Some relationships (not talking romance) I've had to terminate for safety reasons and I hate how I'm still like "positively" emotionally attached to them. Even if they behaved way out of line or treated me bad. I wish I didn't feel like that, I just want to hate someone
It's interesting because when I was in high school, my mission was to literally treat people in a way that makes them believe the "movies" can be real life. She basically just summed up my high school experience as an unaware ENFP.
I cried everytime you made a video about enfps, it feels so good to be understood. when i feel low and lost i looked up at your videos and i feel better because i know somewhere out there appreciate people like me and it's enough. Enough for me to believe in myself again. Thank you
Every ENFP knows that you’ll meet people that you’ll feel and know your soul has been knit with.. and you’ll never get to hang out with them more than once..
✓ views life as a story ✓ is a writer ✓ is an artist ✓ always wants to get to know others and a good listener ✓ loyal and wants friends to be the flourishing protagonist of their own story ✓ doesn't want the other to feel wrong or stupid ✓ idealistic ✓ good judge of character You really out there hitting all these points, huh.... Fr tho for years not so long ago I thought I could not form a strong opinion on something. I tried, but ended up with bullshit bc i was just trying to come up with reasons for the Opinion™ but i recognize I'm not knowledgeable enough and if i am there's always more than one side. Maybe this sounds naive but it's really what it felt like. I also lived in a fantasy world. Or that's what I thought of myself and I've been trying to snap myself out of that since forever. But you're telling me that's just who I am?? And it's not a bad thing? And there's more people like me??? I'm gonna need to process this.....
I'm ENFP and you say it all as I have described myself lately. sometimes I feel bad that there's "too much" of me, that I've "too many" emotions, that I talk "too much" about myself. although I know that I would never give up my personality, because seeing colorful world is wonderful 🥺
You know... i am so glad to hear enfps are good judges of character, i tend to judge people on some percieved character and ive never been entirely sure how accurate it was, sometimes felt bad like maybe i was just making assumptions about them, cause sometimes i get an impression of someones character from what feels like very little information. I definitely tend to pay attention to things that seem hypocritical to me, i personally try to avoid any hypocracy in myself as well, im sure i havent gotten all of it, that kindof influences my philosophy as well, as i tend to try and minimize the amount of double standards i have, that is to say if i see no meaningful reason why two(or more) things should be judged differently then i merge them, this tends to be where most arguments stem from funny enough...
To be honest with you I teared up by every heartfelt word you said. It moved me. Enfj sees people in a very precise and thorough facade way which something I deeply appreciate. Thank you for all the kind words you said, I’ve been so low and insecure about myself and my personality and this lifted up the burden. Thank you, Meghan.
I ABSOLUTELY 100% would much rather side with someone with good intentions -- someone with good intentions but who isn't carrying out good is a protagonist (as you put it) who just needs help to make their ideals a reality, while someone with BAD intentions but who seems to be "doing" good is, in my book, a villain who is manipulating the world for the end purpose of their personal gain, and I just wait for the other shoe to drop. Definitely would not trust someone with bad intentions even if they appeared to be beneficial to the world at the moment.
This made me cry (me being very ENFP). Often times misunderstood by me changing my ideas based on new informations and experiences, I finally felt understood in our colorful, adaptable and changing mind! This was just soooooo beautiful!
I only found out about being enfp and what it means today. Dude... I feel so seen and accepted I'm crying too haha! My partner doesn't know or care about stuff like this at all (neither do I that much tbh) but I hear him complimenting and praising so many of my enfp traits.. I've never felt so grounded in myself as I do now with this new knowledge, and with this perspective hearing him say those things really moves me idk why. I guess it feels like or confirms that he really sees me. Which he should I guess, we've been living together for 2,5 years lol I wonder what type he is 🤔
Wow, I am touched and crying and really appreciative for this expression you made. The hardest hit for me (although you nailed it) was the feeling like we are "too much" for this world. As a person who has been dumped, fired and rejected using those exact words, it hasn't been a "feeling" that I am "too much"- it's a fact. And it's where I can share myself safely and respectfully to myself AND others at this point. A really nice phrase was said about me and the ENFP personality- we are like a comet in the sky. Not common, powerful, shiny and inspiring, when we expose ourselves to others correctly. Robin Williams and Hunter S Thompson were great examples of ENFP's who were "too much"- and behind closed doors was intense emotion and depth of expression. They also both died by suicide, at times of their choosing. I think quality of experience is more important than anything to an ENFP.
Wow, I have seen many videos about us ENFPS, but this one from you highlights aspects which the other videos haven’t yet. It’s completely to the point accurate, the way we interact, and explore and view and listen with other people and to ourselves. I am usually interested in finding the story of other people in other people .with my easy flowing vibe and my Charme, and my listening and talking skills, I naturally find it easy to access people with Small talk, enjoying it and turning it into deep talk. Usually they don’t expect this at all and are enjoying that somebody is really listening and trying to dive deeper than the surface and start to open up. Also completely right, I don’t ever see people or happenings as black or white, it’s a mixture resulting in grey and that makes it interesting. Also, I naturally find it easy and try to put myself into the other shoes, and I don’t judge people for who they are, as we are all human beings with a Desire for love . We are not perfect, not always smart, and we act and behave in ridiculous ways through our lifetime.
This is probably the best description of an ENFP I've seen. We have a fun/outgoing facade and a deeply philosophical yet emotional interior. We are great communicators and supportive mentors, and will open up to you when we notice you investing in us as much as we invest in you. We're affected deeply by emotions, and struggle with emotional hardships and rejection. So if you have an ENFP friend, don't assume they're always so fun and outgoing, check-in on them to make sure they're doing okay. An ENFP will forever be on your side if you showcase genuine interest in their well-being.
I've watched this video several times over the last year or two and to be in agreement with a majority of the other enfps oh, it makes me tear up to see the connection you obviously have with us. Obviously I've never met you or actually talked with you but I already feel like you know me / us and vice versa. Almost as if we were close friends a long time ago but we just haven't talked recently. Love your videos! Keep it up
Wow was having a long day, and as an ENFP, her previous videos always make me feel good when I'm having a rough day. About to start watching this, but i'm sure it will cheer me up and get me all emotional like the last ones.
ISTPs have an interesting relationship dynamic with ENFPs too. Our Dominant function is the other person's PoLR one, and 2nd is 8th. Very strange how we talk past each other, feels like we are on completely different wavelengths. I know they feel the same about us, but they seem like an alien species to us :D.
I tried being around more istps to get past my first encounter which was very conflicting, and while the relationship can be difficult i admire the sortof apathetic attitude i see in them, even though in some ways they care more than that would let on, we are more similar than one would think but coming from opposite ends... Like i tend to automatically care and have spent a lot of my life trying to care less, in the confidence that i will care anyway sortof subconciously, but what i so care about i dont care about in a super serious sense but more in an interested sense, where with istps it kinda feels like... their first reaction is to not care, but when they do care they come across very serious about it, but in the end it... actually i dont entirely know if it sticks with them or if they just let the conflict go, the first istp i knew it did seem to stick to but i still dont know how much they cared that it stuck with them perhaps
@@WadWizard I feel like I can't know what they are feeling, but I know that in my experience at least, what gets a reaction out of them is different to what'll get me firey. It's like different things matter to them than to me. But it's in terms of what is expressed outwardly. What they blow up about for example. Or what they find offensive or incomprehensible. But then as you said, on the more core level they care about the same things... It's just how they extrovert that seems so unlike me... at least I think thats what I think.. haha, see? They are so hard for me to get.
Omg. "Talk past each other". This is exactly how I describe my conversation dynamic with a close istp. I do that two arms motion where the hands come at each other and miss.
Wow. This video makes me almost speechless. And for an ENFP that is saying something...Such depth in emotion in this video and I want to thank you for that as most videos seem to skip this about ENFPs. We are feelers. Thank you for understanding that and for helping me understand myself. I see what ENFJs bring to the world now as you just gave me my social mission in two words. Creativity and feeling. I appreciate you and your channel.
Meghan, this comment is long overdue, but I just wanted/needed to tell you how much I LOVE your channel!! 💕 YES….you are AMAZING at this. Your analysis & insights are ALL spot on. 👌 I’m going through your backlog as the TH-cam algorithm recommends them to me. I add the videos to my psychology & wellness playlist, and as I do I consider each one a treat (i.e., mind candy 🍭), and because they’re longer & I want to give them my full attention, I wait till I have a tactile, “brainless” activity to do (like cooking for hours) so I can binge-listen and focus on your words. My first video was about what you love about INTJs, and because you were so accurate there, I continued on, and have enjoyed each & every video since. You’ve got a beautiful mind, heart & soul, and I love the honesty, candor, and vulnerability you bring to your coaching style. I feel that I can trust you, due to your authenticity and integrity (I know there’s a lot of overlap there). Thank you for being you, and for following your soul’s calling. 🙏✨💕 And make sure you give back to yourself, as you give to others. ☯️ 🥰 Sincerely, Another one of your INTJ fans (and you know how selective we are) 😉
This sums up my personality very well! I’ve always wanted to make other people to understand their own and best potential, cheering them on! And for those who for some reason doesn’t seem to figured me out (even though I’m an open book), I’ll refer them to this video! Thank you Meghan!😊👏🙏💕
ew "love letter" -- jk. But good job on this one, it's not every day someone can read us so well by really understanding our functions/information elements, and how we are somehow useful on the planet
This video is one of the few from certain complementary types that really hits home. You make a lot of observations that make me feel seen -by someone who’s never met me 😊
That's right... I've always thought that I'm always on my own side.. And felt bad about that sometimes. Like I'm not hard enough on myself. So even when I really am selfcritising and I should be, I still encourage myself like I would someone else.
“Feeling like you’re invested in humanity and feeling rejected by them” god damn it. This is conflict number 1. I just want people to be happy and survive comfortably lol. Thank you for your genuine words. I think Fi is emotion logic. Like if you value this, then you would do these things. And Ne + Fi is seeing all the values in the world playing out to make a story in itself.
The sentence when you emphasized on that we are “good enough as we are,” while that loving sentiment is very much appreciated, we’ll never accept it. We will see our positive attributes...but... on the other side of the double-headed coin, we know that the negative exists and will work inexhaustibly to lessen the collateral damage internally and externally. Harnessing the chaos within our minds and souls positively is most probably a life goal for every single ENFP. Oh....and..um..to stop relentlessly shoving both of our feet down our own throats all of the time just for the sake of conversation (talking to you Teens & early twenty-somethings, we all know the pain).
Paused after the introduction to say thank you for sharing that internal evaluation and feeling response being an extoverted feeling dominant , I related so much to that tidbit and it was healing & refreshing to see it explained so succinctly through a guide in the physical (in this case, You)'s personal perspective.
Thank you for the video! Sad ENFP here, because I just realized I was never in a relationship, where my partner accepted me. I always have to change things so I'm ok in peoples eyes. It makes me so sad I want to cry. I'm in my 30s and I think I have to give up on having a family now, I don't know if I can ever find someone 😞 I breaks my heart, I always wanted to be a mom...
I thought this was supposed to be a love letter not a personal attack 🤣 I’m just teasing 😊 It was very sweet and made me tear up a little bit 🙂 Thank you for making this video 😊💜
Being an ENFP ain't easy as some might think..... Our sensitive nature makes us Ho through a lot..... Meghan... I'm so happy that u could understand us so well.... Like felt like as if u have ranted my heart out...... Thank u for gathering those thoughts which we ENFPs can collect but r unable to express..... I've never had an ENFJ friend ... I always wished I did.... But seeing ur videos I'm like hey u see her.. She is helping u which means ENFPs mean something to her.... People mean something to her.... U ain't useless..... Well thank u for making me feel like that.... It's not everyday that we feel understood......
Thank you, this was amazing, I’m an enfp and needed this so much from a different perspective, I matter in the world again, lots of love, you’re amazing, thank you for taking the time for us❤️ and yes you can do what you do best, say it loud and say it proud!💖😌
11:20 as an ENFP I can confirm but I definitely do this im very careful when I pledge my loyalty to someone Id much rather pledge loyalty to my values I'd much rather pledged loyalty to a cause I believe in. there are people that do end up earning my loyalty, but they have to earn it
Amazing, a very focused but also nuancing letter. Thank you! One of my best (male) friends is an ENFJ, it’s amazing how he sounds just like you. To me it always seems like I get drawn to people, when I initiate contact that’s where my power lies, I indeed seem to get people and I can active their best version when I’m around. While he naturally draws people’s attention, like they want to hop on his energy flow. I can get people to believe in themselves, he gets people to believe in the world.
This was really helpful. I commented so much before watching it all. To echo everyone else here and what you yourself said, you DO have a lot to bring to the MBTI crowd.
All my ENFP life, I've been different and i never really knew why until I took the MBTI test and i researched what being an ENFP means and why I am like I am. I wanted and still want that friend who can break through my layers and see the me I hide from everyone. I've had people who have doubted my abilities with relationships (A known ENFP skill) and I've been through a lot in general especially for being an ENFP male, I'm hyper emotional and that part I don't like to show others, thank you for posting this.
You are sooooo sweet!! At first, I could sense the j in your thinking, which has always somewhat scared me due to my childhood. But you are just so sweet, thank you for allowing me to see this side of you I'm crying with you. Going through a pity party right now actually. I'm pulling myself out of it I also struggled with knowing how to express myself especially any knowledge for the longest time
Scary how accurate this is! Love it ... do you have an email I can contact you on? I'd love to tell you an epic true story in the making about saving the world, and you can be a part of it :)
Wonderful video Meghan! I've been watching your videos for a while now and they never cease to help me learn about myself (ENFP :D) and others. Your previous video provided great insight into INFJs as well and helped me see some of the nuance I can miss with my boyfriend of that type sometimes. As a "P" user I really envy your "J" ability to summize and collect these thoughts, kudos! Thank you very much for your wisdom and kind words, you are a very beautiful soul. Love from Ireland
Definitely listening at 1.25. ENFPs do this. Some of these things are spot on, but some of isn’t for me. I am definitely ENFP by multiple tests and with others assessment. But nice talk. ❤️😊
Thank you so much for this video. Today was quite a bad day for me and I'm still feeling down a bit. But your video helped a lot! Lot's of love - an ENFP off topic: You are so pretty! And I love the way you talk
I think because we enfps use Ne and Fi, everything we come across we unconsciously see its F potential (this is not meant to be funny, don't read it as a pun referring to the enfp stereotype lol). I mean that for us everything has an F halo around it, and because we bring Ne, we see the potential F in people and things, not really seeing things as they are.
So right off the bat I think logical thought is bound by limited perspective and to limit it for emotional values isn't taking emotional impact in account. I don't think those 2 things are separate. Can't there be a logical explanation for an emotional response? I love the rawness of your content more then anything. That's what we appreciate the most ad enfp. We don't want you to strip your own voice and explanation of emotions. Because all of it has a place in the refinement of what we see as logic. Most people like to label us unlogical.... but in reality that couldn't be farther from the truth. We just dont limit logic by not acknowledging reaction and limiting are avenues to correlate additional perspectives. It's why we are capable of getting to the deepest depths of a conversation so quickly. Because emotions either protect or are incorporated in those depths. Everything we know is supplied by people . So how wouldn't you be able to refine logic through more engaging human interactions . 🤔
For me as an enfp reality is actually very black and white. It's where all of our core values are derived from. What we know for sure. The pure necessities of life are represented instinctively by all living organisms on this planet. Eat..sleep...drink...reproduce..and inevitably die. We can all exist on instincts alone and that's all that's necessary for life. Which would make everything else unnecessary.... it's not that everything else has no value. It's just deciphering what's the most important and all inclusive of the unnecessary. Were deeply rooted to our instincts and a majority of enfp's are also fully capable of providing them for themselves independently. Where the majority of society has lost sight of the ability to obtain these necessities independently. We see value in progression and power to do more as a group. But we also understand it's important to progress as people with a purpose. If not is it progression at all? If we appreciate our necessities less and no one holds them these essential values close. We know the effect it will have if theses values are lost. What if farmers no longer feel appreciated. What if money has no value because the farmers don't need money to survive.. But the majority of people have replaced the skillset of obtaining there own necessities of life in exchange for using money to obtain these necessities. So if someone isn't going amongst everyone in all the groups and showcasing genuine appreciations of the good in each person individually. The people that supply the only things that are truly necessary for survival. Could one day become resentful of the money that represents power and the disrespect it has to the ones who are driven by values. Farmers get fed up with how ungrateful and unaware you are of them. They choose to only provide to those who are? Then what? A majority of this population will die of starvation before they ever regain the skills necessary to provide for themselves. Money isn't edible, or thirst quenching. It also by no means will buy you happiness. That's reality. Everything else is built upon the simplicity of our reality. Being raised in the country but accepting of everyone. There's starting to be a big gap in between the city and the country. There's a misconception in the the big city train of thought. That we all need money to survive. The more you have the more successful you are perceived to be. You want to progress blindly, while people lie homeless and hungry in your streets. Luxurious and financially rich, represent how suitable you are as a mate. In the eyes of those in the country , they have lost complete track of reality. You will never find homeless or hungry in the small communities that they reside. There communities are driven by values not status. In fact farmers are some of the most modest people in mankind. They don't take kindly to displays of power through wealth. They don't appreciate the rich lawyer with his 90k car disrespect the waitress of resteraunt. They are becoming more and more fed up with the complete loss of appreciation for there unwillingness to participate in the showcasing. They may represent a very small portion of the nation's wealth and very little political recognition due to representing a small portion of the population... But because they don't need any of you , or your money to survive, they could be pushed to a point of completely abandoning of the unappreciative, who no longer exhibit the values necessary for peace and kindness. This is are role as an enfp throughout our conversations. Collect as much as we can from all perspectives... while sharing the perspectives of all. Maybe people don't realize how simple it is to independent of money and that it's not necessary to conform to the majority to live. This happens there money becomes completely obsolete
The only thing I would say is that sometimes I can actually be very very serious about my core beliefs and I don’t necessarily hold space for people that disagree or violate those beliefs. Like I think that even people that voted for someone that I absolutely find vile and evil, I will have a hard time understanding how they could do that. And maybe that’s just a trauma thing or maybe that’s common with ENFPs, I’m not sure. But I definitely do that with certain things
Regarding your advice at the end of the video (don't worry about trying to be like the thinking types, use the skill that you have), do you have any suggestions for how to keep up with the constant thirst ENFPs have for ideas? For the last 6months or so I've been feeling guilty for not reading and have tried to force myself to read for an hour a day. Still, I notice that reading is not when I have my most spontaneous, quick, thrilling thoughts. Should ENFPs try to get out in the world and have as many experiences as possible/ enroll in a hobby? What is the environment that is most conducive to when ENFPs can be use their creativity?
Maybe go out and find a hobby where you can become better and constantly improve while meeting others. I started dancing 2 years ago for example, I have now learned salsa, bachata, zouk and some swing and tried more dances! I have found a passion that is very fun because I'm meeting new people but it's not pointless and the dance parties aren't pointless since I'm actually having fun and becoming better at my dance! When I have one hobby like this, then it feels really nice and good to come home to a book too. I have balance in my life in that way. I don't know the best environment to be creative. I can get very creative while talking about different ideas with other passionate people. If I were maybe to do some creative project with others, that would maybe take out my creative side a lot, especially if I were to be in a group were everyone is encouraging each other, but I'm not sure what that can be. I think it's really good to have some hobby where you can relax and get out some energy, pottering seems fun. I don't know if this was a good answer at all haha! XD For me, I have this thirst too for ideas and knowledge, so when I finally find a new intriguing idea I can relax again and start devouring the ideas hahahaha! Right now I have really been into the Bible, there's truly so much wisdom in it! One really interesting book that Im reading is called "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" - this book is teaching me a lot and it's so exciting to finally understand... It really depends on what you are interested in actually... You really must seek for yourself for what it is that you want to learn in life, and just go for it! Try different things, both alone but also with other people. Excuse my maybe strange and all over the place answer
Uhhhh hmmm this is sounding unrelatable so far. Like there are relatable parts but more unrelatable parts in such a small time though. Okay you changed my mind straight away; so relatable. So there have been some things that I disagree on but they’re small. THANK YOU FOR TALKING ABOUT US BEING GOOD JUDGE OF CHARACTER, NO-ONE BELIEVES ME, I have trust issues and can get paranoid, BUT IM RIGHT O . O
Seriously how do you know this about us. I mean the thing about the grey and seeing the good and bad. Yes there are no moral absolutes. We can even see the beauty 8n struggle and how people are forced to be come selfish to survive. We are not selfish ourselves. But we can see the purity in the quest for survival. Just as one example of that grey. We can even see beauty and dark poetry running through loss and great pain. It's like art. You can't really explain it. Also with us, we start to see this more as we grow older. When very young we can be superficial. Just because we crave connectivity and acceptance. But as adults, we can be very powerful. I don't think you'd find any enfps in jail for doing something that they believe is wrong. The key being what we believe. We would rather starve then be a pawn in someone else's narrative. Or go against our own inner compass. And when we have, it tortures us. Forever. If we went against our own sense of self and did something we think is bad. We can resort to disassociation or drug abuse or self harm etc. We see that as the ultimate betrayal. Going against our own sense of right and wrong. That we decided on. I mean we totally don't give two shots about society and it's rights and wrongs. Because they are just people. Probably dumber people with agendas. Though we can be convinced. And we welcome our POV being challenged and altered. Just a few things about us.
As an Infj I think the most and the least of ENFPs even above other INFJs...for us/me truth is that one thing that I crave, I wanna know what holds the world together at its innermost core. I don't want to know the truth, I HAVE to know it, because it is the one thing that frees me. And meanwhile the world, even my own mind creates all those coldhearted abominations of "technically true" to further their own goals, and ecen the few warmhearted ones tell white little lies to protect what is important, yet they dim the light of truth that I crave so much all the same (although for more forgiveable and understandable reasons). The ENFP I shake my head at. They somehow always make it through crying about everything and yet do things effortlessly. They say so many hurtful things, wothout any self reflection whatsoever, almost like no thought even touched the words that they blurted out. And they never shut up, always seem to crave attention and never show a care in the world. But here's the kicker, I like them the most by personality type, I trust them almost instantly. And I have to be so careful because as always there is two types of this personality as well, the ones that live for their own selfish desires and use their traits for horrible things, those I don't wanna fall for. The ones I wanna focus on are the real nurturing ENFPs. Those that don't forget their surroundings. Because they are unstoppable storms of positivity to me. I am fascinated watching a goodwilled ENFP in their social performance. They seem to be able to do the things I struggle the most with as an INFJ so effortlessly, at least make it seem so. When they jump in the middle of attention they don't take away from others but shine bright radiant warmth on everyone at their surrounding. They are yappy dogs stumbling over their own feet...or any deep thoughts I would throw at them (at least the ones I know) but I can't help but smile when looking at them. Yes I shake my head in shame for the unfiltered nonesense they sometimes sputter but I will do my damndest to keep my trap shut because since they will talk endlessly I sometimes catch something of theirs that really goes far too deep for what they even noticed themselves, and since they are so unfiltered and warmhearted they are the one type I trust more than any other, because the truth they stumble upon is always of the warmest kind, so unapologetically beautifully seeing the good in the world and others, a truth to grow from, one that is lifegiving. It's also why I have to be the most careful around them, because an ENFP that is not wellmeaning can so easily walk all over my type while we are the most vulnerable to them. So yeah those goodhearted ENFP for me are the most beautiful sunshines in the world that gotta be protected at all costs since I would be surprised if they wouldn't wanna hug a predator fletching their teeth at them just to see if they're not just little snugglebuddies that just wanna be cheered up after all. They just don't got a care in the world other than to spread happiness and smiles to everyone around. They are the one type that sometimes makes me forget that the world could even be bad, if anything they'd be the one to wonder why someone would be bad if they could just be good as well and they almost make me wonder together with them.
Hi there, I'm an enfp, a good-hearted one.. I'm not saying that to flatter myself I just mean that seriously I am a very emotionally safe person in the sense that people can trust me. They don't even realise how much they could trust me. I don't know anyone who I can trust the way that they could trust me if you know what I'm saying. You feel lonely. You have trust issues but that's because youve intuited the way that people are a little glad when you have something bad happen and privately don't want you to soar. But I want to say that I'm not carefree and I want to say that life and relationships and interactions and self issues are not effortless. In fact it can be pretty horrible when everything you receive is wrapped in feelings. It's not a normal day, it's not a normal conversation. Everything has a layer of feelings. You're never just doing something or seeing something or conversing. Why does everything have to be beautiful and special and you want to peel back the curtain on everything. Why do you have to consider so many subjective perspectives.. and see the possible good intentions in everybody.. you have no clarity. Always unsure. Balancing so many feelings and thoughts. Why do you zoom in on the individual beauty and value in people and so you desire connection. It's not attention-seeking, its connection-seeking. Its lonely being an enfp sometimes. And I'm not in lala land. I know there are hard truths and I don't wear rosetinted glasses...but I can't help but wonder about the little boy that once was before they became a monster. So yeah, my mind is always attuned to idealism.
Ivory Torea I am a nurturer and advocate and I don’t think before I speak. I speak and then deal with the other person’s reaction. I noticed you said the same thing three times in different ways. I do not like your annoyance with ENFPs and how much we talk. What I have to say is important and fun!
I met a new INFJ recently and I have been thinking about your type for quite awhile now. I had a gut feeling they were one when I saw them the first time a few weeks ago. Now I know for sure. They didn't know, never heard of MBTI. I feel I must be cautious and not overwhelm them. I am eager to speak with them again. (ENFP)
I'm not sure how to take everything you just said in your comment . Giving an ENFP compliments and then belittling them in the same breath. Here's the thing you get it all with an ENFP. We don't hide any of it and our evolution comes from being external and sharing our vulnerabilities. But our power is that we give YOU that space in return and without judgement. How you use or don't use that unique space we give you is up to you, be don't begrudge us this aspect of ourselves because you may have met an unhealthy ENFP somewhere. That is a sign of an underdevelopment of any one of the mbti personalities. Also yay thanks for this video!! I'm surrounded by many fabulous ENFJ's 💜💜
How to know if you are enfp: You out the video in 1.25x speed
Lol true
I normally forget to but WOW, it is nicexD
What if I am watching it on 2x speed..?
Lol this was automatically on 1.5x from the past video. Enfp attention span. 😂😂
Welp, turns out I wasnt a enfp after all
11:45 "Once an ENFP is on your side ...", began crying around this point. Few of you realize what has occurred when you are in that place with us.
Ikr! It’s like an all or nothing mission!
So true.
Some relationships (not talking romance) I've had to terminate for safety reasons and I hate how I'm still like "positively" emotionally attached to them. Even if they behaved way out of line or treated me bad. I wish I didn't feel like that, I just want to hate someone
@@Samson16436 💯
It takes a lot to make me hate people
Me too -crying- @silentgrove
It's interesting because when I was in high school, my mission was to literally treat people in a way that makes them believe the "movies" can be real life. She basically just summed up my high school experience as an unaware ENFP.
haha! I love that
And my relationships with the women in my lives... ENFP, the original ROMCOM reality show star...without the benefits of a show. 🤣
This made my heart melt while reading it.
I cried everytime you made a video about enfps, it feels so good to be understood. when i feel low and lost i looked up at your videos and i feel better because i know somewhere out there appreciate people like me and it's enough. Enough for me to believe in myself again. Thank you
you deserve to feel understood in this world!
Me too!❤
Me too 😭
LOL, true not bothered at all that you were talking about yourself. Was more so feeling interested lol
Edwin Ortiz same!🙌
Yep, same 😊
I was like: Ehmmmm when did it become an issue to talk about yourself??? 😂😂😗✌🏼
Every ENFP knows that you’ll meet people that you’ll feel and know your soul has been knit with.. and you’ll never get to hang out with them more than once..
✓ views life as a story
✓ is a writer
✓ is an artist
✓ always wants to get to know others and a good listener
✓ loyal and wants friends to be the flourishing protagonist of their own story
✓ doesn't want the other to feel wrong or stupid
✓ idealistic
✓ good judge of character
You really out there hitting all these points, huh....
Fr tho for years not so long ago I thought I could not form a strong opinion on something. I tried, but ended up with bullshit bc i was just trying to come up with reasons for the Opinion™ but i recognize I'm not knowledgeable enough and if i am there's always more than one side.
Maybe this sounds naive but it's really what it felt like.
I also lived in a fantasy world. Or that's what I thought of myself and I've been trying to snap myself out of that since forever. But you're telling me that's just who I am?? And it's not a bad thing? And there's more people like me???
I'm gonna need to process this.....
I'm ENFP and you say it all as I have described myself lately. sometimes I feel bad that there's "too much" of me, that I've "too many" emotions, that I talk "too much" about myself. although I know that I would never give up my personality, because seeing colorful world is wonderful 🥺
Exactly me; in and out. Truly love my complex self. Just wish people had the ability to understand and appreciate ENFPs.
You know... i am so glad to hear enfps are good judges of character, i tend to judge people on some percieved character and ive never been entirely sure how accurate it was, sometimes felt bad like maybe i was just making assumptions about them, cause sometimes i get an impression of someones character from what feels like very little information.
I definitely tend to pay attention to things that seem hypocritical to me, i personally try to avoid any hypocracy in myself as well, im sure i havent gotten all of it, that kindof influences my philosophy as well, as i tend to try and minimize the amount of double standards i have, that is to say if i see no meaningful reason why two(or more) things should be judged differently then i merge them, this tends to be where most arguments stem from funny enough...
I have the same experience of my non-judgemental-ness causing an argument
You literally have just described my thought process
I feel you. Hypocrisy is a big pet peeve for me. Especially if it's from myself, which would make me...lol...a hypocrite
ENFP here...we wana know about you!
To be honest with you I teared up by every heartfelt word you said. It moved me. Enfj sees people in a very precise and thorough facade way which something I deeply appreciate. Thank you for all the kind words you said, I’ve been so low and insecure about myself and my personality and this lifted up the burden. Thank you, Meghan.
ENFPs are great at shining their light on themselves and others and are great listeners in the sense they are very involved
in life and what u have to say
kinda repeating what u said but i like it
You do realize you replied to yourself lmao
I ABSOLUTELY 100% would much rather side with someone with good intentions -- someone with good intentions but who isn't carrying out good is a protagonist (as you put it) who just needs help to make their ideals a reality, while someone with BAD intentions but who seems to be "doing" good is, in my book, a villain who is manipulating the world for the end purpose of their personal gain, and I just wait for the other shoe to drop. Definitely would not trust someone with bad intentions even if they appeared to be beneficial to the world at the moment.
This made me cry (me being very ENFP). Often times misunderstood by me changing my ideas based on new informations and experiences, I finally felt understood in our colorful, adaptable and changing mind! This was just soooooo beautiful!
Me too ❤️
I only found out about being enfp and what it means today. Dude... I feel so seen and accepted I'm crying too haha! My partner doesn't know or care about stuff like this at all (neither do I that much tbh) but I hear him complimenting and praising so many of my enfp traits.. I've never felt so grounded in myself as I do now with this new knowledge, and with this perspective hearing him say those things really moves me idk why. I guess it feels like or confirms that he really sees me. Which he should I guess, we've been living together for 2,5 years lol I wonder what type he is 🤔
Wow, I am touched and crying and really appreciative for this expression you made. The hardest hit for me (although you nailed it) was the feeling like we are "too much" for this world. As a person who has been dumped, fired and rejected using those exact words, it hasn't been a "feeling" that I am "too much"- it's a fact. And it's where I can share myself safely and respectfully to myself AND others at this point. A really nice phrase was said about me and the ENFP personality- we are like a comet in the sky. Not common, powerful, shiny and inspiring, when we expose ourselves to others correctly. Robin Williams and Hunter S Thompson were great examples of ENFP's who were "too much"- and behind closed doors was intense emotion and depth of expression. They also both died by suicide, at times of their choosing. I think quality of experience is more important than anything to an ENFP.
Wow, I have seen many videos about us ENFPS, but this one from you highlights aspects which the other videos haven’t yet. It’s completely to the point accurate, the way we interact, and explore and view and listen with other people and to ourselves. I am usually interested in finding the story of other people in other people .with my easy flowing vibe and my Charme, and my listening and talking skills, I naturally find it easy to access people with Small talk, enjoying it and turning it into deep talk. Usually they don’t expect this at all and are enjoying that somebody is really listening and trying to dive deeper than the surface and start to open up. Also completely right, I don’t ever see people or happenings as black or white, it’s a mixture resulting in grey and that makes it interesting. Also, I naturally find it easy and try to put myself into the other shoes, and I don’t judge people for who they are, as we are all human beings with a Desire for love . We are not perfect, not always smart, and we act and behave in ridiculous ways through our lifetime.
This is probably the best description of an ENFP I've seen. We have a fun/outgoing facade and a deeply philosophical yet emotional interior. We are great communicators and supportive mentors, and will open up to you when we notice you investing in us as much as we invest in you. We're affected deeply by emotions, and struggle with emotional hardships and rejection. So if you have an ENFP friend, don't assume they're always so fun and outgoing, check-in on them to make sure they're doing okay. An ENFP will forever be on your side if you showcase genuine interest in their well-being.
More ENFP content please....love your work.
I've watched this video several times over the last year or two and to be in agreement with a majority of the other enfps oh, it makes me tear up to see the connection you obviously have with us. Obviously I've never met you or actually talked with you but I already feel like you know me / us and vice versa. Almost as if we were close friends a long time ago but we just haven't talked recently. Love your videos! Keep it up
Wow was having a long day, and as an ENFP, her previous videos always make me feel good when I'm having a rough day. About to start watching this, but i'm sure it will cheer me up and get me all emotional like the last ones.
Thank you Alex!
This Video warmed my heart. Thank you so much for opening up, you are always so kind and empathetic - ENFP
A love story from an ENFP : you are so sweet❤️
ISTPs have an interesting relationship dynamic with ENFPs too.
Our Dominant function is the other person's PoLR one, and 2nd is 8th.
Very strange how we talk past each other, feels like we are on completely different wavelengths.
I know they feel the same about us, but they seem like an alien species to us :D.
I tried being around more istps to get past my first encounter which was very conflicting, and while the relationship can be difficult i admire the sortof apathetic attitude i see in them, even though in some ways they care more than that would let on, we are more similar than one would think but coming from opposite ends...
Like i tend to automatically care and have spent a lot of my life trying to care less, in the confidence that i will care anyway sortof subconciously, but what i so care about i dont care about in a super serious sense but more in an interested sense, where with istps it kinda feels like... their first reaction is to not care, but when they do care they come across very serious about it, but in the end it... actually i dont entirely know if it sticks with them or if they just let the conflict go, the first istp i knew it did seem to stick to but i still dont know how much they cared that it stuck with them perhaps
Oh this is true.
@@WadWizard I feel like I can't know what they are feeling, but I know that in my experience at least, what gets a reaction out of them is different to what'll get me firey. It's like different things matter to them than to me. But it's in terms of what is expressed outwardly. What they blow up about for example. Or what they find offensive or incomprehensible. But then as you said, on the more core level they care about the same things... It's just how they extrovert that seems so unlike me... at least I think thats what I think.. haha, see? They are so hard for me to get.
Omg. "Talk past each other". This is exactly how I describe my conversation dynamic with a close istp. I do that two arms motion where the hands come at each other and miss.
don't worry bro, we think you guys are aliens too lol
Wow. This video makes me almost speechless. And for an ENFP that is saying something...Such depth in emotion in this video and I want to thank you for that as most videos seem to skip this about ENFPs. We are feelers. Thank you for understanding that and for helping me understand myself. I see what ENFJs bring to the world now as you just gave me my social mission in two words. Creativity and feeling. I appreciate you and your channel.
you sounded like crying i almost fell for it like a couple times no kidding omg
Meghan, this comment is long overdue, but I just wanted/needed to tell you how much I LOVE your channel!! 💕 YES….you are AMAZING at this. Your analysis & insights are ALL spot on. 👌
I’m going through your backlog as the TH-cam algorithm recommends them to me. I add the videos to my psychology & wellness playlist, and as I do I consider each one a treat (i.e., mind candy 🍭), and because they’re longer & I want to give them my full attention, I wait till I have a tactile, “brainless” activity to do (like cooking for hours) so I can binge-listen and focus on your words.
My first video was about what you love about INTJs, and because you were so accurate there, I continued on, and have enjoyed each & every video since.
You’ve got a beautiful mind, heart & soul, and I love the honesty, candor, and vulnerability you bring to your coaching style. I feel that I can trust you, due to your authenticity and integrity (I know there’s a lot of overlap there).
Thank you for being you, and for following your soul’s calling. 🙏✨💕 And make sure you give back to yourself, as you give to others. ☯️ 🥰
Sincerely,
Another one of your INTJ fans (and you know how selective we are) 😉
Wow. You articulate things so well. Massive respect.
This sums up my personality very well! I’ve always wanted to make other people to understand their own and best potential, cheering them on! And for those who for some reason doesn’t seem to figured me out (even though I’m an open book), I’ll refer them to this video! Thank you Meghan!😊👏🙏💕
She must be saved at all costs lads! Bless your heart, wasn't ready to get a visit from the Oninjas 😂🙏❤️
ew "love letter" -- jk. But good job on this one, it's not every day someone can read us so well by really understanding our functions/information elements, and how we are somehow useful on the planet
Thank you for this!! This enfp is trying to embrace his better instincts and quality after losing himself. Thank you!!!
Dangit I’m crying 😭
This video is one of the few from certain complementary types that really hits home. You make a lot of observations that make me feel seen -by someone who’s never met me 😊
Thank you for this. Needed to hear every word and you describe how I feel so clearly it’s scary
That's right... I've always thought that I'm always on my own side.. And felt bad about that sometimes. Like I'm not hard enough on myself. So even when I really am selfcritising and I should be, I still encourage myself like I would someone else.
“Feeling like you’re invested in humanity and feeling rejected by them” god damn it. This is conflict number 1. I just want people to be happy and survive comfortably lol. Thank you for your genuine words. I think Fi is emotion logic. Like if you value this, then you would do these things. And Ne + Fi is seeing all the values in the world playing out to make a story in itself.
The sentence when you emphasized on that we are “good enough as we are,” while that loving sentiment is very much appreciated, we’ll never accept it. We will see our positive attributes...but... on the other side of the double-headed coin, we know that the negative exists and will work inexhaustibly to lessen the collateral damage internally and externally. Harnessing the chaos within our minds and souls positively is most probably a life goal for every single ENFP. Oh....and..um..to stop relentlessly shoving both of our feet down our own throats all of the time just for the sake of conversation (talking to you Teens & early twenty-somethings, we all know the pain).
Paused after the introduction to say thank you for sharing that internal evaluation and feeling response being an extoverted feeling dominant , I related so much to that tidbit and it was healing & refreshing to see it explained so succinctly through a guide in the physical (in this case, You)'s personal perspective.
This was wonderful. You really spoke to some of the deepest parts of myself.
Thank you for the video!
Sad ENFP here, because I just realized I was never in a relationship, where my partner accepted me. I always have to change things so I'm ok in peoples eyes. It makes me so sad I want to cry.
I'm in my 30s and I think I have to give up on having a family now, I don't know if I can ever find someone 😞 I breaks my heart, I always wanted to be a mom...
Healthy boundaries ova here.
I thought this was supposed to be a love letter not a personal attack 🤣 I’m just teasing 😊 It was very sweet and made me tear up a little bit 🙂 Thank you for making this video 😊💜
I like her and I don't know why. 😊
Thank you sweetheart! You are truly beautiful inside and out! 💖😘 Keep spreading your love! We all need it more than ever! 🥰
You really hit the mark describing ENFP.
Being an ENFP ain't easy as some might think..... Our sensitive nature makes us Ho through a lot..... Meghan... I'm so happy that u could understand us so well.... Like felt like as if u have ranted my heart out...... Thank u for gathering those thoughts which we ENFPs can collect but r unable to express..... I've never had an ENFJ friend ... I always wished I did.... But seeing ur videos I'm like hey u see her.. She is helping u which means ENFPs mean something to her.... People mean something to her.... U ain't useless..... Well thank u for making me feel like that.... It's not everyday that we feel understood......
Thank you, this was amazing, I’m an enfp and needed this so much from a different perspective, I matter in the world again, lots of love, you’re amazing, thank you for taking the time for us❤️ and yes you can do what you do best, say it loud and say it proud!💖😌
I love the background and aesthetics 😍 it’s so beautiful
11:20 as an ENFP I can confirm but I definitely do this im very careful when I pledge my loyalty to someone Id much rather pledge loyalty to my values I'd much rather pledged loyalty to a cause I believe in. there are people that do end up earning my loyalty, but they have to earn it
Amazing, a very focused but also nuancing letter. Thank you! One of my best (male) friends is an ENFJ, it’s amazing how he sounds just like you. To me it always seems like I get drawn to people, when I initiate contact that’s where my power lies, I indeed seem to get people and I can active their best version when I’m around. While he naturally draws people’s attention, like they want to hop on his energy flow. I can get people to believe in themselves, he gets people to believe in the world.
Girl your talking to us. U be u 😍 thank you for making this. It's wonderful👍🏼💯
this is a daily dose of dopamine :)
Love this.. you're amazing!!
I feel like my leo sun and scorpio rising self and my enfp self match so well (if anyone is into astrology)
Wait you're leo
And your ascendent is scorpia
And you're an enfp
OMFG GIRL SAME IM LIKE THAT TOO OMFG
This was really helpful. I commented so much before watching it all. To echo everyone else here and what you yourself said, you DO have a lot to bring to the MBTI crowd.
this is way too wholesome. you're making a ton of emotional connections. i appreciatessss 💕 - enfp
Explains my obsession with bios!
All my ENFP life, I've been different and i never really knew why until I took the MBTI test and i researched what being an ENFP means and why I am like I am. I wanted and still want that friend who can break through my layers and see the me I hide from everyone. I've had people who have doubted my abilities with relationships (A known ENFP skill) and I've been through a lot in general especially for being an ENFP male, I'm hyper emotional and that part I don't like to show others, thank you for posting this.
i love this, so well made yet talking so real about how everything is with ENFPs (i'm one too)
Spilling out ova here.
The quintessential ENFP and my favorite, is Hank green 😊
As an ENFP, I’m humbly the most attentive listener I know 😅☺️😔
ENFP here, thanks for making this video
I'm throughing myself a pity party right now. Oh yeah party on blah.
❤️❤️❤️
You are sooooo sweet!! At first, I could sense the j in your thinking, which has always somewhat scared me due to my childhood. But you are just so sweet, thank you for allowing me to see this side of you
I'm crying with you. Going through a pity party right now actually. I'm pulling myself out of it
I also struggled with knowing how to express myself especially any knowledge for the longest time
Ooh, challenges of leading w intuition
Scary how accurate this is! Love it ... do you have an email I can contact you on? I'd love to tell you an epic true story in the making about saving the world, and you can be a part of it :)
hello@meghanlevota.com!
Wonderful video Meghan! I've been watching your videos for a while now and they never cease to help me learn about myself (ENFP :D) and others. Your previous video provided great insight into INFJs as well and helped me see some of the nuance I can miss with my boyfriend of that type sometimes. As a "P" user I really envy your "J" ability to summize and collect these thoughts, kudos! Thank you very much for your wisdom and kind words, you are a very beautiful soul. Love from Ireland
Thank you!! This means a lot for me to read
Definitely listening at 1.25. ENFPs do this. Some of these things are spot on, but some of isn’t for me. I am definitely ENFP by multiple tests and with others assessment. But nice talk. ❤️😊
Thank you so much for this video. Today was quite a bad day for me and I'm still feeling down a bit. But your video helped a lot!
Lot's of love - an ENFP
off topic: You are so pretty! And I love the way you talk
This was very insightful, especially the the last half.
I think because we enfps use Ne and Fi, everything we come across we unconsciously see its F potential (this is not meant to be funny, don't read it as a pun referring to the enfp stereotype lol). I mean that for us everything has an F halo around it, and because we bring Ne, we see the potential F in people and things, not really seeing things as they are.
Oh you just said this. "The dissonance between the ideal you see and the real world"
you're very knowledgeable
Thank you.... 100000% relate.....im an enfp. We love u too
ENFP are great listeners 💯😊
So right off the bat I think logical thought is bound by limited perspective and to limit it for emotional values isn't taking emotional impact in account. I don't think those 2 things are separate. Can't there be a logical explanation for an emotional response? I love the rawness of your content more then anything. That's what we appreciate the most ad enfp. We don't want you to strip your own voice and explanation of emotions. Because all of it has a place in the refinement of what we see as logic. Most people like to label us unlogical.... but in reality that couldn't be farther from the truth. We just dont limit logic by not acknowledging reaction and limiting are avenues to correlate additional perspectives. It's why we are capable of getting to the deepest depths of a conversation so quickly. Because emotions either protect or are incorporated in those depths. Everything we know is supplied by people . So how wouldn't you be able to refine logic through more engaging human interactions . 🤔
Wow. Thank you for sharing. Great insight!!
Just found out about MBTI and also that I am an ENFP. Thx for the content. helped me to understand more! :-)
Killed it!
Thank you for this! 🤗❤️
Thank you thank you thank you
I feel understood
so Insightful as always Meghan, and encouraging, too. thank you
Thank you!!
For me as an enfp reality is actually very black and white. It's where all of our core values are derived from. What we know for sure. The pure necessities of life are represented instinctively by all living organisms on this planet. Eat..sleep...drink...reproduce..and inevitably die. We can all exist on instincts alone and that's all that's necessary for life. Which would make everything else unnecessary.... it's not that everything else has no value. It's just deciphering what's the most important and all inclusive of the unnecessary. Were deeply rooted to our instincts and a majority of enfp's are also fully capable of providing them for themselves independently. Where the majority of society has lost sight of the ability to obtain these necessities independently. We see value in progression and power to do more as a group. But we also understand it's important to progress as people with a purpose. If not is it progression at all? If we appreciate our necessities less and no one holds them these essential values close. We know the effect it will have if theses values are lost. What if farmers no longer feel appreciated. What if money has no value because the farmers don't need money to survive.. But the majority of people have replaced the skillset of obtaining there own necessities of life in exchange for using money to obtain these necessities. So if someone isn't going amongst everyone in all the groups and showcasing genuine appreciations of the good in each person individually. The people that supply the only things that are truly necessary for survival. Could one day become resentful of the money that represents power and the disrespect it has to the ones who are driven by values. Farmers get fed up with how ungrateful and unaware you are of them. They choose to only provide to those who are? Then what? A majority of this population will die of starvation before they ever regain the skills necessary to provide for themselves. Money isn't edible, or thirst quenching. It also by no means will buy you happiness. That's reality. Everything else is built upon the simplicity of our reality. Being raised in the country but accepting of everyone. There's starting to be a big gap in between the city and the country. There's a misconception in the the big city train of thought. That we all need money to survive. The more you have the more successful you are perceived to be. You want to progress blindly, while people lie homeless and hungry in your streets. Luxurious and financially rich, represent how suitable you are as a mate. In the eyes of those in the country , they have lost complete track of reality. You will never find homeless or hungry in the small communities that they reside. There communities are driven by values not status. In fact farmers are some of the most modest people in mankind. They don't take kindly to displays of power through wealth. They don't appreciate the rich lawyer with his 90k car disrespect the waitress of resteraunt. They are becoming more and more fed up with the complete loss of appreciation for there unwillingness to participate in the showcasing. They may represent a very small portion of the nation's wealth and very little political recognition due to representing a small portion of the population... But because they don't need any of you , or your money to survive, they could be pushed to a point of completely abandoning of the unappreciative, who no longer exhibit the values necessary for peace and kindness. This is are role as an enfp throughout our conversations. Collect as much as we can from all perspectives... while sharing the perspectives of all. Maybe people don't realize how simple it is to independent of money and that it's not necessary to conform to the majority to live. This happens there money becomes completely obsolete
Thank you! ❤️ (Enfp)
I love your love letters, you say so many beautiful things 🥹
The only thing I would say is that sometimes I can actually be very very serious about my core beliefs and I don’t necessarily hold space for people that disagree or violate those beliefs. Like I think that even people that voted for someone that I absolutely find vile and evil, I will have a hard time understanding how they could do that. And maybe that’s just a trauma thing or maybe that’s common with ENFPs, I’m not sure. But I definitely do that with certain things
i loved this 🥺🥺🥺
Thank you for a wonderful video!
Maybe ISTJ would be interesting!
Seriously, yes, stop comparing to sensors 🥺
That was just great! you're a gifted speaker
i am an enfp quite shocked
that was quick, looking forward to this series!
you know youre an enfp if you've scrolled this far to find this comment whilst listening
Regarding your advice at the end of the video (don't worry about trying to be like the thinking types, use the skill that you have), do you have any suggestions for how to keep up with the constant thirst ENFPs have for ideas? For the last 6months or so I've been feeling guilty for not reading and have tried to force myself to read for an hour a day. Still, I notice that reading is not when I have my most spontaneous, quick, thrilling thoughts. Should ENFPs try to get out in the world and have as many experiences as possible/ enroll in a hobby? What is the environment that is most conducive to when ENFPs can be use their creativity?
Maybe go out and find a hobby where you can become better and constantly improve while meeting others. I started dancing 2 years ago for example, I have now learned salsa, bachata, zouk and some swing and tried more dances! I have found a passion that is very fun because I'm meeting new people but it's not pointless and the dance parties aren't pointless since I'm actually having fun and becoming better at my dance! When I have one hobby like this, then it feels really nice and good to come home to a book too. I have balance in my life in that way. I don't know the best environment to be creative. I can get very creative while talking about different ideas with other passionate people. If I were maybe to do some creative project with others, that would maybe take out my creative side a lot, especially if I were to be in a group were everyone is encouraging each other, but I'm not sure what that can be. I think it's really good to have some hobby where you can relax and get out some energy, pottering seems fun. I don't know if this was a good answer at all haha! XD For me, I have this thirst too for ideas and knowledge, so when I finally find a new intriguing idea I can relax again and start devouring the ideas hahahaha! Right now I have really been into the Bible, there's truly so much wisdom in it! One really interesting book that Im reading is called "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" - this book is teaching me a lot and it's so exciting to finally understand... It really depends on what you are interested in actually... You really must seek for yourself for what it is that you want to learn in life, and just go for it! Try different things, both alone but also with other people. Excuse my maybe strange and all over the place answer
Uhhhh hmmm this is sounding unrelatable so far. Like there are relatable parts but more unrelatable parts in such a small time though.
Okay you changed my mind straight away; so relatable. So there have been some things that I disagree on but they’re small. THANK YOU FOR TALKING ABOUT US BEING GOOD JUDGE OF CHARACTER, NO-ONE BELIEVES ME, I have trust issues and can get paranoid, BUT IM RIGHT O . O
Seriously how do you know this about us. I mean the thing about the grey and seeing the good and bad. Yes there are no moral absolutes. We can even see the beauty 8n struggle and how people are forced to be come selfish to survive. We are not selfish ourselves. But we can see the purity in the quest for survival. Just as one example of that grey. We can even see beauty and dark poetry running through loss and great pain. It's like art. You can't really explain it. Also with us, we start to see this more as we grow older. When very young we can be superficial. Just because we crave connectivity and acceptance. But as adults, we can be very powerful. I don't think you'd find any enfps in jail for doing something that they believe is wrong. The key being what we believe. We would rather starve then be a pawn in someone else's narrative. Or go against our own inner compass. And when we have, it tortures us. Forever. If we went against our own sense of self and did something we think is bad. We can resort to disassociation or drug abuse or self harm etc. We see that as the ultimate betrayal. Going against our own sense of right and wrong. That we decided on. I mean we totally don't give two shots about society and it's rights and wrongs. Because they are just people. Probably dumber people with agendas. Though we can be convinced. And we welcome our POV being challenged and altered. Just a few things about us.
666th like. enfp noticing small details like there's no tomorrow
Thanks for the video. I needed to see this.
As an Infj I think the most and the least of ENFPs even above other INFJs...for us/me truth is that one thing that I crave, I wanna know what holds the world together at its innermost core. I don't want to know the truth, I HAVE to know it, because it is the one thing that frees me. And meanwhile the world, even my own mind creates all those coldhearted abominations of "technically true" to further their own goals, and ecen the few warmhearted ones tell white little lies to protect what is important, yet they dim the light of truth that I crave so much all the same (although for more forgiveable and understandable reasons).
The ENFP I shake my head at. They somehow always make it through crying about everything and yet do things effortlessly. They say so many hurtful things, wothout any self reflection whatsoever, almost like no thought even touched the words that they blurted out. And they never shut up, always seem to crave attention and never show a care in the world.
But here's the kicker, I like them the most by personality type, I trust them almost instantly. And I have to be so careful because as always there is two types of this personality as well, the ones that live for their own selfish desires and use their traits for horrible things, those I don't wanna fall for. The ones I wanna focus on are the real nurturing ENFPs. Those that don't forget their surroundings. Because they are unstoppable storms of positivity to me. I am fascinated watching a goodwilled ENFP in their social performance. They seem to be able to do the things I struggle the most with as an INFJ so effortlessly, at least make it seem so. When they jump in the middle of attention they don't take away from others but shine bright radiant warmth on everyone at their surrounding. They are yappy dogs stumbling over their own feet...or any deep thoughts I would throw at them (at least the ones I know) but I can't help but smile when looking at them. Yes I shake my head in shame for the unfiltered nonesense they sometimes sputter but I will do my damndest to keep my trap shut because since they will talk endlessly I sometimes catch something of theirs that really goes far too deep for what they even noticed themselves, and since they are so unfiltered and warmhearted they are the one type I trust more than any other, because the truth they stumble upon is always of the warmest kind, so unapologetically beautifully seeing the good in the world and others, a truth to grow from, one that is lifegiving.
It's also why I have to be the most careful around them, because an ENFP that is not wellmeaning can so easily walk all over my type while we are the most vulnerable to them. So yeah those goodhearted ENFP for me are the most beautiful sunshines in the world that gotta be protected at all costs since I would be surprised if they wouldn't wanna hug a predator fletching their teeth at them just to see if they're not just little snugglebuddies that just wanna be cheered up after all. They just don't got a care in the world other than to spread happiness and smiles to everyone around. They are the one type that sometimes makes me forget that the world could even be bad, if anything they'd be the one to wonder why someone would be bad if they could just be good as well and they almost make me wonder together with them.
Hi there, I'm an enfp, a good-hearted one.. I'm not saying that to flatter myself I just mean that seriously I am a very emotionally safe person in the sense that people can trust me. They don't even realise how much they could trust me. I don't know anyone who I can trust the way that they could trust me if you know what I'm saying. You feel lonely. You have trust issues but that's because youve intuited the way that people are a little glad when you have something bad happen and privately don't want you to soar. But I want to say that I'm not carefree and I want to say that life and relationships and interactions and self issues are not effortless. In fact it can be pretty horrible when everything you receive is wrapped in feelings. It's not a normal day, it's not a normal conversation. Everything has a layer of feelings. You're never just doing something or seeing something or conversing. Why does everything have to be beautiful and special and you want to peel back the curtain on everything. Why do you have to consider so many subjective perspectives.. and see the possible good intentions in everybody.. you have no clarity. Always unsure. Balancing so many feelings and thoughts. Why do you zoom in on the individual beauty and value in people and so you desire connection. It's not attention-seeking, its connection-seeking. Its lonely being an enfp sometimes.
And I'm not in lala land. I know there are hard truths and I don't wear rosetinted glasses...but I can't help but wonder about the little boy that once was before they became a monster. So yeah, my mind is always attuned to idealism.
Oh and I do reflect on my words and actions... too much sometimes! And being unfiltered as you say makes that reflection even cringier sometimes 🤦♀️
Ivory Torea I am a nurturer and advocate and I don’t think before I speak. I speak and then deal with the other person’s reaction. I noticed you said the same thing three times in different ways. I do not like your annoyance with ENFPs and how much we talk. What I have to say is important and fun!
I met a new INFJ recently and I have been thinking about your type for quite awhile now. I had a gut feeling they were one when I saw them the first time a few weeks ago. Now I know for sure. They didn't know, never heard of MBTI. I feel I must be cautious and not overwhelm them. I am eager to speak with them again. (ENFP)
I'm not sure how to take everything you just said in your comment . Giving an ENFP compliments and then belittling them in the same breath. Here's the thing you get it all with an ENFP. We don't hide any of it and our evolution comes from being external and sharing our vulnerabilities. But our power is that we give YOU that space in return and without judgement. How you use or don't use that unique space we give you is up to you, be don't begrudge us this aspect of ourselves because you may have met an unhealthy ENFP somewhere. That is a sign of an underdevelopment of any one of the mbti personalities.
Also yay thanks for this video!! I'm surrounded by many fabulous ENFJ's 💜💜
i love you