It's good to see you post again. Ya had some nice weather, & your favorite old chair there in the yard under the tree. You're right. Idle words can be damaging. It's best to not say anything at all when we're upset until we cool down and gather our thoughts. That is so hard to remember to do when us humans want to vent our frustrations.
Had someone accuse me of completely vile and despicable things, and call me all kinds of wretched things. Rather than fight or defend myself, I walked away. This person is someone that I know knows better than what he was saying. This is someone that I have known since birth and have never lied, never harmed in any way, and done or said no wrong to ever. I still don't know if I should have handled differently, but I believe he was capable and even likely to physically harm me had I not walked away.
Don't beat yourself up for not standing up for yourself. Be proud that you turned the cheek by walking away. Don't go back to this person until they apologise.
“ Before you speak let your words pass through 3 gates: Is it true? ; Is it necessary? and Is it kind?” awareness of idle thoughts and filtering it is a conscious effort in of itself. In Islam, we believe most of our sins are caused by our tongues. And to speak only when words are beautiful than silence. Even in stoicism, Epictetus states “ Let silence be your general rule; say only what it necessary and in few words.” I’m good with silence but I’m not all that great when speaking up in a form that would come across as helpful. To deliver truth with love, concern and compassion than subtle passive aggressiveness, with the constant ‘ I told you this would happen, what were you thinking ?’; I realised I did that with my sister more than I care to count 😞. Too overbearing but always done with good intentions. “When words come from the heart of anyone, they find a place in the heart of another, but when they come merely from the tongue, they don’t go further than the ear.” 💔 There always have to be a balance somewhere. Maybe I need to course on tightrope walking lol, might bring me some insight on how to achieve it 🤷♀️
4:42 interesting topic you have introduced there to expand on ♥️ How are we speaking of ourselves , how we are speaking of our life experiences, how we speak of others ? The consequences of silence is another issue I had and still have 🤔 It amazes me how a few words or phrases can have such depths and wisdom that till this day, there are lessons to be learned, if we all take the time to reflect. Good to see you 💜
Thought provoking video. I have always worried and wonder what are "idle words", and am I guilty of using them. I looked up the definition and found: "without purpose or effect; pointless". I absolutely avoid "idle word" people. Aka small talk, party talk, or office friend talk. Fortunately "idle words" are not really an INFJ's thing. I looked up Strong's Greek and the word translated as idle is defined as idle, lazy, thoughtless, unprofitable, injurious, lazy.. The word "injurious" probably is where our concern should lie. That is we shouldn't say injurious words to people. Not if we have love in our hearts.
It's good to see you post again. Ya had some nice weather, & your favorite old chair there in the yard under the tree. You're right. Idle words can be damaging. It's best to not say anything at all when we're upset until we cool down and gather our thoughts. That is so hard to remember to do when us humans want to vent our frustrations.
it is so hard to remember to do. Self control, gentleness. Certainly not things I can stir up on my own. fruits of the Spirit
Had someone accuse me of completely vile and despicable things, and call me all kinds of wretched things. Rather than fight or defend myself, I walked away. This person is someone that I know knows better than what he was saying. This is someone that I have known since birth and have never lied, never harmed in any way, and done or said no wrong to ever. I still don't know if I should have handled differently, but I believe he was capable and even likely to physically harm me had I not walked away.
walking away is sometimes the best thing
Don't beat yourself up for not standing up for yourself. Be proud that you turned the cheek by walking away. Don't go back to this person until they apologise.
“ Before you speak let your words pass through 3 gates: Is it true? ; Is it necessary? and Is it kind?”
awareness of idle thoughts and filtering it is a conscious effort in of itself. In Islam, we believe most of our sins are caused by our tongues. And to speak only when words are beautiful than silence. Even in stoicism, Epictetus states “ Let silence be your general rule; say only what it necessary and in few words.”
I’m good with silence but I’m not all that great when speaking up in a form that would come across as helpful. To deliver truth with love, concern and compassion than subtle passive aggressiveness, with the constant ‘ I told you this would happen, what were you thinking ?’; I realised I did that with my sister more than I care to count 😞. Too overbearing but always done with good intentions.
“When words come from the heart of anyone, they find a place in the heart of another, but when they come merely from the tongue, they don’t go further than the ear.” 💔
There always have to be a balance somewhere. Maybe I need to course on tightrope walking lol, might bring me some insight on how to achieve it 🤷♀️
4:42 interesting topic you have introduced there to expand on ♥️
How are we speaking of ourselves , how we are speaking of our life experiences, how we speak of others ? The consequences of silence is another issue I had and still have 🤔
It amazes me how a few words or phrases can have such depths and wisdom that till this day, there are lessons to be learned, if we all take the time to reflect. Good to see you 💜
I like this gate thing. Will I be able to do it? No, but I wish I could
@@דיןהיכל Me too. At times as well silence is not necessary golden.
tightrope walking!!! 😆😆😆 yes balance and self control and know what to speak and when and to whom...Lord have mercy on these words of mine
😔💔 Sometimes there is no words🐶😎🐶💜🧚♀️
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Glad to see you're using that cup 😊 hope you like it!
I LOVE it Eric, thank you again so so much. I use it all the time. So beautiful
JOYYYY 🤗💖 I haven't watched anything yet, im just excited to see you post again 😊
it's been ages
Thought provoking video. I have always worried and wonder what are "idle words", and am I guilty of using them. I looked up the definition and found: "without purpose or effect; pointless".
I absolutely avoid "idle word" people. Aka small talk, party talk, or office friend talk. Fortunately "idle words" are not really an INFJ's thing.
I looked up Strong's Greek and the word translated as idle is defined as idle, lazy, thoughtless, unprofitable, injurious, lazy.. The word "injurious" probably is where our concern should lie. That is we shouldn't say injurious words to people. Not if we have love in our hearts.
injurious words...yes best to keep them away from the mouth and ears. love in the heart does not show by speaking posion
Thank you