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Hey psychgo if a mature person are open minded then why do they choose things on their character not their feelings? I am asking this based on your points in thus video
I just had someone tell me this after trying to renter my life during a year of ghosting. He and the military have shown me what type of ppl I’m around…never again.
ayo! a random time traveler here and here's a time-stamp in case it comes in handy: 0:43 - Their choices are based on their character instead of their feelings 1:17 - They are patient 1:47 - They keep long-term commitments and promises 2:13 - They actively listen and talk 2:53 - They don't need attention and posses a sense of humility 3:20 - They are open-minded 3:53 - They are self-aware and know when to hold themselves accountable
Many people are very mature, but don’t have the confidence they might need, so even though they’re not naive, they can get taken advantage of. If you are mature, please try to be brave in your decisions. Please take care of yourself. ❤️
And then you question if you’re actually mature enough to listen to others or you’re anxiety is forcing you to, making you question yourself more and giving you more anxiety
@@insch.9547 I think you may have a point. Everyone has different experiences and points of view so in a way it’s not up to people to decide if your mature but yourself.
Yea! The thing is that every generation has their own trials and tribulations. Some people (not all) like to hold their struggles and experiences and use them by themselves as a measure of maturity. It's a very selfish thing to do and is not mature of them. Just because they emerged triumphant on the other side, doesn't necessarily mean they were steadfast in making the right choices. They may have done hurtful things to themselves and others to push their way up and over. If you understand that and you can be happy by being proud of yourself and staying humble simultaneously, you're more mature than them. ❤
that's very true. there was a school counselor that wasn't' good at her job. i was better at her job than she was. she kept tabs on my on my home life which i knew was out of line and then she forced me to hug a person i was terrified of and i knew that isn't allowed. my parents emailed her and she came back with a bright, neon pink, cursive, email that my dyslexic dad couldn't read. very unprofessional and upsetting. i'm surprised she's not fired yet cause she's gotten many complaints just like it.
I remember hitting 15 years old and having mastered these 7 signs. I'm happy I did, because I was in balance. Only trying to get out of this led me down wrong paths, and now I found that I'm happier being like this video.
plot twist: staying wise is a daily challenge and nobodys always wise in the eyes of someone else. you can get mad and still be wise but you will appear as an immature idiot to bystanders of that isolated incident.
Anger isn't inherently bad, it's just expressing it in healthy and safe way and trying to minimize contact with persons who don't respect your boundaries. It doesn't matter what others think, especially strangers. The last time i got angry in public setting was about 2.5 years ago so that doesn't happen often (came home to discover that my partner had moved out while i was at work, after telling me she loved me that morning - i regrettably stopped by her job). I'll admit i did react immaturely to that which triggered past trauma for me. No one is perfect but when i fall short i try to take accountability and make amends to those persons i may have harmed. Do you mind sharing what made you angry in public?
@@SoulDelSol i dont really mean in public, i mean your being angry can be observed by other people who might not even be involved and jump to the conclusion that youre immature altho youre wisely letting it flow. the last time i was angry in a public setting was when i saw the issues of a work place and calmly pointed them out in a big team meeting. neither the team nor supervisors acknowledged the cause of the problems i mentioned. the company ended up losing billions over this. i got angry a little bit and then decided i had to leave that place and be self employed so noone can stand between my clear sight and the action that needs to be taken. i was hurt that nobody believed me but now im happy and i see it as one of the greatest learnings of my life not to waste energy on making people understand things they dont want to believe. everybody looked down on me as crazy but they all came to the same conclusion as me... just a few years and many sicknesses later. its kinda sad im the only one who learned sth from it...
yes it's sooo upsetting that when a person gets mad at someone, other people just assume that's their "true colors". anger is part of everyone, but not all people are angry all the time and hot-tempered, it just so happens that a person just snapped and cant hold their anger any longer. and you can tell a person is mature becuz even when they're angry they use words and not violence, and their words have good points and their choice of words aren't as degrading as "you dumbass mother effer". they actually have a good reason to be angry. ppl just can't see the difference between being mean and being angry.
7 signs someone is truly mature (Wise). 0:40 (One) Their choices are based on their Character instead of their feelings. 1:17 (two) They are patient. 1:46 (Three) They keep Long-term Commitment and Promises. 2:11 (Four) They actively listen more & Talk less. 2:51 (Five) They don't need attention & possess a sense of humility. 3:21 (Six) They're Open-minded. 3:51 (Seven) They're self-aware & known when to hold themselves accountable.
*7 signs someone is truly mature* 0:35 their choices are based on their character instead of their feelings 1:15 they are patient 1:45 they keep long-term commitments and promises 2:10 they actively listen more and talk less 2:50 they don't need attention and possess a sense of humility 3:19 they are open-minded 3:50 they are self-aware and know when to hold themselves accountable
omg the voice just broke my heart into two pieces , this is one of the most comfortable voices I ever heard. The person who's telling is mature for sure. This makes me explore this channel more and more .
What if you acknowledge that you are mature and you ARE actually mature? You don't try to make others think u are mature but think you are at least a bit mature, does that mean you're immature? I don't think so if you really are mature. If someone thinks they can run fast (but don't think they are super fast or something, just fast enough)and they can ACTUALLY run fast that means they acknowledge it.
The fact that I’m considered “truly mature” by these standards is quite nice because I learned these traits from other people that I was surrounded with and I picked these habits from them and I’m glad to have experience being with them(*´∇｀*)
I remember when I was 13-14 and I was trying to act mature. Ended up destroying most aspects of myself. For what it's worth, I hate that word. I was deceived into believing being mature was a goal I had to achieve, and it ended up becoming an insidious mindset. This video has showed me I am not fully matured, but I've changed. More importantly, changed without trying to be what I am not.
Same to everything. And having taken this "be mature" thing through my life has kinda ruined things (?), but maybe is because I skipped the part where I must be assertive; and the video kinda skips it too. Being mature or emotionally mature is to accept all emotions and to feel the pain, sadness, anger or joy that any situation brings. And that is where things like patience, empathy, no need for attention, humility and etc roots. I kinda hate this word too now, something that had so much meaning has turned into a label and a weapon for somebody else to control you by telling you: oh, truth is you are no very mature.
I’m 13 turning 14 this year, and all my thoughts at school are things like “I want people to think I’m mature” or “be mature” and based on this video, I am quite mature, but it kinda hurts to think that I’m only being mature for a reputation
@@rebeccagowen6619 you remind me a lot of myself when I was younger, my advice is just don't care about it or you'll get in a lot of unfavorable situations
@Jay T I was like your cousin when I was 13 lol, but with music, and met plenty during my teen years. Is part of forming an identity I think. He will snap out of it, hopefully. In the meantime, teasing him every once in a while won't hurt. What you said about being critized by false staples of maturity can be very true, like you said: drinking, adult tv, maybe partying, being like cold and serious and "deep" (those people can be very annoying) etc are seing as adult stuff. What I meant in that sense is that, in my opinion, another false staple of maturity is repressing your emotions and avoiding conflict. That causes that false image of a pacient kind "mature" person, but is not, is just someone who is letting everyone damage them. And all thanks to wanting to appear more adult than other people. "Mature" can be a weapon in many ways, damn. But maturity is more than that for me now that I am older, and I def do not consider mayself mature anyomre lol. It takes a lot of responsability to be an actual adult, and lot and lots of empathy and compassion, but it has to come from within. I think a way of doing that is knowing yourself and meeting more people, constant learning about living will get us there. And of course, the circumstances help to shape us. Don't worry about the rant, I love writing them and reading them too. Greetings (?).
@Jay T you know I used to have all these qualms when I was younger but the older grew I just went 'does this really matter?' and stopped caring If your cousin wants to act like he is more 'mature' than you so be it, because frankly, no one cares. Just act the way you want and don't let such comparisons dilute any of it
I used to be truly immature one time, but when I realised that I can't keep living like this I started to discover my purpose in life. It led me to go through life with humility, discipline and an open mind to keep learning from everyone. Anyone can learn to be wise/mature, you just have to be willing to commit to it no matter how hard it is.
Keep up the good work! And learn about Islam. It will take everything you learned and take it up several notch and give you real contentment. May Allah (S.W.T.) guide you and bestow upon you His Blessings; Ameen.
my whole life i’ve been told i’m so much more mature than what my age is and because of that i’ve had this sense to be super mature even though i’m still quite young. the truth is i am emotionally mature but i’ve realized i have a mix of both maturity and immaturity, and i’m fine with it! we all deserve to be a little immature at times and we can all leave to be mature as well:)
I'm told that I'm mature for my age. The position and role I had and have made others see me this way. It's hard to try to "live" up to these expectations. I don't know if I'm mature. Maybe I am, or maybe I'm not. I don't know. I have a problem thinking though about how I should act and what I should do and say to give the impression to others that I am mature. It feels like I'm not mature because of the way I think is childish. I seek the recognition of others, so my peers and those around me can be confident that I am who they say I am. I can relate to some of these in the video, but then I think maybe I'm not wise/mature. At my age, there's no way someone can be wise. There's not enough experience. But then again, it goes into the meaning of wise and what it means to an individual, so who's to say who's wise or not?
Understandable. I have experienced similar events. However, I had to develop this due to an accident involving my only parent. It's nice to see that I am not alone. :) Thanks for sharing your experience.
Out of all the channels about mental health, relationship advice, life. Yours is best and also true. People don't want advice that makes no sense and just put them in wrong direction
i was so unaware that i was mature till countless people started to tell me i was, watching this video definitely reminded me of my place in life. “life is going too fast, so stop dwelling on the past but accept what you went through or what you did, appreciate the present and look forward to the future”
I feel sad that i have all these qualities when i am only 14.. It would have been so good if I was just trying out makeup, dresses, enjoyed my teenage but i am more into what is going to happen, what if I dont study more than others, thinking about my past... I feel a need of having that child inside me back that society took away from me..
@UCypnbLfnJOn2LCVkbpkauaQ thank you for writing it all! These words made me feel like god will do good for me and others even though i am not christian❤️💜
Kid same like I'm a year older than you but I feel like I'm always worrying about my financial stability in the future and what failing school would do to my life plan. I wish I could just be a child because I can't remember my earlier life and have so much traumatic memories.
Calling myself mature would never be a sign of maturity. I feel we often learn from our past and present and we all have a lot to learn. To listen to others, to feel them, and to understand things, ourselves, and the world around us. To act with our minds and our true personalities rather than to wear a mask and project ourselves to be something we are not. Often it's never an easy life as such life, but then again nothing comes off as easy. To let our feelings dictate our life is to push our lives to ruination. I am still immature and I still let my feelings get the best of me at times, but I am certainly learning and creating a better me for the future.
I will conclude that I am a person with developing maturity. I can describe myself as patient, I do actively listen more and talk less, I can describe myself as open-minded, and the optimal self-development I am currently aiming at incorporates the remaining four guides/teachings. I still struggle often, no mistake. No matter what progress you make or how much of it you manifest, regression is ALWAYS possible. It never becomes impossible, no matter how confident you are in your growth. 💙
Yeah yeah. Thats what someone says when nobody is spying on them 247. Try taking your privacy away. And everything you do is plastered all over social media for no good reasons. They even know when you take a shit. Then tell me again how well to take things
I'm still at my early 20's so I'm pretty young and I do lots of foolish things in my life, but these type of videos help me learn more about how I could be a better person at this early age. Thank you Psych2Go!
When you dont need validation,you have a patient, You listen to others carefully, Instead of being reactive and impulsive, you r responsive to them. You speak what is necessary instead of irrelevant gossips Defines you a mature one..Good one✨👌But it takes time to learn.. And with time you gradually learn😊😊
I feel like a lot of us are immature when it comes to small things. Petty things. But when it comes to serious subjects, we can all find that inner maturity. Idk I'm not a psych student so correct me if I'm wrong.
@@mystery2893 You remind me of someone who i tried to debate with and all he said was how good of a debater he was as he kept throwing insults at me and telling me "You're wrong" and not actually challenge the points i gave xD
I wish there were more mature people in this world, but the fact that theres a small amount of mature people, makes those who are mature that much more special.
If only "special" wasn't bad news in such cases. You don't want this quality to be rare 😂 At the same time, let's also acknowledge that in our modern times it is easier than ever to reach a good level of maturity at a very young age and "by yourself" as in = by choosing from the abundance of high quality teaching materials available for free use on the internet. Such as this video. No so long ago, in now well developed countries, people died at 30, 40ish in masses. 😂 I'd say we're overall making good progress, considering each generation has to go through sets of experiences from 0 nevertheless, to internalise things
True. I know people (60+ years old) who are as emotionally mature as a toddler. Throwing tantrums and objects when one disagrees with them, even if said politely.
Whoever says wisdom comes with age are most likely the same people who are entitled and believe cause someone is older than you ( regardless of what they do ) should be respected. Just as wisdom comes from experience, respect is earned not just given. ✊
I wear a timex weekender watch, a pair of nice fitted Jeans from ross/old navy, and some button down shirts from goodwill, and discounted stan Smith and people constantly checking me out. Just make sure the cloths are clean and fitted and the colors are solid, and you are good.
I have always been called mature by my family members. My mom even says to me, “You’ve been more mature than your father since you were six.” I listen and observe everything, which has led me to hear and see things I shouldn’t have. I look but don’t act my age. All of my friends are much older than me and I have a hard time making friends with my classmates who are the same age as me. I had to grow up fast to help my mom and be a good role model for my siblings. I just wish I grew up a bit slower.
Not sure if this is mature or not, but I always attempt to find a way to do something productive with my negative emotions. And if I can't do something productive with them, I detach myself from them and let them go. It's helped me to stop holding grudges against anyone, and also helps me quell emotions like greed or envy. But things like anger and frustration can be channeled productively into finding solutions, or if I can't do that, at the very least a really good gym session.
honestly depression made me realize that not everyone has the same life as me and they have their own things that they go through. before all that i was so content but also naive so ig it has its pros and cons much love to yall and keep ur head high
I failed 7 out of 7 And im 30. Welp, i gotta be kinder to myself since my circumstance is special. No shame in starting late than never trying to change. First step is ridding myself off games. It has kept me safe and alive until to a point today where i need to step forward. Edit: I failed again. There really is nothing here for me. Just gonna end it this year
Yep. Be empathetic with yourself. Also, the matter of maturity is pretty subjective. With some of these things I could disagree with. Just because a person listens well doesn't mean they're mature. Also, I think people need to work on self awareness first. Realize what causes you to experinece certain emotions, why you get angry at some things others may think are nothing to be angry about, why you befriend and attract certain people, and why you're attracted to them. Things like these are much more important than maturity to me. I don't believe someone can always be mature, or in a healthy mental state all the time, but if you have self awareness, when you're at the lowest of the low, you'll be able to tell those around you your needs which will help you get back to a better state. Sometimes you may go back to a bad habit of the past, but you know that you can still go back to being healthy again, and that shall be your inspiration to move on. Being mature and healthy goes hand in hand with being immature and toxic, you'll constantly experinece all of them depending what you're going through, so i think it's important to learn what causes you to shift from one side to another. Never too late to learn, good luck. I believe you can make it :)
I feel like I'm the same way. My brother suggested I change my behavior to better fit the group so it's not so abrasive and disconnected from the overall vibe
Same for me! People call me immature all the time. But I’ve noticed that they act just as they say I do. They usually only call me immature because I sound and act like a kid sometimes.
@@actualnotanewbie be who you want to be not what you think everyone else wants you to be For those who matter don't mind and to those who mind don't matter One major thing I've learned in life is that if you are unapologetically yourself then you're going to find the perfect people for you If they don't like you for who you are they'll leave and if they do they'll stay You will have less friends that way but the friends and family you will have will be more than enough because they will be perfect for you
People say I have a bad attitude but it's because I'm smart and I tell people when what they're saying is dumb. Sometimes people need to hear the truth.
I can relate to maybe 3 , maybe 4 points in this video . I can confidently say that I am more patient than those around me , I try to be open-minded and try to learn about the circumstances of the decisions of others , I know when to hold myself accountable , and I can recall myself stepping back from a fight just to assess what was really going on .
A lot of times, I feel like I am mature, but a part of my mind thinks that I shouldn't think that way or that I'm feeding into my ego and being boastful... I do feel like maturity shines in the way we act towards our circumstances and how we get to that action, but I dislike it when people around me (that I know) say that they're "mature" when they don't act like it. We may have our moments where we act out, but I don't want people to see _that moment_ as our natural behavior. What I mean is that everyone views emotional maturity differently. 🤷🏾
I believe every one must take time (atleast 10-15 minutes) of a day to introspect on 1) How their day was- what is their emotion(happy , sad, angry , tired , guilty -- is it because of themselves or because of others) and why you are feeling like that and how can you improve 2) what is your wish/desire/ambition 3) what progress they made towards their goal in real/concrete world 4) Did you do or say anything that might have hurt yourself or others 5) Did you respect those who deserve respect or were you blinded by anger/jealousy/hatred/insecurities 6) plan on what all events you want to do in your life(at the same time don't over plan or read out your plans to others for sake of validation) 7) what mistakes you made and how can you correct them 8) introspect on how to make a growth mindset 9) We all must know that every relationship(romantic, platonic, family...) require management and sacrifice from our part- do introspect on are we making the ends meet 10) And most important - understand yourself , who you are as a person Do SWOT analysis Figure out your MBTI personality and understand the weakness Understand your likes and dislikes TRY to build a strong character or identity and have strong ideals and values Because remember "logic when focused for a short time does not differentiate between good and bad " It is our ideals and values that provides us reason to be good and kind and efficient in life So maintain a balance between idealism and practicality. Also remember "Winning or losing is something which we/society define for ourselves . But in the real world all that matters is how strong you are to keep living and do what you are supposed to do " And finally don't OVER INTROSPECT
I'm 19 y.o and I honestly want to be married by next year, in two years I want to start a family. I have to work on a lot in order to be ready for all that responsibility. Both in discipline and spirituality. I am exited to build a family in which God is present, I will try my best to work on myself and become a good wife and mother. Of course that I have other ambitions in my life such as career, but to be honest, nothing lights up my heart like family does.
That's wonderful. Make sure that you find a person who has the same values and goals as you. Make sure that you and the other person know how to set and respect boundaries, apologize, and forgive each other. Make sure that you both believe that your marriage is a sacred vow that you would never willingly break. I say this as someone who has been married and divorced. Marriage is the most important commitment that you will ever make.
Be patient. Being a mother is a lifelong commitment and responsibility. Working harder has nothing to do with being good wife or mother. Take your time, live your own life first, be patient. Also be carefull what you wish for, because that knight in shiny armour, can become a dragon in a split second. Good luck and take your time, instead of rushing and planning everything ASAP.
Maturity takes time from learning to others' or personal experiences, reading books, listening, and so on. It is transparent when someone's trying to fake it or not. :)
Anyone else watch this to see how mature you really are, and then turn out matching every point? I do this in a lot of their videos, but golly! Why are they always so accurate!
This was a great video. Especially balancing character & emotions. Choosing your value system over your temporary emotional state is a practiced skill and something everyone needs to work on (myself included).
I constantly try to work on and improve these aspects on myself. The hardest one for me is definitely making choices not based on emotion. It’s easy for me to get swept away in the moment and make a poor decision because I’m flustered or excited. Maintaining a calm composure and assessing my feelings and my values is becoming something I remember to do just a little more with each misstep. And this video has only served to remind me even more to focus on these things so that I can grow as a person and make a difference one day, so thank you!
I am always told by my mom that I am immature and my sister is more mature. But I had a strong feeling that her perception of maturity was not the most accurate one. Thank you so much, I needed this video.
My mom just said I walk immaturely. I am like " What? What does that even mean?" My mom said I am 16 but I walk like a 10 year old. Almost like bouncing or skipping. I mean I am HAPPY! Give me a break. Lol 🤣🤣
I'm slowly accepting what my mom repeatedly says about being productive. Because I really hate it when I hear it every time, and I realized that's just my ego complaining. It's a slow progress but I'll keep it going.
I'm quite a mature person for my age however my underdeveloped emotional and mental state gets the better of me sometimes and I need to work through that barrier
I definitely have a lot of work to do. I’ve been fighting and working to be more mature, and there are so many things I have matured from but also many things I still need to work on. Especially patience and acting on emotions. My anxiety almost always gets the better of me in stressful situations, but like you said I just need to remember what J stand for. To be better and make sure no one feels the same pain I have felt. Thank you for helping me see these things a lot more clearly
Sometimes you need to let it go out to feel better, you just need to be careful when you do it and about the consequences it can have if it's a touchy situation.
I'll have to disagree at 2:11 because, Listening is just a sign of wanting to find out about this and that but talking is one's way of opening up . There is no harm in speaking, but unless you act out immature, therefor, it's actually about the hand gestures and movement based on the tone of talking that can show immaturity
For me, being mature at the age of 15 is fine, so in the future, it'll be normal and nice to me. Because most of the time I want peace and a nice day like I find nature and quiet places so relaxing. I want to develop my routine to be also a productive person, but I do sometimes have a teenager character, like 30%.
Here’s the thing with “promises”, I like to not say “promise” simply because sometimes promises were meant to be broken and I’m not saying it for negative situations , but more like positive decisions. I often use the phrase ‘I’ll try’ just so I won’t get that person’s hope up and including myself for holding on to that promise. I think the word “Promise” is simply overused to the point where to the point nowadays just is meaningless. All I’m saying is for myself and others just say the phrase “I’ll try” so no hopes don’t get broken between each of you.
I disagree with this because as it was said "Their choices are based on their character, not feelings". The promises that you said were meant to be broken are the ones people do based on feelings, biggest example: love promises. If someone is mature enough they won't do those bc they know feelings come and go. Ofc nobody knows what the future holds so making promises is always a risk, but if they are true to your character they are less likely to be broken. That's what I believe.
A mature person is with in everyone, it's not just you are one or the other. The video gives light to ideas that are mature but lack the understanding that mature people who ever they are, are human and can make impulse decisions, become impatience, or act on emotion, it's more like they are less likely to do so.
As a person who's grown with adults and I don't get traumatized by everything that can be traumatizing for people of my age when I am with my friends I feel older And yes. I agree with those points
@@DariaImNotReal oh, well, I think sometimes it's a matter of circumstances, I don't consider myself mature though, I just believe I've learned to handle some situations by experiencing them ^^
I am teen but I basically have all the qualities mentioned in this video. I don't think I am mature, I still have a lot to learn and explore with experience :)
I've been told I'm wise by family, friends and even people that have passed in my life for only 16 hours and I truly believe them. Particularly on the self-awareness point, it's very hard to deal with difficult matters when you're emotionally self-aware of what you're reactions and emotions can bring to others, plus being conscious that every action has its consequence. No, in fact it's more easy to deal with the issue for a self-aware person but it becomes more difficult to do it with a non self-aware person because they'll, most of the time, decide of what's best for them and them only, not thinking of the consequences their decisions might bring on to others. I suggest Psych2Go to do a video on the subject by the way ! I think there is a lot to say about non self-aware people (emotionally as well as in general) and how we can better live with them (if that topic hasn't been adressed yet of course).
Just remember that being mature(or trying to be) doesn’t mean you have to fit into a box or anything really. I feel like i have a more artistic free flowing side of me that i just turn on sometimes randomly. Sometimes i don’t do what creative thing i was thinking of saying/doing though due to fear of being jugded. Don’t fall into this trap that easily can become habit. For me this has to do with expectations, especially if you ”fill” a certain role in a social setting/group. There’s a time for being playful, creative or the goof of the room, no matter age or life situation etc.
Oh nice, I am all of these things. I... 1. Base my choices on rationality and my character instead of emotions 2. Am very patient 3. I keep my promises for a long time 4. Actively listen and talk little 5.Am humble and don't need or want attention 6. Am very open minded 7. Am self aware and take responsibility for my actions
I've been pretty wise my whole life I'd say. Even in elementary school I overheard kids on the bus say things like kid A: "Who do you think is the most mature person in school" kid B: "Probably Drew" I grew up with Amygdaloid based anxiety and a brain tumor. Detaching myself from emotions has always come extremely easy to me. Actually, most of my struggles are with what I'd call physiological alexithymia (as opposed to the more common form of alexithymia which I'd call psychosematic alexithymia. There are a lot of concepts I used right there, so look them up. I'm not sure if I have the time to explain it in depth). For that reason, my struggle has been much more about getting back in touch with my emotions. BTW, the whole physiological alexithymia thing is because I literally had a surgical procedure to remove my epilepsy stunted Amygdala. As I say, I've been everywhere on the normal mental health range of issues from extreme anxiety to an Amygdalectomy patient. From brain cancer patient, to brain cancer (remission) patient (I still have it it's just a very benign tumor). From my days being overly anxious in adolescence, I am an extremely philosophical person, and could run circles around most people. I'd say that even with how stunted my amygdaloid based development is I'm in the upper tenth percentile of wisdom (partially because I'm only now going through that Amygdaloid development in my twenties instead of in my adolescence).
@@jananirajasri_06 and why should you hide your emotions? it will hurt the other person who cares for you in return, not only you because you just wouldn't show how you feel.
Yeah, feeling like I was “so mature” at a young age (around 14) turned out badly for me. I presented myself as mature and truly believed I was mature, but on the inside I really wasn’t. I didn’t listen to my elders and didn’t evaluate my decisions. Ended up hurting people and myself, and now I have to work through this in therapy to try to be a better person. I’ve been in therapy for about 9 months now and I am just getting started, just BARELY realizing how immature I am. Even when I started therapy, I didn’t start it for this reason, it was for an immature reason. Now I am 23 and I have to work on maturing while dwelling on past bad decisions I have made. If you’re a teenager reading this, please talk to a mature adult before making decisions and listen to them. Try to REALLY look in the mirror and don’t make adult decisions when you are not an adult.
Me too, it's really frustrating sometimes to be so young and mature while everyone around you is being immature and horrible. We mature kids are the special ones in my eyes; we're few in number, diamonds in the rough
But remember one important thing that most people misunderstand.you CANNOT control your emotions or thoughts. However you can be the observer of them and control how you react to them. Trying to control them only leaves you feeling frustrated and defeated.❤️
@@lou8426 Maturity is how you respond to situations and problems in correlation with your emotions and intelligence, while wisdom is applying intelligence to situations and problems to make the best decision possible. Hope this helped 💜
My behaviour : Immautre My brain : Mature Because I really like to behave immautre to make others feel comfortable behaving like this.I observed that when I behave a little mature, they really think a lot before talking with me and can't be free. But when I'm like a kid,other kids also love to play with me..And I'm happy to be able to make others happy
I heard once that true maturity is being calm and wise and not loosing your temper all the time. It's not about getting older, it's about doing the right thing at the right time and being responsible
Personally, I never found myself to be mature even when others see myself as such. Mainly for one aspect you've addressed here. Listening to everything you've had to offer here in this video, I understand myself more than have before and know more as to why people think I am mature for my age. However, I will say that your first sign is something I still need to work on. I do have everyone's best interest in mind when making a decision, I do listen to everyone and support them in anyway I could. Although as you say, "words have weight to them." And I tend to get emotional hurt and damaged with people's words, thoughts or opinions when portrayed to me. Thus I get defensive and quick to anger as a result. I would say I'm close, but this is one downside that is a major bane of mine that I must overcome and I thank you for this video
It’s good to know that I’m matured well I’ve already realised that before but I think there’s much more to add on , though it was good too Thanks and all the best to everyone :)
Also, a criterion of maturity is the ability and willingness to stand up for one's rights, however disconcerting that action may be, when they are violated. It's possible to have all of the characteristics listed in the video, but be not fully developed emotionally thereby being vulnerable to abusers.
I think im mature then, I do things even if it bores me, since I promised to do it. Even when I am better than others I don't go brag about it, I give respect to every person. Additionally I am open minded and don't let opinions get the better of me, meaning, I don't discriminate others. I often listen to others, especially a good friend of mine who is a chatter box, and I know I can learn so much more, even when I don't have knowledge yet, I will obtain it one at a time, I have no limits!
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Hey psychgo if a mature person are open minded then why do they choose things on their character not their feelings? I am asking this based on your points in thus video
I needed this kind of video, thank you!🤍
“Never expect to get what you give. Not everyone in this world has a heart like you.”
So true
@@imonlyhuman573 facts
I just had someone tell me this after trying to renter my life during a year of ghosting. He and the military have shown me what type of ppl I’m around…never again.
I like this quote, thank you!
- Monica
An actor said this I believe.
remember: every moment, you're younger than you'll ever be and older than you've ever been.
wow that’s gonna be a thought in my head for the rest of the week
Why? Why have you done this to me?
Wow way to send me into a minute long existential crisis
Thank you
why. Just why.
ayo! a random time traveler here and here's a time-stamp in case it comes in handy:
0:43 - Their choices are based on their character instead of their feelings
1:17 - They are patient
1:47 - They keep long-term commitments and promises
2:13 - They actively listen and talk
2:53 - They don't need attention and posses a sense of humility
3:20 - They are open-minded
3:53 - They are self-aware and know when to hold themselves accountable
Thanks dude
thank chu time traveler! :D
Thanks a lot
How-
@@gummiiworm8205 :0
“There is a lot to learn in life so it’s best to keep an open mind” Ughh that’s such a good way to put it😭😭
You got that right!
Just never learn to question authority and duty 🫸🫷
@@ratatouille6135 honesty, open-mindedness and willingness.
"Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
-Rumi
Yesterday is a history
Tommorow is a mystery
But today is a gift that is why it is called present
-master oogway
Rumi is my mom's name
@@Legynus People are using this quote as a spam comment to gain subscribers lol
@@suzysafy5022 rumi is my crackhead friend's name xD
"Yesterday is victory
Today is fighting
Tomorrow we celebrate "♡
-abe
Many people are very mature, but don’t have the confidence they might need, so even though they’re not naive, they can get taken advantage of. If you are mature, please try to be brave in your decisions. Please take care of yourself. ❤️
I keep doing my best..it's not always easy..but I keep on trying thank you again tho.🌸🌺💗
@@kimberlybogert7031 Make no mistake, you could not possibly do better than your best. I’m very proud of you to be giving your all.
@@courageandcompassion2293 Thank you(｡•́︿•̀｡)(✿^‿^)You Take care now ok🌺🌸🏵️💗
@@kimberlybogert7031 You too. Thank you for your support!
@@courageandcompassion2293 Awww it's Not a problem at all.☺️❤️💖🌷🌺
"They actively listen more and talk less"
Me who does this because of my anxiety: 👁👄👁
And then you question if you’re actually mature enough to listen to others or you’re anxiety is forcing you to, making you question yourself more and giving you more anxiety
@@ouffman769 Haha so true 😭😂
finally I am anot alone who have anxiety... :(:
Me too and I m dipressed too😭
Truee
"Being proud of themselves in enough" just touched me 🧿✨
Ayo
My parents: Ugh, you're so immature. Phych2Go: You're mature.
our parents think in a way that if we don't do what they want make us immature for them even, we are mature
What if.. Maturity is subjective ?
@@insch.9547 I think you may have a point. Everyone has different experiences and points of view so in a way it’s not up to people to decide if your mature but yourself.
Yea! The thing is that every generation has their own trials and tribulations. Some people (not all) like to hold their struggles and experiences and use them by themselves as a measure of maturity. It's a very selfish thing to do and is not mature of them. Just because they emerged triumphant on the other side, doesn't necessarily mean they were steadfast in making the right choices. They may have done hurtful things to themselves and others to push their way up and over. If you understand that and you can be happy by being proud of yourself and staying humble simultaneously, you're more mature than them. ❤
and I got the opposite tbh..ik I'm immature and I'm working on it as much as I can. life is tough but so am i..sometimes...
"age is just a number , maturity is a choice "
Yes! We choose to become who we are. ❤
By this video I reached a point of maturity by 12.5-13
Well said im 25 and act like im 18.. my choice though
Age is just a number and jail is just a cell
“Age is just a number”
- child rapist
Although you are a child, your heart can be maturer than adults.
It's ture 😶🙁
Me when I was a kid.
that's very true. there was a school counselor that wasn't' good at her job. i was better at her job than she was. she kept tabs on my on my home life which i knew was out of line and then she forced me to hug a person i was terrified of and i knew that isn't allowed. my parents emailed her and she came back with a bright, neon pink, cursive, email that my dyslexic dad couldn't read. very unprofessional and upsetting. i'm surprised she's not fired yet cause she's gotten many complaints just like it.
Yess
@@Momita12345 Yeah We are
I remember hitting 15 years old and having mastered these 7 signs. I'm happy I did, because I was in balance. Only trying to get out of this led me down wrong paths, and now I found that I'm happier being like this video.
Same here, never tried to be mature, its really just life not giving a choice.
plot twist: staying wise is a daily challenge and nobodys always wise in the eyes of someone else. you can get mad and still be wise but you will appear as an immature idiot to bystanders of that isolated incident.
Anger isn't inherently bad, it's just expressing it in healthy and safe way and trying to minimize contact with persons who don't respect your boundaries. It doesn't matter what others think, especially strangers. The last time i got angry in public setting was about 2.5 years ago so that doesn't happen often (came home to discover that my partner had moved out while i was at work, after telling me she loved me that morning - i regrettably stopped by her job). I'll admit i did react immaturely to that which triggered past trauma for me. No one is perfect but when i fall short i try to take accountability and make amends to those persons i may have harmed. Do you mind sharing what made you angry in public?
@@SoulDelSol i dont really mean in public, i mean your being angry can be observed by other people who might not even be involved and jump to the conclusion that youre immature altho youre wisely letting it flow.
the last time i was angry in a public setting was when i saw the issues of a work place and calmly pointed them out in a big team meeting. neither the team nor supervisors acknowledged the cause of the problems i mentioned. the company ended up losing billions over this. i got angry a little bit and then decided i had to leave that place and be self employed so noone can stand between my clear sight and the action that needs to be taken. i was hurt that nobody believed me but now im happy and i see it as one of the greatest learnings of my life not to waste energy on making people understand things they dont want to believe. everybody looked down on me as crazy but they all came to the same conclusion as me... just a few years and many sicknesses later. its kinda sad im the only one who learned sth from it...
Thnk u. Idk when tf emotions and being human became bad. As long as its not hurting u or someone else its most likely just
I forget this a lot. I needed to hear that. 💙
yes it's sooo upsetting that when a person gets mad at someone, other people just assume that's their "true colors". anger is part of everyone, but not all people are angry all the time and hot-tempered, it just so happens that a person just snapped and cant hold their anger any longer. and you can tell a person is mature becuz even when they're angry they use words and not violence, and their words have good points and their choice of words aren't as degrading as "you dumbass mother effer". they actually have a good reason to be angry. ppl just can't see the difference between being mean and being angry.
7 signs someone is truly mature (Wise).
0:40 (One) Their choices are based on their Character instead of their feelings.
1:17 (two) They are patient.
1:46 (Three) They keep Long-term Commitment and Promises.
2:11 (Four) They actively listen more & Talk less.
2:51 (Five) They don't need attention & possess a sense of humility.
3:21 (Six) They're Open-minded.
3:51 (Seven) They're self-aware & known when to hold themselves accountable.
Thanks for the tldw
Thank you for the summary , We appreciate it a lot! :D
@@itsmii1364I read that as To Long Didn't Weed
@@defnotnaruto222u need sleep
I think not forcing love is also important
*7 signs someone is truly mature*
0:35 their choices are based on their character instead of their feelings
1:15 they are patient
1:45 they keep long-term commitments and promises
2:10 they actively listen more and talk less
2:50 they don't need attention and possess a sense of humility
3:19 they are open-minded
3:50 they are self-aware and know when to hold themselves accountable
Thank you, this shortens the video tons.
@@loonyspangles8173my pleasure
omg the voice just broke my heart into two pieces , this is one of the most comfortable voices I ever heard.
The person who's telling is mature for sure. This makes me explore this channel more and more .
"The only time you'll mature, is when you stop thinking that you're mature." - some dude on the internet
lol
What if you acknowledge that you are mature and you ARE actually mature? You don't try to make others think u are mature but think you are at least a bit mature, does that mean you're immature? I don't think so if you really are mature. If someone thinks they can run fast (but don't think they are super fast or something, just fast enough)and they can ACTUALLY run fast that means they acknowledge it.
@@pkmntrainerred4247 The amount of times u said the word mature makes my brain hurt
@@i2misa LOL, looks like I accomplished my secondary objective
If I know Who I am and I say I am mature then I actually am. Internet dude is wrong 😂
The fact that I’m considered “truly mature” by these standards is quite nice because I learned these traits from other people that I was surrounded with and I picked these habits from them and I’m glad to have experience being with them(*´∇｀*)
Must be cool people
OH THAT EXPLAINS ME TOO
I grew up on the internet so i picked up habits that i find mature and reasonable, and somehow ended up here
Yeah I often find someone in a group I can look up to years ago. I keep learning a lot since then.
My only standard is to treat people how I like to be treated. No one was nice to me but I matured. Atleast something good happened
Same
I remember when I was 13-14 and I was trying to act mature. Ended up destroying most aspects of myself.
For what it's worth, I hate that word. I was deceived into believing being mature was a goal I had to achieve, and it ended up becoming an insidious mindset.
This video has showed me I am not fully matured, but I've changed. More importantly, changed without trying to be what I am not.
Same to everything. And having taken this "be mature" thing through my life has kinda ruined things (?), but maybe is because I skipped the part where I must be assertive; and the video kinda skips it too. Being mature or emotionally mature is to accept all emotions and to feel the pain, sadness, anger or joy that any situation brings. And that is where things like patience, empathy, no need for attention, humility and etc roots. I kinda hate this word too now, something that had so much meaning has turned into a label and a weapon for somebody else to control you by telling you: oh, truth is you are no very mature.
I’m 13 turning 14 this year, and all my thoughts at school are things like “I want people to think I’m mature” or “be mature” and based on this video, I am quite mature, but it kinda hurts to think that I’m only being mature for a reputation
@@rebeccagowen6619 you remind me a lot of myself when I was younger, my advice is just don't care about it or you'll get in a lot of unfavorable situations
@Jay T I was like your cousin when I was 13 lol, but with music, and met plenty during my teen years. Is part of forming an identity I think. He will snap out of it, hopefully. In the meantime, teasing him every once in a while won't hurt.
What you said about being critized by false staples of maturity can be very true, like you said: drinking, adult tv, maybe partying, being like cold and serious and "deep" (those people can be very annoying) etc are seing as adult stuff. What I meant in that sense is that, in my opinion, another false staple of maturity is repressing your emotions and avoiding conflict. That causes that false image of a pacient kind "mature" person, but is not, is just someone who is letting everyone damage them. And all thanks to wanting to appear more adult than other people. "Mature" can be a weapon in many ways, damn. But maturity is more than that for me now that I am older, and I def do not consider mayself mature anyomre lol. It takes a lot of responsability to be an actual adult, and lot and lots of empathy and compassion, but it has to come from within. I think a way of doing that is knowing yourself and meeting more people, constant learning about living will get us there. And of course, the circumstances help to shape us. Don't worry about the rant, I love writing them and reading them too. Greetings (?).
@Jay T you know I used to have all these qualms when I was younger but the older grew I just went 'does this really matter?' and stopped caring
If your cousin wants to act like he is more 'mature' than you so be it, because frankly, no one cares.
Just act the way you want and don't let such comparisons dilute any of it
I used to be truly immature one time, but when I realised that I can't keep living like this I started to discover my purpose in life. It led me to go through life with humility, discipline and an open mind to keep learning from everyone. Anyone can learn to be wise/mature, you just have to be willing to commit to it no matter how hard it is.
Yeah you my dog
Keep up the good work! And learn about Islam. It will take everything you learned and take it up several notch and give you real contentment.
May Allah (S.W.T.) guide you and bestow upon you His Blessings; Ameen.
U are truly humble bro keep urself proud
@@EstanislaoSantino-xk8uz Thank you, we should all be proud of ourselves!
believe me or not this channel has the best and the most supportive comment section i hv ever seen
love u team psych2Go amd thanku.....
And also the shortest because if I type this title video, every recommended video will be 20 to 30 minutes long which is wasting my life
Thank you. We love and appreciate our viewers too :)
@@Psych2gohey would you mind doing a video on your youtube channel . About who is more easily deceived or swayed - men or women
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Praying that everyone falls asleep quickly and has a peaceful sleep. Hope you all wake up happy and well rested
Thankyouu for your wonderful comments for you prayinv for you too
THANK YOU I really hope that one day I'll just obtain the ability to fall asleep at the drop of a hat cause it would be so helpful
Thankyouu
Ooh I m sleepy,but I need to study
I literally love u
my whole life i’ve been told i’m so much more mature than what my age is and because of that i’ve had this sense to be super mature even though i’m still quite young. the truth is i am emotionally mature but i’ve realized i have a mix of both maturity and immaturity, and i’m fine with it! we all deserve to be a little immature at times and we can all leave to be mature as well:)
I feel exactly the same!
I'm told that I'm mature for my age. The position and role I had and have made others see me this way. It's hard to try to "live" up to these expectations. I don't know if I'm mature. Maybe I am, or maybe I'm not. I don't know. I have a problem thinking though about how I should act and what I should do and say to give the impression to others that I am mature. It feels like I'm not mature because of the way I think is childish. I seek the recognition of others, so my peers and those around me can be confident that I am who they say I am. I can relate to some of these in the video, but then I think maybe I'm not wise/mature. At my age, there's no way someone can be wise. There's not enough experience. But then again, it goes into the meaning of wise and what it means to an individual, so who's to say who's wise or not?
Exactly✨
Understandable. I have experienced similar events. However, I had to develop this due to an accident involving my only parent. It's nice to see that I am not alone. :) Thanks for sharing your experience.
This seemed related to me:)
Out of all the channels about mental health, relationship advice, life. Yours is best and also true. People don't want advice that makes no sense and just put them in wrong direction
i was so unaware that i was mature till countless people started to tell me i was, watching this video definitely reminded me of my place in life.
“life is going too fast, so stop dwelling on the past but accept what you went through or what you did, appreciate the present and look forward to the future”
what this your piece of wisdom?
@@captainrorz718wdym?
I feel sad that i have all these qualities when i am only 14.. It would have been so good if I was just trying out makeup, dresses, enjoyed my teenage but i am more into what is going to happen, what if I dont study more than others, thinking about my past... I feel a need of having that child inside me back that society took away from me..
@UCypnbLfnJOn2LCVkbpkauaQ thank you for writing it all! These words made me feel like god will do good for me and others even though i am not christian❤️💜
Being mature does not mean that you cannot have a child-like sense of wonder.
Kid same like I'm a year older than you but I feel like I'm always worrying about my financial stability in the future and what failing school would do to my life plan. I wish I could just be a child because I can't remember my earlier life and have so much traumatic memories.
@@zaharabliss106 you are 15? Well we both are kids and can relate to this.. thats genuinely sad
@@idonthaveaname8164 whenever I think that way, i feel like a stupid cringe person who doesn't know this things can't happen
Calling myself mature would never be a sign of maturity. I feel we often learn from our past and present and we all have a lot to learn. To listen to others, to feel them, and to understand things, ourselves, and the world around us. To act with our minds and our true personalities rather than to wear a mask and project ourselves to be something we are not. Often it's never an easy life as such life, but then again nothing comes off as easy. To let our feelings dictate our life is to push our lives to ruination. I am still immature and I still let my feelings get the best of me at times, but I am certainly learning and creating a better me for the future.
rooting for you, u got this!!!
Yes, I 100% agree!
Agree. Bt also u can appreciate urself in private for being mature nd acknowledge it when needed. Jst staying humble is the key.
Sounds like a humble, self-aware and mature mindset! 😌❤️
W take
I will conclude that I am a person with developing maturity.
I can describe myself as patient, I do actively listen more and talk less, I can describe myself as open-minded, and the optimal self-development I am currently aiming at incorporates the remaining four guides/teachings.
I still struggle often, no mistake. No matter what progress you make or how much of it you manifest, regression is ALWAYS possible. It never becomes impossible, no matter how confident you are in your growth. 💙
i used to definitely act on my feelings and impulsively!! As ive grown older and matured, Ive learned to think rationally!!
Dont be so fake.
@@Feliceransom74 😂
@@thefool3571 I'm not wrong
Yeah yeah. Thats what someone says when nobody is spying on them 247. Try taking your privacy away. And everything you do is plastered all over social media for no good reasons. They even know when you take a shit. Then tell me again how well to take things
Maturity in one sentence -
Finding happiness in small
things is maturity.
Peace✌️
:3 👌
Your username says it all. And I agree.
Which, by an inkling, are you a fellow Stoic? If so a nod to you brother may we strive for contentment.
Your username says it all.And i agree. which,by an inking,are you a fellow stoic ?if so a nod to your brother may we strive for contentment.
I'm still at my early 20's so I'm pretty young and I do lots of foolish things in my life, but these type of videos help me learn more about how I could be a better person at this early age. Thank you Psych2Go!
When you dont need validation,you have a patient,
You listen to others carefully,
Instead of being reactive and impulsive, you r responsive to them.
You speak what is necessary instead of irrelevant gossips
Defines you a mature one..Good one✨👌But it takes time to learn.. And with time you gradually learn😊😊
I feel like a lot of us are immature when it comes to small things. Petty things. But when it comes to serious subjects, we can all find that inner maturity. Idk I'm not a psych student so correct me if I'm wrong.
I have a small question, can I ask?
You're wrong
@@mystery2893 if your going to comment ”you’re wrong” explain why they are wrong…and no one likes from their own comment.
@@canavokki8507 you're*
@@mystery2893
You remind me of someone who i tried to debate with and all he said was how good of a debater he was as he kept throwing insults at me and telling me "You're wrong" and not actually challenge the points i gave xD
I wish there were more mature people in this world, but the fact that theres a small amount of mature people, makes those who are mature that much more special.
If only "special" wasn't bad news in such cases. You don't want this quality to be rare 😂 At the same time, let's also acknowledge that in our modern times it is easier than ever to reach a good level of maturity at a very young age and "by yourself" as in = by choosing from the abundance of high quality teaching materials available for free use on the internet. Such as this video.
No so long ago, in now well developed countries, people died at 30, 40ish in masses. 😂 I'd say we're overall making good progress, considering each generation has to go through sets of experiences from 0 nevertheless, to internalise things
You don’t need to be old to be wise
True, but it can help. 😉
Tru
True. I know people (60+ years old) who are as emotionally mature as a toddler. Throwing tantrums and objects when one disagrees with them, even if said politely.
Exactly
Whoever says wisdom comes with age are most likely the same people who are entitled and believe cause someone is older than you ( regardless of what they do ) should be respected. Just as wisdom comes from experience, respect is earned not just given. ✊
I'm in a path to be a mature person , i know my past action is so selfish but now i want to change for better , I'm glad i find these kind of videos
Literally to the 1% who's reading this, God bless you, and may your dreams come true, stay safe and have a wonderful day.
Thank you, i needed it
Thanks I wish you the same
May god keep safe and sound a good human being like you❤️
y tho?
Thank you so much, you have no idea how much good this comment can do
As a child growing up. I was always told I'm more mature for my age. As an adult now. I agree with that statement.
Sad some people said having expensive high end clothing makes you mature in life
They are the immature ones buddy. Not everything is based on status.
Lmao that's immature asf. It's like a kid getting a new toy and showing to their friends just to boost their ego and show off.
thats... not how it works lol, its kinda the opposite hahaha
Who says that, I've never seen a person say that
I wear a timex weekender watch, a pair of nice fitted Jeans from ross/old navy, and some button down shirts from goodwill, and discounted stan Smith and people constantly checking me out. Just make sure the cloths are clean and fitted and the colors are solid, and you are good.
I have always been called mature by my family members. My mom even says to me, “You’ve been more mature than your father since you were six.” I listen and observe everything, which has led me to hear and see things I shouldn’t have. I look but don’t act my age. All of my friends are much older than me and I have a hard time making friends with my classmates who are the same age as me. I had to grow up fast to help my mom and be a good role model for my siblings. I just wish I grew up a bit slower.
Like u girl my family needs daughter my parents always said that act like mature
Not sure if this is mature or not, but I always attempt to find a way to do something productive with my negative emotions. And if I can't do something productive with them, I detach myself from them and let them go. It's helped me to stop holding grudges against anyone, and also helps me quell emotions like greed or envy. But things like anger and frustration can be channeled productively into finding solutions, or if I can't do that, at the very least a really good gym session.
So true
you are healing...I guess.If something does not suite you,leave it.
Same
I do the same
Very mature of you..I've actually learnt from you.
"How mature do you think you are?"
I got the idea of maturity when people said they thought I'm 18 years old (we talk online) when I'm actually 13.
Sane here people aways say that I'm like between 20 and 24 and I'm 17 aha
Can relate
𝐒𝐚𝐦𝐞𝐞
So what do you talk about that they think you are older ? very curious
@@kirookayama7773 idk they just say that my way of communication and the words I use are kinda .. mature.? 👁️👄👁️
honestly depression made me realize that not everyone has the same life as me and they have their own things that they go through. before all that i was so content but also naive so ig it has its pros and cons much love to yall and keep ur head high
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I failed 7 out of 7
And im 30.
Welp, i gotta be kinder to myself since my circumstance is special.
No shame in starting late than never trying to change.
First step is ridding myself off games. It has kept me safe and alive until to a point today where i need to step forward.
Edit: I failed again. There really is nothing here for me.
Just gonna end it this year
Go for it man 👍👍👍
you can play games and still be mature
Cool alucard pfp
Awareness. Good job
Yep. Be empathetic with yourself. Also, the matter of maturity is pretty subjective. With some of these things I could disagree with. Just because a person listens well doesn't mean they're mature. Also, I think people need to work on self awareness first. Realize what causes you to experinece certain emotions, why you get angry at some things others may think are nothing to be angry about, why you befriend and attract certain people, and why you're attracted to them. Things like these are much more important than maturity to me. I don't believe someone can always be mature, or in a healthy mental state all the time, but if you have self awareness, when you're at the lowest of the low, you'll be able to tell those around you your needs which will help you get back to a better state. Sometimes you may go back to a bad habit of the past, but you know that you can still go back to being healthy again, and that shall be your inspiration to move on. Being mature and healthy goes hand in hand with being immature and toxic, you'll constantly experinece all of them depending what you're going through, so i think it's important to learn what causes you to shift from one side to another. Never too late to learn, good luck. I believe you can make it :)
The voice of this narrator is amazing .
My inner feelings is wise, elderly (not all)
But I act like a lil kid
And I’m a young teenager
That’s why most people hate my attitude/ how I act
I feel like I'm the same way. My brother suggested I change my behavior to better fit the group so it's not so abrasive and disconnected from the overall vibe
Same for me! People call me immature all the time. But I’ve noticed that they act just as they say I do. They usually only call me immature because I sound and act like a kid sometimes.
@@actualnotanewbie be who you want to be not what you think everyone else wants you to be
For those who matter don't mind and to those who mind don't matter
One major thing I've learned in life is that if you are unapologetically yourself then you're going to find the perfect people for you
If they don't like you for who you are they'll leave and if they do they'll stay
You will have less friends that way but the friends and family you will have will be more than enough because they will be perfect for you
People say I have a bad attitude but it's because I'm smart and I tell people when what they're saying is dumb. Sometimes people need to hear the truth.
acting like a kid doesn't mean your not mature. you should never ignore the child inside you😁it's okay to be childish✨
I can relate to maybe 3 , maybe 4 points in this video . I can confidently say that I am more patient than those around me , I try to be open-minded and try to learn about the circumstances of the decisions of others , I know when to hold myself accountable , and I can recall myself stepping back from a fight just to assess what was really going on .
A lot of times, I feel like I am mature, but a part of my mind thinks that I shouldn't think that way or that I'm feeding into my ego and being boastful...
I do feel like maturity shines in the way we act towards our circumstances and how we get to that action, but I dislike it when people around me (that I know) say that they're "mature" when they don't act like it. We may have our moments where we act out, but I don't want people to see _that moment_ as our natural behavior.
What I mean is that everyone views emotional maturity differently. 🤷🏾
Same wd . me
I believe every one must take time (atleast 10-15 minutes) of a day to introspect on
1) How their day was- what is their emotion(happy , sad, angry , tired , guilty -- is it because of themselves or because of others) and why you are feeling like that and how can you improve
2) what is your wish/desire/ambition
3) what progress they made towards their goal in real/concrete world
4) Did you do or say anything that might have hurt yourself or others
5) Did you respect those who deserve respect or were you blinded by anger/jealousy/hatred/insecurities
6) plan on what all events you want to do in your life(at the same time don't over plan or read out your plans to others for sake of validation)
7) what mistakes you made and how can you correct them
8) introspect on how to make a growth mindset
9) We all must know that every relationship(romantic, platonic, family...) require management and sacrifice from our part- do introspect on are we making the ends meet
10) And most important - understand yourself , who you are as a person
Do SWOT analysis
Figure out your MBTI personality and understand the weakness
Understand your likes and dislikes
TRY to build a strong character or identity and have strong ideals and values
Because remember "logic when focused for a short time does not differentiate between good and bad "
It is our ideals and values that provides us reason to be good and kind and efficient in life
So maintain a balance between idealism and practicality.
Also remember "Winning or losing is something which we/society define for ourselves . But in the real world all that matters is how strong you are to keep living and do what you are supposed to do "
And finally don't OVER INTROSPECT
Thank you 🙂🙏
someone to me: "you are so mature for your age"
me: "thank you that's on trauma but still thank you"
Same I find myself thinking that so often. Especially childhood trauma kind of made me who I am.
@@whydoi4312 yeah it really did make me what and who i am. basically i am a trauma response
@@nicolasmeyer282 I feel the same. Sometimes you do things and wonder was this me or my trauma?
@@whydoi4312 yes exactly and i'm tired of it
Same,same...
I'm 19 y.o and I honestly want to be married by next year, in two years I want to start a family. I have to work on a lot in order to be ready for all that responsibility. Both in discipline and spirituality. I am exited to build a family in which God is present, I will try my best to work on myself and become a good wife and mother. Of course that I have other ambitions in my life such as career, but to be honest, nothing lights up my heart like family does.
That's wonderful. Make sure that you find a person who has the same values and goals as you. Make sure that you and the other person know how to set and respect boundaries, apologize, and forgive each other. Make sure that you both believe that your marriage is a sacred vow that you would never willingly break. I say this as someone who has been married and divorced. Marriage is the most important commitment that you will ever make.
Be patient. Being a mother is a lifelong commitment and responsibility. Working harder has nothing to do with being good wife or mother. Take your time, live your own life first, be patient. Also be carefull what you wish for, because that knight in shiny armour, can become a dragon in a split second. Good luck and take your time, instead of rushing and planning everything ASAP.
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Maturity takes time from learning to others' or personal experiences, reading books, listening, and so on. It is transparent when someone's trying to fake it or not. :)
Yess. This is accurate seeing the kind of maturity I have.
Anyone else watch this to see how mature you really are, and then turn out matching every point? I do this in a lot of their videos, but golly! Why are they always so accurate!
I took a sleep watching this, such a soothing voice ❤️
This was a great video. Especially balancing character & emotions. Choosing your value system over your temporary emotional state is a practiced skill and something everyone needs to work on (myself included).
I constantly try to work on and improve these aspects on myself. The hardest one for me is definitely making choices not based on emotion. It’s easy for me to get swept away in the moment and make a poor decision because I’m flustered or excited. Maintaining a calm composure and assessing my feelings and my values is becoming something I remember to do just a little more with each misstep. And this video has only served to remind me even more to focus on these things so that I can grow as a person and make a difference one day, so thank you!
Yes, it's hard to control this. I do hope so too.
I am always told by my mom that I am immature and my sister is more mature. But I had a strong feeling that her perception of maturity was not the most accurate one. Thank you so much, I needed this video.
My mom just said I walk immaturely.
I am like " What? What does that even mean?"
My mom said I am 16 but I walk like a 10 year old. Almost like bouncing or skipping.
I mean I am HAPPY! Give me a break. Lol 🤣🤣
Tell her she walks like a corpse. Somebody has to shock her to get her to move. Lol
@Wesley Z Y E S
break*
Break, please dont get angry at me.
@@gba8273 yeah.
I'm slowly accepting what my mom repeatedly says about being productive. Because I really hate it when I hear it every time, and I realized that's just my ego complaining. It's a slow progress but I'll keep it going.
I'm quite a mature person for my age however my underdeveloped emotional and mental state gets the better of me sometimes and I need to work through that barrier
I definitely have a lot of work to do. I’ve been fighting and working to be more mature, and there are so many things I have matured from but also many things I still need to work on. Especially patience and acting on emotions. My anxiety almost always gets the better of me in stressful situations, but like you said I just need to remember what J stand for. To be better and make sure no one feels the same pain I have felt. Thank you for helping me see these things a lot more clearly
View your subconscious as a separate mind.
Understand what it's saying and why, and soon it will have far less pull on you.
Sometimes, I'll never be the guy who think before he acts or say.
Sometimes you need to let it go out to feel better, you just need to be careful when you do it and about the consequences it can have if it's a touchy situation.
@@JeyRzii yeah, you're right. Thanks.
I'll have to disagree at 2:11 because, Listening is just a sign of wanting to find out about this and that but talking is one's way of opening up . There is no harm in speaking, but unless you act out immature, therefor, it's actually about the hand gestures and movement based on the tone of talking that can show immaturity
For me, being mature at the age of 15 is fine, so in the future, it'll be normal and nice to me. Because most of the time I want peace and a nice day like I find nature and quiet places so relaxing. I want to develop my routine to be also a productive person, but I do sometimes have a teenager character, like 30%.
Almost same
I hate noisy places
Same and mé 15 too😂
I'm mature at the age of 11. Is it good?
@@someoneidk3413 good but isnt it feels bad sometimes because we deserve to enjoy at this age
Here’s the thing with “promises”, I like to not say “promise” simply because sometimes promises were meant to be broken and I’m not saying it for negative situations , but more like positive decisions. I often use the phrase ‘I’ll try’ just so I won’t get that person’s hope up and including myself for holding on to that promise. I think the word “Promise” is simply overused to the point where to the point nowadays just is meaningless. All I’m saying is for myself and others just say the phrase “I’ll try” so no hopes don’t get broken between each of you.
So true
Wait exactly-
Well said thank you
I disagree with this because as it was said "Their choices are based on their character, not feelings". The promises that you said were meant to be broken are the ones people do based on feelings, biggest example: love promises. If someone is mature enough they won't do those bc they know feelings come and go.
Ofc nobody knows what the future holds so making promises is always a risk, but if they are true to your character they are less likely to be broken. That's what I believe.
@@alexiamiwa9524 Ahh honestly I agree with this!! As someone who's working on making choices based on character, this is a really good opinion :>
It's OKAY to accept being wrong
Ive been wrong ALOT and that's okay
A mature person is with in everyone, it's not just you are one or the other. The video gives light to ideas that are mature but lack the understanding that mature people who ever they are, are human and can make impulse decisions, become impatience, or act on emotion, it's more like they are less likely to do so.
As a person who's grown with adults and I don't get traumatized by everything that can be traumatizing for people of my age when I am with my friends I feel older
And yes. I agree with those points
I've also grown up with adults, since I'm an only child, and it's been quite a experience. What kind of things are you talking about? ^^
@@jime9525 I'm talking about bl00d mental illnesses adults and sensitive topics for other people
@@DariaImNotReal oh, well, I think sometimes it's a matter of circumstances, I don't consider myself mature though, I just believe I've learned to handle some situations by experiencing them ^^
"life is too short for humans to understand maturity or become one"
I am teen but I basically have all the qualities mentioned in this video. I don't think I am mature, I still have a lot to learn and explore with experience :)
I've been told I'm wise by family, friends and even people that have passed in my life for only 16 hours and I truly believe them. Particularly on the self-awareness point, it's very hard to deal with difficult matters when you're emotionally self-aware of what you're reactions and emotions can bring to others, plus being conscious that every action has its consequence. No, in fact it's more easy to deal with the issue for a self-aware person but it becomes more difficult to do it with a non self-aware person because they'll, most of the time, decide of what's best for them and them only, not thinking of the consequences their decisions might bring on to others.
I suggest Psych2Go to do a video on the subject by the way ! I think there is a lot to say about non self-aware people (emotionally as well as in general) and how we can better live with them (if that topic hasn't been adressed yet of course).
U guys have been killin it! Such quality videos and at such a consistent basis. GOOD JOB GUY🎊
Just remember that being mature(or trying to be) doesn’t mean you have to fit into a box or anything really. I feel like i have a more artistic free flowing side of me that i just turn on sometimes randomly. Sometimes i don’t do what creative thing i was thinking of saying/doing though due to fear of being jugded. Don’t fall into this trap that easily can become habit. For me this has to do with expectations, especially if you ”fill” a certain role in a social setting/group. There’s a time for being playful, creative or the goof of the room, no matter age or life situation etc.
my friend once told me that i'm the most mature yet most immature person she knows, and to this day, i don't know how i should take that
Yo lo tomaría como un halago :'D
@@sourjingles1812 then so shall i :D
For me that's a compliment, I would be fluttered when someone says that to me :D
Oh nice, I am all of these things. I...
1. Base my choices on rationality and my character instead of emotions
2. Am very patient
3. I keep my promises for a long time
4. Actively listen and talk little
5.Am humble and don't need or want attention
6. Am very open minded
7. Am self aware and take responsibility for my actions
I love how this video also teaches you in a way on how to be more mature in certain situations. And thank you for this great video!❤
I've been pretty wise my whole life I'd say. Even in elementary school I overheard kids on the bus say things like
kid A: "Who do you think is the most mature person in school"
kid B: "Probably Drew"
I grew up with Amygdaloid based anxiety and a brain tumor. Detaching myself from emotions has always come extremely easy to me. Actually, most of my struggles are with what I'd call physiological alexithymia (as opposed to the more common form of alexithymia which I'd call psychosematic alexithymia. There are a lot of concepts I used right there, so look them up. I'm not sure if I have the time to explain it in depth). For that reason, my struggle has been much more about getting back in touch with my emotions. BTW, the whole physiological alexithymia thing is because I literally had a surgical procedure to remove my epilepsy stunted Amygdala. As I say, I've been everywhere on the normal mental health range of issues from extreme anxiety to an Amygdalectomy patient. From brain cancer patient, to brain cancer (remission) patient (I still have it it's just a very benign tumor). From my days being overly anxious in adolescence, I am an extremely philosophical person, and could run circles around most people. I'd say that even with how stunted my amygdaloid based development is I'm in the upper tenth percentile of wisdom (partially because I'm only now going through that Amygdaloid development in my twenties instead of in my adolescence).
You are very strong
And by reading this I can say that you are mature too
May god bless you and get well soon......😊😇
When you cry whole night and wake up like nothing happened then it's maturity ❤️
Really ??
@@mafeeza3729 yes because maturity depends on how you hide your feeling to the world ❤️
LMAO
@@jananirajasri_06 and why should you hide your emotions? it will hurt the other person who cares for you in return, not only you because you just wouldn't show how you feel.
@@xocoping really, lmao.
Yeah, feeling like I was “so mature” at a young age (around 14) turned out badly for me. I presented myself as mature and truly believed I was mature, but on the inside I really wasn’t. I didn’t listen to my elders and didn’t evaluate my decisions. Ended up hurting people and myself, and now I have to work through this in therapy to try to be a better person. I’ve been in therapy for about 9 months now and I am just getting started, just BARELY realizing how immature I am. Even when I started therapy, I didn’t start it for this reason, it was for an immature reason. Now I am 23 and I have to work on maturing while dwelling on past bad decisions I have made. If you’re a teenager reading this, please talk to a mature adult before making decisions and listen to them. Try to REALLY look in the mirror and don’t make adult decisions when you are not an adult.
I know children that are more mature than a lot of adults. I was one of those kids. 👍
Me too, it's really frustrating sometimes to be so young and mature while everyone around you is being immature and horrible. We mature kids are the special ones in my eyes; we're few in number, diamonds in the rough
Woaahhh cool
Me too.
@@FatimaT714 That didn't sound mature at all...
Maybe me too (don't misunderstand this as bragging I'm not saying I'm mature but I have maturity to some, maybe more than 50%, extent)
"I'm an old soul with a young body but still young enough to know I gotta know some more."
Listening to you makes my feelings feel more peaceful and calm
Yes 😴🙂
Insane details that you missed, in 0:02 the leaf that he tear Psyc2Go is written on it !!!!!!!
Ohh yeah ur right
Woah, I Didn't Notice
Woah
But remember one important thing that most people misunderstand.you CANNOT control your emotions or thoughts. However you can be the observer of them and control how you react to them. Trying to control them only leaves you feeling frustrated and defeated.❤️
There's a difference between wisdom and maturity, you know?
Yup!
then what's the difference
@@lou8426 Maturity is how you respond to situations and problems in correlation with your emotions and intelligence, while wisdom is applying intelligence to situations and problems to make the best decision possible.
Hope this helped 💜
@@juliakay7446 Good answer! thank you
@@lou8426 yup, no problem! 😌
My behaviour : Immautre
My brain : Mature
Because I really like to behave immautre to make others feel comfortable behaving like this.I observed that when I behave a little mature, they really think a lot before talking with me and can't be free. But when I'm like a kid,other kids also love to play with me..And I'm happy to be able to make others happy
I heard once that true maturity is being calm and wise and not loosing your temper all the time. It's not about getting older, it's about doing the right thing at the right time and being responsible
“Mature people are patient”
Me: ugh this video is like 5 minutes long, I can’t watch all of it
haha, I'm mature but I'm not that patient xd
Patience is waiting in a serious situation polity and going forward calmly not in hot mind
me putting in 2x speed:
@@beluariass lol you're not mature
you're ultra pro max mature-
@@jhopesstrawberry plsss your name bye - 😭
It's 11PM and i'm about to sleep. The narrator boosted the production of my melatonins. Thank you
Thank you! Have a wonderful evening! :)
True!! I might have a super comfort sleep after listening this video
Personally, I never found myself to be mature even when others see myself as such. Mainly for one aspect you've addressed here.
Listening to everything you've had to offer here in this video, I understand myself more than have before and know more as to why people think I am mature for my age. However, I will say that your first sign is something I still need to work on.
I do have everyone's best interest in mind when making a decision, I do listen to everyone and support them in anyway I could. Although as you say, "words have weight to them." And I tend to get emotional hurt and damaged with people's words, thoughts or opinions when portrayed to me. Thus I get defensive and quick to anger as a result.
I would say I'm close, but this is one downside that is a major bane of mine that I must overcome and I thank you for this video
you completely explained my thought 😅
Man the voice of the narrator is so soothing!
I could sleep to it!
It’s good to know that I’m matured well I’ve already realised that before but I think there’s much more to add on , though it was good too
Thanks and all the best to everyone :)
Psych2go: Are you mature?
Me: Well yes/no but actually no/yes
Same
Same. Couldn't have daid better myself
It has been a while since I've watched one of these videos. Made me a little calm from stressful days.
Also, a criterion of maturity is the ability and willingness to stand up for one's rights, however disconcerting that action may be, when they are violated. It's possible to have all of the characteristics listed in the video, but be not fully developed emotionally thereby being vulnerable to abusers.
Such a sooth and calming voice , I loved the content really appreciated
*Our queen is back with another amazing video❤️*
I think im mature then, I do things even if it bores me, since I promised to do it.
Even when I am better than others I don't go brag about it, I give respect to every person.
Additionally I am open minded and don't let opinions get the better of me, meaning, I don't discriminate others. I often listen to others, especially a good friend of mine who is a chatter box, and I know I can learn so much more, even when I don't have knowledge yet, I will obtain it one at a time, I have no limits!