Time to stop ignoring verbal abuse in your relationship(s). Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

Are you making excuses for the verbal abuse of the relentlessly difficult people I call #Hijackals? It is past time to stop. Do you agree? Today's episode will help you stop justifying the abuse.
Have you heard that TV ad for air freshener that implores you to notice that you may have gone "nose-blind" to the unpleasant smells in your kitchen, garbage, basement, or car? Well, I think people go "nose-blind" to verbal abuse...and, to emotional abuse, too. It's time to stop!
HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:
- Why verbal abuse may have become something you're "nose-blind" to
- Why you simply cannot excuse their behavior because "they're having a bad day"
- Why it is NOT YOU who has to change
- How it's possible to have a wildly successful career and still be abused at home
- How to stop being "Nose blind" and wake up smell the herbal tea...
Today, I'm talking about the ways you might be justifying the bad behavior of a #Hijackal in your life, a relentlessly difficult, usually self-centered person who wants power and control over you...always. It's not just occasional. It's a way of life for them, and they have endless expectations that you will not only allow their verbal abuse, but you'll begin to believe you deserve it. YOU DON'T!!!!
If you've had a #Hijackal parent, an emotionally unavailable parent who had unreasonable expectations of you, you may subconsciously be so used to the behavior that you don't see it in all it's awfulness. You're used to it, and even though it makes you uncomfortable, it is still "comfortably uncomfortable." It's familiar. And, that can change. (And, I hope today's episode will keep you on that change train, too. )
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* * Remember, narcissists and other toxic people come in all genders and ages * *
and toxic relationships can be at home, at work, at play... with your parent, boss, spouse, sibling, friend, co-worker.
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I am Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor.
Are you in relationship with a Hijackal? That's someone who consistently puts you down, love-bombs and gaslights you, creates confusion and chaos, and causes you to second-guess yourself? I can help you recognize, understand, and make decisions about those kinds of narcissistic behavior…and especially, how to keep yourself (and your children) safe and sane.
No worries about where in the world you live. I work through private, secure video conferencing. So, we can certainly work together to figure a few things out.
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[@kattfranklin6933]

Dear RHOBERTA Shaler,
RIP But thank you for recoding these videos.
Just got through throwing away flowers from my Narcissist daughter for Mother's Day.
She also sent me a poem about "wasting away ".
God bless Dr. Rhoberta Shaler for her dedication to us trapped in narcissistic relationships.❤😊😊 🙏

[@MarlaMartenson]

This is a powerful episode, thank you

[@ForRelationshipHelp]

You're welcome!

[@Smisey]

Extremely insightful , enlightening, illuminating & powerful stuff. Thanx tremendously.👌🙂🙏

[@soul832006]

I haven't grown up hearing that. So the question I have is why I have tolerated it from my marriage for quite a few years now...

[@ForRelationshipHelp]

Many good people accept verbal abuse, making excuses, rationalizations, and justifications for it. "He's having a bad day." "She's under a lot of pressure." That kind of thing.
Now that you've recognized it, a good way to approach your partner is to say when it happens, "I don't believe that is true, and I feel disrespected right now." That works much better than getting angry and making the other wrong--in most cases.

[@soul832006]

@@ForRelationshipHelp Thanks for your reply! My situation is complicated. I don't want to divulge so much on here. Saying to my spouse that she is hurting me would fall on deaf ears in the moment. She will still continue to call me useless etc Because I'm not meeting her expectation of what to do around the house etc.
We have a young son and I don't like him witnessing her getting angry at me and then being loving and reassuring to him at the same time like its a big joke to speak so hostile to me. I don't want my son to grow up thinking and blaming me for the discord in our home.

[@jwhite5396]

@@soul832006 Matt did anything change?