Oh, just wanted to put this. I read the first story some times ago and it came out, I don't remember if in the comment or update that the wife didn't "abort" she had a spontaneous abortion. Her pregnancy was harder that he let on, even in that month that she was "better" and the stress of finding out he cheated made her lose the baby. The husband was trying to manipulate the story for support
In most place you can't have an abortion at 4 months so that was a bit fishy when I first read it so I went to read the whole post and I was right. She called her bff during the night (she was sleeping alone) because she saw blood coming from down there. She didn't wake the husband and went to the hospital with her. Or something like that. We can probably find it again if he didn't delete the Post
People like this say this until they get their wife back, and then they leave the wife. What they really mean is "i Cant live without being the one Who leaves "
It’s literally normal to be sick because of pregnancy, such males should NEVER marry or date!! They don’t know anything at all about women, they expect women to be healthy and perfect. Delusional men!
He’s a dick for sure but I also wonder if he maybe got confused because of something the hospital said or the hospital paperwork said? I’ve unfortunately lost a pregnancy a little after 14 weeks. I didn’t have any outward signs of a miscarriage though. No bleeding nothing. It was labeled a missed miscarriage but they also labeled it a spontaneous abortion .
@@Raraking4796 , in medical-speak, a miscarriage is called a spontaneous ab*rtion. OP is such a dumbs$$, that he probably doesn't know what spontaneous means and just heard ab*rtion.
I honestly thought it was gonna be about how she was allergic to some food that the restaurant prepared. As a picky eater myself for various reasons, I'd have just taken the modified dish option, or perhaps the dessert. Sounds like she was determined to move the dinner to another restaurant and didn't even really consider the other options. Although I'm very glad that she saw the error of her ways and is working to make it better.
Me too! I thought she was going to have some sort of food allergy or medical conditions that kept her from being able to eat anything from the restaurant. (I myself have jaw issues that limit my ability to eat certain things, I fully empathize with people who want to eat things but can't)
I don't believe that story, and esp with the update it's just too goofy? I have no idea why people make up these stories, really can't imagine, but they do and nobody acts like that, AND is then swiftly convinced of the error of their ways. If any of that happened I truly don't know anything about humanity at all.
I thought she'd be lactose intolerant or extremely sick in some way. And that the dinner was some random corporate event, not a personal family event. Was almost ready to give her a pass...
"I know I made a mistake sleeping with my coworker, but I can't live without my wife" JESUS CHRIST, I know not all men are like this, but fuck doesn't that sentence sounds like there's no hope.
A mistake is to over salt your soup, not to dick down a coworker. A contradiction is loving someone and cheating on them, when both of you are in a lifelong, committed, and monogamous relationship. This is why I value respect over love. Cause pricks like this genuinely think they can love someone and cheat on them. Anyone can love and be love without being respected. Hell, we all have children, nieces, nephews, etc. You can even love someone without liking them. R.E.S.P.EC.T., man.
Last story- run. Also report the whole family to CPS. No way his disgusting, abusive behaviours and the pattern of “keeping it in the family” won’t ruin the life of his infant daughter!
What i was thinking too! Not to mention that the infant daughters mother was not specified, but apparently known by most family members. So if one of the cousins wasnt the mother, how many women did he have on the side? (And why did they put up with his grossness?!)
@@GiordanDiodato could be in Alabama. But cycles of abuse through the generations can happen in any part of the world. If it just becomes that family’s “normal” they will defend their perceptions and reputations
@@Cantmakeupmymindonaname Excatly! How can his family know about his infant daughter that his fiancé doesn't know about, if they didn't know he had been cheating on her the entire time? And with how abusive he got, I do feel scared for the infant. I hope she'll grow up safely, but with a family like that, I have a bad feeling.
@@XFizzlepop-Berrytwist OP lied, anyone that works at a hospital knows with the time frame she was in and the laws put in place, it was a miscarriage. Hospitals don’t do abortions unless it is an emergency. She would have to be close to dying.
@@sunflowerlady2057 he didnt use spontagous and said she did it to spite him. He picked the word abortion for a reason cuz it sounds like she went to a clinic and somehow found the only doctor who would do a 4 month abortion without life threatening medical issues.
My husband wanted a local Mexican restaurant for his birthday. I wasn't feeling it that day. We went to the Mexican restaurant because it was HIS CHOICE FOR HIS DAY.
Right? And the fact there were options on the menu she just "didn't feel like then" - why make it such a big issue? He came up with good solutions and she just didn't want to go. I know I'd definitely want to be at a celebratory dinner for my partner. :(
Bro I'm a really picky eater and if my bf, on his birthday, wanted to have vegetable soup, be sure I'm eating it and not making it about myself because IT'S HIS DAY
I love when people’s embarrassed family members say it was tacky for you to share, but they don’t think it’s tacky to _cheat with your cousins!?_ Not sure they’re worried about the right thing.
@@Roanokem the pinned comment above was from the original post (or at least the commenter read the og post). sadly, I think OP got blasted on reddit and edited his post so even if you can find it again, some things may have been changed
That's what my dad said to my mom Kicker was he filled out medical paperwork that he himself admitted he had cheated- he just thought she wouldn't see it. Jokes on him because when he went to jail she got all the paperwork. Ass hat
If you're still looking for flags after hearing about them cheating on you, you may have an issue. I've been cheated on and never in my life had anyone been ex-communicated faster. You weren't worth their consideration, so they aren't worth a second more of your time. Stop wasting yours.
@freechair4890 She had a miscarriage due to the stress of learning her husband was cheating on her. OP said it was an abortion she chose out of spite in order to make her seem like the villain. The OP of that story is a monster who mentally and emotionally destroyed his wife and she became so unwell she lost the baby.
She had had a miscarriage from the stress. The manchild OP made it sound like she willingly got an abortion. Because, as if the cheating and being willing to leave her over pregnancy mood swings isn't bad ebought, he needs to milk sympathy from readers by originally making it sound like she got an abortion. Edit: I just saw that someone else already gave an explanation
@@freechair4890 before the embryo was laboured and breathe its first breath as a child, a mother has all her rights to abort, your not talkng bout a child even
Right? My husband actually had sympathy sickness for the first trimester. I felt so bad for him. Because he would be right beside me getting sick and then holding my hair back and wipe my neck and brow with a cool, wet cloth the entire time I was being sick. Poor man had morning sickness for 3 months!!! 😂😂 Mine lasted for 6 months though, so he eventually got through the sympathy sickness and to this day he loves telling ppl about his “morning sickness”. ❤😊
I had Hyperemesis Gravidarum and was hospitalized a few times from dehydration, malnutrition, and other issues. My husband didn’t cheat either- he was by my side the whole time. He would hold my hair back and put a cold rag on my neck or forehead. When I was frustrated with the pain and sickness and would snap at him or the nurses, he didn’t say I was “too moody” or “question who he married”, he would gently calm me down and reassure me that everyone understood what I was going through and wouldn’t hold it against me (I still apologized about 4 dozen times though😂) The differences between real grown MEN and immature men are just so obvious sometimes lol
That must have been horrible. I absolutely hate nausea and stomach pain - even a slight stomach ache floors me. How the hell women go through periods and pregnancy is beyond me. I'd be dead.
Honestly though, shout out to Lucy who told the wife. Yeah she helped break up a marriage but I'm glad she didn't listen to the selfish OP who wanted to pretend all was merry so he could keep his wife. F*ck that dude
@@mkbucklin Disagree. If Lucy didn't feel responsible for what happened to them, she should have kept her mouth shut. She's just as responsible as the husband for this situation.
@@hinata1izeLucy owed no one loyalty therefore is not responsible. The husband should have remained loyal. She honestly didn’t have to tell the wife at all but did the right thing as she is a woman first. If my husband cheated on me I’d want the affair partner to tell me.
@@VeggieMama722 Never said she was an unsung hero. Just saying she did what OP didn't have the balls to do. F*ck both of them but definitely f*ck OP more than Lucy
"my wife and i have been together for seven years, she's the most important thing in my life." firstly, then why did you cheat. secondly. most important THING???????
And questioning himself if he married the right person just because she was sick during the first trimester of pregnancy 😂😂... it's like questioning yourself if you're girlfriend is right for you because she has periods every month 😂😂
"... She's the most important thing in my life *unless someone else offers me sex*" It's okay, he just didn't finish the sentence. Everything makes sense in context.
"thing" as opposed to "person," i'm assuming. as in the person being spoken of is not only more important than everyone else, but also more important than *anything* else (job, assets, etc) i could be being optimistic, but i don't think this is that much of a stretch
And you got geniuses in the comments saying, "medically they're the same," forgetting that context, common usage, and framing are very important. Nobody says they had an abortion when they actually meant a miscarriage. He knew what he was doing when he chose that word.
@@bleachsanchoblastkmedically they aren’t the same though. I’m not sure why they are even saying that. One is intentionally terminated and the other is your body spontaneously terminating.
@@PsychGirlRaven What they mean is technically both can be called an abortion, ignoring that a miscarriage is specifically called a spontaneous abortion when talking about it like that. Also frankly I wouldn't have blamed the lady even if she did get one. Like, having a kid with someone is a big deal imagine being required to keep some guy like this you can't trust, who betrayed you in your life for 18ish years. If she wants a kid there's plenty of time to have one with someone who will respect her.
dude.......if you cheat on your pregnant partner, ESPECIALLY early on, you automatically forfeit any claim to care for your unborn child. if you do ANYTHING to impose severe stress upon the person bearing your unborn child, you can and likely will lose your child - and you will DEFINITELY cause your partner enough pain/harm to ruin their life, too. *it needs to be said.*
Well said. I would also say the same about men who are sent to war. You don't cheat on a guy who is in a combat zone or send him a Dear John letter. You keep your legs closed until he's safe at home and then break up with him if you have to, but you don't cheat and you don't break up with someone who's on the front. You'll get them killed. Because if they're worried about you instead of worrying about their six it can end up with them getting KIA.
See the second I couldve gotten behind if the wife had actual medical dietary restrictions, but like, it was preference, AND the husband offered so many possible options and alternatives. Just childish. Glad it seems like she figured it out, the husband certainly deserved her apology
Literally this! I am intolerant to onion, garlic, beans, pulses, soya, various vegetables, some fruits etc etc. Eating out is a nightmare. But any time I'm invited to a friend's birthday and the menu looks difficult I always contact them to see can I be accommodated. If not, I can still basically eat a plate of chips and would have something more substantial at home before leaving. Why? Because at a celebratory dinner the important thing is that we spend time together, and I know my dietary requirements are awkward. If all my friends did this every time yeah I'd be upset, but if it's occasional then I can suck it up for one evening.
I don’t eat a lot of things but I get by. I would never tell someone they can’t have their bday somewhere. My hubby would consider me though, but I would want him to go where he wants. Also, at a steakhouse... what about seafood, potatoes and other sides? It’s just one meal. Seems like she learned her lesson though ☺️
Exactly! There was a story about a guy who wanted his birthday at a barBQ restaurant that made fun of vegans… and wanted his vegan friend to pay for everyone to go!! That one, I understood. But this?! Like, she either hates her husband or she’s so narcissistic that everything has to be about her. It’s sad, honestly.
He absolutely deserved an apology. It’s his birthday, his choice. Order 2-3 entries and tell them to bring it out with the mains??? There’s always a way. You can’t tell me they don’t do chips or a salad. Glad she realised her mistake,
@@rosedawg7895it wasn’t his birthday. He’d worked super hard for a promotion at work and finally got it and so his parents were taking them all out for a meal to celebrate.
Depends on the state, Because ya know ensuring safe access to healtncare for all women & girls in all states in all hospitals (including religious ones) would just make too much sense 🙃
They do in emergency cases. If she had anything close to one done, it’s because the baby was no longer viable and her life was at risk if she went through with a still birth.
Hummena whaa? The first and last stories were disturbing. And to find out that the firat guys wife had a miscarriage due to a difficult pregnancy and his cheating is just awful. Mind you,at least she has no ties to the pos now.
On the second story...I have a picky "meat & potato" spouse. He has come to every milestone celebration and found something he could still enjoy. We support each other and are proud of one another.
Yeah, I'm a picky eater myself. Can't help it, wish I could eat more like everyone else, but I've never been in a situation where I couldn't find something to eat at a restaurant even if I have to sometimes ask for things to be removed or eat around them..
My husband has an eating disorder and often cannot find anything to eat on a menu. Often. (This is from forced eating and abuse as a child. He has given me permission to talk to others about it.) This doesn't even include his many food allergies (honey, certain berries and nuts, citrus, bananas, and unfortunately more). This is not an excuse though. We have many compromises, one of which is ordering from two different places and eating either at home or at a park. When this isn't possible we either buy food for him to eat in the car before accompanying me into a restaurant or vice versa. (We take turns.) I make sure if it's a potluck or something to make two foods - one he'll be happy eating and the other for everybody else. He makes sure I can spend quality time with him and still enjoy the food I love. Over the 14 years we've been together he's gone from "I'll just not eat any of this food I'm planning to pay for because I don't want to be embarrassing" to asking for the order to be altered beforehand, when possible. He also has tried new foods he considers scary just because he wanted to know about the food I love. I'll often ask if he wishes to smell or touch the food, and he's so quick to do so now when he's interested. I'm so proud of him. ❤ I'm not sure why I'm sharing this, but I guess I wanted to say that you can have deep issues with food and still be a supportive partner. I'm glad the woman in the story took the advice of others seriously. :)
Dude. I’m blown away at the dinner story. Yo. You said you eat fish and chicken. They HAVE fish AND chicken. Also, you said you eat steak!!!! How do you not realize this is about HIM and his preferences. NOT YOURS! It’s totally mind blowing. There’s SO MANY other options. She could have eaten before and ordered a side or just pretended to eat. She could have brought her own food. She could have just soldiered up and eaten some chicken or fish!? So mind blowing she doesn’t get that it’s HIS special dinner and it’s not about her preferences.
I Think I'm an a$$hole, because I'm very picky and even if I eat something which is not many options it doesn't mean I will eat in the way a particular place does it, I eat fish, Only if its Japanese food and one particular dish my mom does, I eat chicken, if it has not sauce, it's breast and only grilled, in the culture I am in, is weird to go to celebrations with food /restaurant and not eat anything, it's considered rude, so I undertand not going.
My wife is the most important thing in my life but she was annoying me for 3 months so I’m thinking I should leave her. I hate this person already and I’m only 1 minute in.
I came here to say this but glad I sat for the story.. sounds like misscarriage .. poor mama but... might possibly be for the best 😭.. I feel like he would eventually screw up again and leave her to be a single mother.. just wasting her time..
THANK YOU!!! in no world would i ever blame a woman for terminating a pregnancy after finding out her husband is a cheating pile of trash. i mean, come on, what kind of father do you think that dude's gonna be if he's cheating on his pregnant wife? not a very good one. so nope, i wouldn't want tp have a child with that person either. and to top it off, it was a miscarriage, not even an elective abortion. this dude is straight garbage
Yep. Sounds like she aborted, but now she can cut all ties with him and have no connections with him after the divorce. He cheated, did the whole mating thing, and consider that to be a "mistake". Sorry, not sorry, you don't stick it into someone else and think the alcohol made you do it
I am a person who has very serious food issues. If I eat gluten or seafood I get very very ill. I also have the danger of low blood sugar. So selfish woman in the second story just pissed me off. She CAN eat those things and there are choices that she has had before and could have eaten again but she is going to say "there is nothing I can eat". Wow.
You should be really careful..... I have seafood allergies and I found out the hard way Worcestershire sauce has anchovies in it and I feel ill eating Zaxby's sauce. Also inform your doctor and X-ray personnel. Some X-rays require shots of radioactive iodine and could kill you on the table without precautions. I was told this and to make sure I told the staff this BEFORE I was injected.
Yup. I am severely allergic to shellfish. One of the reasons why i dont talk to my family is because they love it, and have forgotten, on more than one occasion, that it can kill me, and had nothing else for me to eat. They also would get angry when I would refuse to eat at the table with them, as they woudo crack shells all around me, with the juices hitting my plate, and offended that I would ask then wash their hands and faces so when they would touch me or kiss my cheeks, I didn't bust out into painful hives.
Yes wheat makes me really ill, and the effects last for more than a month (It's only super bad for the first week) But I've still gone to restaurants just to hang out with family and ordered like a juice to sip or some water or lettuce with nothing on it lol.
@@Ventura574 ugh reminds me of my egg intolerance. Got bedridden one day from it and decided I would just stop eating it. Entire family threw a tantrum and made 2 entire plates full of scrambled eggs and ordered me to eat it or it would be trashed and my fault it went to waste. Like of all the things to get offended about it had to be about how offensive my health was to them.
Yep. I have Crohn’s disease and short bowel syndrome…32 years I’ve always been able to find something to eat at every place I’ve gone. If worse comes to worse there is always the kid’s menu and if you’re polite and courteous they will allow adults to order from the kid’s menu and most of the time they’ll even make you an adult sized portion and adjust the price to reflect the changes. And almost all kid’s menus offer something that anyone can eat.
"I don't like steak" Oh no! That means you can only have the side dishes, veggies, salads, bread and butter, deserts, and champagne! How ever will you survive the night???
And guess what else….? Most restaurants will allow adults to order from the kid’s menu if you politely explain to them that you can’t eat anything on the regular menu. They’ll even give you a larger portion and charge you adult price if you’re kind and courteous about it. And I’ve never seen a kid’s menu that didn’t offer chicken tenders or nuggets, hot dogs, pizza, Mac & cheese or other items that aren’t steak/sea food. I know this to be true because I have Crohn’s disease and it severely limits my intake of a plethora of foods. Yet… I can find something literally anywhere I go out to eat. And I’ve been doing so for 32 years. ✌🏻😊
I'm vegetarian and autistic and have texture sensitivity to a lot of foods and even when my husband decides he wants to eat at the local sushi restaurants I ALWAYS find something there I can eat. That wife was just being a child.
@@UnderoathHasMyBrain right? Between you and I, I bet most restaurants don’t carry a lot of things we could eat…but we figure it out. Like I mentioned in my other comment, I have Crohn’s disease. I didn’t go into detail as it can be boring, but I also have zero large intestine and a rather small amount of small intestine, this causes a problem called short bowel syndrome (aka short gut). So there is actually a huge list of things that I cannot eat. It sucks, because there are a lot of foods that I like that I haven’t been able to eat for several years now. I also have some sensitivities to food and drink because I have lupus…which has caused chronic kidney failure. And my husband was a type 1 diabetic…yet if we’d go out as a family and the choice was mine, his or our son’s…the other two would always find something they could eat. Typically we would choose as a family, but for special occasions when we’d go out where it was the celebrant’s choice…we all would still have a nice meal and a fun time together. We’ve also gone to many family events over the years where food is served. We’ve never encountered a situation where there was absolutely nothing that we could eat. Our son also has Crohn’s disease (but not short gut) and now that he’s an adult he too can go anywhere and always find something he can eat. And thank you for sharing your comment. I have a few family members who are autistic as well as some with food allergies and none of them have ever made the rest of us feel like we have to always cater to their needs…but as a family we do try to avoid situations that would offer absolutely zero choices for our loved ones. Just as I’m sure that people who know you well wouldn’t ask you to go somewhere that you wouldn’t be able to find something to eat. After scrolling through the comments I’ve noticed that the majority of people agree with me and you …and there’s a large percentage of people that have allergies, texture issues, sensory issues and other reasons they can’t eat certain things and all of them have agreed that the wife in this story is just being an AH. 😆
@melissadunton3534 Absolutely! My issues are nothing in comparison to yours, but people who are picky for the sake of being picky always frustrate me. Even if my mother or mother-in-law makes a home-cooked meal I don't ask them to make me anything special. As long as it's vegetarian-safe, I'll eat it. I don't even expect them to make special dishes based on my texture issues. That is just ENTITLED.
"He chose a restaurant that serves prime rib, even though he knows I only eat beef sometimes and I usually prefer chicken or fish. The place he chose had fish and two chicken dishes but not prepared the way I like…" Jesus Christ, dude. Run away from her as fast as you can. Take the kids, assume new identities, and start over in a new country. She is so unbelievably self-centered that she won’t realize you’re gone for at least a couple of weeks, giving you plenty of time to get away. But DO IT NOW!
I don't know, in this case it seems like a choice, but people have diatery restrictions, they have allergies, they have texture issues. I'm neurodivergent and I'm pretty particular to what I eat or not, so depending on what is the restaurant I'm not going.
@@bluester7177 I’m autistic. I know about textural issues and not liking certain foods. I also know how to behave like an adult and go someplace that isn’t one of my preferred restaurants. I can always find something to eat, even if I have to ask for some modifications to a dish. The woman here didn’t have allergies or dietary restrictions; she said she sometimes eats beef. She just didn’t want to let her husband have what he wanted and wanted it to be only about her. There’s no excuse for that.
@@bluester7177 Look, I get it. I feel really lost also when a restaurant doesn't have any "safe foods" for me. But he offered to make so many accommodations for her and she had so many options (get appetizers, ask if the restaurant can prepare the dishes the way you want, get dessert and he'll take you somewhere else after, etc). She simply refused. Heck, if push came to shove, there's been times I've seen people with severe allergies bring their own meal into a restaurant and just explain to the staff "My husband/wife/dad/friend really likes seafood but you don't have anything here I can eat as I'm allergic, so I'm bringing my own meal so we can celebrate together." They're more than willing to accommodate where they need to and how they can. She simply didn't want to.
@@DaveTexas I'm Autistic too. I wouldn't encourage someone to pick a restaurant and then complain about it. You know, because we are adults, will still go to the restaurant because it's not about us, it's about him and his celebration.
Story 1: While I'm sad for the wife that she had a miscarriage, it was for the best (as cruel as that sounds). OP isn't a good person, and he clearly lies about how much he loves his wife. Oh I mean "loved his wife". The second he cheated, he destroyed the marriage. And I do applaud Lucy for telling the wife. I also don't believe that he only cheated because he was drunk. You still have control over yourself when you're drunk, maybe not the best control, but it's not like he didn't know what he was doing (as he remembers it, so he wasn't blackout drunk). The way OP solves this, is to leave the wife the hell alone, not contest the divorce and vanish from her life forever. Also, even though it was a miscarriage, had it been an abortion, I wouldn't have blamed her for it. He can't be trusted, so I wouldn't have wanted to have a child with him regardless (and be "tied" to him for at least 18 years).
@@MissCandyTattoo?? Because they said the miscarriage was for the best? Of course you wouldn’t say that to someone’s face after they miscarried, but that doesn’t make it incorrect.
@@MissCandyTattoo heartless? No. Of course they wouldn't say it to someone's face. People usually beat around the bush. Like when a kid or even adult dies of terminal or chronic illness. "Atleast they aren't suffering anymore" essentially translates to "its better this way." Life is hard, especially when ill and dying. Death is sometimes the solution to people's suffering including the family or caregivers. Tough stuff.
As an actual picky eater with actual intolerances on top of it, let me just say that 'I'll eat it but rarely' is not the same as disliking something and it 100% can be that rare time. And then WE get a bad rep because of entitled people like that. Smh.
Yep. My partner actually enjoys peppers, but it does weird stuff to her digestion, and sometimes it's prepared in ways she just doesn't like (too spicy, raw, etc). So sometimes she'll eat peppers, and sometimes she won't. I like peppers all the time in all forms, so more peppers for me. 😂 If she orders something with peppers and it doesn't sit right with her, I get them, so I'm cool with it. Same with mushrooms, actually. Sometimes she loves how I cook them since I know her peculiarities, but usually the texture is a no-no for her when she eats them in restaurants or raw.
EXACTLY. I'm a Very picky eater. There's times when i Cannot eat something even if I've liked it before ffs like fgndsdg. And i work around that because it's a me issue not theirs!!! If i don't order a meal I'll get an appetizer out dessert or I'll just get tea and enjoy chatting with my family and friends!!!!! Like girl!!!! Get over it just go hang out!!!!!!!
You get a bad rap because you are annoying and there is a sense of privilage in being a picky eater that is abrasive. Food is so close to people hearts and frankly survival.
My family made brats last night. Now, I love them, but I get violently ill eating them. I asked if there were something else I could have due to that, and they accommodated me. Now yeah, sometimes my autistic ass can't find something to eat, but then I get a small something or just sit there and enjoy the company and a beverage (usually raspberry iced tea.)
EXACTLY! I have food aversions and while it is a daily issue I struggle with, it is not others responsibility to take care of my problem. I will never allow my concerns to over shadow a loved ones celebration. I am glad in the update, she seemed to get the picture and is trying to make it up to her partner though!
My concern with the last guys being so disgusting he would sleep with his pwn cousins, will he also sexually molest his own daughter? I mean if he thinks its totally ok to be sexual with family, then does he have any limits/boundaries??? The other woman who refused to eat with her husband?! Seriously? As soemone with dietary restrictions i get it. Being a restaurant with food you cant eat is hard..but her husband offered so many alternatives and tried his best to accommodate her. She admitted they rarely go places that he choses. Its her HUSBAND. She acted very childish and couldve made an exception for one night. Very selfish woman.
I agree with everything said here but I do think that the woman realized her mistake and is trying to make up for it. People can grow. But it was super selfish of her on his BIRTHDAY. 😭
I’m wondering if his infant daughter is actually his daughter/cousin once removed… The lady sees she was wrong and corrected it. She is growing and that is the main thing! Otherwise, i agree. I also have a restricted diet by choice but I manage.
Story 1- the wife did not have an abortion. At 4 months pregnant she would be around 16 weeks and into her second term, health care providers will usually only do an abortion in the first trimester, or less than 13 weeks, unless their is a medical issue. Either this story is made up, or this poor woman miscarried and had to go have a procedure done to help deliver the fetus.
Yeah, sounds way more like an incomplete miscarriage to me. The back and forth she went through in her mind must have caused the foetus to become just as stressed as the mother and partially detached. Ab*rtion care only extends till the moment you wake up from the procedure and can stand on your own. They wouldn't have dr*gged her up so much that she would be knocked out for a whole day. Sounds much more like she started to miscarry, it went on for longer than a couple hours, and went to the ER. They administered the medication to complete the miscarriage TO PREVENT SEPSIS, and monitored her until she was only spotting, no clots.
A handful of states, including the one I live in, allow abortion up to 22 weeks. After that the fetus is considered viable. Her having this done is definitely believable
He cheated on her with not a stranger or friend, not even just one cousin, *but* *two* *cousins* ? WTH? I have no idea what the heck is going on in that family, but I would board the nearest plane/train/boat to get away from that family.
The man was trying to turn his family tree into a wreath. Also: he was soiling himself regularly WHY? Using a toilet really isn't that hard, and it's not a selfless act. My decision to not piss myself is for me - I've never felt the need to consider others when making it.
You mean his "thing". She was "the most important *thing"* in his life. You know, *except* for that *other* thing in his pants, which apparently controls him.
"I'll give you the address of the hospital I went to so you can get the fetus" is such a raw line, especially considering that guy apparently lied and called it an abortion when it was actually a miscarriage. The situation is messed up, but that woman is strong as hell.
Story 2: As someone with severe dietary restrictions, that kind of pisses me off that she says she "can't" go to the restaurant because she doesn't like steak and doesn't want to be a pain to the staff. You can go and eat the food, you just don't want to. I actually can't eat out for fear of a flare up due to seasoning or sauces. You know what I do when my SO is going to any kind of dinner event? I tell him that I will feel a little awkward about not eating and constantly explaining why, but if he wants me there or it's an important event then I'm there.
Right I have a pretty severe reaction to wheat and it's cross-contaminated so strongly in restaurants that I don't even risk gluten-free food cuz I often have gotten sick anyway. But I will still go hang out with friends or family at a restaurant and sip on some water or juice!
I mean as someone whose a "picky eater" I can't really help what tastes bad to me and just because you can technically digest the food in question without issue doesn't change the fact its extremely unpleasant to try and can even make you wretch when you put it in your mouth. Avocado for example literally causes me to physically wretch before it gets anywhere near my mouth, I can't help it. I wish I could, I'd love to have more options. I'd do the same thing as you if a restaurant somehow had absolutely nothing I could stomach. But clearly that's not what is going on here since she eats steak, it's just not her favourite thing. I guess just wanting to chime in that I also find this lady ridiculous and kind of annoyed she's positioning her lukewarm feelings on steak as something actually serious enough to pull this bullshit.
As someone with ARFID (an eating disorder), it’s literally so easy to grab fast food before you go and tell everyone that you had something before you left.
The story about the girl not wanting to eat at that place for some reason was the most triggering for me. I’ve been with an emotionally abusive person and it’s reminding me of them. Like even if I was allergic to everything on the menu I’d still sit there and drink water if it meant celebrating someone I loved who achieved something amazing. The fact she couldn’t be uncomfortable for an hour or two to make her partner feel good is honestly disgusting. And that’s the kind of thing her partner and kids will remember forever. Making the night about you and ruining it for everyone else.
@@skys2052and there were chicken and fish dishes that she could have asked to make without the sauces but she was a coward so she didn’t ask for them. And he even offered options and to let her eat wherever she wanted after like girl
@@Batsyblu And she even eats steak! It's just something she's not super into. Which is like... honey you can't eat a food you think is kinda okay for your husband's celebration?
It is triggering cuz thats how narcissist behave, they make all bdays about themselves and they have the tendency to destroy other people special Moments and hollydays ... They also try to paint the whole situation as they are the víctims by how they tell the story... Thanks to social media this type of people behaviors FINALLY have been adressed as manipulative and emotionally distressing, this is not a one time slip she had, i bet all the things have to go her way, cuz her feelings, emotions, taste likes and dislikes are more important than Everybody ELSEs... Thats how they operate, and normally the víctim Will acomodate to avoid the fights ot silent treatment that comes after mot doing exactly as they wanted ...
The part that gets me about the first story is that he was very quick to tell Lucy that the whole thing was a mistake (which was probably hurtful to her too) but never bothered to say anything about this mistake to his wife, the person most affected by this. She only found out because Lucy told her, and I'll bet he fully intended to hide what he did, which absolutely shatters his trustworthiness as a partner. There's a big difference between finding out that your husband is doing something bad, and him telling you and owning up to his mistake. Whilst both can break a relationship, owning up before she finds out is at least salvageable.
Right? I had to back track and re-read because I thought he meant his wife when he said Lucy, but then said she found out from someone else and I was so confused. Absolute trash person.
@@KpopOpinionator I don't really know if she was aware of it, but regardless of the circumstances, it would be quite hurtful to sleep with someone and then have that person turn around and say that actually everything that happened with you was a mistake.
@@Rinabow I agree unless u know are the side piece .Then u are just asking for it yourself however several cheaters string along their spouse and don't tell their affair partner if they are in a relationship.scummy
@@KpopOpinionator There are also plenty of cheaters that string along the side-piece by either not revealing the relationship, or downplaying the relationship by saying stuff like "we're only married on paper" or "the divorce just isn't finalized" I can't know what Lucy knew in this situation, but I can only imagine that if you're someone who sleeps with a married man and then tells his wife almost immediately afterwards, you were probably being mislead in some capacity. This is why I commented that it would be pretty hurtful to be told that the hookup was a mistake.
Can we just talk about how the wife didn’t have an abortion, she had a miscarriage and he’s calling it an abortion. He’s likely the reason she had a miscarriage but the fact that he’s trying to manipulate the story to make her out to be the villain when this is ALL his fault is vile!
“I cheated because I couldn’t handle my wife being sick for a couple weeks and she had a spontaneous abortion… aka a miscarriage. But I think she had a miscarriage on purpose. Am I the ahole?” No, sir. Ahole is not a strong enough word for what you are.
Dude is in a long term relationship with his wife, wants to have a family, gets her pregnant and then complains because a LIFE AND BODY ALTERNATING EVENT - CALLED PREGNANCY- has this effect. Imagine how he’s acting if there would be a alrdy born child - how he will deal with this situations? Just blame the relationship or child for his lack of resilienz?
As someone who had severe morning sickness all day, every day for 7 out of 9 months I get really frustrated when guys "question if they chose the wrong person" I understand, she is cranky and irritated and maybe passive aggressive but honey, you would be all of those things too if all you did for the 12-14 h of awake was puke or thinking of not puking or forcing your body not to puke. For me it got so severe that I basically convinced myself in a delirium that I don't need to eat for the next few months and everything will be fine. So shut up and take it!!
If men could get pregnant, our entire society would be structured around holidays during your period, paid pregnancy leave, medicine to alleviate pregnancy sickness, the best gynecological care imaginable, abortion care rights enshrined in the constitution & abortion pills available on every street corner, paid parental leave, medals/awards/perks for how many children you birth, "thank you for your service," etc. Expecting the birth parent to just sail through pregnancy and childbirth, unaffected, is simply willful ignorance at this point.
@@WilliamDancin I'm not so sure about all those things but I am still shocked that the USA, 'country of the free' and 'best country in the world', doesn't have payed maternity leave and still discusses abortion rights in the 21st century. There are developing countries who have those things. My baby belly was small compared to other women's and I was sick and tired of working at 30 weeks because I had breathing problems since week 15, couldn't stand and talk at the same time without almost fainting and or eat normal portions because it would be too much. My country has maternity leave from week 32 onwards and I was sooo looking forward to it. US women: your country is doing you a disservice!!!
That picky eater story is infuriating. She could have eaten before they left, had something small at the restaurant, and still supported him. She's eaten steak before, so it's not about the steak; it's about control.
No, based on the update it doesn't sound like it was about control given she realised she fucked up. Now it could have been, but not all problem behaviours are from people trying to manipulate, sometimes people fuck up and get stubborn about silly things.
My thoughts on each of the stories 😃😃 1. That guy is terrible and I hope the woman finds someone so much better. 2. I was supper annoyed with the lady until the update. Everyone messes up and I’m glad she realized her mistake and is trying to make up for it. 3. That guy is actually disgusting and sick. He needs to go to therapy or something to work through his problems or else he will never be able to live a solid life. I’m so glad they had those neighbors to help her out. They seem like great people. Also this girl was clearly never the red flag.
The moment I saw them, I had to sub. Reading reddit stories can get very boring and hard to make unique so I always appreciate when a creator does something new
A real man would have gone to his wife immediately and confessed if it was truly just a “mistake” imo. But instead he decided on the old “what she doesn’t know won’t hurt her” 🙄 Love how people aren’t letting cheaters get away with this bs anymore
I've never been able to understand how someone can say their partner is "the most important thing in my life, I love them more than anything," and then cheat. How does that even work?
For the second one, the title really made it seem like OP was vegan or was allergic to something, so I thought, “NTA, right?” But NO, they’re just a picky eater??? And didn’t go bc they didn’t want to be difficult, thereby making it _even more difficult_ for everyone???
Right! I was expecting the story where she was a vegan and the guy picked the restaurant that actively mocked vegans and made sure to have nothing on the menu a vegan could eat.
People are completely nuts. That first story made me want to throw-up. The second story was a lesson in selflessness and she failed, however it seems she flipped like a pancake so good for her. That last story is far too much for me and exceeds the limit of my medication. So I can' go there without feeling profoundly ill.
I am glad I saw the comments about the first story: Dude is literally a villain in a Tyler Perry movie! There is no coming back from "stressed my wife into a miscarriage".
"PUt it in a lava lamp." OMG I needed that laugh!!! I'm amazed at how many people confuse "can't" with "don't feel like it", including all those who pretend their _chosen_ diet is somehow essential to them staying alive.
Oh even the abortion has to be “revenge”, hey? What about she wants to move on without him and not to coparent with an AH/ impose an AH as a father to a child?
Oh, it’s worse. He lied, it wasn’t even an abortion, she updated and she miscarried. It was a much more difficult pregnancy than he let on, he just acted like it was pregnancy hormones, 🙄
The major detail the scumbag cheater left out is that it was a miscarriage. She was stressed out and him cheating just tipped her over the edge resulting in the loss of their unborn child. His actions ruined three lives. His life, his at the time wife’s life, and their unborn child’s life. All ruined because he couldn’t do the simple thing of being faithful to his wife.
Four months is too long for an abortion in a clinic (obviously), probably because of anger and with the previous problems in the pregnancy, she lost it, this guy tries to victimize himself with that, how horrible
Yeah it was a miscarriage. There was an update from I think the wife and it said that the stress of pregnancy and the added stress of him cheating on her led to the miscarriage. He said what he said to play the victim and make her out to be the bad guy. In the end he just made it more clear how big of a scumbag he is.
10:09 worst part? For a second I wad like, "did I post this story and totally forget?" Because the same thing happened to me, in a VERY similar manner.....so much odd
I’m vegan. On my birthday I pick a vegan restaurant. The non vegans suck it up and either try something new or eat before or after and still have a good time cuz it’s about enjoying the company. On everybody else’s birthday they pick their favorite restaurant and sometimes I can eat and sometimes I can’t. I still go. We still have an amazing time. Even though I literally can’t eat it I still go. I can’t imagine not going because you just don’t feel like eating it at that moment. Great example for the kids.
If you cheated on your wife then her assuming she’d be on her own and her not wanting to raise a child and be connected to a cheater for the next 18 years seems to make sense. She’s looking out for herself. Him thinking it was to get back at him shows his mindset. He thinks everything is all about him.
The major detail missing is that she miscarried it wasn’t her choice to lose the unborn baby. She was stressed beyond belief as it was and his cheating tipped her over the edge resulting in the miscarriage.
I could be completely wrong, but it almost sounds like the 3rd guy was a narcissistic alcoholic…preying on a vulnerable person, love bombing, and then when he felt like he sealed the deal his real abusive, alcoholic, entitled self came out.
“I don’t feel like I can live without my wife”….Is it just me, or does EVERY jerk (male or female) pull this line out of their ass when they get caught out? Because my AH ex husband said the SAME thing to me; “I can’t live without you” but then 4 months later it was,”oh, I’m not trying to delay the divorce, I met someone”. Seems like he’s living just fine without my help 😂😂😂.
It’s really rubbing me the wrong way that he said “thing”and not “person”for his wife being important……also for miss maam I’m glad she fixed it but if you knew you were going, maybe eat in advance? Compromise??? Like that’s such an achievement.
I have never done something drunk that i wouldn't have done sober under the right circumstances. If you cheat on your wife while you're drunk, you would do that shit sober eventually.
Even if she did choose to terminate instead of having a miscarriage, she absolutely should be supported in making the decision for her own sake. She would have been stuck with him for a lifetime if she didn't.
@@annehedonia156 Yes. She has a right to want to have kids with someone she can trust. I can just imagine all the judgemental shit you probably say about single mother too, your type always does.
Sorry if my husband cheats on me while im pregnant and i still have the option, like id probably miscarry anyway from the pain but if i didnt i would not commit my life to someone who already threw it away.
Subconsciously middle Lady is jealous. She wanted to find away to control the situation and make it about her. Now she's ruined the high light of his joy while fresh she feels secure to make it up to him because now it's about her still. My mother was the same
Restaurant wife didn’t want to go because she didn’t get her way. Too hard for her to have the attention on someone else. Wow. You’re right, she’s just a bit of a toddler!
Eh, I'd want to see a pattern of behaviour before I'd read that into it. the fact she realised she was in the wrong and is making it up to him suggests she just had a moment of stupidness.
What a jerk (1st story). I am always shocked when a cheater says “they are the most important thing” blah blah blah. And then breaks the heart, confidence and self esteem of this person they love. Cheaters never change!! He will cheat again. 🤦♀️I am glad she left.
The cheater lied. She miscarried because of the cheating. She lost the child not out of choice but because of his actions. His cheating made her already stressed self go over the edge and as a result she lost the unborn child.
Honey, do you still have the number for the psychiatrist? The neighbor is running around the field waving a giant red flag again. Not sure if he has flown off the handle or trying to send a message. *sips coffee while looking out the window*
Okay, probs a typo, but "spy-chiatrist" is so funny for someone watching somebody else. Do you really need a consult for a better camera to keep watching? 😂😂
There was an update to the abortion one. He said abortion to make himself look better but it turns out the stress finding out he cheated ended up making her miscarry.
that last girl with the fiancee sleeping with 2 of his cousins has been so gaslit by al the terrible people in his family, she thinks she's in the wrong. Poor thing
Even if she did get an abortion, husband is still the AH. Who would willingly bring a child into the world where you know the dad is fickle as fuck? He proved he isn’t going to be reliable for the next 18 years. Still though, I feel terrible that the woman miscarried and I wish her healing.
My toxic trait would be thinking I'm not doing enough for her or being a good husband if she was having horrible mood swings rather than think she wasn't the right person
Honestly, I’ve gotten an abortion because I didn’t feel like coparenting, he was a cheater, liar, and partier. Soon as he found out I was pregnant he flipped, he dragged me on social media just everything!! Guess what? I just aborted the baby and BLASTED myself on social media. Then he played victim, everybody literally dragged him after all that and he for 6 years messaged me happy Mother’s Day 😭 He was such a sad lil bihh I messaged his girl and told her and sent her screen shots and it stopped lol.
not an easy decision to make but I think those are good reasons to not have a child. I kind of hoped she would have made an abortion, but it turned out she had a miscarriage: In my mind it wouldn't have made her a bad guy. I was scrolling and hoping that someone would point that out. Stress can lead to developing of autism for example, not to talk about raising a child in that kind of environment where the parents don't get along. I hope she and you are doing well.
I always say this it's not that women don't hold accountability it's cheaters who doesn't hold any accountability at all. He is such pathetic man that he twisted his story in order to get support 😢
Yeah, because disappearing first thing in the morning two days (coincidentally the number of days required in most places to "think about it" before receiving an abortion), after learning he cheated on her, being unable to answer the phone, coming home late with a friend who has clearly driven her home and telling him to move out ASAP, telling him to leave her alone because she's tired and in pain, and then says he can collect the foetus from the hospital if he wants to; doesn't all just scream "had a last minute abortion" at 4 months pregnant. 🤦🏻♀️😬😒🙄
@Jazzinthedark84 theyre saying it sounds like a miscarriage. This can happen under extreme stress. You can't just get an abortion in a day. It's something that has to be scheduled and depending on where she is, she potentially cant even get an abortion due to how far along she was. There are many other ways pregnancies can end without there being an abortion involved
@@Jazzinthedark84 it takes two doctor's visits with more than 24 hours between them to get an ab*rtion in most places, and that is typically under 6 weeks. She was 4 months pregnant, a time notorious for spontaneous miscarriages (between 10 and 16 weeks is when most known pregnancies end). Especially being under the stress of knowing your partner isn't faithful and could leave at a moments notice is no insignificant emotional distress. Take it from someone who has experienced a miscarriage vs known someone who had an abortion. Miscarriages HURT LIKE A MF FOR HOURS, SOMETIMES DAYS. Ab*rtions are removed entirely and you're doped up. You'd be sore after an ab*rtion when the meds wear off, but not in so much pain that you'd ask your partner to leave you alone, even in normal circumstance. During a miscarriage, you are in so much pain, you cannot stand, you cannot speak other than a whimper, you can barely see, let alone get up to answer a phone call. And any sane person who respects themself would definitely not answer a call from an unfaithful partner for over 24 hours. Ab*rtion care only extends till the moment you wake up from the procedure. You are discharged as soon as you can stand. She wouldn't be coming home late if she wasn't being held for monitoring before discharge. They know they've gotten everything with an ab*rtion. But with an incomplete miscarriage, they have to watch them for hours, sometimes days after administering the medication to complete the miscarriage. They wouldn't hold her for over a day for an ab*rtion.
2:45 My dude, the biggest fuck-up you had was not telling your wife IMMEDIATELY. You were drunk, called off any potential follow-up affair right away, and were willing to put in the work to improve your relationship. Why the hell didn’t you tell your wife the second you next saw her?!
Fun fact: I have celiac disease and have no problem going to restaurants where I can't eat anything because being with my friends and family is worth it. Yes, they try to accommodate my dietary restrictions but sometimes it just isn't safe enough. I eat before I go, I carry snacks, I can sometimes order a plain salad. Regardless, I'm not going to ruin an evening due to my health condition while this entitled women is prioritizing her preferences over her husband and family. Her husband went above and beyond to try to find a solution and she can't even compromise a little? It may not have been as shocking as the other stories but you're still going to need a bigger red flag for her behavior.
Oh, just wanted to put this. I read the first story some times ago and it came out, I don't remember if in the comment or update that the wife didn't "abort" she had a spontaneous abortion. Her pregnancy was harder that he let on, even in that month that she was "better" and the stress of finding out he cheated made her lose the baby. The husband was trying to manipulate the story for support
Thank you for this! An abortion at 4 months is not common
He could have said miscarriage what a prick...
Ohh OP sounds like a dumbass!
In most place you can't have an abortion at 4 months so that was a bit fishy when I first read it so I went to read the whole post and I was right. She called her bff during the night (she was sleeping alone) because she saw blood coming from down there. She didn't wake the husband and went to the hospital with her. Or something like that. We can probably find it again if he didn't delete the Post
@@SyParker That makes more sense, seeing as at 4 months abortions are only done for medical reasons, usually the mothers life is at risk. Poor woman.
"I thought about leaving my wife because she's so sick while pregnant."
"I can't live without my wife."
Pick one.
THIS
He couldn't pick one, so she did it for him. Good on her.
@@ladyv5655Yes. Good on her.
People like this say this until they get their wife back, and then they leave the wife. What they really mean is "i Cant live without being the one Who leaves "
It’s literally normal to be sick because of pregnancy, such males should NEVER marry or date!! They don’t know anything at all about women, they expect women to be healthy and perfect. Delusional men!
Dude stressed his wife out and made her miscarry, and then the unmitigated gall to call it an abortion. Dude is definitely the AH.
He’s a dick for sure but I also wonder if he maybe got confused because of something the hospital said or the hospital paperwork said?
I’ve unfortunately lost a pregnancy a little after 14 weeks. I didn’t have any outward signs of a miscarriage though. No bleeding nothing. It was labeled a missed miscarriage but they also labeled it a spontaneous abortion .
It is an abortion tho
@@IsaiahBuchanan175You constantly like your own replies despite being incorrect.
@@ghoultooth so, but I am right.
@@Raraking4796 , in medical-speak, a miscarriage is called a spontaneous ab*rtion. OP is such a dumbs$$, that he probably doesn't know what spontaneous means and just heard ab*rtion.
Second story: thought the wife was going to be vegan or something but she just didn't want to eat steak right then, smh
I honestly thought it was gonna be about how she was allergic to some food that the restaurant prepared. As a picky eater myself for various reasons, I'd have just taken the modified dish option, or perhaps the dessert. Sounds like she was determined to move the dinner to another restaurant and didn't even really consider the other options.
Although I'm very glad that she saw the error of her ways and is working to make it better.
Me too! I thought she was going to have some sort of food allergy or medical conditions that kept her from being able to eat anything from the restaurant.
(I myself have jaw issues that limit my ability to eat certain things, I fully empathize with people who want to eat things but can't)
Not only that but she eats chicken and fish and there were FIVE fish or chicken options
I don't believe that story, and esp with the update it's just too goofy? I have no idea why people make up these stories, really can't imagine, but they do and nobody acts like that, AND is then swiftly convinced of the error of their ways. If any of that happened I truly don't know anything about humanity at all.
I thought she'd be lactose intolerant or extremely sick in some way. And that the dinner was some random corporate event, not a personal family event. Was almost ready to give her a pass...
"I can't live without my wife."
Then perish.
Yes
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And hurry please!
"Promise?"
"I know I made a mistake sleeping with my coworker, but I can't live without my wife" JESUS CHRIST, I know not all men are like this, but fuck doesn't that sentence sounds like there's no hope.
Not all men are like this but I’ve heard this line enough to know that there are WAAAAAAY too many like this.
The fact it's so normal for people to cheat during the pregnancy. Like less than 9 months ago we where happy enough to have kids?
@@ricebeansrockroll882 right !
Uhhh, it doesn't look like you can't live without her...
A mistake is to over salt your soup, not to dick down a coworker.
A contradiction is loving someone and cheating on them, when both of you are in a lifelong, committed, and monogamous relationship.
This is why I value respect over love. Cause pricks like this genuinely think they can love someone and cheat on them.
Anyone can love and be love without being respected. Hell, we all have children, nieces, nephews, etc. You can even love someone without liking them.
R.E.S.P.EC.T., man.
Last story- run.
Also report the whole family to CPS. No way his disgusting, abusive behaviours and the pattern of “keeping it in the family” won’t ruin the life of his infant daughter!
What i was thinking too! Not to mention that the infant daughters mother was not specified, but apparently known by most family members.
So if one of the cousins wasnt the mother, how many women did he have on the side? (And why did they put up with his grossness?!)
I'm wondering why his family is defending him. like wtf, do they live in Alabama or something?
@@Cantmakeupmymindonaname Sweet Home Alabama, ig.
@@GiordanDiodato could be in Alabama. But cycles of abuse through the generations can happen in any part of the world. If it just becomes that family’s “normal” they will defend their perceptions and reputations
@@Cantmakeupmymindonaname Excatly!
How can his family know about his infant daughter that his fiancé doesn't know about, if they didn't know he had been cheating on her the entire time?
And with how abusive he got, I do feel scared for the infant.
I hope she'll grow up safely, but with a family like that, I have a bad feeling.
For story #1, file OP under r/amithedevil, for calling her *_misscarriage_* an abortion.
Wait? The story doesnt say it was a miscarriage?
@@XFizzlepop-Berrytwist OP lied, anyone that works at a hospital knows with the time frame she was in and the laws put in place, it was a miscarriage. Hospitals don’t do abortions unless it is an emergency. She would have to be close to dying.
@@XFizzlepop-Berrytwistin a deleted comment/update, it was revealed to be a spontaneous miscarriage
Which is also known as a “spontaneous abortion”
But the title was still misleading.
@@sunflowerlady2057 he didnt use spontagous and said she did it to spite him. He picked the word abortion for a reason cuz it sounds like she went to a clinic and somehow found the only doctor who would do a 4 month abortion without life threatening medical issues.
My husband wanted a local Mexican restaurant for his birthday. I wasn't feeling it that day. We went to the Mexican restaurant because it was HIS CHOICE FOR HIS DAY.
Right? And the fact there were options on the menu she just "didn't feel like then" - why make it such a big issue? He came up with good solutions and she just didn't want to go. I know I'd definitely want to be at a celebratory dinner for my partner. :(
I don't eat steak _at all_ and I'd have gone to celebrate with my husband if that's what he wanted. What a self-absorbed twit.
fr I was expecting her to say she has a bunch of food allergies or something but she was just like “I don’t feel like it” 🤦🏻♀️
Bro I'm a really picky eater and if my bf, on his birthday, wanted to have vegetable soup, be sure I'm eating it and not making it about myself because IT'S HIS DAY
I know right! Even if he picked my least favorite food that literally made me break out in hives id be there nibbling crackers and cheering him on.
I love when people’s embarrassed family members say it was tacky for you to share, but they don’t think it’s tacky to _cheat with your cousins!?_ Not sure they’re worried about the right thing.
His cheating stressed her out so bad that she miscarriaged. He murdered his child and betrayed his wife. There I fixed!
Peep the pinned comment! I wish I had known this before I filmed
Sounds like he should have been more careful what he wished for. Now he doesn't have to wonder how family life will turn out for him.
How do we know this
Literally
@@Roanokem the pinned comment above was from the original post (or at least the commenter read the og post). sadly, I think OP got blasted on reddit and edited his post so even if you can find it again, some things may have been changed
If your wife finds out you cheated and your first reaction is "who told you?" that is a massive red flag of its own
That's what my dad said to my mom
Kicker was he filled out medical paperwork that he himself admitted he had cheated- he just thought she wouldn't see it. Jokes on him because when he went to jail she got all the paperwork. Ass hat
True, and if you cheated on your wife, it’s already a massive red flag
If you're still looking for flags after hearing about them cheating on you, you may have an issue. I've been cheated on and never in my life had anyone been ex-communicated faster. You weren't worth their consideration, so they aren't worth a second more of your time. Stop wasting yours.
My college bf cheated on me and he blamed the person who told me. He said: that guy has no idea of the damage he caused
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@@cosmokramer7009 that's hilarious. Lol He's so dumb.
"I can't live without my wife!"
Was literally just thinking about leaving her cuz she wasn't sunshine and roses while pregnant.
He does not deserve a wife or a child
Did the child deserve to die?
@freechair4890 She had a miscarriage due to the stress of learning her husband was cheating on her.
OP said it was an abortion she chose out of spite in order to make her seem like the villain.
The OP of that story is a monster who mentally and emotionally destroyed his wife and she became so unwell she lost the baby.
She had had a miscarriage from the stress. The manchild OP made it sound like she willingly got an abortion. Because, as if the cheating and being willing to leave her over pregnancy mood swings isn't bad ebought, he needs to milk sympathy from readers by originally making it sound like she got an abortion.
Edit: I just saw that someone else already gave an explanation
@@freechair4890 before the embryo was laboured and breathe its first breath as a child, a mother has all her rights to abort, your not talkng bout a child even
I was so sick with our kids, i used to carry a bathroom garbage can with me. My husband didn't cheat, he helped me.
Right? My husband actually had sympathy sickness for the first trimester. I felt so bad for him. Because he would be right beside me getting sick and then holding my hair back and wipe my neck and brow with a cool, wet cloth the entire time I was being sick. Poor man had morning sickness for 3 months!!! 😂😂
Mine lasted for 6 months though, so he eventually got through the sympathy sickness and to this day he loves telling ppl about his “morning sickness”. ❤😊
@@melissadunton3534bless your hearts
I had Hyperemesis Gravidarum and was hospitalized a few times from dehydration, malnutrition, and other issues. My husband didn’t cheat either- he was by my side the whole time. He would hold my hair back and put a cold rag on my neck or forehead. When I was frustrated with the pain and sickness and would snap at him or the nurses, he didn’t say I was “too moody” or “question who he married”, he would gently calm me down and reassure me that everyone understood what I was going through and wouldn’t hold it against me (I still apologized about 4 dozen times though😂)
The differences between real grown MEN and immature men are just so obvious sometimes lol
That must have been horrible. I absolutely hate nausea and stomach pain - even a slight stomach ache floors me.
How the hell women go through periods and pregnancy is beyond me. I'd be dead.
Because that's what someone who actually loves someone does. This guy clearly doesn't.
"More frustrated than a carrier pigeon trying to send an email", that's just plain gold. I know the story is awful but that line is just too good.
LOL. Thank you! 🐦 📧
I came for this comment 2:23
Honestly though, shout out to Lucy who told the wife. Yeah she helped break up a marriage but I'm glad she didn't listen to the selfish OP who wanted to pretend all was merry so he could keep his wife. F*ck that dude
Should’ve waited for her to give birth. Update says she had a miscarriage, not an abortion
@@skyskynomnom4674Lucy didn’t know it would happen and Lucy is not responsible for the wife’s child.
@@mkbucklin
Disagree. If Lucy didn't feel responsible for what happened to them, she should have kept her mouth shut. She's just as responsible as the husband for this situation.
@@hinata1izeLucy owed no one loyalty therefore is not responsible. The husband should have remained loyal. She honestly didn’t have to tell the wife at all but did the right thing as she is a woman first. If my husband cheated on me I’d want the affair partner to tell me.
@@VeggieMama722 Never said she was an unsung hero. Just saying she did what OP didn't have the balls to do. F*ck both of them but definitely f*ck OP more than Lucy
"my wife and i have been together for seven years, she's the most important thing in my life."
firstly, then why did you cheat. secondly. most important THING???????
He’s just trying to paint himself in the best light. I’m sure he’s not that great of a husband as he thinks.
drunk, horny.... that's about all it really takes for any many to have a lapse.
And questioning himself if he married the right person just because she was sick during the first trimester of pregnancy 😂😂... it's like questioning yourself if you're girlfriend is right for you because she has periods every month 😂😂
"... She's the most important thing in my life *unless someone else offers me sex*"
It's okay, he just didn't finish the sentence. Everything makes sense in context.
"thing" as opposed to "person," i'm assuming. as in the person being spoken of is not only more important than everyone else, but also more important than *anything* else (job, assets, etc)
i could be being optimistic, but i don't think this is that much of a stretch
The first man says she aborted the baby as revenge when she had a MISCARRIAGE is crazy
And you got geniuses in the comments saying, "medically they're the same," forgetting that context, common usage, and framing are very important. Nobody says they had an abortion when they actually meant a miscarriage. He knew what he was doing when he chose that word.
@@bleachsanchoblastkexactly 👏
@@bleachsanchoblastkmedically they aren’t the same though. I’m not sure why they are even saying that. One is intentionally terminated and the other is your body spontaneously terminating.
@@PsychGirlRaven What they mean is technically both can be called an abortion, ignoring that a miscarriage is specifically called a spontaneous abortion when talking about it like that.
Also frankly I wouldn't have blamed the lady even if she did get one. Like, having a kid with someone is a big deal imagine being required to keep some guy like this you can't trust, who betrayed you in your life for 18ish years. If she wants a kid there's plenty of time to have one with someone who will respect her.
Dude’s gotta be hardcore maga, they really believe this shit.
dude.......if you cheat on your pregnant partner, ESPECIALLY early on, you automatically forfeit any claim to care for your unborn child. if you do ANYTHING to impose severe stress upon the person bearing your unborn child, you can and likely will lose your child - and you will DEFINITELY cause your partner enough pain/harm to ruin their life, too. *it needs to be said.*
Stress doesn't cause misscarriges. That's a myth.
@@maximillian1109 you are one google search away
Well said. I would also say the same about men who are sent to war. You don't cheat on a guy who is in a combat zone or send him a Dear John letter. You keep your legs closed until he's safe at home and then break up with him if you have to, but you don't cheat and you don't break up with someone who's on the front. You'll get them killed. Because if they're worried about you instead of worrying about their six it can end up with them getting KIA.
@@maximillian1109 You're an idiot.
@@maximillian1109 This level of stupidity is just sad, man.
The husband couldn’t handle morning sickness, he doesn’t NEED or SHOULD HAVE children. It’s only going to get Harder.
See the second I couldve gotten behind if the wife had actual medical dietary restrictions, but like, it was preference, AND the husband offered so many possible options and alternatives. Just childish. Glad it seems like she figured it out, the husband certainly deserved her apology
Literally this! I am intolerant to onion, garlic, beans, pulses, soya, various vegetables, some fruits etc etc. Eating out is a nightmare. But any time I'm invited to a friend's birthday and the menu looks difficult I always contact them to see can I be accommodated. If not, I can still basically eat a plate of chips and would have something more substantial at home before leaving. Why? Because at a celebratory dinner the important thing is that we spend time together, and I know my dietary requirements are awkward. If all my friends did this every time yeah I'd be upset, but if it's occasional then I can suck it up for one evening.
I don’t eat a lot of things but I get by. I would never tell someone they can’t have their bday somewhere. My hubby would consider me though, but I would want him to go where he wants. Also, at a steakhouse... what about seafood, potatoes and other sides? It’s just one meal. Seems like she learned her lesson though ☺️
Exactly! There was a story about a guy who wanted his birthday at a barBQ restaurant that made fun of vegans… and wanted his vegan friend to pay for everyone to go!! That one, I understood. But this?! Like, she either hates her husband or she’s so narcissistic that everything has to be about her. It’s sad, honestly.
He absolutely deserved an apology. It’s his birthday, his choice. Order 2-3 entries and tell them to bring it out with the mains??? There’s always a way. You can’t tell me they don’t do chips or a salad. Glad she realised her mistake,
@@rosedawg7895it wasn’t his birthday. He’d worked super hard for a promotion at work and finally got it and so his parents were taking them all out for a meal to celebrate.
Story one: hospitals don't do abortions in the US. She had a miscarriage from the extreme stress of the affair
Actually they do i work in healthcare and recovered patients who had abortions in CA and that was a major hospital.
Depends on the state,
Because ya know ensuring safe access to healtncare for all women & girls in all states in all hospitals (including religious ones) would just make too much sense 🙃
@@AmberUthat’s Cali on the east and south they don’t do them especially at 4 months
@@beronicagarcia74I got one in North Carolina in 2022. The laws have been changing so quickly, idk if they still do it but I got one.
They do in emergency cases. If she had anything close to one done, it’s because the baby was no longer viable and her life was at risk if she went through with a still birth.
Hummena whaa? The first and last stories were disturbing. And to find out that the firat guys wife had a miscarriage due to a difficult pregnancy and his cheating is just awful. Mind you,at least she has no ties to the pos now.
She dodged an atomic bomb at that point. She didn't even want that kid, he pushed her to get pregnant. Disgusting!
The silver lining to a really sad situation.
On the second story...I have a picky "meat & potato" spouse. He has come to every milestone celebration and found something he could still enjoy. We support each other and are proud of one another.
Yeah, I'm a picky eater myself. Can't help it, wish I could eat more like everyone else, but I've never been in a situation where I couldn't find something to eat at a restaurant even if I have to sometimes ask for things to be removed or eat around them..
My husband has an eating disorder and often cannot find anything to eat on a menu. Often. (This is from forced eating and abuse as a child. He has given me permission to talk to others about it.) This doesn't even include his many food allergies (honey, certain berries and nuts, citrus, bananas, and unfortunately more).
This is not an excuse though. We have many compromises, one of which is ordering from two different places and eating either at home or at a park. When this isn't possible we either buy food for him to eat in the car before accompanying me into a restaurant or vice versa. (We take turns.) I make sure if it's a potluck or something to make two foods - one he'll be happy eating and the other for everybody else. He makes sure I can spend quality time with him and still enjoy the food I love.
Over the 14 years we've been together he's gone from "I'll just not eat any of this food I'm planning to pay for because I don't want to be embarrassing" to asking for the order to be altered beforehand, when possible. He also has tried new foods he considers scary just because he wanted to know about the food I love. I'll often ask if he wishes to smell or touch the food, and he's so quick to do so now when he's interested. I'm so proud of him. ❤
I'm not sure why I'm sharing this, but I guess I wanted to say that you can have deep issues with food and still be a supportive partner. I'm glad the woman in the story took the advice of others seriously. :)
Dude. I’m blown away at the dinner story.
Yo. You said you eat fish and chicken. They HAVE fish AND chicken. Also, you said you eat steak!!!! How do you not realize this is about HIM and his preferences. NOT YOURS!
It’s totally mind blowing.
There’s SO MANY other options. She could have eaten before and ordered a side or just pretended to eat. She could have brought her own food.
She could have just soldiered up and eaten some chicken or fish!?
So mind blowing she doesn’t get that it’s HIS special dinner and it’s not about her preferences.
Tried to make it seem like they only served food that she was deathly allergic to.
Yeah. I don't understand how she didn't catch herself being absolutely ridiculous. Her husband is a SAINT.
I Think I'm an a$$hole, because I'm very picky and even if I eat something which is not many options it doesn't mean I will eat in the way a particular place does it, I eat fish, Only if its Japanese food and one particular dish my mom does, I eat chicken, if it has not sauce, it's breast and only grilled, in the culture I am in, is weird to go to celebrations with food /restaurant and not eat anything, it's considered rude, so I undertand not going.
Also, what sane omnivore doesn't eat steak?
My wife is the most important thing in my life but she was annoying me for 3 months so I’m thinking I should leave her. I hate this person already and I’m only 1 minute in.
Even if she didn't miscarry not keeping a baby with a cheater you want to leave is the smartest option.
I completely agree
I came here to say this but glad I sat for the story.. sounds like misscarriage .. poor mama but... might possibly be for the best 😭.. I feel like he would eventually screw up again and leave her to be a single mother.. just wasting her time..
THANK YOU!!!
in no world would i ever blame a woman for terminating a pregnancy after finding out her husband is a cheating pile of trash. i mean, come on, what kind of father do you think that dude's gonna be if he's cheating on his pregnant wife? not a very good one. so nope, i wouldn't want tp have a child with that person either.
and to top it off, it was a miscarriage, not even an elective abortion. this dude is straight garbage
yeah I understand why she would not want to have a child with a cheating loser like that
Yep. Sounds like she aborted, but now she can cut all ties with him and have no connections with him after the divorce. He cheated, did the whole mating thing, and consider that to be a "mistake". Sorry, not sorry, you don't stick it into someone else and think the alcohol made you do it
I am a person who has very serious food issues. If I eat gluten or seafood I get very very ill. I also have the danger of low blood sugar. So selfish woman in the second story just pissed me off. She CAN eat those things and there are choices that she has had before and could have eaten again but she is going to say "there is nothing I can eat". Wow.
You should be really careful..... I have seafood allergies and I found out the hard way Worcestershire sauce has anchovies in it and I feel ill eating Zaxby's sauce. Also inform your doctor and X-ray personnel. Some X-rays require shots of radioactive iodine and could kill you on the table without precautions. I was told this and to make sure I told the staff this BEFORE I was injected.
Yup. I am severely allergic to shellfish. One of the reasons why i dont talk to my family is because they love it, and have forgotten, on more than one occasion, that it can kill me, and had nothing else for me to eat. They also would get angry when I would refuse to eat at the table with them, as they woudo crack shells all around me, with the juices hitting my plate, and offended that I would ask then wash their hands and faces so when they would touch me or kiss my cheeks, I didn't bust out into painful hives.
Yes wheat makes me really ill, and the effects last for more than a month (It's only super bad for the first week) But I've still gone to restaurants just to hang out with family and ordered like a juice to sip or some water or lettuce with nothing on it lol.
@@Ventura574 ugh reminds me of my egg intolerance. Got bedridden one day from it and decided I would just stop eating it. Entire family threw a tantrum and made 2 entire plates full of scrambled eggs and ordered me to eat it or it would be trashed and my fault it went to waste. Like of all the things to get offended about it had to be about how offensive my health was to them.
Yep. I have Crohn’s disease and short bowel syndrome…32 years I’ve always been able to find something to eat at every place I’ve gone. If worse comes to worse there is always the kid’s menu and if you’re polite and courteous they will allow adults to order from the kid’s menu and most of the time they’ll even make you an adult sized portion and adjust the price to reflect the changes. And almost all kid’s menus offer something that anyone can eat.
"I don't like steak" Oh no! That means you can only have the side dishes, veggies, salads, bread and butter, deserts, and champagne! How ever will you survive the night???
And guess what else….? Most restaurants will allow adults to order from the kid’s menu if you politely explain to them that you can’t eat anything on the regular menu. They’ll even give you a larger portion and charge you adult price if you’re kind and courteous about it. And I’ve never seen a kid’s menu that didn’t offer chicken tenders or nuggets, hot dogs, pizza, Mac & cheese or other items that aren’t steak/sea food.
I know this to be true because I have Crohn’s disease and it severely limits my intake of a plethora of foods. Yet… I can find something literally anywhere I go out to eat. And I’ve been doing so for 32 years. ✌🏻😊
I'm vegetarian and autistic and have texture sensitivity to a lot of foods and even when my husband decides he wants to eat at the local sushi restaurants I ALWAYS find something there I can eat. That wife was just being a child.
@@UnderoathHasMyBrain right? Between you and I, I bet most restaurants don’t carry a lot of things we could eat…but we figure it out.
Like I mentioned in my other comment, I have Crohn’s disease. I didn’t go into detail as it can be boring, but I also have zero large intestine and a rather small amount of small intestine, this causes a problem called short bowel syndrome (aka short gut). So there is actually a huge list of things that I cannot eat. It sucks, because there are a lot of foods that I like that I haven’t been able to eat for several years now. I also have some sensitivities to food and drink because I have lupus…which has caused chronic kidney failure. And my husband was a type 1 diabetic…yet if we’d go out as a family and the choice was mine, his or our son’s…the other two would always find something they could eat. Typically we would choose as a family, but for special occasions when we’d go out where it was the celebrant’s choice…we all would still have a nice meal and a fun time together.
We’ve also gone to many family events over the years where food is served. We’ve never encountered a situation where there was absolutely nothing that we could eat.
Our son also has Crohn’s disease (but not short gut) and now that he’s an adult he too can go anywhere and always find something he can eat.
And thank you for sharing your comment. I have a few family members who are autistic as well as some with food allergies and none of them have ever made the rest of us feel like we have to always cater to their needs…but as a family we do try to avoid situations that would offer absolutely zero choices for our loved ones. Just as I’m sure that people who know you well wouldn’t ask you to go somewhere that you wouldn’t be able to find something to eat.
After scrolling through the comments I’ve noticed that the majority of people agree with me and you …and there’s a large percentage of people that have allergies, texture issues, sensory issues and other reasons they can’t eat certain things and all of them have agreed that the wife in this story is just being an AH. 😆
@melissadunton3534 Absolutely! My issues are nothing in comparison to yours, but people who are picky for the sake of being picky always frustrate me. Even if my mother or mother-in-law makes a home-cooked meal I don't ask them to make me anything special. As long as it's vegetarian-safe, I'll eat it. I don't even expect them to make special dishes based on my texture issues. That is just ENTITLED.
@@UnderoathHasMyBrain ☺️
"He chose a restaurant that serves prime rib, even though he knows I only eat beef sometimes and I usually prefer chicken or fish. The place he chose had fish and two chicken dishes but not prepared the way I like…"
Jesus Christ, dude. Run away from her as fast as you can. Take the kids, assume new identities, and start over in a new country. She is so unbelievably self-centered that she won’t realize you’re gone for at least a couple of weeks, giving you plenty of time to get away. But DO IT NOW!
She apologized, and will go to the restaurant. Why run when it's been resolved? Anybody can be selfish, but she fixed it.
I don't know, in this case it seems like a choice, but people have diatery restrictions, they have allergies, they have texture issues.
I'm neurodivergent and I'm pretty particular to what I eat or not, so depending on what is the restaurant I'm not going.
@@bluester7177 I’m autistic. I know about textural issues and not liking certain foods. I also know how to behave like an adult and go someplace that isn’t one of my preferred restaurants. I can always find something to eat, even if I have to ask for some modifications to a dish. The woman here didn’t have allergies or dietary restrictions; she said she sometimes eats beef. She just didn’t want to let her husband have what he wanted and wanted it to be only about her. There’s no excuse for that.
@@bluester7177 Look, I get it. I feel really lost also when a restaurant doesn't have any "safe foods" for me. But he offered to make so many accommodations for her and she had so many options (get appetizers, ask if the restaurant can prepare the dishes the way you want, get dessert and he'll take you somewhere else after, etc). She simply refused. Heck, if push came to shove, there's been times I've seen people with severe allergies bring their own meal into a restaurant and just explain to the staff "My husband/wife/dad/friend really likes seafood but you don't have anything here I can eat as I'm allergic, so I'm bringing my own meal so we can celebrate together." They're more than willing to accommodate where they need to and how they can.
She simply didn't want to.
@@DaveTexas I'm Autistic too. I wouldn't encourage someone to pick a restaurant and then complain about it. You know, because we are adults, will still go to the restaurant because it's not about us, it's about him and his celebration.
Story 1: While I'm sad for the wife that she had a miscarriage, it was for the best (as cruel as that sounds).
OP isn't a good person, and he clearly lies about how much he loves his wife. Oh I mean "loved his wife".
The second he cheated, he destroyed the marriage. And I do applaud Lucy for telling the wife.
I also don't believe that he only cheated because he was drunk. You still have control over yourself when you're drunk, maybe not the best control, but it's not like he didn't know what he was doing (as he remembers it, so he wasn't blackout drunk).
The way OP solves this, is to leave the wife the hell alone, not contest the divorce and vanish from her life forever.
Also, even though it was a miscarriage, had it been an abortion, I wouldn't have blamed her for it. He can't be trusted, so I wouldn't have wanted to have a child with him regardless (and be "tied" to him for at least 18 years).
Agreed. Don't bless these degenerates with offspring.
@@MissCandyTattoo?? Because they said the miscarriage was for the best? Of course you wouldn’t say that to someone’s face after they miscarried, but that doesn’t make it incorrect.
@@MissCandyTattoo heartless? No. Of course they wouldn't say it to someone's face. People usually beat around the bush. Like when a kid or even adult dies of terminal or chronic illness. "Atleast they aren't suffering anymore" essentially translates to "its better this way." Life is hard, especially when ill and dying. Death is sometimes the solution to people's suffering including the family or caregivers. Tough stuff.
I agree
@@MissCandyTattoo
This person didn't say it to someone's face. This person said it to us. And they're right, too.
As an actual picky eater with actual intolerances on top of it, let me just say that 'I'll eat it but rarely' is not the same as disliking something and it 100% can be that rare time. And then WE get a bad rep because of entitled people like that. Smh.
Yep. My partner actually enjoys peppers, but it does weird stuff to her digestion, and sometimes it's prepared in ways she just doesn't like (too spicy, raw, etc). So sometimes she'll eat peppers, and sometimes she won't.
I like peppers all the time in all forms, so more peppers for me. 😂 If she orders something with peppers and it doesn't sit right with her, I get them, so I'm cool with it.
Same with mushrooms, actually. Sometimes she loves how I cook them since I know her peculiarities, but usually the texture is a no-no for her when she eats them in restaurants or raw.
EXACTLY. I'm a Very picky eater. There's times when i Cannot eat something even if I've liked it before ffs like fgndsdg. And i work around that because it's a me issue not theirs!!! If i don't order a meal I'll get an appetizer out dessert or I'll just get tea and enjoy chatting with my family and friends!!!!! Like girl!!!! Get over it just go hang out!!!!!!!
You get a bad rap because you are annoying and there is a sense of privilage in being a picky eater that is abrasive. Food is so close to people hearts and frankly survival.
My family made brats last night. Now, I love them, but I get violently ill eating them. I asked if there were something else I could have due to that, and they accommodated me. Now yeah, sometimes my autistic ass can't find something to eat, but then I get a small something or just sit there and enjoy the company and a beverage (usually raspberry iced tea.)
EXACTLY! I have food aversions and while it is a daily issue I struggle with, it is not others responsibility to take care of my problem. I will never allow my concerns to over shadow a loved ones celebration. I am glad in the update, she seemed to get the picture and is trying to make it up to her partner though!
My concern with the last guys being so disgusting he would sleep with his pwn cousins, will he also sexually molest his own daughter? I mean if he thinks its totally ok to be sexual with family, then does he have any limits/boundaries???
The other woman who refused to eat with her husband?! Seriously? As soemone with dietary restrictions i get it. Being a restaurant with food you cant eat is hard..but her husband offered so many alternatives and tried his best to accommodate her. She admitted they rarely go places that he choses. Its her HUSBAND. She acted very childish and couldve made an exception for one night. Very selfish woman.
I agree with everything said here but I do think that the woman realized her mistake and is trying to make up for it. People can grow. But it was super selfish of her on his BIRTHDAY. 😭
@@Abc-hs3jeWasn’t his birthday, it was to celebrate a job promotion.
@@adamw8201 oh lmao thanks I don’t know where I got that 🤷♀️
I’m wondering if his infant daughter is actually his daughter/cousin once removed…
The lady sees she was wrong and corrected it. She is growing and that is the main thing! Otherwise, i agree. I also have a restricted diet by choice but I manage.
@@Abc-hs3jeI’ve seen a couple of comments thinking it was his birthday too, not sure why
“I’m closer to giving you a Purple Heart” 😂 facts
ALL FACTS
Story 1- the wife did not have an abortion. At 4 months pregnant she would be around 16 weeks and into her second term, health care providers will usually only do an abortion in the first trimester, or less than 13 weeks, unless their is a medical issue. Either this story is made up, or this poor woman miscarried and had to go have a procedure done to help deliver the fetus.
Yeah, sounds way more like an incomplete miscarriage to me. The back and forth she went through in her mind must have caused the foetus to become just as stressed as the mother and partially detached.
Ab*rtion care only extends till the moment you wake up from the procedure and can stand on your own. They wouldn't have dr*gged her up so much that she would be knocked out for a whole day.
Sounds much more like she started to miscarry, it went on for longer than a couple hours, and went to the ER. They administered the medication to complete the miscarriage TO PREVENT SEPSIS, and monitored her until she was only spotting, no clots.
@@audreydoyle5268Yes exactly what I was thinking.
A handful of states, including the one I live in, allow abortion up to 22 weeks. After that the fetus is considered viable. Her having this done is definitely believable
According to an update that is exactely what happened and the husband's cheating stressed her out so much, that she miscarried.
@@moonbunnnnaccording to the update though, it was a miscarriage
He cheated on her with not a stranger or friend, not even just one cousin, *but* *two* *cousins* ? WTH?
I have no idea what the heck is going on in that family, but I would board the nearest plane/train/boat to get away from that family.
The man was trying to turn his family tree into a wreath.
Also: he was soiling himself regularly WHY? Using a toilet really isn't that hard, and it's not a selfless act. My decision to not piss myself is for me - I've never felt the need to consider others when making it.
SWEET HOME ALABAMA
I love it when cheaters say how much they love their spouse
You mean his "thing". She was "the most important *thing"* in his life. You know, *except* for that *other* thing in his pants, which apparently controls him.
"I'll give you the address of the hospital I went to so you can get the fetus" is such a raw line, especially considering that guy apparently lied and called it an abortion when it was actually a miscarriage. The situation is messed up, but that woman is strong as hell.
Story 2: As someone with severe dietary restrictions, that kind of pisses me off that she says she "can't" go to the restaurant because she doesn't like steak and doesn't want to be a pain to the staff. You can go and eat the food, you just don't want to. I actually can't eat out for fear of a flare up due to seasoning or sauces. You know what I do when my SO is going to any kind of dinner event? I tell him that I will feel a little awkward about not eating and constantly explaining why, but if he wants me there or it's an important event then I'm there.
Right I have a pretty severe reaction to wheat and it's cross-contaminated so strongly in restaurants that I don't even risk gluten-free food cuz I often have gotten sick anyway. But I will still go hang out with friends or family at a restaurant and sip on some water or juice!
I mean as someone whose a "picky eater" I can't really help what tastes bad to me and just because you can technically digest the food in question without issue doesn't change the fact its extremely unpleasant to try and can even make you wretch when you put it in your mouth. Avocado for example literally causes me to physically wretch before it gets anywhere near my mouth, I can't help it. I wish I could, I'd love to have more options. I'd do the same thing as you if a restaurant somehow had absolutely nothing I could stomach.
But clearly that's not what is going on here since she eats steak, it's just not her favourite thing. I guess just wanting to chime in that I also find this lady ridiculous and kind of annoyed she's positioning her lukewarm feelings on steak as something actually serious enough to pull this bullshit.
As someone with ARFID (an eating disorder), it’s literally so easy to grab fast food before you go and tell everyone that you had something before you left.
The story about the girl not wanting to eat at that place for some reason was the most triggering for me. I’ve been with an emotionally abusive person and it’s reminding me of them. Like even if I was allergic to everything on the menu I’d still sit there and drink water if it meant celebrating someone I loved who achieved something amazing. The fact she couldn’t be uncomfortable for an hour or two to make her partner feel good is honestly disgusting. And that’s the kind of thing her partner and kids will remember forever. Making the night about you and ruining it for everyone else.
She even kept saying pick a place that “everyone” could eat at when it was just her and her alone with the issue
@@skys2052and there were chicken and fish dishes that she could have asked to make without the sauces but she was a coward so she didn’t ask for them. And he even offered options and to let her eat wherever she wanted after like girl
@@Batsyblu And she even eats steak! It's just something she's not super into. Which is like... honey you can't eat a food you think is kinda okay for your husband's celebration?
It is triggering cuz thats how narcissist behave, they make all bdays about themselves and they have the tendency to destroy other people special Moments and hollydays ... They also try to paint the whole situation as they are the víctims by how they tell the story... Thanks to social media this type of people behaviors FINALLY have been adressed as manipulative and emotionally distressing, this is not a one time slip she had, i bet all the things have to go her way, cuz her feelings, emotions, taste likes and dislikes are more important than Everybody ELSEs... Thats how they operate, and normally the víctim Will acomodate to avoid the fights ot silent treatment that comes after mot doing exactly as they wanted ...
The part that gets me about the first story is that he was very quick to tell Lucy that the whole thing was a mistake (which was probably hurtful to her too) but never bothered to say anything about this mistake to his wife, the person most affected by this. She only found out because Lucy told her, and I'll bet he fully intended to hide what he did, which absolutely shatters his trustworthiness as a partner.
There's a big difference between finding out that your husband is doing something bad, and him telling you and owning up to his mistake. Whilst both can break a relationship, owning up before she finds out is at least salvageable.
Right? I had to back track and re-read because I thought he meant his wife when he said Lucy, but then said she found out from someone else and I was so confused. Absolute trash person.
Why was it hurtful to Lucy?Didn't Lucy 100% know OP is a married man ?
@@KpopOpinionator I don't really know if she was aware of it, but regardless of the circumstances, it would be quite hurtful to sleep with someone and then have that person turn around and say that actually everything that happened with you was a mistake.
@@Rinabow I agree unless u know are the side piece .Then u are just asking for it yourself however several cheaters string along their spouse and don't tell their affair partner if they are in a relationship.scummy
@@KpopOpinionator There are also plenty of cheaters that string along the side-piece by either not revealing the relationship, or downplaying the relationship by saying stuff like "we're only married on paper" or "the divorce just isn't finalized"
I can't know what Lucy knew in this situation, but I can only imagine that if you're someone who sleeps with a married man and then tells his wife almost immediately afterwards, you were probably being mislead in some capacity. This is why I commented that it would be pretty hurtful to be told that the hookup was a mistake.
Forget that lady not going to her husband's dinner his suggestion of letting her eat dessert and taking her somewhere else afterwards is so sweet
That is extremely thoughtful, specially since she literally admitted to being able to eat steak just fine.
"Left me dryer than a KFC biscuit." Has me DEAD!
Can we just talk about how the wife didn’t have an abortion, she had a miscarriage and he’s calling it an abortion. He’s likely the reason she had a miscarriage but the fact that he’s trying to manipulate the story to make her out to be the villain when this is ALL his fault is vile!
“I cheated because I couldn’t handle my wife being sick for a couple weeks and she had a spontaneous abortion… aka a miscarriage. But I think she had a miscarriage on purpose. Am I the ahole?”
No, sir. Ahole is not a strong enough word for what you are.
Hes a prick lord dweeb storm
“The Gerber baby grumpies” absolutely A+. You have a fantastic way with words! Also, the part about learning to “sit with your feelings” is so true.
Dude is in a long term relationship with his wife, wants to have a family, gets her pregnant and then complains because a LIFE AND BODY ALTERNATING EVENT - CALLED PREGNANCY- has this effect. Imagine how he’s acting if there would be a alrdy born child - how he will deal with this situations? Just blame the relationship or child for his lack of resilienz?
As someone who had severe morning sickness all day, every day for 7 out of 9 months I get really frustrated when guys "question if they chose the wrong person"
I understand, she is cranky and irritated and maybe passive aggressive but honey, you would be all of those things too if all you did for the 12-14 h of awake was puke or thinking of not puking or forcing your body not to puke.
For me it got so severe that I basically convinced myself in a delirium that I don't need to eat for the next few months and everything will be fine.
So shut up and take it!!
If men could get pregnant, our entire society would be structured around holidays during your period, paid pregnancy leave, medicine to alleviate pregnancy sickness, the best gynecological care imaginable, abortion care rights enshrined in the constitution & abortion pills available on every street corner, paid parental leave, medals/awards/perks for how many children you birth, "thank you for your service," etc.
Expecting the birth parent to just sail through pregnancy and childbirth, unaffected, is simply willful ignorance at this point.
@@WilliamDancin I'm not so sure about all those things but I am still shocked that the USA, 'country of the free' and 'best country in the world', doesn't have payed maternity leave and still discusses abortion rights in the 21st century.
There are developing countries who have those things.
My baby belly was small compared to other women's and I was sick and tired of working at 30 weeks because I had breathing problems since week 15, couldn't stand and talk at the same time without almost fainting and or eat normal portions because it would be too much.
My country has maternity leave from week 32 onwards and I was sooo looking forward to it. US women: your country is doing you a disservice!!!
As hard as it is living with a hormonal and feisty pregnancy lady I promise being pregnant is MUCH harder.
That picky eater story is infuriating. She could have eaten before they left, had something small at the restaurant, and still supported him. She's eaten steak before, so it's not about the steak; it's about control.
No, based on the update it doesn't sound like it was about control given she realised she fucked up. Now it could have been, but not all problem behaviours are from people trying to manipulate, sometimes people fuck up and get stubborn about silly things.
My thoughts on each of the stories 😃😃
1. That guy is terrible and I hope the woman finds someone so much better.
2. I was supper annoyed with the lady until the update. Everyone messes up and I’m glad she realized her mistake and is trying to make up for it.
3. That guy is actually disgusting and sick. He needs to go to therapy or something to work through his problems or else he will never be able to live a solid life. I’m so glad they had those neighbors to help her out. They seem like great people. Also this girl was clearly never the red flag.
okay but the flag skits and the "Commercial breaks" are gold
The moment I saw them, I had to sub. Reading reddit stories can get very boring and hard to make unique so I always appreciate when a creator does something new
1 subscribe will save one sliver of my sanity. 🚩
Glad I could help with your sanity today
Another sliver is about to be salvaged. ❤
Done! Sanity salvation 😅
I love when you come running in w the green flags.
A real man would have gone to his wife immediately and confessed if it was truly just a “mistake” imo. But instead he decided on the old “what she doesn’t know won’t hurt her” 🙄
Love how people aren’t letting cheaters get away with this bs anymore
I mean a real man wouldn't have cheated to begin with, but that is the second best option.
I've never been able to understand how someone can say their partner is "the most important thing in my life, I love them more than anything," and then cheat. How does that even work?
For the second one, the title really made it seem like OP was vegan or was allergic to something, so I thought, “NTA, right?” But NO, they’re just a picky eater??? And didn’t go bc they didn’t want to be difficult, thereby making it _even more difficult_ for everyone???
Right! I was expecting the story where she was a vegan and the guy picked the restaurant that actively mocked vegans and made sure to have nothing on the menu a vegan could eat.
People are completely nuts. That first story made me want to throw-up. The second story was a lesson in selflessness and she failed, however it seems she flipped like a pancake so good for her. That last story is far too much for me and exceeds the limit of my medication. So I can' go there without feeling profoundly ill.
I am glad I saw the comments about the first story: Dude is literally a villain in a Tyler Perry movie! There is no coming back from "stressed my wife into a miscarriage".
"PUt it in a lava lamp." OMG I needed that laugh!!!
I'm amazed at how many people confuse "can't" with "don't feel like it", including all those who pretend their _chosen_ diet is somehow essential to them staying alive.
1:07 the flag of people who give unnecessary details like age: 🚩
All I heard was “I cheated on my pregnant wife”
Exactly. Even if it wasn't a miscarriage and was a voluntary abortion, he doesn't get to cry about it.
Oh even the abortion has to be “revenge”, hey? What about she wants to move on without him and not to coparent with an AH/ impose an AH as a father to a child?
Oh, it’s worse. He lied, it wasn’t even an abortion, she updated and she miscarried. It was a much more difficult pregnancy than he let on, he just acted like it was pregnancy hormones, 🙄
The major detail the scumbag cheater left out is that it was a miscarriage. She was stressed out and him cheating just tipped her over the edge resulting in the loss of their unborn child. His actions ruined three lives. His life, his at the time wife’s life, and their unborn child’s life. All ruined because he couldn’t do the simple thing of being faithful to his wife.
@@crazyguy_1233That's not the impression I got. It's an awfully convenient coincidence that she miscarried after her husband cheated.
@@AryanBlitzkrieg-c7v well your impression of something doesnt change the reality
@@AlexAstill0409xx Same to you!!
Last story- if his baby mama is one of his cousins, the baby finding that video will be the least of its problems...
Four months is too long for an abortion in a clinic (obviously), probably because of anger and with the previous problems in the pregnancy, she lost it, this guy tries to victimize himself with that, how horrible
Yeah it was a miscarriage. There was an update from I think the wife and it said that the stress of pregnancy and the added stress of him cheating on her led to the miscarriage. He said what he said to play the victim and make her out to be the bad guy. In the end he just made it more clear how big of a scumbag he is.
Why should she carry your seed if you can’t even remain faithful?
The scumbag lied. She miscarried because of his cheating.
@@crazyguy_1233 Right, but the question still remains regardless.
10:09 worst part? For a second I wad like, "did I post this story and totally forget?" Because the same thing happened to me, in a VERY similar manner.....so much odd
Oh wait...up til the 2nd one part. Just the first half. That's just too much
I’m vegan. On my birthday I pick a vegan restaurant. The non vegans suck it up and either try something new or eat before or after and still have a good time cuz it’s about enjoying the company. On everybody else’s birthday they pick their favorite restaurant and sometimes I can eat and sometimes I can’t. I still go. We still have an amazing time. Even though I literally can’t eat it I still go. I can’t imagine not going because you just don’t feel like eating it at that moment. Great example for the kids.
If you cheated on your wife then her assuming she’d be on her own and her not wanting to raise a child and be connected to a cheater for the next 18 years seems to make sense. She’s looking out for herself.
Him thinking it was to get back at him shows his mindset. He thinks everything is all about him.
"She's looking out for herself." Said every woman on her way to 'the clinic'.
It wasn't an abortion tho, it was a miscarriage
The major detail missing is that she miscarried it wasn’t her choice to lose the unborn baby. She was stressed beyond belief as it was and his cheating tipped her over the edge resulting in the miscarriage.
@@annehedonia156 Yes? Because clearly no one else is going to do it. But I'm guessing by the quotes you're mocking the idea?
I could be completely wrong, but it almost sounds like the 3rd guy was a narcissistic alcoholic…preying on a vulnerable person, love bombing, and then when he felt like he sealed the deal his real abusive, alcoholic, entitled self came out.
Sounds like my ex.
@@Cindy-xg6yn Sorry you went through that, Cindy
All these women have to sue these men for emotional stress and the last one for also attempted assault.
About the 2nd story: I'm a picky eater but that's never a good enough excuse for ruining someone's celebration. That's a bad person right there.
“I don’t feel like I can live without my wife”….Is it just me, or does EVERY jerk (male or female) pull this line out of their ass when they get caught out? Because my AH ex husband said the SAME thing to me; “I can’t live without you” but then 4 months later it was,”oh, I’m not trying to delay the divorce, I met someone”. Seems like he’s living just fine without my help 😂😂😂.
It’s really rubbing me the wrong way that he said “thing”and not “person”for his wife being important……also for miss maam I’m glad she fixed it but if you knew you were going, maybe eat in advance? Compromise??? Like that’s such an achievement.
I have never done something drunk that i wouldn't have done sober under the right circumstances. If you cheat on your wife while you're drunk, you would do that shit sober eventually.
Even if she did choose to terminate instead of having a miscarriage, she absolutely should be supported in making the decision for her own sake. She would have been stuck with him for a lifetime if she didn't.
She should be absolutely supported in her decision? No.
@@annehedonia156 Yes. She has a right to want to have kids with someone she can trust.
I can just imagine all the judgemental shit you probably say about single mother too, your type always does.
Grab Handles? In my family, we call the OSH (Oh Sh*t Handles) cause the only time you grab them is when you are yelling, "Oh! SHIIIIIIIIT!"
OMG I THOUGHT ONLY MY PARENTS DID THIS LMAO
Same!
Sorry if my husband cheats on me while im pregnant and i still have the option, like id probably miscarry anyway from the pain but if i didnt i would not commit my life to someone who already threw it away.
Nobody:
*Demon grunting while running* Ma'am!
[heel clicks for zero reason]
Subconsciously middle Lady is jealous. She wanted to find away to control the situation and make it about her. Now she's ruined the high light of his joy while fresh she feels secure to make it up to him because now it's about her still. My mother was the same
Not everyone who fucks up is your mother. Sometimes people do stupid things. It's the pattern that shows it, not a single mistake.
Restaurant wife didn’t want to go because she didn’t get her way. Too hard for her to have the attention on someone else. Wow. You’re right, she’s just a bit of a toddler!
Eh, I'd want to see a pattern of behaviour before I'd read that into it. the fact she realised she was in the wrong and is making it up to him suggests she just had a moment of stupidness.
“Pissed his pants daily” 😳
And didn’t bathe. I would have left immediately.
And she stayed with him. It wasn’t till he cheated 😵💫
What a jerk (1st story).
I am always shocked when a cheater says “they are the most important thing” blah blah blah. And then breaks the heart, confidence and self esteem of this person they love.
Cheaters never change!! He will cheat again.
🤦♀️I am glad she left.
It makes it even better when you learn the wife miscarried and he lied to make her look bad. The guy is an even bigger scumbag than he first seemed.
she did not have a desire to have a child with a cheater??
The cheater lied. She miscarried because of the cheating. She lost the child not out of choice but because of his actions. His cheating made her already stressed self go over the edge and as a result she lost the unborn child.
Honey, do you still have the number for the psychiatrist? The neighbor is running around the field waving a giant red flag again. Not sure if he has flown off the handle or trying to send a message. *sips coffee while looking out the window*
Okay, probs a typo, but "spy-chiatrist" is so funny for someone watching somebody else. Do you really need a consult for a better camera to keep watching? 😂😂
@@MissPuppy468 Sorry about the typo, I fixed it! 🤣
@@MusketeerGweneth nooooooo, it was such a funny typo!!! 😁
@@MissPuppy468 Lol! 🤣
There was an update to the abortion one. He said abortion to make himself look better but it turns out the stress finding out he cheated ended up making her miscarry.
The family one was WILD! WHAT THE ACTUAL…?
Loving this content!
I’m worried the mother of his baby might be one of the cousins. 😬
that last girl with the fiancee sleeping with 2 of his cousins has been so gaslit by al the terrible people in his family, she thinks she's in the wrong. Poor thing
Yeah.
Even if she did get an abortion, husband is still the AH. Who would willingly bring a child into the world where you know the dad is fickle as fuck? He proved he isn’t going to be reliable for the next 18 years. Still though, I feel terrible that the woman miscarried and I wish her healing.
My toxic trait would be thinking I'm not doing enough for her or being a good husband if she was having horrible mood swings rather than think she wasn't the right person
Honestly, I’ve gotten an abortion because I didn’t feel like coparenting, he was a cheater, liar, and partier. Soon as he found out I was pregnant he flipped, he dragged me on social media just everything!! Guess what? I just aborted the baby and BLASTED myself on social media. Then he played victim, everybody literally dragged him after all that and he for 6 years messaged me happy Mother’s Day 😭 He was such a sad lil bihh I messaged his girl and told her and sent her screen shots and it stopped lol.
not an easy decision to make but I think those are good reasons to not have a child. I kind of hoped she would have made an abortion, but it turned out she had a miscarriage: In my mind it wouldn't have made her a bad guy. I was scrolling and hoping that someone would point that out. Stress can lead to developing of autism for example, not to talk about raising a child in that kind of environment where the parents don't get along. I hope she and you are doing well.
Yeah, him mentioned Lucy's age is wild. Like once is enough
I always say this it's not that women don't hold accountability it's cheaters who doesn't hold any accountability at all. He is such pathetic man that he twisted his story in order to get support 😢
Yeah. When you learn the facts it just shows he was an even bigger scumbag than he initially seemed.
The second story, Bravo lady for listening and making it up to your husband.
She never told you she got an abortion, your making an assumption
Yeah, because disappearing first thing in the morning two days (coincidentally the number of days required in most places to "think about it" before receiving an abortion), after learning he cheated on her, being unable to answer the phone, coming home late with a friend who has clearly driven her home and telling him to move out ASAP, telling him to leave her alone because she's tired and in pain, and then says he can collect the foetus from the hospital if he wants to; doesn't all just scream "had a last minute abortion" at 4 months pregnant.
🤦🏻♀️😬😒🙄
@Jazzinthedark84 theyre saying it sounds like a miscarriage. This can happen under extreme stress. You can't just get an abortion in a day. It's something that has to be scheduled and depending on where she is, she potentially cant even get an abortion due to how far along she was. There are many other ways pregnancies can end without there being an abortion involved
@@Jazzinthedark84 it takes two doctor's visits with more than 24 hours between them to get an ab*rtion in most places, and that is typically under 6 weeks. She was 4 months pregnant, a time notorious for spontaneous miscarriages (between 10 and 16 weeks is when most known pregnancies end). Especially being under the stress of knowing your partner isn't faithful and could leave at a moments notice is no insignificant emotional distress.
Take it from someone who has experienced a miscarriage vs known someone who had an abortion. Miscarriages HURT LIKE A MF FOR HOURS, SOMETIMES DAYS. Ab*rtions are removed entirely and you're doped up. You'd be sore after an ab*rtion when the meds wear off, but not in so much pain that you'd ask your partner to leave you alone, even in normal circumstance.
During a miscarriage, you are in so much pain, you cannot stand, you cannot speak other than a whimper, you can barely see, let alone get up to answer a phone call. And any sane person who respects themself would definitely not answer a call from an unfaithful partner for over 24 hours.
Ab*rtion care only extends till the moment you wake up from the procedure. You are discharged as soon as you can stand. She wouldn't be coming home late if she wasn't being held for monitoring before discharge. They know they've gotten everything with an ab*rtion. But with an incomplete miscarriage, they have to watch them for hours, sometimes days after administering the medication to complete the miscarriage.
They wouldn't hold her for over a day for an ab*rtion.
@@Jazzinthedark84It’s a miscarriage, love.
@@Jazzinthedark84 imagine person I’ll let Judge me just to be wrong smh I bet you feel stupid right now
4:46 didnt want to be difficult for strangers but wanted to be for your spouse? Controlling
I imagine that you actually pause the story to go wrap yourself in a taquito because I would need the break 😂
On the 1st one, she didn't have an abortion, she miscarriage 😢
2:45 My dude, the biggest fuck-up you had was not telling your wife IMMEDIATELY. You were drunk, called off any potential follow-up affair right away, and were willing to put in the work to improve your relationship. Why the hell didn’t you tell your wife the second you next saw her?!
😠...not discussing with your wife your insecurities while she's pregnant with your child.
Picky eater wife; selfish wench.
"Put it in a lava lamp"
Absolutely. Savage.
Fun fact: I have celiac disease and have no problem going to restaurants where I can't eat anything because being with my friends and family is worth it. Yes, they try to accommodate my dietary restrictions but sometimes it just isn't safe enough. I eat before I go, I carry snacks, I can sometimes order a plain salad. Regardless, I'm not going to ruin an evening due to my health condition while this entitled women is prioritizing her preferences over her husband and family. Her husband went above and beyond to try to find a solution and she can't even compromise a little?
It may not have been as shocking as the other stories but you're still going to need a bigger red flag for her behavior.