Most dumpers are very good communicators, the trouble is they don't communicate with the dumpee prior to dumping them, instead they talk to family and friends who sometimes influence them.
@Knowledge_Seeker they can't love as we do. They are oppurtinist and they don't care about how you feel. Never trust to a woman they are hypergamous by nature so always seek for the better option. If she encounter with higher value mate you will be the one first who gets rejected. Never trust. They can't love you just for you. Learn female nature, learn red pill
Well yeah... Who do you think gave reinforced every ting she was thinking,,,Who do you think agreed with everything she said even when she was a couple short of a sixpack with her logic? The problem most of us have is we sthink our friends would tell us if we were wrong.,,,thatalmost never happens in cases like this...Most of the time it goes like this " oh hell no!...If my man pulled that shit he would be out on the street" or... " yeah ...I didn't want to say anything because it wasn't my place but i saw that you could do a lot better than him"
@@neilracine6158 I think their anger, frustration and resentment is more directed at themselves and the people that coerced them into leaving the relationship, rather than at the dumpee. Essentially, they have been backed into a corner and cannot see a way out (trying to reconcile things with the dumpee) without upsetting the people they confided in initially. They seem to suffer silently for that and the only way they can deal with it is through anger, frustration and resentment
@@sreach93 i can understand that... but I don't think that is particularly reticent in my situation... so long ad she is talking to this guy on the other side of the country and untill she realizes that what she is doing is wrong for her and our family then all I can do is give her what she thinks she wants... which is the break up
1. Don't beg and plead 2. Don't act in anger 3. Don't talk to their/mutual friends about the breakup 4. Don't be manipulative 5. Don't try to make them jealous 6. Don't fake cool 7. Don't ignore them when they reach out to you
He said that i emotionally and mentally broken him and he needs to get away from cause i take him out of character......this broke my heart because i love him beyond words and there have been times when i have encouraged him to want more and supported him through a lot smh.... no contact for 2 days and it’s hurts and not i am angry but i haven’t lashed out on him i kept it to myself
If your ex girlfriend or boyfriend had the guts or balls to leave you. Close your door of them trying to return. They could’ve decided to stay before leaving you, and breaking your heart. Your life isn’t a game. So stop allowing people that claim the “Love you” to play with you and return whenever they feel like it. You felt like it was a good thing to leave me. Okay by all means. Stay out there. Y’all stay up, and have a blessed day.
Especially if they go off and rebound or have someone else already lined up. You aren't the fall back and everything you said is true. Even if you did get them back, how can you ever trust that when things get hard later in life they wont leave you again, and at that point the situation could be so much worse than it is now. Also, you need to have respect for yourself. If you cant respect yourself they will never respect you either. Sometimes it can be hard to lose someone that you love, but at a point you need to realize that its time to move on and be better than them, not just tell yourself you are.
I had a breakup ten days ago. During that argue, i told her that i would like to talk about everything she mentioned as a problems, and i said to her to call me when she would be ready to call me. I go to NC phase. Let her to calm herself etc 5 days after that she called me. I was in the job but my REACTION was positive, happy, and cheerful. I was in sad mood inside myself, BUT i knew that i must project full positive reaction on her, so i can polarise her emotions to simething positive, no need for bad feeling at all!! I told her in short that i can not talk now but we can hear after job. I did not call her after the job, to continue NC .. because of situation ... let her calm her self. 5 days later she called me and we were talking about everything in mature, calm manner.. we sold issues, i accepted my mistakes and desided to work on them, she accepted her part of situation. And i think everything will be ok. The point is, what i learned from this. Break up usual is NOT break up from you, from person, sometimes it is moving away from specific situation, ... so when you step back and give space and time to other side, it usual create everything good Coach Lee talks about. Human brain have tendencies to forget bad situations, and remember only good one. So when bad situation occur, just step back, and let time do things... Usual it does... really well...
@@TheExiled222 congrats bro! i really hope i move on. it hasn't been easy and every damn thing in life keeps reminding me of her. every song, every street, every place in my apartment. we are all quarantined rn but i will be frequently reminded of her by the underground metro that we used to ride for 3 hours aday together. my college will remind me of her. It's just gonna be horrible. i wish i had never met her.
@@MarawanAbbas1 I feel your pain man it's not easy. At the beginning I felt the same, I wish I had never fallen in love with her but now i'm very grateful for it and you will be too, I know it's hard to think you'll move on right now but you will I can promise you that, maybe it'll take a few months but that's the way it's gotta be, just work on yourself however you can (I know it's harder during this pandemic). It will suck but people have been in the exact same position as you right now and managed to move on so you can too. Wishing you well brother
I already ignored her . She left me for her ex I changed my phone number and I even blocked her on social media but she was still friends with me on ps4 she texted me asking how was I doing I never texted her back I just removed her from my friends list . Instead I’m running away so I can teach her a lesson of what she lost and the grass ain’t so greener for her now
@@frenchkiss8789 but on some real if they want to get a hold of you they will pigeon mail you or write a letter and put it in a bottle. They will fight for it if they want it
For anyone here. Anger is always 1 move away from a fatal mistake. But it doesn't have to be this way. Anger is energy. Energy is neither negative or positive. Turn that energy into a positive force.
The correct and mature attitude towards your ex is "strength in the face of difficulty". Exactly THAT, well put coach! It's the behavioral "sweet spot" and shows respect and dignity for both your ex and yourself. Very difficult when faced with all the emotions associated with a breakup, but the only way to go about it.
I was in my relationship for 6 years....it's my fault in some ways why she left and it's been 8 months now that she left....and I was doing all the wrong things to get her back. All the begging, cry, getting angry with her, asking all her friends to talk to her. Now she even blocked me from her phone We have have 2 kids together. Now I feel like I loose her for good. She even start dating someone else. What can I do now to change things?
I respect how you don't sugar coat words. It's really appreciated because that's what we need right now. Straightforward talk coupled with your empathy and professionalism. Thank you, Coach Lee.
If they didn't wanted to be with you the first time, why would they want to be with you again, some people are just confused and they don't know what they want. You can't trust them.
This guy is giving us so much than we bargain for. Often times people appreciate it more when they receive something good either by gifts or any material stuffs like money. And yet little did we know how much important it is to give more credit to people who enhances our life with great perspective.
This coach makes me laugh during my breakup he is brutally honest and i love that, that makes my pain more clear and to be able to get thru the no contact
The reality that Coach Lee and others gently, sometimes indirectly, communicate is that the dumpee MUST let go. Be the best version you can be, if your ex is again attracted and is compelled to try agai , the decision is then yours to take them back. The relationship you try to hold onto is over. Use that to your advantage.
Six months now since we broke up , I am totally over here and it was a blessing but for it was a lesson . She texted me asking how I was doing , I told her I was fine , straightforward told here I am over you and I truly meant it . I don’t see a future with here. Now she is chasing but I truly have no feelings for here . It is amazing , how the table has turned . It is all happened because I firmly stood up for my dignity , I never begged here to stay . I Literally told here if u think our Relationship is not working , then I totally respect your decision and I wish you the best. Now she’s chasing but I don’t want her. So it is all about self respect and value . You worth someone better , just allow yourself to go through the stages of the breakup , and things will get better.
Having trouble sleeping and I had an anxiety attack early hours this morning & that’s the first time I’ve experienced that,I’ve followed all your videos and done what you’ve said,just pray it works,hate the thought of some other guy touching my ex😔 I get super depressed every time I see her ( when picking my daughter up ) I never talk to her when we see other unless it’s about our child,struggling but got to hold on and don’t give up
Coach Lee, I don't know what I would have done without your videos. I was crushed when my ex left 3 months ago. He communities daily with and I match his level of interest and reciprocity. I hope we get back together. All in God's hands now.
Coach Lee you’re brilliant. You have helped me so much since I discovered your videos. Even if reconciliation is not in my future I’m feeling better about myself and am eager to grow from this experience.
Great video...I only disagree with "ignoring" part, I had 2 exes I've dumped and first one was replaying to my texts and it gave me peace of mind and I never felt desired to this person any more...it's like I lost respect, interest or something. ..the second one ignored me and it fed my anxiety to the point I went crazy about her, felt the attraction towards this person and I tried many times, different ways to get to her. The thing is if you really want someone you find a way and them ignoring you will not put you off at all...that's my experience.
It sounds like you had/have an anxious/preoccupied attachment style. The harder people ignore you the more it hurts you and the harder you try for their approval. Emotional hunger.
Having depression for two weeks now after my ex broke up with just for small arguments ...i don’t trust him he said..watching coach make me feel better I cried morning and the entire day,watching coach lee make me feel better.The best coach..thank you Coach
You know coach... I handled the breakup so well in the beginning (James Bond'esque) with the help of your videos I managed to go into NC.... However after just under 3months I broke NC & MUCH to my dismay I felt even worse....I wanted to simply speak with her & she wasn't having it (VERY VERY PAINFUL) However... The pain of my failure to stick with NC is BEYOND words... I know she will never be back & in truth she was doing me a favor!
Anger 5:01 6:32 6:46 If they were still attracted with you, they would be with you. If they want to be with you, they will be with you. 7:00 If they want to be with you and they're attracted to you enough, they will find a way, unless they are literary locked up and even then they might just break down the bars. 8:17 9:01 Don't be manipulative
You are a great guy and coach, Coach Lee. I love your integrity, efficiency, kindness and intelligence. Thank you very very much for your straight-up talking and manner. Juliet, a New Zealander living in London
Botton line. No contact is mostly for the dumpee to get over the hurt and pain . Weather they come back or not is not really something to think about. But sorting yourself out is number one priority. Work on yourself another person cant make you happy if your not happy with you.. True happiness is in you.
Thanks coach for all you do. Your videos make us dumpee’s feel strong and brightens our moods even if we never get them back. I will remember all your advice going forward.
I was just broken up with by my gf of 3 years a few days ago. I made the mistake of trying to continue talking and trying to make it work and in those moments I bought her flowers that will be delivered to her. I decided today I will do no contact and I will stay the course! Thank you Lee!!
It's like religion, as long as there is something for you to devote to, you'll be satisfied and fulfilled thinking heaven awaits you while dying just as you'd also be as happy living devotedly by the indoctrination of religious codes.
Your videos have kept me alive and with hope. Thank you. I listen to your videos on repeat because I have hope my ex and I will get together again one day. Thank you so much
My ex and I were together for 7 happy years, we broke up because i fell into a deep depression. i shut everyone out my life and hurt her greatly. i spent a lot of time improving myself and 3 years down the line i still love her. i tried to talk to her after getting therapy a while after the break up but i was so overwhelmed with everything going on in my life i relapsed. I've written a letter taking accountability and saying sorry. she doesn't want me in her life anymore and all want to do is try and fix things. its horrible knowing i hurt the one closest to me unintentionally. now i can only prey i bump into her 1 day and she can see I've changed and I'm in a healthy place. then i can begin to right my wrongs
I'm so glad I stumbled upon your channel right after the breakup. I was this close to doing a combo of all these mistakes. I dodged a bullet there! Phew.
Rey Casiano feelings change tho my ex was obsessed with me and her lack of communication because she thought that I didn’t like certain things about her even tho I was just poking fun and I started to lose interest and got complacent because I just though she wouldn’t ever leave so they fall out of love and both people played a part in it but so did you
If u did mistakes and you expect him to solve the problems you made then its you who dont love him. Im sorry but he was right to dump you. Learn and act differently next time
It’s too late; I got angry when she told me she wanted to leave. I was scared, felt like I was being abandoned, and lashed out in a panic. I told her to start packing her sh*t and started emptying out closets. The realization hit me later that I absolutely destroyed myself when I destroyed her. Now, because of the laws in my state, we have to be separated for a year before we can even file for divorce. She gave me so many chances, and I wasted them all. I would give almost anything for just one more. One chance to show her that, even if it meant we weren’t together anymore, that I want nothing but the best for her and to support her decision to improve her life. Now, I can only sit and think about how listening to her and being compassionate may have made this less painful for both of us. We were struggling, yes, but my reaction was both unfair and downright cruel. Don’t make the mistake I did, people; it hurts so much to know that I not only lost her, but hurt her more in the process. I promise it hurts more than you can imagine to know that you were the one who made it worse for both of you, and that there’s nothing you can say or do now to fix that. I will always love her, but now I have to keep that love to myself and can never give it to her again 💔
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The day she dumped me I made several of these mistakes. I begged and pleaded, I pushed too hard and wouldn’t back off, I messaged one of her friends, and to top it off I said something insanely hurtful. I sent one text the next day asking if there was any chance of reconciling down the road, then upon discovering these videos I immediately went into no contact mode. Two days later after zero contact... she texted me saying she’d be open to talking in a few weeks when she’s back in town. I have no idea what that talk will lead to or what she might have in mind for it, but that’s as hopeful a sign I could possibly get, and in a short amount of time. So we’ll see what happens - but I can tell you that if you and your ex meant a lot to each other, even if you made these mistakes initially, the no contact rule DOES work. Stay strong everyone... god knows I’m trying to.
Sorry but did either of you actually *read* my comment? I don’t mean to sound rude and I’m sure y’all are well intentioned but I wasn’t asking for any additional or different help - I was saying the method Coach Lee lays out here worked - it *works*. Within a couple of weeks my ex came back to me saying she didn’t want to give up and we are working things out together again. I’m shocked at how effective this was and absolutely overjoyed that I have another shot at a future with the love of my life. For anyone in a similar situation to the one I was in, for the love of god PLEASE don’t fall for these quick-fix, “get her back in 2 days”, “spells caster” things. It’s a bunch of BS. Good things take time. Employ no contact and be patient. If it’s meant to be it will work.
First of all, no one shld want someone who rejected them. Second of all, if they never come back (which you shld never accept back someone who cld throw you away) you can go on knowing your dignity is still intact. Soooo options are: 1) Being dumped and losing your dignity 2) being dumped and maintaining your dignity Always choose dignity.
First. I agree with the mistakes listed here. The advice from Coach Lee works for me. Coach Lee, can you please make a video on an ex who is hot and cold during no contact? Thanks a lot..
I did not do any of the above mistakes. I was really soft and kind when he asked me a break up though it was hurtin as hell and with utmost difficulty I was holding my tears. Deep inside my heart it was yelling don't leave me. Don't. But I love him. . We dated for 10months and was extremely good to him and I hope he misses me and comes bk. . Faith. And trusting coach Lee❤️ am doing everything what coach is saying. to me coach is my male best friend. My well wisher. I love yu Lee❤️ bless yu.
I've been watching these videos and my chances are getting slimmer and slimmer by the day. I have hurt her, we are going 9yrs now, last 20days, was a pain I am asking for forgiveness... She's now slapping all the bad things I have done to her, each time I reach out... I guess I blew it up, I beg the days after she broke up. And I gues she's certain about her decision about it. This is my day 1 for No Contact. Wish me luck.
Thank you for all your work. My girl left me and I didn’t beg nor plead because of your videos. She said she’s keeping an open mind to getting back together. I’m going no contact and she’s asked if I was ok a few times but now seems to be pulling back as I haven’t heard from her in 3 days. I’m gonna follow your advice I guess even though I’m hurting so bad. When I get my check I’m gonna contact you. I’ve watched everything out there and I think you’d be the best fit. Thanks again
Leroy Jones If she doesn’t come back then just move on. It hurts right now but it gets a lot easier and you’ll soon enough stop missing her all the time! I’d get back into dating other women and go out with friends. Focus on bettering yourself man. Good luck
No contact works wonders I promise, just give it time. Watch Coach lee's vid on the stages an ex goes through during a break up and all will become clear. I promise you there is hope. It worked for me.
Hello Coach Lee. This is Luz. I like your advices and explanations about relationships. It helps a lot of people understand how to handle their relationships. I'm having problem right now, my fiancée is ignoring me with out any reasons but I learned a lot from your advice how to handle it. Thank you and I will continue to watch your videos. Keep up the good work. God bless your heart. Luz
Luz Ventura, Coach Lee has a POWERFUL Emergency Breakup Kit which will help you. It has EVERYTHING in it including strategies for every situation. myexbackcoach.com/ebk
Immediately after the break up he was saying maybe in the future we could get back together. Acting like the break up was so painful for him. I definitely made some of these mistakes and it feels like he's completely changed his mind and closed that door.
@Sha Dee we've texted a few times on my initiative. He's friendly and replies but doesn't initiate. Last week I said I missed him and got no response. So it's safe to say he's over it. And honestly screw him.
I was very heartbroken after my ex broke up with me after a 8 months relationship almost with no reason,at first I let him have the break up for 3 months then I just felt depressed and anxious again without him and chased him texted him even wrote a letter to him and I was about to give it when the video of a coach lee appeared on my TH-cam home and I watched some videos and decided to finally to try to move on and know my self worth I really love you coach lee u r the best man !
im doing no contact 3weeks ago . i received a text from her today she asking me to find another girl to make me happy and she is requested a divorce i just replied 'Ok' only .
she sent that text to see how is my reaction . that how she think i ll have new relation and i ll divorce because i stoped begging her and doing No contact make her feel that im haveing new relation i guess
@kiyosk she is stuborn, we been many breakup and im the one alawys beg her to come back.. im the one alawys request and put my self down even do the mistake happened by her.... im realy happy with No contact process , she will consider my value and respect and will stop her to do that every time.
My ex broke up with me by text. The second time she had done this. I’m about 3 weeks through no contact. I don’t know if I’ll want her back again though.
OH YEAH! The breakup by text. That is the most insulting thing a woman can do to you. I had that happen to me with a woman friend that I was trying to help and did help a lot. I only got a message that said "I appreciate your kindness. Do not text me or try to contact me again." I knew her for five years and saw her most everyday. It was a kick in the face and the ass.
I lost a mutual friend because everytime I see or talk to him he would disingenuously always ask if I had talked to her. Just recently he texted me and asked if I wished her “Happy Birthday”. I did not contacted her because as much as I still have feelings for her, I trying to move forward with my life. It hard but it necessary.
The whole reason that me an my ole lady broke up is because I have problems with listening. I didn’t change when she needed me too and she warned me for 1 month but it took her really leaving me to realize that she really gone. I fought and fought for her because I truely believe she’s the love of my life and I’ll never find nobody who can relate to me or love me the way she did.. I’d do anything to have that back.
I have made all the mistakes and its just been 2 days I am in no contact tough we broke up several weeks ago but now after seeing you videos I am just ready to let him go.....thank you coach Lee instead of a dating coach you worked as the best physchologist for me much love to you and blessings
My girlfriend of four years moved back to her home country to stay with her parents as COVID was rising and the next day broke up with me via text. No explanation, no nothing. She blocked me everywhere and even got our mutual friends to block me. It is so hard to comprehend that the person you loved the most can just flip a switch overnight and go so out of their way to emotionally abuse me.
@@thanura.m man :( I really don't know how to comprehend this or process anything. Last 4 years were beautiful, even now things were perfect. I was totally blind sided and did not expect any of this. Even when she was flying home things were normal and she was talking yo me normally. Next day. Text breakup and blocked litteraly everywhere. She even got her parents and our mutual friends to block so there is no means of communication
@@vyomps I've been there recently and I know it's hard. Stay strong man go look up the law of attraction and do some let go meditation. Trust me you will feel good. She'll talk to you later. btw what is her country?
Hey man I know how you feel and can top that. Me and my gf and mother of our child broke up after 8 years (on and of). While we split up before she was seeing a women. They broke up and we started back up again. Fast forward 2 years. We have a place together. I ended up getting covid and she and my daughter had to leave our place so they both wouldnt get it. My ex ended up faking covid, dropped our daughter off with my parents and left to go to key west. Little did I know, she was in Colorado with her ex girlfriend the whole time for 5 weeks and didnt even know until I saw an Instagram post. She came back said she was sorry but wasnt happy so that's why she did what she did. Now that she came back she wanted me out of our apartment that I pay for while she and her sister who took my living space stays. How insanely fucked up is that? No idea this was coming and I loved her so much but the way I look at it. If someone can do that to you, it's not you its them. They have no soul. Move on, keep your head up, work on yourself and the right person will respect you. I still love her but what she did was absolutely unforgivable, even if we do have a child together. Goodluck to you.
She blocked me when I was trying to give her stuff and I couldn’t control my emotions anymore I threw her stuff out of my car in her yard I regret it so much...
My ex fiancé left about 2 years ago. (We were together for 4 years, best relationship ever until the lastc4 months) During this time, I've worked on myself, lost 52 lbs and we've stayed in touch off and on. I've done no contact with her multiple times, and she always reaches out. I think my mistake is always texting her back too much. It's always light, and we get carried away joking around like we used too. She uses phrases that I use, she reminisces at times, and clearly cares, but I'm struggling to get it back to the next level. I hate to use friend zone because I don't think she sees me that way, I think it's more. I think the hurdle might be that she's in another relationship. I'm not even upset if that's true, it's been long enough for me to be over that, but I do want her back. I sense whatever she's in now in at the tale end. I guess I'd like some advise on how to approach that. I think she misses me, based on how often she communicates, and several little things. I don't think she'd come out and say that until it's appropriate. Do you think I'm too available? Should I politely let casual conversations end without rejecting her, so she's forced to see what it's like without me at all? I fear I may be giving her just enough of a fix to not be in a hurry to come back.
Yep I made the mistake of lashing out of anger , we are human it happens , I didn’t say mean things but I got stuff off my chest that was bugging me , no name calling no beginning, things were great and ended great but after 2 weeks I broke down and started texting her while she was in the anger stage , it’s great to have vids like this to help
I reached out and that pushed that person away ! It hurt at the time but now I’m in a really great place focused on myself! I was I to her more than me , she did reach out later a year later but I lost interest ! It feels good where I’m at right now ! Time heals all wounds !
@@campingforayearrenoheart5908 thank you for the update and I’m glad that you are doing great. I did the exact same stuff to my ex yesterday and pushed her away. I don’t usually lash out in anger and I did apologize. I hope I will be healed like you!
@@campingforayearrenoheart5908 thank you for the update and I’m glad that you are doing great. I did the exact same stuff to my ex yesterday and pushed her away. I don’t usually lash out in anger and I did apologize. I hope I will be healed like you!
I acted out in anger, angry messages and took a gift I just gave her out of anger. Lost my cool. 2 years together I’ve never talked to her like that. Figuring out how I got there and how to avoid it again even if she doesn’t come back.
Thank you coach Lee, I’ve just been dumped by a great love, the pain is so strong... my ex is reaching out ever few days. Still loves and misses me but wants to explore with other women (he’s 25 I’m 32) .... I’ve been responding but never initiating, polite but not too sweet... Please make realize his mistake and grow up. We’re born to be together.
Somehow, despite never having been in a relationship (I'm 22), your videos are the most applicable to my situation as I am trying to not get an "ex" back, but evoke interest in a girl who rejected me. Well it's less about getting her to be in a romantic relationship with me, as I'm certain she made up her mind about me - despite knowing very little of me. It's more about showing her that I am high value and that she might be remorseful of giving up on me too early. I just want her to see the real "me" that she lost and your videos help me improve myself to the point of getting rid of all the negative thoughts I got about myself as a result of the rejection. So thank you for your videos and I hope you continue providing advice from your experiece!
Bauer stay strong. If you felt rejected do not contact her at all. If text you a simple “hello” or asks you “how you’re doing” DO NOT RESPOND. I can guarantee you that it’s only a matter of time that she will begin to think that something must be wrong with for you to ignore her. She’ll be begging you to meet her. Just stay strong.
@@sunjay25 I never contact her, I wait till she does. That's why I keep improving myself to make her want to contact me, but also because of myself striving to become a better person aswell of course. If she initiates the conversation with a "hello" or "how are you doing?" of course I'll greet her back, as ignoring her would only show her that I am still affected and weakened by her rejection. I'll never let her know that for my and her sake. she already contacted me once after 3 months of no contact and we had a good conversation about trivial stuff. I never had any negative interactions with her and continue to keep it that way. Whatever happens, happens...
My situation is very very similar. I have never had a gf. Closest was when I was in a situationship with this girl for about a month. She was a friend of friends and she told me upfront that she didn't want a boyfriend. I think when she started to feel it becoming a relationship she ended it and told me that even if she did want one we wouldn't be a good fit. I was graceful with the break up but then my ego kind of took over and I chased her trying to get her back or settle for friends etc for like 2 months. I would just tell myself that she just doesn't know me well enough, if she knew me she would love me. I did not handle it well and just kinda persisted, ignoring signs etc. Finally I got sick of chasing and just straight up asked if she wanted to go out again and she was like, "Are you okay? Rejection must not be hardcoded into your dna". I always just played it off and said it's not that serious and then she said no and that she wanted to stay in her lane etc and that we wouldn't be a good fit because of xyz and that it would never happen. She followed up like 2 weeks later asking if I am okay because I told her in the past I still wanted friendship etc so I politely told her that I think we're great together, but I am not looking for friendship. If you have a change of heart maybe we can talk etc. @@Bauerofficial
@@tisISspahrtuh I am probably the worst person to talk to when it comes to closure in matters like these as my feelings for her never faded, not even to this day. I am still pining for her even after all this time knowing well now, that nothing will ever happen between me and her. I commented 4 years ago when it was pretty recent and I had so many hopes up that in the end it'll somehow lead to her learning to see me in another light and her and me being happy together someday. Let me tell you that I found out a little later after I posted that comment 4 years ago that she had a boyfriend. Had to find out by seeing her hold hands with him when we were on some sort of excursion with a group of friends. It crushed me as I had only just come to terms with her initial rejection. So a year goes by and we were still linked through a group of friends I saw regularly back then through which I met her in the first place. Came to find out that yet again through her holding hands with her current boyfriend of now 2 years that she must have broken up with the last guy she was with, that had initially crushed me just to be with that second guy. It broke me even more. That's why I decided to stay away from her, her love life and the friend group her current boyfriend became a part of. It just took me way too long to realise that that is what I had to do. I was chasing a fairytale, but it all turned into torture that never ends for me as long as I keep her in my life as someone other than what I wanted her to be for me. Every single day I still think about her and what could have been, if only she also had feelings for me.
I've done all the mistakes. Begged, got depressed, talked to a mutual friend who betrayed me, all the good old ones. I may have pushed her away forever, but knowing that makes it easier for myself to move on. I'm not hanging on any more. Now there's just the custody battle left, and THAT scares me. I can give her up, but my kids mean everything to me.
Thank you for posting these videos. I find you to be very helpful. I am going through a break up myself and find your videos to be very soothing as I am feeling very anxious and sad. Thank you again
Reach out is contacting first. NoContact means that you will not start any conversation with that person, indefinitely. Besides, NO likes on social media, NO asking to mutual friends how are they, etc. If they reach out to you, of course you answer, just casual and politely.
@@puebo1472 what if they reach out asking "Do you want to not talk at all? at least for now? so I know where I stand" I got this message after no contact and actually being offline even therefor no social media activity and I dont know what to do cuz technically Im not ignoring them bc they dont know I saw the message. However, my ex contacted my friend asking if I was okay when I didnt answer so Im just lost in what should happen.
@@AdeleMoravcov of course, why not? Listen to what he has to say, listen carefuly. After that, tell him what u want (to make things work with you 2 together). And then go back into NoContact. If he reaches out, then you know that he wants you back. It's simple, right? Don't be his emotional support, and don't let him be yours, remember you 2 are no longer a couple, stop acting like one. Focus on personal growth, self-esteem, etc. In other words, focus on what you want, and not on what you don't want. Stay strong and move forward 💪💜 PS: he asked your friend because he is feeling separation anxiety, and that's the way he found to soothe it. I don't agree with it. This guy is attached to you, if you really want him back, BOTH need to work on the relationship in equal parts.
Im on month 3 of a hard break up, she was my first love and I thought it was the love of my life. We ended things on good terms though, and we still love each other (well, she loves me less and not like before, thats why she broke up with me... and also she didnt wanted to be in a relationship anymore). During the first stages of the BU we texted pretty frequently, I guess we were accustomed to each other. With time we stopped texting that frequently, now we only text every other day or maybe after many days (longer being a week). At the beginning (first month or so) we talked and agreed on still seeing each other and still be in each others lives. But I got confused and thought we were gonna get back together, so she set boundaries, and I went through the grief all over again, so then I set distance and said I needed to heal if we still wanted to see each other (only lasted a week and then I contacted her). Now its been 3 months, we saw each other 4 times. The last 2 I think we agreed to still see each other, we can still watch netflix in bed and cuddle, hug, kiss, but no texting everyday or being that commited I guess. She says she loves me and misses me, but nothing about getting back together, I know she doesnt want a relationship or being more commited and reciprocate with love. Last time I called her couse I missed her and cried (in my defence she has cried before in front of me couse she was guilty about making me feel sad and I acted really good and consoled her). So we decided to still maintain distance in between out hangouts. Im worried this situationship we are having is gonna give me hope and kill me on the inside. I love her with all of my life man, I miss my best friend I want her back :(
Microtubulina, I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit. It's terrific, and Coach Lee advises people to look at the kit and see how helpful it is. There are strategies for every situation. myexbackcoach.com/ebk This Kit has everything in it to make you feel better. The strategies are remarkable! Good luck to you.
This is what I need right now....bc yesterday I found out that my bf was blocked me on Facebook and then I ask him on WhatsApp why he block me he lies few words, but in the end, he said that he's not ready for a relationship... So I respond to these messages..i respect it even that I love him I don't know where things are going but I'm not going to chase him 🤷♀️so now no communication already
Man I needed to hear this. My ex be going out of town on the weekends and I feel that he’s been staying with the new rebound. He won’t tell me though. And I don’t want to ask
@@Rizzy_K he was rebounding. When we were together he was sober. After the breakup he starting drinking and relapsed again. I was right about him seeing someone else. He was just rebounding and just numbing himself after the breakup. Wouldn’t say we are necessarily friends now. But definitely on the other side of the bend. Still have love for him. He apologized for the way he behaved after the breakup but he was going through some stuff internally.
Hi coach. Appreciate if you could make more videos about long distance relationships, i feel some of us need more help in that area. Love your videos as always. You’ve helped me
The bright side is if you can't ignore them and you do push them away, they usually deserve to be pushed away. If there is so much mystery you need to figure the mystery out, the mystery is the reason your ex should stay your ex most likely. You don't want someone who didn't love or care about you in your life in the first place, it's good pushing them away forever.
When she told me she wanted divorce I said ok, and this time it's final. I never begged her even if I loved her so deeply. I was so hurt but I respected her wish to leave me. She was so cold and determent. She never texted me back.
I made the mistake of making backhanded comments about the break up today after she called me. Sent a clean slate text directly after but I have this feeling that I really messed up any potential of her moving past that.. we dated for about 5 years and engaged for 2 but still, there’s a reason she left me and me saying something about her breaking up with me was a low blow on my end 😞
B H 9 months post break up, a handful of her reaching out to me with breadcrumbs and finally said screw it, now I’m dating someone better. Life is good and it will be for you as well.
I talked to my ex after the breakup but then he seems uninterested at all that's why I did the no contact. It's just sad because sometimes my mind would pop up thoughts about him and it hurts remembering those days that I begged him to stay and cry all night...
Hexerda19 same situation here...we can go through this. We will grow. We will be happier. We will live our lives at best. We will find new love. We got this.
@@hexerda2041 how long has it been since ur breakup? Yeah. It hurts like hell.. stay strong.. I'm doing good.. been single and happy.. moving on from prev toxic relationship.. we could only do so much.. in the end it takes two to work it out.. 🙂
It will be great if the EX moves away forever. Unless its a blatant cheating everything can be worked out. More often than not the EX forget that it takes two to tango. They forget their mistakes. They forget their contribution to the mess. I wish some day my EX who has treated me in such a painful way gets to read this message. She gets to read the message as she herself is struggling after getting dumped. To all of you who think I am not noble. Thanks. I am not noble. Nobility ceases to exist when you spend over a year talking, apologizing, hoping, waiting, being restless, multiple blocks/unblocks, whatsapp uninstall/reinstalls and what not.
Most dumpers are very good communicators, the trouble is they don't communicate with the dumpee prior to dumping them, instead they talk to family and friends who sometimes influence them.
@Knowledge_Seeker they can't love as we do. They are oppurtinist and they don't care about how you feel. Never trust to a woman they are hypergamous by nature so always seek for the better option. If she encounter with higher value mate you will be the one first who gets rejected. Never trust. They can't love you just for you. Learn female nature, learn red pill
Aka, Women talk to all thier girlfriends and/or daughters
And they will tell you they don't... But its the biggest lie in the world!
Well yeah...
Who do you think gave reinforced every ting she was thinking,,,Who do you think agreed with everything she said even when she was a couple short of a sixpack with her logic? The problem most of us have is we sthink our friends would tell us if we were wrong.,,,thatalmost never happens in cases like this...Most of the time it goes like this
" oh hell no!...If my man pulled that shit he would be out on the street"
or...
" yeah ...I didn't want to say anything because it wasn't my place but i saw that you could do a lot better than him"
@@neilracine6158 I think their anger, frustration and resentment is more directed at themselves and the people that coerced them into leaving the relationship, rather than at the dumpee. Essentially, they have been backed into a corner and cannot see a way out (trying to reconcile things with the dumpee) without upsetting the people they confided in initially. They seem to suffer silently for that and the only way they can deal with it is through anger, frustration and resentment
@@sreach93 i can understand that... but I don't think that is particularly reticent in my situation... so long ad she is talking to this guy on the other side of the country and untill she realizes that what she is doing is wrong for her and our family then all I can do is give her what she thinks she wants... which is the break up
1. Don't beg and plead
2. Don't act in anger
3. Don't talk to their/mutual friends about the breakup
4. Don't be manipulative
5. Don't try to make them jealous
6. Don't fake cool
7. Don't ignore them when they reach out to you
I did all of these damn
@@michaelornelas1099HAHAHAHAH
@@michaelornelas1099 innit so wat now
lol gg
@michael yeah me too I think my chances of getting back with my ex went down to zero on #3. Lol
God everytime I listen to you...I feel so much better but when the video is off I start crying
Debbie, I’m sorry for your pain. I suggest watching this video all the way through: m.th-cam.com/video/mVGWlfhiNlA/w-d-xo.html
this is so true
So me
He said that i emotionally and mentally broken him and he needs to get away from cause i take him out of character......this broke my heart because i love him beyond words and there have been times when i have encouraged him to want more and supported him through a lot smh.... no contact for 2 days and it’s hurts and not i am angry but i haven’t lashed out on him i kept it to myself
Omg my Sister did this to me!!!!! She text him today after i told my friends and family NOT to!!!
If your ex girlfriend or boyfriend had the guts or balls to leave you. Close your door of them trying to return. They could’ve decided to stay before leaving you, and breaking your heart. Your life isn’t a game. So stop allowing people that claim the “Love you” to play with you and return whenever they feel like it. You felt like it was a good thing to leave me. Okay by all means. Stay out there. Y’all stay up, and have a blessed day.
stay single!
Best advice ever. If they weren't willing to work through things with you, then don't let them back in when you have healed.
Especially if they go off and rebound or have someone else already lined up. You aren't the fall back and everything you said is true. Even if you did get them back, how can you ever trust that when things get hard later in life they wont leave you again, and at that point the situation could be so much worse than it is now. Also, you need to have respect for yourself. If you cant respect yourself they will never respect you either. Sometimes it can be hard to lose someone that you love, but at a point you need to realize that its time to move on and be better than them, not just tell yourself you are.
@@415Meta true !
Metanoia Facts 💯💯
I had a breakup ten days ago. During that argue, i told her that i would like to talk about everything she mentioned as a problems, and i said to her to call me when she would be ready to call me. I go to NC phase. Let her to calm herself etc
5 days after that she called me. I was in the job but my REACTION was positive, happy, and cheerful. I was in sad mood inside myself, BUT i knew that i must project full positive reaction on her, so i can polarise her emotions to simething positive, no need for bad feeling at all!!
I told her in short that i can not talk now but we can hear after job. I did not call her after the job, to continue NC .. because of situation ... let her calm her self.
5 days later she called me and we were talking about everything in mature, calm manner.. we sold issues, i accepted my mistakes and desided to work on them, she accepted her part of situation.
And i think everything will be ok.
The point is, what i learned from this.
Break up usual is NOT break up from you, from person, sometimes it is moving away from specific situation, ... so when you step back and give space and time to other side, it usual create everything good Coach Lee talks about.
Human brain have tendencies to forget bad situations, and remember only good one. So when bad situation occur, just step back, and let time do things...
Usual it does... really well...
Thank you, gives me hope. :) just started no contact, I messed up texting her frequently the last 2 days saying sorry etc but that stops now...
@@TheExiled222 any updates??
Marawan Abbas we got back in contact for a week or so but it just didn’t work out and I’ve moved on, hope it does work for you 👍
@@TheExiled222 congrats bro! i really hope i move on. it hasn't been easy and every damn thing in life keeps reminding me of her. every song, every street, every place in my apartment. we are all quarantined rn but i will be frequently reminded of her by the underground metro that we used to ride for 3 hours aday together. my college will remind me of her. It's just gonna be horrible. i wish i had never met her.
@@MarawanAbbas1 I feel your pain man it's not easy. At the beginning I felt the same, I wish I had never fallen in love with her but now i'm very grateful for it and you will be too, I know it's hard to think you'll move on right now but you will I can promise you that, maybe it'll take a few months but that's the way it's gotta be, just work on yourself however you can (I know it's harder during this pandemic). It will suck but people have been in the exact same position as you right now and managed to move on so you can too. Wishing you well brother
I already ignored her . She left me for her ex I changed my phone number and I even blocked her on social media but she was still friends with me on ps4 she texted me asking how was I doing I never texted her back I just removed her from my friends list . Instead I’m running away so I can teach her a lesson of what she lost and the grass ain’t so greener for her now
Daniel Hajj so you’re being spiteful?
yeah selfworth, im on my 2nd month of NC, the other party message me with an emojies, I didn't reply and start ignoring.
Not the ps4 😂😂😂
@@nidiaking No Hes being mature
@@frenchkiss8789 but on some real if they want to get a hold of you they will pigeon mail you or write a letter and put it in a bottle. They will fight for it if they want it
For anyone here. Anger is always 1 move away from a fatal mistake. But it doesn't have to be this way. Anger is energy. Energy is neither negative or positive. Turn that energy into a positive force.
The correct and mature attitude towards your ex is "strength in the face of difficulty". Exactly THAT, well put coach! It's the behavioral "sweet spot" and shows respect and dignity for both your ex and yourself. Very difficult when faced with all the emotions associated with a breakup, but the only way to go about it.
Well said Ray
I was in my relationship for 6 years....it's my fault in some ways why she left and it's been 8 months now that she left....and I was doing all the wrong things to get her back. All the begging, cry, getting angry with her, asking all her friends to talk to her. Now she even blocked me from her phone
We have have 2 kids together. Now I feel like I loose her for good. She even start dating someone else. What can I do now to change things?
Everything that couch Lee said exactly all the wrong things I did.
I respect how you don't sugar coat words. It's really appreciated because that's what we need right now. Straightforward talk coupled with your empathy and professionalism. Thank you, Coach Lee.
If they didn't wanted to be with you the first time, why would they want to be with you again, some people are just confused and they don't know what they want. You can't trust them.
This guy is giving us so much than we bargain for. Often times people appreciate it more when they receive something good either by gifts or any material stuffs like money. And yet little did we know how much important it is to give more credit to people who enhances our life with great perspective.
This coach makes me laugh during my breakup he is brutally honest and i love that, that makes my pain more clear and to be able to get thru the no contact
wow a sensible, empathetic, compassionate approach to breakups. i was starting to think it didn't exist on the internet.
The reality that Coach Lee and others gently, sometimes indirectly, communicate is that the dumpee MUST let go. Be the best version you can be, if your ex is again attracted and is compelled to try agai , the decision is then yours to take them back.
The relationship you try to hold onto is over. Use that to your advantage.
Forget my ex! I want coach Lee ! 😍😍😍😍
lol
no
Right, he's sexy as hell. Lmao
He's married and doesn't know you
Six months now since we broke up , I am totally over here and it was a blessing but for it was a lesson . She texted me asking how I was doing , I told her I was fine , straightforward told here I am over you and I truly meant it . I don’t see a future with here. Now she is chasing but I truly have no feelings for here . It is amazing , how the table has turned . It is all happened because I firmly stood up for my dignity , I never begged here to stay . I Literally told here if u think our Relationship is not working , then I totally respect your decision and I wish you the best. Now she’s chasing but I don’t want her. So it is all about self respect and value . You worth someone better , just allow yourself to go through the stages of the breakup , and things will get better.
When you said CONFIDE IN PRAYER 🙏🏻 I subscribed!! Praise the Lord for that advice!!! ♥️
Having trouble sleeping and I had an anxiety attack early hours this morning & that’s the first time I’ve experienced that,I’ve followed all your videos and done what you’ve said,just pray it works,hate the thought of some other guy touching my ex😔 I get super depressed every time I see her ( when picking my daughter up ) I never talk to her when we see other unless it’s about our child,struggling but got to hold on and don’t give up
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Coach Lee, I don't know what I would have done without your videos. I was crushed when my ex left 3 months ago. He communities daily with and I match his level of interest and reciprocity. I hope we get back together. All in God's hands now.
Update?
Coach Lee you’re brilliant. You have helped me so much since I discovered your videos. Even if reconciliation is not in my future I’m feeling better about myself and am eager to grow from this experience.
Great video...I only disagree with "ignoring" part, I had 2 exes I've dumped and first one was replaying to my texts and it gave me peace of mind and I never felt desired to this person any more...it's like I lost respect, interest or something. ..the second one ignored me and it fed my anxiety to the point I went crazy about her, felt the attraction towards this person and I tried many times, different ways to get to her. The thing is if you really want someone you find a way and them ignoring you will not put you off at all...that's my experience.
It sounds like you had/have an anxious/preoccupied attachment style. The harder people ignore you the more it hurts you and the harder you try for their approval. Emotional hunger.
Having depression for two weeks now after my ex broke up with just for small arguments ...i don’t trust him he said..watching coach make me feel better I cried morning and the entire day,watching coach lee make me feel better.The best coach..thank you Coach
@Rainskee. Hang in there. Two weeks of NC for me. Coach Lee’s video straight to the point.
You've been with narcissistic person
You know coach...
I handled the breakup so well in the beginning (James Bond'esque) with the help of your videos I managed to go into NC....
However after just under 3months I broke NC & MUCH to my dismay I felt even worse....I wanted to simply speak with her & she wasn't having it (VERY VERY PAINFUL) However...
The pain of my failure to stick with NC is BEYOND words...
I know she will never be back & in truth she was doing me a favor!
This is why we need you everyday. Your so right, thank you. Also, nice hair👍🏽
Coach Lee is our cute Young Viking Coach .💝💝😃😃🎈🎈
Anger
5:01
6:32
6:46 If they were still attracted with you, they would be with you. If they want to be with you, they will be with you.
7:00 If they want to be with you and they're attracted to you enough, they will find a way, unless they are literary locked up and even then they might just break down the bars.
8:17
9:01 Don't be manipulative
You are a great guy and coach, Coach Lee. I love your integrity, efficiency, kindness and intelligence. Thank you very very much for your straight-up talking and manner.
Juliet, a New Zealander living in London
Botton line. No contact is mostly for the dumpee to get over the hurt and pain . Weather they come back or not is not really something to think about. But sorting yourself out is number one priority. Work on yourself another person cant make you happy if your not happy with you.. True happiness is in you.
Thanks coach for all you do. Your videos make us dumpee’s feel strong and brightens our moods even if we never get them back. I will remember all your advice going forward.
I was just broken up with by my gf of 3 years a few days ago. I made the mistake of trying to continue talking and trying to make it work and in those moments I bought her flowers that will be delivered to her. I decided today I will do no contact and I will stay the course! Thank you Lee!!
When you say value, it puts it in a different perspective of wanting them back.
I’ve been watching your videos and following your advice for a year. My ex still doesn’t want me back but love your advice, coach lee!
It's like religion, as long as there is something for you to devote to, you'll be satisfied and fulfilled thinking heaven awaits you while dying just as you'd also be as happy living devotedly by the indoctrination of religious codes.
Awwwww I’m sorry did u pray about it
Did he ever give it a try?
lol he got divorced 2 years ago and tried to get in touch with me but I ignored him. There’s no way I’m going to be any man’s last resort.
I wished she never comes back. Now I know what mistakes to do to get the desired results. Thanks coach....
Even if you don’t want your ex back, have self respect and start no contact don’t act like a fool and beg and get angry.
Made all the mistakes you mentioned
It's obvious to have no hope now.
I wish I would have found this before I had done all the wrong things 🤦♂️
Your videos have kept me alive and with hope. Thank you. I listen to your videos on repeat because I have hope my ex and I will get together again one day. Thank you so much
My ex and I were together for 7 happy years, we broke up because i fell into a deep depression. i shut everyone out my life and hurt her greatly. i spent a lot of time improving myself and 3 years down the line i still love her. i tried to talk to her after getting therapy a while after the break up but i was so overwhelmed with everything going on in my life i relapsed. I've written a letter taking accountability and saying sorry. she doesn't want me in her life anymore and all want to do is try and fix things. its horrible knowing i hurt the one closest to me unintentionally. now i can only prey i bump into her 1 day and she can see I've changed and I'm in a healthy place. then i can begin to right my wrongs
hope you make it
This guy is God send Angel.
Wise words again and wise advice from you Coach Lee. Thank you for being a blessing! You've kept me strong bro during my NC
I'm so glad I stumbled upon your channel right after the breakup. I was this close to doing a combo of all these mistakes. I dodged a bullet there! Phew.
I know I made many mistakes but if he really loved we would be togther.
Michal Sterenberg hate to say this but if he really did love you, he would’ve never broken up with you.
Rey Casiano feelings change tho my ex was obsessed with me and her lack of communication because she thought that I didn’t like certain things about her even tho I was just poking fun and I started to lose interest and got complacent because I just though she wouldn’t ever leave so they fall out of love and both people played a part in it but so did you
He let you GO he probable watching this video n healed
If u did mistakes and you expect him to solve the problems you made then its you who dont love him. Im sorry but he was right to dump you. Learn and act differently next time
I know the feeling you're talking about. Hang in there the best you can.
It’s too late; I got angry when she told me she wanted to leave. I was scared, felt like I was being abandoned, and lashed out in a panic. I told her to start packing her sh*t and started emptying out closets. The realization hit me later that I absolutely destroyed myself when I destroyed her. Now, because of the laws in my state, we have to be separated for a year before we can even file for divorce. She gave me so many chances, and I wasted them all. I would give almost anything for just one more. One chance to show her that, even if it meant we weren’t together anymore, that I want nothing but the best for her and to support her decision to improve her life. Now, I can only sit and think about how listening to her and being compassionate may have made this less painful for both of us. We were struggling, yes, but my reaction was both unfair and downright cruel. Don’t make the mistake I did, people; it hurts so much to know that I not only lost her, but hurt her more in the process. I promise it hurts more than you can imagine to know that you were the one who made it worse for both of you, and that there’s nothing you can say or do now to fix that. I will always love her, but now I have to keep that love to myself and can never give it to her again 💔
If they are dating someone you know for sure, I don't think not ignoring them when they reach out is any good.
There is no more mistakes, there is no more forever, there is no more Ex, I will become a whole person soon.
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Watching these videos make me feel like I can get my ex back Bc I’m doing everything right
ricks life and we prolly won’t ever get them back
@@Idecorateeyes you should because of your Beauty but what about the Heart
@@Idecorateeyes heart
getting your hopes up wasn't the purpose of this vid because that is false hope
Have you got your ex back?
The day she dumped me I made several of these mistakes. I begged and pleaded, I pushed too hard and wouldn’t back off, I messaged one of her friends, and to top it off I said something insanely hurtful. I sent one text the next day asking if there was any chance of reconciling down the road, then upon discovering these videos I immediately went into no contact mode. Two days later after zero contact... she texted me saying she’d be open to talking in a few weeks when she’s back in town. I have no idea what that talk will lead to or what she might have in mind for it, but that’s as hopeful a sign I could possibly get, and in a short amount of time. So we’ll see what happens - but I can tell you that if you and your ex meant a lot to each other, even if you made these mistakes initially, the no contact rule DOES work. Stay strong everyone... god knows I’m trying to.
Sorry but did either of you actually *read* my comment? I don’t mean to sound rude and I’m sure y’all are well intentioned but I wasn’t asking for any additional or different help - I was saying the method Coach Lee lays out here worked - it *works*. Within a couple of weeks my ex came back to me saying she didn’t want to give up and we are working things out together again. I’m shocked at how effective this was and absolutely overjoyed that I have another shot at a future with the love of my life.
For anyone in a similar situation to the one I was in, for the love of god PLEASE don’t fall for these quick-fix, “get her back in 2 days”, “spells caster” things. It’s a bunch of BS. Good things take time. Employ no contact and be patient. If it’s meant to be it will work.
Heya, any update?
First of all, no one shld want someone who rejected them. Second of all, if they never come back (which you shld never accept back someone who cld throw you away) you can go on knowing your dignity is still intact.
Soooo options are:
1) Being dumped and losing your dignity
2) being dumped and maintaining your dignity
Always choose dignity.
When he said "if they were still attracted to you, they would be with you" Omg
First. I agree with the mistakes listed here. The advice from Coach Lee works for me. Coach Lee, can you please make a video on an ex who is hot and cold during no contact? Thanks a lot..
He already did it dear...
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@@munirazaira5465 link please. Thanks for pointing that out
@@Germanybabe sorry, i just remember mixed signals...dont have how to send a link...
Only put COACH LEE MIXED SIGNALS FROM AN EX...
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There are alot of coaching videos about hot and cold behavior from an ex. Just keep searching
Agreed that's my situation currently
I did not do any of the above mistakes. I was really soft and kind when he asked me a break up though it was hurtin as hell and with utmost difficulty I was holding my tears. Deep inside my heart it was yelling don't leave me. Don't.
But I love him. . We dated for 10months and was extremely good to him and I hope he misses me and comes bk. . Faith. And trusting coach Lee❤️ am doing everything what coach is saying. to me coach is my male best friend. My well wisher.
I love yu Lee❤️ bless yu.
I've been watching these videos and my chances are getting slimmer and slimmer by the day.
I have hurt her, we are going 9yrs now, last 20days, was a pain I am asking for forgiveness... She's now slapping all the bad things I have done to her, each time I reach out...
I guess I blew it up, I beg the days after she broke up. And I gues she's certain about her decision about it. This is my day 1 for No Contact. Wish me luck.
Thank you for all your work. My girl left me and I didn’t beg nor plead because of your videos. She said she’s keeping an open mind to getting back together. I’m going no contact and she’s asked if I was ok a few times but now seems to be pulling back as I haven’t heard from her in 3 days. I’m gonna follow your advice I guess even though I’m hurting so bad. When I get my check I’m gonna contact you. I’ve watched everything out there and I think you’d be the best fit. Thanks again
Leroy Jones If she doesn’t come back then just move on. It hurts right now but it gets a lot easier and you’ll soon enough stop missing her all the time! I’d get back into dating other women and go out with friends. Focus on bettering yourself man. Good luck
No contact works wonders I promise, just give it time. Watch Coach lee's vid on the stages an ex goes through during a break up and all will become clear. I promise you there is hope. It worked for me.
Hello Coach Lee. This is Luz.
I like your advices and explanations about relationships. It helps a lot of people understand how to handle their relationships. I'm having problem right now, my fiancée is ignoring me with out any reasons but I learned a lot from your advice how to handle it. Thank you and I will continue to watch your videos. Keep up the good work. God bless your heart.
Luz
Luz Ventura, Coach Lee has a POWERFUL Emergency Breakup Kit which will help you. It has EVERYTHING in it including strategies for every situation.
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
i am addicted to this guy
Immediately after the break up he was saying maybe in the future we could get back together. Acting like the break up was so painful for him. I definitely made some of these mistakes and it feels like he's completely changed his mind and closed that door.
@Sha Dee we've texted a few times on my initiative. He's friendly and replies but doesn't initiate. Last week I said I missed him and got no response. So it's safe to say he's over it. And honestly screw him.
See . You wasted so many months of wishing for nothing. You fool!!
"I was in depth of darkness without you" 😂😂
Hayes Lloyd been there
It's no joke lmao lame as it is
Best dating coach ever.
I was very heartbroken after my ex broke up with me after a 8 months relationship almost with no reason,at first I let him have the break up for 3 months then I just felt depressed and anxious again without him and chased him texted him even wrote a letter to him and I was about to give it when the video of a coach lee appeared on my TH-cam home and I watched some videos and decided to finally to try to move on and know my self worth I really love you coach lee u r the best man !
im doing no contact 3weeks ago . i received a text from her today she asking me to find another girl to make me happy and she is requested a divorce i just replied 'Ok' only .
Nice move man, go and find 2 or more chicks
If you really love her then do exactly what she asked you to do. Go and find another girl.
@kiyosk nah, ok is good, talking too much cements things and removes mystery
she sent that text to see how is my reaction . that how she think i ll have new relation and i ll divorce because i stoped begging her and doing No contact make her feel that im haveing new relation i guess
@kiyosk she is stuborn, we been many breakup and im the one alawys beg her to come back.. im the one alawys request and put my self down even do the mistake happened by her.... im realy happy with No contact process , she will consider my value and respect and will stop her to do that every time.
Thank you for not using profanity and trying to act cool to stand out! Genuine personalities are very attractive !! Great content!!
My ex broke up with me by text. The second time she had done this. I’m about 3 weeks through no contact. I don’t know if I’ll want her back again though.
I've felt the same way, stay strong brother
Why would you want someone who can't even face you when dumping
OH YEAH! The breakup by text. That is the most insulting thing a woman can do to you. I had that happen to me with a woman friend that I was trying to help and did help a lot. I only got a message that said "I appreciate your kindness. Do not text me or try to contact me again." I knew her for five years and saw her most everyday. It was a kick in the face and the ass.
Low quality woman right there. Move on.
@@jimstevens1726 that's fucked up.
I lost a mutual friend because everytime I see or talk to him he would disingenuously always ask if I had talked to her. Just recently he texted me and asked if I wished her “Happy Birthday”. I did not contacted her because as much as I still have feelings for her, I trying to move forward with my life. It hard but it necessary.
My ex broke it off with me, didn't beg/plead. He jumped into another relationship and he's contacted me 3x during no contact.
The whole reason that me an my ole lady broke up is because I have problems with listening. I didn’t change when she needed me too and she warned me for 1 month but it took her really leaving me to realize that she really gone. I fought and fought for her because I truely believe she’s the love of my life and I’ll never find nobody who can relate to me or love me the way she did.. I’d do anything to have that back.
Go get rich and famous, she will come back. I guarantee it!!
thank you man
still waiting for that emergency mariage Kit
It’s ready and going at myexbackcoach.com/emergency-marriage-kit/
I have made all the mistakes and its just been 2 days I am in no contact tough we broke up several weeks ago but now after seeing you videos I am just ready to let him go.....thank you coach Lee instead of a dating coach you worked as the best physchologist for me much love to you and blessings
Did he come back?
My girlfriend of four years moved back to her home country to stay with her parents as COVID was rising and the next day broke up with me via text. No explanation, no nothing. She blocked me everywhere and even got our mutual friends to block me. It is so hard to comprehend that the person you loved the most can just flip a switch overnight and go so out of their way to emotionally abuse me.
Looks like she's been preparing in advance. ;(. Women are complicated and men can never understand. Hope everything works out well
@@thanura.m man :( I really don't know how to comprehend this or process anything. Last 4 years were beautiful, even now things were perfect. I was totally blind sided and did not expect any of this. Even when she was flying home things were normal and she was talking yo me normally. Next day. Text breakup and blocked litteraly everywhere. She even got her parents and our mutual friends to block so there is no means of communication
@@vyomps I've been there recently and I know it's hard. Stay strong man go look up the law of attraction and do some let go meditation. Trust me you will feel good. She'll talk to you later. btw what is her country?
Please move on and never look back...she is not a good person...she doesent love you.
Hey man I know how you feel and can top that. Me and my gf and mother of our child broke up after 8 years (on and of). While we split up before she was seeing a women. They broke up and we started back up again. Fast forward 2 years. We have a place together. I ended up getting covid and she and my daughter had to leave our place so they both wouldnt get it. My ex ended up faking covid, dropped our daughter off with my parents and left to go to key west. Little did I know, she was in Colorado with her ex girlfriend the whole time for 5 weeks and didnt even know until I saw an Instagram post. She came back said she was sorry but wasnt happy so that's why she did what she did. Now that she came back she wanted me out of our apartment that I pay for while she and her sister who took my living space stays. How insanely fucked up is that? No idea this was coming and I loved her so much but the way I look at it. If someone can do that to you, it's not you its them. They have no soul. Move on, keep your head up, work on yourself and the right person will respect you. I still love her but what she did was absolutely unforgivable, even if we do have a child together. Goodluck to you.
20 years of experience...that must understand as a: *respect*
She blocked me when I was trying to give her stuff and I couldn’t control my emotions anymore I threw her stuff out of my car in her yard I regret it so much...
My ex fiancé left about 2 years ago. (We were together for 4 years, best relationship ever until the lastc4 months) During this time, I've worked on myself, lost 52 lbs and we've stayed in touch off and on. I've done no contact with her multiple times, and she always reaches out. I think my mistake is always texting her back too much. It's always light, and we get carried away joking around like we used too. She uses phrases that I use, she reminisces at times, and clearly cares, but I'm struggling to get it back to the next level. I hate to use friend zone because I don't think she sees me that way, I think it's more. I think the hurdle might be that she's in another relationship. I'm not even upset if that's true, it's been long enough for me to be over that, but I do want her back. I sense whatever she's in now in at the tale end. I guess I'd like some advise on how to approach that. I think she misses me, based on how often she communicates, and several little things. I don't think she'd come out and say that until it's appropriate. Do you think I'm too available? Should I politely let casual conversations end without rejecting her, so she's forced to see what it's like without me at all? I fear I may be giving her just enough of a fix to not be in a hurry to come back.
You’re Absolutely correct. Your videos work. I ❤️ Coach Lee
Yep I made the mistake of lashing out of anger , we are human it happens , I didn’t say mean things but I got stuff off my chest that was bugging me , no name calling no beginning, things were great and ended great but after 2 weeks I broke down and started texting her while she was in the anger stage , it’s great to have vids like this to help
Update?
I reached out and that pushed that person away ! It hurt at the time but now I’m in a really great place focused on myself! I was I to her more than me , she did reach out later a year later but I lost interest ! It feels good where I’m at right now ! Time heals all wounds !
@@campingforayearrenoheart5908 thank you for the update and I’m glad that you are doing great. I did the exact same stuff to my ex yesterday and pushed her away. I don’t usually lash out in anger and I did apologize. I hope I will be healed like you!
@@campingforayearrenoheart5908 thank you for the update and I’m glad that you are doing great. I did the exact same stuff to my ex yesterday and pushed her away. I don’t usually lash out in anger and I did apologize. I hope I will be healed like you!
I just wish that i watched this earlier, it's been a month since our break up and in that time period, i did all that mistakes :((
I’m almost at 3 months men it sucks
I did a lot of these too 😞
For how long did you did the begging?
I acted out in anger, angry messages and took a gift I just gave her out of anger. Lost my cool. 2 years together I’ve never talked to her like that. Figuring out how I got there and how to avoid it again even if she doesn’t come back.
I love you coach Lee !!! Especially your sense of humor!!!! Keep on the good work!! Regards from Greece 🙂
Thank you coach Lee, I’ve just been dumped by a great love, the pain is so strong... my ex is reaching out ever few days. Still loves and misses me but wants to explore with other women (he’s 25 I’m 32) .... I’ve been responding but never initiating, polite but not too sweet...
Please make realize his mistake and grow up. We’re born to be together.
Somehow, despite never having been in a relationship (I'm 22), your videos are the most applicable to my situation as I am trying to not get an "ex" back, but evoke interest in a girl who rejected me. Well it's less about getting her to be in a romantic relationship with me, as I'm certain she made up her mind about me - despite knowing very little of me. It's more about showing her that I am high value and that she might be remorseful of giving up on me too early. I just want her to see the real "me" that she lost and your videos help me improve myself to the point of getting rid of all the negative thoughts I got about myself as a result of the rejection. So thank you for your videos and I hope you continue providing advice from your experiece!
Bauer stay strong. If you felt rejected do not contact her at all. If text you a simple “hello” or asks you “how you’re doing” DO NOT RESPOND. I can guarantee you that it’s only a matter of time that she will begin to think that something must be wrong with for you to ignore her. She’ll be begging you to meet her. Just stay strong.
@@sunjay25 I never contact her, I wait till she does. That's why I keep improving myself to make her want to contact me, but also because of myself striving to become a better person aswell of course. If she initiates the conversation with a "hello" or "how are you doing?" of course I'll greet her back, as ignoring her would only show her that I am still affected and weakened by her rejection. I'll never let her know that for my and her sake. she already contacted me once after 3 months of no contact and we had a good conversation about trivial stuff. I never had any negative interactions with her and continue to keep it that way. Whatever happens, happens...
Any updates?@@Bauerofficial
My situation is very very similar. I have never had a gf. Closest was when I was in a situationship with this girl for about a month. She was a friend of friends and she told me upfront that she didn't want a boyfriend. I think when she started to feel it becoming a relationship she ended it and told me that even if she did want one we wouldn't be a good fit. I was graceful with the break up but then my ego kind of took over and I chased her trying to get her back or settle for friends etc for like 2 months. I would just tell myself that she just doesn't know me well enough, if she knew me she would love me. I did not handle it well and just kinda persisted, ignoring signs etc. Finally I got sick of chasing and just straight up asked if she wanted to go out again and she was like, "Are you okay? Rejection must not be hardcoded into your dna". I always just played it off and said it's not that serious and then she said no and that she wanted to stay in her lane etc and that we wouldn't be a good fit because of xyz and that it would never happen. She followed up like 2 weeks later asking if I am okay because I told her in the past I still wanted friendship etc so I politely told her that I think we're great together, but I am not looking for friendship. If you have a change of heart maybe we can talk etc. @@Bauerofficial
@@tisISspahrtuh I am probably the worst person to talk to when it comes to closure in matters like these as my feelings for her never faded, not even to this day. I am still pining for her even after all this time knowing well now, that nothing will ever happen between me and her. I commented 4 years ago when it was pretty recent and I had so many hopes up that in the end it'll somehow lead to her learning to see me in another light and her and me being happy together someday. Let me tell you that I found out a little later after I posted that comment 4 years ago that she had a boyfriend. Had to find out by seeing her hold hands with him when we were on some sort of excursion with a group of friends. It crushed me as I had only just come to terms with her initial rejection. So a year goes by and we were still linked through a group of friends I saw regularly back then through which I met her in the first place. Came to find out that yet again through her holding hands with her current boyfriend of now 2 years that she must have broken up with the last guy she was with, that had initially crushed me just to be with that second guy. It broke me even more. That's why I decided to stay away from her, her love life and the friend group her current boyfriend became a part of. It just took me way too long to realise that that is what I had to do. I was chasing a fairytale, but it all turned into torture that never ends for me as long as I keep her in my life as someone other than what I wanted her to be for me. Every single day I still think about her and what could have been, if only she also had feelings for me.
I've done all the mistakes. Begged, got depressed, talked to a mutual friend who betrayed me, all the good old ones. I may have pushed her away forever, but knowing that makes it easier for myself to move on. I'm not hanging on any more. Now there's just the custody battle left, and THAT scares me. I can give her up, but my kids mean everything to me.
Thank you for posting these videos. I find you to be very helpful. I am going through a break up myself and find your videos to be very soothing as I am feeling very anxious and sad. Thank you again
I have taken notes so that i do ALL of these things, I NEVER want that trainwreck back
Define “reaching out” is it small talk, is it an offer to actually talk about it? Is it an offer to meet up? What exactly is reaching out
Reach out is contacting first. NoContact means that you will not start any conversation with that person, indefinitely. Besides, NO likes on social media, NO asking to mutual friends how are they, etc. If they reach out to you, of course you answer, just casual and politely.
@@puebo1472 what if they reach out asking "Do you want to not talk at all? at least for now? so I know where I stand" I got this message after no contact and actually being offline even therefor no social media activity and I dont know what to do cuz technically Im not ignoring them bc they dont know I saw the message. However, my ex contacted my friend asking if I was okay when I didnt answer so Im just lost in what should happen.
@@AdeleMoravcov of course, why not? Listen to what he has to say, listen carefuly. After that, tell him what u want (to make things work with you 2 together). And then go back into NoContact. If he reaches out, then you know that he wants you back. It's simple, right? Don't be his emotional support, and don't let him be yours, remember you 2 are no longer a couple, stop acting like one. Focus on personal growth, self-esteem, etc. In other words, focus on what you want, and not on what you don't want.
Stay strong and move forward 💪💜
PS: he asked your friend because he is feeling separation anxiety, and that's the way he found to soothe it. I don't agree with it. This guy is attached to you, if you really want him back, BOTH need to work on the relationship in equal parts.
Im on month 3 of a hard break up, she was my first love and I thought it was the love of my life.
We ended things on good terms though, and we still love each other (well, she loves me less and not like before, thats why she broke up with me... and also she didnt wanted to be in a relationship anymore).
During the first stages of the BU we texted pretty frequently, I guess we were accustomed to each other. With time we stopped texting that frequently, now we only text every other day or maybe after many days (longer being a week).
At the beginning (first month or so) we talked and agreed on still seeing each other and still be in each others lives. But I got confused and thought we were gonna get back together, so she set boundaries, and I went through the grief all over again, so then I set distance and said I needed to heal if we still wanted to see each other (only lasted a week and then I contacted her).
Now its been 3 months, we saw each other 4 times. The last 2 I think we agreed to still see each other, we can still watch netflix in bed and cuddle, hug, kiss, but no texting everyday or being that commited I guess. She says she loves me and misses me, but nothing about getting back together, I know she doesnt want a relationship or being more commited and reciprocate with love.
Last time I called her couse I missed her and cried (in my defence she has cried before in front of me couse she was guilty about making me feel sad and I acted really good and consoled her). So we decided to still maintain distance in between out hangouts.
Im worried this situationship we are having is gonna give me hope and kill me on the inside.
I love her with all of my life man, I miss my best friend I want her back :(
Microtubulina, I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit. It's terrific, and Coach Lee advises people to look at the kit and see how helpful it is. There are strategies for every situation.
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
This Kit has everything in it to make you feel better. The strategies are remarkable! Good luck to you.
This is what I need right now....bc yesterday I found out that my bf was blocked me on Facebook and then I ask him on WhatsApp why he block me he lies few words, but in the end, he said that he's not ready for a relationship... So I respond to these messages..i respect it even that I love him I don't know where things are going but I'm not going to chase him 🤷♀️so now no communication already
I talked to friends before I watched this and they did what you said. now idk what to do now.
Arielle wasx, I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit. It's terrific and it will help you immensely.
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
If you have been begging, “STAHP IT” 😂😂😂 Yes sir! Lol
I wonder how many people watched this video crying... Like me rn :( Man this is so bad.. I hope you all are good !
Man I needed to hear this. My ex be going out of town on the weekends and I feel that he’s been staying with the new rebound. He won’t tell me though. And I don’t want to ask
What ended up happening?
@@Rizzy_K he was rebounding. When we were together he was sober. After the breakup he starting drinking and relapsed again. I was right about him seeing someone else. He was just rebounding and just numbing himself after the breakup. Wouldn’t say we are necessarily friends now. But definitely on the other side of the bend. Still have love for him. He apologized for the way he behaved after the breakup but he was going through some stuff internally.
@@austinjames5666 would you ever consider taking that person back? And how did you cope with him being in a rebound?
Had to give you a subscribe. Not sure why I haven’t done so already
Hi coach. Appreciate if you could make more videos about long distance relationships, i feel some of us need more help in that area. Love your videos as always. You’ve helped me
The bright side is if you can't ignore them and you do push them away, they usually deserve to be pushed away. If there is so much mystery you need to figure the mystery out, the mystery is the reason your ex should stay your ex most likely. You don't want someone who didn't love or care about you in your life in the first place, it's good pushing them away forever.
When she told me she wanted divorce I said ok, and this time it's final. I never begged her even if I loved her so deeply. I was so hurt but I respected her wish to leave me. She was so cold and determent. She never texted me back.
I think I did every mistake you mentioned so I’m a just chalk this up as a loss 🤷🏾♀️
NC is still your best chance in getting your ex back! Stay strong in NC!
i will get my baby back. four years will not go down the drain.
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Did you get your ex back?
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The reason he left is because the attraction has dropped! I love the honesty!😊
I made the mistake of making backhanded comments about the break up today after she called me. Sent a clean slate text directly after but I have this feeling that I really messed up any potential of her moving past that.. we dated for about 5 years and engaged for 2 but still, there’s a reason she left me and me saying something about her breaking up with me was a low blow on my end 😞
B H 9 months post break up, a handful of her reaching out to me with breadcrumbs and finally said screw it, now I’m dating someone better. Life is good and it will be for you as well.
You dating someone better or her dating someone better
I wish i had seen these chats prior to being an idiot and embarrassing myself
I talked to my ex after the breakup but then he seems uninterested at all that's why I did the no contact. It's just sad because sometimes my mind would pop up thoughts about him and it hurts remembering those days that I begged him to stay and cry all night...
Hexerda19 same situation here...we can go through this. We will grow. We will be happier. We will live our lives at best. We will find new love. We got this.
How r u doing?
@@johnwick2338 I'm still in the process of healing... Sometimes it hurts like the wounds are still fresh and sometimes I'm feel numb
@@johnwick2338 What about you? How's your day?
@@hexerda2041 how long has it been since ur breakup? Yeah. It hurts like hell.. stay strong.. I'm doing good.. been single and happy.. moving on from prev toxic relationship.. we could only do so much.. in the end it takes two to work it out.. 🙂
It will be great if the EX moves away forever. Unless its a blatant cheating everything can be worked out. More often than not the EX forget that it takes two to tango. They forget their mistakes. They forget their contribution to the mess. I wish some day my EX who has treated me in such a painful way gets to read this message. She gets to read the message as she herself is struggling after getting dumped.
To all of you who think I am not noble. Thanks. I am not noble.
Nobility ceases to exist when you spend over a year talking, apologizing, hoping, waiting, being restless, multiple blocks/unblocks, whatsapp uninstall/reinstalls and what not.
he didn’t walk away because he didn’t love me though. he does care about me and loved me enough to let me go
That’s a horrible thing to say... no matter what way you look like it
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Thank you so much for making this video. What i like about you is the way you are when you make this video. Your awesome