Mistakes You Must Not Make In No Contact
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You want your ex back so you went into no contact.
This means that you have decided not to make contact with your ex permanently or for a decided period of time.
Since you love your ex and wan them back, you want to make sure that you are doing no contact correctly and aren't making mistakes.
If you are making mistakes during no contact you will hurt your chances of getting your ex back.
In this video, Coach Lee explains what you must not do during no contact if you want your ex back.
He also explains why no contact is so important if you want to get your ex back.
Your ex must miss you and see the importance of your place in his or her life.
That's what makes no contact so effective.
It is a mature response to a breakup. Just like when a salesperson calls you and you tell them that you are not interested, if you pester your ex after they have broken up with you, it will feel like an attempt at manipulation.
Your ex must not feel that you are trying to manipulate them or that you are trying to talk them into getting back together with you.
The importance of this cannot be overstated.
Relationship expert Coach Lee explains what not to do during no contact in order to have the best results of healing for yourself and to allow your ex the time and space needed to miss you and want you back.
Be sure to watch this video all the way to the end to ensure you get Coach Lee's overall message.
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Whoever breaks up with this guy is screwed lol.
Edit: Its been 2 years since I wrote this comment and I just wanna say that I was so deeply hurt and heartbroken at the time I wrote this. I just wanna go back in time and give myself a hug. But I want everyone to know a couple things, 1. My ex ended up reaching out to me about a year later. 2. It didnt matter because I found my true love already. I never in a million years would have thought i would get over my ex, I watched every freaking video this guy made. But I PROMISE, time will heal all wounds, and the right person WILL COME. I am happier now than I ever was with my ex and the person I’m with now makes me feel more loved than anyone. I remember clear as day how everytime I used to think of my ex, it would LITERALLY feel like someone is stabbing my heart. It actually hurt. It was a sharp pain in my chest I could never forget. But I actually laugh because now, its NOTHING. I laugh at the fact I even thought that way ab my ex lmao. Sometimes even cringe. But anyways, just want yall to know it will be ok, and as much as I know you dont wanna hear that your ex isnt the one for you… I would say that if they hurt you once, it means they really dont have much love for you anyways and it probably wont last. HOWEVER, I promise God has someone out there for all of us. Sometimes we are put through these difficult times because I KNOW it makes us stronger ( It definitely made me stronger ) So use this time to focus on yourself, improve on yourself, and eventually when the time is right, they will come. My mom always said our timing and Gods timing are very different. God always knows the best time. Just be patient. :) Glad this comment got so many laughs, but please keep in mind what I said if you read this far.
Tacticalsquid Right. I want to get back with him.
So right lol!
@TH-cam Divine Da WAE
Facts
won’t even shed a tear, he sees right through the whole thing
"If you love them, you'd do something difficult to get them back. This is that something difficult."
Slaps.
beautiful quote
Beautiful
Definitely
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Do you think this no contact will work on an igbo man
I have done no contact once. It worked. He came back after 3 months. By then I didn’t want him anymore. If i can survive 3 months without him i can go on my life without him at all. During the no contact period I slowly realise what an axxhole he was and how blinded i was.
Sound toxic , sound like you didn’t love and were only attached . Learning to love without attachment is the key
chait2345 that’s true but at the same time people have boundaries. After being dumped/rejected, told they no longer have feelings for you- you have every right to reconsider and lose those feelings for them as time passes. It could have 100% been love at the time but after they treat you badly/hurt you...you can lose that love because they’re no longer the person you thought they were.
Manvi love isn’t something you lose it’s attachment you lose , your parents never stop loving you no matter what the distance or how long you see them. It’s attachment you lose which 90% of people mistake for love . And humans are slaves to their habits . Your reply shows that they made you love yourself in the moment , and it was nothing but attachment . Because love is a choice and true love never dies you continue loving them from a distance knowing they ain’t good for you
@@chait2345 you’re right
Yes!👍 I'm realizing I don't really want him either. It's been almost two months and sometimes I miss him, but he lost a wonderful loyal person. I'm not perfect, but my heart is pure.
You should ALWAYS do "no contact" after a breakup. Not necessarily to get your ex back, but for your own sake and your own health.
Yes
I've been dumped 5x by the same person Husband #2. We resume where we left off. So NC does work. I did everything thats you not supposed to do.
Its the hope that is killing me. I had given up hope and was on the way to healing, then she posted about her heart being in smitherens after 8 days of NC. This gave me hope and I waited for direct contact from her, but its been another 10 days now and I'm trying to forget about her again
@@lutaayam forget about her my brother. I’m in the same spot as you. My love of my life had an affair and is openly looking for someone else. It’s just not worth the trouble. You will only feel more pain.
Hey friends do you need on getting back your ex partner,broken relationship,get rid of third parties and attractive love for better and permanent,,,,
after being dumped i haven’t really been able to eat or drink anything.. i’ve had no appetite at all... watching ur videos and reading the comments on them really helped restore my appetite
Woah! I stressed ate!
@@mightyobserver12 same! I have been eating everything in sight
Indeed
Same. Although I'm going through dumper's remorse but I feel like I've been dumped.
@@Vanilladye same as that too! The tables have turned and now he appears fine after I dumped him and I'm the one in tears! The no contact is working though as at least I'm not making a fool of myself and showing how regretful and needy I am. Stay strong. After time things should improve and we'll all be happy enough to move on, reconcile or whatever!
"When you really want something, You have to be disciplined " - Coach Lee .. Best relationship advice so far for me
100%.
What if you broke up with them and they left them you want them back and now they're telling you they need time to think. She told me she was not saying we cannot get back together and she doesn't was not saying we could. She needs time to think
The camera angle, your facial expression and your tone of voice makes me feel like I'm being briefed for some sort of military operation.
Tsar Nicholas II 😂 I thought I was was being hypnotised, I was listening so intently. He’s good 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
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I'm dead. 😭 He's military for sure
Tsar Nicholas II 2 years & 6 months I’ve finally arrived.....Sheeesh 🤦🏻♂️
Hahaha! Thats so true! He looks like Dexter
whoever read this PLEASE ..... Please love and respect yourself before you start any relationship. Please do not get attached so quickly and always use your brain and don’t listen your heart.
And lastly. Please do yourself a favor and DO NOT GIVE YOUR HEART TO ANYONE. Let them EARN IT 😉
YouMadBrah amen 👏🏻
YouMadBrah well said
YouMadBrah 👍🏿🍸💜
_ BUDDHA _ 👍🏿😇❤ Amen
No text or calls
No contact means: Dumpee DUMPS the "dumper", so the dumpee becomes the dumper! Game changer.
Well shit... Never thought of it that way
If you're stuck in vengeance you don't understand no contact. No contact is a mature response not tit for tat.
@@randscott4676 immature. Normal people communicate, talk...
People need to forget other coaches : this coach is the ultimate ✅
tia torture he’s the best out of all I’ve watched
Brad Browning is really good too though.
Edit:, I was clearly ignorant when I made this statement. I prefer Lucia with art of love and the dating guy, also Spartacus fortune is pretty good for guys.
Brad will serve this dude
I agree!!
Coach Corey Wayne
2 days of tears, but also 2 days of no contact! My mission has begun
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same😭
Just stared today as well 😢 we're all in this together
Same here I started a week ago, it's so painful 💔
I'm back all I can say the best decision we did was separate we are happier and I'm thank ful for that god bless y'all hope that helped alil bit
An smilie it's doesn't hurt or cost a thing god bless y'all much love
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NeffyVirtual i started 2 weeks ago. The first week is always painful but now i dont care what happens. If we get back together, great. If we dont get back together, great. It gets better... just keep improving yourself and living your life. Eventually you’ll forget about the whole no contact thing and be surprised to a text or phone call.
This man has actually saved my life and sanity over the past month. Every time I come close to breaking no contact I just watch some of these videos and it gives me the motivation to carry on. You’re a life saver coach Lee 👏👏
I wish i had seen these a month ago. I have been doing the worst stuff for the past few weeks. Ugh
Yes, same with me 😢
Please update if no contact worked for you
I do the same , whenever I have anxiety to want to reach out , I listen to video and it gives me relief and makes me focus on my healing stage
Good one
Makes me laugh when he said some people tell the ex that they are doing on contact. 😂
Right me too that was funny lol
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It's a mature thing to do you will literally make them feel like shit if you don't tell them that you want to attempt this method. It will drive them insane and most likely into somebody else's arm
U cant tell the oposition team where u shooting the ball thats a retarded move🤣🤣🤣
1. Breaking No Contact, keep yourself strong for not breaking the no contact rule.
2. Telling your ex you're in No Contact right now, don't give away your strategy to them.
3. Checking with other person during no contact period to see if they've had enough space and time.
4. Overanalyzing. Basically overanalyzing and overthinking things, it will make you look PATHETIC and WEAK.
5. Social pouting, posting sad posts on social media.
6. Doing no contact only to get your ex back. It's for your own healing, it makes yourself strong and makes your ex realize they miss you.
7. Not controlling your own thoughts.
8. Not going out and have fun during the no contact period, there's nothing to tell your ex when they do come back or when they reach out to you.
9. Falling for loss vs love. The sense and feeling of loss is so powerful and often times we mistake it for love. Try to separate the feeling of loss from the feeling of love.
All of this honestly makes us look SO weak and miserable and pathetic. I never knew I did all this in the past oml.
Why is that weak, or pathetic? It's love. If someone wants me for my indifference rather than for my genuine care they deserve neither (and need some therapy for their issues).
nah, go out and have fun, make them mad
@@elysia_sky1525 It is not love actually. The pain comes from losing something you are attached to because you made them the source of your happiness. Attachment and love are very different. Love is giving rather than receiving.
i hear that!
When you go to the psych ward
screw my ex… i want coach lee… he’s so comforting
looooool "He called her the next day and asked if she'd had enough space" hahahha. Coach Lee's straight face when saying that as well.
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Fucking LOL
Hilarious 😂😂😂
"I called her back the next day" lol
"Just do it, fake it till you make it" love it!
Going no contact for good.😂
He can't have me back after dumping me. It's honestly getting better everyday.
The longer I go into no contact the more I realize I “want” my ex back bc of the feeling of “loss”. I am mainly doing no contact out of respect for myself. Just letting things be. Good luck to everyone out there going through rough times. Thanks for the video Coach Lee. On point!
I am also doing the same we literally broke up today and hense I am here as I'm so messed up now in the head x glad there are other people going through the same
Its been only 3 months since our break up ( she broke up with me) . My ex had been into 1 short relationship and now as of today her latest bf . Damn . I'll only start doing no contact today . I wont do the same thing she did to me. She cheated and I wanna move on.
@@elkantotero3156 hey, if she's a cheater and she takes you back she'll only cheat on you again. Do you want to go through a break up again? People who change for you. Sorry. Just do no contact, each day gets easier and don't go back. I've been down that lonely road, and with time you'll blame yourself more and more because that's what she'll say or hint and that will make you feel so weak and insignificant that you can't make her happy. The truth though is that you can't. She was broken when you found her. Take care bro, love yourself first. God bless
@@pahriz this happened to me 3 days ago. It sucks so bad. I feel like it's a lot of love and some loss. That question crosses my mind a lot. Can she be faithful? Only I can make that decision to take her or leave her. I'm weighing out my decision. Last talked today, but it was that "wish you luck" message. No more. No contact starting today.
@@petervoss7041 I'm no expert, I'm here trying to learn too...in the end, look in your heart. Ask yourself, "will she cheat again?" I don't think most guys can live with that. If it's less than cheating and you can forgive...go back, I'd say. I'm a sucker like that, and all couples have drama...cheating - if you go back, go to all the black dating coaches, they're like Corey but more raw...at the end of the day, forget what anybody says do what makes you happy but step you're game up. AMS, Myster Lemba, blackram 313, coach bill lee, stephiscold and a couple others for good advice
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It's pretty x
@@Mistressillyanna that’s pArt in his hair is classical
Its a wig, right? Hahahaha
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This is 100% facts! The issue is people think to themselves, if I go no contact this person will forget about me and move on. No contact actually does the opposite of this! It creates mystery and distance.
If the other person actually does forget about you and moves on, then that person truly does not want you in their life and you must accept and respect this!
Meditation is highly beneficial. When the uncomfortable thoughts come up. Ignore them. Let them pass. Like clouds. Do NOT act upon them.
This is 100% effective...each time I have done this it has worked....and as Lee says, it is also for you...you get the time to think if this person is really worth your time
Been 3 weeks since the breakup. 2 weeks since no contact. Came out of nowhere and I felt so lost when it happened as it was a loving and complete relationship of 3 years. Day to day has been hard, but watching these videos have put some things into perspective for me. It has given me some hope, not just the relationship but for my mindset as well. Thanks Coach!
How’s everything going?
@@jarrodoberg2078yeah hard
Howre you feeling now
how are you now?❤ I'm on day 5 of no contact and I feel completely lost and hollow 😢
@@lineakristensen1821I feel you 14 days
a lot of these relationship videos teach how to manipulate them back to you but you actually give real usable advice
Coach Lee is the true GOAT of breakup advice
I will be honest...without calling out other coaches...I just came across this channel today. Though the content of the words and advice might be consistent with what these other coaches are preaching, I like the fact that Coach Lee is not cocky..in fact..down to earth..realistic about the true emotions and difficulties in overcoming these situations.
Great job!
Exactly!
I feel sad and lonely all the time since I was dumped; but every time I feel like crying, I watch your videos. Gets me through.
Stay strong your not alone.
Lmao....this guy is genius...I love how he basically has no facial expression...it makes it humorous for some reason. Also, great advice.
It annoys me. 😂 (no offense)
This comment made me smile Haha thanks!
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HAAHAHHAHAA I KNOW IVE THOUGHT ABOUT THIS SO MUCH
His hair is absolutely PERFECT. I’m dead serious
Took me a while, but found this video again. Over a year ago, me as an adult, found this and this entire channel the help that I needed. Never before in my life has someone looked me straight in the eyes and talked to me like this. Tonight, I shared this with my 19yo son, who is now going through his first 'breakup'. Thank you, for everything you do and say that I cannot.
Thank you so much Lee. The longer I stay into no contact the easier it gets. I've built some good momentum and am on my 3rd week. I'm getting to the point to where I would rather watch movies and enjoy my day than to sit around thinking of someone who did not appreciate me . My exs birthday was a few days ago but I held my ground and stuck it out.
Good job holding your ground. She’s not your girlfriend so she doesn’t deserve the privileges of that title. Stay strong.
@@RealCoachLee how do I respond if she only wishes me "Happy birthday, stay well" And rest of the year nothing... This is the second time she left btw..
Hey Alex mine was different the first time breakup. I told myself watch he is going to come back because his birthday is coming up. Lord behold he did come back for his present but he brought his girlfriend with him, which i found out later. The intentions of his heart slowly I have found out. Am smiling and enjoying my recovery right now plus my peace of mind which i am gathering from Coach lees videos.
Hey friends do you need on getting back your ex partner,broken relationship,get rid of third parties and attractive love for better and permanent,,,,
@Kahpone Bone Ruthless Records MO Thugs hey I'm curious what happened from this, if you feel like sharing?
Makes you look clingy, weird, pathetic and weak...😬😂 your bluntness is great! Way to combine humor and straight facts!👊🏼
I’ve been listening to Coach Lee’s advice off and on for the past year. In all honesty, I initially blew off his advice, but I’ve come to realize he is spot on. Whether your ex comes back or not, his advice can only improve your life. I appreciate his genuine compassion and logical reasoning.
No contract one year today!!
Good video!
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I do not want my ex back i have my freedom!
Marilyn Breedon Did he/she reach out ?
@@kevinbarrera7256 Yes he's text,called
Same here I don't want mine back.
I’m literally lmfao “no contract!!!!” 😂😂😂😂😂
M M do u reply him?
2 weeks of no contact= 2 week of tears ever single day. Trying to stay strong. Hope she come back soon
Any luck?
@@sarahbryce8800 she got new boyfriend during the second week... and I accidentally saw them and she straight away call me and accuse me stalking them. Heart break to this moment... crying day and night
@@frostbyte9770hey how is everything now?
Good luck to all who are in NO CONTACT... God bless your emotions. I wish you all good luck... ⚘
@@aliyumuhammad8176 ok. Bless you.
You really help me out. My ex is chase me now. But during no contact I also realized that I did not want him back. Its hurt in the bigining messy in the middle but gorgeous at the end. Sorry for my English. Just wanan say thanks
jasmine Thaye how long was no contact?
You're English Is Sufficient
Just As You Are Sufficient.
Rejection breeds obsession
2 weeks of No Contac! I know she misses me but she wants the one who broke up with me and i begged her for 2 months like a loser. I'm moving on even though i miss her so much!
Don't ever do beg for love again bro, you deserve better that that.
Welcome to my miserable world bro. I begged her for 3 months. The day I told her I was moving on, she began to apologize.
I didn't take her seriously. She did so for 2 days; for a week now, she hasn't called again, neither have I.
I just want to keep my sanity bro. I was running mad from the heartache.
Still willing to take her back, but only if I see her work to get us back together. I was doing all the work of keeping us together for most of our relationship.
Women cannot be trusted with love. Once they realise that you love the? Boom! They'll take it for granted and treat you like trash.
2 months damm !!!
Best advice. Give them the gift of your absence and respect their decision. Back out of their life and go No Contact. Work on bettering yourself and stay No Contact.
A lot of these comments are talking about how we shouldn’t want our ex back because they don’t deserve us, they didn’t realise what they had, and they’ll never change. Have you ever thought that maybe we were dumped for a reason, we didn’t realise what we had, and that we need to change some things about us? I’ve been really looking into the part I played with my fear of abandonment. I was so needy and suffocating. I’m addressing that issue in therapy and starting to really understanding whymy ex wanted to leave. I would want to leave me too.
Also instead of social pouting, if you need to get some stuff out, write. Journal it. Write whatever angry, sad thing you want and don’t ever share it with anyone. Except maybe your therapist if you want to 😂
Finally an intelligent comment, I was dumped 6 days ago and in a way I understand why he broke it off because I became too pushy, HOWEVER, at the least half if not more of my pushyness was because he procrastinates everything, he promised me that he had this very important thing he has to do ready and was going to be done by the end of September last year.
Nothing happened, that is why I started going off more pushy than normal which started to stress him more but he stressed me even more by this, then on xmas he calls me and was already about to give up cuz he felt his plan was still not going anywhere, if he had told me that a lot earlier then I would have stepped back with my pushyness and stress.
So in my case, HE should re-earn me if he wants me back, I know my part in it but he is responsible for most of it and he even admitted that during the breakup, in essence he broke it off cuz he couldnt handle the mess he started.
these are my thoughts exactly, I made mistakes that triggered her response, this is a call to make me grow
Hads I relate to this, cause I know a lot of my past actions are the reason she broke up with me. I know I need to fix so many things about myself
Such a nice comment - and great that you are seeking healing for your emotional issues. That way, maybe one day a healthy relationship with someone great will just fall into your lap. I also work with healing for people in relationships. Wish u all the best.
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Guys dont bother to text the dumper not worth at all or stalking or showing at their places etc.
There's a difference between texting and stalking. In NC you wouldn't do that anyway. Only respond when they respond.
Odd&Entertaining and even them is say you shouldn’t be looking for things to respond with. Let the convo end organically
That moment you are so depressed in zombie mood then you watch this guy's videos and start breaking smiles here and there. ❤
The pain he gave me brought me here. Thanks for this wonderful video!
Same here the pain she gave me brought me here. Thanks to this gentleman.
Same ♥️♥️♥️♥️
Same here boo
Same
And am here today
This has been extremely helpful. Breaking up really sucks😥
Yeah its suck but now I'm getting stronger
Stay strong, Mel.
Never get to pass five days !!!
Especially you when you did everything right and still because of their own issues
@Andre Baldwin one year later I have completely healed spiritually, mentally, emotionally. He texted me in early June which is the anniversary of our first meeting we met which I had no clue of until I thought about it. I happened to be looking in my blocked messages and his text had been sitting there for six days(😅). He asked me how I was doing, stated his favorite aunt had asked about me, said he often though about me when he would drive by my job etc...my responses were polite and short. He even had the audacity to ask me if i could make him some tacos 🌮 oneday (his fav)...i ignored that part🙄 rather than tell him helllllll naaaaw😅😅😅. Ive stayed single within this year and truly done an overhaul, got in shape, got closer to God and right now continuing to do me😍. He truly doesn't realize what a favor he did me by dumping such an awesome and amazing woman who just needed t remind herself of such😉 I have never been so much at peace within myself. Whatever your situation is dont give up on yourself. God loves you and he is protecting you❤Thankyou for asking! Listen to Coach Lee. He guided me through my situation and was spot on with his advice!!!
Thank you so much for this. 16 days in and today I had the worst impulse to contact him. I also realized that I was doing no contact to mainly give him space so he would come back. But now, I'm going to continue no contact with the intention of focusing on my self, loving myself and not expecting anything from him. Whatever is the best for me will come to me. I'm manifesting everything good for me to come to me.
THIS GUY IS TRULLY AMAZING. This is exactly what I needed. It works.
It's as though Coach Lee was talking directly at me.
The only mistake I made was being too nice. But I am a nice person, generous, caring and will always help my partner no matter what. I am not prepared to change. If all they have on me is "Being too nice" I can live with that :)
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You have to disappear and do not reach out when they break up with you. Truth is, alot of times we displayed weak behavior that pushed them away. You have to go away for atleast 2 -3 months to repair yourself and time for them to forget the mistakes you made. Usually it's not until they've dated someone else before they come back to check on you. But honestly, if she isn't ready to shovel shit to get back with me, then i aint Going back bc i dont want my heart broken again. Get strong and move on to a better woman
Exactly!!!
Kudos
There’s almost always somebody else. People rarely break up without somebody else ready to go.
What an OUTSTANDING video. I had just gotten out of a breakup that I thought I wouldn’t be able to get over, but this video helped me so much. There’s something about his voice that’s so soothing and makes it seem like everything will get better. I absolutely love this channel. Thank you so much!
I love your eyes
Sign of maturity, self discipline, respect for the other person, stay strong... LOVE IT!!!
It was a bit of an epiphany to realise the fact that the pain is about a sense of loss rather than the loss of love. That actually helps a lot. Thank you. Fascinating and helpful, and it makes a lot of sense.
I will be able to deal with my situation with way less emotional pain or involvement working it out from this wY of thinking. So helpful!
Anne H the hurt is from being abandoned, rejected .Not in losing the person
Yesss my friend always asks, why are you so stuck on me him?! It wasn't him, it was me not wanting to lose something
I was feeling down about my break up, watched this video and literally LOLed thanks coach Lee. Great advice too.
This goes for all the videos I have watched from you coach Lee and I have to THANK YOU for your wisdom. So much so that after doing your videos, therapy, talks with friends etc etc I came to realise it is time for me to check-out…this is not a “I got my ex back” story but rather a story of me realizing my value and under no circumstances will I be stuck in gloom and doom anymore. I am moving forward and forward means without my ex, even if she shows at my door it’s a no from me. Before someone judges my decision the background of the story is filled with belittling, abuse, gaslighting, not being good enough (ever) and more…
I am done but will for sure take the wisdom from your channel with me. I hope for all of you that you find your path, be patient and take care of yourself whatever that means for you but don’t forget to:
-sleep
-meditate
-sports
-eat healthy
-do NOT drink or abuse anything
-hangout with friends
-go out
- don’t get laid just for the sake of it you’ll regret it the moment you wake up the next day
-walk walk walk walk…moving forward physically while being stuck in your head has therapeutic results (I have walked over 100km last week)
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CHRIST I should have had this advice when I needed it most. I know without a doubt I would have gotten her back had I had access to this information. I did everything wrong and made an utter spectical of myself (damn shame).Truly effective information. Thanks for sharing.
Yea bro important life lessons
Your message is so powerful in these videos about breakups that now I respect myself so much that I don’t even want to get back with my ex. Now that you have taught and teach me how to have respect for myself I want to spend all my energy on my next relationship and start a new life. By the way the formats of your videos and the way you look directly into my eyes it’s so effective that it feels like you are a loving and caring brother I never had. Thank you so much. God bless you.
I have called, text, cry involve family members n even drove to his house still d same. . I’m starting my no contact tomorrow Dear lord please help me 💔🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🗣
How did it go
If you walked away due to the man seeing several women, you can go into "no contact " mode to avoid being with someone who has obviously decided that you're not a woman he values. Let those other women have the luxury of sharing him while you move on and give yourself permission to accept better. Sometimes, it's not worth it to contact an ex after the no contact period is over. He's probably not going to change anyway. He just likes knowing you like him. Let him go!
Ty
To me, not only coach Lee seems to be a genius, but he has the most unique intense humor with a glance of non offensive sarcasm that he uses to make everyone understand the deep meanings of his teachings.
You really believe are also a good friend to have around.
Miss my girl and you help me be optimistic.
Respects.
How’d it go?
@@dakotakerr6467 we got back together and we were ok. We’re still ok but our specific issue is that we have haters who try everything they can to hurt our relationship, AND SHE IS NOT THE TYPE OF PERSON TO TELL THEM: He’s my man! If you don’t like seeing us together, then SHUT THE F UP
7:50 Thank you so much for clarifying to NOT tell your ex that you are planning on not talking to them. There were many videos and they all mention the No Contact rule, and after watching them it made me want to text my ex that I'm not going to talk to her, but you actually describe all aspects of the No Contact rule, paying attention to what mistakes people will make when applying it. Thanks.. hopefully this will help me.
My girl left me and I'm glad...
She was a basket-case🤯
That's how a alpha feels after betrayal. Hoorahh whoop whoop lol
I am so grateful I found you. In times past I have listened to other coaches and it was always about sending certain texts or certain words that should be spoken...I never tried any of those approaches because I saw it as a form of manipulation. My 2 year relationship just ended 4 days ago. It has been so hard but I have called friends or family members every time I wanted to call him. Friends and family are great to have at times like this. It makes the "no contact" much easier. Now when I cannot sleep at night, I have you at the click of a mouse to bring me reassurance I am on the right path for me. It will be interesting to see what the future holds. Thank you for your time and energy that you spend to help all the hurting hearts out here. You are remarkable!!
Thank you for your kind words. I wish you the very best Carol!
Update us Carol
“You want to be yourself!” ------- So powerful and so true!
Coach Lee, can you post a video about success stories? This would really help people who need inspiration.
Odd&Entertaining facts
Yes yes please coach..
I went NC and 14 days later he called. He sounded distraught. But... he disrespected me on the phone so I am once again in NC. We’ll see!
9th day... this is so tough.. hardest thing I’ve had to do in my life. I love her. She was my everything and I blew it because I was too clingy and had mood swings. I got my bipolar disorder diagnosed from a doctor shortly after the breakup and received medication and wish she knew that I’m trying to fix myself.
Any updates?
Modi she actually just texted me today. Asked me how I was doing. I haven’t replied and don’t think I will.
stay strong, quit rationalizing and blaming yourself
Same man your litterly me from the Tee I got diagnosed as well.But I hope everything went well and if you could respond to let me know what happend it would be greatly appreciated
@@Prince-vv8wk I haven't spoken to her in over a year. I had blocked her on everything for some time then unblocked and nothing since. I have moved on with another relationship.
This is really helpful. Benefits of doing no contact is not only to MAYBE get your ex back. But to make yourself a strong person. When you are strong and secure in life, that is very attractive to other people. Thank you for all the videos, and The Emergency Break-up Kit. They are great!
This is probably one of the best of HUNDREDS of these videos I've seen. Thank you! I am going through this right now
I’m on day 2 of no contact right now, I listen to a playlist of these encouragement videos to keep my mind occupied when I’m struggling to feel strong. I made progress today, when I saw a new story had popped up on my exes Instagram profile, instead of opening it so that they could see I viewed it if I chose to, I muted it, that temptation won’t be there again. It’s hard, but I already feel stronger. Thank you for your videos xxx
good work, keep it up!
It’s now been 7 days and I’ve also found not drinking alcohol has made it a lot easier to control being strong.
I'm on day 3 and this person really motivated me on No contact and makes me feel better and strong. Many Thanks young man. Funniest part I told my mother in law that I'm gonna be starting No contact 😂
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@@dakotakerr6467 I no longer think about my ex, by the time I realised that he hasn’t reach out 1 and a half years later, I realised that it would be awkward if he did. My life is great. I recommend after a while to stop watch relationship advice videos, they help at the start, but in time they only can tell you what you already know
I've done 3 weeks of NC so far...still very uncomfortable, some days I feel extremely anxious...but I'll never reach out first that's for sure! Thank you coach, your videos calm me down 🤗
Did they reach out?
We work together and yeah this person is always first to start the conversation and ask questions....I wait for something significant though, not just " how are you" etc...
@@flower_7890 how are you kinda thing is annoying
@@flower_7890update
Iam in great pain coach... I love the way you teach.... But it's very difficult to live without her.... Respect from India.... You are awesome teacher... God bless you sir..
Rh skta bhai.. Kuch ni hota
I just got dumped today. It was pretty much mutual. He thought he had feelings for his ex. And he was advised that he’s better off single. Which, I am too. I rather be single than be insecure in a relationship. I’m going to stay firm on this. We had a GREAT relationship, almost perfect. Maybe we’ll be in each other’s lives again. Until then, NO CONTACT. also, I’m gonna take some boudoir pics in a couple of months. I think all women should try this. It’s a huge confidence booster.
This guy deserves a much greater recognition.
Second time round of going no contact. First time I lasted 30 days. It was so hard. Thought about her all day, checked my phone constantly, couldn't sleep etc. Eventually broke no contact, messaged her and managed to get her back. Everything went well for 5 weeks and a few weeks ago she broke up with me again for the stupidest reason ever. Permanent no contact now and now I'm not even counting the days or worrying about her. I hope she reaches back out so I can tell her to hit the road.
how did she respond the first time you texted her?
She was surprised I messaged her and was actually quite hostile to start with. Eventually I found out she was spending all that time with an ex-FWB. This guy was into hookers apparently so guess she was right up his alleyway. Trust me, you just need to move on. Reaching out after a break-up and reconciling for a few weeks is the worst thing you can do and you'll hate yourself for it, especially when it ends up in another break up.
@@TDBS-1984 Sorry that it happened this way for you. I dont plan on reaching out anytime soon, but it is nice hearing someone else saying the same thing to strengthen it. Going in on One Month NC, sadly or not i had to text her for her HB since it was just one week after the breakup and mine is coming also on about 2 weeks,. hope it doesnt get in the way of NC
No contact is an ONLY WIN SITUATION because you will learn to be strong and that will bring you much internal power . Winning your ex back is just a bonus. It is hard to lose your ex sure but it is devastating TO LOSE YOURSELF that is the worst
Why am i getting these weird spam messages?
I broke up with my ex because she was disrespecting me. I was tired of it
Champ
Good for you king
Felt like shit until i watched this video, i am 100 times better now.
First in foremost the “no contact rule” works, surprisingly in my situation it works twice! This the second time I use it on the same person but I’m at a point I realize I deserve better sadly and plus she’s in a rebound relationship and still reaching out too me like crazy asking mad questions about our relationship but how long does it start working? As soon as you stop reaching out! Yea I know crazy but as soon as you stop reaching out is when it works. If you were in a long term relationship 3 to 6 years, just know your in luck unless you was shitty as person than your out of luck but if you was in a long term, it will start working as soon as possible, so stick to no contact and don’t try to break it and if you do, redo it again cause I know it’s hard
leison saintil haha why am I in luck..!?
How long was it for you? 2 days? 2 weeks? 2 months? It was 7 years for our relationship.
Odd&Entertaining mines was like 1 month and 2 weeks when I finally did not contact her cause I kept messing up before but I realized the only reason why she ain’t call me before cause someone else had her attention
7 year relationship, I did no contact for a week, gave her a talk + letter after 8 days when picking up my stuff. Then went into no contact again for 5 days, had some casual texts, didnt mess anything up really. Then I did no contact for 4 more days and did a fucked up desperate call... fuck myself, I was actually playing it pretty cool up to that point.
So guess Im now definitly implementing no contact. Hope I didnt fuck up to much. Its just that I dont know, I thought 2.5 weeks was long enough...
She does respond normally to everything btw, she isnt really pushing me away or rude or anything. But thats just her being nice. She actually told me she felt releived and thinks she did the right thing. Nothing to save here anymore but to do no contact and move on, even though it hurts
_ BUDDHA _ yea most definitely, the table turn and she will start begging and wanting to talk
all the other coachs market no contact as some manipulation tactic that will "always work" but you explain it is also the respectful and mature thing to do. You also explain that it works if the breakup and relationship were not too bad, which gives us context to why it works and when it works . A+ coach
BUT don't drop everything the moment she calls you at some point during no contact. If you legitimately have plans, keep them and schedule a time when you're free to reconnect after that call from her. Most importantly, review why you broke up in the first place. Sometimes walking away and staying away is the best solution, regardless.
Im currently in day 3 of no contact, its been the hardest 3 days of my life and have never felt so sad and guilty for my mistakes in a relationship (i never cheated but had problem with drinking too much) ive completely cut that stuff out of my life and am working on myself to improve who i am. every morning i run and listen to your videos to set me up for the day. I dont know if she will reach out or not but i trust in what youre saying, i really hope she will! thanks Coach Lee!
I'm on no contact for almost 3 weeks. Welcome to boot camp.
Me too i drank too much and he saw it as an issue. He warned me many times to stop or he will leave me and i didnt listen. Not only that but other stuff too. I really messed up guys! He told me and i didnt listen or respect him enougj and it wasnt until he left i realized i need to make new changes in my life. I lost the love of my life. Im on day 1. We were only togethr for a month and knew eachother a total of 3 months. We had many good times inbetween tho. He said he was inlove with me but i kno he lost attraction he told me when i drink he thinks im disgusting and how i act. Any update ?
@@lovingme6896 my person of interest fucked some guy .. had one night stand.
So I don't even know what I want anymore.
She text me yesterday. I don't know why even seeing her text pains me . To a pt that is unbelievable. And I'm the one who initiated the no contact.
I sent a dull short response ... 3 word .. even that took Soo much energy for me to type.
What she did makes me want to drink and do drugs to somehow not feel or think about it. Which I don't even like doing.
she always get close. Then then fucks me over. I just don't know what's worse. Or Why does it make my blood boil when her fucks someone. I wish I can become immune. I just can't live a normal life because of her .. I can't stand it when she becomes a slut. Nothing worse than loving a whore type girl.
Ryan Topp HOW DID IT GO!
@@NintendoFan8877 were back together! Happier than ever!
I am here to confirm that Coach Lee is the G.O.A.T!!!!!!! Please, please, please listen to him and take heed to his message because HE IS THE TRUTH!!!!! Thank you so very much for sharing your energy!!!!!!
I don’t want my ex back
He was not the person he portrayed himself to be when I first met him 😢
I just trying to run as far away from him and never look back
Coach Lee, you are truly awesome and such a blessing to the heart broken! You are helping many of us, obviously many from the many comments, get through one of the toughest parts of our lives. I will refer anyone I come across that is going through this kind of pain to your videos and links. Thank you so much for your service in helping us. Please know that you are appreciated so much.
Thank you very much for your kind words. I’m sorry that you are going through this and hope that your ex comes back. Always take it one day at a time. Follow me on Instagram @RealCoachLee
I made one of these mistakes. After 7 days of NC I reached out for something I thought was ok (half of wedding costs since ex fiancé broke off engagement). I thought this would be ok BUT IT WASN’T! His response was anger and told me I kept inserting myself into his life and turning anything he had for me into hate! Y’all don’t try to convince yourself that your reason for contacting them is ok- cause it’s probably not! You can wait most likely. Think about it. So now I’m back into NC day 11, and at this point it’s easier than that first week. The first week is the hardest. I’ve been marking Day - in my phone on the calendar to help me see my progress. Seeing it makes me not want to ruin all the progress I’ve made too. Other things that have helped- giving my phone to someone else for a period of time if I’m feeling like I may contact my ex. And of course, pulling up these videos and listening to Coach Lee’s voice of reason. Reading comments on the videos also helps to see that this process works for people. So let’s keep our eyes on the goal! Good luck everyone - stay strong 💜
What happened? Any updates?
@@Veronica-rf6lv wow this was a year ago! He eventually reached out around month 2/3. He wanted me back. I had questions and was unsure but not turning him down. One of the issues for why we broke up was brought up. We still disagreed. Maybe not the best time to bring it up. He ended up engaged to another girl 11 months after we broke up and 5 months after saying he wanted me back 🤣 good riddance
@@NomadNurseZ oh he is so messed up good he did not marry you , he is trouble .
@Blythe Girl he tried to after 2-3 months. We couldn’t see eye to eye. I’m with someone new and happy. Realized my ex was toxic. He got engaged to someone else under a year. Seems sketchy. Wish him the best 👋🏻
It's really weird, I was doing really good on working on myself and staying no contact. Then this past week I became really sick and kind of delirious, IDK why but it clicked in my mind the times she took care of me and I messaged her. I looked at the messages I sent and JESUS, I just messed up all that progress I made for myself. So pretty much starting over and absorbing all your videos again coach, thanks!
Your human, and were not feeling well. its ok.
What a beginning to the year.
Day 1 realised what I want to do for a living. My passion is back.
Day 2 realised that my relationship is a dead end. Breakup.
Day 3 my heart is in pieces. I’ve decided to walk away and now I regret it.
Found your videos and feeling now so much better 😇🙏🏻❤️
If your ex break up with you for another women but he dont want you to b cross and want still b friends with you
@@merciakruger5271 and what do you want? Has anyone asked you that?
Coach, I really love your videos! NC is really helping my get myself back. Day 9 of NC. I pleaded for like 5 days after the breakup before going NC. Now, I’m realizing all of my issues and I’m working on them. He broke up with me cause he got tired of me and my emotions but he told me he still loves me but he’s just tired. He told me he’s never coming back. Since I know we still have feelings for each other, I asked him to block me (REAL immature I know) during our last talk because I told him that I might’ve breakdowns (i have anxiety) which can lead me to messaging him and I told him I didn’t want him to suffer cause of my breakdowns. Right now, I am not really thinking if he will come back cause it seems impossible tbh but I am really loving how I’m discovering myself so much right now!
To all people, we can survive this breakup! We’re a heartbreak closer to our happy endings 😂 Thanks Coach! Everyday is not easy but slow progress is still progress
How did you get on?been 3days for my girlfriend breaking up with me she said she loves me too but it’s just to much I’ve cried and showed to much that I am useless without her need to get the last of my stuff and that will be the last visit am so scared she hugs me and is being civil but when I do get my stuff my only options is try the no contact any advice I would be thankful.
He just broke up with me yesterday bc of the same issue. I've really cried and pleaded but he doesn't even pick my calls or reply to my messages. I don't know how I'll cope but I think it's time I try NC. My fears are that he might not come back. But I'm hopeful he does and I'm praying even if he doesn't come back that I'll be able to heal and move on.
Block their phone #
Delete their contact info.
Learn to not expect a contact. It creates anxieties while taking away your strength to move on.
Thanks Coach Lee 💪
Not sure why you're posting here. Coach Lee isn't advocating making oneself inaccessible if the ex wants reach out so as to restore or redress the relationship.
@@randscott4676
Thank you
“I’m an attractive person... gonna have to take it ‘til ya make it” LOLLLL
This guy makes the most sense out of any advice I've seen, so will be paying more attention to his information.
This break up has been difficult ): thank you for your words.. it’s been therapeutic and helpful.
Alisa Kristen Duron hows it going. He left 3 weeks ago. Devastated
Nakia Hill Hi (: We’re back together better than ever. From this past breakup, I learned that distancing yourself is what will save your relationship. It’s the most simplest things you can do, such as cutting out contact, that can make drastic changes. You are stronger than you truly know Nakia. Much love from my way to yours.
I'm starting no contact from now🙏 bless me lord
I never expected my ex to feel so sad during no contact. Only 5 days in and she reached out. She's very smart and has a way with words so I have to be careful every time. She's already asking if I'm seeing someone and forgetting about her. At the same time I do want to see other people. When she's around I want her. Your advice is helping deal with this.
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Thank you coach Lee.
I was dumped on suspension on cheating because some girl that knows my ex went and told him I was trying to steal her man's friend because he was talking to me alot at the party. Though her and her BFF were there too and we were all having a good chat at the party. Her BFF at the time was an ex trying to get him back and he wasn't paying her any attention. Long story short, he broke up with me cause he believed that story. It was actually a respectful break up with so much love and sadness for both. You are very right when you say they didn't just wake up and decided to end the relationship. He was dealing with this for 3 months and I noticed hot and cold from him since that incidence. He only told me he wanted a break up over the phone while I was away on a girls trip. I asked him why he was being cold and if he didn't want to be with me anymore and he said it's best we should be friends, I know you're seeing other people. My heart shuttered. We had a face to face 2 weeks after cause he was out of town and he were in each other's arms as I explained the incident and he had already made up his mind, but he said I should give him space to think it over. We said our love yous, we ate, he kissed me and went home. He texted the next morning as usual and we had light chats the whole week. My friend decided to go talk to him on my behalf and he unloaded on her what he was feeling and what he wasn't happy with me and how I carried myself in the relationship. I was in the trunk of her car during this conversation but when I sent him a voice note afterwards, I told him I heard the conversation because I put a recorder in my friends car. He was so angry and said I invaded his privacy as his a Dr and that's a big deal. He said he was considering working things out and now he won't and it's over and doesn't even want a friendship. His colleague and friend advised me to tell him the truth about being in the trunk other than saying I recorded him. I sent a clean slate text, apologized and gave him his space. It's been 4 weeks and nothing from him and I'm in no contact. Hardest thing ever
@@jenalastephenson5755 it is scam my friend
i learned this when i was young .......you need to disapear and not chase ......let them start thinking about what youre doing , where you are and who you might be with
Absolutely
18:48 he is so right. We all to often confuse loss and love. I was doing this myself
I think the #1 mistake people make in this type of situation (I'm in it right now myself) is they go no contact IN ORDER TO get their ex back. I'm struggling with that motive myself. But the main purpose of me going no contact is to get back to the me I was before knowing her. That guy was happy and on his path. And as a bonus, he's the guy she was originally attracted to anyway, so IF IF IF no contact has an effect on her, and she comes back to the same person who's in the same place she left him, she won't feel that attraction. She'll just be reminded of why she left. So do this for YOU, my friend. Not to manipulate someone into doing something for you. As you improve yourself and "level up", you'll find you no longer NEED her. And truthfully, don't we all want to be in a place where we don't NEED externals for our happiness? That's where I want to be.
Wish me luck. This is day 4 of no contact. She's texted me every day since... we didn't have a negative breakup. She just realized she's not emotionally available. So I'm giving her that space. But it's killing me... it really is. I miss her a lot 💔
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How is it going my guy?
coach lee is a legend. respect man
From the bottom of my heart, THANK YOU coach Lee...love your material. Your content is like an ax to the frozen sea in me...
Thank God for the coach. Going through it now but im learning that the wrong person will lev u in pieces but the right one will bring you peace!