24 still in college, working a part time job don’t have a car or know how to drive. My goal is to be a physician assistant and I’ll continue to work towards that went years with an undecided major. ✊🏽💗👍🏽
A lot of schools don’t prepare us for anything that we’re going to do when we leave but expect people to know every little thing that they want to do when they’re 59
This real talk so many schools don’t offer classes that teach you how to budget your money, fill out job applications, or w2s and it was really crazy to me when I became a senior in high school they introduce u to these classes as like oh you’ve completed all your credits so just sit through this class cause you have nothing else to do but these classes were major and important and I’m like damn I coulda been learned this shit like financial classes should be mandatory instead of algebra and geometry all that shit does is get kids held back fr
@NitroFairyWing omgg this corona shit messed up everything i m 19 just turned and family can be so shitty and toxic its annoying , atleast american can changed their majors , here u gotta decide wayyyy before applyjng ugh
"New York is 3 hours ahead of California, but that doesn't make California slow, someone graduated at the age of 22, but waited 5 years before securing a good job. Someone became CEO at 25, and died at 50. While another became a CEO at 50, and live to 90 years. Someone is still single, while someone else got married. Obama retired at 55, while Trump started at 70. Everyone in this world works based on their time zone. People around you might seem behind you. But everyone is running their own race, in their own time. Do not envy them and do not mock them. They are in their time zone, and you are in yours. Life is about waiting for the right time to act. So relax. You are not late. You are not early. You are just in time." Quote I saw, thought I'd share. 💕
I am 31 and while I just left my 20s this message is for all of you. You are valuable. Do not compare yourself to your peers! Keep GOD and your family close. Do NOT pay attention to SOCIAL MEDIA. There are lost souls out there that want you to look a certain way, copy looks, and are broken. If your friend makes it look like they are happily married, or in a great job, and you are not. SO What, they may be just as miserable as you and not show it. Focus on yourself. Read good books, exercise, be social and have fun but stay away from toxicity. You will do well and be fine. Tap into your goals, do things that you want to do and not because you see others do. Not everything that is shiny looks good is not good for you! Women stop chasing men and focus on YOU. Men make yourself valuable and be great leaders. We do not need broken souls chasing one another.
This is real talk too all the glitters ain’t gold like people will sell you a dream in your 20s especially when you’re moving in a way they wish they could have and these people will give you advice and make you feel like you need to be doing this moving here going there and they be miserable and that’s dangerous bc we are impressionable in our 20s but misery loves company
This title hits so close to home to the extent that I didn’t wanna open the video up. Well here I am anyways ready to soak up some knowledge and move past this feeling and actually do succeed in finance, love, freedom and all aspects in life.
Whewwwww... this hit home. Just turned 26. I have a Bachelors degree in Psychology. Also I have no job and I live at home. I am very grateful to have supportive parents who see that I am working my ass off to be great/ create a great life for myself. It’s difficult with life not being what I expected. I have been working on myself and I know that this is only temporary.
I’m 27 years old (it feels like I was just just 17 😭) Trust me... that time flies by, BUT enjoy your young adult years and don’t fall into the pressure of meeting so many expectations. You’ll see so many changes in the next decade (friendships,career, friends getting married/having kids) Everyone is on their own journey! Your life is just starting & you’ll be okay 💗Have fun!
This feeling doesn’t end in your 20’s. Feeling like a failure in your 30’s is worse. 😭😭 It’s ok y’all. We will all have our life together in our 60’s. 🤣
And parents don’t make it better either. They’ll compare you to other kids, tell you what their friend’s children are doing their jobs etc...like I don’t even hang with them why are you telling me?? It’s none of my business what’s going on in their lives. It’s mad annoying.
I’m turnt 26 last month and I cried like omg I gotta get myself together people buying houses at 17 🤣 but if it eases your mind I know a lot of people on social media who post money , cars , trips , jewelry and their honestly not living like that. Specially in Atlanta a lot of things can be a front .
I’m 30, and trust me, I’m not laughing at the 20-somethings freaking out, because I sure enough remember having a quarter life crisis from ages 22-25. My advice is to breathe. Forgive yourself. Allow yourself to fail. Do YOUR best, and keep in mind that YOUR best doesn’t have to be THE best. I wouldn’t consider myself “super successful” at my age, but I’m doing alright. I’m happy and comfortable. And although I have a couple regrets from the past decade, I can honestly say that I made the best decisions with the information I had at the time, and so I have peace. I hope that all of you reading this will experience that peace as well. 💙
I'm turning 25 soon, I'm currently unemployed, and I'm still living at home. I lost my job due to COVID-19 and I have NO CLUE what my next move is. Just seeing the title of this video in my recommendations spoke volumes to me. I feel like I'm afraid to go after what I want & grow up 🌱🌻
It's wild how lately i've been beating myself UP because i have all these expectations for myself at 26. Im getting my bachelor's in marketing but i'm still at home with a very judgmental parent that also places high expectations on me. I've been really focusing on my mental health recently after pulling myself up from spending yrs in a very dark place. thank you for this vid
Wishing you the best of luck on your journey love 💕 know that you’re doing the best that you can do and that’s enough especially while dealing with mental health issues. I’m 25 (turning 26) and I’ve been in and out of school due to crippling mental health issues. A lot of times I beat myself up especially when it’s going to take 3 more years until I get my BS in dental hygiene, but I also know how much I been through in my life a lot of people couldn’t handle and I’m still here not giving up and working my ass off and that’s enough for me. We might settle later on in life than what society expects of us, but as long as we’re happy, healthy, and can support ourselves than that’s what’s most important💕
@@Whyyy3 thank you! this really means a lot. i've also taken longer to get my bachelors for the same reason. it's like ppl tell you that after HS life gets harder, but it really doesn't hit you til it HITS you. i'm learning to just trust the process and be patient with myself. wishing you the best of luck as well ❤️
Omgg i turned 19 this yr i can SO relate to the parent thing , its harder when there r actual ppl critising ur every move or pressurise u or want u to be successful just so they can show it off to their relatives frnds etc :// and of u r average just like ur parents yet they expect their kid to be like einstin like wtf , do they realize we r THEIR kids and have similar abilities lmao its dumbasf ._.
Social Media plays a huge part , STOP WATCHING WHAT OTHERS ARE DOING!! and just do you . We all start our journeys at different times and some have early success and some have success later in life .
Didine Anatol ..thank you for saying that cuz I was kicking myself thinking maybe I should’ve done nursing but I know good and well I don’t want that. I would’ve failed nursing school anyways😂. It sucks. I’m okay now not doing nursing but wish I was financially stable etc..
Bless U in the same boat as u! I dropped out of doing nursing in school to instead only get an associates in culinary. And im 22. Im scared but i feel like not doing medicine will make my life more meaningful to me personally. I feel like most of us just go to medicine bc we know it constantly growing and a very stable career choice.
WholesumHunny ...exactly! Either by our parents or ourselves cuz we know that being in the medicine field pays at a lot but at the end of the day it’s not what we really want. Even society pushes us to do jobs we don’t want but pays a lot and we also compare ourselves to our peers who are in the medicinal field or have great jobs making money smh. I’m glad you decided what you wanted to do and did it. Yes it’s definitely scary but we have to keep going and then set goals for ourselves. Like if you want to pursue being a chef, baker etc...and like how you would get to those positions by setting goals. It’s definitely scary not knowing if you’ll be financially stable cuz of the degrees we have!
Yes! Exactly!!! You got it. I am 29 years old, I got married at 22. Didn't finish college. Started businesses, failed. 🤣🤣 Wanted to start to a family. Having problems doing that. 😪😪😭😭 Now that I watched your video, I feel so much better. 🙏🏾 Although you are younger than me, you got it right!!! I know you made this video for me.🙏🏾 Thank you. ♥️
I did 2 years in a program I hated. I knew first year it wasn’t for me an wanted to switch but I let people convince me otherwise and wasted time and money for a second year in it. After that year I was like absolutely not dropped out second term after financial withdrawal deadline and then took a whole year off and worked full time. You can imagine the stress and depression I had in this year off lmao. Now I’m starting my 2nd year in a program I adore and have a paid internship in my field. It worked out in the end but for 3 years I was having a crisis every day haha
I feel like a failure at times because I still live with my parents. It’s a tip for tap on it being okay & I need to move out, cause I come from a foreign family where generally speaking living with your parents after 20 is fine, but with seeing my peers in they own spots it makes me feel like I’m not grown yet.
I also live with my parents and can relate to feeling like a failure because of it. My parents are also from another country so it’s normal to still live with them but it’s different here. I have just been saving up money to move once I’m more financially stable.
i still live at home and commute to uni since i couldn’t afford to live in the city. it’s not really frowned upon, if anything it’s seen as more admirable since it’s a two hour commute. but my dad is american and he always talks about how i should really be paying rent.... i’ve never heard of anyone paying rent to their own parents but it makes me feel like such a burden and like i need to grow up faster
cherrypanda887 awe I’m sorry you’re experiencing that. Americans have individualistic society values which might be why your dad told you that. It’s sad really... and as you can see it creates a really negative outlook on what we’re “supposed to” be doing as young adults. I’m trying to find a balance between being my own independent person while living with my parents but also reminding myself that receiving help isn’t a bad thing.
i’m 18, literally just moved to college on the 10th and sometimes i feel like i’m behind and my life hasn’t even started😂 it’s mainly just seeing all these ppl my age have their own business and moving into their own apartments and it makes me feel like i’m not doing as much as i can😭 and social media plays a big part in it as well, not that i’m saying that social media is a bad thing bc it’s one of the main reason why ppl my age can have the online boutiques and such and i really LOVE how my generation is determined to be successful, it’s just with social media you see others and start to compare yourself
girl lemme tell u 😂 but honestly don’t be fazed at all ( not that i’m saying be a hater) but focus on you and creates something that is Forbes worthy, not because everybody has the same type of business that take absolutely no effort to create! Appreciate it but take time to think of ways you can actually make an impact❤️Wish u the best
Sokevi thank youuuu ❤️ and yeah if i were you ever start a business it would def be sum different and even if it does fit in a category it would be sum unique and my own, sum nobody can find anywhere else😂 even if that just means my own personal design, catchphrase, logo, etc 🤣
Same!! I’m 18 and feel a major pressure to start a business. Get rich while I’m young. I wanted to start a business myself but I realised the thing I wanted to start isn’t even something I like to do and now I’m working towards what I want to do looonnggg teeerrrrmmmm and that kinda woke me up
I’m a upcoming junior in hs and I believe that high schools should have a class that teaches us about finances,how to pay bills, how to save money, etc so we wouldn’t be so lost when we finally graduate and enter the “real world”.
This is very true they most definitely should I’ve been in high school and when I was a senior I had completed all my credits so it was like my lazy year and that’s when they decided to show me that they did have those classes and I was like this should be mandatory not damn algebra or geometry
This is true. Please look for this info on your own. Utilize the internet to learn about saving investing taxes home buying and student debt. Learn about licensing in trades and side hustles. One TH-cam channel is graham Stephen. Get a job after school and save money! If I could go back and tell my 16 year old self this I would. Okay ❤️❤️
This is something I tried to help my highschool with so much and like NO BODY TALKS ABOUT THIS. I feel like this could be something that helps students prepare for obstacles in their freshman year of college. Especially with students of color, Idk about you but I am currently in the US and we have like college preparation programs but their underfunded big time. Honestly my best advice is to go on youtube, any question you ever have just youtube it. I am currently learning about investing and personal finance thru Yt. HERE ARE SOME CHANNELS: The Break Nate O'brien Aja Dang Thecomeup
Ughh this video needs to have a trigger warning for people in their 20's. This feeling gets worse the closer you get to 30 even when you start making more money. Even when you get that relationship, even when you get that job. The key is to be grateful in each season and to live the best life you can create with what you have. I know this might not help some, but Beyonce is who I look up to when feeling like this. The closer to 40 and 50 she gets, the better she becomes. It would have been ashamed if Beyonce's glory days were in her twenties. It's only up from 30!
I’ve definitely been noticing that I have this mentality of “as soon as I get THIS then I’ll be fine” but there’s always something else to worry about. Over the last few months in quarantine I’ve been able to self analyze and I really want to work on this.
I haven't even finished the video but the most important thing you can do to save you unnecessary agony is to get off SOCIAL MEDIA . I cannot stress this weigh or at least take a one month break. You can easily get bombarded with a feeling of lack once you scroll down your timeline so it is best to stay away if you value your sanity. Staying away from most Social media has done wonder for my anxiety 😁
Same here. Been off it for almost 2 years now and it has definitely helped more than anything else I've tried for my anxiety. Which in itself lets you know where the main source of my anxiety was coming from. Don't think I'll ever go back to social media honestly.
I enjoy TikTok, but the app honestly isn’t helping much with this situation either. My feed is filled with people usually at the age of 25 or younger with a successful business and they are making 6 figures in their first year of starting up. Other young adults are pressuring their viewers to start a business, and acting as if a 9-5 is a death sentence. There is also this trend of young people pretending they are in their teens and they are waking up to their dream life. It was inspiring at first, but now it’s just straight up tiring.
I agree it's making me feel like I'm going through an existential crisis when I'm only 20 years old...I stopped following certain people because that whole "rise and grind" mentality is tiring and makes you feel crappy and unworthy
I’ll be 21 in November and definitely feel like a failure....it’s hard seeing girls on social media my age with luxury cars & super nice apartments because I still live with my mom. Also Going to college is honestly not for me because I have so many passions I want to pursue, but I feel stuck with school because it’s more of a guarantee. I know it’s very possible to successful without school it’s just difficult. Thank you for posting this ❤️ I appreciate this more than you know
Go to school babes, just do short courses. Try and push yourself, tertiary education really makes your research easier because the information has been gathered for you. Unless you want to pursue entertainment then that's different. Good luck
My birthday is this Nov too, cheers to 21 in the middle of the pandemic! I feel you, it's hard knowing our youth and prime health is spent preparing for a life long career and being buried in books. I know it will pay off later though, and that there's a long life to live outside of our 20's. We got this whatever we choose!
oml I also have a lot of passions, but def school is not one of them, still, the dilema is that IS IS necesary, cuz in this society it seems we don't have other options, but hope everythings turns out good for you ;)
I love this video. Right now I had to take a break from getting my bachelors degree because I was starting to feel burned out. Been working since 16 and never stopped. Graduated cosmetology school at 24 and went straight into getting my bachelors degree. I agree that we try so hard to cram everything into our 20s which can cause us to feel like we are running out of time and often becoming depressed. I had to realize this during the pandemic at 26 that I have to put my happiness first and not try to juggle too many goals at once. When I am ready to go back to school I will, but I agree that it takes time and you cant just force your future. I am focusing on my craft and perfecting it so I can be the best artist I know I can be. I have a license to make people feel beautiful and that is a great accomplishment so far. Baby steps! This is a great video to help remind people that there is no time limit on your success and we need to stop letting society influence us to be supernatural Humans and just, BE. Thanks for the helpful tips!
I feel you. I turned 20 three months ago and I went into a 'crisis' where I realised I'm an adult yet I've been a child all my life. I really cried and was sad because of comparing myself to my peers. But always remember comparison is a thief of joy. Stay in your own lane, take a step at a time and you'll feel so much better✨hang in there.
I’m only 18 and a lot of people around me are doubting about my future because I didn’t go to college immediately after high school. I’m french Canadian so it has been a year. Your video is very reassuring and helpful❤️
I’m 23 living with my boyfriend of 5 years and his parents, it’s not the ideal living situation and I’m on my last semester of my program in college, trying to get a car to work more and pay off my school debt but I feel stuck, currently unemployed due to COVID 19
Take it easy, that's what is most important. Take the time especially this period with the pandemic it's a dire situation for most people. If even the economy of a whole country can take a big hit, how much more the rest of the people living in those countries. I understand as I am also on my last semester too, and trying to work too. I can relate, as only three days into class and I feel like I'm already losing it. As even more issues keep arising if I rush into it all, I'm just gonna kill myself with stress. As soon as I realized this, I decided I needed to slow down, you know, take my time. All these things won't even matter anymore if I kill myself before I even start living. So just remember you don't have to finish it all right now. Give yourself a break, be kind on yourself, take it one step at a time, and stay in spaces that give you joy. That's most important really. Every other thing compliments your peace of mind. You can be working and schooling but try not to overdo it and if possible with the pandemic as a psychologist in formation, I would recommend you focus on your classes first so as not to stress yourself out even more or worse still get into a posttraumatic stress case or anxiety. And if you must work as you school during this pandemic, make it something simple and something you feel good doing. More like your hobbies or something related. Relax, It's really not the end of the world. Enjoy it as you do it and focus more on you not what others will say or think about you. In the long run, that doesn't really matter, it's just you and your choices. Have a nice day, I really do wish you the best.
I can definitely relate, i felt like a failure at 19.... Im 23 now and i have to constantly remind myself that I have to define what success means to ME! NOT SOCIETY!
I’m 19 (but will be 20 in October) and I honestly feel like I’m wasting life in college. All of my friends who didn’t go to college are successful with their cars, apartments, and full time jobs while I’m struggling my sophomore year financially and I don’t even know if I can pull through as a cs major (especially since I’m the only black girl in my major atm) so I have no one to relate to. I often think of taking a gap year/semester or just dropping out in general.. y’all don’t know how hard it is trying to pay for college and depend on lyfts bc I don’t have a car and every time I have money, I end up giving it to family members because they need it for bills or to feed their kids yet they never help in return. It’s hard out here y’all 😞
Hey girl I’m a black girl and a junior Cs major! Keep going you will be so successful making a huge salary when you graduate Bc this skill is in such high demand. It’s tough I agree but success comes with picking something and STICKING TO IT. I’m here for you girl you can talk to me here or my ig @nanarocky39 Bc we gotta encourage each other. I’ll be 21 in October
Hi, I'm 19 and about to turn 20 in October too. I'm a sophomore and the only black female pursuing an economics major rn. Can totally relate to your post 😳. For now, I'm just pushing thru, taking things day by day and focusing on my relationship with God. Fr tho it's hard out here
Kimberly Cassamajor Hi I’m 19 but a black man 💀 and I feel you. I am majoring in economics but I have a side hobby of making music and producing which has started becoming a passion of mine, causing me to not understand what I want to do with my life 🤦🏾♂️. I want to get my degree as a backup plan, but I am not sure what to do after I graduate
Does your school not have a bus system? I’ve lived in 2 different apartments + my parent’s house throughout my college years and at each place I’ve had a bus stop within 4-5 minutes of where i stayed at.
Im just turned 28. My cousin and sibling are all married and have babies. I've noticed people are not as happy as they appear. My brother didn't really want a baby right now but my sister in law "clock is ticking ". God controls our time line if we allow him. Im single still live at home with my parents. Im on disability because i have a heart defect. So i have different means of income. Just go with the flow life is long no need to get with your partner at 19 till your dead. Did you know you change your career about 5 times in your life time. Fomo is real but don't feel left out
This is gonna be vent-y so feel free to ignore. I'm 25 and have been dealing with depression for years but it's gotten severe for me this year. I have no college degree, no real passions or motivation (hello depression!). I feel like it's my fault that I'm not doing well in life cuz I literally have no drive, like I wish I could just be paid to exist lol. Been struggling so much these past few months it's so hard not to compare yourself when you know your mental health is stopping you from succeeding 😭😭😭 I'm gonna try to apply these affirmations but it's so hard.
Hey same here. I’m 24, all I have is my serving job. I do have passions but they lie dormant at different times. Right now I don’t feel passion for anything. Sometimes I write a lot, sometimes I get the will to resell clothes (passion for fashion), sometimes I paint constantly. But I can’t stick to any of these things long enough to make it lucrative. It’s a sick cycle. So yeah the whole “paid to exist” I feel that.
I was proud as all hell when I got my AA. You already accomplished a great feat and there are more ahead if you keep pushing. Don’t give up, and don’t doubt yourself- every path is different. Just keep moving along 💜
I’m 27 (almost 28) and there are things that I haven’t accomplished yet. I just finished my masters and I constantly beat myself up about never being in love and not being financially stable yet. I finished my bachelors at 23, took two years off between undergrad and grad school and I didn’t get my first job until I was 26.
I can relate to this. I'm also 27, graduated at 23 and got my first job at 25. Because of corona virus, I found myself being retrenched. I'm currently unemployed, living with my parents. I have been wanting to do my masters but I guess procrastination has made me delay. I need someone to actually give me motivation.
2019 was a tough one for me I was 20 year old and I took a decision to move out and survive on my own because of my sexuality and also my uncle made it uncomfortable for me you know growing up in a country where it's a death sentence or jail term and having a very over religious family and superstition based and all.... it was a tough decision but then I missed my admission because no family member wanted to help a 20 year old gay man. Inasmuch as I felt relieve that I took that step to get that burden off me I felt I am missing out on school you know I see my mates in higher institution and I just wish I was there also.... But I can't because it's going to be a long ride for me. But hey here I am 21 and it's one year of survival and honestly the journey has been tough but I am thankful and hopeful things will get better. I love you Tarek all the way from Nigeria West Africa
I really needed this video. I feel like I’m wasting my life in my 20s, and I needed to know that my life isn’t going to waste. I am 21, and I felt like I was squandering my youth.
Have u tried getting off social media? It can be very healing. I promise you, real life is nothing close to social media and majority of people are not as accomplished as you think they are.
I'm 27 and for so long, I thought something was wrong with me because I wasn't where I thought I was supposed to be. But then I thought about it like, I wasn't where OTHER PEOPLE thought I was supposed to be. I'm still living at home with my mother and family, I graduated from college in 2017 with my BA and I work in retail at 4 years lol. I do still play the "What If?" game, but it's not consistent that much because I know that I've come far and I still have years left in me to accomplish the goals I have for myself.
Everyone’s life story is different and once you understand that you’ll stop experiencing anxiety,depression etc. from trying to accomplish so much in a short span. imagine how boring and weird life would be if we all accomplished the same things at the same time. Your failures are your testimony , your story, god is using you and preparing you for greatness. A trophy is still a trophy no matter when you receive it.
"Society" puts so much pressure on us to have the perfect life (whatever that is). Don't let that stop you from living it your way as long as you don't hurt anybody. I felt like a failure at 21...what a fool I was. Find your own happy and you can make other people happy...that is success.
For me its social media and family pressure. Social media makes me feel like I need to have a successful personal life (house, man, car, traveling). Family makes me feel like I need to have the job, salary, skill set and experience of someone thats 30 years old
I’m always on Twitter and I see people moving into apartments and having successful businesses by the age of 20. Most of the time I always thought well that should be me but the career I want will take much longer schooling. I imagine myself in 6 years and I know I still will not be where they are because my timeline simply won’t be that. I swear I have subconscious anxiety when I think about my future cause god forbid I don’t have a 300k house by 25. Like that shouldn’t be the ideal situation for my path but somehow it’s always in my brain.
Same! Im in my last couple of semesters of college and studying social work. And that career path doesn’t allot for some 500k house and millions in my bank account. But im so anxious that I’ll still ultimately be a failure even when being ‘rich’ isn’t even my goal
Yes!! Idk y I’m always on Twitter. I stop using Facebook cuz I would compare myself to others doing “better” than me. Like getting apartments etc..and I’m like damn what am I doing wrong...Twitter doesn’t make it better cuz ppl always posting buying new cars, new apartments which is great. I’m glad my fellow black ppl are succeeding but then I think what about myself...what am I doing wrong???
Bless U is it just me or does an odd sense of guilt come with this? Like i feel so guilty for not wanting to start a business or make millions a year..im 22 and I already feel like failed at life 😭
Keiya The Kid ...no you shouldn’t be!! But social media makes it that way especially when you see ppl that are 18, 19 making mad bank. Having a 9-5 is fine!! Idk what made ppl think it’s not unless you don’t want a 9-5. Ppl should pursue what they want either wanting to be an entrepreneur or work 9-5 or do both. I’m older than you and I feel that way too..that I failed in life even tho I’m in my 20s cuz I’m not at the same position as my peers who are financially stable and have apartments etc. But I have my trust in God and I know things will pick up for me. But often my mind just wanders off into thinking why am I not so accomplished in life....It annoys me that some ppl on social media like tik tok can make money so quick and get rich just by doing mediocre things on that platform. And I’m here like gotta do this hw cuz it’s due today smh.
Social media as well as society is the main reason why so many of us feels so pressured, especially seeing other young adults being entrepreneurs, and making outstanding salaries
I’m 23 and what I seriously want for all of us in our 20’s is just to live life by following our own internal compasses. Look beyond the physical- although it may look shiny and media/ marketing is powerful! Learn how to look within and truly get to know yourself and the life you want to build for yourself. This is why people end up having a midlife crisis, they attach themselves to the life society tells them to have and don’t listen to their own intuition- “does this feel right for me?” Living by other people’s expectations will only make you feel unhappy in the end and unsatisfied. Life is too damn short! We all have our own inner guide. Silence the “noise” all around. Go within- meditate, nature walks, spend time in nature, spend time ALONE, take social media breaks if you have to, challenge yourself with a 30 day challenge to work on something you know you need. By doing these things consistently you will transform and get to know yourself better! This is what our lives are literally about, constant growth and reflection. Don’t get fooled by the marketing and question why society puts this timeline on a pedestal (relationship/kids: so society can keep growing and producing more workers, college: so society can keep producing workers/ establish a hierarchy bc capitalism we need to attain higher to get farther, etc). Focus on you and how you’re feeling, and if you can’t completely do that right now- what can you do to get there?? 🥰 good luck, I love y’all
I’m 22 and I definitely needed to hear this and seeing everyone else’s comments makes me feel like I’m not alone. We’re all just trying to make it in life. I appreciate my timeline 💗
The being 25 looking for a job wether or not you been to college or not and them telling you that you need 50 yrs experience and 100 recommendations is so fucking stressful.
i also feel like parents pressure us to know what we wanna do once we graduate high school and go into college & then graduate in four years when half of the time it’s just not possible for everyone because of different circumstances like transferring, mental or physical health, or even financial issues. i was supposed to graduate in 2021 but i have one more year & am majoring in theatre & double minoring in dance & sociology & seeing ppl around my age either graduating, living in their own apartment, being married, having kids, or even being able to say they brought their own phone or car while still being at home makes me feel like a failure at 21. i have my own job as well but i feel like it’s not enough for parents with trying to save it up when we live in a capitalistic society. 🙃
@Evelynxstarling I mean...what do you suggest i do instead of the ones i stated? I see where you’re coming from and i wish you luck with what you’re doing with whatever it is you decide to do.
Im 26 with a 6 year old son. Got diagnosed bipolar, so the past few years I've been struggling mentally & physically. Now that I am taking meds & feel better...I feel like I can accomplish more. Everyone is attacking me about not having a career, not making money, & being lazy; when in reality they never realized it was my disorder. So now, I feel this pressure to make up for those years that I was mentally unstable, and on top of that during a PANDEMIC. I'm just enjoying being depression- free after so many years, taking a little drink here & there, & let everyone talk all the crap they have to cause when I needed people the most....no one was there. 🤷♀️. But I will work at my pace... P.s. you hit every point I was thinking of...thank you so much for this video! You are so wholesome & such a beautiful soul. You are gorgeous, too, btw!
don’t take this the wrong way but seeing everyone my age (21) and up feeling the same way I do and going through this “feeling like a failure” stage makes me feel so at home. I felt like such an outcast in this capitalistic society.
So, I majored in accounting and graduated from business school a year and a half ago. The school's program was niche to a particular sector in the industry, and I was interested in the more chill side of the industry which had less expensive requirements and freedoms. I hated it, because it's all they taught. My classmates graduated with jobs with high salaries in big cities, but I knew I'd still hate it had I gone down that same job path. Ive graduated the program, and Im rockin' a job in the sector of the industry I want, but let me tell you how AWFUL I felt as a 22-year-old grad who felt alone in her environment, ignorant to all the other possibilities, feeling extremely limited. My classmates were limited in their career paths too, but they wanted to go down that path, not me. I couldn't stop comparing myself to my classmates and friends on social media. I was too ashamed to changed majors. I had told myself I should have transfered even though my grad date would have been pushed back a year or so. And eventually, now at 24, I realized that it really aint that big of a fkn deal. Stop comparing yourselves to others and be kind to yourself ♥️
Thanks for this! I just graduated in May and fee like I chose the wrong major. I feel like I'll look back at this moment and laugh at how stressed I was for no reason lol.
This was a good video. I'm 25 and JUST starting college.. before i enrolled i felt sooo much guilt and regret for not taking school seriously sooner when i had the chance. After high school i would always start classes and skip class or not do homeowork.. i HATED school lol ... awhen i was 20 i just decided to not waste my time anymore so i stopped going. Now I'm just grateful to be back and i realized that i just wasn't ready and that's OKAY ! Just like you said, this life is to be LIVED ... i don't have to rush.. this is my journey and i don't have to put any pressure on myself to prove myself or live up to an idea of what other people define success as. This realization was truly liberating!! Praying this comment has the same effect. Be strong 20-somethings!! We're breaking barriers that we don't even know or understand yet!!! Peace and Blessings x x
My sister died last year a week before turning 30 from breast cancer. So yes we should enjoy life one day at a time. I often feel lame cause im not in a relationship and I dont have a career but life is.more than that. Also I can still work towards this stuff
I feel like a failure mostly because I'm almost 30 and I feel like I was so much stronger and had more drive when I was in my early 20s. I was a poet, I started a business (that still hasn't gotten off the ground), my TH-cam channel was a thing, I was more consistent. Now I just feel like my emotions really take a toll on me and my anxiety is a bit more crippling. I'm also healing from A LOT (breaking up w my father, being cut off by my best friend, etc.) So I just really feel like I had 'it' and I lost 'it' and now I have no clue how to get 'it' back.
That's a lot to handle thank you for sharing your story. I'm 21 and my emotions are definitely weighing me down and making me feel weak inside. I lost "it" too ig. I'm taking the time to stay active and paying attention to my emotions instead of just drowning in them. If i feel sad I recognize that its sadness and then do something healthy that releases dopamine to counteract that feeling. I want to start businesses and create music so that's what I'm looking towards to maintain me
Hermosa Reaux thanks for that recognition 🥰 with the right level of ambition and consistency, we both can come out on top of our emotions and manifest success. It’s easier to give advice than to take your own, but we’re not weak and we got this 💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾 keep going.
Felt this. Feeling burnt out by the world’s blows really sucks. You can get yourself back though!! I think a little therapy could be nice to help you heal and also help you get a view of what you want your future to look like. Keeping things in only allows us to circulate those negative, “I wish I would’ve” thoughts. Focus on what’s ahead and how you can get back to being the woman you want to be. Good luck lady!!
I’m now in my early 30s.. so yeah i still feel like i am failing life.. the only thing i accomplished in my 20s was i found a life partner and got married (and i travelled quite a bit as well). But i still don’t have any career. Here’s what’s up: if you don’t figure it out in your 20s, you’ll be trying to figure it out in your 30s. If you don’t figure it out in your 30s, you’ll be figuring it out in your 40s. So i’m gonna try to figure out the career by 40 so i’ll be able to deal with ageism in the workplace in my 40s! I can’t wait! Not ready for kids yet and at this point i’m considering either being childless or adopting/fostering in my 40s at this rate.
This is a very materialistic view of life in your 20s. That's okay. Materials help you feel good. One thing people don't talk about is your mindset and your inner world. If you were stripped of materials what's left? What's left when you've been reduced to your personal foundation? Can you be alone? Instincts. Survival skills. Resourcefulness. Spirituality. The things you can't touch, see, smell, hear, taste. Your soul. Gratitude and altruism. Do you want to be another person to add to the population number or do you want to be a person that makes an impact? Leadership. Innovation. A source of inspiration.
Can I just say that I love your content and energy. Your voice is so soothing. You're such a beautiful, wise, articulate king. I've recently deleted all of my social media accounts because I noticed that I was really starting to compare myself to other people's physical appearances and lifestyles. It made me feel like I was falling behind in life at age 20 because I'm still not sure what I want to do, but I see others that seem certain about their future. It's crazy how you uploaded a video about this topic at the right time. I really needed to hear this. You made a lot of good and relatable points in the video. It was so comforting to watch bc it makes people like me feel understood. Thanks king❤
I’m 23, tried a lot of career paths and still is looking, I have a health condition, I have no car, lost my job to my health, and living with my family still. I remind myself that I shouldn’t compare and be grateful of the stuff I have.
I was very nervous to watch this video because the title hits so close to home. I’m 21, and I’m not in college. I was supposed to go straight after high school, had the grad party with college decor, and everything. Everyone knew where I was going and what I was going for. Then, I ended up leaving not even a week in. It happened 3 years ago, and I still force myself to never think about it. It’s very hard to not think about that life changing decision I made and not compare myself to my cousins and friends that are my age doing what I had planned. I’m also the eldest of 3, and the guilt of dropping out as “the role model” is still heavy. I feel guilty for doing that then going through stuff afterwards. It’s hard to not see myself as less than because I based all my self worth in school. I still do to a degree. It’s a work in progress.
I’ve felt like a failure too but Nahhhhh I’m 25 and it feels more like the trial period for adulthood. Especially after talking with my mom. I’m a baby adult lol Idk why ppl are so scared of being 30 I’m excited to be 30 but in no rush at all.
Just turned 27 and graduated with my masters in May. For the last few months I was unemployed and in quarantine and feeling like a failure. After a few false starts I finally was offered a great opportunity. While I’m relieved, it made me realize how much of my self worth was wrapped up into working and what people around me think of me. It was definitely a grim wake up call and I’m going to find a therapist to work through all that 😬
Turning 26 soon and I have way too many regrets! Slowly trying to change my mindset but I’m nowhere near what I envisioned, not even 10% 🤷🏽♀️ I thought I’d have my life sorted out and in an amazing job/house by the age of 25
This video is very much needed especially in the society we live in. The unrealistic expectations to be successful at such a young age is becoming prevalent, it’s not okay and tbh I blame the media
I felt this, like I really felt like you were talking directly to me. I just turned 20, but honestly I feel like I've been feeling this pressure since i was 16 to know what I want to do when I want to do it. And now I'm trying to learn that everyone has their own time to do things. That if someone does something one way, me trying to do the same thing in the exact same way, almost never works. Thank you so much for these encouraging words♥️
I'm 16 and I felt everything you said is about me. Sometimes I feel like I am too ambitious and too mentally mature. I drive myself crazy thinking about all the things I haven't accomplished yet. I am always watching you-tubers my age own business and make more money than MY MOM!! I want that life for myself. Sometimes I become angry with my family because they cant or wont help me conquer my goals but, I am too young do most things without help.
I’m not in my 20’s, I’m 15 but some of this I relate to and even if I didn’t, I’d still watch this because I love your content. It makes me feel normal and like I can take a breather. I get pressures left and right telling me I should have my entire future planned out or know what I want, but honestly I don’t. I just prefer going with what feels right to me. School just makes it harder because they expect me to make decisions but aren’t showing me the options, leading me to my decisions, or giving me room to explore. It’s tough but you give me hope and faith that I’ll find stability and happiness despite societies pressures and lack of guidance.
The pressure never ends. It's an evolving thing. It changes into your 30's, 40's and 50's. Trust me when I tell you that 50 year-olds experience pressure as well. There's always pressure to succeed and/or achieve at some level. Shoot.... aging in itself is pressure. It's all in how you deal with it throughout life.
I’m fifteen & I’ve been really feeling like this lately. I’ve felt lost with the fact that I have no idea what I want to pursue. What I want to do with my life. I feel the pressure to have it figured out entirely. This really helped to see someone who’s older than me talking about their experiences with it, I don’t feel as alone. It shows how much time I really have. I guess I’m not as grown as I thought.😂😭
This video really hit home for me, especially when he started talking about applying to college and figuring out your major. I feel as though society puts so much pressure on us to have a life plan before we even graduate high school. The education system basically pushes enforces that narrative. As a freshmen in college, I've had to learn that it's okay to be undecided, unsure, or confused about what you want out of life. Like Tarek said, it's a matter of figuring out what works best for you and avoiding things that would make you doubt yourself.
Ever since I turned 18, I had always been feeling apprehensive about being in my 20s. Im 23 and still feel like I'm struggling for time and that time is running out. It's so easy to feel this way when you do so many young teens on social media who look better, dress better, and have done so many exciting things at their age, that you could never fathom doing when you were their age, whist your struggling to loose weight, still in school, living with your parents and never had a boyfriend. Im so greatful that my parents take on a lot of my financial burdens, but Im stuck at a cross road with my feeling mature enough since I can't travel out even stay out past 12(strict parents) but also feeling too old to go to the club and drss certain ways (weird right? ). I know I shouldn't but I do feel envious if these kids lifestyles sometimes and it just starts a spiral self hate. I want to get married and have kids soon, but also want the freedom to travel and do things I wasn't allowed to in my teens. It's nice to know I'm not the only person who's been struggling with this
Tarek you’re the best for this video I’m a 23 year old college student still having a year left of undergrad and I’m running an art business and I’m constantly feeling lesser than my peers watching them graduate or my artist peers watching them reach high levels of success and exposure which has taken the joy sometimes out of me wanting to progress in my life
I loved everything about this video, this is what people our age need to hear. I’m 22 and noticing how much social media influences my idea of what life “should” look like. I’m sooo over it lol. I just took a month break from social sites and I feel so much better. Now I just use it because I enjoy seeing my friends and ppl I follow happy and flourishing. You don’t have to completely shut social media out of your life, but you need to consume it wisely and in moderation. That’s what’s so great about it, you choose who to follow and you can undo it at any time. Create the best environment for you.
the fact that i’m still comparing myself to you 😭😭 you’re only two years older than me and you’re so knowledgeable about a lot. this video is so relevant rn. i’ve been in a whole slump about what i’m doing and literally watching everyone around me grow while i do nothing. just have to learn to take it easy
I'm 19 (almost 20) and since I started to going to college I'm feeling a bit anxious about myself. Thankfully my parents always supported me when it comes to money, we always been economically stable so in all my teen years I didn't have to get a job. Now that I'm starting to get into the adult life I see my peers and people who studied with me back in highschool with jobs, relationships, etc. and I feel like I'm getting behind, I'm feeling lost, insecure and like a failure. I know I'm still pretty young but idk, is hard not to compare to others.
I'm 19 too And I totally relate to most of what you feel anxious about. But we always have to remind ourselves that as long as we are alive, there's hope and that everything is subject to change.❤️ And also not to compare our journey with someone else's finish line.
I recently turned 20 and I truly feel like I don’t know what to do with myself. Realized college wasn’t for me, so I closed that chapter and now I feel stuck? It’s such a weird feeling. I believe I’m so scared of being a failure that I don’t even pursue what I truly want out of life.
Hey there, I'm 27 and didn't buy into going into debt for college after graduating high school. Spend this time finding what you like and don't like and save as much money as you can. I'm still trying to figure out what I want to do while I'm jumping into things. Please know there is no pressure to have everything figured out. Enjoy your life and don't stress over it! ❤️ Best wishes to you!
Pika Lee wow thank you so so much for your words and encouragement ❤️ and I’m glad you didn’t take the route I did, I’m so deep into debt now ( over 20,000) for no reason.If I stayed, it would’ve been way more ! But I’m so glad I realized it’s not for me, I’m trying to get my people to understand but they don’t🤷🏽♀️. Which makes it kind of hard on me! I hope you find what works for you and I hope it gives you an abundance of joy 😊 best wishes to you as well !
@@NyTejayy You're most welcome ❤️ oooh I understand the disappointment from family too. It was rough but they had to realize I'm not out here wilding out and am being a responsible adult lol I got my associates in business last year (with no debt!) from a community college while working full time, phew! Thank you so much for the well wishes as well ❤️🙏🏾
Pika Lee wow ! See that’s another thing, the pressure and stigma behind going to a huge university after I graduated. When I could’ve simply went to a community college down the street, as a test drive 😭 but I was so stuck on trying to keep up and feel “ accomplished “ !
I’m also 20 and in the same boat! All my friends are in college rn and it’s hard to not feel bad about myself because my first try at university didn’t go so well (also way over $10,000 in debt😅). But I learned to not compare myself to others and just focus on personal growth, learn new things about yourself, enjoy your favorite hobbies, live with your parents as long as you possibly can to save money, and connect with family members who can share their stories as well. People no matter what age are constantly learning new things about themselves and growing, so why is it that society has made us 20-somethings think that we should do all our growing just in this decade of life? When that’s not even how life works! Life is such a beautiful thing when you take a step back and really appreciate God’s creation including yourself🌍💚
When I tell you , I ended up going to a community college , changed my major TWICE & now I’m in school to get my esthetician’s license. I’m 20 ... I’ve felt like a failure time and time again & I’m trying not to compare myself to my buddies in college or with great careers. But this helped me more than ever. Thank you 🤍
Life teaches you interesting lessons. It is so important to learn how manage your thoughts, emotions as well as expectations. I'm 27 now and, sadly, starting to become depressed, because life did not go as planned. I don't have a house, have an average job and don't have a family. When I look around, I feel like I'm failing. And that's sad. And scary. Though, even with all this pain, I choose to get up and work on myself. Yes, I may not be who I want, where I want in life, but... All I can do is try. And believe. That I'm worth of success, love and overall less pain. I hope whoever reads this decides to not give up together with me.
I’m 20 & i feel like a failure at times 🤦🏾♀️ i feel like i haven’t accomplished much (which i haven’t) been working on my brand for a year & I’m still facing troubles launching. I talk to those around me about it & i always get the “you’re too young to be this stressed, live your life” but it’s like if i don’t work hard i won’t be able to enjoy the life i imagined. Idk, i just want the absolute best for myself & to give that to those around me as well . I feel like i have to be the breadwinner to take my family out of a mediocre way of living, bc i know I’m not satisfied
Exactly the same but 22 here. Keep working hard, you don't have to have everything 100% perfect before launching just try to get things in motion and it'll come together!
Social media definitely plays a big part, because without it we wouldn’t hardly know who is doing what especially if they not in our close circle. Being just 30 I feel so behind but I try not to let society get to me. Especially being single too it just gets worse but have to remember I’m not alone.
I’m 17 and social media makes me feel like i need to rich by the time i’m 25...🥴
I’m 25 and I can assure you that’s not majority 25 years olds reality.
!!!!
I’m 18 and used to feel like I’m doing enough
24 still in college, working a part time job don’t have a car or know how to drive. My goal is to be a physician assistant and I’ll continue to work towards that went years with an undecided major. ✊🏽💗👍🏽
Same
Lets normalize that all ages should feel like they are golden
‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️
There’s truly so many great things about each age decade!
YESSS life is too short to stay staring ahead into space 🤦🏾♀️
yes!!!
💯🙏
A lot of schools don’t prepare us for anything that we’re going to do when we leave but expect people to know every little thing that they want to do when they’re 59
This real talk so many schools don’t offer classes that teach you how to budget your money, fill out job applications, or w2s and it was really crazy to me when I became a senior in high school they introduce u to these classes as like oh you’ve completed all your credits so just sit through this class cause you have nothing else to do but these classes were major and important and I’m like damn I coulda been learned this shit like financial classes should be mandatory instead of algebra and geometry all that shit does is get kids held back fr
@NitroFairyWing omgg this corona shit messed up everything i m 19 just turned and family can be so shitty and toxic its annoying , atleast american can changed their majors , here u gotta decide wayyyy before applyjng ugh
"New York is 3 hours ahead of California,
but that doesn't make California slow,
someone graduated at the age of 22,
but waited 5 years before securing a good job.
Someone became CEO at 25,
and died at 50.
While another became a CEO at 50,
and live to 90 years.
Someone is still single,
while someone else got married.
Obama retired at 55,
while Trump started at 70.
Everyone in this world works based on their time zone.
People around you might seem behind you.
But everyone is running their own race, in their own time.
Do not envy them and do not mock them.
They are in their time zone, and you are in yours.
Life is about waiting for the right time to act.
So relax.
You are not late.
You are not early.
You are just in time."
Quote I saw, thought I'd share. 💕
Love it 🥰
This is beautiful.
Thank you for this, so refreshing.
nice reminder
Happy I came across your comment I needed it as well
This background music real grown, it’s giving me rich auntie vibes.
right!
🤣🤣 grown and classy-based.
lmfaoo yes
Yassss
I am 31 and while I just left my 20s this message is for all of you. You are valuable. Do not compare yourself to your peers! Keep GOD and your family close. Do NOT pay attention to SOCIAL MEDIA. There are lost souls out there that want you to look a certain way, copy looks, and are broken. If your friend makes it look like they are happily married, or in a great job, and you are not. SO What, they may be just as miserable as you and not show it. Focus on yourself. Read good books, exercise, be social and have fun but stay away from toxicity. You will do well and be fine. Tap into your goals, do things that you want to do and not because you see others do. Not everything that is shiny looks good is not good for you! Women stop chasing men and focus on YOU. Men make yourself valuable and be great leaders. We do not need broken souls chasing one another.
❤️
This is real talk too all the glitters ain’t gold like people will sell you a dream in your 20s especially when you’re moving in a way they wish they could have and these people will give you advice and make you feel like you need to be doing this moving here going there and they be miserable and that’s dangerous bc we are impressionable in our 20s but misery loves company
Great advice!
Such a good message!
God bless you ❤️
Depression is a thief of joy, I'm tired yall 😭
U got this
I love you you’re doing so good I’m proud of you ,
Assia Gangate you’re so sweet thank you 💕💕
@@hermosareaux670 Jeremiah 29:11💕
girl me too but u got this 💕
I love that. Don't beat yourself up over things you never even wanted for yourself.
This title hits so close to home to the extent that I didn’t wanna open the video up. Well here I am anyways ready to soak up some knowledge and move past this feeling and actually do succeed in finance, love, freedom and all aspects in life.
Salifu Sadat my exact thoughts, "do i even wanna watch this right now"?
amen to that!
The fact that I been feeling like a failure lately but I’m excited for watch this
RIGHHHTTTT
Same omg and this fucking pandemic screwed up my plans.😠😠 Well, everyone's plans. Things were finally beginning to turn around 😭😭
Whewwwww... this hit home. Just turned 26. I have a Bachelors degree in Psychology. Also I have no job and I live at home. I am very grateful to have supportive parents who see that I am working my ass off to be great/ create a great life for myself. It’s difficult with life not being what I expected. I have been working on myself and I know that this is only temporary.
Keep hustling homegirl
@@dirtydanishwithasunmark6362 thank you 😊 🙏
@V King thank you🙂
You’re gonna win sis!
Thank you everyone! All of you are sweet and encouraging.🙂
it’s crazy because i’m literally only 17, and i often feel like my life is already over
Me tooooooo
babyyy its just the beginning! im 17 too hehe
Lmao sameeee just turned 19 and this got me scared hehehe but even our parents and ppl around us have such huge expectations its so stressful ugh
I’m 19 and I’m thinking
I’m 27 years old (it feels like I was just just 17 😭) Trust me... that time flies by, BUT enjoy your young adult years and don’t fall into the pressure of meeting so many expectations. You’ll see so many changes in the next decade (friendships,career, friends getting married/having kids) Everyone is on their own journey! Your life is just starting & you’ll be okay 💗Have fun!
This feeling doesn’t end in your 20’s. Feeling like a failure in your 30’s is worse. 😭😭 It’s ok y’all. We will all have our life together in our 60’s. 🤣
I don't want to wait that long. I'm not even 18 yet I'm 17.
@@ivyrainbitch lol :-)) :-)) sometimes it happens, and it happens even when you working your ass off sometimes
@@ivyrainbitch same
@@ivyrainbitch it's a jokee lmao
And parents don’t make it better either. They’ll compare you to other kids, tell you what their friend’s children are doing their jobs etc...like I don’t even hang with them why are you telling me?? It’s none of my business what’s going on in their lives. It’s mad annoying.
My mom does this all the time. Narcissist 101.
You’re only 22 but speaking so maturely. Imagine when you’re 25 😅 from there- after that is a different feel 😌✊🏽
Lol I was like wait he's not in his 20s?? Then he said 22 and I was like chile I'm 27 🤣🤣🤣
Pika Lee Chileees I just turned 28- I’m like boy! 😂
@@RiecesPeace 🤣🤣🤣 I'm like wait till he hit 25 with that quarter life crisis lol
@@pikalee3492 THAT QUARTER LIFE CRISIS IS SO REAL!! lol just turned 26 but when I turned 25 I was an emotional wreck lol
I’m turnt 26 last month and I cried like omg I gotta get myself together people buying houses at 17 🤣 but if it eases your mind I know a lot of people on social media who post money , cars , trips , jewelry and their honestly not living like that. Specially in Atlanta a lot of things can be a front .
I’m 30, and trust me, I’m not laughing at the 20-somethings freaking out, because I sure enough remember having a quarter life crisis from ages 22-25. My advice is to breathe. Forgive yourself. Allow yourself to fail. Do YOUR best, and keep in mind that YOUR best doesn’t have to be THE best. I wouldn’t consider myself “super successful” at my age, but I’m doing alright. I’m happy and comfortable. And although I have a couple regrets from the past decade, I can honestly say that I made the best decisions with the information I had at the time, and so I have peace. I hope that all of you reading this will experience that peace as well. 💙
I'm turning 25 soon, I'm currently unemployed, and I'm still living at home. I lost my job due to COVID-19 and I have NO CLUE what my next move is. Just seeing the title of this video in my recommendations spoke volumes to me. I feel like I'm afraid to go after what I want & grow up 🌱🌻
It's wild how lately i've been beating myself UP because i have all these expectations for myself at 26. Im getting my bachelor's in marketing but i'm still at home with a very judgmental parent that also places high expectations on me. I've been really focusing on my mental health recently after pulling myself up from spending yrs in a very dark place. thank you for this vid
Wishing you the best of luck on your journey love 💕 know that you’re doing the best that you can do and that’s enough especially while dealing with mental health issues. I’m 25 (turning 26) and I’ve been in and out of school due to crippling mental health issues. A lot of times I beat myself up especially when it’s going to take 3 more years until I get my BS in dental hygiene, but I also know how much I been through in my life a lot of people couldn’t handle and I’m still here not giving up and working my ass off and that’s enough for me. We might settle later on in life than what society expects of us, but as long as we’re happy, healthy, and can support ourselves than that’s what’s most important💕
@@Whyyy3 thank you! this really means a lot. i've also taken longer to get my bachelors for the same reason. it's like ppl tell you that after HS life gets harder, but it really doesn't hit you til it HITS you. i'm learning to just trust the process and be patient with myself. wishing you the best of luck as well ❤️
Omgg i turned 19 this yr i can SO relate to the parent thing , its harder when there r actual ppl critising ur every move or pressurise u or want u to be successful just so they can show it off to their relatives frnds etc :// and of u r average just like ur parents yet they expect their kid to be like einstin like wtf , do they realize we r THEIR kids and have similar abilities lmao its dumbasf ._.
Social Media plays a huge part , STOP WATCHING WHAT OTHERS ARE DOING!! and just do you . We all start our journeys at different times and some have early success and some have success later in life .
Absolutely right! We're all not destined to doctors, engineers, or lawyers but we're all worthy and serve a meaningful purpose in this world!
Didine Anatol ..thank you for saying that cuz I was kicking myself thinking maybe I should’ve done nursing but I know good and well I don’t want that. I would’ve failed nursing school anyways😂. It sucks. I’m okay now not doing nursing but wish I was financially stable etc..
Bless U in the same boat as u! I dropped out of doing nursing in school to instead only get an associates in culinary. And im 22. Im scared but i feel like not doing medicine will make my life more meaningful to me personally. I feel like most of us just go to medicine bc we know it constantly growing and a very stable career choice.
WholesumHunny ...exactly! Either by our parents or ourselves cuz we know that being in the medicine field pays at a lot but at the end of the day it’s not what we really want. Even society pushes us to do jobs we don’t want but pays a lot and we also compare ourselves to our peers who are in the medicinal field or have great jobs making money smh. I’m glad you decided what you wanted to do and did it. Yes it’s definitely scary but we have to keep going and then set goals for ourselves. Like if you want to pursue being a chef, baker etc...and like how you would get to those positions by setting goals. It’s definitely scary not knowing if you’ll be financially stable cuz of the degrees we have!
Yes! Exactly!!! You got it. I am 29 years old, I got married at 22. Didn't finish college. Started businesses, failed. 🤣🤣 Wanted to start to a family. Having problems doing that. 😪😪😭😭 Now that I watched your video, I feel so much better. 🙏🏾 Although you are younger than me, you got it right!!!
I know you made this video for me.🙏🏾 Thank you. ♥️
You got this!
I changed my major once and I thought I was about to have a young adult life crisis lol
This happened to me too lol it was the worst feeling but it worked out!
Me right now
@@sydasipah4170 Same
I did 2 years in a program I hated. I knew first year it wasn’t for me an wanted to switch but I let people convince me otherwise and wasted time and money for a second year in it. After that year I was like absolutely not dropped out second term after financial withdrawal deadline and then took a whole year off and worked full time. You can imagine the stress and depression I had in this year off lmao. Now I’m starting my 2nd year in a program I adore and have a paid internship in my field. It worked out in the end but for 3 years I was having a crisis every day haha
I love the flow of this video, it really makes me feel like I'm engaging in a conversation with you
omgg that was the goal!!
@@TarekAli You've definitely reached it plenty of times lovey❤️
I feel like a failure at times because I still live with my parents. It’s a tip for tap on it being okay & I need to move out, cause I come from a foreign family where generally speaking living with your parents after 20 is fine, but with seeing my peers in they own spots it makes me feel like I’m not grown yet.
Fr
i’d say the same thing too :/ plus being in college (onto my fourth & have one more year) then after that i have sort of an idea but not a set one
I also live with my parents and can relate to feeling like a failure because of it. My parents are also from another country so it’s normal to still live with them but it’s different here. I have just been saving up money to move once I’m more financially stable.
i still live at home and commute to uni since i couldn’t afford to live in the city. it’s not really frowned upon, if anything it’s seen as more admirable since it’s a two hour commute. but my dad is american and he always talks about how i should really be paying rent.... i’ve never heard of anyone paying rent to their own parents but it makes me feel like such a burden and like i need to grow up faster
cherrypanda887 awe I’m sorry you’re experiencing that. Americans have individualistic society values which might be why your dad told you that. It’s sad really... and as you can see it creates a really negative outlook on what we’re “supposed to” be doing as young adults. I’m trying to find a balance between being my own independent person while living with my parents but also reminding myself that receiving help isn’t a bad thing.
i’m 18, literally just moved to college on the 10th and sometimes i feel like i’m behind and my life hasn’t even started😂 it’s mainly just seeing all these ppl my age have their own business and moving into their own apartments and it makes me feel like i’m not doing as much as i can😭 and social media plays a big part in it as well, not that i’m saying that social media is a bad thing bc it’s one of the main reason why ppl my age can have the online boutiques and such and i really LOVE how my generation is determined to be successful, it’s just with social media you see others and start to compare yourself
golden thank you🥺❤️❤️
girl lemme tell u 😂 but honestly don’t be fazed at all ( not that i’m saying be a hater) but focus on you and creates something that is Forbes worthy, not because everybody has the same type of business that take absolutely no effort to create! Appreciate it but take time to think of ways you can actually make an impact❤️Wish u the best
Sokevi thank youuuu ❤️ and yeah if i were you ever start a business it would def be sum different and even if it does fit in a category it would be sum unique and my own, sum nobody can find anywhere else😂 even if that just means my own personal design, catchphrase, logo, etc 🤣
Same!! I’m 18 and feel a major pressure to start a business. Get rich while I’m young. I wanted to start a business myself but I realised the thing I wanted to start isn’t even something I like to do and now I’m working towards what I want to do looonnggg teeerrrrmmmm and that kinda woke me up
Dorian Thompson yes!
When you said you were 22 I almost clicked out of the video. I’m 24 lol
I’m a upcoming junior in hs and I believe that high schools should have a class that teaches us about finances,how to pay bills, how to save money, etc so we wouldn’t be so lost when we finally graduate and enter the “real world”.
This is very true they most definitely should I’ve been in high school and when I was a senior I had completed all my credits so it was like my lazy year and that’s when they decided to show me that they did have those classes and I was like this should be mandatory not damn algebra or geometry
For real tho! After we graduate from hs, we are left no knowledge of how the real world works!
This is true. Please look for this info on your own. Utilize the internet to learn about saving investing taxes home buying and student debt. Learn about licensing in trades and side hustles. One TH-cam channel is graham Stephen. Get a job after school and save money! If I could go back and tell my 16 year old self this I would. Okay ❤️❤️
This is something I tried to help my highschool with so much and like NO BODY TALKS ABOUT THIS. I feel like this could be something that helps students prepare for obstacles in their freshman year of college. Especially with students of color, Idk about you but I am currently in the US and we have like college preparation programs but their underfunded big time. Honestly my best advice is to go on youtube, any question you ever have just youtube it. I am currently learning about investing and personal finance thru Yt. HERE ARE SOME CHANNELS:
The Break
Nate O'brien
Aja Dang
Thecomeup
Ughh this video needs to have a trigger warning for people in their 20's. This feeling gets worse the closer you get to 30 even when you start making more money. Even when you get that relationship, even when you get that job. The key is to be grateful in each season and to live the best life you can create with what you have. I know this might not help some, but Beyonce is who I look up to when feeling like this. The closer to 40 and 50 she gets, the better she becomes. It would have been ashamed if Beyonce's glory days were in her twenties. It's only up from 30!
I’ve definitely been noticing that I have this mentality of “as soon as I get THIS then I’ll be fine” but there’s always something else to worry about. Over the last few months in quarantine I’ve been able to self analyze and I really want to work on this.
I haven't even finished the video but the most important thing you can do to save you unnecessary agony is to get off SOCIAL MEDIA . I cannot stress this weigh or at least take a one month break. You can easily get bombarded with a feeling of lack once you scroll down your timeline so it is best to stay away if you value your sanity. Staying away from most Social media has done wonder for my anxiety 😁
This is true. I'm currently taking a break. 🙏
@@ry-hh3js it will help in the long run...
Same here. Been off it for almost 2 years now and it has definitely helped more than anything else I've tried for my anxiety. Which in itself lets you know where the main source of my anxiety was coming from. Don't think I'll ever go back to social media honestly.
Getting off of social media can help but your parents will still make you feel like a failure😔
I enjoy TikTok, but the app honestly isn’t helping much with this situation either. My feed is filled with people usually at the age of 25 or younger with a successful business and they are making 6 figures in their first year of starting up. Other young adults are pressuring their viewers to start a business, and acting as if a 9-5 is a death sentence. There is also this trend of young people pretending they are in their teens and they are waking up to their dream life. It was inspiring at first, but now it’s just straight up tiring.
I agree it's making me feel like I'm going through an existential crisis when I'm only 20 years old...I stopped following certain people because that whole "rise and grind" mentality is tiring and makes you feel crappy and unworthy
This 💯
I’ll be 21 in November and definitely feel like a failure....it’s hard seeing girls on social media my age with luxury cars & super nice apartments because I still live with my mom. Also Going to college is honestly not for me because I have so many passions I want to pursue, but I feel stuck with school because it’s more of a guarantee. I know it’s very possible to successful without school it’s just difficult. Thank you for posting this ❤️ I appreciate this more than you know
Go to school babes, just do short courses. Try and push yourself, tertiary education really makes your research easier because the information has been gathered for you. Unless you want to pursue entertainment then that's different. Good luck
My birthday is this Nov too, cheers to 21 in the middle of the pandemic! I feel you, it's hard knowing our youth and prime health is spent preparing for a life long career and being buried in books. I know it will pay off later though, and that there's a long life to live outside of our 20's. We got this whatever we choose!
oml I also have a lot of passions, but def school is not one of them, still, the dilema is that IS IS necesary, cuz in this society it seems we don't have other options, but hope everythings turns out good for you ;)
Laura GG i know 😭 but I wish you well as well
Daisy Elliott exactly!
I love this video. Right now I had to take a break from getting my bachelors degree because I was starting to feel burned out. Been working since 16 and never stopped. Graduated cosmetology school at 24 and went straight into getting my bachelors degree. I agree that we try so hard to cram everything into our 20s which can cause us to feel like we are running out of time and often becoming depressed. I had to realize this during the pandemic at 26 that I have to put my happiness first and not try to juggle too many goals at once. When I am ready to go back to school I will, but I agree that it takes time and you cant just force your future. I am focusing on my craft and perfecting it so I can be the best artist I know I can be. I have a license to make people feel beautiful and that is a great accomplishment so far. Baby steps! This is a great video to help remind people that there is no time limit on your success and we need to stop letting society influence us to be supernatural Humans and just, BE. Thanks for the helpful tips!
Right place right time and I am 20. I already started crying 6 minutes INTO THIS VIDEO.
I feel you. I turned 20 three months ago and I went into a 'crisis' where I realised I'm an adult yet I've been a child all my life. I really cried and was sad because of comparing myself to my peers. But always remember comparison is a thief of joy. Stay in your own lane, take a step at a time and you'll feel so much better✨hang in there.
I’m only 18 and a lot of people around me are doubting about my future because I didn’t go to college immediately after high school. I’m french Canadian so it has been a year. Your video is very reassuring and helpful❤️
girl t'as tt le temps pour le cégep lmao fck les autres and do you tkt
Frr
that crazy cos im in college and i wanna get out.
@@prettypoetess_ T’as raison merci🥺🤍
I’m 23 living with my boyfriend of 5 years and his parents, it’s not the ideal living situation and I’m on my last semester of my program in college, trying to get a car to work more and pay off my school debt but I feel stuck, currently unemployed due to COVID 19
Take it easy, that's what is most important. Take the time especially this period with the pandemic it's a dire situation for most people. If even the economy of a whole country can take a big hit, how much more the rest of the people living in those countries. I understand as I am also on my last semester too, and trying to work too. I can relate, as only three days into class and I feel like I'm already losing it. As even more issues keep arising if I rush into it all, I'm just gonna kill myself with stress. As soon as I realized this, I decided I needed to slow down, you know, take my time. All these things won't even matter anymore if I kill myself before I even start living. So just remember you don't have to finish it all right now. Give yourself a break, be kind on yourself, take it one step at a time, and stay in spaces that give you joy. That's most important really. Every other thing compliments your peace of mind. You can be working and schooling but try not to overdo it and if possible with the pandemic as a psychologist in formation, I would recommend you focus on your classes first so as not to stress yourself out even more or worse still get into a posttraumatic stress case or anxiety. And if you must work as you school during this pandemic, make it something simple and something you feel good doing. More like your hobbies or something related. Relax, It's really not the end of the world. Enjoy it as you do it and focus more on you not what others will say or think about you. In the long run, that doesn't really matter, it's just you and your choices. Have a nice day, I really do wish you the best.
The Victorian needed this also💜
Was just in the same situation. But we got this!!! ❤️
Push through sis 😥❤️💖
I’m 24 still working on my associates degree of 3 years then dropped out of school, working minimum wage job 😂😳🥲I need help
I’m 21 I’m going to be successful and wealthy it’s just really social media
Amen! Same here!🙌🎉
I can definitely relate, i felt like a failure at 19.... Im 23 now and i have to constantly remind myself that I have to define what success means to ME! NOT SOCIETY!
Guys from their 30s aren't laughing, not everyone is successful later in life and a lot of people might feel lost in their 30s or 40s and so on.
The most millionaires are in their 40sand 50s but millionaires are the 0.5%
I’m 19 (but will be 20 in October) and I honestly feel like I’m wasting life in college. All of my friends who didn’t go to college are successful with their cars, apartments, and full time jobs while I’m struggling my sophomore year financially and I don’t even know if I can pull through as a cs major (especially since I’m the only black girl in my major atm) so I have no one to relate to. I often think of taking a gap year/semester or just dropping out in general.. y’all don’t know how hard it is trying to pay for college and depend on lyfts bc I don’t have a car and every time I have money, I end up giving it to family members because they need it for bills or to feed their kids yet they never help in return. It’s hard out here y’all 😞
Hey girl I’m a black girl and a junior Cs major! Keep going you will be so successful making a huge salary when you graduate Bc this skill is in such high demand. It’s tough I agree but success comes with picking something and STICKING TO IT. I’m here for you girl you can talk to me here or my ig @nanarocky39 Bc we gotta encourage each other. I’ll be 21 in October
Hi, I'm 19 and about to turn 20 in October too. I'm a sophomore and the only black female pursuing an economics major rn. Can totally relate to your post 😳. For now, I'm just pushing thru, taking things day by day and focusing on my relationship with God. Fr tho it's hard out here
Kimberly Cassamajor Hi I’m 19 but a black man 💀 and I feel you. I am majoring in economics but I have a side hobby of making music and producing which has started becoming a passion of mine, causing me to not understand what I want to do with my life 🤦🏾♂️. I want to get my degree as a backup plan, but I am not sure what to do after I graduate
Does your school not have a bus system? I’ve lived in 2 different apartments + my parent’s house throughout my college years and at each place I’ve had a bus stop within 4-5 minutes of where i stayed at.
Im just turned 28. My cousin and sibling are all married and have babies. I've noticed people are not as happy as they appear. My brother didn't really want a baby right now but my sister in law "clock is ticking ". God controls our time line if we allow him. Im single still live at home with my parents. Im on disability because i have a heart defect. So i have different means of income. Just go with the flow life is long no need to get with your partner at 19 till your dead. Did you know you change your career about 5 times in your life time. Fomo is real but don't feel left out
This is gonna be vent-y so feel free to ignore. I'm 25 and have been dealing with depression for years but it's gotten severe for me this year. I have no college degree, no real passions or motivation (hello depression!). I feel like it's my fault that I'm not doing well in life cuz I literally have no drive, like I wish I could just be paid to exist lol. Been struggling so much these past few months it's so hard not to compare yourself when you know your mental health is stopping you from succeeding 😭😭😭 I'm gonna try to apply these affirmations but it's so hard.
Hey same here. I’m 24, all I have is my serving job. I do have passions but they lie dormant at different times. Right now I don’t feel passion for anything. Sometimes I write a lot, sometimes I get the will to resell clothes (passion for fashion), sometimes I paint constantly. But I can’t stick to any of these things long enough to make it lucrative. It’s a sick cycle. So yeah the whole “paid to exist” I feel that.
I’m 23 with an associate degree in psychology and I still feel like a failure sometimes.
You’re doing great. Please don’t feel like a failure.
I was proud as all hell when I got my AA. You already accomplished a great feat and there are more ahead if you keep pushing. Don’t give up, and don’t doubt yourself- every path is different. Just keep moving along 💜
"There is more life after this"
"Appreciate your own time, appreciate your own timeline"
Top Tier, thank you Tarek 🙏🏾💕
I’m 27 (almost 28) and there are things that I haven’t accomplished yet. I just finished my masters and I constantly beat myself up about never being in love and not being financially stable yet. I finished my bachelors at 23, took two years off between undergrad and grad school and I didn’t get my first job until I was 26.
I can relate to this. I'm also 27, graduated at 23 and got my first job at 25. Because of corona virus, I found myself being retrenched. I'm currently unemployed, living with my parents. I have been wanting to do my masters but I guess procrastination has made me delay. I need someone to actually give me motivation.
Finishing my bachelors at 23 this year because I met some roadblocks. This makes me feel better. Wishing you luck!
Me reading this title: 👁👄👁
"why are you beating yourself up for not meeting a time stamp that you never had in your life" A WORD
2019 was a tough one for me I was 20 year old and I took a decision to move out and survive on my own because of my sexuality and also my uncle made it uncomfortable for me you know growing up in a country where it's a death sentence or jail term and having a very over religious family and superstition based and all.... it was a tough decision but then I missed my admission because no family member wanted to help a 20 year old gay man. Inasmuch as I felt relieve that I took that step to get that burden off me I felt I am missing out on school you know I see my mates in higher institution and I just wish I was there also.... But I can't because it's going to be a long ride for me. But hey here I am 21 and it's one year of survival and honestly the journey has been tough but I am thankful and hopeful things will get better. I love you Tarek all the way from Nigeria West Africa
I love this. keep going! sending you strength, comfort, and prosperity.
@@sonofmaroons thank you so much
You give me hope. You have the mentality of a warrior and I have no doubt you will accomplish everything you set out to do.
@@Mshoran4ever thank you so much. If only it was that easy but I'm hopeful that one day things will get better.
I really needed this video. I feel like I’m wasting my life in my 20s, and I needed to know that my life isn’t going to waste. I am 21, and I felt like I was squandering my youth.
I’m 16 and I feel like a failure. I wonder how I’ll feel in my 20s. But I’m recovering slowly from my mental health issues.😇
Same sisssss 16 n failing in life already 😗✌🏻✨
Same here, I'm 16 too and so sacred of everything that's going to happen in my life
Have u tried getting off social media? It can be very healing. I promise you, real life is nothing close to social media and majority of people are not as accomplished as you think they are.
You’re so young, don’t feel that way
I'm 27 and for so long, I thought something was wrong with me because I wasn't where I thought I was supposed to be. But then I thought about it like, I wasn't where OTHER PEOPLE thought I was supposed to be. I'm still living at home with my mother and family, I graduated from college in 2017 with my BA and I work in retail at 4 years lol. I do still play the "What If?" game, but it's not consistent that much because I know that I've come far and I still have years left in me to accomplish the goals I have for myself.
what was your major?
Anya’s Revenge Communications with a concentration on journalism.
As a 19 yo soon to be 20 in about 5 months, this video is very helpful! Help me to enter my 20s without being too stressed about it
As a 17 yo about to be 18 in 5 months this also helped me because we always feel we have to meet expectations at a certain age
Everyone’s life story is different and once you understand that you’ll stop experiencing anxiety,depression etc. from trying to accomplish so much in a short span. imagine how boring and weird life would be if we all accomplished the same things at the same time. Your failures are your testimony , your story, god is using you and preparing you for greatness. A trophy is still a trophy no matter when you receive it.
"Society" puts so much pressure on us to have the perfect life (whatever that is). Don't let that stop you from living it your way as long as you don't hurt anybody. I felt like a failure at 21...what a fool I was. Find your own happy and you can make other people happy...that is success.
For me its social media and family pressure. Social media makes me feel like I need to have a successful personal life (house, man, car, traveling). Family makes me feel like I need to have the job, salary, skill set and experience of someone thats 30 years old
Even though i just turned 30 this year I still needed to hear this. My mind has done the comparison for way too long
I’m always on Twitter and I see people moving into apartments and having successful businesses by the age of 20. Most of the time I always thought well that should be me but the career I want will take much longer schooling. I imagine myself in 6 years and I know I still will not be where they are because my timeline simply won’t be that. I swear I have subconscious anxiety when I think about my future cause god forbid I don’t have a 300k house by 25. Like that shouldn’t be the ideal situation for my path but somehow it’s always in my brain.
Same! Im in my last couple of semesters of college and studying social work. And that career path doesn’t allot for some 500k house and millions in my bank account. But im so anxious that I’ll still ultimately be a failure even when being ‘rich’ isn’t even my goal
Yes!! Idk y I’m always on Twitter. I stop using Facebook cuz I would compare myself to others doing “better” than me. Like getting apartments etc..and I’m like damn what am I doing wrong...Twitter doesn’t make it better cuz ppl always posting buying new cars, new apartments which is great. I’m glad my fellow black ppl are succeeding but then I think what about myself...what am I doing wrong???
Bless U is it just me or does an odd sense of guilt come with this? Like i feel so guilty for not wanting to start a business or make millions a year..im 22 and I already feel like failed at life 😭
Keiya The Kid ...no you shouldn’t be!! But social media makes it that way especially when you see ppl that are 18, 19 making mad bank. Having a 9-5 is fine!! Idk what made ppl think it’s not unless you don’t want a 9-5. Ppl should pursue what they want either wanting to be an entrepreneur or work 9-5 or do both. I’m older than you and I feel that way too..that I failed in life even tho I’m in my 20s cuz I’m not at the same position as my peers who are financially stable and have apartments etc. But I have my trust in God and I know things will pick up for me. But often my mind just wanders off into thinking why am I not so accomplished in life....It annoys me that some ppl on social media like tik tok can make money so quick and get rich just by doing mediocre things on that platform. And I’m here like gotta do this hw cuz it’s due today smh.
Bless U omg same! I needed that ❤️😭
Social media as well as society is the main reason why so many of us feels so pressured, especially seeing other young adults being entrepreneurs, and making outstanding salaries
I’m 23 and what I seriously want for all of us in our 20’s is just to live life by following our own internal compasses. Look beyond the physical- although it may look shiny and media/ marketing is powerful! Learn how to look within and truly get to know yourself and the life you want to build for yourself. This is why people end up having a midlife crisis, they attach themselves to the life society tells them to have and don’t listen to their own intuition- “does this feel right for me?” Living by other people’s expectations will only make you feel unhappy in the end and unsatisfied. Life is too damn short!
We all have our own inner guide. Silence the “noise” all around. Go within- meditate, nature walks, spend time in nature, spend time ALONE, take social media breaks if you have to, challenge yourself with a 30 day challenge to work on something you know you need. By doing these things consistently you will transform and get to know yourself better! This is what our lives are literally about, constant growth and reflection. Don’t get fooled by the marketing and question why society puts this timeline on a pedestal (relationship/kids: so society can keep growing and producing more workers, college: so society can keep producing workers/ establish a hierarchy bc capitalism we need to attain higher to get farther, etc). Focus on you and how you’re feeling, and if you can’t completely do that right now- what can you do to get there?? 🥰 good luck, I love y’all
I’m 22 and I definitely needed to hear this and seeing everyone else’s comments makes me feel like I’m not alone. We’re all just trying to make it in life. I appreciate my timeline 💗
The being 25 looking for a job wether or not you been to college or not and them telling you that you need 50 yrs experience and 100 recommendations is so fucking stressful.
i also feel like parents pressure us to know what we wanna do once we graduate high school and go into college & then graduate in four years when half of the time it’s just not possible for everyone because of different circumstances like transferring, mental or physical health, or even financial issues. i was supposed to graduate in 2021 but i have one more year & am majoring in theatre & double minoring in dance & sociology & seeing ppl around my age either graduating, living in their own apartment, being married, having kids, or even being able to say they brought their own phone or car while still being at home makes me feel like a failure at 21. i have my own job as well but i feel like it’s not enough for parents with trying to save it up when we live in a capitalistic society. 🙃
@Evelynxstarling I mean...what do you suggest i do instead of the ones i stated? I see where you’re coming from and i wish you luck with what you’re doing with whatever it is you decide to do.
Im 26 with a 6 year old son. Got diagnosed bipolar, so the past few years I've been struggling mentally & physically. Now that I am taking meds & feel better...I feel like I can accomplish more. Everyone is attacking me about not having a career, not making money, & being lazy; when in reality they never realized it was my disorder. So now, I feel this pressure to make up for those years that I was mentally unstable, and on top of that during a PANDEMIC. I'm just enjoying being depression- free after so many years, taking a little drink here & there, & let everyone talk all the crap they have to cause when I needed people the most....no one was there. 🤷♀️. But I will work at my pace...
P.s. you hit every point I was thinking of...thank you so much for this video! You are so wholesome & such a beautiful soul. You are gorgeous, too, btw!
don’t take this the wrong way but seeing everyone my age (21) and up feeling the same way I do and going through this “feeling like a failure” stage makes me feel so at home. I felt like such an outcast in this capitalistic society.
So, I majored in accounting and graduated from business school a year and a half ago. The school's program was niche to a particular sector in the industry, and I was interested in the more chill side of the industry which had less expensive requirements and freedoms. I hated it, because it's all they taught. My classmates graduated with jobs with high salaries in big cities, but I knew I'd still hate it had I gone down that same job path. Ive graduated the program, and Im rockin' a job in the sector of the industry I want, but let me tell you how AWFUL I felt as a 22-year-old grad who felt alone in her environment, ignorant to all the other possibilities, feeling extremely limited. My classmates were limited in their career paths too, but they wanted to go down that path, not me. I couldn't stop comparing myself to my classmates and friends on social media. I was too ashamed to changed majors. I had told myself I should have transfered even though my grad date would have been pushed back a year or so. And eventually, now at 24, I realized that it really aint that big of a fkn deal. Stop comparing yourselves to others and be kind to yourself ♥️
Thanks for this! I just graduated in May and fee like I chose the wrong major. I feel like I'll look back at this moment and laugh at how stressed I was for no reason lol.
Yass I’m 21 going to 22 in November I feel like I fail soo bad cause everyone who is my age got their own houses mortgages and kids need this video
This was a good video. I'm 25 and JUST starting college.. before i enrolled i felt sooo much guilt and regret for not taking school seriously sooner when i had the chance. After high school i would always start classes and skip class or not do homeowork.. i HATED school lol ... awhen i was 20 i just decided to not waste my time anymore so i stopped going. Now I'm just grateful to be back and i realized that i just wasn't ready and that's OKAY ! Just like you said, this life is to be LIVED ... i don't have to rush.. this is my journey and i don't have to put any pressure on myself to prove myself or live up to an idea of what other people define success as. This realization was truly liberating!! Praying this comment has the same effect. Be strong 20-somethings!! We're breaking barriers that we don't even know or understand yet!!! Peace and Blessings x x
My sister died last year a week before turning 30 from breast cancer. So yes we should enjoy life one day at a time. I often feel lame cause im not in a relationship and I dont have a career but life is.more than that. Also I can still work towards this stuff
I feel like a failure mostly because I'm almost 30 and I feel like I was so much stronger and had more drive when I was in my early 20s. I was a poet, I started a business (that still hasn't gotten off the ground), my TH-cam channel was a thing, I was more consistent. Now I just feel like my emotions really take a toll on me and my anxiety is a bit more crippling. I'm also healing from A LOT (breaking up w my father, being cut off by my best friend, etc.) So I just really feel like I had 'it' and I lost 'it' and now I have no clue how to get 'it' back.
That's a lot to handle thank you for sharing your story. I'm 21 and my emotions are definitely weighing me down and making me feel weak inside. I lost "it" too ig. I'm taking the time to stay active and paying attention to my emotions instead of just drowning in them. If i feel sad I recognize that its sadness and then do something healthy that releases dopamine to counteract that feeling. I want to start businesses and create music so that's what I'm looking towards to maintain me
Hermosa Reaux thanks for that recognition 🥰 with the right level of ambition and consistency, we both can come out on top of our emotions and manifest success. It’s easier to give advice than to take your own, but we’re not weak and we got this 💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾 keep going.
Felt this. Feeling burnt out by the world’s blows really sucks. You can get yourself back though!! I think a little therapy could be nice to help you heal and also help you get a view of what you want your future to look like. Keeping things in only allows us to circulate those negative, “I wish I would’ve” thoughts. Focus on what’s ahead and how you can get back to being the woman you want to be. Good luck lady!!
I’m now in my early 30s.. so yeah i still feel like i am failing life.. the only thing i accomplished in my 20s was i found a life partner and got married (and i travelled quite a bit as well). But i still don’t have any career. Here’s what’s up: if you don’t figure it out in your 20s, you’ll be trying to figure it out in your 30s. If you don’t figure it out in your 30s, you’ll be figuring it out in your 40s. So i’m gonna try to figure out the career by 40 so i’ll be able to deal with ageism in the workplace in my 40s! I can’t wait! Not ready for kids yet and at this point i’m considering either being childless or adopting/fostering in my 40s at this rate.
ngl, I'm 34 currently and I still feel like I'm a failure...
Well damn
don’t feel like that
This is a very materialistic view of life in your 20s. That's okay. Materials help you feel good.
One thing people don't talk about is your mindset and your inner world. If you were stripped of materials what's left? What's left when you've been reduced to your personal foundation? Can you be alone? Instincts. Survival skills. Resourcefulness. Spirituality. The things you can't touch, see, smell, hear, taste. Your soul.
Gratitude and altruism. Do you want to be another person to add to the population number or do you want to be a person that makes an impact? Leadership. Innovation. A source of inspiration.
Can I just say that I love your content and energy. Your voice is so soothing. You're such a beautiful, wise, articulate king. I've recently deleted all of my social media accounts because I noticed that I was really starting to compare myself to other people's physical appearances and lifestyles. It made me feel like I was falling behind in life at age 20 because I'm still not sure what I want to do, but I see others that seem certain about their future. It's crazy how you uploaded a video about this topic at the right time. I really needed to hear this. You made a lot of good and relatable points in the video. It was so comforting to watch bc it makes people like me feel understood. Thanks king❤
I’m 23, tried a lot of career paths and still is looking, I have a health condition, I have no car, lost my job to my health, and living with my family still. I remind myself that I shouldn’t compare and be grateful of the stuff I have.
I was very nervous to watch this video because the title hits so close to home. I’m 21, and I’m not in college. I was supposed to go straight after high school, had the grad party with college decor, and everything. Everyone knew where I was going and what I was going for. Then, I ended up leaving not even a week in. It happened 3 years ago, and I still force myself to never think about it. It’s very hard to not think about that life changing decision I made and not compare myself to my cousins and friends that are my age doing what I had planned. I’m also the eldest of 3, and the guilt of dropping out as “the role model” is still heavy. I feel guilty for doing that then going through stuff afterwards. It’s hard to not see myself as less than because I based all my self worth in school. I still do to a degree. It’s a work in progress.
I'm 22, just graduated from university last week, im terrified. but im praying planning and manifesting. going at my own pace one day at a time!
I’ve felt like a failure too but Nahhhhh I’m 25 and it feels more like the trial period for adulthood. Especially after talking with my mom. I’m a baby adult lol Idk why ppl are so scared of being 30 I’m excited to be 30 but in no rush at all.
It's pretty scary when you not financially stable by 30. I think that's where the fear comes from
I feel like we are slowly becoming a culture who accepts aging and realizes that you dont have to peak when you are in your 20s. I love it ❤️
Just turned 27 and graduated with my masters in May. For the last few months I was unemployed and in quarantine and feeling like a failure. After a few false starts I finally was offered a great opportunity. While I’m relieved, it made me realize how much of my self worth was wrapped up into working and what people around me think of me. It was definitely a grim wake up call and I’m going to find a therapist to work through all that 😬
Turning 26 soon and I have way too many regrets! Slowly trying to change my mindset but I’m nowhere near what I envisioned, not even 10% 🤷🏽♀️ I thought I’d have my life sorted out and in an amazing job/house by the age of 25
This video is very much needed especially in the society we live in. The unrealistic expectations to be successful at such a young age is becoming prevalent, it’s not okay and tbh I blame the media
I felt this, like I really felt like you were talking directly to me. I just turned 20, but honestly I feel like I've been feeling this pressure since i was 16 to know what I want to do when I want to do it. And now I'm trying to learn that everyone has their own time to do things. That if someone does something one way, me trying to do the same thing in the exact same way, almost never works. Thank you so much for these encouraging words♥️
I'm 16 and I felt everything you said is about me. Sometimes I feel like I am too ambitious and too mentally mature. I drive myself crazy thinking about all the things I haven't accomplished yet. I am always watching you-tubers my age own business and make more money than MY MOM!! I want that life for myself. Sometimes I become angry with my family because they cant or wont help me conquer my goals but, I am too young do most things without help.
I’m not in my 20’s, I’m 15 but some of this I relate to and even if I didn’t, I’d still watch this because I love your content. It makes me feel normal and like I can take a breather. I get pressures left and right telling me I should have my entire future planned out or know what I want, but honestly I don’t. I just prefer going with what feels right to me. School just makes it harder because they expect me to make decisions but aren’t showing me the options, leading me to my decisions, or giving me room to explore. It’s tough but you give me hope and faith that I’ll find stability and happiness despite societies pressures and lack of guidance.
Ali -outcast- ikr I’m 17, I feel like I can relate too
The pressure never ends. It's an evolving thing. It changes into your 30's, 40's and 50's. Trust me when I tell you that 50 year-olds experience pressure as well. There's always pressure to succeed and/or achieve at some level. Shoot.... aging in itself is pressure. It's all in how you deal with it throughout life.
I’m fifteen & I’ve been really feeling like this lately. I’ve felt lost with the fact that I have no idea what I want to pursue. What I want to do with my life. I feel the pressure to have it figured out entirely. This really helped to see someone who’s older than me talking about their experiences with it, I don’t feel as alone. It shows how much time I really have. I guess I’m not as grown as I thought.😂😭
This video really hit home for me, especially when he started talking about applying to college and figuring out your major. I feel as though society puts so much pressure on us to have a life plan before we even graduate high school. The education system basically pushes enforces that narrative. As a freshmen in college, I've had to learn that it's okay to be undecided, unsure, or confused about what you want out of life. Like Tarek said, it's a matter of figuring out what works best for you and avoiding things that would make you doubt yourself.
absolutely loved this video Tarek
Ever since I turned 18, I had always been feeling apprehensive about being in my 20s. Im 23 and still feel like I'm struggling for time and that time is running out. It's so easy to feel this way when you do so many young teens on social media who look better, dress better, and have done so many exciting things at their age, that you could never fathom doing when you were their age, whist your struggling to loose weight, still in school, living with your parents and never had a boyfriend. Im so greatful that my parents take on a lot of my financial burdens, but Im stuck at a cross road with my feeling mature enough since I can't travel out even stay out past 12(strict parents) but also feeling too old to go to the club and drss certain ways (weird right? ). I know I shouldn't but I do feel envious if these kids lifestyles sometimes and it just starts a spiral self hate. I want to get married and have kids soon, but also want the freedom to travel and do things I wasn't allowed to in my teens. It's nice to know I'm not the only person who's been struggling with this
Tarek you’re the best for this video
I’m a 23 year old college student still having a year left of undergrad and I’m running an art business and I’m constantly feeling lesser than my peers watching them graduate or my artist peers watching them reach high levels of success and exposure which has taken the joy sometimes out of me wanting to progress in my life
I loved everything about this video, this is what people our age need to hear. I’m 22 and noticing how much social media influences my idea of what life “should” look like. I’m sooo over it lol. I just took a month break from social sites and I feel so much better. Now I just use it because I enjoy seeing my friends and ppl I follow happy and flourishing. You don’t have to completely shut social media out of your life, but you need to consume it wisely and in moderation. That’s what’s so great about it, you choose who to follow and you can undo it at any time. Create the best environment for you.
20s is nothing it’s the 30s you should be concerned about
the fact that i’m still comparing myself to you 😭😭 you’re only two years older than me and you’re so knowledgeable about a lot. this video is so relevant rn. i’ve been in a whole slump about what i’m doing and literally watching everyone around me grow while i do nothing. just have to learn to take it easy
How did you know? I legit was just in the middle of a spiral..
Yessssss
I'm 19 (almost 20) and since I started to going to college I'm feeling a bit anxious about myself. Thankfully my parents always supported me when it comes to money, we always been economically stable so in all my teen years I didn't have to get a job. Now that I'm starting to get into the adult life I see my peers and people who studied with me back in highschool with jobs, relationships, etc. and I feel like I'm getting behind, I'm feeling lost, insecure and like a failure. I know I'm still pretty young but idk, is hard not to compare to others.
I'm 19 too
And I totally relate to most of what you feel anxious about.
But we always have to remind ourselves that as long as we are alive, there's hope and that everything is subject to change.❤️
And also not to compare our journey with someone else's finish line.
I recently turned 20 and I truly feel like I don’t know what to do with myself. Realized college wasn’t for me, so I closed that chapter and now I feel stuck? It’s such a weird feeling. I believe I’m so scared of being a failure that I don’t even pursue what I truly want out of life.
Hey there, I'm 27 and didn't buy into going into debt for college after graduating high school. Spend this time finding what you like and don't like and save as much money as you can. I'm still trying to figure out what I want to do while I'm jumping into things. Please know there is no pressure to have everything figured out. Enjoy your life and don't stress over it! ❤️ Best wishes to you!
Pika Lee wow thank you so so much for your words and encouragement ❤️ and I’m glad you didn’t take the route I did, I’m so deep into debt now ( over 20,000) for no reason.If I stayed, it would’ve been way more ! But I’m so glad I realized it’s not for me, I’m trying to get my people to understand but they don’t🤷🏽♀️. Which makes it kind of hard on me! I hope you find what works for you and I hope it gives you an abundance of joy 😊 best wishes to you as well !
@@NyTejayy You're most welcome ❤️ oooh I understand the disappointment from family too. It was rough but they had to realize I'm not out here wilding out and am being a responsible adult lol I got my associates in business last year (with no debt!) from a community college while working full time, phew! Thank you so much for the well wishes as well ❤️🙏🏾
Pika Lee wow ! See that’s another thing, the pressure and stigma behind going to a huge university after I graduated. When I could’ve simply went to a community college down the street, as a test drive 😭 but I was so stuck on trying to keep up and feel “ accomplished “ !
I’m also 20 and in the same boat! All my friends are in college rn and it’s hard to not feel bad about myself because my first try at university didn’t go so well (also way over $10,000 in debt😅). But I learned to not compare myself to others and just focus on personal growth, learn new things about yourself, enjoy your favorite hobbies, live with your parents as long as you possibly can to save money, and connect with family members who can share their stories as well. People no matter what age are constantly learning new things about themselves and growing, so why is it that society has made us 20-somethings think that we should do all our growing just in this decade of life? When that’s not even how life works! Life is such a beautiful thing when you take a step back and really appreciate God’s creation including yourself🌍💚
Let me grab tissues because I already know 😭
When I tell you , I ended up going to a community college , changed my major TWICE & now I’m in school to get my esthetician’s license. I’m 20 ... I’ve felt like a failure time and time again & I’m trying not to compare myself to my buddies in college or with great careers. But this helped me more than ever. Thank you 🤍
ooh I felt this hard. I sometimes feel behind at 25
Life teaches you interesting lessons. It is so important to learn how manage your thoughts, emotions as well as expectations. I'm 27 now and, sadly, starting to become depressed, because life did not go as planned. I don't have a house, have an average job and don't have a family. When I look around, I feel like I'm failing. And that's sad. And scary. Though, even with all this pain, I choose to get up and work on myself. Yes, I may not be who I want, where I want in life, but... All I can do is try. And believe. That I'm worth of success, love and overall less pain. I hope whoever reads this decides to not give up together with me.
I’m 20 & i feel like a failure at times 🤦🏾♀️ i feel like i haven’t accomplished much (which i haven’t) been working on my brand for a year & I’m still facing troubles launching. I talk to those around me about it & i always get the “you’re too young to be this stressed, live your life” but it’s like if i don’t work hard i won’t be able to enjoy the life i imagined. Idk, i just want the absolute best for myself & to give that to those around me as well . I feel like i have to be the breadwinner to take my family out of a mediocre way of living, bc i know I’m not satisfied
Exactly the same but 22 here. Keep working hard, you don't have to have everything 100% perfect before launching just try to get things in motion and it'll come together!
Social media definitely plays a big part, because without it we wouldn’t hardly know who is doing what especially if they not in our close circle. Being just 30 I feel so behind but I try not to let society get to me. Especially being single too it just gets worse but have to remember I’m not alone.
I've always idealized being 30 i think that's the peak
I loved 13 going on 30 as a kid lol