Stress them out! Yes, for some reason men constantly need goals to reach and constant boundaries being set. As soon you threaten to leave when your needs aren’t met, they get some sense. Don’t be afraid to have standards ladies. Basically, don’t be afraid of keeping your foot on their neck!
Was wondering the same thing. Pondering what he said I realized he gave us behavioral markers or arrival at a point. Like directions in the south-your on the right track when you get to the taco stand…keeping going straight… Markers: 1-lust he needs to do it all and likely just wants sex. 2-attraction not just lust-stress him on a good way phase, he wants to solve solvable problems. Let him do-sex decreases the bond. 3-cuddle freak out phase, will be a few days if more than five block and move on. He’s having chemical chaos inside but after five days bye ✌️.
@@HHH81see idk how I feel about the 5 days because that’s to long. After 1 or 2 I’m out. You can’t go to a job and pull a no show so to me it’s the same thing
This is so true my guy pulled away. So I pulled away and gave him space for about a month. I think I talked to him 2x. What has he done, double down on keeping up with me. He can’t go 12 hours without contact. The personal info is like a fountain. I know as much about him as a wife without asking. How you say, I never asked him for as much as a piece of bubblegum. And I know it’s true because he involves me in a lot of family and business decisions. I keep it distant because I don’t want him just for his money. He’s gonna eventually give me that because he wants to make me his and he’s asked me to own him mind body and soul. Oh and btw, I’ve been 100% honest I’m in rehab learning to walk and he’s stuck by me for a year.
Um i wouldn’t have let him back after he pulled away. This ain’t a revolving door. That tells me he has communication issues and how you start is how you finish. The moment he pulled back I would’ve blocked him and moved on. Manipulation at its finest
I just lost one because of the first tip... I become anxious in silence, I screw up by initiating conversation... and I do it blindly, never realize what I've done until I press send! Then bam, ghosted 😬 it's only by the ones I really like too... which I try to ignore my attraction but it increases with their hot/cold. Looks like I've got more healing to do :( gosh does it ever end! 🤦🏾♀️
It's biological actually. Insane chemistry triggers instinct. Instinct trumps civilisation. That "I've got to have you" feeling = chemical and make yourself turn into a pretzel😅 you can't outsmart it either. Insane chemistry= a recipe for adversary relationships. Don't fall for it.. it's also likely to have some sort of trauma bonding (we seek to heal). If you find that: run the opposite way! Doesn't mean you can't have chemistry/attraction to them, but seek less of it: it will provide you with a better partner (partnership Vs relationship, relating) and ultimately make you more happy (and attraction grows over time because someone shows up and is a great partner, as looks decrease with age anyway(!).
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t. I don’t know why I’m saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.
I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but i could not let her go. So i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back. We are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.
@kanerall and @Ken_Johnson yall are seeking witchcraft to force people who made their choices to leave? Thats evil and not real love. Thats just pure selfishness on your end. Let them DO WHAT THEY WANT TO DO.
Damn so when he said he needed time to think he was being honest and my Aquarius self detached like mf since there was no communication. Chile nothing could turn that switch back on for me 😂
I’m a 51 year old woman and find that men in their 40’s, 50’s + are nervous…actually more so than when they are youngest. Many know what’s at risk and that women will walk away.
In the initial stages when the effort is not nearly enough do you have to communicate that or just walk away because the gap is too wide where do you start explaining and they don't like to be nagged.its like the low quality men on dating apps have been dealing with girls who settle for scraps and expect same from others and get confused or they cud just be trying their luck
Hey anwar!! Can you please make a video on how to make him take care of me, like spend money on mw In my last relationships i was the only one spending a lot on exes cuz thwy won't do it
Stress them out! Yes, for some reason men constantly need goals to reach and constant boundaries being set. As soon you threaten to leave when your needs aren’t met, they get some sense. Don’t be afraid to have standards ladies. Basically, don’t be afraid of keeping your foot on their neck!
Its that vassopressin
@@carolinpurayidom4570 This!
This! I did this and baby when I tell u he chases me and dnt wanna lose me that’s what I mean!
💯‼️‼️🔥🙌🏽
I find oncw i break up with them for not being what i need them to be is when they do, oddly.
Well look at you inspiring growth 🤎
Yes, they all do that lol. It’s to show you what you’re missing out on by not being with them. The changes never last either.
Every.time
Yeah same. Only problem is once I break up wit someone, I never take them back.
Always.
Not me pinky swearing with him. 😂
Girl, me too 😂😂😂😂😂
Me too.😅😅😅
Saaaaame ❤❤❤❤❤
Me three. 😅😅😅😅
Same 😂
Men fall in love like they fall in a hole. They don’t mean to. 😭
The wisdom in this buffoonery is immense 😭😂😂😂😂 thanks for the lols
😂😂😂 And for men, the better the hole feels the deeper the fall in love🫣😂
@@trishmalone5639😂😂😂😂😂
😅
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
It's time for men to wonder how to get *ME* to fall in love. I thank GOD for my self-respect!
Never, ever chase! Be cautious about becoming emotionally involved too soon. Check him out for awhile he may not be the one!
Yep! Also keep segx off the table. 💯‼️
What length of time does each stage last? Thanks Anwar💕
Was wondering the same thing. Pondering what he said I realized he gave us behavioral markers or arrival at a point.
Like directions in the south-your on the right track when you get to the taco stand…keeping going straight…
Markers:
1-lust he needs to do it all and likely just wants sex.
2-attraction not just lust-stress him on a good way phase, he wants to solve solvable problems. Let him do-sex decreases the bond.
3-cuddle freak out phase, will be a few days if more than five block and move on. He’s having chemical chaos inside but after five days bye ✌️.
Forever.
@@HHH81see idk how I feel about the 5 days because that’s to long. After 1 or 2 I’m out. You can’t go to a job and pull a no show so to me it’s the same thing
This is so true my guy pulled away. So I pulled away and gave him space for about a month. I think I talked to him 2x. What has he done, double down on keeping up with me. He can’t go 12 hours without contact. The personal info is like a fountain. I know as much about him as a wife without asking. How you say, I never asked him for as much as a piece of bubblegum. And I know it’s true because he involves me in a lot of family and business decisions. I keep it distant because I don’t want him just for his money. He’s gonna eventually give me that because he wants to make me his and he’s asked me to own him mind body and soul. Oh and btw, I’ve been 100% honest I’m in rehab learning to walk and he’s stuck by me for a year.
@@gtofabulas wow, you give me hope
💜
Um i wouldn’t have let him back after he pulled away. This ain’t a revolving door. That tells me he has communication issues and how you start is how you finish. The moment he pulled back I would’ve blocked him and moved on. Manipulation at its finest
Wow, that's amazing....so proud for you
What do you mean EVENTUALLY GIVE YOU MONEY??? My husband gave me 10k our first month of dating. By month 3 I got a house. What are you doing wrong???
Wow! I love how you also have a biological explanation for what's happening during courtship. This is fascinating🤩💖🤔
I just lost one because of the first tip...
I become anxious in silence, I screw up by initiating conversation...
and I do it blindly, never realize what I've done until I press send!
Then bam, ghosted 😬
it's only by the ones I really like too... which I try to ignore my attraction but it increases with their hot/cold.
Looks like I've got more healing to do :(
gosh does it ever end! 🤦🏾♀️
It's biological actually. Insane chemistry triggers instinct. Instinct trumps civilisation. That "I've got to have you" feeling = chemical and make yourself turn into a pretzel😅 you can't outsmart it either. Insane chemistry= a recipe for adversary relationships. Don't fall for it.. it's also likely to have some sort of trauma bonding (we seek to heal). If you find that: run the opposite way! Doesn't mean you can't have chemistry/attraction to them, but seek less of it: it will provide you with a better partner (partnership Vs relationship, relating) and ultimately make you more happy (and attraction grows over time because someone shows up and is a great partner, as looks decrease with age anyway(!).
Omg boo NEVER EVER reach out first. Don’t text or call unless he text or call you. He who speaks first loses power
Its okay, seach secure attachment videos on here. They were helpful..also good attachment styles on Google. I found great free workbooks
It sounds like you might have an Anxious Preoccuppied Attachment Style
@@Varenyam86thank you for your comment 😭
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t. I don’t know why I’m saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.
I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but i could not let her go. So i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back. We are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach one?
Her name is Maurice Gleti, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
@kanerall and @Ken_Johnson yall are seeking witchcraft to force people who made their choices to leave? Thats evil and not real love. Thats just pure selfishness on your end. Let them DO WHAT THEY WANT TO DO.
This is exhausting!!!
I hattttteeee i learning this too late in life!!! We get taught sooo wrongggg!! But I'm grateful ❤for this 🙏🏾 messages
Wow, this guy is earnest, kind, honest, and humble. Definitely the real deal, and the type of person you'd want advice from!
Ugh ,I don’t even wanna date anymore it’s too many rules .
You better not be misleading us so that you can keep all the men
😂😂
Girl loooooollllll
😂😂😂
💀 😂
😅
Just be yourself and you‘ll find the real one. If you pretend to be different, it wouldn‘t work out.
Who cares what men think lol they a waste of precious energy. Single women are literally happier.
Big brother, please provide the full lecture 🌷
That was solid advice
Wow this was really clear, eye opening, wise…Thank you!🎉🖤🙏🏽
This is a great advice . You’re an absolute God send .
Damn so when he said he needed time to think he was being honest and my Aquarius self detached like mf since there was no communication. Chile nothing could turn that switch back on for me 😂
Yea when they say that I’m out. I’m not wasting no more of my time. Take all the time you need but I won’t be here
Detachment is great! He will chase you hard and if you don’t like him, just play him for his momey
@ my kind of girl 💪🏾😜🥹😎
This has been extremely helpful.
Dating Coach Anwar you are good at this skill!
Thanks Anwar, golden lessons.
I'm anxious. So THANK YOU for telling me to cool my heals❤😂❤
I feel sorry for the women that are actually wanting to date because this is the most🙄
Thank you, Anwar. You've helped me tremendously by informing me of things I've been doing so wrong. I appreciate you.
Thanks Anwar❤️🩹
I wish I knew of you 3 years ago.
I honestly dont think any man other than my dad has ever loved me.
Honestly men are exhausting.
If it werent for my faith id be dating women again.
Thank you
Watching this video on repeat 👍
Thank you.
Why is the ex, of over 10 yrs, still driving by my house? Have caught him several times doing this?
New subscriber
Promise
Take his money and run 💕💞💖 thats love
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Lol
Got us out here like 🧬 👩🏽🔬🧪 😂
Do men still feel nervous when dating in their 40s?
I’m a 51 year old woman and find that men in their 40’s, 50’s + are nervous…actually more so than when they are youngest. Many know what’s at risk and that women will walk away.
Very
Yes!
Wow thanks ❤
I love this ❤
how long do we stay in the second stage? like number of dates??? 😬 help!😊
Wish I would have listened to this 5 minutes ago before I texted him first 🙃
I promise
In the initial stages when the effort is not nearly enough do you have to communicate that or just walk away because the gap is too wide where do you start explaining and they don't like to be nagged.its like the low quality men on dating apps have been dealing with girls who settle for scraps and expect same from others and get confused or they cud just be trying their luck
❤
I can’t promise that lol
❤❤❤❤
This low key freaks me out. I think I might be aro lol
What's the most effective way to reach out to you for more info?
I couldn't understand what you said.... The what will lessen in him and he'll feel less bonded?
Vasopressin
Sex
But most of the time they ghost for 5 days & then come back ?
Why did I just kiss my thumb too? :-)
What is a decent time to wait for sex?
Sounds like after the third stage
What happens if he has sex with someone else but still talking to you
He’s not that into you. He wouldn’t do anything to lose you if he was.😊
Guys will only give you the respect you demand and if you don't demand any respect then they won't respect you at all.
Sis I think you know the answer to that
A man who likes u alotwouldn't give any opportunity to turn you off
100%@@shalalala868
Hey anwar!! Can you please make a video on how to make him take care of me, like spend money on mw
In my last relationships i was the only one spending a lot on exes cuz thwy won't do it
I wish I would have found this video 2 months ago 🫣