Become Better Looking through Psychology

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  • @kathleen9456
    @kathleen9456 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +1138

    I remember in high school there were people who were considered attractive and desirable but they weren’t classically attractive, they were just popular

    • @jinhub2175
      @jinhub2175 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +24

      THIS!

    • @terrorists-are-among-us
      @terrorists-are-among-us 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Literally most celebrities. I see people on the bus better looking than "millionaire super models". I saw Kardashian display at a drug store once and wanted to go blind 😂

    • @PlutosMoon22
      @PlutosMoon22 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +41

      Me too!! I was friends with a lot of them and didn't realized their "unconventional" (for lack of better word) appearances until after we graduated and been apart for awhile.

    • @averyintelligence
      @averyintelligence 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +53

      people find them more attractive cos of their social status.

    • @Izabela-ek5nh
      @Izabela-ek5nh 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +26

      If people are kind, honest, good :) they are always at least handsome for me. If a person is mean, cold, cruel, contemptuous, I can never perceive this person as beautiful. So if someone asks me which actors I find attractive I have no clue because I don't know them, someone can be attractive in one movie and ugly in another, their face doesn't change, just the character - and I literally can't say! I'm kind of facebeautyblind 😃 I didn't know it wasn't common until the very recent time! I always thought if you appreciate, like, love a person you see them as beautiful! I feel a bit weird now.... 😂😂

  • @ianegfp
    @ianegfp 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +104

    Where is that wonderful person who watches the video and then posts a numbered list of the 5 main points? Everyone loves that.

    • @JenMarco
      @JenMarco 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +15

      Those are beautiful people who do that!!

    • @circasurvive9891
      @circasurvive9891 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

      That wonderful person could've actually been the same person who originally asked the question, missed opportunity I fear

    • @nikolaygeorgiev3254
      @nikolaygeorgiev3254 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      It needs to be part of the video description

  • @deadsoon
    @deadsoon 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +687

    I love how the takeway is to simply be kinder and more considerate. I'm not the best looking but when I've made acquaintances they tell me I'm pretty after a while because I treat them kindly and offer support and a listening ear.

    • @taylorjones0
      @taylorjones0 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +53

      Don't wanna be a creep but based on your picture- you've actually got really nice features. To be very honest, you just need to find your style and those who said you are pretty were not wrong. The only difference I would like to point out is that you've been pretty from the very start (as a woman, I know a pretty woman when I see one) you just got even prettier in their eyes after they got to know your personality. Just saying though, felt weird that you would call yourself "not the best looking out there" when you're beautiful like that.
      Edit - Typos.

    • @h0rriphic
      @h0rriphic 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +30

      @@taylorjones0right?? I’m confused. If that OP in her pfp, she’s an objectively attractive person. Pretty bone structure, nice jaw line, full lips…I’d be stoked if I woke up looking like her. 😂
      OP- whomever put into your head that you’re mid or even “not the most attractive” was full of it! I’m glad that you are kind, but make no mistake- you’re a knockout too. Period.

    • @martazcv
      @martazcv 14 วันที่ผ่านมา

      shes average stop glazing​@@taylorjones0

    • @deniseneumann
      @deniseneumann 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      Thats what matters at the end anyways 😊

    • @alexandraayeone1470
      @alexandraayeone1470 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      I think your really pretty!

  • @KarlaEmmerson
    @KarlaEmmerson 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +282

    I physically do not find anyone attractive until Ive actually interacted with them. That’s why I don’t comprehend crushing on celebrities.

    • @unclemoolala
      @unclemoolala 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +26

      until you have a plethora of interviews and videos they are in, where you get to observe the way they behave and interact with others

    • @michelletruelove7783
      @michelletruelove7783 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      Like it says we are highly sugggestble. We project personality traits they may not truly have based on how they're marketed, characters they play, we see in an interview, what others say about them. I can find someone physically attractive without knowing them, but wouldn't want to physically enteract romantically necessarily. I have to see more than physical beauty to really feel attraction. Attractive and attraction are slightly different to me personally.

    • @paolamura3497
      @paolamura3497 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

      In fact, when I was a little girl and had crushes on tv stars I noticed that I had a crush on the character they were playing and NOT the actor himself. in fact the same actor in a different role left me completely indifferent. It took me a long time to understand this.

    • @JaneNewAuthor
      @JaneNewAuthor 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Are you non-neurotypical? Because they can see a lot that neurotypicals can't.

    • @susanfudge1737
      @susanfudge1737 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      Wow. You are blind to physical attractiveness? I guess that's good.

  • @shazzz_land
    @shazzz_land 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +122

    When I feel better I genuinely look better, pointed out by my family even

  • @arielperez797
    @arielperez797 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +573

    Confidence. The ultimate survival skill. Be confident in every movement you make. If you are finding it hard to be confident in your movement....start shadow boxing. Or dancing.

    • @smurfette6499
      @smurfette6499 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +15

      Could you say more about shadow boxing? Any TH-cam videos you recommend?

    • @SuperTank121212
      @SuperTank121212 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      I‘d love some pointers as well!

    • @anonymousesper9564
      @anonymousesper9564 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +21

      "just be a clinical psychopath" 🤓

    • @PlaywithDaisy
      @PlaywithDaisy 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@anonymousesper9564please give me tips❤ I want to be a psychopath.

    • @Eans_urban_jungle
      @Eans_urban_jungle 14 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Really is that simple!

  • @GenXMusicMan
    @GenXMusicMan 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +51

    I’m a firm believer in this! Your thoughts and aura alone can make or break your level of attraction

  • @Chaotic313
    @Chaotic313 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +244

    Truth!!! I have past experience thinking a man was super attractive...until I got to know him. Then, couldn't believe I thought he was even cute. And flipside, getting to know someone who didn't strike me at first as attractive, and finding them ridiculously hot because they are smart, and interesting, and funny, and unique. I feel so bad for those growing up in today's atmosphere, because so much is based on appearance ALONE. Not their choice. What they are being fed via social media. Not that looking great wasn't in my time too. But baby botox was not a thing, lol. You worked with what you got, and the beauty standards were not the insane rubber stamp faces now. I'm about to be 62, btw. NOT classically beautiful. But my "Ain't life great?!!" personality has always brought awesome peeps my way. And still does. :)

    • @szymonbaranowski8184
      @szymonbaranowski8184 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      thats why social media should be banned for good of civilisation, as well as dating people outside of own local community

    • @-EricaCartman
      @-EricaCartman 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +12

      Young ones these days are smarter than that. You don't give them enough credit. They're quite aware there are so many filters, and fake peopole, etc.

    • @Chaotic313
      @Chaotic313 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      ​@@-EricaCartman lets hope so! I know they are much more aware than I was when I was young. When I found out, probably in my twenties, that the flawless images of perfect skin etc. that I grew up viewing that were leaving me feeling "less than" were the result of airbrushing and alteration, I felt lied to. Knowing it's fake will keep the younger generation from aspiring to an impossible standard and hopefully focus on more important qualities.

  • @Sam-by3kk
    @Sam-by3kk 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +117

    It makes sense - has anyone else here noticed the rise of very physically attractive people, yet you don't actually feel that much more attracted to them? I think many are neglecting their personality in all of this

    • @Ich-cq9uu
      @Ich-cq9uu 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      YES. Now that you mentioned it.

    • @Shh_kult
      @Shh_kult 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

      bingo.empty vain avatars

  • @graceghazaii4434
    @graceghazaii4434 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +66

    Sense of humor too! Funny, witty people are fun to be around.

  • @squeaker19694
    @squeaker19694 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +85

    I think attractiveness is also affected by the way someone speaks. I find loud people who talk without thinking first and who dont articulate well much less attractive. I am attracted to soft spoken people

    • @aquachonk
      @aquachonk 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

      I like loud, articulate people who speak quickly with wit. Slow talkers who speak in hushed tones make my teeth itch. Takes all kinds.

    • @crysb9658
      @crysb9658 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      @@aquachonk Teeth itch 😂

    • @Miniflower25
      @Miniflower25 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

      🤣🤣​@@aquachonk

    • @curlyhairdudeify
      @curlyhairdudeify 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

      ​@@aquachonk We feel the same way your loud and obnoxious voice are like nails on a chalkboard to us.

    • @Nicky-fo8fn
      @Nicky-fo8fn 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      I agree the sound of a voice within even seeing them.

  • @gigig2492
    @gigig2492 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +44

    Beauty comes from within. My Mother taught me that “pretty is as pretty does”. Perfect proportions may get attention but inner beauty holds it.

    • @alenaadamkova5322
      @alenaadamkova5322 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

      If man invites you to see his parents, he probably is very loayal.

    • @2liter8
      @2liter8 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

      a good personality is the best makeup.

  • @chrisfahren
    @chrisfahren 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +178

    This video is gonna blow up, I'm calling it, let it hit the right crowd. I LOVE finding new gems like this. There's a LOT of game in this.

    • @churchofsolipsism2716
      @churchofsolipsism2716 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +15

      Yeah, if by "game" you mean people find out you're a friendly, helpful, and trustworthy person, then there's quite a bit of good advice in this video. It'll even improve your life in general, even if it doesn't lead to sex.

    • @Kayd33
      @Kayd33 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      2nd this.

    • @PandolfoCarla
      @PandolfoCarla 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      @@churchofsolipsism2716for everyone actually… we are what we repeatedly do.. so we can always improve as human beings.

  • @novaexx6587
    @novaexx6587 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +11

    I literally cant stop looking at the thumbnail because both pictures are IDENTICAL yet the difference is huge just by lightning (?)! Mind-blowing!

    • @dulcemoutinho5820
      @dulcemoutinho5820 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

      In photography lighting is all

    • @merlith4650
      @merlith4650 วันที่ผ่านมา

      No, I'm pretty sure it's a beauty filter. The face on the right has softer features, less wrinkles and bigger lips (or at least stronger red colour contrast making them appear bigger). The beard has also been made darker and thicker through the filter, giving him a stronger jawline.

  • @averyintelligence
    @averyintelligence 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +167

    simply ask yourself "who was the most attractive people i have ever met"
    for me, all my answers are people who where warm and kind

    • @RaisingAwarenessBerlin
      @RaisingAwarenessBerlin 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

      ..constantly!;)

    • @xxaavviieerrrrr
      @xxaavviieerrrrr 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Same

    • @bobwoolerOriGinal
      @bobwoolerOriGinal 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Question; does this still apply if one puts sex into the equation?

    • @deefee701
      @deefee701 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      ​@@bobwoolerOriGinalYes. As long as the person is turned on by warmth and kindness. Some people are more attracted to people who are mean, rude, etc. Its definitely a personal thing.

    • @jaysterling26
      @jaysterling26 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Really? I just look in the mirror every morning.
      Actually , every spare moment, I'm not mourning the mirror's absence.

  • @maryjoquay.
    @maryjoquay. 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +29

    Some celebrities aren't really beautiful, but the roles that they play, and social media idolizing them makes them seem magnetic

    • @ileanamuntean7338
      @ileanamuntean7338 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Only to morons with no mature interests and no inner life (unfortunately there are many of those).

  • @sophie4391
    @sophie4391 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +27

    Intelligence attracts me. A person who combines intelligence with a good sense of humor, social awareness, and common sense is very appealing. Not many people seem to have all of these qualities together-they’re few and far between!

  • @create2liberate
    @create2liberate 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    This is real and gets magnified as we get older. When someone is plagued by self doubt, worry or fear, it starts to show in their face and body language. Making it very easy, energetically, to read what someone is circling on.

  • @Satyaahere
    @Satyaahere 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +102

    Summary : Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder but what the beholder sees is upto us.

    • @radhau4048
      @radhau4048 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      True🙌

    • @martinbuck2389
      @martinbuck2389 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      I LOVE that 😊 Beautifully said!

  • @bosvigos9165
    @bosvigos9165 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +16

    In my 70's, I learned a very long time ago, pretty men, by and large, were not for me. Those I had known were so wrapped up in themselves I lost interest very quickly. Men who were not considered particularly attractive somehow had to work at it, and personality was key. I have had many happy relationships through the years with men who are kind, funny, sincere, laugh at themselves and have integrity. Not oil paintings, but lovely people. For the most part.😊

    • @aquachonk
      @aquachonk 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Conventionally handsome men look childish and unmanly to me. I like to see some rough edges and crow's feet, they always have better stories and more interests.

    • @bosvigos9165
      @bosvigos9165 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@MM-lg4ni; It might surprise someone with your thinking, that actually, it was me who decided very quickly they were not for me.

    • @2liter8
      @2liter8 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      thank you. not to brag but I know from social input that I'm good looking. lots of women have shown me that. and as you say I was so wrapped up in myself. not caring about others. Made lots of poor first impressions with women. But now in my 70's I see the error of my ways. I'm working hard on being a better caring person.

  • @peachfuzz6594
    @peachfuzz6594 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +26

    this makes so much sense. i started a new semester at college and became acquaintances with this girl who sat next to me. i thought she was really uptight, tense and bitchy at the start, but finding out the reason why she was like that after seeing her open up about her panic disorder had completely changed the way i view her and in turn, changed how i looked at her physically. she became a lot more attractive since her vulnerability showed me a new side of her i never expected to see. after becoming friends with her, i kept seeing that side of her over and over again. i got to see her true self and not just what presents at the surface, her attractiveness increasing bit my bit.

  • @channelchen
    @channelchen 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +29

    Here is also an input: Good lighting!!!

    • @aquachonk
      @aquachonk 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      You're screwed in a power outage, then.

  • @walkingwith_dinosaurs
    @walkingwith_dinosaurs 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +168

    Imagine being both ugly AND evil 🥺

    • @lauAlv
      @lauAlv 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +75

      most politicians ?

    • @catastic9394
      @catastic9394 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

      ​@@lauAlvhaha true

    • @zyyl1949
      @zyyl1949 14 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Psychopaths have the most sex, relationships and children

    • @PandolfoCarla
      @PandolfoCarla 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +11

      Most villains in Disney movies !

    • @CalypsoDarling
      @CalypsoDarling 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

      So basically a villain that isn’t Loki.

  • @yourfutureisnow6480
    @yourfutureisnow6480 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    I mean, on an energetic level, the thoughts you're thinking show in your eyes and in your energy. They affect your cells. The better thoughts you have ( positive), the better vibe you have. It's that simple.

  • @maryjanerx
    @maryjanerx 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +42

    This reminds me the plot of Shallow Hal. When he had that curse put on him and could only see the true beauty of the person's character, instead of what they really looked like

    • @xxaavviieerrrrr
      @xxaavviieerrrrr 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Sounds like a cool concept!!

  • @suburbohemian
    @suburbohemian 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +15

    I remember being a kid in the late 60's very early 70's watching the original Kimba the White Lion tv show and an episode in which Daniel Baboon told Kimba, who was acting stuck up at the time, "Handsome Is as Handsome Does". That never left me.

  • @bethanyhunt2704
    @bethanyhunt2704 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +34

    This makes me think of "countenance" an idea very common until about 100 years ago. It's pretty much synonymous with "expression", or "charm", but can be in contrast to someone's real character. Writers like Austen were always banging on about the "pleasing countenance", or otherwise, of their characters.

    • @duchesserickson
      @duchesserickson 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      I used that word in a book I'm writing to describe the main protagonist. It's funny you mentioned it.

    • @Sx-xy2zi
      @Sx-xy2zi 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Could you elaborate on this please

  • @tamarahalaa
    @tamarahalaa 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +16

    This literally explained to me why I stopped liking someone and why I never trusted them.

  • @ellasoriginalchannel9713
    @ellasoriginalchannel9713 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    Am autistic too. I always try to help others and burn myself out. Then people dumb me once they got enough. I am finally learning to be kind myself for the first time.

  • @parnika_singh
    @parnika_singh 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Beauty is subjective,and can not measured by numbers like golden ratio,
    1) looking at disturbing photos can make you look less attractive
    2) poor hygiene, if you smell bad you appear less attractive
    3) trustworthy and good behaviour can make you look attractive
    4) integrity and honesty, warmth and kindness, helpfulness

  • @nancyzehr3679
    @nancyzehr3679 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +113

    i am autistic. i dont understand motive or agenda beyond be kind, be responsible, be reliable, be helpful for greater good, CUZ everyone wins.

    • @misanthrophex
      @misanthrophex 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +12

      Well... some people are too ignorant to see the truth. They think that by being selfish they are improving their own lives, which is wrong. By helping others we help ourselves. For example, imagine if the Earth was in peace and we had no armies, no nothing like that, how many more resources we would have for all the good things?
      Ignorance is the root of all evil. People are too ignorant to understand that cooperation is the most effective way to help yourself. And the only way for humankind to have any sort of future is to finally understand this truth.

    • @Tidirita
      @Tidirita 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Those things, kindness, resposibility are learned behaviors and values. Not everyone got to learn them as children. There could also be even negative associations build regarding these traits in ones' mind. Another thing is brain disfuncion, as with psychopats - there are physiological reasons why a person can not experience certain emotions and therefor do not execute certain behaviour.

    • @edm3784
      @edm3784 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      Yep, that's it, be kind and don't stink ;)

    • @nakitanash
      @nakitanash 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

      same 🙂

    • @yubtubtime
      @yubtubtime 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

      This is why we have the autism rizz 💅

  • @kristinagroostina
    @kristinagroostina 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +17

    honestly, I noticed the power of this effect even looking at you throughout the video 🙈
    this perception thing is absolutely real!
    so yeah, just please be smart and behave appropriately with people, and you will succeed!

  • @fangzhouliu3343
    @fangzhouliu3343 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    I kind of intuitively knew this. My previous girlfriend was not conventionally physically attractive, but I knew that by getting to know someone I might end up finding them more physically attractive if they had a likeable personality. And lo and behold it happened.

  • @ladyinmaking
    @ladyinmaking 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    What a beautiful video! I agree! I have been stopped on the street all the time, people come to me and want to know me only because I have learned from my mother to walk and smile to everyone, I am saying hello to strangers, I am open to communicate and I am not afraid showing it. People reacting instantly only because of my smile and sparkle in my eyes telling „ don’t be afraid“. People, try to be more friendly , it is attractive and you will never be alone, it works I am the prove .

  • @rarmai
    @rarmai 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +14

    Interesting and well presented video. I recall many years ago being part of a hiring committee. A woman came in. Initially I felt zero attraction to her. She proceeded to do a very impressive job through the interview process. By the time she left I was a bit smitten with her.

  • @Beckiner67
    @Beckiner67 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    A Smiling, happy demeanour and keeping eye contact when in conversation can be attractive.

  • @MsHoneyBBQ
    @MsHoneyBBQ 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +25

    this was such a great video. stuff that i'd known, understood, percieved, my whole life but never really thought to verbalize in this way. the thing i want to talk about tho is that "positive traits" are very strongly subjective. i feel that it's why "beauty is in the eye of the beholder." because a trait that one person may see as 'negative' could easily be seen as a 'positive' by another. and sure, there are collective traits like "generosity" that are generally attractive to MOST people... but ARE they??? some peopel may not see generosity as attractive.... it's all based on what each individual likes..... i actually experienced this with an ex. i met him at work, and often saw how he interacted with our coworkers and clients. he was very physically attractive, but initially, as i saw how he interacted with others: abrasive, a little harsh, seemingly controlling, a playfullness that bordered on bullying, i came to think he was very ugly and did my best to avoid him.... but then, i happened to observe him when he didn't think others were watching. saw how he handled tough situations and came to learn aspects of his history. this all led me to see some deeper motivations for his behaviors, which i came to realize were mostly a 'show' that he put on, and led me to find him physically attractive again, lol. i was fully aware that this was happening at the time, too. lol, and yes, i'm letting it be know that he is an 'ex', lol. my point is, we all have a 'type'. and are attracted and repelled by others for a myriad complex 'human' reasons. some that lead us to toxic or otherwise unhealthy behaviors, others that lead us to healthy and satisfying experiences. either way, while i think it's very interesting to consider WHY others may or may not find us attractive, i've found that my time and energy is way better spent cultivating my SELF-attractiveness and then letting others decide for themeselves what they think of me. meaning, i've shifted my attention and focus from thinking about how to become attractive to others, and on to how to feel/be more attractive to MYSELF. there will ALWAYS be people who find each of us attractive and those who don't. who cares. and yes, while there are definitely some basic things that we could do to increase our general attractiveness to the masses... why bother? maybe i don't want that much attention, lol. And maybe i WANT a partner who thinks i stink good😋. lol. just felt like sharing my thoughts and experience. this is such a fun topic to discuss. thank you for making this video. 💖

    • @Sarahyoutubeaddict
      @Sarahyoutubeaddict 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

      That's some good insight you've got going there.

  • @zaddyzach7965
    @zaddyzach7965 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +35

    More indirectly, I feel that people who have positive traits have better lifestyles and better relationships and therefore are more likely to be healthier and better looking.

    • @jaxpatrickson
      @jaxpatrickson 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      And why do some people have more positive traits compared to others?

    • @user-jy9rq8nj7q
      @user-jy9rq8nj7q 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      I feel like this is the unsaid part of the halo effect as well though most attractive people do end up having good personalities because of the way their life is

  • @michelletruelove7783
    @michelletruelove7783 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

    Of course I want to be around kind and honest people. However Ive noticed two non physical traits stand out to me most. Confidence, just rocking what you have and not focusing on insecurities. Knowing what looks best on your body type and things like that matter so much! Humor is the other.. A person who makes me laugh always appeals more to me than those who are serious all the time. Or intense all the time.

  • @Sarahyoutubeaddict
    @Sarahyoutubeaddict 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    Being honest, healthy, positive and well groomed can go a long way

  • @PspTomisi
    @PspTomisi 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +425

    Cool video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her

    • @laurawheeler-px6oz
      @laurawheeler-px6oz 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back

    • @PspTomisi
      @PspTomisi 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?

    • @laurawheeler-px6oz
      @laurawheeler-px6oz 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

    • @PspTomisi
      @PspTomisi 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

    • @n0tgunshy
      @n0tgunshy 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

      @@PspTomisi Be careful. This is dangerous and you may wind up getting more than you bargained for. If you're lucky, you'll get no results at all.

  • @FaithfulandTrue949
    @FaithfulandTrue949 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

    11:07 part of brain that registers kindness & attractiveness / vs repulsion 🙏🏻✨️

  • @carvedwooddesignbespokekit866
    @carvedwooddesignbespokekit866 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +32

    Makes perfect sense, the higher your vibrational frequency the more attractive you become.

  • @ammyyyoxx
    @ammyyyoxx 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +12

    I've always thought this! There was a guy in my friend group who all the girls in school swooned over, but because I actually knew him (and that he wasn't particularly intelligent - harsh but true - which is a trait I look for) I completely discounted his physical looks. On the flip side, one of my exes isn't the best looking, but is one of the best people I've ever met and had some truly amazing qualities.

  • @michellekirwan-woods7623
    @michellekirwan-woods7623 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    This is so true!
    For example, I can never think someone i know on a personal level is "ugly" if they are a good person. ❤️
    On the contrary, good looking people who are crappy become "ugly" in my eyes.

  • @affiance6
    @affiance6 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    Yes. The descriptions did have an effect on my assessment of the photos

  • @TL-ch1xd
    @TL-ch1xd 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    I’m a 41 year old heterosexual woman. For me: Tone of voice; Mature, calm and slightly deeper (the opposite of high pitch) voices increases a man’s attractiveness for me. Also posture and being comfortable in one’s own skin and when being out in the world is an attractiveness booster for me. I am drawn to men that are effortless about their own style, but naturally know what suits them.
    Edit: I was very attracted to a former neighbour. He had a light voice, but it was very calm, soft and had a depth to it instead of being high pitched.

    • @2liter8
      @2liter8 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      thx for the tip.

  • @alexalexeich7329
    @alexalexeich7329 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +14

    Thank you for making this video! Ive been noticing that outside of social media I rarely focuse on someons appearance (if we get to interact), indeed its their personality that shapes them for me. Thanks for your research, I subscribed :)

  • @foreveryoung999
    @foreveryoung999 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +28

    A smile is a magnet. Never fails.

  • @tamikog7645
    @tamikog7645 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I used to go fishing with my father when I was around 12-13 and not into boys yet. I saw a man that I can say some 40 years later was one of the most beautiful men I've seen. In retrospect, he looked like the statue of David: a deep bronze tan, curly dark brown hair, shirtless with white shorts and a thin gold chain. He spoke to my father and I but aside from his physical perfection, he was there with his elderly father and spoke very kindly to him and gently helped him cast his line into the water which highlighted kindness.

  • @JustNath2024
    @JustNath2024 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    Guess that explains how I can fall in love deeply with someone that objectively would not register as handsome or good-looking....
    Or to not be attracted by someone that just looks stunning🤗
    And that I think I look awesome when I already feel good about other aspects of my self😉
    Thank you for enlightening us on this✨️🙏✨️

  • @Sunflowersarepretty
    @Sunflowersarepretty 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +15

    Yes i have believed in how personality matters more than even physical attractiveness. looks fade away and we always remember how we felt around others more than their features. I have always understood it because i have seen it firstand how sometimes the very attractive people were so unlikable because of a character trait of theirs. I also had a friend who was equally pretty and had a wonderful personality. She was so likeable by everyone!! Its sad how people think nowadays that inorder to glow up they need a physical makeover which could be very extreme like plastic surgery. Most people are average looking and it's the little things about that can make or break it.

  • @Rakyr
    @Rakyr 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    This is why the phrase "create a vibe" is such a big deal. When you look at certain sex symbols if you just look at the majority of their faces most are not super attractive, but maybe they had longhair and jewellery or perhaps they had a buzzcut and body ink that plays a huge role in my opinion.

  • @spoudaois
    @spoudaois 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    Personality can definitely make one more attractive. I dated a gal I thought that wasn't my my type. She had a nice smile but not classic looks and a mishaped nose. She was so smart, sexy and funny. One of the best. It make sense fro an evolutionary stand point. We are humans with big brains.

  • @Sımona-12.123
    @Sımona-12.123 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    I've always thought that looks and personality are linked. You've finally confirmed what I've been thinking for years. But besides that, I am also sure that our behavior is reflected in the formation of our appearance. Facial expressions, gestures, skin quality and many other aspects that allow you to read a person like a book.

  • @swordsnorchids1997
    @swordsnorchids1997 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +25

    I'm good looking but I need to work on my personality or mental state actually and being angry, depressed and tired doesn't help improve my life or anyone in life I find..

    • @PandolfoCarla
      @PandolfoCarla 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

      Yes but you shouldn’t be worrying about this now, first things first! First get well and then it will come almost with it. I’m stepping out of depression.. slow but steady.. wish you the best!

    • @trappart9209
      @trappart9209 14 วันที่ผ่านมา

      watching Dr K from HG helped me a lot. look him up (I am not a bot. just trying to help)

  • @beth_kh
    @beth_kh 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    You deserve more views and subscribers!! The sheer amount of effort and research is outstanding

  • @JOYZIE.online
    @JOYZIE.online วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Hi Thomas, I appreciate the researched back video. I used to be so fascinated on why some people are attractive and why some are not. As I noticed how people around me are so obsessed with beauty. I was not that impressed by it but my family always make commenst about who is beautiful who is not, watching beauty pageants and being impressed by specific features. I based my 1st research paper on What makes someone beautiful. I did find a lot of symmetry topics and standards of what is the trend at the moment. Some of the most common for women are LOng Black hair, Creamy white skin, Perfect set of teeth and proportioned facial features on th female body they just mentioned that the hip to waist ration is the most attractive. I noticed how we are all just following what the media dictates. What the society says. After the research I stopped caring much about it and even explored local showbizness internships and became part of the fashion and modeling world, which was unfortunately a sad place. Almost everyone is insecure, exploited or underpaid. The more I am around the "goodlooking people" the more I saw that it was not important. I grew up being me and I am aware of my flaws, scars and everything nice or not so nice about me but I like me. I love how you ended your video highlighting that. LIkeability factor is something that comes out naturally aftre a while. In the end everyone may not like you but it would be great if you like yourself :)

  • @Equinox1.5
    @Equinox1.5 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    I recall hearing a story about my uncle that corroborates this. When he was a student, he was invited to his lecturer's house for a party. The lecturer's wife was not considered a classical beauty of the era but my uncle got talking to her and found her fascinating. He said afterwards that he could never find her unattractive because she was so interesting.

  • @ryanschwan2507
    @ryanschwan2507 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    14:12 minutes of comforting, heartwarming, cope

  • @georgefleet6350
    @georgefleet6350 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    At sixty eight years old I often review my life,behaviors,successes, and self sabatouge.
    I was very attractive as an adult. yet I was driven by fears.
    Fear of rejection seems to be my nemesis.
    Yet my need for acceptance and attention was always in my favor only because of my good looks.
    Once a relationship with a woman started it was her that made the effort to show interest.
    I was shy from fears as whom I wanted to ask out I was afraid of rejection,how so very disturbing now
    to know another reason all my relationships failed and I mean ALL of them,
    the girls I was attracted to never did i take the chance,so the most often wrong for me girls
    I ended up with.I simply took the easy way with no risks.
    This video was good and applicable decades ago as now I old with little to offer anyone.
    So please if your young and can resonate with my self sabatoge break out and take the risks.
    i rejected myself as I felt rejected as a boy.
    What a terrible way to live.
    go for it!

  • @Sarahyoutubeaddict
    @Sarahyoutubeaddict 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    Attractiveness can probably be different in different cultures

  • @differentone_p
    @differentone_p 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

    -Be more beautiful-
    Be having better personality.

  • @AI-go622
    @AI-go622 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    As someone who had once nearly lost all faith in humanity after coming in contact with lookism and blackpilled stuff, thanks.

  • @selyemperzsa1
    @selyemperzsa1 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    Actually if you go for therapy it might happen that you will start transforming yourself, even just a little bit, wear makeup if you never did, etc, because you "shed" your old skin, but mentality will definitely shift and your behaviour as well so you will portray yourself differently.

  • @demimoorevelasco9357
    @demimoorevelasco9357 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +10

    Thanks doc, this concept is difficult to understand but you made it easy to understand ❤

  • @paolamura3497
    @paolamura3497 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Absolutely yes. I'm free and at peace with myself and go around pratically bouncing ... at first I was irritated with the level of attention I got but now I just go with the flow and act very nicely with everyone. If complete strangers (at the supermarket, at the post office, etc) want interaction with me I don't fight it anymore. They make me feel like some sort of film star. Lol!

  • @thecozyconstellation
    @thecozyconstellation 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    all the physical beauty in the world can't hold a candle to a nasty ugly soul. it's only superficial and may get you in the door, but it's your true inner beauty that keeps you there.

  • @Lezlee-abcxyz
    @Lezlee-abcxyz 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +19

    I say a simple smile goes a long way 😁

    • @n0b0d1-rc6dz
      @n0b0d1-rc6dz 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Yea but some people (NPDs, psychopaths) can mimic these signals and act like snakes in the grass.

    • @baakojernigan7095
      @baakojernigan7095 14 วันที่ผ่านมา

      what if you have an ugly smile?

    • @Lezlee-abcxyz
      @Lezlee-abcxyz 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

      @baakojernigan7095 the only ugly smile is a FAKE smile
      .. 😁

    • @estefhanie.l
      @estefhanie.l 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@Lezlee-abcxyzHAHAHAHAHH

    • @Lezlee-abcxyz
      @Lezlee-abcxyz 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @estefhanie.l glad I could make you "real real smile" 😁😊🤣

  • @CatSchrodingers
    @CatSchrodingers 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    Be kind. Smile. Keep your hair clean.That should do the trick!

    • @terimorris6394
      @terimorris6394 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      And look after your teeth

  • @TK.000
    @TK.000 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    I think your voice matters too. People think I'm attractive, I think I'm average. But so many people have commented on my voice. Soothing, even sexy. Complete strangers have also commented. So I think sometimes that might be another way people view attractiveness. Just my opinion.

  • @winkterpen
    @winkterpen 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    when you were describing the personality, i instantly get what you meant!

  • @dancingdude32
    @dancingdude32 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    "Never judge a book by its cover, but the contents within" is basically the moral of this video

  • @mandyzabohne7059
    @mandyzabohne7059 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +16

    The difference between men and women's assessment of better personalities making a person more attractive might be explained by the fact that women are screening for danger way more than men are. It's not just that we're deeper, it's that a man who lacks character isn't safe to be around. It would be interesting to study same-sex attraction to see if there's a difference.

    • @rightaboutnao
      @rightaboutnao 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      This just brought to mind an especially attractive guy (physically) that I know who- because of his lack of character, warmth, and intelligence- is one of the most terrifying humans I have ever encountered. I won't call him an outright psychopath, but he's a monster in the making. He's like a soulless animal that I wouldn't trust even my grandma to be around. It's bizarre that the notion of him being handsome ever popped into my head before truly knowing him, because he's anything but

    • @aronhighgrove4100
      @aronhighgrove4100 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I'd say this is because men are raised to ignore danger and expected to risk more, being anxious or afraid is seen as unmanly, and punished socially. It's not a good thing, as it raises the risk of being (emotionally) abused.
      Depth is also not gender based. There are many male authors and philosophers that show great emotional and intellectual depth, as there are women.

    • @baum7des7lebens7
      @baum7des7lebens7 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@aronhighgrove4100 You can't ignore how much hormones influence the way we are ready to take risks. I assure you that men who start taking extra testosterone change their character and often in a negative way.

  • @example_channel_55
    @example_channel_55 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    This explains why the Ancient Greeks referred to both beauty and moral goodness as one thing: 'kalos.'

  • @kristinebennett2228
    @kristinebennett2228 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Funny, I used to be neighbors with these two guys, partners, and we became friends, spending a lot of social time together. R was a dark, wavy haired, handsome, amazing accent, prof chef, kinda suave French Canadian man. H was a mud-fence homely Danish man. R was brutish, H was amazingly gentle, thoughtful and sweet. I eventually came to feel H was the more attractive friend.

  • @Chercheure_Indépendante
    @Chercheure_Indépendante 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    6:08 1- Integrity and Honesty; 2- Warmth and Kindness; 3- Helpfulness and Generosity

  • @Chahlie
    @Chahlie 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Interesting. When I take a photo of myself, for instance to record a hairdo, I am always horrified and astonished that anyone would even speak to something so hideous. And then I delete and go about my day, being friendly with a heartfelt smile and caring demeanour and people seem to like me. It's bizarre. I spent my first 50 years in fear of everyone as I was always told I was ugly, then once I went no contact with family and simply set out to be happy I lost the fear, and oddly no longer have instant embarrassment when anyone speaks to me.

  • @Jimbo878
    @Jimbo878 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    "If I smile into a mirror I get a smile back, if I frown into a mirror I get a frown back ...", I treat people like mirrors of what I'd like them to see in me. Try it! , it's contagious, like laughter or a yawn.

  • @chrissy-online
    @chrissy-online 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Awesome to see your content going viral, Doc.

  • @ania5038
    @ania5038 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    How to look better naturally: get daily time outside, drink a lot of water, eat unprocessed food most of the time, exercise, sleep regularly.

    • @jessijfly
      @jessijfly 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Add to the list not being around toxic people!

  • @Dinac-m5t
    @Dinac-m5t 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    as a scientist we say.. beauty is associated with postive traits.. and indeed, the backhalo is maybe even stronger than the real thing

  • @Firebird.1991
    @Firebird.1991 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I find beauty in the inside, a person's energy, their aura so to speak, what's emanating from within, but it took me a great deal of humbling myself and molding my character to get there, and lots of experiences with people, being intimate with so many people to the point I got fed up, it took me a path of self discovery/realization to see beyond, the more experiences you have with people either positive or negative the more interest you develop on what's the inside rather than the outside, and I've gotten to a point where I'm not impressed or stunned by physicality and vanity, which kind of makes me a loner cuz most people are superficial and shallow, and I don't judge them cuz I was once there but once you're over that stage, you learn to appreciate physical beauty but it doesn't really impress me, Spirituality and Intellect does.

  • @passion_proh-jects
    @passion_proh-jects 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Confidence, self assuredness, unwavering, bold integrity and a public unconcerned attitude regarding how others perceive them, have made some of the world's most aesthetically not pleasing people, sex symbols - to people who would otherwise not spit in their direction at gun point...

  • @Sarahyoutubeaddict
    @Sarahyoutubeaddict 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Actions speak louder than words- so true.

  • @melhack1543
    @melhack1543 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I noticed - it's about how you make people FEEL what makes you attractive.

  • @pippaloves
    @pippaloves 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Someone being good looking is very different to attractiveness. I don’t think you have captured that. Thanks for the video.

  • @mariamary1330
    @mariamary1330 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +21

    I guess I'm cooked. I don't know how to socialise.

    • @Tullipan248
      @Tullipan248 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

      You can learn❤️

    • @user-s3ts8my2x
      @user-s3ts8my2x 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      We're both learning

    • @MarsPriest
      @MarsPriest 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      just go and say stuff, no one is better than you anyways.

    • @PandolfoCarla
      @PandolfoCarla 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

      I think socializing is about being curious about other realities and sharing. Sharing might be a perspective… a cup of tea, your fav book… we don’t need to be extrovert to be social, neither be anyone else!

  • @Erffig
    @Erffig 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    This is another case of "grueling hours of scientific work were put into something people know to be true intuitively".

    • @PandolfoCarla
      @PandolfoCarla 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Yet people loves to do and believe stuff that is very counterintuitive and unnatural to humans just because “x” said or everyone else does it. Lol

    • @obiblooze5902
      @obiblooze5902 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Yes it's just how we work

    • @Erffig
      @Erffig 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@obiblooze5902 I get the idea but this case seem like busywork

  • @anewcareerinanewtown
    @anewcareerinanewtown 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    All very interesting - I would say being funny, talented and self effacing could be added to the list.

  • @tonyhill2318
    @tonyhill2318 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    It is crazy as you describe them they literally either start looking more physically attractive or repulsive. And I consider myself kind of superficial

  • @CHUB.E.WALRUS
    @CHUB.E.WALRUS 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +11

    I don't know about the rest of you, but when I flop into a room, I hear the "ooohhs & aaahhs", the whispers of, "Oh my! Who is THAT stunning creature?" I notice the stares of admiration. No doubt about it, they notice me. 🔥

    • @HurricaneIrene07
      @HurricaneIrene07 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      Too much self regard = unattractive.

    • @CHUB.E.WALRUS
      @CHUB.E.WALRUS 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      @@HurricaneIrene07 Jealousy is unattractive. 😂

    • @-._.-KRiS-._.-
      @-._.-KRiS-._.- 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      😂😂😂

    • @missqui8217
      @missqui8217 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

      😂😂😂

    • @gazingupwards6387
      @gazingupwards6387 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      Walruses are cute and would kinda flop into a room.. I'd be ooing and awwing..

  • @milupas
    @milupas 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    I am guessing it also depends on the country where you live. I am struggling at the moment after 5 years as a foreigner and see colleagues don’t want to get to close to me. Also having gone through dozens of job interviews and rejected with emails a week later. There are of course the odd exception and that lifts my mood but it seems that being oneself is not enough when you’re an inmigrant.
    I refer mainly to work environments . Sorry if I sound too negative

  • @minnap.7698
    @minnap.7698 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +15

    Nice video. I've always intuitively know this really, but it was especially interesting to learn about results between men and women.

  • @LesleyHobbs-m6l
    @LesleyHobbs-m6l 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Beauty really does come from the inside out. Apparently, I’m good looking, but I’m really sweet and nice. I can’t even kill roaches.

  • @alexandraayeone1470
    @alexandraayeone1470 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

    My friend and I think you're very attractive not just for looks but because you're very clever, articulate and knowledgeable. We are so so bored of dumb "pretty f*ck boys" - so over it.
    And no we're not creeping lol- just been talking about it and being honest!

  • @annoravetz5188
    @annoravetz5188 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    This reminds me of the movie, Blue Steel. Look fierce!

  • @paradise745
    @paradise745 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +14

    Personality and facial expressions are just as genetic as looks are

    • @swerve361
      @swerve361 14 วันที่ผ่านมา

      This

    • @deniseneumann
      @deniseneumann 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      To some extent perhaps but entirely?

  • @zhcoop
    @zhcoop 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

    I've known this since I was 8yo... xD but nice to have some science to back it up.

  • @santiagoscleansvc
    @santiagoscleansvc 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    I don't know how beautiful you are until I hear you speak