I always notice when people give credit when it's due (maybe because I've had sooooo many steal credit from the blood, sweat & tears of my work 🤔) because people with integrity do that. I have to say, I guess even though I've never thought of myself as a dream girl (bc of horrific ex aunts that told me I was "so disgustingly ugly, like your mom" since I was a child-one of the nicer things they've told me) & whenever I start dating or even talking to people about how I don't understand why almost every bf I've had has cheated on me, but now I recall all their (what I thought were lame) excuses: you're too good for me, I don't deserve you, I don't think you're real (that shocks me because I've heard it a few times), you can't really be this considerate, I didn't think someone that looked like you (I thought they meant it the way my ex- aunts did) could ever be faithful, but when I realized you really don't even think about another guy, it was too late, I screwed up... blah, blah, blah. I was kind of wondering if men just don't like overly considerate, faithful, loyal, devoted, independent, intelligent women because every guy I've dated screws it up by slipping & "accidentally cheating" 🙄. That's when I quote my dude Bruce Willis in The Last Boyscout (with my own version), "It was an accident? Oh no, you must've slipped dang hard for your 🍆 to rip through the front of your pants & into (insert homewrecker here) 😱 Would you like a cold compress to reduce the discomfort of that extremely painful slip??" I'm a new subscriber because you're telling me stuff my guy friends can't, or won't- hmm, describe it nearly as well as you 💜💛💚
1.Desperate Girl (Earned Love) 2.Good time girl (not in public girl ) 3.good enough girl(bare minimum) 4.dream girl (whole package)🎉 5.out of league (emasculating )
Someone who was chasing me was putting me in 3. He gave me a gift but the note was so insincere I felt the ick. If I see myself as my own dream woman then I expect a man to do that too. So bye. Glad I rejected him.
@@TychoKingdom Some dudes definitely treat their dream girl like this. They take her for granted when he has more options than he’s used to. She’s “the one that got away”. And they still regret it years later.
I do domestic abuse awareness work and I have to let you know that I love and appreciate you and your work. You just GET IT! ...and you seem to genuinely care about the people you are helping. God bless you always ❤
Here's a scam to look out for: A man will secretly experience you as #5, so he outwardly treats you like #3, hoping you'll respond like #1, until, that's exactly what you are to him. YOU have to be your own #4, babes. Everything else will fall into place.
Come on!! It's the truth. Many men know they are dating up. They give just enough to let you know they're interested but careful to not to show their true desire lest you get "besides yourself."
@UnpredictableAriI see astro in your profile name so I gotta mention some cosmic rays of influence lol. I see placements like Mars in Capricorn, Venus in Libra, Sun in Libra, Venus in Capricorn, Moon in Cancer, Moon in Taurus etc being placements with women who could naturally fall into dream girl category. Of course other aspects could hinder or enhance the feminine essence and quality of these placements:)
@@ShadaeBalancesKnightAstro Wow no way! I've got mars in capricorn, venus in libra and sun in libra. Saw this at such an odd time too, I'd only just realised how lucky my placements were for romance and why I attract people so easily (and why I'm a massive flirt as well perhaps!)
@@lavendercavern Yes your energy attracts effortlessly. Do you have any Cancer or Aries energy? These two signs balance out the karmic nature of Saturn.
I have been all five of these to my exes at some point but I eventually remained category 4 to my husband. Those other ones definitely messed with my self esteem.
Out of his league category. He unemployed, no social life and low self esteem. He tried to humble me by saying nasty things I can’t change bout myself.
This guy said he needed to get on my level, and I immediately felt 🤮 I was not flattered at all. I do not want a partner to compete with, or compares himself to me. Out of your league category makes so much sense.
The guy you’re dating might be one of the lower categories. The lower category guys will never behave like a high caliber guy. They don’t operate the same way. So, you ladies also need to categorize these guys.
#5 example of bringing a woman down is by baby trapping I've been getting knowledge about this a lot lately and I wish I knew now what I could have known back then. ❤
At different points I have been 2,4 and 5. Being the over his league girl was the most painful. What's funny is that when we first started, I was not into his looks but over time, I was head over heels for him. The issue was he was so insecure it was hard to convince him of that. He would be oversensitive twisting things I say, he would try manipulation games by giving silent treatments. Looking back, I didn't see it but now I'm grateful because it's true that I was probably too good for him. Lesson learned, stay within your league or above but never below. 😊 For my good time girl era, we were together for 6 months. He was so sexy, fun, and charming. But we ended when I confronted him and let him know I wanted something more serious. Literally 2 months later I met my future husband and was finally treated like the dream girl I always was. 💕 Like Dita says, you could be the juiciest peach but some guys just don't like peaches. Make sure you find yourself someone who likes peaches. Xx
Currently dating a man I’m not attracted to but I’m his dream girl. He gets me anything I ask for the most part. I only have to tell him something 1 time and he will do it. 🔥 Never had a man that treated me this well. 👸🏽 All of the men I really wanted treated me like a “good enough chick”. Category 3. 😒
@@QueenFlowerChild28 He’s not physically attractive at all. I’ve never dated someone I wasn’t attracted to but I’m getting good results so far. 👌🏽 I don’t plan on stopping either bc he treats me so well.
Women start using your discernment & intuition & stop relying solely on your emotions! Stop giving out your goodies as if it’s a reward for good enough behavior. Remember women you set the standard because you are the prize! He who finds a wife finds a good thing & receives Favor from the Lord!! Women remember you bring the Favor to the man! It’s time to stop letting men love bomb & play you out of your rightful position. Narcissists can’t play with women who use their discernment❤
Thank you for sharing your knowledge. I"m not dating rn, still don't have the energy for it but I do feel better prepared from listening to some of your advice for when I finally am ready again.
Caught myself a #5 during my last relationship. It started off great, but he eventually started resenting me and acting out in truly hurtful ways. It felt very confusing at the time, but I eventually realized that he talked a big game when he was courting me, but when he finally "had" me, he didn't want to be held to the standards that he set for himself 🤷🏾♀️
I was category 5 and needless to say, I just broke up with him. I couldn’t take it anymore after 1.5 years. I tried to hang in there and be patient, but this guy would not just be cool. That’s all I wanted. Instead, he tried to treat me like trash. Talked to me any kind of way, didn’t help me around the house, treated me half a$$, etc… I was losing all the way around with him. Enough was enough. I’d rather be single.
I put men into one category level. He switches on a dime. In other words don’t put your trust in his feelings for you. That includes the category level. Because that’s on him and it changes whenever.
Ive been category 1 for years to one man. sent him over $2000 within our 2 year "friendship"Trying to learn my worth since i was adopted and didnt grow up like other girls. Im loved and important and should be treathed as such .
I feel this way as well. But of course as a human being, I desire a relationship that's loving & healthy. It just seems so hard to obtain. My former therapist told me that to live my life with joy and when I do that, I shall receive the desires of my heart, such as being in a healthy and loving relationship.
I have a question: Aren't these categories interchangeable as well? For example, being the dream girl initially, then moving down into the good girl category. Love your channel ❤
@@blahblahblahitsyou Exactly ! From my experience, being open in that sense has been a waste of my time. I’m now only interested in men in my “league” and higher.
I have been in four out of five of these categories at different times in my life. Come to think of it, I have been in more than one category at the same time, according to whom I was speaking to in a group.
I feel that, it’s truly the best way to be. I’m assuming you broke it off with the guys you were dealing with? Did they come running back or try to make you stay?
@@MeiMariie they were too flabbergasted by my lack of reason for breaking up and then, they were busy dealing with the 5 stages of grief over it. It’s too much drama. I’m over it. Don’t want to date no more.
So men put women into 5 categories huh… Well they’d have to invent / create a brand new category especially for me… it should be called ‘The scratch your head’ category because she’ meaning me’ is just a proper blooming enigma wrapped up tightly in a flamboyant mystery… ‘but I’ve never ever wanted anyone so much and so badly’ is what they’d say about me hahah yeh and I’d agree entirely… ‘bet you’re thinking ‘conceited is me but that doesn’t make what I’ve just said less true / truer… I mean whichever / whatever - I’m sure you get my beautiful drift / gist fairy god bro or fiery god bro Diablo’ I mean You choose… as I’m easy with one or both hahahah just so you know Now I haven’t had a date in eons now… there’s no point in me making that statement I just thought you should know is all hahaha Thank you !! Bbfn ;)’
Credit to @thefeminineuniverse
I was going to say, I follow them and I watched that video!! Great stuff! Thanks for resharing and crediting them properly!
I always notice when people give credit when it's due (maybe because I've had sooooo many steal credit from the blood, sweat & tears of my work 🤔) because people with integrity do that.
I have to say, I guess even though I've never thought of myself as a dream girl (bc of horrific ex aunts that told me I was "so disgustingly ugly, like your mom" since I was a child-one of the nicer things they've told me) & whenever I start dating or even talking to people about how I don't understand why almost every bf I've had has cheated on me, but now I recall all their (what I thought were lame) excuses: you're too good for me, I don't deserve you, I don't think you're real (that shocks me because I've heard it a few times), you can't really be this considerate, I didn't think someone that looked like you (I thought they meant it the way my ex- aunts did) could ever be faithful, but when I realized you really don't even think about another guy, it was too late, I screwed up... blah, blah, blah.
I was kind of wondering if men just don't like overly considerate, faithful, loyal, devoted, independent, intelligent women because every guy I've dated screws it up by slipping & "accidentally cheating" 🙄.
That's when I quote my dude Bruce Willis in The Last Boyscout (with my own version), "It was an accident? Oh no, you must've slipped dang hard for your 🍆 to rip through the front of your pants & into (insert homewrecker here) 😱 Would you like a cold compress to reduce the discomfort of that extremely painful slip??"
I'm a new subscriber because you're telling me stuff my guy friends can't, or won't- hmm, describe it nearly as well as you 💜💛💚
Apologies. Out of your league category. I still am trying to let that sink in 😂
1.Desperate Girl (Earned Love)
2.Good time girl (not in public girl )
3.good enough girl(bare minimum)
4.dream girl (whole package)🎉
5.out of league (emasculating )
Thank you.
I’ve been in all 5 category.
However! I’m currently in Category 4 and he is desperately in love (me too)
Spot on, thank you. Found out I am 1-3 and 5. I want to just cry.
Someone who was chasing me was putting me in 3. He gave me a gift but the note was so insincere I felt the ick. If I see myself as my own dream woman then I expect a man to do that too. So bye. Glad I rejected him.
R@@clarissaywy
Some men treat their dream girl like a good enough girl. They act surprised when the girl leaves them.
Yup-the sabotaging player boy operating from a place of fear and lack.
💯💯😮💨
Men dont treat their DREAM GIRL like nothing but gold. Some of yall need to realize just because you check off all the boxes dont mean you're her.
@@TychoKingdom Some dudes definitely treat their dream girl like this. They take her for granted when he has more options than he’s used to. She’s “the one that got away”. And they still regret it years later.
@@TychoKingdom facts.
I do domestic abuse awareness work and I have to let you know that I love and appreciate you and your work. You just GET IT! ...and you seem to genuinely care about the people you are helping. God bless you always ❤
Ditto - his work is phenomenal.
Here's a scam to look out for: A man will secretly experience you as #5, so he outwardly treats you like #3, hoping you'll respond like #1, until, that's exactly what you are to him. YOU have to be your own #4, babes. Everything else will fall into place.
Facts💯
Come on!! It's the truth. Many men know they are dating up. They give just enough to let you know they're interested but careful to not to show their true desire lest you get "besides yourself."
Ouuu snaps throws popcorn at screen 👠💄👠
Yes yes yes 🙌
@@strippingforjesusministrie6161😂😂😂 why did I picture you doing this lol
Extremely beautiful women who are secure in themselves will often have their time wasted by guys from category 5
@UnpredictableAriI see astro in your profile name so I gotta mention some cosmic rays of influence lol. I see placements like Mars in Capricorn, Venus in Libra, Sun in Libra, Venus in Capricorn, Moon in Cancer, Moon in Taurus etc being placements with women who could naturally fall into dream girl category. Of course other aspects could hinder or enhance the feminine essence and quality of these placements:)
Exactly
That's an insult and degrading on beautiful women's part
@@ShadaeBalancesKnightAstro Wow no way! I've got mars in capricorn, venus in libra and sun in libra. Saw this at such an odd time too, I'd only just realised how lucky my placements were for romance and why I attract people so easily (and why I'm a massive flirt as well perhaps!)
@@lavendercavern Yes your energy attracts effortlessly. Do you have any Cancer or Aries energy? These two signs balance out the karmic nature of Saturn.
I have been all five of these to my exes at some point but I eventually remained category 4 to my husband. Those other ones definitely messed with my self esteem.
Out of his league category.
He unemployed, no social life and low self esteem.
He tried to humble me by saying nasty things I can’t change bout myself.
This guy said he needed to get on my level, and I immediately felt 🤮 I was not flattered at all.
I do not want a partner to compete with, or compares himself to me.
Out of your league category makes so much sense.
People accept other romantic relationships based on unhealed parts of the childhood.
💯☝🏽
"We accept the love we think we deserve" -Stephen Chbosky
Girls. Wait for the one. If your not his dream girl...its just a waste of time. 🖤
The guy you’re dating might be one of the lower categories. The lower category guys will never behave like a high caliber guy. They don’t operate the same way. So, you ladies also need to categorize these guys.
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@Poodle_Gun Rich men definitely do chase but only for the high caliber women that are rare, unique, and hard to come by.
#5 example of bringing a woman down is by baby trapping I've been getting knowledge about this a lot lately and I wish I knew now what I could have known back then. ❤
At different points I have been 2,4 and 5. Being the over his league girl was the most painful. What's funny is that when we first started, I was not into his looks but over time, I was head over heels for him. The issue was he was so insecure it was hard to convince him of that. He would be oversensitive twisting things I say, he would try manipulation games by giving silent treatments. Looking back, I didn't see it but now I'm grateful because it's true that I was probably too good for him. Lesson learned, stay within your league or above but never below. 😊 For my good time girl era, we were together for 6 months. He was so sexy, fun, and charming. But we ended when I confronted him and let him know I wanted something more serious. Literally 2 months later I met my future husband and was finally treated like the dream girl I always was. 💕 Like Dita says, you could be the juiciest peach but some guys just don't like peaches. Make sure you find yourself someone who likes peaches. Xx
Guys from cat 5 will act downright hostile. 😂I’m laughing but shaking my head at the same time
Currently dating a man I’m not attracted to but I’m his dream girl. He gets me anything I ask for the most part. I only have to tell him something 1 time and he will do it. 🔥 Never had a man that treated me this well. 👸🏽 All of the men I really wanted treated me like a “good enough chick”. Category 3. 😒
Get your act together and tweak that heart of yours girl😂❤
Why are you not attracted to him and if what ways aren't you?
@Poodle_Gun I see nothing wrong with this. 😅👍🏽
@@Me-xoxoz I can’t help it girl. He’s not attractive. 🤣😂💀 I’m not going anywhere tho.
@@QueenFlowerChild28 He’s not physically attractive at all. I’ve never dated someone I wasn’t attracted to but I’m getting good results so far. 👌🏽 I don’t plan on stopping either bc he treats me so well.
"Once you are in one category you stay in that category" got it....
Women start using your discernment & intuition & stop relying solely on your emotions! Stop giving out your goodies as if it’s a reward for good enough behavior. Remember women you set the standard because you are the prize! He who finds a wife finds a good thing & receives Favor from the Lord!! Women remember you bring the Favor to the man! It’s time to stop letting men love bomb & play you out of your rightful position. Narcissists can’t play with women who use their discernment❤
Thank you for sharing your knowledge. I"m not dating rn, still don't have the energy for it but I do feel better prepared from listening to some of your advice for when I finally am ready again.
I recently discovered the Dating Coach and Greatly Appreciate his take on Men, Woman and Dating.
Caught myself a #5 during my last relationship. It started off great, but he eventually started resenting me and acting out in truly hurtful ways. It felt very confusing at the time, but I eventually realized that he talked a big game when he was courting me, but when he finally "had" me, he didn't want to be held to the standards that he set for himself 🤷🏾♀️
I was category 5 and needless to say, I just broke up with him. I couldn’t take it anymore after 1.5 years. I tried to hang in there and be patient, but this guy would not just be cool. That’s all I wanted. Instead, he tried to treat me like trash. Talked to me any kind of way, didn’t help me around the house, treated me half a$$, etc… I was losing all the way around with him. Enough was enough. I’d rather be single.
I was promoted from desperate to dream girl. 🤦🏾♀️ I saw it saved in his phone unless he was trying to fool me.
I love your breakdown. I was married for 34 yrs. Now divorced, and I'm always in category #5. Guess I have more work to do.
So aim to be the dream girl ( you’re authentic self)👌🏽
Thank you for breaking it down and giving us some perspective!!
💯 you just answered my question without me having to ask them. You’re a godsend. Thank you
Category five is real.
I put men into one category level. He switches on a dime. In other words don’t put your trust in his feelings for you. That includes the category level. Because that’s on him and it changes whenever.
I think I’m in all of the categories and none of them, depending on the day😅
Ive been category 1 for years to one man. sent him over $2000 within our 2 year "friendship"Trying to learn my worth since i was adopted and didnt grow up like other girls. Im loved and important and should be treathed as such .
Wow. Never do that again.
@@ayeshak6822 noted!!!
This makes me not want to deal with anyone.
Same
I feel this way as well. But of course as a human being, I desire a relationship that's loving & healthy. It just seems so hard to obtain. My former therapist told me that to live my life with joy and when I do that, I shall receive the desires of my heart, such as being in a healthy and loving relationship.
I have a question: Aren't these categories interchangeable as well? For example, being the dream girl initially, then moving down into the good girl category.
Love your channel ❤
He does say this and offers to coach you how. If you drop from dream to good, you need to work on certain behaviors, esp when tests pop up.
Thank God for TH-cam University and our fairy God brother❤❤
Mhmm😌😌🖤
This is so true 💯 Thank you, love. ❤
I dated guys that I’m out of the league and the humble aspect is for real! Yuck never again
Same.
@@tc_is_me so frustrating right? We out here trying to be kind and judge based on character. And they wanna play us
@@blahblahblahitsyou Exactly ! From my experience, being open in that sense has been a waste of my time. I’m now only interested in men in my “league” and higher.
Very insightful, thank you.
Thank you! ❤
Thank you
I have been in four out of five of these categories at different times in my life. Come to think of it, I have been in more than one category at the same time, according to whom I was speaking to in a group.
Sweet baby Jesus! I know I need help but I am definitely in the 2 and 3 category.
Never thought I'd listen to dating advice for straight women from a gay man 😢
I don't think men are this organized though 😅
I think I have been in both 4 and 5. I just couldn’t bother with them. Relationships seem too much work and I’m too lazy and selfish.
I feel that, it’s truly the best way to be. I’m assuming you broke it off with the guys you were dealing with? Did they come running back or try to make you stay?
@@MeiMariie they were too flabbergasted by my lack of reason for breaking up and then, they were busy dealing with the 5 stages of grief over it. It’s too much drama. I’m over it. Don’t want to date no more.
AVOIDANT!! Continue like that for the rest of your life is exactly what you deserve 😅
Amazing video 💎✨💯
I been the good enough girl for too long 🤦♀️
So which category is good with whom a guy wants to spend his life and how to know
Is there a such thing as being in all 5 with one guy?
I don't think so, you can be elevated or downgraded during the interaction. Most women are downgraded when we behave clingy, desperate or otherwise😮.
@@Raray200This. Or fail tests of boundaries.
if you're confused it's not on accident... don't tolerate confusion!
Accurate
How do i book a call
Does he want to know the category I put him in tho 😂?
Volume is too low.
🎯
Wow iv been each one of these
Neither of these categories are a brag.
Wow. This is even more reason to be grossed out by dudes.
I wish I knew this 2 years ago 😢
So men put women into 5 categories huh…
Well they’d have to invent / create a brand new category especially for me… it should be called ‘The scratch your head’ category because she’ meaning me’ is just a proper blooming enigma wrapped up tightly in a flamboyant mystery… ‘but I’ve never ever wanted anyone so much and so badly’ is what they’d say about me hahah yeh and I’d agree entirely… ‘bet you’re thinking ‘conceited is me but that doesn’t make what I’ve just said less true / truer… I mean whichever / whatever - I’m sure you get my beautiful drift / gist fairy god bro or fiery god bro Diablo’ I mean You choose… as I’m easy with one or both hahahah just so you know
Now I haven’t had a date in eons now…
there’s no point in me making that statement
I just thought you should know is all hahaha
Thank you !!
Bbfn ;)’
You took it from @TheFeminineUniverse channel!!😡😡😡
He credited that channel 6 hours before your comment.
its not new information.