, will put me off when I'm expecting to return home and enjoy some alone time. His coffee test is crap, and so is he. Edit: I'm operating under the assumption that tests are being issued early on, granted, but it all feels so.....Seinfeld.
27:15 - Well yeah. Bitchiness is a female quality.
"But I know men who are bitchy" - so? I know women with height bigger than me, but it still true that man are higher than women.
We're talking about average and statistics - exceptions do not undermine the rule, duh.
The people, mostly men, who believe in these gender roles so deeply, but then complain about them kinda confuses me. You want independent or dependent woman then? Can't have both, my guy...
Personally i want a woman that admits that she's not independent. You are dependent on electricity gas plumbing houses being built food water etc...
Most 'independent women' are really not independent; someone else is suppling all kinds of resources or money for their lifestyle but we all pretend they are independent.
Where does he or anyone complain about her being dependent!?
This test really must work because it sure is triggering to some of you who can’t give 2% back in a relationship.
It’s a cup of coffee after he probably spent hundreds on her.
Varied dependency is totally fine.
I’ll pay 90% of the time out, you cook 90% of the time in as a example.
That’s a healthy relationship
100% transactional is not a real relationship,
it’s like thinking the stripper really likes you when she says she’s happy to see you.
@@1984a-g9f Just curious.. When you say, you'll pay 90% while out and she cooks 90%...are you both working in that scenario? Because there are aspects. If one is staying home full time, then it would be fine to have that dynamic. But if you both work, then it kinda... Becomes weird for one to always pay while other always cooks which is extra work (unless one loves to cook like hell and other spend the money).there are so many aspects... And it's never just about the money. Such men kinda twist the whole gender roles thing depending when/how it suits them. Which was my point.
Cinty Wee
All this is dating scenarios.
Once you are married then it’s ridiculously to look at my money vs your money because pragmatically it’s our money.
Plus no way anyone should ever get married to an unreciprocal partner that’s solely 100% transactional that’s digging your own misery for certain.
But also no one marries for equality or even does serious relationships.
This is why the single not in a relationship rate keeps rising to never before seen levels.
It’s above 50% for the first time ever.
Yin is necessary to attract Yang
and Yang is necessary to attract Yin.
☯️ Although there is a reason for the little spot of the opposite in the other, that’s about as much similarity is necessary for maximum attraction, and it is necessary.
As a demisexual, it's always so wild to be reminded that the notion of "hypergamy" is a thing some people believe. I could never, ever be with a partner who didn't click with me on very deep emotional levels. Money and social standing have never once played into my dating decisions.
Same. As someone who is panromantic-ish (not completely gender blind, but I am more affected by personality before anything), I find marrying/ dating for money/ status a weird concept.
Same here
Is demisexual a thing even? I've had quite a few ONS with women who used that label it was ridiculous
@@theYguy300 Yeah, it is a thing. Otherwise why would so many people identify with the label?
@@safala I'm skeptical about it though. Why was I able to have a one nighter with someone who I don't even know? How would these women even build an emotional bond with me if I they don't even know me?
Reload my weapons for me? Why wouldn't I want a partner who's just as good at fighting zombies as me? Reloading someone else's weapon isn't efficient; we can both reload our own rifles and double our firepower together. Feminism!
Whoever is the best shot, the other reloads. Realism!
Not to mention, one can be covering the other while they are reloading. If all she is doing is reloading and handing the mag to him, the time he takes to attach the mag is time they are vulnerable.
@@jimmyjimjim3054 reminds me of the scene in mad max fury road
@@Spider-Too-Too Not too bad of a movie!
I like the big Truck.
This. I’ll hand you mags as I’m loading my own. I want someone beside me not in front of me.
A Japanese princess married a commoner, willingly giving up the perks of her birth for that of a lower station in life.
That alone, deflates this man's claim.
I test women all the time, i carry around with me a puzzle book, and ask girls to fill out a puzzle before i ask them out.
😂
His advice isn't necessarily bad, some of these things are generally good things to look out for in a partner, though I wouldn't actively look for them/test my partner...
OK I'm 12 minutes in and I think I like him. Let's see how this goes.
@@ClaRa124100 and did you reach the hell circle of tests based on bad experiences and all women are some form of gold diggers part?
I don’t know if it’s his attitude, or how manipulative he sounds, but I absolutely despise everything about him.
17:12 Unfortunately, this is a perfect example of how toxic masculinity perpetuates itself. One guy gets hurt, becomes defensive, then immediately links that pain to a stereotype he's heard before about women, but used to ignore, and then generalizes it to an entire gender. He then moves to 'protect' other men from experiencing that pain by 'warning' them about those stereotypes, and using his situation as evidence of that stereotype's accuracy. I think the fact that they feel like they are protecting other men is why they don't see this as inherently toxic, and that makes it so much easier to perpetuate the cycle.
Oh, but men are LoGiCAl! How can this be happening?! /s
That's a long way to say "not all women". We all know and agree not all women. He's right 90% of the time. He's not continuing a cycle. He's ending the cycle. When she falls the test, over the side with her.
''Dust off the purse'' Sir, how do you think I pay for my groceries and stuff?! As if that one coffee is the only thing I was paying for in a while x)
Edit: also, it's such a self-centered pov he has for someone who keeps testing if women are self-centered. He says shit like ''it was a waste of time'' and ''they have to prioritize me over their family'', as if loving someone had an end goal and not just enjoying someone for who they are, no matter how long you're with them. Someone saying ''it's a waste of my time'' regarding being in a relationship that doesn't end up in marriage is a red flag to me cause I value the time spent with the people no matter what?! Like, there's no expiration date to a person and you shouldn't judge them on your personal gain - especially when you're so paranoid about them using you for personal gain 🤷♀️
Women get a large benifit on dates. You just get to sit there and be given stuff because you breathe oxygen. That's the harsh truth. How much money did guys spend on you? Gifts flowers gas food drinks?
@@fjparasite1172 Oh goodness, I don't know who hurt you but please, don't go about life with that grim of a lense cause you'll just make other people miserable thinking like that 🙄 We're in 2021, not our problem if you're too insecure to handle splitting the bill when you go on a date with a woman. If all you can see in relationships is transactions, you have a serious problem that only therapy and a good look at yourself can fix.
@@ragdollrose2687 i'm not saying all women demand thousands. But from a male point of view imagine spending let's say 600 bucks on the wrong guy that you saw a future with but is a complete jerk. There was a lady that went on a date with a complete stranger and her bill was 200 bucks. And she was shocked that he would not pay.
@@fjparasite1172 That's not a gender issue, that's a greed issue mate. I've been broke my whole life and I'm still the one giving gifts or lots of time to the people I love, and the imbalance is even more obvious with the guys I dated. A shitty person will be a shitty person and need to reassess their values. Don't go out with greedy people if you don't want to date greedy people. We keep that ridiculous idea alive by giving it weight with the way we behave, it's not the biggest cycle to break to not perpetuate this expectation.
The marry up to increase your social status level makes him sound like the grumpy, old, woman of high birth in a Jane Austin novel. He'll be using the term "upstart" next
Ya know, before this video, i thought i was an asexual man. But now, after watching, i realize the truth. I am several million bees in a human skin. Thank you for this revelation lol
I am a gremlin in an attic.... but I'm a high-quality one.
Okay. The “zombie apocalypse” test is a bullshit test. Ladies; if a guy EVER pulls that bullshit test on you; you counter with what I’m gonna call the “Grizzly Bear” test. It’s easy for a guy to think he’s a badass in an unrealistic scenario like a zombie apocalypse. However; in a real world situation; it becomes a question that he shouldn’t be able to answer.
Here’s the “Grizzly Bear” rest. Ask your man if two of you came across grizzly bear while hiking one day if he would distract the bear so you could get away. If he says yes; he’s lying. Natural instinct is to save oneself. That’s not to say he wouldn’t save you, but he can’t say with 100% certainty that he would.
Btw; if a man saves you from a grizzly bear; I don’t care if he’s quadriplegic afterwards; you should love that guy until the end of time.
Side side note: it's best to step to the side, don't look at the bear, be quiet, and try to relax if it's an actual grizzly. A black bear usually can be scared away if you are loud and big (wave arms or raise coat whatever to look big.)
Please talk to your local ranger about bear safety.
The Zombie apocalypse test is also kind of ableist: plenty of people requiring medication every day wouldn't have many options, and if it's earlier in the relationship... that might not be something the other person is comfortable disclosing.
Just tested my bf with the "Grizzly Bear" method and he said he would distract the bear and beat it with only a knife.
He"s delusional. Im moving out soon.
@@cannotfindcreativename7210 lol
Maybe it was just me, but I was getting some serious toxic masculinity vibes when he was talking about the zombie apocalypse test.
"[Women] are always looking to marry up economically" ...uh, no dude, some of us are not looking to marry at ALL! aro women exist lol
This video is awesome because it reminded me that I need to pick up my dry cleaning. I would shit test my woman to see if she can be trusted to pick it up for me, but I'm not that paranoid and I live less than a kilometer from my dry cleaner and my woman is in Shanghai right now.
Hahaha I think you’re just worried what the answer would be
@@1984a-g9f The answer would be no but that's okay because the request would be unreasonable.