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I'm from India and financially crippled due to my husband's finance controlling tactics, my marriage is of 30 years , My younger son is helping me out and supporting me , I am watching your videos and have learnt lot from it but , what can I do when lawyers are compromised at the hands of my husband's money power.How many times I have to go on changing my lawyer and how to tackle such situations because the lawyers are too intimidating me now is my problem,they are deliberately delaying the hearing stage by one or the other way.
I know who i am. Just wanted to say a huge thank you rebecca. I have watched your videos and implimented them for a couple of years now. I am now 2 years out of a covert narcissistic marriage. It took some time but watching your videos has made me grow from a downtrodden shell to now i am happy, confident and know how to make boundaries. I couldnt have done it without you so a huge thank you tebecca. X
I documented everything on a co-worker and threatened to expose him… then filed my official report. He went berserk. It was wonderful. And now he will be fired. ❤
Fantastic, congratulations! I want that to my evil-project leader. I am also collecting a report! I am going to send it to her bosses boss when I leave - I have a new job waiting!
Yes, after decades in a relationship with my narcissistic spouse, we agreed to split a year and a half ago. Since then, he has done everything he can to run up my legal costs, delay the sale of our family home, and avoid a separation agreement. We are still living, although separately and uncomfortably, in the same house. Against legal advice, I am thankful that I was able to support our young adult children (who I love so much) to leave home and start living their lives independently while I continue to deal with their father. Last month, he finally appeared in court. Leaving him is costly and emotionally draining but I am determined to live my remaining years free from his manipulative and punitive control.
At the time my whole world was turned upside down. and I told him that. From day 1 of our relationship I told him that communication is the key.... not realising that communicating was never going to be a strong point. I question everything and he clammed up and did not respond except superficially.. yes or no answers or ignoring what I've asked..
Call them out every time you catch them lying even in front of friend and family they cannot stand it and soon their family will follow lead and start calling them out to and their day literally turns to 💩 n they are like a cat in a cage cannot even stand theirselves oh and quit having intimate relations with them , no big deal I sleep just fine and it has been almost a year and a half, I set boundaries and have my own room he cannot come in nor sleep in my bed , i am done
My narc husband of 21 years threatened to ruin every aspect of my life. Financially, professionally, ruin my reputation etc. He wouldn't get divorced and kept disappearing and changing lawyers. He didn't turn up at court. I had to take out loan after loan whilst working a full time job, paying the mortgage and looking after my three sons. There were times I went without food. We were living pay check to pay check and my overdraft at the bank was maxed out. Eventually the judge ordered his arrest for contempt of court. He soon signed all the papers. Then dragged the sale of our house out for two years. Once again the court ordered him to take the next fair offer on the house. I look back now with relief. Getting rid of him was the best thing I did. Freedom and peace is worth every penny.
Thanks for the education!! I'm a recovering alcoholic! 2 years sober after having 6 years then a relapse. My brother is hell bent on me relapsing.. he's a covert narcissist...Not in this lifetime satin. Mad Respect!!
I have been doing this ,and ignoring them in subtle ways, and I finally left just after New Years Eve for good. The only way to win is to leave the relationship for good! I have no desire to be with a 57 year old toddler. Not attractive. Move on goodbye exactly! I also told her I have more options than her. I believe this, and I suspect she does as well. She made this last projection She stated: "You can't hurt me anymore" PROJECTION to PERFECTION!!!
Thank you for all your help. I just had a custody trial for my 7 year old who was in the custody of my ex for 2 years. His motion was full of lies and later in the trial he contradicted himself saying something completely different. We are still waiting judges orders but it was glorifying saying thats not true. Here’s the evidence. He tried saying I showed no interest in my child’s life. I kept all emails and documentation for the last 2 years. 🎉 save everything!!
Hi all. Red flags. My opinions from fact. The male and female versions are very charming ,funny,usually pristine in appearance,loud but self effacing .some act like a victim. If someone befriends you,REMEMBER,You dont have to be friends with everyone follow your gut ever single time. They copy your personality so you talk and talk,they want to destroy you right from the beginning to get your light to survive. They gossip big time.they never tell you any feelings they have,or insecurities,they ask what your upto but you dont get a proper interested response. They will give tons of compliments on your apperance but not in your skills etc,they love to be admired,they are full on needing and taking your time,they hate to be alone. They give back handed snide remarks ,mimmick you and cant ever say sorry. They ask to meet up and then guide the whole thing in what they want to do. Change plans last minute. They act loving sexual,it doesnt last,they are in bed with you,thinking of their next victim,keeping a new supply i a closet just encase they are abandoned. They are actually quite boring,no debth,dead eyes ,they know everything about others or have done great things.on and on. They dont listen well,no empathy. They are fakes. Just be private until you really know someone. 🙏🏼
You are wonderful! Thank you! I'm reading your book. I can use this bag of tricks because I still see him in social circles. I wish I could stay away from him, but we are in the same hiking group. I'm a caregiver and it's hard to find another group that fits my schedule. He told me when we started dating that I should not let others know that we were together in the group. He said to act like it was platonic, even after he asked me to be his girlfriend. Basically I was his "secret" in the group. Now that we broke up, the new woman he met in the group he acknowledges their together in front of others. He's rubbing it in my face. He would be driven crazy with all these tactics. He is indeed a narcissist.
YES!!!!! And if you’re in the same house, trying to get away (as I am) it can be extremely dangerous! Not to mention that what they do can drive you insane to use a word from the past. They fool everyone including police.
I agree. I would like to know what Rebecca can advise in case of this possibillity. I would think to document...but I suffered so much with brain fogg and other fights to survive in every area of the house( and his working from home since covid uptill now...having his temper and rage of the frustrations of his work and people that struggle to get on or understand his indifference); right here in our home. It is toxic! I'm to afraid to report him to get out of the house and back to the office.But that would help so much. Horrible person to live with. I would like to hear about trust worthy recording advices that could be recomended and could be use in court.
Yes!!! Oh my goodness I did most of this all at once much of it naturally because it was just “too much insanity ridden drama”. … however this became a crap show when I removed myself with in the residence so I had to go a step further and move out of the residence, to regain some sane control and composure. This made it easier to see all of the manipulation and disingenuous apologies…. Of which I still called out … SMH My personality doesn’t do well with these types because I can only keep my mouth shut for one second….especially when the decisions are dumb as hell or acts of poor character. I disagreed and called out stuff as soon as the mask started to crack.
I did not suffer violence within this relationship fortunately. Maybe as we didn't spend enough time together for me to stand my ground. I did when we were around each other. Towards the end I made sure I left no stone unturned. He would apologise if I caught him in a lie. I encouraged him to tell me the truth if he wanted to help himself and that truth created respect.. He'd spent his whole life lying andanipulating. Iwas so shocked despite early red flags... (you don't exactly see them as red flags as such until you reflect. If someone tells you about past behaviour that isn't cool you think they would not mention it unless they had changed.. Yes they give you loads of clues about past relationships whilst either saying they have changed or boasting how if they weren't happy they just walked.
I have a narcisstic business partner and we’re currently going through a divorce. Nothing made the guy more insane than when I would only communicate with him via my lawyer.
I don't even laugh. I just go like I'm blind and deaf. Avoid their presence. It's great with a voice cancelling earphones and bluetooth. Songs are good for positive built inside.
I'm even going to retake a course in counselling and take it much further..to complete higher levels in counselling. Personal experience creates an 'expert' (I use the term loosely) in the field of suffering due to negative behaviour patterns that is to say being a victim of such behaviour means I can identify with every behaviour pattern described
Totally! My 43 year old daughter. She would never take no for an answer. I believe she was born with it. When I was spoon feeding her baby food as an 8 or 9 month old baby, she would look at me and shove her hand into the back of her throat and propel tons of vomit all over me. What baby even knows how to do that? Not just one time, over and over again. She would also smear poop all over the wall and her crib. If she saw it upset me, she loved it and would keep doing it. At about nine years old she tried to blackmail me. She threatened to tell my parents I had bought myself a leather jacket on sale when I still owed them money if I didn't do something or buy something for her. As soon as she could talk she would compliment strangers on their clothes or tell women they were pretty. It was really weird. As a teenager would lie about what restaurant she ate at. When I asked her what she ate, she would have to admit she didn't eat there because she didn't know their menu and I did. I truly believe she is a demon seed.
Rebecca ZUNG, lawyer magnifique, facts, precise, sharp, penetrative, hypersonic missile targetted cross-examination with iron dome shield defence that pleads the case to victory during prima facie, I appreciate your incisive decisive thinking and actions.
My half brother ruined our family, stole my gpa’s inheritance and caused my mom to be homeless and wouldn’t even let her in the house he stole that was my gpa’s. She almost died living in her car at age 77.
They are nothing but common thieves, I am asking my attorney to file a motion to sanction them $1,000 a day, they breeched confidentiality used estate funds to seek an attorneys services to perpetuate a crime & fraud. it's all evidenced within the accounting judge just ordered the liar to do within 30 days, 4 years late.
@9:38 Narcissists are some sick ass pwopkle been through 3 of them bacvk to back before I wised up.. Totalt lifetime count has been around 20 wish I knew this stuff when I was 3yrs. old. I would have gotten the f away from my parents,
I owe my ex some thanks. He's helped me to realise he's nit the first Narcissist I've been out with. Now I can work on mysrlf and to not ree attract them. I'd like to focus on other things in my life.. Hmn relationships are now secondary whilst I push fowrd to reach my goals with (no looking backward.. only forward. (Ofcourse I'm. not fully recovered.. that will take some time. If I don't admit that to myself that it will take time.. I would be heading for fall and living within a lie all over again, 🌞🌹
When I took control of my culvert narcissist wife. I used to tell her when she tried to push my buttons that I don't care anymore and I really don't because the only reason you don't bother me no more is because I don't love you anymore and the only people I Love can hurt me. And she was just speechless. I tell her I have to go I have friends that are not your friends and I will never introduce you to them because I don't need someone like you in my life.
The C-Narc in my life always called his put-downs, name calling, comparing, criticism and belittling of me "constructive criticism". And when I would try to give him honest feedback to point out a negative behavior in the nicest way possible, he'd get so upset. The man cannot take what he dishes out. The double standard is pathetic.
Have a coworker that is a covert narcissist. I turned the tables on her & cut her off (don’t speak to her) & she decided to be passive aggressive. Like throwing mail at me while working on my desktop. I didn’t react. I sent email to boss letting him know that mail delivery is being changed to gather at 1 location & everyone picks up their own mail. She is now sulking & every time I pass her in hallway she sneers at me. But after I pass her I smile to myself. 😂
Totally! Ugggh trying to prevent his latest supply from falling for his crap again😔I had the misfortune of going back for the abuse to only get worse! I don't think there is anything I can tell her that will make her listen bc I was there myself!
I have a narcissistic "family" they do the strangest and sometimes sexual assault to get my attention and even that no one believs me and the gaslighting 24/7 how do you deal with them 24/7?
Mine never once blew up my phone until he knew I was visiting a guy friend. He was drunk and I assumed that's why he did it. Other than that he never lacked boundaries. I did because I became obsessive.
Question Rebecca, how would a narc take it if I were to say, I know you are a narc, I am a super empath, We’re never gonna see eye to eye, Just stay away from me?
He tried to change by himself many years ago when someone called him a psychopath. That was in his early 20's when I first knew him. Everyone knew he was a bit 'off kilter' .. even he knew but we thought maybe he had ADHD (ADD) He didn't want to be a psychopath! Tried to change his negative behaviour. Knowing what I now know about there's no way he could just try to reinvent himself (If anything he may have become the worst version possible of himself and developed into a fully fledged member of 'Malignanant Narcissists club' He honed his craft'.
Do you offer guidance in how to deal with a aggressive, harassment driven male narc who returned to the scene of the crime after a 2 year relationship. Very hard to experience yet believe. Information is being shared with dangerous people. Have made myself scarce. Hard to do. Being followed. Any inspiration would be treasured.
I'm five years in dealing with a narcissist,my mother is her source which stupidly I didn't know,I have great fun now feeding my mother rubbish stories because I know it gets fed back, I have friends my mother has no access to which is wonderful because they work on my friends if they can get to them to tell them stories about me, I have lost countless family members and friend's because they can get to them, I would dearly love to know what they tell these people to turn them against me ? Why do they hate me so much? It's because I'm a good person, people like me,and they are insane,scary and insecure, she has won one round by taking my son away from me but I'm on to her now☺
How come the say the no contact order is for either of us to no contact yet they continue to randomly send me messages to try and get a response or have their flying monkeys to send random one word text is this considered to harassment or just attempts to get a emotional reaction?
If my lawyer herself does all this techniques to bully me to loose my oneself, intimidate me in the case so that my husband can get through what he wants, till date I have changed three lawyers in a row, I have all evidences but they are delaying the hearing from past two years , sometimes I feel like to run from everything, along with this they are playing lot of mind games in the court premises which use to affect me but I have now learnt to deal with it
🙋🏻♀️ My severely NPD Chinese mother does this thing where during the process of me gray/yellow rocking and transitioning into no contact (without any explanation from me, of course, she’s fully aware of what she said and did) where she’ll harass everyone around me, including my husband and MIL, blowing their phones up with texts and calls pretending like she’s genuinely confused about why she’s being blocked when in reality she just refuses to be ignored due to the need for control and her ego. What is this behavior/action of hers called? I cannot find anything about it anywhere, it’s so frustrating. What should the people around me do? Should they also block her? Please help ☹️
I love these videos, and this presenter. I dont totally buy into the narc empath spectrum. I think differrent people have diffeerent currency..long story... e.g. compliments.... emotional innvestment... too long to write heere
I can’t take the abuse anymore I’m 50 and just going through the process of disassociating myself from this situation I can’t take the pressure anymore and the lies that my Monster 👿 I mean Mother is trying to shame me into bending to her version of reality by devaluing my pain and suffering. I simply will never be and have never been giving the same treatment as she gives my other siblings. I refuse to be her punching bag any longer or be one of her sick followers like my siblings are! She never did give me the same respect of keeping my own personal hurt that I mistakenly thought I could cry to her and express my hurt feelings her lol what a shame why I don’t have the same respect as my other siblings where she keeps their feelings secret but displays my pain like it’s a joke is so hard for me to swallow. I’m having a war in my head with mind exploding realizations that I’m just now unraveling at 50 in therapy!!! I’m bent but not broken … I don’t need a group of followers to validate my upbringing and abuse to anyone .. she’s been on the hunt to call me out to all our extended family and I refuse to play her nasty game. I choose silence and if I never speak to my parents again they will have to answer for their lies and actions or lack there of one day! I am proud to say I’m not raising my child in the same twisted fake reality.., EYES WIDE OPEN FOR THIS SCAPEGOAT!!
Just give them your latest reality and guess what's on my, btw, check! I always told my kids "You can think what you want, not say what you want".. Narcs don't know this so put the shoe 👞 on the other foot!
My daughter gaslight me,she said she's getting buried next to my exmorher inlaw,then said to me I never said that,I'm done being your punching bag,we don't talj
I've been manipulated, gaslighted, and threatened on a daily basis. Some of the threats were he was going to kill himself if I didn't do what was asked, he would punch pillows or sofa, stand up against me and yell at my face, stand behind the car and not let me leave, sometimes we would be driving and he would threaten to swerve and hit any truck, hold my arms and shake me, push me aside to a wall, and much more. My in-laws were also very verbally abusive towards me. I wasn’t allowed to visit my family or friends. If I did or wanted to, I had to be ready for an argument. Every day I was reminded that I am nothing and that I was not worth fighting for and that I don't meet the standards of being married to their son. Recently, I found out he was cheating on me and had a girlfriend. After seeing the texts and pictures, I became numb. I've been a good wife, I listened to every insult and fight. I never gave up what I knew, thanks to this hacker who's helped me to extract enough information from his device. Someone on here shared a link to the hacker who helped cloned his phone without physically touching it. All I did was send his phone number to him and through a remote link sent to my email, I was able to access all of his texts, emails, Facebook and Instagram chats, real-time call listening and his long deleted messages as if the phone was physically with me. Perhaps, you are in a similar situation and you need help you can get in touch with him On Instagram instagram.com/mark_clinton2424/
My sister, the Narc, had a baby when she was a teenager. 1960’s. For YEARS, she would tell me how she hates men bcz our father forced her to give up her baby. That this horrible situation of not raising her baby destroyed her & made her horribly mean. Well, years later, she meets & lives w her daughter & destroyed that relationship. And Years after that, I reminded her how upset it used to make her that her baby was put up for adoption. No joke. She says to me. “I never once said that. I wanted to give her up. I was glad to not have to raise her”. I was FLOORED. For years she used the situation to justify her crazy…. Then she turns around & tells me that I was wrong… that she never said it! I think Narcs are missing half their brains!! That’s a tiny example. She did hundreds of cruel manipulative things during mine & siblings lives. For the 2nd time, I’ve cut contact And my life is once again peaceful. We’ve all cut contact , the only way for sanity to return to life
Unfortunately, this person will contact my boss and complain I'm harassing her. My boss believes her. No evidence except I have evidence. My boss doesn't care.
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I'm from India and financially crippled due to my husband's finance controlling tactics, my marriage is of 30 years , My younger son is helping me out and supporting me , I am watching your videos and have learnt lot from it but , what can I do when lawyers are compromised at the hands of my husband's money power.How many times I have to go on changing my lawyer and how to tackle such situations because the lawyers are too intimidating me now is my problem,they are deliberately delaying the hearing stage by one or the other way.
exposing & ignoring/no contact hurts them so much and it is SO FREEING!!!!!
Yes. They hate when you are indifferent or when you stand up for yourself.
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I know who i am. Just wanted to say a huge thank you rebecca. I have watched your videos and implimented them for a couple of years now. I am now 2 years out of a covert narcissistic marriage. It took some time but watching your videos has made me grow from a downtrodden shell to now i am happy, confident and know how to make boundaries. I couldnt have done it without you so a huge thank you tebecca. X
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Yes
I documented everything on a co-worker and threatened to expose him… then filed my official report. He went berserk. It was wonderful. And now he will be fired. ❤
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Fantastic, congratulations! I want that to my evil-project leader. I am also collecting a report! I am going to send it to her bosses boss when I leave - I have a new job waiting!
Yes, after decades in a relationship with my narcissistic spouse, we agreed to split a year and a half ago. Since then, he has done everything he can to run up my legal costs, delay the sale of our family home, and avoid a separation agreement. We are still living, although separately and uncomfortably, in the same house. Against legal advice, I am thankful that I was able to support our young adult children (who I love so much) to leave home and start living their lives independently while I continue to deal with their father. Last month, he finally appeared in court. Leaving him is costly and emotionally draining but I am determined to live my remaining years free from his manipulative and punitive control.
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At the time my whole world was turned upside down. and I told him that. From day 1 of our relationship I told him that communication is the key.... not realising that communicating was never going to be a strong point. I question everything and he clammed up and did not respond except superficially.. yes or no answers or ignoring what I've asked..
Why did the narcissist cross the road?
They thought it was a boundary.
😂
lol nice
Call them out every time you catch them lying even in front of friend and family they cannot stand it and soon their family will follow lead and start calling them out to and their day literally turns to 💩 n they are like a cat in a cage cannot even stand theirselves oh and quit having intimate relations with them , no big deal I sleep just fine and it has been almost a year and a half, I set boundaries and have my own room he cannot come in nor sleep in my bed , i am done
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My narc husband of 21 years threatened to ruin every aspect of my life. Financially, professionally, ruin my reputation etc.
He wouldn't get divorced and kept disappearing and changing lawyers. He didn't turn up at court. I had to take out loan after loan whilst working a full time job, paying the mortgage and looking after my three sons. There were times I went without food. We were living pay check to pay check and my overdraft at the bank was maxed out.
Eventually the judge ordered his arrest for contempt of court. He soon signed all the papers.
Then dragged the sale of our house out for two years. Once again the court ordered him to take the next fair offer on the house. I look back now with relief. Getting rid of him was the best thing I did.
Freedom and peace is worth every penny.
Thanks for the education!! I'm a recovering alcoholic! 2 years sober after having 6 years then a relapse. My brother is hell bent on me relapsing.. he's a covert narcissist...Not in this lifetime satin. Mad Respect!!
I have been doing this ,and ignoring them in subtle ways, and I finally left just after New Years Eve for good. The only way to win is to leave the relationship for good! I have no desire to be with a 57 year old toddler.
Not attractive.
Move on goodbye exactly!
I also told her I have more options than her. I believe this, and I suspect she does as well.
She made this last projection
She stated: "You can't hurt me anymore" PROJECTION to PERFECTION!!!
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Thank you for all your help. I just had a custody trial for my 7 year old who was in the custody of my ex for 2 years. His motion was full of lies and later in the trial he contradicted himself saying something completely different. We are still waiting judges orders but it was glorifying saying thats not true. Here’s the evidence. He tried saying I showed no interest in my child’s life. I kept all emails and documentation for the last 2 years. 🎉 save everything!!
Hi all. Red flags. My opinions from fact. The male and female versions are very charming ,funny,usually pristine in appearance,loud but self effacing .some act like a victim. If someone befriends you,REMEMBER,You dont have to be friends with everyone follow your gut ever single time. They copy your personality so you talk and talk,they want to destroy you right from the beginning to get your light to survive. They gossip big time.they never tell you any feelings they have,or insecurities,they ask what your upto but you dont get a proper interested response. They will give tons of compliments on your apperance but not in your skills etc,they love to be admired,they are full on needing and taking your time,they hate to be alone. They give back handed snide remarks ,mimmick you and cant ever say sorry. They ask to meet up and then guide the whole thing in what they want to do. Change plans last minute. They act loving sexual,it doesnt last,they are in bed with you,thinking of their next victim,keeping a new supply i a closet just encase they are abandoned. They are actually quite boring,no debth,dead eyes ,they know everything about others or have done great things.on and on. They dont listen well,no empathy. They are fakes. Just be private until you really know someone. 🙏🏼
Well said .. wow
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All true
Yep absulutely right. Being supply is like being their kryptonite
Ignore them, treat them as one of little value, guard my heart, and offer or react with no caring love, kinda hard to do,
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You are wonderful! Thank you! I'm reading your book. I can use this bag of tricks because I still see him in social circles. I wish I could stay away from him, but we are in the same hiking group. I'm a caregiver and it's hard to find another group that fits my schedule. He told me when we started dating that I should not let others know that we were together in the group. He said to act like it was platonic, even after he asked me to be his girlfriend. Basically I was his "secret" in the group. Now that we broke up, the new woman he met in the group he acknowledges their together in front of others. He's rubbing it in my face. He would be driven crazy with all these tactics. He is indeed a narcissist.
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These tactics may work to get rid of them, but it will trigger a fight for the ages and then a brutal discard. That's what's missing here.
YES!!!!! And if you’re in the same house, trying to get away (as I am) it can be extremely dangerous! Not to mention that what they do can drive you insane to use a word from the past. They fool everyone including police.
There is no other discatd
I agree. I would like to know what Rebecca can advise in case of this possibillity. I would think to document...but I suffered so much with brain fogg and other fights to survive in every area of the house( and his working from home since covid uptill now...having his temper and rage of the frustrations of his work and people that struggle to get on or understand his indifference); right here in our home. It is toxic! I'm to afraid to report him to get out of the house and back to the office.But that would help so much. Horrible person to live with. I would like to hear about trust worthy recording advices that could be recomended and could be use in court.
Wish I knew of this 10 years ago before coparenting with my narc ex . Ladies this is such good advice !!
Yep and it goes in the other direction. Humans this is such good advice.
Yes!!! Oh my goodness I did most of this all at once much of it naturally because it was just “too much insanity ridden drama”. … however this became a crap show when I removed myself with in the residence so I had to go a step further and move out of the residence, to regain some sane control and composure. This made it easier to see all of the manipulation and disingenuous apologies…. Of which I still called out … SMH
My personality doesn’t do well with these types because I can only keep my mouth shut for one second….especially when the decisions are dumb as hell or acts of poor character. I disagreed and called out stuff as soon as the mask started to crack.
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I did not suffer violence within this relationship fortunately. Maybe as we didn't spend enough time together for me to stand my ground. I did when we were around each other. Towards the end I made sure I left no stone unturned. He would apologise if I caught him in a lie. I encouraged him to tell me the truth if he wanted to help himself and that truth created respect.. He'd spent his whole life lying andanipulating. Iwas so shocked despite early red flags... (you don't exactly see them as red flags as such until you reflect. If someone tells you about past behaviour that isn't cool you think they would not mention it unless they had changed.. Yes they give you loads of clues about past relationships whilst either saying they have changed or boasting how if they weren't happy they just walked.
I have a narcisstic business partner and we’re currently going through a divorce. Nothing made the guy more insane than when I would only communicate with him via my lawyer.
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Cause he can’t control you 😂 such a loser
I'm learning to know who I am and totally! 😊
Totally on EVERYTHING every day I laugh at it all now 😅
Can’t wait to get there
I can’t either
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I don't even laugh. I just go like I'm blind and deaf. Avoid their presence. It's great with a voice cancelling earphones and bluetooth. Songs are good for positive built inside.
I'm even going to retake a course in counselling and take it much further..to complete higher levels in counselling. Personal experience creates an 'expert' (I use the term loosely) in the field of suffering due to negative behaviour patterns that is to say being a victim of such behaviour means I can identify with every behaviour pattern described
It's like playing a chess game. I did have to feed the ego before we fled as a ploy for our safety 🙏🌟😉 ty Rebecca
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Totally! My 43 year old daughter. She would never take no for an answer. I believe she was born with it. When I was spoon feeding her baby food as an 8 or 9 month old baby, she would look at me and shove her hand into the back of her throat and propel tons of vomit all over me. What baby even knows how to do that? Not just one time, over and over again. She would also smear poop all over the wall and her crib. If she saw it upset me, she loved it and would keep doing it. At about nine years old she tried to blackmail me. She threatened to tell my parents I had bought myself a leather jacket on sale when I still owed them money if I didn't do something or buy something for her. As soon as she could talk she would compliment strangers on their clothes or tell women they were pretty. It was really weird. As a teenager would lie about what restaurant she ate at. When I asked her what she ate, she would have to admit she didn't eat there because she didn't know their menu and I did. I truly believe she is a demon seed.
Good God!!!
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Wow that’s actually scary that you called her a demon. My question is why didn’t u get her some help???
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I know who I am. I will no longer be Narcissistic supply
or you can do what I'm doing become a hermit monk move to the top of the highest mountain you can find
🗣i gotta go to court with her slay!! she is a toxic narc
Rebeccaaaaaa…..said their brains will explode😂😂😂😂Lol I love your channel
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Brother is a huge narcissist! Took all of my mom’s money and is gifting it from HIM a little at a time. 😮
my brother is his twin. we must stay. strong
My half brother ruined our family, stole my gpa’s inheritance and caused my mom to be homeless and wouldn’t even let her in the house he stole that was my gpa’s. She almost died living in her car at age 77.
They are nothing but common thieves, I am asking my attorney to file a motion to sanction them $1,000 a day, they breeched confidentiality used estate funds to seek an attorneys services to perpetuate a crime & fraud. it's all evidenced within the accounting judge just ordered the liar to do within 30 days, 4 years late.
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@9:38 Narcissists are some sick ass pwopkle been through 3 of them bacvk to back before I wised up.. Totalt lifetime count has been around 20 wish I knew this stuff when I was 3yrs. old. I would have gotten the f away from my parents,
I owe my ex some thanks. He's helped me to realise he's nit the first Narcissist I've been out with. Now I can work on mysrlf and to not ree attract them. I'd like to focus on other things in my life.. Hmn relationships are now secondary whilst I push fowrd to reach my goals with (no looking backward.. only forward. (Ofcourse I'm. not fully recovered.. that will take some time. If I don't admit that to myself that it will take time.. I would be heading for fall and living within a lie all over again, 🌞🌹
When I took control of my culvert narcissist wife. I used to tell her when she tried to push my buttons that I don't care anymore and I really don't because the only reason you don't bother me no more is because I don't love you anymore and the only people I Love can hurt me. And she was just speechless. I tell her I have to go I have friends that are not your friends and I will never introduce you to them because I don't need someone like you in my life.
The C-Narc in my life always called his put-downs, name calling, comparing, criticism and belittling of me "constructive criticism". And when I would try to give him honest feedback to point out a negative behavior in the nicest way possible, he'd get so upset. The man cannot take what he dishes out. The double standard is pathetic.
I always stood up for myself I'm very surprised we lasted 7 yrs..
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Have a coworker that is a covert narcissist. I turned the tables on her & cut her off (don’t speak to her) & she decided to be passive aggressive. Like throwing mail at me while working on my desktop. I didn’t react. I sent email to boss letting him know that mail delivery is being changed to gather at 1 location & everyone picks up their own mail. She is now sulking & every time I pass her in hallway she sneers at me. But after I pass her I smile to myself. 😂
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Totally! Ugggh trying to prevent his latest supply from falling for his crap again😔I had the misfortune of going back for the abuse to only get worse! I don't think there is anything I can tell her that will make her listen bc I was there myself!
I understand that completely! I would always fall back into the same pattern. Because I would always feel bad for him. 😢
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I have a narcissistic "family" they do the strangest and sometimes sexual assault to get my attention and even that no one believs me and the gaslighting 24/7 how do you deal with them 24/7?
🗣my daughters mother is a Narc i will fix them in due time!!!💯
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🗣I have a job training on the day of your webinar but I wanna talk to you and speak to you about my current situation Rebecca 💯🙏🏿🙏🏿😞
Totally!
As opposed to they're inabilities to do so themselves? Merry Christmas 🎄 everyone, much love from Montreal!
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Mine never once blew up my phone until he knew I was visiting a guy friend. He was drunk and I assumed that's why he did it. Other than that he never lacked boundaries. I did because I became obsessive.
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Question Rebecca, how would a narc take it if I were to say, I know you are a narc, I am a super empath, We’re never gonna see eye to eye, Just stay away from me?
He tried to change by himself many years ago when someone called him a psychopath. That was in his early 20's when I first knew him. Everyone knew he was a bit 'off kilter' .. even he knew but we thought maybe he had ADHD (ADD) He didn't want to be a psychopath! Tried to change his negative behaviour. Knowing what I now know about there's no way he could just try to reinvent himself (If anything he may have become the worst version possible of himself and developed into a fully fledged member of 'Malignanant Narcissists club' He honed his craft'.
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Do you offer guidance in how to deal with a aggressive, harassment driven male narc who returned to the scene of the crime after a 2 year relationship. Very hard to experience yet believe. Information is being shared with dangerous people.
Have made myself scarce. Hard to do. Being followed. Any inspiration would be treasured.
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Totally. He would rage over things that other people did! I didn't know about these people at the time.
I thought he was bipolar! Not.
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I'm five years in dealing with a narcissist,my mother is her source which stupidly I didn't know,I have great fun now feeding my mother rubbish stories because I know it gets fed back, I have friends my mother has no access to which is wonderful because they work on my friends if they can get to them to tell them stories about me, I have lost countless family members and friend's because they can get to them, I would dearly love to know what they tell these people to turn them against me ? Why do they hate me so much? It's because I'm a good person, people like me,and they are insane,scary and insecure, she has won one round by taking my son away from me but I'm on to her now☺
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How come the say the no contact order is for either of us to no contact yet they continue to randomly send me messages to try and get a response or have their flying monkeys to send random one word text is this considered to harassment or just attempts to get a emotional reaction?
You go baby
I can do this
@12:53 YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Yes!!!
I don’t want my mother to go beserk, I just need to set the boundary so I’m not feeding her hours on end.
Look at Rudolf Steiner s Red and Blue tempramentts theory
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Yeah, it is so ironic.😃
I don't want them in my life..
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If my lawyer herself does all this techniques to bully me to loose my oneself, intimidate me in the case so that my husband can get through what he wants, till date I have changed three lawyers in a row, I have all evidences but they are delaying the hearing from past two years , sometimes I feel like to run from everything, along with this they are playing lot of mind games in the court premises which use to affect me but I have now learnt to deal with it
I know who I am!!!!!!
Give one a compliment,they looķ down on you from a dizzy height.
Agree. Don't even think about giving them any good word.
Agree. Don't even think about giving them any good word.
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🙋🏻♀️ My severely NPD Chinese mother does this thing where during the process of me gray/yellow rocking and transitioning into no contact (without any explanation from me, of course, she’s fully aware of what she said and did) where she’ll harass everyone around me, including my husband and MIL, blowing their phones up with texts and calls pretending like she’s genuinely confused about why she’s being blocked when in reality she just refuses to be ignored due to the need for control and her ego.
What is this behavior/action of hers called? I cannot find anything about it anywhere, it’s so frustrating.
What should the people around me do? Should they also block her?
Please help ☹️
Just tell everyone to ignore her.
Sounds like my Chinese mother as well...
@@carolynm4962 My whole relatives are like in my mom's purse. They won't believe when I go to them and tell things.
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They are just total ewwwwww. Thanks Rebecca!! ❤
On the martk! Very familiar.
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@@RebeccaZungEsq Thanks 😊 🙏 😘
I love these videos, and this presenter.
I dont totally buy into the narc empath spectrum.
I think differrent people have diffeerent currency..long story... e.g. compliments.... emotional innvestment... too long to write heere
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I can’t take the abuse anymore I’m 50 and just going through the process of disassociating myself from this situation I can’t take the pressure anymore and the lies that my Monster 👿 I mean Mother is trying to shame me into bending to her version of reality by devaluing my pain and suffering. I simply will never be and have never been giving the same treatment as she gives my other siblings. I refuse to be her punching bag any longer or be one of her sick followers like my siblings are! She never did give me the same respect of keeping my own personal hurt that I mistakenly thought I could cry to her and express my hurt feelings her lol what a shame why I don’t have the same respect as my other siblings where she keeps their feelings secret but displays my pain like it’s a joke is so hard for me to swallow. I’m having a war in my head with mind exploding realizations that I’m just now unraveling at 50 in therapy!!! I’m bent but not broken … I don’t need a group of followers to validate my upbringing and abuse to anyone .. she’s been on the hunt to call me out to all our extended family and I refuse to play her nasty game. I choose silence and if I never speak to my parents again they will have to answer for their lies and actions or lack there of one day! I am proud to say I’m not raising my child in the same twisted fake reality.., EYES WIDE OPEN FOR THIS SCAPEGOAT!!
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9:21 9:33 Recently met a woman who is trying to get friendly she suggested Cluster B Milkshake, who makes excuses for being a Npd.
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so having a personality disorder is a c?rime
BB until the end they will destroy them self's
Just give them your latest reality and guess what's on my, btw, check! I always told my kids "You can think what you want, not say what you want".. Narcs don't know this so put the shoe 👞 on the other foot!
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My daughter gaslight me,she said she's getting buried next to my exmorher inlaw,then said to me I never said that,I'm done being your punching bag,we don't talj
I've been manipulated, gaslighted, and threatened on a daily basis. Some of the threats were he was going to kill himself if I didn't do what was asked, he would punch pillows or sofa, stand up against me and yell at my face, stand behind the car and not let me leave, sometimes we would be driving and he would threaten to swerve and hit any truck, hold my arms and shake me, push me aside to a wall, and much more. My in-laws were also very verbally abusive towards me. I wasn’t allowed to visit my family or friends. If I did or wanted to, I had to be ready for an argument. Every day I was reminded that I am nothing and that I was not worth fighting for and that I don't meet the standards of being married to their son. Recently, I found out he was cheating on me and had a girlfriend. After seeing the texts and pictures, I became numb. I've been a good wife, I listened to every insult and fight. I never gave up what I knew, thanks to this hacker who's helped me to extract enough information from his device. Someone on here shared a link to the hacker who helped cloned his phone without physically touching it. All I did was send his phone number to him and through a remote link sent to my email, I was able to access all of his texts, emails, Facebook and Instagram chats, real-time call listening and his long deleted messages as if the phone was physically with me. Perhaps, you are in a similar situation and you need help you can get in touch with him
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My sister, the Narc, had a baby when she was a teenager. 1960’s. For YEARS, she would tell me how she hates men bcz our father forced her to give up her baby. That this horrible situation of not raising her baby destroyed her & made her horribly mean. Well, years later, she meets & lives w her daughter & destroyed that relationship. And Years after that, I reminded her how upset it used to make her that her baby was put up for adoption. No joke. She says to me. “I never once said that. I wanted to give her up. I was glad to not have to raise her”. I was FLOORED. For years she used the situation to justify her crazy…. Then she turns around & tells me that I was wrong… that she never said it! I think Narcs are missing half their brains!! That’s a tiny example. She did hundreds of cruel manipulative things during mine & siblings lives. For the 2nd time, I’ve cut contact And my life is once again peaceful. We’ve all cut contact , the only way for sanity to return to life
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Unfortunately, this person will contact my boss and complain I'm harassing her. My boss believes her. No evidence except I have evidence. My boss doesn't care.
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