6 Steps to Keep You Safer Around Hijackals & Other Toxic Folks. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

You're never really safe around toxic people. They relish keeping you uncertain and on edge. Use these strategies to stay as safe as possible.
HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:
- 6 invaluable questions to ask yourself, and answer honestly
- 6 steps to keep yourself safer when you're around a toxic person, a #Hijackal
- Why #Hijackals are not driven by logic
- Signs of potential trouble when you're with a controlling person
- Why it is essential to whip off the rose-colored glasses and see that a difficult person can actually be a dangerous person
Difficult, defensive, and destructive behaviors can turn into dangerous ones! These six steps to keep you safer around toxic people, around #Hijackals, are absolutely vital to recognize and take. Keep yourself safer!
In today's episode, I'm defining "dangerous" as dangerous to your well-being in all ways, and to your children's well-being and best interests. I give you six vital questions to ask yourself--honestly ask yourself--and honestly answer.
When you're with a toxic person, you are likely to make excuses for their behavior, rationalize or justify their behavior. Time to stop doing that. And, time to look at your relationship with honest eyes. You need to see what's really happening, not what you wish was happening, right?
Toxic relationships depend on you putting up with verbal and emotional abuse. If you were not willing to, you would not be in the relationship. I know that sounds very harsh and matter-of-fact. You would only put up with these behaviors if you had been taught to, and I want to open you up to see that it is NOT NECESSARY to put up with being treated like anything less than the valuable human you are.
None of us are perfect, and we ARE valuable. You deserve to be treated with honesty, respect, trust, and reliability. You deserve to be safe.
Sometimes, you might not realize that you have rights and you can expect to be treated with respect and dignity. In a loving relationship, you can also expect to be with an emotionally mature person who wants to create emotional intimacy. That's not unreasonable, although, in my opinion, not enough people go for it!
You are the one who can take steps to keep you and your children safe. Information and education are the beginning, and I'm so glad you're listening to this podcast. Enjoy all the other episodes, too, and shore up your knowledge, AND your self-confidence, too!
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* * Always remember, narcissists and other toxic people come in all genders and ages * *
and toxic relationships can be at home, at work, at play... from your parent, boss, spouse, sibling, friend, co-worker.
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I am Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor.
I offer relationship advice for dealing with difficult issues and relentlessly difficult people.
I focus on helping my clients to stop tolerating abuse, and give them strategies for changing relationship dynamics.
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[@preciousgem9343]

Thank you for talking about his to set boundaries. Could use more information on this subject and on consequences.

[@ForRelationshipHelp]

You're welcome. I've done several videos on this available here on TH-cam., I talk about it more in my book, Escaping the Hijackal Trap, available from Amazon by download.

[@preciousgem9343]

@@ForRelationshipHelp thank you. I will check out the other videos and book

[@SofiaGonzalez-qj2ym]

you just described my parents

[@ForRelationshipHelp]

Hi, Sofia,
I'm sorry that's so for you. It's difficult, but figuring out what happened in your home is the first step to healing.
You might find my article helpful, too:
www.forrelationshiphelp.com/12-damaging-ways-your-narcissistic-mother-lied-to-you-about-who-you-are/
I wish you well.
Rhoberta