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But their rating about physical attractiveness was self-reported right? So people graded these faces after being told the descriptions? I see how smell and background beauty can be tested in this way because people don't realize they are being tested on that. But of course I am going to rate the nice person higher on physical attractiveness. I want to do nice things back or I want to signal my own virtue by saying I am more physically attracted to more virtuous people. Or there might be some other factor at play, maybe the nicer personality makes the people appear "weaker" and the person knew that would happen so they try and compensate for that effect but compensate the other way around. The fact that this is self-reported makes me doubt the validity of the research rather a lot.

I catfished by pretending to be a girl on a dating app and got hundreds of matches in just an hour, but when I'm a guy, I get very few matches, almost to none.

Is this why racists look ugly? You can see it on their faces. Katie Hopkins is a good example of this.

What are you talking blah blah blah blah…. No a point at all! Lost too much time here

The problem is some people are better at faking kindness and warmth than others

The Halo effect is that having one positive attribute leads people to assume you have others, not spefically about being attractive.

Hi Thomas, I appreciate the researched back video. I used to be so fascinated on why some people are attractive and why some are not. As I noticed how people around me are so obsessed with beauty. I was not that impressed by it but my family always make commenst about who is beautiful who is not, watching beauty pageants and being impressed by specific features. I based my 1st research paper on What makes someone beautiful. I did find a lot of symmetry topics and standards of what is the trend at the moment. Some of the most common for women are LOng Black hair, Creamy white skin, Perfect set of teeth and proportioned facial features on th female body they just mentioned that the hip to waist ration is the most attractive. I noticed how we are all just following what the media dictates. What the society says. After the research I stopped caring much about it and even explored local showbizness internships and became part of the fashion and modeling world, which was unfortunately a sad place. Almost everyone is insecure, exploited or underpaid. The more I am around the "goodlooking people" the more I saw that it was not important. I grew up being me and I am aware of my flaws, scars and everything nice or not so nice about me but I like me. I love how you ended your video highlighting that. LIkeability factor is something that comes out naturally aftre a while. In the end everyone may not like you but it would be great if you like yourself :)

I tried to listen, but music and all visual effects are too distracting. I given up

This is some extremely soft science. The claim is that by improving your personality you can look more physically attractive. It could be that people like to like nice people, not that they actually find them more attractive. It’s easy and meaningless to rate pics of nicer people more attractive, they are, after all, more attractive overall and there may be no way to separate that. Do nicer people get more dates? Or do nice guys finish last. That’s really the measure.

Beauty is subjective,and can not measured by numbers like golden ratio, 1) looking at disturbing photos can make you look less attractive 2) poor hygiene, if you smell bad you appear less attractive 3) trustworthy and good behaviour can make you look attractive 4) integrity and honesty, warmth and kindness, helpfulness

I think the more people know me, the less they find me attractive. The amount of dates that left as soon as I started to talk haha Doesnt work for everyone!

Question for you sir. I struggle with Parkinson's disease and I'm curious if this process that you're explaining to youtube would work for that condition? I'm a very simple man. So lot of your explanations was kind of over my head. I'm curious if this would work and help me to seek out the positive rather than the negative in simple terms. Thank you

Why do i need to appear more attractive? I've been married 19 yrs to a wonderful wife who loves me deeply and already finds me attractive.

I used to go fishing with my father when I was around 12-13 and not into boys yet. I saw a man that I can say some 40 years later was one of the most beautiful men I've seen. In retrospect, he looked like the statue of David: a deep bronze tan, curly dark brown hair, shirtless with white shorts and a thin gold chain. He spoke to my father and I but aside from his physical perfection, he was there with his elderly father and spoke very kindly to him and gently helped him cast his line into the water which highlighted kindness.

Dating advice... meh. Don't call it social anxiety. These are just tips to get into other people's pants. Use better titles for your videos. Very misleading.

6:08 1- Integrity and Honesty; 2- Warmth and Kindness; 3- Helpfulness and Generosity

This is super advice. I could tell I was crashing at work… and booked 2 weeks leave - my boss was not happy (I felt a lot of guilt over that), but he approved it (i’m on leave now - half way) it was really challenging the first week, I brought my laptop with for a few things to do for work, which somehow stressed me out even more than being at work. By Wednesday… I broke down into tears, and Thursday again after being asked to do small tasks for work. Letting go was hard, but on me, maybe thinking they won’t need me when I get back?? or feeling self important, like the company will stop functioning without me?? Since then I seemed to have released a lot of stress and enjoying a wonderful time. I know I’ll be more creative and productive when I get back. Thank you for this video.

This is my favourite video. I do exactly this!! And just hearing someone talk about it, helps so much. Thank you 🙏🏻

This is so true!

I have been called Too Nice more times than i can count for emulating these traits. Go figure.

is it working

Please don't. Everything is consciousness. 🙏 Erase the negativity circles in the park and in all of life.

Hi, my name is 'insert name'.

damn this stuff is important

No escalation without reciprocation. Really well said

I only ever approach my manager when I'm feeling well-rested & confident.

I just discovered your channel and it has amazing content! Thank you. I was wondering if you could give some recommendations on emotional detachment ?

You remind me of Victor from Arcane

I mean, on an energetic level, the thoughts you're thinking show in your eyes and in your energy. They affect your cells. The better thoughts you have ( positive), the better vibe you have. It's that simple.

Oh nice!!

Yeah, I need to try this.

Summary* Your non physical traits like kindness, genorosity, hardworking = Your persona -physical traits...............these make your physical looks more or less attractive.

God you’re good!

So shortly, to become attractive improve your social skills, be friendlier

What a bad advice in the end! I don't want to become better liked. I have a generally unlikable personality. In order for me to be liked, I have to stop being myself - which leaves me with a series of negative consequence that affect both my body and my mind. Of what value is it, then, to be well-percieved - if one's own body and mind aren't doing well as a consequence? It is much healthier and more important to percieve oneself well. And to accept oneself. Rather than to care about how one is perceieved by others.

INFJ.

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This line of thinking always leaves me displeased with self improvement/mental health guys. Part of me absolutely appreciates the different journey/no comparison concept, while the other part of feels like I am being spoon fed corn syrup. It seems that we are indeed often competing for the same resources, whether it be the best tomato at the produce stand, the corner office, or the cute house with the picket fence. I realize my grump has more to do with career development than the romantic slant meant here.

"If I smile into a mirror I get a smile back, if I frown into a mirror I get a frown back ...", I treat people like mirrors of what I'd like them to see in me. Try it! , it's contagious, like laughter or a yawn.

Ok sounds like you might know something I'm having issues with. I suffered a head injury 6 years ago, it sent my hypersexual for a few months. Previously I was a reserved person who'd decided to remain celibate for various reasons and had been so for 8 years. I had physical issues sexually also after head injury. I talked to doctors about this whom went red, looked visibly awkward and desperately changed the subject. So I've never had any help or answers about it. It subsided so I didn't worry about it, but recently it came back and I don't like the decisions I make when I'm like that state it's like some other force is running the show. I wonder if it's hitting a perimenopause phase that's caused it or if it's still something with my head injury, regardless where do I turn for help I imagine as before doctors know nothing and are too awkward about it, there seems a gap in not only head injury research with sex, but definetly anything women experience. I only recently mentioned it to my psychologist who was interested, but she never follows up on anything she just listens to you for an hour and that's as much work as she wants to do. Either way I'm interested in dating again and what a mine field. I'm an infp with niche interests so finding someone to match that is hard but also, I'm medically retired from head injury and I have deficits if I say that upfront they run for it, if they meet me and judge for themselves they seem more open but I don't know how to negotiate it, how much do I disclose and at what points? I do want to be honest. Part of me thinks in 10 years when almost all of us have had illness, heart attacks or stroke the dating pool will be more open to someone with my condition.

That actually explains a lot. A lot more than just social anxiety.. when I am anxious but feeling calm and not sweating a lot I usually am restrained and anxious and feeling like there's nothing good to say. And seem very blank. Then when I am sweating I am filling in the silences and I am talking. Sometimes too much without a filter. And often even though it was fine I think back on it more. Double guessing afterwards what I said and people's reactions especially

I kind of intuitively knew this. My previous girlfriend was not conventionally physically attractive, but I knew that by getting to know someone I might end up finding them more physically attractive if they had a likeable personality. And lo and behold it happened.

Wow you're REALLY trying to brand yourself uh don't loser your day job. Also extremely long winded diffuse painfully boring irreverant

As someone who had once nearly lost all faith in humanity after coming in contact with lookism and blackpilled stuff, thanks.

I instinctively have always thought and found this, however the 'hot felon' craze might suggest there are some people for whom this is not true. and those who marry guys in prison for killing ...

What he said about finding people less attractive after seeing a disgusting image or picturing something disgusting it's very true, like when you notice someone near you farted and then everybody around you looks disgusting and or ugly. Maybe this is just me but it's happened a lot to me

Beauty really does come from the inside out. Apparently, I’m good looking, but I’m really sweet and nice. I can’t even kill roaches.

I worry about my family members so much it literally makes me ill. Like im sick right now and yesterday I learned that one of my siblings is breaking up with their spouse. It makes me so sad I dont want to think about it, but the situation showed up in my dreams. I cant fix it.