Exactly, my ex dumped me, I told him thank you for your time and I wish you the best. He hasn’t heard from me in 3 months and won’t hear at all. Not interested anymore after that.
Every time i started to feel bad and depressed i come to listen your videos and i feel better... its been 8 days ..long 8 days how we broke up.. i still feel down but your videos are giving me light and hope. Hope that NC rule will work.. i miss my ex so very much..
@@philipsmith4564 nop.. 40 days since we broke up,., and i am in NC.. and have no plan to break KC at all i feel little bit better , but it is still far away from good... :(
The comment section of Coach Lee's videos is such a beautiful place. People sharing the same agony. I always spend a good amount of time reading the comments whenever I watch coach's videos. Wishing you all a quicker and lasting recovery from this trauma.
Andre porcelli - no this is good advice. Let them go. There are 70 billion people on this planet...and not a single one of them is meant to fill that one special spot in your heart. Did you not listen to coach lees video? Let your ex go, pursue self love and other romantic interests. If your ex comes back great, if not then you move on
I agree. If someone leaves you, not in the middle of an argument, angry, or something like that, then it means that person planned it, wanted it, wished for it, and did it. And if he/she did it, it means that he/she just doesn't love you anymore, for whatever the reason. If someone doesn't love you, then let him/her go and never talk to that person, ever again, just shut up forever. Not for some period of time. Forever. Don't talk, don't look, don't show up.. Vanish.
The best thing I realized that if you do no contact and do it not to get them back but, to move on and if they come back then great, if not that’s ok too. It really helped me forgive them and myself, accept the breakup and get back out there and have more fun in my life. I feel amazing. Be strong. Accept. Get yourself and your confidence back. Don’t obsess.
@@shamainedania4495 relief period was like a week, I was doing alright for like 4 weeks,sent the odd message to her, not much back, wasn't too bothered by it, thought just wait and we'll sort it out. It was when I seen she had a new bf after a month that it hit me and I was in pieces. I guess that's when I realised I really had lost her.
@@vigneshwaranramesh4320 my situation is a little more complicated, but I do consider myself the dumper, and I'm a female. It's been 32 days, I count, and I have missed him since the first day. I tried to contact, nothing, so I let it be. I'm not going to harass or bother him. But it hurts so much, I regret it so much, and I'm here on new years at 1 am trying to find some peace of mind. So yeah. It sucks for us too. And I don't wanna move on. Not yet.
Success!!!! 36 days of No Contact and he just reached out. I mean ZERO contact. I don't even post on social media. I'm very busy so I just disappeared and quite naturally. I just needed uninterrupted silence to rebalance and heal. We have been together for 6 years and we separated just recently, June 1st. He reached out to me this afternoon pouring his heart out. Thank you for your guidance and reassurance.
@@Whatsthedealio1977 I ended things. No, neither of us were seeing anyone. We were ultimately not on the same page and what I want my future to look like was very different from his. Gotta be on the same page. Wishing you the best. Stay strong, you'll get through this.
@@Whatsthedealio1977not sure if my reply went through. I ended things a few months after. We were not seeing others during the break. He still tries to call and text, but it's only the ego that doesn't want to fully let go. I no longer answer because it only opens a door to repeating a cycle that I do not want to repeat. It's draining, unnecessarily stressful and honestly, health comes first. Ultimately, we simply want different things. I wish you the best. Stay strong, you'll get through this.
R Kim nah i let it go and moved on. In a much better place now after all of it. I joined the army and decided I was worth more than trying to win someone else over when I just needed to love myself
@@Rebeccachazzy u are indeed a strong woman...keep going girl....there will be someone out there..who are waiting for ur love....good luck....and thank u so much for ur answer😊
First day is not as hard as the 3rd to 4th days of NC. I really had to arrest myself not to text. I also decided since yesterday to quit checking her social media updates. Hard but doable
TrueLies after a month it feels like they don’t care to talk or even to question why we stopped talking to them after a month I just want to give up and cry
I dont know if your gonna see this but thanks. I've been watching for 3 days straight. And you delivered alot of hard truths that left me sobbing and broken. HOWEVER. I listened again and again until that hard pill was a bit easier to swallow. You are so right. In everything.
My ex left me for his high school girl friend he has not seen since 1988. We had a good strong 15 year relationship I thought . He been with her 2 months now . I'm a ghost now using the NCR . Need some encouraging words . Thanks
@@myrtlejennings2209 I'm so sorry to hear how he treated you, was there signs? I know it's hard right now but I believe in the NCR will help you in the long term stay strong
It's been 41 days without contact and I'm still working. on myself and I believe in everything you say, you help me a lot to push through all this, thank you
I think sometimes we dont necessarily miss our ex, we are just upset at how the break up happened. I was in a one year relationship with a girl and I ended up dropping the ball and the relationship ended. The guilt and shame of messing up is what eats me up inside. Not so much losing the person.
They do come back at some point, all my ex's tried to reach out, some brake up i had was terrible, sad, shame, i was suprised one of my ex who dumped me so bad and called me names, we met coincindentally, he was happy ,gave me huge smile hope i was going to say hi and hugged him, i passed him like have never met him before, right now as im doing no contact rule, two of my ex's contacted me, one found me in IG yesterday, remember with him, we had only two day time together, but i realised he had along way to go, i blocked him, changed my number, now he's begging wants to meet me and very sorry for his behaviour, another one ghosted me for a month, i blocked him for two months, i contacted him, hes been begging me for 7 months now, i agreed to meet him, but later cancelled, he has to learn from this, he's been crying ,begging, calling but have never picked his phone, simply because i want face to face meeting and talk, now two of my ex's are back, honestly im taking the two guys back, will start slowly without being needy or bombered them with text, the othrr HE-goat should go to hell and never come back...
_ BUDDHA _ In my opinion you told her what you had to say & she probably thinks you'll continue to chase her.Don't chase her,don't contact her & honestly the best way for a person to notice your absence or appreciate you is to "REMOVE" yourself completely.If she's not trying than what's the point? I'm a woman & it works when a man goes no contact,try it.....
I don't care if he's thinking about me or not. He dumped me! I cried a river for a week then realized that he's a monster. I am happy now being single! Yes! You are right Sir! I don't want to waste my time for a guy who doesn't care.
Whether she is thinking about me or not, God is, and he will deliver to her door the same receipe she delivered to me many years ago, which pushed me into depression!
Same. Even when there’s a line out the door at work and I’ve got my fake, smiley costumer service face on, sometimes something about my ex will run across my mind and that pang in my heart happens.
Let me tell you all my tragic story me and my x were together 6 wonderful years , one gorgeous day she told me, I love u but I have 2 let u go . I'm broken crying like an ugly baby calling her like crazy ,stocking her in Instagram and snapchat she told me to leave her alone , I begged and pleaded NOTHING worked then she found a new tall gorgeous boyfriend and I was dying inside. I started no contact , days weeks months pass thinking of her alone depressed until one day I meet a beautifull lady in my brothers party we talk for hours and started to go out dating having fun 😋, after 8 months my ex aka the wicked witch from the north came back into my life but I didnt live her anymore I was in Love w someone new
Amazing how you touched on the dopamine and seratonin connection from a scientifically proven standpoint. I believe you are the first person I’ve heard mention the chemicals in the brain that make us feel these things and keep thinking about them. It explains all the feelings of loss and ‘withdrawal’ symptoms in NC just as if giving up a drug. Great video explanation that a lot of people do not realize. A lot of this experience is as you said ‘all in the mind’.
I am more upset that I tolerated being disrespected and bread crumbed . Was treated like crap. Though I miss the illusion I had …. Now I’m focused on me and not a cold and disrespectful , selfish person
I always seem to be breaking up with my partner, then we end up back together because we can't leave each other alone ( so my friend tells me ) .....and so the merry-go-round continues ... At my lowest ive binge watched breakup videos but I always work my way back to coach lee as EVERYTHING he says rings through ..coach lee , your the best in the business, the holy grail , the most perceptive of anyone i try to take comfort from ....thank you so much in my darkest days , you stop me from going under !!!
How has it panned out? I’ve had a similar relationship but this year it’s been minimal monthly contact - tomorrow is our 5th year anniversary I will ask her to marry me when I next see her
It was so painfull to leave you but i couldnt stand the fact that you dont feel the same as i do. You probably wont read this but i will allways love you. Please dont hate me.
Coach Lee bringing the truth with no BS yet again. Thank god I'm wired to move on (even if i privately dwell on exes or i obviously wouldn't be watching this) but if you're looking for the tools to deal with a breakup he's got them. It's nice to see someone who's in this game to genuinely help
Your videos are always so informative, logical and really calming, but also thought provoking and very helpful to my situation, so thank you yet again!
Folks, I cannot stress more: Follow coach lee NC rule. And focus in yourself meanwhile. It is 100% sure you are going to get over it and if it in start you almost dont believe it but yes, it will pass. It will pass.
I was sure everything was lost. My ex told me she was done and had been done for a while. She was tired of the arguing we had two stepchildren and a child and she felt things were unhealthy for the kids. I tried no contact, but I broke down and bought coach Lee's program. Less than $100, and lots of videos later, I have my fiance back, my kids back, my home back, my self-respect back, and peace and love back in my life. Listen to Coach Lee, buy the program. Save what you had. Love is priceless.
I have just been broken up with Coach Lee (2 days), it does hurt because I really liked her.... I feel so much better in myself after listening to your videos... NO CONTACT... !!! Thank you so much.
Thank you so much for your existence. My wife after six months of cheating finally confessed that she is sleeping with a scumbag. My world is upside down at the moment. ( 23 years we put into each other) your videos are the freshest water after being robbed in the middle of the desert.
Damn man..... What's wrong with these women? Sorry this happened to you... My fiance of 7 years dumped my ass through text 57 days ago... I instantly went no contact and said "okay bye"..... I'm going through it just like you and it ain't no picnic..... Its actually quite sad...... I thought we would be together forever. Boy was I wrong.
TheSeattlegreen hang in there man. From this point on it will only get better I promise. And if you play your cards right... great things will soon start happening to you.... I have great respect for females but none for cheaters
Coach Lee is the best....PERIOD!!! Just the sound of his voice and reassurance with the correct key steps has made this break up so much easier on me 3 weeks later. I listen to them over and over, Im just starting no contact 3 weeks late due to us living together until last night and me begging for awhile. Luckly i know why her attraction faded in me, I was very confident when i saw her last night, caught her checking me out and wouldn't look me in the eyes. I put 12 pounds of muscle on, I wasn't the same insecure/needy guy she dumped after 3 years together and i owe it to your knowledge and courses. The only thing i still don't understand is that she never pulled away? Still passionate sex life, told me night before how much she loved me and even kissed me an hour before she did it? It's not another guy and I didn't break a cardinal sin so still confused on if she really wants this or if its some kinda test?
Coach you are 24 carat gold... You are awesome... In India we called guru... You are, a real guru.. ( teacher) I love you....i cry a lot coach.... She dump me
Yes this coach is the best! 🥰 that’s exactly what I’ve been doing ! Boosting up my education and having fun w my healthy life style .. I’ve started hiking too. He even went to the same area to hike with his ex rebound now lol.. I once asked him if he had the tendency to go back to his exes and said no! Such a lie ! I starting let go. Thanks for ALL THESE CLIPS !
I feel like coach Lee get your ex back is more like get yourself back. Cause most people in the comments don’t get him or her back with no contact. They just end up with the realization they’re enough and could move on. Couch Lee is just helping by comforting you and giving closure by answering unanswered questions.
Coach Lee I want to take this time to thank you because your words are really helping. But I find myself at night and in the morning where I really miss her because I’m not falling asleep next to her or waking up next to her. But that statement you made about control being an illusion was just mind blowing 👌🏼
That's how I feel right now I wake up in the morning and I have an immediate sense of dread that she isn't with me and it feels like a hangover sometimes I wonder if she feels the same way it's been 2 days since she called me on the phone and six days since she wanted to break up
This is really helpful as I am obsessing over my ex. And my pastor and anyone else that wants to help me will say to not focus on the ex. But actual specific things to do are what I'm looking for and that one minute that's not thinking and trying to build it up. Thank you so much for that Coach Lee. And thank you for the fact that you're not judgmental on if we want to go back with our ex or not. My heart wants what it wants. The more videos I watch and the more I reflect the more I feel like I'm not a 100% sure I would take my ex back. So much depends on my ex's attitude so it's easy to get scared that the attitude won't be where it needs to be.
To me you have been the best medicine- Coach Lee. In particular, what concerns my mental situation. You are like a conditioner on my wounds. You are a real comfort in my grief. I feel revitalized every time I hear the sessions'of yours. Therefore, thanks is a very poor word. You are outstanding Mr. Lee and a really good person. I've said it before, but say it again. May God reward people like you. People like you who reaches out to those who have got their hearts broken.You must know that you have really done so much for me. I will always think of you in my prayers. You are the most beautiful tree in the grove. THANKS. FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART....
I have watched and rewatched most if not all of your about “ex” coaching to remind me to carry on my “No Contact” strategy. Watched this video about 8 hours ago, get tired and watched something else “crime documentaries” just to distract myself from thinking about my “ex”. While watching the documentaries, my other phone notify me of a message from this so called “ex” who still calls me his baby .... I didn’t really know what to text back when he texted me some complimentary text and a couple of kisses and hearty hearty. He was greeting me a happy new year and asked me if how I am. I answered from being cold like “how are you?” And he answered me unconvincing answer. I even asked him if he is “lying or making things up again”... I think i killed it, i have no regrets. Btw, I did the “No Contacts” principles from you coach. It really works.
Coach Lee. My ex ignored my text for two weeks I freaked out on him and apologized later(because I feared losing him). But then when I asked for closure he said that I didnt do anything and in fact he was busy with his own life and his problem. I told him I will give him space and then I found your channel and now employing No contact. So what I want to say is thank you coach. For everything, really
How you deal with being dumped depends entirely on the circumstances around it. If you're able to just move on and focus on improving yourself, it wasn't that tough of a breakup. But if they duped you into trusting them and believing that they cared about you, only to leave you with no warning whatsoever for a guy they met the week before during what they knew was a critical time of your life, then only an inhuman monster could carry on and focus on themselves. And of course, if they left you FOR another guy, then they aren't thinking about you because they're too busy having fun with him.
About to take a walk now with NO ex videos!! Also, back to school tomorrow for my ex and me. I’m a teacher. He’s a principal. Different districts. Definitely find a new challenge, hobby or interest!! 💗
I can't get enough of how SIMPLE but DILIGENT plus at the same time STRAIGHT FORWARD you are. We drive ourselves Crazy over things so Stupid and meaningless. Thank God 4ur existence ✨ #Strongwords #Guidence #Justagreatdude
When coaches said focus on yourself I use to cry more . And said how could I do that. then I start thinking about that’s the right thing because if u don’t and she take you back u don’t want to look a mess u want she to said omg you look great !
My ex just left me saying with teary eyes that he really likes me but am not the one, that was just a week ago. He did this just before his business trip so he won’t need to see me for a week I think , as we work for a same company ( different departments) Thanks to Lee, I managed to implement no contact. He messaged me once. I started going to gym, talking to HR about my career progression, and stop drinking. Feeling so much better. Already lost 1kg!! I bought a few amazing dresses and feeling beautiful again. I think am ok whatever happens to us as I know it’s his loss, not mine if he is going to leave me completely. Thanks Lee! I love your videos. Without you, I would have become crazy woman. Am so calm now. I will be ok whichever because I really love him and although he said am not the one, I know what we had was so real.
do no contact men get confused give him the space they want what they cant have sit back and watch it turn around I have had this with 3 guys in the last 5 years strange behaviour
You miss the memories and the connection you had with them especially if they were your best friend. And if you think you'll never seem them it's all you have left to hold on to.
no contact means blocking your phone , social media , avoid places you might run into them ......most of the time if it goes over a month of two you find out you really weren't meant to be together anyway
It’s really important to have a purpose. Never make women your priority in life. It took me a few weeks but I don’t even want my ex back. I’m no ones plan B, she used me for $ too
I really learned a lot from this video, great information. It's amazing to think how much the heart yearns to heal & the mind still hopes . There's no doubt each person thinks about each other in no contact, there will always be a connection or you wouldn't have invested so much into the relationship, especially when marriage plans were made. Life ....I have found is a daily learning process & relationships take work on both sides but you can't be the only one putting in the effort.Follow your heart But never ignore your gut !!!! Great Video👍
Yes, always follow your gut instinct, it will save you a lot of heartache, this I know from experience. 17 months of my time invested with promises of anything I could ever dream of but it was all BS. Gut kept warning me. I have my power back after 2 weeks of NC and I don’t want him back now because I see it for what it was, based on lies but I am not bitter, honest 😂. Each experience in life makes us stronger once our heads start ruling our hearts. I do hope you are ok now and focusing on loving yourself. Blessings, Karen, UK.
I just put myself on a dating site. I noticed he's on there too. Our profiles match but I'm not "viewing" him (it would show if I viewed him). Now he knows I'm putting myself out there, meeting other (better) men that he insisted I deserve. I miss him and I wish things were different but I have to move forward.
Thanks your the best out there on TH-cam, I watched nearly all your videos, you helped me tremendously.. I watch an episode every night when I went to sleep .. your knowledge enlightened me ..
I don't know if I agree. If they are the type that loves 'shiny new things' every now and then and don't stay committed to anything for long, they won't be thinking of the last but the next....
AD J I think this doesn’t apply to every case. And believe me, you are better without those who loves “ shiny new things”. You want someone who treats you right, commit to you, and make you feel special.
Been in nc for a lil over a week. She told me that ahe found some else. He's more stable, knows what he wants & has more to offer. My heart Literally exploded. Cuz we were working on rebuilding the relationship..
My ex and I talked about the future, hell we even had the names for our kids picked out and he broke up with me the day after the anniversary of my grandfathers death, the next day after the break up he came to pick up his stuff and asked for a hug, then he allowed me to talk and he admitted that he has deleted pictures of us and I told him goodbye, I went into my house and looked outside and he was crying on his truck
One thing ive learnt with what im going through is the longer you beg and try to restore the relationship the longer amount of time you give your ex to move on. I wish i did it right straight away and avoided so much added pain
Who knew that when my friend, lover and fiance of 7 years when she said she loved me everyday meant she would eventually dump my ass forever! As pissed as I am about what she did to me I still love her. I'll never see her again and that's a terrible feeling. 😔
I had an ex that we had no contact for a solid year! She came back. 7 years later she leaves again 3 weeks ago. We talked about what happened and sat together crying holding each other for hours. She has extremely low self esteem. We had a good solid relationship. We got engaged in September of 2017. 3 years ago everything came to a head. I had to put down my hound dog. Then I lost both my patents several days apart. Planning 2 funerals and settling the estate, job of 26 years was loosing business. Many lay offs. Covid 19 hits. I just completely shut down. I was deep in a major depressive episode, high stress and anxiety. To top that off She quit her job (Shortly after my parents died) and wasn't working for 3 years due to social anxiety. It put us in a very tough financial situation. I was angry she quit. I Definitely had resentment. She thought I didn't love her any more and sought another man outside of our relationship. She can't be alone, she has no confidence to be alone. She rushed right into this new relationship. It's just a rebound. I doubt it will work because she has been struggling as well. The new guy was recently dumped by his ex of 9 years. So you have 2 people rebounding! I bet the pressure on them, to make this work, will have them both so frustrated it WILL collapse!! All these things just fell apart at the same time the pressure was extreme. She doesn't have the strength of will to withstand the stress. So I'm thinking it was easier to bail out and try to start over without all the stress. The guy she started dating is 56 and doesn't even have a car! She is 51 and I am 50. She doesn't have a job. I'm almost 99% sure they won't make it. Seeing as she has no income, he doesn't have a car, she jumped right into this with him. I believe to replace me so she wouldn't hurt. But that's not going to work because he CAN'T replace me. She had said that she couldn't take the hurt in my eyes. She also left a few items here at my house of great sentimental value. I am sure she did this as a "way back in" if she desires to contact me. She also fell in love with my dog whom I rescued from a shelter after my hound dog died. I can always message her and ask her to look after him if I am going to be away for an extended time, I am sure she would come look after him. I might be having surgery to repair a possible hernia mesh implant which I believed failed. I will most assuredly need help through this time as I have no family to help care for me or my dog. We are in no contact as of 2 days ago. So it's the begining stages. She has me blocked on social media, I bet as a request of the guy she started seeing. She is fragile and sensitive. If this guy teases her to much it will cause her more doubt.she told me she felt like a really bad person for going behind my back. She is very hard on herself and I can only imagine the guilt she carries. She also told me years back that I was her only true soulmate. Can you give me your thoughts? I might need coaching to know how to handle the situation should it arrive. Please respond The love of my life is on the line!
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Ok so I had seen a post today (10/16/2020) on Facebook of "him" bitching about not seeing her (my Ex) enough. Cracks are opening up already. I expect to here from her within 2 weeks 😊
@@albertkomo9140 Update: 11/10/2020 We have been back together now since 10/20/2020 All is good but she feels tremendous guilt. We have been spending lots of time together even carved pumpkins this year.
After a decade of no contact I found out today that the answer is yes. No contact slowly cranked up the intensity of her feelings and made her curious. She’s even using the same playbook from when we first got together 20 years ago. Nothing will come of this but there is satisfaction in knowing that she’s been preoccupied even after getting married.
If someone walks away from you, why would you want him/her? They have shown you what they think of you. Stand tall, turn away and never look back. Never contact them. Never.
@@marionwilson8982 Idve said thats different 3 years ago but its not always that simple there either. What if 1 of them gets hurt so much that he just gets frozen and slips into what some people call an emotional coma for a while? I seen that happen with my own eyes.
@@mikec3883 I guess there can be all kinds of scenarios to excuse an inappropriate behavior toward someone you confessed to “being in love with”, but I would never trust someone again who thinks that ghosting is an accepted practice. It’s incredibly hurtful, disrespectful and immature.
There is no way on earth that anyone can know if there ex is thinking about you???That is a fact but Lee is bang on yet again,listened to this guy for the past 3 months since my ex girlfriend broke up with me,thank you Coach Lee.
So something I believe Coach Lee should cover that I had to realize myself is that your feelings and their feelings are not intertwined. It's okay to personally feel better and it doesn't mean that they're not going through anything. When you want to reach out, sometimes it's not a panic. You feel good in your heart and have a "This is the time" moment. Then when you do, you get rejected. So just because you are at your lowest of lows, doesn't mean that they're at their highest of highs. You working on personally feeling better doesn't mean anything. You can be low. Hell, I had my lowest night when it was after last call and I had to ask my neighbor if they had any alcohol to numb the pain. As long as they don't SEE that. Also, im not advocating using alcohol to numb the pain all of the time but I do know that sometimes it's nice. Just don't ever get too drunk where you lose your inhibitions. You feeling good doesn't mean they feel good. You feeling bad doesn't mean they feel bad. Go through your hard times alone. I promise you're strong enough to do it.
Coach lee thank you so so very much your videos are more valuable than money can ever buy yes it's very hard not contacting my wife intial pain and shock has subsided but think pf her miss her often however your words instructions are very encouraging as well as healing and comforting
@@vincentmartin4128 Yeah, I bought the emergency breakup kit. I'm still in NC with my wife but there are small signs of her missing/feeling something for me even after 2 weeks ago she said she'd never love me again. Coach Lee's services are worth the money simply because having him there to talk you through those hard times is very comforting. There were times that I panicked, and thought I was going to reach out, but Coach Lee has just... Been there for me. That's worth gold.
okay this gave me a huge wake up from depression. deep down i knew this i think, and deep down i udnerstand my ex, but now that i heard this from you i managed to bring up these feelings this knowledge form deep down , above the sorrow , fear and depression and finaly realize that whats the situation and why shouldnt i let myself drown in negativity. Thank you very much!
It's not even 9am and I'm crying my eyes out while watching this. And its been 6 months since he left. We had our future planned, we have a 4 year old, I had my whole life planned out, our son to have more siblings, a stable family life for us all. Since he's left I even feel suicidal. But I try to fight those feelings. Still, it's not easy, and I know I'd feel huge relief if he came back. But will he? He's probably happy right now, in the arms of someone else...while I'm crying into my coffee and worrying about our futures. The fragility of the heart.... why does it yearn for someone who is long gone...
lilac i can tell you this..you have to stay strong I'm 39 yr and been through it girl let me tell you..my ex broke up with me ..girl i was devastated, felt like i wanted to die. but i had to sit back and think, if a man really loves you and he doesn't have a problem with walking out of your life LET HIM GO..show no weakness once you start showing him that you are strong and moving on with life he will start to value you more..(right now he look at you as weak) i want you to start looking at SheRaSeven1 TH-cam so we can get you back on track ...Always remember you are a Queen and a Prize don't ever let a man or no one take that from you :) FYI my ex is wanting to get back together
Thank you sweety, I know I will get through this and Ill check out that youtube channel :) . How long after your break up did your ex come back? I think it wouldnt be so hard if we didnt have a child...
About 4 months he started calling..but i haven't gave in because that could be breadcrumbs..until he physically tell me that he wants to get back together then i will not fall for it. just keep yourself busy, and if he's not talking about the child then cut the conv short ..and no late night coming by the house because its disrespectful...basically you have to stand your ground and have values ...but you got this girl how long has it been since yall broke up??
Lilac Roses omg if you need someone to talk to you can contact me. I’m going through the same thing with my ex, I have a 4yr old as well but killing yourself is never the answer.
@@lalarodgers3141 It's been almost 6 months. He never calls to ask me how I am, let alone try to come over late night or even to visit what was used to be our home. I'm still so sad and desperate. God this hurts.
My ex and I have been together for two years. In January our if the blue, he broke Up with me... I begged and pleaded him not to, but he was stern with his decision. He started seeing someone else. And I was devastated. But I guess things with her ended in April as he reached out to me, I had only done no contact with him for two weeks and he reached out, we started chatting but then he kept pushing me away, this made me feel everything I felt in January again and asked him if we were getting back, he told me we had no chance but didn’t give me any reason. I kept trying to convince him and noticed I was always reaching out. I think I even looked desperate and I’m ashamed of it. But he was hot and cold, one week when I ask him, he wants to work things out, the next week, he says he can’t. Three weeks ago, he told me straight up he can’t get back with me, he’ll just hurt me but still loves me but is equally scared. I kept trying to convince him to get back with me. But now he doesn't even answer my calls or reply to texts, he was rude to me when we spoke and clearly told me not to insist about it and we cannot see each other anymore. He told me we can only be friends. What can I do? Will No contact work on him now?? Please help... I just don’t know what to do.
i had an ex texted me after 7 years... so there really is no time limit. I don't think my current ex will regret leaving until around the 5 year mark honestly.
I really love the no frills, straight forward and concise way you present It shows a great deal of authority and confidence, and no doubt is one of the reasons for your success. Thank you for the great advice. I have been oscillating back and forth between no contact, minimal contact, and trying to pursue. I see now I just need to leave her alone. Currently she is in the I dont give a shit about you, its only about our daughter phase. Hopefully she will come around.
This video on the stages your ex goes through during no contact should be enlightening if you watch it all the way through: m.th-cam.com/video/wYEAWNvtaTk/w-d-xo.html
Hi Lee...I know he rebounded and got married, but this was over 10 yrs ago and it was a rebound. I HOPE he is thinking about me. We were engaged for 5 years, but he got married 2 weeks later. I really do hope I cross his mind and realizes why I left him. He proposed to me a year into our relationship and had no intentions of getting married. So, I left him. Do I hope he thinks of me? YES I DO!! Thanks Lee...you're still the BEST!
I’m 16 days into NC and I blocked his number because long term, I don’t want him back. No point in keeping that door open. He was a liar and a cheater who constantly gave me anxiety when I wasn’t with him. But I want him to come crawling back to beg for me
After 6months she's starting to send me massages after no contact thnks boss be blessed
Probably when you least expected it to happen 🙂
Hey! How’s it going?
She sent you a massage!
Must be nice, maybe then she will realize how well and good I treated her.
Love when Coach Lee said, "They think they want the breakup. We're going to let them find out."
Lol 😂
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That's why you shouldn't chase after them . If you do you're feeding their ego and they have power over you.
Exactly, my ex dumped me, I told him thank you for your time and I wish you the best. He hasn’t heard from me in 3 months and won’t hear at all. Not interested anymore after that.
BAM! 😂🤷🏻♂️💯
"..focusing on friends and family that won’t break up with you” - so powerful
On your self also
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actually my friend just blocked me
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Friends can absolutely leave you.
Everytime I am tempted to let go of no contact I come to listen to these videos
Bilan Bilan me too :) it works amazingly
@@aprilzoe_4494 me too, it works when u are weakening and tempted.
Every time i started to feel bad and depressed i come to listen your videos and i feel better... its been 8 days ..long 8 days how we broke up.. i still feel down but your videos are giving me light and hope. Hope that NC rule will work.. i miss my ex so very much..
Jelena Vecic any updates?
@@philipsmith4564 nop.. 40 days since we broke up,., and i am in NC.. and have no plan to break KC at all i feel little bit better , but it is still far away from good... :(
The comment section of Coach Lee's videos is such a beautiful place. People sharing the same agony. I always spend a good amount of time reading the comments whenever I watch coach's videos. Wishing you all a quicker and lasting recovery from this trauma.
100 like Deepak 👍
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Very sweet❤
😂 I do that too , it does help sharing experiences 🎉🎉
When you find someone as good or better than your ex- you’ll finally stop thinking of them
My ex will not find better than me. I am rich, a body to kill for, really smart and a book reader, respected and liked. 😂🤣😂🤣
Women don't know what they want..the only thing they know is that they want what other women have...
@@corchef007 That's so true hey thanks for lighting up on that !
Andre porcelli - no this is good advice. Let them go. There are 70 billion people on this planet...and not a single one of them is meant to fill that one special spot in your heart. Did you not listen to coach lees video? Let your ex go, pursue self love and other romantic interests. If your ex comes back great, if not then you move on
@@kikiandco1899 it all depends on what's shes attracted to... not what society deems attractive
I want to thank the people in the comment section for sharing.
I was thinking the same...
If someone is able to leave you, just let it go... move on, have dignity
Lola Who true
I agree. If someone leaves you, not in the middle of an argument, angry, or something like that, then it means that person planned it, wanted it, wished for it, and did it. And if he/she did it, it means that he/she just doesn't love you anymore, for whatever the reason.
If someone doesn't love you, then let him/her go and never talk to that person, ever again, just shut up forever. Not for some period of time. Forever. Don't talk, don't look, don't show up.. Vanish.
Dennis O then who do I have to control? And yell at
That's easy to say when ur not in love with them. Some people cant just drop someone like that if they love them.. its not that easy as u put it.
@@denniso113 what if she says happy birthday ?
its crazy how everything you want to do is the exact opposite of what you should do.
master this and apply it to the stock market. you will make loads of money going against the crowd. same concept
The best thing I realized that if you do no contact and do it not to get them back but, to move on and if they come back then great, if not that’s ok too. It really helped me forgive them and myself, accept the breakup and get back out there and have more fun in my life. I feel amazing. Be strong. Accept. Get yourself and your confidence back. Don’t obsess.
For my Case my bf not even think of me because he Can easy to get hooked everywhere 😭😭😢😭😭😭
JAZZ Satiago & you want someone like that ?
@@nengahtung3756 like what
Jazz Satiago, like what you said, your bf is the kind who is easy to hook up? Why would you want someone like that?
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The best coach on the web. Hands down
I concur
Let them feel the loss...
This is the key. Thank you Coach Lee. You are awesome ☺️
Some words of encouragement to the dumpees, I ended it, I went through the relief period I am now in pieces wishing I had her back.
@@shamainedania4495 relief period was like a week, I was doing alright for like 4 weeks,sent the odd message to her, not much back, wasn't too bothered by it, thought just wait and we'll sort it out. It was when I seen she had a new bf after a month that it hit me and I was in pieces. I guess that's when I realised I really had lost her.
Will it work in the same way ? If the dumper is a girl
@@vigneshwaranramesh4320 hm, good question, women seem to move on to another guy much quicker.
@@vigneshwaranramesh4320 my situation is a little more complicated, but I do consider myself the dumper, and I'm a female. It's been 32 days, I count, and I have missed him since the first day. I tried to contact, nothing, so I let it be. I'm not going to harass or bother him. But it hurts so much, I regret it so much, and I'm here on new years at 1 am trying to find some peace of mind.
So yeah. It sucks for us too. And I don't wanna move on. Not yet.
R Red Thankyou so much for responding .. I wish my girl should also feel the same as you 🙂. I am feeling relaxed and hope after reading your comment
Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
I don't know. The girl I talked everyday hasn't talked to me in almost 6 weeks. I hope so someday
Success!!!! 36 days of No Contact and he just reached out. I mean ZERO contact. I don't even post on social media. I'm very busy so I just disappeared and quite naturally. I just needed uninterrupted silence to rebalance and heal. We have been together for 6 years and we separated just recently, June 1st. He reached out to me this afternoon pouring his heart out. Thank you for your guidance and reassurance.
How r u both now?
@@johnwick2338 back together and more conscious in how we communicate with one another and being more mindful of making improvements.
@@Whatsthedealio1977 I ended things. No, neither of us were seeing anyone. We were ultimately not on the same page and what I want my future to look like was very different from his. Gotta be on the same page. Wishing you the best. Stay strong, you'll get through this.
@@Whatsthedealio1977not sure if my reply went through. I ended things a few months after. We were not seeing others during the break. He still tries to call and text, but it's only the ego that doesn't want to fully let go. I no longer answer because it only opens a door to repeating a cycle that I do not want to repeat. It's draining, unnecessarily stressful and honestly, health comes first. Ultimately, we simply want different things. I wish you the best. Stay strong, you'll get through this.
It feels like a military commander is giving a briefing before a tough mission! Thrilling.
Absolutely. Anchors Aweigh!
This channel really helped me stop texting my ex constantly and just focus on myself. If he wanted to, he would. Something to learn from.
Well..any update?..did he come back?...or did he try to reach back to u?....
R Kim nah i let it go and moved on. In a much better place now after all of it. I joined the army and decided I was worth more than trying to win someone else over when I just needed to love myself
@@Rebeccachazzy u are indeed a strong woman...keep going girl....there will be someone out there..who are waiting for ur love....good luck....and thank u so much for ur answer😊
R Kim you too! We all deserve love and are worthy of the correct kind. Never settle for less 💖
@@Rebeccachazzy why didn’t he try ? At all?
Your videos are calm, exude common sense and are supportive. Nicely done
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First day is not as hard as the 3rd to 4th days of NC. I really had to arrest myself not to text. I also decided since yesterday to quit checking her social media updates. Hard but doable
Don't crack. Especially the first month. Nothing good comes of it this early.
TrueLies after a month it feels like they don’t care to talk or even to question why we stopped talking to them after a month I just want to give up and cry
@@babyololololololoo4311 that doesn't mean its over .. .. Be patient
Did it end or did you ever hear back or reach out?
Did u ever won her back
I dont know if your gonna see this but thanks. I've been watching for 3 days straight. And you delivered alot of hard truths that left me sobbing and broken. HOWEVER. I listened again and again until that hard pill was a bit easier to swallow. You are so right. In everything.
gosh, every time i feel jealous about the rebound things and the break up..i have to watch your videos and feel relieved 😂
aiman atikah ibrahim me too hun . Let’s stay strong shall we?
Lol god damn true
My ex left me for his high school girl friend he has not seen since 1988. We had a good strong 15 year relationship I thought . He been with her 2 months now . I'm a ghost now using the NCR . Need some encouraging words . Thanks
@@myrtlejennings2209 I'm so sorry to hear how he treated you, was there signs? I know it's hard right now but I believe in the NCR will help you in the long term stay strong
@@myrtlejennings2209be strong 🎉🎉🎉
The best relationship expert by far.
It's been 41 days without contact and I'm still working. on myself and I believe in everything you say, you help me a lot to push through all this, thank you
I think sometimes we dont necessarily miss our ex, we are just upset at how the break up happened. I was in a one year relationship with a girl and I ended up dropping the ball and the relationship ended. The guilt and shame of messing up is what eats me up inside. Not so much losing the person.
Yes i d rather i got dumped
Getting dumped hurts way more than dumping if you really love your partner.
@@Gweynth agree
Why don’t you get her back?
Ify man, messed up so bad and that guilt and regret is killing me.
When I reflect on the past all my exes tried to come back at some point.....
Crystal Fox How much time did they take to comeback to u?
Grace Kyaw this has been true for me too ....it’s varied from 1 day to 4 years
They do come back at some point, all my ex's tried to reach out, some brake up i had was terrible, sad, shame, i was suprised one of my ex who dumped me so bad and called me names, we met coincindentally, he was happy ,gave me huge smile hope i was going to say hi and hugged him, i passed him like have never met him before, right now as im doing no contact rule, two of my ex's contacted me, one found me in IG yesterday, remember with him, we had only two day time together, but i realised he had along way to go, i blocked him, changed my number, now he's begging wants to meet me and very sorry for his behaviour, another one ghosted me for a month, i blocked him for two months, i contacted him, hes been begging me for 7 months now, i agreed to meet him, but later cancelled, he has to learn from this, he's been crying ,begging, calling but have never picked his phone, simply because i want face to face meeting and talk, now two of my ex's are back, honestly im taking the two guys back, will start slowly without being needy or bombered them with text, the othrr HE-goat should go to hell and never come back...
Grace Kyaw within days or a week.....
_ BUDDHA _ In my opinion you told her what you had to say & she probably thinks you'll continue to chase her.Don't chase her,don't contact her & honestly the best way for a person to notice your absence or appreciate you is to "REMOVE" yourself completely.If she's not trying than what's the point? I'm a woman & it works when a man goes no contact,try it.....
I don't care if he's thinking about me or not. He dumped me! I cried a river for a week then realized that he's a monster. I am happy now being single! Yes! You are right Sir! I don't want to waste my time for a guy who doesn't care.
Whether she is thinking about me or not, God is, and he will deliver to her door the same receipe she delivered to me many years ago, which pushed me into depression!
I go to school and work and i still think about my ex all the time
Sky It gets better! Hang in- there is always hope.
Prayers help a lot!
Sky That’s what got me through! Nothing beats love and security from within!!
Keep fighting on brother! Its hard but just keep distracting yourself and praying!!
Same. Even when there’s a line out the door at work and I’ve got my fake, smiley costumer service face on, sometimes something about my ex will run across my mind and that pang in my heart happens.
Let me tell you all my tragic story me and my x were together 6 wonderful years , one gorgeous day she told me, I love u but I have 2 let u go . I'm broken crying like an ugly baby calling her like crazy ,stocking her in Instagram and snapchat she told me to leave her alone , I begged and pleaded NOTHING worked then she found a new tall gorgeous boyfriend and I was dying inside. I started no contact , days weeks months pass thinking of her alone depressed until one day I meet a beautifull lady in my brothers party we talk for hours and started to go out dating having fun 😋, after 8 months my ex aka the wicked witch from the north came back into my life but I didnt live her anymore I was in Love w someone new
Awseone success story.
But life still sucks!
Glad you met a new, beautiful person.
Awesome story
Same story but didnt find the beautiful man hehehe😅
😂 wicked what?
Amazing how you touched on the dopamine and seratonin connection from a scientifically proven standpoint. I believe you are the first person I’ve heard mention the chemicals in the brain that make us feel these things and keep thinking about them. It explains all the feelings of loss and ‘withdrawal’ symptoms in NC just as if giving up a drug. Great video explanation that a lot of people do not realize. A lot of this experience is as you said ‘all in the mind’.
I agree. I always felt I had wired my brain to thoughts of him.
I am more upset that I tolerated being disrespected and bread crumbed . Was treated like crap. Though I miss the illusion I had …. Now I’m focused on me and not a cold and disrespectful , selfish person
I always seem to be breaking up with my partner, then we end up back together because we can't leave each other alone ( so my friend tells me ) .....and so the merry-go-round continues ...
At my lowest ive binge watched breakup videos but I always work my way back to coach lee as EVERYTHING he says rings through ..coach lee , your the best in the business, the holy grail , the most perceptive of anyone i try to take comfort from ....thank you so much in my darkest days , you stop me from going under !!!
How has it panned out? I’ve had a similar relationship but this year it’s been minimal monthly contact - tomorrow is our 5th year anniversary I will ask her to marry me when I next see her
It was so painfull to leave you but i couldnt stand the fact that you dont feel the same as i do. You probably wont read this but i will allways love you. Please dont hate me.
Shutup commie
Coach Lee bringing the truth with no BS yet again. Thank god I'm wired to move on (even if i privately dwell on exes or i obviously wouldn't be watching this) but if you're looking for the tools to deal with a breakup he's got them. It's nice to see someone who's in this game to genuinely help
Your videos are always so informative, logical and really calming, but also thought provoking and very helpful to my situation, so thank you yet again!
Folks, I cannot stress more: Follow coach lee NC rule. And focus in yourself meanwhile. It is 100% sure you are going to get over it and if it in start you almost dont believe it but yes, it will pass. It will pass.
We aren't trying to get over it. We want them back
I was sure everything was lost. My ex told me she was done and had been done for a while. She was tired of the arguing we had two stepchildren and a child and she felt things were unhealthy for the kids. I tried no contact, but I broke down and bought coach Lee's program. Less than $100, and lots of videos later, I have my fiance back, my kids back, my home back, my self-respect back, and peace and love back in my life. Listen to Coach Lee, buy the program. Save what you had. Love is priceless.
man im on day 6 it just feels like all hope is lost lol. NC will remain though.
how is it going?
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I have just been broken up with Coach Lee (2 days), it does hurt because I really liked her.... I feel so much better in myself after listening to your videos... NO CONTACT... !!! Thank you so much.
Coach Lee is the best. No doubt, no hesitation! After two months I feel great by watching and following his advice. More power to you coach.
Thank you so much for your existence. My wife after six months of cheating finally confessed that she is sleeping with a scumbag. My world is upside down at the moment. ( 23 years we put into each other) your videos are the freshest water after being robbed in the middle of the desert.
Damn man.....
What's wrong with these women?
Sorry this happened to you...
My fiance of 7 years dumped my ass through text 57 days ago... I instantly went no contact and said "okay bye".....
I'm going through it just like you and it ain't no picnic.....
Its actually quite sad......
I thought we would be together forever. Boy was I wrong.
TheSeattlegreen hang in there man. From this point on it will only get better I promise. And if you play your cards right... great things will soon start happening to you.... I have great respect for females but none for cheaters
How are both of you guys doing now?
Couch Lee is our breakup savior, saving our life from broken heart, and self disrespect!
Coach Lee is the best....PERIOD!!! Just the sound of his voice and reassurance with the correct key steps has made this break up so much easier on me 3 weeks later. I listen to them over and over, Im just starting no contact 3 weeks late due to us living together until last night and me begging for awhile. Luckly i know why her attraction faded in me, I was very confident when i saw her last night, caught her checking me out and wouldn't look me in the eyes. I put 12 pounds of muscle on, I wasn't the same insecure/needy guy she dumped after 3 years together and i owe it to your knowledge and courses. The only thing i still don't understand is that she never pulled away? Still passionate sex life, told me night before how much she loved me and even kissed me an hour before she did it? It's not another guy and I didn't break a cardinal sin so still confused on if she really wants this or if its some kinda test?
I loved every bit of insight you gave in this video. Very underrated video and deserves thousands of more likes. Thank you for all you do
Coach you are 24 carat gold... You are awesome... In India we called guru... You are, a real guru.. ( teacher) I love you....i cry a lot coach.... She dump me
Thank you for your kind words. I’m sorry you are going through this. You will get through it. You will survive.
Yes this coach is the best! 🥰 that’s exactly what I’ve been doing ! Boosting up my education and having fun w my healthy life style .. I’ve started hiking too. He even went to the same area to hike with his ex rebound now lol.. I once asked him if he had the tendency to go back to his exes and said no! Such a lie !
I starting let go. Thanks for ALL THESE CLIPS !
You are a wise man, I trust in you
Seen and observed many relationship coaches in YT or article, trust me no one like Coach Lee. Myaaan, you're great. 👏
I feel like coach Lee get your ex back is more like get yourself back. Cause most people in the comments don’t get him or her back with no contact. They just end up with the realization they’re enough and could move on. Couch Lee is just helping by comforting you and giving closure by answering unanswered questions.
Coach Lee I want to take this time to thank you because your words are really helping. But I find myself at night and in the morning where I really miss her because I’m not falling asleep next to her or waking up next to her. But that statement you made about control being an illusion was just mind blowing 👌🏼
That's how I feel right now I wake up in the morning and I have an immediate sense of dread that she isn't with me and it feels like a hangover sometimes I wonder if she feels the same way it's been 2 days since she called me on the phone and six days since she wanted to break up
This is really helpful as I am obsessing over my ex. And my pastor and anyone else that wants to help me will say to not focus on the ex. But actual specific things to do are what I'm looking for and that one minute that's not thinking and trying to build it up. Thank you so much for that Coach Lee.
And thank you for the fact that you're not judgmental on if we want to go back with our ex or not. My heart wants what it wants. The more videos I watch and the more I reflect the more I feel like I'm not a 100% sure I would take my ex back. So much depends on my ex's attitude so it's easy to get scared that the attitude won't be where it needs to be.
It’s almost impossible to not think about them... can’t push an off button.
I agree
To me you have been the best medicine- Coach Lee. In particular, what concerns my mental situation. You are like a conditioner on my wounds. You are a real comfort in my grief. I feel revitalized every time I hear the sessions'of yours. Therefore, thanks is a very poor word. You are outstanding Mr. Lee and a really good person. I've said it before, but say it again. May God reward people like you. People like you who reaches out to those who have got their hearts broken.You must know that you have really done so much for me. I will always think of you in my prayers. You are the most beautiful tree in the grove. THANKS. FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART....
the same here
I have watched and rewatched most if not all of your about “ex” coaching to remind me to carry on my “No Contact” strategy. Watched this video about 8 hours ago, get tired and watched something else “crime documentaries” just to distract myself from thinking about my “ex”. While watching the documentaries, my other phone notify me of a message from this so called “ex” who still calls me his baby .... I didn’t really know what to text back when he texted me some complimentary text and a couple of kisses and hearty hearty. He was greeting me a happy new year and asked me if how I am.
I answered from being cold like “how are you?” And he answered me unconvincing answer. I even asked him if he is “lying or making things up again”... I think i killed it, i have no regrets.
Btw, I did the “No Contacts” principles from you coach. It really works.
Coach Lee. My ex ignored my text for two weeks I freaked out on him and apologized later(because I feared losing him). But then when I asked for closure he said that I didnt do anything and in fact he was busy with his own life and his problem. I told him I will give him space and then I found your channel and now employing No contact. So what I want to say is thank you coach. For everything, really
Did he reach out?
How you deal with being dumped depends entirely on the circumstances around it. If you're able to just move on and focus on improving yourself, it wasn't that tough of a breakup.
But if they duped you into trusting them and believing that they cared about you, only to leave you with no warning whatsoever for a guy they met the week before during what they knew was a critical time of your life, then only an inhuman monster could carry on and focus on themselves.
And of course, if they left you FOR another guy, then they aren't thinking about you because they're too busy having fun with him.
u truly r a gift from God. ty
Coach Lee and his knowledge are fkng amazing.
About to take a walk now with NO ex videos!! Also, back to school tomorrow for my ex and me. I’m a teacher. He’s a principal. Different districts. Definitely find a new challenge, hobby or interest!! 💗
Even if I never get her back thank you for these videos. Just listening makes me feel better every single day.
Dark, if you're interested in some help, I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit. It's awesome!
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
I can't get enough of how SIMPLE but DILIGENT plus at the same time STRAIGHT FORWARD you are. We drive ourselves Crazy over things so Stupid and meaningless. Thank God 4ur existence ✨
#Strongwords #Guidence #Justagreatdude
When coaches said focus on yourself I use to cry more . And said how could I do that. then I start thinking about that’s the right thing because if u don’t and she take you back u don’t want to look a mess u want she to said omg you look great !
My ex just left me saying with teary eyes that he really likes me but am not the one, that was just a week ago.
He did this just before his business trip so he won’t need to see me for a week I think , as we work for a same company ( different departments)
Thanks to Lee, I managed to implement no contact. He messaged me once.
I started going to gym, talking to HR about my career progression, and stop drinking. Feeling so much better. Already lost 1kg!! I bought a few amazing dresses and feeling beautiful again.
I think am ok whatever happens to us as I know it’s his loss, not mine if he is going to leave me completely.
Thanks Lee! I love your videos. Without you, I would have become crazy woman. Am so calm now. I will be ok whichever because I really love him and although he said am not the one, I know what we had was so real.
do no contact men get confused give him the space they want what they cant have sit back and watch it turn around I have had this with 3 guys in the last 5 years strange behaviour
You miss the memories and the connection you had with them especially if they were your best friend. And if you think you'll never seem them it's all you have left to hold on to.
no contact means blocking your phone , social media , avoid places you might run into them ......most of the time if it goes over a month of two you find out you really weren't meant to be together anyway
No, doesnt
Its been almost 2 months for me and im still hurting very badly
@@lionheart4414 how long were you together?
Ever since I started focusing on me and not him he has been looking at me alot in class and moves closer to get a good look at me 👍
It’s really important to have a purpose. Never make women your priority in life. It took me a few weeks but I don’t even want my ex back. I’m no ones plan B, she used me for $ too
This is the second time in 2 years these videos have helped me
I really learned a lot from this video, great information. It's amazing to think how much the heart yearns to heal & the mind still hopes . There's no doubt each person thinks about each other in no contact, there will always be a connection or you wouldn't have invested so much into the relationship, especially when marriage plans were made. Life ....I have found is a daily learning process & relationships take work on both sides but you can't be the only one putting in the effort.Follow your heart But never ignore your gut !!!! Great Video👍
Yes, always follow your gut instinct, it will save you a lot of heartache, this I know from experience. 17 months of my time invested with promises of anything I could ever dream of but it was all BS. Gut kept warning me. I have my power back after 2 weeks of NC and I don’t want him back now because I see it for what it was, based on lies but I am not bitter, honest 😂. Each experience in life makes us stronger once our heads start ruling our hearts. I do hope you are ok now and focusing on loving yourself. Blessings, Karen, UK.
I just put myself on a dating site. I noticed he's on there too. Our profiles match but I'm not "viewing" him (it would show if I viewed him). Now he knows I'm putting myself out there, meeting other (better) men that he insisted I deserve. I miss him and I wish things were different but I have to move forward.
Thanks your the best out there on TH-cam, I watched nearly all your videos, you helped me tremendously.. I watch an episode every night when I went to sleep .. your knowledge enlightened me ..
I think I’ve watched this video like 100 times it’s become my daily mantra
I swear everything he says makes so much sense. sometimes I watch these vids non stop lol. is that weird? probably.
Haha same I've binge watched all his videos this past week even watching some more than once!
Thanks!
I don't know if I agree. If they are the type that loves 'shiny new things' every now and then and don't stay committed to anything for long, they won't be thinking of the last but the next....
AD J
I think this doesn’t apply to every case. And believe me, you are better without those who loves “ shiny new things”.
You want someone who treats you right, commit to you, and make you feel special.
Been in nc for a lil over a week. She told me that ahe found some else. He's more stable, knows what he wants & has more to offer. My heart Literally exploded. Cuz we were working on rebuilding the relationship..
It would be quite more interesting to have a coffee with this wise man than with some "exes" 😂
Thank you so much dear coach 😘
Thank you for everything Lee, my mental has gotten stronger because of your tips and videos. Again, thanks for everything.
My ex and I talked about the future, hell we even had the names for our kids picked out and he broke up with me the day after the anniversary of my grandfathers death, the next day after the break up he came to pick up his stuff and asked for a hug, then he allowed me to talk and he admitted that he has deleted pictures of us and I told him goodbye, I went into my house and looked outside and he was crying on his truck
And now?
@@wwbenee I want to know too
What happened
What happened ?
One thing ive learnt with what im going through is the longer you beg and try to restore the relationship the longer amount of time you give your ex to move on. I wish i did it right straight away and avoided so much added pain
Who knew that when my friend, lover and fiance of 7 years when she said she loved me everyday meant she would eventually dump my ass forever!
As pissed as I am about what she did to me I still love her.
I'll never see her again and that's a terrible feeling. 😔
I had an ex that we had no contact for a solid year! She came back.
7 years later she leaves again 3 weeks ago. We talked about what happened and sat together crying holding each other for hours.
She has extremely low self esteem. We had a good solid relationship. We got engaged in September of 2017. 3 years ago everything came to a head. I had to put down my hound dog. Then I lost both my patents several days apart. Planning 2 funerals and settling the estate, job of 26 years was loosing business. Many lay offs. Covid 19 hits.
I just completely shut down. I was deep in a major depressive episode, high stress and anxiety. To top that off She quit her job (Shortly after my parents died) and wasn't working for 3 years due to social anxiety. It put us in a very tough financial situation. I was angry she quit. I Definitely had resentment.
She thought I didn't love her any more and sought another man outside of our relationship. She can't be alone, she has no confidence to be alone. She rushed right into this new relationship. It's just a rebound. I doubt it will work because she has been struggling as well. The new guy was recently dumped by his ex of 9 years. So you have 2 people rebounding! I bet the pressure on them, to make this work, will have them both so frustrated it WILL collapse!!
All these things just fell apart at the same time the pressure was extreme. She doesn't have the strength of will to withstand the stress. So I'm thinking it was easier to bail out and try to start over without all the stress.
The guy she started dating is 56 and doesn't even have a car! She is 51 and I am 50. She doesn't have a job. I'm almost 99% sure they won't make it. Seeing as she has no income, he doesn't have a car, she jumped right into this with him. I believe to replace me so she wouldn't hurt. But that's not going to work because he CAN'T replace me.
She had said that she couldn't take the hurt in my eyes.
She also left a few items here at my house of great sentimental value. I am sure she did this as a "way back in" if she desires to contact me.
She also fell in love with my dog whom I rescued from a shelter after my hound dog died.
I can always message her and ask her to look after him if I am going to be away for an extended time, I am sure she would come look after him. I might be having surgery to repair a possible hernia mesh implant which I believed failed. I will most assuredly need help through this time as I have no family to help care for me or my dog.
We are in no contact as of 2 days ago. So it's the begining stages. She has me blocked on social media, I bet as a request of the guy she started seeing.
She is fragile and sensitive. If this guy teases her to much it will cause her more doubt.she told me she felt like a really bad person for going behind my back. She is very hard on herself and I can only imagine the guilt she carries.
She also told me years back that I was her only true soulmate.
Can you give me your thoughts?
I might need coaching to know how to handle the situation should it arrive.
Please respond
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Ok so I had seen a post today (10/16/2020) on Facebook of "him" bitching about not seeing her (my Ex) enough.
Cracks are opening up already. I expect to here from her within 2 weeks 😊
@@BlackAdder1970 ok
@@albertkomo9140 Update: 11/10/2020
We have been back together now since 10/20/2020
All is good but she feels tremendous guilt.
We have been spending lots of time together even carved pumpkins this year.
After a decade of no contact I found out today that the answer is yes. No contact slowly cranked up the intensity of her feelings and made her curious. She’s even using the same playbook from when we first got together 20 years ago. Nothing will come of this but there is satisfaction in knowing that she’s been preoccupied even after getting married.
U give me hope thank uuuu
A decade? Jesus
I am focusing on expanding my business and finilising my body beautiful. I am away shopping for a new look. Taking really good care of myself.
If someone walks away from you, why would you want him/her? They have shown you what they think of you. Stand tall, turn away and never look back. Never contact them. Never.
Its not always that simple. What if you both got into a fight? What if you both said some things you both didnt mean?
@@mikec3883 I’m not talking about a quarrel. I’m talking about one party doing a disappearing act without a word.
You gave up from my perspective. Don’t give up
@@marionwilson8982 Idve said thats different 3 years ago but its not always that simple there either. What if 1 of them gets hurt so much that he just gets frozen and slips into what some people call an emotional coma for a while? I seen that happen with my own eyes.
@@mikec3883 I guess there can be all kinds of scenarios to excuse an inappropriate behavior toward someone you confessed to “being in love with”, but I would never trust someone again who thinks that ghosting is an accepted practice. It’s incredibly hurtful, disrespectful and immature.
There is no way on earth that anyone can know if there ex is thinking about you???That is a fact but Lee is bang on yet again,listened to this guy for the past 3 months since my ex girlfriend broke up with me,thank you Coach Lee.
So something I believe Coach Lee should cover that I had to realize myself is that your feelings and their feelings are not intertwined. It's okay to personally feel better and it doesn't mean that they're not going through anything. When you want to reach out, sometimes it's not a panic. You feel good in your heart and have a "This is the time" moment. Then when you do, you get rejected. So just because you are at your lowest of lows, doesn't mean that they're at their highest of highs. You working on personally feeling better doesn't mean anything. You can be low. Hell, I had my lowest night when it was after last call and I had to ask my neighbor if they had any alcohol to numb the pain. As long as they don't SEE that. Also, im not advocating using alcohol to numb the pain all of the time but I do know that sometimes it's nice. Just don't ever get too drunk where you lose your inhibitions.
You feeling good doesn't mean they feel good. You feeling bad doesn't mean they feel bad. Go through your hard times alone. I promise you're strong enough to do it.
Coach lee thank you so so very much your videos are more valuable than money can ever buy yes it's very hard not contacting my wife intial pain and shock has subsided but think pf her miss her often however your words instructions are very encouraging as well as healing and comforting
@@vincentmartin4128 Yeah, I bought the emergency breakup kit. I'm still in NC with my wife but there are small signs of her missing/feeling something for me even after 2 weeks ago she said she'd never love me again. Coach Lee's services are worth the money simply because having him there to talk you through those hard times is very comforting. There were times that I panicked, and thought I was going to reach out, but Coach Lee has just... Been there for me. That's worth gold.
okay this gave me a huge wake up from depression. deep down i knew this i think, and deep down i udnerstand my ex, but now that i heard this from you i managed to bring up these feelings this knowledge form deep down , above the sorrow , fear and depression and finaly realize that whats the situation and why shouldnt i let myself drown in negativity. Thank you very much!
It's not even 9am and I'm crying my eyes out while watching this. And its been 6 months since he left. We had our future planned, we have a 4 year old, I had my whole life planned out, our son to have more siblings, a stable family life for us all. Since he's left I even feel suicidal. But I try to fight those feelings. Still, it's not easy, and I know I'd feel huge relief if he came back. But will he? He's probably happy right now, in the arms of someone else...while I'm crying into my coffee and worrying about our futures. The fragility of the heart.... why does it yearn for someone who is long gone...
lilac i can tell you this..you have to stay strong I'm 39 yr and been through it girl let me tell you..my ex broke up with me ..girl i was devastated, felt like i wanted to die. but i had to sit back and think, if a man really loves you and he doesn't have a problem with walking out of your life LET HIM GO..show no weakness once you start showing him that you are strong and moving on with life he will start to value you more..(right now he look at you as weak) i want you to start looking at SheRaSeven1 TH-cam so we can get you back on track ...Always remember you are a Queen and a Prize don't ever let a man or no one take that from you :) FYI my ex is wanting to get back together
Thank you sweety, I know I will get through this and Ill check out that youtube channel :) . How long after your break up did your ex come back? I think it wouldnt be so hard if we didnt have a child...
About 4 months he started calling..but i haven't gave in because that could be breadcrumbs..until he physically tell me that he wants to get back together then i will not fall for it. just keep yourself busy, and if he's not talking about the child then cut the conv short ..and no late night coming by the house because its disrespectful...basically you have to stand your ground and have values ...but you got this girl how long has it been since yall broke up??
Lilac Roses omg if you need someone to talk to you can contact me. I’m going through the same thing with my ex, I have a 4yr old as well but killing yourself is never the answer.
@@lalarodgers3141 It's been almost 6 months. He never calls to ask me how I am, let alone try to come over late night or even to visit what was used to be our home. I'm still so sad and desperate. God this hurts.
My ex and I have been together for two years. In January our if the blue, he broke
Up with me... I begged and pleaded him not to, but he was stern with his decision. He started seeing someone else. And I was devastated. But I guess things with her ended in April as he reached out to me, I had only done no contact with him for two weeks and he reached out, we started chatting but then he kept pushing me away, this made me feel everything I felt in January again and asked him if we were getting back, he told me we had no chance but didn’t give me any reason. I kept trying to convince him and noticed I was always reaching out. I think I even looked desperate and I’m ashamed of it. But he was hot and cold, one week when I ask him, he wants to work things out, the next week, he says he can’t. Three weeks ago, he told me straight up he can’t get back with me, he’ll just hurt me but still loves me but is equally scared. I kept trying to convince him to get back with me. But now he doesn't even answer my calls or reply to texts, he was rude to me when we spoke and clearly told me not to insist about it and we cannot see each other anymore. He told me we can only be friends. What can I do? Will
No contact work on him now?? Please help... I just don’t know what to do.
I've never expected my ex come back again and i won't looking attention for him
I already care a bit less if he thinks about me or not. Was analyzing our relationship, and I am not sure anymore he is the right guy for me...
i had an ex texted me after 7 years... so there really is no time limit. I don't think my current ex will regret leaving until around the 5 year mark honestly.
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Man your psychology is on point..wished I d found these videos ten years ago
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Ok...watching coach Lee's videos has helped me understand some things but thank u
I really love the no frills, straight forward and concise way you present It shows a great deal of authority and confidence, and no doubt is one of the reasons for your success. Thank you for the great advice. I have been oscillating back and forth between no contact, minimal contact, and trying to pursue. I see now I just need to leave her alone. Currently she is in the I dont give a shit about you, its only about our daughter phase. Hopefully she will come around.
This video on the stages your ex goes through during no contact should be enlightening if you watch it all the way through: m.th-cam.com/video/wYEAWNvtaTk/w-d-xo.html
Hi Lee...I know he rebounded and got married, but this was over 10 yrs ago and it was a rebound. I HOPE he is thinking about me. We were engaged for 5 years, but he got married 2 weeks later. I really do hope I cross his mind and realizes why I left him. He proposed to me a year into our relationship and had no intentions of getting married. So, I left him. Do I hope he thinks of me? YES I DO!! Thanks Lee...you're still the BEST!
keep it up coach lee, really helping men and women out here with their issues. Much love man
I’m 16 days into NC and I blocked his number because long term, I don’t want him back. No point in keeping that door open. He was a liar and a cheater who constantly gave me anxiety when I wasn’t with him. But I want him to come crawling back to beg for me
That's my fifth time watching this video I am really grateful for this videos of yours.
You liking my comment makes me emotional. Why?
I feel very thankful for this channel and helping me solve all the confusion.