It's crazy to think that I made this and then a month went by before I finally decided to post it because I wasn't sure anyone would relate. I'm glad I did - thank you for all of your wonderful comments. Let's stop beating ourselves up so much.
I'd say we just discovered one thing the algorithm picks up on: a video even slightly related to your viewing history + creator posting a comment very recently = recommended I'm glad it did. This was a great video. Very relatable.
I will never forget the day my mother looked at me and said I don't care if the only thing you become is a tree planter. The only thing that matters to me is that you live a life that makes you feel fulfilled . Life is fragile and unpredictable and there will come a day when you will no longer be physically able to do what you can now. Enjoy the sunshine.
Wish my mother thought this way. I have one of those families that are more "this is what you want to do" and "you can't do that, it won't succeed" rather than "what do you want to do" and "I support you son, if that's what you wish." Damn.
Amber Carr! What a beautiful words babe. That type mothers are very rare to see these days. The bad upbringing I had and the type of mother I had, till this, I'm still recovering and trying to erase the negative influences of my childhood. Trying to rewrite the page and plant seeds of happiness, prosperities, hope, meaningful life and better future for my children and the world, too. Thank you for those words.
I see younger people than me achieving so much, travelling, falling in love, doing so much and I’m just stuck, so late in life, so late to experience even the basic things.
I'm 28 and I'm feeling this. Almost all my cousins have jobs and got married, while I'm still unemployed without any job experience, still live with my parents and I'm single. All I do at home is helping my elderly mom who's a street food vendor. I feel like a failure as a person. I don't have any achievement in life, I don't have any skill to offer, I don't know what I want in life. I have no reason to be alive.
My dear stay strong this time shall pass too I understand the feeling of failure but u are the hero of your story . Your parents are your reason to be alive my friend
I'm 22 and I feel this way too. All my friends will be graduating this year while I'm just starting to go back as a freshman. It really sucks and I feel so left behind and useless.
see it from another perspective. maybe you are thinking „what is my reason to be here?“ - switch that thinking into „how can i help someone today“ - because THAT will be your reason to be here :)
That is such a beautiful quote. I'm going to put it on a poster and print it and hang it in my room. Then I'll put it in my laptop and phone wallpapers and make it my alarm label. Might even write it on the ceiling just so I can see it right when I wake up every morning. I have a horrible, horrible habit of comparing myself to others to the point of being unable to function at all. I need to put this message through my thick head already.
This is because we are victims of the mind. It lies to us to try and keep us safe. It does not know any better so we mist train the mind to know that this is a survival instinct that is not necessary and that we must no longer compare ourselves to others but allpw them to be them and us to be us. Doing this repeatedly i believe will reprogram that side of our minds and set us free from that mental prison. It is up to us to act on this long enough to see results and then stick to this new belief forever and teach others. Once in this mental place, we can now ask ourselves what it is we want in our lives and pursue that goal without the pressure of feeling like we are in a race but instead knowing that we may not have enough life to reach our goal, but we will enjoy the process and if we succeed then we will have learned a way of moving forward that works for us. 🙏
@@nickcollins5315 I'm sorry....my 2 year relationship seems to be going nowhere.... What's the most difficult part for you? (Maybe i can learn something from your situation?)
It’s not that for me, it’s that all of my friends are planning meetups without me right in front of me, you may think I’m dramatic but knowing that while I’m sitting at home while my friends are going out and partying hurts one of my best friends walked away from me with another one of my best friends.
@@beebeehoneyz1110 Hey, hope you're well. Yes, the same happened to me last week and seeing their stories of going out together really hit me badly. They didn't even invite me. I felt horrible for 3 days, after that to abate or lessen this feeling, I texted them 'how did you guys enjoy day that day, seems like had a lot of fun' . This really was a shameful slap on their faces and immediately they called me and asked for apologies and tried to explain or give excuses of why I wasn't invited. So, please try this. You couldn't hold that heaviness in your heart for a long time and feel better. Whatever is in your heart just release it to them. You would feel better. Have a happier day love.
Friends getting engaged, married, siblings having kids, high paying jobs, .... While i'm standing here with a fucked up mental health feeling like the train is leaving the station without me on it
I'm 30 years old. Been working in the fashion industry for about 8 years now. I really like my job but I don't wake up excited to go to work, you know? I am now realising that my real passion has always been working with animals. It has been since I was a little girl. I am now working my way through getting a degree in Veterinary Science. It's going to take me 5 years to finish it. I'll be 35/36 by then. And you know what? I don't mind the age at all. At age 30, I'm going to go be a vet ❤️ I'm not behind, I'm exactly where I need to be to do what I want to do.
I am a few years younger and was doubting or feeling like I would be too ‘this or that’ to be a good Vet. I have many weakness’ that are in hindsight actually strengths. Thank you for this comment and giving me that push to continue to pursue this degree as well. My birthday is in a few weeks and I was feeling down on being ‘too old’ for Vet School. You are going to be an amazing Vet and do not give up on your dreams🐾🧡
I think it's so great that you found your passion! Many people wake up every morning not excited about what they are doing but they don't know what would get them excited to get up. Go for it, you will thank yourself for your courage!
@Nicole Francesca Go for it! When you get older you regret more the stuff you haven't done than the things you did do, even if they don't turn out the way you had hoped. And never let anyone (not even yourself) tell you, you are too something to be who you want to be. When I first started my business, I was told I was too young, too inexperienced, too blonde and as a woman, nobody would take me seriously. I went for it anyway because it felt right and I have not experienced anything but respect and gratitude from my corporate clients. And I am glad every day that I took that risk and went for it. If you are not ready to go for it and you allow me to give you an advice: Go and try out things that get you closer to your dream. Follow a vet around for a day and see if it's really what you want to do. You will either get very motivated or realize that it's not what you expected and not be sad about not pursuing it.
Elisabeth Krüger Thank you so much for your encouraging words. I will also, take your advice and start the process of shadowing some of my colleagues. It is going to be a long road a head but, in the end. It is all going to be worth it! That goes for anything in life.. If it is something that doesnt of course bring anyone harm. It will be worth trying and failing than never starting in the first place. If you fail, it also isnt a big deal either. Just keep moving and never give up!! (new motto)
That just sounds like a flowery way of saying "set your expectations low so you can meet them" if you admire the way Jason Momoa lives, then you should be working towards that. Sometimes it's by watching others that we realize what we really want out of life. Experiences, friends, memories, starting a family, putting all your passion into something for a greater cause, artistic expression, love or freedom. So I believe that personally, we should always set our expectations high. You never know how easy some things actually are until you really put your effort into trying your hand at them.
Maybe it's just me but I don't see why self growth would always begin with self acceptance. I think self growth strive towards self acceptance rather than beginning with it. I can't accept and be happy with who I am today. That's what makes me keep trying to self improve and better my situation.
I've been feeling this a lot lately. My old school friends are all now partnered up or married, with well paid work or husbands with well paid work, they own their own home and most have at least one child. Meanwhile I'm single, out of work and renting after experiencing multiple disastrous life experiences, long term health problems, setbacks and traumas whilst my old friends' lives have been mostly carefree. It's very difficult to keep going and not to feel hopeless. I got up today and went to the gym even though I didn't feel like it, and went for a walk round the park. Unfortunately I bumped into one of these old friends which as usual resulted in me feeling rubbish. I'll keep working on myself and towards my goals consistently, avoid comparing myself to others and I pray one day my life will be better. Update: I'm feeling a bit better now. I'm working hard on starting a business and I've got my own allotment now which I'm preparing to grow food. Update 2: I'm not doing so well after a major bereavement, just taking it one day at a time. Thanks for all your comments, support and encouragement. I'll keep going.
your life is amazing and it would be better with time dw, you have seen worse in the life now what left is the best so be ready to get that, and prepare yourself for the best ameen !!
Have you tried letting any hate anger embarrassment etc towards ur old friends go? To be happy for them, you don’t have to reconnect with people to have closure. It’s for your healing not theirs. Cause if you aren’t close with these old friends as you imply- then sorry but you have absolutely no idea if their lives are carefree and easy. You can have your self pity party if it makes you feel better; you might think your life is so much harder,your burdens and troubles must be WAY worse, but if everyone was standing in a circle and threw their “baggage” or problems into the circle- you’d grab your bs back so fast. People deal with unimaginable lossses (as well as gains)every. Single. Day. You can compare to others lives, that’s not the toxic part. The toxic bit is you can’t apparently be happy for them.
I feel the same exact way!! I’m 30. My friends are all either with partner or married have good jobs while I’m still single, renting a tiny room with a lady. Having a minimum wage job. I try to not compare myself with others because each one’s journey is different but let’s admit some people are fortunate than others. And we’re one of the unfortunate ppl.
The "mainstream" wants you to be distracted by trash that doesn't matter though. People spend countless hours sitting around talking and/or arguing about celebrities, sports, politicians, etc...all such a waste.
Well said...couldnt agree more....we begin to truly live when we stop comparing ourselves to others and embrace who we are with our own unique gifts and talents.
I'm 70 years old, wanted to let yo know that at your age you have figured out what is very important in life. We are always searching for who we are, why we are and in the end, what ever we went through to be where we end up, is our journey and at our pace. Along the way, the best gift you can give anyone is kindness and understanding that they are ok, they are loved and important. You are a breath of fresh air, never forget you are an important part of this puzzle called life.
I've just turned 34, I'm currently single and I'm unemployed with a history of jobs that had no end goal in mind. I only now finding the voice in myself to ask what I want in life and be honest with myself. It took a recent heartbreak to realise this but I'm glad it happened now not when I'm 50. Just found this channel and love your stuff. Thank you
same, but no employment has lasted longer than 3-4 months, for me. I’m also less optimistic and more just acceptin of everything, at this point. it took a long ass while, but no matter what, when, where, how, why, or who, life, for me’s, literally, been nothin but takin 1 step forward just to get knocked backwards 2. after 16 years of bouncin from job to job, watchin all my friends and graduatin class leave me in the dust, new, younger, groups of friends of mine, eventually, do the same, and me be in the exact same place that I was when I was in grade school, I’ve finally just accepted the fact that I prolly won’t ever amount to shit and I’m a die alone and that no matter what I try, or don’t try, nothin’s gonna change, ever. it’s just the more I try to better myself the worse life gets for me. only thing I have a say so in, in my life, is when I die... I just learned to accept the innevitable, if that makes any sense.
Nope, if someone know they just ignore all the chance they have, they didn't do what they can do earlier coz they thought they can do or they are being over too confident even though they didn't try then after so many years they do it and it's very wrong... And their age is too old and they are in the starting line so they change their doing but the same so they go back to what they do If the quote you said is the basis The old people in my country that go to school will stop They say don't stop learning don't be ashamed of you don't know a thing There is never to late.. Even though they are 60 or older I don't know if I translate it right Keep learning Don't stop learning Not sure what is what
I’m 31 and slowly am just now finding myself after many many years of anguish, anxiety, and worrying about how I was “falling behind”. I have my degree in social sciences, but haven’t really found myself at all. I began working as a landscaper and have been saving up some money. We all gotta start somewhere, and when you stop comparing yourself to others that’s when you start to feel a little bit of freedom. I hope someone finds relation in this post. Edit: Overwhelmed by the support this comment got and can now see I’m not alone in the journey. Thought I would share what I’m up to now. Landscaping ended for the season and I was able to get a job as a substitute teacher during hybrid learning in my county. The support I got on this comment has kept me pushing along. I just wanted to let you all know how much it truly means to me that you all have my back and left such kind comments. Keep pushing on friends, we’re all gonna make it. - Shred
Thank you for putting this up. Everyone’s comments about still feeling lost even being further along when you’re supposed to have “figured it out” has helped a ton. Good luck to you brother
Shred Daze I’m 52 and have a degree in social sciences too. My health is deteriorating and I feel my time is running out. I can’t physically do what I want to do anymore, so keep doing what you enjoy and it will all work out ok. I want to emigrate and start over again and with Covid, I may not be able to get to where I want and need to be.
Thank you for that. I'm 28 years old and I'm currently studying BS Mechanical Engineering. I'd been vacant for 7 years and now, I'm turning 4th year college. I'm still in disbelief and feeling proud of myself. I was really depressed before about my life but now I've just proven that nothing is impossible as long as you trust yourself and you have big faith in God. ☺
Im 31 as well, definitely feeling behind, not feeling the motivation or even direction to make myself the best me......and 31 feels so freaking old, feels like Im running out of time
Matt Klaus 31! Seriously, it’s no age at all. I wish I could go back just 10 years and reboot my life. The best thing you can do right now is take care of your health so that when you do find out where or what you desire, you’ll be in good shape. Losing one’s health is more of a hindrance than the number of candles on your birthday cake, believe me! Good luck and don’t be so hard on yourself x
You're still never gonna feel enough because each day you'll have to be better than the last one. It's still a competition, it just seems like a healthier one. Why comparing in the first place. Where are we going? Has anybody arrived and said ok, today I made it? No! Well that's what I'm going to be. I have fucking arrived and I don't have to be better than yesterday. I don't have to be a dick that doesn't know how to take care of himself either. I'm just gonna meet my basic needs, help others do the same, care for the environment and make me some money for a living doing something simple I love. That's fucking it. No need for bettering oneself. It's a never-ending game full of sacrificing being present which in the end trains your brain to always look for the future and think and analyze the past. The most rigged game there is. Sorry if I stepped on any self-help toes here. It was my intention.
To those people who feel left behind. I realized that life is really a journey. There is no shortcut to success. You really need to enjoy, endure the process and work hard. Life is not about destination, its about how you turn all your failures and disappointments into motivation because it will make your life meaningful.
Thank you for those words, and it really means it. True, and I know it may sound cheesy and very traditional for someone who's 28, age of settlement, married, and has a stable job and home. I felt like, 'why me. Why I don't catch on the stage?' I tried my best not to think of that stuff.
@@Lee-Hayoung Yeah but you know what each one of us has its own timeline, I always believe that there is no such thing that as you reach at this age you should share same success like your same age group have. You don't need to rush thing, God will give you everything you want at perfect time. Might as well try to read the stories of famous billionaire all over the world they also encountered a lot of failures, ups and down before becoming the person who they are now
this video really did struck a chord for me. i have never considered where my lack of self love came from as well. Truth is, I'm scared. I'm scared that I'm not using my time in the best way possible. I'm scared that everyday, I'm unconsciously closing down more and more opportunities that I could have taken. I'm scared that more than anything, I don't or won't have a true friend. And i think the pure vulnerability of the situation makes me want to distract myself by any means possible; food, youtube, tv, hobbies
Darryl Lai my name is Nikolao I am Brasilian Italian lives in uk , and in my 44 years all my life u am Growing And being pay atention in my Life, and I realise All words you said I am relate as well, and in love all efforts and Sensitiveness and All , fails .. I feel so down must days, but i try to be good man and Best person EVERYSINGLE day of my life. I do the best I can 🙏
I am 34, still not married, still failed to secure a stable job, have no car, and have no house. I'm trying to be positive all the time, trying my best to ignore this feeling but sometimes the reality hits me so hard like I'm feeling so ashamed with my life, like I can't comprehend that my life turns out to be this way. Im trying my best to live my life but it feels like nothing is working out. I feel like I want to relive my life again and make a better decision. I feel that everyone is leaving me alone, achieving their dreams but I am still here standing alone.
It's an emotional phase, pretty difficult, but it shall pass and you're certainly destined for great things Lets believe this together, because I feel exactly how you feel!
I’m in a similar situation. I can’t help but feel like a failure. All my past relationships never worked out and i’ve been in constant turmoil all throughout my life due to untreated mental illness. Its nice to know there are other people out there on the internet that feel the same way but in real life I am completely alone.
If you were able to restart your life you would just make the same mistakes though. Be grateful that you now understand how not to live , and make the best of the time you have left. I'm 30 and I'm in the same exact boat. We're going to make it!
What about how happy you were, how much you achieved, how you fulfilled your potential etc etc. The harder things to be satisfied about, but no less important
@The Metalhead Same here and I am 48. I´ve realized that I ll never have a career in my life. That's a daily fight against frustration. On the other hand, cause I know things will not change I try to find joy from other things. I mean. Still we are lucky. And so much to enjoy.
agree. whenever i see posts about trips and social events i get very sad. i keep wishing to have what they have, then i stopped looking at instagram and facebook. i don't have this envious feeling anymore. people post things to get likes, to get attention but my life isn't like theirs and that's nothing wrong with it. i have my own time to reach my goals. that's the only thing that should matter.
If you are reading this, I want you to know that you are capable of achieving great things. No matter what challenges you may be facing, never give up on your dreams and never stop working towards your goals.
Michael Dublanko very true.. n I also hurried in my career... cleared all my papers hurriedly and now I feel I’m not ready to take next step as a specialist bcox I feel I’m not ready ... so in my case I feel it make sense.. haha 😂
I knew what I wanted to be at 18, and I still want to be that. Life had other plans. Now I'm 26. So 7 years and 1 psychotic break later, I'm living in a new town I kinda hate honestly and I have no job.🤷♀️🤷♀️😔😔❤
After high school, back in 2018, I was overwhelmed as to how many responsibilities were laid into my life. So overwhelmed that I did nothing for 2 and a half years. As time went on, I started feeling like a total failure. Every family gathering, I would get bombarded with questions as to what exactly I was going to do in life. Thanks for this video man, it really helped out
With life, like everything else, I find that it’s quality and not quantity that matters. Your life is yours to live, no-one else’s, simply beat peace in whatever you do.
I can relate. during my senior year of high school I was so depressed and didn't even apply to universities, and now I regret it so much(granted, I probably wouldn't have survived university buy oh well 🤷)
This was my life. Smoked away my government assistance staying at my grandparents house for 3 years after rehab the first time, which started after rehab. But the root cause was just being overwhelmed. "Edit" After getting my shit together and my ass off drugs, I can now say. No I wasn't overwhelmed, I was stupid and addicted and making bad decisions. My fault.
In 2019 i ran into an old classmate/friend of mine and she was like " i am so happy, married with a kid, a job, a home, a car, all is great" . Made me feel like a complete loser, being jobless, homeless, husbandless, kidless, i felt like my life was =0. In 2021, same person "Oh i dovorsed finally, my marriage was a living hell for 9years & not even my parents supported me!" Some are faking their happiness, so pls learn to be grateful and 🤲 so that God blesses u.
StickguyMB sis let me tell you they really do be watching and hearing us because i never typed anything of the sort for this to be in my algorithm exactly when im feeling this way
I’m 38 years old. Dead end job, but it’s the best I can get after going to 200 interviews in the past 15 years and always getting rejected. No partner. No children. No home of my own. I can’t afford to move out because it’s too expensive. No friends. I feel stuck and trapped in life. Others are living in a different world it seems. I try and reach out to people but nobody responds. I have nightmares. Headaches Migraines Earworms Loneliness No pet my parents won’t have one in the house. Can’t stand the constantly swearing shouting and arguing here. Other friends are well ahead of me and I’m still sleeping in the room I grew up in. I feel so far left behind I don’t know what to do anymore. Each waking moment is fucking agony!!!!!
Hey friend I wish I lived near you I would be your friend. I can totally relate to your message because I am 46 and struggling like hell in life also and it makes me feel suicidal. I am from CANADA St Catherine's Ontario were are you from??? Sending love brother I know the feeling of loneliness.
I’m so sorry I can’t imagine what that must be like. Its been a year since you wrote that comment. Even though it’s probably unlikely I can only hope things have improved for you? I’m in a similar situation. I can’t help but feel like a failure. All my past relationships, wether that be friendships, or love never worked out and i’ve been in constant turmoil all throughout my life due to untreated mental illness. All I ever wanted was to one day get married and settle down with someone I love. But I don’t think i’ll ever find happiness. There’s more to it too but I just don’t feel comfortable sharing on here…Its nice to know there are other people out there on the internet that feel the same way, but in real life I am completely alone. I wish I could tell you that things will get better but I have no idea. The only thing keeping me going, is the tiniest amount of hope I still have and knowing that there are other people that feel the same way. Unfortunately I never meet them in real life. Its such a lonely existence.
School always makes me feel alive. Human nature is to gain meaningful information and grow, even though school isn't necessary for that, it's the quickest way to that.
If we grow up in a very structured environment with constant expectations placed upon us, once those are removed we can feel out of control and a bit lost. I'm still learning how to put structure into my day. You might find this book helpful - The Artist's Way, by Julia Cameron. Best wishes.
@@dawnross2514 The most beneficial structure and expectations are the ones you set for yourself, arguably they're the only ones that matter. But they're also the hardest to establish AND maintain. Equilibrium is such a hard thing to accomplish but when we do achieve that, I bet it feels better than anything our senses can give us
This is what I got from reading a great book called "The Art of Possibility". The one concept from this book was "It's all invented". Every measurement we use to judge ourselves and other people, it's all invented. Some by social, most are in our head.
My best friend just told me he got offered an amazing job literally half an hour ago and although I'm so happy for him, I've been in my head thinking "Holy shit all my friends are moving on with life and Im still working the job of a high-schooler" and this popped up in my recommended. Definitely gonna give it a watch
Comparing yourself with friends is the worse! I have very talented friends, who I am so proud of, and I immediately feel guilty when I get the feeling that I am left behind, because I start to envy them. I just have to constantly remind myself to keep doing my best and try to achieve things by myself, for myself. I had that talk with a stranger who told me the fact that I choose to surround myself with people in constant improvement showed a lot about my personnality. We agreed it was a good thing that should encourage me to keep evolving, rather than put pressure on my tiny overthinking brain :)
Same, most of my peers are accountants, attorneys, doctor, and here I am working in a minimum wage job. On my spare time I keep on sending application letter but haven't succeeded getting a new job since it's the middle of pandemic. 😔
@@loulou2302 it's ok, you'll make it! Keep going and giving your best, but also don't hesitate to ask for help when you need it! 😁 it's currently a bad period, but try to make the best out of it if I can say so
Maybe moving on in life for you is finally organizing your living space, or learning a new language or making amends with a loved one. The biggest take away I got from this video is we all have our own unique measuring stick for success and happiness. I hope you keep discovering your “moving on’s”both small and grand.
I am in college and I have been a lot depressed lately. I don't know what is the exact reason behind it.. But one such reason could be that some of my frnds are doing skill enhancement things, projects etc. And I think I am not doing anything as a such and maybe I am lacking behind them.. I don't know how to cope up with this negative mindset 😔
@@UTKARSHSINGH-ie2ur Then start investing in yourself buddy, take your time, see what your interests are, start grooming yourself and stop comparing yourself to other people cause everyone has different paths. Read books, start working out, invest in yourself.
@@fibinphilip9810 thanks for the suggestion.. It is indeed helpful but I am still not sure how to proceed further without getting myself over competitive with others and losing my purpose of life and peacefulness. I have been in a great stress nowadays, I think that people all around me are running a race even they themselves don't know to where it might end. Please suggest some more tips 😔, it might prove helpful for me
Been feeling like a loser lately, especially when I'm with my friends. I'm 27 now and realize how behind i am in life. When we were in high school and years back, i didn't feel a distance around my friends like that since we were all young and you don't have that sense of urgency to gef your life together. Now that I'm 27, i always feel like a loser hanging out with them. A lot of them are married, in a long term relationship, being financially stable, owning their own houses.. while I'm here working a minimum wage job and living with my aunt because i can't afford to live on my own. I actually graduated with a bachelor's degree in nursing, but i never practiced as a nurse since my mental health took a bad turn. I feel so lost in life. Sure i have a degree, but it's essentially useless since i haven't been in the nursing field for almost 5 years and healthcare changes constantly. I don't know what I'm doing. I fe so bad when my friends plan vacation outside of the country while i have to pretend to be busy but in reality i can't go because i si ply can't afford it. :(
Go get a job as a nurse assistant and get back on track. I'm working on my prerequisites to get into a RN program and it seems so far away and that feeling sucks. The longer you stay where you are the worse you'll feel. You'll instantly feel better if you take steps towards bettering your life. Good luck.
Staying at home for nearly a month in quarantine gets you thinking and feeling things that are new to you. Everyone's making art, developing a skill, acquiring a language etc. It made me feel like I need to work on something too - that I constantly need to improve myself or my craft, knowing that the virus is still out there. This video really opened my mind to the perspective that we shouldn't constantly pressure ourselves in doing something like what the others are doing. In the middle of this pandemic, it's okay to worry for yourself and your family's safety without having to worry about reading 20 books or learning 5 languages. Anyways, after assuring your safety and security amidst the pandemic, do what you want. And if you don't want to do anything, that's fine too.
Triple LIKE to this! Thank you for pointing this out because it makes so much sense and something i can very much relate to! Really appreciate you for posting this!
I just turned 30 and seeing so many ppl I graduated college with get promoted in their jobs while I go through so many failures is difficult. I needed this blog and love the comments!
go Independent mate; start a business, or become a freelancer. Let me tell you, that them idiots suck up to their bosses and polish a lot of apples ( or anything with the shape of an apple!) to get to their position, they'd sell their own mothers for a promotion. Honest work doesn't belong in a bullshit place like a company, you should rather own it and make it only yours. That's what I can give a stranger on YT as an advice from someone who realised he's not a corporate person at all, after wasting a fortune of time persuing the bullshit life
@V A You're right. Although things are getting better due to great resignation, it's still slavery and you shouldn't rather accept it. The future is simply more capitalistic in that every industry is more leaning towards freelancing and gigs ( though gigs are abusive most of the time). Stay strong and have a good day!
Nah Keep Trying Failing Always Teaches us Something Is to not Give up u Still got it and Keep Trying maybe you Will Get There and Never Ever GIVE UP ON URSELF AND MAKE UR DREAM ACTUALLY COME TRUE!
Great content mate, thanks for sharing your thoughts. I'm 39, and my life turned out to be very different that I imagined to be when I was younger, but I'm deeply grateful for what I am. No social media, no TV, not comparing myself with others; I make sense of the world and its wonder by myself. Be humble, treat yourself and others with love and compassion.
I’m 25 and still on my last year of university, i’ve just quit my last job and then had to stay home for 4 months because of Covid 19, spent all of my saving. Yesterday my mom told me that she was worried because i’m 25 yet still have nothing while many people at my age have accomplished a lot 😞 Im an INFP so i struggle a lot with my career choice, yet i feel like i can’t open with anyone about it
I relate. at 26 and covid 19 has ensured i use all my saving with which i wanted to start a business with, currently jobless, with a degree, no connection a single mum......aaaaaai! but if things become too bad, am glad suicide will hug me.
@@blessedfela1515and @Trinh Nguyen, I am so sorry you guys are in such a hard spot right now, especially because this pandemic has affected your finances. However, you both are still young, and have much time on your side to figure it out. Life is not about the end goal, as that is an illusion, it's about the journey and the moments of FIGURING SHIT OUT AND TRYING SHIT OUT. Look, my brother is 26 and still lives at home with my parents. My parents are also worried about him because of what society says of where people should be by their mid 20s, but he just started working on getting a nursing degree right now, and I expect in years to come he will be a fine nurse living on his own. Even if he changes his mind, that's okay, he will eventually figure out something that works for him. I am also an INFP and have no idea what I am doing once I graduate (I'm 22) AND with little money saved. But in moments when I feel overwhelmed by it, I try to appreciate what I have in the present and recognize that making a decision as to what to do is better than not making any at all. Inaction is worse than actions of failures. And actions of failures aren't really failures because they help you realize what doesn't work and move you closer to what does. I will not deny that I am fortunate and have a family to lean on. This is why I think creating a small community of people that support you is so crucial, whether online or in person, if you feel alone in the endeavor of life. We all need people to help us smile through our darkest days or just listen to our complaints and offer some advice. They also serve to give us some perspective we aren't aware of. I honestly wish you both the best. You both are not alone and I hope you both reach out to more people on how you feel so you can truly get the help you both need AND DESERVE. I don't normally respond to youtube comments, but I didn't want to leave both of your suffering unaddressed. I, myself, was in depression last year, and made it out on the other side through routines, meditating, and a support system. It's different for everyone as to how they overcome it, but I hope you both find your solace. Lots of love from this gal
Blessed Fela I'll be 26 on the 26th. I too have a degree in marketing with no experience/ connections. I was a waitress, but have been furloughed because of COVID and we're expected to go back on the 21st. I've been panicking because I haven't tried looking for a job to use my degree in and I'm so depressed because I'm scared to go back to working in a restaurant with this virus going on. I feel soooo hopeless and then I saw this video. Something will come out way when it's right!
“Tired of lying in the sunshine, staying home to watch the rain. You are young and life is long, and there is time to kill today. And then one day you find, 10 years have got behind you. *No one told you when to run. You missed the starting gun* “ -Pink Floyd
I'm 20,I've been feeling this lately... I feel kinda depressed with a really low self esteem. I can't stop measure my potential with others and I feel really worthless at times. Thank you for your video. I will keep reminding myself of this everyday too. 💯
At 20 you are barely starting your life lol, i mean this respectfully. You have a long way ahead of you to figure out who you are, to experience, to build yourself and become the person you want to be. But it looks like you are on the right track if you are concern with such matters. In their 20s a lot of people mostly care about partying, having fun etc….pretty much meaningless things, and later on they find themselves and their calling in life.
@@magicdinho107 Greetings, Thank you for sharing your thoughts and opinions about this. I fully acknowledge everything you've said. And may God bless you for having taken the time to write such a meaningful message. 🌸✨
With all due respect, 20 is so so so young. Now is the time to be lost and figure out what you want to do in life. I'm 30, I'm just starting to figure out what I want out of life. Some people know exactly what they want early on and some people figure it out late and that's okay. Relax and just do your best. You got plenty of time and life ahead of you.
Needed this right now :) I'm beginning again at 27 after break up of a 6 year relationship. Starting new life, new location, new career path, and I'm just not where I thought I would be right now in life but that's ok.
GreenFairyPrincess... I wish you all the best. I have a question. You don't have to answer it if it's painful. I had a friend that went through a similar life path... Spent her entire 20s with a guy, only to have him leave. It nearly broke her. I could never bring myself to ask my friend why she gave her youth away. Why she stayed with the guy for so long without a commitment for marriage. I wonder if you could make me understand. When a woman's 20s are so very valuable, and irreplaceable... Why would you stay with a man and invest those valuable years without a commitment from him? I know this could be super painful, so I apologise for asking... But it puzzles me, and I greive for my friend. Aloha 🙂
@@breakingthemasks i wouldn't classify it as intentionally "giving away youth". This happened to me. And in hindsight I finally understood that I didnt REALLY value myself fully. I never stopped to consider "hey im losing my youth to this asshole" it was more like I love and "need" this person. And when u "need" someone, it takes your power. Every thing u need is in u. It's scary to confront. But at that young age its just being blinded by surroundings. Whatever that may be. Plus at that young age its like your BARELY allowed to start living on your own terms, depending on how controlling parents may be.
@@italyc9132 ... Oh indeed. I have no doubt that the vast import of the daily and weekly and yearly decision to remain with a man during such a long time is not realized in the moment. If your young self could see the sand slipping through the hourglass, she'd no doubt have terminated that relationship and chosen a man who would pay (with a marriage commitment) for her youth. But I think you answered my question... That the reason you stayed so long without a commitment was that you didn't value yourself (and thus your youth) as highly as you should have. And simultaneously you valued your connection to the man so highly that any risk and any price was worth it. So at the time, you saw the equation as you needing this man, and the price of your youth was something you were willing to pay, since you didn't feel that you or your youth was valuable... At lease not compared to being with this marvelous man. Only after it ended did you realize that you yourself have value, and that your youth was valuable. Something like that anyway I think. Thank you for sharing. I know so many girls who have traveled that exact path... An it breaks my heart for them. I wish you good luck in your future travels. 🙂
When you live in a world with numerous 20-something multi millionaires who the media is always flashing in your face, what do you expect? Of course you're going to constantly feel behind in life. I'm sitting here in my mid 50's thinking, when I was in my 20's I felt lucky to be where I was in life compared to the rest of my family and peers. And I didn't even make over 30k until I was well into my 30's!
You think that the cars and houses are all paid for? They're all rented. Kim Kardashian made her money from a sex tape, pimped out by her own mother. It's all smoke and mirrors to make the masses believe they've worked hard for what they have.
i haven’t watched this yet, but the fact that there are 2.9 MILLION views, just goes to show that we all feel like we’re falling behind, when in reality, no one really knows what they’re doing. it’s sort of a comfort.
It's all societal. People are conditioned to believe that life is all about this race. And everything that you're saying is 100% correct. Life is not designed specifically to be lived out one way.
This is so true. The idea of this race, on being successful with kids, or of fulfilling some purpose, is something that naturally emerged as the ultimate goal for happiness, because this idea benefits society as a whole. It's an idea that won't necessarily benefit you as an individual, though. Each individual is going to have a slightly different pace that works for them, a different path to happiness and contentment.
"You are where you need to be" is what I keep telling myself. I see so many of my friends getting married, having kids, and buying houses. I'm single, no kids, and slowly realizing my path to happiness may look different than theirs.
“When the day comes, or if the day comes, that I’m able to finally get it in my head, that I am who I am, I am how I am, I’ll be able to accept that I’m doing the best I can”
Anyone in their 20's, no job, no degree and utterly frustrated at theirselves Have FAITH, cuz you may never know...... Do wat you like..like wat you do We are all in it together This right here.........
@John White sounds like you want to give back. While yes you live an ideal life, doing things outside of making yourself happy ends up making the most happy. Volunteer work, charity, mission trips to other poor countries. There are people out in the world that could use your help.
Im fucking 31 herion addict all around addict virtually homless no fucking teeth be to jail and rehab more time than i can count lost my kids had best friends kill there selfs cant hold a job down becuase a addiction i have this killer body and good looks that i take for granted each day cuase i love the needle and yet i still wake up each day and have faith yeah i think about killing myself atleast once a day all i can do is live for the day and greatful for the little things we rarely appreciate like fresh air stay blessed
I agree I have always hated that question. "Where do you see yourself in 10yrs" i think the same as you, its impossible to predict what i will be doing in 10yrs, i may not be even here then.
Of course life is unpredictable but I believe that this question also holds a lot of potential of you setting a realistic goal for the future. It makes clear that some important desicions in the present may affect the outcome later on.
Edit: I'm so glad to see the positivity on this post. I wrote a little update in the comments 💕 I'm 18, can't drive, have extreme anxiety, no friends, and no clue where I'm going. I am taking college for a degree in business management just to fill time. I'm just so confused, I don't know what career to pursue.
@Young Pappy It might be a blessing honestly. We're better able to accept whatever comes out way because we didn't have any expectations to begin with. I wish you luck, brother. May we both find a place in this chaos
I’m 21 and i also can’t drive (i’m also a male). My colleagues and family wants me to learn to drive (my father has a car) but i refuse to. It’s a pain in the ass to learn and i enjoy commuting where i just stare outside while someone drives for me. And it’s hella cheap compared to owning a car. Don’t be pressured by the people surrounding you. Don’t care what they say. If they still pressure you, save some money and get the hell out of the city or country and start a new life.
Me too, I also envy those people who don't have financial problem. How lucky of them still, I love my life and the way it is. It just ammh some part of me are envy HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH.
'I feel like I have to remind myself every day' resonates so well with me, because I keep coming back to this video again and again, just to remind myself that life isn't linear and I have to follow with my own pace.
I totally agree with you. At the end of the day I'm ok with myself, I accept who I am. But things change when I relate to others. When I tell them that I didn't go to college or that at 30 yo I still don't know what I want and I'm only interested in traveling, that I don't have a stable relationship, they watch me like I'm a weirdo. I know this happens only because the story of my life doesn't coincide with theirs, because I've missed some stages. But it's not simple to find people that understand and don't judge you.
I felt the same way when I was that age (in my early thirties)... I was a lot like what you just described. I too, was a single woman who had not yet decided on what I wanted to do in the world, didn't have a family, didn't have a husband to speak of... And didn't quite fit the mold the rest of society seemed to insinuate to me that I should fit into. But over the years after having met several types of people who actually did share the same qualities I had, I've learned that many times I believed others would look at me as though I were a weirdo, we're actually just my own judgments that I put on myself based on what I thought society felt I should be versus what I actually thought I was. It was my own self judgement that I was projecting onto others having for me. My perceptions were not there actual perceptions at all of me... in fact, in several situations I later found out that those people never looked at me at all in the ways I thought they did... Most of them never really had an opinion about me to tell you the truth. Don't be so quick to assume that other's judgments are what you think they are. In reality... Your presumptions about how others see you is seldom correct! People are far too complex to see a ny particular perspective they have about anything without deep study and analysis ... and even then we miss a whole lot in regards to their perspectives on Any given topic. Long story short, people tend to form very simplistic opinions based on people whom they know fundamently are incredibly intricate and complex because they themselves are... So take others "extreemly simplified" opinions about you as evidence of the fact that they don't really care if you are "weird" or "normal" anyway... because fact is, most people who are mentally, emotionally and spiritually healthy and grounded tend to concern themselves far more with their own lives than they do with others lives. Even someone who delights in gossiping about others is really doing it for the sole purpose of gaining attention or excitement in their own life. It's not really about the person that they're gossiping about as much as it's about them and their own life feeling dull or mundane at the time and needing a boost of excitement through passionate dialog or exciting/interesting information exchange with others. Just be careful you are not making the same mistake that I made... Make you are not making assumptions that aren't based in reality. when it comes to others perspectives about you, your presumptions will rarely be correct... Also know, that your assumptions of others opinions about you, more often than not, are actually reflective to what you actually think of yourself... Try shifting your own opinion about what's considered "normal" and what's "weird", and your presumptions will change dramatically as well! Question, so while presuming that the other person thinks you are weird, are you thinking that they are weird too? Because from your point of view, anyone who living a lifestyle as opposite from you as they have should come across to you as being weird as well... Based on your life experiences and your perspective, anyone not living like you would be considered weird... Right? I suspect, however, that you do not consider them weird because of the fact that you know the social norms... And are therefore placing your own social constructs on the situation based on them. Which should prove to you that you are are therefore probably placing the same social contracts on yourself... You are actually the one judging yourself as weird... Trust me, when you stop seeing yourself as being weird, you will stop assuming that other see you as weird. From one weirdo to another, this is my truth and reality for you to take into consideration on this particular issue. 👍
@@technerdchic Thank you for your answer, it means so much for me. I'm trying to not judge myself, and I realized that traveling is something that is helping me a lot. I need to stay away from my family and from the little Italian town where I was born. It's all about changing our mental habits, the way we see ourselves. I'm curious: have you find the right person or are you still a free spirit? 😊
@@saragrauso9904 I'm happily involved with an amazing man now... Life has a way of changing drastically, and suddenly... For the better and for the worse. How u see yourself is vital as to how well you will be able to roll with the changes. Best of luck to you on your journey! 👍😁
I left school and college with three minor certificates at age 16. I floated through life around dodgy crowds until I got married and had my daughter. I found out I had dyspraxia and dyscalculia around 6 years ago that explained why I was always 'different' from my peers. I went through my early life not knowing who I was or where I was going because of my lack of education. Everyone else was getting jobs in subjects that baffled me, I was never going to get above minimum wage and destined to collect welfare....or so I thought. I now run my own business from home in massage, medical acupuncture and trigger point therapy after gaining a foundation degree amongst other attributes. I suffer from hypothyroidism and had a year of hell where I couldn't get off the couch. For the past two years I've lifted weights 4 days a week and have started running. I'll be 45 years old this coming summer, it's never too late to do the things you've always wanted and you shouldn't compare yourself to others. We go at our own personal pace.
Pfft I'm almost 23 and have no aspirations for college what so ever, just do what you want, or don't. Nothing is going to bite you if you stop or start it up again, by now, it's mostly disconnected from you, so why continue with this 'degree'?
Hey I've heard of people who take plenty of extra time on their degree. Its certainly not what most people do but don't feel especially alone in your situation. Are you close to being finished? Maybe take a break for a while and just work for maybe a year and see how you feel at the end. Might give you the opportunity to move out. You could then continue to work part time and finish studying part time as well.
Wow. Someone I can totally relate to... I'm in a similar situation. Except I'm 27 and about to graduate from a distance learning institution. Yet I feel even more depressed than I was during the six years of doing my degree. A lot of it is because of the people around me. Family and relatives. Their expectations of where I'm supposed to be and hurtful comments about where I am. Comparing me to people younger than me who studied completely different programmes than I have. And so I've cut them off over the years. For my own sanity. I'm praying for a job that's in a city far away from my own where no-one knows me or my history, so I can start living for nobody else but myself. Trust me when I tell you that you are not alone. Just hang in there and keep working at it. Everything will fall into place in the end.
I’m 39 years old and I realize that I’m actually doing just fine even though I still live with my mother I found out who I truly am and I’m actually living every moment as much as possible and life is too short to worry too much about what you want to do in life I find that if you just realize that you are still doing well there’s nothing to worry in pretty soon down the line you will evolve. We all are only human and it’s important for us to acknowledge ourselves that we are doing great it’s important to be grateful Of every little thing that means a lot little things can have big memories and big accomplishment.
It's so sad how many people get dragged into this concept of 'success', where you have to tick these boxes made by other people's definitions of a worthwhile life (get a schooled education, make a career, settle down with a family, have kids, hoard loads of money from the career), and if you don't achieve these things, you're somehow wasting your life. There's no meaning of life, the only thing to define how successful you are is if, at the end of the day, you feel fulfilled and happy with what you did that day. Even if that's just hanging out with a friend, or playing video games, or simply getting out of bed and enjoying the world for what it is. If you enjoy sports, play sports. If you enjoy science, study it. If you want to be social, mess around with friends all day. If you don't want to be social, don't feel forced to do anything outside your comfort zone. Make your own rules for success and change them as you wish.
True, I think everyone should define their own measure of success. However, one should have a rough idea or plan to work towards. That could be travelling the world or just being a good parent, The plan may change and you might stumble along the way, but it is better than no plan at all. Direction gives you a purpose, a purpose gives you meaning, and meaning helps you to overcome all obstacles.
I had a friend tell me "I thought you were going to be the successful one" because I didn't end up in college right away or because I didn't have it figured out. I then realized that she was not a good friend and had no idea what I was going through. Don't judge people or make others feels worse because their definition of success isn't the same as yours.
I am 23 struggling with getting out of an Depressive situation still living with my parents after years of trauma ruled my life since High School. I'm struggling with the fact most other people my age are graduating college while I have gotten nowhere due to untreated mental illness. This video helps but the pressure is still real.
@@LD-2401 its not a waste of time. that piece of paper, or as we called it diploma, will guide you to any path you want to go even if its that degree you got is unrelated to the career you want to be in.
I’ll be 36 next month and I just started pursuing my dreams in music. Ive been struggling with doubt and feeling too old to start now. I only wanted to be a songwriter b4 but when no doors opened there, I decided to be an artist and release my own stuff. I felt behind because I tried in many jobs where I just DID NOT FIT and ended up leaving. That’s what ate up my 20s and early 30s, playing by the rules and losing. Now I’m putting my all into my passion and letting go of expectations. To anyone who reads this, just relax. And take one step towards the things that make you happy ✌🏾.
I'm 28 years old, and I'm finishing now my studies in Italian Literature and History. I've spent a lot of time thinking that the faculty that I've chosen was the right one because I've always loved literature, reading, and classical subjects. I' ve also always had low self esteem, especially during high school, but when I first started university I discovered that I was a really good student, that that was my world. I know it may sound strange, but without knowing it, totally unconsciously, I slowly started to identify myself just as the perfect student with the perfect results. So, after my very first rejection at university, I had a burnout and I've felt useless, stupid and unworthy. I've had a very difficult moment: I wasn't able to concentrate anymore, and I've passed through hymsomnia, depression, anxiety. I've felt paralized, uncapable to do anything and with the constant terror of failure. Most of all, I wasn't able to stop comparing myself to the others: in the meantime a lot of my colleagues already were graduating, and they were starting to work, to live their life apparently knowing exactly what they wanted. And I was there, looking at them behind a wall of glass, thinking that my dream to be a teacher was lost forever. Now, after a lot of time, thanks to therapy, I'm starting to feel a little better: I've just finished my exams, and I'm working on my final thesis. On march, despite Covid, i should finally graduate. I still have to work a lot on myself, sometimes I'm still my worst enemy, but things are slowly getting better and I'm working hard to learn how to be kind to myself everyday. For everone who's feeling lost in life: you're not. You are loved, you are worthy and your moment's gonna come. Love from Italy.
I think partly it is good to stop judging yourself, but it is also important to get enough encouragement from outside ( I mean external results , not other people ). And keep in mind everybody has a different personality. I think people these days under estimate the value of extrinsic satisfaction and put too much effort on Confuciousianism and Buddhistic minimalism. But I think if forced, this results exactly the opposite of solace. It just make yoh realise your mistakes when it's too late
Hello Stephania! What a lovely comment - thank you! For so long the world has concentrated almost entirely on the tangible, what can be achieved or acquired, but there is an understanding beyond this, and its making itself felt. A spirituality that has always been there, but we are slowly re-discovering. I do hope that you life is everything that you would wish it to be! With love from England.
TH-cam reccomendations have really blessed me, this is so eye opening! Thank you for making this. I'm just wondering, how on earth are your videos so underrated? More people should have watched this.
Being a 90s kid i grew up through not having smartphones, social media and comparisons to others, i was happy in my heart even without much but essentials and friends. Now i know how horrible and demonic social media and the modern world is for people's health and happiness. Anyone reading this do not compare yourself to anyone but who you were yesterday, I truly love each and every one of you and I hope you truly learn to fully accept and love yourself too xx ❤🤗 Lets be strong together
@@TheJamezay hey James, doing great over here, hope you are too. I loved your insightful comment, it's really inspiring and eye-opening in so many ways😉
Amazing video. I’m 22 and I’m so jealous of people who have it all “together.” I get more frustrated when I see younger people living their dreams. I try everyday to find my peace . Apparently I don’t try hard enough though
same! and i'm 23. not really jealous of where others are at but i truly envy their boldness to do things in life. i also feel like im just not trying hard enough. and have to make myself understand that the confidence i greatly need will come from nowhere else but myself
@@outfromshadows1862 I have had this happen to me, too. But then I came to realize that what I was studying for, I no longer wanted to do. I did something else instead. And I now know that I failed because my brain works differently from most people, that I retain information in a very different way, and so have a more difficult time in regurgitating that information. Please know that you are a person of value, that you have a right to be here on this Earth, and that we all have a gift to that we have been given to use. Sometimes it takes a while to find one's gifts. Accomplishments mean less than living your life with love and integrity. I hope that this helps. Be kind to yourself, as hard as that can be for us all sometimes.
@@outfromshadows1862 same, i am a 22 year old and all my friends get straight A's, well they try to help me and we study together but i feel like i am the dumpest of all..i am always just trying to get by. Its not so easy to feel good at all times. I started my TH-cam to express all that i am feeling and after saying all the things that bothers me over a mic, i feel a little better
I have been feeling this since a long time. my relatives are rich. cousins are going abroad from Punjab ,yes I am a Punjabi. they are earning dollars and we just find it difficult to meet our basic needs . I don't like to be out with them anymore . It feels like this is forever and obvious poverty finds even more poverty . I feel sad . I don't know how will i even survive.
I’m almost done with college and all of my friends are getting hired into good companies, dating with good partners and developing new skills. I’m unemployed, single and sometimes feel I haven’t learned what I needed in these past 4 years. One day a friend came up to me and said she wishes she were me because I’m “too far ahead”. Comparing different lives is so arbitrary, and it’s living at your own pace that makes life so interesting.
It's alot of 30 year olds in the comments that's expressing that they are still growing into themselves and are content with moving forward with their Passions. I'm 27 and I just want to let y'all know, seeing those comments are really inspiring. Looks like we all needed this video.😢😭
Yes came to mee at the right time. I am 29 years old but feeling stuck in life don't know what to do though I feel like things but don't know exactly what should be done. ?
@@goldeagle6391 you don't need to worry bro. Everything will be fine. You have bright future and good time waiting ahead for you. Just believe me your time is around the corner.
I love this video- I hate the "where do you see yourself in 5 years?" question , it's so crazy to think or expect your life to just be one way & not take into account the numerous opportunities and changes we go through as humans, on the daily! So in 5 years? I have no fucking clue. All I hope is that in 5 years, I've changed into a person, and a place that developes my growth
Ad Dalai Lama sais: " Hope is the only thing we got" Namaste. Stay well whereever You are - I am 68' now and my experience is : Say precent, live in the now and dont let Your ego spoil Your life ! ❤
Out of two roads in the woods, take the one less travelled by. I myself have had a long life already, going many different ways. Starting Something new, giving it up and travelling on. I never had a specific purpose. When I thought I was in a lifesituation that fitted my thoughts about living sustainably, collectively and so on, something came in my way. I tried again, same thing happened. My life has been moving and educating myself but I never got this wonderful carreer, that seems to be what everyone should go for theese days. Fortunately. I suffered. Learned. Suffered and was about to give up living. Then I found Echkart Tolle speaking on TH-cam more than 3 years ago. He saved my life.
I’ve been told that I’m behind in life cuz I haven’t done what others have done. This includes having a driving license, love life etc. At first I felt embarrassed as others younger than me or the same age have theirs, or in general have accomplished stuff that I haven’t yet, to me it sounds stupid but gotta understand that everyone’s life is different and you shouldn’t be rushed to do something out of pressure just to “catch up” to feel better. Finding yourself and finding God will do that. Your time will come. It’s like is there a life checklist that must be completed by a certain age or time. God’s timing is perfect and we should be ourselves and do ourselves no matter what anyone says. Majority of society don’t posts their failures or down times so don’t let social media Rush you or make you feel a certain way… love this vid and everyone else out there keep pushing 👍👊❤️
Fuck society and its dumb expectations. Where you are is where you should be. And rest assured, your peers who you think are ahead are wrestling with the same demons of regret and insecurity. They are parts of the human condition, however they have exacerbated enormously by our dysfunctional "modern" age. You're not alone, and you're doing fine.
Just be yourself. Surround yourself with people who love you unconditionally. Try to find work in an area you actually enjoy. And most importantly..spend time doing things you love no matter what they are or what people think of them. You only have one life. Make it a good one.
That's all well and good but it's really unattainable and unrealistic cliche. Life is never going to be great no matter how hard you try to shift your mindset. The only hope anyone has is reconciliation to God through Jesus Christ, and having eternal life after death in a sinless body.
@Block Chain I'm sorry you feel that way. I love *unconditionally* and accept a person the way they are, and not how I want them to be or for what they will give me. It's the only way I know how to love.
I'm 20 and most of the time, I just wanna be back to high school when I didn't feel the pressure to be successful. I see my classmates and those I used to be friends with having the best relationships and having a successful career and here is me who's unemployed and single since birth. I'm afraid that I might die alone and be unsuccessful in life. But yeah there is no type of measurement to measure if you're behind in life. You just gotta move forward. For me, I try to learn new thing and better myself everyday.
"One day you're going to wake up and realise you've wasted your whole life being miserable" -my mother I understand what she is saying and I wish I could change how I feel every day but I cant seem to connect the missing link. 😑
honestly this might sound silly but just try writing three things you’re grateful for everyday. i’ll give you 3 you probably have: 1) you can breathe without difficulty 2) you have 4 functioning limbs 3) you can see
This quote sounds like an insult disguised as helpful advise. It's shaming you for feeling miserable i.e. sad, depressed, anxious, angry or grieving a loss. It implies that these feelings are a waste of time and you should be happy, having fun, being fulfilled. Is there any concern for what is causing you pain?
I was stuck feeling left behind for a whole year last year and depression seeped in which led to multiple mental breakdowns in my car all alone. It took me a while to get back up, I quit social media, I stopped thinking about other ppl's achievements and tried to focus on myself and what I can do to achieve things in life. But most importantly I had to learn to listen to myself. What I thought was wrong with me wasn't, I just simply wasn't listening hard enough. I just needed to take my own time and learned my own tempo. Thank god I've been having much better days.
Yoongi boongi i feel the same way right now, and i have for a long time. what did you do in order to see things differently? because i’ve tried and nothing has worked out so far lol
@@naomisimms2083 well I stopped watching other people's lives and started watching my own. I tried to get a sense of understanding for myself. I would go own with my day and I'd make a mental note for things that made me feel okay and for things that didn't. And it took a lot of self control. Whenever I started slipping back into depression, I'd tell myself to keep moving forward and try to slow down my thoughts. And slowly I stopped caring so much about other people's lives and paid attention to mine.
I love your response. Me too ..and self examination and reflection have become regular habits for me...im in my early 30s and feel my life passing by because I have passively been accepting my life "how it is" when I could be actively changing it and participating in it rather than just always being an observer!
I'm 56 and at the time of my life I'm caring for my elderly parents. My dad passed away 5 months ago peacefully at home with mom and I, just as he'd hoped he would. I'm lucky...but, yeah, I'm behind. Life's a complicated, difficult and emotionally challenging journey. I feel like I'm tripping along my path and can't figure out how I'm no longer 20. Like I don't understand time. You'll have to remind yourself often. Nicely done, young man 😊.
Same here MJ T... may your father rest in peace he was a lucky guy to have you... i am 48 and finally financially stable to do what i would love in life and tadaaa my father got sick and i have to take care of him... had to leave all behind everything i have worked for for 30 years but i am grateful for the time we have and that i am able to be there for him. But yes time is holding us back at the moment because maybe our time has not come yet. Wish you that all your dreams come true ☺️
Thank you for this. I wrote it down in my notebook, in the middle of a year’s worth of anxiety surrounding not having things figured out already. It helps to know people even at ages where we *are* “supposed” to have everything set in order, don’t necessarily have that. Thank you for the reassurance. Good luck to you
It completely resonates with me . Today I talked with a friend and I realised that his teens and 20s was great compared to my life - a lot of girls came into his life and I realised that where was I in those days , my religiousness background completely took away my days of joy. But thinking about it is not the solution ,I have to work on myself. ♥️
It's crazy to think that I made this and then a month went by before I finally decided to post it because I wasn't sure anyone would relate. I'm glad I did - thank you for all of your wonderful comments. Let's stop beating ourselves up so much.
How did i click on this video just in time to see you post this comment 10 seconds ago
The reason why noticed this video is cause it's how feel most of the time. I'm glad you made this video thanks man.
I'd say we just discovered one thing the algorithm picks up on: a video even slightly related to your viewing history + creator posting a comment very recently = recommended
I'm glad it did. This was a great video. Very relatable.
I am so happy you decided to post it. I felt this for years.
Wow, this is really liberating. Thank you for making this, also the cinematography is beautiful!
“It is not uncommon for people to spend their whole life waiting to start living.”
Eckart Tolle
That is so genius... and scary.
This is me, 100%
You got live every day!! 😄
ughh eckhart tolle ❤
That's right. We can wake up every day and choose to be as happy as possible, and always wake up feeling grateful for what you do have.
I will never forget the day my mother looked at me and said I don't care if the only thing you become is a tree planter. The only thing that matters to me is that you live a life that makes you feel fulfilled . Life is fragile and unpredictable and there will come a day when you will no longer be physically able to do what you can now. Enjoy the sunshine.
Wish my mother thought this way. I have one of those families that are more "this is what you want to do" and "you can't do that, it won't succeed" rather than "what do you want to do" and "I support you son, if that's what you wish." Damn.
@@ainzooalgown6450 I'm so sorry they are like that 😔 Please don't listen to their nonsense. Life is far to short to spend it on pleasing others❤
@@Dwelleronthethreshold89 thank you❤
Amber Carr! What a beautiful words babe. That type mothers are very rare to see these days. The bad upbringing I had and the type of mother I had, till this, I'm still recovering and trying to erase the negative influences of my childhood. Trying to rewrite the page and plant seeds of happiness, prosperities, hope, meaningful life and better future for my children and the world, too. Thank you for those words.
That is so beautiful
I see younger people than me achieving so much, travelling, falling in love, doing so much and I’m just stuck, so late in life, so late to experience even the basic things.
You're not alone
Nah, it’s never late when you’re in the present although I want to give up myself… but you’re not late to anything I assure you that much.
you`re not alone man, I`m stuck too and so late in life compared to people my age.
It's okay. My father had travelled more than me at 60+. Keep in mind, it's never over until you're on that hospital bed fighting for your life.
You start little by doing something for yourself. Stop scrolling
I'm 28 and I'm feeling this. Almost all my cousins have jobs and got married, while I'm still unemployed without any job experience, still live with my parents and I'm single. All I do at home is helping my elderly mom who's a street food vendor. I feel like a failure as a person. I don't have any achievement in life, I don't have any skill to offer, I don't know what I want in life. I have no reason to be alive.
My dear stay strong this time shall pass too I understand the feeling of failure but u are the hero of your story . Your parents are your reason to be alive my friend
You are not alone to feel this way i feel it too dont be too hard on yourself
I'm 22 and I feel this way too. All my friends will be graduating this year while I'm just starting to go back as a freshman. It really sucks and I feel so left behind and useless.
see it from another perspective. maybe you are thinking „what is my reason to be here?“ - switch that thinking into „how can i help someone today“ - because THAT will be your reason to be here :)
@@danbby5913 aww that is so cute :)
Saddest people always try their hardest to make everyone happy bcoz they know how it feels to be alone and worthless
-Robin Williams
Hmm ya behind their fake smiles. :/
I sometimes unknowingly do it ....., but man people hurt us way too much than expected
Truth🙌
The absolute truth
That hit me hard
"Don't compare your behind the scenes with other's highlight reel."
Clavanz That really is such an insanely good quote.
The sentence didn't make sense to me, google helped me though :) Should be "behind-the-scenes"
That's one of the best advices I've ever seen.
So true. Don't compare your insides to other peoples' outsides.
That is such a beautiful quote. I'm going to put it on a poster and print it and hang it in my room. Then I'll put it in my laptop and phone wallpapers and make it my alarm label. Might even write it on the ceiling just so I can see it right when I wake up every morning. I have a horrible, horrible habit of comparing myself to others to the point of being unable to function at all. I need to put this message through my thick head already.
Everyone is in a rush to get somewhere when there is no where to go but here on earth and the only real time is right now.
Amen
Amen
Amen
Thank u!
Absolutely! All we have is NOW!
It's funny how we all feel lost and behind in life yet we are sure that everyone else is better and happier than us.
True!
Real
Because some are not and not feel behind in life
This is because we are victims of the mind. It lies to us to try and keep us safe. It does not know any better so we mist train the mind to know that this is a survival instinct that is not necessary and that we must no longer compare ourselves to others but allpw them to be them and us to be us. Doing this repeatedly i believe will reprogram that side of our minds and set us free from that mental prison. It is up to us to act on this long enough to see results and then stick to this new belief forever and teach others. Once in this mental place, we can now ask ourselves what it is we want in our lives and pursue that goal without the pressure of feeling like we are in a race but instead knowing that we may not have enough life to reach our goal, but we will enjoy the process and if we succeed then we will have learned a way of moving forward that works for us. 🙏
social media
"Since it's impossible to know which period of my life is the middle, I've decided to have an ongoing crisis."
Such a mood
My whole life is one ongoing existential crises
Where is this from?
😂😂
This made me laugh I can relate!
“Do not pray for an easy life, pray for the strength to endure a difficult one”
Bruce Lee
MrX damn I needed that right now. Been in a very toxic and stressful moment in my life and marriage for almost 2 years now.
@@nickcollins5315 I'm sorry....my 2 year relationship seems to be going nowhere....
What's the most difficult part for you? (Maybe i can learn something from your situation?)
@@nickcollins5315 how is marriage going? is it worth it?
here i am 🔥🔥👌👌🐐🙏
🖕
“Comparison is the thief of joy.” - Theodore Roosevelt
I try to not do social media that makes me feel behind. Don't need that in my life.
Being free from social media is the best feeling in life.
It’s not that for me, it’s that all of my friends are planning meetups without me right in front of me, you may think I’m dramatic but knowing that while I’m sitting at home while my friends are going out and partying hurts one of my best friends walked away from me with another one of my best friends.
@@beebeehoneyz1110 That does hurt.
@@beebeehoneyz1110 Hey, hope you're well. Yes, the same happened to me last week and seeing their stories of going out together really hit me badly. They didn't even invite me. I felt horrible for 3 days, after that to abate or lessen this feeling, I texted them 'how did you guys enjoy day that day, seems like had a lot of fun' . This really was a shameful slap on their faces and immediately they called me and asked for apologies and tried to explain or give excuses of why I wasn't invited. So, please try this. You couldn't hold that heaviness in your heart for a long time and feel better. Whatever is in your heart just release it to them. You would feel better. Have a happier day love.
Christian Delgado i agree
Friends getting engaged, married, siblings having kids, high paying jobs, .... While i'm standing here with a fucked up mental health feeling like the train is leaving the station without me on it
I'm 30 years old. Been working in the fashion industry for about 8 years now. I really like my job but I don't wake up excited to go to work, you know? I am now realising that my real passion has always been working with animals. It has been since I was a little girl. I am now working my way through getting a degree in Veterinary Science. It's going to take me 5 years to finish it. I'll be 35/36 by then. And you know what? I don't mind the age at all. At age 30, I'm going to go be a vet ❤️ I'm not behind, I'm exactly where I need to be to do what I want to do.
I am a few years younger and was doubting or feeling like I would be too ‘this or that’ to be a good Vet. I have many weakness’ that are in hindsight actually strengths. Thank you for this comment and giving me that push to continue to pursue this degree as well. My birthday is in a few weeks and I was feeling down on being ‘too old’ for Vet School.
You are going to be an amazing Vet and do not give up on your dreams🐾🧡
Nicole Francesca thank you too for this comment! We both will do well, just have to really take it seriously and push for it! YAY FOR VET STUDENTS ❤️
I think it's so great that you found your passion! Many people wake up every morning not excited about what they are doing but they don't know what would get them excited to get up. Go for it, you will thank yourself for your courage!
@Nicole Francesca Go for it! When you get older you regret more the stuff you haven't done than the things you did do, even if they don't turn out the way you had hoped. And never let anyone (not even yourself) tell you, you are too something to be who you want to be. When I first started my business, I was told I was too young, too inexperienced, too blonde and as a woman, nobody would take me seriously. I went for it anyway because it felt right and I have not experienced anything but respect and gratitude from my corporate clients. And I am glad every day that I took that risk and went for it. If you are not ready to go for it and you allow me to give you an advice: Go and try out things that get you closer to your dream. Follow a vet around for a day and see if it's really what you want to do. You will either get very motivated or realize that it's not what you expected and not be sad about not pursuing it.
Elisabeth Krüger Thank you so much for your encouraging words. I will also, take your advice and start the process of shadowing some of my colleagues. It is going to be a long road a head but, in the end. It is all going to be worth it! That goes for anything in life.. If it is something that doesnt of course bring anyone harm. It will be worth trying and failing than never starting in the first place. If you fail, it also isnt a big deal either. Just keep moving and never give up!! (new motto)
"Whose measuring stick am I using?" That's a very good question.
Making up your own measuring stick doesnt work. You're dependent on others approval.
@@fredriksvard2603 I agree, to an extent.
If I were to give it a name I’d call it the bullshit ruler of societal expectations
Tyrone ?
That just sounds like a flowery way of saying "set your expectations low so you can meet them" if you admire the way Jason Momoa lives, then you should be working towards that. Sometimes it's by watching others that we realize what we really want out of life. Experiences, friends, memories, starting a family, putting all your passion into something for a greater cause, artistic expression, love or freedom. So I believe that personally, we should always set our expectations high. You never know how easy some things actually are until you really put your effort into trying your hand at them.
all instances of self growth begin with self acceptance
Владислав Хлус lol what?
Amen :)
Maybe it's just me but I don't see why self growth would always begin with self acceptance. I think self growth strive towards self acceptance rather than beginning with it. I can't accept and be happy with who I am today. That's what makes me keep trying to self improve and better my situation.
@Владислав Хлус How come?
A lot of self growth comes out of self-hatred or self-disdain.
I've been feeling this a lot lately. My old school friends are all now partnered up or married, with well paid work or husbands with well paid work, they own their own home and most have at least one child. Meanwhile I'm single, out of work and renting after experiencing multiple disastrous life experiences, long term health problems, setbacks and traumas whilst my old friends' lives have been mostly carefree. It's very difficult to keep going and not to feel hopeless. I got up today and went to the gym even though I didn't feel like it, and went for a walk round the park. Unfortunately I bumped into one of these old friends which as usual resulted in me feeling rubbish. I'll keep working on myself and towards my goals consistently, avoid comparing myself to others and I pray one day my life will be better.
Update: I'm feeling a bit better now. I'm working hard on starting a business and I've got my own allotment now which I'm preparing to grow food.
Update 2: I'm not doing so well after a major bereavement, just taking it one day at a time. Thanks for all your comments, support and encouragement. I'll keep going.
Keep moving forward Kate. The gym is your friend
your life is amazing and it would be better with time dw, you have seen worse in the life now what left is the best so be ready to get that, and prepare yourself for the best ameen !!
Have you tried letting any hate anger embarrassment etc towards ur old friends go? To be happy for them, you don’t have to reconnect with people to have closure.
It’s for your healing not theirs.
Cause if you aren’t close with these old friends as you imply- then sorry but you have absolutely no idea if their lives are carefree and easy. You can have your self pity party if it makes you feel better; you might think your life is so much harder,your burdens and troubles must be WAY worse, but if everyone was standing in a circle and threw their “baggage” or problems into the circle- you’d grab your bs back so fast.
People deal with unimaginable lossses (as well as gains)every. Single. Day.
You can compare to others lives, that’s not the toxic part. The toxic bit is you can’t apparently be happy for them.
same 🤧🤧
I feel the same exact way!! I’m 30. My friends are all either with partner or married have good jobs while I’m still single, renting a tiny room with a lady. Having a minimum wage job. I try to not compare myself with others because each one’s journey is different but let’s admit some people are fortunate than others. And we’re one of the unfortunate ppl.
THIS is the type of videos we need mainstream. Not about celebrities, athletes, how much money to make, etc.
This
The "mainstream" wants you to be distracted by trash that doesn't matter though. People spend countless hours sitting around talking and/or arguing about celebrities, sports, politicians, etc...all such a waste.
lovelyvegan princess 👈🏼 you absolutely get it! Thank you for articulating this so well. Glad to see another awakened soul in the mix 🙏🏼
Well said...couldnt agree more....we begin to truly live when we stop comparing ourselves to others and embrace who we are with our own unique gifts and talents.
Nothing wrong with sports tho athletes just doing what they love
@@Nscalescenic What's wrong is the glorification of athletes.
I'm 70 years old, wanted to let yo know that at your age you have figured out what is very important in life. We are always searching for who we are, why we are and in the end, what ever we went through to be where we end up, is our journey and at our pace. Along the way, the best gift you can give anyone is kindness and understanding that they are ok, they are loved and important. You are a breath of fresh air, never forget you are an important part of this puzzle called life.
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beautifully written, you’re right!!
thankyou ❤️
THANK YOUUU
Here's a comment with real weight
I hit a like because of those beautiful words. Thank you
If you can’t fly, run. If you can’t run, walk. If you can’t walk crawl but by all means keep moving forward 🤧
Bless you
I have no legs and arms, I’m trying to squirm but I’ve broken my pelvis. currently have no way of momentum
@@ashleybaker1950 if you can't move speak the glory of God into your atmosphere if you can't speak will it from within your heart
And if you can't crawl?
properly give credit to the quote :-) thank you dr. king.
I've just turned 34, I'm currently single and I'm unemployed with a history of jobs that had no end goal in mind. I only now finding the voice in myself to ask what I want in life and be honest with myself. It took a recent heartbreak to realise this but I'm glad it happened now not when I'm 50. Just found this channel and love your stuff. Thank you
Thanks for sharing :) sounds similar to my way & experience 🙏
Thank you for this message
Same situation, it's incredible.
God bless your soul :) everything will figure itself, just be kind and good
same, but no employment has lasted longer than 3-4 months, for me. I’m also less optimistic and more just acceptin of everything, at this point. it took a long ass while, but no matter what, when, where, how, why, or who, life, for me’s, literally, been nothin but takin 1 step forward just to get knocked backwards 2. after 16 years of bouncin from job to job, watchin all my friends and graduatin class leave me in the dust, new, younger, groups of friends of mine, eventually, do the same, and me be in the exact same place that I was when I was in grade school, I’ve finally just accepted the fact that I prolly won’t ever amount to shit and I’m a die alone and that no matter what I try, or don’t try, nothin’s gonna change, ever. it’s just the more I try to better myself the worse life gets for me. only thing I have a say so in, in my life, is when I die... I just learned to accept the innevitable, if that makes any sense.
"You're not behind, you're not ahead, you're exactly where you need to be to do what you need to do" Jay Shetty.
Well that’s a shetty quote
Well it’s a pretty shitty place to be, who writes our destiny, i would want to slap them!
@@samthing7754 Yall hear samthing?
@@beamerz9398 ok beamer
Nope, if someone know they just ignore all the chance they have, they didn't do what they can do earlier coz they thought they can do or they are being over too confident even though they didn't try then after so many years they do it and it's very wrong...
And their age is too old and they are in the starting line so they change their doing but the same so they go back to what they do
If the quote you said is the basis
The old people in my country that go to school will stop
They say don't stop learning don't be ashamed of you don't know a thing
There is never to late..
Even though they are 60 or older
I don't know if I translate it right
Keep learning
Don't stop learning
Not sure what is what
I’m 31 and slowly am just now finding myself after many many years of anguish, anxiety, and worrying about how I was “falling behind”. I have my degree in social sciences, but haven’t really found myself at all. I began working as a landscaper and have been saving up some money. We all gotta start somewhere, and when you stop comparing yourself to others that’s when you start to feel a little bit of freedom. I hope someone finds relation in this post.
Edit: Overwhelmed by the support this comment got and can now see I’m not alone in the journey. Thought I would share what I’m up to now. Landscaping ended for the season and I was able to get a job as a substitute teacher during hybrid learning in my county. The support I got on this comment has kept me pushing along. I just wanted to let you all know how much it truly means to me that you all have my back and left such kind comments. Keep pushing on friends, we’re all gonna make it. - Shred
Thank you for putting this up. Everyone’s comments about still feeling lost even being further along when you’re supposed to have “figured it out” has helped a ton. Good luck to you brother
Shred Daze I’m 52 and have a degree in social sciences too. My health is deteriorating and I feel my time is running out. I can’t physically do what I want to do anymore, so keep doing what you enjoy and it will all work out ok. I want to emigrate and start over again and with Covid, I may not be able to get to where I want and need to be.
Thank you for that. I'm 28 years old and I'm currently studying BS Mechanical Engineering. I'd been vacant for 7 years and now, I'm turning 4th year college. I'm still in disbelief and feeling proud of myself. I was really depressed before about my life but now I've just proven that nothing is impossible as long as you trust yourself and you have big faith in God. ☺
Im 31 as well, definitely feeling behind, not feeling the motivation or even direction to make myself the best me......and 31 feels so freaking old, feels like Im running out of time
Matt Klaus 31! Seriously, it’s no age at all. I wish I could go back just 10 years and reboot my life. The best thing you can do right now is take care of your health so that when you do find out where or what you desire, you’ll be in good shape. Losing one’s health is more of a hindrance than the number of candles on your birthday cake, believe me! Good luck and don’t be so hard on yourself x
Rule 4: Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today.
Now i want to know what the first 3 are :)
JBP
Ridiculous
Stef there are 42 total, just search up “42 rules for life Quora post” on TH-cam (it got deleted from quora)
You're still never gonna feel enough because each day you'll have to be better than the last one. It's still a competition, it just seems like a healthier one. Why comparing in the first place. Where are we going? Has anybody arrived and said ok, today I made it? No! Well that's what I'm going to be. I have fucking arrived and I don't have to be better than yesterday. I don't have to be a dick that doesn't know how to take care of himself either. I'm just gonna meet my basic needs, help others do the same, care for the environment and make me some money for a living doing something simple I love. That's fucking it. No need for bettering oneself. It's a never-ending game full of sacrificing being present which in the end trains your brain to always look for the future and think and analyze the past. The most rigged game there is.
Sorry if I stepped on any self-help toes here. It was my intention.
To those people who feel left behind. I realized that life is really a journey. There is no shortcut to success. You really need to enjoy, endure the process and work hard. Life is not about destination, its about how you turn all your failures and disappointments into motivation because it will make your life meaningful.
Thank you for those words, and it really means it. True, and I know it may sound cheesy and very traditional for someone who's 28, age of settlement, married, and has a stable job and home. I felt like, 'why me. Why I don't catch on the stage?' I tried my best not to think of that stuff.
@@Lee-Hayoung Yeah but you know what each one of us has its own timeline, I always believe that there is no such thing that as you reach at this age you should share same success like your same age group have. You don't need to rush thing, God will give you everything you want at perfect time. Might as well try to read the stories of famous billionaire all over the world they also encountered a lot of failures, ups and down before becoming the person who they are now
@@annegherli7249 I understand. Thanks. Your words made me feel better.
@@Lee-Hayoung Yeah take care, Btw I'm from the Philippines,It's good to have short conversation with people from other countries
working hard means, work in a damn job from 8 to 5 for the same salary for the rest of life
This sounds like me talking to myself aloud at 3 AM. lol
LAMBDJWJ
@@inali3004 Ahaha! It's true. Sometimes, you gotta be your own therapist. lmao!
@@nothingtoprove2533 you always have to be your own therapist. A therapist is a great supporter for it
altkovac sameee it helps but sometimes it repeats again and again and it gets tiring
Sooooo trueeeee mannnnn....
"we have two lives - the second one starts when we realise we only have one"
Well said
this video really did struck a chord for me. i have never considered where my lack of self love came from as well. Truth is, I'm scared. I'm scared that I'm not using my time in the best way possible. I'm scared that everyday, I'm unconsciously closing down more and more opportunities that I could have taken. I'm scared that more than anything, I don't or won't have a true friend. And i think the pure vulnerability of the situation makes me want to distract myself by any means possible; food, youtube, tv, hobbies
Wow i did not thought that someone would feel pretty much the same as i do.
Darryl Lai my name is Nikolao I am Brasilian Italian lives in uk , and in my 44 years all my life u am Growing And being pay atention in my Life, and I realise All words you said I am relate as well, and in love all efforts and Sensitiveness and All , fails .. I feel so down must days, but i try to be good man and Best person EVERYSINGLE day of my life. I do the best I can 🙏
You read my life. 😢
I feel that way too. I waste so much time, but the whole time I’m wasting it I’m feeling guilty about the time I’m wasting.
Just describe me
I am 34, still not married, still failed to secure a stable job, have no car, and have no house. I'm trying to be positive all the time, trying my best to ignore this feeling but sometimes the reality hits me so hard like I'm feeling so ashamed with my life, like I can't comprehend that my life turns out to be this way. Im trying my best to live my life but it feels like nothing is working out. I feel like I want to relive my life again and make a better decision. I feel that everyone is leaving me alone, achieving their dreams but I am still here standing alone.
Just ao you know. You are not alone. I am feeling the same way in all aspects. Just keep going. We can get through this.
It's an emotional phase, pretty difficult, but it shall pass and you're certainly destined for great things
Lets believe this together, because I feel exactly how you feel!
Keep going, it's going to get better fellow human ❤️
I’m in a similar situation. I can’t help but feel like a failure. All my past relationships never worked out and i’ve been in constant turmoil all throughout my life due to untreated mental illness. Its nice to know there are other people out there on the internet that feel the same way but in real life I am completely alone.
If you were able to restart your life you would just make the same mistakes though. Be grateful that you now understand how not to live , and make the best of the time you have left. I'm 30 and I'm in the same exact boat. We're going to make it!
In the end, only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you.
🙁🙁🙁
Thank you so much.
The latter is such a difficult thing
What about how happy you were, how much you achieved, how you fulfilled your potential etc etc. The harder things to be satisfied about, but no less important
Disagree but if that’s your mantra, more power to ya
social media really makes us feel left out or behind in life
@The Metalhead Same here and I am 48. I´ve realized that I ll never have a career in my life. That's a daily fight against frustration. On the other hand, cause I know things will not change I try to find joy from other things. I mean. Still we are lucky. And so much to enjoy.
Ya its people’s highlight real not reality.
agree. whenever i see posts about trips and social events i get very sad. i keep wishing to have what they have, then i stopped looking at instagram and facebook. i don't have this envious feeling anymore. people post things to get likes, to get attention but my life isn't like theirs and that's nothing wrong with it. i have my own time to reach my goals. that's the only thing that should matter.
Delete your social media. I feel so much better without it.
Danny B you watching yt rn
If you are reading this, I want you to know that you are capable of achieving great things. No matter what challenges you may be facing, never give up on your dreams and never stop working towards your goals.
_"If you're in a hurry, you will never get there."_
That doesn’t apply to every situation. 👎🏻
But at times it make sense ..
manjubashini Markandu manjubashini have you ever been late for work? Cause I have. I hurried and then I got there.
Michael Dublanko very true.. n I also hurried in my career... cleared all my papers hurriedly and now I feel I’m not ready to take next step as a specialist bcox I feel I’m not ready ... so in my case I feel it make sense.. haha 😂
its supposed to be metaphorical guys 😅
As an 18 year old who doesn’t have a clue what I want to do for a career this video really helped me. Thanks for this man.
I'm in the same boat, so lets try and not sink!
I knew what I wanted to be at 18, and I still want to be that. Life had other plans. Now I'm 26. So 7 years and 1 psychotic break later, I'm living in a new town I kinda hate honestly and I have no job.🤷♀️🤷♀️😔😔❤
geeky girl 25 shit happens. I know the feeling. You got this.
start your own business or become a consultant. that's where the most money and with the less work is.
I'm 36 and I have no idea what I want to do with my life either....
After high school, back in 2018, I was overwhelmed as to how many responsibilities were laid into my life. So overwhelmed that I did nothing for 2 and a half years. As time went on, I started feeling like a total failure. Every family gathering, I would get bombarded with questions as to what exactly I was going to do in life. Thanks for this video man, it really helped out
I think after high school we get to see that life isn't a straight line as we thought it was.
❤️
With life, like everything else, I find that it’s quality and not quantity that matters. Your life is yours to live, no-one else’s, simply beat peace in whatever you do.
I can relate. during my senior year of high school I was so depressed and didn't even apply to universities, and now I regret it so much(granted, I probably wouldn't have survived university buy oh well 🤷)
This was my life. Smoked away my government assistance staying at my grandparents house for 3 years after rehab the first time, which started after rehab. But the root cause was just being overwhelmed. "Edit" After getting my shit together and my ass off drugs, I can now say. No I wasn't overwhelmed, I was stupid and addicted and making bad decisions. My fault.
In 2019 i ran into an old classmate/friend of mine and she was like " i am so happy, married with a kid, a job, a home, a car, all is great" .
Made me feel like a complete loser, being jobless, homeless, husbandless, kidless, i felt like my life was =0.
In 2021, same person "Oh i dovorsed finally, my marriage was a living hell for 9years & not even my parents supported me!" Some are faking their happiness, so pls learn to be grateful and 🤲 so that God blesses u.
"Comparison is the thief of joy" - Theodore Roosevelt
I misread that as "compassion" and had to do a double take lmao
Wish my mum knew that my whole life.
He was quoting the bible 👍🏼
@@Mrbasscarrot well I guess even a broken clock is right twice a day
@@lmena12 Irrelevant data
ive come back from the darkness. i just want to say to everyone dont give up.
Lovely piece of advice.
Keep up the good fight.
Congrats! I am still in the dark but I feel like I can already see the end of the tunnel. Wish me happiness! ❤️
I'm 31 I'm in completely dark with depression
@@numberone6266 thanks number 1 I feel better now
Thank you fbi agent for listening to me and helping me with my depression by showing me this
Sometimes, things like this make me wish there was an fbi agent watching me and secretly helping me lol
StickguyMB sis let me tell you they really do be watching and hearing us because i never typed anything of the sort for this to be in my algorithm exactly when im feeling this way
The FBI def lurks and trolls
Maybe It is just the A.I.'s awareness
Ofcourse there's a FBI agent listening to you. There's nothing like the Google's Artificial intelligence or anything.
I’m 38 years old.
Dead end job, but it’s the best I can get after going to 200 interviews in the past 15 years and always getting rejected.
No partner.
No children.
No home of my own. I can’t afford to move out because it’s too expensive.
No friends.
I feel stuck and trapped in life. Others are living in a different world it seems.
I try and reach out to people but nobody responds.
I have nightmares.
Headaches
Migraines
Earworms
Loneliness
No pet my parents won’t have one in the house.
Can’t stand the constantly swearing shouting and arguing here.
Other friends are well ahead of me and I’m still sleeping in the room I grew up in.
I feel so far left behind I don’t know what to do anymore. Each waking moment is fucking agony!!!!!
Hey friend I wish I lived near you I would be your friend. I can totally relate to your message because I am 46 and struggling like hell in life also and it makes me feel suicidal. I am from CANADA St Catherine's Ontario were are you from??? Sending love brother I know the feeling of loneliness.
@Cliff Konkle hey 👋
Keep going fellow human ❤️
I’m so sorry I can’t imagine what that must be like. Its been a year since you wrote that comment. Even though it’s probably unlikely I can only hope things have improved for you?
I’m in a similar situation. I can’t help but feel like a failure. All my past relationships, wether that be friendships, or love never worked out and i’ve been in constant turmoil all throughout my life due to untreated mental illness. All I ever wanted was to one day get married and settle down with someone I love. But I don’t think i’ll ever find happiness. There’s more to it too but I just don’t feel comfortable sharing on here…Its nice to know there are other people out there on the internet that feel the same way, but in real life I am completely alone.
I wish I could tell you that things will get better but I have no idea. The only thing keeping me going, is the tiniest amount of hope I still have and knowing that there are other people that feel the same way. Unfortunately I never meet them in real life. Its such a lonely existence.
@@NoIdea68 yes that's true brother
“The only difference between the student and the master is that the master has failed more times than the student has tried”
awesome quote
Wow...screenshot!
Perfect
As an artist.
I am very lathargic.
Last year I always wanted time.
I always wished for no more school days.
And now that I have it all.
I am a mess.
School always makes me feel alive. Human nature is to gain meaningful information and grow, even though school isn't necessary for that, it's the quickest way to that.
If we grow up in a very structured environment with constant expectations placed upon us, once those are removed we can feel out of control and a bit lost. I'm still learning how to put structure into my day. You might find this book helpful - The Artist's Way, by Julia Cameron. Best wishes.
@@dawnross2514 The most beneficial structure and expectations are the ones you set for yourself, arguably they're the only ones that matter. But they're also the hardest to establish AND maintain. Equilibrium is such a hard thing to accomplish but when we do achieve that, I bet it feels better than anything our senses can give us
@@XenoDogg I bet it does, I hope I find out!
This response could get turned into a song
You are witnessing the end of materialism and the emergence of an era more consistent with wholeness and love.
I hope so, this world would become a much better place
I pray for this, we can all be the change
Hopefully, materialism is the enemy of happiness for me
Thank God. I am so sick of materialism and how it is contributing to so many problems on this Earth.
Amen!
This is what I got from reading a great book called "The Art of Possibility". The one concept from this book was "It's all invented". Every measurement we use to judge ourselves and other people, it's all invented. Some by social, most are in our head.
Thank you so much
My best friend just told me he got offered an amazing job literally half an hour ago and although I'm so happy for him, I've been in my head thinking "Holy shit all my friends are moving on with life and Im still working the job of a high-schooler" and this popped up in my recommended. Definitely gonna give it a watch
Comparing yourself with friends is the worse! I have very talented friends, who I am so proud of, and I immediately feel guilty when I get the feeling that I am left behind, because I start to envy them. I just have to constantly remind myself to keep doing my best and try to achieve things by myself, for myself.
I had that talk with a stranger who told me the fact that I choose to surround myself with people in constant improvement showed a lot about my personnality. We agreed it was a good thing that should encourage me to keep evolving, rather than put pressure on my tiny overthinking brain :)
Same, most of my peers are accountants, attorneys, doctor, and here I am working in a minimum wage job. On my spare time I keep on sending application letter but haven't succeeded getting a new job since it's the middle of pandemic. 😔
@@loulou2302 it's ok, you'll make it! Keep going and giving your best, but also don't hesitate to ask for help when you need it! 😁 it's currently a bad period, but try to make the best out of it if I can say so
At first, I thought you said it "pooped" up in my notification. I died laughing
Maybe moving on in life for you is finally organizing your living space, or learning a new language or making amends with a loved one. The biggest take away I got from this video is we all have our own unique measuring stick for success and happiness. I hope you keep discovering your “moving on’s”both small and grand.
Right, it's an illusion. When we compare less, we love more
Kate S.,
Yes!!
Comparison is the thief of joy. 💗
I am in college and I have been a lot depressed lately. I don't know what is the exact reason behind it.. But one such reason could be that some of my frnds are doing skill enhancement things, projects etc. And I think I am not doing anything as a such and maybe I am lacking behind them.. I don't know how to cope up with this negative mindset 😔
@@UTKARSHSINGH-ie2ur Then start investing in yourself buddy, take your time, see what your interests are, start grooming yourself and stop comparing yourself to other people cause everyone has different paths. Read books, start working out, invest in yourself.
@@fibinphilip9810 thanks for the suggestion.. It is indeed helpful but I am still not sure how to proceed further without getting myself over competitive with others and losing my purpose of life and peacefulness. I have been in a great stress nowadays, I think that people all around me are running a race even they themselves don't know to where it might end. Please suggest some more tips 😔, it might prove helpful for me
I started crying in silence after this thinking, "oh... it wasn't just me..."
Be yourself,never compare your life to other people's lives,it takes away joy
Your not alone,,, I cry at least once a week trying to understand things
Your not alone!
Same, right now hahhaa
It is never only you
Been feeling like a loser lately, especially when I'm with my friends. I'm 27 now and realize how behind i am in life.
When we were in high school and years back, i didn't feel a distance around my friends like that since we were all young and you don't have that sense of urgency to gef your life together. Now that I'm 27, i always feel like a loser hanging out with them. A lot of them are married, in a long term relationship, being financially stable, owning their own houses.. while I'm here working a minimum wage job and living with my aunt because i can't afford to live on my own.
I actually graduated with a bachelor's degree in nursing, but i never practiced as a nurse since my mental health took a bad turn.
I feel so lost in life. Sure i have a degree, but it's essentially useless since i haven't been in the nursing field for almost 5 years and healthcare changes constantly.
I don't know what I'm doing.
I fe so bad when my friends plan vacation outside of the country while i have to pretend to be busy but in reality i can't go because i si ply can't afford it. :(
Thanks for sharing, hope you figure out what you want to do next and feel okay with however long it takes. 🙏
Listen you're a special person don't feel like this. Lots of love for you
Go get a job as a nurse assistant and get back on track. I'm working on my prerequisites to get into a RN program and it seems so far away and that feeling sucks. The longer you stay where you are the worse you'll feel. You'll instantly feel better if you take steps towards bettering your life. Good luck.
atleast you have A job that others can't have.
at least u HAVE FRIENDS
Staying at home for nearly a month in quarantine gets you thinking and feeling things that are new to you.
Everyone's making art, developing a skill, acquiring a language etc. It made me feel like I need to work on something too - that I constantly need to improve myself or my craft, knowing that the virus is still out there. This video really opened my mind to the perspective that we shouldn't constantly pressure ourselves in doing something like what the others are doing. In the middle of this pandemic, it's okay to worry for yourself and your family's safety without having to worry about reading 20 books or learning 5 languages.
Anyways, after assuring your safety and security amidst the pandemic, do what you want. And if you don't want to do anything, that's fine too.
I can really relate. Thank you
Triple LIKE to this! Thank you for pointing this out because it makes so much sense and something i can very much relate to! Really appreciate you for posting this!
MeteoriteSS AAA same here
Seriously
I needed this❤❤
I just turned 30 and seeing so many ppl I graduated college with get promoted in their jobs while I go through so many failures is difficult. I needed this blog and love the comments!
go Independent mate; start a business, or become a freelancer.
Let me tell you, that them idiots suck up to their bosses and polish a lot of apples ( or anything with the shape of an apple!) to get to their position, they'd sell their own mothers for a promotion.
Honest work doesn't belong in a bullshit place like a company, you should rather own it and make it only yours.
That's what I can give a stranger on YT as an advice from someone who realised he's not a corporate person at all, after wasting a fortune of time persuing the bullshit life
@V A You're right. Although things are getting better due to great resignation, it's still slavery and you shouldn't rather accept it. The future is simply more capitalistic in that every industry is more leaning towards freelancing and gigs ( though gigs are abusive most of the time).
Stay strong and have a good day!
Nah Keep Trying Failing Always Teaches us Something Is to not Give up u Still got it and Keep Trying maybe you Will Get There and Never Ever GIVE UP ON URSELF AND MAKE UR DREAM ACTUALLY COME TRUE!
@@everydayfun9531 I appreciate this! thank You!
They probably lick the boss shoes to make them Shine.... honest people dont Get rewarded in a corrupt world
"Be yourself. Everyone else is already taken."
Be yourself. Everyone else is miserable.
Not yet taken lol
Great content mate, thanks for sharing your thoughts.
I'm 39, and my life turned out to be very different that I imagined to be when I was younger, but I'm deeply grateful for what I am. No social media, no TV, not comparing myself with others; I make sense of the world and its wonder by myself.
Be humble, treat yourself and others with love and compassion.
30 years and I still trying to figure out who I am and what I wanna be in life ... its good to know We are not alone in this :)
Bashtiks ha ha. I had a mid life crisis at 35yrs old. I’m 39 now & still figuring things out. And is not for lack of trying! :) much luck to u! 🌸
@@DarkisArt how did you do it ? To find perspective in life ?
It is similar for me too, I am 31 years old.
Same. Still clawing towards the light at the end of the tunnel.
just dont get married, yet, or else youll be in hell.
I’m 25 and still on my last year of university, i’ve just quit my last job and then had to stay home for 4 months because of Covid 19, spent all of my saving. Yesterday my mom told me that she was worried because i’m 25 yet still have nothing while many people at my age have accomplished a lot 😞 Im an INFP so i struggle a lot with my career choice, yet i feel like i can’t open with anyone about it
I relate. at 26 and covid 19 has ensured i use all my saving with which i wanted to start a business with, currently jobless, with a degree, no connection a single mum......aaaaaai! but if things become too bad, am glad suicide will hug me.
@@blessedfela1515and @Trinh Nguyen, I am so sorry you guys are in such a hard spot right now, especially because this pandemic has affected your finances. However, you both are still young, and have much time on your side to figure it out. Life is not about the end goal, as that is an illusion, it's about the journey and the moments of FIGURING SHIT OUT AND TRYING SHIT OUT. Look, my brother is 26 and still lives at home with my parents. My parents are also worried about him because of what society says of where people should be by their mid 20s, but he just started working on getting a nursing degree right now, and I expect in years to come he will be a fine nurse living on his own. Even if he changes his mind, that's okay, he will eventually figure out something that works for him. I am also an INFP and have no idea what I am doing once I graduate (I'm 22) AND with little money saved. But in moments when I feel overwhelmed by it, I try to appreciate what I have in the present and recognize that making a decision as to what to do is better than not making any at all. Inaction is worse than actions of failures. And actions of failures aren't really failures because they help you realize what doesn't work and move you closer to what does. I will not deny that I am fortunate and have a family to lean on. This is why I think creating a small community of people that support you is so crucial, whether online or in person, if you feel alone in the endeavor of life. We all need people to help us smile through our darkest days or just listen to our complaints and offer some advice. They also serve to give us some perspective we aren't aware of. I honestly wish you both the best. You both are not alone and I hope you both reach out to more people on how you feel so you can truly get the help you both need AND DESERVE. I don't normally respond to youtube comments, but I didn't want to leave both of your suffering unaddressed. I, myself, was in depression last year, and made it out on the other side through routines, meditating, and a support system. It's different for everyone as to how they overcome it, but I hope you both find your solace. Lots of love from this gal
@@maddkat792 thanks friend for the word
Madd kat omg how thoughtful you are ❤️! Thank you so much your words have inspired me a lot 😊 Wish we all may find our purposes 😇
Blessed Fela I'll be 26 on the 26th. I too have a degree in marketing with no experience/ connections. I was a waitress, but have been furloughed because of COVID and we're expected to go back on the 21st. I've been panicking because I haven't tried looking for a job to use my degree in and I'm so depressed because I'm scared to go back to working in a restaurant with this virus going on. I feel soooo hopeless and then I saw this video. Something will come out way when it's right!
“Tired of lying in the sunshine, staying home to watch the rain.
You are young and life is long, and there is time to kill today.
And then one day you find, 10 years have got behind you.
*No one told you when to run. You missed the starting gun* “
-Pink Floyd
shine on
“No one told you when to run. You missed the starting gun!” That part always fucks with me bro
Greatest poem of all time
Home, home again. I like to be here when I can..
Right on man
I'm 20,I've been feeling this lately... I feel kinda depressed with a really low self esteem. I can't stop measure my potential with others and I feel really worthless at times. Thank you for your video. I will keep reminding myself of this everyday too. 💯
At 20 you are barely starting your life lol, i mean this respectfully. You have a long way ahead of you to figure out who you are, to experience, to build yourself and become the person you want to be. But it looks like you are on the right track if you are concern with such matters. In their 20s a lot of people mostly care about partying, having fun etc….pretty much meaningless things, and later on they find themselves and their calling in life.
@@magicdinho107 Greetings,
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and opinions about this. I fully acknowledge everything you've said. And may God bless you for having taken the time to write such a meaningful message. 🌸✨
@@furreedhiba3572 you are very welcome, God bless you too!
Broh i'm 25...made a lots of mistakes, idk my future...
With all due respect, 20 is so so so young. Now is the time to be lost and figure out what you want to do in life. I'm 30, I'm just starting to figure out what I want out of life. Some people know exactly what they want early on and some people figure it out late and that's okay. Relax and just do your best. You got plenty of time and life ahead of you.
Needed this right now :)
I'm beginning again at 27 after break up of a 6 year relationship. Starting new life, new location, new career path, and I'm just not where I thought I would be right now in life but that's ok.
GreenFairyPrincess... I wish you all the best.
I have a question. You don't have to answer it if it's painful.
I had a friend that went through a similar life path... Spent her entire 20s with a guy, only to have him leave. It nearly broke her.
I could never bring myself to ask my friend why she gave her youth away. Why she stayed with the guy for so long without a commitment for marriage.
I wonder if you could make me understand. When a woman's 20s are so very valuable, and irreplaceable... Why would you stay with a man and invest those valuable years without a commitment from him?
I know this could be super painful, so I apologise for asking... But it puzzles me, and I greive for my friend.
Aloha 🙂
@@breakingthemasks i wouldn't classify it as intentionally "giving away youth". This happened to me. And in hindsight I finally understood that I didnt REALLY value myself fully. I never stopped to consider "hey im losing my youth to this asshole" it was more like I love and "need" this person. And when u "need" someone, it takes your power. Every thing u need is in u. It's scary to confront. But at that young age its just being blinded by surroundings. Whatever that may be. Plus at that young age its like your BARELY allowed to start living on your own terms, depending on how controlling parents may be.
@@italyc9132 ... Oh indeed. I have no doubt that the vast import of the daily and weekly and yearly decision to remain with a man during such a long time is not realized in the moment. If your young self could see the sand slipping through the hourglass, she'd no doubt have terminated that relationship and chosen a man who would pay (with a marriage commitment) for her youth.
But I think you answered my question... That the reason you stayed so long without a commitment was that you didn't value yourself (and thus your youth) as highly as you should have. And simultaneously you valued your connection to the man so highly that any risk and any price was worth it.
So at the time, you saw the equation as you needing this man, and the price of your youth was something you were willing to pay, since you didn't feel that you or your youth was valuable... At lease not compared to being with this marvelous man.
Only after it ended did you realize that you yourself have value, and that your youth was valuable.
Something like that anyway I think.
Thank you for sharing. I know so many girls who have traveled that exact path... An it breaks my heart for them.
I wish you good luck in your future travels. 🙂
This whole comment thread really hit me hard
@@breakingthemasks I like your name to me it has many meanings to you I'm not sure may you please tell me what it means to you?
Wow, TH-cam recommend the perfect video to me. Been dealing with this feeling for years.
Jess I'm just starting to feel it started at 18-20.
Same
@@hillaryngo-tran6299 don't push your religious commentary on other people
@@greenricky4782 im 25 and the feeling is still there, i dont compare myself to others (or at least try to) i just feel behind on my own goals
When you live in a world with numerous 20-something multi millionaires who the media is always flashing in your face, what do you expect? Of course you're going to constantly feel behind in life. I'm sitting here in my mid 50's thinking, when I was in my 20's I felt lucky to be where I was in life compared to the rest of my family and peers. And I didn't even make over 30k until I was well into my 30's!
You think that the cars and houses are all paid for? They're all rented. Kim Kardashian made her money from a sex tape, pimped out by her own mother. It's all smoke and mirrors to make the masses believe they've worked hard for what they have.
@@sansiveria578 they made their fame with the tape
they were already rich b4 lol
I don't make over 30k and I'm 49...
Not just millionaires, just the media showing everything and generalizing how people have been using their times
@@DeniseHoukMedia I make 0k
i haven’t watched this yet, but the fact that there are 2.9 MILLION views, just goes to show that we all feel like we’re falling behind, when in reality, no one really knows what they’re doing. it’s sort of a comfort.
It's all societal. People are conditioned to believe that life is all about this race. And everything that you're saying is 100% correct. Life is not designed specifically to be lived out one way.
well said! I agree! 😊
This is so true. The idea of this race, on being successful with kids, or of fulfilling some purpose, is something that naturally emerged as the ultimate goal for happiness, because this idea benefits society as a whole. It's an idea that won't necessarily benefit you as an individual, though. Each individual is going to have a slightly different pace that works for them, a different path to happiness and contentment.
@@foldingwishes I need to hear this thank you..
"You are where you need to be" is what I keep telling myself. I see so many of my friends getting married, having kids, and buying houses. I'm single, no kids, and slowly realizing my path to happiness may look different than theirs.
Same here, exact same situation with old friends all married etc. It's hard. But I'm trying to have faith and not give up.
Same here
“When the day comes, or if the day comes, that I’m able to finally get it in my head, that I am who I am, I am how I am,
I’ll be able to accept that I’m doing the best I can”
Wow. Nice
One thing I've been thinking a lot lately: "You become calm when you understand yourself."
Anyone in their 20's, no job, no degree and utterly frustrated at theirselves
Have FAITH, cuz you may never know......
Do wat you like..like wat you do
We are all in it together
This right here.........
@John White maybe you need too let loose your life sounds good. Be happy w/ what you got.
@John White sounds like you want to give back. While yes you live an ideal life, doing things outside of making yourself happy ends up making the most happy. Volunteer work, charity, mission trips to other poor countries. There are people out in the world that could use your help.
Im fucking 31 herion addict all around addict virtually homless no fucking teeth be to jail and rehab more time than i can count lost my kids had best friends kill there selfs cant hold a job down becuase a addiction i have this killer body and good looks that i take for granted each day cuase i love the needle and yet i still wake up each day and have faith yeah i think about killing myself atleast once a day all i can do is live for the day and greatful for the little things we rarely appreciate like fresh air stay blessed
it is even worse, 26, with a degree, no job, no connection....just hope
@@blessedfela1515 Thats my case too.
I agree
I have always hated that question.
"Where do you see yourself in 10yrs" i think the same as you, its impossible to predict what i will be doing in 10yrs, i may not be even here then.
nobodies gonna know what happens in the future we cant predict it
Of course life is unpredictable but I believe that this question also holds a lot of potential of you setting a realistic goal for the future. It makes clear that some important desicions in the present may affect the outcome later on.
I’ve always hated that question. I’m just trying to get through today.
Edit: I'm so glad to see the positivity on this post. I wrote a little update in the comments 💕
I'm 18, can't drive, have extreme anxiety, no friends, and no clue where I'm going. I am taking college for a degree in business management just to fill time. I'm just so confused, I don't know what career to pursue.
Anna Victoria samee 🤦🏽♀️
focus on NOW...I know it's easy to say than done but I think it will help you in the long run
@Young Pappy It might be a blessing honestly. We're better able to accept whatever comes out way because we didn't have any expectations to begin with. I wish you luck, brother. May we both find a place in this chaos
I’m 21 and i also can’t drive (i’m also a male). My colleagues and family wants me to learn to drive (my father has a car) but i refuse to. It’s a pain in the ass to learn and i enjoy commuting where i just stare outside while someone drives for me. And it’s hella cheap compared to owning a car. Don’t be pressured by the people surrounding you. Don’t care what they say. If they still pressure you, save some money and get the hell out of the city or country and start a new life.
Me too, I also envy those people who don't have financial problem. How lucky of them still, I love my life and the way it is. It just ammh some part of me are envy HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH.
'I feel like I have to remind myself every day' resonates so well with me, because I keep coming back to this video again and again, just to remind myself that life isn't linear and I have to follow with my own pace.
"Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today." -Jordan B. Peterson
That's from Jordan B. Peterson. His book titled 12 Rules for Life.
@@acessemanez9147 Thank you.
Josh Larson Bought the book yesterday. I’m hyped now.
@Bre S K
but life isn't linear thats wrong. didn't you watch the video
I totally agree with you. At the end of the day I'm ok with myself, I accept who I am. But things change when I relate to others. When I tell them that I didn't go to college or that at 30 yo I still don't know what I want and I'm only interested in traveling, that I don't have a stable relationship, they watch me like I'm a weirdo. I know this happens only because the story of my life doesn't coincide with theirs, because I've missed some stages. But it's not simple to find people that understand and don't judge you.
Just have faith in the fact that the time will come when you've found wonderful, caring, understanding people~! 😊❤
I felt the same way when I was that age (in my early thirties)... I was a lot like what you just described. I too, was a single woman who had not yet decided on what I wanted to do in the world, didn't have a family, didn't have a husband to speak of... And didn't quite fit the mold the rest of society seemed to insinuate to me that I should fit into. But over the years after having met several types of people who actually did share the same qualities I had, I've learned that many times I believed others would look at me as though I were a weirdo, we're actually just my own judgments that I put on myself based on what I thought society felt I should be versus what I actually thought I was. It was my own self judgement that I was projecting onto others having for me. My perceptions were not there actual perceptions at all of me... in fact, in several situations I later found out that those people never looked at me at all in the ways I thought they did... Most of them never really had an opinion about me to tell you the truth. Don't be so quick to assume that other's judgments are what you think they are. In reality... Your presumptions about how others see you is seldom correct! People are far too complex to see a ny particular perspective they have about anything without deep study and analysis ... and even then we miss a whole lot in regards to their perspectives on Any given topic.
Long story short, people tend to form very simplistic opinions based on people whom they know fundamently are incredibly intricate and complex because they themselves are... So take others "extreemly simplified" opinions about you as evidence of the fact that they don't really care if you are "weird" or "normal" anyway... because fact is, most people who are mentally, emotionally and spiritually healthy and grounded tend to concern themselves far more with their own lives than they do with others lives. Even someone who delights in gossiping about others is really doing it for the sole purpose of gaining attention or excitement in their own life. It's not really about the person that they're gossiping about as much as it's about them and their own life feeling dull or mundane at the time and needing a boost of excitement through passionate dialog or exciting/interesting information exchange with others.
Just be careful you are not making the same mistake that I made... Make you are not making assumptions that aren't based in reality. when it comes to others perspectives about you, your presumptions will rarely be correct... Also know, that your assumptions of others opinions about you, more often than not, are actually reflective to what you actually think of yourself... Try shifting your own opinion about what's considered "normal" and what's "weird", and your presumptions will change dramatically as well!
Question, so while presuming that the other person thinks you are weird, are you thinking that they are weird too? Because from your point of view, anyone who living a lifestyle as opposite from you as they have should come across to you as being weird as well... Based on your life experiences and your perspective, anyone not living like you would be considered weird... Right? I suspect, however, that you do not consider them weird because of the fact that you know the social norms... And are therefore placing your own social constructs on the situation based on them. Which should prove to you that you are are therefore probably placing the same social contracts on yourself... You are actually the one judging yourself as weird... Trust me, when you stop seeing yourself as being weird, you will stop assuming that other see you as weird. From one weirdo to another, this is my truth and reality for you to take into consideration on this particular issue. 👍
@@technerdchic Thank you for your answer, it means so much for me. I'm trying to not judge myself, and I realized that traveling is something that is helping me a lot. I need to stay away from my family and from the little Italian town where I was born.
It's all about changing our mental habits, the way we see ourselves. I'm curious: have you find the right person or are you still a free spirit? 😊
@@saragrauso9904 I'm happily involved with an amazing man now... Life has a way of changing drastically, and suddenly... For the better and for the worse. How u see yourself is vital as to how well you will be able to roll with the changes. Best of luck to you on your journey! 👍😁
@@technerdchic I agree with everything you said, thank you 🥰
I left school and college with three minor certificates at age 16. I floated through life around dodgy crowds until I got married and had my daughter. I found out I had dyspraxia and dyscalculia around 6 years ago that explained why I was always 'different' from my peers.
I went through my early life not knowing who I was or where I was going because of my lack of education. Everyone else was getting jobs in subjects that baffled me, I was never going to get above minimum wage and destined to collect welfare....or so I thought. I now run my own business from home in massage, medical acupuncture and trigger point therapy after gaining a foundation degree amongst other attributes.
I suffer from hypothyroidism and had a year of hell where I couldn't get off the couch. For the past two years I've lifted weights 4 days a week and have started running.
I'll be 45 years old this coming summer, it's never too late to do the things you've always wanted and you shouldn't compare yourself to others. We go at our own personal pace.
thank you for your story
Yes, you will inspire others...best to you for continued progress in life and most of all,happiness.
That’s awesome. Congrats for all you’ve accomplished. You inspire me to do the same. I raised my kids in my 30’s and now trying to get ahead.
Wow! Your story is truly inspiring! 💗 Thank you so much for sharing 💫 love and light to you
Never give up on yourself x
One of the most important things I have learned over the years is if you are happy you have won in life
TH-cam knows me better then I know me... great video!
Needed this.
That's because unlike you, Google never forgets a single thing you do
Divineshot 314 hahaha I know, that's what I thought. How does TH-cam know I feel this way?!
Google is always listening...
Google is all our big brother.
At 37, I can unfortunately relate. Life goes by so very fast. Make meaningful memories and keep searching for your shooting star.
Keep trying. Your still young enough...
37 is not old u are young.
U can stay young till 55 if u workout and take care of yourself
I’m 32 and just lost a good job. I’m beyond hopeless right now. I’ve just realized that yes, life does pass you by.
@@deepeshchetwani6250 I’m sixty four, going on six! Age is a stare of mind!
And I am not even 20 yet and I feel like I am wasting my time bruh
I’m 28 and almost 7 years into a 3 year degree. I’m unemployed and still live at home. I just feel so stuck in life.
You are doing fine and you are loved by someone, thats moore than many people have.
Just finish
Pfft I'm almost 23 and have no aspirations for college what so ever, just do what you want, or don't. Nothing is going to bite you if you stop or start it up again, by now, it's mostly disconnected from you, so why continue with this 'degree'?
Hey I've heard of people who take plenty of extra time on their degree. Its certainly not what most people do but don't feel especially alone in your situation. Are you close to being finished? Maybe take a break for a while and just work for maybe a year and see how you feel at the end. Might give you the opportunity to move out. You could then continue to work part time and finish studying part time as well.
Wow. Someone I can totally relate to... I'm in a similar situation. Except I'm 27 and about to graduate from a distance learning institution. Yet I feel even more depressed than I was during the six years of doing my degree. A lot of it is because of the people around me. Family and relatives. Their expectations of where I'm supposed to be and hurtful comments about where I am. Comparing me to people younger than me who studied completely different programmes than I have. And so I've cut them off over the years. For my own sanity. I'm praying for a job that's in a city far away from my own where no-one knows me or my history, so I can start living for nobody else but myself. Trust me when I tell you that you are not alone. Just hang in there and keep working at it. Everything will fall into place in the end.
I’m 39 years old and I realize that I’m actually doing just fine even though I still live with my mother I found out who I truly am and I’m actually living every moment as much as possible and life is too short to worry too much about what you want to do in life I find that if you just realize that you are still doing well there’s nothing to worry in pretty soon down the line you will evolve. We all are only human and it’s important for us to acknowledge ourselves that we are doing great it’s important to be grateful Of every little thing that means a lot little things can have big memories and big accomplishment.
Same I live with my father . Thanku for your kind words.
It's so sad how many people get dragged into this concept of 'success', where you have to tick these boxes made by other people's definitions of a worthwhile life (get a schooled education, make a career, settle down with a family, have kids, hoard loads of money from the career), and if you don't achieve these things, you're somehow wasting your life.
There's no meaning of life, the only thing to define how successful you are is if, at the end of the day, you feel fulfilled and happy with what you did that day. Even if that's just hanging out with a friend, or playing video games, or simply getting out of bed and enjoying the world for what it is. If you enjoy sports, play sports. If you enjoy science, study it. If you want to be social, mess around with friends all day. If you don't want to be social, don't feel forced to do anything outside your comfort zone. Make your own rules for success and change them as you wish.
Yes 👍😉 true
True, I think everyone should define their own measure of success. However, one should have a rough idea or plan to work towards. That could be travelling the world or just being a good parent, The plan may change and you might stumble along the way, but it is better than no plan at all. Direction gives you a purpose, a purpose gives you meaning, and meaning helps you to overcome all obstacles.
I had a friend tell me "I thought you were going to be the successful one" because I didn't end up in college right away or because I didn't have it figured out. I then realized that she was not a good friend and had no idea what I was going through. Don't judge people or make others feels worse because their definition of success isn't the same as yours.
I disagree that you should avoid doing things out of your comfort zone - it's the only way to grow as a person
@@frarfarf
Yes you are right friend
"behind what?"-- Whos measuring stick are we using?" Liked that.
It's societies standard. You'll never live up to it.
We live in a society
As if we are incapable of measuring ourselves based on our own internal ideals of what we know we are capable of....
When has society ever been wrong
I am 23 struggling with getting out of an Depressive situation still living with my parents after years of trauma ruled my life since High School. I'm struggling with the fact most other people my age are graduating college while I have gotten nowhere due to untreated mental illness. This video helps but the pressure is still real.
Same here, we're facing the same problem
Same except I’m about to graduate and feeling like going to college could have just been a waste of my time
@FurryTrash how are you now ?
@@LD-2401 its not a waste of time. that piece of paper, or as we called it diploma, will guide you to any path you want to go even if its that degree you got is unrelated to the career you want to be in.
I would move out if i was you, you will be much happier
I’ll be 36 next month and I just started pursuing my dreams in music. Ive been struggling with doubt and feeling too old to start now. I only wanted to be a songwriter b4 but when no doors opened there, I decided to be an artist and release my own stuff.
I felt behind because I tried in many jobs where I just DID NOT FIT and ended up leaving. That’s what ate up my 20s and early 30s, playing by the rules and losing.
Now I’m putting my all into my passion and letting go of expectations. To anyone who reads this, just relax. And take one step towards the things that make you happy ✌🏾.
Same situation
I am 27 not good at anything and don't know what makes me happy. Feeling stuck. Help me!
@@Anonymous_110 Fall in love with researching and learning about things that excite you. Just have fun and enjoy your passions.
@@alysedianecan thanks for your reply. I will definitely look into different perspectives.
Thank you for for sharing
I'm 28 years old, and I'm finishing now my studies in Italian Literature and History. I've spent a lot of time thinking that the faculty that I've chosen was the right one because I've always loved literature, reading, and classical subjects. I' ve also always had low self esteem, especially during high school, but when I first started university I discovered that I was a really good student, that that was my world. I know it may sound strange, but without knowing it, totally unconsciously, I slowly started to identify myself just as the perfect student with the perfect results. So, after my very first rejection at university, I had a burnout and I've felt useless, stupid and unworthy. I've had a very difficult moment: I wasn't able to concentrate anymore, and I've passed through hymsomnia, depression, anxiety. I've felt paralized, uncapable to do anything and with the constant terror of failure. Most of all, I wasn't able to stop comparing myself to the others: in the meantime a lot of my colleagues already were graduating, and they were starting to work, to live their life apparently knowing exactly what they wanted. And I was there, looking at them behind a wall of glass, thinking that my dream to be a teacher was lost forever. Now, after a lot of time, thanks to therapy, I'm starting to feel a little better: I've just finished my exams, and I'm working on my final thesis. On march, despite Covid, i should finally graduate. I still have to work a lot on myself, sometimes I'm still my worst enemy, but things are slowly getting better and I'm working hard to learn how to be kind to myself everyday. For everone who's feeling lost in life: you're not. You are loved, you are worthy and your moment's gonna come. Love from Italy.
I think partly it is good to stop judging yourself, but it is also important to get enough encouragement from outside ( I mean external results , not other people ). And keep in mind everybody has a different personality.
I think people these days under estimate the value of extrinsic satisfaction and put too much effort on Confuciousianism and Buddhistic minimalism.
But I think if forced, this results exactly the opposite of solace. It just make yoh realise your mistakes when it's too late
Non sei sola :)
Thank you for this❤️
Thank you for all, you are important and precious don't forget that
Hello Stephania! What a lovely comment - thank you! For so long the world has concentrated almost entirely on the tangible, what can be achieved or acquired, but there is an understanding beyond this, and its making itself felt. A spirituality that has always been there, but we are slowly re-discovering. I do hope that you life is everything that you would wish it to be! With love from England.
I just finished college and didn’t enjoy it. I want to do art. I have no friends and my mom is an alcoholic . I found this video helpful. Thank you.
Keep going and do your best to follow your dream. You will inspire others with your art! Wishing you the best through these hard times
xDelirio1231 thanks I found this helpful 😊 I hope I can inspire people with art
Filip Popovic thanks ;)
Plough on through and you’ll get there mate, all the best.
I hope your mother gets the help she needs soon, that must be hard to witness.
555666 thanks it means a lot. I have to say it might be one of the hardest things I will ever have to experience
"My world is turning pages while I am just sitting here"
-Tame Impala - Apocalypse Dreams
🧡🧡🧡
That’s how i feel
My favorite song in the whole wide world
That’s me rn
thank you so much. am 32 yo and i always feel this way , feel so left behind seeing my mates marry, have kids . truly we cant calculate life.
TH-cam reccomendations have really blessed me, this is so eye opening! Thank you for making this.
I'm just wondering, how on earth are your videos so underrated? More people should have watched this.
+1
treiszi on god, the power of self improvement is simply underrated.
Being a 90s kid i grew up through not having smartphones, social media and comparisons to others, i was happy in my heart even without much but essentials and friends.
Now i know how horrible and demonic social media and the modern world is for people's health and happiness.
Anyone reading this do not compare yourself to anyone but who you were yesterday, I truly love each and every one of you and I hope you truly learn to fully accept and love yourself too xx ❤🤗
Lets be strong together
Great message 😊🙏🏽💪🏽
Thanks 🥺
@@2-tonekit18 Thank you, hope you are well 😊🙏
@@mistygirl4961 You are so welcome my friend ❤🤗
@@TheJamezay hey James, doing great over here, hope you are too. I loved your insightful comment, it's really inspiring and eye-opening in so many ways😉
Amazing video. I’m 22 and I’m so jealous of people who have it all “together.” I get more frustrated when I see younger people living their dreams. I try everyday to find my peace . Apparently I don’t try hard enough though
same! and i'm 23. not really jealous of where others are at but i truly envy their boldness to do things in life. i also feel like im just not trying hard enough. and have to make myself understand that the confidence i greatly need will come from nowhere else but myself
I'm 20 and feeling sad that I failed again in exams . I didn't work hard enough. Can someone talk with me please
@@outfromshadows1862 I have had this happen to me, too. But then I came to realize that what I was studying for, I no longer wanted to do. I did something else instead. And I now know that I failed because my brain works differently from most people, that I retain information in a very different way, and so have a more difficult time in regurgitating that information. Please know that you are a person of value, that you have a right to be here on this Earth, and that we all have a gift to that we have been given to use. Sometimes it takes a while to find one's gifts. Accomplishments mean less than living your life with love and integrity. I hope that this helps. Be kind to yourself, as hard as that can be for us all sometimes.
@@outfromshadows1862 same, i am a 22 year old and all my friends get straight A's, well they try to help me and we study together but i feel like i am the dumpest of all..i am always just trying to get by. Its not so easy to feel good at all times.
I started my TH-cam to express all that i am feeling and after saying all the things that bothers me over a mic, i feel a little better
22! try that feeling when in 30s or 40s....=)
I have been feeling this since a long time. my relatives are rich. cousins are going abroad from Punjab ,yes I am a Punjabi. they are earning dollars and we just find it difficult to meet our basic needs . I don't like to be out with them anymore . It feels like this is forever and obvious poverty finds even more poverty . I feel sad . I don't know how will i even survive.
I’m almost done with college and all of my friends are getting hired into good companies, dating with good partners and developing new skills. I’m unemployed, single and sometimes feel I haven’t learned what I needed in these past 4 years. One day a friend came up to me and said she wishes she were me because I’m “too far ahead”. Comparing different lives is so arbitrary, and it’s living at your own pace that makes life so interesting.
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It's alot of 30 year olds in the comments that's expressing that they are still growing into themselves and are content with moving forward with their Passions. I'm 27 and I just want to let y'all know, seeing those comments are really inspiring. Looks like we all needed this video.😢😭
Yes came to mee at the right time. I am 29 years old but feeling stuck in life don't know what to do though I feel like things but don't know exactly what should be done. ?
@@Anonymous_110 I just turned 20 have no clue what I'm doing. What seems to help is having a schedule and looking after all aspects of your health.
@@treeladder5338 yes that's helpful. Thanks for reply. And I hope you may also find path in life and have success in life
@@Anonymous_110 I feel you, I feel the same at 28
@@goldeagle6391 you don't need to worry bro. Everything will be fine. You have bright future and good time waiting ahead for you. Just believe me your time is around the corner.
I love this video- I hate the "where do you see yourself in 5 years?" question , it's so crazy to think or expect your life to just be one way & not take into account the numerous opportunities and changes we go through as humans, on the daily! So in 5 years? I have no fucking clue. All I hope is that in 5 years, I've changed into a person, and a place that developes my growth
Perfect🤓🔥👏👏
Yess its important to be in present!
Ad Dalai Lama sais: " Hope is the only thing we got" Namaste. Stay well whereever You are - I am 68' now and my experience is : Say precent, live in the now and dont let Your ego spoil Your life ! ❤
I hated that question growing up and i wish i had the guts to let my teachers know at the time, that i did not want to answer it.
Out of two roads in the woods, take the one less travelled by. I myself have had a long life already, going many different ways. Starting Something new, giving it up and travelling on. I never had a specific purpose. When I thought I was in a lifesituation that fitted my thoughts about living sustainably, collectively and so on, something came in my way. I tried again, same thing happened. My life has been moving and educating myself but I never got this wonderful carreer, that seems to be what everyone should go for theese days. Fortunately. I suffered. Learned. Suffered and was about to give up living. Then I found Echkart Tolle speaking on TH-cam more than 3 years ago. He saved my life.
I’ve been told that I’m behind in life cuz I haven’t done what others have done. This includes having a driving license, love life etc. At first I felt embarrassed as others younger than me or the same age have theirs, or in general have accomplished stuff that I haven’t yet, to me it sounds stupid but gotta understand that everyone’s life is different and you shouldn’t be rushed to do something out of pressure just to “catch up” to feel better. Finding yourself and finding God will do that. Your time will come. It’s like is there a life checklist that must be completed by a certain age or time. God’s timing is perfect and we should be ourselves and do ourselves no matter what anyone says. Majority of society don’t posts their failures or down times so don’t let social media Rush you or make you feel a certain way… love this vid and everyone else out there keep pushing 👍👊❤️
I'm way behind according to all society's standards. Its not easy to accept. Thanks for sharing this video.
You’re not way behind, you are where you need to be! This is your life, no-one else’s, live it by your rules!
I love you no matter what
Fuck society and its dumb expectations. Where you are is where you should be. And rest assured, your peers who you think are ahead are wrestling with the same demons of regret and insecurity. They are parts of the human condition, however they have exacerbated enormously by our dysfunctional "modern" age. You're not alone, and you're doing fine.
"I'll be able to accept that I'm doing the best I can"
Wise words
Just be yourself. Surround yourself with people who love you unconditionally. Try to find work in an area you actually enjoy. And most importantly..spend time doing things you love no matter what they are or what people think of them. You only have one life. Make it a good one.
I would add, try to live in the moment as much as possible. That's where happiness is, its in the here and now. Get out of your head.
That's all well and good but it's really unattainable and unrealistic cliche. Life is never going to be great no matter how hard you try to shift your mindset. The only hope anyone has is reconciliation to God through Jesus Christ, and having eternal life after death in a sinless body.
@@CJ-lr4uq There are tons of religions and deities and there's most likely nothing after death sweetie. Try and enjoy the life you have.
@@eartheclipse8 keep telling yourself that. You're in for a rude awakening. You'd better smarten up now while you have the chance.
@Block Chain I'm sorry you feel that way. I love *unconditionally* and accept a person the way they are, and not how I want them to be or for what they will give me. It's the only way I know how to love.
I'm 20 and most of the time, I just wanna be back to high school when I didn't feel the pressure to be successful. I see my classmates and those I used to be friends with having the best relationships and having a successful career and here is me who's unemployed and single since birth. I'm afraid that I might die alone and be unsuccessful in life. But yeah there is no type of measurement to measure if you're behind in life. You just gotta move forward. For me, I try to learn new thing and better myself everyday.
"One day you're going to wake up and realise you've wasted your whole life being miserable"
-my mother
I understand what she is saying and I wish I could change how I feel every day but I cant seem to connect the missing link. 😑
honestly this might sound silly but just try writing three things you’re grateful for everyday. i’ll give you 3 you probably have: 1) you can breathe without difficulty 2) you have 4 functioning limbs 3) you can see
Maybe get away from your mom.
Sometimes relatives can be very toxic. If you distance yourself from them the relationship may change between both of you.
This quote sounds like an insult disguised as helpful advise. It's shaming you for feeling miserable i.e. sad, depressed, anxious, angry or grieving a loss. It implies that these feelings are a waste of time and you should be happy, having fun, being fulfilled. Is there any concern for what is causing you pain?
Its a process. You spent awhile in that lower state but slowly but surely you can come out of it. Take one step at a time
I was stuck feeling left behind for a whole year last year and depression seeped in which led to multiple mental breakdowns in my car all alone. It took me a while to get back up, I quit social media, I stopped thinking about other ppl's achievements and tried to focus on myself and what I can do to achieve things in life. But most importantly I had to learn to listen to myself. What I thought was wrong with me wasn't, I just simply wasn't listening hard enough. I just needed to take my own time and learned my own tempo. Thank god I've been having much better days.
Yoongi boongi i feel the same way right now, and i have for a long time. what did you do in order to see things differently? because i’ve tried and nothing has worked out so far lol
@@naomisimms2083 well I stopped watching other people's lives and started watching my own. I tried to get a sense of understanding for myself. I would go own with my day and I'd make a mental note for things that made me feel okay and for things that didn't. And it took a lot of self control. Whenever I started slipping back into depression, I'd tell myself to keep moving forward and try to slow down my thoughts. And slowly I stopped caring so much about other people's lives and paid attention to mine.
I love your response. Me too ..and self examination and reflection have become regular habits for me...im in my early 30s and feel my life passing by because I have passively been accepting my life "how it is" when I could be actively changing it and participating in it rather than just always being an observer!
Congrats 👏🏾
I'm 56 and at the time of my life I'm caring for my elderly parents. My dad passed away 5 months ago peacefully at home with mom and I, just as he'd hoped he would. I'm lucky...but, yeah, I'm behind. Life's a complicated, difficult and emotionally challenging journey. I feel like I'm tripping along my path and can't figure out how I'm no longer 20. Like I don't understand time. You'll have to remind yourself often. Nicely done, young man 😊.
Same here MJ T... may your father rest in peace he was a lucky guy to have you... i am 48 and finally financially stable to do what i would love in life and tadaaa my father got sick and i have to take care of him... had to leave all behind everything i have worked for for 30 years but i am grateful for the time we have and that i am able to be there for him. But yes time is holding us back at the moment because maybe our time has not come yet. Wish you that all your dreams come true ☺️
@@mx.dinpuru1533& @MJT Your fathers must be proud of you guys.love from sri lanka.may you live long life
star dust greetings to sri lanka from istanbul :) thank you so much 🙏🏼 wish you the same ❤️
Thank you for this. I wrote it down in my notebook, in the middle of a year’s worth of anxiety surrounding not having things figured out already. It helps to know people even at ages where we *are* “supposed” to have everything set in order, don’t necessarily have that. Thank you for the reassurance. Good luck to you
It completely resonates with me . Today I talked with a friend and I realised that his teens and 20s was great compared to my life - a lot of girls came into his life and I realised that where was I in those days , my religiousness background completely took away my days of joy. But thinking about it is not the solution ,I have to work on myself. ♥️