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I got bullied in middle school by this guy. I was 13 and in 7th grade at the time. The long-lasting effect I have is that I am almost paranoid and thinking that people are laughing at me, staring at me, or whispering about me. This happens everywhere I go, expect for home. My bully would constantly laugh at me and he would make me the butt of his jokes. He talked me down and he even got physical sometimes. He never hit me but he would do things to make feel helpless, intimidated, or uncomfortable. Invading my personal space, throwing my belongings, taunting me, messing with my belongings, laughing at me, always paying close attention to me, it was so awful. Based upon his actions it seemed like he wanted to have control over me, which he got. The long-lasting effect is that I assume others perceive me as a "little defenseless girl." I am 19 years old and I feel that way. Random comments: I have developed unhealthy coping mechanisms that are still effecting me today. I could go on and talk about it but I won't. I have always hated going to school from middle school through college. Unfortunately, college feels the same way. Some people in my life don't seem to realize the long-lasting effect that bullying has. I would love to improve and stop thinking the way I do. It almost feels like I am being bullied again but I know logically that is not true.

I think overattachment to stuff can cause apathy because your brain will try to find ways to become even more satisfied than before and more often than not it is not possible.

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I hear people say things like “God is the answer” or therapy or intervention … If that works for you then go with it but after losing my ex wife to alcoholism the thing that stoped me cold was fear of death. Seeing how it totally destroyed her mind and body was something no one would wish on their worst enemy. Liver cirrhosis and total organ failure at 62. Once alcohol has done it’s damage to your body there are no doctors, drugs or miracles that can fix it and the death isn’t pleasant or painless.. Scared straight

I'm the youngest of 9 children. My second oldest brother was bullying me, who is 8 years older than me, was bullying me since the day I started thinking. Almost everybody that hears I'm the youngest, they say: "Oh, so you're the "Nesthäkchen" (german for little nest, the baby) of the family. You must have had it so well." Like what the actual fck does anybody know of anybody just assuming stuff that was in fact the opposite. The pecking order and the survival of the fittest is what was ruling in the family, not the parents. The eldest siblings (except the oldest one, he didnt have to do anything with any family member) were taking control, especially the 2nd oldest brother. He used to drill especially number 8 and 9, me. He intended to train us to become strong enough. My fellow sufferer was stronger, sportier, overall better at anything considered boyly/male but he was my best friend although Number 2 tried to pit each other against each other which was unfortunately working sometimes and that was enough for me to be very disappointed by him and he was shocked that I was hitting too hard when in forced sparring training (I was just in constant survival mode, I wanted to show nr. 2 that I'm not weak). I was mocked for being a weak pussy. I was denied "too much" affectionate contact with my mother from an early age. Especially I would not be allowed to be too close with her. I couldnt hold her hand myself because I felt shame for that. Other siblings who didnt pick on me and got along somewhat fine were still backing number 2 and saying I should try to understand his hurts. They were bascially supporting his abuse against me, some were saying he shouldnt do that but they were agreeing that I should speak up for myself (I remember it starting at age 4 but some memories reach to age 3(??!) and it went on til my mid teen years). Oh and they kind of agreed that my mom should not interfere too much as I should learn to be independent. I was disappointed by many of them and felt like stabbed in the back and left alone with the monster whom I should try to understand. Which I did, I felt torn between the lingering anger, frustration and guilt for having bad feelings towards him - what the fck - of course would I not like him. The gaslighting by the other siblings just made me hate him more and also feel betrayed by them. When I got into school I was already destroyed, devastated, but I didnt know any other by that time. Being overly shy and insecure, I naturally got picked on. I was being laughed at and shunned. I was excluded from games but I was happy when I was left alone. The fairy dream world bubble I used to escape into in earlier childhood years was burst when too much came together and I remember that feeling of the deep hate, like a crimson red fire waking up and to this day it has never left me often being hidden but its always there and very persistent and patient so it doesnt die out. Bullying went on in high school. At some point it stopped then started again later until I was fortunately left alone and ignored which was way better than a time when someone and his pals "befriended" me only to try to control me. I said fuck you, I lived long enough as an outsider I dont care about freindship that much. I would rather just live in peace alone. I am able to make people believe I can function normally now and even made some "friends" (I dont use that word actually, I don't want to feel like a need that thing). Deep down I am already ready to be left alone again. I get along well with ppl now but I cant seem to really make a real connection.

What a load of shit

Very cool video A month ago, I ended a five-year relationship. My soulmate made the decision to walk away from me, and even though I've done everything in my power to get him back, I can't help but feel disappointed because I can't see my life with anyone else. I want to say that I've tried everything to stop thinking about him, but I simply can't. I miss him so much and I don't know why I'm saying this here.

It isn't not only man do women also very good at it

Really? I’m a guy and I only like male therapist now because they don’t beat around the bush from my experience. They don’t sugar coat stuff which I need lol

This is good awareness. I could see how we could fall into some of these habits. I like your video to improve myself.

Im a gaslighting victim...They take everything from you...

"we're gonna make the like button FREE for everybody" = gaslighting, hypocrite.

How can I watch for triggers if anything can be boring

"The days of being tough and just saying 'I am fine' are over"... yeah I am gonna have say that isnt true both as a chronic pain patient and the child of one... and repeatedly being told neither of us qualify for treatment or assistance... I might start beleiving this when we stop having people who's spine is so messed up as to horrify their surgeons refused diaability... try again.

Is gaslighting when my wife tells me what items from the store that we need, so I make a list on the app on my phone of all the items, then when I arrive home with the items, she says wheres the salad I asked you to buy, and clearly she never did ask that, because if she had it would be on my list, as well I can remember clearly that she did NOT ask for that item, but she insists there is something wrong with either my mind or my hearing. ????

Thanks, these are some good reminders, there’s no question that increasing your mental clarity and boosting your drive, comes with quitting. Yes, there are many ways to kick the habit, Steffon Barkload's approach is what worked for me, best shortcut I go’ogled that took days without withdrawal.

Im being gaslit by someone im renting from, it hasnt even been a month but wow dealing with him really made me question my sanity.

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I was bullied all through the first 8 years of school.

Oh boy. Spot on.

Society call it drug and alcohol abuse,,but alcohol is a drug,it should be in the same list as the rest of them,,,it's there snarky little ways of still trying to label alcohol as something less than drugs,when alcohol is the number one killer

Is it just me, or does is it sometimes seem like the term "gaslighting" gives morons carte blanche to claim victim status whenever they say something stupid?

First and foremost, I am presently not in a relationship. However, I have and presently experience gaslighting from my overpaid provider$. This always occurs when mentioning/reporting a situation that would result in accountability. When it does occur, it is blatantly obvious. The skill set they possess leads one to think they would be adept. This never is the case. Symptoms and stupidity are not one and the same.

I would like someone to speak about this but adding to it that sometimes when you have a mental illness (like myself) the people who gaslight you use that against you and it’s even more difficult to know what’s true and what’s not. I have bipolar disorder and everything I feel and do seems to be because I’m “crazy”

Sorry but 4 to 5 drinks is not binge drinking. If you think it is then you have not been around "people".

the thing that hurts me the most is that he's probably exceeding in life, living wonderfully with his girlfriend. and he shows up in my nightmares constantly. he probably doesnt even remember what he did to me. but i do.

Sad how im watching this at 02:00am and i have work at 5:30am

I was bullied badly all through high school - suffer from depression and severe anxiety. I’m totally isolated now. Have 2 long distance friends. I Struggle to leave the house. Feel unsafe all the time when out in public. Extremely low self esteem, body dysmorphia and self hate

i kinda hate having low empathy. i mean i do have sympathy and compassion but i will probably never know what is going through someones head. sometimes i wish i knew.

It would BEHOOOVE you. One of my favorite Army words.

I have severe chronic pain and just thinking about not getting stronger pain relief made me ball my eyes out at work , this pain is killing me and I wouldn't want anyone to go through this. spinal nerve pain is absolutely f"cked.

Actually Im greatful that I was bullied, for years I was hurt by it and I wanted revenge so bad but I saw that getting revenge and hating will only just make things worse. Ever since I started serving God I started healing and letting go of the past and forgiving the people who made me feel bad, God has changed my life and he keeps changing me for the better. So i know its very difficult but you have to move on because hate and anger is going to eat you away as long as you let it. So please stop torturing yourself and forgive and move on. Thanks for reading this comment and God bless you!

I have a constant situation with a friend and I’m not sure if it is gaslighting. Basically I would be given the silent treatment & treated unfairly & if I tried to speak about this my friend would shut me down by saying “oh it doesn’t matter” but then she experienced what I experienced but on a much smaller scale, she talked about it all the time and still does. Her cousin was homesick when she moved abroad & she talked about her with empathy all the time but years later my niece was struggling with homesickness when moving to the other side of the world and my friend was like “ oh their is fear of her, she is living in a country with a great lifestyle” and of if I was ever asked how my niece was doing & I tried to answer she would shut me down. They are just 2 examples but it’s like if something is going on with me it’s not important unless it is happening to her or it is affecting her but she will keep going and going until she has the last word. And it has to be what her perspective of the situation is what matters no one else’s. I find her completely draining

Friends can be massively guilty of gaslighting also

My husband passed away 6 months ago i found him dead In our bed and my anxiety is coming back I can't sleep I'm gonna start back seeing the doctor for meds

I'm having one right now

I drink about 5 oz of white wine a day. Is that too much?

Thank you, I'm so glad this is being addressed, as it usually gets dismissed as "it was ages ago, you're not at school anymore, get over it". I don't know if I was bullied per se, but I was so unpopular that not even my friends liked me. For 5 years I got name-called, shoved, laughed at, tie-pulled, had all sorts of things thrown at me, had rumours spread about me, and had comments made that were so nasty that even other bullies called them out on it. But it was usually a different person each time, so there wasn't much I could do besides take it. That was over 10 years ago, and I'm still in therapy trying to heal. I find it near impossible to feel happy naturally. I internalised the opinions of so many people so much, I feel like I can only see myself through their eyes and I've not managed to shake that off yet. My experiences in school have led to severe anxiety, anger issues, IBS, substance abuse, SH, trust issues, and too many issues to even list. I have been through trauma that is seen as "valid trauma", but it doesn't affect me anywhere near as much as being a social outcast in high school. I hope I get to heal one day and finally feel happy.

If I have all the Apathies do I get a prize?

Jail sucks. They really gaslight mofos in dat bih

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I hate bullies the absolute most, up there with predators and war criminals. Absolutely vile creatures. To anyone reading this, know that you are and will always be better than them. Live your best life and get out of their shadow to show the world that they are nothing.

very epic, ty

This is why I haven't been on any dating sites for over 5 years.

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