Nice thought from the pure heart of an INFJ, yet lots of people complain, moan and just drop shit all around us. Used to be the one who would keep it to myself, not to complain, rather fix it. Turns out people would complain only to use you to fix their thing..... Big mistake... Growing up and opening eyes.. Protect yourself and your energy!
Sometimes I feel overwhelmed when I realize that everything is ok or out of the infinite scenarios I've created in my mind things came out to be fine. I feel an unfamiliar feeling, like I have only been trained to handle bad outcomes. When I catch myself over complain I feel sorry for myself because I know that I'm being ungrateful. Whatever I do though complaining is a trait for sure.
I hear you ma'am on this video its been a while since I watched your videos it was a meme on Instagram about INFJs that said "sometimes being not stressed makes me stressed, and feeling that I am wasting my time" ma'am when I tell you this had made me laugh when I was praying leaving from work is so true its like we look for our own drama lmaoooo 😂😂😂😂 and once we're at peace with ourselves its good because we gain more knowledge and wisdom throughout time but once we're all good and peaceful we're like okay what's there to talk about now lol 😂😂😂😂 we're more quite when we don't have nothing else to talk to ourselves about lol ma'am this is soo contradicting of us why are we like this lbvs
The complexities of INFJ perfectionism can be a weary road indeed & without doubt not for the feint of heart. Fortunately God has chosen to bless my life with an endless supply of idiots so I feel complaining would be a fruitless task. You still have that rifle..? (Asking for a friend) Keep smiling Hippy Chick. ✨
Have noticed that I complain the same way I tap a pen or crack my knuckles, just a mindless and useless (and harmful) habit to hear myself talk. Really need to get intentional and let the Spirit work on this. Great vid, blessings to you ✊🏽.
Hey there Joy, Really enjoyed this talk here. Very good point about distinguishing between complaining that's more superficial/nit-picky, and that which shares deeper troubles and matters of the heart one may have. My trouble is that I seldom complain about anything....even if it is some kind of real pain I'm going through...and if I ever do I feel tremendously guilty afterward, like I've been a burden in a way....and I'll usually quickly downplay it or whitewash it, saying: "Oh it's really not that bad....forget I even brought it up..." That sort of thing. Maybe it's a characteristic of my own personality type (I tested as INFP myself :-) perhaps, but either way I really appreciate hearing your words today. It's a good reminder. Thanks for sharing this. I know I haven't commented much, though have really appreciated your videos since I saw you for the first time with the the one where you were asking "How's your heart". :-) All the best. -Carm
One of the many things that I learned while I was in the US Air Force was this. If I have a complaint to voice, be sure to have a good idea or suggestion that will fix what I am complaining about. I find it useful in having discussions with co-workers, supervisors, managers, leaders, etc. It normally produces brain-storming sessions instead of arguments.
Hi Joy. INFJohnny here. Hope you are well. The good book says "do all things without murmurings and disputings". Lately I've been yapping about everything going on in the world, mainly to my loved ones. It hasn't made things better. My family needs me to be strong and kind right now. They need me to TRUST God. To believe in myself and God. To encourage, and remain calm. I'm trying. It's hard. Anyways, really miss your videos. On a side note, and for what it's worth- I am a perfectionist. I got really discouraged recently when a video I worked 100 hours on in a week only got a couple hundred views. I was then reminded of Sean Cannell of Think media's words "punch perfectionism in the face. Ya gotta just press record". Nothing wrong with big productions. I have several planned for the future. But as you know so well, TH-cam takes A LOT of time. So lately I've just been doing super simple infj infp topics in the vertical video format on my phone, and the audience is actually responding better! Anyways, I realize your hiatus might not have anything to do with discouragement or perfectionism, but I felt led to say... I hope you'll press record soon, because the mbti community has a bigger need than ever to receive spoken words of love and truth, and that Joy, is your gift. Have a blessed week. 🙏
watching through alot of your videos, you seem more like a NI/Fi (INTJ fi jumper). You pretty much described what Demon Te looks like almost perfectly. I could be completely wrong, but your Fi comes out a lot more than Ti and Fe...
Complaining can be a means of venting out and releasing pressure and expressing grievance. I complain, but when there's no use and can't change anything i shut up and turn to my imagination where everything is possible. Imagination is life. In my imagination i can get what i want and have things my way.
The way you talk is very similar to the way that I do things and I’m very curious I know you said your kids are older how did you handle then when they were teenagers with your mindset and way of thinking. Think about everything I deal with them and make sure that it’s the best thing to do and how I talk to them because I want to be the best influence on them I can did you do something similar?? Any advice for another infj parent about to have a teenager in the house?
I don't know about you, but my mood can definitely determine my complaining level. Also life pain/suffering/misery cup can fill up and then it comes out as ever increasing complaining especially in an internal dialogue...grumbling. It's like a boil that needs to be lanced so all the toxins life throws at us can come out. Otherwise...more complaining will be the result for me. Sometimes I'll be complaining about someone to a friend but, but in my case, it was more like just gossiping. When I figured that out, I saw it as creepy on my part and not beneficial in any way. You're right that one can be in more in control with being positive especially if they've gained insight from self reflection. Here's a uke tutorial for a cute little song: th-cam.com/video/_oWI8wFJBoM/w-d-xo.html
Nice thought from the pure heart of an INFJ, yet lots of people complain, moan and just drop shit all around us. Used to be the one who would keep it to myself, not to complain, rather fix it. Turns out people would complain only to use you to fix their thing..... Big mistake... Growing up and opening eyes.. Protect yourself and your energy!
That's why I call myself "Steve the Peeve" I always feel like I have something to complain about.
Sometimes I feel overwhelmed when I realize that everything is ok or out of the infinite scenarios I've created in my mind things came out to be fine. I feel an unfamiliar feeling, like I have only been trained to handle bad outcomes. When I catch myself over complain I feel sorry for myself because I know that I'm being ungrateful. Whatever I do though complaining is a trait for sure.
I hear you ma'am on this video its been a while since I watched your videos it was a meme on Instagram about INFJs that said "sometimes being not stressed makes me stressed, and feeling that I am wasting my time" ma'am when I tell you this had made me laugh when I was praying leaving from work is so true its like we look for our own drama lmaoooo 😂😂😂😂 and once we're at peace with ourselves its good because we gain more knowledge and wisdom throughout time but once we're all good and peaceful we're like okay what's there to talk about now lol 😂😂😂😂 we're more quite when we don't have nothing else to talk to ourselves about lol ma'am this is soo contradicting of us why are we like this lbvs
🐶😏🐶Sharing is caring I remember hearing that somewhere I life it’s such a strange thing
sometimes sharing your own burden lightens someone else's somehow
The complexities of INFJ perfectionism can be a weary road indeed & without doubt not for the feint of heart.
Fortunately God has chosen to bless my life with an endless supply of idiots so I feel complaining would be a fruitless task.
You still have that rifle..? (Asking for a friend)
Keep smiling Hippy Chick. ✨
Thank God for the volume button.😇
Have noticed that I complain the same way I tap a pen or crack my knuckles, just a mindless and useless (and harmful) habit to hear myself talk. Really need to get intentional and let the Spirit work on this. Great vid, blessings to you ✊🏽.
Hey there Joy, Really enjoyed this talk here. Very good point about distinguishing between complaining that's more superficial/nit-picky, and that which shares deeper troubles and matters of the heart one may have.
My trouble is that I seldom complain about anything....even if it is some kind of real pain I'm going through...and if I ever do I feel tremendously guilty afterward, like I've been a burden in a way....and I'll usually quickly downplay it or whitewash it, saying: "Oh it's really not that bad....forget I even brought it up..." That sort of thing. Maybe it's a characteristic of my own personality type (I tested as INFP myself :-) perhaps, but either way I really appreciate hearing your words today. It's a good reminder. Thanks for sharing this. I know I haven't commented much, though have really appreciated your videos since I saw you for the first time with the the one where you were asking "How's your heart". :-) All the best. -Carm
oh yes....pouring out all of the sorrows then trying to pull them back in with a oh nevermind it's not that bad
familiar territory for me as well
One of the many things that I learned while I was in the US Air Force was this. If I have a complaint to voice, be sure to have a good idea or suggestion that will fix what I am complaining about. I find it useful in having discussions with co-workers, supervisors, managers, leaders, etc. It normally produces brain-storming sessions instead of arguments.
Bringing a solution, isn't complaining. Nobody enjoys complainers.
Hi Joy. INFJohnny here. Hope you are well. The good book says "do all things without murmurings and disputings". Lately I've been yapping about everything going on in the world, mainly to my loved ones. It hasn't made things better. My family needs me to be strong and kind right now. They need me to TRUST God. To believe in myself and God. To encourage, and remain calm. I'm trying. It's hard. Anyways, really miss your videos. On a side note, and for what it's worth- I am a perfectionist. I got really discouraged recently when a video I worked 100 hours on in a week only got a couple hundred views. I was then reminded of Sean Cannell of Think media's words "punch perfectionism in the face. Ya gotta just press record". Nothing wrong with big productions. I have several planned for the future. But as you know so well, TH-cam takes A LOT of time. So lately I've just been doing super simple infj infp topics in the vertical video format on my phone, and the audience is actually responding better! Anyways, I realize your hiatus might not have anything to do with discouragement or perfectionism, but I felt led to say... I hope you'll press record soon, because the mbti community has a bigger need than ever to receive spoken words of love and truth, and that Joy, is your gift. Have a blessed week. 🙏
Thank you. Very much. So very much. Bless you.
Well this was a waste of 9 minutes. With you as my wife, I have nothing to complain about.😁🥰
happy to see you smiling
watching through alot of your videos, you seem more like a NI/Fi (INTJ fi jumper). You pretty much described what Demon Te looks like almost perfectly. I could be completely wrong, but your Fi comes out a lot more than Ti and Fe...
My main complaint is that people complain too much, but I guess that makes me a complainer too. Thanks Joy, for your insights.
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Complaining can be a means of venting out and releasing pressure and expressing grievance. I complain, but when there's no use and can't change anything i shut up and turn to my imagination where everything is possible. Imagination is life. In my imagination i can get what i want and have things my way.
imagination is a nice place to be sometimes
amen
The way you talk is very similar to the way that I do things and I’m very curious I know you said your kids are older how did you handle then when they were teenagers with your mindset and way of thinking.
Think about everything I deal with them and make sure that it’s the best thing to do and how I talk to them because I want to be the best influence on them I can did you do something similar??
Any advice for another infj parent about to have a teenager in the house?
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I do easily complain and I see my kids complain all the time, so I also see I need to kick on the complaining. It's going to be hard
I see a lot of zipping my lip and swallowing my words coming for the work week ahead!!! asking God for his grace over my mouth and help with my words
I don't know about you, but my mood can definitely determine my complaining level. Also life pain/suffering/misery cup can fill up and then it comes out as ever increasing complaining especially in an internal dialogue...grumbling. It's like a boil that needs to be lanced so all the toxins life throws at us can come out. Otherwise...more complaining will be the result for me. Sometimes I'll be complaining about someone to a friend but, but in my case, it was more like just gossiping. When I figured that out, I saw it as creepy on my part and not beneficial in any way. You're right that one can be in more in control with being positive especially if they've gained insight from self reflection.
Here's a uke tutorial for a cute little song: th-cam.com/video/_oWI8wFJBoM/w-d-xo.html
oh yes the gossiping....another thing I should pay attention to
great advice!
thank you sir, let's see if I can follow it
When you mentioned old hymns, are you familiar with the ancient Christian hymns like Trisaghion and Xristos Anesti?