your view and analysis over women makes me wanna vomit, but its totally realistic, but not big news for me i know all that since 15 years. your countrer measures are useless btw.
Excactly! I have heard this same advice earlier and was curious what people think in this particular video. Yeah, he needs to accept that he probably won't get this girl at all or at least he should channel his energy to other girls and lower his expectations on this particular women. Desperately hanging on anybody and investing your energy/time to her is not doing good for your value and high-value man don't do that -> they move on!
🤔 If a woman does not respect you, it's best to choose yourSELF. Walk Away! I had to walk away with my 3 years LTR/LDR girlfriend, when her Hypergamy kicked in. Throw the fish back in the salty sea of $#"t 🏆
The moment i stopped giving a F about this one girl I found very attractive, she started giving me attention, trying to get me to pursue. Once I changed my mentality and stopped caring about her beauty, she became the same as any girl I don’t find attractive. It’s a mental switch we all need. Their beauty doesn’t make them special. All of them are wired the same. Don’t pursue. If they don’t show interest, move on. 0 attention.
@@robocop5543 the woman who likes you will make it easy for you, she will gladly see you and spend time with you. The only reason the girl I mentioned earlier is giving me attention now is because I removed my own.
@@JeetKuneDoBelgrade What if the woman who likes you is not at all liked by you... I think you gotta put in efforts for the girl you like to make her like you back...
Yes. All this simmping (excessive unearned validation) has crashed the dating market. Women are over-valuing themselves. Refuse to buy in at these elevated ego levels. MGTOW.
Who cares about whether she’s “interested” or not, I care about ATTRACTION and building that. Building trust and respect and emotional safety are all part of the attraction.
One thing that really nails it in this video. Women don't have "Techniques". They don't "Play games" this stuff comes naturally to them and it is their daily business. Recognize that and it frames your mind correctly.
Guys I’m an older man who’s been twice divorced, was in rock bands for years dated a lot , and I’m telling you Casey is THE BEST dating coach on TH-cam, I’ve listened to many others like AMS for years, Casey nails it every time, he’ll never steer you wrong, another gem here
SECOND MISTAKE : Trying to punish her is an emotional reaction -- exactly what she is trying to do ! She is trying to get him into his emotions, so she will have the leverage and power over him. Better to just ignore her, go no contact.
@@GeorgiosStarakis No. It's only punishment if you're trying to hurt her. The point of no contact is not to hurt her, but to give her the option of putting in more effort to get more of your valuable time, attention, validation, and resources. She might not even care. So, it's also a way of testing her. Women test men all the time, so there is nothing wrong with turning-the-tables. If she doesn't care enough to reach-out and contact you first, then she is not worth wasting your time on. You need to find someone who is worthy of you.
@@zackfarah8126 What you appear to be falsely claiming is that the only reason a man does not contact is to punish the lady. This is simply not true. As I already explained, the whole idea of no contact is to simply pull-back and allow her the space she needs to either invest in you more, or simply let you go. It can only be a punishment if you are purposely trying to hurt her. But all she has to do is reach-out and make more of an effort, to reciprocate the level of interest you have already shown to her. If she is not willing to do that, then there is no real foundation for a healthy relationship going forward.
@@zackfarah8126 Again, no contact is not a punishment. It's a strategy to gauge her level of interest and to see if she is willing to do her part to maintain the relationship. Just like when a woman plays hard-to-get or pulls-back. She is not purposely trying to hurt you, she is just testing you.
If she plays hot and cold, run in the opposite direction. It’ll never stop no matter how far you are in the relationship and it will drive you crazy. Choose better women.
A women tried doing that hot n cold thing to me back in collage, so I moved on and decided to text her best friend instead, ended up dating her for a few months. GUYS learn to move on and shoot your shot with a girl that actually likes you!
@@mat7083truueee. As in the “best friend” and the hot and cold chick were on the same page, and the hot n cold chick used that technique to get him invested in the best friend. Very real possibility
Nonchalance (indifference) is often a man's best friend. The quickest way to get someone's attention is to remove yours. Staying in your masculine frame and respecting yourself by being able to walk away is what will turn a woman on. Showing her you don't need her for nothing because you as a man is the prize and catch. Chasing women is like looking at an empty bottle thinking that it's going to magically fill up. A woman should be a complement to your life, not your focus.
There's a book called Casanova Playbook of Magnetism, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal
Not changing your life to try to make her jealous and just giving her space is the best thing to do. Let her think about you. People just need time to think sometimes
Voice of reason. Everything is not a strategic game. Most women are not strategic AT ALL in their thinking that’s very masculine mindset. Women who may come Off as hot and cold are more likely processing a ton of emotions and trying to sort things out before committing. Think about it guys u know women are emotional and illogical in decision making. Just give her a lil space and be clear on your intentions and a good woman will commit if your intentions are aligned. Mean and cruel is what created the feminists hags …repeat that and we’ll get more of the same.
Why does it matter if she texts you back fast? The phone is for setting dates. If she’s giving you good energy in person and makes herself available, you’re winning bro.
Eh idk.. I mean I get the point. But if you're seeing a chick and she isnt texting you first at all, initiating conversation etc.. I would say that's a bad sign. Even if she responds when you text and makes herself available. Depends on what you're looking for but I'd day you're not the number 1 on her interest radar if she isnt getting ahold of you on her own without prompt. You might be the side attention, free dinner guy if that's the situation.
@@Mr.Amazing-vx3li I agree. Everyone has their phone with them roughly 80% of the day, if she isn't contacting you, on her own accord, at least once or twice throughout the day/ every two days to touch base and once in a while to set up dates etc, that's a bad sign, and clearly you're not her priority when it comes to her seeking a partner, FWB, or whatever the case may be. Simply put, you've been put on the back burner. If that is the case, cut your "losses", move on, and find someone who actually puts the time and effort into building a connection with you. However, there needs to be a fine line when it comes to texting. Don't sit around all day waiting for her to reply, and then send paragraphs to her when she does, because that shit gets stale pretty quickly and makes you look like you've got nothing else going on in your life. But, you can't expect to only ever text each other to set up dates and only interact with her in real life. What if work schedules get really busy and you only see each other every 2 or so weeks,? There should be some sort of communication in between seeing each other in real life, otherwise the connection will fizzle out and die.
Truth is..... When dealing with women you must convey an attitude of indifference towards her physical appearance..... Many women only are certain of what a man expresses to them verbally..... Actually it's better to show care in person via actions albeit minimal..... Keep words of care far and in-between to a bare minimum to keep her genuine interest and desire.... If she goes cold mirror her energy..... Odds are that she will notice this and begin pursuing because your perceived value has increased in her mind..... Fall back be cool and let her chase..... This is what she wants to do.
@@L6FT Focus on Yourself. Do the things in life that make You happy and that don't remind You of her. Get on your Grind and Focus on your Purpose. If you don't have a Purpose, then get one ! Also, have an Abundance Mindset. There are a lot of beautiful women in this world and some of them are looking for a man who believes in himself, who is on his grind, who has a purpose, and who has Options. If you don't have options, then it is basically because you don't believe you have any. You have to Believe in Yourself. There are things you can do to make yourself the Best Version of Yourself -- hit the gym, practice your social skills by talking to every kind of person -- not just women --, keep watching these kinds of videos, focus on your finances, your fashion, your health and fitness. You are the Future, she is the past... Leave her ass there !
1. She have other options! 2. She is using you for getting attention and validation! 3. You are not her priority! 4. You are in back up line behind 100 other guys ! 5. You over pursued her or acted needy and clingy!
Isn’t this why you should only use women for your own validation? That way, if one walks away, you’ll be just fine considering you were using her to prop yourself up
@@marcusmcgraw3519 thats why you have to test a woman as fast as you can so you don't get attached and move on when you see she don't give an f . You run as fast as you can
Yup. You’ll find out quick if you give them something they will give just enough attention to keep the flow going. Be careful how you approach a potential relationship
as an older guy who's found out the hard way I say this guy speaks truth. All I'll add is that a little hot cold in the beginning might be overcomeable. But if it's too strong and goes on too long you simply should walk away. She's emotionally immature and is playing the field. A good female won't mess you around.
A good female “won’t mess around?” Is that a joke? The nature of a woman is to NOT TRUST MEN. They learn to trust them via all the “games” and interactions that happen if the man behaves in trusting ways.
Gold. So true, this video condenses greatly the fact of why you can never treat her different than the other, falling into the trap of saying oh she is special when she is not. The vibe of this video was also gold. Amazing.
If she goes cold RUN. If you go cold too, she will know you're playing games and go hot temporarily then permanently cold. It will be nothing but games after she goes cold. RUN!!
On point! The best advice above most I hear online..keyword, show it from the very beginning how you want to be treated and from the jump show that you won’t hesitate to replace her when ever you sense bad behavior or a shift in energy. This always just works, just like the Demand and value concept in economics
the main point, core of the core from CZ Guru, is completely having masculine energy to BEING ABLE TO WALK AWAY, and not emotionaly attached to her. PULL BACK and be strong (tough)! Pull back!
I work in a shelter of homeless people. There are living ca 90 men, most of them "walked away from my stupid wife". Now when some new guy comes with the story I yell on them and shout: "Next time I don't take you. You just go and buy some flowers and make peace with your wife. Period!"
Y’all got to play the same game these woman are playing. It’s really fun once you get the game down. I just laugh while they go home crying. At work I have all the girls in my hand. They argue with each other over me when they think I’m not around lol. Stop taking these woman seriously. They are not to be taken seriously. The more you take them seriously the more they will play games with you. Have fun with it.
I think the hardest thing for a guy to accept is knowing that the one girl he likes and is chatting with is chatting with at least one or two (or more) other guys. Those "cold" periods are when she's "hot" with a different guy.
You gotta play the same game she’s playing be hot n cold… but when your hot be emotionally invested while being non needy.(this creates a sense that you care about her) then be cold by taking hours to reply she’ll eventually give in to you and wonder why you aren’t like most guys then she’ll wanna hang TRUST ME. I made videos on this already
Did this with a girl that viewed me as an option. Now she comes over to my desk at work all the time. (I don’t respond to her text messages anymore, lol) Funny thing is… I’m not really into her anymore. Call me crazy but why did you take me for granted in the first place!? Now every time I speak with her I tell her about her flaws and how she can better herself for future dudes. I could care less if she doesn’t like anymore cause I really don’t see her value like I did b4. What in actual fck was I thinking liking her so much??? 😵💫
@@jesseserrano6520 She reverted to this childlike expression and energy like I was the parent telling her she did something wrong. Ashamed type of behavior screaming “I messed up, forgive me”. But never apologized. I remained aloof.
If she’s being hot and cold ask yourself how many other guys do you think she’s dealing with, are you being weak(you probably are) and is she a quality woman. Remember you put yourself in the situation you’re in.
Someone women don’t do this on purpose, they get scared or they don’t know how to act because they really really like you. In any event, someone in their past was really horrible to them and they just don’t know it really has nothing to do with you they probably think you’re really great. But they clearly aren’t ready.
Like casey said dont do something you normally wont do. So for instance ive had women who went cold on me .its not in my nature to do that to people so if i see them ill say hi but thats about it .i won't try to ignore them because, believe it or not, if your intention is to ignore your still sending that person your energy you have to act indifferent .that means how you treat everyone is the same and she cant tell or have a clue if you like her because your energy never shifted .ive noticed there were girls who i liked they played hot and cold but i literally had to block them ,because i knew they could actually effect my energy. As sun tzu says " you must know yourself and your enemy" .its ok to admit if you like someone ,but you gotta ask yourself is it a smart investment if you see how they treat you. You cant control who you like ,but we do have control how we respond to situations .
Not true at all. Humans are very susceptible to their subconscious and EPM (evolved psychological mechanisms) and this is done via “signaling” behaviors etc. you just have to master the correct behaviors and actions
Easiest way to deal with this entire problem is to simply ask her on a date. Once you ask a girl on the date she only has two options, she will either ignore/decline or say yes. If she says no then BAM! You now know she is not interested in you. (delete her number and move onto the next girl) Also, you’re having way too much conversation with these girls. Once you get a number, you should have around a 20 minute conversation with her and then you ask her on the date. Stop spending hours talking to these girls.
The problem is that men get to emotional when dating. You need to be alpha and be you're own man. Don't chat to long with women. Once you have her talking set up a date and lock it in. But do not be committed until she makes on you. If after the date she doesn't text go have fun on other dates. Let her come to you and if she doesn't you don't want to be with her. Most men are going after the hottest women possible . If she is a ten then you need to set a date when chatting with her. Idk why men want to text and text while other men are on her. Set the date while talking to her
I'm a 57 yr old guy. Been Married and done the Live In With GF thing multiple times too. When the chick goes "hot and cold" she goes ON THE SHELF. She did you a favor and you dodged a bullet if you decide to see the lesson in this ..
Amen brotha, just went through this with a girl. She’s also a “dismissive avoidant” which made it even wackier. We’d have great dates, spend the night together, face time for 3-4 hours… then she’d get distant and disappear, leav on delivered for hours or some times days. Total mind fuck. Truth is she has too many other men she’s talking to and doesn’t care about me. Shit sucks yo, but it’s something to learn from.
Don’t post that you’re on a date with a woman, trust me this is way too obvious. Make a picture of a steak and your glass of wine, let the girl make a picture of you, show that you’re playing pool but not with who, let them wonder. This is way more powerful
Im 48 years old and this is the first time I've ever heard this explained this way. My relationships with women up until now have been mostly really bad and disfunctional. I feel like KC is helping me gain a more reliable road map to navigating relationships. It's liberating and refreshing. Stay strong Kings 🙌
When women play hot and cold games it means they aren't that interested in you. A women who goes cold on you doesn't care that you're ignoring her, especially when you don't look as good as the guy she really wants. Ghost them and find a woman who actually loves you. She will blow up your phone. She will always want to spend time with you. You wont need to pretend to be anything other than yourself. She will initiate affection and there's almost no stupid thing you could do or say to turn her off.
I agree 100% with this video and it answers my own situation. I don't do meaningless texting or any other BS but the funniest thing about mine is I was enjoying my life not caring about any woman before I met her, but since we met I've become attached and wanting to get her, and I don't even know why. I've pulled back since one week ago, I'm just gonna move on with my life now.
That's what just exactly happened to me too! I was generally enjoying my peace and my ongoing activities until this girl that i knew from last September(but i was ignoring )through meeting in one of this activities i go, from early January she started to speak to me , ask me things and giving me attention! I even caught her sometimes to look at me! Not only that she was giving me clear signs that she likes me! Eventually last 3 weeks i was starting to think about her until i said F it i cant stand this anymore and eventually i asked her out yesterday. Well... You would think after all these she would at least say yes to a 1st chill date but she said declined anyways, saying that she had already full planned with her friends for the rest of the day! Obviously, if she really wanted to go for a date at least once, she would at least suggest for another date, but ahe didn't! Plus she actually admitted that she was a bit shocked that i asked her out! She said that she thought that for a moment i didn't mean it! Wth, woman? Weren't you the one this last month that u were "chasing" me? Wtf?
@@savking6188 yes! Unfortunately or not, that's the best choice. Either for my peace if mind either if by a small chance this leads to a potential relationship.
A year ago i was a single dude dealing with all these women. I am now in a good relationship with a baby but i still find it interesting looking at this stuff from a far. I experienced all the things on this channel and now i just have a chuckle. If a woman ever was cold with me i straight up stopped talking. It was very easy because i had a large amount of women talking to me and new ones daily. Dating apps worked in my favor but i still dealt with all the bs.
*It’s important to recognize when someone is playing games and not let it shake your self-worth. Setting boundaries can be key to dealing with this kind of behavior.*
When you start to give attention to why women act a certain way- you’ve already lost. Focus on yourself, being close with family and friends. The right woman will see this and value this. I read a great article once, it was called. Fuvk yes or fuvk no , if she isn’t into it 100% then she’s a no. Forget it. Keep your head up
A good woman is easy to read because she is transparent. The rest are to be used for whatever but should also be quickly discarded before any kind of serious attacment takes place. When you have been with one or two good women the difference is glaring
Damm this is such a bomb answer. A true masculine man shouldn't be distracted chasing women anyway, pursing women is ok but not chasing but rather his purpose
Balance really seems to be the key to everything in life u cant show too much interest but u also cant just never interact with women whatsoever and exoect them to flock around u becausw u just dont care so much, and like in all things that middle ground is so difficult to find and even more difficult to maintain
Exactly. I'm sure ignoring women works for high status 1% men but for the rest of us more effort and a bigger numbers game is required, with said balance. Real talk.
It’s basically the same for men and women. If we have a woman interested and we aren’t as invested as she, and we’ve all been there, we just don’t care, it’s as simple as that.
Hard to get (hot cold) means she's indifferent. Not afraid to lose you, not that into you. The most attractive thing you can do is pull the plug. Give her the gift of wondering what would have happened if she took you serious. As beings who thrive on mystery it would be a load of fun for their minds.
Good stuff Casey. I’m digging the new answering emails video format. Breaks up the monotony of your past vids of using the chalkboard and hammering the same, albeit slightly different topics in our heads. Your beard game is looking tight my man. Great stuff, keep it up
Do you think this guy came from money or has actually made this much cash from TH-cam? His crib looks nice. Maybe this is part time and he has a good real job
Gotta give off the cold shoulder move. You don't need to give people that much effort to gain an attention. It's how you work on you and you living off successful in any other business profession and honestly I did wasted my time doing beta stunts without realizing. Communicate, hang out, no response keep it moving. Most people today are just temporary friends cause like women friends also come and go too. It doesn't even have to be about relationships but also friendships too keep that in mind folks. Casey thank you for opening up my mind to understanding
If you have many male and female friends and even the male friends go cold on you, then I can excuse their absence. I am not so needy, I have other friends that I can hangout with. They will contact me when they are free. The bottom line is work and meeting and talking to many people and developing friendships and letting the friendship define itself over time with minimal expectations. Getting obsessed with one is neediness and insecurity. Rely on oneself.
Everything you say is correct. My dad and experience taught me this when I was in my late 20’s. It’s messed up though that women are only interested in you when they don’t know you are interested.
Casey everything you said just gave me a light bulb moment, ive liked this girl for months now but sometimes shes following like a lost puppy and sometimes she doesnt even want to be near me. Then i remembered all my actions during those times and its exactly as you explained. Im going to make this right!!! You are a God!
There seems to be a disconnect here. A woman is getting bundles of attention. Different men messaging at different times plus she's balancing her own social life, work, friends etc. I understand the point of not coming across as needy and desperate and pulling back but the bit that isn't explained is why then with all these other distractions that you would believe she'll then think "why hasn't he contacted me, what's he doing?". That's laughable. She won't be thinking that, because by your own reading, she doesn't have time to be ruminating over the guy that got away. If you aren't front and centre she will simply forget you. Period. Her phone is blowing up, she's presented with multiple options but you actually believe she is going to be thinking about the one stoic guy who stopped messaging? Advocating being apathetic and nonchalant to women is fine if they don't have other options. If they do, you're just voluntarily benching yourself waiting for her to message and that day will never come.
All paths lead to the same conclusion, focus on things that improve your own life... all the time, and the girls will chase. Get busy, the rest falls into place.
its wild first time this has happened that one pulled back after she led with kisses hugs obsession after 1 day exchanging info. Now pulled back . Ok I know my value . Acknowledge me.
9:05 there has been a girl in my DMs since last Sept, we use to chat way back in the day, now she back but showing real interest this time. I have not offered her my number, she has made multiple requests to see me, i have not given. She has said to me on few occasions now how I am not accessible..... AND GUESS WHAT, HER INTEREST KEEPS GOING UP. She has said I look like I am too much for her, my status is so HIGH above her.
@@antipaganda5635 Needy behaviour from women turns me off too but let me tell you what man - I regret not pumping all those girls who were crazy obsessed with me in the past... Just do it, the best women to deal with are the ones who have burning desire for you.
@@charlestaffe5819 I live in an area where there just isn’t much hot. Hell of a lot of blue or green hair though. I still just don’t give one single fuck either way. Wish I knew 20 years ago what I know now.
@@charlestaffe5819I’d rather find a fun and authentic 8 as a GF or wife then play a lifetime of chess with 9/10s Banging the latter sure if you can Seems exhausting I’d rather just keep busy focusing on myself, be myself, and let life fall into place…
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your view and analysis over women makes me wanna vomit, but its totally realistic, but not big news for me i know all that since 15 years. your countrer measures are useless btw.
You sir are the MVP. 😊
completely pull back means we shouldn’t pick her call, shouldn’t reply to her messages?
Go cold on her once and for all. No drama, no nonsense, and no games. Do better things in life than chasing uninterested women.
Correct answer. The juice is nolonger worth the squeeze. MGTOW. (Or pump & dump until you're too old for the Viagra to work).
Honestly, that's what I thought.
Say less.
Excactly! I have heard this same advice earlier and was curious what people think in this particular video. Yeah, he needs to accept that he probably won't get this girl at all or at least he should channel his energy to other girls and lower his expectations on this particular women. Desperately hanging on anybody and investing your energy/time to her is not doing good for your value and high-value man don't do that -> they move on!
Yes
Never give a f about it. When you notice you start giving a f it's time to pause and reflect.
She doesnt like him. He should move on and find a girl who does.
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Correct
🤔 If a woman does not respect you, it's best to choose yourSELF.
Walk Away! I had to walk away with my 3 years LTR/LDR girlfriend, when her Hypergamy kicked in.
Throw the fish back in the salty sea of $#"t 🏆
@@DSILVAjeiy 💯😂exactly there’s a billion 🐠, and when they return which they usually do ,NEVER TAKE THAT ROTTEN USED UP 🥩 BACK
detachment, as with all things, is always the key
but its not easy
@@abel7782I know. It sucks ass, but looking back you’d wish you did it sooner. Misguided emotional investment can drain your soul. Trust me, I know
Fuck. YT deleted my fucking comments again!
@@jeansollot6419 you can pursue, but with detachment.😄
@@jeansollot6419You can love perfectly without attachment. Matter of fact, I’d argue that it’s the ONLY way of loving, otherwise it’s a transaction
The moment i stopped giving a F about this one girl I found very attractive, she started giving me attention, trying to get me to pursue. Once I changed my mentality and stopped caring about her beauty, she became the same as any girl I don’t find attractive. It’s a mental switch we all need. Their beauty doesn’t make them special. All of them are wired the same. Don’t pursue. If they don’t show interest, move on. 0 attention.
That last 2 sentences are absolute facts. I could care less. They are all wired the same. I treat them all the same. They are not special at all.
@@XavierTatumB-But n-no! There are exceptions! 😭😭
So how the f do you get the girl you like... As you are ignoring her after she is showing interest
@@robocop5543 the woman who likes you will make it easy for you, she will gladly see you and spend time with you. The only reason the girl I mentioned earlier is giving me attention now is because I removed my own.
@@JeetKuneDoBelgrade What if the woman who likes you is not at all liked by you... I think you gotta put in efforts for the girl you like to make her like you back...
If she go cold then dump her because she aint really interested in you but just wants to use you for validation.
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Yes. All this simmping (excessive unearned validation) has crashed the dating market. Women are over-valuing themselves.
Refuse to buy in at these elevated ego levels. MGTOW.
Bro women are controled by the emotion they keep changing so treat her as she treat you be red pill male
The truth is if she goes cold and you "dump her", then she actually dumped you and you're telling yourself a story to feel better about it.
Who cares about whether she’s “interested” or not, I care about ATTRACTION and building that. Building trust and respect and emotional safety are all part of the attraction.
One thing that really nails it in this video. Women don't have "Techniques". They don't "Play games" this stuff comes naturally to them and it is their daily business. Recognize that and it frames your mind correctly.
Nice..agreed
Female behavior
It would mean they're not human technically. Kinda otherworldly.
@@route666aybb it's always a transaction with them..oh well
@@route666aybb, humanoids from planet venus
Guys I’m an older man who’s been twice divorced, was in rock bands for years dated a lot , and I’m telling you Casey is THE BEST dating coach on TH-cam, I’ve listened to many others like AMS for years, Casey nails it every time, he’ll never steer you wrong, another gem here
can't agree more. Casey is on top of his game.
AMS is a loser who thinks way too much of himself and talks you in circles. More like beta male strategies
yes he is. hot & cold is not games, it is a natural reflex to weak masculine behavior, or lack of masculine behavior.
@@mrbabyhughexplain, I’m curious
He is much more detailed than the others
He breaks shit down to the simplest form
SECOND MISTAKE : Trying to punish her is an emotional reaction -- exactly what she is trying to do ! She is trying to get him into his emotions, so she will have the leverage and power over him. Better to just ignore her, go no contact.
Isn’t no contact punishment?
@@GeorgiosStarakis No. It's only punishment if you're trying to hurt her. The point of no contact is not to hurt her, but to give her the option of putting in more effort to get more of your valuable time, attention, validation, and resources. She might not even care. So, it's also a way of testing her. Women test men all the time, so there is nothing wrong with turning-the-tables. If she doesn't care enough to reach-out and contact you first, then she is not worth wasting your time on. You need to find someone who is worthy of you.
@@GeorgiosStarakisthat is what I’m saying .
@@zackfarah8126 What you appear to be falsely claiming is that the only reason a man does not contact is to punish the lady. This is simply not true. As I already explained, the whole idea of no contact is to simply pull-back and allow her the space she needs to either invest in you more, or simply let you go. It can only be a punishment if you are purposely trying to hurt her. But all she has to do is reach-out and make more of an effort, to reciprocate the level of interest you have already shown to her. If she is not willing to do that, then there is no real foundation for a healthy relationship going forward.
@@zackfarah8126 Again, no contact is not a punishment. It's a strategy to gauge her level of interest and to see if she is willing to do her part to maintain the relationship. Just like when a woman plays hard-to-get or pulls-back. She is not purposely trying to hurt you, she is just testing you.
If she plays hot and cold, run in the opposite direction.
It’ll never stop no matter how far you are in the relationship and it will drive you crazy. Choose better women.
Wise remark!
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They are all the same you dummy
A women tried doing that hot n cold thing to me back in collage, so I moved on and decided to text her best friend instead, ended up dating her for a few months. GUYS learn to move on and shoot your shot with a girl that actually likes you!
Hope there wasn’t any bait-and switch brother.
@@mat7083truueee. As in the “best friend” and the hot and cold chick were on the same page, and the hot n cold chick used that technique to get him invested in the best friend. Very real possibility
She wasn’t “trying” to do hot and cold. Gotta listen to what he’s saying
Nonchalance (indifference) is often a man's best friend. The quickest way to get someone's attention is to remove yours. Staying in your masculine frame and respecting yourself by being able to walk away is what will turn a woman on. Showing her you don't need her for nothing because you as a man is the prize and catch. Chasing women is like looking at an empty bottle thinking that it's going to magically fill up. A woman should be a complement to your life, not your focus.
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Well said 👏🏽
There's a book called Casanova Playbook of Magnetism, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal
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Now if was a butt I would spank it 💦@@PoshByDefault
You cannot love a woman more than you love your "program"... Your "program" must always came first.
Not changing your life to try to make her jealous and just giving her space is the best thing to do. Let her think about you. People just need time to think sometimes
Voice of reason. Everything is not a strategic game. Most women are not strategic AT ALL in their thinking that’s very masculine mindset. Women who may come Off as hot and cold are more likely processing a ton of emotions and trying to sort things out before committing. Think about it guys u know women are emotional and illogical in decision making. Just give her a lil space and be clear on your intentions and a good woman will commit if your intentions are aligned. Mean and cruel is what created the feminists hags …repeat that and we’ll get more of the same.
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Why does it matter if she texts you back fast? The phone is for setting dates. If she’s giving you good energy in person and makes herself available, you’re winning bro.
Exactly phone should only be a medium for connecting in real life, not becoming an android to one another.
Damn, I see we all went through the same patterns in life 😂 it's nice to find so many kings in this chat
Eh idk.. I mean I get the point. But if you're seeing a chick and she isnt texting you first at all, initiating conversation etc.. I would say that's a bad sign. Even if she responds when you text and makes herself available. Depends on what you're looking for but I'd day you're not the number 1 on her interest radar if she isnt getting ahold of you on her own without prompt. You might be the side attention, free dinner guy if that's the situation.
@@Mr.Amazing-vx3li I agree. Everyone has their phone with them roughly 80% of the day, if she isn't contacting you, on her own accord, at least once or twice throughout the day/ every two days to touch base and once in a while to set up dates etc, that's a bad sign, and clearly you're not her priority when it comes to her seeking a partner, FWB, or whatever the case may be. Simply put, you've been put on the back burner. If that is the case, cut your "losses", move on, and find someone who actually puts the time and effort into building a connection with you.
However, there needs to be a fine line when it comes to texting. Don't sit around all day waiting for her to reply, and then send paragraphs to her when she does, because that shit gets stale pretty quickly and makes you look like you've got nothing else going on in your life. But, you can't expect to only ever text each other to set up dates and only interact with her in real life. What if work schedules get really busy and you only see each other every 2 or so weeks,? There should be some sort of communication in between seeing each other in real life, otherwise the connection will fizzle out and die.
This is the game. Drop your phones. Get good at interacting with her in real life and the rest will follow.
Truth is..... When dealing with women you must convey an attitude of indifference towards her physical appearance..... Many women only are certain of what a man expresses to them verbally..... Actually it's better to show care in person via actions albeit minimal..... Keep words of care far and in-between to a bare minimum to keep her genuine interest and desire.... If she goes cold mirror her energy..... Odds are that she will notice this and begin pursuing because your perceived value has increased in her mind..... Fall back be cool and let her chase..... This is what she wants to do.
Facts dudes be taking it to personal sometimes these females test you to see if you know how to read her or deal with her
@meezy3188 We aren’t their fathers. It isn’t a man’s job to know how to deal with/ handle a grown l woman.
THIRD MISTAKE : Trying to get advice on how to get this one lady. She's living in his head rent free !
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How to evict her from my headspace, I'd really like to know.
@@L6FT Focus on Yourself. Do the things in life that make You happy and that don't remind You of her. Get on your Grind and Focus on your Purpose. If you don't have a Purpose, then get one ! Also, have an Abundance Mindset. There are a lot of beautiful women in this world and some of them are looking for a man who believes in himself, who is on his grind, who has a purpose, and who has Options. If you don't have options, then it is basically because you don't believe you have any. You have to Believe in Yourself. There are things you can do to make yourself the Best Version of Yourself -- hit the gym, practice your social skills by talking to every kind of person -- not just women --, keep watching these kinds of videos, focus on your finances, your fashion, your health and fitness. You are the Future, she is the past... Leave her ass there !
@@L6FT First of all, the censors at TH-cam are soft and weak people. So, don't be like them, be Masculine instead.
@@L6FT Second, You need to Focus on Yourself. If you are thinking of her, you are thinking about the past and not the Future. You are the Future !
I turned hot , she turned cold, I turned cold then she turned very hot and then I stayed very cold 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😅😊
You are referring to me
You are referring to me
1. She have other options!
2. She is using you for getting attention and validation!
3. You are not her priority!
4. You are in back up line behind 100 other guys !
5. You over pursued her or acted needy and clingy!
Isn’t this why you should only use women for your own validation? That way, if one walks away, you’ll be just fine considering you were using her to prop yourself up
@@marcusmcgraw3519 thats why you have to test a woman as fast as you can so you don't get attached and move on when you see she don't give an f . You run as fast as you can
Yup. You’ll find out quick if you give them something they will give just enough attention to keep the flow going. Be careful how you approach a potential relationship
5 my case
All 5. Time to move on I think
Andrew tate - "You wanna play games? We've been talking for two days, you don't wanna meet me for coffee.. the attention drops to zero!" Lol
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as an older guy who's found out the hard way I say this guy speaks truth. All I'll add is that a little hot cold in the beginning might be overcomeable.
But if it's too strong and goes on too long you simply should walk away. She's emotionally immature and is playing the field.
A good female won't mess you around.
A good female “won’t mess around?” Is that a joke? The nature of a woman is to NOT TRUST MEN. They learn to trust them via all the “games” and interactions that happen if the man behaves in trusting ways.
Happens even when you’re not dating. It can be hold true about a lot of different issues when dealing with them.
Gold. So true, this video condenses greatly the fact of why you can never treat her different than the other, falling into the trap of saying oh she is special when she is not. The vibe of this video was also gold. Amazing.
If she goes cold RUN. If you go cold too, she will know you're playing games and go hot temporarily then permanently cold. It will be nothing but games after she goes cold. RUN!!
On point! The best advice above most I hear online..keyword, show it from the very beginning how you want to be treated and from the jump show that you won’t hesitate to replace her when ever you sense bad behavior or a shift in energy. This always just works, just like the Demand and value concept in economics
mixed signals should be taken as no
the main point, core of the core from CZ Guru, is completely having masculine energy to BEING ABLE TO WALK AWAY, and not emotionaly attached to her. PULL BACK and be strong (tough)! Pull back!
I work in a shelter of homeless people. There are living ca 90 men, most of them "walked away from my stupid wife". Now when some new guy comes with the story I yell on them and shout: "Next time I don't take you. You just go and buy some flowers and make peace with your wife. Period!"
@@marguskiis7711 Hahaha.. For real?
@@rusdiseptian7011 yep. I do not need more customers there.
Pull back and Pull out
We used to use the term being Whipped but now it’s simping
Y’all got to play the same game these woman are playing. It’s really fun once you get the game down. I just laugh while they go home crying. At work I have all the girls in my hand. They argue with each other over me when they think I’m not around lol. Stop taking these woman seriously. They are not to be taken seriously. The more you take them seriously the more they will play games with you. Have fun with it.
I think the hardest thing for a guy to accept is knowing that the one girl he likes and is chatting with is chatting with at least one or two (or more) other guys. Those "cold" periods are when she's "hot" with a different guy.
You gotta play the same game she’s playing be hot n cold… but when your hot be emotionally invested while being non needy.(this creates a sense that you care about her) then be cold by taking hours to reply she’ll eventually give in to you and wonder why you aren’t like most guys then she’ll wanna hang TRUST ME. I made videos on this already
Silence is sometime loudest noise.
I don't watch this sort of content but the title caught my eye, this is 100 percent bang on.
Did this with a girl that viewed me as an option. Now she comes over to my desk at work all the time. (I don’t respond to her text messages anymore, lol) Funny thing is… I’m not really into her anymore. Call me crazy but why did you take me for granted in the first place!? Now every time I speak with her I tell her about her flaws and how she can better herself for future dudes. I could care less if she doesn’t like anymore cause I really don’t see her value like I did b4. What in actual fck was I thinking liking her so much??? 😵💫
When u tell her about her flaws and. How she can improve for future guys to get intrested
How did she response an face expression when you told her?
@@jesseserrano6520 She reverted to this childlike expression and energy like I was the parent telling her she did something wrong. Ashamed type of behavior screaming “I messed up, forgive me”. But never apologized. I remained aloof.
lmao, that‘s the spirit.
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Holy shit. The timing of the video is insane. Incredible stuff.
If she’s being hot and cold ask yourself how many other guys do you think she’s dealing with, are you being weak(you probably are) and is she a quality woman. Remember you put yourself in the situation you’re in.
Someone women don’t do this on purpose, they get scared or they don’t know how to act because they really really like you. In any event, someone in their past was really horrible to them and they just don’t know it really has nothing to do with you they probably think you’re really great. But they clearly aren’t ready.
I agree
Still gotta cut ya loose though 😅. Get your shit together , we are not 11 years old anymore
The Illusion of Scarcity. It's important to cultivate and maintain that.
Better to just be busy
Ive always had most of these same views.. but never heard them so nicely summarized and nailed flush.. well said brother.
Like casey said dont do something you normally wont do. So for instance ive had women who went cold on me .its not in my nature to do that to people so if i see them ill say hi but thats about it .i won't try to ignore them because, believe it or not, if your intention is to ignore your still sending that person your energy you have to act indifferent .that means how you treat everyone is the same and she cant tell or have a clue if you like her because your energy never shifted .ive noticed there were girls who i liked they played hot and cold but i literally had to block them ,because i knew they could actually effect my energy. As sun tzu says " you must know yourself and your enemy" .its ok to admit if you like someone ,but you gotta ask yourself is it a smart investment if you see how they treat you. You cant control who you like ,but we do have control how we respond to situations .
I actually like this
I had to block multiple women cause they started copying my art and music these chicks ended up being my worst enemy it wasn't dudes...
@@drewtrulock333 huh?
Same people copy my style and even my cologne it's so weird had to block them😊
this is wise, brother
You're a very very sincere man. Often times ability to attract and keep a woman is detached from that. Phenomenal content. ❤
100% correct again. Listen to this man. He knows
So true. People are going to do what they're going to do.
Not true at all. Humans are very susceptible to their subconscious and EPM (evolved psychological mechanisms) and this is done via “signaling” behaviors etc. you just have to master the correct behaviors and actions
Eh, I think the key is to keep busy and everything will fall into place
Worst thing is having too much time on your hands to think about all this shit
FIRST MISTAKE : Only interested in one. He has Oneitis.. it's a deadly disease.
#hoeskillsset
Taking pictures with other guys to gauge interest is a thing girls do. Showing indifference to it means you win.
7:25 listen, DO NOT MESSAGE GIRLS ON SOCIAL MEDIA!!!! If it's an initial contact ok MAYBE fine, but when you do that IT SHOWS DESPERATION!!!
Never let it affect you! keep going regular scheduled programming. best version of yourself.
Easiest way to deal with this entire problem is to simply ask her on a date.
Once you ask a girl on the date she only has two options, she will either ignore/decline or say yes.
If she says no then BAM! You now know she is not interested in you. (delete her number and move onto the next girl)
Also, you’re having way too much conversation with these girls. Once you get a number, you should have around a 20 minute conversation with her and then you ask her on the date. Stop spending hours talking to these girls.
The problem is that men get to emotional when dating. You need to be alpha and be you're own man. Don't chat to long with women. Once you have her talking set up a date and lock it in. But do not be committed until she makes on you. If after the date she doesn't text go have fun on other dates. Let her come to you and if she doesn't you don't want to be with her. Most men are going after the hottest women possible . If she is a ten then you need to set a date when chatting with her. Idk why men want to text and text while other men are on her. Set the date while talking to her
I'm a 57 yr old guy. Been Married and done the Live In With GF thing multiple times too.
When the chick goes "hot and cold" she goes ON THE SHELF.
She did you a favor and you dodged a bullet if you decide to see the lesson in this ..
Great vid. Really digging the new space, reading letters and breaking them down.
Amen brotha, just went through this with a girl. She’s also a “dismissive avoidant” which made it even wackier. We’d have great dates, spend the night together, face time for 3-4 hours… then she’d get distant and disappear, leav on delivered for hours or some times days.
Total mind fuck. Truth is she has too many other men she’s talking to and doesn’t care about me.
Shit sucks yo, but it’s something to learn from.
Don’t post that you’re on a date with a woman, trust me this is way too obvious. Make a picture of a steak and your glass of wine, let the girl make a picture of you, show that you’re playing pool but not with who, let them wonder. This is way more powerful
Im 48 years old and this is the first time I've ever heard this explained this way. My relationships with women up until now have been mostly really bad and disfunctional. I feel like KC is helping me gain a more reliable road map to navigating relationships.
It's liberating and refreshing.
Stay strong Kings 🙌
When women play hot and cold games it means they aren't that interested in you. A women who goes cold on you doesn't care that you're ignoring her, especially when you don't look as good as the guy she really wants. Ghost them and find a woman who actually loves you. She will blow up your phone. She will always want to spend time with you. You wont need to pretend to be anything other than yourself. She will initiate affection and there's almost no stupid thing you could do or say to turn her off.
I agree 100% with this video and it answers my own situation. I don't do meaningless texting or any other BS but the funniest thing about mine is I was enjoying my life not caring about any woman before I met her, but since we met I've become attached and wanting to get her, and I don't even know why. I've pulled back since one week ago, I'm just gonna move on with my life now.
That's what just exactly happened to me too!
I was generally enjoying my peace and my ongoing activities until this girl that i knew from last September(but i was ignoring )through meeting in one of this activities i go, from early January she started to speak to me , ask me things and giving me attention! I even caught her sometimes to look at me! Not only that she was giving me clear signs that she likes me!
Eventually last 3 weeks i was starting to think about her until i said F it i cant stand this anymore and eventually i asked her out yesterday.
Well... You would think after all these she would at least say yes to a 1st chill date but she said declined anyways, saying that she had already full planned with her friends for the rest of the day! Obviously, if she really wanted to go for a date at least once, she would at least suggest for another date, but ahe didn't! Plus she actually admitted that she was a bit shocked that i asked her out! She said that she thought that for a moment i didn't mean it! Wth, woman? Weren't you the one this last month that u were "chasing" me? Wtf?
@@vlahader Pull back
@@savking6188 yes! Unfortunately or not, that's the best choice. Either for my peace if mind either if by a small chance this leads to a
potential relationship.
A year ago i was a single dude dealing with all these women. I am now in a good relationship with a baby but i still find it interesting looking at this stuff from a far. I experienced all the things on this channel and now i just have a chuckle. If a woman ever was cold with me i straight up stopped talking. It was very easy because i had a large amount of women talking to me and new ones daily. Dating apps worked in my favor but i still dealt with all the bs.
*It’s important to recognize when someone is playing games and not let it shake your self-worth. Setting boundaries can be key to dealing with this kind of behavior.*
When you start to give attention to why women act a certain way- you’ve already lost. Focus on yourself, being close with family and friends. The right woman will see this and value this. I read a great article once, it was called. Fuvk yes or fuvk no , if she isn’t into it 100% then she’s a no. Forget it. Keep your head up
A good woman is easy to read because she is transparent. The rest are to be used for whatever but should also be quickly discarded before any kind of serious attacment takes place. When you have been with one or two good women the difference is glaring
Good shit. This came at the exact time I needed to hear it. Subbed.
Damm this is such a bomb answer. A true masculine man shouldn't be distracted chasing women anyway, pursing women is ok but not chasing but rather his purpose
Balance really seems to be the key to everything in life u cant show too much interest but u also cant just never interact with women whatsoever and exoect them to flock around u becausw u just dont care so much, and like in all things that middle ground is so difficult to find and even more difficult to maintain
Exactly. I'm sure ignoring women works for high status 1% men but for the rest of us more effort and a bigger numbers game is required, with said balance. Real talk.
It’s basically the same for men and women. If we have a woman interested and we aren’t as invested as she, and we’ve all been there, we just don’t care, it’s as simple as that.
*Class Dismissed!*
Glad I showed up today.
Casey is a human fax machine 📠
Thats exactly what came into my mind - shes obviously dealing with more men! I will watch the rest of video..
Your video is absolutely correct.
So Gents life is RISKY remember the way you play your card will determine your outcome
Casey is the best one out there and its not even close
Hard to get (hot cold) means she's indifferent. Not afraid to lose you, not that into you. The most attractive thing you can do is pull the plug. Give her the gift of wondering what would have happened if she took you serious. As beings who thrive on mystery it would be a load of fun for their minds.
When someone is playing games, just sit back like an Emperor and watch and enjoy. No stress lol
Good stuff Casey. I’m digging the new answering emails video format. Breaks up the monotony of your past vids of using the chalkboard and hammering the same, albeit slightly different topics in our heads.
Your beard game is looking tight my man. Great stuff, keep it up
Do you think this guy came from money or has actually made this much cash from TH-cam? His crib looks nice. Maybe this is part time and he has a good real job
Your couch is immaculate💥💫
My dude was spot on!!!
Out of the tons of videos I've watched on this subject this guy hit home and speaks the truth. I tip my hat sir
Islam is right about women
Gotta give off the cold shoulder move. You don't need to give people that much effort to gain an attention. It's how you work on you and you living off successful in any other business profession and honestly I did wasted my time doing beta stunts without realizing. Communicate, hang out, no response keep it moving. Most people today are just temporary friends cause like women friends also come and go too. It doesn't even have to be about relationships but also friendships too keep that in mind folks. Casey thank you for opening up my mind to understanding
Facts. I be doing my thing and not caring
If you have many male and female friends and even the male friends go cold on you, then I can excuse their absence. I am not so needy, I have other friends that I can hangout with. They will contact me when they are free. The bottom line is work and meeting and talking to many people and developing friendships and letting the friendship define itself over time with minimal expectations. Getting obsessed with one is neediness and insecurity. Rely on oneself.
Exactly. Women are very fungible
Couldn't have said it better. Perfect advice.
Everything you say is correct. My dad and experience taught me this when I was in my late 20’s. It’s messed up though that women are only interested in you when they don’t know you are interested.
Straight talk. True and great stuff!!
He's right guys. Treat her like someone your not keen on
This is a great Q&A, thanks Casey. Cool new location.
Casey everything you said just gave me a light bulb moment, ive liked this girl for months now but sometimes shes following like a lost puppy and sometimes she doesnt even want to be near me. Then i remembered all my actions during those times and its exactly as you explained. Im going to make this right!!! You are a God!
There seems to be a disconnect here.
A woman is getting bundles of attention. Different men messaging at different times plus she's balancing her own social life, work, friends etc.
I understand the point of not coming across as needy and desperate and pulling back but the bit that isn't explained is why then with all these other distractions that you would believe she'll then think "why hasn't he contacted me, what's he doing?".
That's laughable. She won't be thinking that, because by your own reading, she doesn't have time to be ruminating over the guy that got away.
If you aren't front and centre she will simply forget you. Period.
Her phone is blowing up, she's presented with multiple options but you actually believe she is going to be thinking about the one stoic guy who stopped messaging?
Advocating being apathetic and nonchalant to women is fine if they don't have other options. If they do, you're just voluntarily benching yourself waiting for her to message and that day will never come.
You're 100% wrong and that's why your ass probably always ends up getting left on read
All paths lead to the same conclusion, focus on things that improve your own life... all the time, and the girls will chase. Get busy, the rest falls into place.
Literally whats happening to me right now thanks casey!
its wild first time this has happened that one pulled back after she led with kisses hugs obsession after 1 day exchanging info. Now pulled back . Ok I know my value . Acknowledge me.
This was a Real spill brother keep spitting that 🔥
When you notice she goes hot and cold that means you care enough to notice which means you already lost just move on!
"if you care you need to not" if this is not a failed society I do not know what is.
In a way I agree with you. But I also wonder if it's always been this way, or just primarily with Western women. Either way your point is spot on.
@@dk6173I think it’s gotten rapidly worse since CV19.
good to know there are men outside of AMS’ audience who understand female nature
Keep up the great advice Casey always listening!
9:05 there has been a girl in my DMs since last Sept, we use to chat way back in the day, now she back but showing real interest this time. I have not offered her my number, she has made multiple requests to see me, i have not given. She has said to me on few occasions now how I am not accessible..... AND GUESS WHAT, HER INTEREST KEEPS GOING UP. She has said I look like I am too much for her, my status is so HIGH above her.
I have some girls I'm in the same situation with but the thing is I don't like either of them. Their needy behaviour actually turns me off.
@@antipaganda5635 Needy behaviour from women turns me off too but let me tell you what man - I regret not pumping all those girls who were crazy obsessed with me in the past... Just do it, the best women to deal with are the ones who have burning desire for you.
You are so right about her communicating with several men👍🏻👍🏻
He doesn’t know there’s all kinds of reason women go “cold.” Many women sabotage and detachment is one method to do that.
First time this dude speaks the truth and no useless "alpha male gaming techniques"
In Casey we trust
Amazing video, Casey! Right on spot.
I just move on when it’s obvious they have a roster. If she was that into me, she wouldn’t be entertaining other dudes. Simple.
Yeah but the e problem is, most guys only get one hottie every few years to be into them.
@@charlestaffe5819 I live in an area where there just isn’t much hot. Hell of a lot of blue or green hair though. I still just don’t give one single fuck either way. Wish I knew 20 years ago what I know now.
@@charlestaffe5819I’d rather find a fun and authentic 8 as a GF or wife then play a lifetime of chess with 9/10s
Banging the latter sure if you can
Seems exhausting
I’d rather just keep busy focusing on myself, be myself, and let life fall into place…
Man you’re a genius. Specially how you find the right way to deliver your words ❤