Oh my gosh so many similarities! I’m INFJ too. I am the same way about clothing. I simply cannot wear anything uncomfortable or it uses up so much of my energy and attention that I have none left over for the regular goings on. I can’t wear bras anymore either, I wear those little adhesive nipple covers and loose tops. When I find something that feels very comfortable I try to buy several. I take all my showers and use the bathroom in the dark, I never turn on the lights for that. It feels very safe and calming and soothing to shower in the dark. I’m sorry you’re in an overwhelmed state right now, I feel for you. I hate when I get to that state. I’m sensitive to sound too if there’s too many different ones at once. There was a zoom meeting i was at recently and everyone was talking at once over each other and in just 4 minutes I went from feeling perfectly fine to feeling like I was having an anxiety attack and started crying and all the energy had drained from my body - I had to go outside and get away from all sound and just do something slow with my hands (feed my chickens) to calm my nervous system down- after about an hour I felt better. I really am the same way as you with clothing! I kid you not, I am so aware and uncomfortable if I feel any lines attached to my body (ie bra straps and lines around my torso). I have 6 pairs of the same lululemon shorts that are loose and still flattering that feels so comfortable. One day I was at a 2 day event- the first day I wore this dress, it had a ruched type bodice- that day I was feeling pretty good and the dress felt fine- by the next day, after being around a crowd the previous afternoon, I was feeling very poorly/no energy/overwhelmed, and the 2nd day, wearing the exact same dress, I couldn’t stand the feel of that ruching on the bodice of the dress touching my skin, it felt horrible and constricting. Yep I put on a smile and no one knows how much I’m actually suffering or just how bad my symptoms are when I finally collapse at home.
This posting of yours is the raw honesty that drew me to your site ; ) I have had episodes when seated, maybe once a year, where I'm anxious, for no dramatic reason, and tight fitting/restrictive cloths seem be a noticeable combo giving me a tingling, clamminess and becoming light headed. I get up move around and it subsides. No medical expansion....I blame my INFJ/HSP and life on this blue marble. Peace and health
Yes all of them. Once I quit a yoga class because I could listen to the music that was playing in the next room, a rihannas song. I could not focus on yoga and "rude boy " at the same time. Clothes have to feel right as well. Every time my sister visits me she laughs with the clothes that I keep to wear inside the house. Many of them are since we were little but I don't care. I don't mind the holes and everything I want to feel comfortable . There was a time that I took all the online tests that exist on autism because I thought I must be on the spectrum. It turns out I'm not. Color looks good on you Joys! ♡
Off topic. What about friends joys? having a friend it's something almost impossible. our high standards can't count everybody we are close to as a friend. Friends are glorified in our perfectionist mind so we can't see almost nobody as a real friend. I hope I make sense.
you do make sense. I do have a few friends but I struggle with overwhelming them and being overwhelmed by them. worry constantly about dissapointing them. constantly
@@joyousprairies9313 I feel you. I also get easily offended or can't tolerate certain behaviours that to others are not as important. The fact that I can pick up the changes in the atmosphere in a situation makes me to withdraw.
Just got done watching a bunch of Johnny o videos,and your videos showed up I watched your videos talking about needy infj and it definitely makes me look at myself in the mirror
I just had to stop this video to say this to you Joy....I can not believe you went to the gym...I got stressed just hearing about it! I always have worked out alone...biking, walking, lifting weights, tapes at home - without knowing why OR understanding how I could be alone all day on my bike - then this year at 57 found out WHY I am the way I am!! INFJ-T, HSP, and empath who can go super nova empath once I have been wronged! Unbelievable to finally know what I am made up of....I thought I was crazy! Joy, I can feel the exact way you do....it's very hard that I know! I now have no TV or wifi SO if I need lazy quiet time I watch TH-cam on my phone! Freedom from TV and ipad!! Feels fantastic!! 🌺🙏💪❣ PS take a long long HOT bubbles bath! It cleanses everything....a bath is my daily ritual...also cross stitching and reading Cleopatra! 😳🤣
I dont watch TV, haven't for years. I used to work out alone but have been going to the gym for piyo a few years now. it is usually lovely, extra early in the morning, I can zone out. lately not so much
I relate to what you talked about here on a CELLULAR LEVEL ha! Thank God I don't suffer from chronic pain tho ❤️ my sense of overstimulation of the body kicks in during times of great mental fatigue/anxiety....when I HAVE to be fully present & deal with problems that either can't be solved or have a million steps to solve (with no clear way forward)....a time when I can't deploy that balloon-mode that I spoke of in another vid of yours (where most of my consciousness seems to float outside & above my physical body...I am truly at ease when I can feel this way, but some issues that crop up won't allow for this peaceful state) The worst time of all for this "condition" is when I have to watch a close loved one suffer & struggle with something I can't alleviate....those are the times when I feel like a skinless woman trying to stay afloat in a rubbing alcohol lake..... everything comes in, nothing flows back out. Love your vids as always.
You centering yourself during a drive is soothing. My senses are heightened is something I feel usually when I'm in preparation. I am admiring your top. 💘
There's a classic country song by Charlie Pride I like real well. It's called " I'm just me". ( A #1 hit from 1971 ). If ya listen to it, I think you'd like it. It goes along with what you've spoken about in your video. Thanks and may God richly bless you.
I find I somehow manage to disengage to the point where the white noise of humanity just becomes a distant hum. I’ve started to listen to Tara Brach in the bath which is akin to releasing the steam from a pressure cooker...how the Hell she knew where I live is still a mystery to me. Love & light Hippy Chick. Everything is gonna be ok. ✨🙏✨
Thank you for sharing. Yes I've been feeling that way with wanting to isolate wanting to curl up in a ball and not feel anything. I've felt that way about certain clothes like I hate wearing dress clothes bc they feel so uncomfortable ans stiff and refuse to wear them I used to hate having to get dressed up to go to church or go to a funeral and the clothes add to that uncomfortable state that I'm in. I have to make myself get up and go grocery shopping and get some stuff fkrntjr house and just really not feeling like doing it. But I have to. Thank you for everything Joy
you're welcome Eric, I may have had a tiny meltdown in a store parking lot today after facing the crowds and a very friendly, overly friendly viking looking dude chatted my ear off in line after I complimented his beautiful service dog buuuutttt, groceries purchased and a few tulips. sometimes you just have to go
@@joyousprairies9313 I still haven't been able to make myself get up and out of the house. I really don't know why I've been feeling this much heaviness on me. I'm a little better than yesterday but not much
Pre-marriage I didn`t care, but post-marriage I try to wear nice fitting clothes. The ones that are tight fitting actually look best on me but unless I am in good shape when I put them on, I feel like they are slipping upwards and it gives me a bad feeling that I cannot shirk, so I relate to your words about being hyper-sensitive to touch. I watch some other INFJ`s channels - you seem to me more typically INFJ than the others though with the way you put words together and the sensory overload that you experience so much. Sensory overload is a constant battle for me. The struggle is real.
I’ve always been the same with clothing!! I’m 33 and my entire life I’ve been tugging on it. Cant get comfortable EVER! 😢 Bras... I absolutely despise them! As soon as I’m through my front door, it’s coming off! I actually had to stop watching you at work earlier today bc I’ve been in the same “mood”! 🤷🏼♀️ I went to the bathroom and cried twice! 😩 Sensory overload to the max! I’m finally home and in comfy clothes so I can finish watching and writing this response. I feel you’re pain so much! I hope you’ve been able to feel some relief.
I may have cried in a grocery store parking lot for a tiny bit today, girl, you're not alone. yes, feeling a bit better now, had a walk, worship music in my ears and heat pad in my cozy chair. 😊
@@joyousprairies9313 at this point I’ll try any kind of bra. 😆 Still to this day my mother tells me “you just have to ignore the bother of your clothing.” She doesn’t quite understand the extreme discomfort and pain. Every muscle feels the pull of the clothing. I feel like I’m choking if a T-shirt gets too close to my neck. It’s very frustrating some days. Thank you for responding. I recently found out I’m an INFJ and listening to you and others talk has comforted me so much. I never would have imagined someone feeling the same feels as me, down to the clothing! 🥰
yes to the choking at the neck! when I do wear tee shirts, I cut the collar off to make more of a boat neck. I will often change outfits a few times before leaving the house if I am frazzled
There is a New moon in 2 days, see if your moods are affected by those moon phases, 5 days before & after. I am also always overwhelmed by crowds and noise.
When I get home from work I always like to get changed, it's like removing the days events from my skin, if I don't get changed I feel uneasy all evening. I used to hate woollen jumpers on my skin, they'd feel scratchy and I'd get too hot. I love the way you know we know what you mean, and we do! I'll get my coat...
even when I knit with wool, oh my it drives me crazy, itches my face, dries out my hands, follows me the rest of the day. wool is a nice fiber, for some people
You look good. I always had that same problem. Eat raw onion. Or raw onion juice It can literally help you immensely. Just try it. Onion is known for suppressing overwhelming and oversensitiness . It will taste gross but it will change everything.
🤗🙏🕊❤been there. Usually get on here and look through vids, maybe some critter vids, also some like eft tapping or meditation. The American Academy of Mind-Body Healing on here has some nice calming vids.
I also get the hypersensitivity to touch when stressed. Like when wearing dress socks that have a pronounced end seam , and so I have to take my shoes off several times and have to adjust and then re-adjust the socks because the end seam of the sock is so distracting. This mainly happens when I'm overwhelmed. Anyone else experience this?
I wonder what i am. Am i the red blood cells, am i the white blood cells, am i my brain, am i the nervous system, am i the electrons in the nervous system... what exactly am i in my body. It feels so weird strange odd bizarre, I can't figure it out. Maybe I'm nothing of my body maybe what i feel are some links to my trapped spirit inside my body. I wonder if all living beings have positions as placements in their bodies in the form of separate entities. I don't know.
Everything you said, I live. The more stressed I am, the more it's illuminated. The worse for me is bad music especially bad country. I hate denim and bad fitting cotton t-shirts. Have a great weekend.
A lot of noises and touch feelings makes me cringe a lot but what i cannot stand is bright lights. I have to sleep in complete dark. I dont know if its a trait of INFJ personality type to be so sensitive, probably its, more or less, the same for all us.
Am in design college and every day is stressful but i love what i do i love the suffering of it because i know its good in its own way. I get overwhelmed by the result and somehow that’s something that can be observed in other aspects of life when we suffer but we know it wont be long enough untill it end. Also i have been happy and extremely lonely at same time its sicking but i use my work and study to make me think less of anything else but still being conscious.
Also when am overwhelmed i feel such a rush, and it affect my decision making. Whenever it happens i just bath , take a pee in hope of making my energy stable or something.
Oh my gosh so many similarities! I’m INFJ too. I am the same way about clothing. I simply cannot wear anything uncomfortable or it uses up so much of my energy and attention that I have none left over for the regular goings on. I can’t wear bras anymore either, I wear those little adhesive nipple covers and loose tops. When I find something that feels very comfortable I try to buy several. I take all my showers and use the bathroom in the dark, I never turn on the lights for that. It feels very safe and calming and soothing to shower in the dark. I’m sorry you’re in an overwhelmed state right now, I feel for you. I hate when I get to that state. I’m sensitive to sound too if there’s too many different ones at once. There was a zoom meeting i was at recently and everyone was talking at once over each other and in just 4 minutes I went from feeling perfectly fine to feeling like I was having an anxiety attack and started crying and all the energy had drained from my body - I had to go outside and get away from all sound and just do something slow with my hands (feed my chickens) to calm my nervous system down- after about an hour I felt better. I really am the same way as you with clothing! I kid you not, I am so aware and uncomfortable if I feel any lines attached to my body (ie bra straps and lines around my torso). I have 6 pairs of the same lululemon shorts that are loose and still flattering that feels so comfortable. One day I was at a 2 day event- the first day I wore this dress, it had a ruched type bodice- that day I was feeling pretty good and the dress felt fine- by the next day, after being around a crowd the previous afternoon, I was feeling very poorly/no energy/overwhelmed, and the 2nd day, wearing the exact same dress, I couldn’t stand the feel of that ruching on the bodice of the dress touching my skin, it felt horrible and constricting. Yep I put on a smile and no one knows how much I’m actually suffering or just how bad my symptoms are when I finally collapse at home.
I can relate. Also, give yourself a break. Sometimes you just wanna hermit. It's ok.
This posting of yours is the raw honesty that drew me to your site ; ) I have had episodes when seated, maybe once a year, where I'm anxious, for no dramatic reason, and tight fitting/restrictive cloths seem be a noticeable combo giving me a tingling, clamminess and becoming light headed. I get up move around and it subsides. No medical expansion....I blame my INFJ/HSP and life on this blue marble. Peace and health
Yes all of them. Once I quit a yoga class because I could listen to the music that was playing in the next room, a rihannas song. I could not focus on yoga and "rude boy " at the same time. Clothes have to feel right as well. Every time my sister visits me she laughs with the clothes that I keep to wear inside the house. Many of them are since we were little but I don't care. I don't mind the holes and everything I want to feel comfortable . There was a time that I took all the online tests that exist on autism because I thought I must be on the spectrum. It turns out I'm not. Color looks good on you Joys! ♡
Off topic. What about friends joys? having a friend it's something almost impossible. our high standards can't count everybody we are close to as a friend. Friends are glorified in our perfectionist mind so we can't see almost nobody as a real friend. I hope I make sense.
you do make sense. I do have a few friends but I struggle with overwhelming them and being overwhelmed by them. worry constantly about dissapointing them. constantly
@@joyousprairies9313 I feel you. I also get easily offended or can't tolerate certain behaviours that to others are not as important. The fact that I can pick up the changes in the atmosphere in a situation makes me to withdraw.
I don`t think I could ever keep up a gym attendance simply for the terrible music. It doesn`t just demotivate me, it actually makes me feel depressed.
I'm sensitive but not to this degree. I think that would drive me crazy! I can relate though to shutting down and retreating when I'm overwhelmed.
I may just be a bit crazy on days like this
I've always felt like this my entire life...it was worse when I was a child, the adults didn't understand.
Just got done watching a bunch of Johnny o videos,and your videos showed up I watched your videos talking about needy infj and it definitely makes me look at myself in the mirror
You are not alone. I guess you are hsp (high sensitive person). Be blessed
I just had to stop this video to say this to you Joy....I can not believe you went to the gym...I got stressed just hearing about it! I always have worked out alone...biking, walking, lifting weights, tapes at home - without knowing why OR understanding how I could be alone all day on my bike - then this year at 57 found out WHY I am the way I am!! INFJ-T, HSP, and empath who can go super nova empath once I have been wronged! Unbelievable to finally know what I am made up of....I thought I was crazy!
Joy, I can feel the exact way you do....it's very hard that I know! I now have no TV or wifi SO if I need lazy quiet time I watch TH-cam on my phone!
Freedom from TV and ipad!! Feels fantastic!!
🌺🙏💪❣
PS take a long long HOT bubbles bath! It cleanses everything....a bath is my daily ritual...also cross stitching and reading Cleopatra! 😳🤣
I dont watch TV, haven't for years. I used to work out alone but have been going to the gym for piyo a few years now. it is usually lovely, extra early in the morning, I can zone out. lately not so much
I relate to what you talked about here on a CELLULAR LEVEL ha!
Thank God I don't suffer from chronic pain tho ❤️ my sense of overstimulation of the body kicks in during times of great mental fatigue/anxiety....when I HAVE to be fully present & deal with problems that either can't be solved or have a million steps to solve (with no clear way forward)....a time when I can't deploy that balloon-mode that I spoke of in another vid of yours (where most of my consciousness seems to float outside & above my physical body...I am truly at ease when I can feel this way, but some issues that crop up won't allow for this peaceful state)
The worst time of all for this "condition" is when I have to watch a close loved one suffer & struggle with something I can't alleviate....those are the times when I feel like a skinless woman trying to stay afloat in a rubbing alcohol lake..... everything comes in, nothing flows back out. Love your vids as always.
yes to the skinless woman in a alcohol lake....yes
You centering yourself during a drive is soothing. My senses are heightened is something I feel usually when I'm in preparation. I am admiring your top. 💘
the top was a gift from a client ...sooooo my style
@@joyousprairies9313 beautiful ❤️
There's a classic country song by Charlie Pride I like real well. It's called " I'm just me". ( A #1 hit from 1971 ). If ya listen to it, I think you'd like it. It goes along with what you've spoken about in your video. Thanks and may God richly bless you.
sorry I missed this comment, I remember reading it but never replied. As I mentioned, no focus 🙂
I find I somehow manage to disengage to the point where the white noise of humanity just becomes a distant hum.
I’ve started to listen to Tara Brach in the bath which is akin to releasing the steam from a pressure cooker...how the Hell she knew where I live is still a mystery to me.
Love & light Hippy Chick.
Everything is gonna be ok. ✨🙏✨
Thank you for sharing. Yes I've been feeling that way with wanting to isolate wanting to curl up in a ball and not feel anything. I've felt that way about certain clothes like I hate wearing dress clothes bc they feel so uncomfortable ans stiff and refuse to wear them I used to hate having to get dressed up to go to church or go to a funeral and the clothes add to that uncomfortable state that I'm in. I have to make myself get up and go grocery shopping and get some stuff fkrntjr house and just really not feeling like doing it. But I have to. Thank you for everything Joy
you're welcome Eric, I may have had a tiny meltdown in a store parking lot today after facing the crowds and a very friendly, overly friendly viking looking dude chatted my ear off in line after I complimented his beautiful service dog buuuutttt, groceries purchased and a few tulips. sometimes you just have to go
@@joyousprairies9313 I still haven't been able to make myself get up and out of the house. I really don't know why I've been feeling this much heaviness on me. I'm a little better than yesterday but not much
Cigarette smoke, perfume, cooking odors, door slamming, shouting people.
Ya I totally get that too.
What's up with us infj-t the t is for turbulent 😣
I kinda like the smell of a freshly lit cigarette, but the rest, yeah, way too much
Omg your just like me, I'm also an infj(I just found out) and my 5 sense can become so much... I usual just shut myself off to everyone.
Pre-marriage I didn`t care, but post-marriage I try to wear nice fitting clothes. The ones that are tight fitting actually look best on me but unless I am in good shape when I put them on, I feel like they are slipping upwards and it gives me a bad feeling that I cannot shirk, so I relate to your words about being hyper-sensitive to touch.
I watch some other INFJ`s channels - you seem to me more typically INFJ than the others though with the way you put words together and the sensory overload that you experience so much. Sensory overload is a constant battle for me. The struggle is real.
summer clothes are best! light fabrics, more softness, flow and ease.
sensory overload is a struggle, a constant
I’ve always been the same with clothing!! I’m 33 and my entire life I’ve been tugging on it. Cant get comfortable EVER! 😢 Bras... I absolutely despise them! As soon as I’m through my front door, it’s coming off! I actually had to stop watching you at work earlier today bc I’ve been in the same “mood”! 🤷🏼♀️ I went to the bathroom and cried twice! 😩 Sensory overload to the max! I’m finally home and in comfy clothes so I can finish watching and writing this response. I feel you’re pain so much! I hope you’ve been able to feel some relief.
I may have cried in a grocery store parking lot for a tiny bit today, girl, you're not alone.
yes, feeling a bit better now, had a walk, worship music in my ears and heat pad in my cozy chair. 😊
not sure if they are an option for you not knowing your size but bralettes have come a long way and are super cozy. pretty too
@@joyousprairies9313 at this point I’ll try any kind of bra. 😆 Still to this day my mother tells me “you just have to ignore the bother of your clothing.” She doesn’t quite understand the extreme discomfort and pain. Every muscle feels the pull of the clothing. I feel like I’m choking if a T-shirt gets too close to my neck. It’s very frustrating some days. Thank you for responding. I recently found out I’m an INFJ and listening to you and others talk has comforted me so much. I never would have imagined someone feeling the same feels as me, down to the clothing! 🥰
yes to the choking at the neck! when I do wear tee shirts, I cut the collar off to make more of a boat neck. I will often change outfits a few times before leaving the house if I am frazzled
There is a New moon in 2 days, see if your moods are affected by those moon phases, 5 days before & after. I am also always overwhelmed by crowds and noise.
When I get home from work I always like to get changed, it's like removing the days events from my skin, if I don't get changed I feel uneasy all evening. I used to hate woollen jumpers on my skin, they'd feel scratchy and I'd get too hot. I love the way you know we know what you mean, and we do! I'll get my coat...
even when I knit with wool, oh my it drives me crazy, itches my face, dries out my hands, follows me the rest of the day. wool is a nice fiber, for some people
You look good.
I always had that same problem.
Eat raw onion. Or raw onion juice It can literally help you immensely. Just try it.
Onion is known for suppressing overwhelming and oversensitiness .
It will taste gross but it will change everything.
I like raw onion 🤣 thank you
🤗🙏🕊❤been there. Usually get on here and look through vids, maybe some critter vids, also some like eft tapping or meditation. The American Academy of Mind-Body Healing on here has some nice calming vids.
I will check them out, thank you
My chatty in the car is f-150 confessions LMBO 😆😆😆😆
I also get the hypersensitivity to touch when stressed. Like when wearing dress socks that have a pronounced end seam , and so I have to take my shoes off several times and have to adjust and then re-adjust the socks because the end seam of the sock is so distracting. This mainly happens when I'm overwhelmed. Anyone else experience this?
a seam out of place in my shoe will have me dropping to the floor to remove said sock and fix no matter where I am.
Me whole life!! 😩
absolutely
I wonder what i am. Am i the red blood cells, am i the white blood cells, am i my brain, am i the nervous system, am i the electrons in the nervous system... what exactly am i in my body. It feels so weird strange odd bizarre, I can't figure it out. Maybe I'm nothing of my body maybe what i feel are some links to my trapped spirit inside my body. I wonder if all living beings have positions as placements in their bodies in the form of separate entities. I don't know.
listen to the song "who you say I am"
we are in the world but not of the world.
Who's driving somebody else off camera or it's you who's driving and it's a reverse image? Thanks. Great video, btw.
Everything you said, I live. The more stressed I am, the more it's illuminated. The worse for me is bad music especially bad country. I hate denim and bad fitting cotton t-shirts. Have a great weekend.
I love denim but it has to fit to perfection or donate it goes
You made me laugh! I am glad to are particular and will say what you do not like! Rock on! Honesty is being real...I love it!🌺
A lot of noises and touch feelings makes me cringe a lot but what i cannot stand is bright lights. I have to sleep in complete dark. I dont know if its a trait of INFJ personality type to be so sensitive, probably its, more or less, the same for all us.
Am in design college and every day is stressful but i love what i do i love the suffering of it because i know its good in its own way. I get overwhelmed by the result and somehow that’s something that can be observed in other aspects of life when we suffer but we know it wont be long enough untill it end. Also i have been happy and extremely lonely at same time its sicking but i use my work and study to make me think less of anything else but still being conscious.
happy and lonely...a bit of suffering can be good for a time. perspective is gained that way
Also when am overwhelmed i feel such a rush, and it affect my decision making. Whenever it happens i just bath , take a pee in hope of making my energy stable or something.
Add me too you are not the only one so you are OK