Don't play no games with no lady. Say your intentions, ask about her values and find out if they align with yours (super-duper important!!!). Always keep the focus on yourself and your goals KING. Don't make her your priority if she isn't reciprocating. Finally, If she wants you, she will come around. Bless!!
She's just scratching the surface because she's a women but women play hard to get because of the following reasons 1) She's intimidated by the guy who approaches her and thinks he's a player or she's not on his level . 2) She has medium to low interest 3) She has low self esteem and she just wants attention . That's why women say "we can be friends" 4) She's not that sexually attracted to the guy 5) Her fear from bad relationships in the past is stronger than her desire to get with the guy . Any guy who approaches and talks to a lot of women in his life knows that if a woman really like you . She will make it easy because she doesn't want to mess the situation up !
i guess thats some of the many reasons, but she didn't cover all of it--Thats because of the reasons one has to experience it to become aware of it. because women don't communicate as men do, they are usually hiding in the dark about a lot of things
You are right but some put up resistance for their egos sake. The like you talk about could be overwhelming sexual /physical attraction ,the type that awes them so much they can't hide their nervousness.
***Men must not waste their time by chasing women. Men must always chasse Excellency to build their own life***Let women do whatever they want, but men should first focus on their own life****Man can choose any woman he wants when his life us well built***Let woman chasse you***
That's so true... i support your argurment 100% women don't like broke guys. So its better to focus on getting yourself well equipped, in terms of finance, business wise, and push yourself up on the ladder.
Getting a woman is different from building your life except if you want "SUCKERS and VIPERS". What Jessy is say is thinking from a woman point of view to a man. And if you not in for all the "shit" women give then TAKE NOTE of her FINAL statements VERY important.
why do people always make the year a part of it? It's not like all the women in the world change every year on the same schedule. It's more like we get to a point where we notice these things and and think that said things are a new phenomena that just popped up this year.
Life's too short to be figuring out why she's playing games. Guys, I would rather spend that time figuring how to level up, improve my physique, looks and most importantly, my finances. Get on your purpose guys. A lady who likes you plays no games, and they are the best type of women to be with.
Having read over 60 comments, this is by far the best which contains the reality of life and greatest wisdom..others' comments are also insightful! Jessica should tell us whether she's in a relationship or married and if not she should tell us why? If marriage is not her interest then she is defacto disqualified from rendering advice on the subject of relationships and marriage.
@@resetinvestments never take a dating &relationship advise from a woman. You'll end up being something they don't want. She's doing these videos because most of her audience are men and these videos gets her the views
So women want to be modern with their sexuality, careers, attitudes and demands... but men should stay traditional and play these silly 'catch me if you can' games'? Not gonna happen! Men hate mixed signals and stupid games just as much as women do. For men like myself, if a woman takes too long to text back, doesn't call and gives mixed signals, I'm out! If you're interested in me, SHOW IT. Don't waste my time.
When I was much younger I’ve wondered why girls would play hard to get, and I didn’t want to waste my time with that type. When I got older I did, and when I won a couple of them over I came to a harsh realization that they weren’t really worth the wait in the first place. The perspective you’ve provided is what I had to learn the hard way. Appreciate your insight and I’m sure it can help someone down the road.
The competition is also stiff with men not only women anymore. If the woman plays hard to get the man quickly shift to another who will definitely play simple to get. cool. Because in the long run both women will exhibit the same purpose in the life that they were destined to fulfill in the relationship they finally end up with. I had a personal experience with a lady who played as such. After three attempts I started ignoring her. Then she attempted to use her body language to bring back my attention without verbally implying it. But them my emotions were already drained for someone else without her knowing. She tried and tried but I just ignored her.
"I'm mad at you, you didn't call me today" is my exit call. I only recall one woman I think was playing hard to get. She dragged it out for so long I just faded away. When I bumped into her again she was cold and angry with me. What? She actually cared enough to be angry? I haven't heard the term "mixed signals" in a long time. Great video Jessica.
Work on yourself,get your money,go to the gym,dress well, smell nice and rock your confidence. No woman will play hard to get on you because she knows there's lots of girls chasing after you, never simp and chase a woman.
6 months ago, For the first time in my life I went straight to tell a lady what I really want from her in the long term. I have known her for years but we just used to talk rarely and randomly, so she was surprised. We connect a lot and talk a lot about work, family and future. We even planned to invest in a business together. However, I made my intentions clear, but she seems to shy away when I bring the subject up. We are both in our 30s... I asked her if she honestly see me as someone she can be with but she never answers. So recently I just decided to pull back. Honestly I just don’t have energy to play game. She may be interested but I just stop being available. Now when she calls we only talk about business.
@@Stevengomez-j6q, nothing new, I have no intention to run after her. I only do business with her but she sometimes text me out of nowhere for confort or advise when facing personal issues.
Never tell a woman you want that you love her...you will lose her. I never tell my dog that i love him yet he follows me everywhere and can even die to defend me.
🇯🇲 Anecdotally, less is best. Beautiful women are used to getting men's attention & being pursued. That "singled out" male who seemingly gives her " no time of the day", she will come wondering " what is it with you, don't you find me appealing?" As a male, half your work is done and you've gained her respect.
The statement you made toward the end of this video...I could use it as my line and lay my cards out on the table when the lady of my dream comes my way. Freaking awesome. Thanks Sis.
I had a "queen" waste 3 months taxing my patience with this shit and now she's a never-married 51 year old single mom who's going to spend the rest of her life alone. Congratulations on a job well done, Queen.
Yes!..I totally agree with you in all. ..and that last one got me cutely: *Lay your cards on the table* , that's what works here.. even when you said it, my mind resonated with it. I love folks who are *blunt* . At the end of the day, it is what it is.
Thanks, Jessica. The last option about respectfully laying it out how I feel, asking her if she feels that way too will save a bunch of time and help free me up to move on and meet other ladies. Not crazy about dragging this hard to get game. You are the only vlogger who has offered up this solution. Now, to wait for an appropriate time to speak with her.
Jessi I think this is one of my best Videos from your Channel , If she Play hard to get , Also Play hard to get carefully , That really Got , Much love to you from Nigeria
I can't believe I pursue a woman of my dreams for 4 years, I did everything guys, EVERYTHING! just to show her how special she is to me, but I ended up giving up in mid 2019. I never see and talked to her eversince. Love your channel ❤️💯
Think of it as a happy ending. You rather chase and fail than not chase and wonder what would happen. My history is : i get a girl but became needy due to inexperience. Wonderful and painful time, but a scar of war in my heart. A lesson to be told. The ability to stand up and start over is all it count to finally find the romantic relationship one seek.
Stay on your mission guys. You'll never know if games are being played. Maintain your frame and remember that you are the prize. That's the reason why hypergamy and actually exists. Continuously improve and make him ever you date do the same.
The more you love a woman the more she degrade you,while less attention means more attraction.Thats is how women psychology works.Always never hung around with women even if you love her.The more she sees that you are running away or ignoring her the more she fall crazy in you.This psychology applies both men and women.Secondly true lovers never hurt each other physically or mentally.They know the purpose that brought them together but they rest behave differently.
The best way to get women is putting them in the friendzone first. It sounds crazy but it works like magic. Before they put you in the friendzone put them first. Don't chase a relationship, or commitment don't chase sex. Just be friends and enjoy each other's company. Little by little she opens up like a book and she'll tell you how she feels about you Edit: this method won't work for you if you're needy and not fun to be around with. You have to hint her in ways that shows you're interested in her if not she's not gonna know where she stands and that'll make her think you're not serious. So work on your weaknesses and know your strengths.
If I miss out on it, then it wasn't meant to be in the first place. By the way, isn't she also missing out on a good man by playing those petty games? With women, I don't regret at all. One thing I don't do is play those mind games. I don't have that patience at all. Step aside, let room for high value women.
I share the same view too. A friend of mine once accused me of giving up easily. Pushing hard seems like you are lowering your own standard too. I mean, this is a relationship not like seeking for loan.
She’s right. I don’t know why men get butt hurt when a woman plays hard to get. If you really like her, make sure you let her know what your intentions are in the most playful way possible. No serious conversations about how much you like her etc etc. Women are like cats. Let them walk away, let them feel out how life is when they don’t have you, let them keep coming back to you instead of you shutting the door on them completely. I’ve noticed that some genuinely good woman do this too because of underlying insecurities and issues. The one thing that always works is to let her go and whenever she’s back, be playful and non chalant. Works like a charm. They can’t handle that nothing ever bothers you. In terms of walking away for good, do it was some rizz. You make her your backup and start going out with other interesting and secure women. Don’t just shut the door on her as that communicates pettiness - you didn’t get sex with her so she is no longer a human being to you. This is the biggest blow that will make them constantly reframe you in their mind. PS: all this applies only to women who are genuinely kind and good but resorts to playing stupid games when it comes to dating. When we talk about some chic you met through OLD, not worth investing that much time. Best is to walk away.
A woman who wants to be with you, will never play games. She will chase you and call you constantly. Leave her alone if she is not straightforward. A busy man with value have no time for games.
Thanks for the video! PS: in my experience laying your cards on the table to younger women (below 25) is perceived by them as being needy. They appreciate it more when they are older (around 30), because of their biological clock.. Geriatric pregnancy is at age 35 and the guys hitting them up are now less than a couple..(all men want young women, especially successful men). it's not a coincidence myself and many of my friends are bombarded with messages from girls who previously said no to us when they were younger(22-23).. Another point to be aware of is if she starts to play hard to get, it probably means you showed too much interest right from the start.. You wanna show her you have a purpose, lifestyle and options. And you're not in a relationship because you haven't yet met a woman with the qualities you're looking for.. If you do it properly, she'll try to prove you wrong.. Aka she'll come on a few dates with you... From there if you have sex with her and assuming the sex was good, you've turned the tables around.. She'll start acting needy... My question is: where do you find women with character and good moral values?
It all starts with you! You must know the both the non- physical and physical qualities you want before you approach women . You have to be extremely cold and unemotional towards women . You must be prepared to be get rejected by a lot of women who you approach in real life . I don't know what qualities you're looking for but at the baseline is a woman must be co-operative and submissive to your program . Please never lie to women ! Always tell them upfront what you want so you don't waste your time .
I fully agree with you. Some of the girls I went to the same school with and the ones I spent my childhood with them in the community/block are chasing me now. They used to reject me due to being less successful and less successful than others at school and in the community. Now that I am educated, I work and I make much money, they start to hunt me as if I was an animal. What is amazes me is that, I am being appreciated by both women(younger and older). Some of them are asking me for marriage. Unfortunately there is no room in my hear for them. They ignored me in such a way that I felt useless in this world. I have to get married to someone who has not shared any table or stage with me. Many chase the men that they undermined at their younger age, because they have been married for multiple times with a lot of men and the men no longer appreciate them. Their bodies are already dead. So, they find a refuge from their old childhood male friends. 🤣. Greetings from Moz🇲🇿. Portuguese speaking country
@@falaafrica3114 😆 if you want women you can't avoid rejection and dating is a numbers game just like a business . Any business knows they must market their products and the more they do that . Many customers will say no and but the few who buy will make the business successful . It's the same thing with dating and meeting women . You need to develop a thick skin to rejection and that's how you get the women you really want . Life is too short to be afraid of women !
Never chase a woman, just chase your purpose, once you are good at what you do that's it, you just lay your cards on the table and at this point she already knows who you are,your values and she knows she won't look cheap
Jessica it’s so true about the women who play hard to get, she is making sure that she is securing her values and her respect by not making the guy feel that easy coms easy go’s, so she has to put up that defiance until she can prove the guy is genuine ,
Nice tips Jes. I finally got my tough girlfriend to accept me the moment she noticed I took interest in another pretty girl in the same church. So yeah, such a move works like hot knife thru butter 🇳🇬
The more I listen to Jess, the more frustrated I feel with a woman I’m interested but playing games and literally tells she’s keeping her options open. I told her good luck, I’ll have to pull out of that pool of men. Not chasing a woman with baggage and all like that. I’ll pursue you for a short while, but only for a short while. If I see nothing coming out of it I move on. At my age I don’t have time for cat and mouse games. lol too matured for that.
If she is playing hard to get. There is some doubt in her mind. And over time that doubt will not go away. Any type of holding back, is a not interested.
Good video, but I hate games! So with all women I have ever dated, it's the 1st thing I tell them: Pls, no games; I hate them n will walk away; why don't we use the dating to just naturally check each other out... But as u said, some just can't help it. But I always walked... And no regrets. But a good video, especially for the very young men who beginning their relationships.
The best relationships I ever had were the ones that approached me first with their intentions and I lived them so much for their courage and going for what they want.. at the end what matters is happiness not how u achieved it. A moment of true happiness is worth more than a life time if agony in a relationship just for the sake of it. That narrative if a girl gives in easily or makes the first move partially makes her cheap should be corrected in Africa abeg Nobody should be judged for trying to be happy...... But Ur voice e sweet shaaa ooh and the courage u got for biking that monster bike, I'd like to borrow or buy from u if u have some left 😋. Great content and clarity of sound always
Your videos are really helpful , am in my early 20s ,before following you , it was really hard for me to really get this concept of women nature but you really have simplified it for me ,thank you
I really love and agree with most of the ideas in this video, but kinda not inline with a few of what i herd in here. of course i believe a girl might play hard to get either she likes the guy or not. But if the is interested in the guy, game won't be so tough. girl you work so hard to get mostly want to be the boss in a relationship, and want you to keep going on with that energy and might withdraw interest if you don't funny isn't it. One thing is that once it taking a little longer to get her, i just withdraw and if she is interested she would find her way like you said and if she doesn't, i don't care anymore as it's better to date someone who is readily for you rather than your boss. No matter who your are or your status, there is always someone out there for you, someone ready for your or someone with is not willing to play much games with you. and on the other hand, if i approach a girl for the first time and she's so rude, am totally done, as you should respect yourself as a man.
I'm too old for this...bleep - I know!😆 Love the last point, you impersonated the graceful male response perfectly. Ain't nobody got time for this immature...bleep!
Older women also know what men Don't want.. an Older woman. If a woman you like is playing hard to get? Leave her ass right where she is and move on. Women don't play B.S. games with men they are attracted to, Want, Value and Respect. They just Don't. Period.
How is it that the man is the one losing out if the girl is the one playing games ? Isn’t she losing out on him? And him leaving to search for what he deserves, someone who will be honest with him and not try to push a one sided relationship.
@Jessica Os Okay J...will check him out doing my less busy time...keep on the good work 💪👷 appreciate you for all you do and proud to have your kind 👏👏
If a woman really likes you, she will make it easy for you. I enjoyed my relationships from the time I learnt that. To guys, dont go for friendship if that wasnt your intention of approaching her, she will use you for that non-sexual attention whereby you are the shoulder to cry on but will continue to tell you that she doesnt feel your romantically. If she doesnt offer love, walk away, dont go for friendship.
The funny thing is most of these women who play hard to get always ends up with a good for nothing man and when they have hit a brick wall they come back desperate. It happens to my brother and now the woman has two kids from two different men and still single. She shamelessly calls my brother thinking that things might work out.
If she's playing hard to get, because she's keeping her options open, guys do the prudent thing and keep your own options open too. Never assume that any one individual is the absolute candidate; truth is, we all come with some baggage. "You're playing the game, aren't you? Here's the thing with me; if you really aren't interested in an exclusive relationship with me, I'm happy to keep a respectful distance from you, but if you are, then I'd rather we spend our energies getting to know each other, to appreciate our aspirations and boundaries, than play games."
This girl is going cold on me and I told her that she looks moody. It was in the supermarket and there were people close by. But because she is playing hard to get I don't get to see her much and I can't talk to her in private. Anyway I told her she looked moody. She responded very quitely saying that I always have some suggestions and complains. (It was not true and It made no sense. I hardly get to see her and I never text her any complains). She said this so quietly that I couldn't hear. I had to bend down (I am at least 5 inches taller than her) and ask her to repeat. She repeated and I left the place saying it is a peaceful month. (It was the Easter holidays) Did I react well to her testing?
Had this talk with my mum about a lady I am seeing and I can't really place what is happening with us. I think place all my card on the table is what I will do. Thanks alot for this jessica
Wow! You are really something! Always on point with deep insights. I love your voice, your accent and your mastery of the English language. Very proud of you.
@terrell ivey same here...men are not important like they think of themselves! However they choose to stick to the point of not needing women when in actual sense they do - those who have time will listen 👌
With the last point a lot of guys avoid it cos we are afraid of how it could turn out. Some ladies do say no even if they have feelings for you just coz you provided with that option. It's crazy chale
Yessss - the older I get the more I know about myself! And I agree - let me know what you want; your intentions so we can work it out! hahaha; another good content Jess; you rock😃
The Art of "........." a Woman. You fill in that gap. Your FINAL statements are well TAKE NOTE of & Thanks a Trillion times for this video. .This channel deserves subscribers
i think what's been forgotten in all this analysis is the age of the woman in question. Her level of maturity counts in whether she will play games with a love interest or not. Factor that along with the fact also that men do not accept no from a woman as final.
Appreciate the video Jessica thank you so much for the insight. As men I think we battle with this hard to get because sometimes you actually find that she's really not interested in you but because you have money you qualify as a resource holder. Personally I don't like games or hard to get because I feel like you're operating from past experiences with men and I can't hold that against you.
First of al allow every Comment. Second it was the best thing I have wacthed in a long time, I loved your approached. Laying your cards on the table. Thanks a lot
Jessica, I think you are the best female youtuber in Ghana. I like your contents a lot. My friend is from Cameroun but he has learnt some good English. He always tells me that he likes watching and listening to you(Jessica from Ghana). Basing on this video, the statement "you are a king too" has made me smile a lot. Actually as she's playing hard to get, she doesn't realize that the boy/man is a king as she is a (Queen). Thanks a lot. Keep motivating and grooming us.
I have a woman in my life who seems to be playing mind games. She rejected me, so I withdrew my time and attention and started dating other women and then she accused me of playing hard to get. We work together and she's hot and cold with me, more cold than hot. Another female friend at work thinks she's playing games and doing it on purpose and I can't figure out why. I'd greatly appreciate your thoughts on my situation?
Yes & the cure was becoming apathetic. Anytime a woman makes mee feel like she's playing games or if I even feel confused I no longer care about her as a potential partner. Fix is easy enough, establish a boundary & enforce it:)
but most girls r always saying how they never liked a guy at first but ended up falling in love with him. So of they don give any1 a shot or show interest they re gonna miss out too cz we giveup thinking they r uninterested
Hey Jess. Oh My! I just can't explain why I get so excited when I watch or listen to you. I Love you wati. Something has to do with Jessica Os, and I'm literally glittering
Jessica Os speak facts. The only woman speaking facts about relationship to me, besides my mum. There is a woman who acted like she have feeling for me. She feel excited, smile and giggles whenever I'm around her. However when I approach her via text message, she didn't reply and block me in social media. She has male friends as well. I clearly remind myself that I'm not her priority, just an option. If she did have a feeling for me from the beginning, why she didn't honest and instead lying about her feeling. I text her and inform that I move on and never want to bother her anymore. She clearly playing mind games with me and I didn't see my future with her. If she read this, just want you to know that I walk away forever and hope she find a man who fit her games.
if she's playing hard to get move on.... chale the ratio of men to women is 1-10 or more.. it's a numbers game guys.. every no brings you closer to a yes..
Don't play no games with no lady. Say your intentions, ask about her values and find out if they align with yours (super-duper important!!!). Always keep the focus on yourself and your goals KING. Don't make her your priority if she isn't reciprocating. Finally, If she wants you, she will come around. Bless!!
I came here just to make sure this was stated. 👌🏽
Facts
You hit the nail on the head there, bruh. Awesome.
Great comment. Boyz and the new young men on the block - read and apply.
Your comment speaks volumes.. Are you in the UK? We need men like you at our studio
Gents save yourselves time and energy. If she’s truly interested she will never play hard to get. Period.
No lies detected here
That’s true why play silly games
Then you haven’t met some women, some women might really be interested in you but you will never know because they just don’t want to look cheap
💯 💯 💯 Interest is everything when dealing with a lady
U are WRONG!
She's just scratching the surface because she's a women but women play hard to get because of the following reasons
1) She's intimidated by the guy who approaches her and thinks he's a player or she's not on his level .
2) She has medium to low interest
3) She has low self esteem and she just wants attention . That's why women say "we can be friends"
4) She's not that sexually attracted to the guy
5) Her fear from bad relationships in the past is stronger than her desire to get with the guy .
Any guy who approaches and talks to a lot of women in his life knows that if a woman really like you . She will make it easy because she doesn't want to mess the situation up !
Fact
i guess thats some of the many reasons, but she didn't cover all of it--Thats because of the reasons one has to experience it to become aware of it. because women don't communicate as men do, they are usually hiding in the dark about a lot of things
You are right but some put up resistance for their egos sake. The like you talk about could be overwhelming sexual /physical attraction ,the type that awes them so much they can't hide their nervousness.
@@randyeduo Not really , because women are so scared of how people will view them if they just say what they truly mean .
Got it right bro.and let me add one,a lady played hard to get because another guy is in her mind.
***Men must not waste their time by chasing women. Men must always chasse Excellency to build their own life***Let women do whatever they want, but men should first focus on their own life****Man can choose any woman he wants when his life us well built***Let woman chasse you***
That's so true... i support your argurment 100% women don't like broke guys. So its better to focus on getting yourself well equipped, in terms of finance, business wise, and push yourself up on the ladder.
@@shadrachwilson1211 Focus on building yourself for yourself sake and not to necessarily get women.
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Getting a woman is different from building your life except if you want "SUCKERS and VIPERS". What Jessy is say is thinking from a woman point of view to a man. And if you not in for all the "shit" women give then TAKE NOTE of her FINAL statements VERY important.
@@isaacs2539 true
Any man chasing a woman in 2021 has no purpose. Get on your purpose gents 👍🏽
@Jessica Os How about stop spamming people's pages? Get a life, will you?
@@jazzampa Title of the viseo should be “as a Beta, and good luck with that…”
@@jazzampa The probability that that's her responding is next to ZERO!
why do people always make the year a part of it? It's not like all the women in the world change every year on the same schedule. It's more like we get to a point where we notice these things and and think that said things are a new phenomena that just popped up this year.
@@martin1966 when I see my colleagues neither from AMS (university) nor whichever of the real G on TH-cam.....I recognizes y'all 😂😂😂😂😂🙋♂️🤑🏋️♂️
Life's too short to be figuring out why she's playing games. Guys, I would rather spend that time figuring how to level up, improve my physique, looks and most importantly, my finances. Get on your purpose guys. A lady who likes you plays no games, and they are the best type of women to be with.
Having read over 60 comments, this is by far the best which contains the reality of life and greatest wisdom..others' comments are also insightful! Jessica should tell us whether she's in a relationship or married and if not she should tell us why? If marriage is not her interest then she is defacto disqualified from rendering advice on the subject of relationships and marriage.
@@resetinvestments never take a dating &relationship advise from a woman. You'll end up being something they don't want.
She's doing these videos because most of her audience are men and these videos gets her the views
Great one
@@RaymondAinyam Is there any way we can get in touch on WhatsApp or Facebook?
She's doing this video for views , probably she isn't married upon all the advise she has been given
I disagree...women that play games leave them alone quick. That is a degrading level of disrespect.
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Yep. Kevin Samuels says this on his Podcast on TH-cam all the time.
Classic 🤣🤣🤣🤣
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Every chick that played hard to get with me were hiding issues/ problems that would've been instant deal breakers had I'd known upfront.
Dawg who you telling . I had this one chick like that who was addicted to drugs real bad , after I found out , a lot of shit became clear .
@@Malitubee 🤣🤣🤣
I think her advice applies to ideal conditions. Like a dating movie.
9:00 a guy is too persistent
9:24 put more effort
So women want to be modern with their sexuality, careers, attitudes and demands...
but men should stay traditional and play these silly 'catch me if you can' games'?
Not gonna happen! Men hate mixed signals and stupid games just as much as women do.
For men like myself, if a woman takes too long to text back, doesn't call and gives mixed signals, I'm out!
If you're interested in me, SHOW IT.
Don't waste my time.
Exactly
Bro,,come let's rock my boat🤣
You're one confident beast !
Off your mic man
Ooh no.. you gave up to early 😂😂😂😂😂😂
When I was much younger I’ve wondered why girls would play hard to get, and I didn’t want to waste my time with that type. When I got older I did, and when I won a couple of them over I came to a harsh realization that they weren’t really worth the wait in the first place. The perspective you’ve provided is what I had to learn the hard way. Appreciate your insight and I’m sure it can help someone down the road.
bro u are speaking wisdom here
The competition is also stiff with men not only women anymore. If the woman plays hard to get the man quickly shift to another who will definitely play simple to get. cool. Because in the long run both women will exhibit the same purpose in the life that they were destined to fulfill in the relationship they finally end up with. I had a personal experience with a lady who played as such. After three attempts I started ignoring her. Then she attempted to use her body language to bring back my attention without verbally implying it. But them my emotions were already drained for someone else without her knowing. She tried and tried but I just ignored her.
"I'm mad at you, you didn't call me today" is my exit call. I only recall one woman I think was playing hard to get. She dragged it out for so long I just faded away. When I bumped into her again she was cold and angry with me. What? She actually cared enough to be angry? I haven't heard the term "mixed signals" in a long time. Great video Jessica.
Work on yourself,get your money,go to the gym,dress well, smell nice and rock your confidence. No woman will play hard to get on you because she knows there's lots of girls chasing after you, never simp and chase a woman.
6 months ago, For the first time in my life I went straight to tell a lady what I really want from her in the long term. I have known her for years but we just used to talk rarely and randomly, so she was surprised. We connect a lot and talk a lot about work, family and future. We even planned to invest in a business together. However, I made my intentions clear, but she seems to shy away when I bring the subject up. We are both in our 30s... I asked her if she honestly see me as someone she can be with but she never answers. So recently I just decided to pull back. Honestly I just don’t have energy to play game. She may be interested but I just stop being available. Now when she calls we only talk about business.
Women often talk a lot but can't communicate. It's a sign of immaturity on their part
Any updates?
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@@Stevengomez-j6q, nothing new, I have no intention to run after her. I only do business with her but she sometimes text me out of nowhere for confort or advise when facing personal issues.
Never tell a woman you want that you love her...you will lose her. I never tell my dog that i love him yet he follows me everywhere and can even die to defend me.
@@unclemax4257 😂that’s right
🇯🇲 Anecdotally, less is best.
Beautiful women are used to getting men's attention & being pursued.
That "singled out" male who seemingly gives her " no time of the day", she will come wondering " what is it with you, don't you find me appealing?"
As a male, half your work is done and you've gained her respect.
Yeah treat her like a normal human being. Dont put her on a pedestal. Dont treat her like a celebrity because you will be treated like a fan.
Thank you bruh
Bro 💯
The statement you made toward the end of this video...I could use it as my line and lay my cards out on the table when the lady of my dream comes my way. Freaking awesome. Thanks Sis.
What she's achieving on TH-cam is nothing short of true genius and grit.
Jess, you're graciously spot on! The last line is Gold-it shows maturity, what you want and not afraid to lose. Best wishes!!
@Jessica Os Thanks Jess. I will have a look- much appreciated 👍
@@philipaadjei1081 please don't fall for this scam. This one is a fraud. Just look closely
@@ebenezerehun8242 yeah 😂, I did.
Very good advice, thanks.
Relationship isn't easy because the decision doesn't lie with you and you feel powerless when you don't have control.
I had a "queen" waste 3 months taxing my patience with this shit and now she's a never-married 51 year old single mom who's going to spend the rest of her life alone. Congratulations on a job well done, Queen.
Yes!..I totally agree with you in all. ..and that last one got me cutely: *Lay your cards on the table* , that's what works here.. even when you said it, my mind resonated with it. I love folks who are *blunt* . At the end of the day, it is what it is.
Hey Qins, how is it going?
@@relaxingandsoothing7353 am good 🤗
@@qinspride5795 I'm glad 🙏🏼
Thanks, Jessica. The last option about respectfully laying it out how I feel, asking her if she feels that way too will save a bunch of time and help free me up to move on and meet other ladies. Not crazy about dragging this hard to get game.
You are the only vlogger who has offered up this solution.
Now, to wait for an appropriate time to speak with her.
Jessi I think this is one of my best Videos from your Channel , If she Play hard to get , Also Play hard to get carefully , That really Got , Much love to you from Nigeria
I can't believe I pursue a woman of my dreams for 4 years, I did everything guys, EVERYTHING! just to show her how special she is to me, but I ended up giving up in mid 2019. I never see and talked to her eversince.
Love your channel ❤️💯
Think of it as a happy ending. You rather chase and fail than not chase and wonder what would happen.
My history is : i get a girl but became needy due to inexperience. Wonderful and painful time, but a scar of war in my heart. A lesson to be told.
The ability to stand up and start over is all it count to finally find the romantic relationship one seek.
She sometimes laughs at u when she chats with her friends , yeah about that dude who chased for soo long and then I wasted his time 🤣🤣
Stay on your mission guys. You'll never know if games are being played. Maintain your frame and remember that you are the prize. That's the reason why hypergamy and actually exists. Continuously improve and make him ever you date do the same.
It's not about playing hard to get... It's knowing if you have chemistry from the start and being honest with each other...
100%
The more you love a woman the more she degrade you,while less attention means more attraction.Thats is how women psychology works.Always never hung around with women even if you love her.The more she sees that you are running away or ignoring her the more she fall crazy in you.This psychology applies both men and women.Secondly true lovers never hurt each other physically or mentally.They know the purpose that brought them together but they rest behave differently.
This comment is 1000x more useful than the video
The best way to get women is putting them in the friendzone first. It sounds crazy but it works like magic. Before they put you in the friendzone put them first. Don't chase a relationship, or commitment don't chase sex. Just be friends and enjoy each other's company. Little by little she opens up like a book and she'll tell you how she feels about you
Edit: this method won't work for you if you're needy and not fun to be around with. You have to hint her in ways that shows you're interested in her if not she's not gonna know where she stands and that'll make her think you're not serious. So work on your weaknesses and know your strengths.
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While you doing that she getting her gutts blown out by another dude
@@Shadow_Blazer So? Why do you care about that?
Wow I like the way she breaks it down like she is in control of every single word come out her mouth. Thanks Jessica.
If I miss out on it, then it wasn't meant to be in the first place. By the way, isn't she also missing out on a good man by playing those petty games? With women, I don't regret at all. One thing I don't do is play those mind games. I don't have that patience at all. Step aside, let room for high value women.
😊 same mentality here!
Facts💯
Facts
I share the same view too. A friend of mine once accused me of giving up easily. Pushing hard seems like you are lowering your own standard too. I mean, this is a relationship not like seeking for loan.
Most men have 'woken up' and are placing high value on their lives, time and dare I say, income. No more games.
She’s right. I don’t know why men get butt hurt when a woman plays hard to get. If you really like her, make sure you let her know what your intentions are in the most playful way possible. No serious conversations about how much you like her etc etc. Women are like cats. Let them walk away, let them feel out how life is when they don’t have you, let them keep coming back to you instead of you shutting the door on them completely. I’ve noticed that some genuinely good woman do this too because of underlying insecurities and issues. The one thing that always works is to let her go and whenever she’s back, be playful and non chalant. Works like a charm. They can’t handle that nothing ever bothers you. In terms of walking away for good, do it was some rizz. You make her your backup and start going out with other interesting and secure women. Don’t just shut the door on her as that communicates pettiness - you didn’t get sex with her so she is no longer a human being to you. This is the biggest blow that will make them constantly reframe you in their mind. PS: all this applies only to women who are genuinely kind and good but resorts to playing stupid games when it comes to dating. When we talk about some chic you met through OLD, not worth investing that much time. Best is to walk away.
A woman who wants to be with you, will never play games. She will chase you and call you constantly. Leave her alone if she is not straightforward. A busy man with value have no time for games.
Thanks for the video!
PS: in my experience laying your cards on the table to younger women (below 25) is perceived by them as being needy. They appreciate it more when they are older (around 30), because of their biological clock.. Geriatric pregnancy is at age 35 and the guys hitting them up are now less than a couple..(all men want young women, especially successful men). it's not a coincidence myself and many of my friends are bombarded with messages from girls who previously said no to us when they were younger(22-23)..
Another point to be aware of is if she starts to play hard to get, it probably means you showed too much interest right from the start.. You wanna show her you have a purpose, lifestyle and options. And you're not in a relationship because you haven't yet met a woman with the qualities you're looking for.. If you do it properly, she'll try to prove you wrong.. Aka she'll come on a few dates with you... From there if you have sex with her and assuming the sex was good, you've turned the tables around.. She'll start acting needy...
My question is: where do you find women with character and good moral values?
It all starts with you! You must know the both the non- physical and physical qualities you want before you approach women . You have to be extremely cold and unemotional towards women . You must be prepared to be get rejected by a lot of women who you approach in real life . I don't know what qualities you're looking for but at the baseline is a woman must be co-operative and submissive to your program . Please never lie to women ! Always tell them upfront what you want so you don't waste your time .
I fully agree with you. Some of the girls I went to the same school with and the ones I spent my childhood with them in the community/block are chasing me now. They used to reject me due to being less successful and less successful than others at school and in the community. Now that I am educated, I work and I make much money, they start to hunt me as if I was an animal. What is amazes me is that, I am being appreciated by both women(younger and older). Some of them are asking me for marriage. Unfortunately there is no room in my hear for them. They ignored me in such a way that I felt useless in this world. I have to get married to someone who has not shared any table or stage with me.
Many chase the men that they undermined at their younger age, because they have been married for multiple times with a lot of men and the men no longer appreciate them. Their bodies are already dead. So, they find a refuge from their old childhood male friends. 🤣.
Greetings from Moz🇲🇿. Portuguese speaking country
@@falaafrica3114 Never take them back because if you do they will not respect you!
@@Ben256MB I shall never do that in my life. I have been rejected. It is enough
@@falaafrica3114 😆 if you want women you can't avoid rejection and dating is a numbers game just like a business . Any business knows they must market their products and the more they do that . Many customers will say no and but the few who buy will make the business successful . It's the same thing with dating and meeting women . You need to develop a thick skin to rejection and that's how you get the women you really want .
Life is too short to be afraid of women !
Never chase a woman, just chase your purpose, once you are good at what you do that's it, you just lay your cards on the table and at this point she already knows who you are,your values and she knows she won't look cheap
Jessica it’s so true about the women who play hard to get, she is making sure that she is securing her values and her respect by not making the guy feel that easy coms easy go’s, so she has to put up that defiance until she can prove the guy is genuine ,
Okay now I know why am single coz I out grew the games 🤣 You are sister I never had. So needed this perspective.
Nice tips Jes. I finally got my tough girlfriend to accept me the moment she noticed I took interest in another pretty girl in the same church. So yeah, such a move works like hot knife thru butter 🇳🇬
"Women wants everything except the responsibilities that comes with it"
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-Kelvin Samuels-
Human nature
@Youth Finance SCAM!!!!
Kelvin Samuel talk is crap....always bashing women
@@mryoung205 you are part of the problem
The more I listen to Jess, the more frustrated I feel with a woman I’m interested but playing games and literally tells she’s keeping her options open. I told her good luck, I’ll have to pull out of that pool of men. Not chasing a woman with baggage and all like that. I’ll pursue you for a short while, but only for a short while. If I see nothing coming out of it I move on. At my age I don’t have time for cat and mouse games. lol too matured for that.
All this video did was reinforce what I already knew. But I'll give you your due praise, this advise is pretty accurate
Jess has my likes... many of my mysteries about women have finally been answered thru most videos I have watched, thumbs up!!!
Love the “lay your cards on the table talk” felt so real
If she is playing hard to get. There is some doubt in her mind. And over time that doubt will not go away. Any type of holding back, is a not interested.
I think you spoke to me today, I just came back from a date and things didn’t go well. Lol. I’m not hurt though. Just happy I found this channel !
Good video, but I hate games! So with all women I have ever dated, it's the 1st thing I tell them: Pls, no games; I hate them n will walk away; why don't we use the dating to just naturally check each other out...
But as u said, some just can't help it. But I always walked... And no regrets.
But a good video, especially for the very young men who beginning their relationships.
The best relationships I ever had were the ones that approached me first with their intentions and I lived them so much for their courage and going for what they want.. at the end what matters is happiness not how u achieved it. A moment of true happiness is worth more than a life time if agony in a relationship just for the sake of it. That narrative if a girl gives in easily or makes the first move partially makes her cheap should be corrected in Africa abeg
Nobody should be judged for trying to be happy......
But Ur voice e sweet shaaa ooh and the courage u got for biking that monster bike, I'd like to borrow or buy from u if u have some left 😋. Great content and clarity of sound always
Each time I tune in, I learn a lot. Thank you sisi🙏
Your videos are really helpful , am in my early 20s ,before following you , it was really hard for me to really get this concept of women nature but you really have simplified it for me ,thank you
Alot of men (myself included) lose interest quick if a female comes with some negative/confusing ass energy!
I really love and agree with most of the ideas in this video, but kinda not inline with a few of what i herd in here. of course i believe a girl might play hard to get either she likes the guy or not.
But if the is interested in the guy, game won't be so tough. girl you work so hard to get mostly want to be the boss in a relationship, and want you to keep going on with that energy and might withdraw interest if you don't funny isn't it.
One thing is that once it taking a little longer to get her, i just withdraw and if she is interested she would find her way like you said and if she doesn't, i don't care anymore as it's better to date someone who is readily for you rather than your boss.
No matter who your are or your status, there is always someone out there for you, someone ready for your or someone with is not willing to play much games with you.
and on the other hand, if i approach a girl for the first time and she's so rude, am totally done, as you should respect yourself as a man.
Jessica is a great tutor! We will need a little booklet on nuggets of these. It would really help.
I'm too old for this...bleep - I know!😆
Love the last point, you impersonated the graceful male response perfectly.
Ain't nobody got time for this immature...bleep!
“The older a woman gets, the more she knows what she wants”…Very true👏👏😍
Oh yes
True
Indeed
Sad part men love young women. Older women and single have been run through too much. Also a result of not listening to their men.
Older women also know what men Don't want.. an Older woman.
If a woman you like is playing hard to get? Leave her ass right where she is and move on.
Women don't play B.S. games with men they are attracted to, Want, Value and Respect. They just Don't.
Period.
Jessi, I can't stop listening to you , I am paying for your voice. Moreso, your topics are very brief and to the point
Some women have big egos no matter what you do or how much you pursue they won't reciprocate. It's not strategy it's mental illness
🤣...guy
One doctor told me 50 % of people has mental illness and another said 75% so its going to be hard out there lol
How is it that the man is the one losing out if the girl is the one playing games ? Isn’t she losing out on him? And him leaving to search for what he deserves, someone who will be honest with him and not try to push a one sided relationship.
Just like listening and watching your videos..most of it are often on point..thanks Jessica for the sensitization 🙏🙏
@Jessica Os Okay J...will check him out doing my less busy time...keep on the good work 💪👷 appreciate you for all you do and proud to have your kind 👏👏
If a woman really likes you, she will make it easy for you. I enjoyed my relationships from the time I learnt that. To guys, dont go for friendship if that wasnt your intention of approaching her, she will use you for that non-sexual attention whereby you are the shoulder to cry on but will continue to tell you that she doesnt feel your romantically. If she doesnt offer love, walk away, dont go for friendship.
Exactly
Thank you Jessie
I always learnt a lot whenever I watch your videos
one day I will have this best video and audio quality with authentic content, well done J Os
Amen. It will happen soon
@@JessicaOS How can I reach you strictly business
The funny thing is most of these women who play hard to get always ends up with a good for nothing man and when they have hit a brick wall they come back desperate. It happens to my brother and now the woman has two kids from two different men and still single. She shamelessly calls my brother thinking that things might work out.
Then your bro will be a simp to accept her back
I hope your bro moved on
She made her bed..... She can lay in it.
😂😂😂
If she's playing hard to get, because she's keeping her options open, guys do the prudent thing and keep your own options open too. Never assume that any one individual is the absolute candidate; truth is, we all come with some baggage.
"You're playing the game, aren't you? Here's the thing with me; if you really aren't interested in an exclusive relationship with me, I'm happy to keep a respectful distance from you, but if you are, then I'd rather we spend our energies getting to know each other, to appreciate our aspirations and boundaries, than play games."
@Jessica Os cryptocurrencies are indeed an enigma. They've become even more so in recent months; vehicles which require thorough researching, yes.
Why should a man make a woman prize asset? Guys, focus on you and forget going after these broke ladies
This girl is going cold on me and I told her that she looks moody.
It was in the supermarket and there were people close by. But because she is playing hard to get I don't get to see her much and I can't talk to her in private.
Anyway I told her she looked moody. She responded very quitely saying that I always have some suggestions and complains. (It was not true and It made no sense. I hardly get to see her and I never text her any complains).
She said this so quietly that I couldn't hear. I had to bend down (I am at least 5 inches taller than her) and ask her to repeat.
She repeated and I left the place saying it is a peaceful month. (It was the Easter holidays)
Did I react well to her testing?
oh my am a King too ....thank you for a great talk today love it
Had this talk with my mum about a lady I am seeing and I can't really place what is happening with us. I think place all my card on the table is what I will do. Thanks alot for this jessica
Marvellous! 👌
Thank you, Jess.🙏.
Your Wonderful😇.
❤
Thank you Jess! This was insightful.
Wow! You are really something! Always on point with deep insights. I love your voice, your accent and your mastery of the English language. Very proud of you.
The men really need their notebooks and pens....these are are very true and valid points 🔥. Good job Jessica ♥️
Thanks sis
@@JessicaOS 🙏🤩
Notebooks for this??? 😂😂😂😂 Notebooks to take notes on being a simp and being the beta bucks 😂😂😂😂 .no thank you
This whole thing doesn't make sense , very stressful
@terrell ivey same here...men are not important like they think of themselves! However they choose to stick to the point of not needing women when in actual sense they do - those who have time will listen 👌
With the last point a lot of guys avoid it cos we are afraid of how it could turn out. Some ladies do say no even if they have feelings for you just coz you provided with that option. It's crazy chale
Yessss - the older I get the more I know about myself! And I agree - let me know what you want; your intentions so we can work it out! hahaha; another good content Jess; you rock😃
@Jessica Os thank you, will await to hear from you
The Art of "........." a Woman. You fill in that gap. Your FINAL statements are well TAKE NOTE of & Thanks a Trillion times for this video. .This channel deserves subscribers
Very insightful and enlightening. Thank you.
I really like this video. Thank you very much Jessica.
I'm new on this channel and I'm loving every bit of it! Love from Uganda
Welcome 🇺🇬
Oh my goodness,you’re so superbly very well spoken-i love it!
Why should finding love be subject to all these games! It's soooo tiring
It’s simple, “because this present world is corrupt”.
Hello!
Because of the players and heartbreakers
So tiring and fucking stressful
i think what's been forgotten in all this analysis is the age of the woman in question. Her level of maturity counts in whether she will play games with a love interest or not. Factor that along with the fact also that men do not accept no from a woman as final.
Appreciate the video Jessica thank you so much for the insight. As men I think we battle with this hard to get because sometimes you actually find that she's really not interested in you but because you have money you qualify as a resource holder. Personally I don't like games or hard to get because I feel like you're operating from past experiences with men and I can't hold that against you.
Im in a situation now . Im not really tripping because I love the chase. Game on.
First of al allow every Comment. Second it was the best thing I have wacthed in a long time, I loved your approached. Laying your cards on the table. Thanks a lot
"Why women play hard to get with you and what to do when that happens"
Just walk away.
Very simple: walk away and build your own future.
👊🏾...my man
True lol
😂😂😂
Yeah walk away don't waste your fucking time
Jessica, I think you are the best female youtuber in Ghana.
I like your contents a lot. My friend is from Cameroun but he has learnt some good English. He always tells me that he likes watching and listening to you(Jessica from Ghana).
Basing on this video, the statement "you are a king too" has made me smile a lot. Actually as she's playing hard to get, she doesn't realize that the boy/man is a king as she is a (Queen).
Thanks a lot. Keep motivating and grooming us.
I have a woman in my life who seems to be playing mind games. She rejected me, so I withdrew my time and attention and started dating other women and then she accused me of playing hard to get. We work together and she's hot and cold with me, more cold than hot. Another female friend at work thinks she's playing games and doing it on purpose and I can't figure out why. I'd greatly appreciate your thoughts on my situation?
Sis, you are very articulate and I appreciate that.
I don't have patience at all.. so if it takes more than a week and u still dragging things I move.
A week ! Bruh you have time ! If you don't return me text or call with 48 hours I'm done . There's too many single women out here to wait a week !
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Hello, hello Jessica, I love the final part, the summary, lay all your cards on the table😂😂
Yes & the cure was becoming apathetic. Anytime a woman makes mee feel like she's playing games or if I even feel confused I no longer care about her as a potential partner. Fix is easy enough, establish a boundary & enforce it:)
but most girls r always saying how they never liked a guy at first but ended up falling in love with him. So of they don give any1 a shot or show interest they re gonna miss out too cz we giveup thinking they r uninterested
Hey Jess. Oh My! I just can't explain why I get so excited when I watch or listen to you. I Love you wati. Something has to do with Jessica Os, and I'm literally glittering
Awwww
Jessica Os speak facts. The only woman speaking facts about relationship to me, besides my mum.
There is a woman who acted like she have feeling for me. She feel excited, smile and giggles whenever I'm around her. However when I approach her via text message, she didn't reply and block me in social media.
She has male friends as well. I clearly remind myself that I'm not her priority, just an option. If she did have a feeling for me from the beginning, why she didn't honest and instead lying about her feeling.
I text her and inform that I move on and never want to bother her anymore. She clearly playing mind games with me and I didn't see my future with her.
If she read this, just want you to know that I walk away forever and hope she find a man who fit her games.
Wow Jessica, most of the things you said really make sense.Thank you 🙏🏽 I'll keep in mind some of the steps you mentioned.
These knowledge are also useful in an existing relationship as well. Thanks Jessica.
So how does the guy play along to all these games and not turn out to be a simp to the ladies? Cuz I know being a simp is also a turnoff to them
You will be put in the simp zone 😂😂😂😂
Well, sir, don't play the game! Focus on your own game: Yourself! Your life's purpose!
Thank you very much for the advices
if she's playing hard to get move on.... chale the ratio of men to women is 1-10 or more.. it's a numbers game guys.. every no brings you closer to a yes..
Lol
Facts
Good one, the last point helped me in getting my dream lady. Keep up the good work jessica.
The only thing I give my full commitment and attention to is my BEANS and FRIED PLANTAIN during lunch😂😊😎
I feel you bro, I'm more concerned with my food 😂 Women can not give me headache 😂😂
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I caught myself watching and listening to all the videos, I really like you advices
Yes, this video is both insightful and helpful. Thank you, Jessica.