Chico? that little dude is a pacifist, he was sleeping under a blanket while Minnie and Heda argued over a piece of knotted old tee-shirt. what a prize
I know Joy I know. Not saying he’s not, I just want Chico to WIN over the social arguing dogs you have 😬 *I have forgotten about Ragnar and moving onto Chico going forward 🤗
my little precious sensitive Chico, he is bottom of the totem pole in the dog pecking order here at home but he's the only one who sleeps in my bed and comes to work with me. I would say he's winning. Also, at the salon this little guy gets showered with so much love and affection from clients its almost gross
I am in agreement with all you say. ..and yes you made sense. We can put much strain on ourselves can't we? We need people in our lives that's for sure, but we still need our space, and some people we befriend can come over as too needy. They take lots of our time.,especially in those early days of getting to know us and us them. But you find these friendships either mellow in time, or they fall away. But i really can't deal with too many new friends all at once...that's too scary for me. 🧡❤💛💜💚💙
Thank you for being who you are. As an INFJ I can relate with this topic. I have a saying....”An empty cup has nothing left to give”. I’ve found that as long as I keep my cup full I can make the space and time for others but with boundaries. We have to make sure we are taking care of our emotional, spiritual, and physical needs first and foremost. If we are doing this then it is easier to give to others. Sometimes it is not easy but it is rewarding to give to others. Not sure if that makes sense but I am a new subscriber and I’ve really enjoyed your videos. Prayers for you and your family.
Thank you for doing this video. I know what your saying here. I'm actually in that mode of decision making now in my life. I have prayed and asked for discernment and guidance on whether or not to get back into meeting a lady and beginning a relationship or to keep staying single. There's no way of seeing the future. Just having past experience and knowing what could happen. Us INFJ's always seem to get our good nature taken advantage of and people want to control us. I always stand up to people who do that to me. Just waiting to see who and what God reveals to me.
I will be praying for you! I am learning to stand up to people who do that. Going into the dating world sounds terrifying and I never plan to do it again. pleasant meetings to you sir!
As an INFJ, I've noticed how much better life looks after resting. Your video also reminded me of something I've noticed for a while and that is I (we?) are like emotional pressure cookers and need a release outlet often. I would imagine a complete emotionally cathartic experience once per week would allow me more room for connections. This toxic build up can be human interaction disappointments, current events sorrows, or just the difficulties, struggles and sufferings related to existence. It can build up easily and that's when I wish for everyone and everything to stay away.
I have been pretty good at letting myself meltdown every morning before I start my day. feel whatever comes in. that is helpful, clears the drain so to speak
Lmfao that dog in the background 😂 thank you for making space/room for me whenever I as you about stuff thats in my mind I appreciate it so much. I feel like when I leave space for myself I end up in a worse place bc i end up thinking all day long stuff I shouldn't. Love your videos
thank you Eric. we do have to sit with ourselves sometimes. sort things out, think things through. find our real feelings about things. that can be difficult, sad, terrifying. filling all of our time with other things people and nonsense just pushes it away.
@@joyousprairies9313 sitting with myself is really hard sometimes. I've noticed that when I visit my parents and I drive back to my house on the 50 minute drive thats the hardest part for me, sitting in my car and just being alone and thinking to myself. My thoughts and emotions go wild.
@@ericowen6758 I understand! many times I would know it was not safe for me to drive anywhere by myself in the worry I would think and feel out of control after losing dad. when in reality I was just avoiding the inevitable and pushing all of it away and down to have it explode out later.
Glad you’re progressing even when you’re stumbling along. Communicating with others through TH-cam alone is all I can muster. I’m lonesome but not lonely and that’s ok. I tried to open up and give love away to cheer them up, I ended losing myself in the process only to find faults which are reparable to be doorslamming worthy or close off the intimate side of me and be respectful and cordial but distant. Perhaps this is where I should be given my circumstances. If friendship fizzles out, there simply there for a time or season or I have to face the cold truth that I’m not at a point in my life where I have the capability to make space for more than I can handle. Rambling here and have no clue if it makes sense. I appreciate you sharing your thought process and journey with us. It’s enlightening and illuminating to me. ☺️
Love to you too ❤️ Joy . Missed our exchange and sarcasm lessons too lol. I hope things have changed for the positive since our last conversation apart from what you have mentioned publicly ☺️. Hope you’re heart is in good spirit friend.
@@joyousprairies9313 Hi,Joy I have told Johnnyo to forward my number to you, if you wish to communicate via WhatsApp or if you have an iPhone like myself, message me it’s free of charge, whichever feels comfortable. I look forward to chatting with you dear ☺️.
This video really spoke to me, Joy. I've been dealing with some of the same feelings & questions that you expressed in my own life recently. Your comment about grieving the loss of a friendship even as it's just beginning hit me hard... During my childhood & early twenties, friendships, relationships with family members, & experiences were not allowed to last for very long, so even now as an adult (recently free from the abusive situation I had been living in for a long time) as I meet new people & develop new relationships I sometimes feel that old fear of abandonment or the fear that the people I love are going to disappear from my life... In those moments I try to remind myself that the past is over, the dynamics that caused those feelings & that false reality are over, I am safe now, & what God purposes for each of us to have (relationships, success, hope, joy, peace, etc.) cannot be stolen away from us - Our salvation, relationship with God, & the life gifts He chooses for us are secure & we are always safe in God's care - even when we are in the midst of a battle or storm - our surroundings might be scary, but our "reality" through Jesus is one of safety, purpose, & perfect peace. I really like you, Joy! You are a blessing! 💖 Your gentle manner is very comforting. I'm glad we are "TH-cam friends"! 🤗💕
Oh dear Joys i hope you understand that you unite all of us with these videos of yours. We are not alone and that alone lift off some of our weight. ♡♡♡
Progress over perfection: every step toward balance is small victory. I'm fed up to this thick armor, i'm trying to be more vulnerable and show more my rich inner world to others. It's hard to be strong and sensitive at the same time but worth it, it's blessing after all. And yes that's right, alone time is very very important. God, staying healthy and loving others, that's pretty much it. It's simple but not easy. It's very easy to lost in overthinking and over analyze million things over and over again, i can only laugh to myself :D, taking action is best remedy to that, Thank you for video and take good care
I relate to this so much joy omg. It's like you spoke from my mind. All this is a big reason why I have anxiety with becoming too close to people. I don't want to put myself too deep into anything. I prefer aquintences over close friends even though I crave close connections and would like a beat friend but things feel safer and less stressful this way. I relate too to the having children and stuff and just being busy and keeping it that way.
definitely I was able to hide behind my children when they were younger. now they have their own things going most of the time. Room for friends is now more available and a bit needed in my life. At the same time it is terrifying
Listened with interest as usual & despite my initial reaction being “PEOPLE..? FROM THE OUTSIDE..?” I kinda think you hit the nail on the head on multiple occasions. “People want...” The problem with “givers” is they don’t set limits on giving & unfortunately “takers” operate the same way. I’m pretty careful who gets across the moat these days & even more wary of those who’d attempt to scale the ramparts. ...on the plus side though my floors are spotless as I’m given to believe cleanliness is next to Godliness. I hope sarcasm comes in a close third. Keep smiling Kiddo & be careful with “People”...they should all come with a health warning. Love & light ✨🙏✨
Wow, it's like looking in the mirrow. I try to make space for "new" friends. I am still afraid, that the amount of time, which I can give to someone, is not enough. I am afraid, that he or she might be disappointed. That's why I used to sabotage so often a beginning friendship with a lot of nice people. But now I see it different. Yes, I have borders and I want you to know them (I tell you). My energylevel is not that high, too. But if a potential friend can't handle this, maybe we are not meant for eachother anyway. I try to dare to create space and not immediately think about the possible expectations of others, that I do not meet and so on. In Germany we call it "Kopfkino" - mental cinema😄.
I'm making space for a puppy ! "Mans best friend" you see. I'm a fan of meaningful quotes too and am enjoying Meditations by Marcus Aurelius. I'm not completely sure but guessing Stoicism is a good fit for most INFJ's too? Peace and health
@@joyousprairies9313 "the JohnnyO eye stare" 🤪 man I wanna get a good screen shot of his face and put it on a shirt with one of his catch phrases and send it to him. I wonder if he'd ever wear it hahaha 😂
Hi sister, I understand exactly of what you speak. I'm still learning to discern where they are at, and meet them where they are, there are no coincidences in life, and they are there to teach or be taught, then back to the journey, and our hearts always pray for that journey😊, shalom sister
forever with these dogs. you know the growling dog is my 12 lb princess challenging the 80 lb LGD who is in the house for breakfast. They have a mother daughter relationship. the tiny one being mom
Im homeless and i help other homeless ppl. And got used and abused as far as taking me forgranted, and ripped off...so i cn help them anymore, unless Jesus comes down taps me on the shoulder, and say. brother help this person they are legit. I feel that you're to hard on yourself..thats a negative trait we need to over come. In Jesus name....your'e good! Nice video... we are very complicated...
It happened a moment ago I texted an old friend of mine. Am very busy as am in design College yet i somehow was able to give time or make myself available. They don’t understand what we doing and it feel so bad when they don’t respond in a manner. I try every time and yet idk why noone get it.
I know what you mean. For me I just do not think I could fairly be in a healthy or fair friendship. I am at a very internal and selfish time of my life. Selfish with my time that is. I have only so much energy and must be careful where I put it and what I give power to. I see you. oh and LEAD! lol much love
Chico is gonna win the dog chatter argument 🐕🙌🥳
Chico? that little dude is a pacifist, he was sleeping under a blanket while Minnie and Heda argued over a piece of knotted old tee-shirt. what a prize
Well regardless, I’m an underdog cheerer so GO CHICO 🤗
Chico is living his best little life I assure you
I know Joy I know. Not saying he’s not, I just want Chico to WIN over the social arguing dogs you have 😬 *I have forgotten about Ragnar and moving onto Chico going forward 🤗
my little precious sensitive Chico, he is bottom of the totem pole in the dog pecking order here at home but he's the only one who sleeps in my bed and comes to work with me. I would say he's winning. Also, at the salon this little guy gets showered with so much love and affection from clients its almost gross
I am in agreement with all you say. ..and yes you made sense. We can put much strain on ourselves can't we? We need people in our lives that's for sure, but we still need our space, and some people we befriend can come over as too needy. They take lots of our time.,especially in those early days of getting to know us and us them. But you find these friendships either mellow in time, or they fall away. But i really can't deal with too many new friends all at once...that's too scary for me. 🧡❤💛💜💚💙
it is scary...day by day bit by bit
Thank you for being who you are. As an INFJ I can relate with this topic. I have a saying....”An empty cup has nothing left to give”. I’ve found that as long as I keep my cup full I can make the space and time for others but with boundaries. We have to make sure we are taking care of our emotional, spiritual, and physical needs first and foremost. If we are doing this then it is easier to give to others. Sometimes it is not easy but it is rewarding to give to others. Not sure if that makes sense but I am a new subscriber and I’ve really enjoyed your videos. Prayers for you and your family.
total sense to me! it is rewarding and filling to give to others but yes, if I am empty and wiped out I have nothing to give
Thank you for doing this video. I know what your saying here. I'm actually in that mode of decision making now in my life. I have prayed and asked for discernment and guidance on whether or not to get back into meeting a lady and beginning a relationship or to keep staying single. There's no way of seeing the future. Just having past experience and knowing what could happen. Us INFJ's always seem to get our good nature taken advantage of and people want to control us. I always stand up to people who do that to me. Just waiting to see who and what God reveals to me.
I will be praying for you! I am learning to stand up to people who do that. Going into the dating world sounds terrifying and I never plan to do it again. pleasant meetings to you sir!
As an INFJ, I've noticed how much better life looks after resting. Your video also reminded me of something I've noticed for a while and that is I (we?) are like emotional pressure cookers and need a release outlet often. I would imagine a complete emotionally cathartic experience once per week would allow me more room for connections. This toxic build up can be human interaction disappointments, current events sorrows, or just the difficulties, struggles and sufferings related to existence. It can build up easily and that's when I wish for everyone and everything to stay away.
I have been pretty good at letting myself meltdown every morning before I start my day. feel whatever comes in. that is helpful, clears the drain so to speak
Lmfao that dog in the background 😂 thank you for making space/room for me whenever I as you about stuff thats in my mind I appreciate it so much. I feel like when I leave space for myself I end up in a worse place bc i end up thinking all day long stuff I shouldn't. Love your videos
thank you Eric. we do have to sit with ourselves sometimes. sort things out, think things through. find our real feelings about things. that can be difficult, sad, terrifying. filling all of our time with other things people and nonsense just pushes it away.
@@joyousprairies9313 sitting with myself is really hard sometimes. I've noticed that when I visit my parents and I drive back to my house on the 50 minute drive thats the hardest part for me, sitting in my car and just being alone and thinking to myself. My thoughts and emotions go wild.
@@ericowen6758 I understand! many times I would know it was not safe for me to drive anywhere by myself in the worry I would think and feel out of control after losing dad. when in reality I was just avoiding the inevitable and pushing all of it away and down to have it explode out later.
Glad you’re progressing even when you’re stumbling along. Communicating with others through TH-cam alone is all I can muster. I’m lonesome but not lonely and that’s ok.
I tried to open up and give love away to cheer them up, I ended losing myself in the process only to find faults which are reparable to be doorslamming worthy or close off the intimate side of me and be respectful and cordial but distant.
Perhaps this is where I should be given my circumstances. If friendship fizzles out, there simply there for a time or season or I have to face the cold truth that I’m not at a point in my life where I have the capability to make space for more than I can handle. Rambling here and have no clue if it makes sense.
I appreciate you sharing your thought process and journey with us. It’s enlightening and illuminating to me. ☺️
thank you Mona, makes crystal clear sense. I do miss chatting with you but I completely completely understand no having space. Love to you ❤
Love to you too ❤️ Joy . Missed our exchange and sarcasm lessons too lol. I hope things have changed for the positive since our last conversation apart from what you have mentioned publicly ☺️. Hope you’re heart is in good spirit friend.
my heart is in good spirit 💛 I am on whatsapp so if you wanted to contact me there I would love that. ask Johnny for my number. if not, I understand
@@joyousprairies9313 Hi,Joy I have told Johnnyo to forward my number to you, if you wish to communicate via WhatsApp or if you have an iPhone like myself, message me it’s free of charge, whichever feels comfortable. I look forward to chatting with you dear ☺️.
This video really spoke to me, Joy. I've been dealing with some of the same feelings & questions that you expressed in my own life recently. Your comment about grieving the loss of a friendship even as it's just beginning hit me hard... During my childhood & early twenties, friendships, relationships with family members, & experiences were not allowed to last for very long, so even now as an adult (recently free from the abusive situation I had been living in for a long time) as I meet new people & develop new relationships I sometimes feel that old fear of abandonment or the fear that the people I love are going to disappear from my life... In those moments I try to remind myself that the past is over, the dynamics that caused those feelings & that false reality are over, I am safe now, & what God purposes for each of us to have (relationships, success, hope, joy, peace, etc.) cannot be stolen away from us - Our salvation, relationship with God, & the life gifts He chooses for us are secure & we are always safe in God's care - even when we are in the midst of a battle or storm - our surroundings might be scary, but our "reality" through Jesus is one of safety, purpose, & perfect peace.
I really like you, Joy! You are a blessing! 💖 Your gentle manner is very comforting. I'm glad we are "TH-cam friends"! 🤗💕
thank you Ciera...you choked me up a little bit. powerful words you spoke there. beautiful 😍
@@joyousprairies9313 Aww, thank you, Joy! Your kind words blessed my heart. 💖
Oh dear Joys i hope you understand that you unite all of us with these videos of yours. We are not alone and that alone lift off some of our weight. ♡♡♡
hug hug hug and kiss to you dear one, thank you
Progress over perfection: every step toward balance is small victory. I'm fed up to this thick armor, i'm trying to be more vulnerable and show more my rich inner world to others. It's hard to be strong and sensitive at the same time but worth it, it's blessing after all. And yes that's right, alone time is very very important. God, staying healthy and loving others, that's pretty much it. It's simple but not easy. It's very easy to lost in overthinking and over analyze million things over and over again, i can only laugh to myself :D, taking action is best remedy to that, Thank you for video and take good care
taking action instead of just thinking over and over...that is the best thing
I relate to this so much joy omg. It's like you spoke from my mind. All this is a big reason why I have anxiety with becoming too close to people. I don't want to put myself too deep into anything. I prefer aquintences over close friends even though I crave close connections and would like a beat friend but things feel safer and less stressful this way. I relate too to the having children and stuff and just being busy and keeping it that way.
definitely I was able to hide behind my children when they were younger. now they have their own things going most of the time. Room for friends is now more available and a bit needed in my life. At the same time it is terrifying
Listened with interest as usual & despite my initial reaction being “PEOPLE..? FROM THE OUTSIDE..?” I kinda think you hit the nail on the head on multiple occasions.
“People want...”
The problem with “givers” is they don’t set limits on giving & unfortunately “takers” operate the same way.
I’m pretty careful who gets across the moat these days & even more wary of those who’d attempt to scale the ramparts.
...on the plus side though my floors are spotless as I’m given to believe cleanliness is next to Godliness.
I hope sarcasm comes in a close third.
Keep smiling Kiddo & be careful with “People”...they should all come with a health warning.
Love & light ✨🙏✨
I am certain I could see my own face reflecting back at me from your floors Troy! thank you for the laugh mixed in with wisdom, always a pleasure sir
Likewise Mrs Prairie.
Wow, it's like looking in the mirrow. I try to make space for "new" friends. I am still afraid, that the amount of time, which I can give to someone, is not enough. I am afraid, that he or she might be disappointed. That's why I used to sabotage so often a beginning friendship with a lot of nice people. But now I see it different. Yes, I have borders and I want you to know them (I tell you). My energylevel is not that high, too. But if a potential friend can't handle this, maybe we are not meant for eachother anyway. I try to dare to create space and not immediately think about the possible expectations of others, that I do not meet and so on. In Germany we call it "Kopfkino" - mental cinema😄.
yes, the friends that are meant for you will and can accept the space you have for them day to day, year to year.
I'm making space for a puppy ! "Mans best friend" you see. I'm a fan of meaningful quotes too and am enjoying Meditations by Marcus Aurelius. I'm not completely sure but guessing Stoicism is a good fit for most INFJ's too? Peace and health
Marcus screams pretty loudly to me too
That look you gave when you said "Because I can see right thru them" 🤣 that reminded me of a johnnyo eye stare into the camera 😂
the johnnyo eye stare causes this daughter to sit up straight and smooth down my hair. yes, dad I am paying attention 😆😆😆
@@joyousprairies9313 "the JohnnyO eye stare" 🤪 man I wanna get a good screen shot of his face and put it on a shirt with one of his catch phrases and send it to him. I wonder if he'd ever wear it hahaha 😂
Hi sister, I understand exactly of what you speak. I'm still learning to discern where they are at, and meet them where they are, there are no coincidences in life, and they are there to teach or be taught, then back to the journey, and our hearts always pray for that journey😊, shalom sister
yes teach or be taught or lift up or follow or walk alongside
Thank you. It is needed
So great to see you again! 😊
Pls keep going with these videos, they are helping out so much. Thank u.
thank you for encouraging me! it is needed! I will keep going
I love your animals! They perform on cue. Lol
doggo cracking me up!
forever with these dogs. you know the growling dog is my 12 lb princess challenging the 80 lb LGD who is in the house for breakfast. They have a mother daughter relationship. the tiny one being mom
@@joyousprairies9313 too funny
Im homeless and i help other homeless ppl. And got used and abused as far as taking me forgranted, and ripped off...so i cn help them anymore, unless Jesus comes down taps me on the shoulder, and say. brother help this person they are legit. I feel that you're to hard on yourself..thats a negative trait we need to over come. In Jesus name....your'e good! Nice video... we are very complicated...
thank you and bless you
It happened a moment ago I texted an old friend of mine. Am very busy as am in design College yet i somehow was able to give time or make myself available. They don’t understand what we doing and it feel so bad when they don’t respond in a manner. I try every time and yet idk why noone get it.
we have to just remember to love people where they are for who they are. God does the same with us.
🐶😎🐶🤗
There is so much going on it is hard to do vids!
it is difficult. my brain is on fire
@@joyousprairies9313 yup...
I know what you mean. For me I just do not think I could fairly be in a healthy or fair friendship. I am at a very internal and selfish time of my life. Selfish with my time that is. I have only so much energy and must be careful where I put it and what I give power to. I see you. oh and LEAD! lol much love
yes Lead. that had been confirmed a few times and I rest in waiting for more direction from God in that area.
@@joyousprairies9313 awesome!
🤗🕊🙏❤🤗🐶🐕🤞