As a dumper, I felt relief. I even thought it was over for good. I even forgot about my ex sometimes, felt free and confident, wanted. And I came back... 🥂
@@Josee2486 It has nothing to do with time itself . Of course time is powerful, but when you change something your ex will feel it. And that is your neediness. You cannot experience something that you put on the pedistal , because energetically you say "You are out of my reach" just because you are the one who's dumped. Trust me, today you are dumped tomorrow you can be dumper. Tables turn. Just do NOTHING 🙂
@@Josee2486 + It feels strange, but I never wanted really to go, just to exercice my will and control of my life. So let them see that they can break up with you and that doesn't mean that they will become Kings of Universe...
How long it took you to feel all of those things? I'm just wondering because I was dumped for no reason out the blue n we was two years together than he left me haven't heard from him I am doing no contact for 7 months now I just wonder if he would think the same but he did a rebound so probably I won't pass his mind at all
@@milagrosrodriguez4136 I broke up at the end of 2016. At first, I was sad, but stuck with the decision. There was no contact at all between us. My ex blocked me on every possible platform. She said she couldn't bear to see me with someone else if it ever happened, and she would probably be single for a while. Around the beginning of July, she called me twice, but I didn't pick up. By the end of August 2017, I found a Google Drive we shared with all our pictures. I started looking through it, and remembering all the fun we had. I also promised to add to it while we where together. I began adding pics. As I did this, a great depressing feeling swept over me. Why did we break up? She was amazing. I felt so shitty. I got a strong pain in my heart. Never have I felt like this. It was soul crushing.
@@milagrosrodriguez4136 She deactivated her Facebook account for all of 2017. It's back now, but not updated. There's a lot more to my story...but probably too much to write here. As of this moment, I am unblocked only on fb messanger. I wrote to her, she sees, but doesn't respond.
What I really like about this Coach, is the fact he's always considering "us" his readers... like part of his team... He will say from time to time..."we don't want to do that..." "We don't need to say that.." It's always "we" there... like part of a team that works together to solve things...❤️
@@liepajaonboard7368 dreams make it worse.. the feelings you get are all euphoric and you can't describe them. I've had em where I feel a feeling of love so indescribable (no.. not a wet dream) with my ex in a dream, then you wake up... man
I swear this Coach Lee is the most logical, practical and psychological in the whole utube platform. I feel like I am sitting in the room with a therapist, if I have a question in my head, he covered it! So simple with all complexity! Thank you!
Coach you're saving a lot of lives. I've been in depression, anxiety and insomnia from last 3 months (and still am to some extent). But whenever I watch your videos, I feel so good, powerful and energetic. Thank you. :) May God bless you.
He truly is, and guys, I know we’ve all been through the loss of someone we fell in love with, supported through everything and in my case, a year later, she broke up with me and acted like I never existed as well as spoke to me during the break up like I was the “Pandemic” - it hurt deeply, and my stomach still aches over it. I am still in the “No Contact” faze with my ex, so I have had some positives happen because she did contact me, but I wasn’t willing to just jump right back in. I may be making a mistake, but my self worth is worth what I allow and expect from those I hand my heart out too. I know it’s silly to some, but if you loved someone and put your heart abs soul in it, lost it... you have to put yourself in a reality check so that you do not allow the wrong person to literally ruin your life over their emotional moment. Best of luck all!
Neil Boquiren - We dated one year - have been broken up two months now. I have known her for about 15 years and we played in a band together and various music projects and only asked her out a year ago. We are both musically gifted and it should have been perfect, but she broke up with. I am still in complete no contact until this day and hanging on. She has called me a couple of times but I kept it short and I’m waiting for her to be genuine and 100% before I give in. Not to be mean but to save my heart and hers, because I am never going through this again with her no matter how much I love her.
Out of all the breakup gurus I’ve watched on youtube, this guy is the best one. One important thing he gets right that other people miss is that you SHOULD respond short and polite when they reach out after no contact.
@@emmagrace1638 She's finally coming around still needs some time to heal , main thing just give em some space let them rememebr your memories give em time to breathe
If anyone knew my situation it’s a mad one!! 5 years together with a beautiful daughter , lived with her mother for two years , finished me off completely!!! love of my life I ain’t an ugly guy never had a problem atttacting good looking girls when I’m out and about god blessed me with good looks not an ego just being honest in the this story!! done all the wrong things after we broke up had to move back to my parents!!! just started all this no contact stuff and that and feel like I’m getting more change out of her!! I don’t want another man in my little girls life and that’s where she knows she’s got me , don’t know what to do been a messy few months for me emotionally... if I don’t get her back I’m gonna make sure I bring the stunner of all stunners through to let everyone know I’m never down and out... but all I want is my angel back done a lot of wrong things in the relationship and that may cost me... anyone sees this send me some energies ❤️
So far all your advice has helped perfectly. Mine has been a text book case. From no contact to us getting back together and all the support for my mental anguish in between. Thanks Coach Lee!! He's back after 2 weeks
I came and binge watched these videos to get my ex back. After starting no contact I realised I was fine without him and don’t need him. I guess when I was pretending to move on I ended up moving on?
Petros Giorgallis i been watching craig for 10 months and i still do, he is fantastic with Margaret . His fees for coaching are way to expensive ... but he is well qualified
I did all of this, he came back and then I found out HE WAS CHEATING....I was just something for him to do when he couldn’t be around her. PEOPLE IF YOU LEAVE SOMEONE OR VICE VERSA ... THERE IS A REASON WHY YALL BROKE UP. Don’t go back to anyone who has lowered your value!!!!
True katrina, I have been in the same situation, when she dumped me and come back after she has been trying a single life out didn't work out well. it the end I become her back up plan. i force my self the accept her but at the back of my mind still struggling to accept that i have devalued myself after break up. We tried after couple of month i made a wise decision to leave the relationship.
Love your videos. They helped me through. I went radio silent and he started calling me. I stayed cool. Then he tried to have conversations about us in the future. I called him out on that. I reminded him that we arent a couple at his choosing. I also remnded him that I let him go graciously. He broke, told me he messed up, missed me, and begged for me not to disgaurd him. It was a complete reversal of attitude.
@@hrithikkumar4201 Sorry for the late reply. It was within a week of no contact, that he started calling me. Wanting to know if I was alright. I said I'm good, bye
you know what Lee, Although i love almost all of your videos and advice , but at some point im so much precious than waiting for a dumper to reconcile with me again regardless of the strength and the love we shared before the breakup . Im better off without humiliation and wasting my time hoping that a person would come back and it was not at all my fault . I have never dumped any of my ex's and i deserve the same treatment . No more waiting for dumpers . there are so many important things in life to go after . THANKS .
Moyasser Elgendy You are so right. Take care of yourself. Focus on what you enjoy. Look upward and be reminded how precious you are to God. Take time to get closer to Him. Guard your heart. Waiting for someone who let you go to come back or want you back is destructively painful. You are worth more to the world than that, so keep taking care of you. There are good women out there who have love & respect for good men...no fakes, no manipulation, no games. Hang in there, my friend...
Thats what no contact is for. To improve yourself and get the other person out of your mind. If u see it as waiting, you are already doomed and can just chase her aswell. Get your shit together and do something for yourself. Hit the gym fucking 5 days a day and u get her out of your mind. And after a time u dont need them anymore they oftrn reach out. At that point u can think about it if u consider it or that u are better without.
Dude, this is all spot on, right on, well said! I am totally on the same page. I loved and cherished and accepted my partners and they still kicked me to the curb. Done. We're high-value souls that just chose unwisely. We had love in our hearts, but we chose unwisely, for whatever reason that we've hopefully figured out. I know I have and it sounds like you have too. We chose wounded souls who saw something special in us, yes, but then they got in their own way, and in mostly unconscious, selfish, uncaring ways. We are fortunate and blessed to be free of people who treated us like garbage. We are the farthest thing from garbage. Stay strong and keep going and growing!
I just know she doesn`t want me back since she hasn`t contacted me after a year:) Then again, she was so cold during our last convo I don`t want to be with such a person anyway.
I'm at day 57 of NC. It's hard but it's the only way. And, I don't expect her to come back but a simple 'are you even alive?' after everything I've done for her, just from a material perspective, would be a good thing.
Nick Fire This is bs. I am a woman and I was basically slaving for my ex. He took my virginity, also. He took everything and gave me nothing in exchange. I took care of him for years. He just dumped me and never said sorry or gave a closure.
Coach Lee and Rory on The Love Chat are the only two breakup coaches I'll listen to. Their advice has made me such a better person the past 40 days, definitely know their stuff and care with honest knowledge, not pay this amount and I guarantee your ex back
My ex has contacted me 3times after 3months but I honestly don't care. The pain he took me thru was more than death itself. Now that I have regained my self worth and healed I don't want to ever go thru that again in my life. I love my new life so much to even welcome him back in my life. No contact helped me to move on
This video is absolutely amazing!! Thanks Lee!! Time, patience and faith in what we had is what I am left with now after 9 months since the last physical interaction. I am working on myself. I know he is working on himself. The best for both will happen if we let the ego go and concentrate on caring for ourselves first. Thanks again, your videos have given me so much comfort and made me feel that I am not alone in wanting my ex back!
This is all based on if they even valued you thru-out the relationship to began with... they may have been using you the whole time. so no contact won't do anything to reunite you with your lost love, only provide you with a chance to move forward and grow towards a unhurt version of yourself.
I got the I love you, I miss you message last night after a few weeks of no contact. I didn’t say either things back to her. I just talked casually to her before ending the conversation with “it was good to catch up, but I gotta run”. It felt good and powerful. I don’t think anything more will come of it, but a little victory is nice.
This guy is on point. So far, he has been correct about most of my situation. He broke up with me and left. At first, he was emailing me and saying we will never get back together, it's over deal with it. He was snappy cause I didn't want to except it. Then I went on his page and seen nothing. But I did see he took my pictures down off the profile, but not his Facebook. He posted other videos and didn't see anything with anyone else just him. He was acting like he didn't miss me and was acting like he was so happy without me. I panicked and messaged him. He didn't respond. So after all the that I started no contact. After day nine he messaged me out of no where and said hello. And I responded with a short message. It's been 3 days since I've heard from him. He has went from relief, to curious, now let's see what happens. I will update you if he actually comes home.
He’s definitely on point, my ex did all these things and it was because he wanted me back, we actually went back together and he wanted us to get a house and get engaged, but the love was gone on my end, so I ended up breaking up with him for good.
laura b That’s where it starts, sweetpea. You hang in there. It takes time. Focus on you & what makes you happy. Get closer to God. Remember how precious you are...
It has been nine months without contact. I have to admit, if she ever contacts me again she will get the storm right into her face. God, feeling much better after all those time. The real question you have to ask yourself is; is it really worth it to jump back to your ex if he/she reaches out to you? Because a healthy relationship will always stay together without breakups.
Both my ex and I had personal issues in our relationship. We both did stupid things which eventually lead to our breakup. For that reason, I would not take back my ex unless we both have worked out our own issues before getting together again. That way, our relationship might even be better than what it was before. But yeah, by 9 months of no contact, I would probably have moved on and started seeing other people.
You are the best coach i have ever seen, i didn't even know that people could know what is playing in someone's head when they go threw a break up. You help me out so much in this dark time. I did break up with my girl and then i regretted it and i said "no i am sorry i was just mad" and she said you can't un do that, so i broke down and i got drunk every night and i reached out a lot and al she said was "leave me alone" if you came to me to talk then i would maybe have taken you back. But i don't chase people, because it feels like she broke up with me because i made a mistake, so now i stopped reaching out because of you and hopefully she will mis me and reach out to me
Thanks coach, your advices very helpful and also help me to move on. All stages that you mentioned, happened to me. My ex want me back by giving him the breakup, your advice straight forward and helpful.
Every lesson you taught is on fire dude, I'm the one who's really always had a burning heart but still stand strong like a pumpkin and now after two months with no contact she apologies what she did, but to me driving my life like no break just b cool and a positive guy, focusing my own works and keeping things here n there silent is everything but there's always an answer when question comes. She reached out to me I played it cool just like in a chess game, I master my mind. It's her turn now to start the engine.
This guy is practical and on point! My ex reached out just as he said and it is a good thing that I watched this video ( and others) during my no contact period. Irony: she reached out on Day 29. (lol).
I have very little sympathy for dumpers who later regret their decision. I am the dumpee after a twelve year relationship and have gone through hell the past three months. I didn't deserve this hurt and am now in the angry phase and am not sure how I would react to her wanting to try again. As for the dumper having regrets, grow a pair and contact the dumpee. Send a damn email if you don't have the guts to call. Apologize and ask them to meet with you and see if you can work things out. Stop looking for sympathy or being worried about being dumped by the dumpee. If mine comes back, I'll be expecting an apology. If I don't get one, she can get the hell out of my life forever. Again, I didn't deserve this hurt. The reasons for our split just indicates that she wanted the easy way out rather than working on things. Not one of her friends or family members will stand with her on this. In fact, her parents are very upset about it and still want me and my kids to remain in their lives. I have told them that we can't. Their daughter wanted the breakup? She got it and she can have it.
My ex and I have been “hanging out” a little. I didn’t want the divorce but I have navigated my single life not reaching out. No contact didn’t last long. It was helpful for me to get healthy and focus on myself while in no contact. I feel he is confused and maybe regrets the divorce. For now we are laughing and sharing and enjoying each others company flirting a little as well. Coach Lee has truly been a God send!! Be patient!! Live your new life and build strength, love yourself! He has noticed I’m good, not suffering, moved on. He comes around more and more. Having said that, I’m not expecting anything or letting myself get excited that he wants to come home…just being good friends for now.
Dr lee you’re a life saver. I was abused and cheated on in my marriage, had plenty of relationships before and after, but never healed properly. I was my best self when my current ex and I fell in love. And because it was going great I got scared. Controlled her a little bit, started having trust issues and looking through shit and even got jealous of her talking to her friends. She moved out, and said she would come back after some time. I did all my begging and apologizing that day. I continued texting her, trying to call, but I was reflecting and also apologizing for the things I was doing wrong over the next week. I thought this is what I had to do, she broke up with me over a long long text the 7th day. And since then I stopped reaching out. Now my situation is making me nervous cuz I’m starting to enjoy the space, I do want her back still. But I’m concerned? It’s been 3 days of me not contacting her. She went to the er last night and in my sleep reached out. Is this a good sign? It doesn’t even seem like long enough for me... I always swore off an ex after the 1st break up and would even torch those bridges if I needed to to defend myself. But I am still devastated from her leaving... worse than finding out the mother of my child didn’t love me... I’ve gone heavy on my change and healing, and I think I’d be able to take her back after another week, but I feel like with her reaching out already she may not have gone through any change herself
Lee ... if I manage to go through my break-up using your tips I will get you a beer :) I feel so much more calm by listening to your advises, less anxious. I used some already and they proof working, which is great! It makes the difference understanding what is my ex-girlfriend (possibly) going through right now Listening to your voice is soothing by the way. I love to educate myself in regards to the relationships and your videos are brilliant! Thank you :D
I don't know if these are signs or not. I could be misinterpreting them. It's been over two months since the breakup. 12 days ago (the amount of time since I restarted no contact), I took something of hers that I had found to her. She seemed really nervous and awkward, she didn't even really say bye, she just kind of started walking off. I then asked her if she wanted to go get ice cream because it would be nice to catch up. She said she would let me know when she wanted to hang out because of the virus and her parents being older. That was the last time I spoke or even interacted with her. Ever since that day, I've noticed she's started to change her behavior on social media. She suddenly has started hiding her posts from me, something that she never did in the months prior. But yet she DOESN'T HIDE certain posts that pertain to me or that I believe are trying to make me jealous. She's been posting a lot of pictures with this new best friend of hers and she looks super happy. However, last night, she shared a post about needing to be cheered up and MADE IT so I could SEE IT. I feel like she wouldn't have shared this if she was happy, and she deliberately chose to let me see it despite hiding the rest of her posts. I don't know what's going on in her head. Sometimes I feel like she's waiting for me to reach out, that's she's miserable. But then I think that I could be misinterpreting things. It's just strange because her behavior changed after she saw me for the first time in months. I attempted to get her to react by posting some videos of me working out on my story. She did not view it, but her brother did. Could he be spying for her? UPDATE: She's been posting A LOT of pictures lately - that I can see.
Coach lee is the man.. everything says makes so much sense and has helped my through the process. I’m so close to getting her back things have happend that I couldn’t imagine would. After 4 months I’m almost there. Couldn’t have done it without coach Lee’s help
I broke up with my ex cause he didnt know how to treat me and things just were not the same. I practiced the no contact rule and sure enough he tried to win his way back in. But the joke was on him cause when Im done im done. He should of appreciated what he had when he had it and that will forever be a thought in his mind.
Well I'm glad my ex is gone forever for good. I made sure i couldn't reached at all. The samething that'll make u smile will make u cry. I'm at my best of best levels of being so happy.
This is so true my ex reached out after we had a horrible break up cops called I went into her apartment and threw all her school books away lmao I thought it was over after that her mother got involved she said the last day I was with her she can’t talk to me and she knows that. Booom 2 months later I get a ding!!! At 4am in the morning I was shocked!! It was her I’m like damnnn no contact really worked. We plan on seeing each other this weekend wish me luck and use no contact don’t freak out be strong and use it man trust me it works.
Antonio, just relax and enjoy catching up with her. Don’t talk issues or the breakup. If she does, be a good listener and only discuss as needed with a positive, easy going attitude. -Coach Lee
Yeah I just had an interaction with my ex randomly in a bar that was karaoke which we never got to do together. I wished I stuck around maybe I could’ve gotten him to sing a song with me. But I left it short. He’s already missed my bday and grad and he was a jerk and threatened me w security when we were breaking up. I told him to his face he didn’t need to threaten me he should know that and he looked guilty and upset and I really got him in his feels, he even wanted to hug me and he tried to wink at me and he did laugh with me about something. He was there for someones birthday and I was annoyed cause he had missed mine and it was a girl he was friends with. That he never dated but almost did. Just shows how he didn’t like me hanging with the opposite sex and he’s doing it but there were guys there. It was hilarious he went bc he didn’t invite her to his birthday cause I was uncomfortable but also he didn’t want to. She was curious when my bday was she didn’t know it had passed and I’m like yeaaaa it was this day and I knew my ex heard me. That motherfucker… anyways I got interrupted talking to him but he asked me a lot of questions that he could’ve texted me or called to me… but I have discovered we are open communication in some ways. Damn I wish I asked him why we are half open lines and half not tho when he said he wanted it all open
I was skeptical with NC. It worked. I begged so much from May 25th until July 6th. Two weeks from the start of NC she started feeling the breakup. She posted on IG a pic with her brother saying "i'm so confused...thanks to my brother who has nice words to say etc". Sunday after exactly 29 days of NC she called me with a lame excuse. She was so receptive and her guard was non existent. I was surprised. She found through a friend in common that I miss her cat. Yesterday she texted me saying if i miss her cat I can just ask her to see the cat. My jaw dropped. A little more than a month ago she said "i do not want to see you again...I do not want to be with you anymore..I'M SURE ABOUT IT"....she is an Empath...she felt a low me being away and not begging etc...not sure if I go to her house to see her "cat" :) or if play hard to get a bit. I want her to have more attraction for me. Today she went to Italy to meet a guy there. She met this guyl a month ago on her vacation and she decided to go back. I almost feel like she called me last Sunday and texted yesterday because she wanted to connect with me before flying out to Italy.
COACH LEE IS A LIFESAVER I've followed EVERY SINGLE one of his steps. Went into NC, I start seeing signs my ex is missing me and trying to get me to reach out She reaches out, we have a short upbeat conversation, and I end it. She reaches out again, we have an even longer conversation and she is really happy to hear from me. I tell her I have to go, but said "Let's catch up over some coffee sometimes" She agrees to meet up for coffee! Now it's time to show her all the changes in an in-person meet up! COACH LEE IS A BLESSING FROM THE SKIES. EDIT: Still gonna keep following the steps and not "confess emotions" for her. My guard is still up too. She ended things, so I have the upper hand. She's gonna have to come to me like Coach Lee says. I'll still be myself. Funny/goofy, flirty, fun, etc....but def not going to be relationship-focused.
Thank you Coach Lee. Your advice has really helped me a lot. My ex broke away from me without a quarrel. It was such a painful experience for I loved and cherished him so much. He got someone else probably he thought was better than me. The 2 have been together for a full year and 5 months. He went into NC and I did the same, we were not communicating at all. But at the beginning of 2020 in Jan, he started reaching out to me, asking me how I am doing. Then in the first week of May 2020, He again asked me if I was ok. This time round I replied but he responded telling me about the problems he's having with his current relationship. He is asking for advice but what can I say to him?
what should i reply for my ex text "im sorry for everything + i deletedmy phone number and im sick now i have corona😔 so because of it please im sorry for everything i've done to you" im in no contact now and out of the blue this text came. the final word i said to her that i changed my religion which was the problem in our relationship. but she never talked about that. i just replied you will be okay and everything thing will be fine . what she mean in that text. what should i do now ?
Excellent advice again Lee, I'm in no contact for over 2 weeks, she likes my Facebook posts, but she's in a rebound relationship so I'll continue with nc, till she eventually reaches out, if not then it's her loss
@@idklol5670 she replied other day, asking how concert was I went too, I was polite and replied, that was it, ain't heard anything else since so I'll continue with NC
I got him back. It didn’t take anything on here to get him back. It took my 17 year old autistic son to tell him what he needed to hear. We’re gonna take it slow!
Been in no contact for 15 days ! My ex loved a pic my mum put on Facebook. I did not reach out in 3 days I received a text but it only said just sending you this message to say take care x !! Wasn’t sure what to reply so I just text thank you . Hope you are ok . Take care too x .... was this the right thing to do ? Not had anymore contact as yet but was only this evening
Hey coach. After a month of no contact I almost caved in and wanted to reach out first. It's funny I'm watching this video now glad I didn't make that mistake. I know my self worth now, if she is curious at all she will reach out.
After two weeks of NO CONTACT my ex who broke up with me reached out. I had deleted her and got her invitation to add her on wechat. We are talking again, I keep it very light and casual. Truly I moved on with my life, but she is a charmer. I'm a 6'4, 190lbs and square jaw guy, so it's not difficult for me to get a new girl. I was even considering going Mgtow. Next what I have planned is meet each other in person, maybe go to the zoo or some other venue that I really want to go and just take her along for the ride, but I will keep the date brief. This break up taught me a lot of things, was a great experience for me, and I glad I found Lee's channel, I now understand more about the dynamics of relationships . About me and her, it doesn't really matter if we will get back together, I am a better person because of it and would wish it happened all over again. And I'm skeptic girls want only one guy in these days and age, so I'm also going to have backup girls and date several girls at once, to avoid one'itis in the future.
My situation is tricky . I was the one who dumped him a few times due to his temper . He always came back & I have always taken him back. This last time he asked for closure & I ignored him. When I reached out he ignored me . I tried a few more times & he responded saying how depressed he is but he won’t get back this time as we became toxic. I decided to leave & I’ve been in no contact for the past 2 weeks . It hurts a lot because I love him but I also wouldn’t take him back if he doesn’t change . I’m surprised this time he is silent so I don’t even know who is the dumper anymore
I would like to see more videos about partners who have kids! Like no contact rules and everything else cause I think a lot of these videos are non parent couple bias 👍🏻
After an 8 year relationship my ex wife left me 4 months ago to jump straight into a rebound. I begged and pleaded way too long, for about 2 months. Went no contact and feelings alot better about myself. About 2 weeks ago (after 1.5 months no contact) she texted if she could come over. She came by my house and just wanted to know how I was doing. It was a very short 5 minute visit. Haven't heard from her since 2 weeks ago when she came over. I think she might have second thoughts about the break up, but I'm staying strong and I am not going to be the one to initiate contact. I'm just out here living my life!
I begged my ex for way to long, messed up bad to the point of no return.. she left 9 weeks ago, and i begged for over a month, I know, i feel horrible about it right.. so i started watching these videos like crazy.. i started building my life without her and worked on myself, gave her the breakup and just stopped talking to her, never to think she would come back or see her again, she moved 150 miles away.. so i thought I would never hear or see her again.. guess what, she called today, i just was talking about anything and everything but us.. never once... she wouldn't let me go, I was trying to let her go.. than she strait up asked me if i was with someone, i told her ive been talking but nothing serious.. than she asked me right after if we can talk about our relationship and get back together.. she just passed me the power.. i will meet up with her, but now it seems like its up to me, she begged me back.. crazy stuff here.. i would of never thought this day would come.. i worked on myself, but for my next possible relationship.. never thought about her.. just thought I would share my story.. but i might not let her back in my life.. i think I might of outgrown her here, i worked so hard on myself and she stayed the same.. so there is a chance, but this is a crazy story...lol
Aurum Insanity I did that and that turn my ex faaar lol. After that she said I want to be friends only, and I said no and I blocked her. A month later she added me on SC and I didn't accept her. A few days later our mutual friend told me that she wants to call me and I refused. Now she asks about me through my friends and they told me that lol.
He finally reached out after more than 3 weeks . Said I m looking great & first thing he asked if I was dating anyone or searching grooms n I said no as I m busy with work. He said he won’t let me & he informed me he’s coming to meet me end of month (I am staying 1852 miles away from m workplace at home currently doing wfh) he wants to meet m family too. I didn’t show excitement and he told m I have changed on how I m replying with no interest. I also found out he was stalking my Whatsaap status by disabling read receipts 😒😒
What if were Long distance? Weve been 7 years. Were together last August. And now hes in another country 5 months and me another country 7months. Last month he just ask break up with me. But after the break up he keep sending msgs casually but now no msgs at all. By the way. We he broke up telling me need space need to think. I panicked i beg to him to fix. Trying to fix. And he made decision to comeback but after that changed again. And now he sounds angry,no care at me.
Haha. Trying to get your ex back is like gambling and your ex is the house. The house always wins. Your ex most likely isnt coming back and if they do then it's only temporary if even that. In reality very few ex's come back and even fewer stay'. And of those that come back, its usually when the relationship was really good and both people are mentally stable (excluding immature teens and young adults). Use your alone time to grieve and then work on your self. Everybody thinks they're perfectly fine and they dont need to change but I'm pretty sure there plenty about you that needs change. Just accept and embrace it. Become enhanced.
I got dumped. I tried to follow all this advise and failed miserably. Yet her attitude towards me changed. Of course I have made some changes but she has expressed to me getting back. I haven't said anything concrete yet but she's very sweet again. And she's getting touchy too. We've been going out for the past three months. We have a daughter. And we were married 6 years. In a relationship for 8 but we've known each other 13 years now. No I didn't follow this kind of advise and yes I'm seeing results. The first few months I begged lol but then I thought that I she contacted me she feels for me. So I just treated her kindly and respectful. I believe that I was my relationshi with my daughter that made her see me different. I actually have one now with my little girl and she longs to spend the weekends with me so she wants to know what we are gonna do. She's a great and beautiful woman and I was just a jerk to her. Not all is lost. Changes had to be made. I needed to wake up from my stupity.
I was feeling good earlier not caring about watching these videos, until I got the text. Now I am watching to calm nerves as it may be false hope. But hopefully soon.
As a dumper, I felt relief. I even thought it was over for good. I even forgot about my ex sometimes, felt free and confident, wanted. And I came back... 🥂
How long till you felt like you needed to
Go back?
@@Josee2486 It has nothing to do with time itself . Of course time is powerful, but when you change something your ex will feel it. And that is your neediness. You cannot experience something that you put on the pedistal , because energetically you say "You are out of my reach" just because you are the one who's dumped. Trust me, today you are dumped tomorrow you can be dumper. Tables turn. Just do NOTHING 🙂
@@Josee2486 + It feels strange, but I never wanted really to go, just to exercice my will and control of my life. So let them see that they can break up with you and that doesn't mean that they will become Kings of Universe...
Thank for writing this, it makes me crazy not to know what my ex feels/think after 3 weeks of no contact
Thank you for writing this honestly
Im on 32 days of limited no contact
We work together
As the dumper, my initial relief turned to curiosity. Then fear of losing my ex. I even spoke with her cousin. Coach Lee is on point in this video.
How long it took you to feel all of those things? I'm just wondering because I was dumped for no reason out the blue n we was two years together than he left me haven't heard from him I am doing no contact for 7 months now I just wonder if he would think the same but he did a rebound so probably I won't pass his mind at all
Have u checked fb for curiosity?
@@milagrosrodriguez4136 I broke up at the end of 2016. At first, I was sad, but stuck with the decision. There was no contact at all between us. My ex blocked me on every possible platform. She said she couldn't bear to see me with someone else if it ever happened, and she would probably be single for a while. Around the beginning of July, she called me twice, but I didn't pick up. By the end of August 2017, I found a Google Drive we shared with all our pictures. I started looking through it, and remembering all the fun we had. I also promised to add to it while we where together. I began adding pics. As I did this, a great depressing feeling swept over me. Why did we break up? She was amazing. I felt so shitty. I got a strong pain in my heart. Never have I felt like this. It was soul crushing.
@@milagrosrodriguez4136 She deactivated her Facebook account for all of 2017. It's back now, but not updated. There's a lot more to my story...but probably too much to write here. As of this moment, I am unblocked only on fb messanger. I wrote to her, she sees, but doesn't respond.
@@ProjectAchieva Ok I don't think he will unblock me but what bothers me of that was he was the one who did wrong n not me
What I really like about this Coach, is the fact he's always considering "us" his readers... like part of his team...
He will say from time to time..."we don't want to do that..." "We don't need to say that.."
It's always "we" there... like part of a team that works together to solve things...❤️
Agreed
If you love someone, let them go. If they come back, it means no one else would tolerate their BS either.
LOL.... No shit
curtis lawson true 😂
Depends on the person and depends what the break up was about
😂😂😂
I needed that laugh so much😂😂
This guy is the best dating coach on TH-cam
Is smart
I would have to agree with you.
Coach Lee is goat and that's a fact
Time is your best friend to get them back
Has anyone else been broken up over a month and still cry for their ex like almost everyday?
Any update? The only comfort you’d have, is the memories. All I can say brother, keep moving forward.
Yes. 3 months and I still feel heartbroken
Its been 3years.. and still seeing her in dreams... Idk.. World is full of weirdness.. Life is strange..
Yes it's been five months
@@liepajaonboard7368 dreams make it worse.. the feelings you get are all euphoric and you can't describe them. I've had em where I feel a feeling of love so indescribable (no.. not a wet dream) with my ex in a dream, then you wake up... man
"Let it exist before you define it again". Loved it ❤
I noted that as well.
I swear this Coach Lee is the most logical, practical and psychological in the whole utube platform. I feel like I am sitting in the room with a therapist, if I have a question in my head, he covered it! So simple with all complexity! Thank you!
Inna D My god, u told my thoughts about him
Exactly
He has good style and delivery.
Don't stop making these videos. I'm implementing your advice and seeing results. You're making me a better man.
Mee too fam thou its tough but wow its worth it coz most guys blow this up
Coach you're saving a lot of lives. I've been in depression, anxiety and insomnia from last 3 months (and still am to some extent). But whenever I watch your videos, I feel so good, powerful and energetic. Thank you. :) May God bless you.
What happened
Your seriously helping me through the darkest time in my life, thank you so much.
Blake Humphreys it’s the most horrible part of my life I never want to go through this again
Blake Humphrey’s, I am just curious how your relationship with your ex worked out? Would be something nice of
you to share, if you would. Thank you!
He truly is, and guys, I know we’ve all been through the loss of someone we fell in love with, supported through everything and in my case, a year later, she broke up with me and acted like I never existed as well as spoke to me during the break up like I was the “Pandemic” - it hurt deeply, and my stomach still aches over it. I am still in the “No Contact” faze with my ex, so I have had some positives happen because she did contact me, but I wasn’t willing to just jump right back in. I may be making a mistake, but my self worth is worth what I allow and expect from those I hand my heart out too. I know it’s silly to some, but if you loved someone and put your heart abs soul in it, lost it... you have to put yourself in a reality check so that you do not allow the wrong person to literally ruin your life over their emotional moment. Best of luck all!
@@barrybaker1364 how long did you two date,1 year? Did you go into no contact immediately? And how long did it take for her to reach out to you?
Neil Boquiren -
We dated one year - have been broken up two months now. I have known her for about 15 years and we played in a band together and various music projects and only asked her out a year ago. We are both musically gifted and it should have been perfect, but she broke up with. I am still in complete no contact until this day and hanging on. She has called me a couple of times but I kept it short and I’m waiting for her to be genuine and 100% before I give in. Not to be mean but to save my heart and hers, because I am never going through this again with her no matter how much I love her.
Out of all the breakup gurus I’ve watched on youtube, this guy is the best one. One important thing he gets right that other people miss is that you SHOULD respond short and polite when they reach out after no contact.
This guy knows.
Imma get my ex back just for all y’all who need some hope I got y’all 💯
@@emmagrace1638 She's finally coming around still needs some time to heal , main thing just give em some space let them rememebr your memories give em time to breathe
If anyone knew my situation it’s a mad one!! 5 years together with a beautiful daughter , lived with her mother for two years , finished me off completely!!! love of my life I ain’t an ugly guy never had a problem atttacting good looking girls when I’m out and about god blessed me with good looks not an ego just being honest in the this story!! done all the wrong things after we broke up had to move back to my parents!!! just started all this no contact stuff and that and feel like I’m getting more change out of her!! I don’t want another man in my little girls life and that’s where she knows she’s got me , don’t know what to do been a messy few months for me emotionally... if I don’t get her back I’m gonna make sure I bring the stunner of all stunners through to let everyone know I’m never down and out... but all I want is my angel back done a lot of wrong things in the relationship and that may cost me... anyone sees this send me some energies ❤️
Ron Ron good luck man, you got this shit I believe in you, even if I don’t know you
Any update bro
We slept together that’s my guy
So far all your advice has helped perfectly. Mine has been a text book case. From no contact to us getting back together and all the support for my mental anguish in between. Thanks Coach Lee!! He's back after 2 weeks
I came and binge watched these videos to get my ex back. After starting no contact I realised I was fine without him and don’t need him. I guess when I was pretending to move on I ended up moving on?
You would be surprised how often that happens! Good for you! Now find someone better! Follow me on Instagram @RealCoachLee
It happen to me to once. I'm hoping it happen again this time!
Update?
Your channel is the absolute best out there. The way you deliver your content is so calming and helpful. You're no b.s. and rational. Thank you!
Go see Craig Kenneth
Lol this guy doesn’t come close to Craig in any way
Petros Giorgallis craig is very good but expensive ...
@@nicolebrowne3632 just watch the videos
Petros Giorgallis i been watching craig for 10 months and i still do, he is fantastic with Margaret . His fees for coaching are way to expensive ... but he is well qualified
I did all of this, he came back and then I found out HE WAS CHEATING....I was just something for him to do when he couldn’t be around her. PEOPLE IF YOU LEAVE SOMEONE OR VICE VERSA ... THERE IS A REASON WHY YALL BROKE UP. Don’t go back to anyone who has lowered your value!!!!
And I feel sorry for his daughter 😂
I don't understand: how can someone can lower your value. Even yourself don't have this power
U must be low then
THE MOOSH I was... and not ashamed to say that I’m human. What brings you down will build you up😉
True katrina, I have been in the same situation, when she dumped me and come back after she has been trying a single life out didn't work out well. it the end I become her back up plan. i force my self the accept her but at the back of my mind still struggling to accept that i have devalued myself after break up. We tried after couple of month i made a wise decision to leave the relationship.
what i love about this channel is he’s always to the point, no fuller talk and there’s plenty of substance and “meat”
Love your videos. They helped me through. I went radio silent and he started calling me. I stayed cool. Then he tried to have conversations about us in the future. I called him out on that. I reminded him that we arent a couple at his choosing. I also remnded him that I let him go graciously. He broke, told me he messed up, missed me, and begged for me not to disgaurd him. It was a complete reversal of attitude.
How many days did you go No contact?
I'm hoping for the same outcome. She's being stubborn at the moment. But I know for a fact she loves me and she's still super attracted to me
@@dudleylandsberg1747 whats the update?😆
@@hrithikkumar4201 Sorry for the late reply. It was within a week of no contact, that he started calling me. Wanting to know if I was alright. I said I'm good, bye
@@soothingsounds964 I got rid of him. No regrets.
Basically when your ex reaches out, look and be your brochure. Your brochure is what attracted them in the first place!
what is brochure mean????
They’ve already caused you too much pain and waste of time.LET THEM GOOO
And wasted money
You’ve never lost someone worth fighting for. Plus, it was my fault, I lost a quality woman.
you know what Lee, Although i love almost all of your videos and advice , but at some point im so much precious than waiting for a dumper to reconcile with me again regardless of the strength and the love we shared before the breakup . Im better off without humiliation and wasting my time hoping that a person would come back and it was not at all my fault . I have never dumped any of my ex's and i deserve the same treatment . No more waiting for dumpers . there are so many important things in life to go after . THANKS .
Moyasser Elgendy You are so right. Take care of yourself. Focus on what you enjoy. Look upward and be reminded how precious you are to God. Take time to get closer to Him. Guard your heart. Waiting for someone who let you go to come back or want you back is destructively painful. You are worth more to the world than that, so keep taking care of you. There are good women out there who have love & respect for good men...no fakes, no manipulation, no games. Hang in there, my friend...
Thats what no contact is for. To improve yourself and get the other person out of your mind. If u see it as waiting, you are already doomed and can just chase her aswell. Get your shit together and do something for yourself. Hit the gym fucking 5 days a day and u get her out of your mind. And after a time u dont need them anymore they oftrn reach out. At that point u can think about it if u consider it or that u are better without.
Dude, this is all spot on, right on, well said! I am totally on the same page. I loved and cherished and accepted my partners and they still kicked me to the curb. Done. We're high-value souls that just chose unwisely. We had love in our hearts, but we chose unwisely, for whatever reason that we've hopefully figured out. I know I have and it sounds like you have too. We chose wounded souls who saw something special in us, yes, but then they got in their own way, and in mostly unconscious, selfish, uncaring ways. We are fortunate and blessed to be free of people who treated us like garbage. We are the farthest thing from garbage. Stay strong and keep going and growing!
I just know she doesn`t want me back since she hasn`t contacted me after a year:)
Then again, she was so cold during our last convo I don`t want to be with such a person anyway.
My ex reached out to me after 11 years saying he regrets that he broke up with me LOL
eaa smash & let her go
eaa I hope you told him to go and boil his head... forever.
Hahahaha
That's cray cray
11 years wtf thats just insanity
I'm at day 57 of NC. It's hard but it's the only way. And, I don't expect her to come back but a simple 'are you even alive?' after everything I've done for her, just from a material perspective, would be a good thing.
Well some people don't appreciate what have you given to them
Maybe they never loved you to begin with. Atleast you now know that you can move on and never look back
Any update? Anywhere I can talk to you?
Nick Fire
This is bs. I am a woman and I was basically slaving for my ex. He took my virginity, also.
He took everything and gave me nothing in exchange. I took care of him for years.
He just dumped me and never said sorry or gave a closure.
I just got dumped this morning and I didn't see it coming. I'm still in shock.
Time heals, it gets better
Stay strong I was dumped three weeks ago today and I’ve been in no contact for 10 days
Coach Lee and Rory on The Love Chat are the only two breakup coaches I'll listen to. Their advice has made me such a better person the past 40 days, definitely know their stuff and care with honest knowledge, not pay this amount and I guarantee your ex back
No contact works. Its hard but it works. Need lot of patience 🤞. I love Lees videos.
How long did you do NC? Mind to share your story?
Yes please share your story
My ex has contacted me 3times after 3months but I honestly don't care. The pain he took me thru was more than death itself. Now that I have regained my self worth and healed I don't want to ever go thru that again in my life. I love my new life so much to even welcome him back in my life. No contact helped me to move on
Everything you Say..Makes such Good Sense! I have done everything wrong! You don't think very good when you lose someone you Love!
This video is absolutely amazing!! Thanks Lee!! Time, patience and faith in what we had is what I am left with now after 9 months since the last physical interaction. I am working on myself. I know he is working on himself. The best for both will happen if we let the ego go and concentrate on caring for ourselves first. Thanks again, your videos have given me so much comfort and made me feel that I am not alone in wanting my ex back!
What you do when your ex insult you making you guilty
Coach lee. You’re the man. My ex texted me back after 6 days of no contact
This is all based on if they even valued you thru-out the relationship to began with... they may have been using you the whole time. so no contact won't do anything to reunite you with your lost love, only provide you with a chance to move forward and grow towards a unhurt version of yourself.
I got the I love you, I miss you message last night after a few weeks of no contact. I didn’t say either things back to her. I just talked casually to her before ending the conversation with “it was good to catch up, but I gotta run”. It felt good and powerful. I don’t think anything more will come of it, but a little victory is nice.
This is golden info thank you - you may have saved my 28 year marriage - I got to let go
This guy is on point. So far, he has been correct about most of my situation. He broke up with me and left. At first, he was emailing me and saying we will never get back together, it's over deal with it. He was snappy cause I didn't want to except it. Then I went on his page and seen nothing. But I did see he took my pictures down off the profile, but not his Facebook. He posted other videos and didn't see anything with anyone else just him. He was acting like he didn't miss me and was acting like he was so happy without me. I panicked and messaged him. He didn't respond. So after all the that I started no contact. After day nine he messaged me out of no where and said hello. And I responded with a short message. It's been 3 days since I've heard from him. He has went from relief, to curious, now let's see what happens. I will update you if he actually comes home.
He’s definitely on point, my ex did all these things and it was because he wanted me back, we actually went back together and he wanted us to get a house and get engaged, but the love was gone on my end, so I ended up breaking up with him for good.
After how many days of no contact
@@theground8972 two weeks
@@yr5425 thanks for your reply.its day two on NC wish me the best
@@theground8972 you’re welcome. Stay strong 💪🏽
Ive had a small breakthrough. Starting to let my ex go (in my heart)
I feel I have to do the same...
laura b That’s where it starts, sweetpea. You hang in there. It takes time. Focus on you & what makes you happy. Get closer to God. Remember how precious you are...
How did you do it? Whenever I think I am letting go it comes back even worse...
AsSeenOnTV That’s just cruel...
I can't wait to be on your level
It has been nine months without contact. I have to admit, if she ever contacts me again she will get the storm right into her face. God, feeling much better after all those time. The real question you have to ask yourself is; is it really worth it to jump back to your ex if he/she reaches out to you? Because a healthy relationship will always stay together without breakups.
Both my ex and I had personal issues in our relationship. We both did stupid things which eventually lead to our breakup. For that reason, I would not take back my ex unless we both have worked out our own issues before getting together again. That way, our relationship might even be better than what it was before. But yeah, by 9 months of no contact, I would probably have moved on and started seeing other people.
sometime distance make them realize what they are loosing. And who valued them ...
You are the best coach i have ever seen, i didn't even know that people could know what is playing in someone's head when they go threw a break up. You help me out so much in this dark time. I did break up with my girl and then i regretted it and i said "no i am sorry i was just mad" and she said you can't un do that, so i broke down and i got drunk every night and i reached out a lot and al she said was "leave me alone" if you came to me to talk then i would maybe have taken you back. But i don't chase people, because it feels like she broke up with me because i made a mistake, so now i stopped reaching out because of you and hopefully she will mis me and reach out to me
Thanks coach, your advices very helpful and also help me to move on. All stages that you mentioned, happened to me. My ex want me back by giving him the breakup, your advice straight forward and helpful.
This dude is honest.. expect the unexpected.
Every lesson you taught is on fire dude, I'm the one who's really always had a burning heart but still stand strong like a pumpkin and now after two months with no contact she apologies what she did, but to me driving my life like no break just b cool and a positive guy, focusing my own works and keeping things here n there silent is everything but there's always an answer when question comes. She reached out to me I played it cool just like in a chess game, I master my mind. It's her turn now to start the engine.
by far the best sound advice ive gotten since the break up.
This guy is practical and on point! My ex reached out just as he said and it is a good thing that I watched this video ( and others) during my no contact period. Irony: she reached out on Day 29. (lol).
Mine at 32 days of NC...n yesterday we met since then silence from both sides Im confused what to do now show I make a move or wait for her message
You guys still together?
@@asadgikuupdate?
Brilliant Coach! I followed his advice ( No Contact) my Ex came back in 3.5 weeks
I have very little sympathy for dumpers who later regret their decision. I am the dumpee after a twelve year relationship and have gone through hell the past three months. I didn't deserve this hurt and am now in the angry phase and am not sure how I would react to her wanting to try again. As for the dumper having regrets, grow a pair and contact the dumpee. Send a damn email if you don't have the guts to call. Apologize and ask them to meet with you and see if you can work things out. Stop looking for sympathy or being worried about being dumped by the dumpee. If mine comes back, I'll be expecting an apology. If I don't get one, she can get the hell out of my life forever. Again, I didn't deserve this hurt. The reasons for our split just indicates that she wanted the easy way out rather than working on things. Not one of her friends or family members will stand with her on this. In fact, her parents are very upset about it and still want me and my kids to remain in their lives. I have told them that we can't. Their daughter wanted the breakup? She got it and she can have it.
The mysterious smile when he says if someone kiss somebody ☺️☺️
I started my marathon i am in day 3 🏃♂️🏃♀️
How's it been?
If it's still going ill go out with you 😅😍
@@ryancollins9558 you are so funny 😂😂 welcome to Morocco then
@@Esponjinha88 we broke up again i started no contact yesterday
@Ryan Collins 1 week
My ex and I have been “hanging out” a little. I didn’t want the divorce but I have navigated my single life not reaching out. No contact didn’t last long. It was helpful for me to get healthy and focus on myself while in no contact. I feel he is confused and maybe regrets the divorce. For now we are laughing and sharing and enjoying each others company flirting a little as well.
Coach Lee has truly been a God send!! Be patient!! Live your new life and build strength, love yourself! He has noticed I’m good, not suffering, moved on. He comes around more and more.
Having said that, I’m not expecting anything or letting myself get excited that he wants to come home…just being good friends for now.
Couldn't it be also that they are bored, lonely or looking for a ego boost?
Maybe but don't reach out because you are boosting their ego
@@azazel3944 okay
i mean when you are reaching out you are giving them the power of the situation
So how on earth do people get back together if N C means never talking again. In a way its silly.
@@barbarariley3488 if you want reach out the results will be blocked or ignored or cold response by them
Dr lee you’re a life saver. I was abused and cheated on in my marriage, had plenty of relationships before and after, but never healed properly. I was my best self when my current ex and I fell in love. And because it was going great I got scared. Controlled her a little bit, started having trust issues and looking through shit and even got jealous of her talking to her friends. She moved out, and said she would come back after some time. I did all my begging and apologizing that day. I continued texting her, trying to call, but I was reflecting and also apologizing for the things I was doing wrong over the next week. I thought this is what I had to do, she broke up with me over a long long text the 7th day. And since then I stopped reaching out. Now my situation is making me nervous cuz I’m starting to enjoy the space, I do want her back still. But I’m concerned?
It’s been 3 days of me not contacting her.
She went to the er last night and in my sleep reached out. Is this a good sign? It doesn’t even seem like long enough for me... I always swore off an ex after the 1st break up and would even torch those bridges if I needed to to defend myself. But I am still devastated from her leaving... worse than finding out the mother of my child didn’t love me... I’ve gone heavy on my change and healing, and I think I’d be able to take her back after another week, but I feel like with her reaching out already she may not have gone through any change herself
Lee ... if I manage to go through my break-up using your tips I will get you a beer :) I feel so much more calm by listening to your advises, less anxious. I used some already and they proof working, which is great! It makes the difference understanding what is my ex-girlfriend (possibly) going through right now
Listening to your voice is soothing by the way.
I love to educate myself in regards to the relationships and your videos are brilliant!
Thank you :D
My ex called me after 4 years. He married a girl after breaking up with me.
I don't know if these are signs or not. I could be misinterpreting them. It's been over two months since the breakup. 12 days ago (the amount of time since I restarted no contact), I took something of hers that I had found to her. She seemed really nervous and awkward, she didn't even really say bye, she just kind of started walking off. I then asked her if she wanted to go get ice cream because it would be nice to catch up. She said she would let me know when she wanted to hang out because of the virus and her parents being older.
That was the last time I spoke or even interacted with her. Ever since that day, I've noticed she's started to change her behavior on social media. She suddenly has started hiding her posts from me, something that she never did in the months prior. But yet she DOESN'T HIDE certain posts that pertain to me or that I believe are trying to make me jealous. She's been posting a lot of pictures with this new best friend of hers and she looks super happy. However, last night, she shared a post about needing to be cheered up and MADE IT so I could SEE IT. I feel like she wouldn't have shared this if she was happy, and she deliberately chose to let me see it despite hiding the rest of her posts.
I don't know what's going on in her head. Sometimes I feel like she's waiting for me to reach out, that's she's miserable. But then I think that I could be misinterpreting things. It's just strange because her behavior changed after she saw me for the first time in months.
I attempted to get her to react by posting some videos of me working out on my story. She did not view it, but her brother did. Could he be spying for her?
UPDATE: She's been posting A LOT of pictures lately - that I can see.
This coach knows what he is talking about. So grateful n he is gentle n firm in the way he talks to people. Thank you 🙏
My mans killing these videos. Props
Coach lee is the man.. everything says makes so much sense and has helped my through the process. I’m so close to getting her back things have happend that I couldn’t imagine would. After 4 months I’m almost there. Couldn’t have done it without coach Lee’s help
You never beat around the bush, You just get straight to the point and address the issue in a well spoken manner.. You Genius human being you 😊
He got in contact, it was going well, he suggested coffee then went silent.
Your videos are so good. They are helping so much by just keeping me calm when i am going through this heartbreak.
Really pathetic LOL 😂😂 Coach Lee I love ur bluntness
Coach Lee has used this phrase a few times in his videos... Yet even though I'm hurting it always makes me giggle 😁
I broke up with my ex cause he didnt know how to treat me and things just were not the same. I practiced the no contact rule and sure enough he tried to win his way back in. But the joke was on him cause when Im done im done. He should of appreciated what he had when he had it and that will forever be a thought in his mind.
You should give him another chance people change when realise what they lost. Just need a rocket put up them.
@@aggitravel true 👍
Well I'm glad my ex is gone forever for good. I made sure i couldn't reached at all. The samething that'll make u smile will make u cry. I'm at my best of best levels of being so happy.
This is so true my ex reached out after we had a horrible break up cops called I went into her apartment and threw all her school books away lmao I thought it was over after that her mother got involved she said the last day I was with her she can’t talk to me and she knows that. Booom 2 months later I get a ding!!! At 4am in the morning I was shocked!! It was her I’m like damnnn no contact really worked. We plan on seeing each other this weekend wish me luck and use no contact don’t freak out be strong and use it man trust me it works.
Antonio, just relax and enjoy catching up with her. Don’t talk issues or the breakup. If she does, be a good listener and only discuss as needed with a positive, easy going attitude. -Coach Lee
Yeah I just had an interaction with my ex randomly in a bar that was karaoke which we never got to do together. I wished I stuck around maybe I could’ve gotten him to sing a song with me. But I left it short. He’s already missed my bday and grad and he was a jerk and threatened me w security when we were breaking up. I told him to his face he didn’t need to threaten me he should know that and he looked guilty and upset and I really got him in his feels, he even wanted to hug me and he tried to wink at me and he did laugh with me about something. He was there for someones birthday and I was annoyed cause he had missed mine and it was a girl he was friends with. That he never dated but almost did. Just shows how he didn’t like me hanging with the opposite sex and he’s doing it but there were guys there. It was hilarious he went bc he didn’t invite her to his birthday cause I was uncomfortable but also he didn’t want to. She was curious when my bday was she didn’t know it had passed and I’m like yeaaaa it was this day and I knew my ex heard me. That motherfucker… anyways I got interrupted talking to him but he asked me a lot of questions that he could’ve texted me or called to me… but I have discovered we are open communication in some ways. Damn I wish I asked him why we are half open lines and half not tho when he said he wanted it all open
I think it’s safe to say that when you’re blocked on everything, they do NOT want you back. Ughhhh
Best videos on TH-cam. Really recommended his break up kit.
I was skeptical with NC. It worked. I begged so much from May 25th until July 6th. Two weeks from the start of NC she started feeling the breakup. She posted on IG a pic with her brother saying "i'm so confused...thanks to my brother who has nice words to say etc". Sunday after exactly 29 days of NC she called me with a lame excuse. She was so receptive and her guard was non existent. I was surprised. She found through a friend in common that I miss her cat. Yesterday she texted me saying if i miss her cat I can just ask her to see the cat. My jaw dropped. A little more than a month ago she said "i do not want to see you again...I do not want to be with you anymore..I'M SURE ABOUT IT"....she is an Empath...she felt a low me being away and not begging etc...not sure if I go to her house to see her "cat" :) or if play hard to get a bit. I want her to have more attraction for me. Today she went to Italy to meet a guy there. She met this guyl a month ago on her vacation and she decided to go back. I almost feel like she called me last Sunday and texted yesterday because she wanted to connect with me before flying out to Italy.
COACH LEE IS A LIFESAVER
I've followed EVERY SINGLE one of his steps.
Went into NC, I start seeing signs my ex is missing me and trying to get me to reach out
She reaches out, we have a short upbeat conversation, and I end it.
She reaches out again, we have an even longer conversation and she is really happy to hear from me. I tell her I have to go, but said "Let's catch up over some coffee sometimes" She agrees to meet up for coffee!
Now it's time to show her all the changes in an in-person meet up! COACH LEE IS A BLESSING FROM THE SKIES.
EDIT: Still gonna keep following the steps and not "confess emotions" for her. My guard is still up too. She ended things, so I have the upper hand. She's gonna have to come to me like Coach Lee says. I'll still be myself. Funny/goofy, flirty, fun, etc....but def not going to be relationship-focused.
Omg I love your videos. When you tell us “don’t get all excited “ 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Thank you Coach Lee. Your advice has really helped me a lot. My ex broke away from me without a quarrel. It was such a painful experience for I loved and cherished him so much. He got someone else probably he thought was better than me. The 2 have been together for a full year and 5 months. He went into NC and I did the same, we were not communicating at all. But at the beginning of 2020 in Jan, he started reaching out to me, asking me how I am doing. Then in the first week of May 2020, He again asked me if I was ok. This time round I replied but he responded telling me about the problems he's having with his current relationship. He is asking for advice but what can I say to him?
what should i reply for my ex text
"im sorry for everything
+ i deletedmy phone number
and im sick now i have corona😔
so because of it please im sorry for everything i've done to you"
im in no contact now and out of the blue this text came. the final word i said to her that i changed my religion which was the problem in our relationship. but she never talked about that. i just replied you will be okay and everything thing will be fine . what she mean in that text.
what should i do now ?
Really, messages with precision.
Coach Lee you are the Absolute BEST at sharing info on getting an ex back.
Excellent advice again Lee, I'm in no contact for over 2 weeks, she likes my Facebook posts, but she's in a rebound relationship so I'll continue with nc, till she eventually reaches out, if not then it's her loss
how's it going my man
@@idklol5670 she replied other day, asking how concert was I went too, I was polite and replied, that was it, ain't heard anything else since so I'll continue with NC
michael morgan update?
@@michaelmorgan6012update?😊
I got him back. It didn’t take anything on here to get him back. It took my 17 year old autistic son to tell him what he needed to hear. We’re gonna take it slow!
Then why are you watching the videos?
Been in no contact for 15 days ! My ex loved a pic my mum put on Facebook. I did not reach out in 3 days I received a text but it only said just sending you this message to say take care x !! Wasn’t sure what to reply so I just text thank you . Hope you are ok . Take care too x .... was this the right thing to do ? Not had anymore contact as yet but was only this evening
Hey coach. After a month of no contact I almost caved in and wanted to reach out first. It's funny I'm watching this video now glad I didn't make that mistake. I know my self worth now, if she is curious at all she will reach out.
Your channel really helps me to move on. Thank you sir for the words.
Geo Serge I’m also trying to move on and I haven’t cried today. Which is good
As a dumper I caved after just under three weeks of no contact. It's absolutely brutal.
"How are you holding up??" I cant stop laughing😭😭
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After two weeks of NO CONTACT my ex who broke up with me reached out. I had deleted her and got her invitation to add her on wechat. We are talking again, I keep it very light and casual. Truly I moved on with my life, but she is a charmer. I'm a 6'4, 190lbs and square jaw guy, so it's not difficult for me to get a new girl. I was even considering going Mgtow. Next what I have planned is meet each other in person, maybe go to the zoo or some other venue that I really want to go and just take her along for the ride, but I will keep the date brief. This break up taught me a lot of things, was a great experience for me, and I glad I found Lee's channel, I now understand more about the dynamics of relationships . About me and her, it doesn't really matter if we will get back together, I am a better person because of it and would wish it happened all over again. And I'm skeptic girls want only one guy in these days and age, so I'm also going to have backup girls and date several girls at once, to avoid one'itis in the future.
How ironic that the dumper fears rejection
My situation is tricky . I was the one who dumped him a few times due to his temper . He always came back & I have always taken him back. This last time he asked for closure & I ignored him. When I reached out he ignored me . I tried a few more times & he responded saying how depressed he is but he won’t get back this time as we became toxic. I decided to leave & I’ve been in no contact for the past 2 weeks . It hurts a lot because I love him but I also wouldn’t take him back if he doesn’t change . I’m surprised this time he is silent so I don’t even know who is the dumper anymore
I would like to see more videos about partners who have kids! Like no contact rules and everything else cause I think a lot of these videos are non parent couple bias 👍🏻
I second this
Yes pls.. he broke up with me coz his dtr threatened to not to talk to him r see him again if he married me. We've been together for 6.7 yrs.
After an 8 year relationship my ex wife left me 4 months ago to jump straight into a rebound. I begged and pleaded way too long, for about 2 months. Went no contact and feelings alot better about myself. About 2 weeks ago (after 1.5 months no contact) she texted if she could come over. She came by my house and just wanted to know how I was doing. It was a very short 5 minute visit. Haven't heard from her since 2 weeks ago when she came over. I think she might have second thoughts about the break up, but I'm staying strong and I am not going to be the one to initiate contact. I'm just out here living my life!
I haven't seen any of those signs, yet. I guess I'm still not at that part of the marathon. It's hard not to get discouraged...
Same. I had seen a lot of these signs & was hopeful but she reverted backwards and now we’re not talking for 23 days.
I'm sorry. It's sad how one moment you can be so open with a person and the next you have to be like strangers.
PandaEats I know. I was thinking how far apart we are right now. NC is brutal.
I know it's what you are supposed to do, but it doesn't feel normal.
PandaEats I know. They say it’s all counterintuitive for attraction, but to me, I feel like it’s helping them move further away from me 😔
I begged my ex for way to long, messed up bad to the point of no return.. she left 9 weeks ago, and i begged for over a month, I know, i feel horrible about it right.. so i started watching these videos like crazy.. i started building my life without her and worked on myself, gave her the breakup and just stopped talking to her, never to think she would come back or see her again, she moved 150 miles away.. so i thought I would never hear or see her again.. guess what, she called today, i just was talking about anything and everything but us.. never once... she wouldn't let me go, I was trying to let her go.. than she strait up asked me if i was with someone, i told her ive been talking but nothing serious.. than she asked me right after if we can talk about our relationship and get back together.. she just passed me the power.. i will meet up with her, but now it seems like its up to me, she begged me back.. crazy stuff here.. i would of never thought this day would come.. i worked on myself, but for my next possible relationship.. never thought about her.. just thought I would share my story.. but i might not let her back in my life.. i think I might of outgrown her here, i worked so hard on myself and she stayed the same.. so there is a chance, but this is a crazy story...lol
Update?
Update?
"Oh I miss you so much,I want to get back together." I burst laughing.lol🤣🤣🤣
Aurum Insanity I did that and that turn my ex faaar lol. After that she said I want to be friends only, and I said no and I blocked her. A month later she added me on SC and I didn't accept her. A few days later our mutual friend told me that she wants to call me and I refused. Now she asks about me through my friends and they told me that lol.
He finally reached out after more than 3 weeks . Said I m looking great & first thing he asked if I was dating anyone or searching grooms n I said no as I m busy with work. He said he won’t let me & he informed me he’s coming to meet me end of month (I am staying 1852 miles away from m workplace at home currently doing wfh) he wants to meet m family too. I didn’t show excitement and he told m I have changed on how I m replying with no interest. I also found out he was stalking my Whatsaap status by disabling read receipts 😒😒
What if were Long distance? Weve been 7 years. Were together last August. And now hes in another country 5 months and me another country 7months. Last month he just ask break up with me. But after the break up he keep sending msgs casually but now no msgs at all. By the way. We he broke up telling me need space need to think. I panicked i beg to him to fix. Trying to fix. And he made decision to comeback but after that changed again. And now he sounds angry,no care at me.
It's been 9 months. I'm sure it's over - or they are in a new relationship all happy and lovey dovey. I'm now just watching these videos to learn.
Haha. Trying to get your ex back is like gambling and your ex is the house. The house always wins. Your ex most likely isnt coming back and if they do then it's only temporary if even that. In reality very few ex's come back and even fewer stay'. And of those that come back, its usually when the relationship was really good and both people are mentally stable (excluding immature teens and young adults). Use your alone time to grieve and then work on your self. Everybody thinks they're perfectly fine and they dont need to change but I'm pretty sure there plenty about you that needs change. Just accept and embrace it. Become enhanced.
I got dumped. I tried to follow all this advise and failed miserably. Yet her attitude towards me changed. Of course I have made some changes but she has expressed to me getting back. I haven't said anything concrete yet but she's very sweet again. And she's getting touchy too. We've been going out for the past three months. We have a daughter. And we were married 6 years. In a relationship for 8 but we've known each other 13 years now. No I didn't follow this kind of advise and yes I'm seeing results. The first few months I begged lol but then I thought that I she contacted me she feels for me. So I just treated her kindly and respectful. I believe that I was my relationshi with my daughter that made her see me different. I actually have one now with my little girl and she longs to spend the weekends with me so she wants to know what we are gonna do. She's a great and beautiful woman and I was just a jerk to her. Not all is lost. Changes had to be made. I needed to wake up from my stupity.
Thank you for all your videos they keep me going.
Happy new year coach my ex just reached out after going into no contact and just wished me a happy new year (No contact works guys)
If your watching this you still want your ex back!
I was feeling good earlier not caring about watching these videos, until I got the text. Now I am watching to calm nerves as it may be false hope. But hopefully soon.