Therapist Reacts to The Outsider by A Perfect Circle

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  • @Bipolarbear1221
    @Bipolarbear1221 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +158

    This whole album is about addiction. Thirteenth step! Amazing listen

    • @spoopmagoo
      @spoopmagoo 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      It’s my favorite album of all time honestly

    • @lottt86
      @lottt86 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      I hate when people keep suggesting to reactors to start a concept album in the middle of it.

    • @eyespyyourspy1328
      @eyespyyourspy1328 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      ​@@lottt86 it's like reactors listening to only 1 Pink Floyd track when the entire album tells the story. You can't understand a single from a Pink Floyd album as the song bleed into each other as a continuance of the story

    • @perrycleese5987
      @perrycleese5987 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I was going to say just this, a fine reaction but without the context of the whole album is necessarily limited, which is a shame . I highly recommend that this album is listened to in order. If anyone reads this (acceptably unlikely) I very much encourage you to listen from track 1 and let it play ❤

    • @Bipolarbear1221
      @Bipolarbear1221 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@eyespyyourspy1328 imagine going through life only hearing Floyd's greatest hits! Lol 😂 occasionally they'd throw out a "Money" or "Comfortably Numb" that can stand alone but when you listen to it in the album experience you can find a completely different meaning to the song. It just hits different

  • @bubbasboyngirl
    @bubbasboyngirl 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +81

    Everything Maynard writes is pure gold!

  • @damonpeters900
    @damonpeters900 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +32

    Judith by a perfect circle is a banger with so much emotion behind the lyrics. Has been a favourite of mine for years.

    • @MangledRemainz
      @MangledRemainz 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Feel so bad for his mother, Judith being so religious but being judged by her peers because of her issue. Out casting her and she staying true to her religious beliefs even when being shunned makes me feel for her.

    • @florentinaguggenheimer6557
      @florentinaguggenheimer6557 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Same here. Amazing and deep song. I miss Paz too.

  • @robertjones4361
    @robertjones4361 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    "The desire to be right inhibits the connection".......That is absolutely magical, holy shit, how true!! Oh and man oh man what an effin voice!!

  • @warspyder7406
    @warspyder7406 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +28

    Mr favorite APC song. The video takes away from it so much.

  • @Caldor4
    @Caldor4 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +77

    The following quote from Maynard describes some of the concepts used on the "Thirteenth Step" album, including the idea behind the song "The Outsider."
    "The songs on Thirteenth Step for the most part are about the various processes of addiction, behavioural addictions, chemical addictions, and each song is kind of sung from a different perspective. I've a lot of friends who've gone through a lot of these situations. Some of the songs are sung from the perspective of the actual drug, from the perspective of someone who has realized that they have an issue or a problem, also from the perspective of a person who realizes that if they don't do something they're going to die, a song from the perspective of a person who is in denial about a loved one, dying right before their eyes. And in the case of "The Outsider", it's sung from the perspective of a person who doesn't understand at all what their friend is going through, what their loved one is going through, and they think that it's more like a sprained ankle; they can just kind of walk it off."

    • @Slythotful
      @Slythotful 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Thank you for this

    • @ideitbawxproductions1880
      @ideitbawxproductions1880 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      I love the story about why the video became a Bikini Bandits short film. The band tried to get a few different directors to make a video for it, but every director seemed to miss the point of the song, and the band rejected every pitch. Finally, Maynard just said, "Fuck it, tits and guns!"

    • @SunDedGon
      @SunDedGon 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      YES! Thank you so much for doing this. A popular belief and misinterpretation of this song is that it mocks suicide, and it royally pisses me off. This album as a whole has strengthened my self-awareness. And this song specifically has strengthened my empathy for others

    • @ckeller1981
      @ckeller1981 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Spot on

  • @Texaszebra82
    @Texaszebra82 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    Three Libras is so beautiful from A Perfect Circle. I listen to it when I feel unheard. I don't know if that is what it is about but it's so beautifully made.

    • @lordcrispen
      @lordcrispen 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      there is an "unplugged" version out there you can search. I don't know if it's listed as 'acoustic' or 'unplugged' but it's a live performance and it's almost literally a different song the way they play it. It's slow and melancholy, eerie....It's pretty amazing. I highly recommend checking it out.

  • @markwillis675
    @markwillis675 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Yesterday was 30 yrs sober for me. There were many outsiders in my life that tried to help. I only stopped when the person inside me wanted the hurt to end. God luck to anyone struggling.

  • @dennycochran5323
    @dennycochran5323 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    Yep. According to Maynard, the "Outsider" is about those that judge a loved one's difficulties with Depression/Addiction w/judgement and a lack of understanding.

    • @jerryrichmond6934
      @jerryrichmond6934 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      He wrote this for exactly that! Inspired by losing his good friend Layne Staley

    • @warrensmith8606
      @warrensmith8606 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yeah it isnt Maynards sentiments its "the outsiders"

  • @SunDedGon
    @SunDedGon 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This is the most accurate and passionate breakdown I've ever heard of this song. What I love even more is that you were never distracted by the video. Well done

  • @JasenHeffner
    @JasenHeffner 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Puscifer-the humbling river. One of my go to songs when I'm down.

  • @skhunter4277
    @skhunter4277 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Really enjoy your reactions and content! Thanks for what you do!

  • @michaelbelshe8521
    @michaelbelshe8521 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    A beautiful analogy. In my own life, your analogy made me think of the connection, and constant in my face I have with homeless people. How everything you said actually pertains to them as well as far as our empathy is concerned... We see a person struggling, and instead of trying to figure it out, and figure out how to help them or why they're homeless. Which of course is a whole array of different reasons, we just charge them as some kind of a monster. We see their struggle and we think "I would never do that." We never consider what got them there, we just judge them. And amongst a lot of us it's a very cruel judgement. When you have to face them like I do everyday as a "not so rich person" it can be very eye opening. Empathy it seems is a shortcoming in humanity. As always your insights are amazing! Thanks doc!

  • @TheBnjmnlrd
    @TheBnjmnlrd หลายเดือนก่อน

    a different way of looking at this song. Thank you. I fully took it as "If you choose this life, if you continue down this path, I cannot follow. I choose to not watch you continue." for me it's a song of wanting to understand but ultimately finding out that you can't help. Not unless they want to help themselves.

  • @adampadilla74
    @adampadilla74 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Great Reaction! People need compassion, not judgement.

  • @woundsofthecrisis
    @woundsofthecrisis 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    subbed, i listened to this cd on repeat for atleast 2 months in a portable cd player as i skate boarded around my town when it 1st came out

  • @chinitowon
    @chinitowon 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    "A known hell is more comforting than an unknown heaven."

  • @JamesVestal-dz5qm
    @JamesVestal-dz5qm 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +28

    Do Thirteenth step! The package and the noose! When I was 13 years old playing RuneScape and 13'th step just came out, I knew a 27 year old recovering heroin addict living at his parents house after two years in prison. The Noose was a song he related to deeply.

    • @nickdanger108
      @nickdanger108 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      The Package is still one of my favorite songs of all time

    • @spoopmagoo
      @spoopmagoo 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      That song is a forever favorite of mine, and that album is my favorite album of all time

    • @adampindell
      @adampindell 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Both are absolutely amazing songs!
      But then, the whole album was, as was "Mer de noms"!

    • @SunDedGon
      @SunDedGon 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      "The Noose" is my favorite song of all time 🤘😝🤘

    • @beachamj
      @beachamj 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Shoutout to Runescape, was playing that in a lot of my formative music years

  • @xxkittkattxx1230
    @xxkittkattxx1230 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I lost my best friend to overdose. The last time I saw her in person, I told her, "I love you so much and know you are so much more than this, but I cannot walk this path with you while you do this to yourself. Just know, the second you are ready to get sober, I will walk every step of that journey with you, no matter how difficult it is. I have my kid and job to protect (I'm a nurse). Until then, I'm still a phone call away if you need me". We spoke on the phone almost daily until the end....I wish there was more I could have done, I miss her every day. But, at least I'm still connected to her daughter. To others going through a similar situation, it's okay to place boundaries, but don't cut your loved one out. You never know when their or your last day may be. You don't want your last words to be hate filled. ❤

    • @HeartSupport
      @HeartSupport  6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      From runner12: @xxkittkattxx1230 I commend you for the support and encouragement you gave your friend. Trying to help someone with addiction is so difficult and exhausting. Your words to your friend were beautiful and your message about our words is so important. Thank you so much for sharing your story!

    • @HeartSupport
      @HeartSupport  6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      From Micro: @xxkittkattxx1230 You were a good friend to them. Thank you for sharing these reminders too, of how important and *okay* it is to set boundaries when we need it. Seeing someone we love being in so much pain can push us to try to save them absolutely, but this attempt can be met with resistance over and over... and leading to burning yourself out. Until one realizes that healing cannot happen *without* the person in pain, and no one's job should ever be to save someone from themselves. The initial decision, at the very least, has to happen within the person struggling, and from there it is possible to walk through this journey with them. To be an ally through the adversity, while following the same direction together.
      Having struggled with suicidal thoughts for a significant part of my life, I had to realize how much I couldn't wait for someone to save me, because this strategy was unhealthy and was a way for me to justify not trying. My pain needed to be heard, but there is this inner child in me that had the tendency, over and over, to find "the" person who would save me from myself. I was terrified about the idea of learning to be my very first ally, and the fact that without me, healing couldn't occur. It's a daily work, and sometimes there are setbacks, but it definitely allows me to embrace friendships and family differently.
      You can be proud of yourself for acknowledging when boundaries where necessary, for the loving way you communicated it, and for leaving the door open to your friend until the very end. You have shown them love, care, patience, all in a genuine an unconditional way. You were such a good friend to them, and there is no doubt that deep inside they saw you, they saw how much your presence was valuable, they saw your beautiful, caring heart. :heart:

  • @Dexiray
    @Dexiray 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    woah, you never fails to shine a new light on the songs I enjoy. Keep doing more MJK, maybe even Nick CAve in the future.

  • @Doomstuff82
    @Doomstuff82 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    As someone who pretty recently started therapy. I really enjoy your content. Thank you

  • @jamesbell8861
    @jamesbell8861 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I hadn't thought about this in that perspective before ... Thank You.

  • @truckinleprechaunscottcask9747
    @truckinleprechaunscottcask9747 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    When I was doing drugs, my family turned their backs on me. I was the outsider for about 5 years. Thankfully I've been clean going on 31 years. August 30, 1993 is what I call my reborn date. I have mended the relationships with my family and live a life clean and free of drugs. The temptation will always be there, however I know what the cost is. I never wanna go back to feeling so alone, and unwanted.

    • @Bipolarbear1221
      @Bipolarbear1221 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      When I was doing the steps, the phrase "how do you go about making you're amends to the dead" was constantly haunting me. Congrats on your rebirth! Amazing

    • @truckinleprechaunscottcask9747
      @truckinleprechaunscottcask9747 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@Bipolarbear1221, those words are so true. I have no doubt they were haunting you. After an overdose and going to the er. I was told the next time will be my death. It was a hard dose of reality, one I'm thankful to live through. Thank you for the encouraging words.

    • @suesanc1
      @suesanc1 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@truckinleprechaunscottcask9747 I'm with you , I e had trauma in my life when I hit 49,my mom died but my sister died just months before, traumatized me so much I had to find medical attention for grief , I couldn't stop crying for weeks on end, tool has a way of healing been faithful to this band since they came out in 95.. I'm their biggest fan , god bless you on your recovery and your new life , i pray. The hand of God guides you in the right way, for your lifetime.. tool is

    • @warrensmith8606
      @warrensmith8606 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      In this context you werent the outsider your family were. When they turned their backs on you this song is about them kinds of people. Theyre the outsiders who wanna rationalise everyones actions as stupid, wreckless instead of stepping up and taking the more difficult route of being a rock, a stable force to try and help them. This is what this song is about. Those people who turn away, who cant possibly comprehend why someone would "self destruct".

  • @paulrodriguez2442
    @paulrodriguez2442 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thanks so much for talk about this greats musicians in many dark parts of my life Maynards lyrics was my confort and i wanted to somone who helps me to undestand that feelings now im a psychologist and i realy apreciate your work and i enjoy your coments and reaccions

  • @rodgersmith6891
    @rodgersmith6891 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Love your channel

  • @latewizard301
    @latewizard301 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Favourite APC song!! Maynard is such a GOAT when it comes to lyrics!!!

  • @skyrat3816
    @skyrat3816 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Watching others repeatedly self sabotage is one thing, it's when ourselves who're on the sidelines and watching our own impulsive behaviour. Knowing how Maynard writes, I'd say it can go both ways with the songs he's involved in and he does it a fair bit in A Perfect Circle. Where as Tool is more about him self reflecting.

  • @dennisbarker5986
    @dennisbarker5986 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Glad to see you reacting to apc , got to see them at redrocks this year , amazing show

  • @teamfreakshow13
    @teamfreakshow13 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    so glad I found these videos! Thank you for continuing to do them

  • @nickdanger108
    @nickdanger108 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Yes! So glad you discovered this band

  • @nikverschuren4291
    @nikverschuren4291 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Massive tool fan. Maynard makes me teel things no other male or female (singer does). He is the most organic, story teller, singer i will ever hear. A real piece of art. I heard this song after i stopped drinking, 1 week later. And i cried constantly during the song. I almost started drinking again, but after i heard this song i felt stronger than ever. Alcohol wont take me over, ever and i mean ever again.
    So for me Maynard was the outsider, regarding my alcoholic problem then.

  • @TheMajestyD
    @TheMajestyD 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Top favorite bands of all time. Definitely need to listen more

  • @DavesIslandLife
    @DavesIslandLife 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Definitely need more A Perfect Circle! You should also check out his other band Puscifer! You should check out their songs "The River", "Grand Canyon", and "Momma Sed"!

    • @DUKE_of_RAMBLE
      @DUKE_of_RAMBLE 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      "UPGrade" as well.

  • @brandonmccarver6800
    @brandonmccarver6800 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Just discovered this YT channel. Omg this idea is sooo amazing! I love it!

  • @vaughnnewman8903
    @vaughnnewman8903 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great album and my 2nd favorite APC album behind Mer de Noms from a genius that surrounds himself with a ton of talent in all his bands; love him in all his faces/phases and voices.

  • @justindiotalevi3799
    @justindiotalevi3799 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I love watching a therapist jam out to this

  • @ShavidDerf
    @ShavidDerf 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    As a therapist, i think you would enjoy The Nurse Who Loved Me😊

    • @adampindell
      @adampindell 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      What a great little tune!

    • @badmotorbreath5206
      @badmotorbreath5206 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      She's got everything I need, pharmacy keys 😊

    • @Bipolarbear1221
      @Bipolarbear1221 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      When this CD came out I was in the hospital for about a week, i was on morphine. I listened to this constantly on my CD Walkman. That song really messed with me. It was funny

    • @toodrunktotastethischicken
      @toodrunktotastethischicken 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Good song, but not one he wrote, so not really the same if you were wanting to recommend a Maynard song. I do agree though.

  • @jamesbanks5291
    @jamesbanks5291 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The album this is on is Called Thirteenth Step and is written as a struggle with addiction.

  • @leostarfire79
    @leostarfire79 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    You should really check the video of this exact song, but song… “Live at Red Rocks.” The album was called Stone & Echo. I listed to the album every day for like a year straight.
    I’m a HUGE fan of Maynard. My favorite band is Tool. A Perfect Circle would probably also make my top 5. Both bands are awesome. You know, Maynard is also in a THIRD band, Puscifer.
    Love your channel! I’ve been following for quite some time! I don’t think I’ve ever commented though…
    I *think* I do similar work that you do, except I’m a pagan priest! Thanks for all the videos! Blessed Be my friend! ;)

  • @jeffwood3764
    @jeffwood3764 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This song was written about Layne Staley (Alice in Chains vocalist) from the perspective of his well-meaning but ultimately ignorant brother, who couldn't understand the grip of addiction. Maynard had a conversation with Staley's brother and after his position became apparent, Maynard wrote 'The Outsider'.

  • @heatseekerx51
    @heatseekerx51 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Your hair/outfit combo in this video is very lovely.
    Also, I've enjoyed this song for decades, and as a kid I was kinda shocked by the ostensible message of the song, which you went into detail about. Though as a young teen, the deeper themes of Tool & APC tended to go over my head.

  • @andrewcorrigan9880
    @andrewcorrigan9880 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Love Maynard, A Perfect Circle, your analysis and the lacy top Ms Palmby. :) Keep it up and enjoy!

  • @Jim_Earth_C-137
    @Jim_Earth_C-137 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This whole album is an absolute masterpiece

  • @kennethriddle433
    @kennethriddle433 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Another song by them would be absolutely great to have a therapist react to. It's called Feathers, off the album after this one. It's literally about therapy.

  • @gregchapdelaine4889
    @gregchapdelaine4889 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I had forgotten about the music video. I think it detracts from the enjoyment of this emotional, driving, grooving song. Great song analysis and comments, though.

  • @emerje0
    @emerje0 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Now to do Maynard's other other band Puscifer and the song "The Humbling River", it's about overcoming obstacles with teamwork rather than brute force. An incredible song.

  • @rodpadgett415
    @rodpadgett415 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Now that was a bonafide therapy session! I feel so much better about myself! I can hardly wait for the next therapy session.

  • @F13fan
    @F13fan 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Great jam. Definitely do more Perfect Circle. Also look into highly suspect & the amity affliction, love to hear your thoughts

  • @game_4_growth
    @game_4_growth 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I'd love to see you do Gravity off this album. That song saved my life.

  • @marcushoyt537
    @marcushoyt537 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You need to do the entire album!

  • @eggstu
    @eggstu 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    13th Step is an amazing concept album about addiction and it ends with the most perfect song "Gravity". This album is honestly something so good its hard to put it in words

  • @Wesleydamon2025
    @Wesleydamon2025 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I really feel this song.

  • @ZacharysGamingExpOG
    @ZacharysGamingExpOG 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Song: Serum
    Album: aChemist's Pet
    Artist: Zac Martin

  • @jaimeecherivel2927
    @jaimeecherivel2927 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This album which the song comes from is called The 13th Step, a reference to the 12 Step program. Most of the songs deal with different perspectives of recovery and eventually relapse, which most people do. The 13th Step is relapse and using all over again.

  • @MREiTiri
    @MREiTiri 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Omg 😳 another great content 😍 loving it 💙 very interesting 🌊

  • @susiejo143
    @susiejo143 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Yay!!! I listen to this nearly every day❤ video is 🙄

  • @scrinbot
    @scrinbot 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The Outsider.
    Double meaning about a person standing Outside judging an Outsider.

  • @Zapafaz
    @Zapafaz 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    check out A Perfect Circle - Feathers. It's from their 2018 album (this one is from 2003) so it sounds a bit different but it has great lyrics.

  • @LegitRavven
    @LegitRavven 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I always thought this song was talking about yourself in the third person, but looking at it from a loved one’s perspective is super interesting.

  • @chelseab7636
    @chelseab7636 17 วันที่ผ่านมา

    If you haven't reacted to it already, I highly recommend watching "Weak and Powerless," my all time favorite APC song. It's a song that got me through so much when I was in elementary/middle school to even now as a 32 year old.

  • @djjakyl4677
    @djjakyl4677 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Your reactions and analysis are amazing. I make music to get my releases out as well. music is soul. Soul is music

  • @heatseekerx51
    @heatseekerx51 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Other sings from this album I can't recommend enough: 'Weak and Powerless', 'Blue (made me cry the first time), & 'The Nurse Who Loved Me",.

  • @resq2nick
    @resq2nick 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    you should react to La Dispute, they have really good lyrics, the song A Letter would be a good one

  • @Budsandsuds75
    @Budsandsuds75 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    It's cool she does a song you listen too for many years and you got the jist of a song but she does a deep dive into the meaning.

  • @Bryan_Master_Blaster
    @Bryan_Master_Blaster 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I'm intimately familiar with the feelings in this song. My younger daughter started off - right out of high school - big time into alcohol and partying. Married ... still going out drinking with her 'friends.' First child born (special needs) ... as soon as home from the hospital - right after each of her son's three open-heart surgeries - she was out the door and "shopping at Walmart" until 3am.
    She left my grandson with us, and she'd disappear for days at a time, and we had no clue where she was nor what she was doing. She drank to the point where she was blacking out and waking up strange places. Early one Sunday morning she called me because she was low on gas ... and she had no idea where she was. Surrounded by corn fields, I was able to figure out where she was - across the line into a neighboring state.
    When she could no longer drink because of the ulcers she was getting, she turned to drugs. Pot, then on into pills. She eventually got to the point where she was shooting up hydrocodone and oxycodone. We aided her when we were able. Often it was a case of paying to get her phone turned back on ... getting her water turned back on again ... getting her electricity turned back on again ... buying groceries (because her first priority was cigarettes). My wife and I were trapped, in that had we hesitated to enable her, she'd take of with our grandson. She sometimes gave veiled threats to this effect.
    Then came two baby girls born a year apart - to a drug addict (then) boyfriend. My wife and I ended up getting full legal custody of them. Our former son-in-law got full custody of their special needs son (my grandson was autistic - non-verbal, as well as a heart patient). From this point, she could no longer threaten us through our grandchildren.
    Shooting up pills devolved into shooting up heroine and methamphetamine. Prostitution and a revolving cycle of in and out of jail for theft arrests. Two overdoses (that we knew of), and several tries at different of in-patient rehabs.
    The girls are now nine and ten. Last year we legally adopted them.
    After adopting the girls, our daughter (their mother) came back into our lives. She had gotten clean, and was working, and we had had the girls in therapy to help prepare them for the reunion with their mother - it has been over six years since she'd seen them. Good reunion and a good year between the girls and their mother.
    A few months after this reunion, our grandson (her son) died in his sleep. He passed peacefully in his own bed, in his own home. We knew that his time with us was limited because of all his medical issues. However, this took us by surprise and hit us hard. Thankfully, our daughter had returned to her son's life a few months before we lost him.
    A week before Christmas, our daughter went missing. The girls were especially upset because she had promised to be there for Christmas. We had no contact with her for two weeks, this despite a missing person report.
    This past New Year's Day we received the call that our daughter had been found dead in her car in a motel parking lot near the airport. She died of a drug overdose - methamphetamine and fentanyl.
    As difficult as it was to have to sit the girls down to break the news that their brother had died, it was harder when only seven months later, we had to start the New Year off by sitting the girls down and telling them that their mother was gone.

    • @HeartSupport
      @HeartSupport  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      From cheesemolly: @Bryan_Master_Blaster Thank you so much for sharing your story. You are an incredibly strong loving family and I felt every emotion while reading your words. Those two girls are so very lucky to have you. Adopting them and taking the time to prepare them for a reintroduction to their mother is just incredible. The amount of effort and forgiveness is inspiring. I’m so sorry about your grandson and daughter, a loss like that is unimaginable. The way you described how you never gave up even when things got so hard truly brought tears to my eyes. I just wanted to comment and let you know your story really moved me and I think you’re incredibly strong!!

  • @emmasissr90
    @emmasissr90 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Please do the song “Gravity” or The Noose?
    You can really hear how beautiful he can sing!
    It is like nothing you have heard before!!!
    Terrance

  • @MangledRemainz
    @MangledRemainz 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I believe this song is about a friend (Outsider) seeing a friend or someone close being suicidal.

  • @PWARLOL
    @PWARLOL 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Im not 100% sure on how i feel about this analogy yet but thought i would dump it down:
    I feel like the outsider is the addict, skirting on the outside of functioning while self destructing. There is a wall that is either imagined or invisible between them and the one deviating is placing themselves further and further outside of that imaginary wall. That wall could be partially constructed from either perspective but there is some interesting imagery to play with there...

  • @andycopland3179
    @andycopland3179 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Funny, I just used this song to my latest video upload. As a BASE jumper, I've heard people almost emotionally blackmail me and guilt me. Maybe I'm not wired correctly, but I can promise you something...when I rock back into my house after a jump, I appreciate my kids faces more than most.
    So this song hits different for me.

  • @seankurz1577
    @seankurz1577 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    To me the song feels like a declaration of someone washing their hands of someone else. I'm done hurting myself trying to help you. You cant help someone that won't help themself

  • @iancollins65
    @iancollins65 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My understanding is that Maynard wrote this song about his friend and lead singer of Alice In Chains (Layne Staley), as he watched him slowly drift further into addiction and ultimately succumb as a result. But the whole album is about addiction and all the different ways it can affect someone.

  • @Suddenly-Eggs
    @Suddenly-Eggs 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My friend broke up with me his girlfriend of 5 years around the time this came out. The whole album encapsulates what she went through and none of us could help her with.
    He finally wrangled it in and he shows me where she's at now occasionally 20+ years later.
    It's sad.

  • @davidwinter3615
    @davidwinter3615 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The NOSE is a great, lesser known song by them and very deep

  • @mikem1457
    @mikem1457 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I bought this album on release date. Today I learned they made a music video for it.

  • @mr.vizard4015
    @mr.vizard4015 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    More A Perfect Circle!!!

  • @mmfpdx1
    @mmfpdx1 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    APC Orestes is another great song! "Metaphor for a missing moment"

  • @MrGreendayzed
    @MrGreendayzed 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    the song is about someone who has no idea what a s*icidal person is going through and them being "why you being sad? have you tried not to? don't bother me with your issues"

  • @Grumpyseabee22
    @Grumpyseabee22 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

    You can't help someone who isn't ready to accept it... and as the "Outsider" that can have limits to what is tolerable...

  • @vermilion6968
    @vermilion6968 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    "The nurse who loves me" woukd be a great react

  • @charlessebastian9217
    @charlessebastian9217 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The album is called 13 steps!

  • @michaeljohnston272
    @michaeljohnston272 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Runor is it was written about Maynard watching Layn Stanley

  • @claymiller2409
    @claymiller2409 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Prevailing narrative is that Maynard wrote this about Layne Staley of Alice in Chains during his decline, as they had been friends.

  • @abrilmanuel5917
    @abrilmanuel5917 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I like to think the song can also talk about your own conscious talking to you so an internal battle .

  • @franciscoibarra7965
    @franciscoibarra7965 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Have you heard Jenny from Nothimg More? Pretty straight forward song as far as lyrics go, but very powerful, especially the video. I come from a long line of addicts. Been definitely a challenge to not follow suit.

  • @yosshy4774
    @yosshy4774 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Watching the video takes away "something" from the song, glad you focused on the lyrics.

  • @eduardocastillofranzoy2764
    @eduardocastillofranzoy2764 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The noose from this álbum!

  • @Jotaru-m5n
    @Jotaru-m5n 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I love how you automatically start videos instead of doing the cut outs stuff other videos do that make me just leave the video

  • @charlotterenee5151
    @charlotterenee5151 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    3 libras is a must!

  • @protoclone138
    @protoclone138 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    You have got to do VnV Nation: Further

  • @JMulvy
    @JMulvy 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Ha! I had no idea this was the official video for this song! It seems so out of character for APC. I always thought it was a fan-made video because the fandom is so intense that the lines get blurred sometimes. This is hilarious!

    • @Agostoic
      @Agostoic 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Seems more in line with what Puscifer would do, but being Maynard behind both doesn't surprise me tho.

    • @JMulvy
      @JMulvy 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@Agostoic That is very true. I didn’t even think of it like that. I love Puscifer.

    • @h4724-q6j
      @h4724-q6j 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      This is something of a sequel to the video for Thinking of You. I don't mind Maynard trying to inject humour into these things but I really wish they wouldn't mess with the audio for the sake of dumb jokes (or at all!), especially in otherwise serious songs. It takes this video from a curiosity to completely unlistenable.

  • @davidmor9276
    @davidmor9276 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Loving your reactions and thoughts. You need to do Five Finger Death Punch "Gone Away" and "Wrong Side of Heaven"

  • @jmitchell7364
    @jmitchell7364 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    APC has some great songs to analyze. Like 3 Libras or Judith

  • @resputin1161
    @resputin1161 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    condemnation of anyone's actions reflects

  • @gtstv551
    @gtstv551 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Can you Do a video for "kindred" by a perfect circle. i think people need to be aware of that song. your awesome.

  • @RichMorrow-ef7yd
    @RichMorrow-ef7yd 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    People cannot fix themselves unless they look in the mirror, and hate what they have become, and want to be the best you you can be.

  • @jaredpratt3927
    @jaredpratt3927 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    You should check out Sleeping Beauty ... it's off their first album Mer De Noms.

  • @D4nztehdark
    @D4nztehdark 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    For me this song has always been about me trying to fit in and failing. I’m the outsider

  • @cwardfilms
    @cwardfilms 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I’m just waiting for you to do more NF and start your Emo deep dive, lol I suggest starting with senses fail, the used, and Silverstein

  • @jasonkart1651
    @jasonkart1651 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Love the channel. Please do For Joe and Chalk Outlines by Ren. Especially Chalk Outlines. You will resonate with it quite a bit.

  • @dannysuladie4867
    @dannysuladie4867 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Please do Gravity..!!!