Something I learned from the internet, whatever you do, however you look, people will always critisize and judge you. They will always have something to say.
You have to be who you are. As INFJs, we have to check ourselves constantly to stop being people pleasers. That's a constant struggled. I have very few friends as an INFJ. I know I see the world differently than other personality types. It is what it is. I've had to come to terms with that. For the most part, I enjoy my own company more alone than with others. I have much more peace now. Maybe joining an INFJ community of some sort would give you comfort. Good to see you sharing on YT again.
My mother was so wonderful when I was growing up, she still is wonderful but she always said “anyone who has something negative to say about you is just jealous. It doesn’t mean your looks. They’re jealous of your light!” It took until I found out I was an INFJ to TRULY understand. I’ve been called intimidating my whole life. I won’t lie, I absolutely can be! I wear blue jeans, a t-shirt and boots, every day. I’m comfortable in my skin and I’m my clothes daily. I’ve been called a lesbian, a dyke. I don’t care, people don’t know me! I don’t want to be any other way than comfortable and me! 🫶🏻 Much love to you Joy!!
Joy, something told me to check in on you today, I am glad I did. Maybe a little late, because you made this video over 6 weeks ago, but I am here just the same. Now to your point, and your personal pain, and historical rejection. As an extremely creative INFJ, and Sigma Male, it is something I to have struggled with at various times in my own life. When we are growing and evolving in our life's journey in this place we call earth, it is a struggle at times to be accepted, and be taken into the fold of by peers. For me, my own father was not a blessing but a human being who was so traumatized by his own childhood and early teens that he never recovered. Because of the horrific trauma he was literally forced to endure, he tortured my hyper intelligent College Educated Mother, and made me his personal scapegoat and the primary victim. He tortured me even as he waited to undergo the operation that failed to save him, God said enough, and took him home. Joy, Genetic Scientists have discovered that trauma is carried in our Epigenome for a minimum of three generations. Our Epigenome is an Analog system of transcribing our DNA, which is actually Digital by nature. Think of the Epigenome as a 33rpm album by your favorite band from your teenage years. It accumulates scratches, dust, and vinyl particles, that over time inflict errors in the transcription of our DNA, and thus damage our cells, and by extension our lifespans. All of the trauma we both suffered is buried deep in our Epigenome, permanently. For me, when i raised my two daughters i promised God the trauma of my own family would not be extended into their own lies, and it wasn't. Now as for your own pain in your attempt to express yourself, know this Joy, INFJ's never really fit it in anywhere really. We have to carve out our own space, our own peer group, our own shelter where our creative nature can thrive and flourish. God knows your heart, your soul, and every scintilla of your being, and he made you for a very good reason Joy. You suffer from not a single "mistake" that God saddled you with, and traumatized you until recently in your attempts to find a home, acceptance, and peace in your church. Churches, no matter where you live have people that believe it is their right, not Gods to judge harshly those around them within the fold of Christ. Joy, be assured and strong, you are not a Canaanite Women by any means, and as the Bible says, judge not lest ye be judged. When you respect others from the instant you meet them, and treat them with kindness, openness, thoughtfulness, and a truly non-judgmental heart, the world is a very, very different place. When people realize they can speak to you without fear of condemnation or judgement the kindness, respect, and shared moments make it ALL worthwhile. When you are an extremely driven creative soul as I am, you soon discover that that consideration of others is payed back by God ten fold. The creative breakthroughs, answers to creative problems, and clear sense of creative direction makes it impossible to go back to being closed mind, judgmental, and unaccepting of others who are not exactly like myself Joy, it is OK to be your own person, to not dress like everyone in your peer group or community, period. Joy, there are people within every church that I have ever attended, who will reject you savagely and openly if you dress different, look different, dress different, or have even the slightest difference of opinion on anything political. I know from watching your videos 2 years ago that you live somewhere in the Midwest, in a rural community. I have always lived in the suburbs of Los Angeles, Silicon Valley, Seal Beach, California, and now Phoenix. It really does not make any difference where you live Joy. There are going to be small minded pathetic souls who take umbrage at your style, and overall appearance. Do I fit into suburbs of Phoenix, oh heck no Joy. As an artist a creator, I have an innate sense of style that places me in the 99.9th percentile of style when compared to those around me. Do I care, no, I have a powerful sense of my "Own Worth," and no one is allowed to cross that personal "Boundary." If those around me want to look like overgrown children in their grubby ill fitting clothing, and unkempt appearance, so much the better for me. Joy you need in your forties to "Find Your Worth," "Your Boundaries," so your personal fortress, protected by your guardian angles holds. Your sense of well being, that no one is allowed to denigrate or undervalue must endure ever assault by small minded individuals, and always protect your emotional wellbeing Joy, I did my first extensive digital cosmetic surgery in the truly rarified air of the Los Angeles Advertising Market's Creme de la creme in the Summer of 1986. A coworker and I collaborated with me as the head designer and creator of Rebbie Jackson's entire visage for her single "Reaction, which you can look up on Google Images." What you will see, is not her face, but my creation of a much younger, more beautiful, and definitely more exotic version of what was a mundane older sister of Michael Jackson. To put it mildly I know my way around digitally, and in the real world. So that being said Joy, know this, in my estimation you are a beautiful woman who has not a single clue just how beautiful, and stylish you really are. Lets start with you hair color, it is absolutely perfect for your radiant complexion. It makes you look better now than at any point in the past three years. Part of that is Gods Handiwork who created you, but a powerful percentage of your exquisite visage is "Your Own Doing." Yes, you may want to color the lower half of your hairs length, but that is up to you Joy. Your choice and application of cosmetics is hardly that of a Canaanite Woman of old. Your use of cosmetics is understated perfection, which imbues you with a classic, timeless look of natural beauty. As far as how you dress, I can't say this forcefully enough, don't listen to those who belittle you. Why, well those who criticize your appearance are out of Bounds first, and secondly they are more than likely jealous of your radiant and luxuriant appearance. People can be really petty Joy, "Know your true worth" that God placed in you at the moment of your conception Joy. One last thing before I go, I have to get back to work in Photoshop, but I think you really needed to hear all of this from a true INFJ Empath like yourself Joy. At the very end of this video where you bared your soul's pain and trauma, you looked down to your right. At that moment, 13:34 in your video Joy, It hurt to watch, because there was so much pain and obvious discomfort that I had to write you personally so that you may know that this INFJ understands, recognizes and empathizes with your pain. Joy you are such a kind, thoughtful human being, I could not let this moment pass by without telling you exactly what you needed to hear. You have Immense Worth, Immense Soul, and yet you show clear evidence of the pain you carry in your heart. Joy, i believe in you or I would not write you, please know that you are perfect as you are, and to own exactly who you are, because you are true wonder. Joy, never forget that, and please live it. Everybody on this Earth has times when they benefited from someone reaching out to raise them up, back to where they rightfully belong.
And the amazing thing is that as INFJ's, we actually already knew this stuff years and years ago, because our Ni and Fe had long since pattern recognized the truth of the crappiness of some people (which is why we hid to begin with), but still we often usually just kept giving the crappy people a pass over and over again, even when they gaslighted us. Having said all that, yes WE ARE FREE!! And I'm so glad to see you are not ashamed to be who GOD made you to be. Beautiful video!
When a parrot escapes into the wild it usually gets attacked by other birds because of its beautiful colours, it’s just a conformist in a world of crows. Same thing happens with people. Don’t ever stop singing your song of Joy.
Recently i started thinking about this famous poem every time i try to hold myself down because i don't want others to feel less than.. " Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. "
Hello friend we missed you, so awesome to see you again. With Jesus no one is rejected, he welcomes everyone to join him, he is everything to us and he sends us certain people to be a loving caring family where we live close to eachother in his arms and under his wings.
He does send us people to come along side. Sometimes for a season, to grow and sometimes for life. Yes, Jesus will not turn anyone away. He came for the rejected, the lost, the broken.
The rejection sucks. We INFJs tend to be on the sensitive side. Nonetheless, I have met many INFJs IRL and seen them online. We are not really as outlandish or goofy as we think we are. I think our Fe keeps us in check. The other truth is that there are certain types of people with radically different personalities who will always reject us because we are too different from them. Nothing we can say or do will ever change that. By the same token, there are certain personality types with whom we naturally vibe: ISFJs, ESFPs, ISFPs, INTPs, ENTPs, INFPs, fellow INFJs, ENFJs, even ESTPs and ISTPs. That's a big cross section of humanity, so we are bound to find friends among them.
INFJ in Minnesota here, if you ever see someone that looks like a cross between Amish and Hippie, it could be me. I use to have handfuls of people I didn't know on the street tell me how ugly I am, I've also had more tell me they like my skirts. I'm just going to dress how I want to dress regardless if they like it or not. I'm also familiar with the rejection over a lifetime, thanks for sharing your heart and mind with us and encouraging us to embrace our Heavenly Father's identity for us.
I missed you so much my fellow INFJ. You are the one that always shows up. I’m about to do that for someone else and that’s going to be hard. And then I look over and here you are showing up for me! We INFJ’s have to stick together. I do outfits on hangers too!!! And I ❤ your shirt!!!
“Do not, therefore, fling away your [fearless] confidence, for it has a glorious and great reward. For you have need of patient endurance [to bear up under difficult circumstances without compromising], so that when you have carried out the will of God, you may receive and enjoy to the full what is promised.” Hebrews 10 : 35-36 AMP You be you, Joy!! Confidence in who God made you to be so you can walk through this life sharing the love of God and teaching people how to live and love out of the way we are created ❤
it's good to see ya again. I've been through something similar to what you went through. I too was a member of a singles group once. I understood and handled the rejection well, and I moved onto where The Lord wanted me to be. Things have been so much better because I listened to Him. Thanks for a great video. May God richly bless you.
Hi Joy! Great to see your beautiful face AND soul! I always want to give you a great big hug! I have told you this before...I feel your pain and just want you to realize how very very special your are! Take care and know that your are blessed and loved! 🌷🙏🥰😚
Thank you for sharing this Joy! I think your situation is way more complicated than what you've told in this video. Now it has come out like it did, and that is a great way forward. Take care
I think about her often. We infjs tend to undermine our importance and the influence with have to others. I hope everything is going well with you Joys. We'll be waiting for you.
What the heck? I remember watching this already, like a year or two ago? Is it a repost, sorry I'm confused. I appreciate it, just confused . . . Please, thanks.
As long as you, and my family love me for me I give no fucks about other people's opinions of me. I'm not sure about the new light fixture being God's freedom of expression. Even he might give you all the credit for that one.😁
1 Peter 2...not 2 Peter. Mixed up the numbers a bit
Something I learned from the internet, whatever you do, however you look, people will always critisize and judge you. They will always have something to say.
You have to be who you are. As INFJs, we have to check ourselves constantly to stop being people pleasers. That's a constant struggled. I have very few friends as an INFJ. I know I see the world differently than other personality types. It is what it is. I've had to come to terms with that. For the most part, I enjoy my own company more alone than with others. I have much more peace now. Maybe joining an INFJ community of some sort would give you comfort. Good to see you sharing on YT again.
The people pleasing is a struggle yes. Compassion for the hurting and lost.
Bern in 2-sided relationships. Not anymore. It’s unfair, a waste of time and insulting.
My mother was so wonderful when I was growing up, she still is wonderful but she always said “anyone who has something negative to say about you is just jealous. It doesn’t mean your looks. They’re jealous of your light!” It took until I found out I was an INFJ to TRULY understand. I’ve been called intimidating my whole life. I won’t lie, I absolutely can be! I wear blue jeans, a t-shirt and boots, every day. I’m comfortable in my skin and I’m my clothes daily. I’ve been called a lesbian, a dyke. I don’t care, people don’t know me! I don’t want to be any other way than comfortable and me! 🫶🏻 Much love to you Joy!!
Joy, something told me to check in on you today, I am glad I did. Maybe a little late, because you made this video over 6 weeks ago, but I am here just the same. Now to your point, and your personal pain, and historical rejection. As an extremely creative INFJ, and Sigma Male, it is something I to have struggled with at various times in my own life. When we are growing and evolving in our life's journey in this place we call earth, it is a struggle at times to be accepted, and be taken into the fold of by peers. For me, my own father was not a blessing but a human being who was so traumatized by his own childhood and early teens that he never recovered. Because of the horrific trauma he was literally forced to endure, he tortured my hyper intelligent College Educated Mother, and made me his personal scapegoat and the primary victim. He tortured me even as he waited to undergo the operation that failed to save him, God said enough, and took him home.
Joy, Genetic Scientists have discovered that trauma is carried in our Epigenome for a minimum of three generations. Our Epigenome is an Analog system of transcribing our DNA, which is actually Digital by nature. Think of the Epigenome as a 33rpm album by your favorite band from your teenage years. It accumulates scratches, dust, and vinyl particles, that over time inflict errors in the transcription of our DNA, and thus damage our cells, and by extension our lifespans. All of the trauma we both suffered is buried deep in our Epigenome, permanently. For me, when i raised my two daughters i promised God the trauma of my own family would not be extended into their own lies, and it wasn't.
Now as for your own pain in your attempt to express yourself, know this Joy, INFJ's never really fit it in anywhere really. We have to carve out our own space, our own peer group, our own shelter where our creative nature can thrive and flourish. God knows your heart, your soul, and every scintilla of your being, and he made you for a very good reason Joy. You suffer from not a single "mistake" that God saddled you with, and traumatized you until recently in your attempts to find a home, acceptance, and peace in your church. Churches, no matter where you live have people that believe it is their right, not Gods to judge harshly those around them within the fold of Christ. Joy, be assured and strong, you are not a Canaanite Women by any means, and as the Bible says, judge not lest ye be judged. When you respect others from the instant you meet them, and treat them with kindness, openness, thoughtfulness, and a truly non-judgmental heart, the world is a very, very different place. When people realize they can speak to you without fear of condemnation or judgement the kindness, respect, and shared moments make it ALL worthwhile. When you are an extremely driven creative soul as I am, you soon discover that that consideration of others is payed back by God ten fold. The creative breakthroughs, answers to creative problems, and clear sense of creative direction makes it impossible to go back to being closed mind, judgmental, and unaccepting of others who are not exactly like myself
Joy, it is OK to be your own person, to not dress like everyone in your peer group or community, period. Joy, there are people within every church that I have ever attended, who will reject you savagely and openly if you dress different, look different, dress different, or have even the slightest difference of opinion on anything political. I know from watching your videos 2 years ago that you live somewhere in the Midwest, in a rural community. I have always lived in the suburbs of Los Angeles, Silicon Valley, Seal Beach, California, and now Phoenix. It really does not make any difference where you live Joy. There are going to be small minded pathetic souls who take umbrage at your style, and overall appearance. Do I fit into suburbs of Phoenix, oh heck no Joy. As an artist a creator, I have an innate sense of style that places me in the 99.9th percentile of style when compared to those around me. Do I care, no, I have a powerful sense of my "Own Worth," and no one is allowed to cross that personal "Boundary." If those around me want to look like overgrown children in their grubby ill fitting clothing, and unkempt appearance, so much the better for me. Joy you need in your forties to "Find Your Worth," "Your Boundaries," so your personal fortress, protected by your guardian angles holds. Your sense of well being, that no one is allowed to denigrate or undervalue must endure ever assault by small minded individuals, and always protect your emotional wellbeing
Joy, I did my first extensive digital cosmetic surgery in the truly rarified air of the Los Angeles Advertising Market's Creme de la creme in the Summer of 1986. A coworker and I collaborated with me as the head designer and creator of Rebbie Jackson's entire visage for her single "Reaction, which you can look up on Google Images." What you will see, is not her face, but my creation of a much younger, more beautiful, and definitely more exotic version of what was a mundane older sister of Michael Jackson. To put it mildly I know my way around digitally, and in the real world. So that being said Joy, know this, in my estimation you are a beautiful woman who has not a single clue just how beautiful, and stylish you really are. Lets start with you hair color, it is absolutely perfect for your radiant complexion. It makes you look better now than at any point in the past three years. Part of that is Gods Handiwork who created you, but a powerful percentage of your exquisite visage is "Your Own Doing." Yes, you may want to color the lower half of your hairs length, but that is up to you Joy. Your choice and application of cosmetics is hardly that of a Canaanite Woman of old. Your use of cosmetics is understated perfection, which imbues you with a classic, timeless look of natural beauty. As far as how you dress, I can't say this forcefully enough, don't listen to those who belittle you. Why, well those who criticize your appearance are out of Bounds first, and secondly they are more than likely jealous of your radiant and luxuriant appearance. People can be really petty Joy, "Know your true worth" that God placed in you at the moment of your conception Joy.
One last thing before I go, I have to get back to work in Photoshop, but I think you really needed to hear all of this from a true INFJ Empath like yourself Joy. At the very end of this video where you bared your soul's pain and trauma, you looked down to your right. At that moment, 13:34 in your video Joy, It hurt to watch, because there was so much pain and obvious discomfort that I had to write you personally so that you may know that this INFJ understands, recognizes and empathizes with your pain. Joy you are such a kind, thoughtful human being, I could not let this moment pass by without telling you exactly what you needed to hear. You have Immense Worth, Immense Soul, and yet you show clear evidence of the pain you carry in your heart. Joy, i believe in you or I would not write you, please know that you are perfect as you are, and to own exactly who you are, because you are true wonder. Joy, never forget that, and please live it. Everybody on this Earth has times when they benefited from someone reaching out to raise them up, back to where they rightfully belong.
And the amazing thing is that as INFJ's, we actually already knew this stuff years and years ago, because our Ni and Fe had long since pattern recognized the truth of the crappiness of some people (which is why we hid to begin with), but still we often usually just kept giving the crappy people a pass over and over again, even when they gaslighted us. Having said all that, yes WE ARE FREE!! And I'm so glad to see you are not ashamed to be who GOD made you to be. Beautiful video!
70 times 7....grace and forgiveness
This is a breath of fresh air. We were created the way we are for a reason. Thanks for the video!
'Be the light ' ✨️
I can't seem to find the right words explaining how much I miss and appreciate you.
Praying you are healed up and back to normal functioning
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Thanks for asking.
I'm doing pretty good considering the circumstances.
When a parrot escapes into the wild it usually gets attacked by other birds because of its beautiful colours, it’s just a conformist in a world of crows.
Same thing happens with people.
Don’t ever stop singing your song of Joy.
Poor poor crows
Recently i started thinking about this famous poem every time i try to hold myself down because i don't want others to feel less than..
" Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. "
Hello friend we missed you, so awesome to see you again. With Jesus no one is rejected, he welcomes everyone to join him, he is everything to us and he sends us certain people to be a loving caring family where we live close to eachother in his arms and under his wings.
He does send us people to come along side. Sometimes for a season, to grow and sometimes for life. Yes, Jesus will not turn anyone away. He came for the rejected, the lost, the broken.
The rejection sucks. We INFJs tend to be on the sensitive side. Nonetheless, I have met many INFJs IRL and seen them online. We are not really as outlandish or goofy as we think we are. I think our Fe keeps us in check.
The other truth is that there are certain types of people with radically different personalities who will always reject us because we are too different from them. Nothing we can say or do will ever change that.
By the same token, there are certain personality types with whom we naturally vibe: ISFJs, ESFPs, ISFPs, INTPs, ENTPs, INFPs, fellow INFJs, ENFJs, even ESTPs and ISTPs. That's a big cross section of humanity, so we are bound to find friends among them.
YOU ARE SO WONDERFUL AND INSPIRING. I am in year 12 and you are really helping me get through life. Thank you !!
INFJ in Minnesota here, if you ever see someone that looks like a cross between Amish and Hippie, it could be me. I use to have handfuls of people I didn't know on the street tell me how ugly I am, I've also had more tell me they like my skirts. I'm just going to dress how I want to dress regardless if they like it or not. I'm also familiar with the rejection over a lifetime, thanks for sharing your heart and mind with us and encouraging us to embrace our Heavenly Father's identity for us.
Amish and hippie....so beautiful
I missed you so much my fellow INFJ. You are the one that always shows up. I’m about to do that for someone else and that’s going to be hard. And then I look over and here you are showing up for me! We INFJ’s have to stick together. I do outfits on hangers too!!! And I ❤ your shirt!!!
It's a dress actually, knee length, super cozy. When I ordered I thought it was thicker like a fleece hoodie but I still enjoy it.
“Do not, therefore, fling away your [fearless] confidence, for it has a glorious and great reward. For you have need of patient endurance [to bear up under difficult circumstances without compromising], so that when you have carried out the will of God, you may receive and enjoy to the full what is promised.”
Hebrews 10 : 35-36 AMP
You be you, Joy!! Confidence in who God made you to be so you can walk through this life sharing the love of God and teaching people how to live and love out of the way we are created ❤
Amen!! Thank you
Hey Joy, just had been listening to some INFJ videos and come across your videos too. Just wanted to say Happy Easter! ✝️☀️🌷🐰🕊
So beautiful that you share that!Thank you.
glad you're well -
it's good to see ya again. I've been through something similar to what you went through. I too was a member of a singles group once. I understood and handled the rejection well, and I moved onto where The Lord wanted me to be. Things have been so much better because I listened to Him. Thanks for a great video. May God richly bless you.
It's always better when we obey Him. Even if it hurts at the time, he knows the path.
Doesn't it feel amazing to just live true to the tune that's playing in your heart? :)
Oh it does....the Father is singing over me because he delights in his children
Hi Joy! Great to see your beautiful face AND soul!
I always want to give you a great big hug! I have told you this before...I feel your pain and just want you to realize how very very special your are!
Take care and know that your are blessed and loved! 🌷🙏🥰😚
Thank you, blessings to you as well
Hi joy! Glad to hear you again! Still pray for you often
Good to see you Joy. You were missed. Thank you for the video
I adore you and I do that too.
Thank you for sharing this Joy! I think your situation is way more complicated than what you've told in this video. Now it has come out like it did, and that is a great way forward. Take care
As it always is...more complicated, ha!
We missed you! Good to see you
how are you doing joy? i hope well.. also i hope to see another vid of u soon. anyways take care and stay weird
I think about her often. We infjs tend to undermine our importance and the influence with have to others. I hope everything is going well with you Joys. We'll be waiting for you.
Joy, it has been a while! I missed seeing you. Glad to see you back. ❤
My fav infj 🥀
Gosh, I’ve missed you!! Been thinking about you the last few weeks 😊
Thank you
How are you doing Joy?-it's been a while!
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What the heck? I remember watching this already, like a year or two ago? Is it a repost, sorry I'm confused. I appreciate it, just confused . . . Please, thanks.
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As long as you, and my family love me for me I give no fucks about other people's opinions of me. I'm not sure about the new light fixture being God's freedom of expression. Even he might give you all the credit for that one.😁