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I’m an INFJ & his answers about you brought tears to my eyes because I can relate & every answer he gave reflected that he really sees who you are on the inside. Also, he said a lot of similar things about you that my ex of 14 yrs would say about me but I didn’t understand at the time. Hearing him say those same things about you was like holding up a mirror & seeing myself for the first time. I honestly didn’t know others could see the deep sadness we feel about ourselves. “Feeling guilty about being happy” that one really hurt. I thought I was the only one. Thank you for this wonderful & insightful video. I’m subscribing!

Why infjs strugle with past? With childhood? With history of their parent? Its because of childhood trauma?

Something I learned from the internet, whatever you do, however you look, people will always critisize and judge you. They will always have something to say.

i'm the same i never trusted anyone funny enough ne doms and se doms are the type i distrust the most. yet when ppl meet me they believe i'm gullible if only they could my mind that judge them as distrustful without reason its horrible because i know its paranoia

I am not an INFJ but an INFP…people called me weird too.

I've typed you as an INFP; take it or leave it, you are likely to leave it and completely disregard this, but if by any chance you don't, I think it would be very beneficial for you to listen to other INFPs, their challenges/struggles, and how they solved it.

What you are describing has nothing to do with personality, and everything to do with personal growth and mental health. This isn't a 'typical INFJ' experience, but it is a typical trauma response for someone who has experienced betrayal. Learn the cognitive functions for your real type. You'll likely find that you don't even resonate with what an INFJ is at all and be delighted and understood by getting your real type...

You are an INFJ in socionics, but not in MBTI. Spirituality and supernatural experiences, similar to trauma and mental illness, has nothing to do with personality type. Those are very separate from type. Type works best when you are typed correctly, and from what I have seen in your videos, you seem to be using Fi a staggering amount for someone who should be using Ni instead. To each their own, but my opinion is that you'd be able to solve some pretty big reoccurring problems in your life if you knew your actual type, which was the whole point in the first place.

It's interesting that you react in the same way other types do towards infj. I've yet to meet another myself as far as I'm aware.im very curious now. 😊

The speech pattern and the whole vibe is the same one us intjs have. Big Ni dom energy

Thank you for your videos. Being an INFJ male is tough at times. Finding my tribe has been extremely difficult. Most people simply don't view the world the way we do. I've so many books on the subject and yes we just unique. Our views on relationships, helping others for the greater good.

I already loved the intro 😁💯

I adore you and I do that too.

I feel like I'm watching my husband and I ❤

Lord you're like us, 20 years in... We are 6 years in

Everything he says, is spot on with me and my husband.... Can we be friends.....

The "You seem like you don't deserve to be happy." My husband says when I'm me, I'm the most amazing woman. Sometimes I'm not me. You two remind me of us, so much.... I'm sending his to him. ❤

My husband is ESFP and I'm INFJ, this is so spot on. Lol

Yes I was bullied in middle school. I was bigger than any one else in the class. I was perfectly capable of destroying any one of them but I didn't. I didn't want to release that rage. I was once sent to the hospital because of bulling. Never let anyone punch your son in the nuts. He will either loose one or require immediate surgery.

Infj females have such an adorable, unique charm to them. Infj male here. Thanks for sharing your thoughts beautifully here.🙏❤️

Rather than feeling like everyone is intimidated by me, I feel like they think I'm super weird. Seeing their body language draw back and turn away from me is so painful. I don't even attempt new friendships because of it.

Sup Baby Cakes!

My paranoia aside, me feeling worthless or no self-worth attributes to my depression most. I just never feel good enough for anyone or anything. I feel inadequate, too.

This is years later, but this was very helpful for me. I'm trying to process an INFJ who asked me for space. I'm glad I gave it...

I overthink everything. I have serious trust issues and random little things that my girlfriend does makes me paranoid and feel like she's cheating. I admit that I don't have any reality testing. I can be borderline delusional with the paranoia and other people's intentions. I loyalty test, as well. I have severe betrayal trauma caused by my ex-wife. I always feel like I can't trust anyone or be vulnerable with them. I don't know if you have any of these issues but I've heard a lot of other INFJ have paranoia issues. I don't really know what I value but if anything, loyalty would be something.

I know it's been 4 years since you uploaded but I just watched this today and I just wanted to say I appreciate you. Your words do genuinely touch my heart because I feel like I know exactly how you feel without even knowing you personally. All I can say is that this personality type we share is truly a double edged sword. The moments we feel that we want to detach is because we're emotionally drained, too focused on the negative aspects of our personality. However, remind yourself of the goodness of being an INFJ - being able to have heightened sensitivity to emotions means we feel deeply the negativity of human experience but it also means we deeply feel the positivity too. Just know you are there as the backbone to your family, sometimes you just need your own space to recharge. I hate myself for my over analysis because I tend to create problems that didn't even exist so we need to remind ourselves that sometimes we go beyond imagination and need to ground ourselves to reality. Consider your family as that reflection. I don't even know if I'll find someone or have my own family but I've learnt to find peace in the relationships I do have with my parents and sibling by looking into myself. By finding a way to accept myself, I hope that I can also accept and find peace in others. I feel alone. Though I will learn to convert this loneliness into solitude. Take care of yourself.

What kind of chickens do you have? How do you selectively breed them? I don't have chickens, but I really want them.

I agree. Some "expert" said i was an infj yet a previous "expert" had said i was an INSP. INFJ,That is not What I would want to be. But if you read from other Psych-pop about personality types the Myer's Brigg's model is not taken seriously. I agree with you I do not want to be an Eyore.

The last part about not being a part of this absolutely true. This world has rejected me at every chance it gets. I have decided to do the same in return as im left with no other option. 99% of humanity is a disease and deserves to be treated as such.

Yes consistent pattern of abusive behavior leads to the door slam.

Aside from being an INFJ are you a Capricorn by chance? 🤔

What is interesting to me as I was talking to any INFJ I met, that there usually comes THIS situation of both of us waiting what the other person wants to do or say next and then it created a little embarrasment, when no one knows what to do, while staring at each other. It´s not like we don´t know what we want, but we often adapt by letting someone else being the first one.

Yep. Ditto

I know that I know that I Know. Absolutely, “I know” is something I say a lot! As an INFJ Christian, believer, God is ever present and even tangible in His presence in my life, too. I have loved the minutia of detail in the plants, animals, sky, everything while utterly and continually seeing and being part of it all as an ever widening whole. Seeing into the souls of everyone wherever I am is profoundly rewarding and extremely helpful to we INFJ’s to navigate all through our lives. I’m older than you and female, with so many lifetimes of life lived since childhood and still living, am an artist (drawing and painting,) and writer with esoteric poetry books on Anazon, dream journalling and feelings and ideas journaller, and one way of speaking personally has been saying that “my life is a trip!” In the sense that it’s surreal and amazing and what I have produced awes even me by God’s infinite grace and mercy, gifting me with more,much more love, beauty, and joy. Joy, I know you and love you, my sister in Christ. My Yt channel is Christian, btw. Hello from me, Jae, in Australia! 💟✝️🙏📖🇦🇺

I don't think remembering to take warm clothes or making sure your car is well-serviced is intuition. That is experience or common sense. Intuition is more vague, it's like knowing without knowing, not experience. My mind also constantly produces paranoid thoughts and usually I try to ignore them.

You are beautiful, hon. If others don't see that, more fool them. Sending hugs to you. Xxx

Yep, I'm an INFJ who got bullied and assaulted, too. A living nightmare. Xxx

The daddy issues are because he didn't protect you from your mother who's own mother-directed rage was internalized as self-hatred. INFJ is undiagnosed autism. To be an "empath" is to be self-defeatingly selfless (which is absolutely a groomed autistic trait). The myth that autistics have no empathy is naturally a projection of our abusers (who regulated their masks of sanity for others by showing us no empathy). I doubt many INFJ IQs are under 130, because only intellectual compensation offsets ASD sufficiently to stay undiagnosed and unaware. Your mother's own autism was the predisposition to BPD upon arriving at motherhood completely unprepared that is in fact the mechanism of behavioral heritability from autistic mother to daughter. Postpartum psychosis (wish for the child to become "unborn") is the pathogenic etiology of autism (and SIDS).. Medicine pretends there's no such thing as an adult onset personality disorder but waits until adulthood to diagnose them specifically to accommodate autistic developmental delay in such a way as to protect treating clinicians who fail to make accurate pediatric diagnoses from negligent malpractice liability. The irony is that more often than not it's the diagnosed autistic kids of whom it makes sociopath and borderline adults, not the undiagnosed they assume it does. This of course has implications for your own kids. All I know is being under so much unsupported stress as to regret parenthood is an unenviable position. Autism is 4:1 male to female because it's easier for borderline and psychotic mothers (seeing others as extensions of themselves) to regard daughters as Mini Mes. If mine hadn't tortured me neither one of us would have survived. Problem is she still would sabotage and undermine me today if I would allow her. I don't even know if she's still alive but I do know that autistic naivete / gullibility is an adaptive survival strategy for a child whose mother mocks the distress she puts him in. Unfortunately it's no longer adaptive in adulthood. Which explains why she concealed my diagnosis. embrace-autism•com/raads-r/ If the questions aren't articulated clearly enough well that's the most autistic imaginable reaction to them. Not because we're too dim to understand them, but because we're too accustomed to traps.

yes, withdrawal is the natural protective function. Best reaction is to switch on external thinking and be active when you want it. Or you live with the fact that you need several days to analyze and decide.

Yes, it’s weird to feel uncomfortable when I’m picking up on someone’s bad vibes or terrible issues. Recently, walking up to a diner feeling happy and once I got to the building, I felt a waitress’ negative energy towards me. Or never really feeling comfortable enough to get a good nights sleep at a place that I live.

You're absolutely beautiful!! I love your hair! I relate to everything you said. Thank you for sharing. How fun would it be to know another INFJ in person?!

This is my first time seeing your content and i'm soo glad i found your channel ! This was soo wholesome and adorable to watch ❤ your esfp hubby said a lot of sweet things (and funny ones too ! Like ''your channel gives you the chance to talk to other weirdos like you'' 😂❤ as an infj i took it as a compliment 😂 My mom is an esfp and i love how we're different yet we have many things in common ! Sending you guys all my love and can't wait to watch more of your content ❤

we love you and i thank you for doing all this. i dont know what but it feels like i needed this in life

Healthy people will see manipulative behaviour and have their walls up. I’m so available loving trusting and then bam. 1,2,3 times someone does something scary that’s when my availability closes infj door slam. I do opposite of what you say as an infj

Isfj , talk so much and so many unecessary details . Lolol Nice video

Hahaha the first sentence rings so true

Its really difficult for us to fit in, as people has been trying to do, we never can be fitted in, because of who we are. People must understand, not to fit us in, as that won't go well, in all ways they can think of. We understand, the kindness to try to include us too, which is very generous but, we are on another wavelength. We are a bridge to people, thats why we don't really fit in with them. A bridge to another place.

I’d love to see your dime tours this year!

I miss you Joy, I hope you’re doing well!! 🌷💐

Small talk is trash