I just want to say listen to Coach Lee! He got me through a terrible time over the past 3 months after I was dumped. He gave me the courage and strength to stay in no contact and radio silence and at about 3 months she broke the silence, we’ve reconnected and are doing better than ever. True love prevails, and it is crucial to watch and listen to all of his videos through a breakup! Thank you so so much Coach Lee, I wish I could hug you I’m so grateful for your inspiration and support. ❤️🙏
You guys… please listen to Lee. It really does work-but you have to get yourself into the right mindset during NC. During NC, you need to boss up. Give yourself the love you want. Take care of your amazing body and soul and really pour attention and care into yourself. Get stronger mentally, physically. Get spiritual. Get curious and fun-seeking. Get sexy. ;) When they come back (which is MOST of the time… trust), you will be so strong and healthy and amazing that your S.O. is going to have to level up in order to regain their relationship with you… if that’s what you want! Stay NC and use your new free time to invest in YOU.
@@rowdybliss Got blocked twice now. First one was in July for a month and she unblocked me cuz she was curious if I'd texted or trying to go around the block. But I reached out afterwards and in November got blocked again and still not unblocked but it is good in a certain way because helps the NC. I'm now in a mindset like Lee said: if she comes back, she does. If not, well so be it. But deep inside you kinda 'hope' that she does ^^
The most important factor is when you go absent, it hurts their ego. That's where it hits them! And they see you as a strong person at the same time! Questioning their decision.
@@twistedstoic same, my short term partner left me due to depression . I stayed by her side for 8 weeks. I didnt beg and plead but let her know i was there. Then she pushed me away and said we need to end it completely when i couldnt contain my feelings one day. Its now been 3 weeks of NC.
As someone who was the dumper and is about 6 weeks into the post breakup experience, I can tell you that everything he says in his videos about the psychology of this end of things is exactly correct. Trust the no contact, because it really is fucking with my head.
@@shweine_marion “making it right” is relative to the situation, but yes, we are back together, and better than ever. I will not make this mistake again.
Yes, but my dumper was straight into another relationship....for me that has been a jagged little pill to swallow. I do hope for a conversation at some point though. I'm in NC and that is where I will stay! Thoughts?
No contact works in every case as long as you’re not the one to initiate contact and certainly, not one or two months down the line. It’s too soon for most people. If you initiate with someone who left you, you’re putting yourself in the “weak” position and it’s an ego stroke like coach Lee says. It has to be a meeting by chance or “by chance” or even better let them come to you. It works, I speak from experience. Time is on your side people, don’t view it like an enemy. Thank you coach Lee!
No contact always Works for the one that makes his life more sucssesfull and atractive even if you contact them First because that is what is All about mindset
@@fernandogonzalezmartinez83 yes exactly, my ex didn’t benefit my life and I realized that after she got a new tattoo with her new boyfriend that she’s been dating for two weeks. That’s a permanent write off in my book.
Yeah my ex came back a month later and ended it again. Broke my heart all over again but maybe it was just too soon. It feels not as bad but more final since he said he wasn’t in love with me. I just don’t understand why he came back at all only to end it again.
@@godsavethecoffeecake probably he wasn’t sure it was over for him, or he got lonely or he just wanted to know he could have you. Mine reached out a few times over the first four months post break up and I didn’t respond at first because it felt too pretentious but then the third time he texted something similar to all of his exes (I’m friends with my predecessor so I knew) and I got so mad I couldn’t let him think he was fooling us. Now he’s unemployed, promising marriage to a trans wannabe singer (he hated trans and gay people with burning passion) I mean... I still care for him, but I pitty the man I see. I will forever love the version of him I used to know but since it’s not the person he is anymore... It feels a lot like mourning someone who died, you know?
I’m 34 days NC, still not sleeping, eating ok, gym 5 days per week. Trying to work. Not bad considering my ex terminated our relationship with a 45 second FT call after 8 years together. I read something yesterday that said: ‘If I could love the wrong person that much, imagine how much I could love the right one’ 🤷🏼
@@minigengarr4729 well, I found out there was infidelity so it’s not gone well. I still hurt but it gets a little easier everyday. We’ve had some contact but it’s not been great. I wish I’d have ignored her messages but I can’t beat myself up for replying. I believe NC is a must, I’ve restarted NC and I will not reach out again ever. Is she cheats, send her back to the streets. It just isn’t worth your sanity and the heartache. So if you’re reading this do everything you can possible to not contact your ex!!!!!!!!
@@d34285 Yeah, I'm trying everyday. It is still hard as I'm still in the dark as to why the break up happened 100%, although when I say that, I actually think I know the answer. Anyway, I did reach out with a letter, silly I know but I've forgave myself, and forgiven her too, it has been a good few weeks since we have had any contact. We have not spoken FtoF since August 19th, though.
@@diilain we are in this together. We are strangers connected by the same life experiences. We got this, stay strong. You have said your piece to her and it is out of our control. Time to focus on what is most important in life.....our happiness. We grow with each life lesson and what this taught us is we can always be better not for her but for our happiness. If she can't see that then why are we sad. Whenever you feel down just go for a walk. I believe in you!
After 6 months of breakup. Im watching this because to say guys its working. Please never contact your ex. Period! Its working not because we are back together, but its working because I have moved on! Keep moving forward never look back! Just focus on yourself, your goal!
This is smiliar to my situation. I had this special person. Very caring and loving and has high interest and desire towards me. There was one time we stopped talking because i couldn’t commit to her yet. When we stopped communicating i did everything to get her back and she told me she was seeing someone already. However after i found one it didn’t work out with that guy for that guy ghosted her/left her less than 3 months or so. I started connecting with her and so did she with me and asked her if something happened between that guy and she said she did everything for him especially giving herself to him because she liked him. It was a disappointment for me because how can you give yourself to a person that easily and left you just like that. That held me back for committing to her. But i still showed her and gave her what a boyfriend would do for his girl. February i distanced myself to think if im ready to be committed to her however she didn’t want it anymore. For a month of march i tried to get her back but failed and told me to move on and might find someone better. So right now i have walked away and stopped communicating with her even though she wanted friendship. Oh well.🤷🏽♂️life as we know it.
If you had a great relationship. There is a great chance they will revisit the idea of coming back to you. In the meantime concentrate on personal growth
@@yswen828 I’m no expert. It depends on how they truly felt at one time. If you both were in love. That’s great. Because attachment is hard to get over
@@rickcope3226 I have a question...when we broke up, he didn’t say “goodbye it was nice knowing you.” Does that mean he will come back? What do you want to know? It’s kind of hard to explain.
After 4 months of no contact! My ex reaches out to me today! My heart was in my stomach I couldn’t believe it. I Ofcourse , gave it a few hours before I respond and sure enough he hasn’t stopped texting me. Don’t ignore like coach Lee says but don’t give away too much too soon! If he wants me back he’s gotta work for it. Trust in the power of time and trust that no contact works it allows them to experience the break up that they asked for. Thanks Coach Lee for your wisdom 🙏🏻
Life update it’s been a year and a few months since the break! We are not together and we no longer keep in touch. Iv learned to love and put myself first, I realized I couldn’t make someone happy because I wasn’t happy with myself. I sacrificed too much and neglected my own needs. While Coach Lee paved the way, I now believe in self love and self worth. Time does heal all wounds, I have a new career that allows me to travel and meet the world and couldn’t be happier. While self love continues to be my priority I look forward to my future prospering in all aspects of my life!
This is smiliar to my situation. I had this special person. Very caring and loving and has high interest and desire towards me. There was one time we stopped talking because i couldn’t commit to her yet. When we stopped communicating i did everything to get her back and she told me she was seeing someone already. However after i found one it didn’t work out with that guy for that guy ghosted her/left her less than 3 months or so. I started connecting with her and so did she with me and asked her if something happened between that guy and she said she did everything for him especially giving herself to him because she liked him. It was a disappointment for me because how can you give yourself to a person that easily and left you just like that. That held me back for committing to her. But i still showed her and gave her what a boyfriend would do for his girl. February i distanced myself to think if im ready to be committed to her however she didn’t want it anymore. For a month of march i tried to get her back but failed and told me to move on and might find someone better. So right now i have walked away and stopped communicating with her even though she wanted friendship. Oh well.🤷🏽♂️life as we know it.
It almost did. And i didn't want him still don't so i found these videos and realized what he was doing. Now i am doing this entirely. I want us to part were both to toxic. Updates he's a soical path I didn't want him and he kept using bs to get to me now it will be a month no contact but there's a problem we have kids. He kept using them as tools to get to me. :(
Lee's videos and most of the comments in the comments section are like a lifeline for me, giving me so much hope... not necessarily that she'll come back, but that things will get better eventually, whatever the outcome.
Answering requests, the update: she hasn't come back, nor do I think she ever will. However, things are indeed going much better with my life. If I can survive this, anyone can. Just focus on improving as a person, helping people that are in even worse situations and having fun, and soon enough you won't even have mental room to suffer that much.
I was in no contact with my ex of 10 years for about a month and a half when a fling from 12 years ago contacted me. We are now married, waiting for a baby, madly in love and blissfully happy.
“they’re letting you contact them; what a wonderful person they are” ... this made me laugh, thank you! Still struggling with keeping to NC after 3 months. It’s the best thing for me. Your videos truly are a lifeline to me keeping my dignity and sanity... and power 😀
@@unknown49818 Yes. It was a very short (2 month) relationship. He broke it off 3 months ago. It actually was the right thing to do, but it still hurts and I miss him.
No contact works! I wanted my own success story and now I have it! My ex and I have been broken up for 3 months before he reached out and admitted to wanting us trying again. We are taking things slow. We are texting every day and it feels so weird after 3 months of not talking, it doesn't feel real! We have our second meet up scheduled tonight. Wish me luck and good luck to everyone!
@@RickySpanish12344 Hi, things are going good, unfortunately we are not spending christmas together, but made plans after. Taking things slow and both of is definitely want to work on things and staying together
@@ags835 Glad to hear, and good luck :). Just remember that you are a person of great value (as all people are), and deserve to be happy, and respected.
Coach Lee videos are like a drug for me during this difficult time of going through a break up. When I feel the anxiety of loss coming on, I frantically search for the right video to bring me back to reality and ground me. I feel indebted to Coach Lee. Thank you from the bottom of my heart, sir.
@@rowdybliss No not so much now.. I'm happy to move on, dating has its positive.. just be open to opportunities and see what happens.. I find with us women we have to much expectation.. if we got rid of those we'd been fine.
Been NC for 3 weeks. None. His birthday is in 3 months. I will want to reach out to him. You’re saying DO NOT DO IT, Right?? I’ve decided to follow these rules or guideline seriously. I have begun a personal training course, will beginning my Masters degree, joined French classes and seeing my friends and family. Trusting the process. No ego strokes for this 61 year old vibrant woman! I totally lost myself for 7 years with a DA. NO MORE. and it’s truly bc of your videos. ❤️❤️. They are soooo inspiring no matter what the outcome. I’m feeling empowered rather than disempowered. Thank you coach Lee😘 8:02
Hi guys I was in pain like you guys were, yeah nc rules does works!! But hear me out for me it took 3 months during the time I work on my self and by almost the 4 month I was like great if she comes back and great if she doesn’t and guess what two days later she reach out! Now we’re stronger than before
Love this. Very well explained. There are so many coaches who advocate no contact as a trick to get your ex back but they rarely mention that after no contact you’ll be a better and stronger partner for your next partner - whether that be your ex or someone you’ve never even met yet.
No contact absolutely works, it took my girlfriend about 4 weeks to text me and say that not talking was stupid and we should meet up, that was 2 years ago!
Although, I used No Contact, my ex hasnt reached out since the breakup, which is more than 4 months ago. Fortunately, I have accepted his decision and feel better than before
@@georgepanagiotou8673 i highly doubt it anymore because, i ruined my chances. Also we broke up 4 months ago too and i Didn’t know anything about no contact until a month ago......so im just going to assume she will never come back to me. Especially when she even said we will never get back and also calls me girly/feminine..........yeah :)
It s been a month for me and I felt great but now i found out that he is with somebody else he didn t even have the decency to hide it from me... at least for a while. He promised me he would not be with someone new because he didnt feel the need, and i told him i want to be with someone new, who would show me the love i want and give. But here I am, single, no need for anyone, just myself... anyway, the girl is a nurse he would talk crap about... and a friend of mine met them a week ago. I feel so hurt and furious but at the same time i feel free and ready for what comes next no matter what life brings me. Because i don t want to do this NC this with the idea that He will contact me again. No. I suggest you to do the same. I think that Coach Lee insists on the idea of us getting better, loving ourselves and enjoying our lives alone. And it really is a blessing to be alone and do what you love. Not to mention that many times i just didnt feel happy around him, I felt caged, I felt like he didn t want me to be happy. I didnt want to make changes( start dance lessons, go out, go to the gym, even work more) because I was afraid i wouldnt spend enough time with him!!! That s toxic
Starting no contact today guys. We have been off and on for a while. But this time he made it clear that we are done for good. He falsely accused me of cheating. I’m devastated because I would never. He thinks it’s because our sex is different.. I will keep you guys updated with my journey. If this brings me anything I hope it’s strength 🤞🏾
How do I say this,,, coach lee works. Few months ago my ex broke up with me. After applying all these things Coach Lee taught me I’m happy to say my ex just texted me and wants to start dating again. It takes time and patience and lots of strategizing but I promise it works. Thank you Coach Lee for everything. You are a blessing.
@@ppv1780 hey bud. We were together a year. I coped by simply talking to myself and by keeping hope. Like coach Lee said as long as you two are alive, there’s always a chance of reunion.
5 months no contact , she doesn't give 2 f@#*s . And neither do I now. Thanks coach you have helped achieve that . I've worked on myself and gonna keep pushing for a better me . She'll never find anyone as nice as me , good luck to her I hope she finds happiness. I truly mean that . Anyone reading this if you want decent man here I am 🙂
Day 48 and stronger than ever. Time is power and perspective. It's an experience and a gift nobody can take from you. The harder the challenge, the greater reward...stay strong, you are worth it!
It's been a week now of NC and I finally received the phone call. Even tho our conversation started leaning towards the issue of the matter, I've continue to stand on good morals without devaluing myself. Even though she was persistent in having things her way, Ive continue to stay strong to the point of her finally realizing her own toxic perception. Now she's all over me showering me with love while I take all the time that i need before giving all of my heart back into her hands again,.. She's has alot of work to do if she truly wants the old me again,.. and she knows it
@lliana C Things eventually went back to normal and unfortunately she became too comfortable enough for her to go back into her old ways, so I stonecold dumped her recently a week before Valentine's day and I never looked back since then. But now I have another headache to deal with, and that's all these options of women with redflags since I've been in the gym. She tried contacting me through texts messages for me to see her, but I just ignored her and her lack of taking accountabilities. We both know this movie has ended now.
No contact worked after 3 weeks and I just wanted to thank you for your videos. I binged watched when I felt bad and I'm back with my ex but I'm the one regretting now and it's okay cause my heart will never break...thank you coach lee
Wow! I have to say that you are one of the best coaches that I’ve seen on TH-cam. You have a really positive and calming presence and it has helped me get through these hard times. I haven’t spoken to my ex since the middle of November. He sent me a text message on Christmas but didn’t bother to tell me Happy Birthday on Christmas Eve. He is soooo PETTY! Recently he’s been sending me one text message every weekend and he’s been getting more desperate with every message. NO CONTACT DOES WORK! Thanks Coach Lee!
I still haven’t spoken to my ex since November. He continues to send me messages and calls me regularly. He even called and texted me from someone else’s phone two weeks ago because I blocked him in November. My best friend is so proud of me for finally moving on with my life. I’ve been working on myself for the last 6 months and I feel much better. I have weak moments from time to time, but thanks to Coach Lee’s encouraging videos I’ll be just fine. 🙂
COACH !! I must thank you. This worked for me, and shared your videos with a friend who was hurting from a break up. NOW IT HAS WORKED FOR HER TOO❤ I will share your with anyone who is healing from a break up. Thank You
Say it anyway. Have faith in yourself always. Don’t let the mind drag you along, stay centred, grounded and on your purpose. Get in the gym, empower and respect yourself. The rest will follow.
I love coach Lee’s metaphors! “Snatching defeat from the jaws of victory”. And if your ex contacts you, don’t say, “Oh I’ve missed you so much, have you thought about anymore names for our kids!?” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Coach Lee u killed it on this video bro! Ha just when I was thinking of reaching out & stroking my exs ego again this made me realize shes giving me measly breadcrumbs with the "I miss u, how are u doing? crap." I want more & deserve more. I'm reassured I'm doing the right thing by staying away & doing ME. I'm the king & I want to be above her. Not equals. Thanks man! I needed this
Buddy I got to tell ya that until this morning my wife had been gone for a month. Yesterday I watched about 10 of your videos and got me a little bit of wisdom from them. Well guess what. She came back home today. Your tricks are dang awesome man!!! Plus God had a hand in it a lot too
CRUMBS FROM THEIR TABLE. That's powerful. Listen up fellas. Do something positive for yourself. Workout, hard. With a purpose. Drop some weight. Dress better. Be confident and believe in yourself and watch the incredible changes that take place. Don't find time, make time. You got this fellas and above all.... STAY AWAY!!! Sometimes you just have to move on. Don't deprive yourself of a more beautiful person that is waiting for you. DO IT!!! Start now.
Its been a little over a month since the break up and it will be a month of no contact on the 31st. Your videos keep me going Coach Lee, thank you. I hope I can get to a point where I dont feel like I have to binge or comment on videos anymore❤
Boy, were you right...after no contact for a few months, I received a text message! He was flirting with me, said I looked great. I remembered your advise and was pleasantly surprised when he made the attempt to talk to me! Now what? I don't want to appear anxious...who knows, maybe he just wanted to see if I still cared about him??
Do it right and it works !!!! Dont put a time on it tho, just disappear and dont be a nuisance... of course its hard but you need to show your strength
I can recommend you to someone powerful who was able to bring back my ex wife and it works very fast and I believe he can solve your relationship problems 🙌
I watched your videos on repeat when I was first going through my break up. I even fell asleep to them, just hearing the reassurance and your words helped immensely. It’s been almost 11 months and I haven’t reached out, neither has she. I still have my hard days, but I’m focusing on myself and that is the most important part. Thank you coach Lee 🖤
When the break up happens and you dont want it .... Yes its true, no contact works!!! They have 2 go through all the stages.. but trust me, you also have 2 go through all the stages! You have 2 feel pain, lost, etcetera etcetera ... Wait until YOU find yourself back! It can take months and months 2 let them go in your mind. And when you really moved on in your own life ... When you have new friends, a "new job", new energy, and you can see in the mirror a new you ❤❤❤ thats the time when they can come back in your life.. Thats the moment when you can make a clear decision if you want them back. Trust me it can take months, a year.. but when you are there ... and you can face yourself in the mirror with self pride and self respect❤ that is the moment! It is hard 2 let go of your dreams about the other person .. Dont hate them, but feel the love just the love you found back in yourself about who you are! ❤❤❤ Nobody can use you and never ever lower your self esteem! This was a journey that in the end made me a better person 🙏💯 Thank you Coach Lee 🎉🎉🎉 you gave me back myself 💫
Coach Lee, you are definitely the best TH-cam break up/get your ex back coach! You have definitely helped me in this journey I'm on. And because of your videos and my renewed belief in myself, I know i will be stronger and a better man regardless if she comes back or not. Thank you for all you do. I hope your channel takes off soon! You deserve it for all you're doing for those of us hurting.
@@lordkillohendrix-8501 I broke it. In friend zone for like 2 weeks but I’m seeing someone and so is she, had I followed instructions maybe the outcome would have been better but surprisingly I feel our break up was a blessing in disguise I no longer want her back and she’s shown signs of jealousy about my new person and I’m not jealous of hers. Sorry for the bad news brother
I been NC now 3weeks almost a month. And I'm so much stronger. I decided that I'm better off alone. Unless I find the right person. I have learned so much from this relationship. And am blessed to see that I definitely loved him more then myself. Now I'm going to work on myself. Get my life together so I can do what I need to do for our children . He wasn't the one I always had doubts about he always disappointed me always.
Day 13 and I nearly gave up.. Thank you coach lee for helping me go through this and also thanks to all the dumpees haha for positive and success stories! keep them coming I get so motivated!
After being a loser for 3 days, I finally started the real NC. It's like an emotion roller coaster. There are days I feel alive, and there are days I want to fly a white flag. 5 days now NC and I will keep at it. Coach Lee is right. I can't gamble my dignity. No more crumbs coach!
@@LabradoodleTofuBoy yes! Some days I'm good, others not so much. It fluctuates throughout the day to be honest. I'm on 6 weeks since break up and 4 weeks of NC. To be honest, it's gonna end up being exactly what it's suppose to be. I'm just doing things for myself and really blossoming. It sucks though man. Not gonna lie. It won't always be like this though.
Would just like to say thank you for your videos I cannot tell you how helpful they have been to me for the past three weeks, it’s literally like a mental medicine. Been in NC for about 3 weeks now found out she moved on with somebody else after a week! Even if she contacted me now I wouldn’t go back after this disappointing move and I will never reach out to her again.
No Contact is not to get your ex back but to heal yourself and make yourself better. IF you are lucky they MIGHT come back. The important thing is to get your self back to a healthy place.
@@joshmcgowan4376 hi, im so much better now. it only took 51 days for him to crawl back and i shut the door closed. serves him well. im better off without him.
Same here 3 weeks today , he just put me over the edge to break up with him , by dragging me down , bargaining about his ex gf and disrespecting me , I ended up saying bye cuz the pain was too much and I know deep down he will never change cuz he never loved me genuinely .
Works 100%, I realized after begging and pleading to save a 15 yr relationship, I didn't want it bc of all the cheating and lying this person did to me. No contact gave me clarity and freedom, being single isnt so bad, not at all and I was frightened to death of it.
@@pascaljuno3663 No contact allows you to clear your head and take a step back and put things into perspective. Do I really want to be with someone who betrayed me, then had no remorse for doing so? Ummmm no, bc I would never have done it to her.
Whenever I get the urge to contact my ex (and trust me I’ve had many)I always come back to this particular video. It’s been 10 months since my ex broke up with me and I felt the usual emotions you would experience when you have been dumped. But these 10 months have given me plenty of time to think about whether I want him back or not. And I’ve decided the answer to that is no I don’t want him back. Without getting into too much detail, I noticed towards the end of our relationship my ex was starting to shut me out and push me away. And that right there is a big deal breaker for wanting to get back together.
What’s sad is that I’m the ‘dumper” and I’m watching these videos bc I’m experiencing all the “dumpee” feelings. Ughhhhhh!!! We need a video for this situation!
I am doing a SuperChat at 6 pm central which is in about 3 hours here on my channel. I’ll be answering questions live and you are welcome to ask this one there.
Coach Lee, I’ve watched all of your videos and I think this one is extremely underrated. This is my favorite video on your channel because it gives people hope that my ex may be back one day and helps you move on at the same time. Some videos get me in this hole where I only focus on getting them back, but this one helps me reframe my way of thinking. I was going to the gym and fixing my diet and seeing a therapist and all of these things to get her back, but I’m doing it for myself now. Im doing it 90% for myself and only 10% for her. Your words are extremely helpful. Almost 2 weeks NC and I can finally see the light at the end of this VERY long, long tunnel now. Thank you Coach!!!
Thank you Coach Lee for making these video Ive been watching you since 2019 it was a rough road but you help me a lot. I saw all the signs with my ex she left me for another guy. But guess what. Yes yes yes she came back. Things are still fresh we have 3 children been together since 2011. I didn't do everything right at first but I stay in no contact since may 2020 I saw the signs along the like you talk. So yes people Coach know what he is talking about it's hard but focus on you give them the break up and stay away. Yes it's hard some days and easier some days. After awhile I was really planning my life with her. She got to see what life was like without me. Like I said it's still fresh but 10 years together is very hard to walk away from. Stay strong y'all. Watch the videos over and over or when you are having a hard day it will keep you going.👍👍💪💪
Depends on the situation you are in.... Ask yourself this: Who did your ex brake up with - You or the situation? I wish you all the best and, look for YOURSELF! There is so many people out there to meet and I know you suffer, so now heal and give yourself your best version of you. I know you can do it 😊 Trust Coach Lee, he is good! God bless you all 🙋🏻♂️
Thank you for those words !! I'm 17 days in no contact and its beating me up pretty good but I have faith for better days to come . Just took a trip out of the country so im trying to do all I can
@@SamanthaSprinkles69 It will get easier.. you'll have good days and you'll have days were u think about and thats okay to.. just be kind to yourself.. I know its gonna sound corny but it helps loving on yourself and treating yourself well.
@@amberbee6389 We're rooting for you too amber. Dont rush it, slow and steady wins the race. Look at me mine got in contact after 9 months of nothing, so no expectations..
Omg thank you 🙏🏾 so much. I’m glad I watched you this vid. It worked no contact for a week after a week he start asking our friends about me.. so he could get some info ℹ️ from them. After a couple weeks he reached out and the rest is history 😅
Every time I've gone no contact with my ex it haven't been more than a month until she reached out, but this is also because we did have a good relationship, and ending it in a respectful way. I've learned every time from this, to not cause drama, or show jealousy if she was dating others while we were broken up. This time though, I think it will take more than a month, and I am unsure if she actually will reach out again. We've been on/off for over 4 years, but I see now that life is better with her, and if I have the choice I will choose her. Wish us luck.
@@SJ-nw1ym She started dating someone within 3 weeks after we broke up. Although I don't know for sure, I think she is clearly still dating the same and happy with that. As long as she is happy I'm absolutely fine with it. Haven't hear anything from her for 6 months. I'm dating someone new who is both fitter, better looking, smarter and more in line with what I want :). Adding to that I don't think I ever had so much attention from females as I've had just from working on myself and focusing on making my own life better.
My ex and I had a 3.5 year relationship that was fully of happiness and amazing times, but there were some fights and mistakes that were made. As time went on we’d argue more about dumb stuff most times and I’d get angry and not hear her out most times. Time went on but we still loved each other and wanted each other. I made a huge mistake when I decided to talk about another girl with my friends as a joke (I did not physically cheat or every try to talk or do anything with this girl) and she found out and it hurt her a lot. As time went on this girl would pop up at parties and such and my ex didn’t like it, she even asked me to block her or unfollow her and have anything to do with her and I denied it because I felt like she was behind controlling, when in reality she just wanted to feel okay again and I messed up on that. We ended up “breaking up” for a day in may and I told her I’d become better. We went another month being together and I did get better with some things but it takes time. She broke up with me actually this time and I was heart broken. I begged and pleaded but nothing would work so I accepted it. Around a week later she called me about stuff and then we began to talk again and later began to do things as if we were together. About 2 months went on and we were calling each other boyfriend and girlfriend. Then a month later she says she’s not over what happened with the other girl and that things still bother her and she can’t be with me because it gets in the way. This time hurt a lot more than before but I didn’t beg or plead and just gave her the break up. After that I found Coach Lee’s channel and watched every video he has. Through this time I was hurting so much and crying everyday. This was around October when we broke up. We didn’t talk for about 3 weeks until her birthday. I was contemplating on getting her flowers and chocolates for her birthday or even texting her happy birthday but I ended up doing it. She ended up inviting me to dinner with her parents that night and it was good night. After that day we talked here and there. she would text me for 2-3 days then stop for a day or 2. This would go on for most of November, but we began to hug more and talk more. December is when we started to hold hands and such and talk everyday and spend more time together. We ended up kissing on the 31st for the first time since we broke up. After that day we kissed basically everytime we saw each other and held hands, spent a lot of time together. This went on for most of this month up until yesterday. She tells me that she thinks being close again isn’t what’s best for us because she still isn’t over what happened. I got upset because she allowed us to get that close yet she felt that way. Even tho that’s messed up, I forgive her for it and I am not mad or upset anymore. I am hurt but at the same time the fact that she tried again after we broke up the second time is crazy to me because she said a lot of things that made it seem like there was no hope. She did tell me things such as that she was sorry and she feels so bad, and that she wants me to be happy and such. She also said she wants us both to be happy and live ourselves so that we can be okay. Idk if she meant that as a couple or as individuals but it seemed like both. Anyway, I did not respond to her last text because it wasn’t really much to respond too. I guess we did no contact for a couple weeks but I ended up saying happy birthday and we began to talk after that. I think maybe we just need actual time apart to heal and grow so it can work out. She’d always say she saw a future with me everytime we broke up, but that in the moment she couldn’t be with me. I know she loves me even if she hasn’t said it in a long time. If anyone can help me, do y’all think maybe we just need real time apart ? I feel as if I wasn’t ready as well because I was sensitive and expecting certain stuff when I shouldn’t have. I really love this girl a lot and want her to be my wife, it’s very hard to be apart of her because we basically have spent the last 4 years talking everyday, spending almost everyday together, and telling each other everything. I’m sorry this is a long read, but I just want anyone’s opinion on it.we both never cheated or been with anyone else or tried anything else, even through our break ups. Our families love each other and they love us. I messed up big time but I have grown and completely changed since then. We haven’t argued since around April 2020 at all. I am more understanding and hear her out more and much more patient. I feel as if we just need time to heal and get our shit together and then we will be okay to try again. I’d love to have anyone’s opinion or thoughts, I just need help in these times.
I think you guys both deeply care for each other and that it’s hard to see each other in a different light. I think time needs to pass where you guys don’t talk and she can move on and realize that either she gets over what happened or she doesn’t have you. Your comment was 7 months ago though so I hoped everything worked out in your favor and you got what you wanted. If you do update this I hope it’s a happy update for your sake
Lee you are a genius he reached out 13 days after NC then nothing for a month ... well today I wake up to a happy valentines day message because he might forget on the day as it will be a regular day for him (trying to hint I see you) he wished me all the best cause I'm the most beautiful soul he ever met (well doooh)
Dude, 2 days in and now she still wants her space but wants therapy to see if we can work on our issues. It worked. She’s avoidant and I’m anxious. I’m going to keep up the no contact. It’s much healthier for me anyway, because I can’t handle the constant rejection.
Day 45 of NC today. I battle with myself whether to contact or not. Some days I wonder if he’s ok (COVID took a toll on his stress levels and anxiety). Then other days I feel he doesn’t deserve to hear from me. I’m just glad the tears have dried up and the knot in my stomach is gone. To text or not to text, that is the question 🤷🏾♀️ Let go and let God I guess.
Hello! I understand how you're feeling going through breakup I can recommend you to the same man who help me get my ex back permanently after 3 years of separation... I will advise you seek his help thanks.
@@pvz0484 We have been in contact here and there but nothing that suggests getting back together. Once you find a level of acceptance of the situation you will be good. It’s all about how you want to live your life. Being miserable or focusing on yourself and making yourself happy without them. You get to live one life. Yes it sucks big time and you don’t know what the future holds. It could be a blessing in disguise. Let God lead the way. I promise you in a few months you’ll care but not that much. Life truly moves on.
@@pvz0484 Yes it does and it will. But it’s not forever. My ex reached out again with another random text just when I’m beginning not to give a shit…lol. Funny how that works.🤷🏾♀️ One foot in front of the other is all I can say. Find things that you like to do. This too shall pass🙏🏾
Thanks for this advice. I was hit with the “I need sometime apart”. Similar to what you said she had already prepared her reasoning but by means of speaking to her friends I guess to validate her decision. I said there was no point as I didn’t want to be left in suspense, gathered my stuff and left. My regret is that by not communicating with her on that day I acted irrationally and that I concluded our relationship due to being so hurt. I didn’t want my reaction to be a power play to gain control by means of manipulation to take back what she said, I was just hurt to be feeling so rejected after everything we’d been through.
I got her after 2 months of strict no contact..when she dumped me , i just said " alright, its over wish you the best , goodbye". And then i just vanished, out of her radar..then today she saw me with talking to another girl, that drived her crazy, she panicked, probably she thought if i dont take any step further i ll lose him soon,although i cleared her that this girl is just an old friend. She came back and apologized, we are now together, hoping everything gets fine. Trust me buddies just vanish ,they ll definitely come back.
I'm just watching one of your videos and I got an alert about a new video in the email, and I immediately smiled, you do not understand how much you help me in this difficult time! Really appreciate what you do!
After 2 months he texted me to tell he had met someone new and if it was possible to stay friends because “ I really enjoyed our time together” 😅 no boy! I said that wasn’t good for me and I needed time to move on he just said “ok, I understand” I totally agree with Coach Lee. Lemerence is a real thing and he will miss our time together all the little moments that we were just human and connecting. On my 12 day of NC I’m working out and get ready for a trip to Chile. If my guy valued our time together then I trust he will call me to ask how was my trip. Ugh... I hate this feeling I miss him and I hate he is with someone else when I thought his hugs and affection was real.
@coachlee you've saved my sanity. I really messed up when she broke up with me, I was a mess and took it so bad. But you still give me faith. I owe you a beer brother.
Last night was the final straw for me. He wanted to continue being just friends and talking until he was ready for a relationship again. I waited 5 months. He said he still loves me and cares about me. I told him I was done and i want to go no contact. At first he was like no I want to talk to you still and the he finally said “I guess”. He didn’t text me today, and neither did I. I pray I can do the NC.
That would completely break me. After my breakup my ex tried to build contact with other women including a girl that is my "friend", I’ve known her for longer then I knew my ex and we had mutual friends but were in different friend groups but known each other personally but weren’t like close or something. My ex and her didn’t have anything to do with each other but now they are in contact... it completely messes with my head. She was also the girl I kinda worried about during the last weeks/days of the relationship because as I already mentioned they didn’t have anything to do with each other and suddenly followed each other (even on their private IG accounts) at the end of the relationship/ breakup. I talked to her about it and she seemed trustworthy and told me it’s there is nothing between them.. but then I found out that she sent him screenshots of my PRIVATE story were I kinda made fun of my ex but definitely not in a mean way (I compared him to funny a meme)... I’m pretty sure she did it to cause more drama and stress between me and my ex, turned out she’s fake and seems like she wants attention from my ex after them just texting a few times. I’m so scared they’re gonna hook up or something. That thought makes me wanna throw up. I could easily move on if he wouldn’t flirt shortly after the breakup with so many women including someone I know. Sorry for the long story but how do you deal with that? I can’t cope with the thought of them texting, meeting and especially them fucking.
I’m so sorry...that is so hurtful. If he has the nerve to say such a horrible thing like that to you, he is not a good hearted person. You are worth so much more and deserve so much better. Much love. Stay strong luv.
Dear coach Lee i thank you from the bottom of my heart your videos have made me so much confident about myself and my whole perception has changed towards the dating concept i have achieved so much in the last 2 years that now i don't want anyone i can attract whoever i want
If your ex doesn’t reach out simply because your ex is still in heat with the rebound. When problems starts to unfold on your ex’s rebound, that’s the time your ex starts reaching out from time to time.
I’m going on two weeks. There’s phases for the no contactor too. I got over the panic stage. I don’t know what I’m in right now but I feel less inclined to bug him and will wait for him to come towards me.
I am also into my fourth week of long distance relationship. We have been together a little over 22 years before three years ago she moved to another state because she was worried my oldest son would get involved with gangs or get killed. I couldn’t move because of my career which I will be retiring in April of this year. Now she has contacted me several times she also has text me with negativity a lot of negativity Im into no contact I try not to bother her she’s seeing and sleeping with someone else right from the beginning of our breakup but she text me some of the stupidest stuff and I just feel like I’m obligated sometime to email her back because I don’t do the texting thing but I am starting to feel stronger and my heart aches and my loneliness is starting to disappear and I’m getting myself into a better shape. Coach Lee if she’s into his new relationship which I feel is only lust and infatuation for sex, do you you believe she will wants to come back or is she still unsure and confused. I was due to move down there with her and my Boys in April. But now that this has happen I just don’t know anymore she called me today and I took the call because you advised not to ignore and during our conversation she told me that she will always love but refuses to admit to another relationship just keeps denying that she’s involved with anyone but I know the truth because my boys have told me.n
@@tavionharris7314 Yo Travis you got it backwards my son is her son our child. She wanted to move him out of the city for rear he would get involved in a gang he was hanging out most iPod the night wouldn’t answer his phone people were getting shot just about every week. So we both decided that it would me best to get both my sons out of there. So yes she moved down south to her father where there is nothing but mountains. That’s why she moved. I could go because of my career wasn’t over. I retire in March or April.
I saw and talked to my ex last week after 7 months of no contact. I thought I will be emotional but im not. He still holds my hand, he still hug me, we still hold hands but it is hard to get back together because of complicated scenarios.
@@ppv1780 I went to his place to talk to him. Im shocked with his reaction. Im expecting that he will not talk to me but he is so happy to see me and he invited me for lunch.
Hey coach, thank you for your videos. My gf of 4 months broke up with me on the 10th due to her poor mental health, and it really hurt. I'm currently almost a week into no contact, and your videos help a lot. Even though she may not come back, your content gives me some semblance of peace.
stayed strong for 2 years now .... companies success is about to take off...she wanted to come back 5/6times within the first year I stayed strong as I could not get over the disappointment I was left with... walked away and never went back !
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I just want to say listen to Coach Lee! He got me through a terrible time over the past 3 months after I was dumped. He gave me the courage and strength to stay in no contact and radio silence and at about 3 months she broke the silence, we’ve reconnected and are doing better than ever. True love prevails, and it is crucial to watch and listen to all of his videos through a breakup! Thank you so so much Coach Lee, I wish I could hug you I’m so grateful for your inspiration and support. ❤️🙏
3 months radio silence?
This is great news, I hope you guys are a great success moving forward.
Thank you for sharing that! It gives me a major amount of encouragement to keep going!
@@madisonray9295 Radio silence meaning there was no contact at all.
@@RickySpanish12344 Also, I need to mention that my ex is an avoidant so... that makes it even more complicated 🤦♀️
"If you are going through hell, keep going" - Winston Churchill
No you're thinking of Rodney Atkins
Also said “success is not final. Failure is not fatal. It is the courage to continue that counts”
Noooo my dear I can't ♥️ ❤️ 💕 too much
Love it
Wallah this made me laugh in this crazy phase 🤣🤣🤣🤣
You guys… please listen to Lee. It really does work-but you have to get yourself into the right mindset during NC. During NC, you need to boss up. Give yourself the love you want. Take care of your amazing body and soul and really pour attention and care into yourself. Get stronger mentally, physically. Get spiritual. Get curious and fun-seeking. Get sexy. ;) When they come back (which is MOST of the time… trust), you will be so strong and healthy and amazing that your S.O. is going to have to level up in order to regain their relationship with you… if that’s what you want! Stay NC and use your new free time to invest in YOU.
Love this!
Very true
@@yswen828 it can take a while. How long were you in a relationship?
@@yswen828 most of the time, they do come back, but let me ask you this: if he ghosted you and disappeared, do you really want him back after that?
@@rowdybliss Got blocked twice now. First one was in July for a month and she unblocked me cuz she was curious if I'd texted or trying to go around the block. But I reached out afterwards and in November got blocked again and still not unblocked but it is good in a certain way because helps the NC. I'm now in a mindset like Lee said: if she comes back, she does. If not, well so be it. But deep inside you kinda 'hope' that she does ^^
The most important factor is when you go absent, it hurts their ego. That's where it hits them! And they see you as a strong person at the same time! Questioning their decision.
So true
What if you did some pleading
You’ll be fine. I pleaded and begged. Go into no contact immediately.
It took almost 5 weeks of pleading and a letter and bought flowers till I finally maned up better late then never almost 5 weeks now later.
@@twistedstoic same, my short term partner left me due to depression . I stayed by her side for 8 weeks. I didnt beg and plead but let her know i was there. Then she pushed me away and said we need to end it completely when i couldnt contain my feelings one day. Its now been 3 weeks of NC.
As someone who was the dumper and is about 6 weeks into the post breakup experience, I can tell you that everything he says in his videos about the psychology of this end of things is exactly correct. Trust the no contact, because it really is fucking with my head.
Did you ever make it right??
@@shweine_marion “making it right” is relative to the situation, but yes, we are back together, and better than ever. I will not make this mistake again.
@@elijah_lees wow. Good for you Elijah. I wish you guys all the best moving foward.
Wow good to hear the perspective from the other side.
What was the reason(s) you broke up?
Yes, but my dumper was straight into another relationship....for me that has been a jagged little pill to swallow. I do hope for a conversation at some point though. I'm in NC and that is where I will stay!
Thoughts?
Coach Lee is mad at them for hurting us! Lol. He’s the best.
Yeah right i love him
That's why I only trust him
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🙈🙈🙈
Lol I like how he always says "we"
Compassionate dude
😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭am dying 😢
No contact works in every case as long as you’re not the one to initiate contact and certainly, not one or two months down the line. It’s too soon for most people. If you initiate with someone who left you, you’re putting yourself in the “weak” position and it’s an ego stroke like coach Lee says.
It has to be a meeting by chance or “by chance” or even better let them come to you. It works, I speak from experience.
Time is on your side people, don’t view it like an enemy.
Thank you coach Lee!
This is true. People want results really quickly. After a while a lot of people will realize you don’t want them and are better off without.
No contact always Works for the one that makes his life more sucssesfull and atractive even if you contact them First because that is what is All about mindset
@@fernandogonzalezmartinez83 yes exactly, my ex didn’t benefit my life and I realized that after she got a new tattoo with her new boyfriend that she’s been dating for two weeks. That’s a permanent write off in my book.
Yeah my ex came back a month later and ended it again. Broke my heart all over again but maybe it was just too soon. It feels not as bad but more final since he said he wasn’t in love with me. I just don’t understand why he came back at all only to end it again.
@@godsavethecoffeecake probably he wasn’t sure it was over for him, or he got lonely or he just wanted to know he could have you.
Mine reached out a few times over the first four months post break up and I didn’t respond at first because it felt too pretentious but then the third time he texted something similar to all of his exes (I’m friends with my predecessor so I knew) and I got so mad I couldn’t let him think he was fooling us. Now he’s unemployed, promising marriage to a trans wannabe singer (he hated trans and gay people with burning passion) I mean... I still care for him, but I pitty the man I see. I will forever love the version of him I used to know but since it’s not the person he is anymore... It feels a lot like mourning someone who died, you know?
I’m 34 days NC, still not sleeping, eating ok, gym 5 days per week. Trying to work.
Not bad considering my ex terminated our relationship with a 45 second FT call after 8 years together.
I read something yesterday that said:
‘If I could love the wrong person that much, imagine how much I could love the right one’ 🤷🏼
How’s it going?
@@minigengarr4729 well, I found out there was infidelity so it’s not gone well. I still hurt but it gets a little easier everyday. We’ve had some contact but it’s not been great. I wish I’d have ignored her messages but I can’t beat myself up for replying. I believe NC is a must, I’ve restarted NC and I will not reach out again ever. Is she cheats, send her back to the streets. It just isn’t worth your sanity and the heartache. So if you’re reading this do everything you can possible to not contact your ex!!!!!!!!
You got this man! Work on you and build yourself better than before.
@@d34285 Yeah, I'm trying everyday. It is still hard as I'm still in the dark as to why the break up happened 100%, although when I say that, I actually think I know the answer.
Anyway, I did reach out with a letter, silly I know but I've forgave myself, and forgiven her too, it has been a good few weeks since we have had any contact. We have not spoken FtoF since August 19th, though.
@@diilain we are in this together. We are strangers connected by the same life experiences. We got this, stay strong. You have said your piece to her and it is out of our control. Time to focus on what is most important in life.....our happiness. We grow with each life lesson and what this taught us is we can always be better not for her but for our happiness. If she can't see that then why are we sad. Whenever you feel down just go for a walk. I believe in you!
After 6 months of breakup. Im watching this because to say guys its working. Please never contact your ex. Period! Its working not because we are back together, but its working because I have moved on! Keep moving forward never look back! Just focus on yourself, your goal!
update ??
Abuserlutely
Never look back! Keep going!
This is smiliar to my situation. I had this special person. Very caring and loving and has high interest and desire towards me. There was one time we stopped talking because i couldn’t commit to her yet. When we stopped communicating i did everything to get her back and she told me she was seeing someone already. However after i found one it didn’t work out with that guy for that guy ghosted her/left her less than 3 months or so. I started connecting with her and so did she with me and asked her if something happened between that guy and she said she did everything for him especially giving herself to him because she liked him. It was a disappointment for me because how can you give yourself to a person that easily and left you just like that. That held me back for committing to her. But i still showed her and gave her what a boyfriend would do for his girl. February i distanced myself to think if im ready to be committed to her however she didn’t want it anymore. For a month of march i tried to get her back but failed and told me to move on and might find someone better. So right now i have walked away and stopped communicating with her even though she wanted friendship. Oh well.🤷🏽♂️life as we know it.
If you had a great relationship. There is a great chance they will revisit the idea of coming back to you. In the meantime concentrate on personal growth
@ Rick, are you talking about long term or short term r’ship?
@@yswen828 I’m no expert. It depends on how they truly felt at one time. If you both were in love. That’s great. Because attachment is hard to get over
@@rickcope3226 I have a question...when we broke up, he didn’t say “goodbye it was nice knowing you.” Does that mean he will come back?
What do you want to know? It’s kind of hard to explain.
@@yswen828 like. Was there any mention of marriage?
@@yswen828 my girlfriend left me for someone else after 13 years. No goodbye or reason why. Go through not no contact. It is your only chance
After 4 months of no contact! My ex reaches out to me today! My heart was in my stomach I couldn’t believe it. I Ofcourse , gave it a few hours before I respond and sure enough he hasn’t stopped texting me. Don’t ignore like coach Lee says but don’t give away too much too soon! If he wants me back he’s gotta work for it. Trust in the power of time and trust that no contact works it allows them to experience the break up that they asked for. Thanks Coach Lee for your wisdom 🙏🏻
I'm so happy for you, good luck!
How did it work out
Life update it’s been a year and a few months since the break! We are not together and we no longer keep in touch. Iv learned to love and put myself first, I realized I couldn’t make someone happy because I wasn’t happy with myself. I sacrificed too much and neglected my own needs. While Coach Lee paved the way, I now believe in self love and self worth. Time does heal all wounds, I have a new career that allows me to travel and meet the world and couldn’t be happier. While self love continues to be my priority I look forward to my future prospering in all aspects of my life!
@@Wayne-gn3hewow that’s amazing, enjoy your life and hope you the best
This is smiliar to my situation. I had this special person. Very caring and loving and has high interest and desire towards me. There was one time we stopped talking because i couldn’t commit to her yet. When we stopped communicating i did everything to get her back and she told me she was seeing someone already. However after i found one it didn’t work out with that guy for that guy ghosted her/left her less than 3 months or so. I started connecting with her and so did she with me and asked her if something happened between that guy and she said she did everything for him especially giving herself to him because she liked him. It was a disappointment for me because how can you give yourself to a person that easily and left you just like that. That held me back for committing to her. But i still showed her and gave her what a boyfriend would do for his girl. February i distanced myself to think if im ready to be committed to her however she didn’t want it anymore. For a month of march i tried to get her back but failed and told me to move on and might find someone better. So right now i have walked away and stopped communicating with her even though she wanted friendship. Oh well.🤷🏽♂️life as we know it.
It works 100%....I didn't even want them back and the no contact rule works.
It almost did. And i didn't want him still don't so i found these videos and realized what he was doing. Now i am doing this entirely. I want us to part were both to toxic. Updates he's a soical path I didn't want him and he kept using bs to get to me now it will be a month no contact but there's a problem we have kids. He kept using them as tools to get to me. :(
You don't want your ex back? Remember, everyone can do some mistake, nobody is perfect, human beings have doubts sometimes ;)
How long did your NC last?
Does no contact work on someone who doesn't love you?
What if they moved out of town
Lee's videos and most of the comments in the comments section are like a lifeline for me, giving me so much hope... not necessarily that she'll come back, but that things will get better eventually, whatever the outcome.
Same here. It helps so much to know I'm not alone.
You gotta give an update rn
Can we get an update ?
Answering requests, the update: she hasn't come back, nor do I think she ever will. However, things are indeed going much better with my life. If I can survive this, anyone can. Just focus on improving as a person, helping people that are in even worse situations and having fun, and soon enough you won't even have mental room to suffer that much.
i feel u brother
30 days into no contact.
It was hard in the beggining, but it is easier now.
I am healing and focusing on personal growth.
@@XD-vs7zt wow lol F em
I was in no contact with my ex of 10 years for about a month and a half when a fling from 12 years ago contacted me. We are now married, waiting for a baby, madly in love and blissfully happy.
Ex from 10 years: noooooooooooooo........you bitchhhhhhhhhh🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 good for you
I really like your username, everyone should have appreciation for "1984". More than ever in today's world.
Now thats fate 👍 congratulations 🎊
Wait are you married to the fling or the ex?
@@jonlukevandam / She married the fling
“they’re letting you contact them; what a wonderful person they are” ... this made me laugh, thank you! Still struggling with keeping to NC after 3 months. It’s the best thing for me. Your videos truly are a lifeline to me keeping my dignity and sanity... and power 😀
You got thissss 💥💥💥
Has it been 3 months since you last talked to them?
@@unknown49818 Yes. It was a very short (2 month) relationship. He broke it off 3 months ago. It actually was the right thing to do, but it still hurts and I miss him.
My 3 months completed Jst today
Soul paining like hell 🙃
Wish me luck & pray for me sis🥺
@@bonniebender9268 The length of time, unless it was 2 or 3 dates, is irrelevant...it's all about the connection and bond.
No contact works! I wanted my own success story and now I have it! My ex and I have been broken up for 3 months before he reached out and admitted to wanting us trying again. We are taking things slow. We are texting every day and it feels so weird after 3 months of not talking, it doesn't feel real! We have our second meet up scheduled tonight. Wish me luck and good luck to everyone!
how are things going now?
@@RickySpanish12344 Hi, things are going good, unfortunately we are not spending christmas together, but made plans after. Taking things slow and both of is definitely want to work on things and staying together
@@ags835 Glad to hear, and good luck :). Just remember that you are a person of great value (as all people are), and deserve to be happy, and respected.
Coach Lee videos are like a drug for me during this difficult time of going through a break up. When I feel the anxiety of loss coming on, I frantically search for the right video to bring me back to reality and ground me. I feel indebted to Coach Lee. Thank you from the bottom of my heart, sir.
It hurt alot at first.. but I stayed strong regardless of what we went through. & Karma really does exist 🙂
Wat did Karma do dear ?!😮😮😮
Ya it does exist dear...And it should too otherwise our ex will not understand our value🙂
Karma is a bullshit word no such thing
@@christophersargeant6291 Bullhonky.Karma is 100% real.
Yes indeed! Karma is very real.
Mine got in contact after 9 months. At this point I wish he hadn't bothered. I'm more pissed than happy, he texts me like nothing happened..
I think that shows you’re in a healthier place now - good for you! You’ve done the hard work and it shows. 👍
@@rowdybliss
Please don't be misled, its definitely not been easy by any means.
@@misslanapford9169 and I imagine that it’s still really hard… it’s tough trying to reconcile a breakup that hurt you.
@@rowdybliss
No not so much now.. I'm happy to move on, dating has its positive.. just be open to opportunities and see what happens.. I find with us women we have to much expectation.. if we got rid of those we'd been fine.
My ex contacted me 2 weeks ago after 8 months. I feel pissed too
Been NC for 3 weeks. None. His birthday is in 3 months. I will want to reach out to him. You’re saying DO NOT DO IT, Right?? I’ve decided to follow these rules or guideline seriously. I have begun a personal training course, will beginning my Masters degree, joined French classes and seeing my friends and family. Trusting the process. No ego strokes for this 61 year old vibrant woman! I totally lost myself for 7 years with a DA. NO MORE. and it’s truly bc of your videos. ❤️❤️. They are soooo inspiring no matter what the outcome. I’m feeling empowered rather than disempowered. Thank you coach Lee😘 8:02
No contact is the best medicine against toxic people.
I swear No contact really worked for me .now we're back together .thank you soooo much❤
Hi guys I was in pain like you guys were, yeah nc rules does works!! But hear me out for me it took 3 months during the time I work on my self and by almost the 4 month I was like great if she comes back and great if she doesn’t and guess what two days later she reach out! Now we’re stronger than before
@@marvischarthy7540 you know I’m going to report you
This is great to see. Congrats hope it stays strong for you both.
Love this. Very well explained. There are so many coaches who advocate no contact as a trick to get your ex back but they rarely mention that after no contact you’ll be a better and stronger partner for your next partner - whether that be your ex or someone you’ve never even met yet.
"no contract" - good Freudian slip :-D
No contact absolutely works, it took my girlfriend about 4 weeks to text me and say that not talking was stupid and we should meet up, that was 2 years ago!
@@paigemarvel2129 You apparently didn't understand what I said.
You’re so underrated you’re one of the smartest people on TH-cam I stg
Chris canwell as well.
I noticed that too..🦸
He is. Better than Matthew H. in my opinion
Although, I used No Contact, my ex hasnt reached out since the breakup, which is more than 4 months ago. Fortunately, I have accepted his decision and feel better than before
@@georgepanagiotou8673 i highly doubt it anymore because, i ruined my chances. Also we broke up 4 months ago too and i Didn’t know anything about no contact until a month ago......so im just going to assume she will never come back to me. Especially when she even said we will never get back and also calls me girly/feminine..........yeah :)
@@SexAndCandyHair92 it’s been a month and a half for me. Seems like forever
@@tavionharris7314 that was such a nice text!
It s been a month for me and I felt great but now i found out that he is with somebody else he didn t even have the decency to hide it from me... at least for a while. He promised me he would not be with someone new because he didnt feel the need, and i told him i want to be with someone new, who would show me the love i want and give. But here I am, single, no need for anyone, just myself... anyway, the girl is a nurse he would talk crap about... and a friend of mine met them a week ago. I feel so hurt and furious but at the same time i feel free and ready for what comes next no matter what life brings me. Because i don t want to do this NC this with the idea that He will contact me again. No. I suggest you to do the same. I think that Coach Lee insists on the idea of us getting better, loving ourselves and enjoying our lives alone. And it really is a blessing to be alone and do what you love. Not to mention that many times i just didnt feel happy around him, I felt caged, I felt like he didn t want me to be happy. I didnt want to make changes( start dance lessons, go out, go to the gym, even work more) because I was afraid i wouldnt spend enough time with him!!! That s toxic
Starting no contact today guys. We have been off and on for a while. But this time he made it clear that we are done for good. He falsely accused me of cheating. I’m devastated because I would never. He thinks it’s because our sex is different.. I will keep you guys updated with my journey. If this brings me anything I hope it’s strength 🤞🏾
Hope things improves for you. How are things going now?
That's some narcissistic bullshit, ditch that mf
How do I say this,,, coach lee works. Few months ago my ex broke up with me. After applying all these things Coach Lee taught me I’m happy to say my ex just texted me and wants to start dating again. It takes time and patience and lots of strategizing but I promise it works. Thank you Coach Lee for everything. You are a blessing.
Ok these are probably bs. Just listen to coach Lee. Seriously
@@babywasp4805 they are scammers
That's good ,just be patient and don't start from where you both stopped.let them work for you,let them prove their love for you.
How did you deal with not knowing if they would come back? And how long were you guys together ?
@@ppv1780 hey bud. We were together a year. I coped by simply talking to myself and by keeping hope. Like coach Lee said as long as you two are alive, there’s always a chance of reunion.
5 months no contact , she doesn't give 2 f@#*s . And neither do I now. Thanks coach you have helped achieve that . I've worked on myself and gonna keep pushing for a better me . She'll never find anyone as nice as me , good luck to her I hope she finds happiness. I truly mean that . Anyone reading this if you want decent man here I am 🙂
Day 48 and stronger than ever. Time is power and perspective. It's an experience and a gift nobody can take from you. The harder the challenge, the greater reward...stay strong, you are worth it!
Update?
well next update
It always works because either you will get back together or you'll get someone even better.
It's been a week now of NC and I finally received the phone call. Even tho our conversation started leaning towards the issue of the matter, I've continue to stand on good morals without devaluing myself. Even though she was persistent in having things her way, Ive continue to stay strong to the point of her finally realizing her own toxic perception.
Now she's all over me showering me with love while I take all the time that i need before giving all of my heart back into her hands again,..
She's has alot of work to do if she truly wants the old me again,.. and she knows it
Any update? But with respect I have to tell that one week is a short time just a bit anger not a big problem like to have a long time with not contact
@lliana C
Things eventually went back to normal and unfortunately she became too comfortable enough for her to go back into her old ways, so I stonecold dumped her recently a week before Valentine's day and I never looked back since then. But now I have another headache to deal with, and that's all these options of women with redflags since I've been in the gym. She tried contacting me through texts messages for me to see her, but I just ignored her and her lack of taking accountabilities.
We both know this movie has ended now.
No contact worked after 3 weeks and I just wanted to thank you for your videos. I binged watched when I felt bad and I'm back with my ex but I'm the one regretting now and it's okay cause my heart will never break...thank you coach lee
I did no contact for 3 years now. It worked i dont even remember her face!
But you still thought about them, so maybe another 3 years?
Wow! I have to say that you are one of the best coaches that I’ve seen on TH-cam. You have a really positive and calming presence and it has helped me get through these hard times. I haven’t spoken to my ex since the middle of November. He sent me a text message on Christmas but didn’t bother to tell me Happy Birthday on Christmas Eve. He is soooo PETTY! Recently he’s been sending me one text message every weekend and he’s been getting more desperate with every message. NO CONTACT DOES WORK! Thanks Coach Lee!
You go girl 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
I still haven’t spoken to my ex since November. He continues to send me messages and calls me regularly. He even called and texted me from someone else’s phone two weeks ago because I blocked him in November. My best friend is so proud of me for finally moving on with my life. I’ve been working on myself for the last 6 months and I feel much better. I have weak moments from time to time, but thanks to Coach Lee’s encouraging videos I’ll be just fine. 🙂
@@mckennaross7855 if he's reaching out... You should talk to him... What are you thinking?
3 and half weeks NC! Stay tuned ! I’m stronger and getting better then ever ! Your videos help me so me!
COACH !! I must thank you. This worked for me, and shared your videos with a friend who was hurting from a break up. NOW IT HAS WORKED FOR HER TOO❤ I will share your with anyone who is healing from a break up. Thank You
You got your ex back?
I can’t thank you enough for your videos. I’ve been dealing with this all by myself and you have been a lifeline for me.
U hanging in there bro ? Still on NC?
I can recommend you to (Mr oduma )who was able to bring back my ex husband and it works, I believe he can solve your relationship problems
十2348073788494♻️♻️🎦🚻识你...
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Say it anyway. Have faith in yourself always. Don’t let the mind drag you along, stay centred, grounded and on your purpose. Get in the gym, empower and respect yourself. The rest will follow.
Text him on WhatsApp ..
@@tonyjack8801 Lol sounds like a nice scam, worst of luck with that
I love coach Lee’s metaphors! “Snatching defeat from the jaws of victory”. And if your ex contacts you, don’t say, “Oh I’ve missed you so much, have you thought about anymore names for our kids!?” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Dang how did coach lee know I wanted to say those exact words to my ex lol I would probably ask “so when are we moving back in “ lmao
Coach Lee u killed it on this video bro! Ha just when I was thinking of reaching out & stroking my exs ego again this made me realize shes giving me measly breadcrumbs with the "I miss u, how are u doing? crap." I want more & deserve more. I'm reassured I'm doing the right thing by staying away & doing ME. I'm the king & I want to be above her. Not equals. Thanks man! I needed this
Any updates?
How r things today?
I just wonder, how many girls felt in love with Lee during healing through those videos😂😂
Hahahahahaahhahahaah
Yeah, you wouldn’t wanna go no contact with Lee though… he’ll tear you to pieces 😂
And men! Lel
❤
@@jonathanb6911 lololol toxic
Buddy I got to tell ya that until this morning my wife had been gone for a month. Yesterday I watched about 10 of your videos and got me a little bit of wisdom from them. Well guess what. She came back home today. Your tricks are dang awesome man!!! Plus God had a hand in it a lot too
Joey, awesome! I’m so happy for you. Please email myexbackcoach@gmail.com because we have a couple of questions if you don’t mind. 💪🏻
Lmao. I really did use ur info too. Took bout a day and a half to get her back home
CRUMBS FROM THEIR TABLE.
That's powerful.
Listen up fellas. Do something positive for yourself. Workout, hard. With a purpose. Drop some weight. Dress better. Be confident and believe in yourself and watch the incredible changes that take place. Don't find time, make time. You got this fellas and above all.... STAY AWAY!!!
Sometimes you just have to move on. Don't deprive yourself of a more beautiful person that is waiting for you.
DO IT!!! Start now.
Its been a little over a month since the break up and it will be a month of no contact on the 31st. Your videos keep me going Coach Lee, thank you. I hope I can get to a point where I dont feel like I have to binge or comment on videos anymore❤
Update?
This was hilarious: “Have you thought of anymore names of our kids” 😂
He is comical lol
Boy, were you right...after no contact for a few months, I received a text message! He was flirting with me, said I looked great. I remembered your advise and was pleasantly surprised when he made the attempt to talk to me! Now what? I don't want to appear anxious...who knows, maybe he just wanted to see if I still cared about him??
This lad is a legend.
Do it right and it works !!!!
Dont put a time on it tho, just disappear and dont be a nuisance... of course its hard but you need to show your strength
I can recommend you to someone powerful who was able to bring back my ex wife and it works very fast and I believe he can solve your relationship problems
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Text him at what'Sapp
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+2348077751695
I watched your videos on repeat when I was first going through my break up. I even fell asleep to them, just hearing the reassurance and your words helped immensely.
It’s been almost 11 months and I haven’t reached out, neither has she. I still have my hard days, but I’m focusing on myself and that is the most important part. Thank you coach Lee 🖤
Update?
Update?
11 months? It's over
Soo lmao UPDATE?
It works! I'm healed and have moved on. Don't want him back anymore
When the break up happens and you dont want it ....
Yes its true, no contact works!!!
They have 2 go through all the stages.. but trust me, you also have 2 go through all the stages!
You have 2 feel pain, lost, etcetera etcetera ...
Wait until YOU find yourself back!
It can take months and months 2 let them go in your mind.
And when you really moved on in your own life ...
When you have new friends, a "new job", new energy, and you can see in the mirror a new you ❤❤❤ thats the time when they can come back in your life..
Thats the moment when you can make a clear decision if you want them back.
Trust me it can take months, a year.. but when you are there ... and you can face yourself in the mirror with self pride and self respect❤ that is the moment!
It is hard 2 let go of your dreams about the other person ..
Dont hate them, but feel the love just the love you found back in yourself about who you are!
❤❤❤
Nobody can use you and never ever lower your self esteem!
This was a journey that in the end made me a better person 🙏💯
Thank you Coach Lee 🎉🎉🎉 you gave me back myself 💫
Coach Lee, you are definitely the best TH-cam break up/get your ex back coach! You have definitely helped me in this journey I'm on. And because of your videos and my renewed belief in myself, I know i will be stronger and a better man regardless if she comes back or not. Thank you for all you do. I hope your channel takes off soon! You deserve it for all you're doing for those of us hurting.
put a tip in his tip jar
Found this just in time!!! 3rd day of no contact. Getting stronger daily and taking the power back!! Can’t wait to update you
I’m also looking forward to follow your progress
Any progress report?
@@lordkillohendrix-8501 I broke it. In friend zone for like 2 weeks but I’m seeing someone and so is she, had I followed instructions maybe the outcome would have been better but surprisingly I feel our break up was a blessing in disguise I no longer want her back and she’s shown signs of jealousy about my new person and I’m not jealous of hers. Sorry for the bad news brother
You get to say ; “no, I’m doing fine, thanks anyway” I am on a crumb free diet!!!!
omg I HATE crumbs...did some advice ..months of crumbs! I am in NC. Done. Lo carb lol
Perfect.
I been NC now 3weeks almost a month. And I'm so much stronger. I decided that I'm better off alone. Unless I find the right person. I have learned so much from this relationship. And am blessed to see that I definitely loved him more then myself. Now I'm going to work on myself. Get my life together so I can do what I need to do for our children . He wasn't the one I always had doubts about he always disappointed me always.
Day 13 and I nearly gave up.. Thank you coach lee for helping me go through this and also thanks to all the dumpees haha for positive and success stories! keep them coming I get so motivated!
Are you still NC? I’m on day 10. This is so hard
Yes tell us what happened
Please update
After being a loser for 3 days, I finally started the real NC. It's like an emotion roller coaster. There are days I feel alive, and there are days I want to fly a white flag. 5 days now NC and I will keep at it. Coach Lee is right. I can't gamble my dignity. No more crumbs coach!
@@LabradoodleTofuBoy yes! Some days I'm good, others not so much. It fluctuates throughout the day to be honest. I'm on 6 weeks since break up and 4 weeks of NC.
To be honest, it's gonna end up being exactly what it's suppose to be. I'm just doing things for myself and really blossoming. It sucks though man. Not gonna lie. It won't always be like this though.
Would just like to say thank you for your videos I cannot tell you how helpful they have been to me for the past three weeks, it’s literally like a mental medicine. Been in NC for about 3 weeks now found out she moved on with somebody else after a week! Even if she contacted me now I wouldn’t go back after this disappointing move and I will never reach out to her again.
No Contact is not to get your ex back but to heal yourself and make yourself better. IF you are lucky they MIGHT come back. The important thing is to get your self back to a healthy place.
@@victoryjamess5519 That is as bad as texting him out right. BAD advice.
Its been three weeks of no contact. You inspire me to be stronger.
Im at 17 days ... it hurts . Can u give an update ? Hope u are doing better
i'm on almost 2 weeks
@@joshmcgowan4376 hi, im so much better now. it only took 51 days for him to crawl back and i shut the door closed. serves him well. im better off without him.
Same here 3 weeks today , he just put me over the edge to break up with him , by dragging me down , bargaining about his ex gf and disrespecting me , I ended up saying bye cuz the pain was too much and I know deep down he will never change cuz he never loved me genuinely .
Works 100%, I realized after begging and pleading to save a 15 yr relationship, I didn't want it bc of all the cheating and lying this person did to me. No contact gave me clarity and freedom, being single isnt so bad, not at all and I was frightened to death of it.
Wh@tsAPP him for help
@@pascaljuno3663 No contact allows you to clear your head and take a step back and put things into perspective. Do I really want to be with someone who betrayed me, then had no remorse for doing so? Ummmm no, bc I would never have done it to her.
I can't thank you enough for your videos! You help me hang on day-by-day and fight off the sadness that is constantly trying to overtake me!
Whenever I get the urge to contact my ex (and trust me I’ve had many)I always come back to this particular video. It’s been 10 months since my ex broke up with me and I felt the usual emotions you would experience when you have been dumped. But these 10 months have given me plenty of time to think about whether I want him back or not. And I’ve decided the answer to that is no I don’t want him back. Without getting into too much detail, I noticed towards the end of our relationship my ex was starting to shut me out and push me away. And that right there is a big deal breaker for wanting to get back together.
What’s sad is that I’m the ‘dumper” and I’m watching these videos bc I’m experiencing all the “dumpee” feelings. Ughhhhhh!!! We need a video for this situation!
I am doing a SuperChat at 6 pm central which is in about 3 hours here on my channel. I’ll be answering questions live and you are welcome to ask this one there.
Please tell me about it I'm in the same situation right now and it hurts tooo muchhh!!
Are you doing any live videos?
You should do a skincare routine video next, coach lee. 🤣
And a hair routine lol
lol 😂
I do love his new haircut...😃
it looks ike his camera has some kind of skinsoftening effect on though :)
Maybe guys cause u shallow that's why u hear..instead on focus in the knowledge he is giving us..
Coach Lee, I’ve watched all of your videos and I think this one is extremely underrated. This is my favorite video on your channel because it gives people hope that my ex may be back one day and helps you move on at the same time. Some videos get me in this hole where I only focus on getting them back, but this one helps me reframe my way of thinking. I was going to the gym and fixing my diet and seeing a therapist and all of these things to get her back, but I’m doing it for myself now. Im doing it 90% for myself and only 10% for her. Your words are extremely helpful. Almost 2 weeks NC and I can finally see the light at the end of this VERY long, long tunnel now. Thank you Coach!!!
“ Chasing love is like chasing death “
Well…I don’t know if I’d go that far, but don’t chase love. lol
@@RealCoachLee 😂
4 weeks into no contact I’ll try to keep this updated
Thank you Coach Lee for making these video Ive been watching you since 2019 it was a rough road but you help me a lot. I saw all the signs with my ex she left me for another guy. But guess what. Yes yes yes she came back. Things are still fresh we have 3 children been together since 2011. I didn't do everything right at first but I stay in no contact since may 2020 I saw the signs along the like you talk. So yes people Coach know what he is talking about it's hard but focus on you give them the break up and stay away. Yes it's hard some days and easier some days. After awhile I was really planning my life with her. She got to see what life was like without me. Like I said it's still fresh but 10 years together is very hard to walk away from. Stay strong y'all. Watch the videos over and over or when you are having a hard day it will keep you going.👍👍💪💪
I understand why he is the coach. He is logic, details and clear.
I can recommend you to (Mr oduma )who was able to bring back my ex husband and it works, I believe he can solve your relationship problems
十2348073788494♻️♻️🎦🚻识你...
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Depends on the situation you are in....
Ask yourself this: Who did your ex brake up with - You or the situation?
I wish you all the best and, look for YOURSELF! There is so many people out there to meet and I know you suffer, so now heal and give yourself your best version of you. I know you can do it 😊
Trust Coach Lee, he is good! God bless you all 🙋🏻♂️
Thank you for those words !! I'm 17 days in no contact and its beating me up pretty good but I have faith for better days to come . Just took a trip out of the country so im trying to do all I can
Nearly 4 weeks strong, thanks Lee
I can confirm it does get easier and u will think about them less. But the times u do, don't be hard on yourself.
@@SamanthaSprinkles69
It will get easier.. you'll have good days and you'll have days were u think about and thats okay to.. just be kind to yourself.. I know its gonna sound corny but it helps loving on yourself and treating yourself well.
@@amberbee6389
We're rooting for you too amber. Dont rush it, slow and steady wins the race. Look at me mine got in contact after 9 months of nothing, so no expectations..
Coach Lee is providing a valuable service. I think he is the best at what he does in the industry.
Listen to every word this man says. Watch his other videos. You'll feel better and his advice is the best you'll get. Thanks coach Lee
Omg thank you 🙏🏾 so much. I’m glad I watched you this vid. It worked no contact for a week after a week he start asking our friends about me.. so he could get some info ℹ️ from them. After a couple weeks he reached out and the rest is history 😅
Wonderful Coach
Every time I've gone no contact with my ex it haven't been more than a month until she reached out, but this is also because we did have a good relationship, and ending it in a respectful way. I've learned every time from this, to not cause drama, or show jealousy if she was dating others while we were broken up. This time though, I think it will take more than a month, and I am unsure if she actually will reach out again. We've been on/off for over 4 years, but I see now that life is better with her, and if I have the choice I will choose her. Wish us luck.
Any luck?
@@SJ-nw1ym She started dating someone within 3 weeks after we broke up. Although I don't know for sure, I think she is clearly still dating the same and happy with that. As long as she is happy I'm absolutely fine with it. Haven't hear anything from her for 6 months. I'm dating someone new who is both fitter, better looking, smarter and more in line with what I want :). Adding to that I don't think I ever had so much attention from females as I've had just from working on myself and focusing on making my own life better.
@@sune89 I'm really happy for you. I wish you very best for the future :)
@@SJ-nw1ym Thank you, I appreciate it :) Same to you.
If only I knew then what I know now - LET PEOPLE GO! Peace will soon follow!
My ex and I had a 3.5 year relationship that was fully of happiness and amazing times, but there were some fights and mistakes that were made. As time went on we’d argue more about dumb stuff most times and I’d get angry and not hear her out most times. Time went on but we still loved each other and wanted each other. I made a huge mistake when I decided to talk about another girl with my friends as a joke (I did not physically cheat or every try to talk or do anything with this girl) and she found out and it hurt her a lot. As time went on this girl would pop up at parties and such and my ex didn’t like it, she even asked me to block her or unfollow her and have anything to do with her and I denied it because I felt like she was behind controlling, when in reality she just wanted to feel okay again and I messed up on that. We ended up “breaking up” for a day in may and I told her I’d become better. We went another month being together and I did get better with some things but it takes time. She broke up with me actually this time and I was heart broken. I begged and pleaded but nothing would work so I accepted it. Around a week later she called me about stuff and then we began to talk again and later began to do things as if we were together. About 2 months went on and we were calling each other boyfriend and girlfriend. Then a month later she says she’s not over what happened with the other girl and that things still bother her and she can’t be with me because it gets in the way. This time hurt a lot more than before but I didn’t beg or plead and just gave her the break up. After that I found Coach Lee’s channel and watched every video he has. Through this time I was hurting so much and crying everyday. This was around October when we broke up. We didn’t talk for about 3 weeks until her birthday. I was contemplating on getting her flowers and chocolates for her birthday or even texting her happy birthday but I ended up doing it. She ended up inviting me to dinner with her parents that night and it was good night. After that day we talked here and there. she would text me for 2-3 days then stop for a day or 2. This would go on for most of November, but we began to hug more and talk more. December is when we started to hold hands and such and talk everyday and spend more time together. We ended up kissing on the 31st for the first time since we broke up. After that day we kissed basically everytime we saw each other and held hands, spent a lot of time together. This went on for most of this month up until yesterday. She tells me that she thinks being close again isn’t what’s best for us because she still isn’t over what happened. I got upset because she allowed us to get that close yet she felt that way. Even tho that’s messed up, I forgive her for it and I am not mad or upset anymore. I am hurt but at the same time the fact that she tried again after we broke up the second time is crazy to me because she said a lot of things that made it seem like there was no hope. She did tell me things such as that she was sorry and she feels so bad, and that she wants me to be happy and such. She also said she wants us both to be happy and live ourselves so that we can be okay. Idk if she meant that as a couple or as individuals but it seemed like both. Anyway, I did not respond to her last text because it wasn’t really much to respond too. I guess we did no contact for a couple weeks but I ended up saying happy birthday and we began to talk after that. I think maybe we just need actual time apart to heal and grow so it can work out. She’d always say she saw a future with me everytime we broke up, but that in the moment she couldn’t be with me. I know she loves me even if she hasn’t said it in a long time. If anyone can help me, do y’all think maybe we just need real time apart ? I feel as if I wasn’t ready as well because I was sensitive and expecting certain stuff when I shouldn’t have. I really love this girl a lot and want her to be my wife, it’s very hard to be apart of her because we basically have spent the last 4 years talking everyday, spending almost everyday together, and telling each other everything. I’m sorry this is a long read, but I just want anyone’s opinion on it.we both never cheated or been with anyone else or tried anything else, even through our break ups. Our families love each other and they love us. I messed up big time but I have grown and completely changed since then. We haven’t argued since around April 2020 at all. I am more understanding and hear her out more and much more patient. I feel as if we just need time to heal and get our shit together and then we will be okay to try again. I’d love to have anyone’s opinion or thoughts, I just need help in these times.
I think you guys both deeply care for each other and that it’s hard to see each other in a different light. I think time needs to pass where you guys don’t talk and she can move on and realize that either she gets over what happened or she doesn’t have you. Your comment was 7 months ago though so I hoped everything worked out in your favor and you got what you wanted. If you do update this I hope it’s a happy update for your sake
Lee you are a genius
he reached out 13 days after NC then nothing for a month ... well today I wake up to a happy valentines day message because he might forget on the day as it will be a regular day for him (trying to hint I see you) he wished me all the best cause I'm the most beautiful soul he ever met (well doooh)
Dude, 2 days in and now she still wants her space but wants therapy to see if we can work on our issues. It worked. She’s avoidant and I’m anxious. I’m going to keep up the no contact. It’s much healthier for me anyway, because I can’t handle the constant rejection.
Keep it slow Richard. Don’t let her feel that you think you two have just picked up where you left off or she will likely run away again.
Day 45 of NC today. I battle with myself whether to contact or not. Some days I wonder if he’s ok (COVID took a toll on his stress levels and anxiety). Then other days I feel he doesn’t deserve to hear from me. I’m just glad the tears have dried up and the knot in my stomach is gone. To text or not to text, that is the question 🤷🏾♀️ Let go and let God I guess.
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Wh@tsapp him🌷🌷
@@pvz0484 We have been in contact here and there but nothing that suggests getting back together. Once you find a level of acceptance of the situation you will be good. It’s all about how you want to live your life. Being miserable or focusing on yourself and making yourself happy without them. You get to live one life. Yes it sucks big time and you don’t know what the future holds. It could be a blessing in disguise. Let God lead the way. I promise you in a few months you’ll care but not that much. Life truly moves on.
Just sucks, why is that only we get to feel this way. how does it not affect them AT all. shit hurts.
@@pvz0484 Yes it does and it will. But it’s not forever. My ex reached out again with another random text just when I’m beginning not to give a shit…lol. Funny how that works.🤷🏾♀️ One foot in front of the other is all I can say. Find things that you like to do. This too shall pass🙏🏾
I have accepted that my ex is not coming back, she is seeing someone else and left the country. No matter what I want it’s done.
Thanks for this advice. I was hit with the “I need sometime apart”. Similar to what you said she had already prepared her reasoning but by means of speaking to her friends I guess to validate her decision. I said there was no point as I didn’t want to be left in suspense, gathered my stuff and left.
My regret is that by not communicating with her on that day I acted irrationally and that I concluded our relationship due to being so hurt.
I didn’t want my reaction to be a power play to gain control by means of manipulation to take back what she said, I was just hurt to be feeling so rejected after everything we’d been through.
How did it turn out?
I got her after 2 months of strict no contact..when she dumped me , i just said " alright, its over wish you the best , goodbye". And then i just vanished, out of her radar..then today she saw me with talking to another girl, that drived her crazy, she panicked, probably she thought if i dont take any step further i ll lose him soon,although i cleared her that this girl is just an old friend. She came back and apologized, we are now together, hoping everything gets fine.
Trust me buddies just vanish ,they ll definitely come back.
Your videos make this sudden exam, open book. Thankyou.
I'm just watching one of your videos and I got an alert about a new video in the email, and I immediately smiled, you do not understand how much you help me in this difficult time! Really appreciate what you do!
After 2 months he texted me to tell he had met someone new and if it was possible to stay friends because “ I really enjoyed our time together” 😅 no boy! I said that wasn’t good for me and I needed time to move on he just said “ok, I understand” I totally agree with Coach Lee. Lemerence is a real thing and he will miss our time together all the little moments that we were just human and connecting. On my 12 day of NC I’m working out and get ready for a trip to Chile. If my guy valued our time together then I trust he will call me to ask how was my trip. Ugh... I hate this feeling I miss him and I hate he is with someone else when I thought his hugs and affection was real.
@coachlee you've saved my sanity. I really messed up when she broke up with me, I was a mess and took it so bad. But you still give me faith. I owe you a beer brother.
Are you in no contact now?
Sam how are you now dude? I’m in the same situation x
How r u today?
@@spiderofsorts7611 how r u doing today ?
Last night was the final straw for me. He wanted to continue being just friends and talking until he was ready for a relationship again. I waited 5 months. He said he still loves me and cares about me. I told him I was done and i want to go no contact. At first he was like no I want to talk to you still and the he finally said “I guess”. He didn’t text me today, and neither did I. I pray I can do the NC.
Coach Lee my ex contacted exactly after 2 months and his message was “I’m dating your friend lol”. I ignored him.
That would completely break me. After my breakup my ex tried to build contact with other women including a girl that is my "friend", I’ve known her for longer then I knew my ex and we had mutual friends but were in different friend groups but known each other personally but weren’t like close or something.
My ex and her didn’t have anything to do with each other but now they are in contact... it completely messes with my head.
She was also the girl I kinda worried about during the last weeks/days of the relationship because as I already mentioned they didn’t have anything to do with each other and suddenly followed each other (even on their private IG accounts) at the end of the relationship/ breakup.
I talked to her about it and she seemed trustworthy and told me it’s there is nothing between them.. but then I found out that she sent him screenshots of my PRIVATE story were I kinda made fun of my ex but definitely not in a mean way (I compared him to funny a meme)... I’m pretty sure she did it to cause more drama and stress between me and my ex, turned out she’s fake and seems like she wants attention from my ex after them just texting a few times.
I’m so scared they’re gonna hook up or something. That thought makes me wanna throw up. I could easily move on if he wouldn’t flirt shortly after the breakup with so many women including someone I know.
Sorry for the long story but
how do you deal with that? I can’t cope with the thought of them texting, meeting and especially them fucking.
A Typical move of an Narcissist.
He cares he wants to show u n hurt u and you know what? It's not gonna last, stay strong
I’m so sorry...that is so hurtful. If he has the nerve to say such a horrible thing like that to you, he is not a good hearted person. You are worth so much more and deserve so much better. Much love. Stay strong luv.
Thank you for all the comments. You are all wonderful.
Dear coach Lee i thank you from the bottom of my heart your videos have made me so much confident about myself and my whole perception has changed towards the dating concept i have achieved so much in the last 2 years that now i don't want anyone i can attract whoever i want
Pain Heals In Time, The Best Is Yet To Come.
If your ex doesn’t reach out simply because your ex is still in heat with the rebound. When problems starts to unfold on your ex’s rebound, that’s the time your ex starts reaching out from time to time.
I enjoyed the note of sarcasm at the beginning, nice 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜
I’m going on two weeks. There’s phases for the no contactor too. I got over the panic stage. I don’t know what I’m in right now but I feel less inclined to bug him and will wait for him to come towards me.
I’m there right now. It sucks so much I’m sorry
I am also into my fourth week of long distance relationship. We have been together a little over 22 years before three years ago she moved to another state because she was worried my oldest son would get involved with gangs or get killed. I couldn’t move because of my career which I will be retiring in April of this year. Now she has contacted me several times she also has text me with negativity a lot of negativity Im into no contact I try not to bother her she’s seeing and sleeping with someone else right from the beginning of our breakup but she text me some of the stupidest stuff and I just feel like I’m obligated sometime to email her back because I don’t do the texting thing but I am starting to feel stronger and my heart aches and my loneliness is starting to disappear and I’m getting myself into a better shape. Coach Lee if she’s into his new relationship which I feel is only lust and infatuation for sex, do you you believe she will wants to come back or is she still unsure and confused. I was due to move down there with her and my Boys in April. But now that this has happen I just don’t know anymore she called me today and I took the call because you advised not to ignore and during our conversation she told me that she will always love but refuses to admit to another relationship just keeps denying that she’s involved with anyone but I know the truth because my boys have told me.n
@@tavionharris7314 Yo Travis you got it backwards my son is her son our child. She wanted to move him out of the city for rear he would get involved in a gang he was hanging out most iPod the night wouldn’t answer his phone people were getting shot just about every week. So we both decided that it would me best to get both my sons out of there. So yes she moved down south to her father where there is nothing but mountains. That’s why she moved. I could go because of my career wasn’t over. I retire in March or April.
He finished with me after I tried so hard. I feel I won’t find anyone now and will remain single forever.
I saw and talked to my ex last week after 7 months of no contact. I thought I will be emotional but im not. He still holds my hand, he still hug me, we still hold hands but it is hard to get back together because of complicated scenarios.
@@ppv1780 I went to his place to talk to him. Im shocked with his reaction. Im expecting that he will not talk to me but he is so happy to see me and he invited me for lunch.
Hey coach, thank you for your videos. My gf of 4 months broke up with me on the 10th due to her poor mental health, and it really hurt. I'm currently almost a week into no contact, and your videos help a lot. Even though she may not come back, your content gives me some semblance of peace.
I am having the same issue. Any updates mate? She came back to you
@@kerrykyabega9276 and me
Identical situation brotha. Need an update
Sorry guys it didn't work out. @riley nasrallah
@@jasonniffen3043 she never contacted you?
stayed strong for 2 years now .... companies success is about to take off...she wanted to come back 5/6times within the first year I stayed strong as I could not get over the disappointment I was left with... walked away and never went back !