Fear of Confrontation | Stephanie Lyn Coaching
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I love this channel 💖
I'm learning a lot ❣️
Love hearing that! 🙌
@@StephanieLynCoaching I got blame for something that I didn’t cause or said and my brother yell at me on this and he told some one else about it and now it’s messy and now he’s acting all mad like I had something to do with it it’s putting me and a vulnerable state and he thinks that i about to cause him to go to jail I don’t get it please help
Yes, ma'am!
Its hard to set boundaries particularly having no back up from emotionally immature parents since childhood. I didn't think I had any rights to express my opinion.
Me too ☹️..takecr f urself
This is something I discovered as some of my struggles as well. What you just explained is so accurate, my parents are emotionally immature as well and the examples of how to set healthy boundaries etc was not the environment I grew up in.
Who you telling.. ts
Me too! My feelings were completely ignored and never hears....was too scared to express myself.....
Same here
If i talked back or tried to stick up for myself, i would get screamed at, threatened, or hit or beaten. I am afraid of authority and confrontation and it has crippled me and stunted my development and life.
Ditto. Still experiencing these things with my family. You are loved.
Same
That's why there is a timevto just LEAVE from the person. If communicating with them and setting bounderies causes them to abuse you use all the resources available possible to get RID of them out of your life entirely !!!
SAME and it still is a problems at my age. When I used to speak up I got beaten up by multiple people and the last time it happened my cousin defended me and got stabbed because of it. I developed a crippling fear of confrontation.
My childhood was highly abusive. My parent's saw the word no as defiance. We were severly disciplined for saying no. I learnt not to offer an opinion because I wouldn't be listened too. I married someone who verbally abused me on a daily basis, his mother was just as bad. Im free of that now but I still have the scars. Ive tried therapy, but ive given up. Im too scared to really open up, ive also set boundaries which are constantly being pushed. For me it's too much, ive just retreated back into my shell. I know im not dealing with the effects of the trauma but im not being pushed too far. Or having flashbacks from being pushed.
Narcissists and toxic people hate any feedback they perceive as negative, even when putting it in "I" statements. Anything that isn't about them sets them off.
SO true !
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you know what's sickening when you tell people what bothered you, and you Tell them what you wish they would do, and they do exactly what you ask them not to...
Toxic people live for that, stepping over your Healthy Boundaries
I've learned to remove myself gracefully and humbly....
Nobi_Bklyn thank you 💯 I told a certain person like three times to stop doing something and keep doing it. So I cut him off . Now he looks like this 😮 I told him and I warned him. I feel like he would do it purposely. Anyway love your comment I would give 1000 likes if I could 👏
Yes! Ugh. I asked him for open communication and he then proceeded to give me the silent treatment, now on week 4 of silence. He just ghosted bc I simply asked for better communication. I'm moving on.
Hmm that's a fact and the reality of things. Most people are biased in their own thoughts and would only consider what is close to their hearts and nothing else. Even if it is simply themselves that they hold dear.
I think it really is best to simply walk away regardless of the taunts and manipulations they hurl at you. As long as you did what is right (or tried the least) and stood up for yourself. That is good enough.
At some point in our lives.. we will discover that flowers can't talk to trees on how to bloom. As to monkeys can't fly like an eagle. It simply is that we are all unique even within out own specie. Due to our individuality. Even dogs nor cats nor birds aren't all the same and act the same.
@@laylacooper861 Thank you so much for your time, I understand I had to leave a job because of this, I told the supervisor that I not would be doing a job that is meant for two people, I'm overwhelmed, guess what, they kept putting work on me that I was not hired for, I peacefully walked away, I'm glad you walked away, have a beautiful day 💜
@@crissyw2320 Yes move on from Toxic people, anyone you have to ask to treat you like a human being, is not the one who needs to be in your life, silent treatment is not Healthy, thanks for your time, have a good day 💜
I'm literally terrified of standing up for myself. When someone confronts me I feel my heart sink into my stomach and I get anxiety and I try to please and appease the other person. As if it weren't enough I keep on going over it in my head for months/years!
Sounds like me 😞
Sounds like me as well. I get petrified that if I were to express any contrary ideas or reaction that it could set off a potential violent response which I would then not be able to confront or defend against.
“Be the person you want to attract” love it
I'm almost 30 and just learning how to do this. It is very difficult because I've always "let things go" and I'm the only miserable one. Here's to my 30's.
I clearly remember sitting at the top of the stairs many a night listening to my parents yelling at each other and feeling sooooo sad and alone.
Exactly! Me too. Now I realize why I can't handle even the thought of confrontation... I have associated confrontation with nothing but negativity.
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That is so sad, I'll bet you are a really sweet person now, in spite of that.
I can totally relate to you. Emotionally immature parents with poor problem solving skills are a hell tonlive with.
Exactly 😭😭😭😭
It is true: I spend 99.9999% of my time venting to my friends & loved ones about somebody who wronged me, said something unjust unfair about me, to the point that my friends & loved ones get angry at me and distance themselves from me, rather than confronting the person who wronged me.
As a man, I refrain from standing up to myself because it would be an acknowledgment of the hurtful action. If I remain quiet, it gives me a sense of security in the sense that it did not affect me. However, I've learned that this is cowardly and there's nothing more empowering than recognizing when something in fact has hurt you and standing up for yourself.
The False Critic Proud of you!
I don't think this is cowardly, this is the first step, and speaking is empowering
omg I thought the same thing like if I don't speak up I can pretend that the comment didn't hurt being in denial and stuff....
I feel you my guy for real
I really needed to read this...I’m constantly refraining from confronting someone on being unfair or inappropriate behavior because i tell myself “its not worth it” but really, I’m letting fear get the best of me and letting that person overpower me, I’m enabling that behavior because I’m too scared to speak up. I feel its not worth it to speak up for myself.
I think that, unfortunately, enemies can sense when you are struggling to define yourself and in those situations you find out, by standing up, who your friends really are.
I can sense it in others, and those are tje kinds of people I can feel relaxed and become friends with. I can't go near confidence because it intimidates the fuck out of me.
@@RealityClubX Truly confident people do not abuse others because they don’t have a need to. They hold little to no insecurities and they believe everyone around them is equal to them. Abusive people may portray strength but are not confident.
Truth.
@@lovegals1Yes, yes -- absolutely!
yep.....lost several that way. well, dodged those bullets
This is an issue I struggle with and never was taught how to speak up for myself in a healthy way.
This is all spot on. The confusing part to me is that in my experience most people do not like being disagreed with. The moment i voice my feelings that don't agree with someone else they get offended and in some cases will never speak to me again. It's a challenge to be true to yourself and voice your feelings when there are so many people that just are incapable of having a constructive conversation that disagrees or challenges their behavior.
That is because most people have not learned to practice letting go of their egos and being ok with someone not agreeing with them
I am 58 years old and have finally figured out how to handle confrontation in a positive gentle way to show how I feel without hurting the other person and still getting across what I need and want. Being kind and gentle but firm. I love myself 😍
How? Without hurting other persons feeling when you standup for yourself
Yess to all of this!! I can’t believe at the age of 45, I am just now developing self worth/confidence. I was always fearful of confrontation or rocking the boat out of FEAR... fear the person would not agree, leave or the relationship would end; platonic and romantic. Confrontation is an unavoidable part of life... I feel so free ending co-dependent, people pleasing and fearful behaviors... Avoiding the possibility of the relationship/friendship ending and keeping them together at ALL costs IS NOT WORTH IT!!!
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T Dstar it is better to let go
Hi same here, i am in my forties and just started to learn to stand up for myself.
44 and same here! Maybe that's why this is considered the best decade...we begin to truly love ourselves in spite of what others think of us!
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Yes! Knowing your worth and value is the first steps in protecting yourself and living a better life. I really think that we must start teaching self confidence and worth in schools. I am glad you have started you journey so many of us just need to start
Do not think of it as "confrontation". See yourself describing, in faith, the way you would like to be considered and treated and speak it out loud.
Often we must be the people to decide how it goes to have the better life. It is not always like a fancy hotel, where it is all set up for you. You have to create it.
Communication between people ,is the most important skill.
Yehudit Bruck,You look stunning 🌹🌷🌺 dear
I work with someone who targets me because I have a low sense of self and she picks up on that energy. She bats me around like a ball of yarn and she's a big fat cat. I'm getting tired of her manipulative, narcissistic treatment. Thank you for this..it came at the right time
Hii are you ok now?
More like fear of not being liked. Once you overcome that, life becomes easier.
I'm glad my narc ex was a tool the universe gave me to teach me to heal my childhood wounds and become who I was meant to be.
Awuondo L.
Well said 👍
Narcissists are tools of transformation 😁
Sadly I'm still learning how to do this.
It takes time. Don't get discouraged.
Thankfully you are learning it. Better than just remaining a doormat.
Learning self love, confidence and how to set boundaries is an ongoing process. Just dont give up!
Autumn tha biblophile same
@@spider3772 this!
2 or 3 fears together: (1) if I stand up for myself people will think I childhish, selfish, better than others, superior to others, (2) people wont listen, (3) no matter what I say, it wont happen, I wont get that, it'll always no. This morning I had a full blow just because of a simple thing. My inner child is ao afraid that they'll tell her no. (They never give me what I want, peope dont care about me. I'm always criticised). If I'd see a child saying that I'd for sure hold her. My inner child was an angel, my mother used to say that
Divine Divine,You got a lovely smile 😊!!
After watching this video I want to hug you and really thank you, I can't afford having therapy, you really helpful 💐
Suha Missy , I can afford a therapist but I come from a background where it’s so much shame to go. Plus I’m with a narc.
I didn’t even think I needed therapy until I started watching these videos.
I also want to hug her and hug you.
I don’t know how she knows me or gets me.... it’s crazy!
Sending you positivity and hoping you can afford it soon, therapy has truly changed my life 💕
Trust me, therapists aren’t this good. Hahahah.
This video made me burst into tears. It completely stripped me to the core, and now I have a huge understanding. You probably changed my life. I was diagnosed with PTSD and my anxiety is in overdrive.
Another great video Stephanie. I’ve been suppressing my own feelings with my wife for 18 years because she is naturally aggressive and very controlling. It’s very depressing when you realize you can’t voice your opinion because it leads to fighting, and sometimes physical abuse. They will start attacking you for disagreeing with them. If you disagree with them in any way, they think you’re attacking them. So, in order to keep any kind of peace, YOU have to shut yourself down so you don’t “Rock the Boat”. I do try to stand up to her when she attacks the kids in some way that I feel isn’t right or appropriate. I get flak for it every time. She accuses me of not being on the same team as her, or the same page. She says “you’re all ganging up on me”. Of course, when I know that’s not true, it’s very hard to not react to that.
My parents weren’t like that at all, but for some reason I was always afraid to voice my opinion and confront people. Not sure where I got it, but it definitely got enflamed when I got married and found out she was abusive and controlling.
So sad for you Michael. I think a lot of men suppress with controlling wives. Good for you for standing up for the kids. Was married briefly to controlling man and nearly went under. May you find your voice and the right support to help you navigate your marriage as two equal adults. 🙏
my dad is passive-aggressive.He fears confrontation.I think he put it into me.I have codependent tendencies.I'm working on it.
Same here...then I act the same with my partner...aggghh
wendell ignatin same here. Let’s get through this together.
Yes my father is this way and I'm the same way which i developed codependent tendencies 😔 i know deep down I'm strong and confident woman I'm just tired of repeating myself cause some people don't care 💔
My same situation exactly. You're not alone, and neither am I and that's reassuring
wow. thanks. What does your father do to you? Do he abused you verbal/emotionally?
Discussion always became arguements. Always had to be careful what I said to my ex because you never knew what would make him blow. Unfortunately, I was a yeller when disciplining my children. Just learning how to have calm conversations with my now young adult children. Wish I learned sooner while they were growing up.
A good start and re-establishing a relationship to children would be to own up to your yelling and apologize to them and tell them that you realized it was wrong and that you are working on being a better person! This will show them a great example of being able to admit you're wrong and trying harder to be better!
@@astrialindah2773 is right. One single hard slap from my father as a child, because i was defending myself verbally and the teacher thought it was okay for the girl, but not for me, and it took me 30+ years to realize that my father wasn't a person to fear. But i never talked about it with him, and he apparantly forgot. In retrospect this was one single incindent during moving out to another country and taking many risks, other than that, i had very loving and caring parents. Yet, never talking about it, it defined my whole life. So i applaud you to trying to make it better. But still: Putting some things into persepective can only do good.
@@astrialindah2773 I have apologized to my children. They understand.
I have always been afraid of confrontation cos of my approval addiction. I feared disapproval and conflict. I just wanted to be loved and accepted. So I tried to please everybody and I stayed away from confronting issues. Fear of rejection and abandonment... This video meant alot to me. I plan to start practicing confronting issues and verbally communicate my feelings with love and self acceptance
Same here❤️
You said two things: A person who fires back at you - a person who you never talked to. Let's do one: That person "Sue" has anxiety, processing issues, misunderstands... Sue bites my head off over a simple conversation or me stating my thoughts. I am not at fault for this. I will now keep Sue at a distance and protect myself. That is how controlling people control- they bite our head of so that we don't stand up for ourselves again. With someone like Sue, I will avoid for my sanity. I am the nice loving empathetic person. I will not be abused by those like Sue again. Sure, I can call her out for this - I will if I have to live with her, however, if not, I am staying away from an abusive person who doesn't let me have a normal discussion and talk freely. It is not my ego, it is that someone else has issues and takes it out on me. Yes, their problem, but I will stay away from them. Normal people like me do speak up for ourselves. Boundaries save my sanity.
Great insight!
Exactly, they love to emotionally exhaust into submission out of threat of their insecurity. Self-love is removing yourself and not exhausting / falling into their taunts even when boundaries are established. Giving them satisfaction would be giving your emotional labor.
Perfect!
That’s what I have been doing with two co workers i don’t say anything if it’s not work related . I keep it really short from now on...
One of the times I hesitate to confront is when I feel like, that person hasn't earned the right to see that side of me. Confrontation , in a social setting , with friends / acquaintances, is essentially a plea to be seen. It's saying, hey, see me! I'm here. My needs matter. And sometimes I just don't feel like the person is worth of that. worthy of knowing how they made me feel. That it bothers me. And that I'm prepared to give up time and energy to confront them. Which essentially means, I value them. Because you wouldn't confront someone if you don't care. That's how I feel sometimes. Like nah, I'm not going to confront you. I'm just going to distance myself from you, because clearly in spite of how much you know about me you still did this thing that you know I don't like. That nobody would like. So instead of giving you the time of the day and releasing my emotions on you, which is essentially, a gift. I'm just going to keep my emotions to myself and distance myself from you. And let my actions speak rather than my words.
Wow. I’ve never relate to a comment so much. Thanks for typing out the feelings I struggle to say too.
I did this with someone for awhile but I eventually exploded on her in public the way she did me, then I didn't ever speak to her again. She tried calling from different numbers but I just blocked her every time.
@@kynathomas4809 That's the problem.
We hold it in, hold it in, and then, all of a sudden, We let it out.
And then we block, because we don't want to deal with the aftermath.
I don't do that anymore. By the way.😊
Wow, I really needed to hear this today. I have been running situations in my mind over and over trying to think of how I could possibly bring up this issue i've been having with someone who was a dear friend of mine. And my thought has been from the beggining, "a real friend would never have done this to me in the first place, maybe she's not the friend I thought she was. It feels like it would waste my time." But you hear over and over how you need to stand up for yourself. But is it worth trying to stand up to someone who disrespected you SO badly in the first place that it makes you want to walk away? I'm struggling with knowing when to stick up for myself and when to walk away...
stood up to my dad today because of you. thank you!
This message really resonated with me. I love how you are focusing more now on HSP and "people pleasers".
You’re helping me become a strong woman at a young age . Thank you so much ❤️
Probably the hardest, scariest and truest lesson/advice I ever heard before.
When you are dealing with Narcissistic people they dont want to hear you. They dont want a dialogue to get an understanding because they already know they are abusive and rude. I like to start off saying, ' you may not like what I'm about to say." Nevertheless, you are absolutely right that they have to be confronted and held accountable. If they dont like it they can leave and get their negative supply somewhere else. Being alone and feeling abandoned is better than being abused; Especially when we practice self love and care. It's like an addiction you have to replace it with something positive.
I lived my whole childhood and teen years afraid of confrontation..
I was born and raised in such a religious society, when a devout say or do something the whole society would easily believe him, so i was a victim of that situation, i was abused sexually and psychologically,
and when I spoke about their abuse everyone started to blaming me and shaming me ( starting with my own family) after that i was scared to say to confront, and scared to speak for my self,
when i was 19 I confronted those religious men , and got rid of them, i left that society for good and never going back,
I graduated and got a good job, but still i notice I'm afraid of confrontation and afraid to rock the boat,
I'm trying to change and your video is a great help, Thank you.
Some people just see confrontation as just plain petty and fear ( while in some cases will) doesn’t need to have anything to do with it. The real error of assumption is that people that have better things to do with their time are Assumed to be to weak to stand on their own. Thanks for your presentations and please see this as constructive feedback.
Java Donut sorry about the delay in my response. I was making my supper. I know that is on the right message because there’s definitely room for improvement with many peoples assertiveness. I also can appreciate the difficulty in addressing audiences of this magnitude. I just feel that it is important to covey the message that it’s also okay to be coping differently if you are choosing to do so. Thank you very much for your response as I appreciate all constructive feedback.
Sorry about the error in your username.
Thanks for the thumbs up
This has happened to me for years and I truly think I need help because now I have constant anxiety and depression. I always fearful to confront people about some things.
I hope things are better for you now. I am currently in the same situation.
I am currently trying to build up the guts to have this exact conversation with someone who has hurt me multiple times. And you hit the hammer on the head, but I still feel this anxiety coming into how Im going to start this conversation. And I need to do it because I keep putting it off.
This is me 100%. I've been married 22 yrs. My husband drinks every night, and emotionally and verbally abuses me horribly when he is drinking. During the day when he's sober he's a different person, very nice. He refuses to stop drinking, I can't even bring that up. I try to talk to him about what he says to me and how he treats me when he's sober but he refuses to talk about any of it. When he refuses I just completely back away because I can't handle the thought of arguing because I get severe anxiety. I live with anxiety daily. I'm to the point now I'm seeing a cardiologist because I was just in the ER because my chest pains and palpitations were so bad, I honestly thought I was having a heart attack. They did CT scans and exrays and other things and ruled out a heart attack. I'm so dependant on him and have been for so long I don't even know how I could leave. I know people say just leave...i wish to God it was that easy.
Anxiety Attack
Please leave!
Alanon will change your life for the better.
You are NOT alone.
You do NOT have to leave your husband .
This is an opportunity for you to have a richer life than you ever thought possible .
I hope you go.
I just love the way you coach. I am glad I came across your videos about a month ago.
At 60, I am finally having the courage to be myself! 🕉☮️💟
I am afraid of standing up for myself due to fear of how others will react. Though just recently I am learning to stand up for myself a little bit even due to fear of how people react.
They keep pushing the annoying button. Trying to find the one that annoys you the most, and keep pushing that button. You've asked them not to do it and once, even yelled at them not to do it and they still do it. That's disrespectful in my opinion. I don't even know if they are consciously doing it. Listening to your video's really helps Stephanie Lyn.
They are pushing the button because they want to control you. Stop reacting to the button and they will lose the control.
When you set boundaries but do not force consequences when they are crossed you are a perfect target for narcissistics. Never forget about that.
This is great if you are dealing with a healthy person in a healthy relationship and I think that is the context you mean. If you are dealing with someone who has repeatedly been emotionally abusive and toxic by lying and gaslighting you then it seems the wiser course of action would be to leave that person asap. I think this advice is great for a healthy relationship where you hopefully get positive feedback but if not it may be time to think about distancing yourself from a possibly toxic person. Great video as always Stephanie.
I agree
This is true.. BUT sometimes when I deal with someone who upset me (indeed not a narcissist, those are vile and love drama) and whom I can't avoid.. even though I DO fear confrontation.. sometimes I naturally am nasty to them back and feel happy about f***ing up their day. Because I know they deserve it ! It makes me feel good about being honest with myself
Gosh I needed this. I’ve literally broken down in tears before and during confrontation. I just found your channel and I want to say thank you for sharing this knowledge!
Awesome. I have an aunt that has been disrespectful to me and my kids. I don't want to hurt her feelings but she obviously doesn't mind hurting ours. It's triggering pain from my childhood. This video is going to help me to start advocating to myself. You helped me to identify and organize my thoughts and feelings to put them in a proper space. I am going to be nice and respectful when I confront get and not worry about get reaction. I was having difficulty identifying my feelings and allowing my feelings to be valid
Great video. I am a 6 foot, 230lb man who is absolutely terrified of confrontation and people with strong personalities . To make it more funny, I am a licensed therapist. Imagine being able to help others through this process but not yourself. It has caused me depression and anxiety. My wife has lost her emotional attraction to me. I'm trying very hard to break through this issue which has really held me back in life. I know it comes from our childhood. It's difficult!!
I’m a business owner of a successful detailing business in Alabama. I’m watching this video not because I struggle in my personal life, but as a leader of employees. I’m awful at confrontations, candor, being a leader when necessary. This video has helped me so much and certainly makes sense. Especially when you mentioned the parent situation. My entire childhood was that way. Thank you.
You rock Stephanie you are so real about these things and this is so awesome that you coach people. I am so sick of people who are therapists and they know this same content or pretend to know, but oh my god don't expect them at all to share this, so inflexible outside their compartmentalize brain. This played out with one of my therapists as I planned to have an open personal boundary and set the rules, standards and expectations she wants to fully follow. Well, she got a D maybe D+ on trying to take any full responsibilities for her actions looking at things from my perspective. Again Stephanie you are doing an excellent service to the abused, lost, never learned how to properly do what your coaching. You're a blessing.
Thank you so much for this video. I really needed to hear this. I’ve always feared confrontation with others and it stems from my childhood
So glad you uploaded this just as I saw you were doing a video on it!!
Thank you so much for another great video steph.
You’ve easily became my favorite TH-camr.
You’re so well spoken and I don’t think enough people learn everything they need to that you touch on in your videos.
I’ve sadly found myself in a relationship with a very nice assisted person that I’m working on getting my way out of through practicing are these implementations.
This video in particular is some thing I have and continue to struggle with in my every day life with every single person I come across and it’s so frustrating.
At 34 still learning how to Stand Up for myself, i feel Like a mess but tank this video and the comments now i know im Not alone
The panic come from my higher self alerting me that I’m at the moment to stand up for my self THIS time. In order to repair the time in the past I didn’t stand up for my self. I can change the past by changing the present and by quantum entanglement and proxy you can reap the benifits so that when that moment happens again I’ll be triggered to the past where I DID defend my boundary.
Thanks for the video, I’m right there with my assumptions of being labeled, and not accepted. Is a work in progress, getting better each day. Thank you for sharing your vast knowledge. It empowers me a bit more each day!
I've struggled with this my whole life. Didn't realize it was a big problem until today. Thank you for this, I really needed this
real eye opening, I recall a lot of situations in which I could have made a difference for myself !!! Thank you Stephanie
Spot on ! I have learned so much from discovering you just a few days ago, Thank you, Thank you so much!! I’m on a journey of changing and growing, I’m fearful but I’ve made up my mind to do it anyway.
Thank you Stephanie! This is so me!
This is right down my alley. It’s me all the way. Thanks for the encouragement.
Your videos have been instrumental in my learning to take a stand for my sanity and you are right the more I do this it gets so much easier. Thank you.
this really helped me a lot thank you I have been having a difficult time telling people how i feel and still kinda do but i feel a but stronger now i will confront others when treating me wrongly
Thank you Stephanie, this really it home to me. Stood up for myself the other day and now it reminds me how much I love myself.
This video brought me to tears. You hit the nail exactly on the head as to where I am and what I want to move away from.
Such a great topic that I struggle with! Thank you for sharing !
All your videos are a goldmine on TH-cam. Thank you.
Thank you! Thank you! I can’t wait for my daughter to hear this. We were just talking about this. Very helpful 😊
im so happy to have come across this video. your clear and concise and firm attitude and communication makes me feel hopeful and more secure
Facts. I love the way you communicate your message.
I have no fear of any man on this earth when anyone looks at me they see samson they fear me because of my stringth God has made me like this for a reason!
So good!! A great reminder and I needed to hear this. I think typing out what I would like to say word-for-word really helps to straighten up my thoughts so I can be direct and not communicate from an overly emotional place.
This video explains everything I've been experiencing! I can't wait to get home and journal about this and then take some action steps.
this video absolutely spelled out my problem and said exactly what I needed to hear, thank you
You spoke out of the depth of my heart. Right on point how I feel. Really appreciate this video. Thank you. 🧡
You are sweet and beautiful!❤Thank you so much for your videos! I love to listen and thrive!
You really have helped me lately with learning about my self and others. I thank u and u are continuing to help me learn how to be a better person. And im thankful for you. U are changing more lives than u know
Your videos and insights are huge really huge...these are things many of us face and dont know how to deal with them. This is huge and very effective. Thank you so much.
Thank you so much Stephanie I love how you do step by step on communication hot to teach someone how to treat you!
Thank you Stephanie. I really enjoy listening and learning self love from you. You are a great communicator and clearly are following your calling.
Needed to hear this!! Thank you..today I realised that maybe even after an year of a horrific break up, I haven't really healed. And now my journey towards self love shouldn't be delayed any longer ❤️
Hi..I am a new subscriber and really love your laid back, no nonsense advice. It's also very useable and not a bunch of psycho babble...I am learning a lot and need to watch these over and take notes. thank you!
Hey Stephanie! Thank You for uploading this video.
She is amazing and so helpful.
Whew you are spot on. I needed this and will come back again.
Thank you so much for this video. I’ve had reoccurring dreams of certain events for years and ran into a similar situation recently. I’ve thought about therapy and have tried two inner healing sessions but nothing worked. This video helped me understand myself in ways I had not been able to express. Thank you.
Thank you Stephanie, your words touched me and know many things make sense.
Steph you're amazing. Some of the pointers you provide are gems AND I love your makeup, how you carry yourself or talk. Huge fan. I'm sure you'll go far more places ❤️
I love your videos and advice. I feel like you know all the things I would love to have someone talk to me about. Real issues. Life changing.
She nailed it. It’s on point. I m about to let it all out and start a new beginning. First with my boss and then others. It’s a test of guts and courage.
Fabulous. Perfect articulation. Strangely, so many people including me are simply unaware of how feelings work and then manifest in different ways when we are not in touch with them.
Really makes sense.. Need to practice this as struggle about a reaction from people. Thank you Stephanie
Thank you so much for this video. It was advice that really helped me to confront a situation. Love the work your doing, thank you so much!!
Great advise Stephanie! Be the person you want to attract!
Thank you. It Amazes me, the perfect timing of this video. A real eye opener for me. 🙏🏻.
Thanks Stephanie! This is exactly what I needed to know about myself. I feel more confident now! Blessings!
Thank you SO much for this video. This is my biggest struggle in life: to stick up for myself. But all it does is lead to resentment and wishing people could 'see' how my sensitive ways have been mistreated. I have so much confidence after this video to work on this now. Thank you Stephanie I am so happy I found your channel xoxo
Thank you for giving all this great wisdom for free
U r absolutely blessed
You “hit the hammer on the nail”, .. a lot of men struggling with this (I for one should know)….. I will work @ this .. THANKS!!!!!🙏🏽
Thank you so much for your videos! I have learn so much about my behaviour and issues. I love how much it has changed the way I feel about who I am! Thank you again!
Just wanna say that Jesus loves you and He's coming again. If you haven't surrendered to Him, now is the time because His coming will not be long, and probation is closing swiftly. There is room for us all to be saved. (John 3:16; John 14:1-3). Tune in to the "Footprints of Hope" series right here on TH-cam.
You are the best thing that happened to me in quite a while! Right now I'm caught up in dealing with highly toxic people to the point that i can no longer function. I have plans and projects to give to the world the best of me, to make a positive difference in the world, but i feel really knocked down lately. Thank you so much for your insightful advice on this channel, it is hugely valuable and appreciated! ❤️