Two stories- first, years ago, I was at the grocery store with my fiancee. A real jerk walked past my fiancée, bumped hard into her, and said, “Move, (expletive).” I immediately said that there was no need for that kind of language or behavior, and the guy got in my face, trying to initiate a fight. I walked away. In the car, my fiancée said she was embarrassed that I didn’t defend her honor. A year later, she left me for someone else. Second story - today, a neighbor down the street flagged me down and accused me of calling the police on him for loud music he was playing in his yard. He was trying to square up with me, went on to insult my job, and my wife, and suggested I wasn’t “being a man.” I listened to his rant, denied his accusations, and departed without engaging. My wife, who witnessed the whole episode, said something like, “He was challenging the wrong man; he’s lucky you have so much restraint.” Moral of the story - don’t get into fights, and find a loving partner who wants to be with a grownup.
should've smashed both of them, who cares what the girls thinks, it's selfish to not act, you could stop them acting that way in the future, certainly make them think twice.
Sun Tzu said the most important thing in The Art Of War: Always leave your enemy an escape route, or else they will fight with maximum ferocity once they realize they have nothing to lose.
I've observed this many times to be an effective tool in business negotiations with deceptive people. If you know they're trying to snow you, and they know you will call their bluff, time and time again, they will back down if you have left them an out that they perceive as a way to save face in the situation.
*Johnsonspy* , I really admire how you stay focused and always remember there are victims, real people, losing their money and even killing themselves because they are ashamed at falling for these scams. God bless you and keep you,Damn it feels good when you expose these guys, for some reason, other TH-camrs are nervous to do so. You're the king!
After the intimate video call was recorded without my knowledge, I feared the material would be used against me. *Johnsonspy* acted swiftly, erasing the unauthorized recording and reinforcing my privacy settings.
No doubts most men are one of the most victims of such....I was a victim too cried the hell out of my eyes I later got helped by *Johnsonspy* even tho the entire money wasn't recovered glad I atleast got back some of it
"Situational awareness will solve/should solve 99% of your problems." I think people need to digest that statement and concentrate on learning how to be aware of their environment. Thank you, guys
I'm a female who travels alone. In February I went to Cape Town, South Africa. SA has the highest rape rate in the world and a high crime rate in general. Yet I know that I am at low risk for this as I stick to the tourist areas which are usually well policed. Then I keep my head up and walk with confidence as if I know exactly where I'm going even though I'm taking a look at my phone once in a while as I follow Google maps. I watch for anyone watching me or any people or situation that makes me uncomfortable. What's weird is that if something happens, such as a woman getting her purse snatched, many people go running toward where the melee is happening.
“You can’t truly call yourself “peaceful” unless you’re capable of great violence, if you’re not capable of violence you’re not peaceful, you’re harmless”
Being capable of great violence doesn’t make you capable of peace. And you don’t have to be capable of “great violence” to be peaceful. That’s just illogical teenage thinking. You just want an excuse to think of yourself as “capable of great violence.” Just your ego talking.
The best advice is to not allow anyone displaying aggression to enter you personal space. Avoid any emotion and handle your business when they cross the line. Never allow ego or pride to dictate your actions.
deal with these demons all the time I am in property management, most of the tenants are on disability....some are pissed, some are pissed and high....now, i am a small guy at 170, and 5 foot 8.....love the advice here from Jocko, avoid their world at all costs, but be prepared and trained if theres no other way out....had a dude get right into my face, had to push him off in a split second.
@Rob Roy Thanks for existing! Since thanks to you Jocko is alive, not only that we can learn from him, I hope someday you throw out some content yourself, I'll be the first to subscribe and provide support!
I've seen it many, many times, women starting arguments and they then deliberately involve their male partner in the altercation, like a dog-owner unleashing his dog on someone, and most of the times the men involved aren't looking for a fight.
I think a man who is insecure and is hyper-focused on power dynamics will attract women who are insecure and hyper-focused on power dynamics. "But she's hot," go find a woman who shows mutual respect, you know damn well they're in abundance and Japan's not gonna provide a mute waifu for you
The derangement of femininity is just as real as the derangement of masculinity. Unfortunately, it seems to be far more damaging, regardless of how it began. It also seems to be instinctive, since you see it emerging in grade school, and you see less of it as you grow up. The Woman-child exists just as surely as the ever-present Man-child. Get your buddy to dump the bitch and toss a coin to your witcher.
Defend yourself. I was raised to be passive and told to never fight back; thanks mom and dad. Well that got me a ton of screws and rods in my dominant right elbow, a severe TBI and screws plates and pins in my mouth, and a lifelong neurological seizure disorder from that head injury. I'm only 32 years old. I have to be on medication for life. Then there's the PTSD associated with these horrific injuries and surgeries. If I could turn back time i would have rather defended myself at all costs; a prison cell is better than lifelong physical disabilities or better than being dead. You can't simply avoid everything. Please protect your livelihood at all costs. Do not make the same mistakes I did.
@@kenosabi so you think his injuries are better than a prison cell? Im the last guy who wants to go to jail, but what hes going through is no joke man. You lack empathy.
The thing with “punks and thugs,” is that they have nothing to lose, you/me/we have everything to lose. Excellent point on deflecting and defusing as much as possible.
Very true but if you have everything to lose then you fight with a passion because you do have stuff to lose, not particularly talking about material positions.
I grew up around “ thugs / punks” so I had to be tough. yeah ur best bet is to definitely stay out of Dodge . why ? because lots of them can scrap too. and the ones who can’t which is more than the ones who can often got weapons and numbers . they grew up fighting or slinging dope which will involve fighting or being in bad positions. like if I see two people arguing or doing something illegal I don’t bother them and best to keep quiet. now if I saw someone weaker getting beat down I would step in but I’d sneak up behind them instead of “ hey hey! “ then they got time to react. especially if there’s more than one which there’s a good chance there would be. I got more to loose now than I have had in a long time and I live in a nicer area.
@@crazymacedonianboi yeah it is best to avoid them if you can but understand that sometimes it isnt available to do so but it should always be the last option period. To many people have lost sight of treat others how you want to be treated that it is best now as it ever has been to know how to really handle yourselves. I know what would solve that though, an armed society is a polite society.
How do you deal with thugs? I don't waste my time dealing with thugs, I don't walk away... I just don't walk into the situation in the first place. If and only if I couldn't see it comming then I walk away, and if walking away isn't an option, then I deal with them... swiftly... with shere badassery. That's the moral of this episode... to pay attention so you don't have to deal with them in the first place.
Bouncer for a decade, everything here said is legit. Best choice is always to walk away if you can. Fighting, especially in like a bar, is a great way to get yourself crippled, even if you're Billy Badass and I've seen it happen to a lot of people.
@@paulrutkovskis yeah, tough guy mentality is a great way to get drug down by 6 people and stomped on. Also, around here there are mutual combat laws, so if you are dumb and pick a fight with 4 people and they kick your ass really bad the cops won't do anything for you. They'll ask what happened and the guy will be like, "I gave them the finger, and then they all attacked me." The cops response is always, well you gave them the finger, it's mutual combat, have a nice night and don't do it again."
@@coldsteel.and.courage bro my enemy, called his 6 friends to hit me and i ran , he got cctv footage and telling my friends, look he is a coward , he ran
Best be careful though, I've had attempted mugging, fights etc., but a friend of mine also had an attempted mugging, hit the guy, killed him, he told me he was mortified and if not for witnesses, would most likely have gone down for murder.
Just yesterday I had a conflict with a lady that bumped in to me at the grocery store. She mouthed off to me, I mouthed back. I walked to the bathrooms and her brother blocked the passage out of the hallway, confronting me about what happened. First thing I noticed, he reached his hand in to his pocket. Had it in there the whole time. Guy was much smaller than me, but he seemed way too confident going up against me, a much bigger guy. I walked passed him stating I was on the phone, I’m in a rush, trying to get to a more open area with more witnesses in case things got ugly. Two more people surrounded me as I walked out of the hallway, totaling to 3. I had to swallow my pride, this isn’t worth getting stabbed or shot over. She wronged me, but it didn’t matter. I was the bad guy in their eyes. So I looked the lady in the eyes that I had the initial argument with and apologized for being rude. “Look, I was in a rush, I was really rude. I apologize”. She accepted it and they walked away. Moral of this story, just be the bigger man and say what you need to say to avoid dying over bs. Edit: Alright, I seem to be getting a lot of replies split between “you’re a wimp for backing down” and “you did the right thing”. Look, I’ll say this. I’m so embarrassed by this moment in time. I hate thinking about how I backed down. I was the weaker man in this story, this isn’t like in the movies at all where good prospers over evil. I’m just a normal everyday guy like most of you. I would delete this comment, but I feel like it could help some people that find themselves in unfortunate situations like this. All I can say is, take my embarrassing situation and use it to decide what you’ll do if you ever find yourself in trouble. Ask yourself if it’s worth it.
@@K4113B4113 tbh, I’ve been shot over something just as stupid a few years ago. I’m still dealing with court to this day for that incident. I’ve come to learn no matter how much your pride hurts, it can really be a whole lot worse.
@@Drpepperspray1010 Wow that is insane to imagine. I'd love to know what happened in that situation. And where you were shot and if you recovered fully. And what the gist of the court case is about. Sorry, haha. Yeah it's insane that anyone should die over protecting their ego...
From someone growing up without a dad, I would like to say happy Father’s Day to the legend, Jocko Willink. You have provided guidance and countless advice on a huge variety of topics, and you continue to set examples every day with your work ethic. You and Echo have helped me greatly; I thank you.
I've got a dad, but I still have many father figures other than him. Good men have many sons. I'm glad young men can still find guidance if they search for it. Awesome man
I'm literally incapable of picturing a scenario where this man wouldn't look aggressive or dangerous sufficient that some other dude would challenge him.
Big guys get targetted as much as or more than little guys. It's a macho thing. If he responded by getting angry, it'd be a fight. His best advice was to be assertive towards them, but otherwise not worry about them. Odds are that it's someone else on the bus that starts the interaction by bitching about them playing music or how boisterous they are. If they are interacting with each other, they aren't looking for trouble.
Here's my story from 15 years ago where I wish I could go back and change my decision making. Dating a girl who was a bit wild., get a call at 1:00am asking me to pick her up from a bar where she was jumped on by a group of girls. I show up, she's outside crying. My mistake was walking into the bar to find out what went on. I was talking calmy but loud to the most mature of the group. I'm agreeing with her that my GF is a nutbag and probably instigated the whole thing. Guy walks up behind me, starts pulling on my shirt telling me to go. To make it short, I'm the first one out the door followed by a group of guys, one of them being the alpha right behind me. I was in pretty damn good physical shape but not in my right mind. I end up being hit from behind and woke up on the curb, taken away in an ambulance. 7 plates and 28 screws later, jaw wired shut, dislocated right shoulder, I was out of work for almost a year. Still can't throw a baseball after many years, when I used to toss a 90mph fastball. Fortunately I was able to maintain my beauty, lol. My advice that most probably don't need to hear is to just walk away, don't go into the bar, just go home. I was at the age where I felt indestructible, and that night ended that for good.
Wow. That must have been a horrible experience not to mention the recovery period. Sending you strength for your continued healing although it's been awhile the mental and psychological trauma sometimes linger. And I'm sorry for your lost of full mobility 💔
There are punks out there who hate self-confidence, and personal success who want to bring any target down to their loser level through threats, intimidation, or violence; then play the victim when someone stands up to them.
Kind of sounds like a large minority of humanity. Typically young, aimless males imho get into this sort of destructive thinking. In a way they usually are victims of something. Then the victim becomes the predator.
Not just punks, even the regular people. It might be even your uncle who visits you and your father every few weeks. As long as you are down, they are good with you. The moment you succeed, you'll become their enemy number 1 in no time. Even you dressing good will itch their eyes. Some things you can do is - Avoid your harm, be it by avoiding fights etc. Get successful. It won't matter what the "society" says, when you become successful. I mean, there might be 10 people cursing you behind your back, but is it affecting your life ? Surround yourself with people you like. Eliminate snakes around you. What's the point of having a person you know will betray you or simply doesn't want you to be happy ?
It's all tribal, you're not one of them. That's enough to get you hurt in some of these neighborhoods. Be self-confident, but definitely not obnoxious or disrespectful to anybody. Acknowledge them and go about your business.
True,had something similar happen to me at work today,2 arseholes (father and son), both with an attitude problem thought that they could try and intimidate me,because I stood my ground ,they didn't like it,someone not taking there shit,and threatened to call the police even though they were the pricks to begin with.
Oh. Then I'm wrong. I just thought that in their first videos he doesn't say as much or contribute as much in the podcast. Or maybe those times are with guests.
Jocko is a fine example of a warrior. One who understands when & how to use violence. Not everything requires force. Good thinking will save you from alot of trouble.
This is a very mature and wise advice. Avoid unnecessary conflict. There are idiots in the streets. Observation of surroundings frees you from most problematic idiots. Don't let idiots enter into your world, don't let them drag you into theirs. Engage only when there's no other option to protect you. Be prepared even if you never need it.
I never regret the next day, having walked away. I 100% regret the next day, having engaged. Descalating is a real skill and a real power and I couldn't agree with the sentiment of this podcast more.
Hearing this from you made me feel good man. I am mostly always not engaging and non-reactive. When people/co-workers tried to poke me in the past, majority of the time I left them talking by themselves, while I reflected on their behavior and of what I would do/say. Sometimes, even placing a boundary will make us be engaged in their world... That is why being aware of what is going on and what type of people are in front of us is important to make good decisions.
@@Alexlamb442 while deescalation is a skill and the safest route, you also need to maintain boundaries for your own safety. A stranger touching your lady should be far and away grounds for returning aggression.
@@charlesthomashanley why not? 50% of the population will, on average, get fucked up by the other 50% (women and men, respectively). I’m 5’7” and I have previously broken my back. To this day, my doc won’t clear me to lift more than 50lbs and my accident was 17 years ago. Meanwhile, I’ve got a wife and child that depend on me to come home every night. The biggest myth out there is that fights have to be fair. No, no they don’t. Like Jocko said, aim to avoid and deescalate. But if you do have to fight, then win by any means necessary. And a gun, friend, is the only thing that sets me on even footing with a guy like Jocko.
“Don’t look at them, don’t make eye contact, stay out of the situation” YES! This is so important and it frustrates me how some of my friends don’t realize this. I remember how one time I was sitting on a late-night train with my friend next to me and a bunch of low-life trash entered the cabin. My friend immediately made eye contact, KEPT LOOKING AT THEM and said to me “hey, would you look at those losers”. I later told him he was just asking for trouble and he totally didn’t understand my point
With all due respect, your friend sounds like an asshole. Most people have better things to think about than strangers on a train. But good for you for being the voice of reason.
When you look at someone hard, not only it consided rude, it could cost you your life. You can google all the stories of those who are Dead, because of a Staredown.
I had a friend who did something similar at our highschool grad bonfire, out in the woods. Some half drunk dude was talking dumb with my friends' g/f, and my friend says to me REAL quiet, "This guy's askin' for a punch", and somehow the drunk guy hears him to both of our surprise. So I step in between and defuse it, but after my friend takes off home like 2 hours later I'm getting asked where he is because the drunk dude STILL wants to fight. People just can't let go of a grudge.
@@tilikumtim5562 they all have their phone in their face. You would not believe how many people end up dead or in the ER because they can't even see what's happening 6 feet in front of them.
Pride goes before a fall and there is a hidden honour in walking away. To subdue the enemy without fighting is the highest level of intelligence. Restraint, calm and patience are not celebrated enough in our society. Let life teach fools their lessons.
Wow this was really good to see, I almost got into a fight with my Roomate tn and a couple nights before. I’m moving out tomorrow. I’m glad I was able to subdue him without having to throw a single punch.
A real man will smack it. While in excruciating pain you know you will recover, the mosquito on the other hand, well it doesn't end well for her and it'll send a message out to all the other mosquito's you mean business! LOL!
Is this sarcastic? Who do you think is trying to fight jocko? At 10 jocko was a huge jock what are you talking about? If you wanna get out of a fight look a little too happy to have been picked to be in it, talk to them with your full intent in mind ie.” I’m going to play bitch long enough to stab X in the eye then front side of his elbow with my pencil as he raises his arm to defend his face, where i will break my pencil off in him, if i miss his arm I’ll continue to the thigh where i will deposit it as i move to vingativa, work done i will leave taking the body with me for fun Weekend at Bernie’s hijinks and sexual modification.” When possible remove your pants as quickly as possible With these 2 moves NO ONE will want to continue dealing with you. And if they do, you’ve already got a plan.
jerk fudgewater a completely heterosexual friend of mine once yelled at a group of drunk dudes looking for a fight that he’d jerk them off with both hands. Needless to say they went the opposite direction.
Bro carry wasp spray you know u have it on u they don't ,don't utilize it unless absolutely Vitale to your saftey and last but least way more accurate and adjustable then gun or pepper spray and no they get their sight back but but they dont no it and even a suicidal manic cries when he feels he is permanently blinded.in the valley of the blind the one eyed man is king
My advice to prevent someone starting on you is to make no eye contact with anybody on the street and look like you are pissed off. To look pissed of you walk fast with determination and ignore your surroundings. Muggers and bullies look for defenceless people, they will bypass someone having a bad day and pick an easier target.
The advice from a normal..actually a smaller than normal...male person. 1) get in shape and learn some form of self defense that has real world applications (I.e. not tae kwon do ) 2) control your emotions and never show fear/anger/embarrassment...laugh and say whatever while subtly posturing yourself into a fight ready stance 3) walk away again acting like you feel no threat and if anything are mildly amused...never dropping your fight ready stance/awareness 4) if you can’t walk away take a fighting stance without worrying about being subtle, make eye contact and don’t break it. 5) don’t talk shit let them talk all the shit they want...as long as they don’t enter your “bubble” don’t do anything 6) if they enter your “bubble” strike faster than lightning with the goal of fucking them up as quickly and definitely as possible. Do not let up until they are no longer a threat. If they are still moving and striking grabbing whatever under their own power, they are a threat. If they are curled up in a fetal position, knocked out or asleep...they are not a threat. If you had no means of escape, they were being threatening and they entered your physical space...then what you have just done to them is called self defense. Do not talk to the cops...simply say that you think it would be best if you talked to a lawyer first... Remember this, most people don’t really want to fight, unless they are positive they can easily win. By acting calm, confident and maintaining a fight ready posture...most people will just run their mouth and so long as you let them do this, they will leave eventually without doing anything...most likely saying something like “you aren’t worth my time” or something stupid. It’s ok to laugh a bit at first and be dismissive of them, but once they lose their temper don’t bait them or escalate the situation. Who cares if a bunch of idiots think them talking a bunch of shit without ever doing anything to intimidate you is the same thing as “kicking your ass”. The fact is this, they didn’t kick your ass and they didn’t intimidate you. They know this. If you have a bully on your hands, you might have to challenge them eventually by saying “all you do is talk, how bout this...you and me go fight in the gym all nice and legal so no one gets in trouble...unless you are scared” but be ready to fight at any minute once you do this. Again if a fight happens your goal is neutralize the threat as soon as possible by whatever means possible...not “kick their ass”
And don’t be afraid to get yourself a gun, a concealed carry permit, training to use it safely and efficiently....if you have a family to defend and live in an area with potential threats to their safety. Often people in groups will do things...like confronting a man with his family in tow just to look tough...that they wouldn’t do if they were alone. So if you live in a neighborhood with groups big young guys that hang out on the corner and get rowdy...there isn’t anything wrong with feeling the need to arm yourself. Just remember that shooting someone is a last resort and if you do this you have to show that you had no other option except self defense. As long as you have reasonable cause to fear for yourself or your families safety...and have no way to escape the situation, self defense is legal in most states...I’m not a lawyer and this isn’t legal advice so check your states laws. I just know that if you shoot someone don’t make any statements to the police before consulting a lawyer....and make sure you do everything in your power to avoid/escape the situation before using your weapon. Cross the street a couple blocks up, take a different route...begin moving towards a path of escape immediately etc...just cause you have a weapon doesn’t mean you now have the right to walk down whatever street you want and blow off anybody who threatens you cause you can just shooot em if you need to. That’s not how this shit works. You should always do everything in your power to avoid dangerous threatening situations. Shooting someone is a last resort that you should only use when you have no other choice. I guarantee you if you are asked why you decided to walk down that block with a bunch of gang bangers on it with your wife and kids...cutting right through a group of them and then end up shooting one of them...it’s not gonna look good...it’s gonna look like you were the one creating the situation. Again owning a gun doesn’t mean you get to “take the streets back from the criminals and go where you want without fear” that’s not self defense that’s called being an idiot who’s looking for trouble!
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Nobody likes crazy. Act crazy. Have a crazy argument with imaginary foe. Growl... lunge at nothing...claw at the air....shake uncontrollably.... This usually works for me when family asks me for money.
"Keep this thought handy when you feel a fit of rage coming on -- it isn't manly to be enraged. Rather, gentleness and civility are more human, and therefore manlier. A real man doesn't give way to anger and discontent, and such a person has strength, courage, and endurance -- unlike the angry and complaining. The nearer a man comes to a calm mind, the closer he is to strength." - Marcus Aurelius
@@devilsoffspring5519 Or perhaps he realized that it is easier to start swinging than it is to withdraw from an unnecessary fight. There is a reason adults teach their children that punching someone every time they are angry is wrong. Of course, you are the devil's offspring...
@@ZedF86 No, it's not easier to start swinging. Especially not when you're a little kid and most of the world's population is a hell of a lot bigger than you. Walking away from fights only works if your attacker is content to let you do that. Staying and fighting only works if your attacker can't fight as well as you.
The best way to win a fight is the avoid a fight. There is ALWAYS someone meaner than you. They're out there, and you never know who they are until it's too late.
I’ve lived in some rough places, met Lots of rough people. Never been in any sort of fight whatsoever, not even a verbal one. Just have self respect and vicariously you will respect other people. If people talk to you, just be honest, ask them questions about themselves. Like Jocko said, most people like that are insecure. So if you just make them feel good, they like you. It’s like dealing with an animal.
I was lucky enough to grow up in a pretty middle-class neighborhood in the suburbs, but I learned that in school. I was pretty Mormon at the time, so kids who wanted to get a rise out of me would say things like "yo f*ck Jesus" and I'd just let it roll off me, just say something like "yeah man whatever works for you" and I became chill with a lot of these people. Of course, I wasn't yet mature enough to do it consciously, I was just avoiding conflict because I was a meek, scrawny Mormon kid. Hell I met my best friend in high school this way. I disagreed with his morals, but I was willing to be friendly and respectful so eventually he returned the favor. Really a lot of these people are just grown up bullies who never kicked the addiction to pissing people off, so it's no surprise the same tactics work. Treat people like people, but don't let them walk all over you.
Oh wow on the part about asking them questions about themselves and make them feel good because they’re insecure 🤯 you are soo smart And the part about self respect. I have had some people mistreat me at work, but i 100% know it was because i didn’t have self respect like you said. So when my supervisor asked if she should intervene at some point, i told her no, it’s up to me to handle myself. Eventually my self respect grew and i don’t get mistreated anymore. Then again i work from home mostly LOL but things actually really have improved.
Jocko, my first judo instructor gave the same advice 40 years ago. He called it the art of evasion, but train for the worst. KODOS to a warrior with devotion for humanity! It still works at 67 years old!
Tom Bland or maybe he does, because the human capacity for stupidity is directly proportional to the obvious pitfalls that can be seen as amusing and manly. If you mention you know taekwon do in a ballpark it’s almost guaranteed some drunk a row back will try to test his idiot black belt against yours.
you'd be surprised. Its the 6'5" 260lbs meathead who grew up violent who at least knows no ones impressed by his beating the ass of someone half his size sees a guy who is big and has a rep. for fighting and has a few beers in him gets real bold.
I knew a guy years ago, nice enough fella in his way, but a recreational soccer hooligan. I was told he used to go down to the main area of town after the clubs shut, get his kebab, and then pick a fight with the biggest fella he could find. For the hell of it.
100% true. these can MOSTLY be avoided by just looking the other way, not giving the aggressor the time of day. I grew up in Brooklyn, seen plenty of crackheads, crazy people, violent people who will zero in on you just for making eye contact with them. My wife grew up in a sleepy little town, she tends to get invested in other people's drama mostly by just looking at it😂. I have to always tell her to look the other way if there's a scene. Luckily we moved to a quiet town, but I still have those instincts I grew up with. And that's why I started jiu jitsu in the first place. I'm a non confrontational person, but the confidence and security I gained by simply knowing if things ever escalated I would know exactly how to handle it really changed my life.
@@testickles8834 I don't understand your comment. If your asking how many people have died from fights or altercations when it could've been avoided then I concur. If you're implying that people look away while someone else is being attacked and that attack leads to death and people just avoid it and look away, then you misinterpreted my comment, Testicles.
Is that still true for a 0.5-1 second of eye contact followed by a disinterested demeanour and going about your business? Or do you strictly avoid eye contact and just use your periphery?
@@marcalan1198 I would suggest looking for a MMA, Kick-boxing, Thai boxing or any other type of martial art that has real world application. If you find a club where they compete in full-contact that’s a good sign that it’s a practical martial art. But you don’t have to compete yourself obviously. You can also look for a self-defence club, though there are a lot of them that are what we call “bullshido” as in bullshit. It’s important that it’s applicable in real life. If they do sparring, that’s a good sign. Some Krav Maga clubs are good, but make sure that what they teach actually looks practical. Challenge them with questions. Now if you don’t have ANY martial arts/self-defence clubs in your area which seems unlikely, you can get your own boxing bag. Then just watch TH-cam for proper technique and practice a lot until you have quick and powerful punches/attacks. If you’re practicing for street defence then make sure to do some practice without boxing gloves too. Warm up and stretch your wrists before you start so you don’t hurt them and really get the technique right so you don’t hurt yourself and so you get power. When you practice, do lots of straight punches. They’re quick and effective. Make sure to get your weight into those punches with proper technique. Also practice some elbow strikes with rotational force (the same way a boxer throws a hook punch). You can even practice without a boxing bag. Start right now with shadow boxing. Learn the techniques and practice them in the air. In front of a mirror is even better. Make sure you’ve got your guard up and a fighting stance that makes you stable while still being able to move. You can also practice holding your guard up but with open hands in a de-escalating manner, without being in a fighter stance. From there you can imagine de-escalating a situation with words while at the same time being ready to fight.
@@K4113B4113 thanks so much for all your advice. I'm definitely going to start training and learning self defense with TH-cam videos like Tony Jeffries. he's good fighter with good basics + boxing training videos. thanks for your generous advice.
Situational awareness is point on. Growing up during 90s chaos and mafia era in Eastern Europe I've learned it without thinking about it. Always scanning what's going on hundreds of meters around, recognizing drunk people or people acting strange. It became second nature. And very important thing - to trust your gut feeling, to trust your first impression. If you feel that something is out of order with the person it's better to avoid.
Notice how many of these scenarios take place in bars and are initiated by drunk people. One of the best pieces of self-defense advice I ever heard: stay away from bars. Avoiding random drunk people is statistically better than years of martial arts training, and is much simpler.
Agreed. Another under-rated aspect of issue-avoidance is simply looking the part - a quietly confident person who is in shape and looks competent probably has fewer interactions with troublesome people simply because there are likely people on either side of you who look more vulnerable. Predator species have had millions of years to develop effective visual cues regarding which prey animals look easy to eat and which look difficult. If you look like the latter you are going to be miles ahead, right out of the gate.
Of course you can. It may not be with a gun, but you can utilise what is around you. You can use dirt (fling it into the opponent's eyes), a rock, a stick/plank/branch etc. I've been taught how to use a marble as a weapon. Then again, I grew up during the Troubles in Northern Ireland, and had to utilise whatever I had at hand, which the relatives I had in the security forces taught me, using various techniques and when to use those techniques. I've used old-style roller skates to break legs, or using a fence to get myself into a position where I can take down a bully (I put my legs between his and did a crocodile roll, which made him smack his face off the ground). It's not about what you don't have to hand, it's about what you DO have to hand. This is why we need to be aware of our surroundings, because you never know what you might need to use to bring down an aggressive assailant.
Tell that to the Chinese farmers who invented most of the martial arts under the heading "Kung Fu". No weapons? Use farming tools. Monks were left alone and considered "harmless" but they were secretly training to have mastery over their bodies. Yeah... sorry you live in an unarmed state. A good decking or framing hammer can be a fantastic weapon tho.
@@Scott64a "A good decking or framing hammer can be a fantastic weapon" True, but in the UK you could be arrested for having one without a good reason (I kid you not).
Actually self defence in Ireland is a valid reason to own a firearm and centre fire handguns are allowed. (Concealed carry is sometimes allowed in circumstances where you are at actual risk) I wouldn’t bet on concealed carry though. I’m presuming you’re talking about NI though. Edit: Of course you need to apply for an FAC
This is all 1000% accurate advice. I'm Asian and I grew up in the projects in the Bronx. Trouble was pretty much unavoidable for me. Best thing to do is to not think running away is "beneath" you. I got jumped at least once a week when I was a teenager. Always be aware. Exactly what Jock said. See a group coming your way? Cross the street. Two guys eyeing you? Walk faster. There was 1 time, I crossed the street and the group crossed too.. and I crossed back and they followed. So I started fucking RUNNING. Ran until I got to a bodega I knew the owner and went inside. They came in but I knew the bodega owner was packing.. told these dudes to leave. Man I had so many of these situations growing up. I've been robbed at gunpoint, been stabbed, gotten the shit kicked out of me, cuz I was Asian. The eye contact thing is 100% true. Never ever ever make eye contact. I accidentally did a couple times and just regretted and thought "here we go...". And it 100% escalates every time. This stuff happened a lot less after I moved out of the hood. I can still spot trouble though and try to remove me and others out of it. One time I was in Vegas with a bunch of friends from college. They're not very street smart. Decided to get liquor and they wanted to go to this place off the strip. We pull up and this place was obviously not the spot man.... U got junkys, dealers, gang bangers in the parking lot. U can tell if you roll up with 3 white dudes and an Asian kid... we were gonna get jumped. Told them to NOT stop and we gotta go. These idiots said I was being racist. Told them I was gonna stay in the car. Guess what, 20 seconds after they got out of the car, they got robbed. I drove over there fast and picked them up and got out of there. Some idiots just gotta learn the lesson on their own. What he said about getting active is true too. I'm not sure if it's because I'm bigger now or if it's something else... but I don't really get hassled as much anymore. I started wrestling in HS and college and I bulked up. I'm 6'1", 235 now and very very very rarely do people even try.
Good on you for not letting dumbass's drag you into a situation that was more than unsavory, most people would just follow and clench their teeth waiting for shit to go down.
This must have left you traumatized. Did this affect your mental health or did you just learn to deal with it and it made u thougher?? I got robbed once and I was scared for a year or two afterwards. Only started jiu jitsu 4 years later tho
but i thought all you chinese guys knew kung fu..... (j/k) Good to have street smarts and good that you are now a big guy who has some wrestling background. :-)
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I feel like this is where we could totally change as a people for the better. When we're growing up, we're taught about how America resisted the British and fought to the death for independence (or at least I hope they still teach that). From a young age, we get exposed to firearms in some fashion, through video games, TV shows, movies, etc. In all of those mediums, they don't convey the sense of consequence that comes with actually owning a firearm. You don't get rewind buttons or checkpoints in real life. So, what we should do is instead of demonizing guns for existing, double down on educating the masses about guns. They've been around for hundreds of years and they aren't going away. Ever. It's just a fact. So why not teach people about them? Maybe in high school, have an elective class kids can take where they learn about firearms. Make weapon safety courses mandatory for first time gun buyers. Even if we have to do some zoomer bullshit like adding "rated R for gun violence" or "disclaimer: guns are dangerous if you do dumb shit", idk. My point is, educate rather than demonize.
Christopher Imperiale I don’t think firearm training will ever make its way into public schools but training for gun owners should be mandatory. Not only use and safety but some sort of rules of engagement and notices about the consequences you’d be facing in certain conditions depending on your state in particular. We could go on for days about firearm safety and history but it’ll fall mostly on deaf ears.
@@anusmcgee4150 I agree with everything you said, but my interpretation was that he's speaking to the legal and financial repercussions of shooting someone - even in self defense.
Burma Jones also having to live with it... not a small part of shooting someone even when it’s justified. Emotional things are not as cut and dry and they always should be.
Speaking as a female who's had lots of weirdos and crazies in various parts of the world I find that when ignoring fails, dead eye contact and extremely confident body posture (even when they are inches away from me and in my face), being extremely calm and not moving back an inch works every single time.
This reminds of a night way back in the mid 80's when I was coming home late from the pub on my own. A group of 3 people came up to me and surrounded me. One of them came right up close and stared me in the face. If I had been sober I would have most likely panicked, being a naturally introverted shy person, but being somewhat intoxicated had the nerve to stare right back calmly. They walked away looking puzzled. Clearly they were just looking to intimidate me and I didn't play the game.
I'd run as fast as my legs can make me, Jocko alone is intimidating af in his own presence, but jocko armed with a real weapon? Now that's something i don't wish to confront in any way possible.
Good sound advice here. Living in nyc for over 40 plus years and much of what Jocko explained here works in the 90 percentile. I live by the motto, don't go stupid places, do stupid things, with stupid people. That alone gives you a high success rate.
the HEAD NOD! YESS!! The most SUBTLE, EFFECTIVE trick! Works on cops, too. A firm little nod and the immediately go back to doing what you do. I cant stress this enough, THE HEAD NOD
I had a random angry guy today try to fight me at walmart after bumping into me. The guy was half my size and in his 50s but I got the strong feeling he had a gun or knife on him, and he was unhinged, so I just ignored him walked away. It was a weird experience and made me think how there's ppl like this in the world.
I was a 19-Delta in the army the training I took with me I brought home when I left. I can see unstable idiots every day at least 20 plus I'm 6,4 260lb martial artist to as a hobby, rule of thumb if he is a little guy hot head all mouth they have some sort of weapon other wise there's no sain reason to poke a happy bear just eating his honey.
@sigmaramennot always lmao, im 5'6 and im on here bc i have. 6'4 whos 10 years older than me still living with his parents threatening to beat me up if he sees me in public bc he started talking shit to me first over voice messages and i retaliated with text and then he went to verbal threats over the phone. This dude has nothing to live for so of course he has all the time in the world to bother a 26 yr old. This dudes psychotic lmao
11:23 A close friend who served in Vietnam as a Marine gave me the exact advice when a confrontation is unavoidable. Hit hard, hit fast and don't stop until the threat is neutralized, then get out.
Usually there will be multiple attackers. At least that's what happened to me several times. One guy usually does the crap talking and takes the lead. The others are there to kick and rob you. On a bus they will be funneled so you won't have to watch your back.
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"paying attention will allow you to avoid most confrontations" This is so true, paying attention allowed me to avoid a drunken man randomly shoving people on the street once.
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I'm 5'9" and not a big guy, but I've got around 7 years of BJJ and MMA training so I'm very confident in my ability to handle myself in an altercation. I'm almost 33 and have encountered too many of these instances to count and only had 2 that I couldn't de-escalate or walk away from. Sometimes walking away is the safe bet, and that doesn't mean you're less of a man, it means you know how to assess a situation and react properly. The advise these guys are giving is the exact same advice that all my instructors over the years have given me and it's worked. 99% of the time, you can avoid these instances, and being prepared for the 1% helps keep it 99%.
I am facing similar situation with my neighbor. The guy is an ass hole and everyone in my area hates him and his family. I had a physical altercation with him about a year ago where I caught hold of him for scratching my brand new car. I told him why did you do it ? he unleashed his dog and tried to hit me with the leash. I dodged and kicked his ass right in front of his family. After a few days my house was damaged when I was out for work. After that he consciously is trying to fight. Cheap things like staring at me or my family when we are passing by or littering the road in front of my entrance. I know I can kick his ass but I am concerned whether my property or family may get hurt if something like that happens. I know by trying to avoid confrontation I may be doing the greater good but I do not want to look weak. I feel that a fight may break out anytime. Its just because of me holding back that there has been no fighting for the past 6 months. I am 28, 5'8, not very muscular. I work as a software consultant. The guy is taller than me, 37-38 of age, very-very skinny and does nothing. Thoughts?
@chandan1583 why kick someone's ass in front their friends or family for swinging a leash? A stupid low life will plan one-up retribution that can get you hurt and him in jail. Better to make some kind of peace and move forward.
@@chandan1583 if it has ended its good else end it for good at once.Use political pressure,police and even after that if issue persists and if you think you fan beat up his arse..do it or work out become stronger stay calm and let karma hit.
@@chandan1583 living near people like that is never going to end well. Either somehow get him out of the neighborhood, everyone gang uo on him and demand he leave, or look to leave.
I deliver pizza in El paso. Literally to the Juarez border. Situational awareness has saved me many times. Always be aware of your surroundings and use your gut feelings.
I think the moral of the story is that while walking away from a just fight might haunt you for life, it’s a small price to pay to know you avoided the potential consequences of ruining your life outright over something you could’ve walked away from.
Yeah say if you give in and become violent you can lose your life , or get beat up so bad you can't walk. Not worth it. And say you win the fight and the cops come they automatically will assume ur the agressor
@@oragamithunder5725 You can hit someone once, they fall, hit their head and they die. Then you go to prison because you wanted to defend your ego. I understand wanting to fight when you're young but if you're older than like 22 or 23 you need to grow up and let that shit go. It is not worth it.
As someone raised in a rough area where you need to pay attention to your surroundings at all times, this is some of the most helpful info someone could give. Be careful out there guys
Jokes aside, 5 people jumping a boxing champ at the same time is enough to take him down. He might knock 2, maybe 3 of them, but 2 will deal constant unanswered damage and well.. a numbers game. But at that level, as the guy said, someone who can kill, will try no to, unless he can't run anymore I guess.
The fight you see coming, and avoid, is the fight you always win. Situational awareness and no gun, is better than a gun and no situational awareness. Of course,having both is really cool!
ralph holiman A gun should be a tool of last resort. Hope I never have to use mine. Even if you’re justified, you still have to deal with the emotional and legal fallout. Had a relative go thru it. It sucked.
Minotaur1776 in the end does he feel it was worth it/was it life or death? I am truly curious as I am about to get my cfp and have been taking this very seriously. Thank you
Mr.H you will always learn the hard way. Widom is learning from others mistakes. You will always learn from your own like I did as kid... I know you’re trying to be funny and it was kind of funny but you should really understand that mindset.
Having been in this situation before, he is dead on with the de-escalation. I have had the reaction of "what are you looking at" and people intentionally looking for drama or fights. I dont know how many times i have avoided things by just saying things like "just got off work, just on my way home" the one that i usually go to if im on the bus is "just tryna stay awake, really tired at the moment". Usually always ends with a response of "oh yeah same man" or "ay dont worry man youll make it"
“It is better to be a warrior in a garden than a gardener in a war” I fucking love this quote & feel like it fits well. Everything he said resonates strongly with me. Especially the eye contact, being able to tell who is actually trained & who legitimately poses a threat. That being said he is right awareness is super important & truly does offer many opportunities to react differently. I’m a small guy, but have done mma, Muay Thai etc for over half my life. I rarely got into any altercations even though I was normally targeted for my size. Confidence & eye contact is massive. Many people have walked away after realizing I might not be as easy as they hoped for.
I'm far from being an expert on dealing with this type of interaction but Jocko is spot on. I'm 5'9" but very physically fit and have trained as a boxer, wrestler, karate and a little bit of jujitsu. Just being trained in one or two disciplines, even at a intermediate level, shows in your appearance and will influence how people size you up. You just carry yourself differently and behave more confidently when you know how to fight. People pick up on this so even if you have very minimal interaction with them. You're not showing any fear and giving off a relaxed vibe while at the same time you look like you can handle yourself in a fight. People looking for someone to bully or to intimidate will usually look to someone else as their next victim. Beyond that if you want to avoid any confrontations don't say anything inflammatory or try to verbally joust with the person. There's been times when I've said things and the bully would try to slight or make fun of whatever I said and I usually just try to go along and make a joke out of it. But the main points are to show that you're not going to be any type of a victim, to avoid the conflict initially if you can and if not, exit the situation as soon as possible because the longer you expose yourself to an individual like this you will exponentially increase the chance of some kind of physical altercation.
Jocko I love how every time you speak, it feels like you're reminding me of knowledge I already have. Everything you say is so intuitive and obvious, yet so easy to forget in the moment. Hearing it out loud helps so much.
To me, the hardest part is keeping your emotions in check, in particular fear, but also anger. I've been in a situation where I was standing in fear of my bully and froze up until I got hit by him. I don't know why or how it happened, but I snapped and went berserk. I didn't expect to have a chance against him, but in my crazed state, I put him in the defensive and he got pommelled by me. I didn't hear a teacher telling me to stop, nor did I realise it when someone tried to pull me away. It took two to actually drag me off him. Only then I regained control over my body. Before that it was like watching myself. It was scary in more ways than one...
I get what you're saying- im normally a scared skinny guy who stays away from danger, but when someone threatens me i become this wild animal who is not afraid to die. I get this crazy strength all of a sudden and the confronter always backs off in the end
Honest to god, my awareness has gotten me out of a lot trouble in the mean streets of north Philadelphia. He’s absolutely right. It’s as easy as being aware of your surroundings.
This can and will be a tremendous help for others to explore their feelings in a new perspective. I was lucky enough to get back at the blackmailer, I found a small helper I liked talking about this man and my feeling of confusion being put into words helped me become confident, of course they have skills to solve but this is truly validating. Thanks dude
My great-uncle had a beef with some guy when he was young, I don't know what it was about, but the guy came to his dorm lobby, making a lot of noise, demanding that my great-uncle come down from his room to fight him. So he did and when they squared off, he hit the guy so hard he fell back, hit the back of his head against the lobby floor and died. My great-uncle spent 3 days in jail, then the police let him go and wrote it up as self-defense. But killing a man left him mentally scarred and he never fought anyone again, even if someone got in his face, he just apologized and backed away.
I’m only willing to fight in self defence where it’s either me or him or when I can live with the outcome. So if I die protecting my family so be it. If he or they die while I was protecting them, I could live with that no problem.
Was part of a shock trauma code one night during residency that ended in the death of a big body builder. A simple single stab to the chest (entered his heart) with a 4” knife ended this young guys life in a beef at a local club. By the time his buddies brought him in the door of the trauma center it was too late. Another resident and I sewed his chest closed after he was pronounced dead and I remember thinking what a shame, such an incredible specimen of a man in the prime of his life who would probably still be alive if he had just walked away from that conflict. That’s all it takes.
Thanks for this video---great insights! At 70, my days of taking on a handful of punks are long over. I avoid bars, buses, subways, and parking garages. Oh, and nothing good happens after Midnight. In the event that trouble makes itself unavoidable and inescapable, I am prepared to utilize the rights secured by my concealed carry license. I may be 70 but my handgun is forever 21. I practice situational awareness to the best of my ability and I hit the range every week. With just a smidgen of luck, I should be fine. Again, thanks for the video.
Exactly! As a woman over 50 with combat knife training, I'm STILL not going to be able to avoid the jerkoff who thinks old women are easy targets, so they're just going to have to be the target.
@UG 100 rounds every Saturday. 15 rounds in a 15" circle from 15 yards in 15 seconds. I get better, little by little, all the time. By August 2023, I expect to have it down to a 10" circle. So, yes, I agree, I should be fine haha.
best part is when Jocko very humbly says "i'm not gonna fight out here, get arrested, get sued by you, and then..... i make it so you can't use your arms anymore, FOREVER"
I grew up in a rough neighborhood and everything Jocko said is 100% correct. I avoided many situations by keeping away, crossing the street, keeping cool and trying to look confident but ready to fight back if necessary.
Being aware. Not letting your ego lead you into danger. Avoiding and de-escalating. But failing that, being prepared for conflict and not looking or acting like a victim. Final option, strike first, strike hard and fast, then leave as soon as you can.
Situational awareness for someone with a generalized anxiety disorder is second nature lol. People underplay how important it is and being able to create distance from your attacker quickly. Footwork and awareness are key.
ok...I'm NOT trained in anything other than being a nerd, and why this video was suggested to me is beyond me, BUT... I found it extremely helpful in avoiding confrontation. I like the advice to just remove yourself from the situation, and it'll definitely be one I teach my kids.
@Daryl Moorehouse Always be able to defend yourself, but try to never have to. There's going to be times when you can't avoid it, which is why situational awareness is really important.
Avoid fighting when possible; but always be willing and able to use any means necessary to defend your life. A good firearm and good training in using it is especially your best friend if you are not very strong physically.
sending your kids to the boxing gym is one of the best thing you can do for them. Teaches them they are not made out of glass, consequences of a fight , gives them confidence and skills to defend their beloved mom :D
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I was at a park concert with a group of friends when I was in my early 20's. I started to get an uneasy feeling and sensed that there was tension growing in a big group of people nearby so I hustled my people to another area of the park. We had been sat down for around 10 minutes when two gangs had a full on knife fight right where we had been sitting. I always trust my gut.
Sadly most people have lost their extra senses. Your gut can tell you something is about to happen even if there are no warning signs. We have more than five senses but our easy lives these days have led us to abandon them.
How you carry yourself is half the deal. That said, not many can fake it and it largely comes from experience. Spent a lot of time in not so good environments (not mil) and people who've survived on reading people can sense it, almost like an unseen frequency or aura if you will. Jocko is right about the matter-of-fact response being best play. Learn to control your nerves and emotions. Any type of training helps because that confidence will naturally do that for you.
"An armed society is a polite society. Manners are good when one may have to back up his acts with his life." - Robert A. Heinlein But responsibly armed citizens scare the crap out of wicked politicians. This is why there is such a perverse disrespect for the Second Amendment.
It is said that in the darkest of times, heroes emerge. *Johnsonspy* you are my heroes. Your unwavering dedication to protecting individuals from the devastating effects of sextortion is nothing short of extraordinary. The compassion and understanding you showed me during my darkest moments have touched my soul. Thank you, Johnson, for being the shining light in a world filled with digital shadows.
Wow! I asked this question a few years ago, it is insane that it got million and half views. I really hope it helped some people, it certainly helped me. I got into BJJ because of Jocko, to defend myself from random thugs on a bus :) I wrote this question after a bad encounter with thugs on a bus. I broke my nose in that encounter, and I knew I had to do something. Also I'll say again, thank you Jocko for your answer and your podcast. It really made me value what I have in life and take ownership of my life.
@@1gadena It might not be the most exciting story, but it changed my life. It was 4am, I was at a party for my friend(around 8 people going together to a bar to celebrate her going to army), and I took the bus home. I get sleepy when I drink so I almost fell asleep, and I waked up to some drunk idiot shouting inside the bus. I was scared of him, but I looked around the bus - there were only girls(my age, around 18), and some younger boys (I was 18 at the time, they seemed 14, the drunk guy seemed around 20 something and taller than me). I was a powerlifter but I never trained real martial arts. After the drunk idiot shouted across the bus and threatened to hit the driver, he started walking inside the bus, and near me. I got up, and tried to ask him what happened and to try to calm him politely. Very stupid of me, I am a kind of a nerd so I really didn't know what to do, but I thought that I should do something given I am the strongest person to deal with him. He hit me in the nose and broke it, and after we fought, his friend and the girls separated us. I've called the cops, and when the bus stopped they took him, he got a 3 day home arrest and a restraint order for 28 days for me. One of the girls came with me to testify, it was very kind of her because it was already around 6 am when we finished testifying, and the other girls went home to sleep. I eventually got home around 9 am after I went to an emergency clinic to take an X-ray of my broken nose, so I would give it to the cops as evidence (if I waited it might have healed) Shortly after that happened Jocko started the podcast and recommended BJJ, after listening for enough time I've got the guts to send the question and to start the workout simultaneously. I'm training about 1~2 times a week for 3.5 years since(4.5 minus one corona year), switched a few gyms due to my job, but I've learned a lot, even though I'm still a white belt. Gladly I didn't have any situation like that since, but I have so much more confidence that the powerlifting didn't really give me. In BJJ I've had 230lbs guys mount on me and try to Americana me or something, and I felt ok. When the drunk guy got close to me I really got scared and started talking out of fear, and I didn't really think. If I was in the same situation now, I think I would have been much more alert, but I would stop to think what to do. Be aware, acknowledge his world, but instead of starting to fear when he starts wandering around the bus, maybe be chill and wait. Maybe he would have returned back to his sit. Maybe I could have signaled to one of the girls "what's up" with my eyes and hand gestures, and coordinate some response, maybe call the cops, maybe talk to his friend who was less drunk. Perhaps I should have sit much closer to the girls, and not alone, so I would be able to defend them easier or to coordinate some police call / action easier if necessary, assuming obviously that girls are usually less violent than men. In the end the bottom line is that my judgement was awful because I was scared, and that I "entered his world" instead of being cautiously aware of it, being calm and ready to attack with BJJ knowledge, and hopefully in the future also wresting and Muay-thai.
You know I'm so glad I watched this video. I watched it on Saturday night then on Sunday I had what could've been a 'situation' so to speak. I was coming home from Comicon absolutely shattered from a long day, and this complete weirdo sits right opposite me on my train ride at my table. Super shifty vibes, kept staring me out talking on and off but just being weird asking where this train is going, does it go to where he wants, kept standing up walking around and asking random people questions. I could see his vibe was just so so off and could feel him staring at me, I've always been okay at avoiding people like this but I knew there was nothing I could do because he's sat/standing then sitting again next to me. Rolling a cigarette very messy knocking one of my items I had with me, this whole time I had this video in my head. Just didn't even look at him unless he spoke, was nice and cool and polite, then I just got off the train. Wasn't my stop but I'd rather have gotten off, then got on another train instead of spending another 20 mins of him. Plus he kept asking people random weird crap like 'whats your favourite colour?' then getting offended when people weren't replying. Glad I walked away.
When they ask, "What are you looking at?" Say, "I'm sorry, I just spaced out, I'm sorry. My dad just called, my mom passed away." If they have any compassion, they'll back off. If they don't back off, treat them like a rabid pit bull, and put them down. When violence is the answer, it's the only answer. If they don't respond to the most basic situation that compels compassion (my mom just died), they don't deserve yours.
Very nice. In a situation where you can avoid potential bodily injury or an assault, it's better to employ a tactic like this than to have to deal with a psycho.
I think the huge difference for street fighting and professional is, in a street fight something happened to the point you and another human being are throwing blows. Professional it’s a job, there’s rules and regulations there’s a certain respect between the two. In a street fight USUALLY it’s all emotion. You are a threat. Some men won’t admit it but i at least always get those butterflies before something happens unless it’s one of the few times it was pure emotion. An example would be I take care of my niece; short story my sister is an unfit mother, niece would be taken away: I stepped in for custody. She forgot to sign off Facebook and some 29 year old guy was messaging her to sneak out and sleep over etc. I have never been so upset in my life, I wanted this man to suffer. I wanted blood: so I pretended to be her and turned out he lived about 20 minute ride from me. I’m cutting a lot out of this to spare you all this already long story but I see him on his step’s smoking a cigarette. I think about the messages…. I think about my niece, I start walking up to him, I literally started crying from my anger. I hit him, I hit him and hit him, my arm felt like jello after about half a minute. I remember after my teeth hurt so bad from biting down so hard. I stomped him, I wanted him to die. I’ve never wanted a human being to actually die before. And after someone kinda came up and got between us. It was like reality hit me and I realized what I’ve done…. It wasn’t regret but it was fear cuz I knew now there would be consequences. Anyway I went to prison for 3 years but did 2 and a half with good time off. I kicked him on the floor in the face and they charged me with mayhem (I never even knew that was a charge) down from assault with intent to kill if I pleaded out. I guess because he has some kinda disfigurement on his nose etc the mayhem charge stuck. The messed up part is they had told me IF he had met my niece and something happened he could have been charged but since nothing actually happened he was treated as a victim. I think the judge took this into consideration for my sentencing though cuz my lawyer said mayhem can be a lot of time. I’m not saying this story cuz I think I’m cool, cuz what I did. I don’t regret it but I’m saying this because the fight with him was about 5-6 minutes. It took 6 minutes for my life to completely change and to lose my niece, the thing I wanted to prevent. Just don’t let your emotions get the best of you if you can. Thanks for listening
in a just world, he would've gotten charged instead of you. But since we don't, you're right. We need to make sure we're fully aware of what our actions can do and how they can effect our future.
Two stories- first, years ago, I was at the grocery store with my fiancee. A real jerk walked past my fiancée, bumped hard into her, and said, “Move, (expletive).” I immediately said that there was no need for that kind of language or behavior, and the guy got in my face, trying to initiate a fight. I walked away. In the car, my fiancée said she was embarrassed that I didn’t defend her honor. A year later, she left me for someone else. Second story - today, a neighbor down the street flagged me down and accused me of calling the police on him for loud music he was playing in his yard. He was trying to square up with me, went on to insult my job, and my wife, and suggested I wasn’t “being a man.” I listened to his rant, denied his accusations, and departed without engaging. My wife, who witnessed the whole episode, said something like, “He was challenging the wrong man; he’s lucky you have so much restraint.” Moral of the story - don’t get into fights, and find a loving partner who wants to be with a grownup.
My man. Found a much better girl and kept your cool throughout multiple situations, good on you
should've smashed both of them, who cares what the girls thinks, it's selfish to not act, you could stop them acting that way in the future, certainly make them think twice.
Well handled. In an age of Will Smiths, it's good to know that there's still men that can maintain emotional control.
First chick could have defended her own honor. Equality, right?
Wow interesting story. Thanks for the inspiration.
this guy is not only a beast physically but his mind is sharp af. He's humble, strong and properly intelligent, love listening to him.
Umar Ganai ive never met a low intelligent member of any spec ops.
Strength comes in many forms.
So leave that in your head and keep moving.
Ummm Jocko is a beast physically lol
@Umar Ganai What does it mean to be properly intelligent?
Sun Tzu said the most important thing in The Art Of War: Always leave your enemy an escape route, or else they will fight with maximum ferocity once they realize they have nothing to lose.
I'm going to write this down. Thanks.
True
When you have no choice but to face your enemy, show him your guns. Boelcke.
Most people unleash their maximum ferocity immediately in a fight so no one else wants to fight them.
I've observed this many times to be an effective tool in business negotiations with deceptive people. If you know they're trying to snow you, and they know you will call their bluff, time and time again, they will back down if you have left them an out that they perceive as a way to save face in the situation.
*Johnsonspy* , I really admire how you stay focused and always remember there are victims, real people, losing their money and even killing themselves because they are ashamed at falling for these scams. God bless you and keep you,Damn it feels good when you expose these guys, for some reason, other TH-camrs are nervous to do so. You're the king!
After the intimate video call was recorded without my knowledge, I feared the material would be used against me. *Johnsonspy* acted swiftly, erasing the unauthorized recording and reinforcing my privacy settings.
No doubts most men are one of the most victims of such....I was a victim too cried the hell out of my eyes I later got helped by *Johnsonspy* even tho the entire money wasn't recovered glad I atleast got back some of it
"Situational awareness will solve/should solve 99% of your problems."
I think people need to digest that statement and concentrate on learning how to be aware of their environment.
Thank you, guys
I'm a female who travels alone. In February I went to Cape Town, South Africa. SA has the highest rape rate in the world and a high crime rate in general. Yet I know that I am at low risk for this as I stick to the tourist areas which are usually well policed. Then I keep my head up and walk with confidence as if I know exactly where I'm going even though I'm taking a look at my phone once in a while as I follow Google maps. I watch for anyone watching me or any people or situation that makes me uncomfortable. What's weird is that if something happens, such as a woman getting her purse snatched, many people go running toward where the melee is happening.
“Situational awareness” helped out a lot when deployed. Read the crowed.
That’s why cops rarely get mugged when off duty. They see trouble coming before trouble sees them.
Easiest way to come out ahead in a fight is to not get in one
And dont forget to cover your asp
“You can’t truly call yourself “peaceful” unless you’re capable of great violence, if you’re not capable of violence you’re not peaceful, you’re harmless”
totally agree. and it seems like something Jordan Peterson would say
Being capable of great violence doesn’t make you capable of peace. And you don’t have to be capable of “great violence” to be peaceful. That’s just illogical teenage thinking. You just want an excuse to think of yourself as “capable of great violence.” Just your ego talking.
@@oscarmcgill6446 Not everyone can harm another human being some people freeze flee shutdown ect. ect. Just not in everyones upbringing or nature
True... Last edition of John Wick is based of the saying.... inorder to have peace...prepare for war....
@Chris Madison Exactly
It's better to be a warrior in the garden, than to be a gardener on the battlefield.
😂😂😂
It’s from Tom wu in Marco Polo
"It's better to be a warrior in a garden, than a gardener in a war"
Fixed.
What about Bilbo Baggins?
@@amplifiedsight4516 🤣🤣 bro Bilbo was a gangster gardener
The best advice is to not allow anyone displaying aggression to enter you personal space. Avoid any emotion and handle your business when they cross the line. Never allow ego or pride to dictate your actions.
I agree
Well said, no need to watch this video, you got it right
Very true
deal with these demons all the time I am in property management, most of the tenants are on disability....some are pissed, some are pissed and high....now, i am a small guy at 170, and 5 foot 8.....love the advice here from Jocko, avoid their world at all costs, but be prepared and trained if theres no other way out....had a dude get right into my face, had to push him off in a split second.
Simple, not easy…
massively respect how Jocko doesn't act like he knows everything or thinks he is invincible
Lol go outside more
That's because nobody does.
Humility can save your life.
That's the beginning of wisdom.
@Rob Roy Thanks for existing! Since thanks to you Jocko is alive, not only that we can learn from him, I hope someday you throw out some content yourself, I'll be the first to subscribe and provide support!
Bull Fritz dawg. He's trolling
"The fight you avoid is the fight you win."
~Active Self Protection
Sun Tzu inspired, no doubt
Oh ya
What about your self respect?
Not 100% convinced
Different wording but that’s Sun Tzu.
I've seen it many, many times, women starting arguments and they then deliberately involve their male partner in the altercation, like a dog-owner unleashing his dog on someone, and most of the times the men involved aren't looking for a fight.
Sadly this comment will be read a million times and people will still blame the men
Loud, obnoxious, manipulative bar skags and degenerates. Taking advantage of a man's naivety to women's games. Know the type well lol
That’s why I love the opening scene in “the way of the gun”. 😁
I think a man who is insecure and is hyper-focused on power dynamics will attract women who are insecure and hyper-focused on power dynamics. "But she's hot," go find a woman who shows mutual respect, you know damn well they're in abundance and Japan's not gonna provide a mute waifu for you
The derangement of femininity is just as real as the derangement of masculinity. Unfortunately, it seems to be far more damaging, regardless of how it began. It also seems to be instinctive, since you see it emerging in grade school, and you see less of it as you grow up. The Woman-child exists just as surely as the ever-present Man-child.
Get your buddy to dump the bitch and toss a coin to your witcher.
Defend yourself. I was raised to be passive and told to never fight back; thanks mom and dad. Well that got me a ton of screws and rods in my dominant right elbow, a severe TBI and screws plates and pins in my mouth, and a lifelong neurological seizure disorder from that head injury. I'm only 32 years old. I have to be on medication for life. Then there's the PTSD associated with these horrific injuries and surgeries. If I could turn back time i would have rather defended myself at all costs; a prison cell is better than lifelong physical disabilities or better than being dead. You can't simply avoid everything. Please protect your livelihood at all costs. Do not make the same mistakes I did.
Thanks, and sorry man
“Never fight back” that might be the worst advice I’ve ever heard,hope your doing ok now
Spoken like someone that's never spent a day in a prison cell 😆
@@kenosabi so you think his injuries are better than a prison cell? Im the last guy who wants to go to jail, but what hes going through is no joke man. You lack empathy.
@@zephyrr108 Which makes sense. He speaks as if he knows what it is like, and many people in jail get there due to a severe lack of empathy.
The thing with “punks and thugs,” is that they have nothing to lose, you/me/we have everything to lose. Excellent point on deflecting and defusing as much as possible.
Very true but if you have everything to lose then you fight with a passion because you do have stuff to lose, not particularly talking about material positions.
I grew up around “ thugs / punks” so I had to be tough. yeah ur best bet is to definitely stay out of Dodge . why ? because lots of them can scrap too. and the ones who can’t which is more than the ones who can often got weapons and numbers . they grew up fighting or slinging dope which will involve fighting or being in bad positions. like if I see two people arguing or doing something illegal I don’t bother them and best to keep quiet. now if I saw someone weaker getting beat down I would step in but I’d sneak up behind them instead of “ hey hey! “ then they got time to react. especially if there’s more than one which there’s a good chance there would be. I got more to loose now than I have had in a long time and I live in a nicer area.
@@crazymacedonianboi yeah it is best to avoid them if you can but understand that sometimes it isnt available to do so but it should always be the last option period. To many people have lost sight of treat others how you want to be treated that it is best now as it ever has been to know how to really handle yourselves. I know what would solve that though, an armed society is a polite society.
crazymacedonianboi 1903 I once had a thug call me a mama’s boi. So I told him I’d tell my momma if he persisted.
@Liquid Sunshine hope your weapons are clean and loaded then.
A head nod from Jocko = Stay back if you want to live.
If Jocko and Chuck Norris locked eyes, who would nod first?
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...and go.
Kev neither, bc it would mean mutually assured destruction.
Jocko would destroy chuck norris
Jocko is actually Mando from The Mandalorian
@Kev: The ol' unstoppable force meets immovable object adage.
Jockos so far above being intimidated by average thugs "how do you deal with jerks?" Jocko: you mean Isis?
lol
Lol so true
How do you deal with thugs?
I don't waste my time dealing with thugs, I don't walk away... I just don't walk into the situation in the first place.
If and only if I couldn't see it comming then I walk away, and if walking away isn't an option, then I deal with them... swiftly... with shere badassery.
That's the moral of this episode... to pay attention so you don't have to deal with them in the first place.
i laughed soo hard i cant
LMFAO
Bouncer for a decade, everything here said is legit. Best choice is always to walk away if you can. Fighting, especially in like a bar, is a great way to get yourself crippled, even if you're Billy Badass and I've seen it happen to a lot of people.
Thanks for sharing this!
@@paulrutkovskis yeah, tough guy mentality is a great way to get drug down by 6 people and stomped on. Also, around here there are mutual combat laws, so if you are dumb and pick a fight with 4 people and they kick your ass really bad the cops won't do anything for you. They'll ask what happened and the guy will be like, "I gave them the finger, and then they all attacked me." The cops response is always, well you gave them the finger, it's mutual combat, have a nice night and don't do it again."
@@coldsteel.and.courage I see. what country and city are you talking about?
@@paulrutkovskis Tacoma
@@coldsteel.and.courage bro my enemy, called his 6 friends to hit me and i ran , he got cctv footage and telling my friends, look he is a coward , he ran
Rather be that warrior in a garden , than a gardener at war - Bruce Lee
elevating words
Very true!
Great quote!
heard that before but doubt Bruce Lee was the first to say it
@@NewsChannel-y4g it was not bruce lee, it is a japanese proverb. but quote still stands.
“Hit hard, hit fast, until the threat is neutralized”
Words to live by
hit hard
hit fast
and dont stop hitting
until the treat is neutralized
then get away
quote correctly to live correctly
and wear a billed cap so you are harder to identify. Big liberal city; turn yourself in and you are screwed.
And then gtfo
Best be careful though, I've had attempted mugging, fights etc., but a friend of mine also had an attempted mugging, hit the guy, killed him, he told me he was mortified and if not for witnesses, would most likely have gone down for murder.
And always hit first.
"Avoiding a fight is a mark of honor; only fools insist on quarreling." - Proverbs 20:3
@micheal wallbanker nah man you dont have to be this angry or curse at our friend here. He's quoting a bible verse Im sure he means well
@micheal wallbanker that Bible verse is not some idiot's opinion. It is the word of God. It is the truth.
NEVER LET YOURSELF BECOME A DOORMAT. THAT IS THE MARK OF A WIMP
@@lionel170 YOU BANGERS ARE TOTAL FOOLS
@@ssnerd583 Proverbs 1:7 KJV - The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge: but fools despise wisdom and instruction.
Just yesterday I had a conflict with a lady that bumped in to me at the grocery store. She mouthed off to me, I mouthed back. I walked to the bathrooms and her brother blocked the passage out of the hallway, confronting me about what happened.
First thing I noticed, he reached his hand in to his pocket. Had it in there the whole time.
Guy was much smaller than me, but he seemed way too confident going up against me, a much bigger guy.
I walked passed him stating I was on the phone, I’m in a rush, trying to get to a more open area with more witnesses in case things got ugly.
Two more people surrounded me as I walked out of the hallway, totaling to 3. I had to swallow my pride, this isn’t worth getting stabbed or shot over. She wronged me, but it didn’t matter. I was the bad guy in their eyes. So I looked the lady in the eyes that I had the initial argument with and apologized for being rude. “Look, I was in a rush, I was really rude. I apologize”. She accepted it and they walked away.
Moral of this story, just be the bigger man and say what you need to say to avoid dying over bs.
Edit: Alright, I seem to be getting a lot of replies split between “you’re a wimp for backing down” and “you did the right thing”. Look, I’ll say this. I’m so embarrassed by this moment in time. I hate thinking about how I backed down. I was the weaker man in this story, this isn’t like in the movies at all where good prospers over evil. I’m just a normal everyday guy like most of you. I would delete this comment, but I feel like it could help some people that find themselves in unfortunate situations like this.
All I can say is, take my embarrassing situation and use it to decide what you’ll do if you ever find yourself in trouble. Ask yourself if it’s worth it.
were those gypsies?
That’s very difficult to do when the other person is clearly in the wrong. Kudos on being intelligent enough to read the situation and diffuse it.
Carry a gun...
@@K4113B4113 tbh, I’ve been shot over something just as stupid a few years ago. I’m still dealing with court to this day for that incident. I’ve come to learn no matter how much your pride hurts, it can really be a whole lot worse.
@@Drpepperspray1010 Wow that is insane to imagine. I'd love to know what happened in that situation. And where you were shot and if you recovered fully. And what the gist of the court case is about. Sorry, haha.
Yeah it's insane that anyone should die over protecting their ego...
When Jocko said "a mace" I couldn't help but picture him sauntering down the street with a 15 pound steel morningstar
Same. It was an amusing mental image!
Is that not he meant?
Just gotta make sure you know how to use it!
War hammers are 4-9 pounds.
What? I carry a mace on the bus every day. Is there something that I am doing wrong?
Whats the old saying, "I'd rather be a warrior in a garden than a gardener in a war"
It's Bruce Lee's quote
How about a gardener in a garden? Warrior in a war is on balance kinda crappy, too.
Samwise Gamgee: "Hold my beer. I've been both."
I got a garden fellas, and its got okra....im not passing judgment on anyone.
@@death_rainz I knew I heard it somewhere.. it was clever..it stuck with me
"Stay strapped or get clapped" -Sun Tzu
"May the force be with you." - Gandalf.
😂
"Float like a butterfly, smoke DMT" - Joe Rogan
Right desso...
Live by the sword, die by the sword.
From someone growing up without a dad, I would like to say happy Father’s Day to the legend, Jocko Willink. You have provided guidance and countless advice on a huge variety of topics, and you continue to set examples every day with your work ethic. You and Echo have helped me greatly; I thank you.
I've got a dad, but I still have many father figures other than him. Good men have many sons. I'm glad young men can still find guidance if they search for it. Awesome man
"not gonna look agressive or dangerous"
**Looks like a supersoldier born from a tube**
😂
Haha best comment!
I'm literally incapable of picturing a scenario where this man wouldn't look aggressive or dangerous sufficient that some other dude would challenge him.
When he said “What are you looking at!” In his bus example I jumped out of my office chair.
Yep everything about jocko screams "bred for war"
Imagine sitting on a bus and deciding that Jocko looks like your next bullying target.
Big guys get targetted as much as or more than little guys. It's a macho thing. If he responded by getting angry, it'd be a fight. His best advice was to be assertive towards them, but otherwise not worry about them. Odds are that it's someone else on the bus that starts the interaction by bitching about them playing music or how boisterous they are. If they are interacting with each other, they aren't looking for trouble.
True ;)but he didn’t always look like that. 7 year old him never saw this coming in sure lol
At that point I think the old saying “Play dumb games and win dumb prizes” comes into play lol
Lol
That would be a dick move, on the part of the bully. Jocko would just sit on him. No chance of the bully prying the big fella off him 😁
Here's my story from 15 years ago where I wish I could go back and change my decision making. Dating a girl who was a bit wild., get a call at 1:00am asking me to pick her up from a bar where she was jumped on by a group of girls. I show up, she's outside crying. My mistake was walking into the bar to find out what went on. I was talking calmy but loud to the most mature of the group. I'm agreeing with her that my GF is a nutbag and probably instigated the whole thing. Guy walks up behind me, starts pulling on my shirt telling me to go. To make it short, I'm the first one out the door followed by a group of guys, one of them being the alpha right behind me. I was in pretty damn good physical shape but not in my right mind. I end up being hit from behind and woke up on the curb, taken away in an ambulance. 7 plates and 28 screws later, jaw wired shut, dislocated right shoulder, I was out of work for almost a year. Still can't throw a baseball after many years, when I used to toss a 90mph fastball. Fortunately I was able to maintain my beauty, lol.
My advice that most probably don't need to hear is to just walk away, don't go into the bar, just go home. I was at the age where I felt indestructible, and that night ended that for good.
Why ur gf was even at the bar at night alone...
Wow. That must have been a horrible experience not to mention the recovery period.
Sending you strength for your continued healing although it's been awhile the mental and psychological trauma sometimes linger. And I'm sorry for your lost of full mobility 💔
Also, don’t let crazy people in your life. I learned this the hard way.
What about the girl at the time? She probably dumped you didn't she?
Your mistake: you tolerated crazy/the dysfunctional.
There are punks out there who hate self-confidence, and personal success who want to bring any target down to their loser level through threats, intimidation, or violence; then play the victim when someone stands up to them.
Kind of sounds like a large minority of humanity. Typically young, aimless males imho get into this sort of destructive thinking. In a way they usually are victims of something. Then the victim becomes the predator.
Not just punks, even the regular people. It might be even your uncle who visits you and your father every few weeks. As long as you are down, they are good with you. The moment you succeed, you'll become their enemy number 1 in no time. Even you dressing good will itch their eyes.
Some things you can do is - Avoid your harm, be it by avoiding fights etc.
Get successful. It won't matter what the "society" says, when you become successful. I mean, there might be 10 people cursing you behind your back, but is it affecting your life ?
Surround yourself with people you like. Eliminate snakes around you. What's the point of having a person you know will betray you or simply doesn't want you to be happy ?
It's all tribal, you're not one of them. That's enough to get you hurt in some of these neighborhoods. Be self-confident, but definitely not obnoxious or disrespectful to anybody. Acknowledge them and go about your business.
Fuckkkkk yeaaaaa
True,had something similar happen to me at work today,2 arseholes (father and son), both with an attitude problem thought that they could try and intimidate me,because I stood my ground ,they didn't like it,someone not taking there shit,and threatened to call the police even though they were the pricks to begin with.
It's good to see Echo is talking more than he used to.
And more confidently, it seems, than before.
I think this is an older clip. You can tell by the studio
Who's Echo? Is it the Mexican dude?
Oh. Then I'm wrong.
I just thought that in their first videos he doesn't say as much or contribute as much in the podcast.
Or maybe those times are with guests.
Sparrow Squadron Gaming the only other dude in the room?🤣
@gippygipmg He's very quiet
Jocko is a fine example of a warrior. One who understands when & how to use violence. Not everything requires force. Good thinking will save you from alot of trouble.
This is a very mature and wise advice. Avoid unnecessary conflict. There are idiots in the streets. Observation of surroundings frees you from most problematic idiots. Don't let idiots enter into your world, don't let them drag you into theirs. Engage only when there's no other option to protect you. Be prepared even if you never need it.
Very well said, i needed to hear this thank you
I never regret the next day, having walked away. I 100% regret the next day, having engaged. Descalating is a real skill and a real power and I couldn't agree with the sentiment of this podcast more.
De-escalation is one of the most important skills for a person to have, of course its best if you rarely or never have to use that skill.
Hearing this from you made me feel good man. I am mostly always not engaging and non-reactive. When people/co-workers tried to poke me in the past, majority of the time I left them talking by themselves, while I reflected on their behavior and of what I would do/say.
Sometimes, even placing a boundary will make us be engaged in their world... That is why being aware of what is going on and what type of people are in front of us is important to make good decisions.
This is good advice. Jocko saying learn boxing and carry a gun... Not so good.
@@Alexlamb442 while deescalation is a skill and the safest route, you also need to maintain boundaries for your own safety. A stranger touching your lady should be far and away grounds for returning aggression.
@@charlesthomashanley why not? 50% of the population will, on average, get fucked up by the other 50% (women and men, respectively). I’m 5’7” and I have previously broken my back. To this day, my doc won’t clear me to lift more than 50lbs and my accident was 17 years ago. Meanwhile, I’ve got a wife and child that depend on me to come home every night.
The biggest myth out there is that fights have to be fair. No, no they don’t. Like Jocko said, aim to avoid and deescalate. But if you do have to fight, then win by any means necessary. And a gun, friend, is the only thing that sets me on even footing with a guy like Jocko.
“Don’t look at them, don’t make eye contact, stay out of the situation”
YES! This is so important and it frustrates me how some of my friends don’t realize this. I remember how one time I was sitting on a late-night train with my friend next to me and a bunch of low-life trash entered the cabin. My friend immediately made eye contact, KEPT LOOKING AT THEM and said to me “hey, would you look at those losers”. I later told him he was just asking for trouble and he totally didn’t understand my point
With all due respect, your friend sounds like an asshole. Most people have better things to think about than strangers on a train. But good for you for being the voice of reason.
alex Debroux sounds like Clemenza
When you look at someone hard, not only it consided rude, it could cost you your life. You can google all the stories of those who are Dead, because of a Staredown.
I had a friend who did something similar at our highschool grad bonfire, out in the woods. Some half drunk dude was talking dumb with my friends' g/f, and my friend says to me REAL quiet, "This guy's askin' for a punch", and somehow the drunk guy hears him to both of our surprise. So I step in between and defuse it, but after my friend takes off home like 2 hours later I'm getting asked where he is because the drunk dude STILL wants to fight. People just can't let go of a grudge.
Seems like common sense to me.
Awareness is the most smooth martial art...
Definitely the most underrated. So many people seem to lack situational awareness.
Alot of people have tunnel vision. And they put themselves in bad situations and they don't think anything will happen.
@@tilikumtim5562 they all have their phone in their face.
You would not believe how many people end up dead or in the ER because they can't even see what's happening 6 feet in front of them.
@Doug Green I think youre watching on the wrong video
@Doug Green bot spotted lul
Pride goes before a fall and there is a hidden honour in walking away. To subdue the enemy without fighting is the highest level of intelligence. Restraint, calm and patience are not celebrated enough in our society. Let life teach fools their lessons.
Wow this was really good to see, I almost got into a fight with my Roomate tn and a couple nights before. I’m moving out tomorrow. I’m glad I was able to subdue him without having to throw a single punch.
“You never know the true meaning of solving a problem without violence until a mosquito lands on your testicle.”- Sun Tzu
r u sure? lol
"That's pretty gay ngl"
-Plato
"To swat or not to swat, that is the question!- Shakespeare
A real man will smack it. While in excruciating pain you know you will recover, the mosquito on the other hand, well it doesn't end well for her and it'll send a message out to all the other mosquito's you mean business! LOL!
@Starlight Runner joking on the smacking the mosquitoes . 🤪 but truthful on how I’ve handled dicey situations .
Nothing better than learning from somebody who has been there before
Is this sarcastic? Who do you think is trying to fight jocko? At 10 jocko was a huge jock what are you talking about?
If you wanna get out of a fight look a little too happy to have been picked to be in it, talk to them with your full intent in mind ie.” I’m going to play bitch long enough to stab X in the eye then front side of his elbow with my pencil as he raises his arm to defend his face, where i will break my pencil off in him, if i miss his arm I’ll continue to the thigh where i will deposit it as i move to vingativa, work done i will leave taking the body with me for fun Weekend at Bernie’s hijinks and sexual modification.”
When possible remove your pants as quickly as possible
With these 2 moves NO ONE will want to continue dealing with you. And if they do, you’ve already got a plan.
Chill out, jerk. He’s saying that there’s no one better to learn from other than a person who has been in one of this situation before.
@@jerkfudgewater147 wtf are you on man, lmfao.
“To know the road ahead, ask those coming back.” - Chinese proverb
jerk fudgewater a completely heterosexual friend of mine once yelled at a group of drunk dudes looking for a fight that he’d jerk them off with both hands. Needless to say they went the opposite direction.
lol these two guys de-escalate situations just by standing there. I need some advice from some normal looking people.
Lol true
Bro carry wasp spray you know u have it on u they don't ,don't utilize it unless absolutely Vitale to your saftey and last but least way more accurate and adjustable then gun or pepper spray and no they get their sight back but but they dont no it and even a suicidal manic cries when he feels he is permanently blinded.in the valley of the blind the one eyed man is king
My advice to prevent someone starting on you is to make no eye contact with anybody on the street and look like you are pissed off. To look pissed of you walk fast with determination and ignore your surroundings. Muggers and bullies look for defenceless people, they will bypass someone having a bad day and pick an easier target.
The advice from a normal..actually a smaller than normal...male person. 1) get in shape and learn some form of self defense that has real world applications (I.e. not tae kwon do ) 2) control your emotions and never show fear/anger/embarrassment...laugh and say whatever while subtly posturing yourself into a fight ready stance 3) walk away again acting like you feel no threat and if anything are mildly amused...never dropping your fight ready stance/awareness 4) if you can’t walk away take a fighting stance without worrying about being subtle, make eye contact and don’t break it. 5) don’t talk shit let them talk all the shit they want...as long as they don’t enter your “bubble” don’t do anything 6) if they enter your “bubble” strike faster than lightning with the goal of fucking them up as quickly and definitely as possible. Do not let up until they are no longer a threat. If they are still moving and striking grabbing whatever under their own power, they are a threat. If they are curled up in a fetal position, knocked out or asleep...they are not a threat. If you had no means of escape, they were being threatening and they entered your physical space...then what you have just done to them is called self defense. Do not talk to the cops...simply say that you think it would be best if you talked to a lawyer first...
Remember this, most people don’t really want to fight, unless they are positive they can easily win. By acting calm, confident and maintaining a fight ready posture...most people will just run their mouth and so long as you let them do this, they will leave eventually without doing anything...most likely saying something like “you aren’t worth my time” or something stupid. It’s ok to laugh a bit at first and be dismissive of them, but once they lose their temper don’t bait them or escalate the situation. Who cares if a bunch of idiots think them talking a bunch of shit without ever doing anything to intimidate you is the same thing as “kicking your ass”. The fact is this, they didn’t kick your ass and they didn’t intimidate you. They know this.
If you have a bully on your hands, you might have to challenge them eventually by saying “all you do is talk, how bout this...you and me go fight in the gym all nice and legal so no one gets in trouble...unless you are scared” but be ready to fight at any minute once you do this. Again if a fight happens your goal is neutralize the threat as soon as possible by whatever means possible...not “kick their ass”
And don’t be afraid to get yourself a gun, a concealed carry permit, training to use it safely and efficiently....if you have a family to defend and live in an area with potential threats to their safety. Often people in groups will do things...like confronting a man with his family in tow just to look tough...that they wouldn’t do if they were alone. So if you live in a neighborhood with groups big young guys that hang out on the corner and get rowdy...there isn’t anything wrong with feeling the need to arm yourself. Just remember that shooting someone is a last resort and if you do this you have to show that you had no other option except self defense. As long as you have reasonable cause to fear for yourself or your families safety...and have no way to escape the situation, self defense is legal in most states...I’m not a lawyer and this isn’t legal advice so check your states laws. I just know that if you shoot someone don’t make any statements to the police before consulting a lawyer....and make sure you do everything in your power to avoid/escape the situation before using your weapon. Cross the street a couple blocks up, take a different route...begin moving towards a path of escape immediately etc...just cause you have a weapon doesn’t mean you now have the right to walk down whatever street you want and blow off anybody who threatens you cause you can just shooot em if you need to. That’s not how this shit works. You should always do everything in your power to avoid dangerous threatening situations. Shooting someone is a last resort that you should only use when you have no other choice. I guarantee you if you are asked why you decided to walk down that block with a bunch of gang bangers on it with your wife and kids...cutting right through a group of them and then end up shooting one of them...it’s not gonna look good...it’s gonna look like you were the one creating the situation. Again owning a gun doesn’t mean you get to “take the streets back from the criminals and go where you want without fear” that’s not self defense that’s called being an idiot who’s looking for trouble!
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Nobody likes crazy. Act crazy. Have a crazy argument with imaginary foe. Growl... lunge at nothing...claw at the air....shake uncontrollably....
This usually works for me when family asks me for money.
Sometimes I drink my own urine too - even if there’s no one else around I still kinda like to do it.
@@ateam505 uhhhh.....
but in all seriousness, irl this would get you fucked up really fast.
I always called that “acting like the joker” it does work, lol
@@Ken9284 no it doesn't
"He doesn't see that he's surrounded by my friends"
Imagine picking a fight with an entire SEAL squad
You mean imagine being wiped out of Earth?
🔥💃
Lol
This dude named Bin Laden tried that awhile back...not sure of all the details, but spoiler alert the bodies were never 'found'
@@AR-xc7qf he is alive and free under a new identity
"Keep this thought handy when you feel a fit of rage coming on -- it isn't manly to be enraged. Rather, gentleness and civility are more human, and therefore manlier. A real man doesn't give way to anger and discontent, and such a person has strength, courage, and endurance -- unlike the angry and complaining. The nearer a man comes to a calm mind, the closer he is to strength." - Marcus Aurelius
I guess this "Marcus" character had an easy life, either that or he had plenty of cash on hand.
@@devilsoffspring5519 Or perhaps he realized that it is easier to start swinging than it is to withdraw from an unnecessary fight. There is a reason adults teach their children that punching someone every time they are angry is wrong. Of course, you are the devil's offspring...
@@ZedF86 No, it's not easier to start swinging. Especially not when you're a little kid and most of the world's population is a hell of a lot bigger than you.
Walking away from fights only works if your attacker is content to let you do that. Staying and fighting only works if your attacker can't fight as well as you.
@@devilsoffspring5519 You have no idea what you are talking about. You do you, bud.
Perfect.
The best way to win a fight is the avoid a fight. There is ALWAYS someone meaner than you. They're out there, and you never know who they are until it's too late.
I’ve lived in some rough places, met Lots of rough people. Never been in any sort of fight whatsoever, not even a verbal one. Just have self respect and vicariously you will respect other people. If people talk to you, just be honest, ask them questions about themselves. Like Jocko said, most people like that are insecure. So if you just make them feel good, they like you. It’s like dealing with an animal.
I was lucky enough to grow up in a pretty middle-class neighborhood in the suburbs, but I learned that in school. I was pretty Mormon at the time, so kids who wanted to get a rise out of me would say things like "yo f*ck Jesus" and I'd just let it roll off me, just say something like "yeah man whatever works for you" and I became chill with a lot of these people. Of course, I wasn't yet mature enough to do it consciously, I was just avoiding conflict because I was a meek, scrawny Mormon kid. Hell I met my best friend in high school this way. I disagreed with his morals, but I was willing to be friendly and respectful so eventually he returned the favor.
Really a lot of these people are just grown up bullies who never kicked the addiction to pissing people off, so it's no surprise the same tactics work. Treat people like people, but don't let them walk all over you.
@@TheOneWayDown 💯👍
I’m the same way, I’m just worried about the time somebody is on bars or something or looking for an easy score
Idk how to do that I just flash from past trauma only way I kno how to protect myself
Oh wow on the part about asking them questions about themselves and make them feel good because they’re insecure 🤯 you are soo smart
And the part about self respect. I have had some people mistreat me at work, but i 100% know it was because i didn’t have self respect like you said. So when my supervisor asked if she should intervene at some point, i told her no, it’s up to me to handle myself. Eventually my self respect grew and i don’t get mistreated anymore. Then again i work from home mostly LOL but things actually really have improved.
Jocko, my first judo instructor gave the same advice 40 years ago. He called it the art of evasion, but train for the worst. KODOS to a warrior with devotion for humanity! It still works at 67 years old!
My South Korean Tae Kwon Do Master said. " Smile. Talk nice. walk away .
Your instructor sounds wise...My Kenpo Instructor taught me....
"Always be training ....for the fight you may never get in"
I would bet that Jocko doesn't get to much random aggression directed his way.
Tom Bland or maybe he does, because the human capacity for stupidity is directly proportional to the obvious pitfalls that can be seen as amusing and manly. If you mention you know taekwon do in a ballpark it’s almost guaranteed some drunk a row back will try to test his idiot black belt against yours.
you'd be surprised. Its the 6'5" 260lbs meathead who grew up violent who at least knows no ones impressed by his beating the ass of someone half his size sees a guy who is big and has a rep. for fighting and has a few beers in him gets real bold.
Youd be surprised. I'm bigger than him and people are always coming at me trying to start stuff. A lot of people are so mental they just don't care.
@@alaskansummertime Post physique.
I knew a guy years ago, nice enough fella in his way, but a recreational soccer hooligan. I was told he used to go down to the main area of town after the clubs shut, get his kebab, and then pick a fight with the biggest fella he could find. For the hell of it.
100% true. these can MOSTLY be avoided by just looking the other way, not giving the aggressor the time of day. I grew up in Brooklyn, seen plenty of crackheads, crazy people, violent people who will zero in on you just for making eye contact with them. My wife grew up in a sleepy little town, she tends to get invested in other people's drama mostly by just looking at it😂. I have to always tell her to look the other way if there's a scene. Luckily we moved to a quiet town, but I still have those instincts I grew up with. And that's why I started jiu jitsu in the first place. I'm a non confrontational person, but the confidence and security I gained by simply knowing if things ever escalated I would know exactly how to handle it really changed my life.
In the history of humanity, how many countless people have died while everyone just "looked away"
@@testickles8834 I don't understand your comment. If your asking how many people have died from fights or altercations when it could've been avoided then I concur. If you're implying that people look away while someone else is being attacked and that attack leads to death and people just avoid it and look away, then you misinterpreted my comment, Testicles.
Is that still true for a 0.5-1 second of eye contact followed by a disinterested demeanour and going about your business? Or do you strictly avoid eye contact and just use your periphery?
@@marcalan1198 I would suggest looking for a MMA, Kick-boxing, Thai boxing or any other type of martial art that has real world application. If you find a club where they compete in full-contact that’s a good sign that it’s a practical martial art. But you don’t have to compete yourself obviously.
You can also look for a self-defence club, though there are a lot of them that are what we call “bullshido” as in bullshit. It’s important that it’s applicable in real life. If they do sparring, that’s a good sign. Some Krav Maga clubs are good, but make sure that what they teach actually looks practical. Challenge them with questions.
Now if you don’t have ANY martial arts/self-defence clubs in your area which seems unlikely, you can get your own boxing bag. Then just watch TH-cam for proper technique and practice a lot until you have quick and powerful punches/attacks. If you’re practicing for street defence then make sure to do some practice without boxing gloves too. Warm up and stretch your wrists before you start so you don’t hurt them and really get the technique right so you don’t hurt yourself and so you get power. When you practice, do lots of straight punches. They’re quick and effective. Make sure to get your weight into those punches with proper technique. Also practice some elbow strikes with rotational force (the same way a boxer throws a hook punch).
You can even practice without a boxing bag. Start right now with shadow boxing. Learn the techniques and practice them in the air. In front of a mirror is even better. Make sure you’ve got your guard up and a fighting stance that makes you stable while still being able to move. You can also practice holding your guard up but with open hands in a de-escalating manner, without being in a fighter stance. From there you can imagine de-escalating a situation with words while at the same time being ready to fight.
@@K4113B4113 thanks so much for all your advice. I'm definitely going to start training and learning self defense with TH-cam videos like Tony Jeffries. he's good fighter with good basics + boxing training videos. thanks for your generous advice.
Situational awareness is point on. Growing up during 90s chaos and mafia era in Eastern Europe I've learned it without thinking about it. Always scanning what's going on hundreds of meters around, recognizing drunk people or people acting strange. It became second nature. And very important thing - to trust your gut feeling, to trust your first impression. If you feel that something is out of order with the person it's better to avoid.
Can confirm, growing up in 90s in easter europe will teach a person to have the situational awareness and to trust your guts.
@@azirciakTry growing up in the North of Ireland it's dog eat dog.
Notice how many of these scenarios take place in bars and are initiated by drunk people. One of the best pieces of self-defense advice I ever heard: stay away from bars. Avoiding random drunk people is statistically better than years of martial arts training, and is much simpler.
Agreed. Another under-rated aspect of issue-avoidance is simply looking the part - a quietly confident person who is in shape and looks competent probably has fewer interactions with troublesome people simply because there are likely people on either side of you who look more vulnerable. Predator species have had millions of years to develop effective visual cues regarding which prey animals look easy to eat and which look difficult. If you look like the latter you are going to be miles ahead, right out of the gate.
Avoid the bars simple
Bars are the cesspools of degenerates
@@TheGreatAustino Mostly
Yeap stay away from the dives unless you know the place
When he said get training in firearms I thought, I can't arm myself in Ireland. Americans are lucky that way.
Of course you can. It may not be with a gun, but you can utilise what is around you. You can use dirt (fling it into the opponent's eyes), a rock, a stick/plank/branch etc. I've been taught how to use a marble as a weapon. Then again, I grew up during the Troubles in Northern Ireland, and had to utilise whatever I had at hand, which the relatives I had in the security forces taught me, using various techniques and when to use those techniques.
I've used old-style roller skates to break legs, or using a fence to get myself into a position where I can take down a bully (I put my legs between his and did a crocodile roll, which made him smack his face off the ground). It's not about what you don't have to hand, it's about what you DO have to hand. This is why we need to be aware of our surroundings, because you never know what you might need to use to bring down an aggressive assailant.
Tell that to the Chinese farmers who invented most of the martial arts under the heading "Kung Fu".
No weapons? Use farming tools.
Monks were left alone and considered "harmless" but they were secretly training to have mastery over their bodies.
Yeah... sorry you live in an unarmed state.
A good decking or framing hammer can be a fantastic weapon tho.
@@Scott64a "A good decking or framing hammer can be a fantastic weapon"
True, but in the UK you could be arrested for having one without a good reason (I kid you not).
@@Scott64a www.pinterest.co.uk/pin/352899320804395877/
Actually self defence in Ireland is a valid reason to own a firearm and centre fire handguns are allowed. (Concealed carry is sometimes allowed in circumstances where you are at actual risk) I wouldn’t bet on concealed carry though. I’m presuming you’re talking about NI though.
Edit: Of course you need to apply for an FAC
This is all 1000% accurate advice.
I'm Asian and I grew up in the projects in the Bronx. Trouble was pretty much unavoidable for me.
Best thing to do is to not think running away is "beneath" you. I got jumped at least once a week when I was a teenager.
Always be aware. Exactly what Jock said. See a group coming your way? Cross the street. Two guys eyeing you? Walk faster.
There was 1 time, I crossed the street and the group crossed too.. and I crossed back and they followed. So I started fucking RUNNING. Ran until I got to a bodega I knew the owner and went inside. They came in but I knew the bodega owner was packing.. told these dudes to leave.
Man I had so many of these situations growing up. I've been robbed at gunpoint, been stabbed, gotten the shit kicked out of me, cuz I was Asian.
The eye contact thing is 100% true. Never ever ever make eye contact. I accidentally did a couple times and just regretted and thought "here we go...". And it 100% escalates every time.
This stuff happened a lot less after I moved out of the hood. I can still spot trouble though and try to remove me and others out of it. One time I was in Vegas with a bunch of friends from college. They're not very street smart. Decided to get liquor and they wanted to go to this place off the strip. We pull up and this place was obviously not the spot man.... U got junkys, dealers, gang bangers in the parking lot. U can tell if you roll up with 3 white dudes and an Asian kid... we were gonna get jumped. Told them to NOT stop and we gotta go. These idiots said I was being racist. Told them I was gonna stay in the car.
Guess what, 20 seconds after they got out of the car, they got robbed. I drove over there fast and picked them up and got out of there. Some idiots just gotta learn the lesson on their own.
What he said about getting active is true too. I'm not sure if it's because I'm bigger now or if it's something else... but I don't really get hassled as much anymore. I started wrestling in HS and college and I bulked up. I'm 6'1", 235 now and very very very rarely do people even try.
Good on you for not letting dumbass's drag you into a situation that was more than unsavory, most people would just follow and clench their teeth waiting for shit to go down.
This must have left you traumatized. Did this affect your mental health or did you just learn to deal with it and it made u thougher?? I got robbed once and I was scared for a year or two afterwards. Only started jiu jitsu 4 years later tho
but i thought all you chinese guys knew kung fu..... (j/k)
Good to have street smarts and good that you are now a big guy who has some wrestling background. :-)
So…blacks.
Let me guess, S....
All those thugs were White Guys, right?
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Hearing Jock say "You're doomed" is so certain and final.
I felt that very strongly. 🤣🤣
"Ahhhh fuck"
That guy is still missing until now.
Situational awareness truly is one of the greatest skills in life. Anything could go wrong and you want to be prepared for anything.
And yet, I've heard these kinds of words passed off as "victim blaming" so often.
Since childhood, I've taught my daughter - be aware of your surroundings.
@@theremaster5345 “victim blaming” is code for “FEEL BAD FOR ME”
“Understand the ramifications of using a firearm” This is a thing a lot of people don’t think about when they buy a firearm.
I feel like this is where we could totally change as a people for the better. When we're growing up, we're taught about how America resisted the British and fought to the death for independence (or at least I hope they still teach that). From a young age, we get exposed to firearms in some fashion, through video games, TV shows, movies, etc. In all of those mediums, they don't convey the sense of consequence that comes with actually owning a firearm. You don't get rewind buttons or checkpoints in real life.
So, what we should do is instead of demonizing guns for existing, double down on educating the masses about guns. They've been around for hundreds of years and they aren't going away. Ever. It's just a fact. So why not teach people about them? Maybe in high school, have an elective class kids can take where they learn about firearms. Make weapon safety courses mandatory for first time gun buyers. Even if we have to do some zoomer bullshit like adding "rated R for gun violence" or "disclaimer: guns are dangerous if you do dumb shit", idk.
My point is, educate rather than demonize.
Christopher Imperiale I don’t think firearm training will ever make its way into public schools but training for gun owners should be mandatory. Not only use and safety but some sort of rules of engagement and notices about the consequences you’d be facing in certain conditions depending on your state in particular. We could go on for days about firearm safety and history but it’ll fall mostly on deaf ears.
@@anusmcgee4150 I agree with everything you said, but my interpretation was that he's speaking to the legal and financial repercussions of shooting someone - even in self defense.
@@loomspace Thats a really good point, too.
Burma Jones also having to live with it... not a small part of shooting someone even when it’s justified. Emotional things are not as cut and dry and they always should be.
Speaking as a female who's had lots of weirdos and crazies in various parts of the world I find that when ignoring fails, dead eye contact and extremely confident body posture (even when they are inches away from me and in my face), being extremely calm and not moving back an inch works every single time.
This reminds of a night way back in the mid 80's when I was coming home late from the pub on my own. A group of 3 people came up to me and surrounded me. One of them came right up close and stared me in the face. If I had been sober I would have most likely panicked, being a naturally introverted shy person, but being somewhat intoxicated had the nerve to stare right back calmly. They walked away looking puzzled. Clearly they were just looking to intimidate me and I didn't play the game.
the resting bitch face usually works well
"A mace"
I know he meant "mace" but imagine Jocko coming at you with a medieval mace
* stares at snow capped mountains in the distance *
"This is a good death, brother"
LOL gave me a funny image.
This is my favourite comment of all time
I'd run as fast as my legs can make me, Jocko alone is intimidating af in his own presence, but jocko armed with a real weapon? Now that's something i don't wish to confront in any way possible.
I actually legit thought he meant a medieval fucking mace
Good sound advice here. Living in nyc for over 40 plus years and much of what Jocko explained here works in the 90 percentile. I live by the motto, don't go stupid places, do stupid things, with stupid people. That alone gives you a high success rate.
the HEAD NOD! YESS!! The most SUBTLE, EFFECTIVE trick! Works on cops, too. A firm little nod and the immediately go back to doing what you do. I cant stress this enough, THE HEAD NOD
A like to given them a wink while I pat my waistband.
The head nod says everything in Man language.
Slappy nah, not in all situations
If the guy is drunk or determined to hurt you, he’ll just bide his time then shoot you first
I had a random angry guy today try to fight me at walmart after bumping into me. The guy was half my size and in his 50s but I got the strong feeling he had a gun or knife on him, and he was unhinged, so I just ignored him walked away. It was a weird experience and made me think how there's ppl like this in the world.
I was a 19-Delta in the army the training I took with me I brought home when I left. I can see unstable idiots every day at least 20 plus I'm 6,4 260lb martial artist to as a hobby, rule of thumb if he is a little guy hot head all mouth they have some sort of weapon other wise there's no sain reason to poke a happy bear just eating his honey.
@Josh Barber i’m short ngl i hope i don’t turn out like that
WEAK!!
@sigmaramennot always lmao, im 5'6 and im on here bc i have. 6'4 whos 10 years older than me still living with his parents threatening to beat me up if he sees me in public bc he started talking shit to me first over voice messages and i retaliated with text and then he went to verbal threats over the phone. This dude has nothing to live for so of course he has all the time in the world to bother a 26 yr old. This dudes psychotic lmao
11:23 A close friend who served in Vietnam as a Marine gave me the exact advice when a confrontation is unavoidable. Hit hard, hit fast and don't stop until the threat is neutralized, then get out.
And number one , hit first.
Is your friend Gene Hackman in Wyatt Earp? LOL
Usually there will be multiple attackers. At least that's what happened to me several times. One guy usually does the crap talking and takes the lead. The others are there to kick and rob you. On a bus they will be funneled so you won't have to watch your back.
Sounds like a cobra kai
@@avertismentguy62 Strike First, Strike Hard, No Mercy! Season 3 was pretty good.. and gave a great backstory to Kreese (speaking of military combat training). makes you understand why he's such a dick, after what happened in Vietnam and he got a guy killed.
"paying attention will allow you to avoid most confrontations"
This is so true, paying attention allowed me to avoid a drunken man randomly shoving people on the street once.
This couldn't have come at a better time for me. Covid is bringing out the worst in retail shoppers
Facts
"ONLY TWO CHECKOUT LINES!!"
Ikr
Isn't THAT the truth?! 😬
Gnarwhal COVID-19 a SCAMDEMIC, another type of flu
This could have easily been my reality …. My 15 year old son was also taken in by this scheme. He and Walker sound like they fit the same description…. Football, hunting, family, Faith…. On the night of January 17th of this year he came to me in tears and said “Mom, help… I’ve really messed up. He repented and handed me his phone.” I was shocked … but we kept calm. I could tell how scared he was … I assured him that these were scams and they weren’t going to ruin his life….but even I was a little nervous. This episode brought me to tears thinking just how close we were to this reality. I applaud *Brian Hacks Online* for standing up and Helping about this. I did listen to this episode with my son, and tearfully thanked him for coming to me!
During a romantic encounter, my partner recorded our intimate moments without my consent. *Brian Hacks online* helped me address the violation, ensuring the deletion of the compromising material and supporting me through the emotional aftermath.
Saying "THANK YOU" is not enough to show my gratitude to you. It's my pleasure to work under the guidance of you. I fell victim of sextortion 2 weeks ago and I don't know what to do. I was mentally troubled and suicidal and they helped me in getting it deleted. Your jobs are top notch and I would love to work with you more *BRIAN*
Dealing with sextortion is humiliating, but *Brian hacks online* lifted that burden off my shoulders. Their team went above and beyond, showing understanding and kindness. I can't recommend them enough.
Dealing with sextortion is humiliating, but *Brian hacks online* lifted that burden off my shoulders. Their team went above and beyond, showing understanding and kindness. I can't recommend them enough.
wtf are you talking about lol..
In the words of the immortal Chael Sonnen: "I can't let you get close."
Yep
That man has seen some things in the Mean Streets of West Linn, Oregon!
Uncle Chael
Undefeated and undisputed...All hail champ Sonnen!
🤣
I'm 5'9" and not a big guy, but I've got around 7 years of BJJ and MMA training so I'm very confident in my ability to handle myself in an altercation. I'm almost 33 and have encountered too many of these instances to count and only had 2 that I couldn't de-escalate or walk away from. Sometimes walking away is the safe bet, and that doesn't mean you're less of a man, it means you know how to assess a situation and react properly. The advise these guys are giving is the exact same advice that all my instructors over the years have given me and it's worked. 99% of the time, you can avoid these instances, and being prepared for the 1% helps keep it 99%.
Loved the last line
I am facing similar situation with my neighbor.
The guy is an ass hole and everyone in my area hates him and his family. I had a physical altercation with him about a year ago where I caught hold of him for scratching my brand new car. I told him why did you do it ? he unleashed his dog and tried to hit me with the leash. I dodged and kicked his ass right in front of his family. After a few days my house was damaged when I was out for work.
After that he consciously is trying to fight. Cheap things like staring at me or my family when we are passing by or littering the road in front of my entrance. I know I can kick his ass but I am concerned whether my property or family may get hurt if something like that happens.
I know by trying to avoid confrontation I may be doing the greater good but I do not want to look weak. I feel that a fight may break out anytime. Its just because of me holding back that there has been no fighting for the past 6 months.
I am 28, 5'8, not very muscular. I work as a software consultant.
The guy is taller than me, 37-38 of age, very-very skinny and does nothing.
Thoughts?
@chandan1583 why kick someone's ass in front their friends or family for swinging a leash? A stupid low life will plan one-up retribution that can get you hurt and him in jail. Better to make some kind of peace and move forward.
@@chandan1583 if it has ended its good else end it for good at once.Use political pressure,police and even after that if issue persists and if you think you fan beat up his arse..do it or work out become stronger stay calm and let karma hit.
@@chandan1583 living near people like that is never going to end well. Either somehow get him out of the neighborhood, everyone gang uo on him and demand he leave, or look to leave.
I deliver pizza in El paso. Literally to the Juarez border. Situational awareness has saved me many times. Always be aware of your surroundings and use your gut feelings.
Chuco Town, miss it sooo much.
Saved my a** 1.5 month ago almost got got if ya know what i mean
Dude I used to live in El Paso. On cowen circle. Loved the women there
I’m from El Paso too bro, I agree with you 100%.
Ugh, that sounds terrible.
I think the moral of the story is that while walking away from a just fight might haunt you for life, it’s a small price to pay to know you avoided the potential consequences of ruining your life outright over something you could’ve walked away from.
Well said.
Yeah say if you give in and become violent you can lose your life , or get beat up so bad you can't walk. Not worth it. And say you win the fight and the cops come they automatically will assume ur the agressor
@@oragamithunder5725 You can hit someone once, they fall, hit their head and they die. Then you go to prison because you wanted to defend your ego. I understand wanting to fight when you're young but if you're older than like 22 or 23 you need to grow up and let that shit go. It is not worth it.
Yeah, I fell for that trick before.
Love this.
As someone raised in a rough area where you need to pay attention to your surroundings at all times, this is some of the most helpful info someone could give. Be careful out there guys
Be aware everywhere you go .
I'm always hyperviglant and I get anxiety easy but you can't really tell.b
Where did you grow up?
Jocko looked confused like ‘I have no idea what a bully looks like’. Who the F is gonna bully a guy who looks like he was made in a lab
🤣🤣🤣🤣 “Only a Fool!” 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I think he was quarried
LOL
Specifically those faces he do, Guy looks like a brick
Jokes aside, 5 people jumping a boxing champ at the same time is enough to take him down. He might knock 2, maybe 3 of them, but 2 will deal constant unanswered damage and well.. a numbers game. But at that level, as the guy said, someone who can kill, will try no to, unless he can't run anymore I guess.
The fight you see coming, and avoid, is the fight you always win. Situational awareness and no gun, is better than a gun and no situational awareness. Of course,having both is really cool!
ralph holiman
A gun should be a tool of last resort. Hope I never have to use mine. Even if you’re justified, you still have to deal with the emotional and legal fallout. Had a relative go thru it. It sucked.
Minotaur1776 in the end does he feel it was worth it/was it life or death? I am truly curious as I am about to get my cfp and have been taking this very seriously. Thank you
ralph holiman eyeballs mean more than caliber
@@Minotaur-ey2lg absolutely. But, if you really need one, like in a gunfight, you really don't want to be the guy without one.
@@alexbell8865 I think he’s gotten over it for the most part. He understands rationally that it was him or them.
Great topic. No need to prove anything to anyone unless that person leaves you no choice but to defend yourself. Thanks for sharing gents.
“To know the road ahead, ask those coming back.” - Chinese proverb
Good advice
Mr.H you will always learn the hard way. Widom is learning from others mistakes. You will always learn from your own like I did as kid... I know you’re trying to be funny and it was kind of funny but you should really understand that mindset.
Mr. H keep believing your stupidity. You’ll be “old” one day. Ever hear the term “Old Man Strong?” Tell ya what, it’s true, come get some.
What if the road is short and the person telling you about it isn't old?
Having been in this situation before, he is dead on with the de-escalation. I have had the reaction of "what are you looking at" and people intentionally looking for drama or fights. I dont know how many times i have avoided things by just saying things like "just got off work, just on my way home" the one that i usually go to if im on the bus is "just tryna stay awake, really tired at the moment". Usually always ends with a response of "oh yeah same man" or "ay dont worry man youll make it"
"In 30 seconds, hopefully the back of my eyelids."
'Keep it that way!'
"zzzzzzzz"
Wow this is really good bro
“It is better to be a warrior in a garden than a gardener in a war”
I fucking love this quote & feel like it fits well. Everything he said resonates strongly with me. Especially the eye contact, being able to tell who is actually trained & who legitimately poses a threat. That being said he is right awareness is super important & truly does offer many opportunities to react differently.
I’m a small guy, but have done mma, Muay Thai etc for over half my life. I rarely got into any altercations even though I was normally targeted for my size. Confidence & eye contact is massive. Many people have walked away after realizing I might not be as easy as they hoped for.
I'm far from being an expert on dealing with this type of interaction but Jocko is spot on. I'm 5'9" but very physically fit and have trained as a boxer, wrestler, karate and a little bit of jujitsu. Just being trained in one or two disciplines, even at a intermediate level, shows in your appearance and will influence how people size you up. You just carry yourself differently and behave more confidently when you know how to fight. People pick up on this so even if you have very minimal interaction with them. You're not showing any fear and giving off a relaxed vibe while at the same time you look like you can handle yourself in a fight. People looking for someone to bully or to intimidate will usually look to someone else as their next victim. Beyond that if you want to avoid any confrontations don't say anything inflammatory or try to verbally joust with the person. There's been times when I've said things and the bully would try to slight or make fun of whatever I said and I usually just try to go along and make a joke out of it. But the main points are to show that you're not going to be any type of a victim, to avoid the conflict initially if you can and if not, exit the situation as soon as possible because the longer you expose yourself to an individual like this you will exponentially increase the chance of some kind of physical altercation.
Jocko I love how every time you speak, it feels like you're reminding me of knowledge I already have. Everything you say is so intuitive and obvious, yet so easy to forget in the moment. Hearing it out loud helps so much.
To me, the hardest part is keeping your emotions in check, in particular fear, but also anger. I've been in a situation where I was standing in fear of my bully and froze up until I got hit by him. I don't know why or how it happened, but I snapped and went berserk. I didn't expect to have a chance against him, but in my crazed state, I put him in the defensive and he got pommelled by me. I didn't hear a teacher telling me to stop, nor did I realise it when someone tried to pull me away. It took two to actually drag me off him. Only then I regained control over my body. Before that it was like watching myself. It was scary in more ways than one...
I get what you're saying- im normally a scared skinny guy who stays away from danger, but when someone threatens me i become this wild animal who is not afraid to die. I get this crazy strength all of a sudden and the confronter always backs off in the end
This is why people like us should never have firearms. In the crazed state you might end up shooting people for fun
Good job.
let me guess you see red Jaja
Thank you. I feel that's the reason why no one has "tried me"... Except family.
Honest to god, my awareness has gotten me out of a lot trouble in the mean streets of north Philadelphia. He’s absolutely right. It’s as easy as being aware of your surroundings.
This can and will be a tremendous help for others to explore their feelings in a new perspective. I was lucky enough to get back at the blackmailer, I found a small helper I liked talking about this man and my feeling of confusion being put into words helped me become confident, of course they have skills to solve but this is truly validating. Thanks dude
Related: I highly recommend reading “The Gift of Fear” by Gavin de Becker. Fantastic book on training your situational awareness.
One of the best books you'll ever read in your life. They even have it as an audiobook hair on TH-cam. I recommend it to everyone
@@wizzardofpaws2420 shave it
@Pbperez 210 I drive a lot for my job, audiobooks are great to use what would otherwise be wasted time.
Thank you!!! I haven’t read that one. 😁
@@wizzardofpaws2420 😁💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛
"Every warrior prays for peace, but if there is a war we want a piece."
Such a great quote. Who said that?
@@dzenish.2262 I did
gay
@@Skitzblock troll
@@mule2195 nah hes right was kinda gay.
My great-uncle had a beef with some guy when he was young, I don't know what it was about, but the guy came to his dorm lobby, making a lot of noise, demanding that my great-uncle come down from his room to fight him. So he did and when they squared off, he hit the guy so hard he fell back, hit the back of his head against the lobby floor and died. My great-uncle spent 3 days in jail, then the police let him go and wrote it up as self-defense. But killing a man left him mentally scarred and he never fought anyone again, even if someone got in his face, he just apologized and backed away.
Thats why i am scared aswell to fight. Deep down inside i know what i could do to another person and it aint smart..
On the other hand, always be aware that other persons can do that to you as well.
I’m only willing to fight in self defence where it’s either me or him or when I can live with the outcome. So if I die protecting my family so be it. If he or they die while I was protecting them, I could live with that no problem.
That's sad
I think your uncle got off easy
Was part of a shock trauma code one night during residency that ended in the death of a big body builder. A simple single stab to the chest (entered his heart) with a 4” knife ended this young guys life in a beef at a local club. By the time his buddies brought him in the door of the trauma center it was too late. Another resident and I sewed his chest closed after he was pronounced dead and I remember thinking what a shame, such an incredible specimen of a man in the prime of his life who would probably still be alive if he had just walked away from that conflict. That’s all it takes.
Or been more devastatingly & destructively aggressive than his attacker if de-escalation didn’t work.
That is horrible.
And the murderer, presumably lost time.
Lost life. Lost time. Shame.
@williamallen7836 bro my enemy, called his 6 friends to hit me and i ran , he got cctv footage and telling my friends, look he is a coward , he ran
A tragedy for his parents!
That's sad.
Thanks for this video---great insights!
At 70, my days of taking on a handful of punks are long over. I avoid bars, buses, subways, and parking garages. Oh, and nothing good happens after Midnight.
In the event that trouble makes itself unavoidable and inescapable, I am prepared to utilize the rights secured by my concealed carry license.
I may be 70 but my handgun is forever 21.
I practice situational awareness to the best of my ability and I hit the range every week.
With just a smidgen of luck, I should be fine.
Again, thanks for the video.
That "my handgun is forever 21" line is hard as fuck no cap
Exactly! As a woman over 50 with combat knife training, I'm STILL not going to be able to avoid the jerkoff who thinks old women are easy targets, so they're just going to have to be the target.
@UG 100 rounds every Saturday. 15 rounds in a 15" circle from 15 yards in 15 seconds. I get better, little by little, all the time. By August 2023, I expect to have it down to a 10" circle.
So, yes, I agree, I should be fine haha.
get'em pops hahaha
My handgun is forever .45 !!!
best part is when Jocko very humbly says "i'm not gonna fight out here, get arrested, get sued by you, and then..... i make it so you can't use your arms anymore, FOREVER"
I grew up in a rough neighborhood and everything Jocko said is 100% correct. I avoided many situations by keeping away, crossing the street, keeping cool and trying to look confident but ready to fight back if necessary.
Being aware. Not letting your ego lead you into danger. Avoiding and de-escalating. But failing that, being prepared for conflict and not looking or acting like a victim. Final option, strike first, strike hard and fast, then leave as soon as you can.
Situational awareness for someone with a generalized anxiety disorder is second nature lol. People underplay how important it is and being able to create distance from your attacker quickly. Footwork and awareness are key.
ok...I'm NOT trained in anything other than being a nerd, and why this video was suggested to me is beyond me, BUT... I found it extremely helpful in avoiding confrontation. I like the advice to just remove yourself from the situation, and it'll definitely be one I teach my kids.
First of all, stop being a nerd. jk btw this guy is amazing. and an American hero.
@Daryl Moorehouse Always be able to defend yourself, but try to never have to.
There's going to be times when you can't avoid it, which is why situational awareness is really important.
Avoid fighting when possible; but always be willing and able to use any means necessary to defend your life.
A good firearm and good training in using it is especially your best friend if you are not very strong physically.
@@bobsmoot5106 yeah especially if you leave in fucking europe where you can't have a gun and you go to prison for trying to defend yourself
sending your kids to the boxing gym is one of the best thing you can do for them. Teaches them they are not made out of glass, consequences of a fight , gives them confidence and skills to defend their beloved mom :D
When Jocko was late for school the teacher punished all the other kids for being too early
not original
how? Jocko is never late.
@KiNG DiNGALiNG Wrong! The kids took one look at Jocko and proceeded to beat the shit out of themselves.
🤣😂🤣😂👍🏽
The dude gets up at 4am every day. He ain't ever late bro 😎
As a Retired combat Marine I want to tell you that as what you are doing is just as important as any warrior on the battlefield. You are waging warfare against these criminals and terrorists on the digital battlefield. You are defending and protecting As a Retired combat Marine I want to tell you that as what you are doing is just as important as any warrior on the battlefield. You are waging warfare against these criminals and terrorists on the digital battlefield. You are defending and protecting the most vulnerable of our society against these predators. Keep up the good work most vulnerable of our society against these predators Keep up the good work *Brian Hacks Online*
I was at a park concert with a group of friends when I was in my early 20's. I started to get an uneasy feeling and sensed that there was tension growing in a big group of people nearby so I hustled my people to another area of the park. We had been sat down for around 10 minutes when two gangs had a full on knife fight right where we had been sitting.
I always trust my gut.
Sadly most people have lost their extra senses. Your gut can tell you something is about to happen even if there are no warning signs. We have more than five senses but our easy lives these days have led us to abandon them.
How you carry yourself is half the deal. That said, not many can fake it and it largely comes from experience. Spent a lot of time in not so good environments (not mil) and people who've survived on reading people can sense it, almost like an unseen frequency or aura if you will.
Jocko is right about the matter-of-fact response being best play. Learn to control your nerves and emotions. Any type of training helps because that confidence will naturally do that for you.
When u carry a gun u need to behave like a mature responsible person and be polite to everyone
This is why everyone should be armed, no one would want to fight
Exactly. Anti-2A types think we're the exact opposite.
Each state in the USA have different gun rules, i strongly recommend yo be knowledgable.
"An armed society is a polite society. Manners are good when one may have to back up his acts with his life." - Robert A. Heinlein
But responsibly armed citizens scare the crap out of wicked politicians. This is why there is such a perverse disrespect for the Second Amendment.
@@blankblank1813 You are so right about that. I dont feel imitated by open carry.
It is said that in the darkest of times, heroes emerge. *Johnsonspy* you are my heroes. Your unwavering dedication to protecting individuals from the devastating effects of sextortion is nothing short of extraordinary. The compassion and understanding you showed me during my darkest moments have touched my soul. Thank you, Johnson, for being the shining light in a world filled with digital shadows.
Wow! I asked this question a few years ago, it is insane that it got million and half views. I really hope it helped some people, it certainly helped me. I got into BJJ because of Jocko, to defend myself from random thugs on a bus :) I wrote this question after a bad encounter with thugs on a bus. I broke my nose in that encounter, and I knew I had to do something.
Also I'll say again, thank you Jocko for your answer and your podcast. It really made me value what I have in life and take ownership of my life.
What exactly happened in that encounter? And how have things changed now? What would you do differently?
@@1gadena
It might not be the most exciting story, but it changed my life.
It was 4am, I was at a party for my friend(around 8 people going together to a bar to celebrate her going to army), and I took the bus home. I get sleepy when I drink so I almost fell asleep, and I waked up to some drunk idiot shouting inside the bus. I was scared of him, but I looked around the bus - there were only girls(my age, around 18), and some younger boys (I was 18 at the time, they seemed 14, the drunk guy seemed around 20 something and taller than me). I was a powerlifter but I never trained real martial arts.
After the drunk idiot shouted across the bus and threatened to hit the driver, he started walking inside the bus, and near me. I got up, and tried to ask him what happened and to try to calm him politely. Very stupid of me, I am a kind of a nerd so I really didn't know what to do, but I thought that I should do something given I am the strongest person to deal with him. He hit me in the nose and broke it, and after we fought, his friend and the girls separated us. I've called the cops, and when the bus stopped they took him, he got a 3 day home arrest and a restraint order for 28 days for me. One of the girls came with me to testify, it was very kind of her because it was already around 6 am when we finished testifying, and the other girls went home to sleep. I eventually got home around 9 am after I went to an emergency clinic to take an X-ray of my broken nose, so I would give it to the cops as evidence (if I waited it might have healed)
Shortly after that happened Jocko started the podcast and recommended BJJ, after listening for enough time I've got the guts to send the question and to start the workout simultaneously. I'm training about 1~2 times a week for 3.5 years since(4.5 minus one corona year), switched a few gyms due to my job, but I've learned a lot, even though I'm still a white belt. Gladly I didn't have any situation like that since, but I have so much more confidence that the powerlifting didn't really give me. In BJJ I've had 230lbs guys mount on me and try to Americana me or something, and I felt ok. When the drunk guy got close to me I really got scared and started talking out of fear, and I didn't really think.
If I was in the same situation now, I think I would have been much more alert, but I would stop to think what to do. Be aware, acknowledge his world, but instead of starting to fear when he starts wandering around the bus, maybe be chill and wait. Maybe he would have returned back to his sit. Maybe I could have signaled to one of the girls "what's up" with my eyes and hand gestures, and coordinate some response, maybe call the cops, maybe talk to his friend who was less drunk. Perhaps I should have sit much closer to the girls, and not alone, so I would be able to defend them easier or to coordinate some police call / action easier if necessary, assuming obviously that girls are usually less violent than men. In the end the bottom line is that my judgement was awful because I was scared, and that I "entered his world" instead of being cautiously aware of it, being calm and ready to attack with BJJ knowledge, and hopefully in the future also wresting and Muay-thai.
@@michaelkovaliov8877 thank you for sharing your story
You know I'm so glad I watched this video. I watched it on Saturday night then on Sunday I had what could've been a 'situation' so to speak. I was coming home from Comicon absolutely shattered from a long day, and this complete weirdo sits right opposite me on my train ride at my table. Super shifty vibes, kept staring me out talking on and off but just being weird asking where this train is going, does it go to where he wants, kept standing up walking around and asking random people questions. I could see his vibe was just so so off and could feel him staring at me, I've always been okay at avoiding people like this but I knew there was nothing I could do because he's sat/standing then sitting again next to me. Rolling a cigarette very messy knocking one of my items I had with me, this whole time I had this video in my head. Just didn't even look at him unless he spoke, was nice and cool and polite, then I just got off the train. Wasn't my stop but I'd rather have gotten off, then got on another train instead of spending another 20 mins of him. Plus he kept asking people random weird crap like 'whats your favourite colour?' then getting offended when people weren't replying. Glad I walked away.
When they ask, "What are you looking at?"
Say, "I'm sorry, I just spaced out, I'm sorry. My dad just called, my mom passed away."
If they have any compassion, they'll back off. If they don't back off, treat them like a rabid pit bull, and put them down.
When violence is the answer, it's the only answer. If they don't respond to the most basic situation that compels compassion (my mom just died), they don't deserve yours.
Very good point actually.
Very psychologically apt response. Have you ever done this irl?
Very nice. In a situation where you can avoid potential bodily injury or an assault, it's better to employ a tactic like this than to have to deal with a psycho.
@@RedPillVegan it's not my idea, rory Miller suggests it. To answer your question, yes, and I succeeded.
Very bad superstition and shows your soft
I think the huge difference for street fighting and professional is, in a street fight something happened to the point you and another human being are throwing blows. Professional it’s a job, there’s rules and regulations there’s a certain respect between the two. In a street fight USUALLY it’s all emotion. You are a threat. Some men won’t admit it but i at least always get those butterflies before something happens unless it’s one of the few times it was pure emotion.
An example would be I take care of my niece; short story my sister is an unfit mother, niece would be taken away: I stepped in for custody. She forgot to sign off Facebook and some 29 year old guy was messaging her to sneak out and sleep over etc. I have never been so upset in my life, I wanted this man to suffer. I wanted blood: so I pretended to be her and turned out he lived about 20 minute ride from me. I’m cutting a lot out of this to spare you all this already long story but I see him on his step’s smoking a cigarette. I think about the messages…. I think about my niece, I start walking up to him, I literally started crying from my anger. I hit him, I hit him and hit him, my arm felt like jello after about half a minute. I remember after my teeth hurt so bad from biting down so hard. I stomped him, I wanted him to die. I’ve never wanted a human being to actually die before. And after someone kinda came up and got between us. It was like reality hit me and I realized what I’ve done…. It wasn’t regret but it was fear cuz I knew now there would be consequences. Anyway I went to prison for 3 years but did 2 and a half with good time off. I kicked him on the floor in the face and they charged me with mayhem (I never even knew that was a charge) down from assault with intent to kill if I pleaded out. I guess because he has some kinda disfigurement on his nose etc the mayhem charge stuck. The messed up part is they had told me IF he had met my niece and something happened he could have been charged but since nothing actually happened he was treated as a victim. I think the judge took this into consideration for my sentencing though cuz my lawyer said mayhem can be a lot of time.
I’m not saying this story cuz I think I’m cool, cuz what I did. I don’t regret it but I’m saying this because the fight with him was about 5-6 minutes. It took 6 minutes for my life to completely change and to lose my niece, the thing I wanted to prevent. Just don’t let your emotions get the best of you if you can. Thanks for listening
@@humanrightsadvocate sure I do, but doing that wasn’t one of them. Was what I said.
in a just world, he would've gotten charged instead of you. But since we don't, you're right. We need to make sure we're fully aware of what our actions can do and how they can effect our future.
@@Arch3an thank you I am glad you took that away as well from my experience.
@@BlackMetalGraffiti It's scary how fast your life can change for the worse.
Sounds fake lmao