My husband was 31 years old when he lost his battle with depression and schizophrenia. By shotgun and in front of me. Our neighbors showed us kindnesses I couldn't be properly thankful for at the time. I remedied that eventually. Ms. Cynthia brought us pizza the evening after and home made deliciousness many nights after that. Saying that she didn't want me worrying about dinner for the kids(we have 4 aged 7 to 16). The whole neighborhood brought us gifts and money for Christmas. My across the street neighbor STILL does our lawn care four years later. When I was finally able to sell my husbands car, Ms Cynthia bought it at full price 30 minutes after we put the for sale sign on it. She GAVE IT AWAY to a teen at her church. His ex had literally dumped a baby on his porch and he was super happy but struggling without a car. That woman is a literal saint and I have the best neighbors in the world.
@@1tommyday Thank you. ❤️ Especially seeing all the stories online, I am fully aware of how lucky I am. Kind of restored my faith in humanity. Ms. Cynthia might have literally saved my life.
I hope he disconnects from everyone, including his wife. I mean the cameo was sweet of her to do, but she really "forgot" his bday for years?! We are poor. What money we have goes to bills and our kids, we used to be fine until the economy and rent hikes happened. Now we struggle struggle. No matter what, my hard working man has a cake on his bday. If I can swing it, some ice cream. I also make his favorite struggle meal. Unless I can swing something nicer. A smile and a genuine happy bday, thank you for being born, anything!
Whats even more fascinating is the amount of emotional abuse people endure so selflessly by people who are supposed to love them, it really kinda makes me mad thinking about it.. you dont continually traumatize someone or something you love... and these people deserve to be surrounded by better... i hope that cameo made that person realize how much better they deserve.
@@IncredibleHodor is it what you're used to? Sometimes our family of origin "teach" us what to expect from others. It is possible to break out of that cycle, though not always easy.
Being treated that way usually starts small and escalates. It sends your self esteem and self worth crashing down, then the gaslighting makes you believe it’s your fault you’re treated that way. Then sometimes they’ll wind up with people pleasing issues as a result, because all they want is to be loved and appreciated.
@@WarpedKarma6471 I think it says a whole lot about you that you wish for him to recognize his own worth, even if your relationship might not work out. I truly hope that you‘ll find a way together and that he will find his peace with you at his side!
@@KingJoy-pl3ijso some people in the limelight (whether big or small) will be willing to do personalized videos for usually quite a low price, depending on their status/how in demand their vids are. usually it’s a “happy birthday (insert name here)” with a lil funny inside joke between the birthday person and their friend/family that commissioned it
How cool would it be to find his social media account and all of us from around the world could post us singing Happy Birthday to him next year? That would bring him so much joy.
I've been falling into a "everyone is evil and scary and awful" pit lately due to the state of the world and my job and videos like this help so much. Thank you for making these
I have, too. Life hasn’t been the most tolerable or enjoyable thing for me lately but I’m trying to hold out for better things. You’ll be okay friend ❤
I get how that can happen. I hope you're feeling better. I've been having a streak of the opposite lately. I only share that so you know both kinds of groupings exist.
My dad’s birthday is two days after mine…the dates being so close makes them impossible to forget. How…how does the mom’s birthday being four days away make everyone forget about op’s??
Yeah, me and my brother have birthdays 8 days apart and we could never forget them! As kids there were times when we'd have a combined birthday, maybe on a weekend between our birthdays, but how do you forget someone???
I have two little sisters, and one of their birthdays is two days after my birthday too! And my older brother's birthday is the day before my mom's, and none of us forgets these birthdays! Every once in a while, if life gets too busy, we might dedicate a day to celebrate both birthdays(for which has that birth month). But we certainly don't do what this poor man's family has done!
Two of my siblings have their birthdays a day apart and 4/5 days away from my father. None of us have ever forgotten a birthday and although we might have one big celebration for when other family members come over everyone gets a separate birthday cake/meal on their birthday. My heart breaks for OP
I'm gonna be super cynical here, but... They remember. They are simply and sadly cruel and want him to feel like crap. This is cruelty to a level that is performative, at this point...
I love your green flag series - my mental health has been seriously suffering lately but seeing the good out there through these videos and through you helps me hold on a little tighter
I'm hugging you 🫂🙏 I suffer from mental health & it's a daily battle. When I'm in a down cycle it's even harder. I understand you. One of my favorite quotes, is that your illness doesn't define you, your strength & who you are does. 💜
My husband's family was shitty to him and he didn't understand that it wasn't ok. When he got gifts for christmas from my family he wasn't sure how to handle it. Hadn't known him for long, so it was a bit of a guessing game to find stuff he would like. He didn't cry a lot, but he did when he realized he also got to keep them.
I have autism and adhd, it means so much that you are so accomadating and idk, NORMAL about everything. I love thé feeling of being accepted in this channel. Thank you so much.
I am so sorry for the loss of your furry friend. I understand, we’ve lost three of our furry family members in the last two years. We just this past year brought in a new puppy who has brought some fun and love back into our home. Sending you a huge hug from one furry mamma to another! 🤗
The first story has the same energy as the dude who made a video with a title like "my experiences being ugly" and found love after a comment there. Great to see good and beautiful people being recognized as awesome exactly as they are instead of the sad pattern where they unhealthily try to adapt to "societal expectations".
My sons birthday is three days after mine and I’ve always focused straight on his, and most of the time he’s asked to celebrate mine along with his at his parties and it makes me cry about how much he cares about mine when my own mom has never remembered it. I don’t understand how you can just not care about your child that you grew and their feelings.
Maybe do a special birthday date just you and him to celebrate both your birthdays so he's not worrying about yours being forgotten and can focus on the celebration you plan for him and enjoy it thoroughly without worrying about taking care of your feelings! That way you BOTH are acknowledged but he gets special time in addition to that, just the two of you! ❤🎉 Happy, happy birthday 🎂🎈
My mom remembers the birthdays of her eight kids. But she sends cards and money at the end of the month when she got her SS check. Well, she died in a fire on my sister's birthday. We asked that they put the next day on the death certificate as that's when she was found BY that same sister. It was a fire in the middle of the night. Anyway, my birthday was also that month and I always looked forward to that card. Obviously, I did not get it. That broke me.
My husband is neurodivergent and I am truly shocked that he was still single when I met him. He is the most incredible husband ever, and I love his quirks! It just makes him more interesting, and I'm a little quirky myself, so it works. Even after 14 years of marriage, people still ask us if we are newlyweds because of how gaga we are over each other. He takes me on a fun date night almost every week, and is always looking for ways to "improve and optimize" our marriage. I love him so much, and I think a lot of women are just dumb. They go after the bad boys and ignore the sweet and amazing men who will be amazing husbands. My husband is my best friend in the whole world and I still get butterflies when I know he's coming home!
As someone who has cPTSD and severe depression, I LOVE these Green Flag videos. It’s nice to be reminded of the good in people, especially these days, and I always give my husband a big kiss and a hug after watching. Thanks for the awesome content! ❤
This! I'm the same way, can't watch most stuff the world seems to find entertaining, cptsd here too. This and the good newss movement are lifesavers for me.
Thank you for these. Reddit always seems like a cesspool of negativity and weirdness sometimes and this makes me happy. We need more happiness and feel-good stories in our world.
My girlfriend’s green flag is that when I was on ft with her, I was in a bra and pajama pants because I was overheating, and her sister wanted to see what I looked like. My girlfriend covered her phone so her sister couldn’t see me and said “she’s in a bra, not right now” and her sister kept pushing it. My girlfriend turned over her phone and waited until I said it was ok to flip it back over. It made me so happy because she even said that she cares more about my comfort than showing off my body. It’s so awesome :)
Been there, it's not as easy as you think. Making new friends is extremely difficult because you can't trust *anybody* to do the right thing or be a decent person without expecting miles from you in return, because the people you trusted the most in the world and invested the most into the first time betrayed you. There was a standard of treatment that was acceptable to up until you decided to leave, and rewiring your brain around that is extremely difficult. You chose to accept being a doormat for years, if not decades, and the weight of that choice is very heavy compared to the weight of a choice of betterment that, while made correctly, was made *recently.* And, when you can't trust to make new friends, you don't have a new support group, so you constantly fall back to thinking about those people when you're lonely. In a way, it's almost like you start taking them into yourself as a part of you just from the amount of trauma and hatred at both yourself and them for you going through that. And until you can get through that and stop hating/blaming yourself, you can't just move on. You can physically leave, but emotionally, you're still there well after they're gone. It takes a really kind person to love somebody through that much pain and trauma. Those kinds of people are in very short supply these days. I feel like more and more kind people are going to self-isolate and die from loneliness, because social health matters as much as our physical health to our physical state (brain, blood vessels, organs, lungs), and our society has become a breeding ground for narcissists, because every reward and every need is hypercompetitive. Continue adding in social issue after social issue to rally around, label after label to distance ourselves from each other, and you gave them the perfect social script to follow AND the perfect environment for a narcissist to really thrive.
@@Hyderageanvery true, plus trauma bond, religious beliefs, community ties, etc and other things like this make it tough to just up and leave. And you're so right about the health being important just as much as physical. And research OP alluded to (consciously or not) shows how connected they are.
I thought that too. But when he said his girlfriend and he were in therapy, I was impressed with him. He didn't throw out the baby with the bath water.
The stories you read are touching. But your delivery of the stories (and commentary AND flags) make it just heartwarming. I starting to look forward to your next video. Your stories are a wonderful way to help people feel more thankful and inspired. Thank you for sharing your talents!! It means so much.
I hope one day I'll be in a position where I can give someone who needs it something big without asking anything in return. I know what that feels like, it's like all your problems disappear for a second cause someone just fixed a huge issue of yours with one sentence, one act of kindness. I let some students who are motivated and need it take my courses for free (I'm a language teacher for adults) and don't advertise that for the same reason as the person in the video. But giving someone a whole ass car is next level, they must have both felt so great about this ♥️
@lay4545 I don't know what kind of language teacher you are, but that's amazing! 1) Teachers just ROCK! 2) Giving someone the gift of being able to communicate effectively is priceless. It opens so many doors for people. 3) You're teaching adults. I could be wrong, but that tells me they were failed somewhere as children, and you're righting that wrong. I would love to teach adults who can't read or write those extremely valuable skills, but I worry I would cry tears of joy in front of them when they achieve their goals. Kuddos to you for generously donating your courses.
@@Hulana42 im so sorry for not replying earlier, I read your comment while at the gym one day and was busy trying not to cry 😂 your comment came at a moment where I was struggling to fill my courses for the coming semester (it's already looking much better now though💪) and it really reminded me of why I'm doing what I'm doing, and why I've chosen this path, so thank you!!! We should never underestimate the impact of kindness of strangers on the internet 🥹 comment sections can be a vile mean place sometimes, but they can equally be a place of uplift and kindness. 😊 (I'm a German teacher for adults and occasionally teenagers who come to Germany in search of a better life btw. My courses include anyone from IT experts to refugees)
The car story, I love stuff like that. You never ever forget those things when they happen to you, they stay with you forever. I’m so glad that person got the car they needed. ❤
I sat down ready to cry after a hard day and now I'm crying for a different reason completely. The story about the person finally hearing even a complete stranger congratulate them broke me so hard. Thank you.
I'm gonna add my own green flag story. I'm a server, lazy night, my final table of the night was a family of five. Some old gentleman at the bar decided that he was a touch loaded at the moment and that he was going to pay for their meal. After, he made sure that they'd tipped me, and continued the cordial conversation he'd been having with our bartender for some time. It was a great way to end the night.
I can not imagine not celebrating my husband! I love him more than life. Hell, I celebrated him standing up for himself and quitting his job 2 days ago. Everyone needs supported!
❤loving this! When someone does not only what is best for themself, but can do it knowing their life partner absolutely has their back? Frigging absolute GOLD!!!!🎉🎉❤🎉🎉🎉
My kids birthday is Xmas eve, he’s still just a toddler but the second story is why I’ll never let Christmas over shadow his birthday. I don’t want him to feel the way that person did 😭
My whole life, my family has always hard-pivoted to Christmas the day after Thanksgiving. Putting up the tree, the lights, the snow village, all that jazz. My son’s birthday is Dec 1, and I didn’t want him to get lost in the Christmas frenzy, so now we put up the tree and most decorations around Dec 3 or later. Not the same thing as a Xmas eve birthday, but it reminded me of how accommodating my entire family was of “can we please adjust our life-long tradition for the sake of your grandson?”
My daughters is New Year and I love that for what may seem like an odd reason to some. New Year was my favorite holiday growing up because we would spend it with family, then my parents got divorced and there was a lot of trauma associsted with New Year specifically and so I stopped celebrating it. But then this amazing little person came into my life and now I get to celebrate her instead. However, because it's a public holiday and people will make a big deal about it (plus my partner and I both have overbearing families) we have a second secret day that only my partner and I celebrate with her in the middle of the year. So she gets double the celebrating and doesn't have to worry about being overshadowed by christmas and new year
My birthday is a few days after Xmas, and my mom was always very careful to make sure I had a separate celebration and it never got lost in the season. Some tips from my own childhood: - since Christmas presents appeared under the tree throughout the month, mom also made sure to have some birthday presents set aside so both days had a visual reminder that it was coming soon - mom always had two distinct sets of wrapping paper and never let them overlap, even the plain red Christmas paper was NOT used for my birthday Those really helped me personally and I highly recommend them as options to consider for anyone else trying to keep a near-Christmas birthday from getting swallowed by the season
@@yomz1135 thank you so much for giving your personal experience, it has confirmed that I’m going the correct things so far! I already hide away all Xmas gifts in my bedroom until Xmas morning and not under the tree and like your mom, i have always been very strict with wrapping paper. I will refuse to accept any gifts from family that look even close to Xmas. I also always make sure he has a birthday cake and candles.
Creators who make videos that are wholesome really helps when someone has negative life or work or just seeing bad news which is all ovee the internet. Thank you.
My birthday is within a couple of days of my nephew's and we both love it. We have epic joint parties, one of which was Star Wars themed and involved a hand-carved watermelon death star. There is no excuse for neglecting one family member to celebrate another.
That was awesome! Thank you for this offering! Camp green flag should be a real thing that folks could go to but for now it's great that you are offering it up on TH-cam ❤
When you grow up and find a sense of “normalcy” being forgotten or overlooked you’re really degrading yourself from reaching your full potential. Expecting external validation is so hard when you have those tools within you, but lack the esteem to realize that. I’m so happy to hear he finally got what he wanted. His efforts deserve recognition and respect. People who have been through this know what I mean. It’s important to drop some positive energy onto everyone you meet. I’m so proud of him 😊
THIS!!! we need more of THIS I wish nothing but the best for the good people in these wholesome stories. They deserve it. It's amazing spreading love and happiness to other human beings, especially during hard times. I love it.
Hey Dustin (and Cliff 😂) I’m a relatively new subscriber, autistic and going through my own mental and emotional health journey. Thanks for doing what you do, even the “heavy” stuff with the red flags is a mood boost. The last week would have been nowhere near as good without it. Please also pass on my gratitude and compliments to your gf, she seems like a certified 🟩 flag!
Im sobbing in my shop at the second story. I so understand. I'm there. That made me understand i .... need to move on and find folks who will say, hey! Good job! Thank you.
I feel ya. This one had me in tears of resonance too. It's hard to move on when you have no one to move to. We are here for you tho. Sadly I've found more support and understanding and encouragement from strangers on the internet than from those committed to love me in real life. But I believe this with my whole heart, you ARE worthy of love and understanding and appreciation. I still struggle to believe it for myself some times, but I have zero question in my deepest being that you do. So take that for what it's worth.
Proud of you for having that realization. It’s not easy. You’re doing a good job out there, fellow internet stranger. I really hope you’re able to find a bunch of good people that will support and love you in the way you need and deserve. Sending strength your way as you work to do so, again, I know it’s so so hard. But you can do it. I promise.
Im not gonna lie, the personal videos you do for the camp green flag merch are as amazing is this cameo video story. Ive been struggling so much lately, but i saved your thank you video to watch when im feeling down because its just so nice to hear someone being so genuinely kind. Thank you for these wholesome videos you do and cant wait to get my tshirt and sweatshirt!!
The first story is very touching. It is very similar to what i got, but we started dating not long time ago. He is nerdy and quirky, very kind to me and most gentle and respectful person in the world. I had a hard life with lots of abuse and trauma, and I can not believe there is someone as amazing as him on this planet. I find myself, a 25 year old man, letting out a tear of joy at the moments I think about this person ❤
Every video you post with green flags improves my day immensely! I’m sure these videos take so much time, physical AND mental labor, and effort in addition to all of the other things happening in your life, but I wanted to take a minute to let you know how much they help those of us that get to watch them. Thank you for your effort in putting them together, I’m wearing my Camp Green Flag shirt to bed as I watch this and I feel so glad to have found your videos here on TH-cam since I don’t use TikTok. You’re awesome and you matter. ❤
These are so wholesome and wonderful to hear 😊 I hope the cameo guy and his wife have some breakthroughs in their therapy, that was so sad but also touching. The car one reminds me of what we did with my husband's old car. It was nothing fancy, but was solid and should last a few more years. We offered it to my husband's cousin, who's across the country. He drove it up there and apparently they were shocked that it was actually in good shape, they thought since we were gifting it to them that it'd be total shite. My MIL always let's us know his cousin is now using that car to get to her multiple jobs AND getting her degree (or masters maybe?) and that she wouldn't be able to do that without the car. For us it was a small thing, but knowing what a big impact it had for her life just brings me so much joy. I need to watch these green flags more regularly because man the internet is a scary place sometimes! 😅
This channel has way too much wholesome. It counters the doom and gloom I see practically everywhere else. Actually makes me smile now. Please don’t stop
I honestly believe that the internet saves lives. People online have TOTALLY saved mine before during some of the darkest moments of my life. ps- I pressed that dang ole subscribe button the *moment* I found out you were doing TH-cam videos. Keep up the good work Dustin!
I just finished a week-long depressive episode followed by a visit to the source of my trauma (my parent's house). Watching your videos helps me learn how to be a better person and makes me feel better after enduring so much when I was younger. Thank you so much, and please do make more wholesome videos. They do mean a lot 🥺
I am so sad that your parents are the source of your trauma. I hope they are treating you better now, or that you can build a chosen family who give you the love you deserve.
I've given away both my previous cars. My very first one (a 1987 Chrysler Fifth Avenue), I donated to a non-profit company that fixed up old cars and gave them to people on public assistance. The second one (a 2000 Kia Sephia), I had gotten a really good job and was looking at replacing it with my very first brand new one. When I found out one of my sister's friends was disabled, on a fixed income, and had to try to deal with public transportation to make it to doctor and therapy appointments for herself as well as her elderly mother, I sold her the car for $1 so she wouldn't have to claim it as a gift on her taxes. It made me feel good to know that someone who needed it was able to have it instead of just trading it in for way less than it was worth.
I married someone that “nobody wanted”. I say that because I married the nice guy. He is the best human I have ever known or met. He is incredibly handsome and so kind that every woman treated him like a doormatt (his name is Matt). His ex wife cheated, his ex fiancée cheated and other women cheated or just lied. He’s so genuine and generous that when I met him on Tinder, I couldn’t figure out how I got so incredibly lucky. He is the perfect person to my weirdness and loves me for me. I’m bipolar 1 and I do struggle, often with depression. This man read books on bipolar and depression. Who does that? I met him when we were both 36 years old I had been in 2 long term ab*sive relationships. I know I’m all over the place, but this man is absolutely amazing and I love him so much. The nice guy is the guy you want. We’re celebrating 7 years of marriage this summer and I am more in love with him with each passing year. He’s my home, he’s my person, he’s my heart. ♥️
About thar last story. My mom did the exact same thing for a guy who just had a baby. She gave him her Toyota Corolla because she was moving to a different area and was planning to get a new car in a few weeks. He seemed like a nice young man who was starting out and really needed transportation. But...he never switched the title into his name and racked up thousands of dollars in toll fees. It was a nightmare. I had to drive my mom four hours back to her old city several times for court appearances. The judge ended up dropping the charges against her (it took months before she was aware of the tolls and late fees and charges against her) but the toll road authority went against the judge's wishes and made her pay the original toll amounts. ALWAYS MEET THEM AT THE DMV AND CHANGE THINGS OVER. NEVER TRUST SOMEONE TO DO IT ON THEIR OWN.
I've been feeling incredibly depressed recently after being ghosted by a long time friend. Your wholesome series has really made me feel like I'm not as alone as I thought I was. Thank you for making them. You'll never know how much they helped. I doubt you'll see this as there are so many comments here and I'm kind of late to the party but.... Again.... Thank you. You're an OFFICIAL First Class Green Flag Human.
Thank you so much for making these green flag vids. not too long ago i removed reddit from my phone and i avoid it as much as possible because it just drags me down. Great to see that there is some light there as well. Thanks for being my Reddit filter!
Before my life took a serious downturn, I used to carry bags in my van for people in need/homeless. The bags had a pack of new socks, a can of baby wipes, a tube of deodorant, a tooth brush, tooth paste and also kept few boxes of feminine hygiene products because homeless women have a real problem accessing them. In the winter I'd buy hoodies and sweaters at the thrift store for them, too (FL, so no big coats needed). When I moved where I live now, I saw more people in need. I no longer had a vehicle and my circumstances were reduced, but I'd take a lap around the shady spots to see who was needy and would just add a lunch to my groceries. It takes so little to help, even if we have little ourselves.
I love these wholesome stories! AITA stories are funny and all, but sometimes being reminded of the positive in the world just reset your brain after a bad day. Thanks for the video! ❤
Dustin I have watched a bunch of your green flag videos in a row, I am in tears because you are such a beautiful and kind soul. Your insight is deep and I think you are doing more good than you realize. Thank you for bringing your sweet heart to the world. Much love
I had someone give us a car he was donating to a radio station. After my partner surgery, job loss, car repo and near eviction. I cried on this story. I know that feeling! Ty amazing humans.
The story about the free car really got to me. And to include in the offer helping getting it registered? That's amazing. I'm glad that there are still good people in the world. Thanks for taking the time to point them out to us.
7:54 and this is what I'm telling myself every day! There's always two sides. To everything! At least! And that's why I love humans so much. We're a fascinating species!
I love putting my all into the gifts I give people. Im an artsy person, so I absolutely love painting things for someone I care about. I will buy little trinkets that remind me if a person and ill give it to them. All I get back is "I forget what you like". We been together for 5 years and have a 3 year old. I have legos and funko pops everywhere, I have art supplies everywhere...you dont know what I like...ok
I am the same as you, both in nature and in situation. I love gifting and giving love and somehow never get it back. We don't do it to get it back, but I just wish we were adored and loved the way we do..I hope people like us find their way into our lives. ❤❤
I had seen this guy every so often that I decided to watch one or two of his videos. But after you said I'm upsetting Cliff I subscribed. No one wants to hurt Cliff.
8:04 just started crying my eyes out for this person. It really does feel weird to have someone say good things about you when you’re so used to bad things. Or just no acknowledgment at all. It’s overwhelming. And hard to believe. Trauma sucks. I’m so sorry. 😢
Thank you, so required this. After today was just going to be indifferent and just pull back away from everyone. It is soothing to know there is still some kindness out there. Think I’m suffering empathy exhaustion.😢 Yet Thank You again I am very grateful. Felt I was just going to loose myself and just close down.
Thank you. For existing. For bringing just another touch of positivity into my life. I go out of my way generally to avoid negativity on the internet, and I'm honestly surprised that it took me this long to find your channel. Unfortunately, my consumption of your red flag videos will be sparse, given the above, but thank you all the same.
My husband was such a green flag I still can't believe he's mine- 10 years on. I was raised in a misogynist culture where males were held to different standards (ie: boys who slept around were just "sowing their oats" but if a girl held hands with a non-family member she was a "whore"- not exaggerating). He was the purest, kindest human being and I had a hard time believing it. He treats men and women with respect and loves our daughter in a way that heals my soul. He was the first man (included family) to love me without judgement or condesention. I actually struggled to trust him for years because of my background, but he has stood by me through it all. Good people and green flags still exist!
My husband and I are both autistic. We also come from trauma, so navigating life is hard. He is the most kind, thoughtful, and the funniest guy I have ever met. We both have triggers, but the respect for each other is above all. Im so lucky to have him, and the autism from either side causes some unique situations, but it has never been a problem. If you love someone and respect them, any boundary, any issue, can be talked about. My marriage is the easiest part about my life.
Oof. That story about the person who was being ignored hit me so hard. I don't think anyone has ever told me they were proud of me or congratulated me on anything. Like I remember being in sports year round, making varsity teams and getting medals and varsity letters and no one even attended the ceremonies with or for me. My surrogate aunt was who came to my 5th grade graduation and she pat my head and told me she knew I could do it. I really wanted to cry then but I wasn't allowed to and I just had to sit with that feeling. Of wishing my mom and sister were there. And of being comforted and encouraged by someone who knew very little about me all things considered. It's disappointing to notice that you never get very much praise or attention but it's so jarring to have even a moment of genuine connection and congratulations from someone who has seen your effort and work ethic. It hasn't happened since and I haven't really thought about it lately since I'm pretty isolated as an adult. But I felt that disappointment as he read off their responses and brush offs. It's a very lonely feeling and I'm glad he got the cameo. Although it would have been more impactful if she'd bothered to try congratulating them personally. Maybe they aren't very good at it or something but it feels like she just couldn't be bothered and that makes me sad.
Even though it’s just coming from an internet stranger, congratulations on getting to where you are now. I hope you have or will soon have better people around you. You should have gotten pride and joy from your family on your accomplishments. I was a very shy child who always wanted to do sports but was too afraid to try them, so I doubly admire the hard work you must have put in to your athletic pursuits. Congratulations and may what’s ahead of you be better than what’s behind.
Thank you for your videos - especially these long form ones. Thank you for helping me see that there are still good people out there. That goodness itself still exists. That humans can be safe, and kind, and compassionate. Thank you for inspiring me. Thank you for helping me find some hope that I have woefully been without for most of my life. Thank you❤
Dustin you are an adorable treasure! Love the flags, love hearing your take these crazy situations. Keep calm and carry on, Mr. Peach. You’re a total sweet pea..
I started following you. Only because, this channel makes my heart warm. Keep it up, man. Everyone of us forget that there is always good in the world.
THE DARK GREEN CAMP GREEN FLAG SWEATSHIRT IS EXCEPTIONAL - the middle panel in the hood means it STAYS on your head I am an Experiences sweatshirt wearer and this is by far the best hood design on a hoodie I’ve had yet!
Omg, I freaking love you! The Bob Barker was spot on. 🤣 Man am I glad the algorithm gods shined down on me the day I saw your first video short. I'm newly subbed and have been binge watching your videos. Hence all the likes and comments. I can't help myself 🤣 You know something? You're brilliant! The whole concept with red flag/green flag-genius! Freaking smart, hilarious, and your channel offers so much, I just love it! Fan for life, right here!! ❤️
You never fail to make me feel warm and I really think you are awesome. Please keep up creating this relatable, kind and life affirming content you create. Thank you.
I relate so much to the second story. I’ve always been neglected and ignored in my family and everyone or everything is always more important than my thoughts and feelings. Sending all the love ❤️
Just ordered the good people aren't dead shirt and can't wait to get it, really nice merch man thank you 💕 Literally found your content through shorts in the last couple weeks, I'm pregnant and need good content rn!
"I'm walking on sunshine" LOOOL I want to wear your merch, but I'm genuinely worried I'm not a good enough person to do so. I've done some things in my nearly 40 years on this planet that I don't know how to ever forgive myself for. I love your TH-cam channel. Deeply. It's brilliant. Please don't ever stop.
Your energy is absolutely infectious in the best way!! Keep on keepin’ on with this stuff man. Not that ya need me to tell ya, but your vids and personality are CHEF KISS
SIR! SIR! BROTHER IN CHRIST!! Didn’t you have merch that said “Get Honey Roasted”? I really wanted to buy that shirt, but now do not see it on your merch site. Was I just dreaming this shirt? Will it ever be available again? Thank you for your videos, you bring such joy to our house!!
I love Love on the Spectrum. James is the best! I hope he finds his person! I'm binging your videos right now; thanks for the balance of positive posts & red flag stories.
Don’t know why I’m commenting on this, but as a fellow autistic girl, I appreciate how much you stand up for your girlfriend. It warms my heart to know that some people may not get the full experience, but are still kind and accepting. . . . . . Also is your girlfriend single because uuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuh 😳
My husband was 31 years old when he lost his battle with depression and schizophrenia. By shotgun and in front of me. Our neighbors showed us kindnesses I couldn't be properly thankful for at the time. I remedied that eventually. Ms. Cynthia brought us pizza the evening after and home made deliciousness many nights after that. Saying that she didn't want me worrying about dinner for the kids(we have 4 aged 7 to 16). The whole neighborhood brought us gifts and money for Christmas. My across the street neighbor STILL does our lawn care four years later. When I was finally able to sell my husbands car, Ms Cynthia bought it at full price 30 minutes after we put the for sale sign on it. She GAVE IT AWAY to a teen at her church. His ex had literally dumped a baby on his porch and he was super happy but struggling without a car. That woman is a literal saint and I have the best neighbors in the world.
My God. I am so sorry.
You are amazi.g to be so thankful for your neighbors after such a horrific thing.
May you find peace and God Bless your family
@@1tommyday Thank you. ❤️ Especially seeing all the stories online, I am fully aware of how lucky I am. Kind of restored my faith in humanity. Ms. Cynthia might have literally saved my life.
What an amazing story, that started with such tragedy. So heartwarming to hear people are supported through hard times. This needs to be a movie!
I am so so so sorry please give Ms Cynthia a hug for me and tell her she is a legend
@geckokid8265 I will never stop hugging her and telling her how amazing she is. But I will give her extra from you! She deserves it. ❤️
The emotional abuse on that second story is insane. He should take himself out to dinner and a one-man party. That family doesn't deserve him at all.
And he wound up with a wife like that because his family brainwashed him to think this was normal.
The second story made me so mad. Your biggest supporters should be family and friends, but to constantly be let down is despicable.
It’s so unreal to me how people can justify treating someone like that to themselves. It never made sense and never will.
I hope he disconnects from everyone, including his wife. I mean the cameo was sweet of her to do, but she really "forgot" his bday for years?! We are poor. What money we have goes to bills and our kids, we used to be fine until the economy and rent hikes happened. Now we struggle struggle. No matter what, my hard working man has a cake on his bday. If I can swing it, some ice cream. I also make his favorite struggle meal. Unless I can swing something nicer. A smile and a genuine happy bday, thank you for being born, anything!
He needs to get a divorce and find someone who truly appreciates him. We are out there.
Whats even more fascinating is the amount of emotional abuse people endure so selflessly by people who are supposed to love them, it really kinda makes me mad thinking about it.. you dont continually traumatize someone or something you love... and these people deserve to be surrounded by better... i hope that cameo made that person realize how much better they deserve.
But its my fault because i picked them
@@IncredibleHodor No, it’s not your fault. They’re responsible for their behavior. Walk away
@@IncredibleHodor is it what you're used to? Sometimes our family of origin "teach" us what to expect from others. It is possible to break out of that cycle, though not always easy.
Being treated that way usually starts small and escalates. It sends your self esteem and self worth crashing down, then the gaslighting makes you believe it’s your fault you’re treated that way. Then sometimes they’ll wind up with people pleasing issues as a result, because all they want is to be loved and appreciated.
@@WarpedKarma6471 I think it says a whole lot about you that you wish for him to recognize his own worth, even if your relationship might not work out. I truly hope that you‘ll find a way together and that he will find his peace with you at his side!
The skip-galloping with the flag always puts a smile on my face.
Same. Never fails. This guy is so funny. Pure positive comedic talent.
God, same. Serotonin go boom
It's the clicking his heals mid jump for me.
Me too 😊
The second story had me in tears. Feeling seen and heard as a person who matters makes a world of difference
Yes! So much difference. And I find it rare. The fact that he's surrounded by the opposite still after all these years, hit home for me too. 😢😢😢
The cameo guy... I just wanna sing happy birthday to him every year and give him a hug. Breaks my heart.
For real
What is a cameo ?? Sorry if i sound stupid lol
@@KingJoy-pl3ij It's a personal message via video clip that you can pay celebrities to make
@@KingJoy-pl3ijso some people in the limelight (whether big or small) will be willing to do personalized videos for usually quite a low price, depending on their status/how in demand their vids are. usually it’s a “happy birthday (insert name here)” with a lil funny inside joke between the birthday person and their friend/family that commissioned it
How cool would it be to find his social media account and all of us from around the world could post us singing Happy Birthday to him next year? That would bring him so much joy.
I've been falling into a "everyone is evil and scary and awful" pit lately due to the state of the world and my job and videos like this help so much. Thank you for making these
I have, too. Life hasn’t been the most tolerable or enjoyable thing for me lately but I’m trying to hold out for better things. You’ll be okay friend ❤
everyone is scary and evil and awful because they don't accept enough immigrants to further decrease the wages of our jobs
Same and same 🦭
I get how that can happen. I hope you're feeling better. I've been having a streak of the opposite lately. I only share that so you know both kinds of groupings exist.
ThIS!!!
My dad’s birthday is two days after mine…the dates being so close makes them impossible to forget. How…how does the mom’s birthday being four days away make everyone forget about op’s??
Yeah, me and my brother have birthdays 8 days apart and we could never forget them! As kids there were times when we'd have a combined birthday, maybe on a weekend between our birthdays, but how do you forget someone???
I have two little sisters, and one of their birthdays is two days after my birthday too! And my older brother's birthday is the day before my mom's, and none of us forgets these birthdays! Every once in a while, if life gets too busy, we might dedicate a day to celebrate both birthdays(for which has that birth month). But we certainly don't do what this poor man's family has done!
Two of my siblings have their birthdays a day apart and 4/5 days away from my father. None of us have ever forgotten a birthday and although we might have one big celebration for when other family members come over everyone gets a separate birthday cake/meal on their birthday. My heart breaks for OP
I'm gonna be super cynical here, but... They remember. They are simply and sadly cruel and want him to feel like crap. This is cruelty to a level that is performative, at this point...
Not forget, prioritize
I love your green flag series - my mental health has been seriously suffering lately but seeing the good out there through these videos and through you helps me hold on a little tighter
Bless you so much, may God bring you a beautiful support system of good friends. I prayed for years and I was not ok, and now I finally have it
I'm hugging you 🫂🙏 I suffer from mental health & it's a daily battle. When I'm in a down cycle it's even harder. I understand you. One of my favorite quotes, is that your illness doesn't define you, your strength & who you are does. 💜
My husband's family was shitty to him and he didn't understand that it wasn't ok.
When he got gifts for christmas from my family he wasn't sure how to handle it. Hadn't known him for long, so it was a bit of a guessing game to find stuff he would like.
He didn't cry a lot, but he did when he realized he also got to keep them.
💔i'm sorry, this makes me both happy and sad
I have autism and adhd, it means so much that you are so accomadating and idk, NORMAL about everything. I love thé feeling of being accepted in this channel. Thank you so much.
Same hat - well put!
Had to put my 11 y/o cat to rest last week and your videos help put a smile on my face right now, thank you for uploading
I’m so very sorry!
So sorry to hear this :( I know that shit hurts. I appreciate the kind words!
I am so sorry for the loss of your furry friend. I understand, we’ve lost three of our furry family members in the last two years. We just this past year brought in a new puppy who has brought some fun and love back into our home. Sending you a huge hug from one furry mamma to another! 🤗
Massive hugs, aww its so painful having to say goodbye to a beloved pet. I'm sure it was done with love. RIP kitty
So sorry for your loss.
The first story has the same energy as the dude who made a video with a title like "my experiences being ugly" and found love after a comment there. Great to see good and beautiful people being recognized as awesome exactly as they are instead of the sad pattern where they unhealthily try to adapt to "societal expectations".
My sons birthday is three days after mine and I’ve always focused straight on his, and most of the time he’s asked to celebrate mine along with his at his parties and it makes me cry about how much he cares about mine when my own mom has never remembered it. I don’t understand how you can just not care about your child that you grew and their feelings.
Maybe do a special birthday date just you and him to celebrate both your birthdays so he's not worrying about yours being forgotten and can focus on the celebration you plan for him and enjoy it thoroughly without worrying about taking care of your feelings! That way you BOTH are acknowledged but he gets special time in addition to that, just the two of you! ❤🎉 Happy, happy birthday 🎂🎈
@@jodi-bethfelton3696that's an excellent idea. You're a good egg 🥚
My mom remembers the birthdays of her eight kids. But she sends cards and money at the end of the month when she got her SS check. Well, she died in a fire on my sister's birthday. We asked that they put the next day on the death certificate as that's when she was found BY that same sister. It was a fire in the middle of the night.
Anyway, my birthday was also that month and I always looked forward to that card. Obviously, I did not get it. That broke me.
My husband is neurodivergent and I am truly shocked that he was still single when I met him. He is the most incredible husband ever, and I love his quirks! It just makes him more interesting, and I'm a little quirky myself, so it works. Even after 14 years of marriage, people still ask us if we are newlyweds because of how gaga we are over each other. He takes me on a fun date night almost every week, and is always looking for ways to "improve and optimize" our marriage. I love him so much, and I think a lot of women are just dumb. They go after the bad boys and ignore the sweet and amazing men who will be amazing husbands. My husband is my best friend in the whole world and I still get butterflies when I know he's coming home!
He sounds awesome!
@atonofspiders Awww he really is! Right now he's making homemade waffles for us. We're going to have breakfast for dinner ❤️
How gorgeous ❤
Bless you both🫂
As someone who has cPTSD and severe depression, I LOVE these Green Flag videos. It’s nice to be reminded of the good in people, especially these days, and I always give my husband a big kiss and a hug after watching. Thanks for the awesome content! ❤
Lets be friends. My husband and I adopt people who need things to smile about.
This! I'm the same way, can't watch most stuff the world seems to find entertaining, cptsd here too. This and the good newss movement are lifesavers for me.
I hope everyone in this thread has something wonderful and unexpected happen to them this week.
I wanna give the second dude a really, really big hug. And have a nice long chat with him about our lives.
SAME!!!! sending you both huge warm virtual hugs 🤗🙏🏽♥️
Thank you for these. Reddit always seems like a cesspool of negativity and weirdness sometimes and this makes me happy. We need more happiness and feel-good stories in our world.
My girlfriend’s green flag is that when I was on ft with her, I was in a bra and pajama pants because I was overheating, and her sister wanted to see what I looked like. My girlfriend covered her phone so her sister couldn’t see me and said “she’s in a bra, not right now” and her sister kept pushing it. My girlfriend turned over her phone and waited until I said it was ok to flip it back over. It made me so happy because she even said that she cares more about my comfort than showing off my body. It’s so awesome :)
That’s so fucking cute😭😭
You got a good one! Respect for you and your own autonomy and privacy, so so important and often rare.
What the heck is with her sister?
@@catbatrat1760 I don’t know bro, she said after that I was a catch even though she has a girlfriend
@@Anchor-lu7jm that's pretty weird, damn. I feel bad for her girlfriend
I absolutely love the fact that Dustin has a mustache but he still wears a fake mustache to run with the flag
Guy from Story 2 needs to just... leave all those people behind and start fresh, hot damn...
Been there, it's not as easy as you think. Making new friends is extremely difficult because you can't trust *anybody* to do the right thing or be a decent person without expecting miles from you in return, because the people you trusted the most in the world and invested the most into the first time betrayed you. There was a standard of treatment that was acceptable to up until you decided to leave, and rewiring your brain around that is extremely difficult. You chose to accept being a doormat for years, if not decades, and the weight of that choice is very heavy compared to the weight of a choice of betterment that, while made correctly, was made *recently.* And, when you can't trust to make new friends, you don't have a new support group, so you constantly fall back to thinking about those people when you're lonely. In a way, it's almost like you start taking them into yourself as a part of you just from the amount of trauma and hatred at both yourself and them for you going through that. And until you can get through that and stop hating/blaming yourself, you can't just move on. You can physically leave, but emotionally, you're still there well after they're gone. It takes a really kind person to love somebody through that much pain and trauma. Those kinds of people are in very short supply these days. I feel like more and more kind people are going to self-isolate and die from loneliness, because social health matters as much as our physical health to our physical state (brain, blood vessels, organs, lungs), and our society has become a breeding ground for narcissists, because every reward and every need is hypercompetitive. Continue adding in social issue after social issue to rally around, label after label to distance ourselves from each other, and you gave them the perfect social script to follow AND the perfect environment for a narcissist to really thrive.
@@Hyderageanthis. THIS.
@@Hyderageanvery true, plus trauma bond, religious beliefs, community ties, etc and other things like this make it tough to just up and leave. And you're so right about the health being important just as much as physical. And research OP alluded to (consciously or not) shows how connected they are.
I thought that too. But when he said his girlfriend and he were in therapy, I was impressed with him. He didn't throw out the baby with the bath water.
The stories you read are touching. But your delivery of the stories (and commentary AND flags) make it just heartwarming. I starting to look forward to your next video. Your stories are a wonderful way to help people feel more thankful and inspired. Thank you for sharing your talents!! It means so much.
I hope one day I'll be in a position where I can give someone who needs it something big without asking anything in return. I know what that feels like, it's like all your problems disappear for a second cause someone just fixed a huge issue of yours with one sentence, one act of kindness. I let some students who are motivated and need it take my courses for free (I'm a language teacher for adults) and don't advertise that for the same reason as the person in the video. But giving someone a whole ass car is next level, they must have both felt so great about this ♥️
I love this stuff! Especially when it's not just fine for internet clout!
@lay4545 I don't know what kind of language teacher you are, but that's amazing! 1) Teachers just ROCK! 2) Giving someone the gift of being able to communicate effectively is priceless. It opens so many doors for people. 3) You're teaching adults. I could be wrong, but that tells me they were failed somewhere as children, and you're righting that wrong.
I would love to teach adults who can't read or write those extremely valuable skills, but I worry I would cry tears of joy in front of them when they achieve their goals.
Kuddos to you for generously donating your courses.
@@Hulana42 they might need those tears of joy from someone like you. I say go for it if you are able!
@@Hulana42 im so sorry for not replying earlier, I read your comment while at the gym one day and was busy trying not to cry 😂 your comment came at a moment where I was struggling to fill my courses for the coming semester (it's already looking much better now though💪) and it really reminded me of why I'm doing what I'm doing, and why I've chosen this path, so thank you!!! We should never underestimate the impact of kindness of strangers on the internet 🥹 comment sections can be a vile mean place sometimes, but they can equally be a place of uplift and kindness. 😊 (I'm a German teacher for adults and occasionally teenagers who come to Germany in search of a better life btw. My courses include anyone from IT experts to refugees)
I don't know man, I think you've changed quite a few lives giving away free classes... Thai is something big to some people
Kindness and generosity are extremely attractive - both to other kindhearted people AND users. I’m always happy to see when good matches with good.
The car story, I love stuff like that. You never ever forget those things when they happen to you, they stay with you forever. I’m so glad that person got the car they needed. ❤
I sat down ready to cry after a hard day and now I'm crying for a different reason completely. The story about the person finally hearing even a complete stranger congratulate them broke me so hard. Thank you.
I'm gonna add my own green flag story. I'm a server, lazy night, my final table of the night was a family of five. Some old gentleman at the bar decided that he was a touch loaded at the moment and that he was going to pay for their meal. After, he made sure that they'd tipped me, and continued the cordial conversation he'd been having with our bartender for some time. It was a great way to end the night.
I can not imagine not celebrating my husband! I love him more than life. Hell, I celebrated him standing up for himself and quitting his job 2 days ago. Everyone needs supported!
❤loving this! When someone does not only what is best for themself, but can do it knowing their life partner absolutely has their back?
Frigging absolute GOLD!!!!🎉🎉❤🎉🎉🎉
My kids birthday is Xmas eve, he’s still just a toddler but the second story is why I’ll never let Christmas over shadow his birthday. I don’t want him to feel the way that person did 😭
My whole life, my family has always hard-pivoted to Christmas the day after Thanksgiving. Putting up the tree, the lights, the snow village, all that jazz. My son’s birthday is Dec 1, and I didn’t want him to get lost in the Christmas frenzy, so now we put up the tree and most decorations around Dec 3 or later. Not the same thing as a Xmas eve birthday, but it reminded me of how accommodating my entire family was of “can we please adjust our life-long tradition for the sake of your grandson?”
My daughters is New Year and I love that for what may seem like an odd reason to some. New Year was my favorite holiday growing up because we would spend it with family, then my parents got divorced and there was a lot of trauma associsted with New Year specifically and so I stopped celebrating it. But then this amazing little person came into my life and now I get to celebrate her instead. However, because it's a public holiday and people will make a big deal about it (plus my partner and I both have overbearing families) we have a second secret day that only my partner and I celebrate with her in the middle of the year. So she gets double the celebrating and doesn't have to worry about being overshadowed by christmas and new year
My birthday is a few days after Xmas, and my mom was always very careful to make sure I had a separate celebration and it never got lost in the season.
Some tips from my own childhood:
- since Christmas presents appeared under the tree throughout the month, mom also made sure to have some birthday presents set aside so both days had a visual reminder that it was coming soon
- mom always had two distinct sets of wrapping paper and never let them overlap, even the plain red Christmas paper was NOT used for my birthday
Those really helped me personally and I highly recommend them as options to consider for anyone else trying to keep a near-Christmas birthday from getting swallowed by the season
@@yomz1135 thank you so much for giving your personal experience, it has confirmed that I’m going the correct things so far! I already hide away all Xmas gifts in my bedroom until Xmas morning and not under the tree and like your mom, i have always been very strict with wrapping paper. I will refuse to accept any gifts from family that look even close to Xmas. I also always make sure he has a birthday cake and candles.
Creators who make videos that are wholesome really helps when someone has negative life or work or just seeing bad news which is all ovee the internet. Thank you.
My birthday is within a couple of days of my nephew's and we both love it. We have epic joint parties, one of which was Star Wars themed and involved a hand-carved watermelon death star. There is no excuse for neglecting one family member to celebrate another.
I’ve been crawling my way out of depression for the last six months. Your videos really help. Thank you so much. ❤
Hang in there, keep up the work!
@@wednes3day thank you! I appreciate the positive vibes. I hope you’re doing well!
hope you're doing better these days!
I love you, you’ve got this. I’m glad you’re still here with us all
I feel that. You're not alone. We got this!!!
That was awesome! Thank you for this offering! Camp green flag should be a real thing that folks could go to but for now it's great that you are offering it up on TH-cam ❤
When you grow up and find a sense of “normalcy” being forgotten or overlooked you’re really degrading yourself from reaching your full potential. Expecting external validation is so hard when you have those tools within you, but lack the esteem to realize that. I’m so happy to hear he finally got what he wanted. His efforts deserve recognition and respect. People who have been through this know what I mean. It’s important to drop some positive energy onto everyone you meet. I’m so proud of him 😊
THIS!!! we need more of THIS
I wish nothing but the best for the good people in these wholesome stories. They deserve it. It's amazing spreading love and happiness to other human beings, especially during hard times. I love it.
Hey Dustin (and Cliff 😂)
I’m a relatively new subscriber, autistic and going through my own mental and emotional health journey. Thanks for doing what you do, even the “heavy” stuff with the red flags is a mood boost. The last week would have been nowhere near as good without it.
Please also pass on my gratitude and compliments to your gf, she seems like a certified 🟩 flag!
Appreciate you!!!
Im sobbing in my shop at the second story. I so understand. I'm there. That made me understand i .... need to move on and find folks who will say, hey! Good job! Thank you.
You are wonderful and deserve friends and people who recognize that. By the way, good job!
I feel ya. This one had me in tears of resonance too. It's hard to move on when you have no one to move to. We are here for you tho. Sadly I've found more support and understanding and encouragement from strangers on the internet than from those committed to love me in real life.
But I believe this with my whole heart, you ARE worthy of love and understanding and appreciation. I still struggle to believe it for myself some times, but I have zero question in my deepest being that you do. So take that for what it's worth.
Hey, good job on recognizing your self worth and doing what you need to get the life you deserve! I wish you nothing but love and happiness my friend
Hey, I hope you are doing well. You deserve love and kindness. You are worthy of that.
Proud of you for having that realization. It’s not easy. You’re doing a good job out there, fellow internet stranger. I really hope you’re able to find a bunch of good people that will support and love you in the way you need and deserve. Sending strength your way as you work to do so, again, I know it’s so so hard. But you can do it. I promise.
Im not gonna lie, the personal videos you do for the camp green flag merch are as amazing is this cameo video story. Ive been struggling so much lately, but i saved your thank you video to watch when im feeling down because its just so nice to hear someone being so genuinely kind. Thank you for these wholesome videos you do and cant wait to get my tshirt and sweatshirt!!
You deserve all of the brownie points for that epic 360 Green Flag spin, my guy!
The first story is very touching. It is very similar to what i got, but we started dating not long time ago. He is nerdy and quirky, very kind to me and most gentle and respectful person in the world. I had a hard life with lots of abuse and trauma, and I can not believe there is someone as amazing as him on this planet. I find myself, a 25 year old man, letting out a tear of joy at the moments I think about this person ❤
Every video you post with green flags improves my day immensely! I’m sure these videos take so much time, physical AND mental labor, and effort in addition to all of the other things happening in your life, but I wanted to take a minute to let you know how much they help those of us that get to watch them. Thank you for your effort in putting them together, I’m wearing my Camp Green Flag shirt to bed as I watch this and I feel so glad to have found your videos here on TH-cam since I don’t use TikTok. You’re awesome and you matter. ❤
I was gonna say this, but les eloquently. So, I second this!
I love the Green Flags! Keep 'em coming, counter the bad stuff all over this platform! Thank you!!! 💕
These are so wholesome and wonderful to hear 😊 I hope the cameo guy and his wife have some breakthroughs in their therapy, that was so sad but also touching. The car one reminds me of what we did with my husband's old car. It was nothing fancy, but was solid and should last a few more years. We offered it to my husband's cousin, who's across the country. He drove it up there and apparently they were shocked that it was actually in good shape, they thought since we were gifting it to them that it'd be total shite. My MIL always let's us know his cousin is now using that car to get to her multiple jobs AND getting her degree (or masters maybe?) and that she wouldn't be able to do that without the car. For us it was a small thing, but knowing what a big impact it had for her life just brings me so much joy.
I need to watch these green flags more regularly because man the internet is a scary place sometimes! 😅
This channel has way too much wholesome. It counters the doom and gloom I see practically everywhere else. Actually makes me smile now. Please don’t stop
I honestly believe that the internet saves lives. People online have TOTALLY saved mine before during some of the darkest moments of my life.
ps- I pressed that dang ole subscribe button the *moment* I found out you were doing TH-cam videos. Keep up the good work Dustin!
I just finished a week-long depressive episode followed by a visit to the source of my trauma (my parent's house). Watching your videos helps me learn how to be a better person and makes me feel better after enduring so much when I was younger. Thank you so much, and please do make more wholesome videos. They do mean a lot 🥺
Sending huge hugs. I feel this so much. Been there. Super tough. Glad you're able to feel the feelings. So important! 🤗🤗🤗
I am so sad that your parents are the source of your trauma. I hope they are treating you better now, or that you can build a chosen family who give you the love you deserve.
Bless
I've given away both my previous cars. My very first one (a 1987 Chrysler Fifth Avenue), I donated to a non-profit company that fixed up old cars and gave them to people on public assistance. The second one (a 2000 Kia Sephia), I had gotten a really good job and was looking at replacing it with my very first brand new one. When I found out one of my sister's friends was disabled, on a fixed income, and had to try to deal with public transportation to make it to doctor and therapy appointments for herself as well as her elderly mother, I sold her the car for $1 so she wouldn't have to claim it as a gift on her taxes. It made me feel good to know that someone who needed it was able to have it instead of just trading it in for way less than it was worth.
Yes I recommend this. Sell for a token amount and do all the paperwork including change of title. Better for everyone.
1:54 that spin, siiirrrr
This is why I can’t quit Reddit. Every once in a while, it shines.
I married someone that “nobody wanted”. I say that because I married the nice guy. He is the best human I have ever known or met. He is incredibly handsome and so kind that every woman treated him like a doormatt (his name is Matt). His ex wife cheated, his ex fiancée cheated and other women cheated or just lied. He’s so genuine and generous that when I met him on Tinder, I couldn’t figure out how I got so incredibly lucky. He is the perfect person to my weirdness and loves me for me. I’m bipolar 1 and I do struggle, often with depression. This man read books on bipolar and depression. Who does that? I met him when we were both 36 years old I had been in 2 long term ab*sive relationships. I know I’m all over the place, but this man is absolutely amazing and I love him so much. The nice guy is the guy you want. We’re celebrating 7 years of marriage this summer and I am more in love with him with each passing year. He’s my home, he’s my person, he’s my heart. ♥️
It’s pretty amazing when you find the other half of you. ❤ I found that 17 years ago. I found someone that matches my weird.
About thar last story. My mom did the exact same thing for a guy who just had a baby. She gave him her Toyota Corolla because she was moving to a different area and was planning to get a new car in a few weeks. He seemed like a nice young man who was starting out and really needed transportation.
But...he never switched the title into his name and racked up thousands of dollars in toll fees. It was a nightmare. I had to drive my mom four hours back to her old city several times for court appearances. The judge ended up dropping the charges against her (it took months before she was aware of the tolls and late fees and charges against her) but the toll road authority went against the judge's wishes and made her pay the original toll amounts.
ALWAYS MEET THEM AT THE DMV AND CHANGE THINGS OVER. NEVER TRUST SOMEONE TO DO IT ON THEIR OWN.
These videos warm my heart and are exactly the pick me up I need during this transitional period of my life(I'm graduating!)
I've been feeling incredibly depressed recently after being ghosted by a long time friend. Your wholesome series has really made me feel like I'm not as alone as I thought I was. Thank you for making them. You'll never know how much they helped. I doubt you'll see this as there are so many comments here and I'm kind of late to the party but.... Again.... Thank you. You're an OFFICIAL First Class Green Flag Human.
Thank you so much for making these green flag vids. not too long ago i removed reddit from my phone and i avoid it as much as possible because it just drags me down. Great to see that there is some light there as well. Thanks for being my Reddit filter!
Before my life took a serious downturn, I used to carry bags in my van for people in need/homeless. The bags had a pack of new socks, a can of baby wipes, a tube of deodorant, a tooth brush, tooth paste and also kept few boxes of feminine hygiene products because homeless women have a real problem accessing them. In the winter I'd buy hoodies and sweaters at the thrift store for them, too (FL, so no big coats needed). When I moved where I live now, I saw more people in need. I no longer had a vehicle and my circumstances were reduced, but I'd take a lap around the shady spots to see who was needy and would just add a lunch to my groceries. It takes so little to help, even if we have little ourselves.
I love these wholesome stories! AITA stories are funny and all, but sometimes being reminded of the positive in the world just reset your brain after a bad day.
Thanks for the video! ❤
Dustin I have watched a bunch of your green flag videos in a row, I am in tears because you are such a beautiful and kind soul. Your insight is deep and I think you are doing more good than you realize. Thank you for bringing your sweet heart to the world. Much love
I had someone give us a car he was donating to a radio station. After my partner surgery, job loss, car repo and near eviction. I cried on this story. I know that feeling! Ty amazing humans.
You are such a great guy and I love listening to you. Thanks for your videos and I hope more people will find you!
The story about the free car really got to me. And to include in the offer helping getting it registered? That's amazing. I'm glad that there are still good people in the world. Thanks for taking the time to point them out to us.
Doing all the paperwork including change of title is better for everyone involved. 👍🏼
7:54 and this is what I'm telling myself every day! There's always two sides. To everything! At least! And that's why I love humans so much. We're a fascinating species!
The skit at the beginning of the video is so wholesome, it made my heart explode
Your acting with you and yourself is just awesome. You have such great comedic timing. I really enjoy your videos, the positivity, and laughs.
I love putting my all into the gifts I give people. Im an artsy person, so I absolutely love painting things for someone I care about. I will buy little trinkets that remind me if a person and ill give it to them. All I get back is "I forget what you like". We been together for 5 years and have a 3 year old. I have legos and funko pops everywhere, I have art supplies everywhere...you dont know what I like...ok
Oh my. I'm so sorry. No effort, no love. You deserve so much better, so does your child. Sending big hugs. And happy birthdays for when you need them.
I am the same as you, both in nature and in situation. I love gifting and giving love and somehow never get it back. We don't do it to get it back, but I just wish we were adored and loved the way we do..I hope people like us find their way into our lives. ❤❤
I had seen this guy every so often that I decided to watch one or two of his videos. But after you said I'm upsetting Cliff I subscribed. No one wants to hurt Cliff.
8:04 just started crying my eyes out for this person. It really does feel weird to have someone say good things about you when you’re so used to bad things. Or just no acknowledgment at all. It’s overwhelming. And hard to believe. Trauma sucks. I’m so sorry. 😢
Thank you, so required this. After today was just going to be indifferent and just pull back away from everyone. It is soothing to know there is still some kindness out there.
Think I’m suffering empathy exhaustion.😢
Yet Thank You again I am very grateful. Felt I was just going to loose myself and just close down.
Be kind. It’s so easy and it makes all the difference.
Thank you. For existing. For bringing just another touch of positivity into my life. I go out of my way generally to avoid negativity on the internet, and I'm honestly surprised that it took me this long to find your channel. Unfortunately, my consumption of your red flag videos will be sparse, given the above, but thank you all the same.
My husband was such a green flag I still can't believe he's mine- 10 years on. I was raised in a misogynist culture where males were held to different standards (ie: boys who slept around were just "sowing their oats" but if a girl held hands with a non-family member she was a "whore"- not exaggerating). He was the purest, kindest human being and I had a hard time believing it. He treats men and women with respect and loves our daughter in a way that heals my soul. He was the first man (included family) to love me without judgement or condesention. I actually struggled to trust him for years because of my background, but he has stood by me through it all. Good people and green flags still exist!
Felt that, welp that's a trauma response 6:12
thank you, i'm feeling so much empty and hopeless in this days that listening those stories gave me some happiness
My husband and I are both autistic. We also come from trauma, so navigating life is hard. He is the most kind, thoughtful, and the funniest guy I have ever met. We both have triggers, but the respect for each other is above all. Im so lucky to have him, and the autism from either side causes some unique situations, but it has never been a problem. If you love someone and respect them, any boundary, any issue, can be talked about. My marriage is the easiest part about my life.
Oof. That story about the person who was being ignored hit me so hard. I don't think anyone has ever told me they were proud of me or congratulated me on anything. Like I remember being in sports year round, making varsity teams and getting medals and varsity letters and no one even attended the ceremonies with or for me. My surrogate aunt was who came to my 5th grade graduation and she pat my head and told me she knew I could do it. I really wanted to cry then but I wasn't allowed to and I just had to sit with that feeling. Of wishing my mom and sister were there. And of being comforted and encouraged by someone who knew very little about me all things considered.
It's disappointing to notice that you never get very much praise or attention but it's so jarring to have even a moment of genuine connection and congratulations from someone who has seen your effort and work ethic.
It hasn't happened since and I haven't really thought about it lately since I'm pretty isolated as an adult. But I felt that disappointment as he read off their responses and brush offs. It's a very lonely feeling and I'm glad he got the cameo. Although it would have been more impactful if she'd bothered to try congratulating them personally. Maybe they aren't very good at it or something but it feels like she just couldn't be bothered and that makes me sad.
Even though it’s just coming from an internet stranger, congratulations on getting to where you are now. I hope you have or will soon have better people around you. You should have gotten pride and joy from your family on your accomplishments.
I was a very shy child who always wanted to do sports but was too afraid to try them, so I doubly admire the hard work you must have put in to your athletic pursuits.
Congratulations and may what’s ahead of you be better than what’s behind.
You earned everything you've achieved. Bless you! 🫂
After i broke my ankle in autumn 2016 i've met so many people who helped me start a new life altogether.
JUST THANK YOU ALL!
Thank you for your videos - especially these long form ones. Thank you for helping me see that there are still good people out there. That goodness itself still exists. That humans can be safe, and kind, and compassionate. Thank you for inspiring me. Thank you for helping me find some hope that I have woefully been without for most of my life. Thank you❤
You are doing an amazing job for mental health around the world
Dustin you are an adorable treasure! Love the flags, love hearing your take these crazy situations. Keep calm and carry on, Mr. Peach. You’re a total sweet pea..
I started following you. Only because, this channel makes my heart warm. Keep it up, man. Everyone of us forget that there is always good in the world.
Fellow Arkansan with an autistic partner! I definitely feel your rage when it comes to how people on the spectrum are treated.
Thank you so much for these videos. They remind me that while the world is a mess, there is still a whole lot of good out there too.
THE DARK GREEN CAMP GREEN FLAG SWEATSHIRT IS EXCEPTIONAL - the middle panel in the hood means it STAYS on your head
I am an Experiences sweatshirt wearer and this is by far the best hood design on a hoodie I’ve had yet!
Omg, I freaking love you! The Bob Barker was spot on. 🤣
Man am I glad the algorithm gods shined down on me the day I saw your first video short. I'm newly subbed and have been binge watching your videos. Hence all the likes and comments. I can't help myself 🤣
You know something? You're brilliant! The whole concept with red flag/green flag-genius! Freaking smart, hilarious, and your channel offers so much, I just love it! Fan for life, right here!! ❤️
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ITS FLAG DAY, FOLKS!
You never fail to make me feel warm and I really think you are awesome. Please keep up creating this relatable, kind and life affirming content you create. Thank you.
I relate so much to the second story. I’ve always been neglected and ignored in my family and everyone or everything is always more important than my thoughts and feelings. Sending all the love ❤️
Just ordered the good people aren't dead shirt and can't wait to get it, really nice merch man thank you 💕
Literally found your content through shorts in the last couple weeks, I'm pregnant and need good content rn!
My husband is the nice guy that got hurt and I’m so happy that we found each other because 6 years later we are even more happy than ever ❤
Dustin I love your videos. Thank you so much for being you. I have never laughed and cried so hard at a TH-camr. Bless!
I cant buy merch bust still want to contribute to camp green flag.
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"I'm walking on sunshine" LOOOL
I want to wear your merch, but I'm genuinely worried I'm not a good enough person to do so.
I've done some things in my nearly 40 years on this planet that I don't know how to ever forgive myself for.
I love your TH-cam channel. Deeply.
It's brilliant. Please don't ever stop.
This channel is amazing. Thank you for this idea, following through, and spreading love. Keep it up!
Your energy is absolutely infectious in the best way!! Keep on keepin’ on with this stuff man. Not that ya need me to tell ya, but your vids and personality are CHEF KISS
SIR! SIR! BROTHER IN CHRIST!!
Didn’t you have merch that said “Get Honey Roasted”? I really wanted to buy that shirt, but now do not see it on your merch site. Was I just dreaming this shirt? Will it ever be available again? Thank you for your videos, you bring such joy to our house!!
That kid is gonna have the best father possible, that will show him the benefits and joy of helping others.
I love "Love on the Spectrum" but Abbey, Steve, and Kaelynn are my faves, they're just so genuine and sweet
I needed your positivity. Thank you ❤
I so love that there are green and red flag stories. The balance is perfect. ❤
I love Love on the Spectrum. James is the best! I hope he finds his person!
I'm binging your videos right now; thanks for the balance of positive posts & red flag stories.
Don’t know why I’m commenting on this, but as a fellow autistic girl, I appreciate how much you stand up for your girlfriend. It warms my heart to know that some people may not get the full experience, but are still kind and accepting.
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Also is your girlfriend single because uuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuh 😳