Update On My Breast Cancer || How Am I Doing || Any After Effects/Life at 69
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Oh Melissa, your subscribers are blessed to have you! You are a beautiful, inspirational woman! We love you!!
Thank you, Joann. I am the lucky one!
The emotions you’re experiencing are normal. The treatments you went through put you into, like you said, fight or flight mode. It’s like a hurricane. The hurricane (all the treatments) may have passed, but now you’re dealing with cleaning up the mess (the emotional roller coaster) And it will take time. You’re helping many women sharing your story.
Exactly!!!! Oh my gosh that really explains how I am feeling. And it's hard to like share it with Doug. And I feel bad because I feel ungrateful that I'm doing so well and there are others that are not. But I feel what I feel and you have explained it beautifully. Thank you so very much!
I think we fail to understand that emotions have little to do with a lack of gratitude. It is great to give thanks for things not being worse, but we need to remember that suppressing what we feel by comparing sufferings will not get us anywhere. By doing this, we only bury our feelings and create more problems. We need to make space for these emotional storms so we can process and release them. It is heavy, it is hard, but it is the only way out. These emotions are a part of being human and we only need to learn how to manage them with intelligence and grace. Some days we will win over them and some days they will win over us. It is okay, it's all part of the human experience and we are all in it together ❤️🩹 Let's feel it to heal it!
Thank you so much darling Melissa for your honest video. We love you ❤
Thank you thank you thank you. That’s how I feel a year after my double mastectomy. 🩷
God bless you beautiful Melissa!🌹 you know how much I Love & respect you! Thank you for sharing your story dear friend I think about you every day! I know things will get easier for you as time goes by! Lots of love and lots of hugs! Deb x❤❤❤❤❤❤
Cancer survivor myself here. Everything you are feeling is absolutely normal.. Talking to someone that does not know you could be quite beneficial. It could be just a few sessions that you need to let you know how you are doing with your perspective on life in general after having a cancer diagnosis. Feeling out of control after a diagnosis can lead us to feel a little inadequate, making our life scary at times, when in reality it’s just a feeling of acceptance and letting God, in the truest sense take over our lives for the better that’s taking place. It’s hard to let go of the reins. The road isn’t easy but you were a survivor before this, and you’ll continue the path now. You’re beautiful inside and out, and I’m glad you made this video. You have been through a lot in life and yet even when expressing your deepest personal life in a just a few of your videos, you do it with such genuine grace that it never comes across as whining, but truth in its truest sense. There are a few TH-camrs who could learn a thing or two from you most certainly. ❤🙏
You know, this is really helpful to me. I'm new to this and don't know if my feelings are normal or not. Sometimes I'm scared. And Doug doesn't understand. He's like they got it all you're going to be ok. Boy you should be a therapist because you hit the nail on the head. And I sure appreciate the very kind words. Thank you so so much, Debra! Much love, Melissa
@@Melissa55 , I’m grateful as a cancer survivor myself to have been able to offer something helpful for you. It’s the least I could do. Prior to my cancer, I always felt I needed to have as much control over myself, and things outside of myself as much as possible. Turns out life had other plans for me. I quickly learned that with cancer, it sometimes teaches us to live, and die at the same time which seems crazy to say but it’s true, and it’s teaching to let go and let God. I was so sick sometimes and terrified that I didn’t know some days if I would make it. Other days I was learning to live with what was, which was seeing the beautiful faces of my children who I knew still needed me, and I them. Life was telling me to hold on still. So here I am still going strong in this crazy, sometimes ridiculous, and yet beautiful journey we call life. Just like you Melissa, I couldn’t become brave without being scared first! No one can! A giant hug from me my sister. We can all only get better together. You are never alone!!!🩵🥰👏👍🌺
I am just getting to see this. Catching up. Thank you so much for sharing. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. I've never been in your situation but I want you to know you're an inspiration. Take care and I will be looking forward to more videos.
Ohhhh Melissa, if you could only see yourself through our eyes. You are beautiful, kind, intelligent and just about everything good there is to be. You have been through so much this yr that you are bound to be so weary. There will be light at the end of the tunnel. I forget how long they say it takes just to recover from anesthesia , but it's a long time and you have been through so much more. More than anything, you are brave and courageous and such a trail blazer for those who will follow you on this journey. You are making a path so we wil know where to place our feet for that next step. PLEASE give yourself a big hug and be so PROUD of yourself for showing us how to follow. GOD BLESS YOU!!!!
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Thank you more than I can say, Carol. Believe me there are so so many women going through more that are braver. I really can see a light at the end. I was ok for a while, then not so ok. But I feel the ok is starting back again and I'm grateful. Thank you with all my heart!
Hello Melissa! I think you are so brave and honest ! I so admire your attitude in dealing with all this! I will pray for you! Lots of Love, Lia
You are loved Melissa 💗💗💗💗
I've had colorectal cancer 3 times and I think anytime you have cancer you are never are going to not wonder about it coming back. I'm so glad you are doing well, you look great. A little humor for you, I saw a t-shirt that said "Yes,they are fake, my real ones tried to kill me" ❤
I want that shirt! Mine look ridiculous but are healthy so far for which I am grateful.
Can’t understand why anyone would unsubscribe from your channel. You are not only beautiful on the outside but you are one of the most sweetest, genuine ladies here on TH-cam. I love the way you are honest and I also love the way you are such a devoted wife, mother, and grandmother! You have had a hard year and are doing a wonderful job getting through it. I will always be a follower of your channel!
Cancer does make you unsure of yourself. At 32 I had breast cancer. I am 76 . Every time I have a health problem my mind goes to cancer. I was very blessed that I just was in first stage and no lymph nodes were involved . Unfortunately I lost my husband to cancer at a young age.
You never know how many people you are helping with these real and truthful talks. Thank you.
Thank you for sharing dear Melissa. I have a friend that had cervix cancer last year and was really sick for months. After all her procedures and given a good prognoses she mentally broke down. She had been so strong and fought for her life all the time but when it was over, she just went to "a dark place". She felt less of a woman, did not know what to do with her life (she is 69 years old and divorced) could not sleep through a whole night, gained weight and so on. No matter what we said to her she did not feel her self at all. Nothing helped. Until her doctor told her to take naps - as often as she wanted and needed. She was worried it would mess with her night sleep but he convinced her that after such huge impact her body really needed to heal. It was priority number one. He said it would take time but when the body healed her mind would too. Now, a year later, she is almost her happy self again. She has stopped trying to do all the things she used to and focus on loving her self and healing. I think you need to do that too Melissa - let your body heal and your mind and soul will follow. Bless you my dear. (sorry for how long this is and I'm not very articulate but I live in Scandinavia and English is not my native tongue).
I so agree naps are important, sleep whenever you can because the body has to heal!
Third this! Sleeping as much as your body needs when recovering is so crucial, everything else just has to be prioritized lower until we’re ready to handle it all again.
Well said! (from a fellow Scandinavian😊)
I started crying reading this while you described your friend. Her feelings feel so familiar to me. And the thing is you feel weak and inadequate. Naps??? Really?? Oh my gosh this was so what I needed to read. Thank you so much for sharing this with me. And you are so articulate. This is a beautiful message and I am so grateful. Sending you love and thanks Melissa
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Sweet Melissa…. Thanks so much for sharing your journey with everyone. You are so beautiful inside and out. My thoughts and prayers are always with you. 🙏🏼♥️🙏🏼
Thank you Kim. I really am doing well. And you have been a big part of that. I will never forget your kindness. Love you!
I had brain surgery in February. I found out I had a very unstable, large aneurysm at the beginning of January. They tried to fix the aneurysm via an angiogram, but it was unsuccessful. They had to do a craniotomy, so they shaved the right side of my hair in order to make a 9 inch incision and take part of my skull off to access the aneurysm. Melissa, I feel the same way you do. I can't sleep, everything is sinking in now and I feel "unsure" of myself, and sort of "worthless". I can't do the things I once did... I still can't drive, I have no endurance, I walk with a cane, I can no longer work... HOWEVER, I AM blessed! I have my family. My daughters and adult granddaughters helped me, and continue to help me. I have God who is first in my life. I AM blessed. xo
Oh Melissa, you’ve been through so much. Please know I’m sending you a ton of love and support as you continue this journey. I lost my mother to breast cancer a well, and due to my genetic risk have undergone a double mastectomy and oophorectomy (all prophylactic). My heart hurts to hear you talk about your worth in this video. I don’t know if you realize it or not, but you are being an advocate for every women who ever watches your videos who are undergoing the same procedures and diagnosis. I underwent my double mastectomy over 10 years ago. I didn’t find many women online sharing their experience at all, so I did exactly what you did and shared very vulnerable and intimate details on my blog to hopefully help others. You are so worthy my friend and a strong advocate for others. One can only imagine the positive impact you have had and will continue to have for the countless women who find you because of your brave decision to share your journey with the world. 💗
You have really been through a lot and I don't blame you for going through the mastectomy. It's one reason I chose it over radiation. I know you helped so many people by sharing. your journey. Thank you so much for this. You have really had such a positive effect on me with this post. Much love.
DEAR LADY THANK GOD YOURE HEALTHY AND SAFE YOURE 69 AND YOU LOOK LIKE YOURE 40 MAY ALWAYS HAVE GOOD HEALTH AND LONG LONG LIFE
I think a lot of women feel like you do. But you have a TH-cam channel and are awesome at it. A lot of the rest of us couldn’t do that! ❤
That is so sweet of you to say, Judy. Women are so talented humans. I look around and see so many talented women. Women that can sing, can play the piano, can paint, are athletic, are good hairdressers. The list goes on. Thank you and have a good rest of the week.
Listening to you talk about your health problems over the years is heartbreaking. You've been thru a lot and I'm so sorry. If it makes you feel any better, you are still beautiful even after all that you've been thru. 🌼
aw thank you. I hope I didn't sound too whiny. After I put it up I've been kind of worried about it. But I figure it's the way I feel right now, so I would share. Thank you and take care!
I’m a breast cancer survivor too. Your story is eerily identical to mine, except I found out at 36. I’m 12 years out, and every tweak or pang I feel, my first thought is “it’s back.” You’re a warrior and it’s perfectly normal to feel everything you’re feeling. Thank you for sharing your journey!
I'm also a cancer survivor
Went through 22 chemos with a 2.5 year old toddler
Mellisa this is what I did
Put 1 foot in front of the other and walk
Trust and Faith always and just walk
You'll get through each day
Reading your story I feel ashamed. You are so brave and strong. You went through all of that with a baby. I know you had to have had your days when you didn't know if you could do it, but you did. I admire you tremendously. Please take care and thank you.
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Please don't be ashamed at all. First of all I was 27 years old. I had Hodgkin's lymphoma. My parents lived around the corner from me and I had my older sister. We lived in Atlanta. I had many many days where I was down and out specially, a week after chemo , but I think the best thing is just to have faith and trust in God and just put 1 foot in front of the other and walk and rest when you have to go when you can I wish you all the best and health for many many years, be well always
Sweetheart, if you didn’t go through these feelings, I would be concerned. I am a retired provider and the wife of a dear hubby with Crohns. Crohn’s is wicked in itself and when you add a breast cancer to that as well as the feeling that you’re deprived all your femininity, it’s going to hit you big time. My husband and I are seventy years old and when things happen at our age, it makes you realize and come to grips with the fact that you are no longer a dynamo. You were so concentrated in just getting through the whole process that now the grieving has sunk in, but this too shall pass. Mourn the loss - let your hubby help you with the frailty you feel now. Acceptance will come and your emotions will heal and get better. The other thing to realize is that you are not alone. Don’t go and think that other people have it worse than you. This is your experience and it is an experience like no one else’s.
This is all so very true. The age does play a factor I think. And I feel you are right about the worried feelings coming at a later time. You're too busy surviving at the time. Please give my best to your husband. Tell him I feel his pain! Thank you so much for your wisdom. Much love and many thanks.
I am not sure if you can take Magnesium Glycinate but that was life changing for my sleeping issues. I am 69 years old and for the past year, taking one 240 mg tablet 30 minutes before I go to bed has been answered prayer for me. Only Magnesium Glycinate works for calming and sleep. I started it to help with a bit of anxiety and realized that it was allowing me to go to sleep and stay asleep. If I did happen to wake up, I could go back to sleep instead of tossing and turning for hours. I hope it is something you can try.
Actually should take 400mg (usually that’s 2-200mg) mag glycinate before bed
You are an inspiration, Melissa. I know this video helped so many people!! You been through so much, my friend. I hate it you have to go through another surgery, but I know your will heal like a champ. Hooray for your son, and family will be moving home soon. Love you, my friend...MaryEllen
I certainly understand how you are feeling. I was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2012 at the age of 54. It was a whirlwind and 12 days after diagnosis had a single mastectomy. I felt overwhelmed. When I woke up from surgery, he said the breast cancer had not spread, but that he found I also had lymphoma which is cancer of the immune system. I took Anastrozole for 5 years. I am free of breast cancer almost 12 years now and thriving with lymphoma (not curable, but has not progressed to need any treatment yet. Slow growing.) I feel very grateful. I do struggle with the mastectomy and no reconstruction- lopsided. I feel embarrassed at times. I hate the prosthesis. But, my husband has told me he would rather I have no breasts than not have me at all. It is still sad and uncomfortable. But, I am blessed to have survived and know I am valuable because Jesus died for me. You sharing your experience and feelings is helping others. That is very kind of you to be honest of your feelings. Have you tried a silk sleep mask and maybe a white noise machine to help with sleep? Just a thought. I’m sorry you have such challenges limiting options. God bless you and peace be with you.
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Thank you for sharing Melissa. I am sure it will help so many women. We never know when some of us will have to experience what you’re going through. You are a brave strong woman.
Thank you. I don't feel brave and feel like a whiny baby. But I decided to just share that I feel like a whiny baby. lol. And I do think it's normal and will pass. Anyway, thank you and take care!
You are doing the right thing to share how you’re feeling I love that you do tell us about your life I love makeup and hair care content but the way you share your life is much more appealing to me than You Tubers who only share products.
I totally understand how it would be hard to go through this cancer esp having the mastectomy. You’ve been through a lot. We are not the culmination of what our bodies look like or how it works but who our Creator says we are He has wooed us and knows the count of how many hairs are on our head He loves you and gave His Son in trade of your life, my life and all humanity.
Take care. Take naps. Embrace the joy that is available. Call the hard times hard. Facing truth of both.
Love you and appreciate you and your sharing with us. You’re a treasure to all of us and to the One Who made you. ❤
Melissa. You are a warrior. You are fighting a war of survival. It will wear you down but you are stronger than you think. Your beautiful smiling face, showing up on your channel even when you’re going through this is a sign of strength. We’re all praying for good health and peace of mind. Sending prayers ❤🙏
Continued Prayers of Healing & Hugs 💛
That is so kind, Mel. I am grateful.
You totally summed it up when you said it is like a form of PTSD. When you are in the eye of the storm you just keep on going, but it's the aftermath when you have time to reflect that is tough. Wishing you so much ongoing strength beautiful Melissa. xx
My husband had a massive heart attack last summer. For months, I ran on adrenaline. It's just now sinking in how devastating it was. He has had a complicated recovery, but thank God is improving. You are so brave, beautiful, and kind. Thank you for sharing your authentic feelings.
I've had insomnia for 20 years. 1/2 of a Benadryl does wonders for me. I only take it when I've gone several nights without sleep. I don't want to build a tolerance to it. The other nights I take 3mg of Melatonin.
This was so interesting - and I'm so incredibly happy you can discuss it all with us. I had my mammogram on March 19th, and by April 1st (no joke!) had been through the biopsy, MRI etc, and was diagnosed with breast cancer. I had surgery on April 22, and start radiation next week. Talk about a whirlwind! I feel very lucky, and my wonderful team took care of everything - they arranged all the surgery, meetings with the oncologist etc., arranged for a navigator. I have opted not to take the 5 year medication, as at my age, (77) the risks to my bones (I have osteoporosis) outweigh the benefits. I'm so sad to hear you say you feel bad about yourself - I hope this goes away. Nothing in life is certain - and even though you feel so unsure, you've been through so much and I think what you are feeling is perfectly normal, and I hope you will seek help if you need it. Your son is coming home - focus on that for now. Take naps if you need them - there's no shame in that. You must take care of the day to day. You are the one that got me through my last crazy couple of months - I kept thinking how brave you were. Thank you.
Oh Fiona, I didn't know this. I am so so sorry you had to deal with this. And good luck with the radiation. I know you will breeze right through it. Yes, it's a hard decision about the medication. At first I said no, but with my mom dying I thought I would try it for a while. Thank you for your positive comment. It helps so much. Love to you, Melissa
@@Melissa55 Thank you - my scores are low and the genetic tests showed no known other risks, so for me the decision wasn’t too hard. I’ll keep you in my thoughts - feel better soon 🥰
did you get the covid vaccine? > boosterS?
@@kj-bt5yw Are you asking me? Yes, I have received all of the Covid shots, as well as pneumonia, flu, shingles. Are you thinking there is a connection?
Don’t feel worthless, you are such an inspiration to me (you have been for years) and to so many others-and that alone is worth so much! ❤❤❤
You’ve been through a lot and you will be just fine. For your sleep have you tried light therapy? Getting 30 min of sunlight each morning and 30 min of sunlight afternoon, this helps set your eternal clock and helps with sleep. 💤
You’ve been through so much, Crohns, cancer, mastectomy. It would be overwhelming for anyone. Serious health issues cause so much anxiety and depression. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Take care of yourself. Hugs! ❤️
Oh honey that sleep deprivation will be hellacious on your mind and body thus a scary roller coaster. Give yourself grace. I hope someone with similar can help direct you to something that can help you out. You look amazing! You are so loved. Keep pushing.❤🙏 so many are sending prayers. Have hope!
I understand feeling worthless. I think often it is left over from childhood. My father still makes me feel worthless now and he is 91, in hospital and probably dying.
Melissa, you have an extremely popular TH-cam channel, a family who love you and you are outstandingly beautiful and lovely natured. Please know people love you. You are worth so much xx
All your emotions are normal. I am also a BC survivor. I went through ALL the treatments, including chemo, radiation, mastectomy, etc. Now 17 years later I am still her and stronger than ever. Rest when you can, and know ypu have so many people praying for you.
This is so reassuring to hear that you have overcome from your cancer ,I got her2 positive breast cancer had been doing alot of research and keep hearing that chemotherapy causes secondary cancers ,that has been very upsetting ,so to hear your diagnosis was 17 years ago has given hope🙏
Bless you. I’m sure any woman would feel the same way having had breasts removed. It’s so much of who we are. There’s a sadness that would have to be part of the healing process. Also, I would definitely believe that PTSD is very common as well. If I didn’t have the Lord in my life, I have no idea how I would ever manage life. ❤️🙏
It really is a part of us isn't it? And mine were small and not like outstanding or anything. But I am ok now. I really am. I think it's just a part of this healing process. Bless you too, Karen and thank you.
Melissa, everything you are feeling is very normal. Your body has been through so much and the lack of sleep can really wreck your nerves. Coming off HRT is an extremely hard adjustment for one’s body, too. You hang in there and never give up and remember that brighter days are coming. Sending love & prayers for you!!
Thank you, Annette. I think the lack of sleep is messing with me a bit. I have ordered something that a friend said worked for her - some magnesium on the skin. That way it doesn't hurt your guts. Thank you and much love!
I was on Tamoxifen & Anastrozole too & they made me feel tired & weary so that may be another reason you are feeling like you do. Hang in there and give yourself grace. ❤️🙏
This video is incredibly brave and authentic. What a kind gesture to share this journey with us. I bet you have helped so many people. Well wishes for your future health.
Dear Melissa, l SO hear you about the sleep and wonder if you can take some form of progesterone which is a strong sleep hormone. I had an oestrgen based cancer, caught early, and take progesterone to counter any oestrogen left in me. Glorious side effects of progesterone has been increased sleep and a lowering of anxiety . May not be suitable at all for but lm just sharing in the hopes it may help. Hugs from Dublin. You are marvellous! Rest, rest dear one., you are recovering after a war.
Thank you for sharing your experiences 🤗 I was diagnosed with stage 2 breast cancer in February. I'm currently under the care of doctors at UMCC . My oncologist prescribed Letrozole for me. I've been on it since April 23rd. I've been told surgery will most likely be in July. I'm hoping for a Lumpectomy. I do not want chemotherapy nor traditional radiation. If I have to have therapy, I'm hoping it can be Proton therapy.
I do have some anxiety and a little uneasiness with not knowing how things will go.
But I'm very appreciative Melissa for your words of encouragement and faith 🙏
You look absolutely gorgeous like always 💗 thank you for sharing your journey with us 🙏 these conversations are important and you choosing to share this journey with us means a lot! Especially for those experiencing similar situations
I really appreciate that. It's been a process and I feel like I'm getting past everything. Many thanks.
I love you! I love you! I love you!!!!!!! When I turned your video on I thought “ Now Melissa’s hair line is perfect.” Your hair is still just as beautiful so are you!! I pray all the time to have beautiful hair like you! I speak the Holy name of Jesus Christ over you and your family Melissa. May He bless you abundantly with His peace, His comfort and sound mind. 👑✝️❤️🙏
You are so wonderful. You are sunshine in a crazy world. You are not worthless. I am also 69. Sometimes I feel that way too. But you matter to your family and us who follow you. You have gone through so much. Listening to you helps me to push through my own stuff with positivity. Love and prayers to you💖💖
Melissa, you are a strong and beautiful woman! You are helping women with your honesty. Your emotions seem perfectly normal. It's wonderful that your son and his family will be back. Nothing like the support of family and friends ❤
aw Melissa --- I wish I could just hug you - I can't imagine the difficulties you have been through. You have a beautiful approach to all these things!!!! There are so many things for you to celebrate and you see them and you LOOK for them. I am so excited for your son's homecoming!!!! What a thrill that has to be!!!!! :) Don't worry about subscribers.... the ones you need stay here forever. :) Love you!!!!
I subscribed to your channel because I think you’re one of the most positive, honest and sweetest person I’ve listen to on utube. You have gone through SO MUCH and yet you try your best to maintain an upbeat and positive attitude toward all that’s happened to you! I’m overwhelmed by you and wish I could be more like you. You’re such an inspiration to your viewers. Please don’t be discouraged, sweet Melissa, by those that are negative. I can sense you put your faith and trust in the Lord. We both know,, even with our strong faith, it can get very scary at times. I too am a breast cancer survivor and I recently lost my son. Just know that you are precious and so loved by your viewers. So keep fighting the good fight of faith and know that you are loved by many.
Love you. God bless you. You are so admired.
I so appreciate that.
Yes, and loved 🥰.
My goodness you have been through so much. Looking beautiful as ever . God Bless you x
Thank you! I feel so blessed though when I think of what others are going through. So many people are so ill. Thank you!!! Much love
Oh my gosh, I think your close to perfect. I strive to be half the person that you are. You make my day watching you and look forward to it. You are beautiful inside and out. What you went through , your allowed to have those feelings. Stay positive 🥰
God is with you put all your cares and worries in God's hands, pray about everything, and worry about nothing. ❤❤❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏❤❤❤❤❤ You're a warrior 💪 be proud.
Mellissa, you are handling everything with so much grace, you are beautiful ❤️
Your honest and personal emotions will help so many feel that they are not alone. Thank you. 💛
Beautiful Melissa, I am so in awe of your bravery. You have faced so many obstacles with absolute grit and determination. And all the while, you have never looked more beautiful! I honestly don't know how you do it! Thank you for sharing so much with us. Sending love and prayers 💕🙏
I subscribed tonight after finding you. Wishing you a future of good health. I’m your age, and believe you have come through a huge ordeal, but your body is adjusting to trauma from the surgery, change of meds, coming off the hormones, and as you said the emotions from everything. I think you will sleep again after your mind and body gets back into a harmony.
Thank you for sharing your very personal journey with us. I always want to ask how you are doing, but never want to invade your privacy beyond youtube. Please know that many of your long time followers feel the same way I do.
I also, think that SHORTS have taken over youtube. I don't think it has anything to do with you or your content.
God bless you and your family and please keep posting when you can about how you are doing. However, when you are feeling tired, please take the time to rest and try to sleep. Sleep is a huge healer and you need it at this time of your journey. Know you are loved by all who watch you. Hugs hugs to you! ❤🙏🙏
Thank you, Melinda. I am on Instagram a lot and feel more person with everyone over there. We talk a lot in DMs and so I hope you might message me there. Than you and take care. Much love
You are a very strong lady. Please consider counseling to help you understand how your health can affect so many aspects of your life. Depression, while temporary for most, can make you feel tired, useless and unable to sleep as you need. You are alive and should be enjoying every day, though we all have those down days. I wish you the very best on your journey!
My friend went through a mastectomy and has experienced very similar emotions. You have been through a lot… and you are also dealing with Crohns… and still smiling… give yourself some grace gorgeous lady.❤
Thank you for sharing your health history. Women’s bodies are a miracle, but have so many ways to go haywire. God bless you (and any followers going through illness) and wishing you a full good health report.
I'm going to cry for you :( I understand how you feel. I am 3 years cancer free. I know the fear of the return :( It has lessened with time for me. I hope it lessens for you too. I lay down every afternoon for an hour now. I don't usually sleep, but just rest. It helps. The simpler I make my goals the better it is for me. You will get stronger :) God bless you. xoxo
Hi beautiful, all that you're feeling is normal after going through breast cancer. People generally think, "Will treatment is done and she is cancer free end of story." But it so much more! I just celebrated my 6 years of being cancer free, but there is always that little voice saying what if... i had the chemo, blood transfusion, and all the good stuff that comes with breast cancer. Always remember that your story is as important as mine or other women who have gone through this horrible journey. You are beautiful, you are brave, and you are a strong worrior and have survived it! PTSD is part of our journey. Just stay close to your loved ones and mostly to God! It does get better, but that nagging tiny voice will always be creepy.. i just wanted you to know it is normal what you're feeling. Please dont let anyone make you feel guilty for speaking out your emotions. Yes, being grateful is good, but it is also fair to express how you feel. I went through it and still, after 6 years, get sad about it, especially when I look at myself. I lost my hair, and it never grew back, so taking off a wig every night is not easy, but God gives me the strength to do it. I hope this comment makes sense... chemo brain fog is real.. 😂😂😂... ❤
Praying for you. Please know that you are an inspiration to others. You will never know how your story can help someone else.
Thank you, Deborah - that is so very kind of you.
Melissa you are doing well. Don't worry about a few subscribers that are gone. Your loyal fan base is still here and we still want to support you through your challenges in life.❤
Melissa, Melissa, Melissa!! First of all let me say this was an excellent video and topic!!!! You were so real and honest!!! More of that is needed!! Not the sugar coating of what is going on in one’s mind!!! Wow! Ok i am 67. I was diagnosed with breast cancer at 47. No family history. Shocking as it was i was not supposed to get this by my lifestyle. So lumpectomy, radiation for 7 weeks and tomoxiphen 5 for years. My Uterus was growing. Tamoxiphen can cause Uterine cancer. Monitoring that with my 6 month check ups and after just over three years the decision to do an abdominal total hysterectomy (everything!) i had one at 51. Woke up in the recovery room with horrible hot flashes every hour on the hour in recovery. Yes i still have them not as frequent but still having them all these 20 years later! So the worry is real 20 years later and with no family history. I 28:24 Still worry about relapse. I can’t help it! Sleep. So important to restore the body. Who cares take a nap to help yourself! Don’t worry. This is your new normal. Perhaps one day u can get back to a longer sleep at night. Try to walk a bit to help with regulating your body but don’t stress. It is still new. You will get to a new stable place. Don’t be so hard on yourself. ❤debbie
This was such a good post, Debbie and really helpful to me. I'm new at this and I sometimes wonder if I'm overreacting or being whiny or feeling sorry for myself. So many people have to have chemo and have it worse so I feel guilty even mentioning that I am worried or feel like my body has been through a lot. But I do kind of feel like that.. So thank you for understanding. It isn't something I can talk to Doug about and I don't like to worry my kids. Thank you so much!
Don't ever feel worthless. God made You for a reason. You ARE VERY SPECIAL Melissa, and we ALL love you so much. xoxoxoxo
Melissa, BC survivor here. Whenever I get the worries, I think “Today I am alive”. Meaning I can’t predict what will happen, but today I don’t have to worry about it. Exercise, eat healthy and your chances are so good. And yes I have days when I feel unlucky but I think about what my ancestors endured and feel that I can also endure.
Melissa everything you’re feeling is normal. Not that I’ve had cancer or Crohn’s, but I’ve had autoimmune and inflammatory issues and chronic pain and fatigue and anxiety, and there are days that we can manage very well and there are days that we just feel frustrated.! You’re doing incredible. The courage it takes to come on here and be honest about how you’re feeling is amazing and that also helps other women.💚❤️ And sometimes you cannot talk about this stuff with your husband or your partner. So we are here for you.💕💕🫶🏻 you are so beautiful and you radiate beauty & kindness ! We luv u ! You are allowed to feel blessed that you didn’t have to do chemo and still be frustrated about the things you’re dealing with!
Thank you for sharing. God bless you! As a psychologist, what you are expressing is completely normal. You are a beautiful soul. There is nothing wrong with you. You are a special child of God. 🙏🌷
The way you eat is another issue, only Peter my husband and our youngest son know how i struggle. Day in Day out but my head never has time to catch up with the events. My Multiple sclerosis to me bar the pain, lack of sleep im lucky it could be so much worse. I saw that 30 years ago, the lady opposite me,, well same symptoms but she had cancer and they never even checked for that. Anyway you are stronger than you let yourself think. No one can tell you how to feel. We are all very different. Im in awe of you and your hubby does his best, they can't put themselves in our shoes. I thank God for that. ...Oliver Hi puppy ❤❤❤xxx 🐶🐾🐾
You have been through so much, AJ and are an inspiration to me. And you are right about our husbands. I don't want to burden him too much and not burden my children either. Please take care of yourself. I appreciate you. Much love, Melissa
Melissa my heart and I believe everyone's goes out to you ‼️You are such a strong woman and brave the reason everyone rallies for you is because they know you would do exactly the same for them it's written all over your face what a good heart you have!You've been through so much and you're still fighting and are pulling through it that shows what a great person God has created in you God bless you not only are you beautiful on the outside but beautiful on the inside to ‼️ any one that unsubscribes to you has to be a mean person More people should subscribe just to see your courage and your strength that you show God bless you for sharing😇 prayers for you always 🙏❤️
Oh Melissa, you have been through so so much. Of course you have a mix of emotions with this life changing experience. Thank you for continuing to share your story…you are an inspiration and a true beauty inside and out. In my nursing career I met so many elderly women that were 30 plus years breast cancer survivors… that will be you!
I’ve been watching you for quite a few years. You’ve touched so many people. Hang in there! ❤❤❤❤❤
Melissa, I understand completely how you are feeling, especially about losing your breasts. My mother had breast cancer and I feel like a ticking time bomb. I know I can handle whatever comes but you verbalised it so well. So many emotions, fear of it returning, side affects. You are a beautiful woman inside and out, you will be fine.
So glad you updated us. Sleep when you can Melissa you do what you can. Your amazing and we love you. Be that phoeinx that rises, dont be beaten my friend. You live one day at a time and enjoy every minute ; much love xxxx
Grace under pressure. That's you Melissa. You're helping so many women by being so open with your experience.
Sweet Melissa, thank you for sharing your feelings. My mother-in-law used to say sometimes we just need to stop the world and get off. It’s okay to feel all the emotions you’re feeling, you have earned that right. Don’t beat yourself up for trying to navigate this season in your life. Rest when you need to and don’t feel guilty about taking care of yourself. God is with you every step of this journey and be still and listen when He reminds you to rest and not be weary. Bless you and you are in my prayers.
Amazing chat , you’re incredibly strong and a bright light to us all
I admire your beauty inside and out ‼️🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟
You are an inspiration for many of us. Thank you so much for sharing this hard time and how dealing with different emotions, worries and keep your femininity. You are brave and doing everything you can to get out of this phase.
Oh Melissa never worry about subscribers. You have been a tremendous success with 144,000 subscribers. I have had my channel since 2016 and still well under 1000 lol. Every day I either gain or loss a subscriber. Never ask yourself what you might have done or what is wrong with you because the answer is absolutely nothing for sure! XOXO
I’m an 11 year breast cancer survivor. It was a brutal experience and when I lost my hair, I just was so hopeless. But ….. eventually I stopped thinking about a return of the cancer, I joined a support group and I feel blessed. My husband had a stroke 8 years ago and my perspective has changed a lot. I feel blessed to have lived through so much. You will slowly start feeling better. Take care of yourself and reach out for help when you need it. ❤
Dougie is a very very lucky boy and the world needs more kind and open people like you Melissa. Hugs and appreciation from Oz ❤️🐨🤗
All I can say is you are an amazing human being! An inspiration! BIG HUGS to you! 🙏💕
I had such a similar story so far with my breast cancer (but I look a mess and you look perfect!). I would wake up during the night and my thoughts would spiral into panic feelings, preventing getting back to sleep. So what I do is listen to a boring book on tape right there in bed - one that I have already heard before, with a soothing narrator. Somehow it takes me away from the bad thought spiral and I get back to sleep. For me this is cosy British mysteries, and I got an eye mask with a bluetooth speaker so it is comfortable and only I hear it. This + my nursing bras have been godsends.
Oh Melissa…you have gone through so much. Sending you prayers and lots of hugs. You are an inspiration to all of your subscribers! Hoping you realize how much you mean to a lot of people! Love ya! 🥰🥰🥰
Melissa, you need to give yourself permission to grieve. You mean so much to so many people. You are so worthy and you matter so much.
The waiting has to feel almost impossible. You are amazing ❤ You are a trooper and I adore you. Continued thoughts and prayers ❤❤ So much love ❤️
Oh that is so sweet. Believe me, I am so not amazing. I just had been blessed to have people that helped me. I appreciate this.
You are loved by so many and we appreciate your genuine and honest spirit! More importantly Jesus loves you and your relationship with Him is the most precious gift of all. Thank you for sharing your heartfelt story. I love your TH-cam and IG channel!!🥰🙏🏻Im praying for your complete healing and peace!❤️
Please give yourself the gift of time.Your body and mind have been through a lot.You are a warrior.God bless!
I would say the roller coaster you are on with your hormones is normal. I know what you mean about the sleep....I cannot stay asleep more than 4-6 hrs and that is on a good night. Most of the time the longest is 3-5 hrs. You are an inspiration to a lot of women and in my opinion you have faced a very scary disease with grace and dignity!
Oh Melissa, pray you begin to heal emotionally and physically quickly. You are ministering yourself by sharing your experiences with your illnesses! Would love to do something to help you …..we use a box fan on High to provide that white noice….it is a blessing for us….I would bring you one if I could! Maybe give it a try…..
Thank you for your transparency!!! We are ALL in this together!!! God Bless!
You are a strong beautiful woman. It's understanding that you are feeling the way you are. Give yourself time and trust God with it all. I'm praying for you.
I 100% know where your coming from. I felt that way too when I had my mastectomy. It’s definitely a process and you have to tell yourself I’m blessed and I’m thankful. Again and again. It gets better but takes time! You’ve been through so much! You’ve got this! You are a survivor!! ❤
Beautiful words 🌸.
Hi Melissa, thank you for being so genuine. It takes courage to share so many emotions and your experience. I hope you realize you’re a strong, deserving woman. I would like to suggest you look into German New medicine. It ties any illness with our life’s experiences. The doctor who came to realize this developed prostate cancer after his young son was accidentaly killed. This doctor, Dr. Hamer, being an oncologist, had the opportunity to verify how a biological shock will bring on a condition that conventional medicine calls cancer or any other condition. It’s interesting that you were diagnosed at a time that you were in an emotional turmoil. Please look into it. Also, no need to worry about metastasis. When cancer is found somewhere else in the body it is because a different biological shock. By the way, if the breast cancer appears on the left breast on a right handed woman, it is related to a shock in your relationship with your mother or your child, if on the right breast, it has to do with your husband and everyone else. It’s the opposite on a left handed woman. Just a tidbit. Please read on it. I’m looking forward to many more years of seeing you here in YT if you choose to continue. Much love to you
🦋🦋 Thank you for sharing!! May God Bless You Always!! You are beautiful...
Thank you for such a kind comment.
Melissa, I am really sorry that you were going through all of this. You are such a beautiful person inside and out, and I really do feel blessed that you are out there. I will be praying for you.❤
Melissa you’ve been through a lot and it hasn’t been easy for you. I don’t think you realize how strong you really are. Nobody knows what you’ve been through if they haven’t walked in your shoes. Thank you for sharing. ❤
Im going through similar emotions, it doesn’t end after treatment but we do all we can😌
Oh, sweet lady, just like the physical bruises had to heal, so do the mental/emotional/spiritual. Give yourself time. You are beautiful inside and out and are loved and appreciated by thousands. Your honesty and kindness has affected my life more than you will ever know. Bless you!
Melissa, you are a beautiful woman, you did go through a rough year but you made it. Put yourself in HIS hands as He has the last say. Your son and his family will be home soon and they will be a part of your cheering squad. This is a wonderful video and perhaps you have helped others. About the lack of sleep and having a heart issue there is little meds I can take, Melatonin didn't help me so because I was so tired I started taking Benadryl and it has help tremendously I'm getting at least 7 to 8 hours sleep. You remain in my prayer list. 🙏🙏
Boy oh boy! Powder blue is your color! You look sooo pretty!!🥰 Thank you so much for sharing your update with us!💞
Hi Melissa I think you are doing a great service talking about everything you survived. I know for a fact after a traumatic event, we fight, we get tnrough it and then our bodies and minds are are so tired . We then have to give ourselves some grace to slow down, rest and recoup. You are feeling perfectly normal. The sleep and peace of mind will come. You inspire me to be a better stronger person Melissa. I thank you feom the bottom of my heart. ❤❤❤❤
Do you still go in and work with Doug?
Blessings to to you always Melissa connie