The more society raises women’s self-perception of themselves as well as what they deserve, especially, the sense of what they can have and demand in life for themselves…? These high valued ladies will get less and less the more women gain… Men who are lesser (shorter) in value in comparison to women’s “standards” of all they want…?!? They are invisible to most women than to be used as friend zoned orbiters or vilified as as creeps or Myso-s (or only visible Post-Wall if at all). ….YES…women do gain overtime MEN…!!! But only a skewed higher (taller) sense of the man who supposedly suits their deleterious desire for a “Real Man”!!! But…that “Real Man” will NOT be found today…to serve their Trad-Com disposability! I call what is happening to women today…the Cognitive-Behavioral Obesity Effect common to people who overeat (and other consumers)…the more most obese people eat indiscriminately, enlarge their stomachs and gain weight?!? The less likely such a person feels fulfilled and less willing to eat less… …irrespective of what they really need (or limits). ….even if it means eating healthier and of greater quality (and less quantity) to lose the unnecessary and harmful weight. This man, Mr. Galloway, is right “no woman is responsible for serving a man” but all the same “no man is required today, no matter how dusty or high value he is, to invest into a Romantic commitment or thirsty prospect that is today’s woman, one which offers little to no R.O.I no matter how much she has in herself or says she can offer in an LTR!!! Think? No woman is held to what she says or even the child she bears and invested by a man- legally all she has is hers-even her child- no man owns HER nor is she made accountable to what she creates and destroys, in the same way as men are- today’s lay-dee isn’t judged harshly nor fairly along with MEN… …but placated by those like her in collusion with the State and the majority of S!MPs. I truly can say: BOYS and MEN do much better by giving up… ….giving up on their delusional search for POON and Romantic Love and putting all their M.E.A.T into a better, more well-deserved place… …on their own Peace, Quiet and Freedom… And STOP trying to chase becoming a thirsty protector and Beta-Bux provider… …to not only women and their high demands, with their often unreasonable sense of what they can really offer boys and MEN?!? …which is often nothing but fluff, chameleon thirst trappings with a good dose of baiting & switching… And boys and men do much better for themselves by renouncing all of it…!!! …Really, what does any man get long term in bettering the lives of women for what men really get from soy-iety? We are most often blamed for every problem that supposed affronts these ladies, while every heavy smite from a particular man or minor smidge of criticism or joke on the lives of these higher valued adult ladies…is ALL MEN’s FAULT…. ….these same ladies who one time said they don’t need a man until she needs one for “X”… …that is until they are tired and willing to divorce him scam the next dope! Sorry but I am the type of man today b/c I have learned to give up…to give up on all their B-S!!! ….all the bag carrying, wasteful and unnecessary spending, playing replacement delivery guy and/or substitute fix-it person… These “gimme-gimme” ladies can all high tail that self-entitlement to the place of Post-Wall tragedies! Did marriage…never will I EVER marry again… I rather die alone and NOT be burdened by the trials and tribulations of another woman and her bags of nonsensical wants and needs! As for Mr. Galloway? He is a trad-Con-doo-doo head, and a shoddy misandrist to boot…pitiful waste of an interview! LET ALL WOMEN be as risky and practical as they want- all by themselves- with their entourage of sycophantic men and pandering politicians!
I went out with some female colleagues a few weeks ago. One of them hadn't seen the other in a while and asked her about her boyfriend. Girl B mentioned she broke up with him, and girl A replied with "oh he seemed so nice". Girl B replied "yeah he was pretty much perfect: kind, handsome, successful, supportive... But I got bored with him". Girl B then mentioned she's dating a new guy who is also seemingly perfect. Girl A asks her if she thinks this new guy is "the one" and girl B replied "no, this won't last. I'm starting to get bored with this one also" and girl A replies "I get you". Both these women are in their 30s. I thought to myself, having recently been dumped, "being a perfect guy, checking all the boxes doesn't matter anymore with modern women... Why bother?". No wonder things like passport Bros exist.
It's really very simple. Never change your plans for a woman. Never break your principles. She's along for your ride if she makes the cut, not the other way round. This is the ONLY strategy that works in a 'market' where women get unending attention and therefore options while men have to beg, borrow and steal for a single date with a high value woman. Reverse the roles and ask yourself how you'd act if you were in their shoes. What would you do if you had a line of women running out of your door? Be honest and use that as your starting point.
@@eb9720 sorry I wasn't put on this earth to be anyone's jester. It's also not my fault that modern women can't seem to find satisfaction in anything. I live a very happy and fruitful life, someone can choose to share in that or not, but I have no need to change to satisfy the urges of another.
It's on the simps that demand such behavior by being too afraid of stopping their lunacy. Either they get on your program or they get out. Low quality women deserve just a quick pump and dump.
I'm sure everyone would laugh at me if I said I would only date a woman who is a literal supermodel with the personality of a comedian and the cooking skills of Rachel Ray. What these women are saying is the same equivalent 😂
Exactly. Except if a man says it, he's a "misogynist, pig, needs therapy, small dick energy, etc. etc." If a woman says it, then she "knows her worth, is a queen, men need to step up, etc." It's so ridiculous. Society has obviously pedestalized and coddled women yet nobody seems to realize it.
Truth be told it goes beyond just mediocre guys. And guys making minimum wage. I’m an airline pilot making well into six figures and financially free. In decent shape as well. It’s virtually impossible for even me to get a date on an app with even a girl who is unemployed.
@@XAUCADTrader yeah 1. Most Most who want to eb passport bros doing make enough annually to qualify. 2. have her come over and work 50/50 like you expect women to do here and do the trad role and watch her leave you when she gets her green card... because it's a raw deal.
How tall are u and are u good looking? Are ur photos good? Can they tell u do well financially? Tinder research shows that pilots are cleaning up as the app's most-right-swiped male profession. As long are ur not short and are decent looking u should be doing well if ur pics are good
@@johnw6468 Some of these factors are not controllable. The next question you have to ask is what you receive in return? ...There's a reason our fertility rate is collapsing in, requiring mass migration from the third world to make up the difference. The data speaks for itself. Women control the market, yet 45 percent 35-44 will be single and childless by 2030 in USA. Divorce rates 50 percent of those who were successful in finding someone. This society is broken =).
An unemployed 32 year old mom whose baby daddy left her in her early 20s has told me straight up she settled for her current husband because of her son. Her husband is a hardworking engineer and they don't have a child between the two. The man is working to feed and take care of her unemployed ass and a kid who isn't even his and the woman was thinking she settled instead of worshipping the man for saving her life. After hearing her, I knew there's no hope.
That's the reason there are so many divorces, women are 'settling' then get to their 40's and are told that they can still have it all so they get rid of a perfectly good man and a few years down the line their stupidity hits them.
I’m married now but when I was younger and single I often noticed a strange double standard in the way men and women spoke about the opposite sex. A woman would say “I wish I could meet a decent guy…there just aren’t any out there” and her comment would often be validated by other people…older men, women of all ages, cultural “authorities,” etc. No man would dare say “I wish I could meet a decent girl..there just aren’t any out there.” No one would validate that comment. Furthermore people would be all over him telling him to get his sh*t together and the right woman would appear.
That's because in most people's eye, it's man's fault unless proven otherwise. Even with cheating: If he cheats, he's a dog; if she cheats, it's because he wasn't there for her emotionally.
About a decade ago when I was just out of Uni and online dating was still relatively new, a friend of mine said that the problem with it was that a guy who is a 9 will go home with a girl who is a 7, because someone to go home with is better than nobody. This leads the girl who is a 7 to believe she should be aiming for (I hesitate to use the term 'entitled to') a relationship with a 9, resulting in multiple dissapointments when the 9's drop them. He said he thought the top slice of men were cleaning up, and girls were developing an unhealthy dislike of men. I have to admit, I thought he was just someone who wasn't having much success online being bitter. Fast-forward a decade and there's a wealth of research and data to show he was onto something. For 99%+ it isn't working. Bizarre how online dating continues to grow despite this.
You have to be acute to see the pattern 10 years ago, even when now it's pretty obvious (although unseen by the majority of society). Chances are your friend has made a more valid points in other things, he is intelligent, keep his friendship.
Everybody has known of this effect. This is why women were constantly called full of sin in the olden days. It was a direct attack on women to get them to stay in their lane with the men on their looks level and not try to get impregnated by the rich men. The priests were actually doing the men around town a favor by labeling the women as potential traitors, because they all are. "Of the woman came the beginning of sin, and through her we all die" (Eccles. 25:22).
Not to mention a never ending epidemic of women saying “men are trash” and they “don’t need no men”. Women are emotional thinkers and it’s hard to reach a rational ground with creatures who thrive on pure emotion. Truth is, majority of people won’t be able to build healthy families unless a man settles with an unattractive woman.
Well, he’s still wrong. All these women can’t keep telling themselves they can have a top 10% man. Their expectations are not aligned with the reality of their dating market value and it’s forcing singlehood on men.
A few women can have it all, but most cannot. If you spend the first 35-40 years of your life getting degrees and climbing the career ladder at the expense of not dating, you're very unlikely to have children and get married. Men want children and marriage with women who are 18-30. Once a woman is past her prime, "having it all" is just a pipedream.
the female ceo of yahoo became famous and had a bestselling book because she was the first one to say this to women...that you can only have it all in serial not in parallel...so you have to prioritize and decide the order of which objectives you focus on, and pick a metric or time limit for an off ramp to the next thing you want...every man I've known has always understood this...the fact that this was a revelation to women says a lot about their critical thinking muscle atrophy
Thank you for addressing the “rage”. There’s 7 million men in the US right now that wouldn’t care if it burnt to the ground today. That’s an awful truth. An awful truth that’s only gonna grow. What happens when it hits 10 million men? 20 million? Who’s gonna stop this trend? Who even CARES to stop this trend?
@jim2376 Trump derangement syndrome is the real pandemic. The media has really done a number on the public. I didn't vote for him but it's impossible to deny that things were better under him, and that Biden is nearly completely brain dead.
those men are ravaging North East Paris right now. They are refugees and outkasts of society! There will be a huge war and blood in the streets in Europe soon. Loveless women finding LOVE is the least important thing right now. We are on the verge of mass economic collapse in many parts of Europe! Wake up folks! Women today are delusional! Let's see how their entitlement behavior works out during World War!!
I totally agree with what was said, unfortunately women are also looking for trophy husbands, tall, good looking, intelligent, successful, no baggage and so on but it doesn’t exist, society now wants instant gratification….. unfortunately
I know quite a few career women like this. The problem is that they're a nightmare to be with in a relationship with behaviour traits that might serve them well in the business / corporate world but are completely toxic in an intimate relationship.
Most straight men don’t want to date other men in a woman’s body. The minute a woman got combative with me, I would walk - if I were looking, which I ain’t. I have a gf and if this one ended, I would never look again.
Im 6'4. Have a good job. Average looking. Have my own car, pay my own bills, study part time as a pilot. Im dark and exotic, I speak Spanish, live in first world country, can talk about almost any topic, im good at flirting... I have a bachelors career. And I don't get any attention, or just the minimum. Its not the 10% woman are looking for a Unicorn. Less than 1%. Its the social media that spoiled everything for everyone.
"Less than 1%. Its the social media that spoiled everything for everyone." Agreed, regarding SM's impact. But .. the percentage is 2.5%, from various Tinder Statistics I've seen. Still abominably low..
Social media didn't spoil anything. It's us, humans are doing a terrible job at being responsible for their use of an addictive subject. It's just like Poppies didn't cause the opium epidemic and guns didn't pull their own trigger. Personal responsibility seemed to go out at the same time as the use of CDs
You said it--you are dark and exotic (i.e. not white). If you look at dating site statistics, you'll know that white men are preferred over all overs, and whatever your racial identity is--your women swipe right on guys like you (whichever direction is rejection), and swipe left on the white man. Because of that, there is a wealth of "riches" so to speak for the latter group, And minority groups like yours are left wanting. White men are the gold standard in the eyes of women.
you sound lazy. give the attention first. you want women to chase you, that's not in their nature. unless youre famous, and then those women suck anyway
"The key to a healthy marriage is low expectations". I would also say that you should avoid giving yourself too many options or choices. The key to painting a masterpiece is not to fool yourself into believing that you have to travel to the ends of the earth to find a scene worthy enough to paint. Many of the world's most beautiful artworks were painted just a stone's throw from the painter’s home. How often have we marvelled at a painting depicting the most mundane of subjects and be utterly moved by its simplicity. We have lost the power to be moved by simple things because we are always looking and looking for something better and not able to truly see what is in front of us. We are never satisfied.
Then that rule should apply to BOTH MEN and WOMEN… BUT Women want the the top, the best or the alphas making $$$$$$. With the growth of passport brothers, they’re being shamed for looking for love, companionship as well as cooperation abroad however if they’re not getting love, affection and respect at home??? can you be surprised if they go abroad (if they can afford it) for what men who want long term relationships, companionship and marriage at home???
Men get your passports, you are not obligated to fix or help a society that villainizes and demonizes you. There are cultures that appreciate men and where you can thrive and create strong,healthy,loving relationships and community. Let the west burn and get your passport. Don't waste your time trying to save it.
Women should understand this truth about men. Most men live by the philophosy (among many), "If you weren't there for my struggle, don't expect to be present for my success." As men we never forget who was there for us when we were nothing and who wasn't.
@@mbg9650 isnt that due to the fact that for decades when they had no option BUT to be loyal, many of them were stuck in the WORST relationships and so now when the current gen of women get to experience a lot of freedom, they have standards cuz they know better.
The situation is considerably easier for women because it is the women who are CHOOSING not to date the majority of men around them. The men are not making a choice, they simply have no options and no hope of a relationship or even a date. The women may cry more and complain more on social media but the men keep their pain to themselves. For men, having "no options" leads to a considerably more depressing life than the typical life experienced by women who have chosen not to date 80% of the men around them.
Most good men I know ether just stopped looking or left the country. I wanted a wife and children, gave up at 30 and never tried to date again. At least I now know I'm in the majority. Most guys gave up on women.
At this point, it might be better to make it less about individual choice and more about collective responsibility. What will happen to society if men and women refuse to procreate because everyone's gone nihilist?
I’m 38, 6ft 1, make 150k a year, and own 2 homes on Oahu. To say I’m struggling out here romantically is an understatement. You’re not alone guys. We exist in a broken system.
Yep, thanks to the phoniness of women's lib. Women want to compete with men, occupationally. But, when it comes to paying for a date, suddenly: They are not liberated. No surprise: They are only liberated when it's convenient. Therein lies a huge problem.
Perhaps your struggle has an issue with your focus on superficialities and scoring your self on incomes, height and homes vs are you a funny chill person
I've been with her for 35 years & she has been unfaithful twice (that I know of). Since giving birth when she looks at me it feels like she is saying I could have done better. Prior to having kids she gave me 10 years of awesome so in my opinion post-pregnancy hormones (postpartum depression) destroyed our relationship. I'm just a typical married man hanging on because of the phrase: It's Cheaper to Keep Her. An emotionally unstable woman can take all the joy out of a man's life.
That sucks but you can still mentally check out. Yeah she’s your wife but if she’s disrespectful toward you, don’t go out of your way for her. Put yourself before her from now on, don’t give her gifts or be too available. If she’s not really committing to the marriage, you should do the same
OMG! So sad, and yes, 3 things, hormonal issues, gut health and a healthy expanding social life really affect a woman, particularly seeing as we're subject to 28 day hormonal cycles. I find it frustrating that Drs do little to sensibly discuss or tackle these issues. As women age they require bio-identical hormonal supplementation, especially of oestrogen. The high link between HRT and breast cancer was simply another sensationalist media beat up. Wild yam cream, oestrogen pessaries, progesterone supplementation for healthy bones, in fact, all round vitamin and mineral supplementation to counter pesticide ridden, soil depleted food, no seed oils, or pesticide sprayed wheat (as easily disrupt endocrine system). Also, the latest research shows that oestrogen supplementation greatly reduces the risk of some minor health issues like heart attack, and stroke, and can keep women living 10 years longer. Oh, and hypnosis as well as counselling. Research on Youtubiversity, could save your relationship, all best there 👍
Men find out how loyal their woman is when they are broke and destitute, women find out how loyal their man is when they are super successful and have lots of money.
Poor men cheat everyday and being broke isn’t sustainable in a relationship. If you don’t have money, you can’t afford to be in a relationship. It’s simple.
@@Ferien7 This is an excellent turn of events. It means that women are rarely interested in dating no matter what a man offers. Keep those high standards, ladies. Women these days don't seem to consider the hassles of dealing with males worth it unless they've really got something to offer. We are centering ourselves and living for ourselves. Ladies, keeps it up!!! Walk away from dating. Let the males be alone. We will enjoy each other and our children. Our mothers, sisters, friends, girl cousins, and our little ones are fulfilling our social needs. Yessss!!!!!
As soon as I heard the phrase "social media" in 2007 and Facebook I knew it was going to make people more anti social and seperate them more than bring them together. And now hear we are.
Asocial .. yeah I realized a few years back just how asocial and lazy social media makes me. I can only imagine how it is for younger people that grew up with it
Yup, also knew it was the beginning of the end in 2008 here in europe. Was baffled that people had no problem putting pictures of them on the internet and giving up their privacy
@@TV-oc4ml a lot of people were predicting it because they were just combining their knowledge of human nature with an emerging technology. It's not that genius of a prediction, and I don't see why the commenter would be "making it up". I was in high school in 2007 and plenty of articles and commenters and people were saying that it's going to ruin a lot of regular society. Just because some people are now saying "I told you so," it doesn't mean that in 2007 they had no idea how destructive social media could be and they're lying. A lot of people literally said that in 2007, and people I know in my family have said Facebook is an idiotic platform to waste time on, and that it will lead to misinformation. That was since 2010.
you cant quantify that. i dont disagree, sex in marriages DOES decline but it goes in and out in phases. its what you get when you agree to only f*ck one person for the next 40-50 yrs. so my pitch is dont get married unless you can be OK with NEVER HAVING A NEW WOMAN AGAIN. which is why i never got married cuz i cant.
Let's be fair... when these ''married men'' work hard at work AND help their working! wives with kids and chores + at least occasionally help their parents or other family members, then 'sleeping alone' must surely be a luxury rather than anything else ;)) (I know... it's hard to grasp, for singletons who take sex for granted and basically as the only or top value, in their relationships...)
@@robi6317 I am sorry, for you and everybody who thinks the ''length of relationship'' does that... {not kidding ;} ps: not all, just for those I described...
Get this. Men need to work harder, earn more, hit the gym more, be better in every single way... To then get turned down by obese women with multiple kids by different men (this has happened to me multiple times too), with bad or dismissive attitudes.We're in crazy land now literally! I've got a house, good savings etc, average looking but in good shape. Can't get a date pretty much. I'm only after short term relationships really. Why would I risk my situation for an most likely unsuccessful long term relationship, the collapse of which could lead to financial ruin?. It's high risk & low reward for me ...& women have tons of options. I'd be seen as a mark to be exploited pretty much. A long term relationship with a good woman who's average looking is a relic of a bygone era...like a coal miner yearning for the mine still to be open, when everyone had a good full-time job & the community was booming. It's over for most men. We need to stop chasing the past & accept this new Instagram reality. The genie isn't going back in the bottle. Long term relationships are pretty much doomed for the vast majority of men.
Straight from the heart, Travis. Lot of painful truth to what you said. Grab the passport. Vietnam, Indonesia, Thailand, Philippines. Check them out. Stay strong, bro.
Yup u have to be around women when they get horny. Then pretty much get used for sex. Then rinse and repeat. That gets boring too. Women get hurt they get attached to them that same process is a roller coaster the truth is the modern women is by 20 years ago standards the modern “hoe” feel bad for the guys that put a ring in those creature’s fingers
Do you see the things you listed? You have a house, savings, and are in average shape. You basically listed nothing of value that most other men already have.
@@Corgiking521how do you reach that conclusion? 🤔 Most men in the US & the western world don't own their own property & are obese. Also, most men don't have the savings to cover a $1000 unexpected bill / would be homeless if they were made redundant & couldn't find a new job within 2 months. Those are facts. That puts me comfortably better than average financially. Also, I'm comfortably better than average shape. On the surface though, my financial situation isn't recognised by the wider world, as mine is paid for, wheres most other peoples situation is serviced my mountains of debt.
I’m so glad I got married at 20, part way thru nursing school. Married recent grad 22 yr old from Penn , in 1975. We built a life together while married. I never had an expectation except a person have good character.
We can never talk about men's issues on their own terms, can we? The discussion can take place only in the context of the effects on women. "Men are committing suicide at an unprecedented rate; women hit hardest."
@@stophittingyourself123 I find it hard to believe that women are lesser because it appears men collapse when women leave the building. Hardly "lesser in terms of logical reasoning and holding the standard of societies". Whatever "holding the standard of societies" means. Women rule the world, whatever you all think. We are the ones who decide whether s*x takes place or not. That is why you have religion taking away that power and giving it to men through their gods.
I see what you're saying but if you think about it, it actually makes sense why women want what they want. Being attracted to someone who can provide and protect is something that is in our blood we can't help that. And it's related to survival. But what these men are doing just using women and sleeping around and they are only looking for sexy hott girls which has nothing to do with survival or if she's showing you wife or mother of your children qualities is completely different.
Well, that's because it has been like that since time eternal. He explained the evolutionary aspects that women have to act like that to survive. However, a top 10% guy can choose to invest in only one family and take care of it instead of dating 100+ women. If he gives them hope that they can marry such a guys, then they will be less likely to settle down with a top 30% guy. It is an oversimplification to say that only feminism, hypergamy or female dating strategies are to blame. The whole thing is a social dilemma. If everyone tries to maximize their own situation and happiness, we will end up in a society where the most are the least happy.
@@MrClebophd "Evolutionary aspects that cause women to behave this way to survive." But that's not the case anymore! Women can walk around most places wearing practically nothing with their guard completely lowered. They don't need to be protected from men and beasts, and the very behavior you're defending has led us to the brink of population collapse - completely counterproductive to evolution!
I feel that the US is facing a crisis of a lost generation of men bowing out of dating and giving up hope of marriage and children because of the disgusting and demoralizing situation in our economics and status wars. We are in the age of American Hikikomori.
It's not worth it anymore. I used to hold women on a pedestal. But after years of trying to date women, I now see that they are no better than petulant children. They are like spoiled kids who expect you to do everything for them
I've never visited the US but I read about it a lot and it almost seems apocalyptic. Where I'm based in the UK, things are not quite as bad but they are definitely getting worse. I'm not a bad looking guy and I'm very well educated and successful. I look good in photos - better in fact, than real life - which should count in my favour on dating apps. But I have never matched with a woman on an app who is my intellectual and social equal. I've dated several who are, including my (now ex-) wife, but I met them all in real life, not on Hinge. For a while I thought this was a matter of age - as we get older, the pool of viable mates gets smaller - but the more I read about divorce rates and loneliness, the more I think it's the deranged logic of social media that is the cause of my and other people's woes. I think a large number of women are deluded into thinking they can bag a top 10% guy even if they're in the bottom half of their own sex. On many measures, I would be considered top 10% - the only major shortcoming I have is that I'm going bald, but in every other domain, from looks to fitness to intelligence and height (I'm just under 6 foot) I score high - but I find it very difficult to match with someone who simply interests me, let alone excites me. I get lots of single mothers, some of whom don't want kids but match with me even though I specifically state I do, and a handful of women who are, to be blunt, not in my league.
You left out the fact that women of all ages who do online prostitution and/or the younger ones that have a body count similar to a s3x worker. They are not the same people that our society tells us are quality partners
The correct answer is to stop teaching our children that life is a fairytale and that prince charming isn't coming to sweep you off your feet and make your life perfect. We should be teaching them that life is difficult and you aren't going to get everything you work for. So you need to prioritize the important things and if you get the bonus things that just a bonus. We also need to teach everyone that happiness is your personal problem, if you want to be happy you have to make yourself happy. Too many people rely on their partners for their happiness.
I would argue it isn't 'happiness' - it is fulfillment. And you're fulfilled by working hard. Struggling. You cannot be happy all the time. That relationship is going to take the wind out of your sails (maybe more often than not) and what are you going to do when is does? Give up? Or work at it?
Yeah about that...Men make life easy for women they are attracted too. Relationships shouldn't be that hard. Women shouldn't be working overtime and also do all the house work and child rearing. If you aren't getting something from working hard then you are doing something wrong. You are pretty much a slave. If happiness is a personal problem then why is the "lonely men epidemic" all of a sudden everyone's problem?
I really feel that, if you are single and looking for a partner, you should do everything you can to meet a variety of new potential partners in person (and not online). The reason I say this is there are so many wonderful people who don't appear as wonderful when seen on a screen. You don't see a person's real personality or potential until you've spent time with them. Also, your "criteria" for who you want to be with changes as you meet and interact with others. Dating or spending time with a variety of people (even those who don't fit your current standards) really allows you to understand what makes you happy in a partner...that criteria changes with time and experiences.
This is why I recommend that if you get anxious the best way to approach a woman is to literally give her a compliment and walk away. If she chases after you she is interested if she doesn’t then no. It worked for me a couple of times and by no means am I super attractive. I am a calm 7 at least to me. The only women who come to me directly and are supper flirty are women 24+. Women that are 22 are attracted to me but do not come to me at all. My dad told me the reason is that you give off a serious vibe and what happens is girls my age do not like that at all. Meanwhile older women do. Come to think of it now it makes sense.
Im 60, in the best shape of my life, have a good job, my own place decent car. After years of failed relationships and a marriage im single and i love it. No dating sites, no chasing women, do what i want when i want buy whatever i want. Done with the whole dating and relationship world and im happier than i ever was when i was in a relationship.
I heard Sadia Khan say something that resonated with me as a 33 year old with no family but financial success so far. Life begins to feel like a slow suicide.
jesus Christ mate. You are still young as for a man. Play the long game and dont worry about your "feelings" so much, your future family will thank you for pushing on.
The problem with life is essentially all of its most interesting content is frontloaded into its first trimester (the first 25 years). There's a reason people eventually want to partner up and procreate because just going to and from work to an empty house or apartment with a TV, Laptop, and frozen dinner filled kitchen gets old after a few years.
For God's sake, don't get your information from Sadia Khan! She constantly insults men and says incredibly harmful insults at them. Most guys are simping for her because she has pretty face. Don't be fooled by her.
@@johnnastrom9400agreed...I honestly can't stand a bunch of these "red pill" creators. They say a bunch of BS with confidence and people buy into it because that's what confidence does. It make people believe whatever you say. I don't mean it's all BS but none of these people have shown why they're worth listening to. Those Fresh & Fit guys are a couple of jokes too
@@unnecessaryapostrophe4047 Tbh that's not a problem actually. It helps us to avoid misandrists. It would be better if women expressed their thoughts openly.
Some of us are just ugly. Facial ugliness is the primary predictor of dating success for both men and women. This has been incredibly well researched. People who get lots of dates easily are more physically attractive. But that makes for a depressing story... People want their romantic lives to be a mythology, so they come up with this narrative that men go out there, accomplish a list of things, and women become attracted to them. We make a gigantic number of books and movies repeating this narrative and eventually people think it's real. To the extent that people notice the superficiality within themselves they feel it must be unique - that there must be tons of people out there that are more attracted to behavior. But there aren't. We are all strikingly similar in what we want. Certainly people care about behavior, but that comes later on in a relationship.
Finally some truth in the comments height and looks are number one there is no negotiating this there is no gym for your face or your height all these three or fours are trying to bag a Chad or a Brad it's always been this way it used to be a caveman Brad or Chad
Damn I'm reading this thread, I'm going through your comment now you are so on the money you're practically a genius. I want to see some more on this topic because I'm afraid it sounds all to Drew and pretty much the key to it all. Good job let's start a channel exploring this topic considering everything else is just exploring the ancillary and symptoms that make great titles for books, but none of it actually gets to the core of the matter. My interest also is I have wondered can we be rewired? I mean at some point we will have a different concept or will feel differently about what was once considered maybe physically unattractive? We might need to be hardwired but at what point will we change the traction to certain characteristics that aren't really that important anymore, such as having a man that's taller and bigger and can defend you excetera excetera. However clearly being more attractive, and having the stature of what is considered the idealism of a man, the data certainly confirms that attractive people also make more money so is it just some self-perpetuating reinforcing feedback loop? We won't change? It sure will be interesting when we won't actually need physical contact with other people to have well somewhat satisfying sexual encounters or fantasies excetera
@@tonydiesel3444 I haven't seen a study taking height into account - mainly attractiveness. I imagine height has a significant influence once the man gets shorter than the average woman. But my general impression has been that short men with attractive faces do much better than tall men with ugly faces. I'd personally rather have a better looking face and be only 5 foot 7. But my face is extremely unattractive so I'm biased.
That male achievement narrative perhaps meant something in the 20th century, now it's just a Boomer relic. I don't know why anyone sees this Galloway as an oracle, his views are totally out of date. Face and height are everything. Lower class or ethnic women view high IQ males as weird and threatening.
The attitude is where things turn sour. I’m sure there’s plenty of men out there who would gladly take an older woman out for a nice dine and wine, if that woman were gracious. I know there’s plenty of classy older ladies that would be deserving of that treatment, and plenty of classy older men that deserve to be treated with respect and care in turn. As a young woman, I’m taking on the mistakes of the older generations seriously, and learning from them.
@@deepalakshmi5890 read his statement, he said 'like they're 22 years old' If you're in your 30's or 40's or up then the chances that you can could build a relationship (if both wanted to) is low because everyone is too rigid, too much baggage, too complex, to many sharp edges to cut each other one. You're not blank slates that can meld together, start a life and grow together into one unit. If you end up dating at those ages, you have to accept that it's not going to be for happily ever after, that ship has sailed. If he wants a family he has to go younger (or sign up to be or be with a step parent which is the worst of all possible worlds). If he wants something to last forever it's just not that easy to grow into a life together when you're both already fully formed. You need to look for something different, and something different is approached differently.
@@bk_c7704 This isn't true. You are not collecting your information from a reputable source. (I guess you probably didn't think a published researcher in Public Health from a world-renowned research university would be in the comments section, did you? 🙃) Americans as a whole tend to be overweight. While women, as a whole, tend to have higher percentages on the overweight scale, American men aren't very far behind. Essentially, you are like the 400 lbs person calling the 425 lbs person fat, not realizing that you're BOTH in the same sinking ship; yours is just sinking at a slower, but still definite, rate. 🫠
You mean like how MOST American men are average earners yet still want/expect to date an attractive woman? 🫠 Or how MOST American men are average earning men who cannot single-handedly financially support a family/household, but will turn their nose up at an overweight woman? 🙃
Find a good guy by: Establishing your make or break life values and make sure the man lines up with those. (Don’t have superficial values). Learn about what unhealthy personality traits are vs healthy ones. Know your partners flaws or quirks ahead of time, and make a commitment to accept them and not try to change the person if you’re going to commit to them. Choose A NICE/KIND/PATIENT GUY! Don’t allow little things to bother you. If they do bother you - get therapy! Be willing to be wrong. (If you always have to be right, you’ll never have a truly happy relationship). Also: I found prayer to work (praying for God to bring you the right person and to give you the ability to recognize that person). It brought me the most amazing man in the world!
Prayer does nothing. It's a coping mechanism for stress, that's it. It's out of your hands & in someone else's. It's to offload the task from your brain instead if thinking about it. That's why most people pray at night before bed. Meditation & knowing some things are out of your control, like finding the perfect person. They accomplish the same thing.
Before l met my partner. I tried on line dating! Thankfully now, never again. I met a lady off a dating site in a bar. And we got on ok, the conversation was flowing. But there wasn't that romantic spark for me. Anyway, end of the date. As we prepared to leave. This lady said to me. "Well Paul it's been lovely talking to you, but l'm looking for someone a little more professional than you!" Exactly. You can imagine what l was thinking at that point. What a dreadful and cold individual that was. Absolutely zero chance of meeting someone with that mind set. The thing is as well. How does one determine professional? I was just happy to drive out of the car park in my 72 plate Merc. And l also run a property conversion company, own house. Interesting watching this after my experience.
It's called power. Imagine being told that everyone wants you. You start to believe it and giving an average person that kind of power will result in the gender wars we see today
Can't stand this attitude, looked down upon because you don't work in an office or are 'professional'. I'm a carpenter, work in a cabinet shop making custom kitchen etc. I dress down to go to work, t shirt etc, for obvious reasons. Ladies often think that because of my profession I'm not educated, cosmopolitan etc. Well ladies,I also am well traveled, speak several langues, in good shape and have many interests. All of my girlfriends have been foreign as American women have a checklist a mile long that can never be satisfied. Future cat ladies 😅
Even if she did deem you "professional" enough, she would have likely found another reason to reject you. Not tall enough, not fun enough, not fit enough, not witty enough. A woman's checklist is endless. You're better off doing your own thing and going your own way. Life is easier when you do. I enjoy my cars, my motorbike and my outdoor hobbies. That's all I need.
@@John_Caravella women are selective by nature. All female species are selective with some exceptions. The issue is that most women now enjoy the power dynamic and get off on rejecting men that are higher SMV than themselves. Imagine being a 6 as a woman and a tall, fit, wealthy handsome charismatic man is making an offer snd allowing himself to ve interviewed. That's like having a superpower. This is why the most successful men (mating) have nothing to offer these women but sex.
And even worse that there will always be good choices in men available no matter how long they wait. There won't be, for a bunch of different and very real reasons. People need to couple up young, stick together for the family while they're still pliable enough to grow into each other. I married at 25 and I was ALMOST a lost cause. I was already far too inflexible and unwilling to give up the life I'd built (with every thing I liked and only things I liked in it) for myself. This is the nasty part women aren't told. Mate selection preferences means they age like milk and men age like wine. It's just that by the time the wine has aged enough it has many more choices. And honestly it may be impossible to do anything but just enjoy for what it is since the male is so rigid by the time he's 'made it'.
So if men have a problem, they need to improve themselves. If women have a problem, society needs to solve it! As he said, he has to ask everyone he interviews what is the solution to his fem a le friends problem.
@@meglarson9401Not all. Many women are overweight single moms with kids from different guys and still want a 6ft+ tall handsome guy who earns in 6 figures
I once knew a woman who was eternally single. She wanted a good man, a christian man, wanted kids (she was getting old but adoption was fine), loved music and maybe going to concerts. So far so good? AND he had to be a fan of the old Tarzan movies. That was NON-NEGOTIABLE. AND, he had to like the same Tarzan actor she liked, of the countless actors who played the role. She refused to be with someone who liked any other actor in the role ........................ She was also unable to find a guy who had ever seen a single Tarzan movie, and she declared they were uncultured and why oh why couldn't she find love? She has numerous cats now, cause obviously there were no good men and they were the problem.
@joelt1002 hey I'm a Johnny Weismeller fan myself. I even say ungawa every now and again lmbao. I used to love seeing the old king of the jungle grab a dugout and capsize it drowning the idiots in the boat. What kind of fools would get in a boat knowing none of them could swim! Ungawa!!!
I’m with the airline pilot in this thread. I have a master’s degree from a top ten university, I own my own home in a great neighborhood and I have great kids and a great extended family. To me it’s pretty simple - American men are taken for granted. I speak Spanish and spend a lot of my time in Colombia - but I could go to half the countries in the world and be appreciated more than I am here. Also worth noting, American men commit suicide at 3 times the rate women do. Access to firearms is part of it, but why isn’t this talked about. American men are still some of the best men in the world.
100% true. Western men are not only the best-treating of women, we're the only viable option Western women really have. If they continue playing with fire and let this all go too far... Passport bros will become the norm. And no one wants a western woman; it's not like they can just get a passport and find alternatives the way men can. Unfortunately I think this might all blow up in womens' face. It's sad because Western women are the best fit for Western men... But not in their current form.
@@fluffyg3137 Have you ever spent time in other countries and met women there? Most women in other countries are looking for a mate who's a decent guy, treats them well, who's employable and can adapt reasonably well enough to their culture so there's not friction with friends and family. An average looking guy with an average income in the US is considered a prize in many other parts of the planet. That's one reason why many of us who have traveled extensively overseas prefer foreign born women, and are getting to the point where we would prefer to live overseas with a native woman than deal with any woman from the US.
Man you are echoing my sentiment and experience so much. Great job, speak Spanish (also currently learning salsa), well put together, with good hobbies. My main knocks on me being 5'8" and bald (and I guess owning a home depending on who you ask). What I loved about Colombia was that there were no games when it came to sexual interest. They would stare and smile at me so long that I would start to feel uncomfortable by NOT approaching them. You're allowed to be a man there. And they are just so pleasant and enjoyable to engage with, even with the language barrier. I feel like a jester in America, expected to entertain women who grade me on my performance and discuss with their colleagues, all while actively looking for reasons to reject me. It's a comedy without the laugh track.
I'm six foot, six figures, in good shape. Driven, motivated, healthy, unaddicted, all that good stuff. I find dates rarely and when i do it seems like the same cookie cutter woman who spends all her free time on tiktok, drinking with her friends or watching bullshit on tv. What's the point in engaging?
@@P.90.603True. But even the good looking ones only get so far. Even Michael B Jordan wasn't able to keep a literal nobody. Aging daughter of a washed up celebrity and she thought she was too good for HIM. Being good looking, tall, built, rich, and famous is no longer enough. Same with Tom Brady. If they can't keep aging average women happy, what on earth is the point in trying?
Your social skills are apparently deficient. Spend more time on personal one on one interaction with women. You CAN learn. There are plenty of women out there today even on youtube, teaching men how to socialize with women. Start with Leil Lowndes' U.S.S. book, which even has pictures that will show you how women behave when they are interested in you. NO, they will never tell you. It's all unspoken body language, but learn it, memorize it, and you can cut your losses by over 90%. Because if a woman is attractive at all, she's about that likely to already have a boyfriend or husband. You can even learn how to get out of the friend zone, and 'steal' women from their boyfriends. Everyone get's complacent in relationships; if you can find a woman whose man is taking her for granted, you can carefully move in and make her see that, all the while being the available, interesting, fun guy who she sees going out a lot having a great time wherever he goes. You can do it, but it's not going to find you, YOU have to find the skills and practice, practice, practice until it's second nature. See all those guys who have women all the time? THEY know how to do it. You can learn, too. And once you do, you will have a woman whenever you want one. I'm not good looking. I'm not rich. I'm not famous. But reading everything I could about how to behave, watching the guys who are good at it, and I managed to break out of my 'friend zone'. Now, first huge tip: You don't ask them out for dates. You mention that you are going somewhere interesting/exciting, and if she'd like to come with you. A turn down isn't a refusal; she may already have plans. NOW, GO ANYWAY. Make sure you get a picture of yourself with people you meet wherever you are going, make sure you are all smiling. It shows you are fun to be with. It's called social proof; that other people like you, and maybe she will too. So if she doesn't want to go, you go anyway. Next time you see her (in a week or so), you tell her what a great time she missed. You have the pictures of your adventures as evidence of what she missed. Don't get stuck on wanting one woman. Want them all. Treat them all the same way. Be NICE. No, women don't dislke nice men. They LOVE nice men. But too many 'nice guys' make the woman make decisions. Women don't like to make decisions. They want a man to lead the relationship, and pay attention so you know if she's unhappy. So you can change what you're doing next time. Good luck.
@@birthdaymohnatyj3044 yes, tell us more about how its his fault, he should "just" find better women yes? just like how the girls getting pumped and dumped on tinder should stop whinning and "just" find better men
People are not going to find love today, for the simple reason that they don't actually know what love is. If you really love someone (and this goes for both genders), you will respect them, make sacrifices for them, make their dreams yours, and love them for who they are. If you really love them, there will be no 'laundry list', no 'type', no expectation. The person you love will be a surprise, a revelation, an amazement - not what you could have predicted. Your heart will be wide open, not full of petty judgement and criticism. Your life will change and derive a meaning you never knew existed. Today's pampered narcissists have no clue, because it is all about them - their needs, their goals, their 'perfect life'. Real love doesn't work like that; it comes when you least expect it, sneakily, without stars or promises, but with total commitment, the impossibility of even looking at someone else, and the will to become a better human. I can't imagine the angry, cynical, judgemental, cruel people out there would have an inkling of what I am talking about. No, they will not find love, especially not when hunting for it, since it never comes when called... 😉
Alot of guys have gone through the whole dating, romance, marriage, disinterest, dislike, breakup and divorce settlement poverty cycle to know that the risk sometimes simply isn't worth it. Sometimes even going through the whole cycle more than once. Maybe modern life simply isn't suited to a long term relationship and neither women nor men shouldn't be guilted into one.
Yes. The current model of marriage seems a historical outlier, but is now held sacrosanct. We are living with a broken model, no wonder there is so much confusion.
@@apergiel The only reason it's like this is because of female overempowerment and no-fault divorce laws. Fix those and these problems will go away very quickly.
Dinosaurs became extinct because the environment didn't allow for their survival. Same with relationships. They can't be cultivated or survive in the current environment
@jbennison5672 Women have multiple conversations when talking. Things they can say out loud, things they can say to family, friends, the other gender, etc.
But wait all women are all 10/10s who are never settling and only need to know there worths, how dare you suggest that a women isn’t owned a relationship with a top guy even when we women constantly yell at guys that they aren’t owned a relationship at all.
I am happily married for 32 years and it also gets me depressed - mainly for today's young men and the shitty situation they face with today's young women. The fact that most of them will never be able to marry an attractive woman with a low body count like I did is so sad.
I'm good looking but only 5'7" hard working decent shape welder going through some things right now was chasing a taller women that I liked alot have had a few pretty girlfriends but I think I've not looked at inner beauty enough but have been alone for alot of my life would love to have these opportunities like you guys but think it may never happen at this point about to turn 40 no kids. I think we've all become alot more shallow with social media an failed to look deeper into people to see their true beauty
I hope my lovely gal/women/lady/girl friends who are looking for male companionship will read and understand this--PLEASE don't stop being the great gal pal you were/are at the beginning of the relationship. ALL of my male friends say that this is the first thing that dissolves. I've noticed it too. I'm happily married now and I will attest that maintaining the FRIENDSHIP was what has allowed us to endure. Best of luck.
This is so true. Unfortunately it is the joint responsibilities of home and family that starts to take the fun out of things. And when men expect women to take care of those, or don't appreciate when she does, the friendship suffers. I mean, we don't expect our friends to run around after us like a servant. And for those suggesting that men pay the bills - well by far women go out and earn to pay the bills as well.
@@inspectortiddles Good points. Yeah we can all fall prey to taking our mate buddy for granted, particularly in ways we wouldn't do with other friends. Gotta be on the look out for that.
@@gemmeldrakes2758 Some don't. But I've always enjoyed female friendships. Friendships with women present similar challenges and rewards that friendships with men have. I grew up with 3 sisters and was close to a female cousin, aunt and grandmother (as well as a sweet fun mom) so it may be that I got a nice set of associations early on. But straight up, just as I don't like toxic dudes, I don't like toxic women. In my career as a musician I've generally gotten along with women at the same rate as I do men.
I remember thinking that my standards were way too high at one point. I wanted a kind and caring man (preferably Catholic like me) who wanted children and would treat us right (no abuse, no cheating). But I had so much trouble getting dates that I feared something was wrong with my standards. When I was talking to my (now late) fiancé about it, he was quiet for a moment and then said “They’re not too high. If anything, they’re a baseline.”
I found and married my best mate when I cut the BS and advertised my expectations openly. My generation (X) treats women like they're extensions of the men they're with. I rejected that in my own life.
Love this. I’m in my 50’s. One of the biggest problems is young kids sleeping around too much. It messes up your spirit. No wonder you can’t make good decisions.
True, yet you won't get too many votes. "I'm a man, I can afford that, I'm built different." Wait and see. Just wait and see. Solomon, past 1,000 women asked himself some deep, hard questions.
Firm believer in that. I attracted plenty of girls my age at 22 and realized that most of them do not want to commit. Then when I am outside of school I notice older women 24+ are way more direct and flirty with me. I was low key creeped out and asked my dad about it. He told me he experienced the same thing when he was younger. So I am just confused. It is whatever though we keep it moving. Still a virgin and that is because of faith reasons.
I often hear this argument on podcasts "if you want to continue to be with me, you have to have your sh¡t together." HOWEVER, being one of those rare men in this world that actually knows other men in real life, i find this argument null and void. What I've seen on more occasions than i can even remember is this... the woman wouldn't even give the guy a chance if he doesn't already have what she's looking for - OR - she'll "see" other men until he can procure what she wants him to procure. In which case, she claims that she'll stop "seeing" other men. Look, I'm not a player in this game, BUT I am blue collar and work with mostly men. This scenario I just mentioned is more common than you would think. I don't blame these guys for being upset and not wanting to participate when the woman they want is giving herself to other men until he can obtain what she wants him to obtain. And only then will she stop "dating" other men. I don't understand what's going on these days. My own son is a teenager and I'm finding it increasingly difficult to help him through his obstacles with the opposite sex because i literally never seen or experienced most of the situations he's going through. It's crazy out there these days.
As the saying goes "Modern women wait at the finish line and pick the winners" Women no longer want to be with men at the beginning and go through the entire journey together.
Here is some advice. It is not the woman he wants. It is the woman he deserves. Once he worked on himself and is only focused on himself the women come to him overtime naturally. I am not struggling attracting women, I am only struggling finding the right one for me. For example, at 22 I attract plenty of women my age but none want to commit cause most of them want to play and have fun with guys. Tell him to ignore these girls. I attracted women 24 and older and all I am is just physically fit not buff, serious, mature, and quiet. Just tell him to take it slow. Please also do not chase them he will only waste his time with these girls. Just tell him to live his life and improve as he gets older. They come to him over time. All he has to do is pick right and not just any girl either
"I'm not willing to drop my standards." That's the answer. She admitted to the 80/20 rule. I guarantee you she's only looking at the top 10% of "alpha men" and ignoring everyone else. And considering that most women age 20-45 are looking at the same 10% of alpha men, why on earth would those alpha men bother with anyone over 30 years old?
So tired of this alpha crap. How about just men who are not a Grinch, can maintain a conversation and can cleanup after themselves? That is Alpha male in my book
@@windycity301 All that Alpha stuff is horseshit. We should be who we genuinely are, while having some integrity in the right areas. We don't have to be some "alpha male" to not be a pushover. Just stand for what's right when appropriate.
I have a six figure job, in decent shape, taught at Harvard, masters from MIT, speak 3+ languages. Have my own 2 bedroom 2 bath apartment. Being 5'7" and not having a car eliminates all possibility of romantic connection.
@@RubensScassiotti Yeah, anyone with a 6 figure income can get a car. Women like guys who are self-reliant and a guy not having a car FEELS like someone who is not self-reliant.
I've known several guys who screwed up their lives by making women pregnant, and then having to pay child support. Opportunities lost, money lost, time lost, sad. Delayed retirement, one guy couldn't go into business for himself, because he had to pay for health insurance for his kids, etc. Of course, that goes double for the women they impregnated.
As a guy who's only 5'6, it's over for me. It's actually been over for me for a very, VERY long time. It also didn't exactly help that my mother emasculated me (she still does to a certain extent) My father who passed away years ago was to all intents and purposes a loser who never made more than around 35k a year while supporting a family that he chose to make. He would berate me on my schoolwork and grades meanwhile he's the one with the college degree and he never did shit with it. So yeah all in all, two far from great parental role models who seriously hampered my social development especially when it comes to attracting the opposite sex. So I'll order an escort from time to time and that's about it
@@Jovan-r6y Exactly. Blaming his parents for being lazy is the biggest cope I've heard this year. There is no excuse for someone in a first world country to be complaining about not finding a nice girl and finding success in his life.
Maybe your problem is that you are still blaming everyone as an adult. Embarassing. Your mother probably emasculates you because you are still there seeing if you can leech on her. Every adult is responsible for each situation he/she choses to enter or maintain him/herself on.
I have been studying this for literal years and something I've noticed that rarely EVER is mentioned is looks! A woman can be ridiculously successful financially, but if she is average looking or overweight, then she isn't going to get a successful Henry Cavill or Chris Hemsworth look alike Women think that because financial success is more attractive to them than physical beauty, men are the same, but that's just not true. NO woman struggles to find a man. It's just that they struggle to find a man they think they deserve; the same guy, 80% of the other women are also chasing. But, again if this hot, tall, successful guy can choose between the gorgeous sexy woman working at a grocery store or, the average looking slightly overweight CEO, most men are going to choose the model... Sure, he will still have sex with the average looking, successful woman, but he won't commit to her. I think the reason so much dating material avoids admitting this uncomfortable truth is because they know women won't buy it. Hope is lucrative.
@adamsinger7345 I actually don't think it's Disney's fault women act the way they do-it's men's fault. Men teach women that unrealistic expectations are acceptable, and then we get upset when women believe what we taught them! What typically happens is the average woman is a 5~6 out of 10. A man who is a 7~8 out of 10 (remember for women 1-10 is not simply about looks but an accumulation of features attractive to women such as wealth, height, status, etc. His face can simply be a 5 out of 10, but when combined with other things that trigger attraction in women, his overall value can easily be a 7), so this guy who is a 7~8 specifically hunts for women that are 5~6 because they require low effort from him while giving him her maximum effort but, their looks are still high enough for them to be passable enough for him to get an erection. If these women who are 5~6 keep being pursued by men that are 7~8 even if it's short term (he puts in enough effort to string her along to keep her hopes up thinking he will commit but he is really just doing enough to get sex from her) because the 7~8 guy never commits long-term because he is saving that for a woman who is also a 7~8. Anyway, from years of being chased by 7~8, these women who are only 5~6 started to think they themselves are also 7~8. Which is why when a man who is a 5~6 approaches them, they think they are too good for him... The Okcupid data from the book "Date-onomics" by Christian Rudder verified this. It wasn't the most attractive nor the least attractive women that receive the most attention online; It's the average women in the middle.
I think you need to talk to more women. We don’t think men value our financial success as “more attractive”. Sadly some of us think it is easier to get a man if we will provide for HIM financially. Usually these are below average and average looking women who think this way.
I've found that most women can't tell arrogance from the confidence they love. The bad boy attitudes are sexually interesting to them, but after a while, the narcissism becomes intolerable.
Love that he told the truth about tax rates being higher before Reagan and minimum wage myths. We really did sell out our middle class thinking the rich would make us all rich too (we always fall for it).
This feels massively overanalysed She has never been in a relationship, so has 0 relationship skills She refuses to "lower" her expecations, suggesting she is looking for a guy with more than 0 relationship skills So she just overrates herself
this is happening en masse tho which needs to be analyzed. clearly womens egos/self perceptions are inflated by the past decade’s social environment and men’s deflated and now there’s a correction happening. Mostly women now are projecting that onto men instead of looking in the mirror.
Well that is part of the problem. Women do overrate themselves. I know single mothers that are barely above average looking that expect to land a good looking, childless and successful man. No just no
90% of women looking for the top 10% of men is like 9 people applying for one job. Gonna be a lot of "We're sorry but you were unsuccessful" letters going out.
At least they still get to be volunteers and interns gaining experience (bodycounts), and a stipend (bastard kids). Men wish they'd get those opportunities
Well, that's how it was for a long time. There was a division of labor, plus a division of social tasks. Women socialized men, planned their social lives, and in general people were much happier, and there was a lot less hate in society. Women did a lot of non-pecuniary things they did not receive credit for.
Why do so many people think sex is this amazing thing that a man will do anything for....? statements like these is why women feel like they have so much inherent value
I have to take issue with Scott Galloway essentially being an apologist for female hypergamy. Here's what's happening over the last 50 years. Many of us men also to promote female equality and female economic viability and progress. Back in the old days though men were willing to date women and marry them and when they made even no money whatsoever. How have women rewarded men for their economic progress? Why is it that so many men are apologists for this? A good deal of the time women are saying men are pigs cuz they like sex or whatever but never can you say the opposite. Are women not pigs for insisting that they're men have to make more money than them even though they're making way more money than their mothers did? There's definitely a double standard there and it's not good. I am amazed at the fact that more men are not making this an issue, especially those men who are under 30 who are suffering the most. I'm going on record right now I have absolute zero and I mean absolute zero sympathy for women who are lonely because of the fact that they dare not date a man who makes less money than them or is maybe only about as tall as they are when they are not wearing high heels. Did men ever get sympathy because a man was lonely because he refused to date a woman who was not a 9+? Absolutely not and nor should a man get sympathy for being alone because he refuses to date someone less than a 9 plus. I think it's high time that we make the same statement about the way women are regarding hypergamy.
I am in my late 30s married, but I have a lot of single friends. None of my single friends are looking for a relationship want men to be rich. They just want them to have a stable job. They seem to be this idea that men only want the richest, most attractive people in the world. We just want a man who will be polite and is financially stable. When my husband and I got married and neither of us had money. My brother just got married. Neither of them had money. When my sister got married, neither of them have money. This idea that women will only settle for a man with money seems to be some thing made up by men. We just want men to have their shit together. We don’t need you to be a 10. We need you to be like a six.
Back in the old days, women had few economic opportunities. In order to live a "good" life, they had to find a man, and her requirements were low - if he had a job and didn't abuse her, that was enough (this is still true in most developing countries). In the developed world, women have many economic opportunities, so we only marry if a man will improve our quality of life and we require a partner with emotional maturity and compatibility, etc. Men have not developed these skills as quickly as women have developed economic success, so there is a large gap between what men are providing and what women are looking for.
Women used to have to settle for the hottest guy at the bar. Then they all went online and decided to trade up. The problem is, they all traded up to the same men who now have 8 women each.
@@KevTheImpaler Yes, women can prefer to share Chad's harem when we have the Welfare State paying for her Section 8 rent, EBT card, SNAP benefits, Obamacare and Gender Studies forgiveness. Now consider that all net taxes are paid by men and you see that the welfare state is a form of cuckoldry for most men.
@@KevTheImpaler Let's not pretend that Chad (in the 97.7 percentile) is just one step above "average boyfriend" (in the 50.0 percentile). No, women are shooting down a male 9.4 to share a male 9.8.
People place too much emphasis on relationships, people bring their own shit and chaos 100% of the time. Relationships bring just as much headache as being single. One of the only true guarantees in life. Find solace in being single, enjoy your own company, if it happens it happens, if it doesn’t, don’t spend your life forcing it. Enjoy yourself. Don’t overcomplicate it 👍🏻
Bad advice. If you're not intentional about something, the chances of it happening are slim to none. Most people eventually want family and kids, that's one of their primary goals in life, debatably the most important one, and you have a limited timeframe to do it.
@@mrdouche9172 "...most people eventually want family and kids..." The divoeice rate is 50%. What most people want clearly isn't working out for half of them...🙃
I’m 5’5”. What bothered me was tall men dating very short women - who might date me. Dude! You are dating someone who is child size! It took me a long time to find someone to marry - and I tried all types. I rarely got past a second date. Took me 30 years but have been married now for 8. She is 5’5” and I’m grateful she never saw my height as an issue for her. We fit pretty well too which has advantages.
The key for short men, is to move to other areas where the women are shorter. My friend 5'3", went to the Philippines, worked there for only a year and a half, and came back with a beautiful, wonderful wife. Wife is 4'9". He understands that he's short, and welcomes jokes about it (when he came back, he said, 'Now you can put US on top of YOUR wedding cake!' and laughs abound. Guys; you have to know how to make your situation an advantage. He sure did.
I'm 6'2. I was out at a bar and a 4'11" or 5 even woman came up and hit on me. She was cute loud and brash - we dated for three years. Anyway during the relationship I asked her why she didn't date someone 5'3. Her reply was "If I dated someone 5'3" then people might think that was the best I could get with my height." In her own mind, she was competing with other women. Wow. And as a part two I did date a woman who was 5'11" or so for a month. She was nice but I didn't feel like I wanted to protect her or cuddle her. If I would take her hand it was very thin but as long as mine! A lot of cues were off so I moved on.
The problem is women are the choosers and for a lot of guys they go for the women that throw themselves at them which are going to be the women that are roughly a foot shorter. I actually prefer taller women as a 6-4 guy. But let me tell you those women that are 5-8 plus LOVE to play hard to get. Not all tall guys want to run their balls through shrapnel to get with the women they want. Sometimes we choose the women that want us instead. Path of least resistance. Don't hate the player hate the game.
I think the issue is that American dating culture was so centered around a man’s money that once women’s started making more money, and men started making less money, relationships lost their appeal because a lot of men had no appeal outside of their ability to provide. Look at dating apps. Most male profiles lead with what they have and what they do for a living. Zero mention of intimacy (outside of the bedroom), romance, partnership, etc
Women don’t care about that anyway. Have you seen their swiping stats? They want a tall attractive model man that has to at least make more than the woman for anything longer than a one night stand and we’re talking about average women here. Maybe the solution is to sop displacing men in the workforce and devaluing labor by importing immigrants
If I’m gonna date someone, there needs to be genuine, mutual physical attraction. If I have to rely on money to get a girl, it’s probably gonna be a dead bedroom, especially after marriage.
I think it's deeper than this. I think theres a lack of meaning and purpose among people in general. If you dont have any significant sense of meaning and your attention/services/money can be sold to the highest bidder; everything about upgrading based on superficial metrics, then there is no basis for meaninful relationships.
Rollo tomassi, F&F, Wheat Waffles, The whatever podcast, Sandman , CRP coach red pill and even TFM have been telling us this information for years now, explaining at great lengths and detail about hyp3rgamy and fem@le nature in a gynocentricc society. This is Red Pill and Black Pill 1 on 1.
💯. Some guys were awake 20 years ago, but people didn’t like the message or the messenger. Now, it’s becoming indisputable and women are wondering where they men are it’s now to these liberals to try and explain it to them 😂
I love these grifters that come years later after defaming the original red and black pill thought leaders and content creators but they still can’t seem to come to grips with the ultimate conclusions of these facts
Tripling the minimum wage does nothing but raise the price floor for everything….its the equivalent of printing money and utterly ineffective on a macroeconomic scale in a term longer than a business quarter. Getting private equity out of housing, and making the big 3 (healthcare, housing -OWNING, and higher education) affordable at a minimum wage level, would go infinitely farther than raising minimum wage.
Increasing the purchasing power of the dollar and stopping the constant flood of low skilled illegal immigrants is the solution for lifting young people. Galloway always disappoints. It’s too bad. He does identify key issues.
No it doesn't. It has been studied it plenty of times, and raising minimum wage does nothing to prices.. all it does is boost the local economy and economy overall.
@@mdaniels6311 Except when corporations simply raise their prices in response to keep profits up. Which is literally what happened after labour got a breather post-pandemic. Now it's worse than ever. Without price control, you have to focus on affordability moreso than just giving money away.
Not really. The state simply needs to cap prices while simultaneously increasing wages. A more realistic approach would be to increase wages by 60%. Since 1970, workers of every class have consistently been denied their fair share. For instance, consider a worker earning $18 per hour, with 5$ allocated for the pension plan. In total, the cost to employ that worker ranges from $24 to $30 per hour. Meanwhile, employers charge clients anywhere from $80 to $200, depending on the industry. While workers do all the labor, employers profit from renting out that labor. Statistics reveal that the wealthy have significantly multiplied their wealth at the expense of workers. This exploitation should not be permitted by law. Moreover, this phenomenon contributes to the underconsumption principle, where restricting cash flow in lower-wage classes and erasing the middle class harms the entire economy. Unfortunately, I believe that automation and artificial intelligence will eventually lead to the complete collapse of the economy. The MIT predicted this back in the 1970s, forecasting an economic collapse by 2045. I think that massive poverty and unemployment will be the unfortunate future.
I can relate to that woman's story as a man also. Except I feel compelled by the social climate to drop my standards. I've also noticed that men will usually take a loser woman and turn her into a queen where successful women usually don't invest in a loser guy regardless of his looks.
Young men should be either better compensated for working, or houses should be more affordable. Either way, we need to empower people’s time that they spend working.
Interestingly, a large part of wage suppression is due to women entering the work force. If you increase the availability of a resource, the cost for it goes down. Basic economics.
It's been proven that if young men are just given money or opportunities without a strict hierarchical framework and steady hard work, they just become either profligate or senselessly violent out of boredom. Testosterone cannot be left with nothing productive to do. Hence why you're always starting wars.
Women need to stop taking men's jobs. They shouldn't work, and if they do, they should be in either healthcare, or highly specialized and technical fields only (like mathematics).
I can tell you, the passport bro thing is truly a refreshing, but sad state of affairs. I left my rich, western country last year for a year long work holiday in south america. I have some money, am very tall, but probably too slim by western standards and average looking by western standards, and the insane difference in attention and success here compared to back home is astounding. Women stare at clubs, and will initiate..and quality women..like doctors, lawyers, beautiful, and with money. Ultimately, even when I have most of these things women want back home, its not quite as high as a disney prince or some other blokes and so it was almost impossible. Over in these countries, i feel like how i imagine women feel every day. The worst experiences ive had are having to reject women over here. If you are a man who is half attractive, average white man height, from a western country, you will find more success in south america or asia. And it isnt just gold diggers. Wealthy young women in these countries are also into white men because of their cultural attitudes. Kind of unfair, but good for me!
You touched on something nobody wants to talk about: In the USA/Canada/Western Europe, the contempt and hatred towards white men has become ridiculous, anti-white racism is pushed on social media. Most women only want black/brown skin guys, because that's the cool trendy thing to do, and they just follow the herd In Asia and South America, white/European men get at the very least a decent level of attention. I find latinas in general less neurotic and more open minded
Women appreciate and respect men there. Most American women are spoiled and ungrateful and have unrealistic expectations. That's a big part of the problem which can directly be attributed to "feminism".
@@Marco-x9d9w Western europe? western europe is a dating heaven lol. Here women are not materialist, they are romantic, they dont care about your money. You get girls from every country, portugal, poland, Czech etc. Don't worry about us european men WE ARE FINE lmao. you dont even need to have a car or be over 170cm
Yet the only reason they want you is because ur white and they have an image of ur social status. Interesting to see when they get here and see that ship sailed lol
I know socializing will never be the same , but younger people need to find social circles , go volunteer , join a club , start a meet up group , go for a hike, we are losing our social skills and our humanity ❤ hang in there
It's not just young people. I'm in my late 30s, and I'm pretty much completely alone. It's not so bad, though. It's certainly better than being around people who make me feel lonely.
"go volunteer" Outstanding suggestion for men. I don't recall offhand the stat, but women volunteer FAR more frequently than men do. Think about the women that do volunteer. Helpful. Considerate. Socially aware. They are givers not takes. All great attributes.
stop telling people to go volunteer and clubs, it will drive all those “pua” wannabes to miss the point of volunteering in those places. The amount of guys coming to volunteer solely for the fact of meeting women is becoming an issue in these centres. People need to go back to social spaces as before, period. Not volunteering to people’s in needs centre to see if they can hook up with someone..
I think nothing will change until family courts change.Too many young men have seen what has happened to their father, their uncles and the men in their lives. No one should financially benefit substantially from divorcing their partner in the first 10 years of marriage if they are doing the divorcing from the financial situation they were in when they married. Thats both men and women. After 10 years of marriage assets should be 50/50 split. Both men and women should have 50/50 custody through agreement or mediation and child welfare should be again mediation but based on what the child needs and not what the mother or father happens to want. Until the family court bias against men is firstly recognised and then changed substantially to where everyone getting married knows what the costs are most likely to be then I dont see men changing the road they are on which is becoming marriage avoidance. I totally get why feminism was right at the start, I totally get why the divorce courts needed to act in relation to a man just leaving his wife and children and letting them all fend for themselves but it has gone too far in favour of women and no fault divorce has been horrendous for families and children and men but quite a gain for women. Im speaking in generalities now and appreciate there are always difficult cases.
Why do most divorced women end up POORER then? Divorce sucks, but alimony is only awarded in 11% of cases today and if no children are involved, there's no child support.
@@TGP109 Only 11%... this is 2024, no alimony should be paid by man or woman period what's with the word " only"? Naturally there is no child support if there are no children.... ? As to why women might be poorer after divorce when assets have been split 50/50 and very likely 60/40 or 70/30 in her favour, perhaps they are poorer because the dont work as hard as men, they dont have the same drive and ambition as men, they dont have the same budgeting skills in general as men and these are all very broad generalities Im making but they are true. Men dont have the same intuitions as women, men dont have the same nurturing drive as women, men dont have the same patience with small children as women.... again all very broad generalities but true. But you never mentioned my point of 50/50 custody of the children and Ill tell you why thats important, I am sure that family courts give most of the custody to mothers so they can also get child support from the father to increase their income which to me is really disgusting because it means the father gets much less time with his children for the sole purpose so the mother can get more money for the purpose of the state not having to give supports to the mother. Its a rigged system for men and until that changes men should never Marry, at least in my opinion.
He made good points about the dire situation of dating, particularly with the decline of men. He failed to address what women can do to stop pricing themselves out of the dating market, however, or to deal with their unrealistic expectations; or, how men can become more attractive to women beyond making more money at higher minimum wage. Not very useful advice.
He could have mention at that 30 yo woman to be more in touch in her feminine side to be more attractive to men. BTW, most women don't even know what men want in a woman. It seems women don't care about it since they are strong & independent (of men).
@@AgtsmirnoffLol! Oh, like the men have always been? When I was young it was Pam Anderson, Cindy Crawford and Michelle Pfifer. If you didn't look like that, you spent a lot of time alone.
@@elizabeetle13-k4z literally 99.9% of men demand that their women look like supermodels. I don’t know what kind of argument you’re trying to make here.
At the beginning, he said, "She's 30 yo and she's never had a boyfriend..." That's NOT because she's "intimidating" to guys!! What are her interpersonal communication skills like? If she's, at least, average-looking, she should have had alot more experience and a couple of BFs under the belt by age thirty.
@@BB-xx3dv My point was it's odd to be thirty years old never having the experience of being in a couple of long-term relationships. Especially for women. This is not a generational thing either - not for women.
It's pretty simple actually. She most likely was jumping from situationship to situationship for the past 12-15 years. She was most likely quite picky. The guys were out of her league, so they knew they could do better when it comes to longterm, but just like any man, if some woman throws easy punani your way and requires little effort from you, you'll still hit it a few times, and that's exactly what all these guys did. She repeated that same pattern for over a decade and now she's in this situation.
This is why im glad instead of jumping on every guy in college I found mine at 21. He and I have been through everything together and now hes successful. Ive only had one serious relationship before him and hes only had me. Dating is a nightmare world now.
Even if it gets tough or boring, you guys lucked out hard. You have a home in another person. I haven't slept in the same bed as someone since I was like 12, and I'm 34 now. Ah... That'd be sweet.
and if you hadn't done that, you get too old and inflexible to grow together later. Waiting until you're in your late 20's to start thinking about marriage means that you've lived some of the most exciting and momentous times of your young adult life without them. We all laugh at how our grandparents and parents get rigid and blow up over stupid things when their routine is disturbed. But most young people fail to see that is their future as well, and that it happens slowly and incrementally as we age. You can't build a 35 year marriage in 5 years. And age matters more than people like to think. Stick it out through thick and thin, short of physical abuse, it's worth it. If there's any physical abuse from either side, bail immediately because that doesn't get better. Other than that, stick it out and frame every solution one that involves making it work with them, and making both of your lives better. I've been married going on 23 years now and it's 1,000,000% worth it. Things don't end up like you'd want, and if you get what you want 25% of the time you're doing great, but what you get in return is something so much better than any of those petty battles.
99.9% of women will ONLY date men who are taller than them. The girl in the bookstore is over 30 and prioritized her career. She doesn't have a clue what men want. If they want a family, they wanted her back when she was 26, but she was ignoring them and starting to crush it in her career. She already made her choice. A dog will love you unconditionally.
forgot one small detail - these men expected her to pay for half of everything. So of course the girl went to work, to be able to have a social life, and go on dates, since you're so modern that you wanted to split event the cost of water on a date with her.
I’ve been on dates with over 100 women, most of them with degrees and good careers. Most made more money than me and most expected me to plan everything and pay the bill. We live in a world where women’s demands are completely out of line with what they have to offer. And if you call out the hypocrisy and the double standards and how average men have it harder you get called a sexist and a conservative bigot
The FED still owns trillions in MBS they bought up from the 08' housing crash. The economy has been rigged for decades and its essentially run like a ponzi scheme.
Mortgages. Mortgages lock in at a rate, lets say 1500/month at the start. No matter where inflation goes that mortgage still costs that much. Meaning for those people their single largest bill (housing) is now fixed, and the cost of everything rises hurt them, but not in their largest bill. So for them it's an inconvenience, not a catastrophe financially. Because of this, when inflation hits you have a large swath of people that are insulated from it and don't quit. This makes the labor market lag a lot in most economic strata. Mortgages are why wages lag.
One thing that I have noticed in conversations with ladies is that it tends to be that they have dedicated time to the wrong man or man in the past, rather than any given career.
Finally someone who understands the young need more money. So few seem to grasp that the old people past middle age occupying the positions sucking up all the money don't actually have any use for that money. Meanwhile the youth who need money for eduaction, life planning, and children are left with next to nothing. It isn't even about people asking to be pampered, many of these people just don't want to have to live in financial fear.
Culture is the problem. I live in Asia and asian parents teach their sons and daughters to be disciplined and civilized. Something which doesn't happen in America.
tiktok is a plague, dated one of these wannabe princesses, worst experience of my life. Luckily we had a fight before i spent too much money on her. They think they should be treated like a princess for no other reason than they have a vagina. Self absorbed and delusional.
Male loneliness epidemic contributing to a massive rise in depression among men and male self-deletion ...but yes of course it's the women most effected isn't it, my goodness I hate the 2020's.
Bro I don’t know why so many people struggle with empathy for men. I think it’s these tradcon males who think that men should just put the weight of the world on their back and constantly take the blame for anything wrong. Fuckkkkk that women need to step it up too
I’m coming across women that I don’t want to marry. They don’t know how to flirt. Even though they make good money they want to spend your money. Women either rejuvenate you or drain you. If a woman does not spend money on you, she doesn’t love you. The quote my brother was looking for is “You can be anything, but you can’t be everything.”
All the good women are already taken. It's near impossible to find a woman who is patient, kind, wise, soft spoken, and who takes care of her appearance. Most women that I have dated have poor hygiene. They don't even bother brushing their teeth when going out. Imagine trying to kiss a woman like that
@@TomikaKelly Some of the women that I dated or been in a relationship didn’t know how to flirt. I’ve had one girlfriend buy me a watch for my birthday. There’s just a certain amount of effort and enthusiasm everyone should put into a relationship and I don’t see it on a regular basis.
Those top 10 percent of men all the women want do not give a flying eff how much money a woman makes. It is not on the radar. The lady who has focused all her efforts on her career, that is fine, she made herself more attractive to other women, not men.
Maybe I'm wrong, but I get the feeling, that many young women are seeing relationships as some kind of business venture and a booster for social status. They want to increase their worth, want to take what they can from the guy (mostly connections, but certainly also material things, maybe knowledge and experience and more … ) and move on to the next one. Observing the modern dating scene, I have more and more associations with the job market, which I find incredibly frightening. But it makes sense, considering that a whole generation of women has been told, that a career is the most important thing in life and that they're worthless without it. So why not use a relationship as a career tool, too. Something to up your social status. That's what it's all about these days, isn't it? Who cares about love and family if you can spend your life stroking your ego like a real CEO. At least, that's what they think-until they're approaching 40. This all is a really sad development and I feel for both sides of the younger generations.
The problem is most western women spend most of their time trying to out do other women and thus the goal post of “happiness “ is always changing and is never reached.
Title: "The Challenges of Dating and Relationships in the Modern World" Summary: In this thought-provoking video, the speaker discusses the challenges that individuals, particularly women over the age of 30, face in the modern dating and relationship landscape. He shares a conversation he had with a woman who expressed her frustration about being single and not finding a partner despite her successful career. Key Points and Takeaways: 1. Generational Gap: The speaker suggests that there might be a generational gap in dating approaches. Older generations often met in person, while the younger generation relies heavily on online dating apps. 2. Self-Doubt: The woman the speaker encountered expressed self-doubt and a sense that something might be wrong with her because she's over 30 and still single. This highlights the societal pressure to conform to certain relationship timelines. 3. Evolving Dating Dynamics: The speaker introduces the concept of the "high heels effect," explaining that women have become more educated and economically successful over the years. However, this can lead to challenges in finding compatible partners as they often seek men who are socioeconomically superior. 4. Changing Expectations: Modern women have been told they can "have it all," which includes a successful career and a fulfilling romantic life. However, this can be challenging to achieve simultaneously. 5. Imbalance in Dating Opportunities: The speaker argues that top-tier men, often referred to as the top 10%, have more opportunities for short-term relationships and may be less inclined to commit to long-term relationships. This leaves a disproportionate number of men and women feeling lonely. 6. Loneliness: Loneliness is a growing concern, especially among men who may struggle with forming social connections when they don't have a romantic relationship. 7. Importance of Relationships: The speaker emphasizes that romantic relationships provide structure, motivation, and support in life. They encourage personal growth and prevent negative behaviors. 8. Economic Solutions: To address these issues, the speaker suggests raising the minimum wage as a way to put more money into the pockets of young people, reducing financial stress, and stimulating the economy. 9. Subscribe and Support: The speaker encourages viewers to subscribe to his channel to help it grow and attract more influential guests. In summary, this video sheds light on the challenges faced by individuals, particularly women over 30, in today's dating and relationship landscape. It explores the impact of changing societal dynamics, expectations, and economic factors on the pursuit of fulfilling romantic lives.
I came home from my retired career and started attending church at my home church when I was young. I am frugal with my money and I continued to drive my old Ford car. It kept running and I decided to keep driving it. It was 11 years old when I returned to my hometown. Then 8 years later it was starting to fall apart so time to buy brand new. I bought a Honda CRV brand new. I saved the money over 19 years to pay cash if I wished. I took a three-year loan at 0.5%. The auto loan company only got $700 interest out of me. But what I am getting at is a woman at church about my age and single who never really talked to me suddenly said "Oh, you bought a new car!" I read right into that. She thought I am poor because of my old junky car and then not worth her time.
How can any man invest in a creature that is only loyal to her feelings? Looks, status, money don’t make a difference, eventually she will get bored. Ask Tom Brady, Jeff Bezos, Kevin Costner….on and on.
Right. I'm 78, don't look for loyralty in today's generations of American women. You may find it in some other countries, not here. Not to say that you can't find affection, companionship, et al., just not loyralty.
@@basicfilmblog sound like a simp ...Innocent until proven guilty there's an example for you...have you ever been falsely accused of rape? Probably not..
Old guy here. And not a Chad. This has been going on for decades, it's just "recently" been turned up to 11. With the way men are used and discarded by modern women, that top 5-10 percent of men can have them. Full stop. 1000 % serious. Because even those HVM don't really "have"these women. She's not yours, it's just your turn. Just look at Tom and Gizzelle.
How can modern women be so picky . They are offering about half the amount as the women in the generation before them. My ex had green hair , nose ring, tattoos, feminist, overusing filters/make-up. She was maybe a 1 or a 2 out of 10. Such an insult when she called it off. Lol
Unfortunately, you just can't fight against what a person wants and what they feel entitled to, however delusional it may be. People end up hurt and lonely on both sides. You can't reason a woman to lower her standards, you can only work on yourself. If you're not giving her any sense of 'ooo' when she sees you, you're just a resource to her.
The real problem is that the market place is WILDLY unfair to women. They get all their value up front when they're young, and they are then told it will never fade. She won't lower her standards because she has no reason to believe anything will ever be bad for HER. Those others at 40 and lonely are just other people that have other problems. That would NEVER happen to her. Because of this blindness (which we all have when we're young) she makes poor decisions; it gets much worse if it's been reinforced her entire life that she has endless time and endless options. But it does get bad, we all age and that type of arrogance falls away. Unfortunately, by the time she realizes her value to men is fading she's already slipped very far, and everyone involved is too old and rigid to make anything but effective room mates with benefits. It's a sad story, Cap'n Junnah. They're cursed by early and free value, and the ramifications paid later are very hard. It's a sad story, and the place where mother's used to tell their daughters things like 'marry young while you're still pretty'. That's all taboo now, but the realities underpinning the advice have not changed.
I used to be a manager of a printing shop in a large skyscraper. Some days I worked in the front end; I wore a suit and tie. Some days I helped in the back with the presses; I wore an old shirt and ink stained jeans. Either way, I would often deliver orders myself with a dolly full of cartons. If I wore a suit and tie, every single woman I met would hold a door open for me. If I wore the grubby jeans NOT ONE woman would hold a door open. Make of that what you will.
As a footnote, I'm in good athletic physical shape, but I think if I were in the level of shape for a competition, like ripped enough to be on stage, or magazine cover, then this would change the perception in casual clothing. It's a pain in the butt to get there though
I worked in a men's store. The men were so much more attractive when dressed well. The men who worked there, who were forced to wear suits, realized that they were perceived as higher income and, overall, better looking and started dressing better in their personal lives.
Tbh bro a lot of women just weren’t raised well. Like are women taught, like men are, about what they need to do for the opposite gender? Like men are constantly told what they need to do to improve, what they need to do to make their wife happy, and to “do what’s right”. Seems like the only message women get is “do what’s right for you” and “put yourself first”. I think men need to start putting themselves before women. Be more selfish
I remember being younger and told by my parents and society at large, ohh get a degree, be on shape, have a good career and women will come flocking to you.... Its all total BS, i did all of that. I have an engineering degree that i studied my ass off for, a good paying career, my own place, in good shape(and play sports), I have hobbies outside of video games, i spent money and time to improve my style, and dating is still an incredible struggle. Like no matter what I do its just not enough. I just dont know what women want anymore. Its just perplexing these women will complain about being 30+ and single on Instagram....i get it, im not entitled to a relationship with any particular person but it just feels like if i make the tiniest mistake or if I come off as slightly awkward on a date I'm just booted from the dating prospects and not even given a chance. Its like im expected to be 100% perfect with no slip ups, but im willing to overlook things in them and give it a chance.
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Why can't women compeat with porn and video games?
The more society raises women’s self-perception of themselves as well as what they deserve, especially, the sense of what they can have and demand in life for themselves…?
These high valued ladies will get less and less the more women gain…
Men who are lesser (shorter) in value in comparison to women’s “standards” of all they want…?!?
They are invisible to most women than to be used as friend zoned orbiters or vilified as as creeps or Myso-s (or only visible Post-Wall if at all).
….YES…women do gain overtime MEN…!!!
But only a skewed higher (taller) sense of the man who supposedly suits their deleterious desire for a “Real Man”!!!
But…that “Real Man” will NOT be found today…to serve their Trad-Com disposability!
I call what is happening to women today…the Cognitive-Behavioral Obesity Effect common to people who overeat (and other consumers)…the more most obese people eat indiscriminately, enlarge their stomachs and gain weight?!?
The less likely such a person feels fulfilled and less willing to eat less…
…irrespective of what they really need (or limits).
….even if it means eating healthier and of greater quality (and less quantity) to lose the unnecessary and harmful weight.
This man, Mr. Galloway, is right “no woman is responsible for serving a man” but all the same “no man is required today, no matter how dusty or high value he is, to invest into a Romantic commitment or thirsty prospect that is today’s woman, one which offers little to no R.O.I no matter how much she has in herself or says she can offer in an LTR!!!
Think? No woman is held to what she says or even the child she bears and invested by a man- legally all she has is hers-even her child- no man owns HER nor is she made accountable to what she creates and destroys, in the same way as men are- today’s lay-dee isn’t judged harshly nor fairly along with MEN…
…but placated by those like her in collusion with the State and the majority of S!MPs.
I truly can say: BOYS and MEN do much better by giving up…
….giving up on their delusional search for POON and Romantic Love and putting all their M.E.A.T into a better, more well-deserved place…
…on their own Peace, Quiet and Freedom…
And STOP trying to chase becoming a thirsty protector and Beta-Bux provider…
…to not only women and their high demands, with their often unreasonable sense of what they can really offer boys and MEN?!?
…which is often nothing but fluff, chameleon thirst trappings with a good dose of baiting & switching…
And boys and men do much better for themselves by renouncing all of it…!!!
…Really, what does any man get long term in bettering the lives of women for what men really get from soy-iety?
We are most often blamed for every problem that supposed affronts these ladies, while every heavy smite from a particular man or minor smidge of criticism or joke on the lives of these higher valued adult ladies…is ALL MEN’s FAULT….
….these same ladies who one time said they don’t need a man until she needs one for “X”…
…that is until they are tired and willing to divorce him scam the next dope!
Sorry but I am the type of man today b/c I have learned to give up…to give up on all their B-S!!!
….all the bag carrying, wasteful and unnecessary spending, playing replacement delivery guy and/or substitute fix-it person…
These “gimme-gimme” ladies can all high tail that self-entitlement to the place of Post-Wall tragedies!
Did marriage…never will I EVER marry again…
I rather die alone and NOT be burdened by the trials and tribulations of another woman and her bags of nonsensical wants and needs!
As for Mr. Galloway? He is a trad-Con-doo-doo head, and a shoddy misandrist to boot…pitiful waste of an interview!
LET ALL WOMEN be as risky and practical as they want- all by themselves- with their entourage of sycophantic men and pandering politicians!
@@kungfujoe2136 Women will never do b/c they offer little to no long term R.O.I.
Mysandry is lauded among women in Universities thus contributing to the rise in singledom and independence
@@laturista1000 You can't even spell it. STFU.
I went out with some female colleagues a few weeks ago. One of them hadn't seen the other in a while and asked her about her boyfriend. Girl B mentioned she broke up with him, and girl A replied with "oh he seemed so nice". Girl B replied "yeah he was pretty much perfect: kind, handsome, successful, supportive... But I got bored with him". Girl B then mentioned she's dating a new guy who is also seemingly perfect. Girl A asks her if she thinks this new guy is "the one" and girl B replied "no, this won't last. I'm starting to get bored with this one also" and girl A replies "I get you". Both these women are in their 30s. I thought to myself, having recently been dumped, "being a perfect guy, checking all the boxes doesn't matter anymore with modern women... Why bother?". No wonder things like passport Bros exist.
It's really very simple. Never change your plans for a woman. Never break your principles. She's along for your ride if she makes the cut, not the other way round. This is the ONLY strategy that works in a 'market' where women get unending attention and therefore options while men have to beg, borrow and steal for a single date with a high value woman. Reverse the roles and ask yourself how you'd act if you were in their shoes. What would you do if you had a line of women running out of your door? Be honest and use that as your starting point.
@@eb9720 sorry I wasn't put on this earth to be anyone's jester. It's also not my fault that modern women can't seem to find satisfaction in anything. I live a very happy and fruitful life, someone can choose to share in that or not, but I have no need to change to satisfy the urges of another.
@@eb9720 Be less of an asshole.
It's on the simps that demand such behavior by being too afraid of stopping their lunacy. Either they get on your program or they get out.
Low quality women deserve just a quick pump and dump.
@@davesmith826you're a clown
I'm sure everyone would laugh at me if I said I would only date a woman who is a literal supermodel with the personality of a comedian and the cooking skills of Rachel Ray. What these women are saying is the same equivalent 😂
But they “deserve” it 😂
@@darbyohara yeah everyone has a sense of entitlement these days so nothing would surprise me lol
Exactly. Except if a man says it, he's a "misogynist, pig, needs therapy, small dick energy, etc. etc."
If a woman says it, then she "knows her worth, is a queen, men need to step up, etc."
It's so ridiculous. Society has obviously pedestalized and coddled women yet nobody seems to realize it.
Men and women aren't the same though. Women have to be more selective than men.
@@rf-uj5sc selective and living in complete fantasy are two different things.
Truth be told it goes beyond just mediocre guys. And guys making minimum wage. I’m an airline pilot making well into six figures and financially free. In decent shape as well. It’s virtually impossible for even me to get a date on an app with even a girl who is unemployed.
A lot of guys are really unaware of how poorly they come across on their profiles. Find a girl you can ask and get some honest feedback.
Every guy is having problems. I'm sure you're aware of the passport bro movement lol
@@XAUCADTrader yeah 1. Most Most who want to eb passport bros doing make enough annually to qualify. 2. have her come over and work 50/50 like you expect women to do here and do the trad role and watch her leave you when she gets her green card... because it's a raw deal.
How tall are u and are u good looking? Are ur photos good? Can they tell u do well financially? Tinder research shows that pilots are cleaning up as the app's most-right-swiped male profession. As long are ur not short and are decent looking u should be doing well if ur pics are good
@@johnw6468 Some of these factors are not controllable. The next question you have to ask is what you receive in return? ...There's a reason our fertility rate is collapsing in, requiring mass migration from the third world to make up the difference. The data speaks for itself. Women control the market, yet 45 percent 35-44 will be single and childless by 2030 in USA. Divorce rates 50 percent of those who were successful in finding someone. This society is broken =).
An unemployed 32 year old mom whose baby daddy left her in her early 20s has told me straight up she settled for her current husband because of her son. Her husband is a hardworking engineer and they don't have a child between the two. The man is working to feed and take care of her unemployed ass and a kid who isn't even his and the woman was thinking she settled instead of worshipping the man for saving her life. After hearing her, I knew there's no hope.
That man should divorce her and find a better woman.
@@man.of.steelll100%
@@man.of.steelll Yes he should divorce her however there are no better women, they are all like this.
That's the reason there are so many divorces, women are 'settling' then get to their 40's and are told that they can still have it all so they get rid of a perfectly good man and a few years down the line their stupidity hits them.
Women can be so shallow and ungrateful for the fortune they've stumbled upon. Incredibly stupid and selfish, really.
I’m married now but when I was younger and single I often noticed a strange double standard in the way men and women spoke about the opposite sex. A woman would say “I wish I could meet a decent guy…there just aren’t any out there” and her comment would often be validated by other people…older men, women of all ages, cultural “authorities,” etc. No man would dare say “I wish I could meet a decent girl..there just aren’t any out there.” No one would validate that comment. Furthermore people would be all over him telling him to get his sh*t together and the right woman would appear.
That's because in most people's eye, it's man's fault unless proven otherwise.
Even with cheating: If he cheats, he's a dog; if she cheats, it's because he wasn't there for her emotionally.
No one would validate him bc it isn't true. There's less decent guys than decent women. Everyone knows that.
@@tizodd6There's some truth to every stereotype.
@@SamanthasUniverse No. There's individual *PERCEPTION* to every stereotype.
@@SamanthasUniverse How much bonnets do you own?
About a decade ago when I was just out of Uni and online dating was still relatively new, a friend of mine said that the problem with it was that a guy who is a 9 will go home with a girl who is a 7, because someone to go home with is better than nobody. This leads the girl who is a 7 to believe she should be aiming for (I hesitate to use the term 'entitled to') a relationship with a 9, resulting in multiple dissapointments when the 9's drop them. He said he thought the top slice of men were cleaning up, and girls were developing an unhealthy dislike of men. I have to admit, I thought he was just someone who wasn't having much success online being bitter. Fast-forward a decade and there's a wealth of research and data to show he was onto something. For 99%+ it isn't working. Bizarre how online dating continues to grow despite this.
You have to be acute to see the pattern 10 years ago, even when now it's pretty obvious (although unseen by the majority of society). Chances are your friend has made a more valid points in other things, he is intelligent, keep his friendship.
Everybody has known of this effect. This is why women were constantly called full of sin in the olden days. It was a direct attack on women to get them to stay in their lane with the men on their looks level and not try to get impregnated by the rich men. The priests were actually doing the men around town a favor by labeling the women as potential traitors, because they all are. "Of the woman came the beginning of sin, and through her we all die" (Eccles. 25:22).
I've always hated how being bitter is an insult.
There's a lot of 49ers out there... girls who are 4/10s who think they're 9/10s.
Not to mention a never ending epidemic of women saying “men are trash” and they “don’t need no men”. Women are emotional thinkers and it’s hard to reach a rational ground with creatures who thrive on pure emotion. Truth is, majority of people won’t be able to build healthy families unless a man settles with an unattractive woman.
Society: you dont meet the requirements to play this game
Men: ok then i wont play this game
Society: no you cant do that
Exactly
And you can't leave the country for a different game either!
@@hahamasala And we won't "legalize" the other game!!!!
Capitalizing on male desperation has always been at the forefront of societal progress.
Go gay
"You can have it all, you just can't have it all at once" bless this man, I have been saying that for years.
Well, he’s still wrong. All these women can’t keep telling themselves they can have a top 10% man. Their expectations are not aligned with the reality of their dating market value and it’s forcing singlehood on men.
The truth is you can’t have it all. Stop spreading that lie.
A few women can have it all, but most cannot. If you spend the first 35-40 years of your life getting degrees and climbing the career ladder at the expense of not dating, you're very unlikely to have children and get married. Men want children and marriage with women who are 18-30. Once a woman is past her prime, "having it all" is just a pipedream.
That's typically what "having it all" means, because you're usually talking about that moment
the female ceo of yahoo became famous and had a bestselling book because she was the first one to say this to women...that you can only have it all in serial not in parallel...so you have to prioritize and decide the order of which objectives you focus on, and pick a metric or time limit for an off ramp to the next thing you want...every man I've known has always understood this...the fact that this was a revelation to women says a lot about their critical thinking muscle atrophy
Thank you for addressing the “rage”. There’s 7 million men in the US right now that wouldn’t care if it burnt to the ground today. That’s an awful truth. An awful truth that’s only gonna grow. What happens when it hits 10 million men? 20 million? Who’s gonna stop this trend? Who even CARES to stop this trend?
Sounds like 20 million votes for the bald guy with the bad comb over and the orange makeup.
@@jim2376 That's one way to burn it all to the ground
@jim2376 Trump derangement syndrome is the real pandemic. The media has really done a number on the public. I didn't vote for him but it's impossible to deny that things were better under him, and that Biden is nearly completely brain dead.
The 2 system politics is mental.
those men are ravaging North East Paris right now. They are refugees and outkasts of society! There will be a huge war and blood in the streets in Europe soon. Loveless women finding LOVE is the least important thing right now. We are on the verge of mass economic collapse in many parts of Europe! Wake up folks! Women today are delusional! Let's see how their entitlement behavior works out during World War!!
I totally agree with what was said, unfortunately women are also looking for trophy husbands, tall, good looking, intelligent, successful, no baggage and so on but it doesn’t exist, society now wants instant gratification….. unfortunately
It exists, just have to compete for it.
@@RC-ol8qgexactly this 🤡 is complaining but never looked in the mirror
@@RC-ol8qg That's like 5 guys on the planet that ticks all those boxes.
That's crazy because 80-85% of single women are overweight or single moms. They'd be lucky to just qualify for one of those
Correct. Women 30+ are mentally ill in how they choose mates
I know quite a few career women like this. The problem is that they're a nightmare to be with in a relationship with behaviour traits that might serve them well in the business / corporate world but are completely toxic in an intimate relationship.
Yep. Have to be the boss all of the time.
Most straight men don’t want to date other men in a woman’s body. The minute a woman got combative with me, I would walk - if I were looking, which I ain’t. I have a gf and if this one ended, I would never look again.
Because they're _bastardized_ men.
that s not the case. if a man could support us both i would be happy to stay at home
@Sky10811
How old are you ?
Im 6'4. Have a good job. Average looking. Have my own car, pay my own bills, study part time as a pilot. Im dark and exotic, I speak Spanish, live in first world country, can talk about almost any topic, im good at flirting... I have a bachelors career. And I don't get any attention, or just the minimum. Its not the 10% woman are looking for a Unicorn. Less than 1%. Its the social media that spoiled everything for everyone.
"Less than 1%. Its the social media that spoiled everything for everyone." Agreed, regarding SM's impact. But .. the percentage is 2.5%, from various Tinder Statistics I've seen. Still abominably low..
Social media didn't spoil anything. It's us, humans are doing a terrible job at being responsible for their use of an addictive subject.
It's just like Poppies didn't cause the opium epidemic and guns didn't pull their own trigger.
Personal responsibility seemed to go out at the same time as the use of CDs
What are you doing to compensate for being average looking?
You said it--you are dark and exotic (i.e. not white). If you look at dating site statistics, you'll know that white men are preferred over all overs, and whatever your racial identity is--your women swipe right on guys like you (whichever direction is rejection), and swipe left on the white man. Because of that, there is a wealth of "riches" so to speak for the latter group, And minority groups like yours are left wanting. White men are the gold standard in the eyes of women.
you sound lazy. give the attention first. you want women to chase you, that's not in their nature. unless youre famous, and then those women suck anyway
"The key to a healthy marriage is low expectations". I would also say that you should avoid giving yourself too many options or choices. The key to painting a masterpiece is not to fool yourself into believing that you have to travel to the ends of the earth to find a scene worthy enough to paint. Many of the world's most beautiful artworks were painted just a stone's throw from the painter’s home. How often have we marvelled at a painting depicting the most mundane of subjects and be utterly moved by its simplicity. We have lost the power to be moved by simple things because we are always looking and looking for something better and not able to truly see what is in front of us. We are never satisfied.
Agreed. You can either have standards or you can have a man, but you definitely CANNOT have both. Pick your poison.
Then that rule should apply to BOTH MEN and WOMEN…
BUT
Women want the the top, the best or the alphas making $$$$$$.
With the growth of passport brothers, they’re being shamed for looking for love, companionship as well as cooperation abroad however if they’re not getting love, affection and respect at home???
can you be surprised if they go abroad (if they can afford it) for what men who want long term relationships, companionship and marriage at home???
Men get your passports, you are not obligated to fix or help a society that villainizes and demonizes you. There are cultures that appreciate men and where you can thrive and create strong,healthy,loving relationships and community. Let the west burn and get your passport. Don't waste your time trying to save it.
PERFECTLY STATED!!! ❤
I love this
Women should understand this truth about men. Most men live by the philophosy (among many), "If you weren't there for my struggle, don't expect to be present for my success." As men we never forget who was there for us when we were nothing and who wasn't.
@Nova226 those are outliers and if you investigate further there was a deeper issue behind it because men don't just leave marraiges.
Women don't care about men struggles; they wait at the finish line & bang the winner.
@Nova226 I have no doubt they exist, but picking out a couple of exceptions among a sea of the opposite situation isn't a good argument
@@mbg9650 isnt that due to the fact that for decades when they had no option BUT to be loyal, many of them were stuck in the WORST relationships and so now when the current gen of women get to experience a lot of freedom, they have standards cuz they know better.
@Nova226A lot of times it's because the woman becomes insecure when man becomes successful and she sabotages the relationship.
The situation is considerably easier for women because it is the women who are CHOOSING not to date the majority of men around them. The men are not making a choice, they simply have no options and no hope of a relationship or even a date. The women may cry more and complain more on social media but the men keep their pain to themselves. For men, having "no options" leads to a considerably more depressing life than the typical life experienced by women who have chosen not to date 80% of the men around them.
Boohoo, then date men. Help men out
@@ehhh193typical immature ignorant response of a poisonous juvenile person.
Most good men I know ether just stopped looking or left the country.
I wanted a wife and children, gave up at 30 and never tried to date again. At least I now know I'm in the majority.
Most guys gave up on women.
@@ehhh193 typical insensitive response. Showing a total lack of respect or care for men.
At this point, it might be better to make it less about individual choice and more about collective responsibility. What will happen to society if men and women refuse to procreate because everyone's gone nihilist?
I’m 38, 6ft 1, make 150k a year, and own 2 homes on Oahu. To say I’m struggling out here romantically is an understatement. You’re not alone guys. We exist in a broken system.
Bro, want a boyfriend? Hahaha jk no homo
Yep, thanks to the phoniness of women's lib. Women want to compete with men, occupationally. But, when it comes to paying for a date, suddenly: They are not liberated. No surprise: They are only liberated when it's convenient. Therein lies a huge problem.
get your passport, bro, totally worth it
If I may ask, what do you do for a living?
Perhaps your struggle has an issue with your focus on superficialities and scoring your self on incomes, height and homes vs are you a funny chill person
I've been with her for 35 years & she has been unfaithful twice (that I know of). Since giving birth when she looks at me it feels like she is saying I could have done better. Prior to having kids she gave me 10 years of awesome so in my opinion post-pregnancy hormones (postpartum depression) destroyed our relationship. I'm just a typical married man hanging on because of the phrase: It's Cheaper to Keep Her. An emotionally unstable woman can take all the joy out of a man's life.
That sucks but you can still mentally check out. Yeah she’s your wife but if she’s disrespectful toward you, don’t go out of your way for her. Put yourself before her from now on, don’t give her gifts or be too available. If she’s not really committing to the marriage, you should do the same
Im legitimately sad for you man, thats absolutely horrible she betrayed you, you deserve better!
X10
I am sure it's all her and you are just an innocent victim..
OMG! So sad, and yes, 3 things, hormonal issues, gut health and a healthy expanding social life really affect a woman, particularly seeing as we're subject to 28 day hormonal cycles. I find it frustrating that Drs do little to sensibly discuss or tackle these issues. As women age they require bio-identical hormonal supplementation, especially of oestrogen. The high link between HRT and breast cancer was simply another sensationalist media beat up. Wild yam cream, oestrogen pessaries, progesterone supplementation for healthy bones, in fact, all round vitamin and mineral supplementation to counter pesticide ridden, soil depleted food, no seed oils, or pesticide sprayed wheat (as easily disrupt endocrine system). Also, the latest research shows that oestrogen supplementation greatly reduces the risk of some minor health issues like heart attack, and stroke, and can keep women living 10 years longer. Oh, and hypnosis as well as counselling. Research on Youtubiversity, could save your relationship, all best there 👍
Men find out how loyal their woman is when they are broke and destitute, women find out how loyal their man is when they are super successful and have lots of money.
That's brilliant and so true, I assume someone has said it... is it a quote or your own?
Poor men cheat everyday and being broke isn’t sustainable in a relationship. If you don’t have money, you can’t afford to be in a relationship. It’s simple.
@@stephen-wahl That's just a red pill saying.
Nope, I know men that make well into the six figures that can’t get a date. For men, it’s about looks AND money. Not one exclusive of the other
@@Ferien7 This is an excellent turn of events. It means that women are rarely interested in dating no matter what a man offers. Keep those high standards, ladies. Women these days don't seem to consider the hassles of dealing with males worth it unless they've really got something to offer. We are centering ourselves and living for ourselves. Ladies, keeps it up!!! Walk away from dating. Let the males be alone. We will enjoy each other and our children. Our mothers, sisters, friends, girl cousins, and our little ones are fulfilling our social needs. Yessss!!!!!
As soon as I heard the phrase "social media" in 2007 and Facebook I knew it was going to make people more anti social and seperate them more than bring them together. And now hear we are.
Yeah you totally knew, like Houdini
Asocial .. yeah I realized a few years back just how asocial and lazy social media makes me. I can only imagine how it is for younger people that grew up with it
@@TV-oc4ml
I think you mean Nostradamus, Chief.
Yup, also knew it was the beginning of the end in 2008 here in europe. Was baffled that people had no problem putting pictures of them on the internet and giving up their privacy
@@TV-oc4ml a lot of people were predicting it because they were just combining their knowledge of human nature with an emerging technology.
It's not that genius of a prediction, and I don't see why the commenter would be "making it up". I was in high school in 2007 and plenty of articles and commenters and people were saying that it's going to ruin a lot of regular society.
Just because some people are now saying "I told you so," it doesn't mean that in 2007 they had no idea how destructive social media could be and they're lying.
A lot of people literally said that in 2007, and people I know in my family have said Facebook is an idiotic platform to waste time on, and that it will lead to misinformation.
That was since 2010.
Half the married men sleep alone and never get sex. So think of that before you marry. Do you want to end up in a divorce?
you cant quantify that. i dont disagree, sex in marriages DOES decline but it goes in and out in phases. its what you get when you agree to only f*ck one person for the next 40-50 yrs.
so my pitch is dont get married unless you can be OK with NEVER HAVING A NEW WOMAN AGAIN.
which is why i never got married cuz i cant.
Let's be fair... when these ''married men'' work hard at work AND help their working! wives with kids and chores + at least occasionally help their parents or other family members, then 'sleeping alone' must surely be a luxury rather than anything else ;)) (I know... it's hard to grasp, for singletons who take sex for granted and basically as the only or top value, in their relationships...)
@tobiMelka you can't speak for what all single people hold important in their relationships
@tobiMelka sex becomes less important and less frequent due to the length of a relationship not what kind it is
@@robi6317 I am sorry, for you and everybody who thinks the ''length of relationship'' does that... {not kidding ;}
ps: not all, just for those I described...
Get this. Men need to work harder, earn more, hit the gym more, be better in every single way...
To then get turned down by obese women with multiple kids by different men (this has happened to me multiple times too), with bad or dismissive attitudes.We're in crazy land now literally!
I've got a house, good savings etc, average looking but in good shape. Can't get a date pretty much. I'm only after short term relationships really. Why would I risk my situation for an most likely unsuccessful long term relationship, the collapse of which could lead to financial ruin?. It's high risk & low reward for me ...& women have tons of options. I'd be seen as a mark to be exploited pretty much.
A long term relationship with a good woman who's average looking is a relic of a bygone era...like a coal miner yearning for the mine still to be open, when everyone had a good full-time job & the community was booming. It's over for most men. We need to stop chasing the past & accept this new Instagram reality. The genie isn't going back in the bottle. Long term relationships are pretty much doomed for the vast majority of men.
Straight from the heart, Travis. Lot of painful truth to what you said. Grab the passport. Vietnam, Indonesia, Thailand, Philippines. Check them out. Stay strong, bro.
100% truth!
Yup u have to be around women when they get horny. Then pretty much get used for sex. Then rinse and repeat. That gets boring too. Women get hurt they get attached to them that same process is a roller coaster the truth is the modern women is by 20 years ago standards the modern “hoe” feel bad for the guys that put a ring in those creature’s fingers
Do you see the things you listed?
You have a house, savings, and are in average shape.
You basically listed nothing of value that most other men already have.
@@Corgiking521how do you reach that conclusion? 🤔
Most men in the US & the western world don't own their own property & are obese. Also, most men don't have the savings to cover a $1000 unexpected bill / would be homeless if they were made redundant & couldn't find a new job within 2 months. Those are facts. That puts me comfortably better than average financially.
Also, I'm comfortably better than average shape.
On the surface though, my financial situation isn't recognised by the wider world, as mine is paid for, wheres most other peoples situation is serviced my mountains of debt.
I’m so glad I got married at 20, part way thru nursing school. Married recent grad 22 yr old from Penn , in 1975.
We built a life together while married. I never had an expectation except a person have good character.
Ummm... Then, you are not one of the women being discussed in this video.
Excellent, happy for you👏
Yeah but I bet you’re overweight
A very very different time compared to now. Like comparing apples and orangutans.
Dear Kathie,
When cheated did you feel any guilt or remorse?
We can never talk about men's issues on their own terms, can we? The discussion can take place only in the context of the effects on women. "Men are committing suicide at an unprecedented rate; women hit hardest."
Men just can't leave women alone even though they think them (women) lesser than them
@@stophittingyourself123 I find it hard to believe that women are lesser because it appears men collapse when women leave the building. Hardly "lesser in terms of logical reasoning and holding the standard of societies". Whatever "holding the standard of societies" means. Women rule the world, whatever you all think. We are the ones who decide whether s*x takes place or not. That is why you have religion taking away that power and giving it to men through their gods.
He’s an academic. They’re all brainwashed by a female centric education system
@@the8thchurch461because women are still taking from men more than they give back. Of couese we shouldnt leave them alone happy with their wants.
Right? This is so disgusting
Notice how he frames the top 10% men’s behavior as bad behavior, but never says that about women and hypergamy
I see what you're saying but if you think about it, it actually makes sense why women want what they want. Being attracted to someone who can provide and protect is something that is in our blood we can't help that. And it's related to survival. But what these men are doing just using women and sleeping around and they are only looking for sexy hott girls which has nothing to do with survival or if she's showing you wife or mother of your children qualities is completely different.
Well, that's because it has been like that since time eternal. He explained the evolutionary aspects that women have to act like that to survive. However, a top 10% guy can choose to invest in only one family and take care of it instead of dating 100+ women. If he gives them hope that they can marry such a guys, then they will be less likely to settle down with a top 30% guy. It is an oversimplification to say that only feminism, hypergamy or female dating strategies are to blame. The whole thing is a social dilemma. If everyone tries to maximize their own situation and happiness, we will end up in a society where the most are the least happy.
@@MrClebophd "Evolutionary aspects that cause women to behave this way to survive." But that's not the case anymore! Women can walk around most places wearing practically nothing with their guard completely lowered. They don't need to be protected from men and beasts, and the very behavior you're defending has led us to the brink of population collapse - completely counterproductive to evolution!
He is a leftist and cannot blame women. Many times he went out of his way to excuse women's behavior and denigrate men.
There is an evolutionary aspect to men to have as many offspring as possible, your explanation doesn’t make sense
I feel that the US is facing a crisis of a lost generation of men bowing out of dating and giving up hope of marriage and children because of the disgusting and demoralizing situation in our economics and status wars. We are in the age of American Hikikomori.
It's not worth it anymore. I used to hold women on a pedestal. But after years of trying to date women, I now see that they are no better than petulant children. They are like spoiled kids who expect you to do everything for them
I've never visited the US but I read about it a lot and it almost seems apocalyptic. Where I'm based in the UK, things are not quite as bad but they are definitely getting worse. I'm not a bad looking guy and I'm very well educated and successful. I look good in photos - better in fact, than real life - which should count in my favour on dating apps. But I have never matched with a woman on an app who is my intellectual and social equal. I've dated several who are, including my (now ex-) wife, but I met them all in real life, not on Hinge.
For a while I thought this was a matter of age - as we get older, the pool of viable mates gets smaller - but the more I read about divorce rates and loneliness, the more I think it's the deranged logic of social media that is the cause of my and other people's woes. I think a large number of women are deluded into thinking they can bag a top 10% guy even if they're in the bottom half of their own sex. On many measures, I would be considered top 10% - the only major shortcoming I have is that I'm going bald, but in every other domain, from looks to fitness to intelligence and height (I'm just under 6 foot) I score high - but I find it very difficult to match with someone who simply interests me, let alone excites me. I get lots of single mothers, some of whom don't want kids but match with me even though I specifically state I do, and a handful of women who are, to be blunt, not in my league.
It's the same or even worse in Europe and SE Asia
You left out the fact that women of all ages who do online prostitution and/or the younger ones that have a body count similar to a s3x worker. They are not the same people that our society tells us are quality partners
The economy is only one issue.
The correct answer is to stop teaching our children that life is a fairytale and that prince charming isn't coming to sweep you off your feet and make your life perfect. We should be teaching them that life is difficult and you aren't going to get everything you work for. So you need to prioritize the important things and if you get the bonus things that just a bonus. We also need to teach everyone that happiness is your personal problem, if you want to be happy you have to make yourself happy. Too many people rely on their partners for their happiness.
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Good message. Far better than most I’m seeing here
Same with men wanting women for their happiness in these comments, lol.
I would argue it isn't 'happiness' - it is fulfillment. And you're fulfilled by working hard. Struggling. You cannot be happy all the time. That relationship is going to take the wind out of your sails (maybe more often than not) and what are you going to do when is does? Give up? Or work at it?
Yeah about that...Men make life easy for women they are attracted too. Relationships shouldn't be that hard. Women shouldn't be working overtime and also do all the house work and child rearing. If you aren't getting something from working hard then you are doing something wrong. You are pretty much a slave. If happiness is a personal problem then why is the "lonely men epidemic" all of a sudden everyone's problem?
I really feel that, if you are single and looking for a partner, you should do everything you can to meet a variety of new potential partners in person (and not online). The reason I say this is there are so many wonderful people who don't appear as wonderful when seen on a screen. You don't see a person's real personality or potential until you've spent time with them. Also, your "criteria" for who you want to be with changes as you meet and interact with others. Dating or spending time with a variety of people (even those who don't fit your current standards) really allows you to understand what makes you happy in a partner...that criteria changes with time and experiences.
Great advise!
This is why I recommend that if you get anxious the best way to approach a woman is to literally give her a compliment and walk away. If she chases after you she is interested if she doesn’t then no. It worked for me a couple of times and by no means am I super attractive. I am a calm 7 at least to me. The only women who come to me directly and are supper flirty are women 24+. Women that are 22 are attracted to me but do not come to me at all. My dad told me the reason is that you give off a serious vibe and what happens is girls my age do not like that at all. Meanwhile older women do. Come to think of it now it makes sense.
probably yhe best advice here. thro away the laundry list. go out and live and see whats there.
lmao a joo
What REFRESHING advice! (Frankly, I DON'T do online dating--so, it's nice to hear your perspective. Thanks for the validation!
Im 60, in the best shape of my life, have a good job, my own place decent car. After years of failed relationships and a marriage im single and i love it. No dating sites, no chasing women, do what i want when i want buy whatever i want. Done with the whole dating and relationship world and im happier than i ever was when i was in a relationship.
More and more men are realizing this. Marriages and societies only work long term if men have authority over women.
sounds like you have no relationship skills, could that be the problem? Noooooo of course not
@@onecompass7290 men aren't supposed to have relationship skills. Our skill is deciding what should be done. Women are supposed to follow that.
@@onecompass7290 you angry he is happy?
glad you found your freedom. I hope your ex didn't put you through the cleaners.
I heard Sadia Khan say something that resonated with me as a 33 year old with no family but financial success so far. Life begins to feel like a slow suicide.
jesus Christ mate. You are still young as for a man. Play the long game and dont worry about your "feelings" so much, your future family will thank you for pushing on.
You've got money but you're thinking about suicide because you don't have a family. Be careful what you wish for!
The problem with life is essentially all of its most interesting content is frontloaded into its first trimester (the first 25 years). There's a reason people eventually want to partner up and procreate because just going to and from work to an empty house or apartment with a TV, Laptop, and frozen dinner filled kitchen gets old after a few years.
For God's sake, don't get your information from Sadia Khan! She constantly insults men and says incredibly harmful insults at them. Most guys are simping for her because she has pretty face. Don't be fooled by her.
@@johnnastrom9400agreed...I honestly can't stand a bunch of these "red pill" creators. They say a bunch of BS with confidence and people buy into it because that's what confidence does. It make people believe whatever you say. I don't mean it's all BS but none of these people have shown why they're worth listening to. Those Fresh & Fit guys are a couple of jokes too
I missed the part about people being completely obnoxious and awful to be around.
Exactly.
A woman I was seeing casually said "men are trash," and she thought I was way out of line for having a problem with her saying that.
Well there is that lol
@@unnecessaryapostrophe4047avoid women and people in general like that. Thats her belief so her actions will move in order to make that belief true
@@unnecessaryapostrophe4047 Tbh that's not a problem actually. It helps us to avoid misandrists. It would be better if women expressed their thoughts openly.
Some of us are just ugly. Facial ugliness is the primary predictor of dating success for both men and women. This has been incredibly well researched. People who get lots of dates easily are more physically attractive. But that makes for a depressing story...
People want their romantic lives to be a mythology, so they come up with this narrative that men go out there, accomplish a list of things, and women become attracted to them. We make a gigantic number of books and movies repeating this narrative and eventually people think it's real. To the extent that people notice the superficiality within themselves they feel it must be unique - that there must be tons of people out there that are more attracted to behavior. But there aren't. We are all strikingly similar in what we want. Certainly people care about behavior, but that comes later on in a relationship.
Finally some truth in the comments height and looks are number one there is no negotiating this there is no gym for your face or your height all these three or fours are trying to bag a Chad or a Brad it's always been this way it used to be a caveman Brad or Chad
Love a fresh cup of BLACK PILL in the morning ☕️☕️
Damn I'm reading this thread, I'm going through your comment now you are so on the money you're practically a genius. I want to see some more on this topic because I'm afraid it sounds all to Drew and pretty much the key to it all. Good job let's start a channel exploring this topic considering everything else is just exploring the ancillary and symptoms that make great titles for books, but none of it actually gets to the core of the matter. My interest also is I have wondered can we be rewired? I mean at some point we will have a different concept or will feel differently about what was once considered maybe physically unattractive? We might need to be hardwired but at what point will we change the traction to certain characteristics that aren't really that important anymore, such as having a man that's taller and bigger and can defend you excetera excetera. However clearly being more attractive, and having the stature of what is considered the idealism of a man, the data certainly confirms that attractive people also make more money so is it just some self-perpetuating reinforcing feedback loop? We won't change? It sure will be interesting when we won't actually need physical contact with other people to have well somewhat satisfying sexual encounters or fantasies excetera
@@tonydiesel3444 I haven't seen a study taking height into account - mainly attractiveness. I imagine height has a significant influence once the man gets shorter than the average woman. But my general impression has been that short men with attractive faces do much better than tall men with ugly faces.
I'd personally rather have a better looking face and be only 5 foot 7. But my face is extremely unattractive so I'm biased.
That male achievement narrative perhaps meant something in the 20th century, now it's just a Boomer relic. I don't know why anyone sees this Galloway as an oracle, his views are totally out of date. Face and height are everything. Lower class or ethnic women view high IQ males as weird and threatening.
As a senior, I’m surprised that so many older women, well past their own prime, are still expecting to be wined and dined like they’re 22 years old.
The attitude is where things turn sour. I’m sure there’s plenty of men out there who would gladly take an older woman out for a nice dine and wine, if that woman were gracious. I know there’s plenty of classy older ladies that would be deserving of that treatment, and plenty of classy older men that deserve to be treated with respect and care in turn. As a young woman, I’m taking on the mistakes of the older generations seriously, and learning from them.
Because there have a teenage mind and a early 20s dating ideas
Putting effort on a date is the bare minimum.
What’s wrong in that you are a lady no matter the age
@@deepalakshmi5890 read his statement, he said 'like they're 22 years old' If you're in your 30's or 40's or up then the chances that you can could build a relationship (if both wanted to) is low because everyone is too rigid, too much baggage, too complex, to many sharp edges to cut each other one. You're not blank slates that can meld together, start a life and grow together into one unit.
If you end up dating at those ages, you have to accept that it's not going to be for happily ever after, that ship has sailed. If he wants a family he has to go younger (or sign up to be or be with a step parent which is the worst of all possible worlds). If he wants something to last forever it's just not that easy to grow into a life together when you're both already fully formed.
You need to look for something different, and something different is approached differently.
40 % of American women are obese 70 % are overweight but they deserve high value men. STAGGERING DELUSION ON the part of Galloway !
@@P.90.603 That's idealistic plus your avoiding Galloways claim men can't get women when in reality men don't want alot of them...
Aren’t the stats similar for men on obesity and being overweight
@@gm9460 no the average American man weight 180, woman 160. Over 20 years mens weight has stayed the same and womens has jumped 20lbs
@@bk_c7704 This isn't true. You are not collecting your information from a reputable source. (I guess you probably didn't think a published researcher in Public Health from a world-renowned research university would be in the comments section, did you? 🙃)
Americans as a whole tend to be overweight. While women, as a whole, tend to have higher percentages on the overweight scale, American men aren't very far behind.
Essentially, you are like the 400 lbs person calling the 425 lbs person fat, not realizing that you're BOTH in the same sinking ship; yours is just sinking at a slower, but still definite, rate. 🫠
You mean like how MOST American men are average earners yet still want/expect to date an attractive woman? 🫠
Or how MOST American men are average earning men who cannot single-handedly financially support a family/household, but will turn their nose up at an overweight woman? 🙃
Find a good guy by:
Establishing your make or break life values and make sure the man lines up with those. (Don’t have superficial values).
Learn about what unhealthy personality traits are vs healthy ones.
Know your partners flaws or quirks ahead of time, and make a commitment to accept them and not try to change the person if you’re going to commit to them.
Choose A NICE/KIND/PATIENT GUY!
Don’t allow little things to bother you. If they do bother you - get therapy!
Be willing to be wrong. (If you always have to be right, you’ll never have a truly happy relationship).
Also:
I found prayer to work (praying for God to bring you the right person and to give you the ability to recognize that person). It brought me the most amazing man in the world!
Amen sis I just been fasting and praying for direction for a longtime now. I guess one day He’ll speak to me
You lost me at the prayer bit.
Prayer does nothing. It's a coping mechanism for stress, that's it.
It's out of your hands & in someone else's. It's to offload the task from your brain instead if thinking about it. That's why most people pray at night before bed.
Meditation & knowing some things are out of your control, like finding the perfect person. They accomplish the same thing.
This is the best advice in the comment section 👏
Aside from the prayer part, this sounds like good advice for everyone, not just women. Notice that there is NOTHING here about appearances or income!
Before l met my partner.
I tried on line dating!
Thankfully now, never again.
I met a lady off a dating site in a bar.
And we got on ok, the conversation was flowing.
But there wasn't that romantic spark for me.
Anyway, end of the date.
As we prepared to leave. This lady said to me.
"Well Paul it's been lovely talking to you, but l'm looking for someone a little more professional than you!"
Exactly.
You can imagine what l was thinking at that point.
What a dreadful and cold individual that was.
Absolutely zero chance of meeting someone with that mind set.
The thing is as well.
How does one determine professional?
I was just happy to drive out of the car park in my 72 plate Merc.
And l also run a property conversion company, own house.
Interesting watching this after my experience.
women do this all the time, it's a head trip they have, that women will always be trying to trade up till she hits the wall
It's called power. Imagine being told that everyone wants you. You start to believe it and giving an average person that kind of power will result in the gender wars we see today
Can't stand this attitude, looked down upon because you don't work in an office or are 'professional'. I'm a carpenter, work in a cabinet shop making custom kitchen etc. I dress down to go to work, t shirt etc, for obvious reasons. Ladies often think that because of my profession I'm not educated, cosmopolitan etc. Well ladies,I also am well traveled, speak several langues, in good shape and have many interests. All of my girlfriends have been foreign as American women have a checklist a mile long that can never be satisfied.
Future cat ladies 😅
Even if she did deem you "professional" enough, she would have likely found another reason to reject you. Not tall enough, not fun enough, not fit enough, not witty enough. A woman's checklist is endless. You're better off doing your own thing and going your own way. Life is easier when you do. I enjoy my cars, my motorbike and my outdoor hobbies. That's all I need.
@@John_Caravella women are selective by nature. All female species are selective with some exceptions. The issue is that most women now enjoy the power dynamic and get off on rejecting men that are higher SMV than themselves. Imagine being a 6 as a woman and a tall, fit, wealthy handsome charismatic man is making an offer snd allowing himself to ve interviewed. That's like having a superpower. This is why the most successful men (mating) have nothing to offer these women but sex.
Feminism also has done a lot of damage in lying to women and making them believe they don’t need a man 🤦🏻♀️
from seed comes earth & Seed, hence seed is man! hence forth women needs men! Men DONT need women!
And even worse that there will always be good choices in men available no matter how long they wait. There won't be, for a bunch of different and very real reasons. People need to couple up young, stick together for the family while they're still pliable enough to grow into each other. I married at 25 and I was ALMOST a lost cause. I was already far too inflexible and unwilling to give up the life I'd built (with every thing I liked and only things I liked in it) for myself.
This is the nasty part women aren't told. Mate selection preferences means they age like milk and men age like wine. It's just that by the time the wine has aged enough it has many more choices. And honestly it may be impossible to do anything but just enjoy for what it is since the male is so rigid by the time he's 'made it'.
I'm a 64 year old male so I've been around the block and I'm telling you this is one smart guy.
So if men have a problem, they need to improve themselves.
If women have a problem, society needs to solve it!
As he said, he has to ask everyone he interviews what is the solution to his fem a le friends problem.
That’s always the way. Along with “men have a problem - women most affected”
Women totally work on themselves thr time spent on appearance, studying etc is crazy
@@meglarson9401Not all. Many women are overweight single moms with kids from different guys and still want a 6ft+ tall handsome guy who earns in 6 figures
I once knew a woman who was eternally single. She wanted a good man, a christian man, wanted kids (she was getting old but adoption was fine), loved music and maybe going to concerts. So far so good? AND he had to be a fan of the old Tarzan movies. That was NON-NEGOTIABLE. AND, he had to like the same Tarzan actor she liked, of the countless actors who played the role. She refused to be with someone who liked any other actor in the role ........................ She was also unable to find a guy who had ever seen a single Tarzan movie, and she declared they were uncultured and why oh why couldn't she find love? She has numerous cats now, cause obviously there were no good men and they were the problem.
Meow!😅
That’s a pretty bizarre nonnegotiable. No wonder she now just has cats
I am sorry to tell this about your friend, but I think she should seek for mental health care, before finding herself a man.
Okay. Do you hang out with mental patients often in your free time? Usually we just treat them as stupid and go on our merry way
@joelt1002 hey I'm a Johnny Weismeller fan myself. I even say ungawa every now and again lmbao. I used to love seeing the old king of the jungle grab a dugout and capsize it drowning the idiots in the boat. What kind of fools would get in a boat knowing none of them could swim! Ungawa!!!
I’m with the airline pilot in this thread. I have a master’s degree from a top ten university, I own my own home in a great neighborhood and I have great kids and a great extended family. To me it’s pretty simple - American men are taken for granted. I speak Spanish and spend a lot of my time in Colombia - but I could go to half the countries in the world and be appreciated more than I am here. Also worth noting, American men commit suicide at 3 times the rate women do. Access to firearms is part of it, but why isn’t this talked about. American men are still some of the best men in the world.
100% true. Western men are not only the best-treating of women, we're the only viable option Western women really have. If they continue playing with fire and let this all go too far... Passport bros will become the norm. And no one wants a western woman; it's not like they can just get a passport and find alternatives the way men can. Unfortunately I think this might all blow up in womens' face. It's sad because Western women are the best fit for Western men... But not in their current form.
But that's only because you have money. Women from other countries would ignore you too if you didn't have anything to give.
@@fluffyg3137 Have you ever spent time in other countries and met women there? Most women in other countries are looking for a mate who's a decent guy, treats them well, who's employable and can adapt reasonably well enough to their culture so there's not friction with friends and family. An average looking guy with an average income in the US is considered a prize in many other parts of the planet. That's one reason why many of us who have traveled extensively overseas prefer foreign born women, and are getting to the point where we would prefer to live overseas with a native woman than deal with any woman from the US.
Man you are echoing my sentiment and experience so much. Great job, speak Spanish (also currently learning salsa), well put together, with good hobbies. My main knocks on me being 5'8" and bald (and I guess owning a home depending on who you ask).
What I loved about Colombia was that there were no games when it came to sexual interest. They would stare and smile at me so long that I would start to feel uncomfortable by NOT approaching them. You're allowed to be a man there. And they are just so pleasant and enjoyable to engage with, even with the language barrier.
I feel like a jester in America, expected to entertain women who grade me on my performance and discuss with their colleagues, all while actively looking for reasons to reject me. It's a comedy without the laugh track.
I'm six foot, six figures, in good shape. Driven, motivated, healthy, unaddicted, all that good stuff.
I find dates rarely and when i do it seems like the same cookie cutter woman who spends all her free time on tiktok, drinking with her friends or watching bullshit on tv.
What's the point in engaging?
@@P.90.603True. But even the good looking ones only get so far. Even Michael B Jordan wasn't able to keep a literal nobody. Aging daughter of a washed up celebrity and she thought she was too good for HIM. Being good looking, tall, built, rich, and famous is no longer enough. Same with Tom Brady. If they can't keep aging average women happy, what on earth is the point in trying?
Your social skills are apparently deficient. Spend more time on personal one on one interaction with women. You CAN learn. There are plenty of women out there today even on youtube, teaching men how to socialize with women. Start with Leil Lowndes' U.S.S. book, which even has pictures that will show you how women behave when they are interested in you. NO, they will never tell you. It's all unspoken body language, but learn it, memorize it, and you can cut your losses by over 90%. Because if a woman is attractive at all, she's about that likely to already have a boyfriend or husband.
You can even learn how to get out of the friend zone, and 'steal' women from their boyfriends. Everyone get's complacent in relationships; if you can find a woman whose man is taking her for granted, you can carefully move in and make her see that, all the while being the available, interesting, fun guy who she sees going out a lot having a great time wherever he goes. You can do it, but it's not going to find you, YOU have to find the skills and practice, practice, practice until it's second nature. See all those guys who have women all the time? THEY know how to do it. You can learn, too. And once you do, you will have a woman whenever you want one. I'm not good looking. I'm not rich. I'm not famous. But reading everything I could about how to behave, watching the guys who are good at it, and I managed to break out of my 'friend zone'.
Now, first huge tip: You don't ask them out for dates. You mention that you are going somewhere interesting/exciting, and if she'd like to come with you. A turn down isn't a refusal; she may already have plans.
NOW, GO ANYWAY. Make sure you get a picture of yourself with people you meet wherever you are going, make sure you are all smiling. It shows you are fun to be with. It's called social proof; that other people like you, and maybe she will too. So if she doesn't want to go, you go anyway. Next time you see her (in a week or so), you tell her what a great time she missed. You have the pictures of your adventures as evidence of what she missed.
Don't get stuck on wanting one woman. Want them all. Treat them all the same way. Be NICE. No, women don't dislke nice men. They LOVE nice men. But too many 'nice guys' make the woman make decisions. Women don't like to make decisions. They want a man to lead the relationship, and pay attention so you know if she's unhappy. So you can change what you're doing next time.
Good luck.
Maybe something is wrong with your taste? Or how you choose dates? Or where you look for them?
@@birthdaymohnatyj3044 Are going to the right venues to find the better dates?
@@birthdaymohnatyj3044 yes, tell us more about how its his fault, he should "just" find better women yes? just like how the girls getting pumped and dumped on tinder should stop whinning and "just" find better men
People are not going to find love today, for the simple reason that they don't actually know what love is. If you really love someone (and this goes for both genders), you will respect them, make sacrifices for them, make their dreams yours, and love them for who they are. If you really love them, there will be no 'laundry list', no 'type', no expectation. The person you love will be a surprise, a revelation, an amazement - not what you could have predicted. Your heart will be wide open, not full of petty judgement and criticism. Your life will change and derive a meaning you never knew existed. Today's pampered narcissists have no clue, because it is all about them - their needs, their goals, their 'perfect life'. Real love doesn't work like that; it comes when you least expect it, sneakily, without stars or promises, but with total commitment, the impossibility of even looking at someone else, and the will to become a better human. I can't imagine the angry, cynical, judgemental, cruel people out there would have an inkling of what I am talking about. No, they will not find love, especially not when hunting for it, since it never comes when called... 😉
That's beautiful.
when does it come then? I'm genuiely asking
100 percent facts
Helped me alot reading this thank you
Alot of guys have gone through the whole dating, romance, marriage, disinterest, dislike, breakup and divorce settlement poverty cycle to know that the risk sometimes simply isn't worth it. Sometimes even going through the whole cycle more than once.
Maybe modern life simply isn't suited to a long term relationship and neither women nor men shouldn't be guilted into one.
Yes. The current model of marriage seems a historical outlier, but is now held sacrosanct. We are living with a broken model, no wonder there is so much confusion.
deep
@@apergiel The only reason it's like this is because of female overempowerment and no-fault divorce laws. Fix those and these problems will go away very quickly.
It's a Brave New World.
Dinosaurs became extinct because the environment didn't allow for their survival. Same with relationships. They can't be cultivated or survive in the current environment
Women rating each other as a 10 is a big part of the issue.
@jbennison5672
Women have multiple conversations when talking. Things they can say out loud, things they can say to family, friends, the other gender, etc.
ITS HER!
She’s not what men want. She is unqualified for the men she wants and she’s not what those men want.
#BelieveAllWomen
Body count doesn't help either
But wait all women are all 10/10s who are never settling and only need to know there worths, how dare you suggest that a women isn’t owned a relationship with a top guy even when we women constantly yell at guys that they aren’t owned a relationship at all.
@@AllBladesCut oh you’re right I forgot, they’re all 10s 🤣
I'm married with a kid, but hearing shit like this still depresses me.
I am happily married for 32 years and it also gets me depressed - mainly for today's young men and the shitty situation they face with today's young women. The fact that most of them will never be able to marry an attractive woman with a low body count like I did is so sad.
@@RonHarrisMuscle ok incel
Get in line m8
I'm good looking but only 5'7" hard working decent shape welder going through some things right now was chasing a taller women that I liked alot have had a few pretty girlfriends but I think I've not looked at inner beauty enough but have been alone for alot of my life would love to have these opportunities like you guys but think it may never happen at this point about to turn 40 no kids. I think we've all become alot more shallow with social media an failed to look deeper into people to see their true beauty
I hope my lovely gal/women/lady/girl friends who are looking for male companionship will read and understand this--PLEASE don't stop being the great gal pal you were/are at the beginning of the relationship. ALL of my male friends say that this is the first thing that dissolves. I've noticed it too. I'm happily married now and I will attest that maintaining the FRIENDSHIP was what has allowed us to endure. Best of luck.
This is so true. Unfortunately it is the joint responsibilities of home and family that starts to take the fun out of things. And when men expect women to take care of those, or don't appreciate when she does, the friendship suffers. I mean, we don't expect our friends to run around after us like a servant. And for those suggesting that men pay the bills - well by far women go out and earn to pay the bills as well.
I thought men didn't want to be friends with women?
@@inspectortiddles Good points. Yeah we can all fall prey to taking our mate buddy for granted, particularly in ways we wouldn't do with other friends. Gotta be on the look out for that.
@@gemmeldrakes2758 Some don't. But I've always enjoyed female friendships. Friendships with women present similar challenges and rewards that friendships with men have. I grew up with 3 sisters and was close to a female cousin, aunt and grandmother (as well as a sweet fun mom) so it may be that I got a nice set of associations early on. But straight up, just as I don't like toxic dudes, I don't like toxic women. In my career as a musician I've generally gotten along with women at the same rate as I do men.
I remember thinking that my standards were way too high at one point.
I wanted a kind and caring man (preferably Catholic like me) who wanted children and would treat us right (no abuse, no cheating).
But I had so much trouble getting dates that I feared something was wrong with my standards.
When I was talking to my (now late) fiancé about it, he was quiet for a moment and then said “They’re not too high. If anything, they’re a baseline.”
I found and married my best mate when I cut the BS and advertised my expectations openly. My generation (X) treats women like they're extensions of the men they're with. I rejected that in my own life.
Love this. I’m in my 50’s. One of the biggest problems is young kids sleeping around too much. It messes up your spirit. No wonder you can’t make good decisions.
True, yet you won't get too many votes.
"I'm a man, I can afford that, I'm built different."
Wait and see. Just wait and see. Solomon, past 1,000 women asked himself some deep, hard questions.
@@szilardfineascovasa6144King Solomon knew a thing or two because he f**ked up a thing or two.
Firm believer in that. I attracted plenty of girls my age at 22 and realized that most of them do not want to commit. Then when I am outside of school I notice older women 24+ are way more direct and flirty with me. I was low key creeped out and asked my dad about it. He told me he experienced the same thing when he was younger. So I am just confused. It is whatever though we keep it moving. Still a virgin and that is because of faith reasons.
@@szilardfineascovasa6144 totally agree. Like King David, all them concubines but had to have Bathsheba.
@@christianrodriguez5346 virginity is underrated. I waited till I was married at 27 and have no regrets.
I often hear this argument on podcasts "if you want to continue to be with me, you have to have your sh¡t together." HOWEVER, being one of those rare men in this world that actually knows other men in real life, i find this argument null and void. What I've seen on more occasions than i can even remember is this... the woman wouldn't even give the guy a chance if he doesn't already have what she's looking for - OR - she'll "see" other men until he can procure what she wants him to procure. In which case, she claims that she'll stop "seeing" other men. Look, I'm not a player in this game, BUT I am blue collar and work with mostly men. This scenario I just mentioned is more common than you would think. I don't blame these guys for being upset and not wanting to participate when the woman they want is giving herself to other men until he can obtain what she wants him to obtain. And only then will she stop "dating" other men. I don't understand what's going on these days. My own son is a teenager and I'm finding it increasingly difficult to help him through his obstacles with the opposite sex because i literally never seen or experienced most of the situations he's going through. It's crazy out there these days.
As the saying goes "Modern women wait at the finish line and pick the winners"
Women no longer want to be with men at the beginning and go through the entire journey together.
@@asdf-fl1ib That is truly unfortunate because I think that's how the truest and most pure bonds are built.
Here is some advice. It is not the woman he wants. It is the woman he deserves. Once he worked on himself and is only focused on himself the women come to him overtime naturally. I am not struggling attracting women, I am only struggling finding the right one for me. For example, at 22 I attract plenty of women my age but none want to commit cause most of them want to play and have fun with guys. Tell him to ignore these girls. I attracted women 24 and older and all I am is just physically fit not buff, serious, mature, and quiet. Just tell him to take it slow. Please also do not chase them he will only waste his time with these girls. Just tell him to live his life and improve as he gets older. They come to him over time. All he has to do is pick right and not just any girl either
"I'm not willing to drop my standards."
That's the answer. She admitted to the 80/20 rule. I guarantee you she's only looking at the top 10% of "alpha men" and ignoring everyone else. And considering that most women age 20-45 are looking at the same 10% of alpha men, why on earth would those alpha men bother with anyone over 30 years old?
Everyone has choice
@@roshinitoenlightenment i sincerely hope you never learn what it's like to be disabled.
All those women are not searching for the top 10% of men, most of them don't want any man. That is the competition facing most men.
So tired of this alpha crap. How about just men who are not a Grinch, can maintain a conversation and can cleanup after themselves? That is Alpha male in my book
@@windycity301 All that Alpha stuff is horseshit. We should be who we genuinely are, while having some integrity in the right areas. We don't have to be some "alpha male" to not be a pushover. Just stand for what's right when appropriate.
I have a six figure job, in decent shape, taught at Harvard, masters from MIT, speak 3+ languages. Have my own 2 bedroom 2 bath apartment. Being 5'7" and not having a car eliminates all possibility of romantic connection.
The environment is tough, but don't be a defeatist. Worst case scenario, import a wife
Wow. That's ridiculous.
get a car!
@@RubensScassiotti Yeah, anyone with a 6 figure income can get a car. Women like guys who are self-reliant and a guy not having a car FEELS like someone who is not self-reliant.
What? I would certainly let you date me.
I've known several guys who screwed up their lives by making women pregnant, and then having to pay child support. Opportunities lost, money lost, time lost, sad. Delayed retirement, one guy couldn't go into business for himself, because he had to pay for health insurance for his kids, etc. Of course, that goes double for the women they impregnated.
This is what happens when you try to prove your masculinity or manhood through sexual prowess.
Meh they chose to have seggs😂
If abortion is banned in the US, this will be an even bigger problem.
Sounds like a gift to have those kids and to not focus on one’s career (or retire younger). The guy you refer to is blessed to be in this situation.
it's also their kids. actions have consequences
As a guy who's only 5'6, it's over for me. It's actually been over for me for a very, VERY long time. It also didn't exactly help that my mother emasculated me (she still does to a certain extent) My father who passed away years ago was to all intents and purposes a loser who never made more than around 35k a year while supporting a family that he chose to make. He would berate me on my schoolwork and grades meanwhile he's the one with the college degree and he never did shit with it. So yeah all in all, two far from great parental role models who seriously hampered my social development especially when it comes to attracting the opposite sex. So I'll order an escort from time to time and that's about it
Don't blame your parents for the absence of your own "success" , your life is in your own hands not theirs, God bless you
@@Jovan-r6y Exactly. Blaming his parents for being lazy is the biggest cope I've heard this year. There is no excuse for someone in a first world country to be complaining about not finding a nice girl and finding success in his life.
Sounds crummy for you, but don't give up on yourself. Find "surrogate" parents. You can still learn.
Maybe your problem is that you are still blaming everyone as an adult. Embarassing. Your mother probably emasculates you because you are still there seeing if you can leech on her. Every adult is responsible for each situation he/she choses to enter or maintain him/herself on.
try living by this creed...worked for me...will work for you...the ten two letter words.....if it is to be it is up to me......
I have been studying this for literal years and something I've noticed that rarely EVER is mentioned is looks! A woman can be ridiculously successful financially, but if she is average looking or overweight, then she isn't going to get a successful Henry Cavill or Chris Hemsworth look alike
Women think that because financial success is more attractive to them than physical beauty, men are the same, but that's just not true. NO woman struggles to find a man. It's just that they struggle to find a man they think they deserve; the same guy, 80% of the other women are also chasing. But, again if this hot, tall, successful guy can choose between the gorgeous sexy woman working at a grocery store or, the average looking slightly overweight CEO, most men are going to choose the model... Sure, he will still have sex with the average looking, successful woman, but he won't commit to her.
I think the reason so much dating material avoids admitting this uncomfortable truth is because they know women won't buy it. Hope is lucrative.
'Hope is lucrative' 👍
Absolutely correct. From childhood, consuming fantasy Disney Princess narrative, of Cinderella meeting her Prince Charming...
Plenty of male gold diggers and hobosexuals out there.
@adamsinger7345 I actually don't think it's Disney's fault women act the way they do-it's men's fault. Men teach women that unrealistic expectations are acceptable, and then we get upset when women believe what we taught them!
What typically happens is the average woman is a 5~6 out of 10. A man who is a 7~8 out of 10 (remember for women 1-10 is not simply about looks but an accumulation of features attractive to women such as wealth, height, status, etc. His face can simply be a 5 out of 10, but when combined with other things that trigger attraction in women, his overall value can easily be a 7), so this guy who is a 7~8 specifically hunts for women that are 5~6 because they require low effort from him while giving him her maximum effort but, their looks are still high enough for them to be passable enough for him to get an erection.
If these women who are 5~6 keep being pursued by men that are 7~8 even if it's short term (he puts in enough effort to string her along to keep her hopes up thinking he will commit but he is really just doing enough to get sex from her) because the 7~8 guy never commits long-term because he is saving that for a woman who is also a 7~8. Anyway, from years of being chased by 7~8, these women who are only 5~6 started to think they themselves are also 7~8. Which is why when a man who is a 5~6 approaches them, they think they are too good for him... The Okcupid data from the book "Date-onomics" by Christian Rudder verified this. It wasn't the most attractive nor the least attractive women that receive the most attention online; It's the average women in the middle.
@@adamsinger7345 A lot of that spins out of Anglo-Saxon puritanism.
I think you need to talk to more women. We don’t think men value our financial success as “more attractive”. Sadly some of us think it is easier to get a man if we will provide for HIM financially. Usually these are below average and average looking women who think this way.
I've found that most women can't tell arrogance from the confidence they love. The bad boy attitudes are sexually interesting to them, but after a while, the narcissism becomes intolerable.
And they wonder why domestic violence is so rife
Love that he told the truth about tax rates being higher before Reagan and minimum wage myths. We really did sell out our middle class thinking the rich would make us all rich too (we always fall for it).
This feels massively overanalysed
She has never been in a relationship, so has 0 relationship skills
She refuses to "lower" her expecations, suggesting she is looking for a guy with more than 0 relationship skills
So she just overrates herself
this is happening en masse tho which needs to be analyzed. clearly womens egos/self perceptions are inflated by the past decade’s social environment and men’s deflated and now there’s a correction happening. Mostly women now are projecting that onto men instead of looking in the mirror.
Never had a boyfriend... could be ugly
Well that is part of the problem. Women do overrate themselves. I know single mothers that are barely above average looking that expect to land a good looking, childless and successful man. No just no
@@brianmeen2158 yeah that's really sad.
@Nova226 women are never really busy. they're glued to their phones 24/7
90% of women looking for the top 10% of men is like 9 people applying for one job. Gonna be a lot of "We're sorry but you were unsuccessful" letters going out.
After one or two "interviews"😅😅😅
At least they still get to be volunteers and interns gaining experience (bodycounts), and a stipend (bastard kids). Men wish they'd get those opportunities
And they’ll all be baffled why it didn’t work out. Because none will take accountability
@@dmonk926
Being used for their body isn’t something that women want.
You’re looking at it from a male lense
@@TheShowOff2I i see it as women having complete agency in growing their body counts. Stop taking responsibility from women.
"Men need a woman to tell them if they don't get their shit together they don't get to have sex" I just love how honest this man is
Well, that's how it was for a long time. There was a division of labor, plus a division of social tasks. Women socialized men, planned their social lives, and in general people were much happier, and there was a lot less hate in society. Women did a lot of non-pecuniary things they did not receive credit for.
That is not my job. That's his parents job. ManBabies can sit in their own piss.
Why do so many people think sex is this amazing thing that a man will do anything for....? statements like these is why women feel like they have so much inherent value
@@bdasaw Sex is an amazing thing. Sounds like you need to start having better sex bro
@@bdasaw Fair point.
I have to take issue with Scott Galloway essentially being an apologist for female hypergamy.
Here's what's happening over the last 50 years. Many of us men also to promote female equality and female economic viability and progress.
Back in the old days though men were willing to date women and marry them and when they made even no money whatsoever.
How have women rewarded men for their economic progress?
Why is it that so many men are apologists for this?
A good deal of the time women are saying men are pigs cuz they like sex or whatever but never can you say the opposite.
Are women not pigs for insisting that they're men have to make more money than them even though they're making way more money than their mothers did?
There's definitely a double standard there and it's not good.
I am amazed at the fact that more men are not making this an issue, especially those men who are under 30 who are suffering the most.
I'm going on record right now I have absolute zero and I mean absolute zero sympathy for women who are lonely because of the fact that they dare not date a man who makes less money than them or is maybe only about as tall as they are when they are not wearing high heels.
Did men ever get sympathy because a man was lonely because he refused to date a woman who was not a 9+? Absolutely not and nor should a man get sympathy for being alone because he refuses to date someone less than a 9 plus.
I think it's high time that we make the same statement about the way women are regarding hypergamy.
well said, seen many professional women single well into their 30s and beyond, at 50 some of them finally wise up
@@michaelsix9684 Nothing is more satisfying than that.
Yes!!
I am in my late 30s married, but I have a lot of single friends. None of my single friends are looking for a relationship want men to be rich. They just want them to have a stable job. They seem to be this idea that men only want the richest, most attractive people in the world. We just want a man who will be polite and is financially stable. When my husband and I got married and neither of us had money. My brother just got married. Neither of them had money. When my sister got married, neither of them have money. This idea that women will only settle for a man with money seems to be some thing made up by men. We just want men to have their shit together. We don’t need you to be a 10. We need you to be like a six.
Back in the old days, women had few economic opportunities. In order to live a "good" life, they had to find a man, and her requirements were low - if he had a job and didn't abuse her, that was enough (this is still true in most developing countries). In the developed world, women have many economic opportunities, so we only marry if a man will improve our quality of life and we require a partner with emotional maturity and compatibility, etc. Men have not developed these skills as quickly as women have developed economic success, so there is a large gap between what men are providing and what women are looking for.
Women used to have to settle for the hottest guy at the bar. Then they all went online and decided to trade up. The problem is, they all traded up to the same men who now have 8 women each.
A lot of women prefer to put themselves on some Chad's 7 day rota than settle for an average boyfriend.
@@KevTheImpaler Yes, women can prefer to share Chad's harem when we have the Welfare State paying for her Section 8 rent, EBT card, SNAP benefits, Obamacare and Gender Studies forgiveness. Now consider that all net taxes are paid by men and you see that the welfare state is a form of cuckoldry for most men.
@@KevTheImpaler Let's not pretend that Chad (in the 97.7 percentile) is just one step above "average boyfriend" (in the 50.0 percentile). No, women are shooting down a male 9.4 to share a male 9.8.
Stop obsessing about what women want. Leave them to pursue it and get on with your life.
@@biggerissues6085 Understanding women is not "obsessing". Why don't you get on with your life, Ms. Maintain-Status-Quo?
People place too much emphasis on relationships, people bring their own shit and chaos 100% of the time. Relationships bring just as much headache as being single. One of the only true guarantees in life.
Find solace in being single, enjoy your own company, if it happens it happens, if it doesn’t, don’t spend your life forcing it. Enjoy yourself. Don’t overcomplicate it 👍🏻
Bad advice. If you're not intentional about something, the chances of it happening are slim to none. Most people eventually want family and kids, that's one of their primary goals in life, debatably the most important one, and you have a limited timeframe to do it.
@@mrdouche9172 "...most people eventually want family and kids..."
The divoeice rate is 50%. What most people want clearly isn't working out for half of them...🙃
I’m 5’5”. What bothered me was tall men dating very short women - who might date me. Dude! You are dating someone who is child size! It took me a long time to find someone to marry - and I tried all types. I rarely got past a second date. Took me 30 years but have been married now for 8. She is 5’5” and I’m grateful she never saw my height as an issue for her. We fit pretty well too which has advantages.
The key for short men, is to move to other areas where the women are shorter. My friend 5'3", went to the Philippines, worked there for only a year and a half, and came back with a beautiful, wonderful wife. Wife is 4'9". He understands that he's short, and welcomes jokes about it (when he came back, he said, 'Now you can put US on top of YOUR wedding cake!' and laughs abound.
Guys; you have to know how to make your situation an advantage. He sure did.
"Child size" 😂
Sounds like classic female shaming language
I'm 6'2. I was out at a bar and a 4'11" or 5 even woman came up and hit on me. She was cute loud and brash - we dated for three years. Anyway during the relationship I asked her why she didn't date someone 5'3. Her reply was "If I dated someone 5'3" then people might think that was the best I could get with my height." In her own mind, she was competing with other women. Wow. And as a part two I did date a woman who was 5'11" or so for a month. She was nice but I didn't feel like I wanted to protect her or cuddle her. If I would take her hand it was very thin but as long as mine! A lot of cues were off so I moved on.
My daughter is 5’4’-5’5”, her handsome hubby is the same. I think they were made for each other. Perfect match!
The problem is women are the choosers and for a lot of guys they go for the women that throw themselves at them which are going to be the women that are roughly a foot shorter. I actually prefer taller women as a 6-4 guy. But let me tell you those women that are 5-8 plus LOVE to play hard to get. Not all tall guys want to run their balls through shrapnel to get with the women they want. Sometimes we choose the women that want us instead. Path of least resistance. Don't hate the player hate the game.
I think the issue is that American dating culture was so centered around a man’s money that once women’s started making more money, and men started making less money, relationships lost their appeal because a lot of men had no appeal outside of their ability to provide. Look at dating apps. Most male profiles lead with what they have and what they do for a living. Zero mention of intimacy (outside of the bedroom), romance, partnership, etc
Yep, third world countries where women make less or don’t work at all don’t have a birthrate problem.
Women don’t care about that anyway. Have you seen their swiping stats? They want a tall attractive model man that has to at least make more than the woman for anything longer than a one night stand and we’re talking about average women here. Maybe the solution is to sop displacing men in the workforce and devaluing labor by importing immigrants
If I’m gonna date someone, there needs to be genuine, mutual physical attraction. If I have to rely on money to get a girl, it’s probably gonna be a dead bedroom, especially after marriage.
I think it's deeper than this. I think theres a lack of meaning and purpose among people in general. If you dont have any significant sense of meaning and your attention/services/money can be sold to the highest bidder; everything about upgrading based on superficial metrics, then there is no basis for meaninful relationships.
100% agree.
What she's really looking for his a lavish lifestyle or be on her own. She will not lower her standards.
Rollo tomassi, F&F, Wheat Waffles, The whatever podcast, Sandman , CRP coach red pill and even TFM have been telling us this information for years now, explaining at great lengths and detail about hyp3rgamy and fem@le nature in a gynocentricc society. This is Red Pill and Black Pill 1 on 1.
Can't save them (men) all, it's triage. Majority of men don't care to know.
The Bible is the OG book of the way of life.
Putting out the facts, they are the ones that need to speak about this, not these lefts.
💯. Some guys were awake 20 years ago, but people didn’t like the message or the messenger. Now, it’s becoming indisputable and women are wondering where they men are it’s now to these liberals to try and explain it to them 😂
I love these grifters that come years later after defaming the original red and black pill thought leaders and content creators but they still can’t seem to come to grips with the ultimate conclusions of these facts
Tripling the minimum wage does nothing but raise the price floor for everything….its the equivalent of printing money and utterly ineffective on a macroeconomic scale in a term longer than a business quarter.
Getting private equity out of housing, and making the big 3 (healthcare, housing -OWNING, and higher education) affordable at a minimum wage level, would go infinitely farther than raising minimum wage.
Increasing the purchasing power of the dollar and stopping the constant flood of low skilled illegal immigrants is the solution for lifting young people. Galloway always disappoints. It’s too bad. He does identify key issues.
No it doesn't. It has been studied it plenty of times, and raising minimum wage does nothing to prices.. all it does is boost the local economy and economy overall.
@@mdaniels6311 Except when corporations simply raise their prices in response to keep profits up. Which is literally what happened after labour got a breather post-pandemic. Now it's worse than ever. Without price control, you have to focus on affordability moreso than just giving money away.
Capitalism as we're currently running it has failed the everyday person. We need to reward labour, not stock prices and corporate CEOs.
Not really. The state simply needs to cap prices while simultaneously increasing wages. A more realistic approach would be to increase wages by 60%. Since 1970, workers of every class have consistently been denied their fair share. For instance, consider a worker earning $18 per hour, with 5$ allocated for the pension plan. In total, the cost to employ that worker ranges from $24 to $30 per hour. Meanwhile, employers charge clients anywhere from $80 to $200, depending on the industry. While workers do all the labor, employers profit from renting out that labor. Statistics reveal that the wealthy have significantly multiplied their wealth at the expense of workers. This exploitation should not be permitted by law. Moreover, this phenomenon contributes to the underconsumption principle, where restricting cash flow in lower-wage classes and erasing the middle class harms the entire economy. Unfortunately, I believe that automation and artificial intelligence will eventually lead to the complete collapse of the economy. The MIT predicted this back in the 1970s, forecasting an economic collapse by 2045. I think that massive poverty and unemployment will be the unfortunate future.
I can relate to that woman's story as a man also. Except I feel compelled by the social climate to drop my standards. I've also noticed that men will usually take a loser woman and turn her into a queen where successful women usually don't invest in a loser guy regardless of his looks.
Young men should be either better compensated for working, or houses should be more affordable. Either way, we need to empower people’s time that they spend working.
Interestingly, a large part of wage suppression is due to women entering the work force. If you increase the availability of a resource, the cost for it goes down. Basic economics.
@@Minotaur-ey2lg yup been saying this but whenever i say it to women they get mad "cuz my rights n sheeeit"
It's been proven that if young men are just given money or opportunities without a strict hierarchical framework and steady hard work, they just become either profligate or senselessly violent out of boredom. Testosterone cannot be left with nothing productive to do. Hence why you're always starting wars.
Women need to stop taking men's jobs. They shouldn't work, and if they do, they should be in either healthcare, or highly specialized and technical fields only (like mathematics).
I can tell you, the passport bro thing is truly a refreshing, but sad state of affairs. I left my rich, western country last year for a year long work holiday in south america. I have some money, am very tall, but probably too slim by western standards and average looking by western standards, and the insane difference in attention and success here compared to back home is astounding. Women stare at clubs, and will initiate..and quality women..like doctors, lawyers, beautiful, and with money.
Ultimately, even when I have most of these things women want back home, its not quite as high as a disney prince or some other blokes and so it was almost impossible. Over in these countries, i feel like how i imagine women feel every day. The worst experiences ive had are having to reject women over here.
If you are a man who is half attractive, average white man height, from a western country, you will find more success in south america or asia. And it isnt just gold diggers. Wealthy young women in these countries are also into white men because of their cultural attitudes. Kind of unfair, but good for me!
You touched on something nobody wants to talk about:
In the USA/Canada/Western Europe, the contempt and hatred towards white men has become ridiculous, anti-white racism is pushed on social media. Most women only want black/brown skin guys, because that's the cool trendy thing to do, and they just follow the herd
In Asia and South America, white/European men get at the very least a decent level of attention. I find latinas in general less neurotic and more open minded
Women appreciate and respect men there. Most American women are spoiled and ungrateful and have unrealistic expectations. That's a big part of the problem which can directly be attributed to "feminism".
@@Marco-x9d9w Western europe? western europe is a dating heaven lol. Here women are not materialist, they are romantic, they dont care about your money. You get girls from every country, portugal, poland, Czech etc. Don't worry about us european men WE ARE FINE lmao. you dont even need to have a car or be over 170cm
Yet the only reason they want you is because ur white and they have an image of ur social status. Interesting to see when they get here and see that ship sailed lol
@@Marco-x9d9w "Most women only want black/brown skin guys" lmao you're delusional
I know socializing will never be the same , but younger people need to find social circles , go volunteer , join a club , start a meet up group , go for a hike, we are losing our social skills and our humanity ❤ hang in there
Yes
Exactly 💯
It's not just young people. I'm in my late 30s, and I'm pretty much completely alone. It's not so bad, though. It's certainly better than being around people who make me feel lonely.
"go volunteer" Outstanding suggestion for men. I don't recall offhand the stat, but women volunteer FAR more frequently than men do. Think about the women that do volunteer. Helpful. Considerate. Socially aware. They are givers not takes. All great attributes.
stop telling people to go volunteer and clubs, it will drive all those “pua” wannabes to miss the point of volunteering in those places. The amount of guys coming to volunteer solely for the fact of meeting women is becoming an issue in these centres. People need to go back to social spaces as before, period. Not volunteering to people’s in needs centre to see if they can hook up with someone..
I think nothing will change until family courts change.Too many young men have seen what has happened to their father, their uncles and the men in their lives. No one should financially benefit substantially from divorcing their partner in the first 10 years of marriage if they are doing the divorcing from the financial situation they were in when they married. Thats both men and women. After 10 years of marriage assets should be 50/50 split. Both men and women should have 50/50 custody through agreement or mediation and child welfare should be again mediation but based on what the child needs and not what the mother or father happens to want. Until the family court bias against men is firstly recognised and then changed substantially to where everyone getting married knows what the costs are most likely to be then I dont see men changing the road they are on which is becoming marriage avoidance. I totally get why feminism was right at the start, I totally get why the divorce courts needed to act in relation to a man just leaving his wife and children and letting them all fend for themselves but it has gone too far in favour of women and no fault divorce has been horrendous for families and children and men but quite a gain for women. Im speaking in generalities now and appreciate there are always difficult cases.
Why do most divorced women end up POORER then? Divorce sucks, but alimony is only awarded in 11% of cases today and if no children are involved, there's no child support.
@@TGP109 Only 11%... this is 2024, no alimony should be paid by man or woman period what's with the word " only"? Naturally there is no child support if there are no children.... ? As to why women might be poorer after divorce when assets have been split 50/50 and very likely 60/40 or 70/30 in her favour, perhaps they are poorer because the dont work as hard as men, they dont have the same drive and ambition as men, they dont have the same budgeting skills in general as men and these are all very broad generalities Im making but they are true. Men dont have the same intuitions as women, men dont have the same nurturing drive as women, men dont have the same patience with small children as women.... again all very broad generalities but true. But you never mentioned my point of 50/50 custody of the children and Ill tell you why thats important, I am sure that family courts give most of the custody to mothers so they can also get child support from the father to increase their income which to me is really disgusting because it means the father gets much less time with his children for the sole purpose so the mother can get more money for the purpose of the state not having to give supports to the mother. Its a rigged system for men and until that changes men should never Marry, at least in my opinion.
He made good points about the dire situation of dating, particularly with the decline of men. He failed to address what women can do to stop pricing themselves out of the dating market, however, or to deal with their unrealistic expectations; or, how men can become more attractive to women beyond making more money at higher minimum wage. Not very useful advice.
100% agree.
He could have mention at that 30 yo woman to be more in touch in her feminine side to be more attractive to men. BTW, most women don't even know what men want in a woman. It seems women don't care about it since they are strong & independent (of men).
Well these guys are cowards. They never zero in on the things women are doing wrong or need to change
@@darbyohara He is a popular professor.. and I believe he fears getting cancelled if he speaks in that tone or to point out the shortcomings in women
@@brookyogini6625 and women wonder why society is broken 🤦♂️
‘Its not that woman cannot find someone to date, they cannot find someone they want to date’
Which is due to the fact that their standards have become so insanely high as to become ridiculous
@@AgtsmirnoffLol! Oh, like the men have always been? When I was young it was Pam Anderson, Cindy Crawford and Michelle Pfifer. If you didn't look like that, you spent a lot of time alone.
@@elizabeetle13-k4z literally 99.9% of men demand that their women look like supermodels. I don’t know what kind of argument you’re trying to make here.
@@Agtsmirnoff Same as the MEN!
As a 80s man, that’s not true
At the beginning, he said, "She's 30 yo and she's never had a boyfriend..." That's NOT because she's "intimidating" to guys!! What are her interpersonal communication skills like? If she's, at least, average-looking, she should have had alot more experience and a couple of BFs under the belt by age thirty.
@@BB-xx3dv My point was it's odd to be thirty years old never having the experience of being in a couple of long-term relationships. Especially for women. This is not a generational thing either - not for women.
@@elisabeth4342too picky. It’s actually very common for women
It's pretty simple actually. She most likely was jumping from situationship to situationship for the past 12-15 years. She was most likely quite picky. The guys were out of her league, so they knew they could do better when it comes to longterm, but just like any man, if some woman throws easy punani your way and requires little effort from you, you'll still hit it a few times, and that's exactly what all these guys did. She repeated that same pattern for over a decade and now she's in this situation.
@@Ferien7 It's NOT common for attractive females to not have an exclusive BF in high school, college and in their twenties...
@@elisabeth4342 you’re getting confused. You’re now arguing the point I made above
This is why im glad instead of jumping on every guy in college I found mine at 21. He and I have been through everything together and now hes successful. Ive only had one serious relationship before him and hes only had me.
Dating is a nightmare world now.
Even if it gets tough or boring, you guys lucked out hard. You have a home in another person. I haven't slept in the same bed as someone since I was like 12, and I'm 34 now. Ah... That'd be sweet.
This is how it should be, you are very lucky I am afraid of the future of the western world if this trends keep uo
Gotta meet them before turning 30. They're basically all gone by then and most also have kids, including myself
@@KidFriendlyGamingmost of yall now in a dead marriage. Or have a cheating spouse or divorced already😂
and if you hadn't done that, you get too old and inflexible to grow together later. Waiting until you're in your late 20's to start thinking about marriage means that you've lived some of the most exciting and momentous times of your young adult life without them.
We all laugh at how our grandparents and parents get rigid and blow up over stupid things when their routine is disturbed. But most young people fail to see that is their future as well, and that it happens slowly and incrementally as we age.
You can't build a 35 year marriage in 5 years. And age matters more than people like to think.
Stick it out through thick and thin, short of physical abuse, it's worth it. If there's any physical abuse from either side, bail immediately because that doesn't get better. Other than that, stick it out and frame every solution one that involves making it work with them, and making both of your lives better.
I've been married going on 23 years now and it's 1,000,000% worth it. Things don't end up like you'd want, and if you get what you want 25% of the time you're doing great, but what you get in return is something so much better than any of those petty battles.
99.9% of women will ONLY date men who are taller than them. The girl in the bookstore is over 30 and prioritized her career. She doesn't have a clue what men want. If they want a family, they wanted her back when she was 26, but she was ignoring them and starting to crush it in her career. She already made her choice. A dog will love you unconditionally.
forgot one small detail - these men expected her to pay for half of everything. So of course the girl went to work, to be able to have a social life, and go on dates, since you're so modern that you wanted to split event the cost of water on a date with her.
The percentage isn't that high, I'm only 5'6" and I've dated several taller girls up to 5'11"
I’ve been on dates with over 100 women, most of them with degrees and good careers. Most made more money than me and most expected me to plan everything and pay the bill.
We live in a world where women’s demands are completely out of line with what they have to offer. And if you call out the hypocrisy and the double standards and how average men have it harder you get called a sexist and a conservative bigot
I’m 51. I can’t imagine seriously dating a woman under the 30.
@@joeshoe6184Tallest gal I ever dated was 6-4. Shortest was about five foot. I’m 5-9.
Minimum wage is not the problem but the cost of housing is the biggest problem. The question is why has housing gone up so much more than our wages.
all part of the governments plan
The FED still owns trillions in MBS they bought up from the 08' housing crash. The economy has been rigged for decades and its essentially run like a ponzi scheme.
Mortgages. Mortgages lock in at a rate, lets say 1500/month at the start. No matter where inflation goes that mortgage still costs that much. Meaning for those people their single largest bill (housing) is now fixed, and the cost of everything rises hurt them, but not in their largest bill. So for them it's an inconvenience, not a catastrophe financially.
Because of this, when inflation hits you have a large swath of people that are insulated from it and don't quit. This makes the labor market lag a lot in most economic strata.
Mortgages are why wages lag.
After listening, sounds like its simple women don't live in reality
One thing that I have noticed in conversations with ladies is that it tends to be that they have dedicated time to the wrong man or man in the past, rather than any given career.
No such thing as the wrong man. In an unregulated market, nothing is permanent. Their failure of relationship is the norm
Finally someone who understands the young need more money.
So few seem to grasp that the old people past middle age occupying the positions sucking up all the money don't actually have any use for that money. Meanwhile the youth who need money for eduaction, life planning, and children are left with next to nothing.
It isn't even about people asking to be pampered, many of these people just don't want to have to live in financial fear.
American girls are raised being told (and believing) they are all princesses, they are perfect just the way they are, they can have it all.
Tik Tok isn't helping....
Reality will impose itself upon these princesses eventually.
It's not any better in Europe.
Culture is the problem. I live in Asia and asian parents teach their sons and daughters to be disciplined and civilized. Something which doesn't happen in America.
tiktok is a plague, dated one of these wannabe princesses, worst experience of my life. Luckily we had a fight before i spent too much money on her. They think they should be treated like a princess for no other reason than they have a vagina. Self absorbed and delusional.
Male loneliness epidemic contributing to a massive rise in depression among men and male self-deletion ...but yes of course it's the women most effected isn't it, my goodness I hate the 2020's.
welcome to clown world.
Bro I don’t know why so many people struggle with empathy for men. I think it’s these tradcon males who think that men should just put the weight of the world on their back and constantly take the blame for anything wrong. Fuckkkkk that women need to step it up too
I’m coming across women that I don’t want to marry. They don’t know how to flirt. Even though they make good money they want to spend your money. Women either rejuvenate you or drain you. If a woman does not spend money on you, she doesn’t love you.
The quote my brother was looking for is “You can be anything, but you can’t be everything.”
All the good women are already taken. It's near impossible to find a woman who is patient, kind, wise, soft spoken, and who takes care of her appearance. Most women that I have dated have poor hygiene. They don't even bother brushing their teeth when going out. Imagine trying to kiss a woman like that
Something tells me that they're not flirting with you for a reason, and that they don't want to marry you either...🤨
@@nerychristian You tend to attract what you are. The "good women" aren't all taken, they're just hiding from you because they have better options.
@@TomikaKelly Some of the women that I dated or been in a relationship didn’t know how to flirt. I’ve had one girlfriend buy me a watch for my birthday. There’s just a certain amount of effort and enthusiasm everyone should put into a relationship and I don’t see it on a regular basis.
If she can't banter, she's out. I like a woman with a sharp wit.
Those top 10 percent of men all the women want do not give a flying eff how much money a woman makes. It is not on the radar. The lady who has focused all her efforts on her career, that is fine, she made herself more attractive to other women, not men.
Maybe I'm wrong, but I get the feeling, that many young women are seeing relationships as some kind of business venture and a booster for social status. They want to increase their worth, want to take what they can from the guy (mostly connections, but certainly also material things, maybe knowledge and experience and more … ) and move on to the next one.
Observing the modern dating scene, I have more and more associations with the job market, which I find incredibly frightening. But it makes sense, considering that a whole generation of women has been told, that a career is the most important thing in life and that they're worthless without it. So why not use a relationship as a career tool, too. Something to up your social status. That's what it's all about these days, isn't it? Who cares about love and family if you can spend your life stroking your ego like a real CEO. At least, that's what they think-until they're approaching 40.
This all is a really sad development and I feel for both sides of the younger generations.
The problem is most western women spend most of their time trying to out do other women and thus the goal post of “happiness “ is always changing and is never reached.
Title: "The Challenges of Dating and Relationships in the Modern World"
Summary:
In this thought-provoking video, the speaker discusses the challenges that individuals, particularly women over the age of 30, face in the modern dating and relationship landscape. He shares a conversation he had with a woman who expressed her frustration about being single and not finding a partner despite her successful career.
Key Points and Takeaways:
1. Generational Gap: The speaker suggests that there might be a generational gap in dating approaches. Older generations often met in person, while the younger generation relies heavily on online dating apps.
2. Self-Doubt: The woman the speaker encountered expressed self-doubt and a sense that something might be wrong with her because she's over 30 and still single. This highlights the societal pressure to conform to certain relationship timelines.
3. Evolving Dating Dynamics: The speaker introduces the concept of the "high heels effect," explaining that women have become more educated and economically successful over the years. However, this can lead to challenges in finding compatible partners as they often seek men who are socioeconomically superior.
4. Changing Expectations: Modern women have been told they can "have it all," which includes a successful career and a fulfilling romantic life. However, this can be challenging to achieve simultaneously.
5. Imbalance in Dating Opportunities: The speaker argues that top-tier men, often referred to as the top 10%, have more opportunities for short-term relationships and may be less inclined to commit to long-term relationships. This leaves a disproportionate number of men and women feeling lonely.
6. Loneliness: Loneliness is a growing concern, especially among men who may struggle with forming social connections when they don't have a romantic relationship.
7. Importance of Relationships: The speaker emphasizes that romantic relationships provide structure, motivation, and support in life. They encourage personal growth and prevent negative behaviors.
8. Economic Solutions: To address these issues, the speaker suggests raising the minimum wage as a way to put more money into the pockets of young people, reducing financial stress, and stimulating the economy.
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In summary, this video sheds light on the challenges faced by individuals, particularly women over 30, in today's dating and relationship landscape. It explores the impact of changing societal dynamics, expectations, and economic factors on the pursuit of fulfilling romantic lives.
Whaddya use to summarize
I remember back in the day people would make fun of people who were trying to meet someone online.
Once I became a doctor suddenly **every** girl I met was interested. Wasn’t like that before. Really depressing tbh.
Dude they don’t want u. They want your money
I came home from my retired career and started attending church at my home church when I was young. I am frugal with my money and I continued to drive my old Ford car. It kept running and I decided to keep driving it. It was 11 years old when I returned to my hometown. Then 8 years later it was starting to fall apart so time to buy brand new. I bought a Honda CRV brand new. I saved the money over 19 years to pay cash if I wished. I took a three-year loan at 0.5%. The auto loan company only got $700 interest out of me. But what I am getting at is a woman at church about my age and single who never really talked to me suddenly said "Oh, you bought a new car!" I read right into that. She thought I am poor because of my old junky car and then not worth her time.
"love" never existed
How can any man invest in a creature that is only loyal to her feelings? Looks, status, money don’t make a difference, eventually she will get bored. Ask Tom Brady, Jeff Bezos, Kevin Costner….on and on.
Right. I'm 78, don't look for loyralty in today's generations of American women. You may find it in some other countries, not here. Not to say that you can't find affection, companionship, et al., just not loyralty.
Brad Pitt
Jeff bezos left his wife for another woman.
@@AnnatarCarvourhe beat his wife and his kids. Horrid example.
@@basicfilmblog sound like a simp ...Innocent until proven guilty there's an example for you...have you ever been falsely accused of rape? Probably not..
Old guy here. And not a Chad. This has been going on for decades, it's just "recently" been turned up to 11.
With the way men are used and discarded by modern women, that top 5-10 percent of men can have them. Full stop. 1000 % serious. Because even those HVM don't really "have"these women. She's not yours, it's just your turn.
Just look at Tom and Gizzelle.
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We live in a world where Michael B Jordan isn't good enough for a nobody. They can have those women.
They can’t find real love because they’re not capable of real love.
How can modern women be so picky . They are offering about half the amount as the women in the generation before them. My ex had green hair , nose ring, tattoos, feminist, overusing filters/make-up. She was maybe a 1 or a 2 out of 10. Such an insult when she called it off. Lol
Unfortunately, you just can't fight against what a person wants and what they feel entitled to, however delusional it may be. People end up hurt and lonely on both sides. You can't reason a woman to lower her standards, you can only work on yourself. If you're not giving her any sense of 'ooo' when she sees you, you're just a resource to her.
The real problem is that the market place is WILDLY unfair to women. They get all their value up front when they're young, and they are then told it will never fade. She won't lower her standards because she has no reason to believe anything will ever be bad for HER. Those others at 40 and lonely are just other people that have other problems. That would NEVER happen to her. Because of this blindness (which we all have when we're young) she makes poor decisions; it gets much worse if it's been reinforced her entire life that she has endless time and endless options.
But it does get bad, we all age and that type of arrogance falls away. Unfortunately, by the time she realizes her value to men is fading she's already slipped very far, and everyone involved is too old and rigid to make anything but effective room mates with benefits. It's a sad story, Cap'n Junnah.
They're cursed by early and free value, and the ramifications paid later are very hard. It's a sad story, and the place where mother's used to tell their daughters things like 'marry young while you're still pretty'. That's all taboo now, but the realities underpinning the advice have not changed.
No mention of biased divorce court as a deterrent for men to get married? Garbage.
Most men can't get married in the 1st place, so it's a problem that is avoided by default.
@@InfrazaleThere's still cohabitation and child support.
Scott Galloway's greatest strength is never holding the female sex accountable for literally any behavior whatsoever.
I used to be a manager of a printing shop in a large skyscraper. Some days I worked in the front end; I wore a suit and tie. Some days I helped in the back with the presses; I wore an old shirt and ink stained jeans. Either way, I would often deliver orders myself with a dolly full of cartons. If I wore a suit and tie, every single woman I met would hold a door open for me. If I wore the grubby jeans NOT ONE woman would hold a door open. Make of that what you will.
My experience is identical. I'm treated like a celebrity with a suit and a bum with a t shirt. This is not an exaggeration.
As a footnote, I'm in good athletic physical shape, but I think if I were in the level of shape for a competition, like ripped enough to be on stage, or magazine cover, then this would change the perception in casual clothing. It's a pain in the butt to get there though
I worked in a men's store. The men were so much more attractive when dressed well. The men who worked there, who were forced to wear suits, realized that they were perceived as higher income and, overall, better looking and started dressing better in their personal lives.
Tbh bro a lot of women just weren’t raised well. Like are women taught, like men are, about what they need to do for the opposite gender? Like men are constantly told what they need to do to improve, what they need to do to make their wife happy, and to “do what’s right”. Seems like the only message women get is “do what’s right for you” and “put yourself first”. I think men need to start putting themselves before women. Be more selfish
I remember being younger and told by my parents and society at large, ohh get a degree, be on shape, have a good career and women will come flocking to you.... Its all total BS, i did all of that. I have an engineering degree that i studied my ass off for, a good paying career, my own place, in good shape(and play sports), I have hobbies outside of video games, i spent money and time to improve my style, and dating is still an incredible struggle. Like no matter what I do its just not enough. I just dont know what women want anymore. Its just perplexing these women will complain about being 30+ and single on Instagram....i get it, im not entitled to a relationship with any particular person but it just feels like if i make the tiniest mistake or if I come off as slightly awkward on a date I'm just booted from the dating prospects and not even given a chance. Its like im expected to be 100% perfect with no slip ups, but im willing to overlook things in them and give it a chance.