My earliest childhood memories are around anxiety. I may have been prone to anxiety, but I think the environment I grew up in was really rejecting, chaotic, and a lot of insecure attachment parenting. I created an alternate reality as a denial technique, so as an adult I couldn't accurately figure out how to defend myself because I was excusing bullying behavior and taking ownership for other's negative behavior. It's only become clearer to me all these years later. It's such a crippling situation to sense (anxiety) something is wrong and to be unable to see the hurtful behavior for what it is and to act in self defense.
Think often anxiety arises from not just the unknown, but previous negative experiences, parental criticisms, shame, blame, and a fear of others not accepting us. Think we often have a tendency to reject ourselves. Our inner critic can often be toxic, and we are significantly harsher on ourselves than we would be with anyone else.
Everywhere I look I’m seeing and feeling people filled with fear because of the state of things in our world right now. I’m actually ABSORBING this energy when I go out. And I’ve noticed that the fear is fantastically more pronounced than it was a couple years ago. I’ve also noticed that when I’m not around the fearful people I feel much less afraid. Is anyone else experiencing this?
not currently but when everyone was masked up and freaked out last spring/summer around here before covid came, yes. Once it swept through and settled back to normal that seems to have subsided a bit. we shall see what this fall/winter brings
From a mans perspective, I'll admit I'm shocked when a hear you open up about anxiety, fear, rejection. In my mind I'll think... She is so warm hearted, and a beautiful lady! How can she ever feel insecure, anxiety... but if anything it helps me understand more as a man that no matter how we might view another person... We all have things that we struggle with. Always enjoy your videos for how honest you are!
I have social anxiety too it hurts. I freak out when i want to start something when i meet the boss or when his wife comes back when i used to work. I lose focus on organizing my thoughts and my speech stutters. Social anxiety is a real issue for me but now I'm learning to put it under control, I'm tired of it.
I used to be very fearful of meeting people, it's usually anticipatory anxiety, I've found that forcing myself into realising I'm brilliant at talking to people in the moment (Which I am, and I'm sure you are) also it's important to understand others are not as observant of us or as interested in us as we give them credit, they've probably got their own self conscious issues too. I think it is feeling confident that you are a good person. I imagine being in the US with all those extroverts though probably makes it harder. It's important to foster a diamond shard of self belief I think that's okay and to love ourselves and be our own best friends, we can do that you know. Also a very important thing is all the anxiety clouds the moment, it blocks you from enjoying the sensory aspects of this fleeting occasion, sometimes we have to let people adapt to us rather than us to everyone else, it's easier to wear slippers than carpet the world. Jeepers that's all over the place I'll let you work that out while I get my coat....I'll lock up....
Every day is an Oscar winning performance for an INFJ, the internal dialogue kicks into gear the second we leave the house. “Did I walk to the car in a normal manner..? Ugh I think my neighbour just waved & I blanked them so to compensate I’ll flash a car out of a side road, Jesus is my shirt too loud for the meeting..? AM I WEARING PANTS..?” 😱 Arrive at meeting in the Hot-Mess-Express & inexplicably introduce myself as Elton John 😐
all aboard the hot mess express!!! that's how I feel most days with the carefully constructed exterior of one who never forgets a thing and has every eyelash in place
I totally feel you, I left a homeschool event in tears from an anxiety attack last year. I've been doing the course in miracles this past year since then and its helped so much, I am now running a homeschool meetup group. It really helped me accept me where I'm at.
I love your vids joy! Tell me….do you experience irritation being around people??? I can’t get in and out of public places fast enough. If you can relate, I’d love to see you do a video about this
As you started the video and began to describe your anxiety you said looking back it was funny almost funny and you had a cute grin the reason that caught my attention is when I get angry I can’t find my keys something that I have no reason to be angry for I’ll sit and start laughing on purpose just thinking how funny it is that I’m getting mad over something so silly for what it’s worth I think you’re onto something with the laughter may be the next time it’s coming on think about how silly it is and it’s kind of hard to be anxious when you’re laughing 🐶😎🐶🦍💨😅
This anxiety rejection thing got so bad for me I eventually went trucking again. Decided that if I was to feel alone in midst of people I’d rather be physically alone. Over the road trucking has helped a great deal. Granted there’s low days but I can think out here good perspective makes me appreciate being around people again on my days off Thank you for sharing your story. I’ve felt as you have described many many times.
That anxiety is like vacuous flames dancing for you, teasing, but its not you and its not crystal ball that knows the future, once I realised that it lost power over me, hope that helps
I use a simple mantra to talk myself down from anxiety: "everything's fine; nothing bad is going to happen; you'll be alright". And deep breaths.
My earliest childhood memories are around anxiety. I may have been prone to anxiety, but I think the environment I grew up in was really rejecting, chaotic, and a lot of insecure attachment parenting. I created an alternate reality as a denial technique, so as an adult I couldn't accurately figure out how to defend myself because I was excusing bullying behavior and taking ownership for other's negative behavior. It's only become clearer to me all these years later. It's such a crippling situation to sense (anxiety) something is wrong and to be unable to see the hurtful behavior for what it is and to act in self defense.
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Think often anxiety arises from not just the unknown, but previous negative experiences, parental criticisms, shame, blame, and a fear of others not accepting us. Think we often have a tendency to reject ourselves. Our inner critic can often be toxic, and we are significantly harsher on ourselves than we would be with anyone else.
true true true , the negative thoughts are absolutely a repeat of things I have heard or experienced before
@@joyousprairies9313 like a skipping record player
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Everywhere I look I’m seeing and feeling people filled with fear because of the state of things in our world right now. I’m actually ABSORBING this energy when I go out. And I’ve noticed that the fear is fantastically more pronounced than it was a couple years ago. I’ve also noticed that when I’m not around the fearful people I feel much less afraid. Is anyone else experiencing this?
not currently but when everyone was masked up and freaked out last spring/summer around here before covid came, yes. Once it swept through and settled back to normal that seems to have subsided a bit. we shall see what this fall/winter brings
I feel it too...
Anxiety is friend who gets sometimes overprotective. Be blessed friends. Magnesium(avoid cheap oxide) helps to calm body: "calm mind in calm body"
From a mans perspective, I'll admit I'm shocked when a hear you open up about anxiety, fear, rejection. In my mind I'll think... She is so warm hearted, and a beautiful lady! How can she ever feel insecure, anxiety... but if anything it helps me understand more as a man that no matter how we might view another person... We all have things that we struggle with. Always enjoy your videos for how honest you are!
I have social anxiety too it hurts. I freak out when i want to start something when i meet the boss or when his wife comes back when i used to work. I lose focus on organizing my thoughts and my speech stutters. Social anxiety is a real issue for me but now I'm learning to put it under control, I'm tired of it.
I am tired of it too, I tell myself that while I am pacing the house or arranging my going out bag for the 10th time. I am tired of this...
I used to be very fearful of meeting people, it's usually anticipatory anxiety, I've found that forcing myself into realising I'm brilliant at talking to people in the moment (Which I am, and I'm sure you are) also it's important to understand others are not as observant of us or as interested in us as we give them credit, they've probably got their own self conscious issues too. I think it is feeling confident that you are a good person. I imagine being in the US with all those extroverts though probably makes it harder. It's important to foster a diamond shard of self belief I think that's okay and to love ourselves and be our own best friends, we can do that you know. Also a very important thing is all the anxiety clouds the moment, it blocks you from enjoying the sensory aspects of this fleeting occasion, sometimes we have to let people adapt to us rather than us to everyone else, it's easier to wear slippers than carpet the world. Jeepers that's all over the place I'll let you work that out while I get my coat....I'll lock up....
anxiety does cloud the moment, another reason to put it behind me
Every day is an Oscar winning performance for an INFJ, the internal dialogue kicks into gear the second we leave the house.
“Did I walk to the car in a normal manner..? Ugh I think my neighbour just waved & I blanked them so to compensate I’ll flash a car out of a side road, Jesus is my shirt too loud for the meeting..? AM I WEARING PANTS..?” 😱
Arrive at meeting in the Hot-Mess-Express & inexplicably introduce myself as Elton John 😐
all aboard the hot mess express!!! that's how I feel most days with the carefully constructed exterior of one who never forgets a thing and has every eyelash in place
…while nonchalantly holding the entire universe together, it’s a dirty job but somebody’s gotta go it. 👉🧚🏻♀️👈
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I totally feel you, I left a homeschool event in tears from an anxiety attack last year. I've been doing the course in miracles this past year since then and its helped so much, I am now running a homeschool meetup group. It really helped me accept me where I'm at.
I have left many events in tears....learning to speak up and confront issues instead of just never returning seems to be healthier for me
I love your vids joy! Tell me….do you experience irritation being around people??? I can’t get in and out of public places fast enough. If you can relate, I’d love to see you do a video about this
Social Anxiety is kinda easy to conquer
As you started the video and began to describe your anxiety you said looking back it was funny almost funny and you had a cute grin the reason that caught my attention is when I get angry I can’t find my keys something that I have no reason to be angry for I’ll sit and start laughing on purpose just thinking how funny it is that I’m getting mad over something so silly for what it’s worth I think you’re onto something with the laughter may be the next time it’s coming on think about how silly it is and it’s kind of hard to be anxious when you’re laughing 🐶😎🐶🦍💨😅
ohhhhh excellent idea, will give it a shot
Kava kava is a help
This anxiety rejection thing got so bad for me I eventually went trucking again. Decided that if I was to feel alone in midst of people I’d rather be physically alone. Over the road trucking has helped a great deal. Granted there’s low days but I can think out here good perspective makes me appreciate being around people again on my days off Thank you for sharing your story. I’ve felt as you have described many many times.
That anxiety is like vacuous flames dancing for you, teasing, but its not you and its not crystal ball that knows the future, once I realised that it lost power over me, hope that helps