Facts. One of my bros who is super good looking has very low self confidence. I once asked him why he doesn’t date and his response was “I’m butt ugly women don’t like me” I laughed kinda hard until I realized he was serious and then proceeded to tell him he is easily the best looking in the friend group. This was news to him. Adult women have an issue with over evaluating their attractiveness. It’s almost universal.
I once dated a guy for 2 years who was a fashion model. I got the stares. Why is this guy with her? I was clearly beneath him. It hurt. Turns out he dated me because he liked to look better than his partner. He never had a single photo of me except in the instance he was in it. So it's really hard to quantify attractiveness based on prior partners
@@user-lt1jd1ye3v thank you 🙏that's very kind of you. I believe because of my insomnia, I looked more "homely". People noticed that instantly about me and made fun of me growing up for looking like a "jungle woman". Also make up does wonders
I am on the lower end of average I think but I have a question - why is it that to myself I look way better in a mirror than in a photo? When I see myself in the mirror I (to myself anyway) seem on the upper end of average but when I see myself in a photo I see myself as very ugly. Why the differences when they are both images of myself and do other people experience this or is it only me?
Because you are biased towards yourself. You are accustomed and hardwired to seeing yourself in mirror image, because that's what you see in the mirror every day and in selfies. You never see yourself unmirrored except for on photographs, and probably relative rarely too. But to you, that is not you as that is not what you see in the mirror. So people see you differently than you see you. Also people don't see your every detail but rather a crude representation. Which also means you can be annoyed endlessly by a tiny feature, a nosehair or a birthmark etc, that others don't even notice.
Because in a photo you are subject to lens distortion. The wider the lens the more distortion. A zoomed in lens gives more pleasing results. Most standard cellphone lenses are slightly wide except a portrait lens on an IPhone Pro for example.
The last video posted made me think i was mistaken to think I'm average & that I'm actually an ug. This one tells me I am, in fact, average like i thought i was. Phew.
I dated lots of guys when I was younger! Now is just boring! Idk what to think. Sometimes I think im pretty good looking other times not much. I guess im afraid of being one of those people he is talking about.
Well, nothing. What is your personality like? Your face and your height are nothing if your personality doesn't attract people and make them interested in knowing you better to perhaps, one day, date you. A girl who will hang out with you "as friends" initially but not date you because "you're not her type" might one day end up in love with you just because you end up clicking. Focus on yourself, dude.
Because the personality of a man is what will keep a woman interested in having him in her life. A supermodel-beauty level woman can get any man and then move on with her life and be just as happy, but if she finds a man that actually improves her life, she'll keep him, and it doesn't matter what he looks like. A good partner, a good supporter, a safe-haven, a best-friend, someone who really loves you, is what truly matters. These women will grow old as well, anyway. Being in love is more beautiful than anything else.
I really wish we could stop valuing attractiveness, it should be a plus to be very attractive but we shouldn't consider it the only and most important reason to value ourselves and our partners
Attractiveness is important. It not only indicates good genes, but it can indicate good character traits such as commitment and discipline. A lot of unattractive people could be more attractive if they simply got more exercise, got a decent haircut, and learned what clothes look nice on them.
@@beastvg123 1. I don't think the symmetry or the shape or your eyes indicate good genetics, if anything half social trends half natural attractiveness. 2. About discipline and that, an ugly person can be in shape and with a good haircut (or bald) and he/she will be still considered ugly, You can take those indicators but can't call that raw attractiveness as we are referring
@@beastvg123 Absolutely. Attractiveness plays a huge factor and it's ridiculous to deny it. A lot of people can become a lot more attractive just by getting a more suitable haircut, getting their skin treated, eating healthy and going to the gym, fixing their teeth as best as they can, having good hygiene, and putting effort in understanding how to dress up. That can get you a long way ahead. Everything else depends on how you conduct yourself, and that depends on you alone.
Facts. One of my bros who is super good looking has very low self confidence. I once asked him why he doesn’t date and his response was “I’m butt ugly women don’t like me”
I laughed kinda hard until I realized he was serious and then proceeded to tell him he is easily the best looking in the friend group. This was news to him.
Adult women have an issue with over evaluating their attractiveness. It’s almost universal.
I once dated a guy for 2 years who was a fashion model. I got the stares. Why is this guy with her? I was clearly beneath him. It hurt. Turns out he dated me because he liked to look better than his partner. He never had a single photo of me except in the instance he was in it. So it's really hard to quantify attractiveness based on prior partners
You seem very pretty..
@@user-lt1jd1ye3v thank you 🙏that's very kind of you. I believe because of my insomnia, I looked more "homely". People noticed that instantly about me and made fun of me growing up for looking like a "jungle woman". Also make up does wonders
the problem is some people misconstrue hooking up with dating
I am on the lower end of average I think but I have a question - why is it that to myself I look way better in a mirror than in a photo? When I see myself in the mirror I (to myself anyway) seem on the upper end of average but when I see myself in a photo I see myself as very ugly. Why the differences when they are both images of myself and do other people experience this or is it only me?
Because you are biased towards yourself. You are accustomed and hardwired to seeing yourself in mirror image, because that's what you see in the mirror every day and in selfies.
You never see yourself unmirrored except for on photographs, and probably relative rarely too. But to you, that is not you as that is not what you see in the mirror.
So people see you differently than you see you. Also people don't see your every detail but rather a crude representation. Which also means you can be annoyed endlessly by a tiny feature, a nosehair or a birthmark etc, that others don't even notice.
@@PropagandasaurusRex thank you that clears that up - I have wondered about that for a long time.
Because in a photo you are subject to lens distortion. The wider the lens the more distortion. A zoomed in lens gives more pleasing results. Most standard cellphone lenses are slightly wide except a portrait lens on an IPhone Pro for example.
@@nsiebenmor thank you that is interesting to know.
The last video posted made me think i was mistaken to think I'm average & that I'm actually an ug. This one tells me I am, in fact, average like i thought i was. Phew.
I dated lots of guys when I was younger! Now is just boring! Idk what to think. Sometimes I think im pretty good looking other times not much. I guess im afraid of being one of those people he is talking about.
One of my exes was facially not that attractive but tall. And one was facially attractive but pretty short. What does that make me 😭
Don't worry about it lol, maybe you're cute, because you still attracted partners with good physical attributes.
Well, nothing. What is your personality like? Your face and your height are nothing if your personality doesn't attract people and make them interested in knowing you better to perhaps, one day, date you. A girl who will hang out with you "as friends" initially but not date you because "you're not her type" might one day end up in love with you just because you end up clicking. Focus on yourself, dude.
Nah I'm pretty aware I'm hideous thanks
Although I for one almost always find the gf being sliiightly hotter than the bf?
But why do so many beautiful women have boyfriends who are average?
Because less women care about physical attractiveness for men than men do for women, or at least not as much.
Because the personality of a man is what will keep a woman interested in having him in her life. A supermodel-beauty level woman can get any man and then move on with her life and be just as happy, but if she finds a man that actually improves her life, she'll keep him, and it doesn't matter what he looks like. A good partner, a good supporter, a safe-haven, a best-friend, someone who really loves you, is what truly matters. These women will grow old as well, anyway. Being in love is more beautiful than anything else.
oh no i've nvr dated anyone lulz
I really wish we could stop valuing attractiveness, it should be a plus to be very attractive but we shouldn't consider it the only and most important reason to value ourselves and our partners
Attractiveness is important. It not only indicates good genes, but it can indicate good character traits such as commitment and discipline. A lot of unattractive people could be more attractive if they simply got more exercise, got a decent haircut, and learned what clothes look nice on them.
@@beastvg123
1. I don't think the symmetry or the shape or your eyes indicate good genetics, if anything half social trends half natural attractiveness.
2. About discipline and that, an ugly person can be in shape and with a good haircut (or bald) and he/she will be still considered ugly,
You can take those indicators but can't call that raw attractiveness as we are referring
@@beastvg123 Absolutely. Attractiveness plays a huge factor and it's ridiculous to deny it. A lot of people can become a lot more attractive just by getting a more suitable haircut, getting their skin treated, eating healthy and going to the gym, fixing their teeth as best as they can, having good hygiene, and putting effort in understanding how to dress up. That can get you a long way ahead. Everything else depends on how you conduct yourself, and that depends on you alone.