When I started back dating a few years ago after a divorce (married now to an amazing short king), I asked a body builder date why he was sooooo into me because I clearly am not into fitness? He said because he is very hard and muscular, he likes soft and feminine women. The exact opposite of himself. Very interesting.
I live this it blew my mind my daughter is fluffy and goes to the gym she is 16yo but guys 21 and 25 are always talking to her and encouraging her. You are so kind to let fluffy women know about this ❤
hmmm tyra said the same thing on her show about her being a curvier model: that men like the soft cushy feeling of a woman while women like the hard roughness of a man.
What??? Completely surprised… from my experience, the “myths” are correct. Tall (like 6’2 taller) equals “sore the next day” Short (only once, he’s around 5’7 so hey I could be wrong) equals “I could have had a V8”😒🙄😐
Interesting. The only short man I experienced with a nice thick package was my ex. Other than that, most lean or taller guys I've seen or experienced have a triple threat 🍆 🙌🏾.
@@martaleszkiewicz5115 Toxic AF. Even a current SNL cast member wrote a joke about that! _So, my mom's Cuban, and my dad is Dominican. Which means, they're divorced._ Second; years ago I was a mod for a relationship advice group. A lot of anonymous posts were about Dominicans and Trinis.
As a military veteran woman, you are not lying. Something about those military men...take it from me ladies...stay away! They are so damaged from life and military experience. My heart goes out to them.
I would have cosigned this based on my dating history. However, I have a lot of coworkers who are ex-military. They are hands down some of the most genuine, humble, and supportive humans I've ever met.
@@rorenee5245 + Well think about it. If you've ever seen any military movies, especially ones that show any kind of basic training, you see these men getting verbally abused, insulted, & mentally & emotionally deconstructed, in the process of physically reconstructing them. Through an extremely physically demanding, repetitive, and a very strenuous physical exercise regimen/ gauntlet. Basically the concept, you're not fit to look a superior in the eye, or to wipe their boots, or do anything on your own, until you are "fit" to protect against all enemies foreign & domestic. Pun intended. So when they see a plus sized person, they just think that person doesn't care about themselves, doesn't take care OF themselves, & is too lazy, & weak minded to work as hard as they did to get into shape. They see you as the enemy, because if you needed rescue, from a burning building for example, you represent a literal weight they'd have to carry, & resent that "you don't see the potential risk, & do anything to "help yourself" before such an emergency or deadly situation occurs. They "worked" to get where they are. They expect you to do the same. If you don't, then they think you did this to yourself. Sorry of a "God helps those who help themselves mentality. They are basically brainwashed by the process they went thru.
bodybuilders, gym bros, and short kings do love me hahahaaaa l i’m 263 pounds but i hold my weight well bc i go to the gym and have a naturally athletic frame and small waist but STILL. i dated a 5’5 asian boy as a black woman and he showed me OFF. there’s hope just be confident. ❤
30, plus size, and definitely struggling with dating. I needed to see this, thank you. I’m going to do a better job of putting myself out there with men who are checking for me.
Spitting straight facts!!! Gurrlllss!! I'm telling you all this is true. Being a 6 foot woman and being curvy tall and a little on the thick size yesssss to all of these!!! Thank you!!!!
🫤Sadly after dating multiple gamer guys I realized why they appear loyal. A lot of them "not all" have self esteem issues combined with longer gaming/internet usage that transpires into secret p0rn/hentai addictions. So essentially most appear loyal but it's because they are getting their needs met by us AND internet imagery.
I know you said brown but you said Black and Hispanic. Don't forget about the Polynesians. Hawaiian , Samoan etc...They love a thicker girl and traditionally big is absolutely beautiful.
Wow that's why my neighbor gives me the slow how ya doing,while tasting me with his eyes 😂😂 I'm about to drop my mail in the elevator next time and pick it up very slowly 😉
100% spot on advice. I'm plus sized and my husband is older, and half my size 😅 I've never dated a man my size but the slim guys love me. I went to the gym and the gym bros were staring. My insecurities told me it was because I was big.... Noooo they were checking for real, followed me from machine to machine 😂 I'm out the game now, but I tell you this advice is accurate! Have fun ladies!!
Quick exception on military dudes; most of them suck and are terrible, yes. But the nerd ones who do high level things like engineering, hard sciences, aerospace and things like that? Where They're sitting behind a desk and are never in the field/doing battle and are using their brains all day? They're hidden gems. Most of the time, they went into military for education and have zero interest in macho nonsense. They're secretly nerds too, in a good way. And because they're highly skilled, they need top secret clearances, so they can't commit any sort of crime, even get arrested or be in heavy debt and are constantly getting heavy duty background checks. Also, when they get out, they usually go straight into contracting or STEM jobs that make six figures immediately and have excellent benefits.
“….they’re gonna think your their enemies.”. Omg. I had a Military stepdad. You just put all of my ptsd issues into clear perspective. 😅. Great content and super helpful information.
Wow that's disgusting 😕. Like actually disgusting. I know that I'm not a guy, but know that we're sold an idea of what's "beautiful", but that doesn't mean everyone is buying it. My wife was a beautiful plus size woman and if anyone said something like that to her, theyd leave the conversation in an ambulance
My dear, I’ve been slim my entire life , married now . However I haven’t had any experience that makes my life better than that of any bigger woman and heaven knows if my marriage doesn’t work I’ll be single for life. Bottomline is the slim girls aren’t happier , it’s all a bullying tactic to continue to blame women. If it isn’t the looks , it’s the behaviour, the cooking , the coitus , men are never wrong. If it doesn’t work , it’s all our fault. I love being slim cos it’s the body I’ve been in my whole life but I absolutely love bigger people because from my observation they are fun to be aroud and where I grew up I was never a spec despite being slim hence it’s just been my personal aesthetic preference . If I wanted more men in my country, I would have been bigger but no I have learnt a long time to decentralise men and love me . I hope every bigger lady can do the same cos it rains on all of us . ❤
Absolutely correct! Been slim/normal bmi for most of my life BUT been plus sized for the last few years and this is the truth!!! Gamers/nerdy are a good pick if you like someone around your same age. OG’s (15-20 years older) love us especially if we can cook!😁 But yeah stay away from military men because they are definitely checking for us but are bad news🙅🏽♀️🙅🏽♀️🙅🏽♀️ and Caribbean men (in specific Jamaican)/west African (Nigerian) men appreciate plus size women but stay away iykyk and girl even you don’t know, you don’t want to find out😁
@@martaleszkiewicz5115 Military people: 1. Too much traveling for work. Thus, they have long bouts of LDR. 2. High probability of alcoholic or pill popper. Caribbean men: They're the personification of "faux trad". They're usually the types who want an old school tradwife, while living like feminist modern men.
@@martaleszkiewicz5115I don’t know about military, but the number one stereotype regarding carribean guys that I will back up as a woman with parents from the carribean, is that fidelity is nothing but an 8 letter word to them. Not in their vocabulary whatsoever. I’m the eldest of my haitian dad’s kids, and I have 3 half siblings, all by different women. My parents STILL married. Enough said. Leave the carribean guys for women with no self worth because they’re the only ones who are gonna tolerate their mess. No shade on my daddy because he takes care of his kids no matter what, but I wouldn’t wish the kind of husband he has been to my mom on my worst enemy. And that kind of thing is NOT uncommon with them. Same goes for dudes who are first Gen American born with carribean parents. It’s not the water. It’s the culture. Period. And if they grew up with a heavy Caribbean influence, then they’ll be nearly as bad because that ish is normalized to them.
@@twdjt6245 Co-signing fully. My ex is Jamaican. He took care of us financially when he needed to step up, but fidelity wasn’t something he signed up for for himself. He hid it well. Get with them if you like mind games.
I am a widow but When I am ready, I am totally going to hire you. I’m a seasoned lady, older, but after having listened to you, I am confident you will be able to assist me.
I wasn’t surprised you mentioned black men… they love big women to use them. And they absolutely hate on BLACK women who are big. But I guess you couldn’t tell the truth for real. I’m glad I’m not hyper focused on men anyway. They are fleeting. They go with the wind.
This isn't true for all. Every BM doesn't follow podcast rhetoric, traditionally BM are attracted to voluptuous women. Men with nothing to offer will absolutely go for women with low self-esteem hoping to gain from her though.
Oh my goodness!!! Pure facts! I am a thick girl (NOT slim thick more stocky), 6 feet tall and I LOVE the gym. I like to eat too lol 😅 One thing I have noticed is that these bodybuilder men LOVE thick to overweight women! I feel like such an A lister when I walk into the gym at times from the attention these hot hot buff dudes give me! 😅
Got myself a nerdy gamer man. He loves me for me, and he doesn’t care what size I am. He is the most loving person I’ve ever met,and he treats me with love and respect 🙌🏾
I'm so happy to see a video not putting plus size women down! Love it! And I'm tall and lanky woman. There is somebody outside for everybody. Just put yourself out there.
I’m 5’4 and 152 pounds. Definitely curvy. But I wear the hijab and men never approach me. I have a profile on a Muslim dating app (nightmare) and I get liked by all types of men. White, European, Black, Hispanic, etc. When you say “brown” men I envision Desi men and they usually like slim women. I’d totally go for a tall/nerdy/lanky gamer guy lol. I have been criticized about my weight by two very health conscious white men and it made me feel worse. 😢
Have you heard about funeral homes preferring not to hire men because they fear men will have sex with the corpses?? Think about that the next time you care about the opinion of a man. There opinions DO NOT MATTER. Keep shining.
You about to be richer than rich cause you told on everything 😮no notes no crumbs and you did not miss a beat! Your delivery and you want to help and inform.
BE Careful!! Women really NEED TO know WHY These Men are CHOOSING YOU! Do they think you're insenure? What are his insecurities? The older ones how is Their $$ vs yours. If they're playing games ALL NIGHT LONG that's gonna be ALL HE DOES ! Men do NOT LOVE or Marry for the same reasons as women especially the older one's. Tony Gaskins knows men as well.
THIS ☝🏾. Many women still have yet to learn that men marry for different reasons most times. They typically don't marry for love or fantasy romance like women do.
Tell these men to move to FL because the big girls are plentiful down here. I’m a petite female and a gym rat but correct about the bodybuilders and tall lanky men. I do like shorter men, especially the confident ones. Most men that I have dated have been fit and stocky… you have to do a video for us smaller women! lol!!
I don't fully agree with this list. Not trying to go older. I attract 80 year old men. I really don't want a guy past my age 44. Not too high up. Latino men stick to their own. That works for plus size Latinas. Moreover, fit men want fit women. You never see them with a big girl. Maybe that one time on Steve Harvey, but she was trying to slim down. However, you may be onto something with the gamers. I went to a class series with my library for gamers. They seemed nervous around me. Either it was because I am black or attraction.
Well he said bodybuilder types that are in the gym everyday like the Rock, not just fit dudes that go to the gym 3 or 4x a week. Trust me there is a difference!
Oh I agree about older men. But let's break down the Latino community. I've seen Mexican men date and marry outside of the culture, I've seen them literally married to Japanese women, black or women of African descent, and women of European descent. Puerto Rican men will cheat on their wives with white and black women but I've never seen them married outside of the culture, usually it's to a Latina. Cubans are known for respecting afro Latinos but I've never seen them married outside of the culture either and Dominicans men are a toss up. I had a Dominican guy like me recently but he wasn't talking about marriage so I never did anything with him but talk on the phone 😒
Sorry but you need to update this logic, Black men are NOT into big girls. They like slim thick which is a skinny girl who has most likely gotten enhancements
Good pointers! I'm going to buy a new laptop soon so I will see about the gamers. The guys 10-15+ years older than me (I'm 64) are a NO for me; they can't catch up with me
My bf has zero body fat. If you pay attention in the wild, most women are “bigger” than their male partner due to the whole life carrying thing - no big deal. The whole concept of small, paper thin women being the ultimate marker of feminine beauty is antiquated, erroneous, and racist.
My mom was plus sized my whole life. This guy is not lying one bit from the good to the bad!! Love this. Go where you are wanted people and may you all find happiness ❤🎉. PS I am half Caribbean. My dad is a POS so I know what I am talking about 😂.
Not Caribbean but born and raised in south Florida and I always tell my friends from the US do NOT date them😂😂😂 They will make you feel like the most “sexy” beautiful woman in the world BUT are the biggest bold face liars and cheaters!! Run!!!😂😂😂
😅 “ no Girl, take up all those space” I try not to judge , but I must admit, I’ve been thinking about why most “ body builder” often more tend to go for the “ skinny “ “ not training women” because in my head , I’m like because I also work out I like to be with someone who also does the same.. like I don’t find guys who has the same size as me of who are slimmer than me , “attractive “.. like I can think and se that they are pretty and sweet but I’ve never wanted to be with one like that. So this is also quite an eye opening to listen to 😅 Let’s be better at wanting the people who wants us, too… Guess we’re all learning new things and growing 😁🥳
Well as a plus size black woman who is 28 years old from Dallas, TX I can confirm all of these things are accurate. I have always wondered why muscular men have found me attractive when they go to the gym often. It was always shocking to me. Now no lie my type are monsters big muscular black men that’s my type for sure.
Tall, lanky gamers, IME, had been the easiest to (seriously) date at any size. Whether I've worn a size 6 or 26, and all other sizes in between, they always find me attractive. 2:55 10000000000000000% facts. I'm Caribbean myself.
You know what! You're on point bc I got the gamer and he's taking me to the Renaissance fair at the end of this month 😂😂 this is hilarious and accurate
Anyone have have experiences with fatphobia from other big people aka men? Dating stories please share I find big men attractive but have had bad luck with them
I DEFINITELY DONT AGREE WITH NOT DATING A CARRIBEAN GUY.., AS a big girl 22yrs with an amazing Jamaican 🇯🇲 man who seriously loves me to the moon and back....slim fit packing strong as FK confident so he loves to show me off he can cook love my kids raised them as his own..I can't do big guys sorry ...🇨🇦🙏🏽🥰💯🖤💙✊🏽✊🏽✊🏽🎶🎶💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽🔥🔥
I agree with all of these. I’m plus size and hourglass shaped. I have always had extremely fit and buff bodybuilder-type men approach me and date me. I also go to the gym daily so they always applaud me for going. They also tell me they like my curves. I also agree about the tall skinny men.
I’m screaming at the accuracy. For years I’ve been saying us big girls been on the nerd train. Tall skinny men always wanna be flirty with me. I also attract a lot Of artists, cyclists (for some reason yes it’s this specific), hippie whiiii guys that secretly come from money, and really attractive women like me too. (I’m bi)
I strolled into the Department of Motor Vehicles Office wearing a simple A line cobalt blue dress, a kelly green bolero sweater, peep toe pumps with rosettes on top of the toes. I’m 5 feet on inch tall. And weigh 215 pounds. Men were jumping out of their seats like spawning salmon in the Atlantic ocean to tell me how nice I looked. When leaving,the security guard escorted me to my car. I’m black, wear a short salt and pepper natural and I’m 71 years old.
When I started back dating a few years ago after a divorce (married now to an amazing short king), I asked a body builder date why he was sooooo into me because I clearly am not into fitness? He said because he is very hard and muscular, he likes soft and feminine women. The exact opposite of himself. Very interesting.
I love when a man knows what he likes and why. They won't be swayed by others opinions and judgment.
I live this it blew my mind my daughter is fluffy and goes to the gym she is 16yo but guys 21 and 25 are always talking to her and encouraging her. You are so kind to let fluffy women know about this ❤
It makes a lot of sense actually.
My ex said the same thing... He was shorter than me plus a gym rat
hmmm tyra said the same thing on her show about her being a curvier model: that men like the soft cushy feeling of a woman while women like the hard roughness of a man.
“pretend i’m lost at a body builder competition” 😂😂
Not me: Googling bodybuilding competitions.
These body builders have no penis it's a deal breaker for me.and usually cocky and judgmental. .😂😂😂..
Thee best!!!!😅
Anwar is right about short men. I've dated men who were short, stocky and they were truly blessed 😉
4real? 😍
What??? Completely surprised… from my experience, the “myths” are correct. Tall (like 6’2 taller) equals “sore the next day”
Short (only once, he’s around 5’7 so hey I could be wrong) equals “I could have had a V8”😒🙄😐
Yeah, another myth😕 Guys that were my height had not only the package but the skills to use the package well.
In my experience, short, stocky guys have a lot of girth. Taller guys have pencils.
Interesting. The only short man I experienced with a nice thick package was my ex. Other than that, most lean or taller guys I've seen or experienced have a triple threat 🍆 🙌🏾.
The part about Caribbean men….. FACTSSSSS.
Why, what's wrong with them?
@@martaleszkiewicz5115
Toxic AF.
Even a current SNL cast member wrote a joke about that!
_So, my mom's Cuban, and my dad is Dominican. Which means, they're divorced._
Second; years ago I was a mod for a relationship advice group. A lot of anonymous posts were about Dominicans and Trinis.
Hi @sherineofficial7841 what issues are you referring to?
My Jamaican girlfriends tell me they’ve never met a faithful Jamaican man in their lives. Father brother cousin friend, nope nobody.
@@belovedempress relatable. She’s not lying 😂My only uncle that was faithful died at age 26😭
As a military veteran woman, you are not lying. Something about those military men...take it from me ladies...stay away! They are so damaged from life and military experience. My heart goes out to them.
Facts, some are just intentionally degenerates that want control
I’m agree and disagree…it depends on the veteran…everyone story is different…I served and I’m a veteran…
I would have cosigned this based on my dating history. However, I have a lot of coworkers who are ex-military. They are hands down some of the most genuine, humble, and supportive humans I've ever met.
@@MyAccountForCommentingunfortunately, that's different from dating them. I'm married to one and he literally acts like I'm his enemy after joining.
Facts! 💯
"Their gonna think of you as the enemy" took me tf out 😂😂
Married a Jamaican in the army...
😂😅
Me too. I'm cracking up!!!😂😂😂
Right! I was thinking like, 'Wait, wha?? I need more information!" 😮
@@rorenee5245 + Well think about it. If you've ever seen any military movies, especially ones that show any kind of basic training, you see these men getting verbally abused, insulted, & mentally & emotionally deconstructed, in the process of physically reconstructing them. Through an extremely physically demanding, repetitive, and a very strenuous physical exercise regimen/ gauntlet. Basically the concept, you're not fit to look a superior in the eye, or to wipe their boots, or do anything on your own, until you are "fit" to protect against all enemies foreign & domestic. Pun intended.
So when they see a plus sized person, they just think that person doesn't care about themselves, doesn't take care OF themselves, & is too lazy, & weak minded to work as hard as they did to get into shape. They see you as the enemy, because if you needed rescue, from a burning building for example, you represent a literal weight they'd have to carry, & resent that "you don't see the potential risk, & do anything to "help yourself" before such an emergency or deadly situation occurs. They "worked" to get where they are. They expect you to do the same. If you don't, then they think you did this to yourself. Sorry of a "God helps those who help themselves mentality. They are basically brainwashed by the process they went thru.
bodybuilders, gym bros, and short kings do love me hahahaaaa l i’m 263 pounds but i hold my weight well bc i go to the gym and have a naturally athletic frame and small waist but STILL. i dated a 5’5 asian boy as a black woman and he showed me OFF. there’s hope just be confident. ❤
Exactly…❤
Amen 🙏
30, plus size, and definitely struggling with dating. I needed to see this, thank you. I’m going to do a better job of putting myself out there with men who are checking for me.
@@kelsiecc
Concerts, especially rock, punk, metal concerts. It's toooooo easy.
@@kelsiecc
Why so easy? My ex husband and current husband were men I met at music shows.
youre gorgeous!
They gym is a whole scene that I didn’t think would be as interesting. While there are some haters in there also plenty of guys saying…Hi…..😂😂😂
@@atlfun08 ugh oh who are the h8ters?
Babybeee you ain’t lying about those lanky men!!!!
He is NOT lying at all about the gym bros and short kings!
Fr fr? But why like how... do tell 👀👀
Exactly, spot on…
@@googleuser8294you got to experiment…go to the gym to see what he is talking about …
The lanky gamers....I have several plush girlfriends that are coupled like this...😮🎉🎉🎉🎉😂
It's true the short men very well endowed . I'm very happy
Spitting straight facts!!! Gurrlllss!! I'm telling you all this is true. Being a 6 foot woman and being curvy tall and a little on the thick size yesssss to all of these!!! Thank you!!!!
True. Mostly the tall, lanky gamers are interested in me. They are also the most loyal ❤
Hello, where do you meet your tall, lanky gamers?
@@allways8782 mostly in college, then at work. One worked with my dad.
@@allways8782Comic Con. Tall & Nerdies usually work in good money fields, too.
@@allways8782
Video game stores.
Comics and other games work too.
Music shows.
Local basketball courts.
Great place for the younger crowd.
🫤Sadly after dating multiple gamer guys I realized why they appear loyal. A lot of them "not all" have self esteem issues combined with longer gaming/internet usage that transpires into secret p0rn/hentai addictions. So essentially most appear loyal but it's because they are getting their needs met by us AND internet imagery.
I know you said brown but you said Black and Hispanic. Don't forget about the Polynesians. Hawaiian , Samoan etc...They love a thicker girl and traditionally big is absolutely beautiful.
Ooh nice! ❤
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They're considered brown... pretty much anyone who's not black ( in western standards) is brown.
I'm not a big girl but I'd love to at least meet a pacific islander. Where should I look??
Wow that's why my neighbor gives me the slow how ya doing,while tasting me with his eyes 😂😂 I'm about to drop my mail in the elevator next time and pick it up very slowly 😉
it’s funny cause as a plus size girl I think the tall lanky guys are cute but I always assume they wouldn’t be interested in me 🤷🏽♀️
From my experience it's 50/50
That’s all I’ve ever dated, I’ve never been with a man that’s my size ironically 😂
100% spot on advice. I'm plus sized and my husband is older, and half my size 😅 I've never dated a man my size but the slim guys love me. I went to the gym and the gym bros were staring. My insecurities told me it was because I was big.... Noooo they were checking for real, followed me from machine to machine 😂 I'm out the game now, but I tell you this advice is accurate! Have fun ladies!!
He's right about bodybuilder men. I see it all the time.
Quick exception on military dudes; most of them suck and are terrible, yes. But the nerd ones who do high level things like engineering, hard sciences, aerospace and things like that? Where They're sitting behind a desk and are never in the field/doing battle and are using their brains all day? They're hidden gems.
Most of the time, they went into military for education and have zero interest in macho nonsense. They're secretly nerds too, in a good way. And because they're highly skilled, they need top secret clearances, so they can't commit any sort of crime, even get arrested or be in heavy debt and are constantly getting heavy duty background checks.
Also, when they get out, they usually go straight into contracting or STEM jobs that make six figures immediately and have excellent benefits.
Body builders do love plus sized women hell yes they do!
“….they’re gonna think your their enemies.”. Omg. I had a Military stepdad. You just put all of my ptsd issues into clear perspective. 😅. Great content and super helpful information.
Pretend I'm lost at the bodybuilding competition took me out 😂🤣😭😂🤣
You’re the first dating coach I’ve EVER heard who isn’t saying we absolutely need to lose weight to be loved and treated well 🥲
Wow that's disgusting 😕. Like actually disgusting.
I know that I'm not a guy, but know that we're sold an idea of what's "beautiful", but that doesn't mean everyone is buying it. My wife was a beautiful plus size woman and if anyone said something like that to her, theyd leave the conversation in an ambulance
Gurl please just lose weight 🙏
My dear, I’ve been slim my entire life , married now . However I haven’t had any experience that makes my life better than that of any bigger woman and heaven knows if my marriage doesn’t work I’ll be single for life. Bottomline is the slim girls aren’t happier , it’s all a bullying tactic to continue to blame women. If it isn’t the looks , it’s the behaviour, the cooking , the coitus , men are never wrong. If it doesn’t work , it’s all our fault. I love being slim cos it’s the body I’ve been in my whole life but I absolutely love bigger people because from my observation they are fun to be aroud and where I grew up I was never a spec despite being slim hence it’s just been my personal aesthetic preference . If I wanted more men in my country, I would have been bigger but no I have learnt a long time to decentralise men and love me . I hope every bigger lady can do the same cos it rains on all of us . ❤
As plus size women myself i agree and we all need to decentralized men from our lives and focus on us first as women.@@realmaureenoyakhilome
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Absolutely correct! Been slim/normal bmi for most of my life BUT been plus sized for the last few years and this is the truth!!!
Gamers/nerdy are a good pick if you like someone around your same age. OG’s (15-20 years older) love us especially if we can cook!😁
But yeah stay away from military men because they are definitely checking for us but are bad news🙅🏽♀️🙅🏽♀️🙅🏽♀️ and Caribbean men (in specific Jamaican)/west African (Nigerian) men appreciate plus size women but stay away iykyk and girl even you don’t know, you don’t want to find out😁
Please explain to me, what's wrong with the military and Caribbean men?
@@martaleszkiewicz5115cheaters, mentally unstable, jealous, possessive from what I’ve heard
@@martaleszkiewicz5115
Military people:
1. Too much traveling for work. Thus, they have long bouts of LDR.
2. High probability of alcoholic or pill popper.
Caribbean men:
They're the personification of "faux trad". They're usually the types who want an old school tradwife, while living like feminist modern men.
@@martaleszkiewicz5115I don’t know about military, but the number one stereotype regarding carribean guys that I will back up as a woman with parents from the carribean, is that fidelity is nothing but an 8 letter word to them. Not in their vocabulary whatsoever. I’m the eldest of my haitian dad’s kids, and I have 3 half siblings, all by different women. My parents STILL married. Enough said. Leave the carribean guys for women with no self worth because they’re the only ones who are gonna tolerate their mess. No shade on my daddy because he takes care of his kids no matter what, but I wouldn’t wish the kind of husband he has been to my mom on my worst enemy. And that kind of thing is NOT uncommon with them.
Same goes for dudes who are first Gen American born with carribean parents. It’s not the water. It’s the culture. Period. And if they grew up with a heavy Caribbean influence, then they’ll be nearly as bad because that ish is normalized to them.
@@twdjt6245 Co-signing fully. My ex is Jamaican. He took care of us financially when he needed to step up, but fidelity wasn’t something he signed up for for himself. He hid it well. Get with them if you like mind games.
So true because I have always been attracted to taller, skinny/thin men and they have been who I’ve dated throughout my life. You are spot on!
I am a widow but When I am ready, I am totally going to hire you. I’m a seasoned lady, older, but after having listened to you, I am confident you will be able to assist me.
Definitely facts about those islanders. Even my therapist said run 😂
I've always liked older men, so glad to hear this ❤
2:07 “Tall, lanky gamer.” AMEN 🙏 Yes! That’s 💯 correct. BEST GAME I EVER HAD!
I wasn’t surprised you mentioned black men… they love big women to use them. And they absolutely hate on BLACK women who are big.
But I guess you couldn’t tell the truth for real.
I’m glad I’m not hyper focused on men anyway. They are fleeting. They go with the wind.
Don’t give up babe
This isn't true for all. Every BM doesn't follow podcast rhetoric, traditionally BM are attracted to voluptuous women. Men with nothing to offer will absolutely go for women with low self-esteem hoping to gain from her though.
You forgot the other brown guys…..Indian and middle eastern men.
My DM’s used to be flooded with both
Oh my goodness!!! Pure facts! I am a thick girl (NOT slim thick more stocky), 6 feet tall and I LOVE the gym. I like to eat too lol 😅 One thing I have noticed is that these bodybuilder men LOVE thick to overweight women! I feel like such an A lister when I walk into the gym at times from the attention these hot hot buff dudes give me! 😅
Ok sis!!🤩! Let me go to the gym and find out🏋🏽♀️🤸🏽♀️😂😂😂
Got myself a nerdy gamer man. He loves me for me, and he doesn’t care what size I am. He is the most loving person I’ve ever met,and he treats me with love and respect 🙌🏾
You keep me in tears 😂 but it’s ALL on point 🙌🏽🥰
I'm so happy to see a video not putting plus size women down! Love it! And I'm tall and lanky woman. There is somebody outside for everybody. Just put yourself out there.
I love that you shared this and you aren’t even plus size! So much love for you
The tall lanky ones always check me out❤
“Military guys, they’re gonna think of you as the enemy” I’m a veteran this is FACTS!
I’m 5’4 and 152 pounds. Definitely curvy. But I wear the hijab and men never approach me. I have a profile on a Muslim dating app (nightmare) and I get liked by all types of men. White, European, Black, Hispanic, etc. When you say “brown” men I envision Desi men and they usually like slim women. I’d totally go for a tall/nerdy/lanky gamer guy lol. I have been criticized about my weight by two very health conscious white men and it made me feel worse. 😢
Have you heard about funeral homes preferring not to hire men because they fear men will have sex with the corpses??
Think about that the next time you care about the opinion of a man. There opinions DO NOT MATTER. Keep shining.
Girl 152 at 5’4 is a good normal weight! Those men are ignorant please ignore them.
@@evapeace2385 Thank you, doll. 💞
My husband is a MMA trainer and he is so in love with me. I'm totally opposite. I'm thick and built like a stallion. Oh my goodness this is so true 😂
Lolllllllllll love this very very useful but dunno why it also doubled up as a comedy show lollllll thanks for the laughs you should try comedy xx
You about to be richer than rich cause you told on everything 😮no notes no crumbs and you did not miss a beat! Your delivery and you want to help and inform.
So true. My longest relationship was a lanky gamer that was packkkking. He was also the most loyal too.
Why didn’t it work out?
@@atarabat-yah2437 I was really young and we grew apart. We actually still speak randomly to this day
👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Awesome!!!
BE Careful!! Women really NEED TO know WHY These Men are CHOOSING YOU! Do they think you're insenure? What are his insecurities? The older ones how is Their $$ vs yours. If they're playing games ALL NIGHT LONG that's gonna be ALL HE DOES ! Men do NOT LOVE or Marry for the same reasons as women especially the older one's. Tony Gaskins knows men as well.
THIS ☝🏾. Many women still have yet to learn that men marry for different reasons most times. They typically don't marry for love or fantasy romance like women do.
😂😂😂😂😂 you’re hilarious as well as a brilliant coach. Thank you.
Tell these men to move to FL because the big girls are plentiful down here. I’m a petite female and a gym rat but correct about the bodybuilders and tall lanky men. I do like shorter men, especially the confident ones. Most men that I have dated have been fit and stocky… you have to do a video for us smaller women! lol!!
GA too
Not 1 thing he said that I could disagree with. Girl. Bro be on point for sure. 🎉😂
I don't fully agree with this list. Not trying to go older. I attract 80 year old men. I really don't want a guy past my age 44. Not too high up. Latino men stick to their own. That works for plus size Latinas. Moreover, fit men want fit women. You never see them with a big girl. Maybe that one time on Steve Harvey, but she was trying to slim down. However, you may be onto something with the gamers. I went to a class series with my library for gamers. They seemed nervous around me. Either it was because I am black or attraction.
Well he said bodybuilder types that are in the gym everyday like the Rock, not just fit dudes that go to the gym 3 or 4x a week. Trust me there is a difference!
Oh I agree about older men. But let's break down the Latino community. I've seen Mexican men date and marry outside of the culture, I've seen them literally married to Japanese women, black or women of African descent, and women of European descent. Puerto Rican men will cheat on their wives with white and black women but I've never seen them married outside of the culture, usually it's to a Latina. Cubans are known for respecting afro Latinos but I've never seen them married outside of the culture either and Dominicans men are a toss up. I had a Dominican guy like me recently but he wasn't talking about marriage so I never did anything with him but talk on the phone 😒
@@preciousgem84I’m black and my husband was Puerto Rican …..we were married for over 40 yrs.🤔
@@deborahsantiago9441 okay 👍. Are you Puerto Rican too? I've known black Puerto Ricans.
Sorry but you need to update this logic, Black men are NOT into big girls. They like slim thick which is a skinny girl who has most likely gotten enhancements
THIS ☝🏾
You're giving away my secrets 😂❤
Good pointers! I'm going to buy a new laptop soon so I will see about the gamers. The guys 10-15+ years older than me (I'm 64) are a NO for me; they can't catch up with me
Wdym they can't catch up?
Lmfao 😂 this comment had me laughing out loud 🤣!!!
Facts about the gamers. Only thing is because I didn’t fit into that world it was just physical compatibility and Nothing else
"They're gonna think of you as the enemy." 😂😂 Fairy Godbrother is not lying with this one.
No lies told 🤭💯talking from experience
My bf has zero body fat. If you pay attention in the wild, most women are “bigger” than their male partner due to the whole life carrying thing - no big deal. The whole concept of small, paper thin women being the ultimate marker of feminine beauty is antiquated, erroneous, and racist.
Okay but why am I plus size and exactly I have a tall, lanky gamer husband? 🤣 He is a dating guru forreal!
My mom was plus sized my whole life. This guy is not lying one bit from the good to the bad!! Love this. Go where you are wanted people and may you all find happiness ❤🎉. PS I am half Caribbean. My dad is a POS so I know what I am talking about 😂.
This message was on point.
Thank you, Anwar! ❤
I think I'm going to get my toes done and go to cosplay event.
My entire dating life has been tall, lanky gamer guys. Everything he said, CORRECT.
Thank you 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
😂trinidad 🇹🇹here. He just throw way all de man in de caribbean 😂😂. We keep telling dem dey off😂 look embarrassment here now 😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂 let them take embarrassment
Not Caribbean but born and raised in south Florida and I always tell my friends from the US do NOT date them😂😂😂
They will make you feel like the most “sexy” beautiful woman in the world BUT are the biggest bold face liars and cheaters!! Run!!!😂😂😂
Can you explain why? What's wrong with the Caribbean men and why shouldn't plus-size women date them?
@@martaleszkiewicz5115they're users, abusers, liars, and cheaters
@@martaleszkiewicz5115I would like to know that as well 🤔
You are absolutely correct!!! I always wondered why the really fit and muscular men always hit me up.
😅 “ no Girl, take up all those space” I try not to judge , but I must admit, I’ve been thinking about why most “ body builder” often more tend to go for the “ skinny “ “ not training women” because in my head , I’m like because I also work out I like to be with someone who also does the same.. like I don’t find guys who has the same size as me of who are slimmer than me , “attractive “.. like I can think and se that they are pretty and sweet but I’ve never wanted to be with one like that. So this is also quite an eye opening to listen to 😅
Let’s be better at wanting the people who wants us, too…
Guess we’re all learning new things and growing 😁🥳
The men at the comic conventions love me ☺️
Well as a plus size black woman who is 28 years old from Dallas, TX I can confirm all of these things are accurate.
I have always wondered why muscular men have found me attractive when they go to the gym often.
It was always shocking to me.
Now no lie my type are monsters big muscular black men that’s my type for sure.
Brilliant...my husband is half my size and 16 years older. I've always struggled with my weight but he loves my fat ass. Happily married 30 years
This is too funny he said the Caribbean guy is gonna live for you but they’re dangerous 😂😂
Tall, lanky gamers, IME, had been the easiest to (seriously) date at any size. Whether I've worn a size 6 or 26, and all other sizes in between, they always find me attractive.
2:55
10000000000000000% facts.
I'm Caribbean myself.
You know what! You're on point bc I got the gamer and he's taking me to the Renaissance fair at the end of this month 😂😂 this is hilarious and accurate
He right about the tall lanky guys!! All the way around. Straight facts!!!
omg I'm wearing my 'Picture it, Sicily' tshirt too!!! Watched this twice before I even noticed lolol
Anyone have have experiences with fatphobia from other big people aka men? Dating stories please share I find big men attractive but have had bad luck with them
It seems like big men want petite women
He explained it to a “T”
The accuracy here is staggering! I love it.😂
Anwar is spot on with every single point😂
You are so right about all this!!
As a plus size women, I can confirm these truths ladies !!! “The bigger the wealthier”💯 I gotta go find me a DAD group lol
I love muscular men like the rock ❤
Me too sis!! When he said that I was like “say what now??!!”…. Might need to stop these oz-pic injections😂😂😂
@@SheIsFearfullyWonderfullyMade talking about he may wanna use you as a weight sir 🤣😂😅
I DEFINITELY DONT AGREE WITH NOT DATING A CARRIBEAN GUY.., AS a big girl 22yrs with an amazing Jamaican 🇯🇲 man who seriously loves me to the moon and back....slim fit packing strong as FK confident so he loves to show me off he can cook love my kids raised them as his own..I can't do big guys sorry ...🇨🇦🙏🏽🥰💯🖤💙✊🏽✊🏽✊🏽🎶🎶💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽🔥🔥
this video is so cute honestly. vouching for and also dragging all at the same time.....i loved it!
Such a great 'pick yourself up and keep pushing girl" post 🎉 thank you!!!
I had to come here 😂😂😂 2:21
I agree with all of these. I’m plus size and hourglass shaped. I have always had extremely fit and buff bodybuilder-type men approach me and date me. I also go to the gym daily so they always applaud me for going. They also tell me they like my curves. I also agree about the tall skinny men.
This is my first time subscribing and IM HERE FOR IT
U are so helpful and informative blessings 🙌🏽😎🥳
Lanky gamers he ain’t never lied. However my husband isn’t a chronic gamer.
"The bodybuilder guy... they're not packin'" 😂😂😂😂😂😂
I’m just thinking about all the tiktok/ TH-cam couples I follow and you are absolutely correct lol
Which ones ?
Thanks for the advice 😊and yes I agree with you because those are the kind of guys who are attracted to me
Can you do one for short women?
Everyone is checking for us
@@aminachanae ikr lol tbh we have so many options, idek why I asked🤷🏾♀️😂
He aint lying about the carribean men. Im Haitian and tell make a hard pass on them.
They just a different breed of all together.
That last part had me dying “ they’re gonna think of you as the enemy “
I love the overview!!! I lived some of it as well
The gamers stay in the house, I like that lol
The bodybuilding thing is true, I’m too small for them and I’m a size 12-14 😩
I adore you and your commentary 🎉
Ive definitely seen that body builder thing. A few times, so ur onto somethin for sure
Ive been plus size and tiny. Body builder thing is absolutely facts
What about tall girls
You're gonna have to get low 😂. He's gonna say, try someone shorter.
So true!
I’m screaming at the accuracy. For years I’ve been saying us big girls been on the nerd train. Tall skinny men always wanna be flirty with me. I also attract a lot
Of artists, cyclists (for some reason yes it’s this specific), hippie whiiii guys that secretly come from money, and really attractive women like me too. (I’m bi)
Yooo you about to go viral for this one 😂😂😂
I strolled into the Department of Motor Vehicles Office wearing a simple A line cobalt blue dress, a kelly green bolero sweater, peep toe pumps with rosettes on top of the toes. I’m 5 feet on inch tall. And weigh 215 pounds. Men were jumping out of their seats like spawning salmon in the Atlantic ocean to tell me how nice I looked. When leaving,the security guard escorted me to my car. I’m black, wear a short salt and pepper natural and I’m 71 years old.