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You sign them. Plain and simple. You get out of their way. You let them live and run into their own walls! Without YOU there, guiding them from slamming into them headfirst,like you have been, all this time . Sad to say, at this point when THEY go as far as to end a marriage or primary long-term agreement/business partnership, or relationship, They likely have a new supply, (and maybe even a back-up to that NEW supply), like mine did..waiting in the wings on the outside! Ready to guide them through the divorce, see them to the other side, then likely- they’ll soon begin the love bomb- devalue, discard with their newbies before/during/ or after the divorce is finalized. A lot of times, sadly, before you even saw ANY of this coming, the narcissist has completely devalued you,to the new suppl(ies), your/their family, mutual and newly made friends, and have released their flying monkeys in advance, for a significant time before securing, and fully capturing the infatuation/reciprocity of the NEW partner/supply, and making the decision to divorce you. Run.
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Hold on tight! You're about to be devastated. Even if you dont sign the papers it will go thru in time. I swore to never leave my wife and she lied and cheated and divorced me. She was a narcissist and met up with old friends and drugs were involved. 17 years have past and Im still devastated. She took everything and didnt care. Now shes on her 10th boyfriend since me and both of my kids are narcissists.
I am one of the lucky ones. It only lasted 6 months and $3,000 dollars before I caught onto their game. I am very thankful for all the stories and information this podcast provides.
His new supply is 2 blocks from my house. He makes sure to park his car right out front so I see it daily… Funny thing is, he talked so badly about this lady prior in our 3 1/2 yr relationship. I had that gut feeling about them, and totally ignored it. He love bombed me and cried, then was with her right after.
Was definitely doing 90% of the work. When I was at my lowest point I was sooo low and looked so sick.. he tells me to go and talk to someone else about my problems after 8 years of being together and there are so many things that have happened
I needed this. Currently dealing with an ex narcissist
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Iam too. I was over her. I had a dream about ber and my children. I woke up and fell back in love with her and wanted my family back. That was three weeks ago and I still haven't shaken this. Why did this happen how did it happen What am I supposed to do?
They are like octopuses. They have had so many suction cups.Then, once the supply runs low ,they'll lose their grip.The ink goes dry.Prepare yourself.❤❤
@@RebeccaZungEsq Thank you!! I am so betrayal shy I needed to be invited, otherwise my heart feels butt hurt the first second one of my wounds gets grazed, of course in my own mind only, I just grew up gas lit and scaoe goated, so the walls, the outer shell is on alert, interpreting danger all around me, my issues have issues!! 🫠😘🙃
I kicked him out 15 months ago and life is so much better he still wants to be friends with me and was going alright until he found a new supply so now he's in his honeymoon stage with her and whenever he talks to me he's the same abusive arhshole again tells me he still loves me and will look after me I just laugh keeps on telling me how much in love he is with her and she's so beautiful so I said that's good your convincing yourself all this I don't care have a happy life I'll get a divorce next year so you can marry her he's not going to get married ever again he told me that's up to him I don't care obviously he thinks he's trying to hurt me again but it isn't working any more I'm happy on my own and having a great time with my friends bugger him
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Has anyone introduced anything to our government about possibly making narcissist behavior a crime?
Instead of seeing the narcissist as a dumb ass and repeating that negative sentence, ask myself, “what is it in me that needs to allow this person to label me?”
I tried to leave for 1 year and something. I lived under threat for more than 1.5 years. At my smallest mistake it was always a threat and a physical " leaving" followed by 3 days of silence. Then magically she was "sick" to help her.
Im going through a divorce with a covert. I could kick myself for not seeing it sooner. She went all in, false allegations, smearing me, tryed to get my dogs put in shelter, and the list goes on. You give me strength while im going through this. I am still doubting myself from all the gaslighting!
yes! so creepy... last night i just finally have caught onto this- (the quick change in his facial expressions when i turn around to look at him when he enters the kitchen or where ever in the house etc. - its like he quickly changes his glance from me or whatever he was doing or looking at, I have no idea! Its like he looks totally lost for a split second... i am living with him still.... but there is no intimacy.. he just walks around me with his ear bud in and on his IPhone 24/7 now... (his lighting fast change in his facial expression was almost so fast i didnt catch it... well this time i did) maybe he was studying my outfit idk) he is truly the most confusing, hot/cold man with so many faces ive ever met, and yet with that has come great emotional clarity, emotional strength, and wisdom🙏☝️ ❤☝️ yes! "I no longer care"!!! 🙏☝️ its the Vibration!!! I get it!!! Thank you❤❤❤🙏☝️
They did a good job!! I can'tvrepair damages done. The damage is done. My kids think i'm the bad one and now are spinning out of control themsekves. Resupplying that hampster wheel! My kids and i that are alive ( one deceased) are not bonding as siblings and we're now estranged! Grieving the loss of them but they're alive. Good job!!! Well done!! This family is now permanently over and i'm ok with that! ENOUGH! and the lawsuit i placed , says volumes.
I’ve been his emotional punching bag for 35 years. Planning my surprise escape this year. I can hardly wait !!! I don’t give a flying fruit basket what anyone thinks, including my grown children !!! They can make me the bad guy all they want. Maybe it should’ve dawned on the little leechboy that this old Mama has had enough !!!!
Thank you, Ms. Zung. A lot of great advice, insights, and examples. Something I have tried in many emotional and/or difficult situations in my life is to think of them as my doing research for some clinical magazine or academic paper. It could be taking care of a very sick/dying loved one when you cannot afford to succumb to the emotions of it, when you have to put yourself above the feelings and weariness, so you can do whatever it is you have to do to take care of yourself while tending to the needs of the other person. Or, you are facing someone whose goal is not to enjoy a relationship of mutuality and peace and positive growth for both/all parties, but it is to one-up the other/s, even risking lowering their OWN value at times by bringing up and RELISHING the most inane "wins." If someone gives you a simple but pretty coffee mug, someone gave them one with silver sparkles. These things happening every now and then is normal and believable, but when they happen frequently and consistently, the person appears to be DRIVEN by some weird competitive force, not just sharing simple pleasures and kindnesses. What is really bizarre is when you don't even tell these people about much of anything in your life that is more colorful than beige, because of their tendency to be triggered, and they find out somehow and STILL try to outdo you. I have found some people more deserving of compassion than anger, even if we have to protect ourselves from them acting out THEIR fears - on US - on occasion. "Doing research" has helped me through some trying times. I also focus on the few people in my life who don't seem to be about these time-wasting games; they are too busy trying to make their lives and their world a better place for themselves AND for others. Thank you, again. PS I, too, have used the "scrambled eggs brain" analogy, and the endless "black hole" - that is their soul - that cannot be filled the ways they want it to be filled. I'm sure many can relate. Another description I have used, that some may identify with, is feeling as if my head is being filled with air and about to detach and float away, the stress, the distress, the disbelief are so great. This could happen in many highly charged and challenging times, but I used to feel like this when reality was trying to set in about some people in my life, and I just did not want to believe it - people I still love but simply need to be aware of. I can't say I am never provoked by these situations anymore, but it happens much less often. And, when it does, it is easier to get back on track more quickly. Have a wonderful holiday, end of '23 and a fabulous '24, to you and Everyone.
I not this might be on a different topic but I wanted to personally thankyou for all the advice you share here on TH-cam. I have been studying and watching you for a bit over a year now and have applied many of your methods which have saved me tremendously. I am using the fluff for favor and vomit later method for the court case I am currently going through. I even applied a bit of it in my divorce case over a year ago. I truly understand the small pond sacrifice I am having to give in order to receive the bigger outcome and grand scheme of things for the results needed. So thankyou from the bottom of my heart and wanted to thankyou for helping me through another case I am currently going through and know God will end soon. Be blessed and hope you have a very happy life for all your hard work and dedication that you put out here for everyone to receive. God bless and much love to you and all of your colleagues.
They will also bait the target on social media, and will obsessively track them, then comment on whether they have been on that social media outlet to the mutual friends who are their flying monkeys. It’s funny how fast they will try to control their target’s actions. That must be a lot of work to accomplish!
My mom had a narcissistic husband for the last 8 years. Whenever I tried to convince her to leave him, she said "I can't live alone", because he tried to convince her that he's indisposable. Last time they argued, he threatened to beat her and even blamed HER for his behaviour, so that was my last straw, I took her to live with me. Starting from day one, he did EXACTLY what you said in this video. He wanted to talk bad about her, EVEN TO ME. Than he did it with their friends and family. Than he told everyone he's gonna get back with his first wife (he was married twice)than he changed the lock, even though no one disturbed him. Than he started commenting bad things at her posts. Than he started messaging her to get her things out of the apartment, than he even brought them at her window (unanounced)than he took the dog's ramp down (my mom took the dog, it was her's), than he started posting victimizing quotes online, even pictures of his last wife, saying that they're good friends. Than he started visiting a friend daily, that is also my neighbour, so he can watch her closely, literally everything you said. He got no attention, no supply, I'm still waiting for some type of complaint or something from him. So creepy, at least.
Hello! Love your channel watch all the time! I wanted to say thank you for these videos you share with the world. If it weren't for people like you, spreading awareness, and educating us on the potential black hole one could fall into I wouldn't have been able to clearly identify every single step in my most recent dating experience. Love bombing Mirroring Over validating. The gifts. The effort slowly waned. This was over two months. I set some healthy boundaries when I felt disrespected and he didn't respond them.. I started to think about how I felt about him because he was always telling me how great I am. It's awesome to be complimented but I'm a human not a goddess. It felt suffocating way too familiar. the more time I spent with him, the more I saw him without the mask. And the holidays were the straw that shattered that narcissists world. I have children, a teenage son, and when I hear a grown person whine Like kid tantrum My patience disappears quickly. But despite that experience, I feel so empowered to have been able to recognize these behaviors and reflect but ultimately walk away unscathed. That's true progress. So there's one for team empath! Thanks again for sharing your information to empower the world! Happy holidays!
He kept telling me that I had lost interest in him. He set up a date. I was discarded because I didn’t asked if our date was still on or not. After the discard, is when I figured out he had found my replacement, the reason he kept trying to bate me into saying I had lost interest in him. As of now, i went no contact.
So creepy ! our neighbor is so creepy she is obsessed with us and won't leave us alone (she recently said I'm obsessed with her haha) but it is because I have to protect myself! she is a malignant narcissist so scary what she has done to us!
I chose to leave after 15 years. I got my own place. I decided to wait it out. Not to spend any money on a divorce. We have a 15 year old in Grade 9. Who chose him over me yet I do all the lifting etc. He sits back does nothing. But that's ok. I'm busy rebuilding from nothing left with nothing. But I'm going to wait for him to want or need the divorce. I am healing and its difficult be cause I didn't understand what he was doing to me. I value your insights and I'm not going to battle in the courts I'm ok being alone. But rhe day will come when he wants to divorce so I'm going to wait it out
I didn’t even realize I was in a relationship with a zNarc until I realized he was using friends and family to obtain info about me. I was the target. I really ready - beyond ready - to be done with this relationship. Go haunt someone else. Rebecca? If you see this can you entertain shedding some light. We define our relationships by boundaries. We say who we want in my circle of friends and who we don’t want. Confusion for me rose when I couldn’t answer, “what are his boundaries?” He is all over the map and adapts behaviors, that are clearly not amoung his core values , to get to me. I’ve heard you say some Narc wanted to be like you. Is that what I’m experiencing?
do you think that narcissists since they lack boundaries just go through stages of grief openly? So instead of having self control and hiding it due to ego/self respect/image. They just openly actually follow through on the urges that each stage gives a person? I could see the two getting very misconstrued during divorce. i'd also be very interested to see how many codependant people get presumed as narcissistic as well, the attachment and abandonment issues are very tandem.
Rebecca Thank you for your videos. I would like to say just one thing to you. Could you turn up the volume. I Love the Videos but I can't hear most of the time. Thanks please no offense.
Play this narcissist game with my daughter for 13 years! and then my mother is playing this Narcissis game with me for about four years. we’re both tired of narcissist!!
He doesn't contact me anymore, but moved to less than a block away from me. My biggest concern is that after I put tens of thousands of dollars into my house, deeded in my name, in a plan to flip it, that as trustee over my mom's estate, he will try to stop the sale - for no other reason than to stop what I want - and prevent me from moving far away from his sorry ass.
A guy I was seeing contacted me randomly to tell me my ex was in jail... Meaning he was keeping tabs on him. I told him to quit being a stalker and he went vile. My ex is a Dark Triad type. Narcissistic through and through. My emotions weren't bound to this dude like his were to me. Still creepy though.
Sometimes the Narcs keep calling the police, but police not stupid 😅
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What about when the narcissist is a very attractive person? Internally she's depressed paranoid super selfish and tries to rub in hows shes got plans with her (next) boyfriend?
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My ex wife doesnt Get child support payments from me anymore, And now three years later both of my children are narcissist and ignore me. I know she's brain washed them.
She is already stalking me and she is the one who would not consider a reconciliation or marriage counseling. I know she was doing dirty stuff for a while. Her big mistake was to come in extremely late and take a shower. She avoided me and would not talk. The next morning she ran the hair dryer for a very long time. She thought I would sleep through the drying of her underwear from the night before. She opened the bathroom door and her hair was extremely wet. Standing there looking at me I said to her is there something you would like to confess? She breezed past me and I continued to ask her the same question is there something you want to tell me? She flew past me and ran out the front door with her hair still wet and only one shoe on. When I walked in the bathroom she had the 2 pair of her underwear laying on the edge of the hamper and they were still steaming. All I could think was she was "Busted". This was the second time she pulled something like this, 10 years earlier she disappeared for 6 weeks with no communication with me. I almost committed suicide that time. She will not get a repeat return she will have to deal with my Attorney this time. We were 2 months short of 45 years married. WOW
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Using kids as the Flying Monkeys has kept me hanging on to my ex's Future Fakes. Now my children are adults and both narcissists. She's still doing the same shallow trashy behavior and living the selfish lifestyle. TH-cam pictures all dressed up, chocolate bunny 100%.
PPS to previous long reply: For me, when all is said and done, the healthiest way I know to navigate among the kinds of personalities you - and others - talk about is to turn everything over to God, to pray for people, and to realize that some will try to find fault NO MATTER WHAT you do, don't do, say, don't say. Some will even monitor others illegally, immorally, unethically, and/or usually stealthily, and steal those aspects/ideas of their target that they like and can try to pass off as their own. It is one thing if the target is out in the public and sharing their ideas and presenting a certain persona for all to see. The shameless mimicry and thievery are unfortunate realities of having any kind of public presence. But behaving like parasites and snakes to creep behind the scenes and do their mischief sinks these folks even lower than the others. And/or these cowardly ones take what they can twist into something negative to try to make their "obsession" look bad, evil, crazy, inept, overly emotional, naive, confused, disorganized, lazy, weak, or whatever, anything that they can use to make themselves look better in some way. And whatever evidence there is to the contrary of whatever happens to be their "accusation du jour" is routinely dismissed, ignored, devalued, or given credit for to someone or something else; they will often try to take credit themselves, if possible. . (The above is part of the smear campaign, which seems to be a constant aspect of the narcaton's Campaign of Terror, no matter how much they try to wrap their resentment, bitterness, hatred, envy, in blankets of concern for the welfore of their beloved but troubled one. How does this fake compassion reveal itself? Partly, in the very fact that these "concerns" are not brought up directly to the person him/herself, so they can be discussed, cleared up, even appreciated by the target, if there is ANY truth in them. No, they are brought up to colleagues, neighbors, even church members of the TI, but not to the person in question. Quite often these "compassionate ones" work very hard to present a stellar, righteous persona, to the world so that they will be believed by all but the most discerning, often those experienced in such despicable - and far too common - dynamics.) And if they cannot take credit for, or compete with, the positive aspects of their target, themselves, they will credit someone else or praise someone else for the very things their TI has been doing for years that they have never acknowledged, and probably never will. If they truly felt better, would they have to resort to covert methods to diminish someone else? If they truly felt secure in their alleged strengths, would they have to try to make someone else appear weak or "less than" in some way in order to feel better? Would they try to sabotage the person's very livelihood? cause divisions with neighbors? separate friends? even try to control the spiritual life of another, trying to take the place of God in the life of their person of interest? Would they act so threatened by those they try to present to the world as inferior to them, if their targets really were inferior in any significant way/s? You tell me. Putting God first in my life has helped me to forgive myself and others, not worry about what negative things some may say or think or believe about me - unless it happens to be true; in which case, I use it as a way to improve - and to focus on the good that can be part of most situations, the gold that can be mined in the most treacherous caves. Some situations are easier than others, for sure. And focus on the good one can do in life, "to BE the change" one wants to see in the world. AND to focus on the few like-minded folks God blesses you with in your life to share your thoughts with and form a great community if/when possible. These people who are mutually minded: mutually respectful, loving, encouraging, acknowledging are rarer than unicorns and more precious than a huge blue diamond and are to be treasured. But they ARE out there. Don't give up. Thank you, again, Ms. Zung. Your message inspired a lot of responses from me today. You mentioned, "Narc, be gone!" This reminds me of an on-line coach Dr. Ben Leichtling, whose channel is named, "Bullies, Be Gone," whom I recommend for help in dealing with bully/narc/difficult personalities. I like your channel and others as well.
Seriously, all that shit just reminds me of what I do not want in my life. I reckon it was smeering me at least 5 years ago. About the time I didnt die from breast cancer, so it didnt get my house.
I’ve recognized…think I recognize …elements of a cult.Could you draw some distinctions between the average Joe/Narc and the group leader that demonstrates Narc tendencies.
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What happens when you miss your I miss your ex wife who was a narcissist? What happens when you find out she has slept with over thirty men in her life 15 years after the divorce? I most recently had a dream about my ex wife and children and I woke up. I haven't seen her in over a year and I fell back in love with her. I've been trying to call her and she's blocked me.
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I'll see you all there!
You sign them. Plain and simple. You get out of their way.
You let them live and run into their own walls!
Without YOU there, guiding them from slamming into them headfirst,like you have been, all this time .
Sad to say, at this point when THEY go as far as to end a marriage or primary long-term agreement/business partnership, or relationship, They likely have a new supply, (and maybe even a back-up to that NEW supply), like mine did..waiting in the wings on the outside! Ready to guide them through the divorce, see them to the other side, then likely- they’ll soon begin the love bomb- devalue, discard with their newbies before/during/ or after the divorce is finalized.
A lot of times, sadly, before you even saw ANY of this coming, the narcissist has completely devalued you,to the new suppl(ies), your/their family, mutual and newly made friends, and have released their flying monkeys in advance, for a significant time before securing, and fully capturing the infatuation/reciprocity of the NEW partner/supply, and making the decision to divorce you.
Run.
Hold on tight! You're about to be devastated. Even if you dont sign the papers it will go thru in time. I swore to never leave my wife and she lied and cheated and divorced me. She was a narcissist and met up with old friends and drugs were involved. 17 years have past and Im still devastated. She took everything and didnt care. Now shes on her 10th boyfriend since me and both of my kids are narcissists.
so creepy
Divorcing my narcissist wife has been hell, but honestly, its also the happiest I have been in decades
I can do hard things
narc be gone
Youre A bigger man than me. I swore I would never divorce my wife. Time went by and next thing I know she divorced me
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@@jwillis479 same here Buddy !
My dad said that a narcissist must be miserable to act that way. Such a wise statement
Your dad was right! Too bad when you love someone we cant see it that way for some reason
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It has been 9 months since he ended the relationship. I went no contact and I'm still alone and happy. I'm finally at peace.
Totally
Youre happy being alone? I live alone and I couldn't be any more anxious and depressed.
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Being single is great
What does “CPU” mean that you refer to?
Everything you said is exactly what happened to me. You helped me recognizing that I was in a toxic relationship and with a NAR
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I am one of the lucky ones. It only lasted 6 months and $3,000 dollars before I caught onto their game. I am very thankful for all the stories and information this podcast provides.
They are so CREEPY
NARC BE GONE!!!!!!!🤬👹😡
Right
His new supply is 2 blocks from my house. He makes sure to park his car right out front so I see it daily… Funny thing is, he talked so badly about this lady prior in our 3 1/2 yr relationship. I had that gut feeling about them, and totally ignored it. He love bombed me and cried, then was with her right after.
Listen to Rebecca at least few times a day
It helps
Thanks
Was definitely doing 90% of the work. When I was at my lowest point I was sooo low and looked so sick.. he tells me to go and talk to someone else about my problems after 8 years of being together and there are so many things that have happened
I needed this. Currently dealing with an ex narcissist
Iam too. I was over her. I had a dream about ber and my children. I woke up and fell back in love with her and wanted my family back. That was three weeks ago and I still haven't shaken this. Why did this happen how did it happen What am I supposed to do?
They are like octopuses. They have had so many suction cups.Then, once the supply runs low ,they'll lose their grip.The ink goes dry.Prepare yourself.❤❤
They are the most frightening liars..
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You are spot on. I went through exactly every stage in the exact order you described.
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12 years is hard to get over, but slowly I feel differently about the narc. Booted in mind, still not working in my heart yet.
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@@RebeccaZungEsq Thank you!! I am so betrayal shy I needed to be invited, otherwise my heart feels butt hurt the first second one of my wounds gets grazed, of course in my own mind only, I just grew up gas lit and scaoe goated, so the walls, the outer shell is on alert, interpreting danger all around me, my issues have issues!! 🫠😘🙃
@ Maytheforce
I felt that!! Feel those feelings then let them go🙏🙏 because you deserve better 🌹
I kicked him out 15 months ago and life is so much better he still wants to be friends with me and was going alright until he found a new supply so now he's in his honeymoon stage with her and whenever he talks to me he's the same abusive arhshole again tells me he still loves me and will look after me I just laugh keeps on telling me how much in love he is with her and she's so beautiful so I said that's good your convincing yourself all this I don't care have a happy life I'll get a divorce next year so you can marry her he's not going to get married ever again he told me that's up to him I don't care obviously he thinks he's trying to hurt me again but it isn't working any more I'm happy on my own and having a great time with my friends bugger him
Has anyone introduced anything to our government about possibly making narcissist behavior a crime?
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Instead of seeing the narcissist as a dumb ass and repeating that negative sentence, ask myself, “what is it in me that needs to allow this person to label me?”
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Excellence - they hate that. They can’t raise their level so they try to bring you down to theirs
They need the source of supply the negative emotions they inflict on other people to feed the demons that are within them
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I tried to leave for 1 year and something. I lived under threat for more than 1.5 years. At my smallest mistake it was always a threat and a physical " leaving" followed by 3 days of silence. Then magically she was "sick" to help her.
Im going through a divorce with a covert. I could kick myself for not seeing it sooner. She went all in, false allegations, smearing me, tryed to get my dogs put in shelter, and the list goes on. You give me strength while im going through this. I am still doubting myself from all the gaslighting!
So creepy, he wanted it all…
Chewed me and spit me like an old piece of gum!
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yes! so creepy... last night i just finally have caught onto this- (the quick change in his facial expressions when i turn around to look at him when he enters the kitchen or where ever in the house etc. - its like he quickly changes his glance from me or whatever he was doing or looking at, I have no idea! Its like he looks totally lost for a split second... i am living with him still.... but there is no intimacy.. he just walks around me with his ear bud in and on his IPhone 24/7 now... (his lighting fast change in his facial expression was almost so fast i didnt catch it... well this time i did) maybe he was studying my outfit idk) he is truly the most confusing, hot/cold man with so many faces ive ever met, and yet with that has come great emotional clarity, emotional strength, and wisdom🙏☝️ ❤☝️ yes! "I no longer care"!!! 🙏☝️ its the Vibration!!! I get it!!! Thank you❤❤❤🙏☝️
I can do strong things.
Thanks a lot for all your videos, I love watching them as they are very educational. We are lucky to have you. ❤❤❤
1:13:00 never explain justify or over share🎉🎉🎉 1:13:11
They did a good job!! I can'tvrepair damages done. The damage is done. My kids think i'm the bad one and now are spinning out of control themsekves. Resupplying that hampster wheel! My kids and i that are alive ( one deceased) are not bonding as siblings and we're now estranged! Grieving the loss of them but they're alive. Good job!!! Well done!! This family is now permanently over and i'm ok with that! ENOUGH! and the lawsuit i placed , says volumes.
I’ve been his emotional punching bag for 35 years. Planning my surprise escape this year. I can hardly wait !!! I don’t give a flying fruit basket what anyone thinks, including my grown children !!! They can make me the bad guy all they want. Maybe it should’ve dawned on the little leechboy that this old Mama has had enough !!!!
Thats DAM Right! Praise God
Good girl! Leave him. I left 12 years ago and FINALLY there is a judge listening to me…
THATS DAM RIGHT REBEL LIKE HELL ENOUGH IS ENOUGH DAMMIT!!!!!!!!!!!!
Good for you!! Please be safe but get away!!! I will pray for you!! 😊
I’ve said to narc “I never loved you” too…. For a minute I doubt myself for being narc, oh no! Have any of you done that?
The Narcissist industry has really taken off. Inevitably at the end of most TH-cam post's there's a website to click on for coaching 💰
You look and sound very well Rebecca. I like this talk, and i like your progress since i started watching nearly a couple years ago.. Ty. Anna.
Thank you, Ms. Zung. A lot of great advice, insights, and examples. Something I have tried in many emotional and/or difficult situations in my life is to think of them as my doing research for some clinical magazine or academic paper. It could be taking care of a very sick/dying loved one when you cannot afford to succumb to the emotions of it, when you have to put yourself above the feelings and weariness, so you can do whatever it is you have to do to take care of yourself while tending to the needs of the other person. Or, you are facing someone whose goal is not to enjoy a relationship of mutuality and peace and positive growth for both/all parties, but it is to one-up the other/s, even risking lowering their OWN value at times by bringing up and RELISHING the most inane "wins." If someone gives you a simple but pretty coffee mug, someone gave them one with silver sparkles. These things happening every now and then is normal and believable, but when they happen frequently and consistently, the person appears to be DRIVEN by some weird competitive force, not just sharing simple pleasures and kindnesses. What is really bizarre is when you don't even tell these people about much of anything in your life that is more colorful than beige, because of their tendency to be triggered, and they find out somehow and STILL try to outdo you. I have found some people more deserving of compassion than anger, even if we have to protect ourselves from them acting out THEIR fears - on US - on occasion. "Doing research" has helped me through some trying times.
I also focus on the few people in my life who don't seem to be about these time-wasting games; they are too busy trying to make their lives and their world a better place for themselves AND for others. Thank you, again.
PS I, too, have used the "scrambled eggs brain" analogy, and the endless "black hole" - that is their soul - that cannot be filled the ways they want it to be filled. I'm sure many can relate. Another description I have used, that some may identify with, is feeling as if my head is being filled with air and about to detach and float away, the stress, the distress, the disbelief are so great. This could happen in many highly charged and challenging times, but I used to feel like this when reality was trying to set in about some people in my life, and I just did not want to believe it - people I still love but simply need to be aware of. I can't say I am never provoked by these situations anymore, but it happens much less often. And, when it does, it is easier to get back on track more quickly. Have a wonderful holiday, end of '23 and a fabulous '24, to you and Everyone.
Yes Rebecca 💕So Creepy! they love to compare! It’s draining even on special occasions 🙏❤️❤️❤️
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I not this might be on a different topic but I wanted to personally thankyou for all the advice you share here on TH-cam. I have been studying and watching you for a bit over a year now and have applied many of your methods which have saved me tremendously. I am using the fluff for favor and vomit later method for the court case I am currently going through. I even applied a bit of it in my divorce case over a year ago. I truly understand the small pond sacrifice I am having to give in order to receive the bigger outcome and grand scheme of things for the results needed. So thankyou from the bottom of my heart and wanted to thankyou for helping me through another case I am currently going through and know God will end soon. Be blessed and hope you have a very happy life for all your hard work and dedication that you put out here for everyone to receive. God bless and much love to you and all of your colleagues.
NARC BE GONE 👍👍
They will also bait the target on social media, and will obsessively track them, then comment on whether they have been on that social media outlet to the mutual friends who are their flying monkeys. It’s funny how fast they will try to control their target’s actions.
That must be a lot of work to accomplish!
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I can do hard things!
Thank you, Rebecca.
My mom had a narcissistic husband for the last 8 years. Whenever I tried to convince her to leave him, she said "I can't live alone", because he tried to convince her that he's indisposable. Last time they argued, he threatened to beat her and even blamed HER for his behaviour, so that was my last straw, I took her to live with me. Starting from day one, he did EXACTLY what you said in this video. He wanted to talk bad about her, EVEN TO ME. Than he did it with their friends and family. Than he told everyone he's gonna get back with his first wife (he was married twice)than he changed the lock, even though no one disturbed him. Than he started commenting bad things at her posts. Than he started messaging her to get her things out of the apartment, than he even brought them at her window (unanounced)than he took the dog's ramp down (my mom took the dog, it was her's), than he started posting victimizing quotes online, even pictures of his last wife, saying that they're good friends. Than he started visiting a friend daily, that is also my neighbour, so he can watch her closely, literally everything you said. He got no attention, no supply, I'm still waiting for some type of complaint or something from him. So creepy, at least.
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Love your channel watch all the time!
I wanted to say thank you for these videos you share with the world. If it weren't for people like you, spreading awareness, and educating us on the potential black hole one could fall into I wouldn't have been able to clearly identify every single step in my most recent dating experience.
Love bombing
Mirroring
Over validating.
The gifts. The effort slowly waned. This was over two months. I set some healthy boundaries when I felt disrespected and he didn't respond them.. I started to think about how I felt about him because he was always telling me how great I am. It's awesome to be complimented but I'm a human not a goddess. It felt suffocating way too familiar.
the more time I spent with him, the more I saw him without the mask. And the holidays were the straw that shattered that narcissists world. I have children, a teenage son, and when I hear a grown person whine
Like kid tantrum
My patience disappears quickly.
But despite that experience, I feel so empowered to have been able to recognize these behaviors and reflect but ultimately walk away unscathed.
That's true progress.
So there's one for team empath!
Thanks again for sharing your information to empower the world!
Happy holidays!
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Thanks for all your help they are so creepy
Very helpful
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I love how you delete all comments that disagree with you! It speaks wonders about you!!!
1:02:36 bait
Trigger
I'm not ever going Back thanks rebecca
He kept telling me that I had lost interest in him. He set up a date. I was discarded because I didn’t asked if our date was still on or not. After the discard, is when I figured out he had found my replacement, the reason he kept trying to bate me into saying I had lost interest in him. As of now, i went no contact.
This ends now.
So creepy!
Thank you rebecca 🌷
So creepy ! our neighbor is so creepy she is obsessed with us and won't leave us alone (she recently said I'm obsessed with her haha) but it is because I have to protect myself! she is a malignant narcissist so scary what she has done to us!
What a blesing
SLAY !!!! On Mon 👍👍
“So creepy” 😂😂😂
I chose to leave after 15 years. I got my own place. I decided to wait it out. Not to spend any money on a divorce. We have a 15 year old in Grade 9. Who chose him over me yet I do all the lifting etc. He sits back does nothing. But that's ok. I'm busy rebuilding from nothing left with nothing. But I'm going to wait for him to want or need the divorce. I am healing and its difficult be cause I didn't understand what he was doing to me. I value your insights and I'm not going to battle in the courts I'm ok being alone. But rhe day will come when he wants to divorce so I'm going to wait it out
TOTALLY 💪
I didn’t even realize I was in a relationship with a zNarc until I realized he was using friends and family to obtain info about me. I was the target. I really ready - beyond ready - to be done with this relationship. Go haunt someone else. Rebecca? If you see this can you entertain shedding some light. We define our relationships by boundaries. We say who we want in my circle of friends and who we don’t want. Confusion for me rose when I couldn’t answer, “what are his boundaries?” He is all over the map and adapts behaviors, that are clearly not amoung his core values , to get to me. I’ve heard you say some Narc wanted to be like you. Is that what I’m experiencing?
SLAY
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She would have the creepiest stare for moments on end. I never understood why!
SLAY🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 1:10:23
No theres no peace with with them or without them
Running away as fast as I can
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SSSSOOOO CREEPY!!! 😳
do you think that narcissists since they lack boundaries just go through stages of grief openly? So instead of having self control and hiding it due to ego/self respect/image. They just openly actually follow through on the urges that each stage gives a person?
I could see the two getting very misconstrued during divorce.
i'd also be very interested to see how many codependant people get presumed as narcissistic as well, the attachment and abandonment issues are very tandem.
So crazy.
She did everything talked about here.
Also, going as far as We were never in a relationship.
Hahahaha
Totally
Rebecca Thank you for your videos. I would like to say just one thing to you. Could you turn up the volume. I Love the Videos but I can't hear most of the time. Thanks please no offense.
Hi. Why? Why can't they change? Others go through abuse and change, so why can't they change?
This ends now !
Give I the creeps such monitoring 👻
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Play this narcissist game with my daughter for 13 years! and then my mother is playing this Narcissis game with me for about four years. we’re both tired of narcissist!!
How do you handle a Narc boss/ supervisor differently?
He doesn't contact me anymore, but moved to less than a block away from me. My biggest concern is that after I put tens of thousands of dollars into my house, deeded in my name, in a plan to flip it, that as trustee over my mom's estate, he will try to stop the sale - for no other reason than to stop what I want - and prevent me from moving far away from his sorry ass.
No im going back down from the money i need to survive
A guy I was seeing contacted me randomly to tell me my ex was in jail... Meaning he was keeping tabs on him. I told him to quit being a stalker and he went vile.
My ex is a Dark Triad type. Narcissistic through and through.
My emotions weren't bound to this dude like his were to me.
Still creepy though.
Ignoring me. Can they ever spokogize
TOTALLY
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Where did they get this hole?
yep and they stalk you til you call cops cops cops etc. get weapons. theyre crazy.
I know, right?
Also if they have any handicap they are worse !
Sometimes the Narcs keep calling the police, but police not stupid 😅
What about when the narcissist is a very attractive person? Internally she's depressed paranoid super selfish and tries to rub in hows shes got plans with her (next) boyfriend?
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My ex wife doesnt Get child support payments from me anymore, And now three years later both of my children are narcissist and ignore me. I know she's brain washed them.
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I was arrested to
Slay
SO CREEPY.. THAT STARE ! OMG..
I'm still waiting for a response . How much longer were you planning on waiting ? This is getting extremely frustrating.
This and’s now 😉
She is already stalking me and she is the one who would not consider a reconciliation or marriage counseling. I know she was doing dirty stuff for a while. Her big mistake was to come in extremely late and take a shower. She avoided me and would not talk. The next morning she ran the hair dryer for a very long time. She thought I would sleep through the drying of her underwear from the night before. She opened the bathroom door and her hair was extremely wet. Standing there looking at me I said to her is there something you would like to confess? She breezed past me and I continued to ask her the same question is there something you want to tell me? She flew past me and ran out the front door with her hair still wet and only one shoe on. When I walked in the bathroom she had the 2 pair of her underwear laying on the edge of the hamper and they were still steaming. All I could think was she was "Busted". This was the second time she pulled something like this, 10 years earlier she disappeared for 6 weeks with no communication with me. I almost committed suicide that time. She will not get a repeat return she will have to deal with my Attorney this time. We were 2 months short of 45 years married. WOW
Using kids as the Flying Monkeys has kept me hanging on to my ex's Future Fakes. Now my children are adults and both narcissists. She's still doing the same shallow trashy behavior and living the selfish lifestyle. TH-cam pictures all dressed up, chocolate bunny 100%.
PPS to previous long reply: For me, when all is said and done, the healthiest way I know to navigate among the kinds of personalities you - and others - talk about is to turn everything over to God, to pray for people, and to realize that some will try to find fault NO MATTER WHAT you do, don't do, say, don't say. Some will even monitor others illegally, immorally, unethically, and/or usually stealthily, and steal those aspects/ideas of their target that they like and can try to pass off as their own. It is one thing if the target is out in the public and sharing their ideas and presenting a certain persona for all to see. The shameless mimicry and thievery are unfortunate realities of having any kind of public presence. But behaving like parasites and snakes to creep behind the scenes and do their mischief sinks these folks even lower than the others. And/or these cowardly ones take what they can twist into something negative to try to make their "obsession" look bad, evil, crazy, inept, overly emotional, naive, confused, disorganized, lazy, weak, or whatever, anything that they can use to make themselves look better in some way. And whatever evidence there is to the contrary of whatever happens to be their "accusation du jour" is routinely dismissed, ignored, devalued, or given credit for to someone or something else; they will often try to take credit themselves, if possible. . (The above is part of the smear campaign, which seems to be a constant aspect of the narcaton's Campaign of Terror, no matter how much they try to wrap their resentment, bitterness, hatred, envy, in blankets of concern for the welfore of their beloved but troubled one. How does this fake compassion reveal itself? Partly, in the very fact that these "concerns" are not brought up directly to the person him/herself, so they can be discussed, cleared up, even appreciated by the target, if there is ANY truth in them. No, they are brought up to colleagues, neighbors, even church members of the TI, but not to the person in question. Quite often these "compassionate ones" work very hard to present a stellar, righteous persona, to the world so that they will be believed by all but the most discerning, often those experienced in such despicable - and far too common - dynamics.) And if they cannot take credit for, or compete with, the positive aspects of their target, themselves, they will credit someone else or praise someone else for the very things their TI has been doing for years that they have never acknowledged, and probably never will. If they truly felt better, would they have to resort to covert methods to diminish someone else? If they truly felt secure in their alleged strengths, would they have to try to make someone else appear weak or "less than" in some way in order to feel better? Would they try to sabotage the person's very livelihood? cause divisions with neighbors? separate friends? even try to control the spiritual life of another, trying to take the place of God in the life of their person of interest? Would they act so threatened by those they try to present to the world as inferior to them, if their targets really were inferior in any significant way/s? You tell me. Putting God first in my life has helped me to forgive myself and others, not worry about what negative things some may say or think or believe about me - unless it happens to be true; in which case, I use it as a way to improve - and to focus on the good that can be part of most situations, the gold that can be mined in the most treacherous caves. Some situations are easier than others, for sure. And focus on the good one can do in life, "to BE the change" one wants to see in the world. AND to focus on the few like-minded folks God blesses you with in your life to share your thoughts with and form a great community if/when possible. These people who are mutually minded: mutually respectful, loving, encouraging, acknowledging are rarer than unicorns and more precious than a huge blue diamond and are to be treasured. But they ARE out there. Don't give up. Thank you, again, Ms. Zung. Your message inspired a lot of responses from me today. You mentioned, "Narc, be gone!" This reminds me of an on-line coach Dr. Ben Leichtling, whose channel is named, "Bullies, Be Gone," whom I recommend for help in dealing with bully/narc/difficult personalities. I like your channel and others as well.
SO CREEPY💯
So creepy! He's a stalker too
Seriously, all that shit just reminds me of what I do not want in my life. I reckon it was smeering me at least 5 years ago. About the time I didnt die from breast cancer, so it didnt get my house.
I’ve recognized…think I recognize …elements of a cult.Could you draw some distinctions between the average Joe/Narc and the group leader that demonstrates Narc tendencies.
What happens when you miss your I miss your ex wife who was a narcissist? What happens when you find out she has slept with over thirty men in her life 15 years after the divorce? I most recently had a dream about my ex wife and children and I woke up. I haven't seen her in over a year and I fell back in love with her. I've been trying to call her and she's blocked me.
They can do better without us we are exusted
NARC BE GONE NOW!!!
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