Rest in peace, I had just found your work and bought your book on highjackels a few weeks ago. After getting rid of a narcissistic therapist who was abusing me emotionally for 2 years. And other toxic people out my life. It’s helped my understanding so much. Thank you and god bless you
Concerning porn, and the statement "If you loved me, you would..." NO! Answer them, "And if YOU loved ME, you would never even think like that! You wouldn't want to degrade me." Porn has turned some men, who are already on shaky moral territory, into creatures that shouldn't ever be in polite society. They're sadly soooo corrupted in their spirit.
Dr. RHOBERTA Shaler, I know you are in heaven watching and helping us down here. Even in death, you are helping us. Got Mother's Day flowers from my Narcissist daughter three days early. Like the other 365 days or the death of my son were "nothing". Thank you. I know you are with Jesus and the angels❤😇.❤
I told him I wasn’t happy and I wanted a divorce, and he looked at me and said, “Then take Prozac like everyone else! What makes you think you deserve to be happy?”! These people have no rationale thought.
Years ago, I had a good friend, now deceased, but I really at the time needed to hear some profound truths he had to say. One of the most memorable being, that it's never a good idea to let other people think that you NEED them, or are desperate for their time and attention. Even a wife or a husband. Rare is the relationship where that won't be exploited. You have to know someone as a sterling character for YEARS before you can let them know how deep your affection for them is. He was a SAFE one!
The narcissist will expect you to do what is against your best interest and contrary to your moral code of ethics. They may not ask outright; they may hint around saying, “I need X.” They will do it repeatedly; after hearing it, it is your cue to say “I will provide X.” If you say no nicely, and explain why, they may act angry and offended, saying that they never asked for X. Then they will find a way to punish you. It is a double bind; if you do it, you are uncomfortable and it you don’t, you are punished. It is best to just go No Contact if you are in the situation, before you do what makes you uncomfortable or don’t do what gets you a punishment.
I worked with two women who hated each other, but I was friends with both. One of them was an extreme narcissist, and was grooming me to see how much she could get away with. She asked me, "Does she have affairs?" (my other friend) I replied, "You know that she is a friend of mine. If I KNEW that, which I don't, would I speak behind her back?" That shut her up!! I got rid of her shortly after that. Luckily, I didn't care that much about her friendship, and I wanted to keep the other one.
Thank you for your time, wisdom, and energy, Dr. Rhoberta. As always, your teachings are brilliant life saving pearls. I hope that you are feeling better. Please take care of yourself. Sending you a warm and grateful hug.
Thank you for your video. I just found it. It was meant for me to hear you. I have lost sleep because of hijyklle. He would put pressure on me to do what he sees on the porn and when I said NO, he would DISCARD Me. Also, when we lived together a short 7 days, he went into a rage because he wanted me to do what he saw on porn and when I tried to establish a loving bond with him , he would go into a rage , throw my things to the wall, scare my children, threaten to stab me, call me names and Yell. He can’t live with me and can’t live do right when not living with me. Pure Narcissist. I also been told he was autistic. I didn’t know what that meant until I spent time with him. Your video is what I needed to hear. It was Food for my Soul. I am so sorry about that your on breathing tube. I will Pray for you. God blessed us with YOU. Thank you.🙏🏽May your Videos reach all the Sick people. And May Your Health Improve. Lord God thank you for her. Amen. 🩵🩵🩵🤍🤍🤍
Rest in peace, I had just found your work and bought your book on highjackels a few weeks ago. After getting rid of a narcissistic therapist who was abusing me emotionally for 2 years. And other toxic people out my life. It’s helped my understanding so much. Thank you and god bless you
Concerning porn, and the statement "If you loved me, you would..." NO! Answer them, "And if YOU loved ME, you would never even think like that! You wouldn't want to degrade me." Porn has turned some men, who are already on shaky moral territory, into creatures that shouldn't ever be in polite society. They're sadly soooo corrupted in their spirit.
Please, Rhoberta. How are you? I need to know please.
I love you so very much 💓
Dr. RHOBERTA Shaler,
I know you are in heaven watching and helping us down here.
Even in death, you are helping us.
Got Mother's Day flowers from my Narcissist daughter three days early.
Like the other 365 days or the death of my son were "nothing".
Thank you. I know you are with Jesus and the angels❤😇.❤
I told him I wasn’t happy and I wanted a divorce, and he looked at me and said, “Then take Prozac like everyone else! What makes you think you deserve to be happy?”! These people have no rationale thought.
Years ago, I had a good friend, now deceased, but I really at the time needed to hear some profound truths he had to say. One of the most memorable being, that it's never a good idea to let other people think that you NEED them, or are desperate for their time and attention. Even a wife or a husband. Rare is the relationship where that won't be exploited. You have to know someone as a sterling character for YEARS before you can let them know how deep your affection for them is. He was a SAFE one!
So right about that. They withhold to manipulate. It’s very degrading as a parent to go through this.
My sister married a Narcissist right out of high school. He monitors her weight. She’s been skin and bones all her life. It’s sad.
Heartbreaking 😔
The narcissist will expect you to do what is against your best interest and contrary to your moral code of ethics. They may not ask outright; they may hint around saying, “I need X.” They will do it repeatedly; after hearing it, it is your cue to say “I will provide X.” If you say no nicely, and explain why, they may act angry and offended, saying that they never asked for X. Then they will find a way to punish you. It is a double bind; if you do it, you are uncomfortable and it you don’t, you are punished. It is best to just go No Contact if you are in the situation, before you do what makes you uncomfortable or don’t do what gets you a punishment.
I just found you, and you are a treasure trove. Thank you.
Me too ❤ 😢 I like ve her im keeping her forever❤❤
I worked with two women who hated each other, but I was friends with both. One of them was an extreme narcissist, and was grooming me to see how much she could get away with. She asked me, "Does she have affairs?" (my other friend) I replied,
"You know that she is a friend of mine. If I KNEW that, which I don't, would I speak behind her back?" That shut her up!!
I got rid of her shortly after that. Luckily, I didn't care that much about her friendship, and I wanted to keep the other one.
😢RIP.. thank you for being a wise voice in the middle the night for myself and so many others. 🦋
Hope you're better soon. Thank you for your valuable information. Very helpful!
I am so thankful for this video and appreciate your work . ❤
Thank you for your time, wisdom, and energy, Dr. Rhoberta. As always, your teachings are brilliant life saving pearls. I hope that you are feeling better. Please take care of yourself. Sending you a warm and grateful hug.
I just found your channel. Looking forward to seeing them all.
Thank you for your clarity of mind. I want your advice. How do I figure out the financial equality? Do I need to hire a legal advisor?
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Thank you for your video. I just found it. It was meant for me to hear you. I have lost sleep because of hijyklle.
He would put pressure on me to do what he sees on the porn and when I said NO, he would DISCARD Me.
Also, when we lived together a short 7 days, he went into a rage because he wanted me to do what he saw on porn and when I tried to establish a loving bond with him , he would go into a rage , throw my things to the wall, scare my children, threaten to stab me, call me names and Yell.
He can’t live with me and can’t live do right when not living with me.
Pure Narcissist.
I also been told he was autistic. I didn’t know what that meant until I spent time with him.
Your video is what I needed to hear. It was Food for my Soul.
I am so sorry about that your on breathing tube. I will Pray for you.
God blessed us with YOU. Thank you.🙏🏽May your Videos reach all the Sick people. And May Your Health Improve. Lord God thank you for her.
Amen.
🩵🩵🩵🤍🤍🤍