rick beckers Yeah.. But it doesn't mean they don't love to be successful. They just don't want to sacrifice their values and inner peace for success or to show off. INFPs prefer to combine their passion with their job, so that they can be happy and fulfilled all day.
@@MrNoufa10 : I think the vast majority of us, understood "POWER" instead of the mainstream definition of "success" when we resonated with that sentence. And I am sure that we, as INFPs, have multiple definitions for "success" in our complex minds. For many of the people out there, success is equal to POWER. For the mainstream, economical and social success is driven by the power of money. For us, success has many levels and they have to be aligned with our deep-rooted values, which, as you said, can be developed the whole day, at best also including working time. And we know that we'll have the "social success" around us in return. And harmony around. That's our "drive".
Yes, peace over success, life is too short to be wasted on goals and values that are not your own. In the end, no one will share your regret. It will be yours alone, if you are not true to who you are.
@@MrNoufa10 this is true. i think a lot of people see success as money, having lots of nice things or being the top of the career ladder, where as for us INFPs success is more about being able to live a life thats meaningful and matches our values.
Patrycja Kowalska I TOTALLY hear you! I am so understanding and merciful to others. Even when they’ve done the most hurtful or outrageous stuff but I can’t seem to ever be understanding or easy on myself. I literally just learned about being an INFP within the last few weeks and it explains so much of why I do and think certain ways.
@@jusforjesus yes, that explains so much. The older I am the more I try to be more conscious of how I treat myself, but I do the same thing over and over again, being hard on myself. I think it stems from having idealistic, good nature and setting high moral standards for ourselves, we have high conscience, kind of ironic, as these same values make us merciful to others even when they don't deserve it. I find it kind of relief other INFP's share this trait, I feel understood and not alone in it.
Patrycja Kowalska double thumbs up! I’m 39 as of Jan and my entire life was always very well liked and popular but would at the same time go into what I called “isolation mode” around those very people when in groups larger than say 2 or 3. You’re definitely NOT alone! Over the last 3 or 4 years I became a devout Christian and have no problem preaching when asked to speak or share my testimony but otherwise I will shy away from the spotlight. I’ve always wondered why I seem to be such an anomaly. I love people and will do almost anything to help them; even strangers but I spend so much time alone bcz I can’t handle them for extended periods. I would love to hear other things you or other INFPs have thought or discovered bcz I find this liberating, refreshing and empowering now. And I most certainly bless you for taking a moment to respond and be vulnerable!
Every time I hear people talk about INFPs, they are giving us high praise for being the way we are. But, I also know that we are known commonly as the most lonely type. Why is this? I'm an INFP, and everyone I form some sort of connection with tells me I'm great, and true, etc.. But they never seem too eager to spend much time with me. Can anyone tell me if they've had this problem?
Tim Horton That's the story of my life. Exactly what I was thinking while listening to this video. No matter how deep or intimate the connection I make with people I almost alway find myself the only one reaching out.
Especially when dating it hurts a lot when you get attached to the degree that you lose yourself, and the other person seems to forget about your existence very quickly
This is a fantastic question!! I will make a video on this topic. I have lots to say. short answer is that i think that even though infps might seem lonelier (and in some cases thats true), they are much more comfortable with alone time than others. other types seek out stimuli to distract them from the lonley feeling, but they feel emptiness inside.
Ja, same here. Guess it´s just that most other types don´t put so much into realtionships like we do. It is hurtful in a way, yes. But that´s how it is. Listen to "Porcelain" from Skott, I love how she describes exactly this . And remember what strong positives you get as well out of your deepness! ;)
Based on observing my own life, I think I have a theory on why we're often so lonely (This is really only half-theory, the other half vent). I find, examining my life closer, that I'm well-liked by most people, they reveal their traumas to me and it's very rewarding to help them sort through it. But it's like, no matter how many friends I actually have, how many deep connections I forge, it's never quite enough. As if, merely by having to use words, I'm compromising. It takes a different kind of understanding to mutually appreciate those moments between words. I actually find myself to be the one sort of habitually blowing people off, and that certainly doesn't make connecting any easier. Anxiety of messing up good relationships or having a bad first impression combined locks me into putting off interaction. There's also the fear that people are just lying. That all probably stems from the Te demon. But, yeah, I think our loneliness is somewhat self-imposed, however much that hurts to admit. It's also partially just inevitable. When your feelings are so specific, detailed, nuanced, and you actually care about those details, it's going to be hard to find someone who can relate.
For me a quote that I as an infp can relate to is I want to be a mystery, yet be known , I want to be together, yet alone, Is it too much to ask to be famous, yet alone, To be a wanderer, yet have a home?
So very true its kind of our way of testing people to see who wants to vibe with us and stick around lol...you don't like our authenticity....Next plezzz 😂🤣
As a male infp, what I’ve noticed is that the reason we tire around social situations is because we feel like we’re constantly acting and not being (or allowed to be) our true selves. This is especially true with new relationships. We have trust issues probably stemming from our childhood and what we’re thinking isn’t always what is traditionally “acceptable to say”. But anyways, I want infp’s and really all introverts to know that it’s ok to be yourself. You don’t have to pretend. You are loved and accepted and you’re probably not the only one feeling the way you do in certain social settings. It’s just up to you to tell others about it
I know exactly what you mean. I've only just discovered I have this personality type... Or that these types even existed at all. I think I've played at being an extrovert as a survival due to childhood, but in doing so I've felt a complete fraud, and Ive run myself into bouts of depression as I find it difficult to maintain. my closest friends understand this cycle. I feel so relived others feel the same and knowing now not to be so hard on myself and now understand I really need space to myself.
Yep, I tend to "act" out a version that I think will please the most each person, soo afraid to show the real me because them they can hurt me, if you hurt what I pretend to be I wont feel it, because I never even let you know me. But, that doesnt work and I feel isolated and a stranger to myself, so, fuck it I might aswell risk being hurt ou disliked, at least it will be for who I am
I'm an infp, when I'm upset I don't want anyone to talk to me or try to help me bc I know I have to focus on what I'm feeling and really understand what is causing it, but at the same time it just kills seeing people around you and not being able to say anything about what's going on and not wanting to unload to them. At the same time I desperately want somebody to sit down and hash it out with me like I do with others. Also some people get upset with me bc if they are in a bad mood and don't ask for my help or advice I won't say anything, almost assuming they don't want to be talked to like I do.
The worst thing is listening people problems , seeing them care for other people problem , knowing when they are sad or happy but when it happens to you you just stand there in silence. You want to scream what you feel but the words just can't reach the tip of your lips .
@@fan-sy9fs honestly tho lately I've been having childish tantrums n whatnot 😔 my outburts have been really bad that now I kinda turned all of them into thinking that they are bad people so right now I'm currently taking a break from them I'll be online just probably not involved cause I just need time 😔 anywho! HOPE I WASNT RUDE RANDOMLY RANTING OR TALKING CAUSE I UNDERSTAND BRO
This video has done more for me than 2 years of therapy :) Being an INFP is slowly going from being a curse to becoming a blessing, the more I learn to embrace it. Thank you!
Francois Lapikas Hi! I'm INFP also....I feel more at peace and closer to God (or the one life source......however you name it......sure it doesn't matter Lol) when I am in solitude that at any other time! I don't think I have ever felt lonely ! In this mad and crazy world this is definitely a super power! 😆👍
Francois Lapikas Same here. I have felt the blessing and curse. I have made peace with it. She does a wonderful job on this video i think. Entirely me. You are not alone.
She definitely has some good insights. Between prayer, counseling, self-exploration, and some of the more helpful TH-cam videos related to the INFP, I can definitely see and relate to the cyclical nature of feeling like my personality and cognitive function stack as a blessing or lack thereof.
INFP has a really crappy name though, especially when you're a guy. What I called my logic and opinions all my life are called feelings, apparently :) Now I understand why meditation came so easy for me and provided so much benefits. And why when self love came it healed me so much and felt soo right..
“When you’re yourself you’ll attract the right people, and push the wrong people away.” Nailed it. When I am healthy I’m myself even if I get flack from the people around me. I don’t want to be around the people who don’t want to be around me. It’s basically the ultimate shit test, it’s a quick filter to draw in the right people and because of this I’ve had 7 + year amazing friendships with people.
Being an inexperienced INFP can be a curse. However being an experienced one is a huge blessing. Once you hit a certain threshold your social life takes off and personal relationships become much more fulfilling.
I know what you mean because I recently hit that point. I did notice a shift. And I'm delighted with the person I have become. And you know something? Other people are beginning to comment that they like the way I think.
So true. It's interesting to hear a lot of the INFP strengths that she mentioned, because those are the same exact thing that I doubted about myself when I was younger, because from my ISTJ & ISFJ parents' perspective, the world works in the exact opposite way, and I was expected to follow it. It's only after I'm older and have gone through therapy that I realized that those things I felt discouraged to do are my strengths, and that many other people value them too.
"In the midst of hate, I found there was, within me, an invincible love. In the midst of tears, I found there was, within me, an invincible smile. In the midst of chaos, I found there was, within me, an invincible calm. I realized, through it all, that… In the midst of winter, I found there was, within me, an invincible summer. And that makes me happy. For it says that no matter how hard the world pushes against me, within me, there’s something stronger - something better, pushing right back." (Camus) One of my favourite quotes and one that really explains how I work as an INFP especially Introverted Feeling. (Oh yes and INFP;s are probably the quirkiest and kinkiest people you have ever met but we rarely share that with other people :)
My pleasure! Albert Camus was very likely an INFP but it doesn't surprise me that the quote resonates with an INTJ (Isaac Asimov was very likely an INTJ I think...)
As an INFP I could relate a lot to these points. I quit a job once because of one of the managers had some of the same behaviors towards me as my abusive ex-husband, it caused such discord inside me that I ultimately decided it wasn't worth it, couldn't really explain my reasoning to people especially my ISTJ dad who considered it irresponsible. But I value my inner peace more than a job.
i had to ask to be transferred halls because i had an LPN that consistently belittled and underminded me my father was abusive if they hadnt moved me i would have quit i get you 100%
I just did the same thing. And you're right today people don't understand.. My little sister tried to throw shade and said she would never give up a job because her boss is mean to mean. What I couldn't explain was that my new boss was a classic narc and I had just got out of a marriage to one. I'm still recovering. I wasn't going to put up with that on my job. I had the ability to retire early so I took it. Ppl understand from their level
I can relate because i also quitting my most secured job people can think of (working in government considered as almost perfect job because you won't get fired that easily) .. I feel its not worth it because of constantly being put into same type of mentally abusive boss..
Yeah, I don't understand how ISTJs can just stubbornly persist doing things that they clearly hate and are toxic for them. The way I see it is, your survival instinct made you quit that job. The ISTJ doesn't see it that way, because they have a different definition of "survival" (the concrete one which involves money and resources). I, too, have an ISTJ dad, and it has been challenge trying to balance taking his advice and believing in my own priorities and judgments.
I truly dread when people, I barely know, come up to me and tell me the most intimate details of their life's & it happens all the time. I never(!) ask nor inquire. The reason, after these encounters, I know we can never be true friends. - Often, people tell me how easy it is to talk to me & how relaxing/calming it is to be around me, all the while my nerves are absolutely jangled because I have nothing to say to them. Afterwards, they return to their, (what seems to me), phony world of competition & one-upmanship, where they can never be themselves. A world that looks down upon people like me, living a simple, quiet, life. A world which I absolutely refuse to join in or mettle with. They need to change, not me.
Neither you nor the broader social world will ever change in those meaningful ways- you have to learn to accept these things for the way they are. The INFP type has evolved as a necessary part of this species to perform some important work. We should be grateful for being able to help the world just by the way that we listen/communicate with others, even if this is really difficult to do. There are ways to restore the nervous energy that you lose in the process, and these ways are always worthwhile as an act of service to humanity. Even if the rest of the world does not reciprocate our energy in the the same manner, all of the other types still do their own service to everything in their own ways. We can always be friends with all kinds of people, and we can always learn things from them. All the best to you my friend.
You literally described my big sister, she's an INFP. INFPs are the chillest calmest sweetest creatures that even I as an ENFP can learn SO MUCH from them even though we're sister types.
Meghan LeVota I can relate to most of it actually, the only thing that I don't feel the connection to is the parts where your Fe was being compared to Fi. It's even worse for me actually, because it's like I KNOW what INFPs know, but man.. that Ne-Te loop can get the best of me a lot of the time. Personally, I can't think of anyone else better to talk to than INFPs, because they remind me a lot of who I really am at my core.
As an INFP, when I sense that I’m being held to exterior, worldly standards, things get really fuzzy when it comes to figuring out my identity. I have to remember who I am according to God and the value I have as an individual. It’s hard though. Also, it’s pretty interesting how INFPs are usually idealistic but can really see the practicality of acknowledging the reality of situations and emotions.
Abigail Olson you believe in God wow that’s awesome I’m an INFP and I do too one thing I have dedicated myself to is trying to understand every truth of the Bible. Adressing your bottom comment from what I’ve read I believe that you are more of a mature INFP like myself because a lot of immature INFP’s can lose touch with reality and could be susceptible to delusions which was one of my biggest problems. Anytime I plan on doing something I reflect on if I’m staying true to myself am I being biased and are my intentions pure that’s how I help prevent from losing touch with reality. I also sometimes get caught up imaging future events and possible intentions of people. I’m sorry if I typed to much I don’t want to give you too much info but if you read it Thankyou it really meant a lot have a blessed day
Hey guys. I'm a christian infp too (if that's what yall meant when you said God). I found this guy Denzel Mensah about 3 days ago. Christian life coach and musician. Enfj. Also very interested and knowledgeable on the mbti. I'm just excited and please that there are more Christians that also like the mbti
As an INFP I feel like I have almost no control over the external world because I don't really understand it. What I do understand is my feelings and what I can do is work on controlling my behavior. A lot of times if I seem calm it's because I've already internally gone through the panic and realized it doesn't help and it's not worth spending the emotional energy. All I can do is be where I am, try to understand what I feel and why I feel that way, and then try to respond to my feelings in a positive way. But that also means I detach from things... it's not always good when, say, I need to pick a career path and I spend 5 years just shrugging about it instead of picking one because I don't have enough experience to make a decision.
I feel this comment ... my ex used to complain that I didnt react "correctly " he called me cold and heartless (there's a reason hes my ex) but I would tell him I see no need to get worked up or upset about something that just is ... I can often be found to say "why get so upset it doesnt accomplish anything" that doesnt mean I havent reacted to it I just dont see the need to waste my time on being upset or angry I'd much rather work through that emotion and find a solution to the issue. I often this leaves me looking like a rather cold person
What is amazing to me is the speed that the comments filled up very quickly for this type. We do like you tube videos, and especially yours. We INFPs love the DEPTH you dive into. Like a banana split. I don't think the other types understand this.
thank you!! I appreciate you guys. :D I've joked before to my friend, well maybe I should just only make videos about INFPs because they actually comment and like it LOL. It's funny because ENTPs always comment and say that they get bored and to make shorter videos or to "get to the point" but it's funny, some types actually want things to be explained in multiple ways in order to get it. I try my best to please everyone, but it's hard when different people want different things
I sometimes feel impatient as well if someone repeats a lot. But if, like you do, one says things from different perspectives it´s definately good to orbit around the topic and present a broader spectrum of it. So it´s A. more graspable if in case I don´t understand the point on first sight, or B. it adds on to the depth of the given topic. Don´t make it too hard Meghan, you actually do it very well. ;) -Hope you don´t suffer that much because of us. hehe
Thank you! Yeah I think that in my older videos I used to just say something one way with Ni-Se and then I noticed a lot of Ne users would get confused. Now, I try and say something at least 3 ways before I move on to a new topic, to make sure I don't have to make a follow up video or get defensive in the comments :P But TPs sometimes grasp what I am trying to say immediately when I am sharing Ti and get bored. Or, NPs grasp my Ni immediately and get bored. Different types are going to understand certain aspects of what I say faster and other aspects slower hahah. But thank you so much for your comment! :D
That´s cool. I actually do it the same way since some years and am astouned how well people understand me due to this; surely I bore some people as well and have to explain this behaviour then explicitly as well. But I am glad to be understood much better in general and often find myself in fruitful conversations then. Keep up your unique style. I like how you adapt and learn quick. And how you find a good 'middle'-way. :)
I really love how you know INFPs so well. It’s very calming because I think most of us need that validation. Living in an SJ dominant world can be very difficult for this type.
INFP here. Your comment- (paraphrased) INFPs really don't want the conversation about them, they want to sit with the emotion and process it on their own. Very true for me. I love being myself and go deep into the feeling. I grow, and learn, so much from that. Also, as strange as it may seem, I nowdays like being faced with intense emotions that I need to go into. I find I grow and learn about myself so much from that. Also-they judge people based on intention a lot. Also very true for me. Normally I know why I am upset about something. Another point-it is great now more than ever that we can be "freaks" and be really cool with that!
Agreed! I've always been a healthy INFP, but I never quite understood why I always felt like such an oddball. And that always bothered me. Super important for INFPs to know their type so they can fully self-actualize and get out there and do our thing!
Hi Meghan, I'm a 30 years old metalhead mechatronics engineer, took the personality test two days ago and I turned out to be an INFP-A. I've been binge watching your vidoes on INFPs, and the genuine amout of love you have for us and how much you try to understand us made me cry. Just wanted you to know.
i have a better word for the infp believe in luck or good fate, its more like: „what else can i do than stay true to myself and hope for the best!“ this hope is also viewed by others as naivity i think...
As an INFP, I can attest to this 100%. This is very accurate insight on what everyday life feels like for me. I wish I could like this video multiple times.
Infp here with unsupportive childhood. One thing I've had trouble with in life is being afraid to complain or share negative information that might make me look bad. So I've let down others and myself. I want to live up to my ideals. But social anxiety makes it so difficult.
I had a troubled childhood too and I can tell it's Completely true. I was like that until two years ago. But I finally came to the understanding people will say what ever they want no matter what we say or do. So, I don't care anymore. If they can't accept for who I am it's their problem. I think what you need is a really good friend who can guide you through and tell you when you are wrong and appreciate you when you're right. Wish you all the best to overcome your social anxiety
This is fab. When you talk about the infp test: 'They're gonna say some kind of weirdness...' made me loool 😂because it's completely true. Meeting infps who would rather be real than liked/understood is the most refreshing thing in the world. 💖 infps 💖 your vids
Josephine Rose People looking at me in bemusement is a fact of life as well. As a rule we are usually not into the group dynamic and will say something that we’ve thought about and it comes across as unrelated to the people around us.
I agree to what you write, but I would say we are indeed about group-dynamics, just from a more metaphysical standpoint, less from being physicly in the middle of it. :D
Josephine Rose I want to be liked and understood. I just don't know how to be anyone other than who I am. I can't bring myself to be someone that I'm not.
I have ADHD and I’m an INFP with hyper empathy. There’s not one person I have ever met that could possibly understand what my life is like or even understand it. It’s nice to see these videos and comments, to see I’m not alone in this crazy world.
I always love the very... clinical? tone of your videos. You're really good at stating what I'm thinking in a very frank way, while I'd like to believe that my thoughts are beyond words. It's surreal, like watching my beliefs materialize in front of me. To look back and go, "I didn't realize I did that but oh my god I totally do," and that could be a good or bad feeling. Thank you for this video.
I'm an infp and sometimes i feel lonely eventhough i have friends.. i really feel comforted just by reading these comments here, knowing that there are people like me :')
I am 'INFP' and I usually like to talk about myself but I also listen othets and Im empathetic. I just don't care over the small thinks of others or everyday things.
Yes. Lack of a best friend where I can share all my passions and all the silly things I like to do and to make deep conversations about things I'm passionate about really sucks. I know what kind of a person I want in my life and I try very hard to become that person
"Am I gonna be able to emotionally show up". Exacttly. I have no qualms about not calling or showing up to anything if I can't give 100 % of me. And, I literally do not call anyone if I am processing my feelings or dwelling.
While I don't like labels, I consistently test as an INFP for years. I've been on a long inner journey and this has been spot on. Very insightful, thank you!
God are you right about us being adamant on giving things our all or holding ourselves and what we do to a certain standard of perfection. How I wish I had the ability to half-ass, but no matter what I do I always end up putting a gratuitous/exhaustive amount of time into everything I do until i'm satisfied with it. If I try to half ass I feel guilty and unhappy with myself. I see how I act and what I do as a reflection of my character and my passion and I hate to be the one to misrepresent those things of all people. I appreciate my thoroughness and unwavering resolve to do and create things i'm truly proud of and know are of quality, but sometimes it is as you said very tiring.
Its kind of funny how social life is for us INFPs so intimidating and interesting... I love meeting new people, at the same time it scares me to contact new people cause they could not like my quirky / weirdness... Sometimes i get dragged into an friendgroup of others and at the start i feel very uncomfortable even though I realize after 1 or 2 weeks how awesome all of them are and then its like a huge blessing that i got dragged in there... And this happens not only in the social life I have but also in my work & creative life... Everytime i want to do something i know it feels comfortable for me i start getting scared / anxious about it... But as soon as i do it... Its one of the best feelings in the world. At the same time it really feels like i should'nt depend on the judgement of others because i have my own values and I am the person living my life... At the same time living my own life and not giving a sht about what others think of me is a cold and boring life... For me life is about these interactions that are that scary and bring my emotions to think about why it is and why i am how i am. Its like you hurt yourself, while beeing completly concious that you do it, but you keep going because something mystic in yourself makes you know this is how you want it... Holy sht.. thats sounds super toxic and masochistic and at the same time i feel like this is super natural xD
I feel so emotional when i watch something that resonates with myself everytime . INFP Feeling that you want to help everyone because you know too how it feels when you are alone no one is coming to you . Feeling happy while being sad . Mixed feelings that you can't express by words .
@5:30 when ur talking about infps being very all or nothing I immediatley was like wow ya Im definatley one of those. I remember i almost failed high school because I sucked at finishing the homework I was given and I hated turning in things I didnt finish or I didnt think was good enough even when I knew turning it in anyway would get me at least a few points. Its like I didn't want my teachers to think thats all I was capable of when I was the one that would always procrastinate doing it or failing to ask for help lol
And you know what. I find happiness in knowing that I am this little being with no great significance in this world. I'm just passing by eating snacks and doing what I like lol. It's comfort knowing I don't have to be a super mega human, I'm happy just sitting with my dog or sitting outside watching people talk to each other.
I'm an INFP and I approve this message. The only thingi half-ass ismy day job, only because I feel like I'm trapped and can't afford to take a risk by quitting it yet. But I work as hard as I can everyday to set myself up to be free from the bonds of mundanity.
Thank you. Very true. Im half assed about school because i feel trapped but i have no choice but to grad and hope i get work somewhere that I'll be happy. For me money is a major motivation because it seems like money gives you the freedom to do whatever you want even if what you want is to "lie around all day". So i dont get when people say infps dont care about money. Money kinda equals freedom. So I'll do all i can legally and morally do to acquire it so i can retreat to my hideout and just live in peace😉😁
I agree that INFPs will tell you that you're alright where you are on your journey, that you shouldn't be hard on yourself because you haven't reached your potential yet. But rather than saying that it's okay not to be there (yet) because you're only human, I would (as an INFP) tell you that you don't have to worry that you're not there yet, because there is no wasted moment in life. Every step, EVEN THE ONES IN THE WRONG DIRECTION, are experiences that let you grow. My little brother is a smart guy, but he got lazy and because he wouldn't study, he didn't complete his medical studies. Sure he lost a lot of money and a few years, but it WASN't wasted. He grew older and more mature during that time, the emotions it evoked in him taught him about life and he learned things and gained experiences. He's studying psychology now and seems to really enjoy it as far as I can tell. So, he might've fucked up and lost money and time when he could instead have kicked his ass into gear and completed those studies, sure. But just because that's not what happened, doesn't mean that time and money was a waste. I don't consider the idea that not being at your best because you're only human is good. That's secretly beating somebody down and discouraging them. If you say that, in their minds it comes across like they can't be better, because they're only human. Instead, I tell them that it's alright, because their steps and stumbles in the wrong direction weren't a waste. They learned from them and grew up a little more. I tell them to think about themselves and study themselves, and then to consider what decision they may want to make to get going where they wish to be. EDIT: At around 20:00 you state that INFPs believe in Fate and Karma and similar things. I personally never really have, but what I believe in are the ripples your behavior causes, both inside yourself and also regarding other people. If you've done your inner homework and have worked on your personal psychological hygiene, then you're free to believe in yourself and you can both consciously, but also so deep that you don't even notice, allow yourself to REALLY put strength and energy into your actions. That's when you will surely succeed. There's not much that will slow you down or trip you up for very long if you feel happily determined to accomplish something. That's got nothing to do with karma or fate, to me those words feel like smoke and mirrors, word-masks people use because they're unable or unwilling to look behind the curtains. But intangible energy is a very real thing. Emotions give you power, putting work in at a spiritual level (be it religious or simply being psychologically aware of yourself) give you energy to do what you consider worth/necessary doing. Similarly the placenta effect is a real thing too. It doesn't make much sense, but it's simply true that believing something can do something, can make it happen (within reasonable limits). Believing a car can fly isn't going to make it fly no matter how hard you try, but if you believe a painkiller will help, it really will even though it shouldn't. Similarly, if you're already not trusting that painkiller, it probably won't stop the pain, even though it scientifically should.
I think Meghan meant it that way. You should know that we have enough sensitivity and tact to say it fitting to the situation, and not that dumpy like you got it ;) EDIT: I read your comment again since the notification brought me here when Tulop commented as well. I noticed that what you wrote about not being Karma, is actually the buddhist definition of Karma. Just wanted to put it out here.
@Walter The Karma thing is interesting, guess I'll check out a bit more about buddhism. I always find it interesting how human thought processes and social aspects are reflected in religions.
@Tulop There are between 100 and 400 million INFPs on this planet. You're going to find a lot of us share many similarities, but even so, there are going to be hundreds of millions of different viewpoints and thoughts on everything, even as we fall under the same category of societal purpose. So, don't worry if your opinion on a matter differs from those of another, or even most INFPS. The endgame should still be the same (to help and improve), so you'll be okay either way. But it's a bit different when non-INFPs try to express how and why INFPs do certain things. They will often miss the nuances and not quite get the picture. The same is true the other way around as well.
@Eleeyah yes, buddhism is very deliberate. It has to do a lot with mindfulness and well.. actually every aspect of life. To keep it short, In my opinion it is the most practical 'religion' and close to many psychologic and sociologic concepts. I recommend you the audios from Alan Watts here on TH-cam. He is theologist and explains buddhistic concepts in a very objective way. Most audios are recordings of his teachings in universites. And always worth an insight. ;) You may also listen to the following one which is not from him but might be interesting for you (if you have time and it doesn´t bother that it´s sequentially translated into German live on stage) th-cam.com/video/v1OkEDKUDCc/w-d-xo.html&list=PLXIdZ3TgxtLc-8d9nefhKJTM5eJ9xdxBD&index=1 Have fun. :)
It's normal because we feel things deeply . However, as you get older you will realize that you are not your feelings, they come and go and so you will need a set of strategies to get the most of your one life on this earth. 1.Get active and move your body to connect to your body. 2. Get busy in small projects/hobbies and get them done. 3. Eat right and avoid sugar and too much processed food. 4. Avoid songs or music that make you feel that emotion. 5. Write in an online journal to get the feelings out of you. 6. Get up take a shower and brush your teeth --if not you will feel like mush all day. Also acknowledge that the feelings are there, you might not understand the feeling, but know that it will pass. I am giving you advice that I wished I had gotten. I wasted my 20s and 30s to depression and now in my 40s things make sense finally. We are late bloomers. If I can save you some decades of wasted time then I will feel good. You can do it.
A side effect of dwelling on pain is experience tolerating pain. Once, I felt the worst, overwhelming, crushing sadness i had ever felt. And deciding to let it in me was the turning point in realizing... it was just a feeling. The cause of which an emotional wound I needed to tend to, but one that didnt necessarily incapacitate me.
This is so accurate! Especially the end! As an infp, I definitely stay true to myself in order to attract the right people in my life and scare away people I'm not meant to form relationships with
I have a bad habit of thinking, "Oh, they know how to maximize their ability the way I do in this situation." No they don't. "Oh, well I don't worry anybody else about an issue. I do it." No they don't, and it'll be time consuming because they aren't as experienced. Their issue will become your issue. I'm an infp and I have a hard time, because I put too much pressure on myself to be as good as I can. INFP's have a habit of getting frustrated when others do something that they've worried about themselves, yet others just do it without any regard. My boyfriend gets irritated at bad drivers(he's infp) and friend/coworker gets irritated when somebody goes into the fitting room without permission(she's an infp). That's a little tid bit, we're very passionate and not always peaceful ☺ We try to be, though. Lmao we're all in the kink community. "Let our freak flag fly" accurate, so so accurate.
This directly reminded me of conversations and even discussions I had with my best friends when I was going through a really hard time. I would totally stop answering to whatsapp's and miss the gatherings because I didn't want to be there If I would be be space minded and could not give them really my attention. Plus, I felt I was just gonna be a statue sitting next to them and making them uncomfortable. A recurring speech I would give when they asked me what was going was "it's ok, I don't want to charge you guys with my issues that really are pure emotions and don't have any logic. I don't want to make you guys sit through me talking about my problems. I'll just feel what needs to be felt and it will go away". Thing is, I didn't think I was making them feel pushed away or as if I didn't trust them or count on them until they told me. It genuinely didn't cross my mind, and it was all a mess because turns out I hurt them when I was trying to spare them exactly that. Hahahaha damn. INFP problems. Besides that, THANKS! Your videos on how you see INFPs really are helping me a lot to understand my interactions from an outside POV.
"INFPs care more about finding peace, than finding success." YEPPPP you hit the mark. Loved the video, thanks! Interesting to hear insights from another personality about ours.
I have an analogy that I tell myself, to help keep me on track for "Being Yourself". Imagine if you were the embodiment of a product in a store. You can be whatever you want, jewelry, a movie, a pack of cigarettes or even a carton of milk. Now ask yourself, which strategy is best for my well being, and which one will increase my chances of finding like minded individuals in my life? *A.* Pretending to be another product to impress others, by lying to yourself and others. Or *B.* Not hiding who you really are, and what your truly made of, by doing what feels right to "YOU." I think you know the "Right" answer, but so many people choose option A, and never find the right customer to pick them up, off of the shelf. These people will never find the right ones for them, because they are putting out a false identity. The right people they need in their lives, can't recognize them for who they really are. Be Yourself...
Someone Random Yeah, its priceless because no one buys it. I'm an INFP and I've on countless occasions counseled a moth headed for flames and they never listened even though I was always right. There's something about us that makes other types think we don't know what we're talking about (maybe its our lack of fashion sense or general impracticality idk), but if we feel strongly enough about something to speak up and risk ridicule (our greatest fear) its because we've thought it through very carefully and know whereof we speak.
It's weird being an INFP. I have people I consider friends that I don't really (almost never) keep in touch with, but then again I don't really keep in touch with any people in my life, unless we have some sort of agreement to talk to each other a specific day each week for example. If I'd go to a party with these friends there will always be someone in my friend group (or one of their friends) that will tell me about a problem they're dealing with, be it their job, family but most of the time I feel like it's about their relationships. I will always sit down and actually listen to what they have to say, never ask any questions that will deepen the conversation, but simply let them pour their heart and feelings out, and once they've said enough for me to paint a picture of what they seeking advice for, I will answer in a simple but yet very broad manner. Example: My friend essentially told me that him and his girlfriend were broken up, but that they kind of were still together and still loved each other very much the same as they did earlier, but didn't refer to each other as boyfriend/girlfriend anymore. They were still seeing each other and from what I could understand neither wanted to see other people. He told me all of this, and after taking everything into consideration, I simple told him that it didn't matter if they put a label of bf/gf on themselves. Why should they define how they feel about each other with words if they know what they feel? It doesn't matter what other people think, just be happy with where you are together. PS -I also want to make clear that even though I don't keep in touch with my friends I still love them dearly and will always be happy to listen to their heartfelt issues in life and try to offer them some peace of mind and a broader outlook and insight on every specific issue they have, so they can reflect on it themselves even after the problem subsides, the peace of mind/ advice will hopefully stay with them and continue to give them insight. PSS( Sorry if it's hard to follow, but my memory is kind of fuzzy about that night as a LOT went down :$ )
16:37 Omg thank you for noticing that we infps are not just explosive at any moment!!! Id like to think people are generally observant of their surroundings (emotions and traits in others) but sometimes there’s a limit to how much or how long people will intently observe.
I don’t know if I believe in miracles, I just believe that if it was meant to be, it will be. When one door closes, that door wasn’t meant to be entered to begin with.
I am an INFP and I fully relate to that. We really need to be authentic and stick to our values, our wise inner voice, and we don't like to hurt people. We seek peace in ourselves and in the world. Thank you for the insight 💚
This is absolutely brilliant ...I'm an ENFP with some experience of INFPs and they are my absolutely favorite type but your insight here blew me away ...learnt so much here that resonates but I'd never actually realised until now...
Yep. Nailed it. Re belief in karma or fate or what not, I don’t know - seems plausible- but I will say emotions are like weather. Everything in this universe changes at its own pace. If ur not happy just wait a bit. If u r doing ur work it will change, probably for the better. This from an old INFP.
INFP here! My head thinks that there is something functioning in the background of our lives. I call it spirituality, energy, god. We decide on a positive or negative action and reap what we sow. From my experience I've found that when I'm acting for the good of things I am blessed w opportunities. For the bad of things like insecurity, ego, and such, I'm negatively affected. Luck is also involved or fate. Sometimes you break your leg and now u can be a professional athlete. It happens but miracles happen too and u should only focus on the miracles.
I literally had to pause the video and sigh contentedly multiple times ^_^ I'm definitely an artsy/bookworm type and I do dwell on emotions very frequently and I find it's not something people usually understand or want to. Which I think is why we can be lonely people, we're so in tune with our own inner workings and other's that it can be hard to ignore the truths we see. Like I can't ignore how bad energy makes me feel just for the sake of company. It needs to be genuine and interesting and worth my own energy. Thank you for going in depth and for your wonderful outlook :)
The irony in this is i'm an INFP but I've forgotten how to INFP in the sense of processing my emotions. I seem to not be able to allow myself to just feel and i've been struggling with invalidating my own emotions because they make no sense or are illogical or are just wrong/based on lies. Maybe it's a Te grip, but it's driving me crazy because logic-ing the emotion is not making it go away (of course) but I can't seem to stop.
hi ! i used to have this problem and have recently helped myself and im thinking about making self help video soon dealing with you your headspace and reacting to the world (sharing a bit of that infp insight) if you're interested check it out i want to make and upload by the 15th
both but I did a heck ton of research on cognitive functions and arrived at the same conclusion that the test gave me. But i'm open to insight if you have any/have observed anythig different
Rocknalldatime99 hey maybe it’d help to dive into a creative activity that is mostly separate from hard logic - i struggle with emotions too, but i find reading poetry or a good book (something that incites empathy or emotional energy from you) really helps
INFP here- Great observations. I feel I am a calm chill reserved person. But I don’t think us INFPs give ourselves enough credit or recognition for having this calm presence, because internally we have this sort of wild world going on. Anyone agree? For the most part I may seem calm on the outside, but in my head I’m thinking “I’m wondering if my insane daydreams are bleeding through from my head” 😂
I would say being an INFP it is the hardest to get past earlier ages, where you literally have no idea what's going with yourself, why you don't fit in even when you try so hard (and get so tired easily from acting so) and none of their conventional advice works (fake it till you make it, and such) And as you internalise everything and obsess in trying to figure it out, you only tire yourself even further, mapping out every single feeling you'd feel when something slightly bad comes your way in your mind. No doubt we can be more resilient if we did survive not ending ourselves, but also at a cost where the walls we build are all thick and high, and there's always that escape door to just walk away because feeling that we never did deserve having something. Although we fixate on intentions of others, we also fixate on our own failures when we are trying to be ourselves, and not by malicious means but it ends up like we're making it worse for the people around us, and that sucks. I've had many whispers and gossip of me whenever I walk past, but I'll never be a subject anyone would enjoy, unless there was something that was prized won, and even then the smallest resentments from others would hurt me. One of the famous words I'll never forget are "He just looks so upset and it is sad to see it that way, in the way that I can understand, but I'll never want to be seen near him" Interacting with people was already hard, but having everyone to dislike you, and you internalising that, it almost seem like being recluse is exactly where I belong, lest not the grave.
20;03 If your ‘working inward’ you reach a peaceful acceptance, it’s not about establishing the objective, it is much more important the process, the struggle of carrying onward.
As an infp, it is my responsibility to feel "good" , and "bad" . There are times I feel bad but I know for fact that I am feeling bad about this certain things because I had expectation about this certain thing. I am feeling bad because I expect this things to be "good" , but it turned out to be "bad". So I learn that how I react to certain things is my responsibility.
I can tell that you actually have INFP friends. Because your description is Very well rounded. Although INFP is an introvert they're kind of like the extroverted introverts. When we are in the right mood.
I'm a infp and and just want to float through life and rather that is reaching my potential.or not reaching my potential. I don't care if I don't reach my ultimate passions because life I have alot of them and I just want to chill and just be happy with whatever I doing and where ever i am. It's soo weird because I thought i was just lazy. Lol but I think I'm just slow at living. I feel like I'm a chill person, but then I'm not because I have extreme anxiety.
As an INFP i could relate to all the things you said. I was crying watching this. It feels like someone really knows me. And, so refreshing hearing about our personality from other person with different personality, because sometimes we could be understanding with others but too hard on ourselves. Happy tears 😊 Thank you for this video
An INFP here, feeling when you spoke about your ENFJ freakouts (around 19:40), asking "how do you know things are going to work out" when doing your "inner work". Yes, INFPs have an innate feel for the value of fate, especially if you stay true to who you are (mind you, not a childish naive idea of a 'happily ever after', but that what really matters for an individual when it's all said and done will truly define your life's message). Our value for this personalized fate is one that resonates with me deeply, and perhaps is the real message of the great INFP novelist J.R.R. Tolkien in his "Lord of the Rings" perhaps, and it is simply this: *Because all things tend to work out for the best in the end, know that if, right now, things really really suck, then you've simply not arrived at the end of your great journey yet!* I feel that our often-dismissed optimism can serve as inspiration for those who are open to listening. - Thank you for this video.
I am an INFP and your observations are very astute. I will isolate because i don't feel like i have anything to give, not because i don't care. I am extremely empathetic, which takes a ton of emotional energy. Life to me is all about cycles and seasons of life, and the seasons don't always go in order. I have to learn everyday that life is about our perspectives. We own what we perceive, whether it's negative or positive.
I am an INFP and loving these comments. This video was so amazing and spot on! Your thoughts brought so much clarity to how how our personalities differ but how you appreciate the things we bring. You seem to be a really insightful people observer, and I didn't know people could be like you! It seems so alien to me but feels encouraging to have these differences affirmed and encouraged, which really makes me feel valued as I am. You nailed it!
Things will work out to me means at least I think it's more that a lot of people worry about stuff that doesn't really matter than the things that truly matter
Yeah intention is a very very important things to us. Even if you did something bad but if your intentions was good, I think it's so sweet, we like good intentions.
I really love the last statement that we don't like conforming to others in order to seek acceptance. The reason is that sooner or later the real you will come through, and people will see they were only attracted to the image you were projecting. If you find people who are attracted to the real you, you won't have to put up a front for them. In my current situation, the people in my "community" are really into partying and one night stands, and I am not. I will drink occasionally and will have sex outside of marriage, just not until I'm in a committed relationship with that person. I won't change that part of myself in order to fit into the crowd.
Okay so I don't comment on YT videos very often but as an INFP-A I literally kept tearing up and how accurate almost everything you said is, its so refreshing to feel like someone understands me for once! haha
Great video! I know it's been a year, but I wanted to respond to your question about whether INFPs believe that if you're doing your inner work, things will turn out okay because of fate or luck or whatever. We DO believe that if you do your work, you'll be okay, but not (personally) out of a belief in fate. It's not causative. It's systemic. If you set up a system in which you do your necessary inner work when it comes into your life, then you will continue to grow and change. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, and as long as you are learning and growing from your life experiences, then you'll remain adaptable and resilient enough to handle whatever life throws at you. Thus, you'll be okay. That's what it means for me, in any case. :)
INFP here. I used to be concerned with how other people saw me. But I’ve gotten to a point where I give less of a s*it. I’ve definitely been more empathetic towards others than myself. I’ve learned to let go of the past, but some things certain people said still hurt sometimes. Having the right friends who will validate what you feel and think about the world is one of the best things in the world. I guess this is a reason why I’m a hopeless romantic. I’m sticking to my convictions, and have gotten to the point where I don’t want to waste my energy “converting” other people (sometimes my parents 😂 as loving as they are) to my world views. Not to say that I don’t like learning new things, but it feels good when I can rationalize what I’ve learned on my own terms. I definitely am comfortable with alone time (many people distract themselves because they are afraid of what’s in their hearts/heads).
I am genuinely accepting and understanding of people's feelings. It comes naturally to me but other people do seem to appreciate that so it must be pretty rare.
Hahaha true. For two years of high school up until college, I talked to myself a lot about different topics or just to rant. I definitely appeared as aloof and a loner. Now, as I graduate, I am better with getting in touch with reality as adulthood and responsibilities come. My confidence and public speaking improve. Btw, my three friends are all NF. We see/talk to each other once a month and are content.
*sighs in relief at being understood* Thanks for sharing your insights in such an encouraging way! See, this is why we love you ENFJ guys, you have that deep understanding, you get us.
Loved this video Meghan! ☺️ As an INFP, I can say that pretty much everything you said rang true for me and I’m honestly always amazed by how insightful you are. I know that you must a have a totally different perspective as an ENFJ, & how you manage to really understand the way other types think never fails to surprise me. Thanks for making this video, was a pleasure to watch! xx
The last statement "INFPs are looking for peace and not looking for success" really resonated with me
rick beckers
Yeah.. But it doesn't mean they don't love to be successful. They just don't want to sacrifice their values and inner peace for success or to show off. INFPs prefer to combine their passion with their job, so that they can be happy and fulfilled all day.
@@MrNoufa10 : I think the vast majority of us, understood "POWER" instead of the mainstream definition of "success" when we resonated with that sentence. And I am sure that we, as INFPs, have multiple definitions for "success" in our complex minds. For many of the people out there, success is equal to POWER. For the mainstream, economical and social success is driven by the power of money. For us, success has many levels and they have to be aligned with our deep-rooted values, which, as you said, can be developed the whole day, at best also including working time. And we know that we'll have the "social success" around us in return. And harmony around. That's our "drive".
Yes, peace over success, life is too short to be wasted on goals and values that are not your own. In the end, no one will share your regret. It will be yours alone, if you are not true to who you are.
@@MrNoufa10 this is true. i think a lot of people see success as money, having lots of nice things or being the top of the career ladder, where as for us INFPs success is more about being able to live a life thats meaningful and matches our values.
give a choice of one only..we would choose peace...BUT obviously we would want both
As an INFP it's funny how patient and empathetic I am towards other people, but not so much towards myself. It can be very brutal.
Craig Perry I agree. I extend every grace and courtesy to others I fail to for myself...
Exactly, that's what I don't like about myself, being hard on myself but easy on others
Patrycja Kowalska I TOTALLY hear you!
I am so understanding and merciful to others. Even when they’ve done the most hurtful or outrageous stuff but I can’t seem to ever be understanding or easy on myself. I literally just learned about being an INFP within the last few weeks and it explains so much of why I do and think certain ways.
@@jusforjesus yes, that explains so much. The older I am the more I try to be more conscious of how I treat myself, but I do the same thing over and over again, being hard on myself. I think it stems from having idealistic, good nature and setting high moral standards for ourselves, we have high conscience, kind of ironic, as these same values make us merciful to others even when they don't deserve it. I find it kind of relief other INFP's share this trait, I feel understood and not alone in it.
Patrycja Kowalska double thumbs up!
I’m 39 as of Jan and my entire life was always very well liked and popular but would at the same time go into what I called “isolation mode” around those very people when in groups larger than say 2 or 3. You’re definitely NOT alone! Over the last 3 or 4 years I became a devout Christian and have no problem preaching when asked to speak or share my testimony but otherwise I will shy away from the spotlight. I’ve always wondered why I seem to be such an anomaly. I love people and will do almost anything to help them; even strangers but I spend so much time alone bcz I can’t handle them for extended periods. I would love to hear other things you or other INFPs have thought or discovered bcz I find this liberating, refreshing and empowering now.
And I most certainly bless you for taking a moment to respond and be vulnerable!
Every time I hear people talk about INFPs, they are giving us high praise for being the way we are. But, I also know that we are known commonly as the most lonely type. Why is this? I'm an INFP, and everyone I form some sort of connection with tells me I'm great, and true, etc.. But they never seem too eager to spend much time with me. Can anyone tell me if they've had this problem?
Tim Horton
That's the story of my life. Exactly what I was thinking while listening to this video. No matter how deep or intimate the connection I make with people I almost alway find myself the only one reaching out.
Especially when dating it hurts a lot when you get attached to the degree that you lose yourself, and the other person seems to forget about your existence very quickly
This is a fantastic question!! I will make a video on this topic. I have lots to say. short answer is that i think that even though infps might seem lonelier (and in some cases thats true), they are much more comfortable with alone time than others. other types seek out stimuli to distract them from the lonley feeling, but they feel emptiness inside.
Ja, same here. Guess it´s just that most other types don´t put so much into realtionships like we do. It is hurtful in a way, yes. But that´s how it is. Listen to "Porcelain" from Skott, I love how she describes exactly this .
And remember what strong positives you get as well out of your deepness! ;)
Based on observing my own life, I think I have a theory on why we're often so lonely (This is really only half-theory, the other half vent). I find, examining my life closer, that I'm well-liked by most people, they reveal their traumas to me and it's very rewarding to help them sort through it. But it's like, no matter how many friends I actually have, how many deep connections I forge, it's never quite enough. As if, merely by having to use words, I'm compromising. It takes a different kind of understanding to mutually appreciate those moments between words. I actually find myself to be the one sort of habitually blowing people off, and that certainly doesn't make connecting any easier. Anxiety of messing up good relationships or having a bad first impression combined locks me into putting off interaction. There's also the fear that people are just lying. That all probably stems from the Te demon. But, yeah, I think our loneliness is somewhat self-imposed, however much that hurts to admit. It's also partially just inevitable. When your feelings are so specific, detailed, nuanced, and you actually care about those details, it's going to be hard to find someone who can relate.
For me a quote that I as an infp can relate to is
I want to be a mystery, yet be known ,
I want to be together, yet alone,
Is it too much to ask to be famous, yet alone,
To be a wanderer, yet have a home?
That’s a beautiful quote, thank you for sharing it ^ _ ^
that... that makes so much sense. this resonates with me. thank you so much for sharing it
What's the origin of this quote?
Beautiful quote! Thanks for sharing. I'm gonna use this to explain myself from now on 😂
Is it normal if i cry bcs of this? I just feel like crying..
"They will drop a piece of their weirdness, when they first meet you to see if someone bites"
The most funny, yet true fact in this vid :D
It is sort of to test if the other person can vibe with us. If they see me as weird or unusual, I do not reveal myself to them anymore and I move on.
So very true its kind of our way of testing people to see who wants to vibe with us and stick around lol...you don't like our authenticity....Next plezzz 😂🤣
As a male infp, what I’ve noticed is that the reason we tire around social situations is because we feel like we’re constantly acting and not being (or allowed to be) our true selves. This is especially true with new relationships. We have trust issues probably stemming from our childhood and what we’re thinking isn’t always what is traditionally “acceptable to say”. But anyways, I want infp’s and really all introverts to know that it’s ok to be yourself. You don’t have to pretend. You are loved and accepted and you’re probably not the only one feeling the way you do in certain social settings. It’s just up to you to tell others about it
I know exactly what you mean. I've only just discovered I have this personality type... Or that these types even existed at all. I think I've played at being an extrovert as a survival due to childhood, but in doing so I've felt a complete fraud, and Ive run myself into bouts of depression as I find it difficult to maintain. my closest friends understand this cycle. I feel so relived others feel the same and knowing now not to be so hard on myself and now understand I really need space to myself.
Yes brother, fuck what other people think, when you let you flame burn the people who matter will love you
The problem is we tell everyone to be themselves but we can't properly apply it to ourselves
Yep, I tend to "act" out a version that I think will please the most each person, soo afraid to show the real me because them they can hurt me, if you hurt what I pretend to be I wont feel it, because I never even let you know me. But, that doesnt work and I feel isolated and a stranger to myself, so, fuck it I might aswell risk being hurt ou disliked, at least it will be for who I am
Hey, thank you! I'm on a journey with loving myself and really embracing myself and all that. Appreciating the encouragement 😊💯
I'm an infp, when I'm upset I don't want anyone to talk to me or try to help me bc I know I have to focus on what I'm feeling and really understand what is causing it, but at the same time it just kills seeing people around you and not being able to say anything about what's going on and not wanting to unload to them. At the same time I desperately want somebody to sit down and hash it out with me like I do with others. Also some people get upset with me bc if they are in a bad mood and don't ask for my help or advice I won't say anything, almost assuming they don't want to be talked to like I do.
Jeshua Collinge I also do that when I have a problem. I don't want to let other people's energies muddle my understanding of myself.
As an infp I am my worst critic. I'm extremely hard on myself
The worst thing is listening people problems , seeing them care for other people problem , knowing when they are sad or happy but when it happens to you you just stand there in silence. You want to scream what you feel but the words just can't reach the tip of your lips .
this comment was literally 1 year ago but i never found quite the perfect explanation for my 'childish lash outs'. thank you fellow infp :')
@@fan-sy9fs honestly tho lately I've been having childish tantrums n whatnot 😔 my outburts have been really bad that now I kinda turned all of them into thinking that they are bad people
so right now I'm currently taking a break from them I'll be online just probably not involved cause I just need time 😔 anywho! HOPE I WASNT RUDE RANDOMLY RANTING OR TALKING CAUSE I UNDERSTAND BRO
This video has done more for me than 2 years of therapy :)
Being an INFP is slowly going from being a curse to becoming a blessing, the more I learn to embrace it.
Thank you!
Francois Lapikas
Hi! I'm INFP also....I feel more at peace and closer to God (or the one life source......however you name it......sure it doesn't matter Lol) when I am in solitude that at any other time! I don't think I have ever felt lonely ! In this mad and crazy world this is definitely a super power! 😆👍
Francois Lapikas
Same here. I have felt the blessing and curse. I have made peace with it. She does a wonderful job on this video i think. Entirely me.
You are not alone.
She definitely has some good insights.
Between prayer, counseling, self-exploration, and some of the more helpful TH-cam videos related to the INFP, I can definitely see and relate to the cyclical nature of feeling like my personality and cognitive function stack as a blessing or lack thereof.
Great! Infp 9w1 here! Peace and Love!
INFP has a really crappy name though, especially when you're a guy. What I called my logic and opinions all my life are called feelings, apparently :)
Now I understand why meditation came so easy for me and provided so much benefits. And why when self love came it healed me so much and felt soo right..
“When you’re yourself you’ll attract the right people, and push the wrong people away.” Nailed it. When I am healthy I’m myself even if I get flack from the people around me. I don’t want to be around the people who don’t want to be around me. It’s basically the ultimate shit test, it’s a quick filter to draw in the right people and because of this I’ve had 7 + year amazing friendships with people.
GOOD for you, INFP HERE.!!!!!
@@kenewangtsosane2348 when I'm myself i feel like all my friends are not really my friends and i get lonely
@@hope9582 I feel you. I yearn for connection with people who genuinely love and understand me. It can get lonely sometimes.
This is beautiful words.
Being an inexperienced INFP can be a curse.
However being an experienced one is a huge blessing. Once you hit a certain threshold your social life takes off and personal relationships become much more fulfilling.
I know what you mean because I recently hit that point. I did notice a shift. And I'm delighted with the person I have become. And you know something? Other people are beginning to comment that they like the way I think.
Heck yeah! I feel solid in my 30’s bc I made mistakes and suffered early on- It was painful but that experience was invaluable.
Hey, thank you! Hope :)
So true. It's interesting to hear a lot of the INFP strengths that she mentioned, because those are the same exact thing that I doubted about myself when I was younger, because from my ISTJ & ISFJ parents' perspective, the world works in the exact opposite way, and I was expected to follow it. It's only after I'm older and have gone through therapy that I realized that those things I felt discouraged to do are my strengths, and that many other people value them too.
@@lalakuma9 Do you, or any other INFP's find that you're a people-pleaser? I am one and am trying to shed it asap. :/
"In the midst of hate, I found there was, within me, an invincible love.
In the midst of tears, I found there was, within me, an invincible smile.
In the midst of chaos, I found there was, within me, an invincible calm.
I realized, through it all, that…
In the midst of winter, I found there was, within me, an invincible summer.
And that makes me happy. For it says that no matter how hard the world pushes against me, within me, there’s something stronger - something better, pushing right back."
(Camus)
One of my favourite quotes and one that really explains how I work as an INFP especially Introverted Feeling.
(Oh yes and INFP;s are probably the quirkiest and kinkiest people you have ever met but we rarely share that with other people :)
Thank you fellow INFP :)
My pleasure! Albert Camus was very likely an INFP but it doesn't surprise me that the quote resonates with an INTJ (Isaac Asimov was very likely an INTJ I think...)
Great quote, indeed
Oh wow. I'm sure he's an infp like us.
O, yes. My favorite quotes. Infp
As an INFP I could relate a lot to these points. I quit a job once because of one of the managers had some of the same behaviors towards me as my abusive ex-husband, it caused such discord inside me that I ultimately decided it wasn't worth it, couldn't really explain my reasoning to people especially my ISTJ dad who considered it irresponsible. But I value my inner peace more than a job.
i had to ask to be transferred halls because i had an LPN that consistently belittled and underminded me my father was abusive if they hadnt moved me i would have quit i get you 100%
I just did the same thing. And you're right today people don't understand.. My little sister tried to throw shade and said she would never give up a job because her boss is mean to mean. What I couldn't explain was that my new boss was a classic narc and I had just got out of a marriage to one. I'm still recovering. I wasn't going to put up with that on my job. I had the ability to retire early so I took it. Ppl understand from their level
I can relate because i also quitting my most secured job people can think of (working in government considered as almost perfect job because you won't get fired that easily) .. I feel its not worth it because of constantly being put into same type of mentally abusive boss..
Yeah, I don't understand how ISTJs can just stubbornly persist doing things that they clearly hate and are toxic for them. The way I see it is, your survival instinct made you quit that job. The ISTJ doesn't see it that way, because they have a different definition of "survival" (the concrete one which involves money and resources). I, too, have an ISTJ dad, and it has been challenge trying to balance taking his advice and believing in my own priorities and judgments.
The crazy part is I’m a infp and my dad is also a istj
INFPs are I think mentally so strong that they don't need anyone to help him/her get out of their depression.
It's a good thing
What a nice girl and very intelligent. I’ve never seen anyone put so much time into our personality. Thank you so much.
I truly dread when people, I barely know, come up to me and tell me the most intimate details of their life's & it happens all the time. I never(!) ask nor inquire. The reason, after these encounters, I know we can never be true friends. - Often, people tell me how easy it is to talk to me & how relaxing/calming it is to be around me, all the while my nerves are absolutely jangled because I have nothing to say to them. Afterwards, they return to their, (what seems to me), phony world of competition & one-upmanship, where they can never be themselves. A world that looks down upon people like me, living a simple, quiet, life. A world which I absolutely refuse to join in or mettle with. They need to change, not me.
Wise words my brother
If I had a nickel for every person who told me their life story the first time we ever interacted, I'd be a millionaire. INFP male here.
Neither you nor the broader social world will ever change in those meaningful ways- you have to learn to accept these things for the way they are. The INFP type has evolved as a necessary part of this species to perform some important work. We should be grateful for being able to help the world just by the way that we listen/communicate with others, even if this is really difficult to do. There are ways to restore the nervous energy that you lose in the process, and these ways are always worthwhile as an act of service to humanity. Even if the rest of the world does not reciprocate our energy in the the same manner, all of the other types still do their own service to everything in their own ways. We can always be friends with all kinds of people, and we can always learn things from them. All the best to you my friend.
You literally described my big sister, she's an INFP.
INFPs are the chillest calmest sweetest creatures that even I as an ENFP can learn SO MUCH from them even though we're sister types.
Thanks Omar!! I'm curious to what extent you relate to this video and where you start to see differences as an ENFP
Meghan LeVota I can relate to most of it actually, the only thing that I don't feel the connection to is the parts where your Fe was being compared to Fi.
It's even worse for me actually, because it's like I KNOW what INFPs know, but man.. that Ne-Te loop can get the best of me a lot of the time.
Personally, I can't think of anyone else better to talk to than INFPs, because they remind me a lot of who I really am at my core.
PFfT- I’m an INFP and i have a little brother and we we annoy eachother so much but we still care for each other 😭😭
As an INFP, when I sense that I’m being held to exterior, worldly standards, things get really fuzzy when it comes to figuring out my identity. I have to remember who I am according to God and the value I have as an individual. It’s hard though.
Also, it’s pretty interesting how INFPs are usually idealistic but can really see the practicality of acknowledging the reality of situations and emotions.
Abigail Olson you believe in God wow that’s awesome I’m an INFP and I do too one thing I have dedicated myself to is trying to understand every truth of the Bible. Adressing your bottom comment from what I’ve read I believe that you are more of a mature INFP like myself because a lot of immature INFP’s can lose touch with reality and could be susceptible to delusions which was one of my biggest problems. Anytime I plan on doing something I reflect on if I’m staying true to myself am I being biased and are my intentions pure that’s how I help prevent from losing touch with reality. I also sometimes get caught up imaging future events and possible intentions of people. I’m sorry if I typed to much I don’t want to give you too much info but if you read it Thankyou it really meant a lot have a blessed day
Hey guys. I'm a christian infp too (if that's what yall meant when you said God).
I found this guy Denzel Mensah about 3 days ago.
Christian life coach and musician. Enfj. Also very interested and knowledgeable on the mbti.
I'm just excited and please that there are more Christians that also like the mbti
I'm so late but I just want to say its nice to hear from the christian side of mbti. Especially fellow infps. Hope u've been okay these nine months
As an INFP I feel like I have almost no control over the external world because I don't really understand it. What I do understand is my feelings and what I can do is work on controlling my behavior. A lot of times if I seem calm it's because I've already internally gone through the panic and realized it doesn't help and it's not worth spending the emotional energy. All I can do is be where I am, try to understand what I feel and why I feel that way, and then try to respond to my feelings in a positive way. But that also means I detach from things... it's not always good when, say, I need to pick a career path and I spend 5 years just shrugging about it instead of picking one because I don't have enough experience to make a decision.
ohifonlyx33 this
I feel this comment ... my ex used to complain that I didnt react "correctly " he called me cold and heartless (there's a reason hes my ex) but I would tell him I see no need to get worked up or upset about something that just is ... I can often be found to say "why get so upset it doesnt accomplish anything" that doesnt mean I havent reacted to it I just dont see the need to waste my time on being upset or angry I'd much rather work through that emotion and find a solution to the issue. I often this leaves me looking like a rather cold person
great comment cheers
What is amazing to me is the speed that the comments filled up very quickly for this type. We do like you tube videos, and especially yours. We INFPs love the DEPTH you dive into. Like a banana split. I don't think the other types understand this.
Yes, I like the same about her videos. ;) -And like you observed, I also often saw.. INFPs are quick in commenting yt-videos. hehe
thank you!! I appreciate you guys. :D I've joked before to my friend, well maybe I should just only make videos about INFPs because they actually comment and like it LOL. It's funny because ENTPs always comment and say that they get bored and to make shorter videos or to "get to the point" but it's funny, some types actually want things to be explained in multiple ways in order to get it. I try my best to please everyone, but it's hard when different people want different things
I sometimes feel impatient as well if someone repeats a lot. But if, like you do, one says things from different perspectives it´s definately good to orbit around the topic and present a broader spectrum of it. So it´s A. more graspable if in case I don´t understand the point on first sight, or B. it adds on to the depth of the given topic.
Don´t make it too hard Meghan, you actually do it very well. ;) -Hope you don´t suffer that much because of us. hehe
Thank you! Yeah I think that in my older videos I used to just say something one way with Ni-Se and then I noticed a lot of Ne users would get confused. Now, I try and say something at least 3 ways before I move on to a new topic, to make sure I don't have to make a follow up video or get defensive in the comments :P But TPs sometimes grasp what I am trying to say immediately when I am sharing Ti and get bored. Or, NPs grasp my Ni immediately and get bored. Different types are going to understand certain aspects of what I say faster and other aspects slower hahah. But thank you so much for your comment! :D
That´s cool. I actually do it the same way since some years and am astouned how well people understand me due to this; surely I bore some people as well and have to explain this behaviour then explicitly as well. But I am glad to be understood much better in general and often find myself in fruitful conversations then.
Keep up your unique style. I like how you adapt and learn quick. And how you find a good 'middle'-way. :)
I really love how you know INFPs so well. It’s very calming because I think most of us need that validation. Living in an SJ dominant world can be very difficult for this type.
you make me fall in love with myself.
being an infp can be really overwhelming.
INFP here. Your comment- (paraphrased) INFPs really don't want the conversation about them, they want to sit with the emotion and process it on their own. Very true for me. I love being myself and go deep into the feeling. I grow, and learn, so much from that. Also, as strange as it may seem, I nowdays like being faced with intense emotions that I need to go into. I find I grow and learn about myself so much from that. Also-they judge people based on intention a lot. Also very true for me. Normally I know why I am upset about something. Another point-it is great now more than ever that we can be "freaks" and be really cool with that!
It sucks when Se is your blind spot so you sometimes take an hour to figure out what caused you to feel a certain way lol
INFPs are like the Joker classes in fighting games
Their attacks are extremely different, complex, and specific. But together, the combo is insane!
I wish I had known about mbti personalities a long time ago. Wouldve saved me a lot of hassle having low confidence in myself for so long
Agreed! I've always been a healthy INFP, but I never quite understood why I always felt like such an oddball. And that always bothered me. Super important for INFPs to know their type so they can fully self-actualize and get out there and do our thing!
Yep 😄😌 but better late than never 👍... Atleast we understand y we are in certain way now even if others don't understand it..
Hope you have made up the lost time. Being an INFP can easily suck, overcoming the fallibilities is awesome.
Hi Meghan,
I'm a 30 years old metalhead mechatronics engineer, took the personality test two days ago and I turned out to be an INFP-A. I've been binge watching your vidoes on INFPs, and the genuine amout of love you have for us and how much you try to understand us made me cry.
Just wanted you to know.
Your Empathy Is Showing!
i have a better word for the infp believe in luck or good fate, its more like: „what else can i do than stay true to myself and hope for the best!“ this hope is also viewed by others as naivity i think...
As an INFP, I approve of this message 👍
Hahahahh 😂 😂
As an INFP, I can attest to this 100%. This is very accurate insight on what everyday life feels like for me. I wish I could like this video multiple times.
Same sister
I feel such warmth and comfort with my INFPs in this comment thread.
The INFP “in the wild.” --- INFPs are like Pokemon
Infp here with unsupportive childhood. One thing I've had trouble with in life is being afraid to complain or share negative information that might make me look bad. So I've let down others and myself. I want to live up to my ideals. But social anxiety makes it so difficult.
I had a troubled childhood too and I can tell it's Completely true. I was like that until two years ago. But I finally came to the understanding people will say what ever they want no matter what we say or do. So, I don't care anymore. If they can't accept for who I am it's their problem. I think what you need is a really good friend who can guide you through and tell you when you are wrong and appreciate you when you're right. Wish you all the best to overcome your social anxiety
This is fab. When you talk about the infp test: 'They're gonna say some kind of weirdness...' made me loool 😂because it's completely true.
Meeting infps who would rather be real than liked/understood is the most refreshing thing in the world.
💖 infps 💖 your vids
Josephine Rose People looking at me in bemusement is a fact of life as well. As a rule we are usually not into the group dynamic and will say something that we’ve thought about and it comes across as unrelated to the people around us.
Josephine Rose Being described as random and off the wall is another one.
I agree to what you write, but I would say we are indeed about group-dynamics, just from a more metaphysical standpoint, less from being physicly in the middle of it. :D
Josephine Rose I want to be liked and understood. I just don't know how to be anyone other than who I am. I can't bring myself to be someone that I'm not.
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I have ADHD and I’m an INFP with hyper empathy. There’s not one person I have ever met that could possibly understand what my life is like or even understand it. It’s nice to see these videos and comments, to see I’m not alone in this crazy world.
I always love the very... clinical? tone of your videos. You're really good at stating what I'm thinking in a very frank way, while I'd like to believe that my thoughts are beyond words. It's surreal, like watching my beliefs materialize in front of me. To look back and go, "I didn't realize I did that but oh my god I totally do," and that could be a good or bad feeling. Thank you for this video.
haha thank you!! I try my best to use both Ti and Fe to communicate :D
That's how i feel too!
I'm an infp and sometimes i feel lonely eventhough i have friends.. i really feel comforted just by reading these comments here, knowing that there are people like me :')
I am 'INFP' and I usually like to talk about myself but I also listen othets and Im empathetic. I just don't care over the small thinks of others or everyday things.
Yes. Lack of a best friend where I can share all my passions and all the silly things I like to do and to make deep conversations about things I'm passionate about really sucks. I know what kind of a person I want in my life and I try very hard to become that person
"Am I gonna be able to emotionally show up". Exacttly. I have no qualms about not calling or showing up to anything if I can't give 100 % of me. And, I literally do not call anyone if I am processing my feelings or dwelling.
While I don't like labels, I consistently test as an INFP for years. I've been on a long inner journey and this has been spot on. Very insightful, thank you!
God are you right about us being adamant on giving things our all or holding ourselves and what we do to a certain standard of perfection. How I wish I had the ability to half-ass, but no matter what I do I always end up putting a gratuitous/exhaustive amount of time into everything I do until i'm satisfied with it. If I try to half ass I feel guilty and unhappy with myself. I see how I act and what I do as a reflection of my character and my passion and I hate to be the one to misrepresent those things of all people. I appreciate my thoroughness and unwavering resolve to do and create things i'm truly proud of and know are of quality, but sometimes it is as you said very tiring.
ノックスパー cleaning just my bathroom takes 2 FULL ass days
Its kind of funny how social life is for us INFPs so intimidating and interesting... I love meeting new people, at the same time it scares me to contact new people cause they could not like my quirky / weirdness... Sometimes i get dragged into an friendgroup of others and at the start i feel very uncomfortable even though I realize after 1 or 2 weeks how awesome all of them are and then its like a huge blessing that i got dragged in there... And this happens not only in the social life I have but also in my work & creative life... Everytime i want to do something i know it feels comfortable for me i start getting scared / anxious about it... But as soon as i do it... Its one of the best feelings in the world.
At the same time it really feels like i should'nt depend on the judgement of others because i have my own values and I am the person living my life... At the same time living my own life and not giving a sht about what others think of me is a cold and boring life... For me life is about these interactions that are that scary and bring my emotions to think about why it is and why i am how i am. Its like you hurt yourself, while beeing completly concious that you do it, but you keep going because something mystic in yourself makes you know this is how you want it...
Holy sht.. thats sounds super toxic and masochistic and at the same time i feel like this is super natural xD
I feel so emotional when i watch something that resonates with myself everytime . INFP
Feeling that you want to help everyone because you know too how it feels when you are alone no one is coming to you . Feeling happy while being sad . Mixed feelings that you can't express by words .
@5:30 when ur talking about infps being very all or nothing I immediatley was like wow ya Im definatley one of those. I remember i almost failed high school because I sucked at finishing the homework I was given and I hated turning in things I didnt finish or I didnt think was good enough even when I knew turning it in anyway would get me at least a few points. Its like I didn't want my teachers to think thats all I was capable of when I was the one that would always procrastinate doing it or failing to ask for help lol
Sara Nara soooo true lol
Sameeeeee!
Ommggsshh me too
So relatable. I hate doing stuff halfassed
I have an INFP friend and I see her every week because she holds art classes in her art gallery, and she's awesome. I love how unique she is.
And you know what. I find happiness in knowing that I am this little being with no great significance in this world. I'm just passing by eating snacks and doing what I like lol. It's comfort knowing I don't have to be a super mega human, I'm happy just sitting with my dog or sitting outside watching people talk to each other.
"INFP's care more about finding peace than success." Well said :)
I'm an INFP and I approve this message.
The only thingi half-ass ismy day job, only because I feel like I'm trapped and can't afford to take a risk by quitting it yet. But I work as hard as I can everyday to set myself up to be free from the bonds of mundanity.
Thank you. Very true. Im half assed about school because i feel trapped but i have no choice but to grad and hope i get work somewhere that I'll be happy.
For me money is a major motivation because it seems like money gives you the freedom to do whatever you want even if what you want is to "lie around all day". So i dont get when people say infps dont care about money. Money kinda equals freedom. So I'll do all i can legally and morally do to acquire it so i can retreat to my hideout and just live in peace😉😁
I agree that INFPs will tell you that you're alright where you are on your journey, that you shouldn't be hard on yourself because you haven't reached your potential yet. But rather than saying that it's okay not to be there (yet) because you're only human, I would (as an INFP) tell you that you don't have to worry that you're not there yet, because there is no wasted moment in life. Every step, EVEN THE ONES IN THE WRONG DIRECTION, are experiences that let you grow. My little brother is a smart guy, but he got lazy and because he wouldn't study, he didn't complete his medical studies. Sure he lost a lot of money and a few years, but it WASN't wasted. He grew older and more mature during that time, the emotions it evoked in him taught him about life and he learned things and gained experiences. He's studying psychology now and seems to really enjoy it as far as I can tell.
So, he might've fucked up and lost money and time when he could instead have kicked his ass into gear and completed those studies, sure. But just because that's not what happened, doesn't mean that time and money was a waste.
I don't consider the idea that not being at your best because you're only human is good. That's secretly beating somebody down and discouraging them. If you say that, in their minds it comes across like they can't be better, because they're only human. Instead, I tell them that it's alright, because their steps and stumbles in the wrong direction weren't a waste. They learned from them and grew up a little more. I tell them to think about themselves and study themselves, and then to consider what decision they may want to make to get going where they wish to be.
EDIT: At around 20:00 you state that INFPs believe in Fate and Karma and similar things. I personally never really have, but what I believe in are the ripples your behavior causes, both inside yourself and also regarding other people. If you've done your inner homework and have worked on your personal psychological hygiene, then you're free to believe in yourself and you can both consciously, but also so deep that you don't even notice, allow yourself to REALLY put strength and energy into your actions. That's when you will surely succeed. There's not much that will slow you down or trip you up for very long if you feel happily determined to accomplish something. That's got nothing to do with karma or fate, to me those words feel like smoke and mirrors, word-masks people use because they're unable or unwilling to look behind the curtains. But intangible energy is a very real thing. Emotions give you power, putting work in at a spiritual level (be it religious or simply being psychologically aware of yourself) give you energy to do what you consider worth/necessary doing.
Similarly the placenta effect is a real thing too. It doesn't make much sense, but it's simply true that believing something can do something, can make it happen (within reasonable limits). Believing a car can fly isn't going to make it fly no matter how hard you try, but if you believe a painkiller will help, it really will even though it shouldn't. Similarly, if you're already not trusting that painkiller, it probably won't stop the pain, even though it scientifically should.
I think Meghan meant it that way. You should know that we have enough sensitivity and tact to say it fitting to the situation, and not that dumpy like you got it ;)
EDIT: I read your comment again since the notification brought me here when Tulop commented as well. I noticed that what you wrote about not being Karma, is actually the buddhist definition of Karma. Just wanted to put it out here.
Thank you. :( you said something that really made me feel like i'm not crazy to think the way i do. (to E)
@Walter The Karma thing is interesting, guess I'll check out a bit more about buddhism. I always find it interesting how human thought processes and social aspects are reflected in religions.
@Tulop There are between 100 and 400 million INFPs on this planet. You're going to find a lot of us share many similarities, but even so, there are going to be hundreds of millions of different viewpoints and thoughts on everything, even as we fall under the same category of societal purpose.
So, don't worry if your opinion on a matter differs from those of another, or even most INFPS. The endgame should still be the same (to help and improve), so you'll be okay either way.
But it's a bit different when non-INFPs try to express how and why INFPs do certain things. They will often miss the nuances and not quite get the picture. The same is true the other way around as well.
@Eleeyah
yes, buddhism is very deliberate. It has to do a lot with mindfulness and well.. actually every aspect of life. To keep it short, In my opinion it is the most practical 'religion' and close to many psychologic and sociologic concepts. I recommend you the audios from Alan Watts here on TH-cam. He is theologist and explains buddhistic concepts in a very objective way. Most audios are recordings of his teachings in universites. And always worth an insight. ;)
You may also listen to the following one which is not from him but might be interesting for you (if you have time and it doesn´t bother that it´s sequentially translated into German live on stage) th-cam.com/video/v1OkEDKUDCc/w-d-xo.html&list=PLXIdZ3TgxtLc-8d9nefhKJTM5eJ9xdxBD&index=1
Have fun. :)
I am an INFP that try so much but still depressed.
I feel ya brotha
It's normal because we feel things deeply . However, as you get older you will realize that you are not your feelings, they come and go and so you will need a set of strategies to get the most of your one life on this earth. 1.Get active and move your body to connect to your body. 2. Get busy in small projects/hobbies and get them done. 3. Eat right and avoid sugar and too much processed food. 4. Avoid songs or music that make you feel that emotion. 5. Write in an online journal to get the feelings out of you. 6. Get up take a shower and brush your teeth --if not you will feel like mush all day. Also acknowledge that the feelings are there, you might not understand the feeling, but know that it will pass. I am giving you advice that I wished I had gotten. I wasted my 20s and 30s to depression and now in my 40s things make sense finally. We are late bloomers. If I can save you some decades of wasted time then I will feel good. You can do it.
@@MeliMeli66 thank you for this comment
A side effect of dwelling on pain is experience tolerating pain. Once, I felt the worst, overwhelming, crushing sadness i had ever felt. And deciding to let it in me was the turning point in realizing... it was just a feeling. The cause of which an emotional wound I needed to tend to, but one that didnt necessarily incapacitate me.
This is so accurate! Especially the end! As an infp, I definitely stay true to myself in order to attract the right people in my life and scare away people I'm not meant to form relationships with
I have a bad habit of thinking, "Oh, they know how to maximize their ability the way I do in this situation." No they don't. "Oh, well I don't worry anybody else about an issue. I do it." No they don't, and it'll be time consuming because they aren't as experienced. Their issue will become your issue. I'm an infp and I have a hard time, because I put too much pressure on myself to be as good as I can.
INFP's have a habit of getting frustrated when others do something that they've worried about themselves, yet others just do it without any regard. My boyfriend gets irritated at bad drivers(he's infp) and friend/coworker gets irritated when somebody goes into the fitting room without permission(she's an infp). That's a little tid bit, we're very passionate and not always peaceful ☺ We try to be, though.
Lmao we're all in the kink community. "Let our freak flag fly" accurate, so so accurate.
Hi Meghan As an INFP yup I'm all or nothing, thanks for the good chuckle!
Your last thought is absolutely correct , our peace is more important than success. It's too hard to survive without finding the peace we need.
This directly reminded me of conversations and even discussions I had with my best friends when I was going through a really hard time. I would totally stop answering to whatsapp's and miss the gatherings because I didn't want to be there If I would be be space minded and could not give them really my attention. Plus, I felt I was just gonna be a statue sitting next to them and making them uncomfortable. A recurring speech I would give when they asked me what was going was "it's ok, I don't want to charge you guys with my issues that really are pure emotions and don't have any logic. I don't want to make you guys sit through me talking about my problems. I'll just feel what needs to be felt and it will go away".
Thing is, I didn't think I was making them feel pushed away or as if I didn't trust them or count on them until they told me. It genuinely didn't cross my mind, and it was all a mess because turns out I hurt them when I was trying to spare them exactly that. Hahahaha damn. INFP problems.
Besides that, THANKS! Your videos on how you see INFPs really are helping me a lot to understand my interactions from an outside POV.
What the HECK you get us so well!?!?!? - INFPizzle
?!?!!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?
Rachelle D Whats INFPizzle? Lol just curious but I think I like it lol
How old are you, Rachelle?
"INFPs care more about finding peace, than finding success."
YEPPPP you hit the mark. Loved the video, thanks!
Interesting to hear insights from another personality about ours.
I have an analogy that I tell myself, to help keep me on track for "Being Yourself".
Imagine if you were the embodiment of a product in a store. You can be whatever you want, jewelry, a movie, a pack of cigarettes or even a carton of milk.
Now ask yourself, which strategy is best for my well being, and which one will increase my chances of finding like minded individuals in my life?
*A.* Pretending to be another product to impress others, by lying to yourself and others.
Or
*B.* Not hiding who you really are, and what your truly made of, by doing what feels right to "YOU."
I think you know the "Right" answer, but so many people choose option A, and never find the right customer to pick them up, off of the shelf.
These people will never find the right ones for them, because they are putting out a false identity.
The right people they need in their lives, can't recognize them for who they really are.
Be Yourself...
INFP wisdom is a priceless treasure
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Yeah, its priceless because no one buys it. I'm an INFP and I've on countless occasions counseled a moth headed for flames and they never listened even though I was always right. There's something about us that makes other types think we don't know what we're talking about (maybe its our lack of fashion sense or general impracticality idk), but if we feel strongly enough about something to speak up and risk ridicule (our greatest fear) its because we've thought it through very carefully and know whereof we speak.
@@ZekeMan62 wow. yes this is so true
It's weird being an INFP.
I have people I consider friends that I don't really (almost never) keep in touch with, but then again I don't really keep in touch with any people in my life, unless we have some sort of agreement to talk to each other a specific day each week for example.
If I'd go to a party with these friends there will always be someone in my friend group (or one of their friends) that will tell me about a problem they're dealing with, be it their job, family but most of the time I feel like it's about their relationships. I will always sit down and actually listen to what they have to say, never ask any questions that will deepen the conversation, but simply let them pour their heart and feelings out, and once they've said enough for me to paint a picture of what they seeking advice for, I will answer in a simple but yet very broad manner.
Example: My friend essentially told me that him and his girlfriend were broken up, but that they kind of were still together and still loved each other very much the same as they did earlier, but didn't refer to each other as boyfriend/girlfriend anymore. They were still seeing each other and from what I could understand neither wanted to see other people. He told me all of this, and after taking everything into consideration, I simple told him that it didn't matter if they put a label of bf/gf on themselves. Why should they define how they feel about each other with words if they know what they feel? It doesn't matter what other people think, just be happy with where you are together.
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-I also want to make clear that even though I don't keep in touch with my friends I still love them dearly and will always be happy to listen to their heartfelt issues in life and try to offer them some peace of mind and a broader outlook and insight on every specific issue they have, so they can reflect on it themselves even after the problem subsides, the peace of mind/ advice will hopefully stay with them and continue to give them insight.
PSS( Sorry if it's hard to follow, but my memory is kind of fuzzy about that night as a LOT went down :$ )
16:37 Omg thank you for noticing that we infps are not just explosive at any moment!!! Id like to think people are generally observant of their surroundings (emotions and traits in others) but sometimes there’s a limit to how much or how long people will intently observe.
I don’t know if I believe in miracles, I just believe that if it was meant to be, it will be. When one door closes, that door wasn’t meant to be entered to begin with.
I am an INFP and I fully relate to that. We really need to be authentic and stick to our values, our wise inner voice, and we don't like to hurt people. We seek peace in ourselves and in the world.
Thank you for the insight 💚
my INFP instinct of interest in random things brought me to MBTI world..
Of all the series, this vedio has most views because all we infp are about trying to know ourselves better.
This is absolutely brilliant ...I'm an ENFP with some experience of INFPs and they are my absolutely favorite type but your insight here blew me away ...learnt so much here that resonates but I'd never actually realised until now...
Yep. Nailed it. Re belief in karma or fate or what not, I don’t know - seems plausible- but I will say emotions are like weather. Everything in this universe changes at its own pace. If ur not happy just wait a bit. If u r doing ur work it will change, probably for the better. This from an old INFP.
And yes it definitely is an all or nothing thing for me ...with everything.
INFP here! My head thinks that there is something functioning in the background of our lives. I call it spirituality, energy, god. We decide on a positive or negative action and reap what we sow. From my experience I've found that when I'm acting for the good of things I am blessed w opportunities. For the bad of things like insecurity, ego, and such, I'm negatively affected. Luck is also involved or fate. Sometimes you break your leg and now u can be a professional athlete. It happens but miracles happen too and u should only focus on the miracles.
INFPs taught me not to take everything so seriously
Funny enough, we are also the one who take everything so serious in some/all situations
@@yes.1705 So true
I don't understand lol
I literally had to pause the video and sigh contentedly multiple times ^_^ I'm definitely an artsy/bookworm type and I do dwell on emotions very frequently and I find it's not something people usually understand or want to. Which I think is why we can be lonely people, we're so in tune with our own inner workings and other's that it can be hard to ignore the truths we see. Like I can't ignore how bad energy makes me feel just for the sake of company. It needs to be genuine and interesting and worth my own energy.
Thank you for going in depth and for your wonderful outlook :)
The irony in this is i'm an INFP but I've forgotten how to INFP in the sense of processing my emotions. I seem to not be able to allow myself to just feel and i've been struggling with invalidating my own emotions because they make no sense or are illogical or are just wrong/based on lies. Maybe it's a Te grip, but it's driving me crazy because logic-ing the emotion is not making it go away (of course) but I can't seem to stop.
hi ! i used to have this problem and have recently helped myself and im thinking about making self help video soon dealing with you your headspace and reacting to the world (sharing a bit of that infp insight) if you're interested check it out i want to make and upload by the 15th
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both but I did a heck ton of research on cognitive functions and arrived at the same conclusion that the test gave me. But i'm open to insight if you have any/have observed anythig different
Would love a video like that!
Rocknalldatime99 hey maybe it’d help to dive into a creative activity that is mostly separate from hard logic - i struggle with emotions too, but i find reading poetry or a good book (something that incites empathy or emotional energy from you) really helps
INFP here- Great observations. I feel I am a calm chill reserved person. But I don’t think us INFPs give ourselves enough credit or recognition for having this calm presence, because internally we have this sort of wild world going on. Anyone agree?
For the most part I may seem calm on the outside, but in my head I’m thinking “I’m wondering if my insane daydreams are bleeding through from my head” 😂
I would say being an INFP it is the hardest to get past earlier ages, where you literally have no idea what's going with yourself, why you don't fit in even when you try so hard (and get so tired easily from acting so) and none of their conventional advice works (fake it till you make it, and such)
And as you internalise everything and obsess in trying to figure it out, you only tire yourself even further, mapping out every single feeling you'd feel when something slightly bad comes your way in your mind. No doubt we can be more resilient if we did survive not ending ourselves, but also at a cost where the walls we build are all thick and high, and there's always that escape door to just walk away because feeling that we never did deserve having something.
Although we fixate on intentions of others, we also fixate on our own failures when we are trying to be ourselves, and not by malicious means but it ends up like we're making it worse for the people around us, and that sucks.
I've had many whispers and gossip of me whenever I walk past, but I'll never be a subject anyone would enjoy, unless there was something that was prized won, and even then the smallest resentments from others would hurt me. One of the famous words I'll never forget are "He just looks so upset and it is sad to see it that way, in the way that I can understand, but I'll never want to be seen near him"
Interacting with people was already hard, but having everyone to dislike you, and you internalising that, it almost seem like being recluse is exactly where I belong, lest not the grave.
20;03 If your ‘working inward’ you reach a peaceful acceptance, it’s not about establishing the objective, it is much more important the process, the struggle of carrying onward.
As an infp, it is my responsibility to feel "good" , and "bad" . There are times I feel bad but I know for fact that I am feeling bad about this certain things because I had expectation about this certain thing. I am feeling bad because I expect this things to be "good" , but it turned out to be "bad". So I learn that how I react to certain things is my responsibility.
I can tell that you actually have INFP friends. Because your description is Very well rounded. Although INFP is an introvert they're kind of like the extroverted introverts. When we are in the right mood.
I was about to burst in laughter from all the ways the subtitles managed to spell out "INFP."
They tell me all that nice things, yet deep down i know they can't stand me.
I'm a infp and and just want to float through life and rather that is reaching my potential.or not reaching my potential. I don't care if I don't reach my ultimate passions because life I have alot of them and I just want to chill and just be happy with whatever I doing and where ever i am. It's soo weird because I thought i was just lazy. Lol but I think I'm just slow at living. I feel like I'm a chill person, but then I'm not because I have extreme anxiety.
As an INFP i could relate to all the things you said. I was crying watching this. It feels like someone really knows me. And, so refreshing hearing about our personality from other person with different personality, because sometimes we could be understanding with others but too hard on ourselves. Happy tears 😊 Thank you for this video
An INFP here, feeling when you spoke about your ENFJ freakouts (around 19:40), asking "how do you know things are going to work out" when doing your "inner work". Yes, INFPs have an innate feel for the value of fate, especially if you stay true to who you are (mind you, not a childish naive idea of a 'happily ever after', but that what really matters for an individual when it's all said and done will truly define your life's message). Our value for this personalized fate is one that resonates with me deeply, and perhaps is the real message of the great INFP novelist J.R.R. Tolkien in his "Lord of the Rings" perhaps, and it is simply this:
*Because all things tend to work out for the best in the end, know that if, right now, things really really suck, then you've simply not arrived at the end of your great journey yet!*
I feel that our often-dismissed optimism can serve as inspiration for those who are open to listening.
- Thank you for this video.
I, an INFP really love you for this
I am an INFP and your observations are very astute. I will isolate because i don't feel like i have anything to give, not because i don't care. I am extremely empathetic, which takes a ton of emotional energy. Life to me is all about cycles and seasons of life, and the seasons don't always go in order.
I have to learn everyday that life is about our perspectives. We own what we perceive, whether it's negative or positive.
I am an INFP and loving these comments. This video was so amazing and spot on! Your thoughts brought so much clarity to how how our personalities differ but how you appreciate the things we bring. You seem to be a really insightful people observer, and I didn't know people could be like you! It seems so alien to me but feels encouraging to have these differences affirmed and encouraged, which really makes me feel valued as I am. You nailed it!
Things will work out to me means at least I think it's more that a lot of people worry about stuff that doesn't really matter than the things that truly matter
Yeah intention is a very very important things to us. Even if you did something bad but if your intentions was good, I think it's so sweet, we like good intentions.
I'm wise, because i just look within..
And yes.. there is no fix answer.. it depends how you tackle it and from what angle.
INFP.
I really love the last statement that we don't like conforming to others in order to seek acceptance. The reason is that sooner or later the real you will come through, and people will see they were only attracted to the image you were projecting. If you find people who are attracted to the real you, you won't have to put up a front for them.
In my current situation, the people in my "community" are really into partying and one night stands, and I am not. I will drink occasionally and will have sex outside of marriage, just not until I'm in a committed relationship with that person. I won't change that part of myself in order to fit into the crowd.
Okay so I don't comment on YT videos very often but as an INFP-A I literally kept tearing up and how accurate almost everything you said is, its so refreshing to feel like someone understands me for once! haha
Great video! I know it's been a year, but I wanted to respond to your question about whether INFPs believe that if you're doing your inner work, things will turn out okay because of fate or luck or whatever. We DO believe that if you do your work, you'll be okay, but not (personally) out of a belief in fate. It's not causative. It's systemic. If you set up a system in which you do your necessary inner work when it comes into your life, then you will continue to grow and change. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, and as long as you are learning and growing from your life experiences, then you'll remain adaptable and resilient enough to handle whatever life throws at you. Thus, you'll be okay. That's what it means for me, in any case. :)
INFP here. I used to be concerned with how other people saw me. But I’ve gotten to a point where I give less of a s*it. I’ve definitely been more empathetic towards others than myself. I’ve learned to let go of the past, but some things certain people said still hurt sometimes.
Having the right friends who will validate what you feel and think about the world is one of the best things in the world. I guess this is a reason why I’m a hopeless romantic.
I’m sticking to my convictions, and have gotten to the point where I don’t want to waste my energy “converting” other people (sometimes my parents 😂 as loving as they are) to my world views. Not to say that I don’t like learning new things, but it feels good when I can rationalize what I’ve learned on my own terms.
I definitely am comfortable with alone time (many people distract themselves because they are afraid of what’s in their hearts/heads).
I am genuinely accepting and understanding of people's feelings. It comes naturally to me but other people do seem to appreciate that so it must be pretty rare.
Hahaha true. For two years of high school up until college, I talked to myself a lot about different topics or just to rant. I definitely appeared as aloof and a loner. Now, as I graduate, I am better with getting in touch with reality as adulthood and responsibilities come. My confidence and public speaking improve. Btw, my three friends are all NF. We see/talk to each other once a month and are content.
I like to fully take my time to feel the emotion so I can learn and get past it
*sighs in relief at being understood* Thanks for sharing your insights in such an encouraging way! See, this is why we love you ENFJ guys, you have that deep understanding, you get us.
ecchinacea Yes baby
Absolutely. One of my best friends is ENFJ, my boyfriend is an INFJ, I feel like we just compliment each other so well
@@treehugger444 lol I love your username fellow infp! I too love hugging trees
@@jamien.5528 Aww thanks Jamie! Always good to meet a fellow lover of trees 😊 is that cat in your profile picture yours? S/he's gorgeous~~
I am an INFP, I just lesrned about this typing. It explains a lot to me about me. Thank you very much!
Loved this video Meghan! ☺️ As an INFP, I can say that pretty much everything you said rang true for me and I’m honestly always amazed by how insightful you are. I know that you must a have a totally different perspective as an ENFJ, & how you manage to really understand the way other types think never fails to surprise me. Thanks for making this video, was a pleasure to watch! xx