The Most Alarming Flirting Attempt

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  • Reddit stories never fail to deliver the audacity. Today we're diving into a texting exchange that was meant to be flirting....? But it's clearly just the ramblings of a madman who should never come within 30 feet of a human being.
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  • @DustinPoynterVideos
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  • @brittany1049
    @brittany1049 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +636

    As someone with ADHD, I’d like to point out that autism isn’t the only disability with eye contact issues

    • @gothbubbles
      @gothbubbles 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

      You can have both, might be worth an eval for the 'tism.
      🤷‍♀️

    • @jemmayork4284
      @jemmayork4284 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +40

      ​@@gothbubblesit is possible to have both yes but people with adhd can also have eye contact issues.

    • @kuroyuki6254
      @kuroyuki6254 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +43

      I am neither and I just dislike staring someone in the eyes. It's a bit awkward

    • @BrightElk
      @BrightElk 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +29

      Avoiding eye contact is also a trauma symptom. So it could be someone who was abused.

    • @SIS3W3N
      @SIS3W3N 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +35

      The allistic fixation on eye contact is the real issue.

  • @FishCakeIce
    @FishCakeIce 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +573

    As an autistic person, I wouldn't mind if someone straight up said "Hey I've noticed this, this, and this about you. Are you autistic?" but 1.he used it to insult her and 2.he got craaaaazy!!!

    • @K3NN3DY_101
      @K3NN3DY_101 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +63

      True! Like I wouldn't mind if someone asked me that, but in the way HE did, then basically insult the disorder? No sir.

    • @jenniferbailey1580
      @jenniferbailey1580 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

      There’s definitely a respectful question that is knowledgeable about Autism and is also both aware that trauma responses; cultural differences in when and how eye contact, the distances people stand in conversational groups, and so on; energy levels, etc to infinity can all overlap on the Venn diagram of human behavior that what you saw wasn’t Autism. And while the asker’s sibling who is an Autist who is hopefully someone who is living a fairly independent life with friends (rather than a nonverbal person or someone who masked away all signs so the person being asked should do that…) could render you a safe person, maybe even a “okay if the night gets random and I am feeling shutdown start, speaking is a struggle, whatever, there’s now one more person in the group who might (know to switch to questions with one word answers, ensure I’m given the minute in the quietest corner I asked for, claim a mild headache could the music be turned down…)”
      But honest and respectful knowledge of one condition doesn’t give you access to everyone’s diagnosis, or history, or reasons for their simple quirks/ways of being.
      And sometimes we’ve just met 5 too many Autism Moms this week (their peeps are mentally 5 and always will be (physically 6.5 and they cannot know that, or ABAed into full time masking) to not put on our armor when anyone who didn’t say a close approximation of “hey, I’m Autistic and my neurodivergent-dar is pinging on you”

    • @MikaaWoo
      @MikaaWoo 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

      Same, I mostly just tell people that try to get closer to me. But it seems she had every reason to stay faaaar away from this lad. Good intuition 😊 I also observe people untill I feel comfy

    • @AmericPet
      @AmericPet 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +19

      In my experience, people with mental disabilities just eventually tell me. What's wrong with waiting...?
      Oh, right. He wants to know if there is something "wrong with her" so that he can stop pursuing her. She is not involved in this at all.

    • @AramatiPaz
      @AramatiPaz 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Yeah, I believe at first he could be sincere.

  • @riel4553
    @riel4553 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +279

    I've seen this. Some guys think that if the girl is 'quiet' she will be grateful for ANY type of attention.

    • @yippee8570
      @yippee8570 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +17

      ugh yes

    • @squidmom3162
      @squidmom3162 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +19

      Oh gods, and it’s always like…..WHY DO YOU THINK WE’RE SO QUIET

  • @biblioholic7139
    @biblioholic7139 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +556

    Dude, there's more updates and it gets worse. Like going to her home and "running into her" outside the gym. His psycho stalker mode is activated.

    • @crystalgemgirl731
      @crystalgemgirl731 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +51

      TELL me she told her friends and showed them the texts!!!

    • @zombieedrea
      @zombieedrea 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@crystalgemgirl731 She showed her friends the texts and they ousted him from the group. idk about the stalking tho, that's a new one. Good lord.

    • @gellisbarber1786
      @gellisbarber1786 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +76

      @@crystalgemgirl731 She did and they all told him he was insane and to never speak to her again. She deleted her account, so I can't confirm the stalking part.

    • @crystalgemgirl731
      @crystalgemgirl731 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@gellisbarber1786 I don't think Therapy can save him, his head's so far up his own ass, it'll be hard to remove it.

    • @akimacase
      @akimacase 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +67

      He can't handle rejection 😮 so she's ganna be his hypor fixation . This can turn deadly

  • @sophieamandaleitontoomey9343
    @sophieamandaleitontoomey9343 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +321

    As an autistic person I am so sick of people like this guy using us as a fucking insult.

    • @elphieofkiamoko
      @elphieofkiamoko 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +58

      I'm an asexual person, here to echo this exact sentiment but about asexuality

    • @MenEnjoyer69
      @MenEnjoyer69 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I’m both and I too am tired of this

    • @The_Nightsong
      @The_Nightsong 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +14

      100% agree 😓

    • @aceofspades8474
      @aceofspades8474 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +24

      @@elphieofkiamoko I’m both autistic and asexual, the way allistic allosexuals treat people like us as some kind of evil enemy to their lives is crazy.

    • @Loutron3030
      @Loutron3030 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +12

      Not to mention the way that people internalise the use of this insult and take the premise that being "autistic" is a bad thing at face value. I kind of hate that this comment is overshadowed by comments from allistic people doing exactly that.

  • @empath9814
    @empath9814 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +692

    The worst thing you can ask us introverts is if we have a mental disorder just because we don't socialize like other people.

    • @BeeWhistler
      @BeeWhistler 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Autism isn’t a mental disorder. It’s neurodevelopmental disorder. It can be a disability but it’s not a mental illness. Using it as an insult is just one more way this is toxic.

    • @K3NN3DY_101
      @K3NN3DY_101 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +41

      Ikr..I'm autistic(and introverted) and I find that pretty offensive, as people with that disorder find it hard to socialize generally, least in my and others' I know experience, and/or even pick up on social cues. I find it even more offensive that people insult the disorder. Not saying that you or anyone here is except the terrible flirter in the video, but I just see it everywhere at times..it's tiring.

    • @marymystery4427
      @marymystery4427 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +40

      "I do have a mental disorder but it's nothing to do with my introverted nature"
      - Something I've actually said before unironically lol

    • @fangirlsruineverything
      @fangirlsruineverything 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +24

      I've learned to cope. When someone asks "what's wrong with you?" Say "a lot of shit." I love the dumb little look they get when I'm not offended by their micro aggressions.

    • @empath9814
      @empath9814 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

      @@K3NN3DY_101 yeah I feel that. I have dyslexia and I've had people assume I can't read at all and unfortunately I had teachers bully me for this disability. I've also seen a friend of mine with autism picked on as well.

  • @damepasty9203
    @damepasty9203 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +347

    The guy is a narcissist...notice how he just cant believe she isn't interested in him? His ego demands that there has to be something wrong with her because he can't accept that he's the problem.

    • @andihd8768
      @andihd8768 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +20

      Came here to say similar. And came in too fast on the "love" bit. Yikes, I hope she stays obtuse with him. He deserves it.

    • @renatal.129
      @renatal.129 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +10

      yeah he thinks she is doing something wrong bc she doesn't like him

    • @ellem8990
      @ellem8990 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +11

      100% my thoughts aswell. He's not able to read the situation at all or self reflect, his reality is so warped. Also not understanding boundaries or at least not respecting them is another thing, this girl had to bring up consent. He also did show his ego when even at the dinner he was like "do you not like me?", that's not normal.
      According to another comment there were updates and where she said the guy started stalking her and said "stop playing hard to get". After baby reindeer I'm aware that it's not unusual for narcissists to stalk. I used to assume their ego wouldn't let them stoop that low, but I was so wrong and realize it makes sense actually. This guy is like a text book example.

    • @xylophone_8888
      @xylophone_8888 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

      please don't use narcissistic like that, it impacts people w npd due to strengthening the stereotype that if it has "narcissistic" in the name it automatically means "abuser/pos/etc" meanwhile a ton of them are fully self aware about their disorder and already suffer immensely despite being a nice person in their essence; other than that yeah you're right

    • @LaifaCanyonLurker
      @LaifaCanyonLurker 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@xylophone_8888this!! Using 'narcissistic' for shitty people is like that guy using autism as an insult against the woman in the video

  • @gellisbarber1786
    @gellisbarber1786 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +224

    See, I'm willing to bet that this brilliant woman could smell his BS from the second he showed up in the friend group and that's why she gave him a wide berth. Narcissists can't STAND it when someone pegs them right off the bat and don't fall for their charm.

    • @ellem8990
      @ellem8990 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +29

      I think that's very likely, based on how secure she comes across no matter what he throws at her. So she has two things narcs can't stand: not falling for their bs and she's secure in herself.

    • @Keksmadam
      @Keksmadam 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      I find it right our SCARY when someobe would send me selfindulgent walls of text like this who i did not at least have a VERY nice talk the other evening. I hope this giy just got right out blocked and she told his scary behaviour to the other people in the friends group.

    • @Keksmadam
      @Keksmadam 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      Okay just saw that she did exactly this. Yay girl!

    • @seanluckycharm5492
      @seanluckycharm5492 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +10

      I find it weird that I have some kind of radar that just goes "nuh uh this person weird and I dunno why". I have had some fights with an online friend about it, because I had this "nuh uh" feeling with one of her friends.. yeah lets just say the "nuh uh" person actually betrayed them and raided my friends youtube channel because she couldnt take a joke... I like my "nuh uh" radar

    • @sigh_yuri
      @sigh_yuri 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      that also explains the autistic comments - its really common for narcissists to absolutely HATE us bc they can’t read us, yet we can sometimes read them, its very unsettling for them

  • @robertawhite5
    @robertawhite5 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +115

    “My ovaries just dried up”😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @Tempted_Lotus
    @Tempted_Lotus 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +104

    She probably doesn't laugh at his jokes, because they probably aren't funny 😅😅

  • @darsalome
    @darsalome 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +119

    This guy is an energy vampire even for extroverts, he will drain the life out of introverts instantly if allowed to get close.

    • @ricebeansrockroll882
      @ricebeansrockroll882 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +12

      Fr, I need recovery time after just listening to this.

  • @TessuDraws
    @TessuDraws 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +46

    I physically cringed at "you make me wanna become a daddy"

    • @Fragmented_Mask
      @Fragmented_Mask 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

      Right?? It made me feel physically unwell 😂

  • @Eryniell
    @Eryniell 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +85

    i thought at the start that maybe he asked her if she is autistic, if he was autistic himself, cause it can help knowing if it's more likely that they can communicate like yourself BUT after a few messages it became so clear that he was saying it because he thought something was wrong with her because he thought he is such a great catch and soooo interesting and irresistable that no one would ever not want to be with him unless he considers them "sick"...and then offering to help? jesus man, that's some massive complex right there.

  • @addie1545
    @addie1545 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +122

    Very glad she showed her friends and they all agreed with her. What a... just a wtf dude???

  • @catsncrows
    @catsncrows 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +94

    When dude thinks he's a wonderful prize with a bow on it and his personality is definitely clearance rack from the dollar store😑

  • @FlossTheBoss-iv3tf
    @FlossTheBoss-iv3tf 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +56

    Okay what really ticks me off is him just COMPLETELY disregarding her when she says ‘no thanks’ multiple times. Like the fuck is wrong with this dude.

    • @Keksmadam
      @Keksmadam 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

      He has some serious anger and ego issues and his ability to accept to just leave people the FUCK alone is underground worm

  • @bukketkid2567
    @bukketkid2567 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +56

    🤣 "i dont really think of you" BAM nailed it 😂👏👏

  • @dianalynne4862
    @dianalynne4862 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +73

    This is terrifying. I've met people who actually talk like this when they get regected. My ex was trying to get me back when the last argument we had was about how he was settling for me and that he can do better. I let him go to go get better and yet there he was. Telling me that I was the best thing blah blah blah. I rejected him and the next day he posted the most misogynistic shit I've ever seen. "Women need to go back to the kitchen" type of stuff. He was a peach.
    Edit: he was my high school sweetheart.

    • @Keksmadam
      @Keksmadam 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

      Thats scary, good to hear you managed to get rid of him. I also had an ex who i was strong enough to leave after years of putting me down. In the last argument he tried to start, literally the night before i moved out, he asked: are you still moving out or have you come to your senses already? Haha. Wtf. He also later wanted to meed up and told me, HE thought we should get back together because it's the best for me. Hoestly, i am still recovering fron that, its now been 4 years, and even when i dated other guys in between, i again and again realized how much he broke inside of me. but i have gotten much better. Be careful and look out for each other. ❤

  • @Leslie-Risse
    @Leslie-Risse 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +50

    Her responses are SPOT ON.

  • @michellemarty7510
    @michellemarty7510 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +132

    That guy needs some serious therapy

    • @marinam.2293
      @marinam.2293 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +14

      In a locked unit, preferably.

    • @maggiefranks6849
      @maggiefranks6849 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

      therapy can't help his personality disorders

    • @Lil_Noot
      @Lil_Noot 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      And put on a list 😂

    • @carolineseguin-ro5vt
      @carolineseguin-ro5vt 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      @@maggiefranks6849 Specially when they think that nothing is wrong with them. Impossible to treat.

    • @comradewindowsill4253
      @comradewindowsill4253 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      imma be real, in my experience, people like this, well, let's put it this way-- they have a physical learning style; they need their new information reinforced with a two by four.

  • @slkshewolf
    @slkshewolf 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +54

    I was told I had good birthing hips....I just stared at him until he walked away.

    • @sabrinaheizenrader5635
      @sabrinaheizenrader5635 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      One of my friends heard this from another (guy) friend’s mom. We were in middle school. So weird

    • @Prof9299
      @Prof9299 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      I was told by an Uber driver I looked like I'd have beautiful mixed race babies as he made direct eye contact with me in the rear view mirror (yes we were different races)

    • @dorcasmalahlela2805
      @dorcasmalahlela2805 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      Someone once looked at my feet and exclaimed:
      "Your feet are so small!"
      Huh?
      "How are you going to give birth?"
      Really.

  • @bluemoonslightASMR
    @bluemoonslightASMR 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +89

    This is worrying behavior and I hope she’s ok. Please be safe everyone if you are ever around a person like this.

  • @smileplease_91
    @smileplease_91 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +51

    As someone with diagnosed anxiety, depression, PTSD, and ADHD, talking to new people is EXTREMELY taxing, and I can't make eye contact until I get to know you. The amount of times I've been insulted by random people or been made uncomfortable by those who don't understand personal space- hoo. I'd be running to the hills to get away from this guy.

    • @Balletcalvero
      @Balletcalvero 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +11

      I've had someone ask, "what, you think you're better than me?" because I'm really quiet in a large group. Some people are so fragile.

    • @smileplease_91
      @smileplease_91 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      @Balletcalvero Oh same. And then you can't say anything because you're so timid and nervous. It sucks. 🫂

  • @goose811
    @goose811 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +61

    love the aggressive noises while running with the red flag

  • @janeelliot2280
    @janeelliot2280 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +48

    When people have no clue that it's their personality that puts people off, you get this dude. 🙄

  • @MidnightAndLuna
    @MidnightAndLuna 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +38

    The last update, which was this past week or two, that I am aware of proves how scary this guy actually is. He made a comment about her going to the police, which means she reported him and he STILL won’t leave her alone!!!! He even knows she continues to post his messages for the world to see. He just doesn’t give an ‘f’ and thinks his actions are normal. He’s not going to leave her alone and I worry about her safety

    • @vekaroni135
      @vekaroni135 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      Do you remember what the final update is called or what OP was called before she deleted her account?

    • @MidnightAndLuna
      @MidnightAndLuna 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@vekaroni135 I do not, unfortunately. There were other channels covering it though

    • @riel4553
      @riel4553 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      TH-cam has been recommending me police body cam videos and there are compilations of guys like this one; they don't care if the cops and the whole world are telling them to leave the woman alone.

  • @jupitersnoot4915
    @jupitersnoot4915 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +19

    This guy essentially said "you don't act the way i think women should act when they interact with me, because i'm so awesome and handsome and cool, therefore there is something wrong with your brain."

  • @ashleydean8895
    @ashleydean8895 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +118

    Green Flag Group, ASSEMBLE!

    • @DustinPoynterVideos
      @DustinPoynterVideos  9 วันที่ผ่านมา +38

      THIS IS THE ENERGY WE LOVE

    • @jessd3012
      @jessd3012 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

      I got your message!
      ASSEMBLE!!!!

    • @marinam.2293
      @marinam.2293 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

      Present! 🙋🏻

    • @ukamikazu
      @ukamikazu 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

      ...assembling...ASSEMBLED!

    • @XFD42069
      @XFD42069 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

      here! 🙋

  • @jessday.
    @jessday. 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +38

    8:16 - this reminded me of the time I matched with a guy and he was on about how weird it was that I don't smile with my teeth and legit wanted me to send a pic OF MY TEETH to prove I had all of them.
    He didn't get what I meant when I told him he wasn't buying a horse he didn't need to check my teeth 😂

    • @Keksmadam
      @Keksmadam 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

      😂

  • @RachelMCarey
    @RachelMCarey 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +22

    I had a guy hate me because I didn’t go out if my way to talk to him. I didn’t even remember wtf he was…lmao. Why are narcissists like that? If u don’t talk to them, u must hate them…

  • @Breezie1213
    @Breezie1213 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +11

    Also, using ones name to make them more comfortable only works when the conversation is already positive. The way he was using it made her seem more like a target than a potential partner.

  • @marcellemccalla6325
    @marcellemccalla6325 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +33

    This is so unhinged. Like I'm friendlier with other people because i know them and have had the time to feel comfortable with them. I'm not going to go out of my way to have a conversation with you because why would i go out of my way for anything if it makes me uncomfortable.
    This dude's ego is out of control , this is a jail sentence waiting to happen

  • @catandrobbyflores
    @catandrobbyflores 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +21

    🔥Roasted🔥
    🔥Roasted, Sequel🔥
    That got me good!🤣

  • @retrievergaming9715
    @retrievergaming9715 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +23

    As someone who’s on the spectrum I don’t really like it when people ask me if I’m autistic. My experience when it’s someone I don’t know very well is to undermine my intelligence and I really don’t like that. Most of my friends have never asked me but figured it out and were just waiting for me to feel comfortable to tell them

    • @annakenny2213
      @annakenny2213 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      So very understandable. I've had kids in middle school bother me about being on the spectrum and for not having a boyfriend.

  • @SnuSnuDungeon
    @SnuSnuDungeon 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    Nothing destroys a narcissist like hearing no

  • @ivyparker5617
    @ivyparker5617 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    I won't make eye contact with people I genuinely think are threatening, so... He's seeing the signals that his behavior is a problem, and totally misinterpreting them. 0% self awareness. Rather terrifying.

  • @zeitgeistzest3531
    @zeitgeistzest3531 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +31

    The name repetition bit had me looking this up, because I had (have? in therapy rn) a trauma bond with a guy who'd use my name a lot in conversation. One result was, "What does it mean when a guy says your name a lot over text?
    One of the texting habits of a guy who likes you is that he frequently uses your name in texts. If that is the case, it's likely a clear indication that he likes you and wants to make you feel special." But... considering the gas lighting & lies & secrets.... yeah, a red flag huh. 😅
    Thank you. I think this bit especially has helped me in the healing journey.
    Also the running with the flag is just amazing. 😆 Cheers from Finland 🎉

    • @BeeWhistler
      @BeeWhistler 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      I hate it when people use my first name. Unless they know me well enough, I don’t care for it. Not sure why anyone would like that. What are we, dogs?

  • @rachelbarker332
    @rachelbarker332 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

    That girl has good intuition. Avoiding eye contact, physically moving away from him, that's because intuition told her he was a predator. And he proved her right. She handled that exchange like a queen.

  • @meowuf
    @meowuf 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +20

    Im autistic AND quiet. it's quite frustrating with interactions i get with new people because im quite reserved, and i only like spending time with one best friend. Like, when i have to talk to others, i get the basic
    -Why dont you talk?
    - You look rude
    -talk to me
    -look at me
    -why arent you smiling.
    All that stuff, people like this guy clearly took the words " you're so handsome you'll get all the ladies " from grandma *seriously* when he was a kid 💀 if i dont talk to you, that means im *not* interested.
    Im surprised people cant grasp that
    Oh yeah, this is why it's hard for me to date because Jesus, the comments I get, bro. I want someone, but then there's ppl like this

  • @CynicalCopycat
    @CynicalCopycat 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +10

    The "I love so many things about you. Genuienly. I love you as a friend, and I love you as a person, " right right after paragraphs' worth of messages doing nothing but berating and insulting her is what did it for me LMAO
    How do you go from "There's something wrong with you" to "I like you" in such a short amount of time

  • @XMLmann
    @XMLmann 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +17

    The way he switches up 😭😭

  • @sisterfixit4017
    @sisterfixit4017 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +11

    A guy that I was initially interested in saw me have an interaction with a little boy visiting the nature center where I worked and asked me the same thing. I had dinosaur stickers on a storage box and he asked about it. So I asked him which Dino was his favorite and told him mine and that he should get his dad to take him to a new specific museum near us that had just gotten an new Dino exhibit. Later we're in his truck driving and he says what's with all the dinosaur stuff. I said I like them, always have. I'm a science person, it comes with the territory. He doesn't say anything for a bit and then says are you autistic or something? Umm what?!?? No I'm not, that I know of anyway. He says we'll you must be because adults, especially adult women, shouldn't be interested in dinosaurs. Anyway, that was the moment I knew we were on different intellectual levels and I get away from that asap. All because I was friendly to a little boy who asked about my dinosaur stickers.

  • @kayjacoby290
    @kayjacoby290 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +11

    Introvert here. I find it uncomfortable when someone I don't know, or know well, uses my first name. I know it's a sales tactic to either remember a name you've just learned, or as that psychologist said a tactic to put someone at ease. The repetition would make my skin crawl. Also, after the first time someone cussed at (not used in conversation cuz I enjoy colorful language) me would have me block them. Maybe a "I don't find being sworn at endearing. Do not contact me again." Then block.

  • @chatika2440
    @chatika2440 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +25

    my autistic ass doesn't get asked that smh

  • @Breezie1213
    @Breezie1213 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    This guys got the energy of: Hey why arent you paying attention to me? Everyone pays attention to me! Why dont you like me? Everyone likes me! Oh you must be one of "THOSE PEOPLE 🙄" if you dont like me. But thats okay, ill make you like me!

  • @rileighdabbs1950
    @rileighdabbs1950 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

    You guys ever see a person and think “they’re literally a villain from a cartoon movie”? Because we got a real life Gaston over here.

  • @Stuff_I_Watch
    @Stuff_I_Watch 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

    This is triggering on a visceral level. My father used to beat me as a small child & he would always sit next to me on the edge of my bed hours later, crying & saying “it’s because i don’t understand you”. I have spent a lot of time through TRE with regards to just this element of that relationship. Dustin, friend, you summed up this chap to a T.

  • @michellecobb8403
    @michellecobb8403 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    Narcissistic ego maniac!! Rejection makes them lose their minds. I know this from first-hand experience within my own family. How can they control you if you don't fall under their spell?! People don't seem to realize that a lot of introverts are empaths as well. She obviously read him early on and tried to steer clear of him. She handled him very very well! Kudos ❤

  • @shanestachwick4784
    @shanestachwick4784 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +18

    Not necessarily a bad question in isolation, definitely a problem when you’re complaining about silly things and acting like this.
    Regressive views on neurodiversity and no respect for social boundaries are both a 🚩. As far as I’m concerned Dustin nailed this one.

    • @riakun
      @riakun 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

      I agree. There’s definitely a difference between asking someone who’s a friend about stuff like that and this guy’s behavior.
      It’s like he’s saying “I’m so f-ing delightful that you HAVE to be on the spectrum to not like me”, using it like a synonym for being dumb.
      The dude is the definition of a walking red flag

  • @matthiasice
    @matthiasice 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +12

    I had a coworker start a D&D group, but somebody else was the DM. We had a good game going, but my coworker was a little intense sometimes. Whatever though, he likes to plan out monologues and storylines for his characters and write lore about his backstory...that's role playing.
    A few months in, we had somebody who dropped out and so we added a new person to the group. She was cool and good at the dialogue aspect of the game. She did not vibe right away with Mr. Coworker though. Little did I know he went out of his way to try to harass this girl into liking him (makes sense, right?"). This was offline, outside of game nights, so I had no idea it was happening. The other members of the group thought him and I were really close friends just because we were coworkers and it took them a while to bring it up to me (we were not close friends). The first time I heard about it, I was like "oh he's out of the campaign". I felt bad that they held onto that and endured it for a few weeks while the campaign continued.
    I'm still cordial with him at work because I'd rather not be awkward, but luckily I don't have to interact with him very often. I don't even think he was interested in her romantically, just couldn't handle that a person didn't like him. Was so weird.

  • @Mai57
    @Mai57 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    WHY?! Why do so many dudes think saying "I want to get you pregnant" to a woman you are only trying to FLIRT with is okay? Why do they think in ANY context that isn't an already fully committed relationship making plans, saying ANY version of "I want to get you pregnant" to a woman is okay?! The number of times I've had it said to ME- and I don't fit conventional standards of beauty.😅 Imagining what other women deal with sounds like a nightmare

  • @Jade_1872
    @Jade_1872 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +11

    I may need an emergency oophorectomy if not fully hysterectomy sooner than later. I’ve been having worse and worse issues and now my stomach itself is bruising. And I think that story just helped the process along cause I felt everything’s down there shrivel up.

  • @MsDemonBunny
    @MsDemonBunny 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    She's an introvert.
    He's a narcissistic extrovert.

  • @akimacase
    @akimacase 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    What...in...the...world
    Watch him end up on that website for bad dates/red flags. And she's got all the receipts to do so.

    • @persephonehades7547
      @persephonehades7547 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      Wait. Are you telling me there's a Yelp for bad dates?

    • @akimacase
      @akimacase 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      @@persephonehades7547 yes! Granted no one can just put anyone on it for no reason. Like if you had a bitter break up and just being petty about things because you're still hurting. No they have to be BAD. And if it was a date it can't just be you got the ick or something. Talking
      Rapiest history, tendencies, neglectful, doesn't listen to safe words, punches walls to start conditioning you to getting used to outbursts. The types that steal money from you, cheat, stalker, are abusive mentally/emotionally/ physically/spiritually/financially. Crashed your car, left you out in public, drugged you, locked you out the house types.

  • @robinmartincic289
    @robinmartincic289 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    Ngl someone saying my name repeatedly would just make me feel extremely threatened lmao Even my fiance only calls my name when she needs to get my attention because I'm distracted

  • @catsmeow5566
    @catsmeow5566 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    She was way too patient with him. The moment he started saying "what the fuck is your problem" I would have said "You're the one with the problem. STFU. I don't owe you attention." and then I'd block his ass. And I would screenshot what he said and send it to the friend group members and give them a heads up on why I wouldn't speak to the jerk if he came around again. This is the kind of behavior where you need a spray bottle of water to spritz him right in his face if he approaches and won't shut up. Although, it seems like its heading to pepper spray territory with his entitlement. What a creep! Oh good! I'm glad the friend group rejected him. But she might want to look in to getting a restraining order in case he tries to retaliate against her for it.

  • @benjie128
    @benjie128 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    Back when I was an undergrad in college, a classmate approached me and told me how everyone in class thought I was stuck up and acted like I was superior to them bc I didn't really talk to any of them. I was honestly just really shy. And after that classmate's comment I became shy AND hyper self conscious. He then went on to say how he had defended me. And I was like "oh, okay."
    I was at a local community College. Barely made friends because I was so shy. And shocker, when I transferred to a 4 year university, I was still shy and barely made friends. Didn't have a single friend I even spoke to outside of the situational aspect of the particular classroom (or by extension a group project of said course). So nope, not stuck-up, I just am extremely shy.

  • @aliciastarck1296
    @aliciastarck1296 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Just reading these texts from him is scary. I’d be showing my group of friends. This dude is crazy!

  • @ricebeansrockroll882
    @ricebeansrockroll882 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    There needs to be an update on this, holy hell

  • @jemmayork4284
    @jemmayork4284 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Oh the puking at the "you look healthy"

  • @skittslol1407
    @skittslol1407 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    Im an introvert. Super not into dating. I love being alone. Someone like this? Id never go back to the places I ran into them at.

  • @greyisnotthefather
    @greyisnotthefather 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    "You make me want to become an obituary entry" is now my new favorite line.

  • @elaexplorer
    @elaexplorer 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    The narcissism is strong with that one

  • @annakenny2213
    @annakenny2213 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    I'm on the spectrum and I sometimes get defensive when people get up in my face and bug me over things that weren't their business at all.

  • @littleblueclovers
    @littleblueclovers 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Honestly, as someone went to get diagnosed because a friend asked me if I had ADHD, I wouldn’t mind if it was asked in a kind and sincere manner. (My friend was really gentle about it and listed several reasons why she felt this way. I talked to my psychiatrist and she absolutely agreed. Since then, I’ve been able to get more support in life and I’m very grateful bc I was really struggling)
    I mean, obviously this dude is unhinged and deserves no respect, but just saying for anyone else out there

    • @Fragmented_Mask
      @Fragmented_Mask 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      This was me too! They were asking me because they have it and legit saw the signs in all the struggles I was describing. In that context it was OK. I have also asked a friend before if he thought he could be autistic, again not out of a malicious place but because I was seeing signs that could be. So yeah, the questions themselves aren't the issue but the intent behind them, and manner in which they are asked, that's the problem

    • @aceofspades8474
      @aceofspades8474 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Yea the question itself wasn’t so bad, especially since he asked if he could ask a blunt question (saying personal question would be better but close enough) first before just saying it. If there were better intentions behind it I wouldn’t have a problem with it, but yea obviously this dude is a major yikes.

  • @ElementalWhispers
    @ElementalWhispers 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Using someone's name is used as aggressive sales tactic. The more someone uses my name, the more uncomfortable and distrustful it makes me feel.

  • @crazycreaturestudios
    @crazycreaturestudios 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    “I want to make you smile” after he spends several paragraphs yelling at and insulting her. This dude is a psycho

  • @carolineseguin-ro5vt
    @carolineseguin-ro5vt 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    The dude in the text is insane and I would be afraid of him, he is so aggressive and makes no sense at all, he's so into himself and arrogant! Love your video, I just love them, thank you so much for making them, you always make me laugh!

  • @rockshalunesta
    @rockshalunesta 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +10

    As someone with autism, I just want to talk to the guy.

    • @Imjustkendall
      @Imjustkendall 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

      As a fellow autism, I also *Just want to talk.*😀

    • @SerenEirian
      @SerenEirian 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      As a fellow autistic, I'll bring the shovel.

    • @comradewindowsill4253
      @comradewindowsill4253 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      as an ace i will bring golf clubs for everyone... we can have a nice chat while we, uh, 'play golf'

  • @LuxNovuz
    @LuxNovuz 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    I am a very quiet "woman". (ENBY but femme presenting) Men think their competition is with other men, but no, it's with my peace and quiet. And I can guarantee no man will be better than my own peace and quiet.

  • @hettyherz
    @hettyherz 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    So, he's just decided in his mind that she will date him and then gets angry when his decision hits the reality.
    "What's wrong with you?" together with "you have tasty lips for sure" is one of the weirdest reactions to someone else's lack of interest in you. Damn, he's a future client of court.

  • @FyreHeartStudios
    @FyreHeartStudios 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

    I don't know who Blank is, but she's a legend.

  • @skyeblueoceanx
    @skyeblueoceanx 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    As ridiculous as this anthology of idiocy is, my god you’re hilarious

  • @queerskiesahead847
    @queerskiesahead847 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    I would have stopped responding a lot sooner than she did, but then again we wouldnt have this video, so Im glad she didn't 😂 In all seriousness though, that man needs real help. 😮

  • @enderboi8427
    @enderboi8427 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Love(!) This guys response to a one sided conversation is to ask if the person is autistic and then blame being ignored on a potential childhood trauma instead of... being an ass (>_>)
    (Also those last few texts are disgusting glad the friendgroup all blocked him)

  • @roguetalowen
    @roguetalowen 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    He sounds like he's trying to sell a dodgy tv service at your doorstep.
    I'm introverted. I've met guys like this. Therapy helps. Me at least 😂 Screw them!

  • @RamenNoodle1985
    @RamenNoodle1985 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    Oh man the updates devolved so much. Just when you think he can't get worse, it's a whole cauldron of marinara flags

  • @portalburgerz
    @portalburgerz 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Just bought a shirt! Keep being amazing Dustin :)!! 🎉 -rickie

  • @kristinabirt4173
    @kristinabirt4173 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Im so overwhelmed by this that my single brain cell died.
    If there are any updates in the future, we want to see it!

  • @jenivreangel7686
    @jenivreangel7686 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    He's a narcissist that can't gain power or control over what he wants. He's unraveling because his manipulation tactics aren't working on this young lady. He's reaching deep into his bag and failing with every attempt he digs out. This is priceless.

    • @MsAubrey
      @MsAubrey 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

      My immediate thoughts too.

  • @RemyDarling
    @RemyDarling 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    Thaaaank you for the new video! I'm so glad you're back. ^_^
    This is going to be a trainwreck, and I am SO here for it.

  • @FullMoonAudios
    @FullMoonAudios 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    "You make me want to become an obituary entry." I CAN'T!! XD

  • @demoncorejunior
    @demoncorejunior 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    i bet that guy paid a “dating coach” to be told to act that way

  • @SunnyLeUnicorn
    @SunnyLeUnicorn 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    This girl is a roast warrior 😂

  • @starlingswallow
    @starlingswallow วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    This guy is a FLAMING narcissist who can't handle when ONE PERSON doesn't fall for his fake charm. ❤😅

  • @GreggUnleashed
    @GreggUnleashed 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Hey man, as a fellow Arkansasan with ADHD it has been refreshing finding your videos. Sometimes it’s hard here to find people I relate to. Keep up the great content, you’ve more than earned my sub :)

  • @willowleahy6491
    @willowleahy6491 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Bro it's pride I don't have cash and you do this to me😢😢 please bring out more like this because i wont have miuny till july and i m sure these will be sold out soon 😅

    • @DustinPoynterVideos
      @DustinPoynterVideos  9 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      I’m sorry 😭 yeah it’s already well over halfway sold out BUT i 10/10 will be doing a merch drop like this again soon!!

  • @oliverblueblaze4369
    @oliverblueblaze4369 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I love how his (inflated) ego got the best of him and just cause he didn’t get what he wanted he’s bringing out 50 shades of personalities.

  • @Browneyedbakedpotato
    @Browneyedbakedpotato 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    As someone with autism that’s super disrespectful, I can’t imagine being asked/insinuated that I have it even though I most certainly do, partly because I struggle with feeling “normal” but mostly because that’s just.. so rude and disrespectful

    • @comradewindowsill4253
      @comradewindowsill4253 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      mainly, why's that his business? if someone hasn't given you medical information, you should presume it's not your gddm business

  • @MsHildegaard
    @MsHildegaard 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    This dude really threw a massive temper tantrum. Just call her a doo-doo-head and have it over with.

  • @Malprincess
    @Malprincess 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    r/twoxchromosomes regularly has a red flag gold mine for this kind of thing. Both red and green flags

  • @vikki8699
    @vikki8699 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    😂😂😂 you make me want to become an obituary entry!! 😂😂😂
    God! A guy was like this with me and I just blocked and deleted him. When people asked me why, I said they will find out for themselves eventually. Always took time but my friends soon came to me saying "wow you were right about that person". 😂

  • @debthacker8520
    @debthacker8520 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Good stuff, thanks!!

  • @Lillypop93
    @Lillypop93 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    "Fella thats a felony"... 😂😂😂

  • @Ishtarocha
    @Ishtarocha 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

    His fascination on "how can there be a real person like this" towards her, it is microscopic in comparison with my awe on "how can there be a real person so crazy and narcissistic like him".😂😂😂 Heck this was so amusing! Was like watching those crazy tacky out of reality dramas! 😂😂😂😂

  • @Joyride37
    @Joyride37 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I’m fascinated that he thought he could get away with this when they were in the same friend group. Zero expectation she would immediately show the texts to the people they know

  • @MythMaree
    @MythMaree 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I came over with full body shivers when, after a pretty terrible succesion of texts, Dustin says "and THIS is where it gets insane". To my horror, this anonymous chad did not disappoint. So...chad with a lower case c keeps calling her autistic like it's an insult, keeps attacking her for not liking him or calling her terrible things - no, actually, I can't list the sheer number of red flags. He is indeed a bag of nuts.

  • @alenwake3445
    @alenwake3445 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Dude the fact that you go the extra mile for the green camp merchandise is really cool! You are the first one I've seem doing this and it's awesome! More power to ya!

  • @e.1766
    @e.1766 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Wow, thanks for posting this, bc I'm actually dealing w/ a guy like this Right Now, & he texts Exactly stuff like This, it's horrible!