I’m an ENFP. I find it extremely rare to hear somebody talking about another with such selfless generosity and kindness. I really admire you, your friend sounds amazing but you are as amazing as her!
If you got into a fight with your ENFP, they are probably at home crying wondering how to correct what is going wrong. They are likely feeling lost and confused, he or she will desperately want you to know how much they love you. This isn't even about me and I am crying.
Seems like they worked it out quickly. ENFP's don't stray angry, and is so difficult to feel angry at them. Especially as an *NFJ. We really appreciate someone allowing themselves and others feelings while maintaining sincerity .
This is great. I know all the enfps are crying. The point I started crying was when you said that we believe the world and our stories are magic. I cant explain why I think that's true but it definitely feels true.
ENFP are masters at what their hearts want but usually don't go after it all at once because their hearts is usually in so many places. it's like doing a lot at once.
As an ENFP I've never felt more loved and appreciated. Tbh, I've been on the lows lately, feeling like people make used of my empathy to take advantage of me, or simply feeling useless because I couldn't inspire or cheer up my friends who are depressed. This vid definitely motivates me to make use of my potentials, life my head up high and continue to preserver during hard times (: *subscribe*
"I'm sorry I'm crying" that is the epidemy of being an enfj. You guys can not stop worrying about people ,I know the video is about enfps but the way you spoke about your friend made me love enfjs even more than I already do.
me too. Even reading that you cried bring tears to my eyes. Being a male ENFP and crying in public is something I try to hide though. I just stare ahead and try to block the feeling.
Tootzhie Astrid right, I keep retaking the test over the years because once in my younger years I tested “J”. But I retook the test again a few days ago and welp, ENFP. No regrets crying all last week
I don't really comment on anything really but DAMN, You really get our Fi. That is HUGE for us. Not a lot of people understand how we can allow ourselves to be vulnerable & how much it means to us that those vulnerabilities are understood, validated & not dismissed. You are right, We are a very hopeful type despite how strongly we feel & the fact that you recognize the bravery in that means so much. You make me miss my enfj bestie from back home SOOOO much. I never thought about ENFPs being alchemists when it comes to shaping our own realities, it was such an interesting perspective. Thank you so much for making this video.
As an ENFP, I absolutely love this video! I have noticed that I don't always have hope, but I tend to find something good about the bad things that happen to me. Sometimes I even get excited about the unpredictable possibilities. "Maybe our car will get a flat tire and we will get to get out and change it! And maybe somebody will stop to help us and we'll make a friend! And if we have to walk somewhere, it would be fun to collect flowers or rocks along the way." That way, no matter what happens, we have some reason to be happy. Not exactly hope that things will work out, but contentment and wonder in whatever adventure awaits us.
Good way of looking at it. Alan Watts, said something like that, a farmer horse runs off, and everyone says "oh that's too bad", the farmer say, maybe yes maybe no. The horse returns with more horses following. everyone says "oh that's great!", maybe yes, maybe no. Anyway, his son falls off and is injured, then the army comes by taking the able bodied males. He can't go to war. It's just impossible to know what events are positive and negative. And I think ENFP have this wisdom to see through it all, and see that what seems bad, might actually lead somewhere interesting.
I'm an ENFP and I really appreciated this video. I've been misunderstood most of my life. It's really difficult sometimes to constantly care for people who don't understand you. Especially when you understand them and try to help them. This video made me feel loved and understood. Even though we don't know each other I appreciate the fact that you're speaking to enfps as a whole. I only just learned about my personality type. It gave me insight into the person I am and it helps me to love myself a little bit more. You are very spot-on with how we hold on to our hope, how we could deal with the Dark Places and negative feelings at the same time holding onto the hope. And honestly and truly I only want my friends and family to be happy but I don't think they understand that. I just want to say thank you for understanding. That's a gift that you gave to me. Thank you with all my heart.
ENFP empathy is amazing. They really give their all for their friends, to support them in every way. And they don't care about who's out there other than the people they love. I hope ENFPs take pride in this, because they should! You want them as your friends, don't make them your enemies - and more importantly, don't do wrong to their friends! ^^ I too feel like ENFPs are much better at actually managing their own emotions. ENFJs will go on with their day if things aren't too bad, or if someone or something else might be a priority first. And the problems remain unadressed, the mind remains clouded darkly, to everyones detriment. ENFPs know their own emotions really well, they know how to fix a problem and they wont do anything else until there has been enough Te force put into their own Fi well being. I can't say that I do this enough, but I have at least become aware of this self respecting way of life through having FP friends. @Storytelling: Last year I always was getting picked up on the way to work by an ENFP colleague, who has since become a great friend of mine. He got up way earlier than me, I sat in his car, still half asleep. But every morning, he would tell me different stories. And these stories were so random and all over the place, so listening to him talk helped a lot in actually waking up ^^
"enfps cant see without the lens through emotion" hot damn meghan, i've literally said this in various ways my entire life. i want to help and be empathetic and understand and give advice, but even then, my every output into this world is colored by my own values and emotions. and yes, my world is magical and hopeful! everything you said about hope makes me allmost tear up. ive struggled with ocd and itrusive thoughts attacking my every value, and oh boy did it attack the hope, happiness and optimism part! you make me feel so understood! ocd has nothing on me!
I’ve been having such a stormy day, feeling like my energy was completely down the drain and this made me feel so warm as an ENFP, I need tissues to wipe my tears
same, had such a bad day, drained from work where everybody is ISXJ types and this video just made me cry. I have so many dreams and so many stories to create but I just feel like I'm an alien in my current environment .
Omg u to, my Ne has been so down today and my heart just doesn't feel as full as it usually is. I am scared causes I love that feeling so much I never want to lose it.
Meghan, I'm really sorry, I only made it half way through your video before I had to stop because I was tearing up. You're saying what this ENFP needed to hear in a very dark time of his life. I've recently cut a toxic friend out of my life, and I continue to fight with health issues along side a parent that hints at disappointment in me. I think I get it a little more now....my feeling my emotion isn't just some fake thing, but my greatest strength, and (for lack of better term) my salvation. thank you for this video, it really made this tired ENFP's dark day just a little bit brighter.
I definitely know how it is to be in that sort of dark place when you might not have someone close to help keep your emotions positive or even stable and you may feel like you're soul needs a jump start or even just a spark I hope you found something to get you through that position
I'm so so sorry that you have to go through that, I hope that it continues to get better. I have faith that you can make it through and I wish you the best in life!
The fact that you love your friend so much you cry about her strengths is so powerful. She's so lucky to have a friend like you. I feel the same way about ENFP's though the ones I have met have been a little hard to get along with after a while. We started out as great friends but then started to offend each other all the time, its strange and definitely matches the 'extinguishment' relationship dynamic in socionics. It's like we both seem to constantly take each other the wrong way.
I would like to say, from an ENFP, my husband is an ENFJ, and they are pretty wonderful too! They are very helpful teachers and guidance counselors, which is dearly appreciated!!
@Meghan LeVota I'm an ENFP 57 yr old man who's worked at "tough guy" jobs all of my life. I've been a bouncer at night clubs, a miner (working literally miles underground), driller/blaster, truck driver/heavy equipment operator, dredger, mechanical designer, CEO of a small self-built company with 20 employees and on. Friends and people in general have always seen me as 'weird' and I've been described as a "cheerful, 1 dimensional, emotional brick" because no one has ever seen me hold an angry grudge let alone cry. Shit, I can't remember the last time I cried. And yet here I sit, after watching this, a ball of snot wiping his eyes. I just tested negative for Covid19 so I know it's not some new symptom of that manifesting. I think instead that I may just be reacting in relief to the knowledge that someone else "gets" it. My younger sister is the only other person in my life who does and she's ENFJ as well, so maybe it shouldn't be a surprise but regardless, it's obvious you have a truly sweet heart. And now you've got a new subscriber as well :-)
As an INTJ (doing research on my ENFP roommate...hehe) I can vouch that they are great story tellers and communicators. Plus I don’t think there is anyone better at bringing an introvert like myself out of their shell.
As an enfp I think a big reason for why we're so good at and interested in championing others and causes is because we have so much belief in them, but not enough belief in ourselves. Which is why it's often hard for us to go after the things WE truly want to do for ourselves or in our own lives, but have so much power to make things work for others. It's a kind of sad feeling seeing so much potential in the world and in others but not seeing as much of it in yourself. So it really brought me to tears to see some one so moved by what they see in people like me and what they think we are capable of. My best friend is an enfj. We really appreciate you guys too 🧡
felt like you were speaking directly to me, exactly what i needed to hear as an enfp, especially the encouragement to create our reality even though it feels like we can't. thank you so much!
I'm an ENFP and I'm crying my eyes out because of this video. You made my day complete. You're an amazing human being. Thanks a lot for these encouraging words about my personality.
As an ENFP what you said about us being hurt for not being able to solve a loved one’s problem is something I didn’t realize until now. When you tell us a problem we have this instinct that immediately kicks in that “oh no! What can I do to make you feel better? How can I help?”. Thank you so much for this beautiful video 🦄❤️
i discovered this week i'm a enfp, i know now what i wanted and why i did somethings. i cant help myself diving into this and can't stop reading about all personalities i want to master them all and apply it in real life to have a better feeling about what others want or hate. it also explains why i sit alone at my job looking out the window, observing people, smiling en just enjoying to see people interact and the ongoing why, why, why, why in my head
The role you find yourself as an ENFP in Life is Antivirus 😅 you scan everything, overanalyze it so it's safe for you, for your inner world and then you try to apply it for everyone to tap into it as well. It's like we brave the storm so other's can live the vision we try to perceive. Our quest is to find an ideal way of living and feeling stuff for ourselves and everyone else 😄
i am an ENFP and the other day I almost cried because i felt like I don't care about other people's problems enough. Like that's all I could think of. And I was shocked to realised that people don't really care much about what others do. I used to post on my insta story everything I was doing, but now I realised that people arent really interested to see that. Its so weird. I either care too much or dont care at all. No in between
Ditto to the person who said first what I’m gonna say anyway (aka. stop halfway through and comment even though I virtually never leave comments - any other ENFPs prefer to engage in the “real world” only?) Thank you for doing this for ENFPs and those who want to understand them. I’m sure many of us are still trying to come to grips with this ourselves. This is what I imagine my ENFJ sister/best friend would say if she had the opportunity. Just last night fought off despair feelings of wanting to do more to inspire and mobilize a friend to have hope in her situation. (Christian hope is my anchor, and an encouraging husband) I really believe ENFJs like my sister (and you!) can change the world despite the obstacles that feel so real in front of them. I think ENFJ-ENFP duos are dynamite. Bias or not. ;) You are so brilliant! Thank you.
Hi, ENFP here. You explaining how we see and feel the world gave me the chills. I couldn't explain it any better. And of course I cried with you, that's how we are. Thank you for this wonderful video and to openly share your feelings with us.
I don’t think we take on someone else’s pain unless we’ve been through it ourselves (hence Fi). So it might be possible that she went through those same things and said the same things to herself, saw how damaging it was and wanted to stop you before you went to the same dark place they did. Fi isn’t empathetic really. It would more so be sympathy but we like to solve other people’s problems not their emotions. I think both Fi and Fe can be sympathetic or sympathetic but I think through Fi-Te they will be more likely to want to solve your problem and help you become more efficient as a person. I really appreciate the kind words toward ENFPs. I’m sure some of us needed it.the way you explained your ENFP friend questioning about your motives with that guy you were dating sounds so much like me haha!!
Thank you for the appreciation for us ENFPs. We tend to undervalue ourselves. Validation is so important for me but I am slowly growing out of the constant need to have validation as it makes me unhealthily needy. Hope for me is from my Catholic faith. I tend to trust people until those persons have proven repeatedly that they are unworthy of our trust.
Your ENFP friend must have been going through a tough time for you to become so emotional when talking about him/her! I wish peace & understanding to you both! ✌❤🙏
Really late but I'm ENFP and this video was SPOT ON!!! I've only seen fellow ENFPs be more accurate! I also LOVE ENFJs and think ENFJs are one of the coolest, most altruistic types out there! I feel like the Fe and Fi between ENFPs and ENFJs really compliment each other. Ne and Ni, too!
I am an ENFP and I completaly relate to what you were saying, fuck I started crying when I saw you being so open and emotional about it. I hope you will love your self someday the way your friend loves you. You are beautiful outside and Inside I can see that right away
I really learned just how much I take Fi for granted in this video. After seeing you explain how much you value it in us I realize just how insanely lucky and privileged I am to have it. I also re-check notifications for affirmation, and look back on intentionally-kept good and bad memories. Thank you so much for acknowledging us! It literally means so much that I'm genuinely having an issue registering that someone like me is being outwardly appreciated that much. If anyone else has an ENFP in their life, affirming them the way they affirm you, and making sure that they know how much their existence means to you is the best gift you could give. If someone I knew said these words directed specifically at me like you did, I think I'd die of elation and melt. If your friend is watching this video she's probably sobbing. I can literally feel her sobbing. This is probably one of the most meaningful things that anyone has ever said about her. You are extremely lucky to have her. She is extremely lucky to have you too! I find it a bit hard to cry recently, but you have me a pretty intense tearjerk reaction. It sounds corny maybe, but I really felt that.
Oh God Meghan, an ENFP here, I'm halfway through the video but couldn't continue without telling you how every word you say and the way you're talking is touching me deeply in my heart, you are so beautiful as a soul and so aware and so thoughtful, you are reaching places in the ENFP inner world where rarely people can reach and understand what they're seeing, if they're seeing it by any chance. I wanna thank you so much, when I watched my previous video of yours where you adressed how you view ENFPs as an ENFJ I felt how much you love ENFPs and now I felt it deep in my bones, your ENFP friends are so lucky to have you ❤. I wish you all the best and thank you for letting me know ENFJs more and deeply through you and I knew already how beautiful you are too as ENFJs ❤. Your videos of us from your authentic self mean the world to me 🤍.
Idk if youre aware of the impact this video has.. The way you distilled what an ENFP feels and their goals.. wow. Really made me understand even myself better. Idk if you just made this video on an offshot or what but it was incredible , and quite frankly just randomly showed up in my recommendations today for no reason but wow im glad I watched it. Thank you for the insight and for letting us know we matter.
hi i'm an enfp and one of the sentence i always tell people was; pain does exist for us to feel and process it. not for us to ignore it. yep i'm a trully a feeler now im so convinced.
I actually married an istp..the marriage was 5 years of abusive hell. I would consider myself a "darker enfp" although I still have that traditional light that enfps have. Im sure my life long history of mental,physical, and sexual abuse might have contributed to my darkness. Sometimes I am comfortable with my duality. Enfps must be incredibly strong because thru all of it, my light never went out.
You are right about being strong. I think our idealism is what saves us. We refuse to lose our dignity and principles no matter the cost. It's a stubborn insistence that our world view won't be altered by the actions of others. Sorry to hear that and I hope you can find some new friends that care about you. I have people take the MTBI test. At least that way I have a better understanding of what I'm getting into. By the way, in case you didn't know, your best match would be an INFJ or other NF, or INTJ.
After watching this video I finally understood why ENFJs should be teachers I am an ENFP and I cannot explain how amazing and accurate your video was Thannnnkkk yoooouuuu soooooo mmmucchhh for sharing the video with us
I attract enfps all the time. Half my friends are enfps ,lol. They are so similar to us enfjs but different. Amazing people , This video was beautiful btw 👏☺👍
If there's any way to get views it's to talk to ENFPs about how great ENFPs are. But no, seriously, thank you or the video! This definitely helps me understand myself better as an ENFP.
thank you for this video! stumbling over to this corner of the internet made me feel heard, and girl, your pacing is such a vibe I feel like I'm chatting on the sidewalk w you, love it
As an ENFP I loved what you said about power. I spent most of my life feeling powerless around others. I would feel alone in a crowded room. My trauma was holding me back from being myself. Once I started realizing that I can control my life that’s when I started getting better. I still haven’t yet mastered being myself, but I’m on the right path towards it. Thanks for sharing your opinion of ENFPs I’m sure you’ve inspired many to chase their dreams including myself 😊
Fuck. I'm an ENFP... your words are making me cry. Thank you so so much. I'm going through a divorce, and I have 4 small kids at home... I very much NEEDED to hear your words. I want to hug you right now ❤❤❤❤❤
ENFP here. This really was a blessing to watch. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. You are so very insightful. Aries/Enneagram type 5/Fire horse ;) God bless. - Milt
as an ENFP, i really felt what you said in all of the video, but especially near the end. a lot of my friends try to run away from their feelings, like if they have romantic feelings towards someone they shouldn’t, they deny it and try to move on. i find i really feel and try to decipher the root of all my feelings. i just let them be felt, but also look at them from a sort of outside perspective to gain understanding of them. also the balance of negative and positive. most of the people in my life see me as a bubbly, positive person, and i usually am. i always try to see the best in whatever situation i’m in, and try to make life fun. but i also have a more negative side, which comes into play a lot more when i’m alone. i tend to dwell on mistakes i made, on day dreams that won’t happen, on if i have a purpose on earth. just most people don’t see that side. i loved this video. i felt really seen and understood.
So often when checking out comments ENFP’s r sooooo thankful someone tries to understand us:). We r such a fun loving passionate people Yet so many of us r struggling & we’re really good people. (Tho a bit disorganized yes:)
I’m ENFP to a core and my reaction to this was as such: “Yes. Yes. YES. Omg YES!!! Aww... (crying part). YESSSSS! (For the rest of the video)” You just spent 20 minutes talking directly about me. I thought I was the only one who would go back and re-read the notifications from social media... or remembering previous times in my life that seem so trivial but I could never forget. Amazing job!
You're so right about the trust issues. I'm an ENFP and I observe alot, because I love learning about others. I've been let down by the ones I love most so many times, but yet with family I can't ever stop loving them. I am also really good at reading others, though will keep that to myself until I need to utilise it, and have learnt enough. I analyse and spot patterns etc and can get a feeling of the atmosphere in the rooms. I get a really strong gut feeling and have heightened senses. My empathy is like this, I don't feel others hurt, but I hurt for others. By that I mean, that I am not an empath who can feel what someone else is feeling, alot of the time I can be really numb when someone needs support, but ultimatley, it hurts that someone close isn't living their life happily. I've always been the fixer in my family, so it is so frustrating when you want to fix a problem, but aren't very good with comforting words. Because you have so many feelings for these people important to you, but when it comes to words, and being put on the spot, the words and even feelings can escape you. You want to help them so bad, but feel like you can't, don't know how to. You find it hard to express your feelings and explain your points of view, even when you've researched it so much that you could write a book about it. And what's more, alot of people don't listen to or don't value your opinion, because they see you as stupid, weak or illogical. ENFP's aren't completley illogical at all, and their heads aren't always in the clouds, they can be very down to Earth and realistic too. Though these might we weaker traits, but they aren't not there all together; some of us work very hard to strengthen these traits in particular. We have like this shift, where we can be all silly and fun and high energy, and then serious in learning mode like at work or in a meeting or an important deep conversation etc. We shift quite well between the two, though lack of focus, disorganisation, lack of ability to tidy, lack of ability to plan, lack of want to plan, are alot harder for an ENFP to brush off. These things can be improved and are better some times than others, but still like deep lines engraved into an ENFP's brain. An ENFP's upbringing will determine alot about them, for example, I was always restricted by my parents and told that I was weird by my peers, this meant that I stopped myself from being loud and fidgety which made me extremley tense. After years of being quiet, I finally freed myself, but now find it harder to socialise, though I enjoy doing it so much! I detensed XD and am back to my old figety self... well not the same but as close as I can get for now. Most people thought I had ADD or something like that. There are some other points of yours I really like but I've forgotten what they were... I might remember them again later. Update: I remember now! :D So my point was, that with anyone but family, if someone messed me around I would cut them out of my life. I find it hard enough to trust people as it is, like I'm not going to let you drag me down if you are going to be manipulative or lie to me. I sometimes give a few select people a second chance, but no more after two. If a boyfriend ever cheated on me, or a husband hurt my child etc... I would cut them out of my life in a heartbeat. Another part of an ENFP that can be affected by the way you are brought up, is feelings. I had to hold back my feelings, most of them were dismissed and I always kept stuff to myself. Then I freed myself of that, but felt so betrayed when not taken seriously. It feels weird to be an open book, an ENFP cna become defensive and cut people off when they are feeling depressed etc. But if they let you in and are listened to, nothing means more. Then someone responding to you, empathising to you feels so heartwarming. But being understood is just golden! ENFP's spend their whole lives trying to understand the world and others, let what they are looking for is for someone to understand them. Sorry I have written so much, but between my jumbled thoughts, I hope I've said alot.
Sou mulher INFJ e agora sim começo a acreditar que o ENFP realmente é o meu espelho. Essa parte sobre fazer um esforço para compreender o mundo e as pessoas, mas ansiar por ser compreendido é um dilema vital na vida de todo INFJ. É legal saber que não sou a única e que um outro mbti diferente do meu também possa ter os mesmos desejos e sensações que tenho. Que Deus te abençõe e nunca se esqueça da pessoa maravilhosa que você é.
ENFP here. Your video means so much to me and thank you! Been going through such a rough patch of feelings and relationships. It’s so comforting to know that at least person understands me.
This was hard to watch without crying! I’m an ENFP (my leading personality) and ENFJ depending on when I take the test. Which at times makes me feel like I have 2 different personalities. This video was such a blessing to see both sides and you made plenty to sense. The depth of your appreciation and love for your friend is so beautiful. Bless you for your honesty, bravery and sincerity!
As an ENFP who feels _extremely misunderstood_ by everyone in my life since my husband died last year, I can’t thank you enough for your pov of us. I literally can’t get through 1/3 of your video right now because I can’t see through the tears streaming down my face. I’m going to come back to this later today when I feel strong enough to watch it.
ENTJ with an ENFP dad. I so appreciate your insight. ENTJ’s can be so analytical and rational, I admire your ability to understand others. It lets me better understand and help his needs.
As an ENFP, I can't thank you enough for your insight! ENFJs have an extraordinary ability to articulate and teach with precision that we ENFPs can't access to the level of you guys in my experience. I can't thank you enough.
Wow your story about your friend is so touching. I actually got really emotional listening to it, because I never really understood why I couldn't let the problems of others go, and would get upset, even to the point of crying because I didn't want to see them going through that and they didn't want to be out of the situation as bad as I wanted them to be out of it. ENFP feels man.
Bah.. You brought tears to my eyes. Both for you and your experience, for the ENFPs as a whole, and I just got to think of my ENFP mother and it's just.. If she was here right now, the words and warmth and love of my bear hugs to here would be on "another level" :')
I look for INTJ to calm down my rampant ENFP nature when I start going crazy about some projects without even taking into account any planning, so you are very helpful in your own for us ENFP. You always know what to do in any circumstances and it usually work. But for me I usually just improvise (it may work out or it may not), but with an INTJ as a partner, I'm 100% it'll work out, even if I come up with the craziest idea, if he approves it, it's guaranteed to work 100%.
As a very turbulent ENFP (73%) I found this pretty hard to listen to this. I've failed a lot of people and I've been pretty crushed lately and it lead me to a lot of negative thoughts and mind scapes. I've been flying on autopilot for a long time trying to find a good way to get back to dreaming and get some decent sleep but it's a hard road. thanks for keeping me on track.
I understood this better now that I’m more familiar with MBIT. Your ENFP friend was upset for wanting to help but not being able to have an impact. The Fe has influencing ability. FI sometimes wants to connect but doesn’t know how . Being the witness to her pain/emotional experience is how she impacted you. Very powerful. Being n’a ENFP myself I know how that feels . I hope I got that right
Thank you so much for the love. As an ENFP it's hard to feel understood most the time. To hear your kind words brings tears to my eyes. I wish I could give you a hug! Thank you for making my day. Subscribed :)
Crazy because we have never even met. Within the first couple of words I got emotional shivers. I could tell instantly there was emotion in your voice and it provoked my emotions instantly. Our care for everyone is truly 100 percent genuine. It's almost as if we see everyone connected as one. So everyone's happiness is important not only to themselves but everyone as whole. Thanks for that message. My Goosbumbs should fade shortly! Lol
I just recently made an ENFJ friend and I love her so much already. We’ve had so much fun together, and I loooove taking her to try new foods and enjoying bringing new things to her!! And your video kept making me tear up. 💧💕
Thank you so much. This was very healing and affirming for me (as an ENFP) to hear these beautiful and loving words, esp from an enfj...since I've often had critical shaming from EnFJs who I have loved before and they have seen my ENFP nature as broken and 'not enough'. Thank you. Thank you. I'm deeply moved. So grateful.
My daughter is an ENFP. She is the kid I get along with best since I am an INFJ. She is an adult and I am just learning how she works as she grows. Thank you. It took me a while to get my Ni moment light bulb understanding with working how she is and studying the MBTI with my Ti and my other functions.
Wow, what you said in the beginning about how your friend got mad because you were sad and they couldn’t fix it was like a light bulb going off in my head. I always hate it when my mom gets upset or angry when I’m upset because I kind of want to be listened to and comforted, but... it makes so much sense now. I don’t know whether I am INFP or ENFP, but I’m pretty sure she’s ENFP. Thank you for the insight and I’ll try to remember that next time she reacts that way.
She hit the nail on the head. I am the ENFP mother of adult INFJ and INTP children who have struggles and it kills me to no end to not be able to fix their lives and get rid of their pain. I often overwhelm them with my advice and attention which drives them away sometimes. I then beat myself up for angering or hurting them while I am trying to help them ! I feel all of their pain. I need to just learn to listen. It is really hard for me not to brainstorm solutions for them. This video just made me realize this. Your mother may just be hurting because you hurt and she is frustrated that she can't fix things. Be gentle with her-her intentions are probably noble ones.
Nancy Amurgis I know 😌. Thank you for your comment. I’ll try to be more mindful that what I say about myself can hurt her just as much... And I’ll try to remember that when she’s talking over me by brainstorming solutions, she’s just trying to help me. You sound like a good Mom ☺️ and I hope you can get closer with your kids. And I’m sure they know you love them very much ❤️
Thank you so much for this... I feel like almost no one understands me. I have such a concrete plan to save the world but when I try to get help for it everyone thinks I'm crazy and don't believe it, but it makes such perfect logical sense to me. But I feel like you would understand it if I told you.
I wish I could give you a hug or something. Really am catching your feelings. ENFP here! Thank you for the motivation. Yes its true I can't detach from what I want.
Not knowing you at all makes the message you put across more meaningful. Enfp here loving you from a distance. No creepy here, just love for your amazing video. It helped me🙂
I cried. And I kept crying because I needed this. The reminder. It was beautiful to feel hope once again when my surrounding can feel so dark. Thank you 💖
Okay, so.. your fellow ENFP here,, first of all, thank you for saying all this nice things because yes, all of us feel unvalued sometimes :) and second of all, I never thought I was an emotional person tbh,,, and then I started crying when you said that the ENFP is very empathetic and feels like they have everyone's weight on their shoulders and they would do anything to take somebody's pain away because I just remembered all the times I wanted an could not do that so..... yes, I guess I really am Fi and super emotional haha :)
I catch myself seeming upset with people alot, but im actually being upset towards the voice in their head that puts them down. Youre right about us taking it personally when people we love starting to put themselves down
Awwwe, this video really touched my heart! As an ENFP, I don’t feel appreciated enough, thank you! I love your heart! Your friend is blessed to have you as a friend!
I’m a 40 yo guy, and only now certain pieces of the puzzle, which is me, start to fall into place. Having been bullied badly early in my life had me believe certain aspects of my personality are just part of my weird misunderstood self. Finding that these are actually personality traits as part of the ENFP type for me is an absolute epiphany. I literally just discovered there are more people just like me, and it feels freeing and simply amazing. Your video helped me with a lot of new insights and confirms many of the things I am just discovering. Thank you for your beautiful heart. And for speaking so lovingly about your ENFP friend. It warmed my heart and sparked my mind. Bless you! 🙏🏻❤️
You are 100% spot on we are so compassionate, loving and understanding, we are authentic, and are honest in how we feel. As an ENFP a lot of people don't understand us. We are resilient in difficult situations that hurt us and can overcome things quite fast. However we do say too much that can drain some people.
The start is true.. like when one of the woman in my life are insecure, seeing them constantly critical hurts because I want them to believes so badly in their body and it can be hard when it’s not an automatic change like an emotional response would
I'm a male ENFP and I can rarely cry, but this video made me cry so easily so many times, what the heck. I learnt a lot about the differences between Fe and Fi (also a bit of Ne vs Se) from this video, it was very insightful! Learnt some things about myself that I never realized that I've been holding back due to reasons, and I realized I should embrace them more.
Thank you very much, I m an ENFP and your video hit me on quite a personal level, i am quite depressed nowadays, I really appreciate your empathy and admiration towards us, it is quite difficult to be hopeful sometimes, but that s the only thing that we can have in difficult situations, or especially when someone else is having a rough time and we feel like we can do nothing to help them. Thank you
I’m an ENFP. I find it extremely rare to hear somebody talking about another with such selfless generosity and kindness. I really admire you, your friend sounds amazing but you are as amazing as her!
Aww you are so sweet!! Thank you for the kind comment
@@MeghaMuse your friend is lucky to have you.
Fake news
@@bikesnight3415 entp detected 😂
This ENFP thanks you! We like validation.😊
There is no greater gift you can give to an ENFP, than trying to understand us. Thank you
Nailed it.
Chris Nguyen same dude 😔
Exactly!
This is so true
For sure
If you got into a fight with your ENFP, they are probably at home crying wondering how to correct what is going wrong. They are likely feeling lost and confused, he or she will desperately want you to know how much they love you.
This isn't even about me and I am crying.
This is very me ngl😭
Seems like they worked it out quickly. ENFP's don't stray angry, and is so difficult to feel angry at them. Especially as an *NFJ. We really appreciate someone allowing themselves and others feelings while maintaining sincerity .
me EVERY SINGLE TIME AHAHAHAHA
Why am I tho 😭😭😭
im in this comment and i dont like it
This is great. I know all the enfps are crying. The point I started crying was when you said that we believe the world and our stories are magic. I cant explain why I think that's true but it definitely feels true.
Im not crying but i still appreciate this video a lot
i cried
crying
@LIA MARTINEZ I cried too
Crying a lot. 😣 It is really realatable.
Your crying made the empath in me spike.
You summed up the creature known as the ENFP pretty well. I'm a jack of all trades, master of none.
YES
I agree and I had the same response.
ENFP are masters at what their hearts want but usually don't go after it all at once because their hearts is usually in so many places. it's like doing a lot at once.
Jack of all trades master of nothing but better than master of one thing! We are awesome!
umashankari Hemade I’ve seen some really disciplined ENFPs that have overcome this issue
As an ENFP I've never felt more loved and appreciated. Tbh, I've been on the lows lately, feeling like people make used of my empathy to take advantage of me, or simply feeling useless because I couldn't inspire or cheer up my friends who are depressed. This vid definitely motivates me to make use of my potentials, life my head up high and continue to preserver during hard times (: *subscribe*
As yet another ENFP feelin down in the dumps... I could not agree more with your statement.
Same!! Lots of love
i can relate, people take advantage of me a lot
Oof relatable
"I'm sorry I'm crying" that is the epidemy of being an enfj.
You guys can not stop worrying about people ,I know the video is about enfps but the way you spoke about your friend made me love enfjs even more than I already do.
hahah I can't NOT say i'm sorry for crying, idk why
yes!!!
Yeah, I notice the same thing! You don’t need to say sorry when you need to cry🥰🥰🥰💕💕💕.
Enfp
I literally cried when she did. Wtf i really am an enfp.
me too. Even reading that you cried bring tears to my eyes. Being a male ENFP and crying in public is something I try to hide though. I just stare ahead and try to block the feeling.
Tootzhie Astrid right, I keep retaking the test over the years because once in my younger years I tested “J”. But I retook the test again a few days ago and welp, ENFP. No regrets crying all last week
T Nord you are the special 6% ! Don’t hide who you are, the world needs it!
Same here
… i kinda lol’d … just kind of an inside joke xP. Nothing denigrating xD 🙏🙏
Enfps are so alive. They give me hope. You have described exactly how I feel about them too. I am isfp
Ohhhhhhh, thx!!!! -enfp
awh thank you, i’m an enfp 🥺
Gemma Ahern same
My best friend of seven years is an ISFP!!!!
I don't really comment on anything really but DAMN, You really get our Fi. That is HUGE for us. Not a lot of people understand how we can allow ourselves to be vulnerable & how much it means to us that those vulnerabilities are understood, validated & not dismissed. You are right, We are a very hopeful type despite how strongly we feel & the fact that you recognize the bravery in that means so much. You make me miss my enfj bestie from back home SOOOO much. I never thought about ENFPs being alchemists when it comes to shaping our own realities, it was such an interesting perspective. Thank you so much for making this video.
I cried just reading your comment. Feels so good to know there's someone who gets you. You're a blessing!
When someone cries, I cry. It's weird, everything is intenseeee/ ENFP
As an ENFP, I absolutely love this video! I have noticed that I don't always have hope, but I tend to find something good about the bad things that happen to me. Sometimes I even get excited about the unpredictable possibilities. "Maybe our car will get a flat tire and we will get to get out and change it! And maybe somebody will stop to help us and we'll make a friend! And if we have to walk somewhere, it would be fun to collect flowers or rocks along the way." That way, no matter what happens, we have some reason to be happy. Not exactly hope that things will work out, but contentment and wonder in whatever adventure awaits us.
Good way of looking at it. Alan Watts, said something like that, a farmer horse runs off, and everyone says "oh that's too bad", the farmer say, maybe yes maybe no. The horse returns with more horses following. everyone says "oh that's great!", maybe yes, maybe no. Anyway, his son falls off and is injured, then the army comes by taking the able bodied males. He can't go to war. It's just impossible to know what events are positive and negative. And I think ENFP have this wisdom to see through it all, and see that what seems bad, might actually lead somewhere interesting.
I'm an ENFP and I really appreciated this video. I've been misunderstood most of my life. It's really difficult sometimes to constantly care for people who don't understand you. Especially when you understand them and try to help them. This video made me feel loved and understood. Even though we don't know each other I appreciate the fact that you're speaking to enfps as a whole. I only just learned about my personality type. It gave me insight into the person I am and it helps me to love myself a little bit more. You are very spot-on with how we hold on to our hope, how we could deal with the Dark Places and negative feelings at the same time holding onto the hope. And honestly and truly I only want my friends and family to be happy but I don't think they understand that. I just want to say thank you for understanding. That's a gift that you gave to me. Thank you with all my heart.
ENFP empathy is amazing. They really give their all for their friends, to support them in every way. And they don't care about who's out there other than the people they love. I hope ENFPs take pride in this, because they should! You want them as your friends, don't make them your enemies - and more importantly, don't do wrong to their friends! ^^
I too feel like ENFPs are much better at actually managing their own emotions. ENFJs will go on with their day if things aren't too bad, or if someone or something else might be a priority first. And the problems remain unadressed, the mind remains clouded darkly, to everyones detriment. ENFPs know their own emotions really well, they know how to fix a problem and they wont do anything else until there has been enough Te force put into their own Fi well being. I can't say that I do this enough, but I have at least become aware of this self respecting way of life through having FP friends.
@Storytelling: Last year I always was getting picked up on the way to work by an ENFP colleague, who has since become a great friend of mine. He got up way earlier than me, I sat in his car, still half asleep. But every morning, he would tell me different stories. And these stories were so random and all over the place, so listening to him talk helped a lot in actually waking up ^^
aw thanks
This is so true! I am ENFP and I am always telling a story bahaha, I have few friends but we have intense friendships.
@@CrystalDuan95 woah are the crystal meghan is referring to in the video by chance??
cryyingggg!! you're the kind of best friend every ENFP dreams of having. much love sister!!
"enfps cant see without the lens through emotion" hot damn meghan, i've literally said this in various ways my entire life. i want to help and be empathetic and understand and give advice, but even then, my every output into this world is colored by my own values and emotions. and yes, my world is magical and hopeful! everything you said about hope makes me allmost tear up. ive struggled with ocd and itrusive thoughts attacking my every value, and oh boy did it attack the hope, happiness and optimism part! you make me feel so understood! ocd has nothing on me!
I’ve been having such a stormy day, feeling like my energy was completely down the drain and this made me feel so warm as an ENFP, I need tissues to wipe my tears
same, had such a bad day, drained from work where everybody is ISXJ types and this video just made me cry. I have so many dreams and so many stories to create but I just feel like I'm an alien in my current environment .
Omg u to, my Ne has been so down today and my heart just doesn't feel as full as it usually is. I am scared causes I love that feeling so much I never want to lose it.
Meghan, I'm really sorry, I only made it half way through your video before I had to stop because I was tearing up.
You're saying what this ENFP needed to hear in a very dark time of his life. I've recently cut a toxic friend out of my life, and I continue to fight with health issues along side a parent that hints at disappointment in me.
I think I get it a little more now....my feeling my emotion isn't just some fake thing, but my greatest strength, and (for lack of better term) my salvation.
thank you for this video, it really made this tired ENFP's dark day just a little bit brighter.
I hope you're in a better place now!
I definitely know how it is to be in that sort of dark place when you might not have someone close to help keep your emotions positive or even stable and you may feel like you're soul needs a jump start or even just a spark I hope you found something to get you through that position
Hope youre feeling good and that karma switched ways from your dark periods, good luck
I'm so so sorry that you have to go through that, I hope that it continues to get better. I have faith that you can make it through and I wish you the best in life!
The fact that you love your friend so much you cry about her strengths is so powerful. She's so lucky to have a friend like you. I feel the same way about ENFP's though the ones I have met have been a little hard to get along with after a while. We started out as great friends but then started to offend each other all the time, its strange and definitely matches the 'extinguishment' relationship dynamic in socionics. It's like we both seem to constantly take each other the wrong way.
yes!!!!! this definitely is true, we DO take each other the wrong way! It is a challenging relationship for sure
Sarah Dennis Are you an S??
Victorious Joy everyone is an ‘S’ to a certain extent but mine is the weakest it can be, I’m an INFJ
Sarah EDen i love infjs my boyfriend is one. Yes that can happen but for me communication is everything.
I would like to say, from an ENFP, my husband is an ENFJ, and they are pretty wonderful too! They are very helpful teachers and guidance counselors, which is dearly appreciated!!
@Meghan LeVota I'm an ENFP 57 yr old man who's worked at "tough guy" jobs all of my life. I've been a bouncer at night clubs, a miner (working literally miles underground), driller/blaster, truck driver/heavy equipment operator, dredger, mechanical designer, CEO of a small self-built company with 20 employees and on.
Friends and people in general have always seen me as 'weird' and I've been described as a "cheerful, 1 dimensional, emotional brick" because no one has ever seen me hold an angry grudge let alone cry.
Shit, I can't remember the last time I cried.
And yet here I sit, after watching this, a ball of snot wiping his eyes. I just tested negative for Covid19 so I know it's not some new symptom of that manifesting.
I think instead that I may just be reacting in relief to the knowledge that someone else "gets" it. My younger sister is the only other person in my life who does and she's ENFJ as well, so maybe it shouldn't be a surprise but regardless, it's obvious you have a truly sweet heart.
And now you've got a new subscriber as well :-)
As an INTJ (doing research on my ENFP roommate...hehe) I can vouch that they are great story tellers and communicators. Plus I don’t think there is anyone better at bringing an introvert like myself out of their shell.
As an enfp I think a big reason for why we're so good at and interested in championing others and causes is because we have so much belief in them, but not enough belief in ourselves. Which is why it's often hard for us to go after the things WE truly want to do for ourselves or in our own lives, but have so much power to make things work for others. It's a kind of sad feeling seeing so much potential in the world and in others but not seeing as much of it in yourself. So it really brought me to tears to see some one so moved by what they see in people like me and what they think we are capable of. My best friend is an enfj. We really appreciate you guys too 🧡
felt like you were speaking directly to me, exactly what i needed to hear as an enfp, especially the encouragement to create our reality even though it feels like we can't. thank you so much!
I'm an ENFP and I'm crying my eyes out because of this video. You made my day complete. You're an amazing human being. Thanks a lot for these encouraging words about my personality.
Empathy is probably our nickname. I always wondered why I couldn't bear seeing anyone cry because I would just start crying along with them too.
As an ENFP what you said about us being hurt for not being able to solve a loved one’s problem is something I didn’t realize until now. When you tell us a problem we have this instinct that immediately kicks in that “oh no! What can I do to make you feel better? How can I help?”. Thank you so much for this beautiful video 🦄❤️
i discovered this week i'm a enfp, i know now what i wanted and why i did somethings. i cant help myself diving into this and can't stop reading about all personalities i want to master them all and apply it in real life to have a better feeling about what others want or hate.
it also explains why i sit alone at my job looking out the window, observing people, smiling en just enjoying to see people interact and the ongoing why, why, why, why in my head
Yes!
The role you find yourself as an ENFP in Life is Antivirus 😅 you scan everything, overanalyze it so it's safe for you, for your inner world and then you try to apply it for everyone to tap into it as well. It's like we brave the storm so other's can live the vision we try to perceive. Our quest is to find an ideal way of living and feeling stuff for ourselves and everyone else 😄
I can resonate completely with the ENFP part because I am an ENFP
i am an ENFP and the other day I almost cried because i felt like I don't care about other people's problems enough. Like that's all I could think of.
And I was shocked to realised that people don't really care much about what others do. I used to post on my insta story everything I was doing, but now I realised that people arent really interested to see that.
Its so weird. I either care too much or dont care at all. No in between
Ditto to the person who said first what I’m gonna say anyway (aka. stop halfway through and comment even though I virtually never leave comments - any other ENFPs prefer to engage in the “real world” only?)
Thank you for doing this for ENFPs and those who want to understand them. I’m sure many of us are still trying to come to grips with this ourselves. This is what I imagine my ENFJ sister/best friend would say if she had the opportunity.
Just last night fought off despair feelings of wanting to do more to inspire and mobilize a friend to have hope in her situation. (Christian hope is my anchor, and an encouraging husband)
I really believe ENFJs like my sister (and you!) can change the world despite the obstacles that feel so real in front of them. I think ENFJ-ENFP duos are dynamite. Bias or not. ;)
You are so brilliant! Thank you.
Thank you for being so vulnerable on this video. Thank you for caring so much. From an ENFP.
Hi, ENFP here. You explaining how we see and feel the world gave me the chills. I couldn't explain it any better. And of course I cried with you, that's how we are. Thank you for this wonderful video and to openly share your feelings with us.
I don’t think we take on someone else’s pain unless we’ve been through it ourselves (hence Fi). So it might be possible that she went through those same things and said the same things to herself, saw how damaging it was and wanted to stop you before you went to the same dark place they did.
Fi isn’t empathetic really. It would more so be sympathy but we like to solve other people’s problems not their emotions. I think both Fi and Fe can be sympathetic or sympathetic but I think through Fi-Te they will be more likely to want to solve your problem and help you become more efficient as a person.
I really appreciate the kind words toward ENFPs. I’m sure some of us needed it.the way you explained your ENFP friend questioning about your motives with that guy you were dating sounds so much like me haha!!
Thank you for the appreciation for us ENFPs. We tend to undervalue ourselves. Validation is so important for me but I am slowly growing out of the constant need to have validation as it makes me unhealthily needy. Hope for me is from my Catholic faith.
I tend to trust people until those persons have proven repeatedly that they are unworthy of our trust.
I’m also ENFP and catholic !! :D
Your ENFP friend must have been going through a tough time for you to become so emotional when talking about him/her! I wish peace & understanding to you both! ✌❤🙏
I’m ENFJ and I love ENFPs too!! I think they are bright lights in the world!!
Your level of understanding is masterclass. I'm an ENFP and I just want everyone to be happy.
Really late but I'm ENFP and this video was SPOT ON!!!
I've only seen fellow ENFPs be more accurate! I also LOVE ENFJs and think ENFJs are one of the coolest, most altruistic types out there! I feel like the Fe and Fi between ENFPs and ENFJs really compliment each other. Ne and Ni, too!
I am an ENFP and I completaly relate to what you were saying, fuck I started crying when I saw you being so open and emotional about it. I hope you will love your self someday the way your friend loves you. You are beautiful outside and Inside I can see that right away
I really learned just how much I take Fi for granted in this video. After seeing you explain how much you value it in us I realize just how insanely lucky and privileged I am to have it.
I also re-check notifications for affirmation, and look back on intentionally-kept good and bad memories.
Thank you so much for acknowledging us! It literally means so much that I'm genuinely having an issue registering that someone like me is being outwardly appreciated that much. If anyone else has an ENFP in their life, affirming them the way they affirm you, and making sure that they know how much their existence means to you is the best gift you could give. If someone I knew said these words directed specifically at me like you did, I think I'd die of elation and melt.
If your friend is watching this video she's probably sobbing. I can literally feel her sobbing. This is probably one of the most meaningful things that anyone has ever said about her. You are extremely lucky to have her. She is extremely lucky to have you too!
I find it a bit hard to cry recently, but you have me a pretty intense tearjerk reaction. It sounds corny maybe, but I really felt that.
Yes. I'm crying too!
I'm so greatful for ENFP comments, and seeing how many others just cry when other people do 😂 I just feel so hard 😂😂😂.
Oh God Meghan, an ENFP here, I'm halfway through the video but couldn't continue without telling you how every word you say and the way you're talking is touching me deeply in my heart, you are so beautiful as a soul and so aware and so thoughtful, you are reaching places in the ENFP inner world where rarely people can reach and understand what they're seeing, if they're seeing it by any chance. I wanna thank you so much, when I watched my previous video of yours where you adressed how you view ENFPs as an ENFJ I felt how much you love ENFPs and now I felt it deep in my bones, your ENFP friends are so lucky to have you ❤. I wish you all the best and thank you for letting me know ENFJs more and deeply through you and I knew already how beautiful you are too as ENFJs ❤. Your videos of us from your authentic self mean the world to me 🤍.
Idk if youre aware of the impact this video has.. The way you distilled what an ENFP feels and their goals.. wow. Really made me understand even myself better. Idk if you just made this video on an offshot or what but it was incredible , and quite frankly just randomly showed up in my recommendations today for no reason but wow im glad I watched it. Thank you for the insight and for letting us know we matter.
hi i'm an enfp and one of the sentence i always tell people was;
pain does exist for us to feel and process it. not for us to ignore it.
yep i'm a trully a feeler now im so convinced.
I actually married an istp..the marriage was 5 years of abusive hell. I would consider myself a "darker enfp" although I still have that traditional light that enfps have. Im sure my life long history of mental,physical, and sexual abuse might have contributed to my darkness. Sometimes I am comfortable with my duality. Enfps must be incredibly strong because thru all of it, my light never went out.
If i can only bear some of ur pain...
Enfp man here
phoenix pariah I think that’s totally true from what I’ve experienced
You are right about being strong. I think our idealism is what saves us. We refuse to lose our dignity and principles no matter the cost. It's a stubborn insistence that our world view won't be altered by the actions of others. Sorry to hear that and I hope you can find some new friends that care about you. I have people take the MTBI test. At least that way I have a better understanding of what I'm getting into. By the way, in case you didn't know, your best match would be an INFJ or other NF, or INTJ.
After watching this video I finally understood why ENFJs should be teachers
I am an ENFP and I cannot explain how amazing and accurate your video was
Thannnnkkk yoooouuuu soooooo mmmucchhh
for sharing the video with us
I attract enfps all the time. Half my friends are enfps ,lol. They are so similar to us enfjs but different. Amazing people , This video was beautiful btw 👏☺👍
Are you an infj?
Awwww I am an ENFP-A and one of my Besties is an ENFJ-A 🥰🥰🥰
If there's any way to get views it's to talk to ENFPs about how great ENFPs are. But no, seriously, thank you or the video! This definitely helps me understand myself better as an ENFP.
thank you for this video! stumbling over to this corner of the internet made me feel heard, and girl, your pacing is such a vibe I feel like I'm chatting on the sidewalk w you, love it
17 year old ENFP here, thanks for the kind words dudette, almost makin me cry :,)
I hope you're having a wonderful day right now!
Stop lying. you cried. we all cried. it's ok.
As an ENFP I loved what you said about power. I spent most of my life feeling powerless around others. I would feel alone in a crowded room. My trauma was holding me back from being myself. Once I started realizing that I can control my life that’s when I started getting better. I still haven’t yet mastered being myself, but I’m on the right path towards it.
Thanks for sharing your opinion of ENFPs I’m sure you’ve inspired many to chase their dreams including myself 😊
I am so glad to hear that!!! Good luck mate
@@An-ri5qn thanks friend ;)
I’m an enfp and this couldn’t be more touching. Than the fact that someone is trying to understand an enfp and appreciated enfp soo muchh
Fuck. I'm an ENFP... your words are making me cry. Thank you so so much. I'm going through a divorce, and I have 4 small kids at home... I very much NEEDED to hear your words. I want to hug you right now ❤❤❤❤❤
ENFP here. This really was a blessing to watch. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. You are so very insightful. Aries/Enneagram type 5/Fire horse ;) God bless. - Milt
Your words reached me,as am ENFP, Meghan. :( It helped me heal a biit.
as an ENFP, i really felt what you said in all of the video, but especially near the end. a lot of my friends try to run away from their feelings, like if they have romantic feelings towards someone they shouldn’t, they deny it and try to move on. i find i really feel and try to decipher the root of all my feelings. i just let them be felt, but also look at them from a sort of outside perspective to gain understanding of them. also the balance of negative and positive. most of the people in my life see me as a bubbly, positive person, and i usually am. i always try to see the best in whatever situation i’m in, and try to make life fun. but i also have a more negative side, which comes into play a lot more when i’m alone. i tend to dwell on mistakes i made, on day dreams that won’t happen, on if i have a purpose on earth. just most people don’t see that side. i loved this video. i felt really seen and understood.
Todos temos um propósito. Peça a Deus que Ele lhe revele qual é o seu.
So often when checking out comments ENFP’s r sooooo thankful someone tries to understand us:). We r such a fun loving passionate people Yet so many of us r struggling & we’re really good people. (Tho a bit disorganized yes:)
I’m ENFP to a core and my reaction to this was as such:
“Yes. Yes. YES. Omg YES!!! Aww... (crying part). YESSSSS! (For the rest of the video)”
You just spent 20 minutes talking directly about me. I thought I was the only one who would go back and re-read the notifications from social media... or remembering previous times in my life that seem so trivial but I could never forget.
Amazing job!
You're so right about the trust issues. I'm an ENFP and I observe alot, because I love learning about others. I've been let down by the ones I love most so many times, but yet with family I can't ever stop loving them. I am also really good at reading others, though will keep that to myself until I need to utilise it, and have learnt enough. I analyse and spot patterns etc and can get a feeling of the atmosphere in the rooms. I get a really strong gut feeling and have heightened senses. My empathy is like this, I don't feel others hurt, but I hurt for others. By that I mean, that I am not an empath who can feel what someone else is feeling, alot of the time I can be really numb when someone needs support, but ultimatley, it hurts that someone close isn't living their life happily. I've always been the fixer in my family, so it is so frustrating when you want to fix a problem, but aren't very good with comforting words. Because you have so many feelings for these people important to you, but when it comes to words, and being put on the spot, the words and even feelings can escape you. You want to help them so bad, but feel like you can't, don't know how to. You find it hard to express your feelings and explain your points of view, even when you've researched it so much that you could write a book about it. And what's more, alot of people don't listen to or don't value your opinion, because they see you as stupid, weak or illogical. ENFP's aren't completley illogical at all, and their heads aren't always in the clouds, they can be very down to Earth and realistic too. Though these might we weaker traits, but they aren't not there all together; some of us work very hard to strengthen these traits in particular. We have like this shift, where we can be all silly and fun and high energy, and then serious in learning mode like at work or in a meeting or an important deep conversation etc. We shift quite well between the two, though lack of focus, disorganisation, lack of ability to tidy, lack of ability to plan, lack of want to plan, are alot harder for an ENFP to brush off. These things can be improved and are better some times than others, but still like deep lines engraved into an ENFP's brain. An ENFP's upbringing will determine alot about them, for example, I was always restricted by my parents and told that I was weird by my peers, this meant that I stopped myself from being loud and fidgety which made me extremley tense. After years of being quiet, I finally freed myself, but now find it harder to socialise, though I enjoy doing it so much! I detensed XD and am back to my old figety self... well not the same but as close as I can get for now. Most people thought I had ADD or something like that. There are some other points of yours I really like but I've forgotten what they were... I might remember them again later.
Update: I remember now! :D So my point was, that with anyone but family, if someone messed me around I would cut them out of my life. I find it hard enough to trust people as it is, like I'm not going to let you drag me down if you are going to be manipulative or lie to me. I sometimes give a few select people a second chance, but no more after two. If a boyfriend ever cheated on me, or a husband hurt my child etc... I would cut them out of my life in a heartbeat.
Another part of an ENFP that can be affected by the way you are brought up, is feelings. I had to hold back my feelings, most of them were dismissed and I always kept stuff to myself. Then I freed myself of that, but felt so betrayed when not taken seriously. It feels weird to be an open book, an ENFP cna become defensive and cut people off when they are feeling depressed etc. But if they let you in and are listened to, nothing means more. Then someone responding to you, empathising to you feels so heartwarming. But being understood is just golden! ENFP's spend their whole lives trying to understand the world and others, let what they are looking for is for someone to understand them.
Sorry I have written so much, but between my jumbled thoughts, I hope I've said alot.
Sou mulher INFJ e agora sim começo a acreditar que o ENFP realmente é o meu espelho. Essa parte sobre fazer um esforço para compreender o mundo e as pessoas, mas ansiar por ser compreendido é um dilema vital na vida de todo INFJ. É legal saber que não sou a única e que um outro mbti diferente do meu também possa ter os mesmos desejos e sensações que tenho.
Que Deus te abençõe e nunca se esqueça da pessoa maravilhosa que você é.
ENFP here. Your video means so much to me and thank you! Been going through such a rough patch of feelings and relationships. It’s so comforting to know that at least person understands me.
Thank you thank you thank you for so much love
This was hard to watch without crying! I’m an ENFP (my leading personality) and ENFJ depending on when I take the test. Which at times makes me feel like I have 2 different personalities. This video was such a blessing to see both sides and you made plenty to sense. The depth of your appreciation and love for your friend is so beautiful. Bless you for your honesty, bravery and sincerity!
As an ENFP who feels _extremely misunderstood_ by everyone in my life since my husband died last year, I can’t thank you enough for your pov of us. I literally can’t get through 1/3 of your video right now because I can’t see through the tears streaming down my face. I’m going to come back to this later today when I feel strong enough to watch it.
You are the friend every ENFP need, thank you for exist♡♡♡
ENTJ with an ENFP dad. I so appreciate your insight. ENTJ’s can be so analytical and rational, I admire your ability to understand others. It lets me better understand and help his needs.
As an ENFP, I can't thank you enough for your insight! ENFJs have an extraordinary ability to articulate and teach with precision that we ENFPs can't access to the level of you guys in my experience. I can't thank you enough.
You’re the best!!
Wow your story about your friend is so touching. I actually got really emotional listening to it, because I never really understood why I couldn't let the problems of others go, and would get upset, even to the point of crying because I didn't want to see them going through that and they didn't want to be out of the situation as bad as I wanted them to be out of it. ENFP feels man.
Thank you. I really, REALLY appreciate this video. As an ENFP, I fully identify. Thank you.
Bah.. You brought tears to my eyes. Both for you and your experience, for the ENFPs as a whole, and I just got to think of my ENFP mother and it's just.. If she was here right now, the words and warmth and love of my bear hugs to here would be on "another level" :')
I look for INTJ to calm down my rampant ENFP nature when I start going crazy about some projects without even taking into account any planning, so you are very helpful in your own for us ENFP. You always know what to do in any circumstances and it usually work. But for me I usually just improvise (it may work out or it may not), but with an INTJ as a partner, I'm 100% it'll work out, even if I come up with the craziest idea, if he approves it, it's guaranteed to work 100%.
As a very turbulent ENFP (73%) I found this pretty hard to listen to this. I've failed a lot of people and I've been pretty crushed lately and it lead me to a lot of negative thoughts and mind scapes. I've been flying on autopilot for a long time trying to find a good way to get back to dreaming and get some decent sleep but it's a hard road. thanks for keeping me on track.
I understood this better now that I’m more familiar with MBIT. Your ENFP friend was upset for wanting to help but not being able to have an impact. The Fe has influencing ability. FI sometimes wants to connect but doesn’t know how . Being the witness to her pain/emotional experience is how she impacted you. Very powerful. Being n’a ENFP myself I know how that feels . I hope I got that right
Thank you so much for the love. As an ENFP it's hard to feel understood most the time. To hear your kind words brings tears to my eyes. I wish I could give you a hug! Thank you for making my day. Subscribed :)
Crazy because we have never even met. Within the first couple of words I got emotional shivers. I could tell instantly there was emotion in your voice and it provoked my emotions instantly. Our care for everyone is truly 100 percent genuine. It's almost as if we see everyone connected as one. So everyone's happiness is important not only to themselves but everyone as whole. Thanks for that message. My Goosbumbs should fade shortly! Lol
I just recently made an ENFJ friend and I love her so much already. We’ve had so much fun together, and I loooove taking her to try new foods and enjoying bringing new things to her!! And your video kept making me tear up. 💧💕
Thank you so much. This was very healing and affirming for me (as an ENFP) to hear these beautiful and loving words, esp from an enfj...since I've often had critical shaming from EnFJs who I have loved before and they have seen my ENFP nature as broken and 'not enough'. Thank you. Thank you. I'm deeply moved. So grateful.
My daughter is an ENFP. She is the kid I get along with best since I am an INFJ. She is an adult and I am just learning how she works as she grows. Thank you. It took me a while to get my Ni moment light bulb understanding with working how she is and studying the MBTI with my Ti and my other functions.
This was so so kind and ahhdkajf i didnt even watch it yet but im already crying from reading the comments ily
Wow, what you said in the beginning about how your friend got mad because you were sad and they couldn’t fix it was like a light bulb going off in my head. I always hate it when my mom gets upset or angry when I’m upset because I kind of want to be listened to and comforted, but... it makes so much sense now. I don’t know whether I am INFP or ENFP, but I’m pretty sure she’s ENFP. Thank you for the insight and I’ll try to remember that next time she reacts that way.
She hit the nail on the head. I am the ENFP mother of adult INFJ and INTP children who have struggles and it kills me to no end to not be able to fix their lives and get rid of their pain. I often overwhelm them with my advice and attention which drives them away sometimes. I then beat myself up for angering or hurting them while I am trying to help them ! I feel all of their pain. I need to just learn to listen. It is really hard for me not to brainstorm solutions for them. This video just made me realize this. Your mother may just be hurting because you hurt and she is frustrated that she can't fix things. Be gentle with her-her intentions are probably noble ones.
Nancy Amurgis I know 😌. Thank you for your comment. I’ll try to be more mindful that what I say about myself can hurt her just as much...
And I’ll try to remember that when she’s talking over me by brainstorming solutions, she’s just trying to help me.
You sound like a good Mom ☺️ and I hope you can get closer with your kids. And I’m sure they know you love them very much ❤️
Thank you so much for this... I feel like almost no one understands me. I have such a concrete plan to save the world but when I try to get help for it everyone thinks I'm crazy and don't believe it, but it makes such perfect logical sense to me. But I feel like you would understand it if I told you.
I wish I could give you a hug or something. Really am catching your feelings. ENFP here! Thank you for the motivation. Yes its true I can't detach from what I want.
Wowwwww. I'm an ENFP and this resonated with me so much. Trying to make my dreams come true. Thank you.
I can't express my gratitude. For being aware of our existence... I appreciate you.
Not knowing you at all makes the message you put across more meaningful. Enfp here loving you from a distance. No creepy here, just love for your amazing video. It helped me🙂
Yea, totally cried for the majority of the video
I cried. And I kept crying because I needed this. The reminder.
It was beautiful to feel hope once again when my surrounding can feel so dark. Thank you 💖
Okay, so.. your fellow ENFP here,, first of all, thank you for saying all this nice things because yes, all of us feel unvalued sometimes :) and second of all, I never thought I was an emotional person tbh,,, and then I started crying when you said that the ENFP is very empathetic and feels like they have everyone's weight on their shoulders and they would do anything to take somebody's pain away because I just remembered all the times I wanted an could not do that so..... yes, I guess I really am Fi and super emotional haha :)
I catch myself seeming upset with people alot, but im actually being upset towards the voice in their head that puts them down. Youre right about us taking it personally when people we love starting to put themselves down
Also ITS NOT COOL TO CRY WHILE TELLING US HOW COOL ENFPS ARE I CANT HANDLE IT
Awwwe, this video really touched my heart! As an ENFP, I don’t feel appreciated enough, thank you! I love your heart! Your friend is blessed to have you as a friend!
I’m a 40 yo guy, and only now certain pieces of the puzzle, which is me, start to fall into place. Having been bullied badly early in my life had me believe certain aspects of my personality are just part of my weird misunderstood self. Finding that these are actually personality traits as part of the ENFP type for me is an absolute epiphany. I literally just discovered there are more people just like me, and it feels freeing and simply amazing. Your video helped me with a lot of new insights and confirms many of the things I am just discovering. Thank you for your beautiful heart. And for speaking so lovingly about your ENFP friend. It warmed my heart and sparked my mind. Bless you! 🙏🏻❤️
You are 100% spot on we are so compassionate, loving and understanding, we are authentic, and are honest in how we feel. As an ENFP a lot of people don't understand us. We are resilient in difficult situations that hurt us and can overcome things quite fast. However we do say too much that can drain some people.
The start is true.. like when one of the woman in my life are insecure, seeing them constantly critical hurts because I want them to believes so badly in their body and it can be hard when it’s not an automatic change like an emotional response would
ENFP here. 11:50 is getting me all teary eyed. You got this girl! I love this encouragement you are sending :_( happy and sad! :)
I don’t know you lady but as an ENFP I started crying when you talked about hope 😭😂
I'm a male ENFP and I can rarely cry, but this video made me cry so easily so many times, what the heck. I learnt a lot about the differences between Fe and Fi (also a bit of Ne vs Se) from this video, it was very insightful! Learnt some things about myself that I never realized that I've been holding back due to reasons, and I realized I should embrace them more.
Thank you very much, I m an ENFP and your video hit me on quite a personal level, i am quite depressed nowadays, I really appreciate your empathy and admiration towards us, it is quite difficult to be hopeful sometimes, but that s the only thing that we can have in difficult situations, or especially when someone else is having a rough time and we feel like we can do nothing to help them. Thank you
Yes, when hope is lost, our world become darker and darker. I feel soo great being understood in this way by a stranger 😭
Wow. I started tearing up immediately after you started talking. You're being so vulnerable and it's amazing.