My therapist always says to me that I need to learn how to live without having control of everything. And somehow I'm learning this now. My life is a mess, but I'm alive, I'm here and I'm fighting.
I needed to hear this bc this very thing is holding me back from moving forward. Wow! I hope your doing well and I’m sending you abundance of love and a healthy mind.
The timing of this video is so perfect, I had a miserable first semester of college and dropped out spring semester right before Corona took over the world. My summer semester at GSU got moved online (which I know I can’t handle) and with every office and the IRS being shut down, it’s made registration impossible. I’m trying not to take this as a sign that college isn’t my path, when I already am so worried about transferring to a new college and new city... *sigh* but this video brought some clarity 🙏🏾
Hey, I can feel what you are going through. I am in a similar situation, I've applied for 30 jobs and failed all of them. Just got the notification from the last company, I couldn't get that one either. I'm still depending partly on my parents for my living (I'm a master's student) and my younger brothers are already working, feeding their own mouths. I feel like a huge failure. Appreciate Tarek for posting this video!!!
@@personalaccount5494 you will prevail, im praying for you! You're far from a failure, youre a masters student! the right CAREER will be headed your way. Maybe just a job is not what's in store but THE job is!
You got this! Push through and continue to give college a try. Even if you do discover its not for you, you know its not for you because you tried, continue pushing. Remember everything happens for a reason and God makes no mistake. Good luck ❤️
I've been feeling like this for the LONGEST time!!! When you said "I keep procrastinating things I want to do because I'm just afraid it won't be good enough",I FELT that😭
This video helped me a lot. Lately I feel like no one understands me and I don’t even understand myself. In the future I want to start a TH-cam channel and be an influencer because I feel like I have a lot to talk about, but I always told my parents I want to do something else. Now I’ve been doubting my self and telling me that having a TH-cam channel is stupid and I don’t even know if I want to do it anymore. I know it sounds stupid it’s really been on my mind and I feel it would be really fun ❤️(plz don’t hate me)
Hello Kai! I believe you CAN do your own TH-cam Channel. I started doing my channel about four years ago. I love to talk about things and it's been great so far! I believe your personality will SHINE through once you start and express yourself. I absolutely think you having a TH-cam Channel will be awesome for you. Go for it! And you're welcome to check out my content and subscribe. I just subscribed to your channel just now.
Heyy! If your inner intuition is telling you to start a TH-cam channel go for it nothing bad comes out of going after your dreams and allowing yourself to be creative
girl, the world needs your ideas and personality! If you have a lot to talk about, go for it😀 The more that people with individual perspectives share, the faster the world will change. There will be people that relate to you and that will start forming a beautiful community
I needed this conversation. I remember dating this guy 2 years ago and he was really successful; he had just moved to New York and still running off the high of it. Meanwhile, I didn’t have a job at the time; I was looking for one and just going through a lot of personal stuff. We had talked about our goals and what we want for future before. One day he told me, I had no passion and he couldn’t be with someone that doesn’t have a career. I’m a free spirit; I have this everything will work out mentality. I was never insecure about not being where I’m supposed to be in life before. But, he made me feel like shit in that moment. That was two years ago and I haven’t dated since because in the back of my mind, I felt I wasn’t good enough. So now I’m dating, I still don’t have my dream career and that’s ok. I definitely agree with your video and there’s a lot I can take away from it as well. Thanks for making this!
Wow Thiis video is a sign for me. Tarek, I thank you for helping me see my path clearly. I'm a singer and I been terrified of posting videos of myself singing bcuz I don't feel like I'm good enough. But everything around me recently has been pointing me towards my dreams. This video came at the best time for me and im truly thank you so much. I hope to meet you later on in my journal.
it's so good to do what you love!! I've always wanted to have a TH-cam channel about fashion, but was soooo shy, so I didn't really try. But this year I fell in love with Tarot and I can't NOT do videos. We need to create so that others like us can see, be inspired, and relate
The "I don't have control" part really do makes me think of the stoicism philosophy. Being aware that all you can control is some part of yourself and that it should be your source of happiness since it's the only reliable thing in your life. Also, procrastination is an emotional problem like you said, I found a really interesting interview on TH-cam with a Dr. that helped with a few techniques ! Thanks for the good work you put in your video 🙏 like we say in french "il vaut mieux vivre avec des remords qu'avec des regrets"
this really encouraged me, to start planning more. my thoughts are so scattered that i think planning will help me for the better. The procrastination is something I feel a lot because I don't know if it will be good or work, or if its the right thing.and it hasn't benefitted me because I've chosen things that have made me miserable because i was unsure, even though my gut told me differently. So im going to try to channel my visions, thoughts and feelings more. i reallly want to push my channel to where i know it could be and with that being said please reply to me any video ideas anyone who sees this might have. also just a reminder if anyone needs it, this will pass and you're not alone. this quarantine has allowed me healing and has also allowed me to reflect on my self and others. i hope you all can do the same. im so thankful for this video, and i hope anyone going through this comes out better, we're all on our own pace.
this is why i love you! because you’re real i always get so caught up being real with creating what I wanna create and having conversations I care about on platform which I stopped creating BC I felt like I had to water down but you always are the most beautiful breath of fresh air that Im exactly on the right path BC if you can relate to you and you to me I can relate to someone too.. 🤍 not just today but errrday
I totally relate to this🙌 I started my channel about 5yrs ago and only posted like once a year lol because I was too shy to express truthfully. But this year, I just couldn't NOT express and I've gotten a super lovely response from people that's really motivating me to keep going. So you doing you without watering down is the best thing you can do for your content! There will be people that click with you🙂
As an undergraduate student (biology major as well lol) I so needed this. With this worldly pandemic going on, and so many others things, my stress levels have been through the roof. I’m so focused on trying to make sure things are good today, tomorrow, and so on, but I cannot control that in a sense. This video has instilled in me that having a plan is amazing, but don’t stress yourself too thin. Give it your all, and if all else fails, dust yourself off and try again. Be prepared for change.
really good idea for a video! this is real and raw! A common emotion for people of our age. We have goals but dont know how to execute them. I myself have dealt with the same emotion. I doubt myself now. I have so many ideas and want to do everything! i think its okay but what am i doing now. I love natural hair. im realizing its a passion and then sometimes i get discouraged because im not growing as quickly or seeing others do my ideas and need a break to rebuild myself back up. But i definitely agree we dont all have it together and sometimes people have to explore before they know what they want to do!
coming from a fellow creative who has felt a massive energetic and creative block during these times of uncertainty, it was really refreshing to hear you dive into your experience and has really helped give me the motivation to start chipping away at those projects I have been putting of for so long due to my own self doubt and fear. thank you for your encouragement and clarity
I wish I could hug you right now, been feel like giving up for a while and I was finally getting better then corona ruin my progress. I’m going to start continuing to work on my mental health i needed this motivation love
Right on time!!! JUST TODAY, I admitted to MYSELF that, I’ve LOST MYSELF......! Thanks for sharing all this!!!!! It’s DEFINITELY divinely orchestrated!!! ALL LOVE to You!!!! 🤍💯😘
I found your video at the most appropriate time! I am going through a period of self doubt and low self worth which I realize a lot more people are dealing with! Its like you said, have faith and believe in yourself-you know what you want in your core. Trust that you can make the necessary steps to get to the destination and reroute if need be. Thank you so much for showing me i’m not alone
yes fellow scorpio, (just felt the need to add that in LMAO) i’ve been going through the exact same thing for the past 3 months now... it’s hard cause i was so used to everything i did turning into gold. i’m nervous that if my next move doesn’t work out my ego will be bruised and i’ll be stuck. i’ve been putting everything back and not feeling myself at all. you gave very good advice and ill have to come back to this video when i’m feeling stuck. thankyou tarek ,ily ♥️.
I really gotta cut the cameras deadass because God is really speaking through you to me. I needed to hear this. Thank you for this I am truly appreciative
I really needed this, thank you 😩❤️❤️ I think it’s important to focus on the things we can control like our thought process and what we can do in the moment to help ourselves & leave the things we can’t control in the hands of God. I’ve also struggled with self doubt (still struggling 😅) & with all these things going on, I’m trying to be more compassionate with myself and be my best friend & really listen to my thought process
I needed this video in my life. It's crazy that we are all going through similar experiences and because we don't talk about it in this capacity we feel so singular and alone. I was meant to be packing to go to Europe now, to pursue a career in fashion and modelling. And I have been planning this for over 9 months also! I have never independently moved or travelled and I was soo excited for this experience. I have had so much support by a lot of people who invest in my dream of becoming a model. And this pursuit have been so personal to me for over 3 years and inviting people to be a part of my dream has been the most frightening and vulnerable thing I've ever done. Being independent for most of my life and doing everything that I want to do with great calculation as you said I felt so embarrassed for myself for something out of my control (the pandemic) I agree with you that loosing control really sat me down for a minute.There have been so much changes since cover-19. I am literally had to consider everything that I am doing and want to do.
Hey Tarek i'm so glad that you did this video, i'm in Cape Town South Africa and yeah 2020 has taught us alot man. Planning is also a huge part of me and now i feel so devastated because everything is just on a stand still and all the plans i had are now scrap, i was suppose to start my internship this June but that is being postponed and that's sucks man. Thanks for the video because now i can see that we all are going through the same
I saw this quote somewhere, "Everything that has ever happened to you in your life is preparing you for something that is meant to come". You did a great job with this video and you have such an amazing insight that's way beyond your years; thank you so much for sharing.
For my first year and a half of college, I majored in nutrition. I fought to get into the program because I was passionate about it. When I was dismissed at the end of my fall semester, I was heartbroken and devastated. I failed chem and bio with a D. I realized the hard way that science is not my strength and never will be, and my talents in English, French, and creative fields weren’t being put to good use. This week, my advisor gave me the strength to start over and study something that I KNEW I’d thrive in. Today, I decided to major in sociology, which is something I never thought I’d be able to do, since my schedule was packed with science-based classes before. I’m registering for classes tomorrow. I went from feeling so miserable and stupid to empowered and motivated. Thank you for spreading your message and sharing your experience💖
My so called friends destroyed my self-confidence. I'm working hard to get it back. I've never had to deal with this level of self-doubt before. But I know I have to get over it.
girl, same!!! it's almost the most upsetting fact I've had to come to terms with in my life so far. idk if the same happened with you but I tried hard to be there for them but they did nothing but spite me instead? and I was just blind to it all? did something similar happen to you?
@@ziadatedla7082 yes, I was always boosting them. Trying to build their confidence cause I knew they were insecure. But when I was down last year with a personal issue, they decided to kick me while I was down instead of help me, like I'd done for them. I've separated myself from those people after I gave them a piece of my mind. They have no value to me, they just caused me problems I did not need. Yes it's lonely but I'm working on myself daily. And I hope to find true friends in the future. I know what to look for.
Thank you so much for this post, I deal with depression and anxiety. Everything you stated how you have no room to fail and plan in advance is how I operate. So I'm reaching this new level of depression, I was suppose to move into my own place. You nailed it, with how I don't feel I have control anymore and how me personal I need to feel that since of control. This video is so relatable
I needed this so much even tho you're in Vermont you may not see this but I needed this so much cause I did my first quiz for econ this semester and failed and I was hard on myself for it and I know deep down I have other quizzes left even though this was the first out of few . ❤
I feel like you personally spoke to me lol. This quarantine has given me a lot of time to truly think about what I want to do and what steps I need to take to get there. I'm a Junior in college and my major is Biology too, but I'm not sure what I want to do after I graduate. I'm so confused, but it is nice to see that I am not alone. Congratulations on graduating! I'm so happy for your success and I wish you the best
Subscribed in the first 30 seconds because your personality is too adorable-- excited for you and your channel's growth! Don't even worry about how to cultivate your channel, just being yourself draws us in ^^
I’m not even through with the video yet, and in the first 3mins, I feel you 100%. 😄🤦🏾♀️ I have the talent, skill, and everything I need within me… but 😪🙄 that controlling perfectionist in me be blocking! Lol (which contributes to feelings of self-doubt, etc.) I hate feeling that way. So gross. We just gotta stay focused on the wins we had before, and love & believe in ourselves. Be kind to ourselves. Remember that there’s only ONE of you, and you have a gift and something to contribute to the world (NOW, while you’re still here). ✨🙌🏾✨
I'm really thankful that you uploaded this video today. I have been having some doubts about if I would ever be able to get my goals finished ever! And Ive been feeling like absolute shit having no apparent real reason to do it. And today and yesterday was really bad, not seeing any real reason to reach my goal and thinking that it is stupid, and Corona is absolutely ruining my mindset
what i’ve learned through my personal clinical anxiety, the best thing to say when i get the same way u feel, i always say “so what?” and it always makes me feel better especially with the “what if i’m not good enough?” or “what if they don’t like me?” but i just say, “so what u have a great family and friends and it’ll all be ok”
I'm so happy the algorithms got me here. this is exactly what I've been going through lately and struggled putting it into words. honestly I've been eating myself up. being a creative is a lot sometimes, especially in times like these
When I tell you this is food for the soul...like I'm going through it right now in terms of my direction. I plan to create and build my own startup, with a goal of moving from the East Coast to the West Coast and even going back to school for business. This whole Covid-19 situation has completely put me in crazy position. I got laid off from my non-essential job and it's devastated me because I have to start completely over in an aspect I did not plan to. I thought I would be doing the things I've planned with more control. With the realization that I've really had no control, I've been anxious and procrastinating on working on my startup so I can apply for funding. Seeing this video, puts how I've been feeling into words, eloquently. Also, to see the comments just makes me understand I'm not alone, even though I certainly feel like it.
yasss!! you can’t control the outcome, but you can change your response to it. an event (can’t control) + your response (can control) = the outcome. in this case, covid is the event & how we respond to it determines our outcome. we should make the most out of what we have. ❤️
i kind of see this quarantine as a spiritual awakening. at first i really thought and focused on how it’s negatively impacted me, but now I’ve taken the time to realize that i have so much more time to actually focus on myself and the things ive been pushing to the side because of my busy schedule. i really think that during this time we really need to focus on what we want, focus on the positive changes we wanna make in our life, and most importantly appreciate everything we have bc you never know when there’s gonna be a roadblock.
I’ve been in a slump but you reminded me of what apart of me has been trying to remind myself; put energy on how you react. ❣️
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This was me a year ago. You more than likely have a fear of failure and uncertainty that’s triggering your anxiety. Once you accept that failure and uncertainty are inevitable you’ll move through life a lot more carefree.
I don’t know why this was sent my way but I’m an NOT complaining. For the past 4 years up until now I’ve felt like giving up I’ve been out of a control for a while now even when I try to do the most simplest things. Now that I’m quarantined it’s like I have time to think and re-evaluate what it is I truly want. I now understand I can’t do 20 different things at once. One step at a time. Thank you for this video a lot of people including myself needed it 😢😭💯💕
This self quarantine is making us truly face our self, our fears and doubts. Its a chance to know who we are and grow as individuals. I believe that there is a quote that says something to the effect of" the only thing that remains constant is change." We all have parts to play in who we are and how we experience life.
I felt super overwhelmed yesterday with the amount of stuff piling up. I've been non-stop planning and accommodating my goals too, considering the circumstances. today is a new day and this video helped! knowing that i'm not the only one going through these changes helps me feel at ease for taking my time to plan things out and not rush. thank you for sharing your update and inspiring. much love.
You are on the right path. All of these pieces, even the painful ones, are smaller pieces to a larger message that you may not be ready to receive. Your path is the one of the alchemist and I know you will find your treasure. Keep fighting, you got this
I really needed to hear this. I broke down and cried when I realized that all my plans have not only been postponed by a few months but could even be a few years realistically. I was so upset because I'm very ambitious and not being able to move or do stuff really messed with everything. But I can only do what I can and make something out of what I have so this video really helped.
i was supposed to graduate too.(from high school) and i was already goin through stuff BEFORE corona even hit so the whole corona thing don’t got nun on what i was already goin through it was jus the icing on the cake. and when i tell u prayer and faith is the only that got me through ... i’m tellin u fr. and tarek sayin that God has all the control really spoke to me
This was me with college. I planned and planned and lived my life strategically for FOUR YEARS just to get deferred from my safety. After that I learned not to plan as much. And as more things went wrong I learned to plan less and less. And sometimes not less but differently, or step by step. Corona has really taught the world that you NEVER know what tomorrow brings. We've all always said that, but none of us really meant it till now.
I dropped out of college at 20, worked 5 different jobs and now I’m back at 30 in a different faculty and loving it! Even though I never did a diary or youtube thing...I think I’d ask you to put an event in your calendar to watch this again in 5 years...so you’ll remember to stop counting how many times you “change your mind”. I know someone’s out there doing the same thing I did, beating yourself up thinking the number counts more than the feeling. Make it 0, every night. Start at 1, every day. The other side feels good.
I can totally relate to all that you said. Especially about being open to change. I have never felt so out if control of my own life... n you know what? I've found peace with it.
Hey Tarek, I'm so glad I clicked on this video; it's awesome!! Many of the things you said resonated with me especially about differing values. I’ve been walking in what feels like an aimless direction for years so I understand where you’re coming from. The only advice I can give you is to keep pushing. That means waking up everyday, getting dressed, putting in the effort, and giving yourself mental breaks to not think about your situation especially when things get too overwhelming. One day you'll realize that life doesn't get any easier, it simply gets more bearable. So keep pushing, you got this.🙌🏾☺️
okay but i needed this at this exact moment in my life. I havent been on youtube in a few days due to being so busy with life!! i been feeling lost and losing hope in my goals...then i get on youtube today and this is on my recommended.
I actually needed to watch this... I just recently turned 29 and honestly I felt like my emotions were all over the place. This being stuck inside has help me a lot though and I’m embracing it. I’m learning all you can is plan and trust God when things don’t always workout. He’s the God of tomorrow so give him your tomorrow and everyday after that.
soooo, as someone who just saw your video on their recommended, just know that the intro was PERFECT because you were just being you! just subscribed AND hit the bell :)) new fan here!
It's crazy how many people can relate, i've been wanting to make a video about this too, but started overthinking about it even before starting to record, but you hit the nail on everything so for that THANK YOU
So glad you’re feeling like yourself again. You put into words what so many of us are feeling right now. Your content is always right on time and I can’t wait for the talk show, I already see it! :)
I relate so much to everything. I am 38 and have a pretty stable freelance career and I still feel like I am figuring things out. I am now doubling down on my creative projects and I get the self-doubt part. It’s hard making content all the time to promote your work while being completely responsible for your own financial stability.
Really love this video Tarek, can totally relate to what you're saying. So glad I've added you to my collection of TH-camrs - I see a little bit of myself in you. Just remember that perfectionism robs you of your time so just jump in (talking to myself too lol) 💚
it's so refreshing to know that someone else is in the same position as me! I'm graduating this year as a biology major as well, was working hard to get into vet school, and realized it's not my true dream. But it's also nice to know that if I change my mind, I can give it another shot
Omg that is how I think too, I feel like I’m my own safety net I know I have family but I’m the only person that truly has me. I honestly love watching you and listening to you because everything you speak about is extremely relatable to me. So thank you so much for sharing everything that you do and being so transparent 💕
Thanks for making this video, it's really helpful right now! As a fellow creator I understand how easy is to follow into the trap of repeating your success, and it's almost necessary if you want to grow.. I think that a lot of people will watch you no matter what you do, but you're the one making the content and you need to be able to enjoy what you make without feeling pressured or overwhelmed. Begin your own lifeline can be very stressful and I hope you will find someone / something that can be there for you when you need it. Good luck in reaching your goal! Keep it up!!
My therapist always says to me that I need to learn how to live without having control of everything. And somehow I'm learning this now. My life is a mess, but I'm alive, I'm here and I'm fighting.
We all need to work on this.
I needed to hear this bc this very thing is holding me back from moving forward. Wow! I hope your doing well and I’m sending you abundance of love and a healthy mind.
Keep going, I trust you❤️
im 27 and jus starting to learn this
keep going guys, I trust you❤️🙏🏼
“I don’t have a safety net, I am my safety net.”
WHEW!!!! 😫 #facts
“Less calculated and more faith in your abilities” I needed to hear that because I’m a very calculated individual.
who else needed this !!!
Tirah Natari I so needed this girlll ❤️😩
Me😭😭😭😭
This poor soul of mine. 😭😭😭😭
Yes girl I’ve needed this for a long time actually 😥
Me girl
The timing of this video is so perfect, I had a miserable first semester of college and dropped out spring semester right before Corona took over the world. My summer semester at GSU got moved online (which I know I can’t handle) and with every office and the IRS being shut down, it’s made registration impossible. I’m trying not to take this as a sign that college isn’t my path, when I already am so worried about transferring to a new college and new city... *sigh* but this video brought some clarity 🙏🏾
Hey, I can feel what you are going through. I am in a similar situation, I've applied for 30 jobs and failed all of them. Just got the notification from the last company, I couldn't get that one either. I'm still depending partly on my parents for my living (I'm a master's student) and my younger brothers are already working, feeding their own mouths. I feel like a huge failure. Appreciate Tarek for posting this video!!!
@@personalaccount5494 you will prevail, im praying for you! You're far from a failure, youre a masters student! the right CAREER will be headed your way. Maybe just a job is not what's in store but THE job is!
You got this! Push through and continue to give college a try. Even if you do discover its not for you, you know its not for you because you tried, continue pushing. Remember everything happens for a reason and God makes no mistake. Good luck ❤️
@@nakkiasmalls4312 Thank you, this means a lot
GSU alum here!! You got this! ❤️
"You can have a lot of things planned, but you never know what tomorrow will bring." A whole word!
Be resilient, open to change, have faith, and believe in yourself 🧡
You too mr banks 🧡
FEEEELLLT THIIIISSSS 😭😩🤧💯💯. I think this Coronavirus is teaching us to be still, slow down a little , trust the process and be patient 🙏🏾✨✨
ALRIGHT, LET’S BRING OUT THE TISSUES
Gerald McCray hahaah same i was like shoulda wait to watch this later tonight haha cus rn I don’t want to cry haha
For real though!
I've been feeling like this for the LONGEST time!!! When you said "I keep procrastinating things I want to do because I'm just afraid it won't be good enough",I FELT that😭
I swear I was about to cry about this same topic and I saw this.......ugh tarek is honestly helping grow as a person.
iikxlanii you right 😩❤️
Honey it's the Coronies. We're just glad you're still here. Glad to see you.
i’ve been feeling so lost lately thinking about the future and what i want and this is what i needed to get me in the right headspace
Tarek, God bless you. You’re such a good-hearted soul; You bring people so much peace and imparted intellect with your videos. ❤️‼️
I love how this wasn’t scripted/pre-outlined and I still left with notes! Important content here
Tarek is consistently one of the wisest people I’ve ever experienced. Amazing.
This video helped me a lot. Lately I feel like no one understands me and I don’t even understand myself. In the future I want to start a TH-cam channel and be an influencer because I feel like I have a lot to talk about, but I always told my parents I want to do something else. Now I’ve been doubting my self and telling me that having a TH-cam channel is stupid and I don’t even know if I want to do it anymore. I know it sounds stupid it’s really been on my mind and I feel it would be really fun ❤️(plz don’t hate me)
On the same boat, that and so much more.
Hello Kai! I believe you CAN do your own TH-cam Channel. I started doing my channel about four years ago. I love to talk about things and it's been great so far! I believe your personality will SHINE through once you start and express yourself. I absolutely think you having a TH-cam Channel will be awesome for you. Go for it! And you're welcome to check out my content and subscribe. I just subscribed to your channel just now.
Heyy! If your inner intuition is telling you to start a TH-cam channel go for it nothing bad comes out of going after your dreams and allowing yourself to be creative
girl, the world needs your ideas and personality! If you have a lot to talk about, go for it😀 The more that people with individual perspectives share, the faster the world will change. There will be people that relate to you and that will start forming a beautiful community
Exactly! She should go for it. And I believe she can create something BEAUTIFUL to share with others. I encourage ANYBODY to do this!
I needed this conversation. I remember dating this guy 2 years ago and he was really successful; he had just moved to New York and still running off the high of it. Meanwhile, I didn’t have a job at the time; I was looking for one and just going through a lot of personal stuff. We had talked about our goals and what we want for future before. One day he told me, I had no passion and he couldn’t be with someone that doesn’t have a career. I’m a free spirit; I have this everything will work out mentality. I was never insecure about not being where I’m supposed to be in life before. But, he made me feel like shit in that moment. That was two years ago and I haven’t dated since because in the back of my mind, I felt I wasn’t good enough. So now I’m dating, I still don’t have my dream career and that’s ok. I definitely agree with your video and there’s a lot I can take away from it as well. Thanks for making this!
You will be fine very very soon 🧡
Tahmez O. Thanks 🥰
@@can4623 🧡🧡🧡
It’s sad that someone had to put you on so much pressure. Just do your best and take one day at a time.
@@DignaK Yeah, I really had to reflect on myself and understand that I’m good enough no matter what. Thank you so much for your kind words. 💕
You have such a sweet spirit. I just want to hug you.
Wow Thiis video is a sign for me. Tarek, I thank you for helping me see my path clearly. I'm a singer and I been terrified of posting videos of myself singing bcuz I don't feel like I'm good enough. But everything around me recently has been pointing me towards my dreams. This video came at the best time for me and im truly thank you so much. I hope to meet you later on in my journal.
Timmy Lee ahh I want to post singing videos someday too because that’s my dream career (aside from acting). You got this!!!
it's so good to do what you love!! I've always wanted to have a TH-cam channel about fashion, but was soooo shy, so I didn't really try. But this year I fell in love with Tarot and I can't NOT do videos. We need to create so that others like us can see, be inspired, and relate
Velvet Kat i love tarot readings!! good luck on your TH-cam journey!
@@lynnly2406 thanks and you too!
The "I don't have control" part really do makes me think of the stoicism philosophy. Being aware that all you can control is some part of yourself and that it should be your source of happiness since it's the only reliable thing in your life.
Also, procrastination is an emotional problem like you said, I found a really interesting interview on TH-cam with a Dr. that helped with a few techniques !
Thanks for the good work you put in your video 🙏 like we say in french "il vaut mieux vivre avec des remords qu'avec des regrets"
this really encouraged me, to start planning more. my thoughts are so scattered that i think planning will help me for the better. The procrastination is something I feel a lot because I don't know if it will be good or work, or if its the right thing.and it hasn't benefitted me because I've chosen things that have made me miserable because i was unsure, even though my gut told me differently. So im going to try to channel my visions, thoughts and feelings more. i reallly want to push my channel to where i know it could be and with that being said please reply to me any video ideas anyone who sees this might have. also just a reminder if anyone needs it, this will pass and you're not alone. this quarantine has allowed me healing and has also allowed me to reflect on my self and others. i hope you all can do the same. im so thankful for this video, and i hope anyone going through this comes out better, we're all on our own pace.
this is why i love you! because you’re real i always get so caught up being real with creating what I wanna create and having conversations I care about on platform which I stopped creating BC I felt like I had to water down but you always are the most beautiful breath of fresh air that Im exactly on the right path BC if you can relate to you and you to me I can relate to someone too.. 🤍 not just today but errrday
I totally relate to this🙌 I started my channel about 5yrs ago and only posted like once a year lol because I was too shy to express truthfully. But this year, I just couldn't NOT express and I've gotten a super lovely response from people that's really motivating me to keep going. So you doing you without watering down is the best thing you can do for your content! There will be people that click with you🙂
"A goal is just a dream without a plan"
extraordinarily well-put
As an undergraduate student (biology major as well lol) I so needed this. With this worldly pandemic going on, and so many others things, my stress levels have been through the roof. I’m so focused on trying to make sure things are good today, tomorrow, and so on, but I cannot control that in a sense. This video has instilled in me that having a plan is amazing, but don’t stress yourself too thin. Give it your all, and if all else fails, dust yourself off and try again. Be prepared for change.
I’m adopting your attitude towards life, period... “If it doesn’t work out it don’t work, if it do it do.”
Agreed! Such an awesome way to live life!
really good idea for a video! this is real and raw! A common emotion for people of our age. We have goals but dont know how to execute them. I myself have dealt with the same emotion. I doubt myself now. I have so many ideas and want to do everything! i think its okay but what am i doing now. I love natural hair. im realizing its a passion and then sometimes i get discouraged because im not growing as quickly or seeing others do my ideas and need a break to rebuild myself back up. But i definitely agree we dont all have it together and sometimes people have to explore before they know what they want to do!
coming from a fellow creative who has felt a massive energetic and creative block during these times of uncertainty, it was really refreshing to hear you dive into your experience and has really helped give me the motivation to start chipping away at those projects I have been putting of for so long due to my own self doubt and fear. thank you for your encouragement and clarity
It’s all good Tarek all of us have been feeling insecure & unsure
I wish I could hug you right now, been feel like giving up for a while and I was finally getting better then corona ruin my progress. I’m going to start continuing to work on my mental health i needed this motivation love
Right on time!!! JUST TODAY, I admitted to MYSELF that, I’ve LOST MYSELF......! Thanks for sharing all this!!!!! It’s DEFINITELY divinely orchestrated!!! ALL LOVE to You!!!! 🤍💯😘
I found your video at the most appropriate time! I am going through a period of self doubt and low self worth which I realize a lot more people are dealing with! Its like you said, have faith and believe in yourself-you know what you want in your core. Trust that you can make the necessary steps to get to the destination and reroute if need be. Thank you so much for showing me i’m not alone
This video is so introspective and I love it. Good for you ❤️❤️❤️
yes fellow scorpio, (just felt the need to add that in LMAO) i’ve been going through the exact same thing for the past 3 months now... it’s hard cause i was so used to everything i did turning into gold. i’m nervous that if my next move doesn’t work out my ego will be bruised and i’ll be stuck. i’ve been putting everything back and not feeling myself at all. you gave very good advice and ill have to come back to this video when i’m feeling stuck. thankyou tarek ,ily ♥️.
This video hits differently as a creator. I FEEL YOU! I've started back posting again, I can't even think about it anymore.
I really gotta cut the cameras deadass because God is really speaking through you to me. I needed to hear this. Thank you for this I am truly appreciative
I really needed this, thank you 😩❤️❤️ I think it’s important to focus on the things we can control like our thought process and what we can do in the moment to help ourselves & leave the things we can’t control in the hands of God. I’ve also struggled with self doubt (still struggling 😅) & with all these things going on, I’m trying to be more compassionate with myself and be my best friend & really listen to my thought process
I needed this video in my life. It's crazy that we are all going through similar experiences and because we don't talk about it in this capacity we feel so singular and alone. I was meant to be packing to go to Europe now, to pursue a career in fashion and modelling. And I have been planning this for over 9 months also! I have never independently moved or travelled and I was soo excited for this experience. I have had so much support by a lot of people who invest in my dream of becoming a model. And this pursuit have been so personal to me for over 3 years and inviting people to be a part of my dream has been the most frightening and vulnerable thing I've ever done. Being independent for most of my life and doing everything that I want to do with great calculation as you said I felt so embarrassed for myself for something out of my control (the pandemic) I agree with you that loosing control really sat me down for a minute.There have been so much changes since cover-19. I am literally had to consider everything that I am doing and want to do.
I love the way you broke down long term vs short term goals! It’s a great lesson to be taught
Hey Tarek i'm so glad that you did this video, i'm in Cape Town South Africa and yeah 2020 has taught us alot man. Planning is also a huge part of me and now i feel so devastated because everything is just on a stand still and all the plans i had are now scrap, i was suppose to start my internship this June but that is being postponed and that's sucks man. Thanks for the video because now i can see that we all are going through the same
I saw this quote somewhere, "Everything that has ever happened to you in your life is preparing you for something that is meant to come". You did a great job with this video and you have such an amazing insight that's way beyond your years; thank you so much for sharing.
For my first year and a half of college, I majored in nutrition. I fought to get into the program because I was passionate about it. When I was dismissed at the end of my fall semester, I was heartbroken and devastated. I failed chem and bio with a D. I realized the hard way that science is not my strength and never will be, and my talents in English, French, and creative fields weren’t being put to good use. This week, my advisor gave me the strength to start over and study something that I KNEW I’d thrive in. Today, I decided to major in sociology, which is something I never thought I’d be able to do, since my schedule was packed with science-based classes before. I’m registering for classes tomorrow. I went from feeling so miserable and stupid to empowered and motivated. Thank you for spreading your message and sharing your experience💖
My so called friends destroyed my self-confidence. I'm working hard to get it back. I've never had to deal with this level of self-doubt before. But I know I have to get over it.
Queen Vee you'll get through it🤍
@@mrbougiemisfit thank you ❣️
girl, same!!! it's almost the most upsetting fact I've had to come to terms with in my life so far. idk if the same happened with you but I tried hard to be there for them but they did nothing but spite me instead? and I was just blind to it all? did something similar happen to you?
@@ziadatedla7082 yes, I was always boosting them. Trying to build their confidence cause I knew they were insecure. But when I was down last year with a personal issue, they decided to kick me while I was down instead of help me, like I'd done for them. I've separated myself from those people after I gave them a piece of my mind. They have no value to me, they just caused me problems I did not need. Yes it's lonely but I'm working on myself daily. And I hope to find true friends in the future. I know what to look for.
@@queenvee9729 you've got this. keep at it!!
You’re literally my TH-cam therapist lol. Your videos always drop at the right time!
Thank you so much for this post, I deal with depression and anxiety. Everything you stated how you have no room to fail and plan in advance is how I operate. So I'm reaching this new level of depression, I was suppose to move into my own place. You nailed it, with how I don't feel I have control anymore and how me personal I need to feel that since of control. This video is so relatable
first i love this shirt. second these are facts! i didn't realize this until everything stopped around me.
I needed this so much even tho you're in Vermont you may not see this but I needed this so much cause I did my first quiz for econ this semester and failed and I was hard on myself for it and I know deep down I have other quizzes left even though this was the first out of few . ❤
Right on time with this topic 🙏🏾
Nafee Banks exactly
I feel like you personally spoke to me lol. This quarantine has given me a lot of time to truly think about what I want to do and what steps I need to take to get there. I'm a Junior in college and my major is Biology too, but I'm not sure what I want to do after I graduate. I'm so confused, but it is nice to see that I am not alone. Congratulations on graduating! I'm so happy for your success and I wish you the best
Thank you baby, you're the friend everybody needs
You’re a beautiful human, liberating the people. Thanks for your powerful truth and voice! 🏳️🌈❤️
"That finished product of doing something creative - It makes me feel full." - I love that statement so much!🙌🏾💜
Something is dragging me to stay in this video till the end... I can't explain I just can't exit it
Subscribed in the first 30 seconds because your personality is too adorable-- excited for you and your channel's growth! Don't even worry about how to cultivate your channel, just being yourself draws us in ^^
This touched my heart 😢🤍
I’m not even through with the video yet, and in the first 3mins, I feel you 100%. 😄🤦🏾♀️ I have the talent, skill, and everything I need within me… but 😪🙄 that controlling perfectionist in me be blocking! Lol (which contributes to feelings of self-doubt, etc.) I hate feeling that way. So gross.
We just gotta stay focused on the wins we had before, and love & believe in ourselves. Be kind to ourselves. Remember that there’s only ONE of you, and you have a gift and something to contribute to the world (NOW, while you’re still here). ✨🙌🏾✨
So glad to see your face. You’ll make it through this. Just remember being spontaneous is super exciting too. You can’t be in control all the time 😊
I'm really thankful that you uploaded this video today. I have been having some doubts about if I would ever be able to get my goals finished ever! And Ive been feeling like absolute shit having no apparent real reason to do it. And today and yesterday was really bad, not seeing any real reason to reach my goal and thinking that it is stupid, and Corona is absolutely ruining my mindset
Tarek, Thank you! You are a light in so many lives I don’t think you understand. 💛
what i’ve learned through my personal clinical anxiety, the best thing to say when i get the same way u feel, i always say “so what?” and it always makes me feel better especially with the “what if i’m not good enough?” or “what if they don’t like me?” but i just say, “so what u have a great family and friends and it’ll all be ok”
Needed to hear ALL OF THIS! love love love the advice. thanks T
I'm so happy the algorithms got me here. this is exactly what I've been going through lately and struggled putting it into words. honestly I've been eating myself up. being a creative is a lot sometimes, especially in times like these
When I tell you this is food for the soul...like I'm going through it right now in terms of my direction. I plan to create and build my own startup, with a goal of moving from the East Coast to the West Coast and even going back to school for business. This whole Covid-19 situation has completely put me in crazy position. I got laid off from my non-essential job and it's devastated me because I have to start completely over in an aspect I did not plan to. I thought I would be doing the things I've planned with more control. With the realization that I've really had no control, I've been anxious and procrastinating on working on my startup so I can apply for funding. Seeing this video, puts how I've been feeling into words, eloquently. Also, to see the comments just makes me understand I'm not alone, even though I certainly feel like it.
yasss!! you can’t control the outcome, but you can change your response to it. an event (can’t control) + your response (can control) = the outcome. in this case, covid is the event & how we respond to it determines our outcome. we should make the most out of what we have. ❤️
You CAN CONTROL your REACTION to what life gives you.
Keep going
i kind of see this quarantine as a spiritual awakening. at first i really thought and focused on how it’s negatively impacted me, but now I’ve taken the time to realize that i have so much more time to actually focus on myself and the things ive been pushing to the side because of my busy schedule. i really think that during this time we really need to focus on what we want, focus on the positive changes we wanna make in our life, and most importantly appreciate everything we have bc you never know when there’s gonna be a roadblock.
I’ve been in a slump but you reminded me of what apart of me has been trying to remind myself; put energy on how you react. ❣️
This was me a year ago. You more than likely have a fear of failure and uncertainty that’s triggering your anxiety. Once you accept that failure and uncertainty are inevitable you’ll move through life a lot more carefree.
I don’t know why this was sent my way but I’m an NOT complaining. For the past 4 years up until now I’ve felt like giving up I’ve been out of a control for a while now even when I try to do the most simplest things. Now that I’m quarantined it’s like I have time to think and re-evaluate what it is I truly want. I now understand I can’t do 20 different things at once. One step at a time. Thank you for this video a lot of people including myself needed it 😢😭💯💕
This self quarantine is making us truly face our self, our fears and doubts. Its a chance to know who we are and grow as individuals. I believe that there is a quote that says something to the effect of" the only thing that remains constant is change." We all have parts to play in who we are and how we experience life.
i love this guy’s personality! he’s such a great motivational speaker
Yooooo this spoke to my soul! I've been debating making a health education channel for YEARS now. Shout out to Kennie JD for directing me to you
I felt super overwhelmed yesterday with the amount of stuff piling up. I've been non-stop planning and accommodating my goals too, considering the circumstances. today is a new day and this video helped! knowing that i'm not the only one going through these changes helps me feel at ease for taking my time to plan things out and not rush. thank you for sharing your update and inspiring. much love.
just when i gave up on my goals and youtube i came across this video. thank you. i'm about to bust my ass and thrive. love this video!
You are on the right path. All of these pieces, even the painful ones, are smaller pieces to a larger message that you may not be ready to receive. Your path is the one of the alchemist and I know you will find your treasure. Keep fighting, you got this
I physically smiled hearing what your specific ambitions were, you seem so dedicated its really admirable.
Ughhhhhh... handsome, articulate, doctor, intelligent....i could NEVER!!
You're really one of the most authentic people I've ever watched and I just know one day you'll reach full happiness and contentness in your life❤
I really needed to hear this. I broke down and cried when I realized that all my plans have not only been postponed by a few months but could even be a few years realistically. I was so upset because I'm very ambitious and not being able to move or do stuff really messed with everything. But I can only do what I can and make something out of what I have so this video really helped.
i was supposed to graduate too.(from high school) and i was already goin through stuff BEFORE corona even hit so the whole corona thing don’t got nun on what i was already goin through it was jus the icing on the cake. and when i tell u prayer and faith is the only that got me through ... i’m tellin u fr. and tarek sayin that God has all the control really spoke to me
This was me with college. I planned and planned and lived my life strategically for FOUR YEARS just to get deferred from my safety. After that I learned not to plan as much. And as more things went wrong I learned to plan less and less. And sometimes not less but differently, or step by step. Corona has really taught the world that you NEVER know what tomorrow brings. We've all always said that, but none of us really meant it till now.
I dropped out of college at 20, worked 5 different jobs and now I’m back at 30 in a different faculty and loving it!
Even though I never did a diary or youtube thing...I think I’d ask you to put an event in your calendar to watch this again in 5 years...so you’ll remember to stop counting how many times you “change your mind”.
I know someone’s out there doing the same thing I did, beating yourself up thinking the number counts more than the feeling.
Make it 0, every night. Start at 1, every day. The other side feels good.
I just start watching your videos yesterday and lemme tell you .. I love you so much already ❤️❤️❤️❤️🤞🏽
I can totally relate to all that you said. Especially about being open to change. I have never felt so out if control of my own life... n you know what? I've found peace with it.
Hey Tarek, I'm so glad I clicked on this video; it's awesome!! Many of the things you said resonated with me especially about differing values.
I’ve been walking in what feels like an aimless direction for years so I understand where you’re coming from. The only advice I can give you is to keep pushing. That means waking up everyday, getting dressed, putting in the effort, and giving yourself mental breaks to not think about your situation especially when things get too overwhelming.
One day you'll realize that life doesn't get any easier, it simply gets more bearable. So keep pushing, you got this.🙌🏾☺️
okay but i needed this at this exact moment in my life. I havent been on youtube in a few days due to being so busy with life!! i been feeling lost and losing hope in my goals...then i get on youtube today and this is on my recommended.
I needed to watch this! I’m a Scorpio too and listen-plans are life lol but I’m learning to let go of control and have more faith.
I actually needed to watch this... I just recently turned 29 and honestly I felt like my emotions were all over the place. This being stuck inside has help me a lot though and I’m embracing it. I’m learning all you can is plan and trust God when things don’t always workout. He’s the God of tomorrow so give him your tomorrow and everyday after that.
Omg needed this video! The best thing about TarekTherapy is it’s free.
soooo, as someone who just saw your video on their recommended, just know that the intro was PERFECT because you were just being you! just subscribed AND hit the bell :)) new fan here!
Man, God answered my prayers with this video. Thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I needed this video. It explains everything I've been going through. Comforting knowing that I'm not alone.
It's crazy how many people can relate, i've been wanting to make a video about this too, but started overthinking about it even before starting to record, but you hit the nail on everything so for that THANK YOU
So well spoken! I can relate with being a planner and a calculated risk taker. It all comes down to believing in ourselves but we all got this!!
C'est toujours un plaisir de d'écouter !
So glad you’re feeling like yourself again. You put into words what so many of us are feeling right now. Your content is always right on time and I can’t wait for the talk show, I already see it! :)
I relate so much to everything. I am 38 and have a pretty stable freelance career and I still feel like I am figuring things out. I am now doubling down on my creative projects and I get the self-doubt part. It’s hard making content all the time to promote your work while being completely responsible for your own financial stability.
Really love this video Tarek, can totally relate to what you're saying. So glad I've added you to my collection of TH-camrs - I see a little bit of myself in you. Just remember that perfectionism robs you of your time so just jump in (talking to myself too lol) 💚
it's so refreshing to know that someone else is in the same position as me! I'm graduating this year as a biology major as well, was working hard to get into vet school, and realized it's not my true dream. But it's also nice to know that if I change my mind, I can give it another shot
Omg that is how I think too, I feel like I’m my own safety net I know I have family but I’m the only person that truly has me. I honestly love watching you and listening to you because everything you speak about is extremely relatable to me. So thank you so much for sharing everything that you do and being so transparent 💕
Thanks for making this video, it's really helpful right now!
As a fellow creator I understand how easy is to follow into the trap of repeating your success, and it's almost necessary if you want to grow.. I think that a lot of people will watch you no matter what you do, but you're the one making the content and you need to be able to enjoy what you make without feeling pressured or overwhelmed.
Begin your own lifeline can be very stressful and I hope you will find someone / something that can be there for you when you need it.
Good luck in reaching your goal! Keep it up!!